My parents really hurt my relationship with God by pressuring me into church. I loved the Word, but hated church. Here are some things that've helped me appreciate it more in my adult life: -It's a pilgrimage. The Israelites had to travel so much farther than we have to to worship. -It's a community. We spend time with other fellow believers. -It's a confession. We confess our sins and are blessed towards the start of the service, which lifts a weight off our shoulders. -It's a sacrifice. We get to see Jesus here on earth in the Eucharist and become one with him :)
I know I can’t speak for everyone but whenever i hear a baby fussing at mass i can’t help but break out a smile. If you’re self conscious about bringing your baby or toddler, just know that it might make someone’s day.
This is true there is an older woman at our church who on multiple occasions has said “thank you for bringing your babies to mass” and she has no idea the amount of peace that brought me the first time she said it because my second born is so busy at mass and I would get so anxious bringing him.
This was great information for young parents with little children. Amazingly enough for me and my wife, our kids didn't act up in church at all. The crazy detail was that they were ADHD diagnosed. As soon as the choir started the intro for the procesion they would astonishingly calm down completely. I do believe God worked on all of us so we could be more attentive during Mass. God is good!
@europeanconfidence32 Happily, there is a resurgence of young families attending the traditional Latin Mass. Don't ever count the Church out, she will be here until Judgement Day
@@StAlphonsusHasAPosse I know and that's wonderful to see, but there are others also who have left the Church because they don't have the faith. As I said no guarantees.
We moved across our state from a parish that was dying to a parish that is vibrant and full of young families (and, yes, we hear crying). It has absolutely reinvigorated my own faith! I am going to share that saying with families who may get discouraged. God bless!
@@europeanconfidence32 once the seed is planted, God makes His breakthrough. He said, "bring the children to Me" and we as parents must obey 😊. Lighten up my friend, God isn't sleeping.
The problem that new parents, predominantly new mothers, are facing at my parish is the negative responses from others during mass. The children are generally newborn to about three. My parish insists young children attend no matter what. There is no cry room and no daycare. On a weekly basis, I witness women making judgemental comments to mothers struggling to keep their child calm or quiet, despite coming with an arsenal of distractions and walking out. One mother left crying halfway through the mass after another woman said loudly during the homily, "THIS IS TERRIBLE!" This anti-family culture draws people away from the church and causes mothers to feel more alone than they already do. This ungodly treatment also trickles down to the children, either directly or indirectly, leaving them feeling like children aren't welcome in the Catholic church. Something has to give.
@@AK_Catholic_Traditional We live in a large metropolitan area, attended a few different parishes with the same issue. The most respectful community for families that we've found is, honestly, at a monastery.
Get those babies and littles to church! I was a fool for not doing it. How much I LOVE to hear them. What was I so worried about? I was always between me God and no one else. How I wish I would have truly understood that.
Ms Julie, what would say was the biggest impediment? It sounds like your children are grown and aren't religious? I have 5 little kids and I'm just looking for advice.
@@ompenarnie My biggest concern was fear of what others thought of me - I was a bad mom for not being able to keep them quiet. I was always concerned about others. And now, who are those people? Where are they? I don’t know. In retrospect my only concern should have been my children and how much God wanted to hear their little voices and loud yells and screams and annoyances and laughter and play talk and questions they asked me, not the thoughts in my head about what the woman next to me was thinking about me as a mom.
Thank you for this upload, and God bless you! This is incredibly on time for me, as i am on my way to become Catholic and want to bring my little kids to the mass this week for the first time. So i was quite frustrated with the idea. Now, with your tips and help, i know what to do, and hopefully, it will go well. I am trusting Our Heavenly Father with this!🙏
Great tips! Kids aren’t kids forever, eventually - reminding them helps, they’ll learn how to behave during mass. Faith begins through the ears, for us it’s important our little ones attend with us.
Thank you for this. My son is currently 1 yo, so its still a bit early for him to protest or complain about going to Mass, but Its good to know how to present it to him once he´s old enough so he can see the Mass as something beautiful instead of something boring.
I waited till my kids were a little older before bringing them with me. It was a seamless transition when I did. However, I also parented my children long before bringing them. Most kids have never been taught how to be still, or sit quietly.
Well it also depends 9n the age of the child and how you get them to sit still. My kids both had a hard time sitting still after lock down. They did well when we had Mass out doors, but when my son was three and four we stuggled and walked outside. The ones who didn't struggle were on their I pads or phone.
Yeah, this is a tricky one. There are also kids who have health/developmental issues, it's not always a straightforward situation of not being taught, or giving kids iPads. We must continue to do our best and leave the rest to God! 😊
My wife and I are new parents and we just brought our 3-week-old daughter to mass for the first time this week, so this video is especially timely for us!
After toddler in the cry room days a good spanking for misbehavior at Mass was a sure thing. That was in the 50s and I still make Sunday Mass without taking a geriatric tantrum and staying home.
5:04 “For the Son of God became man so that we might become God.” ~St. Athanasius (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 460) I recommend 'Renewed by Jesus: My Guide to Reconciliation' from Ascension. God bless, Jackie😀☦
I simply tell them Jesus suffered and died upon the cross for His love for you. In turn, you can give Him an hour of your time. I also have my eldest son signed up for an Alter Server, so he really has no way out of going to Mass.
Careful with your eldest one. The position might make him resent Mass even more. Does he understand the duty/responsibility and voluntarily want to do it?
I just have a 2 year old, so we're not at that age yet such that we can explain much of anything that it's understood. I will say that when it comes to other people's kids, I've always imagined that it's possible that this kid may someday become a priest or religious. It's possible that the priest speaking up there may very well have been that crying boy at mass at some point. It amuses me.
Greetings Mrs.Angel, Thoughts :- -> Wonderful Insights with Proper Approach for Modern Parenting Skills during Challenging Times in Holy Mass in The Holy Church.. -> Thanks Mrs.Angel.. Special Mention :- -> "'HOLY CHURCH IS THE HOLY PLACE WHICH EMBODIES THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IN ALL ASPECTS."" With regards and Prayers, Ranjith Joseph (R.J)
So what if your kid is 4 and they get mad when they can’t have communion and just a blessing with arms crossed? That really throws our son sideways then how do you explain why he has to wait and receive Sacraments.
Do you see sins in yourself like pride, wrath, or lust? Do want to become better? Ask the Holy Spirit to enter your heart, to make room for God and slowly carve away the emotions getting in the way of your relationship with Him. God made you because he wants to spend an eternity with you. He loves you so much he literally let himself die for you.
I hadn't got time to watch this just now, I will later, in response to all this , if we are not crying we are dying take on things. I actually believe we would be wiser to take our protestant neighbours approach and let little children under 6 attend a Sunday school ( if possible within the same church building ). In truth I have no memory of church before that age and I like all children didn't understand mass for obvious reasons. The screaming and antics of children while totally understandable are if we are truly honest very very distracting to do take away from what we are doing there. Unpopular view perhaps but there I've said it
It’s cool if people wanna bring their kids. I just wish they’d use the cry room if there is one. Sometimes I can’t even hear the priest and I sit in the front.
take your kids to TLM. They will instinctively understand something is different. Novus masses are not different. They are just as jingle-jangly as the world, worse, actually. Go to any TLM mass, and they are filled with kids, all behaving well. It's not a problem.
If your child is screaming their face off, please take them out of mass. Our church has a cry room with a speaker so you don't have to miss what Father is saying or doing. It's amazing the number of parents who let their children scream and disrupt mass, while doing nothing to stop it. One day, Father had to stop his homily to tell them to take the child out to the cry room. So much inconsiderate, terrible parenting these days. Luckily, our TLM mass has mostly well behaved children. But there's always that one child or parent who make it harder on everyone else to pay attention and listen to Father.
Pray harder and YOU do a better job of listening. It amazing how judgmental familys actually growing the church. The church needs them, way more than it needs you.
I wonder why kids can sit with laser focus for an hour in front of a video game or tv - but can't keep still for 5 minutes at mass? I also wonder why some parents feel the need to stroke their children like they are cats, or fondle their children's hair, non-stop?
Our priest has effectively banned children from Mass. He instituted a rule that if your children can't be quiet, you must not bring them to Mass, but watch a livestream in a different room in the building and this counts as your holy obligation. If children make noise during Mass, he turns around and glares until the parents leave. We just don't go anymore.
I'm so so sorry that happened to you. His approach to family has NOTHING to do with you, that's his issue. I pray you find a welcoming parish family. Praying for you and sending you so much love.
That´s awful. I´m not sure about where you´re from, I´m from Mexico and in most parishes the earliest Sunday Mass (around 8-9 am) usually is especially for kids. The parents send their kids to the front rows so when the Priest is preaching after reading the Gospel he can interact with them, giving them examples or asking about their lives in relation with the readings and the Gospel, and is a big part of their preparation for their First Communion. I personally have a 1 yo kid that is becoming increasingly louder since he´s trying to utter words much more frequently, but so far nor the Priest nor the rest of the congregation had said or done anything to make us feel unwelcomed due to our kid.
You are speaking of the disgraceful events perpetrated decades ago. The Church has significant safeguarding policies and procedures relating to children that are followed now. They are safer at church than at their sports activities these days. Go to church and find out😊😊🙏🙏
My parents really hurt my relationship with God by pressuring me into church. I loved the Word, but hated church.
Here are some things that've helped me appreciate it more in my adult life:
-It's a pilgrimage. The Israelites had to travel so much farther than we have to to worship.
-It's a community. We spend time with other fellow believers.
-It's a confession. We confess our sins and are blessed towards the start of the service, which lifts a weight off our shoulders.
-It's a sacrifice. We get to see Jesus here on earth in the Eucharist and become one with him :)
I know I can’t speak for everyone but whenever i hear a baby fussing at mass i can’t help but break out a smile. If you’re self conscious about bringing your baby or toddler, just know that it might make someone’s day.
This is true there is an older woman at our church who on multiple occasions has said “thank you for bringing your babies to mass” and she has no idea the amount of peace that brought me the first time she said it because my second born is so busy at mass and I would get so anxious bringing him.
This was great information for young parents with little children.
Amazingly enough for me and my wife, our kids didn't act up in church at all. The crazy detail was that they were ADHD diagnosed.
As soon as the choir started the intro for the procesion they would astonishingly calm down completely. I do believe God worked on all of us so we could be more attentive during Mass. God is good!
If our churches aren’t crying they are dying.
Yeah true in a way, but those little ones won't guarantee future parishioners as so many young people tend to leave the Church.
@europeanconfidence32 Happily, there is a resurgence of young families attending the traditional Latin Mass. Don't ever count the Church out, she will be here until Judgement Day
@@StAlphonsusHasAPosse I know and that's wonderful to see, but there are others also who have left the Church because they don't have the faith. As I said no guarantees.
We moved across our state from a parish that was dying to a parish that is vibrant and full of young families (and, yes, we hear crying). It has absolutely reinvigorated my own faith! I am going to share that saying with families who may get discouraged. God bless!
@@europeanconfidence32 once the seed is planted, God makes His breakthrough. He said, "bring the children to Me" and we as parents must obey 😊. Lighten up my friend, God isn't sleeping.
The problem that new parents, predominantly new mothers, are facing at my parish is the negative responses from others during mass. The children are generally newborn to about three. My parish insists young children attend no matter what. There is no cry room and no daycare. On a weekly basis, I witness women making judgemental comments to mothers struggling to keep their child calm or quiet, despite coming with an arsenal of distractions and walking out. One mother left crying halfway through the mass after another woman said loudly during the homily, "THIS IS TERRIBLE!" This anti-family culture draws people away from the church and causes mothers to feel more alone than they already do. This ungodly treatment also trickles down to the children, either directly or indirectly, leaving them feeling like children aren't welcome in the Catholic church. Something has to give.
No such thing is Traditional Catholic Churches. Such as the SSPX. Many young families with many young kids.
@@AK_Catholic_Traditional We live in a large metropolitan area, attended a few different parishes with the same issue. The most respectful community for families that we've found is, honestly, at a monastery.
@@Ra20233 even SSPX (Society of St Pius X)?
@@AK_Catholic_Traditional I'm not seeing one near us, but I'll note that for the future. Thanks.
@@Ra20233 2 years since I’ve been there.
Probably the best decision I’ve ever made coming from NO. Gotta thank cov1d restrictions for that…
Get those babies and littles to church! I was a fool for not doing it. How much I LOVE to hear them. What was I so worried about? I was always between me God and no one else. How I wish I would have truly understood that.
Ms Julie, what would say was the biggest impediment? It sounds like your children are grown and aren't religious? I have 5 little kids and I'm just looking for advice.
@@ompenarnie My biggest concern was fear of what others thought of me - I was a bad mom for not being able to keep them quiet. I was always concerned about others. And now, who are those people? Where are they? I don’t know. In retrospect my only concern should have been my children and how much God wanted to hear their little voices and loud yells and screams and annoyances and laughter and play talk and questions they asked me, not the thoughts in my head about what the woman next to me was thinking about me as a mom.
Thank you for this upload, and God bless you! This is incredibly on time for me, as i am on my way to become Catholic and want to bring my little kids to the mass this week for the first time. So i was quite frustrated with the idea. Now, with your tips and help, i know what to do, and hopefully, it will go well. I am trusting Our Heavenly Father with this!🙏
Great tips! Kids aren’t kids forever, eventually - reminding them helps, they’ll learn how to behave during mass. Faith begins through the ears, for us it’s important our little ones attend with us.
Thank you for this. My son is currently 1 yo, so its still a bit early for him to protest or complain about going to Mass, but Its good to know how to present it to him once he´s old enough so he can see the Mass as something beautiful instead of something boring.
Thank you for this! God Bless you and your family 🙏
I waited till my kids were a little older before bringing them with me. It was a seamless transition when I did. However, I also parented my children long before bringing them. Most kids have never been taught how to be still, or sit quietly.
Well it also depends 9n the age of the child and how you get them to sit still. My kids both had a hard time sitting still after lock down. They did well when we had Mass out doors, but when my son was three and four we stuggled and walked outside. The ones who didn't struggle were on their I pads or phone.
Yeah, this is a tricky one. There are also kids who have health/developmental issues, it's not always a straightforward situation of not being taught, or giving kids iPads. We must continue to do our best and leave the rest to God! 😊
Thank you for message and the tips! Blessing to your family!
My wife and I are new parents and we just brought our 3-week-old daughter to mass for the first time this week, so this video is especially timely for us!
After toddler in the cry room days a good spanking for misbehavior at Mass was a sure thing. That was in the 50s and I still make Sunday Mass without taking a geriatric tantrum and staying home.
So brilliant, thank you!
5:04 “For the Son of God became man so that we might become God.” ~St. Athanasius (Catechism of the Catholic Church, 460)
I recommend 'Renewed by Jesus: My Guide to Reconciliation' from Ascension.
God bless, Jackie😀☦
“O magna mutatio!” ~St. Augustine
GOD LOVES CHILDREN, KIDS.❤
THANK YOU. GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.🥰
Very well done. 👍
Thank you so much! 💜🙏💜
I simply tell them Jesus suffered and died upon the cross for His love for you. In turn, you can give Him an hour of your time.
I also have my eldest son signed up for an Alter Server, so he really has no way out of going to Mass.
Careful with your eldest one. The position might make him resent Mass even more. Does he understand the duty/responsibility and voluntarily want to do it?
Guilt tripping your kids lol.
So this is what it’s like listening to the parents side of the “why I left the church” story their kids end up telling later on.
We call the pews around us "the splash zone"
TLM high Mass! Kids love it
It is like brining a squirrel to mass. He even tries to know on my arm when I'm trying to keep his hands still. 12 year old with autistic tics.
I just have a 2 year old, so we're not at that age yet such that we can explain much of anything that it's understood.
I will say that when it comes to other people's kids, I've always imagined that it's possible that this kid may someday become a priest or religious. It's possible that the priest speaking up there may very well have been that crying boy at mass at some point. It amuses me.
Greetings Mrs.Angel,
Thoughts :-
-> Wonderful Insights with Proper Approach for Modern Parenting Skills during Challenging Times in Holy Mass in The Holy Church..
-> Thanks Mrs.Angel..
Special Mention :-
-> "'HOLY CHURCH IS THE HOLY PLACE WHICH EMBODIES THE KINGDOM OF HEAVEN IN ALL ASPECTS.""
With regards and Prayers,
Ranjith Joseph (R.J)
Thank you for this!❤😊
Where do you get your icons and cross? Love your decorations ☺️
I babysit for my cousins who are cristian. Thank you❤❤❤
Solid advice! I think would work on husbands 😁💗
How do you read the readings before hand?
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So what if your kid is 4 and they get mad when they can’t have communion and just a blessing with arms crossed? That really throws our son sideways then how do you explain why he has to wait and receive Sacraments.
I would say a 5 yr old who is within earshot of the Bible being read to a sibling is recording it for future use
TEENS are MUCH MORE REBELLIOUS than toddlers ‼️
Devotion to Mary is necessary to be a Christian.
How come nothing makes me feel close to God.
Do you see sins in yourself like pride, wrath, or lust? Do want to become better?
Ask the Holy Spirit to enter your heart, to make room for God and slowly carve away the emotions getting in the way of your relationship with Him.
God made you because he wants to spend an eternity with you. He loves you so much he literally let himself die for you.
Because Satan is blocking you.
Pray the rosary
It doesn’t matter. Keep the faith.
You're holding on to some deep issues probably. You're not accepting that you are worthy of God's sacrifice.
Snacks and books! 😂
I hadn't got time to watch this just now, I will later, in response to all this , if we are not crying we are dying take on things. I actually believe we would be wiser to take our protestant neighbours approach and let little children under 6 attend a Sunday school ( if possible within the same church building ). In truth I have no memory of church before that age and I like all children didn't understand mass for obvious reasons. The screaming and antics of children while totally understandable are if we are truly honest very very distracting to do take away from what we are doing there. Unpopular view perhaps but there I've said it
Yeah, agree. Bringing baby goats to mass is a hassle. We bring children. It's a bit easier.
A man is not a true Christian if he has no devotion to the Mother of Jesus Christ.
The way the kids act in the Church is indicative of how you rule your home and most of them are pretty bad with zero consideration for anyone else.
It’s cool if people wanna bring their kids. I just wish they’d use the cry room if there is one. Sometimes I can’t even hear the priest and I sit in the front.
take your kids to TLM. They will instinctively understand something is different. Novus masses are not different. They are just as jingle-jangly as the world, worse, actually. Go to any TLM mass, and they are filled with kids, all behaving well. It's not a problem.
If your child is screaming their face off, please take them out of mass. Our church has a cry room with a speaker so you don't have to miss what Father is saying or doing. It's amazing the number of parents who let their children scream and disrupt mass, while doing nothing to stop it. One day, Father had to stop his homily to tell them to take the child out to the cry room. So much inconsiderate, terrible parenting these days. Luckily, our TLM mass has mostly well behaved children. But there's always that one child or parent who make it harder on everyone else to pay attention and listen to Father.
Pray harder and YOU do a better job of listening. It amazing how judgmental familys actually growing the church. The church needs them, way more than it needs you.
I wonder why kids can sit with laser focus for an hour in front of a video game or tv - but can't keep still for 5 minutes at mass? I also wonder why some parents feel the need to stroke their children like they are cats, or fondle their children's hair, non-stop?
Our priest has effectively banned children from Mass. He instituted a rule that if your children can't be quiet, you must not bring them to Mass, but watch a livestream in a different room in the building and this counts as your holy obligation. If children make noise during Mass, he turns around and glares until the parents leave. We just don't go anymore.
I'm so so sorry that happened to you. His approach to family has NOTHING to do with you, that's his issue. I pray you find a welcoming parish family. Praying for you and sending you so much love.
That´s awful. I´m not sure about where you´re from, I´m from Mexico and in most parishes the earliest Sunday Mass (around 8-9 am) usually is especially for kids. The parents send their kids to the front rows so when the Priest is preaching after reading the Gospel he can interact with them, giving them examples or asking about their lives in relation with the readings and the Gospel, and is a big part of their preparation for their First Communion. I personally have a 1 yo kid that is becoming increasingly louder since he´s trying to utter words much more frequently, but so far nor the Priest nor the rest of the congregation had said or done anything to make us feel unwelcomed due to our kid.
@@dianaRC Thank you!
@@richardmh1987 Wow that sounds really wonderful!
That priest should leave the church, not the parents.
5 kids? Good luck. That sounds like my worst nightmare.
Hide yo kids!! Is it any surprise parents don't want to bring their children anywhere near priests?
You are speaking of the disgraceful events perpetrated decades ago. The Church has significant safeguarding policies and procedures relating to children that are followed now. They are safer at church than at their sports activities these days. Go to church and find out😊😊🙏🙏
@@MEA5755 You and I both know that's not true.
you should check statistics in public Schools in this regard…..
@@AK_Catholic_Traditional it's pointless to try to reason with people who are willingly blind to reality. Cheers.