Nonviolent Communication with Marshall Rosenberg - a Brief Introduction
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- Опубліковано 1 жов 2024
- Marshall Rosenberg, PhD has been effectively mediating conflicts throughout the world for more than 40 years. His method, Nonviolent Communication, has brought together warring factions as diverse as Irish Catholics and Protestants, Rwandan Hutus and Tutsis, Israelis and Palestinians as well as families and communities in conflict.
His method is simply to enable both parties in conflict to listen with empathy to the authentic feelings and needs of the "other" without the need to blame and judge. Things can change when we feel heard as humans.
The film clips assembled in this brief introduction are taken from a much larger documentary film project on finding human-to-human, heart-to-heart common ground beyond the realm of fixed beliefs. Please visit: BeyondBeliefFilm.org.
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What a beautiful thought to end on: “There’s nothing that we human beings like more than to contribute to each other’s well-being.”
That is the starting point for Rosenburg's philosophy. It is the path of freedom to fully evolve, if we can accept that maxim.
This made me cry, this is exactly the understanding I have about the world and it breaks my heart knowing so many people are needlessly suffering. It does not have to be this way, and we all have the ability to change it, and it begins with ourselves
Being confronted with harshness and lack of mutual understanding in daily life, it feels so good to hear someone talk with such love and passion for life and connection. If only people could see the great potential we humans have and learn to surpass their greed and their ignorance.
Some here call him scary, sociopath and fake among others. But those words are simply labels you give your fears, most humans fear what they do not understand, and what we don't understand we label, categorize and write off, content with our rationalization of the world and its inhabitants. Most of us have not been raised to think or speak like this man can. Hearing him for the first time as many of you may be doing right now, is akin to being dumped in a foreign land in which you do not speak the language of; you would be apprehensive and un-trusting of someone you couldn't yet understand. He speaks a language of connection, something in this day and age of faceless media we have all but forgotten how to do- connect. We don't see each other as humans anymore, only a screen name or an avatar, we don't see the human behind the words, behind the label, behind the fear. We live in the age of knowledge and connection and yet we don't understand one another, particularly those with different views than our own, those with different labels and understandings of the world, because it is not our own personal language, we simply don't speak it. The next time you see a hateful, hurtful, ignorant or otherwise counter productive comment, look past the labels, try to see the human on the other side and understand why they may have said what they said, see their world, see their life; introduce to yours share your language with them. But just remember they may be scared, suddenly finding them selves in your land, try to help them understand. Once we understand each other, then we can communicate and then and only then, can we connect as human beings.
This reminds me of something I noticed at one of the UU churches I attended. A majority of the people there had this crazy look in their eye. But they were very peaceful.
And then I realized that the "crazy look" was being at peace with themselves and seeing other people as individuals. D'oh.
Thanks Lisa ... four years later.
We are needing these words so much!
Hope it was not your last contribution!
Thank you very much for your wise words of love. Six years later we still need your words so much. And me too hope this was not your last contribution to mankind.
I have a dream that one day schools will teach children valuable things such as this instead of mind numbing drivel so that we can have more enlightened
beings in this world as well as joy and peace.
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This sounds easy if you only hear about it, but in fact i find it very hard to focus your whole concentration and empathy at the one you are communicating with(or the group), and at the same time being in touch with your own needs and feelings.
I`m writing my final university paper about nonviolent communication, and i can only say that this man has my whole gratitude and respect for sharing his way of talking with people, and making people understand their own needs.
So thank you :)
I think what you say is a very good point. I have seen that attention can only go to one place at a time. You can't put your attention fully on another person and still have it pay attention to how you feel inside.
I have done an exercise wear I have observed with my eyes while paying attention to my immediate responses by putting my attention inside myself as my eyes observe different things.
I think what you say is a really good reason to have spaces in a conversation so one can check in with themselves in the spaces in between the talking to find out how one feels about what was just said or to check in to find out how I feel about what I said.
Often times, especially in highly emotional or triggered States, people interrupt each other and talk over each other. And he states it is very difficult to consider what someone else has said myslice even be aware of what we're saying if we don't take some time in between to sit quietly and consider.
I made something up with elephant ears you might enjoy it.
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I discovered it as a "training series" so perhaps that influenced the way I absorbed and applied the message, but like anything else, if you don't use it you lose it and in losing what these teachings extended to me, in losing touch with myself and allowing that primary relationship to be so thoroughly warped, I lost and it cost me immensely and immeasurably.
I've needed and am trying to revisit these vital teachings, battling against the beliefs I've adopted and hopes I long abandoned that such interactions, such results, and such a reality are possible, esp for me and esp after enduring such consistent and profoundly experience has conditioned your whole being toward fear, distrust, hyper vigilance, and ultimately withdrawal and disengagement after time and time again your devotion to and expressions of love, honesty, loyalty and cohesion are overwhelmingly met with cruelty, accusations, assumptions and abandonment if not utter betrayal. If one is so out of tune that their magnetisms are backwards, is there any hope of help for them or is forfeit ultimately their best hope?
" Unfortunately most people aren't taught the language that I am suggesting. So I have to loan it to them, when I do meditations at that level...I help people speak the language of life" Legend.
@Kashton Dominik hack your own IG bro.
This is like magic: the method is obvious, but not many see it. One has to study non violence a bit for it to become transparent.
Practicing it after understanding it is surely necessary.
This is very touching. Thank you Marshall. Let us all try to understand and see each other more clearly by having clarity of our needs / feelings that need to heard.
This man along with Jacque Fresco are my true heroes.
+Diana Luckysova They are some of mine too :)
+Diana Luckysova
And Frederick Leboyer!
Diana Luckysova why are all of you so cool?
Jacque Fresco is a dreamer. Marshall Rosenberg has left a lasting legacy because NVC is a practical skill you can learn.
And don't forget to include in the mix : Rupert Spira ~ 🙏😆🌈 !!!
I am able to see his each and every point with absolute clarity, and i am connected with this man. Thank you for this video.
Eastern culture- Buddha. Western culture - Rosenberg! I love You ❤️
I have just come across M.R. via this BBC programme, originally broadcast August 2016, www.bbc.co.uk/sounds/play/b07q87sm
He's the man for me, along with Fritz Perls..
Greetings from East Anglia in England.
This is very important
Our best hope for peace is NVC
Incredible legacy he's left - the assumption that because you are working towards peace and positivity and even display happiness means you are naive and havent got a clue about what's really going on is so common that leaves me despairing - what are we supposed to do? Be miserable to prove we know what's going on? Marshall brings such insight even when he is not preaching to the already converted. I've watched him for year's and he managed to keep it very simple and he had to be so patient in the most challenging of circumstances he's really got his feet on the ground and his heart open - not easy to do at all - he's like the master at it. In his later videos he looks so worn out tho. It's so easy to have a thick skin and throw rocks because it's all we have been taught. His message brings us hope 😍
Break it down to the point of conception, this will lead to the well being of humans. Dr. R knows exactly what it takes to communicate. Once a person has this understanding, everything becomes so clear. As humans we tend to voice our hurt/angry then retaliate to hurt/anger back. Knowing this,is the KEY to NVC. We must mature past our own hurt and anger to stop wasting time and get our point across effectively. Problem is, some people wont see this truth and will write it off as brainwashing.
I've secretly been a people hater for so long, so much that im disgusted to be human and cant accept any compliments at all from anyone, even those closest to me because in my eye and mind they are still human beings, and human beings are all sinful one way or another.
Then I read an article about this guy, and listened to this video start to finish, and can honestly say that its a great speech to meditate with. Strong, heartfelt and full of hope, something I've missed seeing in the human race lately. I hope to in the future, when I have episodes where I find myself silently hating humanity, I can meditate on talks like this to pull me out, and maybe one day never have a negative episode again!
I hope you have been able to stay connected to that wish to meditate on this.
@@kientsch Indeed I have, thank you for asking.
Happy to hear that!
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I love this video and I love his intelligence.
ı love the book. ı love everything about nvc at the same time when it comes to the part about the refugee camp in Palestine, it hurts a lot....
it makes me think why does not he go to Israeli soldiers and authority and teach them what nvc is...because they are the ones who need it not palestinians...everybody knows what they are doing to the world and nobody does anything to them...:((
he is an amazing person,very intelligent and well spoken. his technique is not perfect simply because no situation is perfect ,however it is useful in many ways and definitely important.
Non violent communication is not a technique. It's a way of connecting through empathy. And indeed, not always is such connection possible.
I been learning from this guy and I save my life from getting into BIG trouble
Such an inspiration!
The man is brilliant and ahead of his time - or rather, bringing this time exactly what it needs: more empathy and humane, genuine communication. And... If you'll forgive me for being a geek, in this particular vid, he really makes me think of the Star Trek character of Sarak the Vulcan (also a great Ambassador) at his finest.
And again..... His words and more importantly, Marshall's strategies even MORE timely and crucial during these times as you say here 🌝. I like your Star Trek reference to Sarak.... I had this sense he reminded me of someone! Ambassador..... That's such a great thought & ironically one Marshall would be the first to probably decline. Only because he always seems to encourage everyone to think of each other as equals, as human beings where celebrating "what is alive in each of us" is so much more important than any label or title which implies a power dynamic and therefore, a power difference between the title holder and others....."oh, I'm somehow more worthy of saying what is right or wrong, good or bad, he/she is more worthy of this than you" Still, I love the Ambassador ---- of Peace----- thought you have here. Does seem like some folks like Marshall here could still encourage others to willingly contribute to making other's life wonderful AND still have a title like Ambassador yet still walk the talk of communicating with a language of Life! I wish those who walk the halls of democracy would ALWAYS STRIVE to operate from this place
more people need to see this.
I agree.
We need to feel & understand more...
crazy how this is the first ive ever heard of this guy.
Beautiful...feel sad that we r not taught that way and it took most part of life to develop such kind of understanding...wish more people to join this kind of training
This is a GREAT example of Motivational Interviewing!
I'm convinced they based Sarek from Star Trek on this guy.
he's logical and shows no emotions - Yeah you're right!
This is the best way to communicate with people force understanding nonviolent communication 💯💪🏾💪🏾
There are like 9 thumbs down on this video...how is that possible?
Ever heard of psychopaths? ;-) They don't have and want empathy.
3 minutes in and I'm already crying.
Besides, sociopaths, such as some government higher ups, are unable to have genuine, empathetic connections with other people.
This man is amazing. So glad we have him.
He sadly died.
Remarkable and pious work. Best wishes from India.
i enjoyed this and can see what he means by words can be said in a different way and understood better..
More of this please! Understanding, open mindedness and communication will help us achieve peace
This is so helpful and so desperately needed especially with the events transpiring in Israel/Palestine today.
This man is a prophet, now more than ever!
what a beautiful statement, amazing...
Sorry to ask this offtopic question, but ive been searching for that music at the beginning of the video... what is it? Who wrote it?
Michael Doherty A piano version of the cello solo
It's the Prelude of Bach's cello suite no. 1. Beautiful piece!
He was a saint in the best way.
I can't help but think Marshal has left out alot on trauma and the effects of trauma on triggering people and contributing to intense emotions and also false beliefs that might play into conflict.
I'd also love to know how he manages NVC in his own personal life and whether how he manages any conflicts with partners or children etc.
I appreciate many of the NVC principles but I still think they are hard to apply without a great deal of self awareness and also healing to some degree.
Trauma and other implicit uncomscious memories goes deep into our genes and cells so not working at that level to me makes NVC not the most workable or realistic method but it certain can help develop ones self awareness and realisation of the assumptions and false beliefs and values judgements we place on ourselves and others.Self compassion should also be emphasised to me much more than what Marshal seems to do
From the NVC workshops I've been to the self compassion was very much emphasized in there at least. Before being able to give empathy for others you might indeed need to find empathy for yourself either with external help from a friend or with careful self reflecting.
I just thought, this guy with his external appearance is in a unique position to discover truth about this topic. He looks like "sad judgement" and I write it before I will have listened to the video.
He inadvertently gives an explanation for his facial expression soon after the video starts. He was a prisoner. On top of that his job is to mediate conflict. The man has seen, heard and lived through some uglyness and suffering that would wipe the smile off anyone, child or adult. But in spite of that, he devoted himself to ending it and offering people good for all the bad they've put him through.
There are so many people that are raised with very low morals or have no value on human life. What do you do with these people ?
What do you say to someone who literally says, "Its Gods will to kill infidels."
How do you address that with any level of logic?
As Marshall says in this clip, you look past the man's words and opinions to his feelings and needs. And if his physical actions threaten you or others, then you take appropriate measures, including force if necessary, not with the mindset of punishment, but of protection.
No logic here. It simply means this person has no idea what is God's will because God is the father of all living entities and He doesn't want his children to kill each other.
"It sounds like you're anxious to carry out God's will...?"
Funny that American journalist keep calling people invaded and stripped from basic rights "terrorists"
Thank you and bless you for this content
This man is brilliant. A true visionary ahead of his time. If I could liken him to some sort of analogy, he is a surgeon of the mind and the healing human suffering. But even surgeons, as precise as they are in identifying and resolving a medical problem, can sometimes encounter afflictions that are beyond control... That is, until medical science advances to the point where treatment is possible -- cancer is one of those afflictions.
Unfortunately, people who belong to radical organizations like ISIS/ISIL, are afflicted by a cancer of the mind. And while I believe what Rosenberg is idealistically correct, unfortunately, we do not live in a time yet (Note: Yet) where ALL current afflictions can be resolved by non-aggression or violence. Thus, individuals in the form of ISIS or S.S. must be eradicated, as any medical doctor would approach malignant cancer. Of course, prevention is always the best medicine and many conflicts can and should be reconciled in the manner Rosenberg outlines in this video. However, I would be fooling myself to believe we are at the stage in human history, where every violent person in the world can be redeemed with words alone... Maybe someday in our future... But we are just not there yet.
Did you listen to what he said? Sometimes people won't listen, and then protective force is necessary.
An excellent video!
He would have been an amazing vegan. We must expand our non-violent stance towards animals, as well.
What about handling people with narcissistic disorders. How can we reach then?
Please search: The Heartfulness Way Book.
hate talk assumptions vs logical reasoning.
This.is.awesome!
Is there any chance to correct the subtitles? Sometimes they are so inaccurate that it changes the whole meaning of the sentences...
Greetings from six years later.. There's no subtitles in the original video. If you put the captions in use those are automatically generated by UA-cam/Google with some Artificial intelligence speech to text program which often are very badly translated indeed. So yeah someone could make better subtitles and re-upload this here or elsewhere.
Aveti idee macar câta suferinta a fost semanata printre oamenii din Balcan dupa ,,caderea ´´ sistemului socialist ? În România a fost genocid din cauza scaderii dramatice a nivelului de trai datorat devalorizarii leului si liberalizarii ,au disparut generatii , dar se pare ca asta si asteptau cei care doreau schimbarea sistemului . Schimbarea regimului s-a facut in România prin lovitura de stat data de agenturile secrete în colaborare cu securitatea statului si nu prin revolutie - a urmat apoi o adevarata catastrofa de dimensiune nationala , numai om sa nu fii - asa as descrie eu perioada aceea .
Does anyone know the name of this peice of music in the intro?
Wow, amazing!
Protective Use of Force. For only defending your loved ones.
Elder scrolls VI is looking great
Peace is so complex
What's the name of the opening song!? I just cannot remember.
I can't either! Please, if ANYONE knows it!!
Prelude from First Cello Suite - J.S. Bach
Daniel Brasse Thank you :)
RIP Marshall
Is this available in Russian?
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Without a doubt a boon to communicating with others.
会英语多重要，看起来会毫不费力
What’s the song in the beginning?
xrokum12 It’s Bach’s Cello Suite No. 1 in G major, prelude (piano version).
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Nonviolent communication is what you have to resort to when you don't currently have the firepower to exterminate the enemy and their families.
Have you really understand the words in the video and their meaning at all?
This man seems fake, programed and scripted. Is he reading a teleprompter? Is he an actor?
It is not uncommon to finger something as being fake, especially when all you have seen in the media is fake. This man is real, his words are real. We need to see and hear each other as human beings and not simply a media production. There is a better way. There is always a better way.
I see why you could think that. In this interview he indeed comes across rather fake-ish. Because of the nature of the interview, I guess. He doesn't really connect to the stories he tells, he only remembers.
You might want to check his real time work with people. Your suspicion will disappear.
He seems more tired than fake in this video.
He's also probably told these things many times, so it might come across as scripted.
This is BS