#1) The laughter is a dead giveaway that every word of this "skit" is 100% accurate. #2) This was absolutely a "hint" Penn, flowers (get the bear), dinner, card (not handmade), take notes you've got five days. Good luck. 👍
Being married for almost 17 years now we stopped “buying” things about 7 years ago. We do go out for an awesome dinner each year, just around the date and not on V-day. We love each other and try to express it daily, no holiday needed. 😊
yep! we're 30 years in and stopped with all the "extra" stuff a long long time ago. I like to get flowers once in a while but never ever on Valentine's or Mother's day when prices get jacked up for no reason. It actually feels better to get them on a day they aren't expected.
We were broke college students when we got married, so we started a tradition of getting In-N-Out on Valentine's Day. We don't care for crowds, so now if we go out it will not be on the 14th.
I'll never forget on the AR. Penn was watching Kim bungee and he cried. He said he was imagining something happened to her and he couldn't live without her. It was real and it was love.
I usually am low maintenance about gifts but for our tenth anniversary I was kind of lamenting that we always have to plan our gifts to each other (usually out of a kindness to our budget) but sometimes i’m sad he just doesn’t ever surprise me with gifts. He then proceeded to pull out a ring box with a beautiful tenth anniversary diamond ring. I have never been so delighted and so sheepish at the same time!
My husband was a restaurant manager for 25+ years. I really, really dislike Valentine's Day but he always brought home some of the best stories that night😆
Never went out V Day I took my kids out one year, once widowed Omg what a mistake We went 3 places trying to not have to wait an hour Ppl, this was the mid90s!! I cant imagine now lol Why do ppl even go out that night, way too crowded n shortstaffed for the crowds
Love this ❤ First VD without my husband… He was the best at gift giving but also made his own cards out of printer paper on which he drew desert animals. I have found most of them and I am displaying them on my fridge. Planning on getting a big box of Godiva chocolates and champagne and make a toast (not the bread kind) to our life together.
I love the giggling in the background! Every one of your videos just makes my day so much better.😊 My husband and I have been married almost 40 years and Valentine’s Day has been a non-event for a long time, and that’s perfectly fine with me. He travels for business so a lot of years (like this year) he’s not even home. We actually don’t give gifts for most occasions (birthday, anniversary) - we decided a few years ago that we had enough stuff, and we use the money on experiencias instead. We take a trip every year for our anniversary, and have made some wonderful memories. Happy Valentine’s Day! ❤
I haven't laughed this hard in sooo long! We don't celebrate 🙄 My husband says it's commercial holiday. Which.. I agree. However, I am a huge romantic at heart and would just like the cute fun things (NOT go in debt) So now I just celebrate with my kids getting them little candies, books, a homemade valentine punch to drink etc. One year I decorated each kid's door with valentine wrapping paper and wrote 5 things I loved about each kid on it. It feels sooo good to celebrate love even if it's not romantic. Happy V day Kim and Penn!!
Great perspective! My preschooler got a cute book from the library last called 'Happy Heart' about how much you love someone. He has been taking it around to all the adults in his life and having them read it to him, it is so sweet.
Haha! The only thing I ever want on Valentine's Day is a card and to not cook. He can get take out or take me out, I don't care as long as I don't have to touch a pan.
I feel like sometimes if someone is very anxious and doesn't like upsetting people they'll try to be as low maintenance as possible and say they don't need or want anything because they feel like they can't ask for something. Definitely difficult to overcome! Shout out to all the loving partners out there who can read past that and get us something anyway
That was hilarious! My wife is the exact same way as Kim! She always says "Don't get me anything for Valentine's Day" or says she wants just a card. But if I don't get her anything more than a card she acts very disappointed, even though she claims she's not. So every year I get her a big bouquet of flowers and she is thrilled even as she chastises me for "spending too much money." Women are interesting creatures.
That was fun especially knowing that you wrote it Kim. We’re complicated eh? On the one hand we’re like, “ I don’t need a token expression of our love” and then on the other we’re “yeah but I wants it”.
My husband and I have never done gifts or cards for Valentine's Day. Our tradition is to spend time in the card aisle picking out the card we would buy for each other, sharing it there and then putting it back. My friends think we're nuts, but it's so much fun as it comes with a "right of refusal, must do over" rule. I used to be a store manager at a pharmacy and after years of watching folks come in at the last minute in a panic to get something so their significant wouldn't be mad made me never want to put that pressure on him. Thanks for your videos--y'all are the jam! :)
Penn is the best! Well done, Sir! Our Valentine Day solution is always the same: I receive a small heart-shaped box of Russel Stover candies. My kids eat it. I keep the box. Happy Valentine's Day.
Absolutely HILARIOUS… Between my SO and me, it’s exactly the opposite. He keeps saying he doesn’t do Valentine’s and doesn’t want to exchange gifts… and then gets me one. Same with Saint Nicholas which is a big thing in Belgium and The Netherlands (depending where you’re from, December 5th or 6th gifts are exchanged). This year is going to be tough: I’ve just had spinal surgery and am not allowed to drive. I’ve roped my in-home carer to get something for him when she goes to do my grocery shopping for me. He loves abbey-style beers and she’s swinging by the local brewery to pick up a limited edition with matching glass. I’ve already paid for it, it’s the best I can do right now. He’s the best man I could ever dream of having and despite what he says this year he is getting that gift.
This video is about me! I'm always saying no to everything until the day. Thank you for reminding me to say yes so we can actually enjoy Valentine's Day this year!
I also tell my husband not to get anything and then I get passive-aggressive about it on the day. But he’s learned to ignore me saying I don’t want anything. 😂😂😂
My first husband splashed out on public displays on Valentine's Day so everyone else was all, "Oh, he's a keeper!" But he treated me like crap when we were alone. So I have no interest in observing the holiday. But I'm lucky to have a guy now who always treats me well, every day of the year. That's so much better. I also have explained to him my varied but specific reasons for not being a huge fan of fresh flowers as a romantic gesture, and he's allergic to everything, so he knows I'm not going to get passive-aggressive about it. It may help that we're both autistic and have no trouble communicating pragmatically without playing silly headgames about what we need, want, and expect.
You guys are helping me relieve pre-wedding jitters. Seeing your relationship gives me confidence that we'll also be about to handle all the ups and downs. Thank you
This was hilarious! I’ve just accepted the fact that my husband can’t read my mind. I think Valentine’s Day is a great reminder that we need that special focused time together as a couple. We discussed and planned Valentine’s Day together ahead of time this year-and decided to do something we both enjoy: going out to breakfast and a hike. Not to mention-hiking is free, breakfast gets us up early to enjoy the rest of the day, and breakfast is usually less expensive than dinner! I actually prefer breakfast over dinner anyways though. It was a wonderful romantic morning. ❤
You are both such astute students of human nature. This is so relatable. We stopped the Valentine’s fa la la la la years ago. Instead of gifts we don’t need, expensive roses etc, we do something. This year, we are going to enjoy antique shopping, (buying). Lasts longer than roses! I think this was one of your best. Kim’s giggle is priceless. Penn’s expressions are right on. How can you both be this talented?!
Way back when we were about 7 or 8 years married one of us was going through chemotherapy. We had 2 small children. There was absolutely no money for anything including barely paying bills. Valentine's Day was coming up & we agreed that instead of feeling pressure to give cards, gifts, flowers, etcetera we'd simply acknowledge the day by wishing each other Happy Valentine's & leave it at that especially since we had no money. That & the fact this was one of the many holidays spent in the hospital. It's been many years since then & we have labeled Valentine's Day a Hallmark holiday which we always simply acknowledge the day & have zero expectations. It's worked out so well & no one is upset because no one is disappointed.
You guys are AWESOME 😂 I love that you can laugh and be real about it, and I nearly died when you said Kim wrote the whole thing!! Hilarious and adorable! Thanks for the morning laugh 😊
I'm the girl who got her soulmate boyfriend a long-stemmed red rose every month on our anniversary. Blew the pest control guy's mind when he witnessed one such presentation. lol Well done, #TeamHolderness! Happy Valentine's Day in advance. 💖💖💖
47 years of marriage & we don’t do Valentines Day. Or birthdays, or Christmas gifts. But we do try to take a nice trip every year. Even when our kids were still at home. But your video was funny & often so true. My advice is make the most of each day for it goes by quickly & we never know what’s next! ❤
I love gardening. My husband loves carnivorous plants. Local garden center is offering a class on making a carnivorous plant terrarium ON VALENTINE'S DAY!! So his gift to me this year was signing me up for the class and my gift to him will be the finished project! Win-win!!
This was hilarious 😂 thank you for making it. Penn's expressions are priceless. I am doing dinner and a movie with the hubby for valentines day the weekend after🥰😍🙂
You guys SLAY me!!🤣🤣 You never disappoint and btw this is SO spot on it's hilarious! We say we don't want flowers because let's be real, they die fast, they are ridiculously expensive, especially around Valentine's Day..but when you get them anyways..we are THRILLED! My fiance has learned that even when I say I don't want anything..deep down I really do. Lol Even if it's not extravagant flowers or something expensive. I'm happy with a cheap bouquet from Trader Joes and some of my favorite chocolate or a nice card. Oh, and a foot massage of course!😝 It's the thought that counts..the fact that they spent the time to get you something regardless of what you said! Us women can be so confusing lol. I confuse myself sometimes!🤣🤣 Hope you two have a wonderful Valentine's Day! Also just a side note.. as far as flowers go..any day of the year, flowers are a super sweet surprise and way cheaper than for Valentine's Day! Lol the fact that it's unexpected makes it extra special..but we still want something that shows you care on ❤Day!😝 Also, I know this skit is exaggerated but that's what makes it so great and funny! You two are too much fun!🥰
My husband I have never done a typical Valentine's Day celebration: no cards, gifts, dinner out, flowers, etc. I'm just not into the commercialism of the day. We love each other as well as show and say it everyday. I cook daily so I usually make a fancier dinner, such as filet. I'll mention we're also very practical. When he took me to look at engagement rings I told him I just wanted a gold band and no diamond. He respected my wishes and a few months later his mom was confused when he texted our engagement and sent a pic of the ring. Naturally, she expected to see a diamond and thought we had gotten married on vacation. For our anniversaries I make a cake and a nice dinner. No passive aggressiveness here. We're happy and love each other and don't care about the material stuff.
😂 I loved this. We don’t exchange gifts and I’m probably not passive aggressive about it because it’s our daughter’s birthday, so that won’t help you. Lol
After 21 years of marriage hubby and I learned that, I'll just buy the chocolates and flowers and say "thank you honey, look what you got me!". And if I want to go to dinner I have to say, hey can we please go out to dinner. And then he is so accommodating. It's pretty awesome. Works for us.
This is so me. I’ll give very simple and basic ideas and claim that is what I want, because it is and I am thankful as it is. Then The Day comes and I am envious if others get more than I do. It is so twisted and I mean well, but it still happens every year!
I don’t have a significant other so for Valentine’s Day I make super elaborate homemade valentines cards for my mom dad and brother and mail them or at least send a picture if it’s too big. None of them ever expect it or are sad if I don’t, (some years I just don’t have time) but that’s why I enjoy doing it. And of course I FaceTime them, like I do every other day. We have never really celebrated in my family so like there’s not an expectation or anything, I just like being crafty and this gives me a good excuse. And it makes my parents happy. (My brother likes them too, but he has adhd like I do and you know, forgets or misplaces it in the next minute.)
For me it's not so much about a "gift". I'm the planner of the family and my friend group. I coordinate all holidays, birthdays, vacations and other special occasions. So if someone really wants to do something for my birthday or Valentines Day (which fall in the same week), the most meaningful thing would be for someone else to step in and plan/coordinate it. Even just having the family over for pizza and board games, if someone else coordinates and all I have to do is show up and enjoy it, that's priceless for me.
I had thought about texting my husband’s close friend to give him the “hint” to surprise me for Valentine’s Day but decided instead to plan a dinner date with my baby nieces and give them a memory of love to have 🥰
Honestly, I’ve never been big on gifts. I just want a nice meal, somewhere, doesn’t have to be on the day. And I can’t explain why, or how you and I are different, because I really actually don’t need an actual gift to open. I’m too busy planning my son’s birthday on Feb 17 to bother thinking about any of it nowadays.
Hi Penn and Kim, you two are adorable and I like your videos! As my two cents re not getting passive-aggressive about disappointment on Valentine’s Day, I think it’s a bigger question about holidays in general. When I’m not celebrating a holiday with family, I’ll tend to shrug them off and not decorate or plan anything special to celebrate (like Kim saying she doesn’t want anything for Valentine’s Day) but then on the day I’ll be sorta disappointed and my life will be that much more meh over time. This year, I’m picking a few holidays a month to actually do something festive for, even if it’s small or silly or arbitrary, to have more festivity in my life! Planning ahead and finding ways to actually make special days special - even if we don’t ‘really need’ anything to be special - is being good to our future selves! 🎉 So, stop saying you don’t want anything special for Valentine’s Day; you just made a whole video about how you already know that future-you actually will, so be nice to her!
Growing up, we had a family tradition that mom would make meatloaf in a heart shaped cake pan for Valentine's Day dinner and write something sweet or doodle hearts etc. on top in ketchup. Kinda an odd tradition but we loved it. (BTW, no one particularly likes meatloaf that much, so we rarely had it. Just for Valentines Day for some reason). Cards and gifts had to be smuggled to the kitchen table by midnight on the 13th so they would be there for breakfast.
Yeah after 18 years we barely remember our anniversary. My wife often forgets the day and I forget the year. And together we usually can figure things out.
Omg I FEEL THIS 😂😂. My first Valentine’s Day with my husband, he asked what my expectations were and I didn’t really give much info and said I was low maintenance, assuming he would know at an absolute minimum he should get a sweet card and maybe a small gift. So I show up with a basket of homemade cookies, a book with 100 reasons that he’s awesome, a mix CD, and a few other goodies and he had…NOTHING. Then we went to the dive bar across the street and he sang karaoke to Lonely Island (I’m on a Boat). 🤦🏼♀️😂🤦🏼♀️😂
My husband and I have been married a long time, so our tradition over the past several years has been making dinner together. Once we made sushi. Another time we steamed seafood. Another time grilled perfect steaks after watching a documentary about it. This year we are making fondue. It tends to be fun.
We only exchange cards. We've been married for 14 years this May. I love the cards he gives me! I do find myself becoming envious when I see on social media the gifts given and places others go for Valentines Day. It's unfortunate to want what others do, especially with couples that obviously love each other so much, like both of you!
We’ve been together for over 30 years and I told my husband years ago let’s not do valentines. But, in 2019 we we’re temporarily separated and during that time, on valentine day, he got me a candy dish someone made at the church. He didn’t have to do it during that time; but he did. It’s the best gift he ever gave me. We still don’t do valentine lol. But I think I’ll get him a card because lately he’s been having a tough time and feeling depressed.
Love you two ❤️ Happy Valentine's Day. Hubby and I got married for first time little over a year age .. and we're an older couple. Doing things in line with making memories, so doing a candle making class (BYOY). Keep bring these great vids. Hugs 🥰
Hilarious as usual! And yes, I'm definitely passive aggressive. "I love Valentine's Day. It's just a nice day where we can show each other how much we love each other with a little gift". That plants the pressure.
The last 3 valentine's days my husband has had to work. Go Army! However in 15 + yrs I have found expressing my gratitude and recognizing all he DOES do daily and not stressing over the things has no control over keeps the passive aggression away. Lol🤣 He does still try to get me gifts, but when I get them, it's like. "Flowers, yay, something to water and add to my to do list. Or you're making dinner? Another MRE meal yum! He does try other gifts, but clothing sizes and gadgets he likes don't always go so well. The best gift is him putting the kids to bed early (3 kids 10 and under) and then watching a show I want to watch with me. ( My love language is time together) A gift he likes, being an introvert, is alone time, time to decompress from the day. Lol.
Love this per usual!! 😊💜 Your posts always brighten my day!! My husband and I had our first date the week after Valentine's, so we celebrate that day instead. It means more to us and we avoid the crowds, etc. And we don't always do presents...it sort of depends on the year. 🤷🏻♀️
My wife is Australian and while I am American, I haven't lived in the US since I was 18. Valentine's day just isn't really important. It's a nice bonus to show each other we care about each other with heart-shaped chocolate. :) Otherwise we just don't care and neither does anyone else
We have been married for almost 15 years. We do not exchange gifts. I have hated Valentine's day since I was a teenager. It's the one day a year I won't kiss my husband or say I love you. 😂 We eat Chinese takeout as a family and call it, "Happy Chinese Food Day!"
I am DYING🤣This is me. I could have written this too, however, I truly don't want or expect anything except a very nice dinner just around valentines day. I would rather have flowers on my anniversary. My best valentines day was when my hubby cooked an amazing dinner with dessert (from an online recipe on food network.). It was waiting for me when I came home from work. When he cooks it's usually pasta, so it was amazing.
Every year my husband says he doesn't need anything and we don't need to get each other gifts. So I don't. Then he gets me a really nice thoughtful gift and I look like a horrible wife. (Secretly I love it but I still feel bad.) Honestly he is really hard to buy for.
My husband and I never get each other stuff on Valentines day. What's the fun in knowing that you're going to get something and it will be ridiculously overpriced instead we act like it is just any other day, because it is. We will just randomly surprise each other throughout the year with something, when we know the other needs a pick me up. That's a surprise from the heart. ❤❤
yes! a couple weeks ago my husband sent me a text with a picture of 2 little bags of chips he got from the vending machine at work. It was a flavor I used to love but haven't been sold in the US for over a decade and they were now bringing them back. It felt like 10 Christmases all at once and it was just a random Tuesday. That's the real right there. He knew I was so bummed when they stopped selling them years ago so he wanted to surprise me but he was excited and couldn't wait so he texted me the picture. Even after 30+ years, I love this man so much because of all the non holiday moments like these.
This is totally me. Especially with our wedding anniversary this year. We were visiting my husband’s family over our anniversary so we made a mutual agreement not to do anything for our anniversary. I was sad when the day rolled around that there wasn’t an acknowledgment that it was our anniversary or even a card. We learned our lesson, and I told my husband that for Valentine’s Day I need at least a store-bought card and some grocery store flowers this year. I have already bought him a card and some chocolate. Unfortunately, since my husband is working late on Valentine’s Day this year we won’t be able to go out to dinner at a restaurant and then come home and watch a romcom/chick flick movie together like we have done every year on Valentine’s Day since we have started dating. All the sit down restaurants in our town will be closed by the time he is off work, so we have decided that this year we will be picking up fast food from one of the places that are open until midnight and watching a 30 minute episode of something on Netflix before going to bed.
Both of us LOL over this!! SO TRUE! In our house, we pretty much ignore it -- but usually my hubs still manages cake and/or flowers/card JUST to be safe. Because he's a GOOD MAN!
My husband doesn't believe in valentine's day and says "it's just a commercial holiday and I don't just need one day to show you how much I love you, I can do that all year". So I expect nothing on valentines day and I remind him every other day of the year that "today isn't valentines day" when I want something. It's a win win lol
I am one that truly doesn't want any of the stuff, but I am with you on the half-hearted foot massages. Like seriously, I'd rather you not even bother than get my hopes up and then not deliver.
We stopped buying each other Valentine's Day/Sweetest Day gifts after the first few years of marriage. It just seemed silly that THOSE are the days you are supposed to tell/show someone you love them. I'd rather hear that/say that/do that, on a day that hasn't been dictated to me. Sometimes, my husband will come home with something, BUT, here is my point. My guy does stuff for me all year. He will bring home special treats/gifts for me at different times throughout the whole year. I do the same for him, and it makes it FUN, not a "task to be completed on Feb. 14th". I appreciate that showing of love more than a few days a year when card/flower/candy companies say, "Go spend money because, if you don't, you don't love your gf/bf/so/spouse". Since we've just had our 45th wedding anniversary, it's worked for us. No passive-aggressive here, but thanks for the laugh! Now Kim, what do YOU do for Penn on Valentine's Day? It takes two to tango...
My birthday is the week after Valentine's Day, so we combine the two. Plus all the Valentine's Day stuff is half off or more by then, so we end up saving some money and avoiding huge crowds.
I'm just 🥰🤗 you guys! Cracking up the entire video. This is totally me and my husband, except he doesn't get I kinda really wanna do stuff for Valentine's. He's super not good at remembering or good at coming up with stuff. He's also the forgetful type. Lol but that's one of the traits I find endearing about him. Even after 20 yrs of being together he still can't remember V-day or our Anniversary. The day we got married was on the Anniversary of our 1st date so it was less dates for him to remember 🤣😂.
At the beginning of our relationship... yesss it was important to celebrate.. but after 30 yrs.... ummm NOPE! We don't do anything fancy or even a card. I do make us dinner cuz I hate to go out... but I don't hint anything nor do we discuss it anymore... Heck ... we don't do anything for our anniversary either! hahaha... I think if you've been together this long, I feel that alone would show how much you love one another and are willing to go thru good and bad times as a team.... no need for any documents to prove it! hahaha - that's just us... :)
Married 35 years the store bought cards were beautiful! I’m glad I saved a few because I’m now his full time care giver and wouldn’t change my life for the world. ❤️happy St. Valentine’s Day!!
I love these Penn imitating Kim skits so much! The “Sharpie on an unprotected surface??” concern was so funny 😆
The Sharpie line cracked me up especially!!
#1) The laughter is a dead giveaway that every word of this "skit" is 100% accurate.
#2) This was absolutely a "hint" Penn, flowers (get the bear), dinner, card (not handmade), take notes you've got five days. Good luck. 👍
Yeah she’s never actually said “honey i am legitimately upset that you got me something”. So there’s that.
Haha! Yes! Just nothing you can get while buying toilet paper.
Being married for almost 17 years now we stopped “buying” things about 7 years ago. We do go out for an awesome dinner each year, just around the date and not on V-day. We love each other and try to express it daily, no holiday needed. 😊
that sounds ideal
yep! we're 30 years in and stopped with all the "extra" stuff a long long time ago. I like to get flowers once in a while but never ever on Valentine's or Mother's day when prices get jacked up for no reason. It actually feels better to get them on a day they aren't expected.
We were broke college students when we got married, so we started a tradition of getting In-N-Out on Valentine's Day. We don't care for crowds, so now if we go out it will not be on the 14th.
Same. Been married 25 years.
Yup. Coming up on 20 years. We've never been interested in v-day. Though the 1/2 price candy the day after is fun. Lol.
I'll never forget on the AR. Penn was watching Kim bungee and he cried. He said he was imagining something happened to her and he couldn't live without her.
It was real and it was love.
He’s a keeper
So sweet❤❤❤
Kim's laughter over Penn's imitation of her gives me so much life. Happy Valentine's Day in advance! 💖😍
Happy Valentine's Day!!
They're so adorable together. His imitating her running down the hall is so sweet. "Our love doesn't need nice... wow, those are nice flowers."
They really were nice flowers
I knew you got me something more than that crappy card! 🤣🤣
Literally cackling over this. This is me
Hi! Brittney, fancy seeing you here😁. Ryan and Pen need to do a collab video.
I usually am low maintenance about gifts but for our tenth anniversary I was kind of lamenting that we always have to plan our gifts to each other (usually out of a kindness to our budget) but sometimes i’m sad he just doesn’t ever surprise me with gifts. He then proceeded to pull out a ring box with a beautiful tenth anniversary diamond ring. I have never been so delighted and so sheepish at the same time!
Kim laughing in the background is killing me! 😆
It's funny because it's true
My husband was a restaurant manager for 25+ years. I really, really dislike Valentine's Day but he always brought home some of the best stories that night😆
Never went out V Day
I took my kids out one year, once widowed
Omg what a mistake
We went 3 places trying to not have to wait an hour
Ppl, this was the mid90s!! I cant imagine now lol
Why do ppl even go out that night, way too crowded n shortstaffed for the crowds
Love this ❤ First VD without my husband… He was the best at gift giving but also made his own cards out of printer paper on which he drew desert animals. I have found most of them and I am displaying them on my fridge. Planning on getting a big box of Godiva chocolates and champagne and make a toast (not the bread kind) to our life together.
I'm so sorry for your loss. ♡ I hope you had a wonderful day anyway! And enjoyed those chocolates and champagne!
I love the giggling in the background! Every one of your videos just makes my day so much better.😊 My husband and I have been married almost 40 years and Valentine’s Day has been a non-event for a long time, and that’s perfectly fine with me. He travels for business so a lot of years (like this year) he’s not even home. We actually don’t give gifts for most occasions (birthday, anniversary) - we decided a few years ago that we had enough stuff, and we use the money on experiencias instead. We take a trip every year for our anniversary, and have made some wonderful memories. Happy Valentine’s Day! ❤
The dialog is so chock-full of Kim-isms ! Penn really nailed it. No wonder Kim is laughing in the background. 😃😄
We’ve been married 29 years and Feb 14th is just another day of appreciating and loving each other....no gifts or dinner, just exchange cards.❤
Agree! We don’t do cards or anything. Just our weekly date night on Friday.
Agree!
Ah, but it's not just another day if you exchange cards. Unless you exchange cards every day. ;) haha
I haven't laughed this hard in sooo long!
We don't celebrate 🙄
My husband says it's commercial holiday. Which.. I agree. However, I am a huge romantic at heart and would just like the cute fun things (NOT go in debt)
So now I just celebrate with my kids getting them little candies, books, a homemade valentine punch to drink etc.
One year I decorated each kid's door with valentine wrapping paper and wrote 5 things I loved about each kid on it.
It feels sooo good to celebrate love even if it's not romantic.
Happy V day Kim and Penn!!
Great perspective! My preschooler got a cute book from the library last called 'Happy Heart' about how much you love someone. He has been taking it around to all the adults in his life and having them read it to him, it is so sweet.
Oh Penn’s expression when Kim says she is low maintenance! One of your funniest guys!
Haha! The only thing I ever want on Valentine's Day is a card and to not cook. He can get take out or take me out, I don't care as long as I don't have to touch a pan.
I feel like sometimes if someone is very anxious and doesn't like upsetting people they'll try to be as low maintenance as possible and say they don't need or want anything because they feel like they can't ask for something. Definitely difficult to overcome! Shout out to all the loving partners out there who can read past that and get us something anyway
That was hilarious! My wife is the exact same way as Kim! She always says "Don't get me anything for Valentine's Day" or says she wants just a card. But if I don't get her anything more than a card she acts very disappointed, even though she claims she's not. So every year I get her a big bouquet of flowers and she is thrilled even as she chastises me for "spending too much money." Women are interesting creatures.
Check out my instructional comment, this is what they want, really, don't let them get away with it.
I love when Penn imitates Kim and she’s laughing in the background!!! So funny!!!! ❤❤
That was fun especially knowing that you wrote it Kim. We’re complicated eh? On the one hand we’re like, “ I don’t need a token expression of our love” and then on the other we’re “yeah but I wants it”.
My husband and I have never done gifts or cards for Valentine's Day. Our tradition is to spend time in the card aisle picking out the card we would buy for each other, sharing it there and then putting it back. My friends think we're nuts, but it's so much fun as it comes with a "right of refusal, must do over" rule. I used to be a store manager at a pharmacy and after years of watching folks come in at the last minute in a panic to get something so their significant wouldn't be mad made me never want to put that pressure on him. Thanks for your videos--y'all are the jam! :)
That’s so creative and sounds like a lot of fun too
Penn is the best! Well done, Sir!
Our Valentine Day solution is always the same: I receive a small heart-shaped box of Russel Stover candies. My kids eat it. I keep the box. Happy Valentine's Day.
You have exactly the same doorbell as us. And now my dog is running around barking because of this video, waking everyone up! Thanks 🙂
Oh dear sorry. Technically you have the same doorbell as the royalty free sound effect website 😂
My dog went from sound asleep to intruder alert mode at that sound ha!
At least he didn't say "Alexa", and wake her up....
There can be someone knocking on door in the house or a car/truck stopping outside, and my dogs will rain hell with barking.
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Absolutely HILARIOUS…
Between my SO and me, it’s exactly the opposite. He keeps saying he doesn’t do Valentine’s and doesn’t want to exchange gifts… and then gets me one. Same with Saint Nicholas which is a big thing in Belgium and The Netherlands (depending where you’re from, December 5th or 6th gifts are exchanged).
This year is going to be tough: I’ve just had spinal surgery and am not allowed to drive. I’ve roped my in-home carer to get something for him when she goes to do my grocery shopping for me. He loves abbey-style beers and she’s swinging by the local brewery to pick up a limited edition with matching glass. I’ve already paid for it, it’s the best I can do right now. He’s the best man I could ever dream of having and despite what he says this year he is getting that gift.
This video is about me! I'm always saying no to everything until the day. Thank you for reminding me to say yes so we can actually enjoy Valentine's Day this year!
I also tell my husband not to get anything and then I get passive-aggressive about it on the day. But he’s learned to ignore me saying I don’t want anything. 😂😂😂
“It’s really thumby!” 😆😂🤣 Dying!!
My first husband splashed out on public displays on Valentine's Day so everyone else was all, "Oh, he's a keeper!" But he treated me like crap when we were alone. So I have no interest in observing the holiday. But I'm lucky to have a guy now who always treats me well, every day of the year. That's so much better.
I also have explained to him my varied but specific reasons for not being a huge fan of fresh flowers as a romantic gesture, and he's allergic to everything, so he knows I'm not going to get passive-aggressive about it. It may help that we're both autistic and have no trouble communicating pragmatically without playing silly headgames about what we need, want, and expect.
I love Kim's laughter during these videos. It's like watching someone break on SNL.
You guys are helping me relieve pre-wedding jitters. Seeing your relationship gives me confidence that we'll also be about to handle all the ups and downs. Thank you
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This was hilarious! I’ve just accepted the fact that my husband can’t read my mind. I think Valentine’s Day is a great reminder that we need that special focused time together as a couple. We discussed and planned Valentine’s Day together ahead of time this year-and decided to do something we both enjoy: going out to breakfast and a hike. Not to mention-hiking is free, breakfast gets us up early to enjoy the rest of the day, and breakfast is usually less expensive than dinner! I actually prefer breakfast over dinner anyways though. It was a wonderful romantic morning. ❤
You are both such astute students of human nature. This is so relatable. We stopped the Valentine’s fa la la la la years ago. Instead of gifts we don’t need, expensive roses etc, we do something. This year, we are going to enjoy antique shopping, (buying). Lasts longer than roses! I think this was one of your best. Kim’s giggle is priceless. Penn’s expressions are right on. How can you both be this talented?!
Way back when we were about 7 or 8 years married one of us was going through chemotherapy. We had 2 small children. There was absolutely no money for anything including barely paying bills. Valentine's Day was coming up & we agreed that instead of feeling pressure to give cards, gifts, flowers, etcetera we'd simply acknowledge the day by wishing each other Happy Valentine's & leave it at that especially since we had no money. That & the fact this was one of the many holidays spent in the hospital. It's been many years since then & we have labeled Valentine's Day a Hallmark holiday which we always simply acknowledge the day & have zero expectations. It's worked out so well & no one is upset because no one is disappointed.
You guys are AWESOME 😂 I love that you can laugh and be real about it, and I nearly died when you said Kim wrote the whole thing!! Hilarious and adorable! Thanks for the morning laugh 😊
I'm the girl who got her soulmate boyfriend a long-stemmed red rose every month on our anniversary. Blew the pest control guy's mind when he witnessed one such presentation. lol Well done, #TeamHolderness! Happy Valentine's Day in advance. 💖💖💖
47 years of marriage & we don’t do Valentines Day. Or birthdays, or Christmas gifts. But we do try to take a nice trip every year. Even when our kids were still at home. But your video was funny & often so true. My advice is make the most of each day for it goes by quickly & we never know what’s next! ❤
You guys completely change personality in these! It’s so funny! The passive aggression too just can’t stop laughing 😝
It’s all in the EYES
I love gardening. My husband loves carnivorous plants. Local garden center is offering a class on making a carnivorous plant terrarium ON VALENTINE'S DAY!! So his gift to me this year was signing me up for the class and my gift to him will be the finished project! Win-win!!
🤣🤣🤣🤣 We are soul sisters! Omgosh. So spot on! How did you know?! Married almost 24 years here!
Okay, how Kim manages to hold the camera still while filming this is beyond me. I'm laughing so hard, I'm keeling over.
This was hilarious 😂 thank you for making it. Penn's expressions are priceless. I am doing dinner and a movie with the hubby for valentines day the weekend after🥰😍🙂
“This is it? This is your best work?” Absolutely criminal. 😂
This is so me😂 been married 21yrs and my husband still surprises me🥰
You guys SLAY me!!🤣🤣 You never disappoint and btw this is SO spot on it's hilarious! We say we don't want flowers because let's be real, they die fast, they are ridiculously expensive, especially around Valentine's Day..but when you get them anyways..we are THRILLED! My fiance has learned that even when I say I don't want anything..deep down I really do. Lol Even if it's not extravagant flowers or something expensive. I'm happy with a cheap bouquet from Trader Joes and some of my favorite chocolate or a nice card. Oh, and a foot massage of course!😝 It's the thought that counts..the fact that they spent the time to get you something regardless of what you said! Us women can be so confusing lol. I confuse myself sometimes!🤣🤣 Hope you two have a wonderful Valentine's Day! Also just a side note.. as far as flowers go..any day of the year, flowers are a super sweet surprise and way cheaper than for Valentine's Day! Lol the fact that it's unexpected makes it extra special..but we still want something that shows you care on ❤Day!😝 Also, I know this skit is exaggerated but that's what makes it so great and funny! You two are too much fun!🥰
My husband I have never done a typical Valentine's Day celebration: no cards, gifts, dinner out, flowers, etc. I'm just not into the commercialism of the day. We love each other as well as show and say it everyday. I cook daily so I usually make a fancier dinner, such as filet.
I'll mention we're also very practical. When he took me to look at engagement rings I told him I just wanted a gold band and no diamond. He respected my wishes and a few months later his mom was confused when he texted our engagement and sent a pic of the ring. Naturally, she expected to see a diamond and thought we had gotten married on vacation. For our anniversaries I make a cake and a nice dinner.
No passive aggressiveness here. We're happy and love each other and don't care about the material stuff.
😂 I loved this. We don’t exchange gifts and I’m probably not passive aggressive about it because it’s our daughter’s birthday, so that won’t help you. Lol
We have a daughter with a Valentine's day birthday too. Changes the focus a bit.
Same here! She will be 14 this year so golden birthday events are in full swing!
Lol! Love Kim laughing in background -my hubby imitates me all the time so I found it exceptionally funny new have been married for 29 years
After 21 years of marriage hubby and I learned that, I'll just buy the chocolates and flowers and say "thank you honey, look what you got me!". And if I want to go to dinner I have to say, hey can we please go out to dinner. And then he is so accommodating. It's pretty awesome. Works for us.
I love how you genuinely love one another and others.
This is so me. I’ll give very simple and basic ideas and claim that is what I want, because it is and I am thankful as it is. Then The Day comes and I am envious if others get more than I do. It is so twisted and I mean well, but it still happens every year!
I don’t have a significant other so for Valentine’s Day I make super elaborate homemade valentines cards for my mom dad and brother and mail them or at least send a picture if it’s too big. None of them ever expect it or are sad if I don’t, (some years I just don’t have time) but that’s why I enjoy doing it. And of course I FaceTime them, like I do every other day. We have never really celebrated in my family so like there’s not an expectation or anything, I just like being crafty and this gives me a good excuse. And it makes my parents happy. (My brother likes them too, but he has adhd like I do and you know, forgets or misplaces it in the next minute.)
For me it's not so much about a "gift". I'm the planner of the family and my friend group. I coordinate all holidays, birthdays, vacations and other special occasions. So if someone really wants to do something for my birthday or Valentines Day (which fall in the same week), the most meaningful thing would be for someone else to step in and plan/coordinate it. Even just having the family over for pizza and board games, if someone else coordinates and all I have to do is show up and enjoy it, that's priceless for me.
I had thought about texting my husband’s close friend to give him the “hint” to surprise me for Valentine’s Day but decided instead to plan a dinner date with my baby nieces and give them a memory of love to have 🥰
Honestly, I’ve never been big on gifts. I just want a nice meal, somewhere, doesn’t have to be on the day. And I can’t explain why, or how you and I are different, because I really actually don’t need an actual gift to open. I’m too busy planning my son’s birthday on Feb 17 to bother thinking about any of it nowadays.
After 30 years of marriage I fully expect flowers *and* chocolate on Valentines Day. And I get them. So we’re still married.
Hi Penn and Kim, you two are adorable and I like your videos! As my two cents re not getting passive-aggressive about disappointment on Valentine’s Day, I think it’s a bigger question about holidays in general. When I’m not celebrating a holiday with family, I’ll tend to shrug them off and not decorate or plan anything special to celebrate (like Kim saying she doesn’t want anything for Valentine’s Day) but then on the day I’ll be sorta disappointed and my life will be that much more meh over time. This year, I’m picking a few holidays a month to actually do something festive for, even if it’s small or silly or arbitrary, to have more festivity in my life! Planning ahead and finding ways to actually make special days special - even if we don’t ‘really need’ anything to be special - is being good to our future selves! 🎉 So, stop saying you don’t want anything special for Valentine’s Day; you just made a whole video about how you already know that future-you actually will, so be nice to her!
Growing up, we had a family tradition that mom would make meatloaf in a heart shaped cake pan for Valentine's Day dinner and write something sweet or doodle hearts etc. on top in ketchup. Kinda an odd tradition but we loved it. (BTW, no one particularly likes meatloaf that much, so we rarely had it. Just for Valentines Day for some reason). Cards and gifts had to be smuggled to the kitchen table by midnight on the 13th so they would be there for breakfast.
Been married 43 years - I have to send a card - why? I’m still living in the same house…
I think the gift is that he LISTENED to what you said and EXECUTED it on time.
Yeah after 18 years we barely remember our anniversary. My wife often forgets the day and I forget the year. And together we usually can figure things out.
Omg I FEEL THIS 😂😂. My first Valentine’s Day with my husband, he asked what my expectations were and I didn’t really give much info and said I was low maintenance, assuming he would know at an absolute minimum he should get a sweet card and maybe a small gift. So I show up with a basket of homemade cookies, a book with 100 reasons that he’s awesome, a mix CD, and a few other goodies and he had…NOTHING. Then we went to the dive bar across the street and he sang karaoke to Lonely Island (I’m on a Boat). 🤦🏼♀️😂🤦🏼♀️😂
love hearing Kim giggles in the background makes it better wonder how many out takes u did
Her giggling is hilarious
I can't be mad. Everything he said ... I've said.
My husband and I have been married a long time, so our tradition over the past several years has been making dinner together. Once we made sushi. Another time we steamed seafood. Another time grilled perfect steaks after watching a documentary about it. This year we are making fondue. It tends to be fun.
We only exchange cards. We've been married for 14 years this May. I love the cards he gives me! I do find myself becoming envious when I see on social media the gifts given and places others go for Valentines Day. It's unfortunate to want what others do, especially with couples that obviously love each other so much, like both of you!
Oh my goodness. I love you guys and the humor in your marriage! Thanks for the laughs as always!
We’ve been together for over 30 years and I told my husband years ago let’s not do valentines. But, in 2019 we we’re temporarily separated and during that time, on valentine day, he got me a candy dish someone made at the church. He didn’t have to do it during that time; but he did. It’s the best gift he ever gave me. We still don’t do valentine lol. But I think I’ll get him a card because lately he’s been having a tough time and feeling depressed.
😂 spot on, So awesome!!! Thanks guys.
Love you two ❤️ Happy Valentine's Day. Hubby and I got married for first time little over a year age .. and we're an older couple. Doing things in line with making memories, so doing a candle making class (BYOY).
Keep bring these great vids. Hugs 🥰
Hilarious as usual! And yes, I'm definitely passive aggressive. "I love Valentine's Day. It's just a nice day where we can show each other how much we love each other with a little gift". That plants the pressure.
Kim laughing behind the camera made me laugh so hard
The last 3 valentine's days my husband has had to work. Go Army! However in 15 + yrs I have found expressing my gratitude and recognizing all he DOES do daily and not stressing over the things has no control over keeps the passive aggression away. Lol🤣
He does still try to get me gifts, but when I get them, it's like. "Flowers, yay, something to water and add to my to do list. Or you're making dinner? Another MRE meal yum! He does try other gifts, but clothing sizes and gadgets he likes don't always go so well.
The best gift is him putting the kids to bed early (3 kids 10 and under) and then watching a show I want to watch with me. ( My love language is time together)
A gift he likes, being an introvert, is alone time, time to decompress from the day. Lol.
Thanks for putting smiles on our faces
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Love this per usual!! 😊💜 Your posts always brighten my day!!
My husband and I had our first date the week after Valentine's, so we celebrate that day instead. It means more to us and we avoid the crowds, etc. And we don't always do presents...it sort of depends on the year. 🤷🏻♀️
We don't exchange gifts, we exchange "sorry I didn't get you anything"s.
We are cheap so usually no flowers but I will buy him his favorite candies and he will buy me my favorite candies and we go to lunch!
My wife is Australian and while I am American, I haven't lived in the US since I was 18. Valentine's day just isn't really important. It's a nice bonus to show each other we care about each other with heart-shaped chocolate. :) Otherwise we just don't care and neither does anyone else
We have been married for almost 15 years. We do not exchange gifts. I have hated Valentine's day since I was a teenager. It's the one day a year I won't kiss my husband or say I love you. 😂 We eat Chinese takeout as a family and call it, "Happy Chinese Food Day!"
I am DYING🤣This is me. I could have written this too, however, I truly don't want or expect anything except a very nice dinner just around valentines day. I would rather have flowers on my anniversary. My best valentines day was when my hubby cooked an amazing dinner with dessert (from an online recipe on food network.). It was waiting for me when I came home from work. When he cooks it's usually pasta, so it was amazing.
This is hilarious!! Happy Valentine’s Day!!❤ Thanks Kim and Penn!!
I admit I watched the “coupon” part way too many times!😂
My birthday is right around Valentine's Day and I have always been clear that I Love to celebrate both!
Every year my husband says he doesn't need anything and we don't need to get each other gifts. So I don't. Then he gets me a really nice thoughtful gift and I look like a horrible wife. (Secretly I love it but I still feel bad.) Honestly he is really hard to buy for.
My husband and I never get each other stuff on Valentines day. What's the fun in knowing that you're going to get something and it will be ridiculously overpriced instead we act like it is just any other day, because it is. We will just randomly surprise each other throughout the year with something, when we know the other needs a pick me up. That's a surprise from the heart. ❤❤
yes! a couple weeks ago my husband sent me a text with a picture of 2 little bags of chips he got from the vending machine at work. It was a flavor I used to love but haven't been sold in the US for over a decade and they were now bringing them back. It felt like 10 Christmases all at once and it was just a random Tuesday. That's the real right there. He knew I was so bummed when they stopped selling them years ago so he wanted to surprise me but he was excited and couldn't wait so he texted me the picture. Even after 30+ years, I love this man so much because of all the non holiday moments like these.
This is totally me. Especially with our wedding anniversary this year. We were visiting my husband’s family over our anniversary so we made a mutual agreement not to do anything for our anniversary. I was sad when the day rolled around that there wasn’t an acknowledgment that it was our anniversary or even a card. We learned our lesson, and I told my husband that for Valentine’s Day I need at least a store-bought card and some grocery store flowers this year. I have already bought him a card and some chocolate. Unfortunately, since my husband is working late on Valentine’s Day this year we won’t be able to go out to dinner at a restaurant and then come home and watch a romcom/chick flick movie together like we have done every year on Valentine’s Day since we have started dating. All the sit down restaurants in our town will be closed by the time he is off work, so we have decided that this year we will be picking up fast food from one of the places that are open until midnight and watching a 30 minute episode of something on Netflix before going to bed.
My daughter was born on Valentines Day, so now we celebrate her!!!
Both of us LOL over this!! SO TRUE! In our house, we pretty much ignore it -- but usually my hubs still manages cake and/or flowers/card JUST to be safe. Because he's a GOOD MAN!
My husband doesn't believe in valentine's day and says "it's just a commercial holiday and I don't just need one day to show you how much I love you, I can do that all year". So I expect nothing on valentines day and I remind him every other day of the year that "today isn't valentines day" when I want something. It's a win win lol
I died laughing! This is me every year! My poor husband! 😂🤪 You guys always make my day when I see a new video pop up! ❤Keep doing what you’re doing!
First Friday night in February you surprise her with flowers and dinner. No crowds or crazy prices.
I am one that truly doesn't want any of the stuff, but I am with you on the half-hearted foot massages. Like seriously, I'd rather you not even bother than get my hopes up and then not deliver.
The angry instant pot fumbling was my favorite. HA! Valentine’s Day is a lose-lose set-up.
We stopped buying each other Valentine's Day/Sweetest Day gifts after the first few years of marriage. It just seemed silly that THOSE are the days you are supposed to tell/show someone you love them. I'd rather hear that/say that/do that, on a day that hasn't been dictated to me. Sometimes, my husband will come home with something, BUT, here is my point. My guy does stuff for me all year. He will bring home special treats/gifts for me at different times throughout the whole year. I do the same for him, and it makes it FUN, not a "task to be completed on Feb. 14th". I appreciate that showing of love more than a few days a year when card/flower/candy companies say, "Go spend money because, if you don't, you don't love your gf/bf/so/spouse". Since we've just had our 45th wedding anniversary, it's worked for us. No passive-aggressive here, but thanks for the laugh! Now Kim, what do YOU do for Penn on Valentine's Day? It takes two to tango...
My birthday is the week after Valentine's Day, so we combine the two. Plus all the Valentine's Day stuff is half off or more by then, so we end up saving some money and avoiding huge crowds.
Love Kim's giggles, love yr relationship, thx for the smiles as always you guys ❤️ You make me SMILE
I'm just 🥰🤗 you guys! Cracking up the entire video. This is totally me and my husband, except he doesn't get I kinda really wanna do stuff for Valentine's. He's super not good at remembering or good at coming up with stuff. He's also the forgetful type. Lol but that's one of the traits I find endearing about him. Even after 20 yrs of being together he still can't remember V-day or our Anniversary. The day we got married was on the Anniversary of our 1st date so it was less dates for him to remember 🤣😂.
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At the beginning of our relationship... yesss it was important to celebrate.. but after 30 yrs.... ummm NOPE! We don't do anything fancy or even a card. I do make us dinner cuz I hate to go out... but I don't hint anything nor do we discuss it anymore... Heck ... we don't do anything for our anniversary either! hahaha... I think if you've been together this long, I feel that alone would show how much you love one another and are willing to go thru good and bad times as a team.... no need for any documents to prove it! hahaha - that's just us... :)
Married 35 years the store bought cards were beautiful! I’m glad I saved a few because I’m now his full time care giver and wouldn’t change my life for the world. ❤️happy St. Valentine’s Day!!