Lee Young-ja trying to laugh instead of screaming at him is such a mood like she threatening him with her laughter is a must. Like girl let it rip please for all of us
When my mother is at her angriest, she doesn't yell. She talks in a quiet voice and speaks very kindly, but in her eyes are the flames of hell...I think Lee Young-ja was getting to that point.
the husband is very manipulative; he keeps on victimizing himself in situations where he's obviously in the wrong. man i hope she leaves him asap she deserves so much better.
Yeah, she should have dumped his ass .. Useless piece of shit. He wants to be rich but at another person's expense. He's enslaving his own wife & doesn't even give a shit about it
The husband is not a man. Not at all. Doesn't even come close to qualifying as a man. He's a child and a needy one at that. Absolutely deserves to copping stares of anger from people because he needs to step up.
cyclonicleo she married him becuz he made her feel good in the moment. He is the type aggressive self centered guys to women they are assertive and masculine so deal with Ur decision. Girls love them only after marriage they realise their stupidity
Ugh, this is so upsetting. He's not gonna change, dude is gonna try for a month and give up. Leave his ass D:< It sucks so much there's such a stigma against single mothers in Korea and around certain parts of the world. She doesn't deserve this...
I agree 100%, he doesn't deserve her at all. btw... clicked on your name bc verified..ended up on your insta after like 20 minutes of amazement. Just wanted to say I wish you the best with your ongoing medical journey, and I don't know if you believe in any God, but I'm praying you get through it with the least amount of pain, trauma, and damage to your mental health too.
Once again, one of those. I'll repeat, a woman is not yours just because you married her. She's someone's else precious daughter and sisters. She gave you love and birthed your children. A bit of respect
I would've divorced him without having kids. Having a kid means that they will still be together to raise the kid and pay for child support and don't forget the psychological effect divorce has on kids...
So if we have children we should just suck it up and continue in a unhappy relationship? Are you serious? I have a child and I'm divorced due to physical and mental abuse. I have taught my daughter to not take abuse from anyone. That either party, man or woman can continue with life after a divorce.
honestly though i doutbt that they’ll be that affected. He never spends time with his children nor does he respect his wife, in my opinion it’d be hurting the kids more if they stay together like this. Being raised in a restaurant , not getting enough sleep or attention because the mom has to be doing almost everything at the restaurant yea thats not a safe or a good place for any kid
actually there have been studies stating parents who are unhappy with each other and stay together can be more damaging to children's well beings than couples who divorce
You can tell how tense and serious this was by how little anyone laughed throughout the segment. Even the hosts were too astounded to find much humor in the situation. Honestly, the husband is a piece of shit. He goes golfing until 1 AM while his pregnant wife has to work 14 hours a day while looking after three kids because he's "stressed" and could take it out on his family if he doesn't relieve that stress? WTF kind of mental ineptitude is that?? Also, look at his kids. In addition to picking up his bad habits of violence and cussing, they don't even look at him even when he addresses them directly. I hope the wife does end up leaving him. Someone with such a shitty character like his will never change.
I’m sorry to say that but some people have way too many kids way too soon, you’re right, he’s feeling “stressed” when his wife is PREGNANT, I don’t know if he has an idea about pregnancy and the difficulties related to that, he’s stressed just by the job, imagine also being a mom of 3 kids and one on the way. If he was not ready or to stressed, maybe he shouldn’t have had 4 kids, or maybe he should have adapted the business’ schedule to his own, at least until the boys are older, is he aware of how dangerous stress can be in this situation, she should be at home, resting.
The wife looks unimpressed tired disgusted and I don't blame her. Leaving him with the children is too good for him. He doesn't take care of them when they are sick so he damn sure will not do it any other time. Every time I watch concerns like this I wo see if it's a case where marriage was rushed. Don't marry anyone who only shows you there good side. I keep seeing how these women say he wasn't like this while we were dating and then he changed while we got married. Marriage isn't insurance you are not all of a sudden barred from doing your reaponbilities because you have another person to help. I say divorce him tbh. Any man who puts you through all of that while pregnant isn't worth waiting for to change. Men must think it's easy having a literal parasite inside you making your bones weaker, eating up all of your nutrients, adding 50 or so lbs, making your joints and back hurt. Some women can barely walk at the end of their pregnancy because it hurts so much and she is working long hours doing labor intensive work. Child pls. He can go live in that sushi truck and never talk to me again. Childish waste of a man.
This is the best response. The husband doesn't even care and is so self-centered. What's with his toxic mindset of want to live a lavish lifestyle and just flaunt his money in front of other people? It's good to be ambitious but not through your wife doing double the amount of work>:( And the kids fking hell if I see my mom working her ass off, I'd sit in a corner be quiet or do my work instead of running around the restaurant giving my mom more stress
I don't watch every single clips from Hello Counselor but I swear this is the first time I've seen Yeongja just look so DONE with someone so early in the show. She seems to get really passionate when it comes to concerns with children involved, she's so nice.....
He's so manipulative. He says that if he doesn't release his stress than he will take it out on the kids or her. How manipulative. He's too unstable and he is not a team player. It's almost like he is trying to hold her hostage. She needs to leave. The kids already have a bad father. God forbid anything happen to the one parent who takes care of them. She needs to leave with her good health, for her children. It shouldn't be about him. He can come see them when he gets his act together. Children shouldn't be engulfed in dysfunction. She would hate for het boys to turn out like him. Leave while they can grow up to be good men who watch out for their mother instead of slugs like him.
charnae young why is this actually everything I was thinking. Like you can tell by the look in his eyes that he just wanted the crowd to stop hating him. I seriously wanted to punch him.
More like anger issues than being stress. I feel like all these men that came on this show only worried about their own stress. They never care if the inflicted pain onto their wives and children. He should not be arround children, it's a sign of abuse.
Upon watching this, I realized how lucky I am with my husband. He doesn't force me to work because I have to take care of our daughter. Although he is not earning too much money, I am very thankful to my husband
OH I get it! when the customer notices the husband start to get VERY angry, THAT'S when he invites the husband to play golf/bowling to get him away from the family. It's to prevent the husband from targeting the wife and kids.
Plot twist. The customer can't enjoy his experience at the restaurant bc he is too stressed out seeing how hard the wife is working, raising the kids at the same time, and seeing the dad throw bad tantrums. So, since he and the dad are so stressed out, they decide to be relieve stress buddies, but oh no they have to leave the wife working at the restaurant bc she is such a hard worker.
The wife is beautiful , I think she doesn't want to leave because they have a family and plus she's pregnant so I think she feels like she *can't* leave him and she won't be financially stable to leave him .Which is sad because in my opinion I feel like she should , she's too beautiful to be taking care of a business and their children alone !! As the *MAN OF THE HOUSE* he should step up and help . That's all she is asking for , it's not hard to help someone especially if the person is your wife and the mother of your children . His excuses are bullshit on the reasons why he doesn't help honestly he is just *selfish* and irresponsible ... I hope her pregnancy goes well because at this rate I'm surprised she hasn't had a miscarriage from being too stressed and working too hard . Good luck on the relationship though I hope for the best !
I agree with a lot of your points but so what if she is too beautiful to be taking care of a business and kids. She’s a pregnant woman who is being mistreated that alone should be enough. He shouldn’t have to step up because he is the “man of the house” but because what he is doing is unacceptable.
Michelle Kristina lmao that’s not at all what I’m saying. I see how that can be misinterpreted but no it doesn’t matter if she was ugly or beautiful she is human and shouldn’t be treated like that
Jessie , it was a compliment to her so don't focus too hard on it , any woman pretty or not shouldn't have to go through what she is going through . The man is very selfish and childish and instead of acting as the man of the house he is acting like one of the children which is unacceptable.
Michelle Kristina you took it the wrong way lol it doesn't matter if she was ugly she still doesn't deserve to be treated how the husband is treating her .
I am Livid....This was really frustrating to watch. Her husband is extremely selfish and only thinks about himself. Being pregnant in itself is extremely difficult, especially after giving birth it gets even more difficult. On top of that she has 3 other kids to take care of while running a restaurant...while he goes golfing...that's bullshit. I'd punch his face and leave his ass. I hope they do a follow up episode to see if he keeps his promise.
it takes 2 people to make babies . It also takes 2 people to raise the babies together . What kind of partner left everything to his wife and expect her to take care of it by herself ? He clearly is irresponsible , lazy and selfish towards the wife . DUMP HIM !
In the end when he said ‘supportive wives’ i felt really uncomfortable, i mean he said it like she she was an accessory to a rich life...the girl should really take some time off from him!
김루지 I feel that he's a mysogynistic person who thinks the wife just has to serve the household and follow the husband's orders. Seeing people like that really frustrates me, the wife also has dreams of her own! The husband seems to think the world revolves around him only!
@@SparklerMs in korea many people what misogyny is. When korean women talk about it, they answer like "i dont hate women. I love women"..... they have no any idea about the conceptopn. thats is why most of my korean gfs are feminists.
listen. i had to pause the video at around 15:00 when he said he feels like he would take his stress out on the kids or his wife. im absolutely sick. he just alluded to domestic abuse due to his "stress" the wife needs to leave him and take the children. how dare he like wtf. she could even risk a miscarriage or something terrible happening to the baby shes carrying. i've never felt so strongly about an episode but oh my god this is the worst
In Asian cultures, there's a real pressure to get married and have kids while you're still young. But in doing so you're marrying to a stranger and unfortunately only get to see the worst sides of a partner later on in life, rather than while you date them. Hope the best for the mother, because the father deserves nothing at all.
As a fellow Asian this isn't all that true where I'm from the average age that people marry and start having kids is between 28 and 33 not very "Young"
Jada Brown As a fellow Asian, yes but that's within your environment and your perception. I'm talking about general population of Asia. Most people think just like you and consider their late 20's as an old age to have kids.
Haha make Korea as an exception Usually we marry and have kids at least after 28 these days. If you marry and have kid about 26, people will say it's a bit early for that
I was going to say she should just leave work when she’s tired (after 4 hrs or so) & let him deal with the consequences until I heard how abusive he is. They’re describing it as a temper but he’s essentially abusing her emotionally and mentally. Maybe even physically, who knows. Especially if he throws his man-tantrums in public. There’s no reason a customer should know the inner workings of your relationship/family dynamic like that 🤦🏽♀️
Montae Williams I was thinking the same thing when I watched this. The fact that he flips tables in front of customers when he's angry rings alarm bells
she's a very strong woman who can take care of her children on her own but i hope that if she divorces him, she finds someone who loves her and her children very much. someone who occasionally spoils her and will also be there to help her whenever. she deserves someone 100x better than her husband
I like how this time, the MCs didnt make too much jokes becauase they noticed how serious the concern was considering that the wife has already made a decision of most probably leaving his husbands with the kids.
"You must protect yourself. you must be strong and protect your kids." Yeonja definitely knows the husband has the potential to harm the wife and kids. What kind of person makes his heavily pregnant wife work like this?
this is a case of unfixable selfishness. Get rid of it before it spreads. If my children were growing up in a household with a father like that, regardless of the social stigma of being a single mother, I'd leave within a heartbeat.
In Korea you have to have the dad register your children under his family name and aknoledge them to get any money out of him.. if she were to leave him how would she provide for her kids and who would watch them?
it really amazes me that only 158 of the 200 people thought that this was a concern. That means that there's 42 people with varying issues in that crowd
i've never seen youngja so mad before, i was never this upset damn some women are so strong but so many put off their own comfort and happiness to raise a family and take care or their husbands, mad respect to all the moms out there
The customer who sent the concern is so nice. And she should really divorce the guy. She is essentially already paying for everything and doing all the work so it probably will only get better
Wow, I know that expression. She is so empty inside right now. I feel so much for her, he will never change. I hope she can find the strength to love herself enough to leave him.
damn even the regular customer knows the wife better than the husband :-( if i were her, i would have divorced him before i had the first child... this is why i am paranoid about relationships :-( no offense to the guys out there ! but i am just scared :-(
wth? i'm so thankful my dad wasn't like this to my mother. she had me when she was twenty and was forced to leave college early, but even then my dad left college early himself and catered to all my mom's needs with his medium wage job. he said he didn't make her lift a finger because he knows what she's going through, getting a job and waking up early in the morning would just put both of us in danger. i don't understand what's so hard for this guy to let his beautiful women rest while he gets off his ass and work, he isn't even gonna last two months. she's better off leaving this *boy*, i hope her and the baby find better even if he is the biological father.
I was raised by my grandparents when I was young, and I can tell you that I am much closer to them than my parents, even though it was only for a few years. A child should feel that their parents are there for them from a young age.
i HATE when the husbands that are part of a concern on this show say that they're stressed. like... so is your wife????? of course you should always take care of yourself when you're stressed but you aren't the only one that's stressed?? like how selfish do you have to be to claim that you're stressed when your pregnant wife with 3 kids is doing YOUR work for you??
I'd say, girl, dump that cynical AF piece of crap and get a good relationship with the client! I hope he's single though! A man who was capable to see the struggle of a pregnant woman, felt empathy for her and her children and even stepped up for her being absolutely a nobody in the family....is a keeper!!
*men like that is not worthy,he smiles like there was no problems at all , he is so annoyed to me* I'M MORE AFRAID TO MARRIED SOMEDAY BECAUSE SEEING MANY OF MARRIED PEOPLE WILL FINALLY DIVORCE AT THE END. *btw i really love this variety hello counselor especially youngja unnie,i hope more people like youngja being invited to this variety show*
저지경인데 애넷을 갖다니.... 남자나 여자나 상황이 힘들면 피임을 하던가 애를 낳으면 거저 크는것도 아니고 좋은환경에서 자라게끔 해줘야지 돈이 목적이면 한 둘에서 끝내고 부부가 일심동체돼서 돈을 모으던가 자식 욕심이 많아서 아이를 낳는거면 부인이 육아에 전념하게 해주던가 이건 이도저도 아니고,,, 상황판단을좀 하고 집안의미래를결정하던가.... 기분대로하는거같아서 보는내내 짜증난다yo
It's saddening how the wife has to go through all the physical and mental fatigue. Really hope that the show helped him to wake up him up and make some positive changes for the sake of his family.
Honestly I think this man is exactly the kind of abuser that would coerce his wife into getting pregnant to prevent her from leaving. She's obviously wanted to leave for a long time, I can't see why she would put up with it other than for that reason.
That dad is not responsible and is very childish. I'm disappointed I bet he just bangs the wife. Sorry to say that but what I said should partly be right.
From what I hear, I'm guessing the only thing he does is bang his wife with NO protection (probably maybe, I don't know, though considering she has 4 kids maybe) and doesn't seem to take the consequences seriously.
Take half of "his" business,get him to pay you and kids alimony and leave him. He didn't even marry you and you have 4 kids + he treats you like a servant and isn't good influence on the kids. Girl be smart and run- that boy (not a man) won't change 😡
at first I would say " just divorce, he does'nt deserve you" but she had almost 4 kids to take care, she looks so mad that she ever think to leave his husband with all the kids*leave your husband maybe not wrong, but leaving your kids are totally wrong" lets pray that he really take his words and give all his wife want. let the wife take care the kids*and take care of them totally difficult, beside their age are close to each other* you must keep eyes on four of them, give love equally, and ect. I hope she can find the happines that she want after tgis show
Man imagine growing up as one of those kids and then realizing your dad might've almost killed your mom with all the labor and stress she's under. I hope these kids realize how much their mom is doing for them.
1:27 that guy has an angel for a wife, bless her raising one child is hard enough. i promise you there are no rest at all, make it 3 plus pregnant and a business...
THIS LADY HOST IS SUCH AN AMAZING AND BEAUTIFUL AND NICE AND KIND WOMAN. LIKE WOW. ALL OF THEM ARE SMART BUT THIS ONE JUST TAKES A STAND. AMAZING LADY.
if you guys are mad abt the customer taking the father golfing... THE DAD LEGIT SAID HED HIT HIS KIDS AND WIFE IF HE DIDNT RELIEVE HIS STRESS. the customer SAW the dad flip tables and get angry so he probably was scared the wife and kids would get beat. also if the customer didn’t sent the concern the wife could’ve lived like this forever so he’s the real mvp y’all
When the customer said he changed the babies diaper I was all in for him to be the new husband/father. It's sad that a customer has to step in rather than the husband
When I was 3 years and my sister was 5 years, my mom was leaving to work for three or four hours morning and others afternoon then me and my sister still at home, she was very responsible, my mom didn't get worried about us anymore!!
That customer did well by sending this concern. I am surprised that she didn`t miscarriage the upcoming child(or any to our knowledge). This episode of Hello counselor was not only triggering, upsetting, infuriating(which ever you prefer to use), but actually made me cry. And not just once!
Give that customer a lifetime discount, he did a lot by bringing them here, it shows how kind and thoughtful he is ... in fact, dump your shit husband girl and marry that customer
Nope. The customer ended up in the same seat as the husband for spending too much money on his hobbies and not working. His sister was the one who sent in the concern 1 year later.
It is hard to raise multiple young children by yourself but it’s not impossible. Just hearing what he says is unbelievable, this wonderful and strong woman gave birth to 4 of his children, that is the greatest gift a woman can give a man. The very least he could do is respect her, I hope she finds the strength in herself to leave him. What a sorry excuse of a man
"Please note that you can only press it once." Woman: repeatedly press the button If that woman ain't me, smh. I wonder what the in laws are saying about this whole problem.
23:27 exactly my face. Honestly she should marry the regular customer instead he seems way more husband mterial than her current husband he seems more supportive & attentive of her. Niel I miss him & Teen Top.
I want to point out that continuously getting your spouse pregnant can be a form of abuse. It essentially overwhelms them with responsibility, so that they can't leave. Still, God bless the children.
I love younja words at the end, bcs thats right she has to be strong, take care of herself and when she sees that something is wrong just say NO. Its clear her husband is not going to take care of her or their kids, he just keeps making excuses. The costumer is more considerate and even changes the kids' diaper i wonder how many times her husband has done it 😕
I hope she leaves him. She seems like she can see right through all his BS and this was really just a last resort to see if he would actually show some sign of willing to change but i don’t think he will. Probably for like a month and then go right back to the same habits. She deserves way better. Edit: just finished the vid and it seems like she has a new man willing and ready! Good for her!
I’m impressed in how she’s been able to get pregnant 4 times by this guy...I wouldn’t be able to handle 1 kid, and a marriage like this. She deserves better 🤦🏽♀️
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“Does your dad spend a lot of time with you?” “Yes” “Did he tell you to say that?” “Yes” lmaoooo
Tangina yung dad thoo
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Lee Young-ja trying to laugh instead of screaming at him is such a mood like she threatening him with her laughter is a must. Like girl let it rip please for all of us
When my mother is at her angriest, she doesn't yell. She talks in a quiet voice and speaks very kindly, but in her eyes are the flames of hell...I think Lee Young-ja was getting to that point.
I was just about to comment on how Lee Young-ja was so obviously mad. I think she was so close to just flipping.
She is a mood
Welp that me getting crazy 🤣🤧
To me, that’s the scariest reaction but seriously though...I want to punch the husband
Heck the customer would treat her better than her own husband.
Caitlin Quam damn ikr
Megan • WAIT IS IT YOU AGAIN I SWEAR THAT YOURE EVERYWHERE
The customer was already doing one of dad's shared responsibilities that dad doesn't do so
She should leave him and marry the customer
That's what I was thinking too
I was rooting for them all the time, he is just so much better 😅😂
Daenerys Ackerman hahahahahahah omg that was so funny 😂😂😂😂
Daenerys Ackerman yeah thats Right
I thought the same thing!! the customers cuter than that walnut pointed head.
the husband is very manipulative; he keeps on victimizing himself in situations where he's obviously in the wrong. man i hope she leaves him asap she deserves so much better.
Yeah, she should have dumped his ass .. Useless piece of shit. He wants to be rich but at another person's expense. He's enslaving his own wife & doesn't even give a shit about it
She should have left him before he ever had kids
She looks so fed up. It’s sad
Exactly, he kept victimizing her & stuff. I’m like 😳 sis leave him
The husband is not a man. Not at all. Doesn't even come close to qualifying as a man. He's a child and a needy one at that. Absolutely deserves to copping stares of anger from people because he needs to step up.
cyclonicleo she married him becuz he made her feel good in the moment. He is the type aggressive self centered guys to women they are assertive and masculine so deal with Ur decision. Girls love them only after marriage they realise their stupidity
he's a man he's just a really shitty one
@@joblupata3673 sounds like a nice guy 🤔🙄
@@354el shut up
Ugh, this is so upsetting. He's not gonna change, dude is gonna try for a month and give up. Leave his ass D:<
It sucks so much there's such a stigma against single mothers in Korea and around certain parts of the world. She doesn't deserve this...
I agree 100%, he doesn't deserve her at all. btw... clicked on your name bc verified..ended up on your insta after like 20 minutes of amazement. Just wanted to say I wish you the best with your ongoing medical journey, and I don't know if you believe in any God, but I'm praying you get through it with the least amount of pain, trauma, and damage to your mental health too.
I really like your Instagram! I hope you get well soon. Hang in there, girl ✊🏻
Oh I really love your art!
I didn't know you watched Hello Counselor
Wow, I can’t believe I found you on UA-cam! I have followed your Instagram for a really long time and your art is very inspiring. ♡(˃͈ દ ˂͈ ༶ )
Once again, one of those. I'll repeat, a woman is not yours just because you married her. She's someone's else precious daughter and sisters. She gave you love and birthed your children. A bit of respect
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*A lot of respect ✊
YESSS!!
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This man does not deserve any wife and kids in any means and in any period of time. Unless he is willing to change which is practically impossible.
I was so suprised at 21:22 ! He talks like he had no awareness his kids were watching.
Bob-the -buttler IKR he did it like it means nothing. I'm worried that the dad will influence their kids to do the same in the future.
So basically he wants to be rich but off his wife's hard work. Yeah I would've divorced him after probably the 1st kid.
I would've divorced him without having kids. Having a kid means that they will still be together to raise the kid and pay for child support and don't forget the psychological effect divorce has on kids...
Catherine CT I agree I would have left before children
So if we have children we should just suck it up and continue in a unhappy relationship? Are you serious? I have a child and I'm divorced due to physical and mental abuse. I have taught my daughter to not take abuse from anyone. That either party, man or woman can continue with life after a divorce.
honestly though i doutbt that they’ll be that affected. He never spends time with his children nor does he respect his wife, in my opinion it’d be hurting the kids more if they stay together like this. Being raised in a restaurant , not getting enough sleep or attention because the mom has to be doing almost everything at the restaurant yea thats not a safe or a good place for any kid
actually there have been studies stating parents who are unhappy with each other and stay together can be more damaging to children's well beings than couples who divorce
You can tell how tense and serious this was by how little anyone laughed throughout the segment. Even the hosts were too astounded to find much humor in the situation. Honestly, the husband is a piece of shit. He goes golfing until 1 AM while his pregnant wife has to work 14 hours a day while looking after three kids because he's "stressed" and could take it out on his family if he doesn't relieve that stress? WTF kind of mental ineptitude is that?? Also, look at his kids. In addition to picking up his bad habits of violence and cussing, they don't even look at him even when he addresses them directly. I hope the wife does end up leaving him. Someone with such a shitty character like his will never change.
I’m sorry to say that but some people have way too many kids way too soon, you’re right, he’s feeling “stressed” when his wife is PREGNANT, I don’t know if he has an idea about pregnancy and the difficulties related to that, he’s stressed just by the job, imagine also being a mom of 3 kids and one on the way. If he was not ready or to stressed, maybe he shouldn’t have had 4 kids, or maybe he should have adapted the business’ schedule to his own, at least until the boys are older, is he aware of how dangerous stress can be in this situation, she should be at home, resting.
The wife looks unimpressed tired disgusted and I don't blame her. Leaving him with the children is too good for him. He doesn't take care of them when they are sick so he damn sure will not do it any other time. Every time I watch concerns like this I wo see if it's a case where marriage was rushed. Don't marry anyone who only shows you there good side. I keep seeing how these women say he wasn't like this while we were dating and then he changed while we got married. Marriage isn't insurance you are not all of a sudden barred from doing your reaponbilities because you have another person to help. I say divorce him tbh. Any man who puts you through all of that while pregnant isn't worth waiting for to change. Men must think it's easy having a literal parasite inside you making your bones weaker, eating up all of your nutrients, adding 50 or so lbs, making your joints and back hurt. Some women can barely walk at the end of their pregnancy because it hurts so much and she is working long hours doing labor intensive work. Child pls. He can go live in that sushi truck and never talk to me again. Childish waste of a man.
MsJackson1330 Not just one pregnancy, he put her through 4 pregnancies :O
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This is the best response. The husband doesn't even care and is so self-centered. What's with his toxic mindset of want to live a lavish lifestyle and just flaunt his money in front of other people? It's good to be ambitious but not through your wife doing double the amount of work>:( And the kids fking hell if I see my mom working her ass off, I'd sit in a corner be quiet or do my work instead of running around the restaurant giving my mom more stress
I think the kids are still too young to put themselves in her shoes. Hopefully they realise their mother's sacrifice soon.
So sad to watch the wife. Poor thing has no spirit left inside of her.
I don't watch every single clips from Hello Counselor but I swear this is the first time I've seen Yeongja just look so DONE with someone so early in the show. She seems to get really passionate when it comes to concerns with children involved, she's so nice.....
Hi_C_King 👍👍
Maybe because she went to hardships through her childhood.
He's so manipulative. He says that if he doesn't release his stress than he will take it out on the kids or her. How manipulative. He's too unstable and he is not a team player. It's almost like he is trying to hold her hostage. She needs to leave. The kids already have a bad father. God forbid anything happen to the one parent who takes care of them. She needs to leave with her good health, for her children. It shouldn't be about him. He can come see them when he gets his act together. Children shouldn't be engulfed in dysfunction. She would hate for het boys to turn out like him. Leave while they can grow up to be good men who watch out for their mother instead of slugs like him.
charnae young why is this actually everything I was thinking. Like you can tell by the look in his eyes that he just wanted the crowd to stop hating him. I seriously wanted to punch him.
charnae young he is assertive and masculine what u girls like he will charm u with words make u laugh ull fall for it like a kid
He admitted he is a liar and a narcissist who doesnt care for his wife or 4 children. What kind of adult acts like that. Divorce is the only solution.
More like anger issues than being stress. I feel like all these men that came on this show only worried about their own stress. They never care if the inflicted pain onto their wives and children. He should not be arround children, it's a sign of abuse.
I wouldn't be surprised if he's been physically abusive towards her or threatens physical violence :(
Upon watching this, I realized how lucky I am with my husband. He doesn't force me to work because I have to take care of our daughter. Although he is not earning too much money, I am very thankful to my husband
方芓閑 im happy for your situation as well. hoping you and your family keep on living well💗
Happy family👍
OH I get it! when the customer notices the husband start to get VERY angry, THAT'S when he invites the husband to play golf/bowling to get him away from the family. It's to prevent the husband from targeting the wife and kids.
maybe the customer is in love with her... THE PLOT-TWIST
M he would be a better husband then the actual husband
Isabel Trillo totally lol
Plot twist. The customer can't enjoy his experience at the restaurant bc he is too stressed out seeing how hard the wife is working, raising the kids at the same time, and seeing the dad throw bad tantrums. So, since he and the dad are so stressed out, they decide to be relieve stress buddies, but oh no they have to leave the wife working at the restaurant bc she is such a hard worker.
That's basically what he said yeah
The wife is beautiful , I think she doesn't want to leave because they have a family and plus she's pregnant so I think she feels like she *can't* leave him and she won't be financially stable to leave him .Which is sad because in my opinion I feel like she should , she's too beautiful to be taking care of a business and their children alone !! As the *MAN OF THE HOUSE* he should step up and help . That's all she is asking for , it's not hard to help someone especially if the person is your wife and the mother of your children . His excuses are bullshit on the reasons why he doesn't help honestly he is just *selfish* and irresponsible ... I hope her pregnancy goes well because at this rate I'm surprised she hasn't had a miscarriage from being too stressed and working too hard . Good luck on the relationship though I hope for the best !
I agree with a lot of your points but so what if she is too beautiful to be taking care of a business and kids. She’s a pregnant woman who is being mistreated that alone should be enough. He shouldn’t have to step up because he is the “man of the house” but because what he is doing is unacceptable.
JustPeachy so if she wasn't pretty then it's fine? Wtf?
Michelle Kristina lmao that’s not at all what I’m saying. I see how that can be misinterpreted but no it doesn’t matter if she was ugly or beautiful she is human and shouldn’t be treated like that
Jessie , it was a compliment to her so don't focus too hard on it , any woman pretty or not shouldn't have to go through what she is going through . The man is very selfish and childish and instead of acting as the man of the house he is acting like one of the children which is unacceptable.
Michelle Kristina you took it the wrong way lol it doesn't matter if she was ugly she still doesn't deserve to be treated how the husband is treating her .
I am Livid....This was really frustrating to watch. Her husband is extremely selfish and only thinks about himself. Being pregnant in itself is extremely difficult, especially after giving birth it gets even more difficult. On top of that she has 3 other kids to take care of while running a restaurant...while he goes golfing...that's bullshit. I'd punch his face and leave his ass. I hope they do a follow up episode to see if he keeps his promise.
I love how young-ja advised the woman to stand up for herself at the end, if she doesn’t want something NO means NO!
it takes 2 people to make babies . It also takes 2 people to raise the babies together . What kind of partner left everything to his wife and expect her to take care of it by herself ? He clearly is irresponsible , lazy and selfish towards the wife . DUMP HIM !
Yeah, that's my husband for u. ..
I'm sorry but this is "men " you grow up as daddy s princess to end up with such losers who think of you as a tool
the hosts looks like they want to puch the guy's face hard as rock to knock him out
In the end when he said ‘supportive wives’ i felt really uncomfortable, i mean he said it like she she was an accessory to a rich life...the girl should really take some time off from him!
김루지 I feel that he's a mysogynistic person who thinks the wife just has to serve the household and follow the husband's orders. Seeing people like that really frustrates me, the wife also has dreams of her own! The husband seems to think the world revolves around him only!
I felt the same.
Like he think she`s to do whatever for his sake-A kind of personal slave.
Bitch where is the 'supportive husband' though ??
@@SparklerMs in korea many people what misogyny is. When korean women talk about it, they answer like "i dont hate women. I love women"..... they have no any idea about the conceptopn. thats is why most of my korean gfs are feminists.
저런 남자들이 부자가되면 아내 버리고 트로피 아내를 가지기 원함
listen. i had to pause the video at around 15:00 when he said he feels like he would take his stress out on the kids or his wife. im absolutely sick. he just alluded to domestic abuse due to his "stress" the wife needs to leave him and take the children. how dare he like wtf. she could even risk a miscarriage or something terrible happening to the baby shes carrying. i've never felt so strongly about an episode but oh my god this is the worst
"You are your own person. When it's wrong, you must say no. You must protect yourself." Truest words by Youngja
This husband is a waste of space... I would have already divorced. She’s soo strong
I hope she leaves him, he doesn't seem sincere at all. This concern made me so mad
Also...how the hell didn't EVERYONE vote for this as a serious concern? I think it's incredibly valid and serious.
He isn't going to change anytime soon. She needs to leave him.
In Asian cultures, there's a real pressure to get married and have kids while you're still young. But in doing so you're marrying to a stranger and unfortunately only get to see the worst sides of a partner later on in life, rather than while you date them. Hope the best for the mother, because the father deserves nothing at all.
As a fellow Asian this isn't all that true where I'm from the average age that people marry and start having kids is between 28 and 33 not very "Young"
Jada Brown As a fellow Asian, yes but that's within your environment and your perception. I'm talking about general population of Asia. Most people think just like you and consider their late 20's as an old age to have kids.
Viv Hello lol love how you generalize an entire continent which technically includes India, Russia etc. Way to go 2018.
Haha make Korea as an exception Usually we marry and have kids at least after 28 these days. If you marry and have kid about 26, people will say it's a bit early for that
Korea might be an exception due to the obligatory military thing.
I was going to say she should just leave work when she’s tired (after 4 hrs or so) & let him deal with the consequences until I heard how abusive he is. They’re describing it as a temper but he’s essentially abusing her emotionally and mentally. Maybe even physically, who knows. Especially if he throws his man-tantrums in public. There’s no reason a customer should know the inner workings of your relationship/family dynamic like that 🤦🏽♀️
Montae Williams I was thinking the same thing when I watched this. The fact that he flips tables in front of customers when he's angry rings alarm bells
"You must protect yourself". Lee Youngja is right. Sometimes we cant depend on others to change. Some people stay as arseholes.
YoungJa was so done with the man 😣
she's a very strong woman who can take care of her children on her own but i hope that if she divorces him, she finds someone who loves her and her children very much. someone who occasionally spoils her and will also be there to help her whenever. she deserves someone 100x better than her husband
I like how this time, the MCs didnt make too much jokes becauase they noticed how serious the concern was considering that the wife has already made a decision of most probably leaving his husbands with the kids.
"You must protect yourself. you must be strong and protect your kids." Yeonja definitely knows the husband has the potential to harm the wife and kids. What kind of person makes his heavily pregnant wife work like this?
I didn't get the title at first...
I would like to witness them exchanging roles even for a day and maybe just maybe he'll understand...
Ejoy Bangaoil I agree and this segment should be part of the show. To have footage of him, forcing him to do it.
She's a truly Wonder Woman in DCEU. And her husband is just like Thanos's hireling in MCU. They basically don't belong with each other.
Nguyễn Minh Chi lol
Well of course they totally don't belong each other because Wonder Woman is from DC while Thanos is from Marvel😂😂
or that Thanos really wants to be with Lady Death and not no other women lol
this is a case of unfixable selfishness. Get rid of it before it spreads. If my children were growing up in a household with a father like that, regardless of the social stigma of being a single mother, I'd leave within a heartbeat.
emma jung yea like as soon as he treats me like i'm beneath him, IT'S TIME TO LEAVE
In Korea you have to have the dad register your children under his family name and aknoledge them to get any money out of him.. if she were to leave him how would she provide for her kids and who would watch them?
it really amazes me that only 158 of the 200 people thought that this was a concern. That means that there's 42 people with varying issues in that crowd
어디가서 남자라고 하지마소
남의집 귀한딸 고생시키려고 결혼했나?
뭘 위해 사는건지 생각을 해라
돈보다 가족의 행복이 최우선이다
i've never seen youngja so mad before, i was never this upset damn some women are so strong but so many put off their own comfort and happiness to raise a family and take care or their husbands, mad respect to all the moms out there
The customer who sent the concern is so nice.
And she should really divorce the guy. She is essentially already paying for everything and doing all the work so it probably will only get better
Wow, I know that expression. She is so empty inside right now. I feel so much for her, he will never change. I hope she can find the strength to love herself enough to leave him.
"Laughter of absurdity" perfect way to sum it up
damn even the regular customer knows the wife better than the husband :-( if i were her, i would have divorced him before i had the first child... this is why i am paranoid about relationships :-( no offense to the guys out there ! but i am just scared :-(
who tf, ok. WHO tf was the editor who put the "no, no, nooo~" sound effect lmfao that was fking hilarious
the "nono" they put in after he said theyre still young perfectly fits my mood this entire episode
wth? i'm so thankful my dad wasn't like this to my mother. she had me when she was twenty and was forced to leave college early, but even then my dad left college early himself and catered to all my mom's needs with his medium wage job. he said he didn't make her lift a finger because he knows what she's going through, getting a job and waking up early in the morning would just put both of us in danger.
i don't understand what's so hard for this guy to let his beautiful women rest while he gets off his ass and work, he isn't even gonna last two months. she's better off leaving this *boy*, i hope her and the baby find better even if he is the biological father.
I was raised by my grandparents when I was young, and I can tell you that I am much closer to them than my parents, even though it was only for a few years. A child should feel that their parents are there for them from a young age.
i HATE when the husbands that are part of a concern on this show say that they're stressed. like... so is your wife????? of course you should always take care of yourself when you're stressed but you aren't the only one that's stressed?? like how selfish do you have to be to claim that you're stressed when your pregnant wife with 3 kids is doing YOUR work for you??
Changing dirty diapers? Oh the customer definitely wants the wife 😂 That husband pissed me off so much. Not once did he apologize to his wife.
이런류의 남자들은 아예 혼자 살아야하는데 여자들이 너무 잘해줘서 문제…
결혼했고 애까지 낳았으니까 지가 머 어쩔꺼야?
이런건가요?
당신을 믿고 사랑하고 또 당신의 피를 이어받은
소중한 생명을 품은 분께 어떻게 그렇게 함부로
대할수있죠? 개도 그 짓거리안합니다.
당신의 아내이기전에 누군가의 소중한 딸이라는걸
인지할수없어요? 남편분?
I'd say, girl, dump that cynical AF piece of crap and get a good relationship with the client! I hope he's single though! A man who was capable to see the struggle of a pregnant woman, felt empathy for her and her children and even stepped up for her being absolutely a nobody in the family....is a keeper!!
*men like that is not worthy,he smiles like there was no problems at all , he is so annoyed to me*
I'M MORE AFRAID TO MARRIED SOMEDAY BECAUSE SEEING MANY OF MARRIED PEOPLE WILL FINALLY DIVORCE AT THE END.
*btw i really love this variety hello counselor especially youngja unnie,i hope more people like youngja being invited to this variety show*
She wasnt invited lol shes a host
저지경인데 애넷을 갖다니.... 남자나 여자나 상황이 힘들면 피임을 하던가 애를 낳으면 거저 크는것도 아니고 좋은환경에서 자라게끔 해줘야지 돈이 목적이면 한 둘에서 끝내고 부부가 일심동체돼서 돈을 모으던가 자식 욕심이 많아서 아이를 낳는거면 부인이 육아에 전념하게 해주던가 이건 이도저도 아니고,,, 상황판단을좀 하고 집안의미래를결정하던가.... 기분대로하는거같아서 보는내내 짜증난다yo
It's saddening how the wife has to go through all the physical and mental fatigue. Really hope that the show helped him to wake up him up and make some positive changes for the sake of his family.
Honestly I think this man is exactly the kind of abuser that would coerce his wife into getting pregnant to prevent her from leaving. She's obviously wanted to leave for a long time, I can't see why she would put up with it other than for that reason.
wow she is due in 4 days , hope it goes well for her.
That dad is not responsible and is very childish. I'm disappointed I bet he just bangs the wife. Sorry to say that but what I said should partly be right.
From what I hear, I'm guessing the only thing he does is bang his wife with NO protection (probably maybe, I don't know, though considering she has 4 kids maybe) and doesn't seem to take the consequences seriously.
Take half of "his" business,get him to pay you and kids alimony and leave him. He didn't even marry you and you have 4 kids + he treats you like a servant and isn't good influence on the kids. Girl be smart and run- that boy (not a man) won't change 😡
Nemesis ROCK korean law and culture doesn’t work that way, unfortunately. She would be lucky if she gets the kids. :(
@@hyungjoo87 yup, their judicial system is really messed up
the guy is a deadbeat...bet the woman is going die of exhaustion if this continues cause he's not gonna solve this problem.
I have no idea how she can have calm face with being 9 month pregnancy... I couldn’t even sit down and breathe well at that time.. She is amazing...
at first I would say " just divorce, he does'nt deserve you" but she had almost 4 kids to take care, she looks so mad that she ever think to leave his husband with all the kids*leave your husband maybe not wrong, but leaving your kids are totally wrong" lets pray that he really take his words and give all his wife want. let the wife take care the kids*and take care of them totally difficult, beside their age are close to each other*
you must keep eyes on four of them, give love equally, and ect. I hope she can find the happines that she want after tgis show
Alfi Rahman different culture, Korean law gives children to the father.
Man imagine growing up as one of those kids and then realizing your dad might've almost killed your mom with all the labor and stress she's under. I hope these kids realize how much their mom is doing for them.
3년전 사연인가보네요 이분들 잘 사시나요? 후기없어요? 아 보면서 아주 열불터지는줄 알랐네요진짜. 지금은 많이 달라지셨겠죠? ㅡㅡ
저도영상보면서 쌍욕하기는 진짜오랜만인듯요
1:27 that guy has an angel for a wife, bless her raising one child is hard enough. i promise you there are no rest at all, make it 3 plus pregnant and a business...
Yeongja always give the best advice 💜 really love her in here 😊💕
THIS LADY HOST IS SUCH AN AMAZING AND BEAUTIFUL AND NICE AND KIND WOMAN. LIKE WOW. ALL OF THEM ARE SMART BUT THIS ONE JUST TAKES A STAND. AMAZING LADY.
이기적인 가장은 가족을 힘들게 한다
남편이 바뀌지 않는다면 이혼이 답
The ghost leaving the hosts body is how i feel throughout the entire 28 minutes. *too shocked for words*
the eldest boy is absolutely adorable, i hope he doesnt grow up like his dad...
애아버지 한테 애들 맡기고
결혼생활 정리하세요ㆍ남자 노답
if you guys are mad abt the customer taking the father golfing... THE DAD LEGIT SAID HED HIT HIS KIDS AND WIFE IF HE DIDNT RELIEVE HIS STRESS. the customer SAW the dad flip tables and get angry so he probably was scared the wife and kids would get beat. also if the customer didn’t sent the concern the wife could’ve lived like this forever so he’s the real mvp y’all
I cried, I have one son and also work but I am home based I also don't have any nanny. Its a lot of work. Kudos to the mom who loves her kids
When the customer said he changed the babies diaper I was all in for him to be the new husband/father.
It's sad that a customer has to step in rather than the husband
Husband isn’t going to change. He’s just saying that
16:42 oh my gosh the anger ran down my back in chills. The betrayal from the customer
Basically customer trying to protect the wife and children from his anger by diverting his attention into sports.
When I was 3 years and my sister was 5 years, my mom was leaving to work for three or four hours morning and others afternoon then me and my sister still at home, she was very responsible, my mom didn't get worried about us anymore!!
That customer did well by sending this concern.
I am surprised that she didn`t miscarriage the upcoming child(or any to our knowledge).
This episode of Hello counselor was not only triggering, upsetting, infuriating(which ever you prefer to use), but actually made me cry.
And not just once!
Give that customer a lifetime discount, he did a lot by bringing them here, it shows how kind and thoughtful he is ... in fact, dump your shit husband girl and marry that customer
Nope. The customer ended up in the same seat as the husband for spending too much money on his hobbies and not working. His sister was the one who sent in the concern 1 year later.
저 아내분이 내 동생이었으면
저 남편XX는 애저녁에 뒤졌다.......
I want to hug that women and slap the word responsibility into the husband dictionary because obviously, he hasn’t ever heard of the word until now.
I'm so sorry but when the music at 23:25 was gold XD No no~ No no no~
Haha I laughing when hear that nusic
It is hard to raise multiple young children by yourself but it’s not impossible. Just hearing what he says is unbelievable, this wonderful and strong woman gave birth to 4 of his children, that is the greatest gift a woman can give a man. The very least he could do is respect her, I hope she finds the strength in herself to leave him. What a sorry excuse of a man
"Please note that you can only press it once."
Woman: repeatedly press the button
If that woman ain't me, smh. I wonder what the in laws are saying about this whole problem.
23:27 exactly my face. Honestly she should marry the regular customer instead he seems way more husband mterial than her current husband he seems more supportive & attentive of her. Niel I miss him & Teen Top.
I want to point out that continuously getting your spouse pregnant can be a form of abuse. It essentially overwhelms them with responsibility, so that they can't leave.
Still, God bless the children.
I don't see any love in the eyes of the woman for him. This is already one reason to leave him, one amongst all the others.
She's not a wife for him she's an employee with benefits
he wants to be rich but lets his wife do all the hard work. lol. his wife is gonna be rich, not him
Their reactions are everything lol 😂 i love these korean shows ☺️
I love younja words at the end, bcs thats right she has to be strong, take care of herself and when she sees that something is wrong just say NO. Its clear her husband is not going to take care of her or their kids, he just keeps making excuses. The costumer is more considerate and even changes the kids' diaper i wonder how many times her husband has done it 😕
I'm the girl at 23:26.
Moon Gloss PRETTY PRETTY 👏
I'm rooting for the customer guy if he's going for her 💪🏻❤️
I hope she leaves him. She seems like she can see right through all his BS and this was really just a last resort to see if he would actually show some sign of willing to change but i don’t think he will. Probably for like a month and then go right back to the same habits. She deserves way better.
Edit: just finished the vid and it seems like she has a new man willing and ready! Good for her!
듣고 있으니까 눈물나네요ㅜ
When I see Men like this I become more and more distant from the idea of getting married and starting a family 😥
I’m impressed in how she’s been able to get pregnant 4 times by this guy...I wouldn’t be able to handle 1 kid, and a marriage like this. She deserves better 🤦🏽♀️