Ep. 85: Cancer Vlog: Healing, Part 2. - 11/9/2022

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  • @pip5391
    @pip5391 Рік тому +7

    Can’t imagine how much you are surely missing your sweet wife. She was a big personality, in a small package. When Jesus lives within an individual, He expands that persons character in a way that only He can do. A character that shows the presence of our Heavenly Father. And yet, He leaves our very specific personality traits in tact. Traits that He lovingly placed within us.I know with certainty, that Brittany’s joy, is now complete. Absolutely, beautifully complete.

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +2

      Thank you Pip. I think you're right. I really miss her. In the beginning of my grieving, I and Gran used to say "I have a Brittany sized hole in my heart." It's true, she has joy now. I'm thankful for that.

    • @pip5391
      @pip5391 Рік тому +3

      Yep, just imagine. Jesus is the light of heaven. The sole source. Pure, radiant, brilliant light. An unsurpassed, incomprehensible beauty. Simply, not within our comprehension.
      Earthly life, just a minuscule part of our eternal existence. It truly is unimaginable. And, He has graciously promised, that eternity with Him. He has promised it will be offered to all. He even provides the faith to believe . But we must reach out and receive His holy provision. What a beautiful provision we have, in His Son. Only Jesus, can usher us in, to the presence of God. And He considers it joy, to do so!
      Absolutely incredible.
      This is Brittany’s reality, right now.
      Truly, we should envy her.
      But it can be so hard, 😅to leave the seen world. With all it contains. All the relationships. All the beautiful moments. All that physical life is, even the pain.
      Our God understands our lack of understanding. He doesn’t condemn us for our shortsightedness. He is mindful of our human limitations.
      Nevertheless, He still offers the gift of life, when physical life is ended.
      What an awesome God.
      There is none like Him.
      Brittany smiles in His presence, at this very moment.
      May Brittany’s gift of faith, continue to reveal the reality of an eternal, loving Father.

  • @jillcarlson8142
    @jillcarlson8142 Рік тому +7

    I love seeing her laugh with her Dad.

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +2

      Yeah... It's wild. This whole thing is impossible apart from God. I just can't wrap my head around it.

  • @mustwereallydothis
    @mustwereallydothis Рік тому +5

    One of the few quotes directly attributed to Jesus was when he was asked about the purpose of life. His answer: "Man is that he might have joy." It may not have been a long time but the extra time was a beautiful gift. You two packed more joy and love into those few weeks than many people experience even if they live to 100.

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +3

      We tried. We really really tried.

    • @mustwereallydothis
      @mustwereallydothis Рік тому +2

      @@Beyond_Cancer From where I sit, it appears you really really succeeded. 🥰

  • @JuanDiazSilvermyst
    @JuanDiazSilvermyst Рік тому +1

    First time seeing this video. She is an angel. I hate cancer but im so happy she meet you. She left a print to the world to see. 2023 and i hope many many more people see her story. Made me cry.

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +2

      Hey Juan! Thank you so much! This is Darrin, (Brittany's husband) She passed this January this year from Kidney Cancer. We filmed a lot of videos and Brittany wanted to upload them, and she was able to do so for awhile. But as she got sicker, she wasn't able to post them anymore. By the time she passed away, we were a year and some change behind in videos. So now, it's on me. I'm posting everything we filmed. And there's a lot! And I've got more to go, too! You'll notice on every video I list the date, including the year that the film was taken to help avoid confusion! The one you watched was from 11/9/2022.
      The story is wild. God shows up in big ways (sneak back to episode 22.5 if you want to hear why I think you should keep watching despite the fact that she's gone) and God shocks EVERYONE in our lives.
      Brittany wanted to touch lives, and she felt called to do these videos, and would often say if she could touch just 1 life, then it would have all been worth it. I hope you continue watching along with us for the journey! We do, get a miracle... a HUGE one. (Episode 80 and forward) It just wasn't quite what we expected. You've messaged me riiiiight at the point in the story where we see God move in some amazing ways! I hope you continue watching!

  • @JamesAustinHall
    @JamesAustinHall Рік тому +1

    Father God bless this family in the name of Jesus spiritually, mentally, and physically amen.

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому

      Hey James! Thank you so much! I can use all the blessings I can get about now. Blessings to you as well!
      Additionally, I'll give you the "template" - I post this to all newcomers. If you've seen this before, or if you've been here awhile, and I just don't recognize you, please ignore this: This is Darrin, (Brittany's husband) She passed this January this year from Kidney Cancer. We filmed a lot of videos and Brittany wanted to upload them, and she was able to do so for awhile. But as she got sicker, she wasn't able to post them anymore. By the time she passed away, we were a year and some change behind in videos. So now, it's on me. I'm posting everything we filmed. And there's a lot! And I've got more to go, too! You'll notice on every video I list the date, including the year that the film was taken to help avoid confusion! The one you watched was from 10/15/2022.
      The story is wild. God shows up in big ways (sneak back to episode 22.5 if you want to hear why I think you should keep watching despite the fact that she's gone) and God shocks EVERYONE in our lives.
      Brittany wanted to touch lives, and she felt called to do these videos, and would often say if she could touch just 1 life, then it would have all been worth it. I hope you continue watching along with us for the journey! We do, get a miracle... a HUGE one. (Episode 80 and forward) It just wasn't quite what we expected. You've messaged me riiiiight at the point in the story where we see God move in some amazing ways! I hope you continue watching!

    • @JamesAustinHall
      @JamesAustinHall Рік тому +1

      @@Beyond_Cancer Glory be to God my sister and of course God willing may we continue to fellowship as well in the mighty name of Jesus amen.

  • @lynneosborne5200
    @lynneosborne5200 Рік тому +2

    She looks so serene when she is talking, like she is at peace with her self ❤

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +2

      Yeah... I'm struck by that too. I don't remember this video, so when I (re)watched it for the first time, I was just awestruck. My wife was so, so happy in this moment.

  • @ruthwuk
    @ruthwuk Рік тому +3

    This is one of the most moving episodes! God gave Brittany this extra time, and she used it for His purposes, making peace and reconnecting with loved ones, touching hearts, precious extra moments with you Darrin, and with everyone around her. And she looks beautiful. A wondrous miracle from the Lord. This time must be such an extra-special memory for you ❤

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +2

      Hey Ruth. Thank you - I agree. I watch this video and I'll be honest, I remember almost none of it. Now, here, 8 months later, I'm (re)watching it for the first time, and I'm just blown away by her peace and joy. You're right, I think it really is one of the most moving moments in our journey. Thank you.

  • @132allie
    @132allie Рік тому +4

    It's so nice that Brittany had time to set things right with her family and die in peace.

  • @jennifersanders2456
    @jennifersanders2456 Рік тому +3

    What a lovely episode. I am smiling 😄

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому

      Yeah, God really pulled out the stops to allow this one to happen. lol.

  • @lisawhite3648
    @lisawhite3648 Рік тому +3

    Hi Darrin.I watched the last video.I was gonna comment but everyone said what i was gonna say.Her love an sorrow about what you went through was so touching!What an Amazing wife Brittany was!!This has gotta be Rough.Your a Wonderful man.I'm so sorry you lost her😢❤🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻.Sorry for the language But she Was A Bad Ass, So Brave forgiving an Strong!I have 5 children.Brittany is So Easy to love(not in a weird way)a motherly way.Omg an Her Faith.Well i could go on but already wrote a Book, Sorry.

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +2

      Hey Lisa. You're not the only one. lol. Everyone's in my life is on me to actually write a book. lol. I wouldn't even know where to begin. I feel like the story shared here IS a book, in a way.

  • @donnamariedunn3944
    @donnamariedunn3944 Рік тому +2

    A really pleasant video. It's nice seeing everyone laughing and enjoying each other's company. Britney really looks good, what a difference in a short time. I am glad God gave you that extra time. ♥️

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +2

      Donna, He really did give give us the extra time we needed. For me and for her. Just enough time to live a little bit and rebuild things before God called her home. I'll forever be grateful.

  • @beckymellon8135
    @beckymellon8135 Рік тому +2

    It’s so wonderful seeing her joy in God and family😊❤️❤️❤️

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +1

      Absolutely, Becky! Her smiles say it all.

  • @darlenepietzak9847
    @darlenepietzak9847 Рік тому +1

    So happy to see you all together. Brittany's dad looks so young. Darrin, do you and your father in law keep in touch?

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +1

      We do, Darlene. We chat a few times a month.

  • @juliachatwell
    @juliachatwell Рік тому +3

    Hi Darrin. I plan on watching your videos from beginning to end soon!! I wanted to ask ( and you may have said this already) so forgive me for asking again. Did the doctors ever say what caused this rare cancer with Brittany and also how long did they think she had it before she fainted? Did she have any other symptoms before she fainted?
    You’re wife and you truly are the example of “running the race”. She did it with so much grace and wisdom for someone so young. I’m so thankful she had you in her life 🙏🏼🙌🙏🏼🙌🙏🏼🙌

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +2

      Hey Julia! Excellent question! Ultimately, they just said 'It was a fluke.' We had a full genetics panel run on her, and it's NOT genetic, NOR does it pop up in her gender or age very often, especially her gender AND age. Essentially, they were running a bit blind on treating her because she was so novel. So... "yes" they explained that "sometimes these things happen" as a way of explaining how she developed the cancer. Not satisfying, and basically was yet another moment of doctors shrugging their shoulders at us as an answer to our questions.
      They surmised that she had the cancer for about 3 years before she fainted. So, essentially, we would often say to each other that when we got married, the cancer started growing. Not as an insult or anything, but... rather, an answer that would make sense to us. We felt that this entire journey was one big attack from the enemy. And "Of course we would develop cancer the year we got married... that's just how Satan does things." So, that's kinda how we mentally explained it to ourselves and how we approached everything going forward.

    • @juliachatwell
      @juliachatwell Рік тому +1

      @@Beyond_Cancer thank you for your detailed answer!! I truly appreciate it Darrin.

  • @louise8752
    @louise8752 Рік тому +1

    Super happy to see her with her dad and sharing a good story!!!

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому

      Yeah, It was really really nice that they got to spend a bunch of time together during her last days.

  • @carleenvince6748
    @carleenvince6748 Рік тому +2

    Im so thankful I found your videos ❤️ she is so inspiring and courageous . I'm so encouraged by you both.thank you for sharing your story I truly believe it will help so many people ❤️ god bless you always 🙏

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +1

      Thank you, Carleen! It's nice having you along for the ride as well!

  • @earthmedicine27
    @earthmedicine27 Рік тому +4

    Dad looks so young. Like her brother.

  • @sharonparker6147
    @sharonparker6147 Рік тому +2

    God is great and can heal and give miracles.🌹

  • @caroltardif5999
    @caroltardif5999 Рік тому +2

    Hugs and prayers🙏❤️🙏

  • @suemoo22
    @suemoo22 Рік тому +1

    I just found your channel. Praying that God will hold you and cure you. ❤

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +8

      Hey Sue! This is Darrin, (Brittany's husband) She passed this January this year from Kidney Cancer. We filmed a lot of videos and Brittany wanted to upload them, and she was able to do so for awhile. But as she got sicker, she wasn't able to post them anymore. By the time she passed away, we were a year and some change behind in videos. So now, it's on me. I'm posting everything we filmed. And there's a lot! And I've got more to go, too! You'll notice on every video I list the date, including the year that the film was taken to help avoid confusion! The one you watched was from 11/9/2022.
      The story is wild. God shows up in big ways (sneak back to episode 22.5 if you want to hear why I think you should keep watching despite the fact that she's gone) and God shocks EVERYONE in our lives.
      Brittany wanted to touch lives, and she felt called to do these videos, and would often say if she could touch just 1 life, then it would have all been worth it. I hope you continue watching along with us for the journey! We do, get a miracle... a HUGE one. (Episode 80 and forward) It just wasn't quite what we expected. You've messaged me riiiiight at the point in the story where we see God move in some amazing ways! I hope you continue watching!

    • @suemoo22
      @suemoo22 Рік тому +1

      @@Beyond_Cancer I am so terribly sorry to hear this. I’m still watching from Episode 1. She was an amazing person.

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +1

      Episode 1 is tough. It's an hour long and before I had a chance to stop Brittany and tell her that she was going to bore people to tears if she did that every video. lol. After that, she keeps it to 10-20 minutes each video. She only went up to 15 or so, before life got too hard.

    • @suemoo22
      @suemoo22 Рік тому

      @@Beyond_Cancer Its not boring me, I follow other people’s channels who have cancer. This is so heartbreaking. My brother in law was just diagnosed with a lymphoma on both eyes.

    • @lisawhite3648
      @lisawhite3648 Рік тому +2

      suemoo i'm so sorry🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

  • @kristimartinez7528
    @kristimartinez7528 Рік тому +4

    Did the doctors wver try to explain how she came back? I am just still in complete shock. I have never seen anything like this...

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +1

      Nope. Just a shrug. Some of the more faithful of our docs just said "Praise God" and left it at that.

    • @kimjones7153
      @kimjones7153 Рік тому +1

      I have just discovered your channel it’s amazing how your wife came back and miracles can happen x

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +2

      God is amazing, Kim. And our journey was full of Him. Anyway, allow me to give you the rundown: This is Darrin, (Brittany's husband) She passed this January this year from Kidney Cancer. We filmed a lot of videos and Brittany wanted to upload them, and she was able to do so for awhile. But as she got sicker, she wasn't able to post them anymore. By the time she passed away, we were a year and some change behind in videos. So now, it's on me. I'm posting everything we filmed. And there's a lot! And I've got more to go, too! You'll notice on every video I list the date, including the year that the film was taken to help avoid confusion! The one you watched was from 11/9/2022.
      The story is wild. God shows up in big ways (sneak back to episode 22.5 if you want to hear why I think you should keep watching despite the fact that she's gone) and God shocks EVERYONE in our lives.
      Brittany wanted to touch lives, and she felt called to do these videos, and would often say if she could touch just 1 life, then it would have all been worth it. I hope you continue watching along with us for the journey! We do, get a miracle... a HUGE one. (Episode 80 and forward) It just wasn't quite what we expected. You've messaged me riiiiight at the point in the story where we see God move in some amazing ways! I hope you continue watching!

    • @joyceraber5094
      @joyceraber5094 Рік тому +2

      Good to see Brittany laugh. We love Milo. ❤❤❤❤❤

    • @kristimartinez7528
      @kristimartinez7528 Рік тому +1

      ​@@Beyond_CancerWow 😮

  • @fiageldenhuys6888
    @fiageldenhuys6888 Рік тому +1

    ♥️✝️♥️

  • @bobsgirl100
    @bobsgirl100 Рік тому +1

    Darren I don’t want to be intrusive but we’re your physicians ever able to explain what I consider to be a miracle? Was it simply the nutrition? I was a medical social worker and I have never seen this kind of turn around even if temporary. God bless you Darren🥲

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому

      hahaha! Actually, I just answered this on your comment on Episode 83! lol. But, long story short. No! No one could. That old addage about God doing such work as to confound doctors, well... we got to walk through it or something so close as to just call it what it was.. back from the dead - a term that Brittany used quire frequently. Now, I'm sure someone could provide some crazy super rare medical reasoning, but... I watched her family come, then celebrate her life, then go home to wait for the news of her passing, only then to have my wife yell at me for having too many people in the house when she was trying to sleep. 😂 And watch her slowly regain consciousness, and the organ which they said was shut down, come back online. Then to live - truly live - as that miracle, medical mystery or not, get overshadowed by the entire bridge of her family being repaired... Dude... I don't need a doctor to tell me what healing is. And I may just be one of those "crazy christians" ... but after seeing what I saw... yeah, I'm crazy. And that's why I've been posting the last 70 episodes... to get to this moment.

  • @kristimartinez7528
    @kristimartinez7528 Рік тому +1

    Honestly, I thought you were going to introduce her Dad as her brother....he looks so young!!

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +1

      Kristi, heh. You're right. He is a young guy. Basically just a little bit older than me. Fully cementing that "I'm old enough to be her father" routine I've been dancing around since Brittany and I met. But... I've come to peace with it. lol. Her dad and mom, though, had Brittany when they were very young. He struggled, she struggled, and there was a lot of generational hurt in and about that whole situation. I think that's what Brittany had a great part in helping facilitate some of that healing. I'll forever be grateful to God for the opportunity He gave me, and everyone else.

    • @kristimartinez7528
      @kristimartinez7528 Рік тому +1

      ​@@Beyond_CancerThat is amazing. I am so glad that there was so much healing.

  • @JackNormalMemes
    @JackNormalMemes Рік тому +5

    Sorry to pry, but what was the families opinion on you? Being significantly older and spending a lot of time with her away from family towards the end. Imagine it would have caused tension.

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +5

      Hey Jack! Good question. I was very worried about the same thing you're talking about. But, I think since the first time they met me was essentially me being this caregiver who was running himself ragged trying to take care of his dying wife, I think that kinda eased a bunch of tensions that may or may not have been there to begin with. They were nothing but respectful and loving. And, I don't know if it was just the immediate circumstance, or they being super accepting, or God literally making a way... or all of the above, but... they were totally fine with me. They still call and text me, check on me etc. even now - 8 months later. I'm in constant contact with Gran - she loved me from the moment she met me, (whatever that was about. lol).
      But... no. No tension. At any point in this. I was super scared about it, but... nothing. Just love.
      And there is no information I'm holding back from anyone, I'm such an open book, the spine is broken and all the pages are coming out. So Ask away! lol

    • @132allie
      @132allie Рік тому +2

      I was wondering the same thing... My husband is significantly older than me, but I met him in my forties. Brittany was under 20 when you met her from what I understand from the videos. You took great care of her, though. She must have felt very comforted with you, and love crosses all boundaries.

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +1

      Yup. I think I met her at 19. Shocked the heck out of me and everyone else who suggested that I maybe talk to her. I know that we don't see it in the videos so much, but she was always "business casual," super mature and responsible. No one, especially me, had any idea.

    • @JackNormalMemes
      @JackNormalMemes Рік тому +3

      @@Beyond_Cancer Thanks for the honest response, sometimes two people just meet at the right time for a reason.

  • @elizabethconroy7665
    @elizabethconroy7665 Рік тому +1

    Come and see the refugees living out here in the Desert 🏜️
    Miserable conditions and immense suffering
    Have seen no miracles there
    Respect

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +1

      Hey Elizabeth, while I agree, there's been no overt public spectacles, I can't help but wonder about the intimate and personal miracles that each person experiences at the hand of a kind stranger, or getting food and water at just the right time. Brittany and I weren't in the desert, no. I won't make the claim that our suffering was as intense as someone living in the desert, displaced from their own home. But, we did suffer. And all along the way, provision was made for us in just the right moments. The way forward was made clear for us in moments of intense doubt and pain. Times when we were struggling just to find some way to take the next step, complete strangers came along our path to help us walk.
      I agree, the refugees struggle and suffer as well. But we can't discount the intense personal miracles that come at just the right moment for anyone and everyone at some point in their lives! I don't see coincidences, or random luck. I see divine love and miracles. Miracles in the faintest of breaths, of one last burst of energy, in the touch of a friend on your shoulder just when you needed it. Those are miracles too. We all experience them every day.

  • @jenniferthompson6280
    @jenniferthompson6280 Рік тому +1

    Is it too personal to ask how he was abusive, did he literally beat her as a child?

    • @Beyond_Cancer
      @Beyond_Cancer  Рік тому +3

      It's complicated. There was some physical abuse, but a lot of it was psychological and emotional to hear her put it in perspective. He was a pillar of the community as well, complicating her story to anyone who heard. However, at this point in the journey, he had a huge earth-shatteringly change of personality. And he started to reach out months before this moment, and Brittany was warily going to let him back in. Then the timing of her going into the hospital and coming back was sort of the moment that all pretense just vanished. I dunno, it was a lot.

    • @elizabethconroy7665
      @elizabethconroy7665 Рік тому

      Understand about Family
      Cold Mother and an emotionally distant Father
      However,never cut my Mother off and was always there for her even when I had to take Ativan to calm me down when around her
      Lived miles away but when she was very sick and I flew out to see her ,she screamed at me
      I never wanted you hear
      Thanks for sharing but have seen none of these Miracles