Why Women With Money Can't Find Men with Money And Looks?
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Our Host Rico Hundo and Anthony O'Neal discuss why Women Need To Learn How To Date Down and do Women Trade On Their Looks To Get Men With Money?
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Marrying down. No man thinks this way. All of human history Kings can make a peasant woman a Queen. So now modern woman think you are going to re write history.
I agree. Men never said they were dating down when the women dont have shit
Today's women delusional. Personally I would like to see men up their worth. We have to up our expectations of them and make them work for our attention instead of just excepting their beauty. We sell our self short and they exploit that.
Maybe we should reverse the game big dog and put some expectations on them.
@@bradusalbert5485 Semen retention and do not accept this as a single man.
Facts
The obsession with money. We wouldn't take any of it with us to meet God
@Yinka
And to think that guy was a youth pastor is very concerning
@@nathanj3665 why be broke?
Exactly!!! 👊👊✊✊👏👏👏
@@nathanj3665 Ikr?! Smh... 😡😡😡
ok so download and implement a socioeconomic system that doesn't use money but covers education, food, clothing shelter and defense for you and your family from your God's prayer cloud. Then train the next generation on how it's done. 😇
You know how crazy it would be if a woman was on a date with you, told you she was dating down to date you, then expects you to pick up the check?
I wouldn’t expect my date to pick up the check if I know I make wayyyyyy more than him.
I’ll actually won’t even agree to go on a date unless I know I want to spend money on him and spoil him.
I’ve taken men out on dates numerous times.
Just to show them a good time.
It’s fun. 🤷🏽♀️
@@naysharymir How would you know how much a man makes prior to going out on a date with him?? Also, what if you make the same amount, would you want him to pay then?
@@gbej1 a date doesn’t mean you just met a person, you know that right?
Nah you don’t.
Anyway if I’ve been dating a man, I don’t care if it’s 8 months of me knowing him.
If I said sweetheart I want to take you on a date, that’s a date🤦🏾♀️
If we developed a bond, we could know each other financial status.
How old are you?
You do know that husband and wives take each other on dates as well.
Don’t try and be smart but sound dumb 🥴
@@naysharymir you're a unicorn 🦄
@@gbej1 she wasn't ready to answer those questions
Dating and putting too much pressure on material stuff is draining. Screw that.
Women can make as much money as they want, they can even get the man that they want....Here's the catch... She absolutely must be supreme levels of feminine to keep him if he's a valued man.
This was perfect. I'm coming out of my down season, and they can forget waiting for me at the finish line.
Watching two brothers wearing gold chains, Rolex watches, and LV sip wine & discuss what millionaire black women want from a man has gotta be some of the most tragic stuff I've seen all day.
Oohhh please women can discuss men right?
I hate to agree with you, but I do. Even worse is that so many women that have “made it” are so shortsighted that they are still trying to date “up”. They have become breadwinner’s and need a husband to help them and raise the next generation. So the kid’s are safe and are prepared too handle generational wealth.🤷🏾♂️ But that makes too much sense!
And your a millionaire right. Stfu
I don't want to date up and I don't want to date down, I JUST WANT TO DATE! Where are you?
@Rico you gave up so much game in what you was saying that i really hope women take this great advice 💯
The pressure of living life as a man is what drives men to early death. When a woman carries that load the effects are double and then when you get to where you want to be financially, all the men around you that you want are taken by women with way less.
Why, as men, do we entertain conversations like this. Let their outcomes teach them the lesson they need.
Are you crazy? There is no way a woman that built a million dollar company is going to hand that over to a man that hasn’t built his own million dollar company that’s nonsense.
Women are colder than men when it comes to dating choices. Men take what they can get and women laugh at their options. It’s life I guess.
But men marry who they want … women marry if they can lol
That last part gold
AO was on point this whole video.
Here's an idea DATE OTHER MEN FROM BLACK MEN, we are the only race who date down because we don't wanna date out. Women please leave these dustbuckets alone
I guess I just must be blessed. And I guess I'm just really starting to realize it and, therefore, become more thankful than I've ever been. And bc I have been made well-aware of the rule...Therefore, I thank God for the exceptions❤️ #Outside
which is why rites of passage for both males and females, regardless of if it's traditional or modern , is so important. Because once you're deep in the game, you are deep in the game. You have to know the game you're playing before you start playing it. think of it like Jay z. Jay z is an anomaly in the entertainment industry simply because he had full knowledge of the game that he was entering into before he entered into it. and as a matter of fact, he understood how the game was structured and who invented the game.
Bro! Rico ! I don’t know we think the same on this topic . I believe in results an she must have drive. I don’t know if it’s because we are Aquarius
Lol If a woman tells me I don't make enough money ... ok 👍🏾 cool 😎... good luck
It’s a cold game and I get it for women not marrying down. But there isn’t a large amount of the men to match that and then how desirable is she? It’s a major factor in this process. But it’s hard however you put it. Shift the power in such is a difficult dynamic in the legal aspect. But I get it.
I’ll marry down when I become rich but it would be with someone I knew. (Right person wrong time type of situation)
Im not marrying down with some new dude I met.
It would have to be with someone who knows where i came from.
But the term "marrying down" has become over used...
@@ricorogers9319 well a man that’s less fortunate.
@Dear Naysh, We truly live in a CREAM (cash rules everything around me ) society. Money is the ultimate gatekeeper in the West. It's why I've never had the desire to be in a commited relationship. Everything feels transactional.
Basically with your term men have been marrying down all the time
And this is why rico said what he said. Y'all are victims of y'all own success. A man becomes successful to take care of a family. A woman becomes successful to be independent but also wants the man she's independent from and he has to make as much or more to even date them. Women aren't looking to build and carry families financially, so why the need to be successful.
Bro only women think of the concept of marrying down. For the majority of men the goal is to raise money for their family. In today's world everyone is somewhat equal. Yet women want men to make the same or more than men. Does that sound logical is that equivalent to men or a superior position to men. This is why these women are aging out and becoming single mothers or boy dogs/cats. It's their personal choice date down or be alone.
when it comes to dating down it’s money first with women
Man ain't nothing wrong with Levi's
Levi's never go out of style, classic
Bout to go buy a pair today’s
The guy is a d amn clown and very low self-esteem
Don’t ever marry for potential. Man or women
Interesting conversation
She Will Never Find That Man. No Man Of Such Wealth And Ambition Will Never Be Able To Coexist With Her Masculinity. No Man Of Lower Means Will Ever Have The Drive To Live Up To The Potential She Requires. Spinsterville It Is✌🏽
Once men realize we are the prize .. lol the whole trajectory would change
I’m convinced some people don’t know what they want and just be online talking. One minute they are telling women to vet and date better when the outcome is bad. The next minute they are telling women to date down. They want women to have low body counts but want them to give it up as quick as they want it (although they aren’t looking to really be with them). That’s just an add to her body count 😕. Make this make sense.
Welcome to what men deal with every day 🤣
The problem is men in general. Dating down makes women at risk to be used for their money and this happens to black women all the time.
@@FlipmasterFED I bet 🥴
I don't understand the confusion. Every human needs to be self sufficient period...
interesting conversation,so rico you want a modern woman not a traditional woman, they type of woman you describe is a modern woman
You can tell He makes the rules as he go. 😂
@@naysharymir I mean 🤷♀️ idk, I justjust took it more as a learning conversation
Fella 7 figures is. The new standard
ok wait wait wait heres where i disagree a bit and im a HUGE proponent on success and finances. A man with character and sense of duty and responsibility outweighs finances. Aman with brains outweighs finances. Women's problem is they cant look at tomorrow only today. For men its an itch or a nag our mortality always is in the recesses of our mind we want a legacy. A woman who has wealth and resources and wants a good man should find a good man anvet him properly and put him in a position where he can utilize what she has to care for her. If shes that concerned. Because hes thinking about your old age and your kids and your kids kids. You are only thinking of living well on your own. Im not saying transfer your family's wealth to him. but if he demonstrates hes that guy. You can basically put him in a position where's hes a financial caretaker of your endeavors and assets and you only have to lightly help him while he rakes in the dough.
I have money and my wife is cute. I don’t desire more in viewing and I just want my woman to desire to have a work ethic to build something. I do what I do so we don’t depend on her doing for another man. She builds off of her own foundation for her to grow and we keep growing.
good content
Poor Rico is delusional.
Man U ain’t lyinnnnnnn
Could you expand on that?
How?
Money isn't fixing anything
The men that she wants doesn't want her men with money want younger fit feminine women I know a couple women that make well over 120k but are super single want a man on their level had to tell them men on that level go for younger women for men it's not about your money men want peace and agreeability get your money women but this is the downside of it.
How many females do you want? Let's be honest fellas, you want to find one for keeps and the rest for fun. And as far as the ones you only want for fun, it doesn't really matter what they bring to the table because we are not hanging around long enough for that to even matter. Facts ?
Men historically married down even in today’s society
You have to make a lot of money because you have to take care of yourself before you find a man but making more money puts people in a position to be around a better caliber. You don't club in the poor communities nor eat in the poor communities you have brunch at upscale resturants.
Men don’t date down in a woman’s looks so why should we date down ?
Men date the most attractive woman they can get but they marry the best woman they can get. Money that she makes is rarely a factor. Women should date the best AVAILABLE option to them. Its not dating down if she make more than the man because a man that makes what she makes may be outside of her options. It would only be dating down if she has better suiters than the one she picks.
Men will go down in a woman's looks to go up in a woman's cooperation, submission, and peace....you clearly don't know men
We'll take a women who's a 6 in her overall look, but a 10 in Femininity
@Jay Lawson It doesn’t help
Women to DATE DOWN OR MARRY DOWN. Women should date men on their level economically or higher. Women who make a certain amount will end up being resentful. And no woman wants a man she can’t or doesn’t RESPECT. It is dating down if she makes SUBSTANTIALLY MORE. It’s called hypergamy for a reason.
@@malikawilson7071 Mathematically it doesn't work. Let's say there are 500 women who make 200K and 500 men who make 200k. 480 of the woman want a man who makes 200K and up and 250 of the men don't care about income. Now what? This is reality.
Also, no it is not dating down IMO. Anyone in their head can consider themselves on a higher level than society defines but in the real world if a lot of rich women want to be married, they WILL date a man that makes less or not get married, therefore it is dating what's available to them, not dating down.
By your own logic it should be even across gender, therefore you would say that Steve Harvey is dating down with Marjorie Harvey. Very few would agree. Sometimes you have to get out of your own way to see the truth.
Why is it about Money?! That's the 1st problem. Smh...
It’s about money because I want my daughter provided for. Sure she’ll be able to provide for herself at a high level, but that is not the point. The big difference is that she knows and understands this at age 20, not 30 or 40.
So you asking her to Marry potential, Rico
You don’t have to be light skin to look good I know plenty ugly light skin people
The first few minutes is the reason why women can’t date down. That guy is suggesting women work really hard or detach from emotions to get something material. That’s simply not true. Some women are simply born winners or have natural talent and that talent simply meets opportunity weather she comes from privilege or nothing. So that woman can’t date down because she can’t understand why a man that wants to lead her or have final say is struggling to be half of what she is, which comes naturally to her. Or be around a person, probably for the first time in her life, who dismisses her achievements as “she cldnt have done that without changing herself” cz what if she didn’t have to change and it’s just who she is? A winner? She is forced to work because she can give herself a lifestyle the man can’t. So it makes sense that she doesn’t want to work but has no choice because there is no one available who matches the lifestyle she can provide for herself. Sort of like saying getting the job done yourself because you can’t find someone to do it well enough.
Both men and women have natural talents. And statistically some women will be more talented than some men, or equally talented, or some men more talented than some women. So I don’t get why men convinced themselves that a woman has to detach to be productive or creative or capable. Both men and women have diffrent work ethics, different exposures, different life experiences, different education, different support systems etc basically different natural abilities and backgrounds. So obviously there is going to be different outcomes including outcomes where a woman is simply better at at something than a man. And the reason women don’t prefer dating down is because men are in denial about capabilities of women and want to be better than the woman always which isn’t realistic. A rich woman can be better than a man simply because she came from a family with more connections and opportunities than the man. It would take the man centuries to be at her level. But many men don’t acknowledge this. And I know so because of them trying to always be the leader no matter what, or trying to minimize the woman or bring her down, or dismiss her abilities by saying she is not a real woman if she has those achievements she must be a man or had to be a man because only a man can do that?
I am saying many women don’t date down because many men are delusional about successful women or capabilities of women in general. And that woman will be doing herself a disservice by dating down because there won’t be any benefits to doing that, just problems and trouble. Like being put down or still being treated like an incompetent person even when clearly more competent than that man. Because what kind of leadership will a dumb guy provide to a smart woman? Or a guy with zero connections to a well connected woman? Or an uneducated man leading an educated woman? How does that make any sense , common sense wise?
Dating for potential isn’t a good idea either because he maybe incompatible with you once he gets to where he is trying to get. And many ppl are full of potential and nothing else Eg they are not capable of doing what it takes to get from a position of potential to something meaningful. Everyone has potential some have more potential than others. But that’s what it is , potential, not reality
A lot of what you wrote make’s sense, but those women should be willing to date down. Those women should be vetting for men confident in their masculinity that want to be the SAHD, raise the children, take care of the household and help her become more successful.
But of course those women don’t want their men to do that either. Instead women are searching for men as successful as them and trying for “power” couple status.🤷🏾♂️
@@kennethsmith6367 there are women who work but don’t want to have to. Reason being many if not most working women also have to have kids and do majority of the day to day management of that households. That’s a lot of burden on one person. But also if she doesn’t work that’s poverty unless she can find someone to help her who is like her lifestyle wise or better.
But there are also women willing to have a SAHD but can’t find such men you are talking about who can be that guy which is the whole issue. Because like I said most men are looking to be the leader not the follower, the star not the supporting act. Some men think they wld be ok but time and again prove they are not so ok after all. Because most men also don’t realize the cost of playing the supporting role until they actually play the role. Because it may look easy when looking at stay home women from afar. I know this because of how stay at home moms are vied and treated Eg in in divorce or after he comes home from work.
So ya I agree with your point of they will have to date down, but they have to date down with a person with the right mindset who is a rare find. They cant just randomly date down with any guy because that’s abandoning your lifestyle and adopting a worse lifestyle instead Eg going from the surburb which is safer to a crime neighborhood he can afford. Going from having healthcare to having no healthcare. Well in that case it’s better to stay single in a safer place with access to healthcare than go to a worse place just to be in a relationship. Because the relationship is making your life worse. You can move him to a better place but he has to be willing to acknowledge you are moving him to a better place not move in and take over and become the leader and the final say and she has to work and serve you after work etc that’s chaotic and why women don’t choose that because there aren’t many men who can approach it with a realistic mindset.
The vice versa is not true. A man dating down is bringing a woman in and continuing what he has been doing. A woman dating down is stopping what she has been doing and giving the reigns to someone else who may lack the capacity to manage those reigns. I hear a lot of “women choose better” or “choose someone worthy” well that’s the goal and the problem. He is rare. Because if he was so easily available he wldnt be in the position he is in, he wld be in the position you are in if he was equally talented and connected and making the same moves. Men can’t really date down because they aren’t giving up their lifestyle to adjust to the woman’s lifestyle, they are actually gaining a supporter when they date down so they are actually upgrading. Meanwhile men aren’t the best at being a supporter or enabling the woman to be even better at what she does, they are better at reducing her not increasing her. So dating down for men is totally different from dating down for women. One is a partnership the other is a coup. Unless there is rare mindset or unless the woman is so rich she doesn’t have to work anymore and he lifestyle won’t change nomatter who she dates. So women with a better shot at dating down are ultra rich women.
@@tanyamilewski5700 I actually think theirs a lot more men willing and capable of playing that part than women think. A huge part of the problem is most women don’t date “down” in the first place. So they are picking from people on their level or above. Why would anyone quit working because they met someone equal to themselves unless kid’s are involved?
The SAHD’s would be every day working stiffs and women that have careers that qualify them for breadwinner status aren’t dating those men anyway. I’m not blaming women for that because they aren’t around those men at work or casually. So the two don’t meet usually to become romantic and find out that there’s men confident enough and willing to do it.
It’s just one of those things NOBODY thought of during the changes that would naturally happen due to feminism. I don’t know how to fix that wrinkle in dating, but it is fixable. Maybe a matchmaker site with a rigorous vetting process to weed out the F-boy’s and scammers, but I don’t know if that’s possible.🫤
@@kennethsmith6367 1- why would they quit working? Because the most men still expect the woman to do most of the caregiving so she quits because she gets overwhelmed by doing both and has to let one go. When she is single she is only focusing on one thing, When she is married she has to focus on multiple things at the same time demanding all of her which results in her burning out and quitting or at least divorcing the guy to go back to being single and focusing on one thing and court mandated help from him if there have kids. Because without the court forcing equitable distribution of labor she will be taking that on herself. If she was doing everything for the kids after divorce she will only do something for them 50% of time she is with them, or 80% of the time which is better than the 100% she was doing during marriage just because he refused to help during the marriage. And if she does a large % she will be compensated by him.
Unless , again, the man she married is a realistic man. Most men aren’t either realistic or capable of helping Eg he can’t cook so he can’t help, or he can’t plan he needs to be told what to do or how to help leaving her with the burden of doing all that plus also working. And, again, if he is a realistic man he will probably not be in the position he is because that mentality would make him make realistic decisions overall with some few exceptions. On the other hand if he had the same lifestyle she had when she was single she can quit the job, maybe temporarily Eg a few years, to focus on the demands at home and still maintain a similar lifestyle she had before. Meanwhile the guys life doesn’t change. He was single and going to work, now married and going to work. He is even living in a cleaner house or having well fed, well maintained kids. So again it also goes back to the mentality of the man. Can she comprehend what’s going on and get involved or does he put his foot down and say keep your job and keep the house management too? Because many men aren’t like that. Or at least it’s too big a risk for a woman to gamble with that. Some do it but quickly divorce the guy if she finds herself in that scenario of you make more or your income is needed; yet your husband cannot appreciate your life sucks or is exhausting enough to lend a consistent hand.
I don’t think feminism is the problem because it simply allowed women to be themselves which they were denied before. Like a woman who is capable of getting herself healthcare was forced to live without healthcare because her husband was poor. That’s wasn’t a good system either because it was oppressing one group or artificially making all women losers nommater how they are born or what their talents and capabilities are. But with feminism they at least have a choice. Choose, not forced, to abandon your lifestyle for a lesser lifestyle. Or choose to be single if you want to maintain your lifestyle. Or if you are lucky enough get someone with a similar lifestyle or realistic mentality. The choices arent all good but at least you have a choice of what you are willing to put on the line unlike before
@@tanyamilewski5700 1)And you proved exactly what I’ve been saying immediately. They wouldn’t both quit working until the child/children are about to arrive. Then almost without fail, the women decides she don’t want to go back to work and wants the fathers to work harder in order to maintain their previous lifestyle. So your first paragraph threw out you entire beginning premise, because you don’t actually believe in teamwork and role’s in a marriage. Both of my replies were clear about role’s and you’re immediately complaining about doing it all.
2) What type of men are you dating that can’t cook and clean? We had the same overworked parents that everyone else had. So we got chores and had too learn how to cook, clean, watch our younger siblings and do laundry just like all the women. We also had to learn how to repair things around the house, basic home maintenance and all the outside chores boys are expected to learn. That’s a part of why it’s so hard to get men to commit to marriage now days, because lots of the men you women aren’t looking for aren’t finding women actually all that useful for anything other than kid’s and companionship. Add that you women are constantly trying to infantilize grown men and act like we don’t know how to do basic stuff. It becomes more and more obvious why so many middle class men are childless and single.
3)Let’s stop with the revisionist history. Women of all races have always worked since the beginning of time. I’m sick of acting like women were chained in the kitchen until 1920. Let’s stop cherry-picking history so that men are always mean and oppressive to their wives, instead of generally working in tandem with their wives to endure hard times.
They can and they do if they are not limiting themselves to race... Then there is the reality that most men who actually become successful are already married and locked in.... That's the real issue, all these successful single men do not exist in the black community and when many do achieve that status, being in a relationship is the last thing on their mind. Successful women have to hitch their wagons to upwardly mobile men if they want a successful, equally yoked mate.
If the men in their own community who understands their struggle don’t want them why would a man from a different community want them?
@@myke6135 exactly
Successful men from other communities are also married and did so early. The men that are successful in other communities that are single are just as difficult to lock down as successful black men that are single. What planet are you living on?
@@kennethsmith6367 the thing is a large portion of black men are not trying to get married at all and if/when they do its when all the sugar is out of the bowl... that's why you see all these old men on her talking about they want a woman under 30 with a low body count whom are all going to die alone. The interest in marriage in this space is mostly just gaslighting.
So you want a woman to dim her light and potential and settle for less all to satisfy you, because you can’t get your bands up to meet her where she’s at? It’s also wild for you to say it’s “masculine” for a woman to provide for herself the life that she wants to live, even if that means making more than a man. I get it feels like a competition, but that’s because YOU, the man, are insecure that your wife makes more. I’m sure plenty of women would love for their man to make more, would admire their man for doing so, and would probably want to add to you both making as much as y’all can. You, the man, see it as competition because you can’t ever be comfortable that your woman out earns you. In other words, you want to exercise control, because that’s what validates you. It’s easy for a woman making a million to walk away, but not so easy for a woman only making 50,000 with multiple kids to look after, and that shit makes you sick. That shit is whack.
Me personally. She can make as much as she wants. As long as she still respects me, has attraction for me, and trust me to make decisions for us as the man.
When she can longer do that because she feels like she's making too much more money than me? Then it's a problem. And I'll just walk away so she can find better.
@@bronxishomenomatterwhereig3149 💯💯 Bruh and you definitely deserve that respect from your woman no matter how much she makes.
I always hated the advice that people should accept you for who you are.
Because alot of people are terrible. And need to to improve.
I say this to say there are alot of women (men too) that are just jerks.
And money is not gonna make people overlook it. Success is not gonna make people overlook it. Especially, not for women.
I wish you happiness in life. If a woman wants a husband and children, it is BEST that she locks down a husband early in life. The money and job will always be there, a husband will not.
I'm so glad all them ladies are off this video so the men can just rock out💪🏾
I think women date and marry to impress their friends. If they date a man who has financially less than them not only does it hurt their ego but it hurts their friends and family view of them
correct, unless the dude is 6ft and good looking
@semaj
You speak 💯 truth
@@ricorogers9319
💯 Facts
But doesn't last if he doesn't have money..she will start disrespecting him in the end
@nathan J
I agree. But initially if we're talking about BW, 6ft is more important than money. Unless it's life changing money of course
@@ricorogers9319
I agree somewhat. But even then if the good looking dude a bum she will ultimately disrespect him. It's just biology