You are a remarkable young person. To have the self awareness at such a young age and to be making steps to overcome your issues is so huge. I commend you, am proud of you, and wish you the best. You will go far in life! Btw, today I learned (in a trauma informed training) that bearing witness, listening to others and helping them by telling your story, is the best way to heal yourself. It certainly has helped me. Good luck!
@@JulieDozierMcCrary it is the only way to stand up and take responsibility of and within everything that has gone before and then everything step by step within time helps our mentalities and us only way yo get through xx I agree with your statement xx congrats to all who tunes in, especially to such a lovely young person xx
When I was in High School, I will never forget sitting across from the Advisor who said to me, "You are not college material." She was College Educated, and my 16 year old self thought, well, she should know....and for most of my life I believed that I just would never be SMART ENOUGH. Talk about how SHAME affects us for a lifetime!
Lori Taylor-Schulte best comment Mr Hernandez was his name and I was 17 yrs old. I'm not excusing, blaming, justifying. I'm just saying I understand. The only thing I'm ashamed of is dropping out of 10th grade. I'm not ashamed bcz I don't lie,cheat,steal and the worst sin, pride. I'm not proud of sin, I'm forgiven of sin, and that is the difference. God bless and thank you for commenting.
Lori Taylor-Schulte this happened to my mother. She told me this story and I can honestly say that I have seen it flare up many times over the course of her life. She’s almost 60 and still tells this story and fights how smart and resourceful she actually is.
Lori, as a former 19-year high school teacher, 6-year high school counselor, and now a private practice mental health counselor, please know how sorry I am that an educator said "You are not college material" to you. IMO, that was HER mistake--her ignorance, her judgment, and her shame--not yours. I know personally and professionally how such trauma in our formative years can affect us a lifetime: but it is NEVER too late to process that trauma, to realize it is not true, and to chose a different path. Best wishes to you!
My H.S. Counselor's name was "Doctor" Vicino he told, my Latinx friend she wasn't "good enough" to apply to Columbia University. Luckily, she applied and 4 years later he graduated from Columbia. University.
I feel so very sorry for all the people who gave a thumb down here, but I feel worse about the world that surrounds those ppl. this information is so incredibly valuable! People, this is Ivy League education, for free! WTH, be grateful you have just seen something that is medicine for the spirit. Cure for the soul and the most lethal weapon to succeed! Thank you Dr. Brown!🙌 “no name calling, at all”
Opening your heart and exposing yourself to rejection, hurt and humiliation is one of the most courageous and beautiful acts imaginable. Losing the object of your love is painful and can feel like a limb or part of yourself has been amputated as the sense of we shifts back to sad and lonely me.
Brene has changed my life and is a person I always turn to when I struggle with my anorexia recovery. She reminds me that being vulnerable and this fear is leading to something good
If we had these types of discussions at the beginning of every academic year with faculty I believe we would have a much different approach to our curriculum and pedagogy. Thank you Brené for another amazing presentation and discussion.
Wow!! You’re amazing Brene Brown! The shields of shame! In all of my 38 years of life, I’ve never actually taken time to face the fact that I live behind these shields daily. Thank you for this inspiration!
Dear Brene', I realized some years ago, as a teacher for 48 yrs. of people, their animals and animals in general , that the things that we teach in life, especially the foundations of the learning, are the things we need to learn ourselves. Opening up to our students as our master teachers without victimizing ourselves to the process, exposes our own underbelly and requires huge amounts of courage, convictions, strength and insights. I love your talks. Thank you!
Yes trauma for son by a school teacher in 4th grade, He did not recover for years. I myself can remember my teacher in 5th grade, so wonderful to me. A male, he could see me struggle through maths. Did some remedial work with me and I was back on track. Mr Burns thanks so much.
I only just found this UA-cam. Everything in its right time! I am a Grateful person. I use to apologize for being born and had a hard time transforming into who I am today. A Grateful child of the Universe🤩
"Vulnerability is the greatest casualty of trauma... No vulnerability- no love, no belonging, no joy". This explains so much. Thank you Brenè. I ❤ your authenticity & sense of humour.
When she talked about people having an experience with a teacher that gave them self worth, I thought of Miss Hoback, an administrator at my school. When I started middle school and got my first demerit, I had a total breakdown. She had to take me out of class and into her office and as I sat there crying, she gently explained to me that a demerit didn't mean I was a bad person. I had just done a bad thing. I'm crying as I write this because it still affects me to this day. God bless that woman.
BelleFlower15 wow that sounds like a beautiful person, I remember I was crying and my vice-principal said “ don’t you dare cry! You have no right to cry! So don’t you dare cry!”
Such an exciting time and the perfect audience to engage with Brene's message. I am heartbroken there are over 82,000 views with only 1000 likes... My days are spend in K12 Education & we SO need to receive this message and adhere to change. When I met with my HS Guidance office I too had the counselor tell me, "I was NOT college material, my parents were not of, THAT mindset." What a stifling thing to say to a adolescent who presents with the courage to ask how to improve her world."
Actually, I would add: 1. (in generally speaking) the 'feel of shame' requires 'humans' in your life... in absence of 'them' there is no much of a trigger to the negative sense of 'self'; 2. separating/ distancing from 'humans' (aka 'alone') is often can be therapeutic (as being vulnerable you get all these mixed messages, pushes, and vibes from 'others', apart from the most important - getting your own ones!) ... however, it is sense of 'loneliness' triggers self-doubts, search for personal/ personality defects, self-blame, etc. 3. "being spoken" should be to some 'human(s)' ... talking to something, animals or yourself is more like the 'placebo effect'. Regards
Certainly courage is teachable ... definitely. It's knowing those values mentioned in the lecture and being aware enough to know the moment to choose courage and not let shame deliver its fear.
I used to think that not having good armor was my biggest flaw, and it has been a defining force in my life, but Brené helped me see it not just as something beautiful but essential as well. She took the shame out of that for me. And that actually helped me become stronger and perhaps, even more resilient. Some people have their spiritual teachers, like Oprah and Brené for example have Maya Angelou as their teacher, some Mother Teresa, some Dalai Lama. Brené is my teacher. I just love her and am so grateful for everything she does
Changing the world one teacher at a time. I honour you for your courage Brene' and I honour all teachers who tread this vulnerable and courageous path. ❤❤❤
I am crying I am so moved by the timing and clarity of this.message. As the realizations settle in, my wounded inner self sits up, unrounds her shoulders, and takes a breath. This has a palpable visceral effect. Because shame is pain. I am grateful for this teaching and your courage and dedication Dr. Brene Brown in bringing this subject to light for the sake of all of us and this up and coming generation.
hi thank you brenee .im from Bahrain Arabian Persian Gulf..I was a teacher and we had a religious discrimination in the air that led with the Arab spring in 2011 to a civil crisis in my beloved country...I knew deep in my heart that the teachers had a big hand to make things better and the hate will be less other than the classification , make fun and favouritism...I resined in 2014 . I thought of making the world a lovelier and braver place from outside the educational system...thank u again.
The action of learning is a risk, the ultimate vulnerability. As educators, it’s important to remember how vulnerable learners are. We have to create a climate where students are safe to be vulnerable, take risks, to make and learn from mistakes; this is where real grown can happen. Thank you Brené!
Dear Brene This is Leanna's daughter and I am so happy I watched your video because it basically just changed my life THANK YOU! I will be a better person than I am already. Leanna's daughter.
Again, Brene nailed it. She jumps right in the pool of of shame and vulnerability with humor and brings out the shine, out of these words. Thank you Brene, you're awesome.
I did a video (no profit intended at all) about being a natural encourager. I wish in my heart I could show it to this gal. It hurt but allowed me to move forward in my life.
Courage is the willingness to enter the arena despite knowing you will lose. Speak your truth despite being ignored, villified or attacked by a group. Attempt something new and uncomfortable despite the risk of humiliation, failure or criticism. Above all, courage is being open, honest and vulnerable, and putting yourself out there by sending off a manuscript or asking someone on a date despite the risk of rejection after having exposed your heart and soul and the core of who you are.
This is a great talk, we can make education so much more effective by leading with empathy! Knowing how to deal with shame would have helped us all as grade school students.
Mindfulness helps me to experience joy that I am experiencing in the moment. I know I can definitely future trip and worry about horrible things happening in the future. Getting sober has helped me to live in today and have gratitude for the great things in my life and know that the tough times will pass. I love the quote, "if you have one leg in yesterday and one in tomorrow, all you do is pee all over today."
This an Every parent and teacher must listening to and understand!!! The world would be a safer and happier place to live if these truths were exercised.
I started out with a lot of courage, but maybe that was a kind of naive fearlessness. Now it's much less and I'm having to relearn it. I needed your talk today.
When it comes to what makes it difficult to take another's perspective, I'd also add to her list "the more mentally healthy you are". I grew up with anxiety, emotional abuse from my father, depression, low self-esteem, social anxiety and I suspect avoidant personality disorder after taking Abnormal Psychology in college. (Never been diagnosed for avoidant, so I can only say it's a suspicion because my younger self fit all the signs & symptoms SPOT ON.) I've overcome a good portion of these problems but I still remember what it was like and can empathize personally with others struggling. Even if another's story isn't identical, just seeing suffering in general after suffering yourself can really increase empathy. Some of the least supportive people are the ones who grew up in great families and didn't have really intrusive emotional problems. (I doubt anyone is completely free of emotional and mental problems but it seems people must have a certain conscious extent of these problems before their empathy increases.)
I think a lot of these people we view as “having no problems” are actually some of the most damaged. Their shame is so deep they haven’t even recognized it themselves. You’re right that no one is without emotional damage or trauma.
So grateful for the work of Brene Brown who has literally unlocked the doorway for many to self expression and infinite love that is everyone's birthright, she is doing God's work, nothing less.
Most recently I have identified that this viedo was helpful. Seeing the amount of self-worth-awareness in the concepts placed of Joy, Shame, Silence, Secrecy, and Judgement is where I can relate to. No matter how much empathy, I have shown - that concept is still deep from high levels of depression, social isolation - embarrassment and name calling or put downs. I did not like to agree with my recent correlation of the type of material that is affecting me (indirectly) but I will assume that everybody, everyone has the LOWS in life. Humanity. I am no teacher, but enjoyed to place myself in this pep talk. Thanks for sharing. It was informative. Appreciate the information shared. Thank You, Ms.Emily!
Let me add, My son had a teacher who built him up and nurtured him. Equally, he was superb. I was so sad we had to move on. He was God sent. He had an inbuilt empathy that could pick a troubled kid out. And give him the extra help and care he needed. My son thrived in his class.
I'm not ashamed to be weaker than you but il keep paying attention to your podcast..your the first social worker I don't mind being obedient to everything you say an your the first social worker I liked
As a teacher, as a mom and as an often vulnerable woman, I thank Brené for this talk. Every minute was worth it. Many thanks for the content and your presence.
This was really interesting, informative and extremely well delivered. I had to check myself at my own door with some of this. I needed this desperately
I love watching you! it helps me in my everyday life . I struggled with addiction , I’ve now been clean for 3 years with your help in understanding it.
As someone who lived with be shamed everyday by parents and nuns, and grew up in Catholic School and remains Christian, (not Catholic), I try very hard to take other people's perspectives. I felt like no one ever looked at things from my perspective.
Greatttt talk, she's so on point! I've started teaching poetry with 3rd and 4th graders and this was linked as part of the training material. And I'm so happy it was!!
I love you!!!!! Thank you so much for this message. Bless you, Brené, Everything you mentioned in this conversation with the audience....the examples of humiliation, etc. I felt I was in the audience with everyone else. I am a work in progress and I believe I´ve healed some of the most traumatic experiences of my childhood, but once in a while, life happens and I feel I take one step forward and two steps back. This was amazing, I am glad I´ve tuned it!!!
I strongly believe ALL teachers need to learn all these things BEFORE they ever open the door to their first class. It should be part of their curriculum. No doubt in my mind and I speak for myself. There would be less broken children at school before they have had a chance. Once the damage is done, it is done. For me there was no turning back. I still see it done today. And it kills me. I can't grasp that lives are put in their care for a HUGE per cent of the day. Many kids will talk to teachers about issues. My gosh. It is scary.
I could watch brene for 12 hrs. She's my free therapist and counselor, lol. I love her. 💜
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YES! I feel she speaks directly to me.
I so agree love brene
I may be only 13 but you help me with my problems so that I can fix them, “I may be making a mess, but I am not messy” so goes with me!
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You're getting the message early! Hurray!! Bright Blessings to you ~
I so hope that Brene's teachings are helping you! They've helped me immensely and I'm 20
You are a remarkable young person. To have the self awareness at such a young age and to be making steps to overcome your issues is so huge. I commend you, am proud of you, and wish you the best. You will go far in life!
Btw, today I learned (in a trauma informed training) that bearing witness, listening to others and helping them by telling your story, is the best way to heal yourself. It certainly has helped me.
Good luck!
@@JulieDozierMcCrary it is the only way to stand up and take responsibility of and within everything that has gone before and then everything step by step within time helps our mentalities and us only way yo get through xx I agree with your statement xx congrats to all who tunes in, especially to such a lovely young person xx
Go you. So proud and pleased for you xx
"Courage is possible when you know how to get back up when you fall...If you are brave, you are going to get hurt" Love her!
Hello. Janice
When I was in High School, I will never forget sitting across from the Advisor who said to me, "You are not college material." She was College Educated, and my 16 year old self thought, well, she should know....and for most of my life I believed that I just would never be SMART ENOUGH. Talk about how SHAME affects us for a lifetime!
Why can't a mom,teacher like her run for president?
Lori Taylor-Schulte
best comment
Mr Hernandez was his name and I was 17 yrs old.
I'm not excusing, blaming, justifying.
I'm just saying I understand.
The only thing I'm ashamed of is dropping out of 10th grade.
I'm not ashamed
bcz I don't lie,cheat,steal
and the worst sin, pride.
I'm not proud of sin,
I'm forgiven of sin,
and that is the difference.
God bless and thank you
for commenting.
Lori Taylor-Schulte this happened to my mother. She told me this story and I can honestly say that I have seen it flare up many times over the course of her life. She’s almost 60 and still tells this story and fights how smart and resourceful she actually is.
Lori, as a former 19-year high school teacher, 6-year high school counselor, and now a private practice mental health counselor, please know how sorry I am that an educator said "You are not college material" to you. IMO, that was HER mistake--her ignorance, her judgment, and her shame--not yours. I know personally and professionally how such trauma in our formative years can affect us a lifetime: but it is NEVER too late to process that trauma, to realize it is not true, and to chose a different path. Best wishes to you!
My H.S. Counselor's name was "Doctor" Vicino he told, my Latinx friend she wasn't "good enough" to apply to Columbia University. Luckily, she applied and 4 years later he graduated from Columbia. University.
I feel so very sorry for all the people who gave a thumb down here, but I feel worse about the world that surrounds those ppl. this information is so incredibly valuable! People, this is Ivy League education, for free! WTH, be grateful you have just seen something that is medicine for the spirit. Cure for the soul and the most lethal weapon to succeed! Thank you Dr. Brown!🙌 “no name calling, at all”
Excellent
I can watch brene brown for hours she like my therapist
"The broken hearted are the bravest among us because they had the courage to love."
Opening your heart and exposing yourself to rejection, hurt and humiliation is one of the most courageous and beautiful acts imaginable. Losing the object of your love is painful and can feel like a limb or part of yourself has been amputated as the sense of we shifts back to sad and lonely me.
I would add that the broken hearted don't stay broken.
They learn faster than others thats all.
I echo your sentiments
Amen!
Brene has changed my life and is a person I always turn to when I struggle with my anorexia recovery. She reminds me that being vulnerable and this fear is leading to something good
Hello my name is DIA DUC HIEN, I bring you tidings
If we had these types of discussions at the beginning of every academic year with faculty I believe we would have a much different approach to our curriculum and pedagogy. Thank you Brené for another amazing presentation and discussion.
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Vulnerability is the birth place of everything we want more of in our lives.
That is one of the very best quotes EVER!
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brené brown changed my life. I am a huge fan. thank you for posting this.
SAME!!!
Same here.
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Wow!! You’re amazing Brene Brown! The shields of shame! In all of my 38 years of life, I’ve never actually taken time to face the fact that I live behind these shields daily. Thank you for this inspiration!
Hello. Krisonda
as an aspiring teacher, this talk has just formed the bedrock of my motivation. Thanks Brene. Cross fingers I'll be a good one!
Yessss, This video should be shared will every teacher in the world!!!
I just love her research. I'm grateful she has shared it with the world.
Dear Brene', I realized some years ago, as a teacher for 48 yrs. of people, their animals and animals in general , that the things that we teach in life, especially the foundations of the learning, are the things we need to learn ourselves. Opening up to our students as our master teachers without victimizing ourselves to the process, exposes our own underbelly and requires huge amounts of courage, convictions, strength and insights. I love your talks. Thank you!
Yes trauma for son by a school teacher in 4th grade, He did not recover for years. I myself can remember my teacher in 5th grade, so wonderful to me. A male, he could see me struggle through maths. Did some remedial work with me and I was back on track. Mr Burns thanks so much.
I completely agree that education is the cornerstone for creating, enhancing, and encouraging love and personal growth.
I miss you and your talks.....I am retired teacher.....and all schools need to hear you......
I only just found this UA-cam. Everything in its right time! I am a Grateful person. I use to apologize for being born and had a hard time transforming into who I am today. A Grateful child of the Universe🤩
"Vulnerability is the greatest casualty of trauma... No vulnerability- no love, no belonging, no joy". This explains so much. Thank you Brenè. I ❤ your authenticity & sense of humour.
When she talked about people having an experience with a teacher that gave them self worth, I thought of Miss Hoback, an administrator at my school. When I started middle school and got my first demerit, I had a total breakdown. She had to take me out of class and into her office and as I sat there crying, she gently explained to me that a demerit didn't mean I was a bad person. I had just done a bad thing. I'm crying as I write this because it still affects me to this day. God bless that woman.
BelleFlower15 wow that sounds like a beautiful person, I remember I was crying and my vice-principal said “ don’t you dare cry! You have no right to cry! So don’t you dare cry!”
Such an exciting time and the perfect audience to engage with Brene's message. I am heartbroken there are over 82,000 views with only 1000 likes... My days are spend in K12 Education & we SO need to receive this message and adhere to change. When I met with my HS Guidance office I too had the counselor tell me, "I was NOT college material, my parents were not of, THAT mindset." What a stifling thing to say to a adolescent who presents with the courage to ask how to improve her world."
"Shame cannot survive being spoken because shame requires you to believe you're alone in order for it to maintain it's power." ~Brene Brown
Actually, I would add: 1. (in generally speaking) the 'feel of shame' requires 'humans' in your life... in absence of 'them' there is no much of a trigger to the negative sense of 'self'; 2. separating/ distancing from 'humans' (aka 'alone') is often can be therapeutic (as being vulnerable you get all these mixed messages, pushes, and vibes from 'others', apart from the most important - getting your own ones!) ... however, it is sense of 'loneliness' triggers self-doubts, search for personal/ personality defects, self-blame, etc. 3. "being spoken" should be to some 'human(s)' ... talking to something, animals or yourself is more like the 'placebo effect'. Regards
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Makes sense
Certainly courage is teachable ... definitely. It's knowing those values mentioned in the lecture and being aware enough to know the moment to choose courage and not let shame deliver its fear.
yes 👏 to this!
Thank you, Brene Brown~ 💖💕✨ For helping me see that my emotional vulnerability is actually a strength. Not a flaw. 🥰💖💕✨
Sobbing. Thank you for the clarity.
I used to think that not having good armor was my biggest flaw, and it has been a defining force in my life, but Brené helped me see it not just as something beautiful but essential as well. She took the shame out of that for me. And that actually helped me become stronger and perhaps, even more resilient.
Some people have their spiritual teachers, like Oprah and Brené for example have Maya Angelou as their teacher, some Mother Teresa, some Dalai Lama. Brené is my teacher. I just love her and am so grateful for everything she does
I can relate to this experience and totally agree with you here.
Changing the world one teacher at a time. I honour you for your courage Brene' and I honour all teachers who tread this vulnerable and courageous path. ❤❤❤
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I am crying I am so moved by the timing and clarity of this.message. As the realizations settle in, my wounded inner self sits up, unrounds her shoulders, and takes a breath. This has a palpable visceral effect. Because shame is pain. I am grateful for this teaching and your courage and dedication Dr. Brene Brown in bringing this subject to light for the sake of all of us and this up and coming generation.
hi thank you brenee .im from Bahrain Arabian Persian Gulf..I was a teacher and we had a religious discrimination in the air that led with the Arab spring in 2011 to a civil crisis in my beloved country...I knew deep in my heart that the teachers had a big hand to make things better and the hate will be less other than the classification , make fun and favouritism...I resined in 2014 . I thought of making the world a lovelier and braver place from outside the educational system...thank u again.
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Wow, every teacher or roll model for kids should have to listen to this.
A woman after my heart! Thank you so much for this.
Hello. Claudia
The action of learning is a risk, the ultimate vulnerability. As educators, it’s important to remember how vulnerable learners are. We have to create a climate where students are safe to be vulnerable, take risks, to make and learn from mistakes; this is where real grown can happen. Thank you Brené!
Brene Brown saved me from myself while coming out of a major fall in life.
Hello. Leslie
This one will definitely get out to some classrooms in Denmark today. Thank you for your message.
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Dear Brene
This is Leanna's daughter and I am so happy I watched your video because it basically just changed my life THANK YOU! I will be a better person than I am already.
Leanna's daughter.
Thank you. Berne Brown changed my life.
Hello. Wanitkun
Trauma filled with SHAME all 13 years of school. I'm 72 now and is still with me.
Again, Brene nailed it. She jumps right in the pool of of shame and vulnerability with humor and brings out the shine, out of these words. Thank you Brene, you're awesome.
Difficult conversations are essential! This is Gold. Thank you!!!
Wow! This just changed my whole life and I’m only 10:15 in!
Finished watching. I’m going to watch all of her talks now. Thank you, Brene!
Once you watch one of her talks you always want more!
I did a video (no profit intended at all) about being a natural encourager. I wish in my heart I could show it to this gal. It hurt but allowed me to move forward in my life.
Thank you from Stockholm! Among of many sentens I take even this one: To change hateful to painful!
Hello. lIona
Courage is the willingness to enter the arena despite knowing you will lose. Speak your truth despite being ignored, villified or attacked by a group. Attempt something new and uncomfortable despite the risk of humiliation, failure or criticism. Above all, courage is being open, honest and vulnerable, and putting yourself out there by sending off a manuscript or asking someone on a date despite the risk of rejection after having exposed your heart and soul and the core of who you are.
This is a great talk, we can make education so much more effective by leading with empathy! Knowing how to deal with shame would have helped us all as grade school students.
"Lead with Empathy!" Oh, so, Yeah!!
I. Am. Crying!!! Does Brene have a kid version of this? I want to teach my children this!
The most powerful conversation a teacher can have. Thank you, Brené
So true
I was listening to your talk for our whole school pd. It was wonderful listening to you. ❤
I survived a narcissistic relationship but I still think you can teach courage and empathy!
so true children is where the world can become great again. thank God for teaching teachers
Absolutely golden...I couldn’t get enough ❤️
Hello Trudy
Mindfulness helps me to experience joy that I am experiencing in the moment. I know I can definitely future trip and worry about horrible things happening in the future. Getting sober has helped me to live in today and have gratitude for the great things in my life and know that the tough times will pass. I love the quote, "if you have one leg in yesterday and one in tomorrow, all you do is pee all over today."
I am so grateful for your outreach. Thank you for nailing it.
Thank you Brené for contributing to the positive changes in my life! I am forever grateful!
This changed me. I’m going to listen again.
I love you Brene!! Your teachings have change my life for the better!
Thank you for sharing!
Thank you very much Dr.Brene . YOU always inspire me. God Bless You and your Family ❤
I love this woman so much! Thank you for all you do and are, Brene' Brown!
This an Every parent and teacher must listening to and understand!!! The world would be a safer and happier place to live if these truths were exercised.
agree with you 💯
Love, love, love this!!! Thank you. "Wake up everyday to be brave with your life." Brene Brown
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Thank you Brene for all that you do. You inspire me to live wholeheartedly everyday. It's a slow process but I'm finding my courage more and more
Ditto
Best of her video ever. She is in beast mode here.
THANK YOU FOR ADDRESSING THIS ISSUE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
So, so grateful for your contribution Brene.
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Thank you brene brown, you helped me a lot in sieving out my fear.
After hearing this……40 year old me wants to go back and hug 12 yr old me and say, “none of this is your fault and you are worthy of love.”
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I started out with a lot of courage, but maybe that was a kind of naive fearlessness. Now it's much less and I'm having to relearn it. I needed your talk today.
I am SO absolutely empowered. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for speaking with grit! I appreciate you.
YEEESSSSSSS! My life's mission. Thank you again, Brené!
Hello Magellan
When it comes to what makes it difficult to take another's perspective, I'd also add to her list "the more mentally healthy you are". I grew up with anxiety, emotional abuse from my father, depression, low self-esteem, social anxiety and I suspect avoidant personality disorder after taking Abnormal Psychology in college. (Never been diagnosed for avoidant, so I can only say it's a suspicion because my younger self fit all the signs & symptoms SPOT ON.)
I've overcome a good portion of these problems but I still remember what it was like and can empathize personally with others struggling. Even if another's story isn't identical, just seeing suffering in general after suffering yourself can really increase empathy.
Some of the least supportive people are the ones who grew up in great families and didn't have really intrusive emotional problems. (I doubt anyone is completely free of emotional and mental problems but it seems people must have a certain conscious extent of these problems before their empathy increases.)
I think a lot of these people we view as “having no problems” are actually some of the most damaged. Their shame is so deep they haven’t even recognized it themselves. You’re right that no one is without emotional damage or trauma.
From the bottom of my heart , I say thank Brené Brown ! I learn something valuable ever time I listen to your talks.
So grateful for the work of Brene Brown who has literally unlocked the doorway for many to self expression and infinite love that is everyone's birthright, she is doing God's work, nothing less.
Hello. Kim
Most recently I have identified that this viedo was helpful. Seeing the amount of self-worth-awareness in the concepts placed of Joy, Shame, Silence, Secrecy, and Judgement is where I can relate to. No matter how much empathy, I have shown - that concept is still deep from high levels of depression, social isolation - embarrassment and name calling or put downs. I did not like to agree with my recent correlation of the type of material that is affecting me (indirectly) but I will assume that everybody, everyone has the LOWS in life. Humanity. I am no teacher, but enjoyed to place myself in this pep talk. Thanks for sharing. It was informative. Appreciate the information shared. Thank You, Ms.Emily!
Spiral background is a nightmare for migraines. Fantastic information. I’m glad I listened.
Hello. Rawagstaff
Thank you for the keys to my new life Brene
you are amazing Ms Brown, thank you so much for all your blessings.
"who'll run the world? Girls!...Who'll run this mutha.....? Girls!" -Beyoncé
Let me add, My son had a teacher who built him up and nurtured him. Equally, he was superb. I was so sad we had to move on. He was God sent. He had an inbuilt empathy that could pick a troubled kid out. And give him the extra help and care he needed. My son thrived in his class.
I'm not ashamed to be weaker than you but il keep paying attention to your podcast..your the first social worker I don't mind being obedient to everything you say an your the first social worker I liked
At 9 mins re. Trauma and Vulnerability is so good and important xx
As a teacher, as a mom and as an often vulnerable woman, I thank Brené for this talk. Every minute was worth it. Many thanks for the content and your presence.
What she says here about addiction is a huge awakening. Wow!!
This was really interesting, informative and extremely well delivered. I had to check myself at my own door with some of this. I needed this desperately
I love watching you! it helps me in my everyday life .
I struggled with addiction , I’ve now been clean for 3 years with your help in understanding it.
Hello. Angel
As someone who lived with be shamed everyday by parents and nuns, and grew up in Catholic School and remains Christian, (not Catholic), I try very hard to take other people's perspectives. I felt like no one ever looked at things from my perspective.
Breñes daughter: 24:00 "may be making a mess, but I'm not messy".
Ooooouuuu!
Greatttt talk, she's so on point!
I've started teaching poetry with 3rd and 4th graders and this was linked as part of the training material. And I'm so happy it was!!
I love you!!!!! Thank you so much for this message. Bless you, Brené, Everything you mentioned in this conversation with the audience....the examples of humiliation, etc. I felt I was in the audience with everyone else. I am a work in progress and I believe I´ve healed some of the most traumatic experiences of my childhood, but once in a while, life happens and I feel I take one step forward and two steps back. This was amazing, I am glad I´ve tuned it!!!
I love this message Thank you Brene Brown...you are awesome...a blessing a prayer answered for this time! You are a blessing.
Hello. Marta
I love Brene Brown. I would love to see her talks in person.
Amazing. changed my view. We are all teachers and students so this can be used for all relationships!
I strongly believe ALL teachers need to learn all these things BEFORE they ever open the door to their first class. It should be part of their curriculum.
No doubt in my mind and I speak for myself. There would be less broken children at school before they have had a chance. Once the damage is done, it is done. For me there was no turning back. I still see it done today. And it kills me. I can't grasp that lives are put in their care for a HUGE per cent of the day. Many kids will talk to teachers about issues. My gosh. It is scary.
SHE JUST EXPLAINED EVERYTHING I WENT TRHOUGH IB ELEMENTARY SCHOOL THANK U BRENE
I learn so much from your talks. Thank you. Please eliminate the foul language. It adds nothing.
Wow what a great talk!
A valuable class by a well experienced teacher. I salute and honour all teachers who choose this path.
Brilliant and powerful talk.
(Also Brene is so funny!)
Hello Donna
Well that is beautiful, being a teacher, someone who really cares.
One of her best talks.
I used to think that I had anxiety......now I'm pretty sure I have just always been ashamed.
krissyg511 same!!!!
you probably still have anxiety, but the root of that anxiety is shame.
ruoweii shame brings on tons of fear. I define anxiety as long term fear, it simmers on the back burner and comes and goes, but stays there...
OMG that is so true thank you for pointing that out
There is no such a thing like 'just anxiety' ... there is always reason for it. I wish you well.