Make Him Feel THE URGE To Be With You

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  • @meh2515
    @meh2515 8 місяців тому +267

    Guys this isn't even about playing toxic games. He's literally talking about resting and thriving in your feminine energy, being a hard woman to get with boundaries, knowing how to give a man space when he pulls back, never chasing, and giving the masculine the opportunity to win you over by pursuing you and enjoying its thrill.

    • @Kima89
      @Kima89 8 місяців тому +7

      You watch too much of these man catching videos if you know all the terminology

    • @Jemma29
      @Jemma29 7 місяців тому +9

      It is games. You’re manipulating the situation in order to get someone to like you when the real answer is to change your self concept and believe in yourself and everything else will just naturally come to you without any effort because it’s always about you not them.

    • @solitaallen3757
      @solitaallen3757 7 місяців тому +10

      ​@Kima89
      This person was able to retain the information given and relay it back it's known as intelligence

    • @starfish9928
      @starfish9928 7 місяців тому

      @@Jemma29not games. Men are dumb. So if a girl has be sane and get things done without fighting or crying, doing this can be necessary sometimes.

    • @Danken4
      @Danken4 7 місяців тому +2

      What I don't understand that a man shows interest and you starting playing games while you know what he wants and where you heading why you playing games
      I try games with handsome men they know what ur doing they see you as freak and he ghost you forever 😅

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 7 місяців тому +60

    The hardest person to break up with
    is the one you created in your delusional,
    fantasy-making mind...

  • @LoverUndercover
    @LoverUndercover 8 місяців тому +133

    3:00
    These tactics are preparing the way of making him infatuated.
    "By being inconsistent he'll want to figure you out.
    You 1st want to create a space in his head, to create an infatuation.
    And the way to do that is:
    1. Being weak and making him think you like him
    2. Being inconsistent and making you think you are crazy
    3. By insinuation, a subtle attack on his insecurities, insinuate that he lacks things that attract you (then change the subject)
    4. Make seeing you a little bit more difficult, create barriers like "Don't call me baby, going too fast, no..
    or friend-zone him: I like you, but I think we should just be friends
    PEOPLE VALUE MORE THINGS THAT THEY WORK FOR.
    Give him a little taste, then back off.

  • @goldensunray2150
    @goldensunray2150 8 місяців тому +85

    “The space make him respect you” 😮‍💨 brother you ain’t never lied.

  • @AlehaDarabaka
    @AlehaDarabaka 8 місяців тому +35

    Saw someone elses post saying men fall in love with uncertainty and this video elaborates how and why!

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 7 місяців тому +53

    Understand:
    these emotionally unavailable men are so FUCKING ORDINARY
    and really-truly-honestly
    completely and totally
    underwhelming!
    Take a step back and realize it’s YOU
    who makes them so special,
    in your own delusional mind.
    Giving the same energy that you're getting
    is key
    and if you don't like that energy
    then move on.
    It can be hard
    but that's when you need to choose yourself
    over the damn illusion/fantasy.
    A man who loves a woman will not ignore her, ever, period.
    So...
    If he ignores me
    I will step back
    and he will lose me.
    Simple. Simple.
    Non-dramatic
    and uncomplicated.
    I don’t,
    under any circumstance:
    play these childish-abusive-controlling
    mind games.
    I will only be with a man who values and appreciates me,
    and treats me as the Queen, I AM.
    (Daughter of the Most Hight; King of kings!)
    Because I am a beautiful and kind and divine
    and sexy and wise and intelligent and magical woman:
    who knows my worth.
    Period.
    If you're avoidant,
    you most likely have said to family members
    - who had a major role in your childhood:
    "You only accepted me or liked me
    when I was happy/obedient/emotionless."
    This one simple statement fits with ALL
    the core symptoms
    of avoidant attachment:
    1. Being overly self-reliant
    (and in doing so, you hide your needs, emotions, problems, and acute illnesses)
    2. Pushing down anger until it explodes
    and manufactures the boundaries you crave
    but can't/don't/won't always ask for
    3. Not wanting to burden others with your problems
    4. Wanting to fix your own issues to avoid looking incompetent
    or even getting bullied and teased/mocked
    5. Numbing out emotions with self-soothing behaviors
    that are either totally unhealthy or pseudo-healthy
    (like getting addicted to working out and healthy eating)
    Remember ALWAYS
    this process is all about YOU!!!
    Not him.
    He is just a catalyst.
    Consider,
    he may be your twin flame.
    Look into that.
    After he initiated your trauma,
    you're now left to deal with and to heal:
    all that has come to the surface.
    GOOD! This is a blessing.
    Albeit painful.
    A necessary blessing, nonetheless.
    HUGE-HUGE gift!
    Major advice!!!
    Listen closely!!!
    NEVER ever
    EVER
    CHASE HIM.
    He will run further
    and you will lose yourself more.
    You are the feminine.
    You are the divine goddess.
    You just be
    and approve (or disapprove)
    whoever comes along.
    It's a yes:
    you meet my requirements,
    or: it's a no,
    you do not.
    Be clear
    on whom you're accepting as a partner
    and DO NOT settle for less
    (or you just delay what's actually really divinely meant for you).
    Accept your struggle, anxiety, fear, sadness. Whatever comes up.
    It's all human, and in need of your attention.
    If you push it away, deny it, block it, hide it, or run from it...
    You will just have to deal with it later...
    And when later comes,
    those emotions will be:
    intensified/amplified/magnified!
    1) Put yourself first and foremost!
    2) Fall in love with yourself. Be your own dream girl.
    3) Rejection is redirection.
    Embrace the energies of miraculous possibilities.
    And,
    Any time you have a painful thought/memory/flashback/worry/belief:
    1. Find the belief...
    2. Write 11 DISADVANTAGES
    to having the belief
    3. Write 11 ADVANTAGES
    to having the belief
    If you can NOT find advantages
    then that’s EXACTLY
    why you're stuck!!
    When you finally see both sides...
    Your mind will STOP thinking about it
    'cause your brain will be rewired.
    So you gotta keep at it,
    until you find the positive
    to the negative...
    And therefore, ultimately
    rewire your brain!
    AND REMEMBER:
    STOP making it all about manifestation
    when really, it's actually all about VIBRATION!
    1. Never EVER-EVER under any circumstance: chase a man.
    2. Do not support a man financially. NEVER EVER.
    3. Never compare your man to another man.
    4. Never ever dive in, when a man says , "I'm not ready for a relationship". HUGE! RED! FLAG!
    5. Stop feeling like you are needing to prove yourself worthy.
    6. Never tell a man over and over again what he already knows he is doing is wrong.
    (The issue is: he does not care. He does not give a damn! That's why he ain't doing better!)
    7. Never force a man to do his part. (He doesn't want to be with you, if you have to force anything!)
    8. Never EVER try to control a man so he won't cheat.
    (Your part is to observe him, so you know who the fuck he really is!)

  • @adrianavalenzuela808
    @adrianavalenzuela808 7 місяців тому +45

    I ignored him for 2 weeks and all of the sudden he texts me “I miss u”

    • @bbbbbppwp
      @bbbbbppwp 7 місяців тому +22

      Doesn’t mean anything. He should at least send you big bouquets or cashapp. Texting and words mean nothing.

    • @casperinsight3524
      @casperinsight3524 7 місяців тому +14

      Talk is cheap actions speak louder

    • @chiobabe2180
      @chiobabe2180 7 місяців тому

      @@bbbbbppwpexactly.. mine is a CEO. Used to get 2k allowance. I’m in no contact for a month. He reached out. I left him on read. I need atleast 6k to take him back 😂

    • @willowmalone9215
      @willowmalone9215 6 місяців тому +1

      That would be strange to be sent a cashapp out of nowhere from a man your not seriously even saying. Never seen that happen in real life outside of sugar babies /escorts before

    • @willowmalone9215
      @willowmalone9215 6 місяців тому

      *not seriously even seeing I meant

  • @naturally4realmocasio232
    @naturally4realmocasio232 8 місяців тому +24

    “I’ll tap that personality”Got It lol

    • @mei_april
      @mei_april 7 місяців тому +2

      this part had me dead too 🤣😂😂

  • @MsPrice-pn2py
    @MsPrice-pn2py 8 місяців тому +106

    I don't know what you smoked today.........but this is a *MASTERPIECE YOUNG MAN* 🍒

    • @gyonia
      @gyonia 8 місяців тому +5

      😂😂😂😂

    • @melaninandaura9713
      @melaninandaura9713 8 місяців тому +4

      This dude is always high af I think lmao. It’s because his mind moves so fast. His thoughts are flying all over the place and you can tell

    • @gyonia
      @gyonia 8 місяців тому +4

      the young man part is what’s sending me 🤣🤣

    • @imansessentials1506
      @imansessentials1506 8 місяців тому +2

      Sometimes that “sticky icky” makes you think you can solve the world 😂 but true!

    • @Kima89
      @Kima89 8 місяців тому

      That excellence weed

  • @thankuthanku6388
    @thankuthanku6388 8 місяців тому +41

    Feign weakness..not faint..lol thats cute. Thanku for the videos

  • @ezy78667
    @ezy78667 7 місяців тому +56

    I find this rather soooooo easy on guys I dont really like at first 😂 I don't even think about it because I'm so detached... I prefer guys who like me wayyyyy more than I like them and I tend to like them later through their efforts and this is why I don't bother with men who I really really like! It never goes well! So if you wanna win, give the guys you don't like that much "at first" a chance and you'll eventually do through their actions, i.e gifts, efforts, help, dates, shopping, trips whatever... Call me weird but I don't want to be with men that Im crazy about!! And every since taking this decision, Ive received nothing but peace and I tend to respect these men more... ❤

    • @pynklady11
      @pynklady11 7 місяців тому +10

      This isnt a lie at all. It took 35 years to get this concept. There is a difference between YOU choosing a man (ala you REALLY liking him) and a man CHOOSING YOU. It never goes wwll when the woman likes a man more.

    • @shereshamarks4517
      @shereshamarks4517 5 місяців тому +1

      Well said

    • @aalyyy.
      @aalyyy. 3 місяці тому

      Definitely 💯

  • @aprilgreen62
    @aprilgreen62 8 місяців тому +37

    “Fein” not faint weakness. To Faint means to fall unconscious. Great video as usual. ❤

    • @Challenger2A7
      @Challenger2A7 8 місяців тому +10

      Feign! 🤣

    • @aprilgreen62
      @aprilgreen62 8 місяців тому +3

      Right! Thanks … lol😂

    • @melaninandaura9713
      @melaninandaura9713 8 місяців тому +4

      Feign

    • @mei_april
      @mei_april 7 місяців тому +2

      "Feint (verb):
      to make a deceptive or distracting movement, especially during a fight.
      "Adam feinted with his right and then swung a left"

    • @aprilgreen62
      @aprilgreen62 7 місяців тому

      Thanks you😉

  • @lynnmcdonald3401
    @lynnmcdonald3401 8 місяців тому +12

    Well this is interesting cos pretty much this played itself out naturally in my case. So I’ll see if he comes back lol 😂

  • @vanessabeckett5614
    @vanessabeckett5614 4 місяці тому +1

    You delivery is a little G but your content makes sense in real terms and respectful. ❤

  • @mskqueens8074
    @mskqueens8074 5 місяців тому +1

    Father Alex , I have been binge watching your videos and I don't know what's going to work but I enjoy watching the way you speak ❤

  • @sourceenergy1122
    @sourceenergy1122 7 місяців тому +3

    Just found your channel. It's the first time I've explored the idea of strengthening my masculine energy to protect my feminine energy. I put out a feminine energy coloring book called recharging the divine feminine that encourages women to embrace their divine feminine. Would be fun to pick your brain. I like your perspective on the topic, definitely subscribing! Thank you

  • @lamia7891
    @lamia7891 7 місяців тому +3

    The fact that I have cptsd so I naturally do all these lmao a win is a win

  • @jmarie8618
    @jmarie8618 7 місяців тому +5

    3:17 make em think you’re fuckin crazy right 💀the way you say it so nonchalant

  • @manesitaasmr
    @manesitaasmr 8 місяців тому +8

    Lmao omg I love your personality. Always making me laugh 😅

  • @sinnagaye
    @sinnagaye 7 місяців тому

    When I saw the title I knew you’re to nail it! And you did! Thank you for the genuine tips!

  • @lilienne_
    @lilienne_ 8 місяців тому +4

    TAKING NOTES

  • @Bellaaaa98
    @Bellaaaa98 8 місяців тому +5

    Lol you’re funny asf, and speak facts

  • @9erschick536
    @9erschick536 8 місяців тому +12

    Ion know what kind of dudes he talking about but the masculine 🥷s I know, you sitting up talking about/complimenting another man in front of him will be the last time you’ll see him. Think about it ladies, if a man talking about who he likes and he’s out with me??? Nope, that’s a disrespectful red flag, I’m out!

  • @DetailingEd
    @DetailingEd 6 місяців тому +1

    These mind games are a sure fire way of ruining any possibility of establishing a serious relationship.

  • @Ravilette
    @Ravilette 7 місяців тому

    Alex 💗
    Thank you for your content. You look so happy 🫶🏾✨

  • @Bellaaaa98
    @Bellaaaa98 8 місяців тому +6

    Making him think you’re fucking crazy 😂😂😂
    Lol you’re cute, where’s this accent from? You sound Cuban 😭

  • @charlotteeberhardt6015
    @charlotteeberhardt6015 8 місяців тому

    They gon put a hit out on you, boi!! Telling all the secrets 😂😭😭😭❤️

  • @Goodvibesvibes2024
    @Goodvibesvibes2024 5 місяців тому +1

    It’s sad that I don’t even do this too play games I’m really like this 😩

  • @hereiamagain2471
    @hereiamagain2471 8 місяців тому +3

    I love your videos! ❤️

  • @rissa_mariposa
    @rissa_mariposa 8 місяців тому +6

    This sounds like it can get someone interested in you, but it doesn’t sound like it’s a set up for a long-term relationship, I’m genuinely curious about how you think that this kind of cat and mouse type game will help with a long-term relationship? Hope you might respond to this thanks.

  • @TheKeishana
    @TheKeishana 8 місяців тому +1

    FATHER Alex again in the building🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

  • @goldensunray2150
    @goldensunray2150 8 місяців тому +3

    Is this smart to do with a guy who’s had really bad childhood trauma, very insecure, struggling in my life now and has anger issues? 👀

    • @mamaknow8056
      @mamaknow8056 7 місяців тому +2

      No, that kind needs consistency

    • @ethereallune3992
      @ethereallune3992 7 місяців тому +2

      Noooo be careful with that, could lead to a lot of issues

  • @xxPantherBabe
    @xxPantherBabe 4 місяці тому

    It actually works

  • @NatashaEllis-tf8vd
    @NatashaEllis-tf8vd 8 місяців тому +1

    Ready ✨

  • @Unik_ash
    @Unik_ash 8 місяців тому +3

    Leonardo 😂😂nah I will go with Tom Hardy 😂😅

  • @AD-hh6dd
    @AD-hh6dd 8 місяців тому +17

    Doesn’t this ruin a relationship with avoidant men who struggle to trust people?

    • @lakrystalbeauty
      @lakrystalbeauty 8 місяців тому +20

      You can do this with avoidant men because this is still in their nature they just may not show it or react the same way but if they like you they will comply.

    • @brittneyharvey2917
      @brittneyharvey2917 8 місяців тому +16

      My bf was avoidant, this worked on him when I started to get fed up with his bs. He came around full circle, now it’s like I’m dating a whole new human being.

    • @AD-hh6dd
      @AD-hh6dd 8 місяців тому +7

      @@brittneyharvey2917 thank you. I don’t want to ruin anything when he’s said in the past I’m a little too cold. I’m worried I’m becoming too warm now. I hate always having to be so strategic though. I wish I could relax more. Does your avoidant have open convos with you? I’ve started being more vulnerable with mine unlike the past and I’m having better results. Which is why I’m afraid to pull back like I did in the past

    • @sarah-louswar741
      @sarah-louswar741 8 місяців тому +7

      Every avoidant is different it depends on the severity of the avoidant. If emotional vulnerability is working for you and getting results then great.
      Hot cold is part of avoidance, the only way that’s going to change is through therapeutic work, so if you’re using these tactics to try and get an unhealed avoidant to change you are more than likely wasting your time.
      Being with an avoidant is like playing a game of chess with land mines, work on your own security and your own attachment style.
      If he’s taking you for granted outside of the realms of normal avoidant behaviour and you’re at your wits end, then try whatever, you have nothing to lose, but I would strongly suggest looking at detachment, that’s the only way you’ll survive an avoidant relationship, as I’m guessing as you’re here you aren’t coping to well with the behaviours.

    • @sarah-louswar741
      @sarah-louswar741 8 місяців тому

      Also keep in mind, avoidants aren’t aliens, they still have the same biological urges that all humans do.
      Sometimes you can focus on the attachment style so much you can forget they are still human.

  • @melissaacosta3848
    @melissaacosta3848 7 місяців тому

    Love this

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 7 місяців тому +1

    Do you ever feel like a plastic bag
    Drifting through the wind, wanting to start again?
    Do you ever feel, feel so paper thin
    Like a house of cards, one blow from cavin' in?
    Do you ever feel already buried deep?
    Six feet under screams, but no one seems to hear a thing
    Do you know that there's still a chance for you?
    'Cause there's a pink spark in you
    You just gotta ignite the light
    And let it shine
    Just own the night
    'Cause baby, you're a firework
    Come on, show 'em what you're worth
    Make 'em go, "Oh, oh, oh"
    As you shoot across the sky
    Baby, you're a firework
    Come on, let your colors burst
    Make 'em go, "Oh, oh, oh"
    You're gonna leave 'em all in awe, awe, awe
    You don't have to feel like a waste of space
    You're original, cannot be replaced
    If you only knew what the future holds
    After a hurricane comes a rainbow
    Maybe a reason why all the doors are closed
    So you could open one that leads you to the perfect road
    Like a lightning bolt, your heart will glow
    And when it's time, you'll know
    You just gotta ignite the light
    And let it shine
    Just own the night
    Like the Fourth of July
    'Cause baby, you're a firework
    Come on, show 'em what you're worth
    Make 'em go, "Oh, oh, oh"
    As you shoot across the sky
    Baby, you're a firework
    Come on, let your colors burst
    Make 'em go, "Oh, oh, oh"
    You're gonna leave 'em all in awe, awe, awe
    Boom, boom, boom
    Even brighter than the moon, moon, moon
    It's always been inside of you, you, you
    And now it's time to let it through
    'Cause baby, you're a firework
    Come on, show 'em what you're worth
    Make 'em go, "Oh, oh, oh"
    As you shoot across the sky
    Baby, you're a firework
    Come on, let your colors burst
    Make 'em go, "Oh, oh, oh"
    You're gonna leave 'em all in awe, awe, awe
    Boom, boom, boom
    Even brighter than the moon, moon, moon
    Boom, boom, boom
    Even brighter than the moon, moon, moon

  • @PrincessSharoneyTreasure
    @PrincessSharoneyTreasure 5 місяців тому

    Father Alex 💛 Now he want spend time ⏰ Together ❤

  • @resurrectiongrace
    @resurrectiongrace 7 місяців тому +1

    I feel so bad playing kind games tho I feel like karma will come back for my ass so I just be myself and get played 😒😂

  • @kristinealdana326
    @kristinealdana326 5 місяців тому

    He looks like the Duke of Hastings from the bridgertons

  • @meklitdebebe5933
    @meklitdebebe5933 7 місяців тому

    You are ao good!

  • @Lauraa1111
    @Lauraa1111 8 місяців тому +4

    lol I think he might be my soul mate yo😅….

  • @moonlightstargem1006
    @moonlightstargem1006 7 місяців тому

    What if you backed off & he’s not chasing?

  • @nenepark1240
    @nenepark1240 7 місяців тому +2

    You‘re so handsome 😮‍💨

  • @angelasperanza1140
    @angelasperanza1140 8 місяців тому

    Brilliant

  • @britishbeaute
    @britishbeaute 8 місяців тому +21

    What kind of toxic mess is this. The title of this video should be how you build a toxic relationship. Smh

    • @sexycatlady17
      @sexycatlady17 8 місяців тому +1

      Lol it's actually called human behavior 😬

    • @ethereallune3992
      @ethereallune3992 7 місяців тому +2

      Yes!!!

    • @SerenityVerse_
      @SerenityVerse_ 7 місяців тому +2

      Agreed, I would really rather not play games with people. The whole point of a relationship is emotional intimacy

    • @britishbeaute
      @britishbeaute 6 місяців тому +2

      @@SerenityVerse_ Agreed. If you have to play games to get someone to like you, you will have to keep playing games to keep them. Just be you. Who is meant for you will love you, the real you!

    • @SerenityVerse_
      @SerenityVerse_ 6 місяців тому +1

      @@britishbeaute exactly!!

  • @jtiltin
    @jtiltin 3 місяці тому

    Feigning, not fainting.

  • @queenbee7074
    @queenbee7074 7 місяців тому

    Alex is see ur videos not to do it myself but see if anyone pulls that crap on me 🤣🤣and then it will be bye bye as i dont run no games

  • @JennaLH
    @JennaLH 8 місяців тому +1

    Do you mean "feining weakness?"

    • @julesa1754
      @julesa1754 8 місяців тому +2

      Fainting weakness is essentially acting like the damsel in distress. "This is so heavy, can you help me?" and then praise him "wow, you're strong. I could never. Thanks!"

  • @TheRealKCKay
    @TheRealKCKay 7 місяців тому

    Feign weakness my love 😅

  • @valeryposadas7852
    @valeryposadas7852 8 місяців тому

    I wish I had known this

  • @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes
    @nurseannesinspirationalwellnes 8 місяців тому +1

    ✍🏽✍🏽✍🏽🎓

  • @zmw7671
    @zmw7671 7 місяців тому +1

    Why don`t you call yourself the toxic dating coach anymore.

  • @alianaweston2286
    @alianaweston2286 5 місяців тому

    Great English lol

  • @cinnamon88
    @cinnamon88 8 місяців тому +6

    Feminine, soft women resting in their feminine energy don’t need to do all that to attract a guy lol. If you need to play mind games to attract a guy you need to seriously reevaluate yourself as a woman.

  • @GodHelpMe369
    @GodHelpMe369 7 місяців тому +3

    I GIVE MY LIFE TO JESUS. Please pray for me. I accept Jesus as my lord and savior.

  • @Alienjay_
    @Alienjay_ 8 місяців тому

    ❤️❤️❤️❤️🌹🌹🌹🌹

  • @Heatherdoll1
    @Heatherdoll1 8 місяців тому +2

    Feign weakness not Faint weakness

  • @romanticmaterial
    @romanticmaterial 7 місяців тому +2

    Listening to this with a smirk because I do all of this seamlessly and yes.. it works 🫦

  • @edmarielafontaine3683
    @edmarielafontaine3683 8 місяців тому +2

    OG mic.

  • @saradf
    @saradf 8 місяців тому +1

    Love doing it 🥰 thanks for reminding us how powerful these techniques can be 🫶🏻 even tho it’s exhausting sometimes to play these games ugh

  • @meklitdebebe5933
    @meklitdebebe5933 7 місяців тому

    You are ao good!