As someone who does want kids I think it’s really good that people are encouraged to really think about what it means to have and raise children. And that there is a possibility to not go down the parenting path. There is nothing worse than being raised by people that didn’t want kids but were forced by social standards. I’m lucky to be raised by a mother who did want us, but I have friends who’s parents actually didn’t want to have kids and my friends could tell growing up. One friend once told me she wish she wasn’t born because of her parents. That really broke my heart. It convinced me even more that we shouldn’t make people feel bad about not wanting kids. Let people choose❤️
This is spectacular, I wish I could add more but you summed it up brilliantly! I hope the friend of yours who has such a strained dynamic with their parents finds peace and solace within themselves. Thank you for sharing your perspective, I really hope we can all come to this way of thinking!
People choosing to be 'Child free' is ALSO good for people with kids. - It allows more resources to be made available to families in need like - childcare, maternity leave, prenatal care etc... - 'childfree' have more time and energy to help out and contribute to society in other meaningful ways "It takes a village to raise a kid" more and more these days. Stressed out struggling parents will thank heavens in a few years as there will be many 'childfree' friends and family members that can help out from time to time. - baby sit - tutor kids - talk to and emotional support (childfree have more time and energy) It's a GOOD thing for everyone and far from selfish, it's thoughtful.
I'm 32, no kids, and generally only consider a future with kids if they're adopted. Even then I think it'd be most beneficial to everybody involved to just adopt one child, vs. several.
Great points, I agree! I know there are a lot of hurdles when it comes to adoption and some adoption agencies out there that are not run or sanctioned the right way but barring those points. We could solve a lot of problems and make positive strives if more people adopted and if adoption was safer for all parties and easier a process.
@@aneighborstale ,its strange,but i feel marriage is confusing because having a kids,maybe iam just not usual with romance and more usual with parents,so its felt strange
I see it as a duty to the continued existence of our species. I would consider it an honor to have the opportunity to pass down the lessons I have learned in my own life in order to make the world a better place through my children.
I understand, thank you for sharing! I know there are many but if/when you do have children is there a specific lesson or lessons you'd want to pass onto them first?
Our species will continue whether you want it to or not. The earth is already overpopulated, and population grows everyday. But I guess this statement is a testament to how well those instincts are built into us.
I don't think there's a concrete answer to this since parenthood is such a personal and complex decision for each person. Personally, though, I'm better off childfree. I just don't want the responsibility of raising a person.
@ryt1995 very true, it is a very unique and personal decision. So, it will always be a case by case basis. Regardless, I’m very glad you feel the way you do with your decision!
As a believer is Jesus, the Lord commands us to “be fruitful and multiply” my wife is pregnant right now and the love and joy I feel for my unborn son is already astonishing. I think people have generally been fed lies about children. I’m traditional and conservative, we have a large family unit that is helping us and we both believe that the woman should stay home with the children. The key isn’t the nuclear family anymore but the multigenerational family. That is the key to raising well adjusted, intelligent kids. I feel it’s my duty to raise the next generation and uphold traditions and history by having kids and loving them and raising them right.
I’m a believer as well, born and raised in a Christian family, and…I don’t want kids. I’m 24, female, never dated anyone, and I don’t want kids. Sure, I’m open to dating and finding a life long partner, but I don’t want kid’s. I’m happy just being an aunt and a cousin, I don’t need to have kids. It ain’t for everyone
I’m glad you’re in a good place with your family and an early congratulations to your future child! I was a bit ignorant to something you said, and even after looking it up, was still a bit confused, and could use some help. In your opinion, what would some of the key differences be between having a multigenerational family over a nuclear family?
@@aneighborstale the key differences in my opinion is that the nuclear family is centered around the individualism of the father mother and children. you may live close or not close at all to extended family. Multigenerational living includes grandparents and extended family sometimes in the same house or same property and different houses. Helps a ton with raising the children and allowing the grandparents to spend a lot of time with the kids as well as alleviating the burden from the parents if they are alone. You can rely on your family to watch the kids instead of a babysitter and everyone pitches in to help raise the kids. They spend time with cousins, and have a very enriching childhood this way as opposed to how I grew up with my family living in Minnesota but me my mom and dad moved to Florida. I rarely saw my extended family and never grew strong relationships with them. As opposed to my wife who had her grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins all within 10 minutes of each other
As someone who does want kids I think it’s really good that people are encouraged to really think about what it means to have and raise children. And that there is a possibility to not go down the parenting path.
There is nothing worse than being raised by people that didn’t want kids but were forced by social standards. I’m lucky to be raised by a mother who did want us, but I have friends who’s parents actually didn’t want to have kids and my friends could tell growing up. One friend once told me she wish she wasn’t born because of her parents. That really broke my heart. It convinced me even more that we shouldn’t make people feel bad about not wanting kids. Let people choose❤️
This is spectacular, I wish I could add more but you summed it up brilliantly! I hope the friend of yours who has such a strained dynamic with their parents finds peace and solace within themselves. Thank you for sharing your perspective, I really hope we can all come to this way of thinking!
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Thank you for the kind words, I really appreciate it!
People choosing to be 'Child free' is ALSO good for people with kids.
- It allows more resources to be made available to families in need like - childcare, maternity leave, prenatal care etc...
- 'childfree' have more time and energy to help out and contribute to society in other meaningful ways
"It takes a village to raise a kid" more and more these days.
Stressed out struggling parents will thank heavens in a few years
as there will be many 'childfree' friends and family members that can help out from time to time.
- baby sit
- tutor kids
- talk to and emotional support (childfree have more time and energy)
It's a GOOD thing for everyone and far from selfish, it's thoughtful.
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Thank you, I really appreciate that!
I'm 32, no kids, and generally only consider a future with kids if they're adopted. Even then I think it'd be most beneficial to everybody involved to just adopt one child, vs. several.
Great points, I agree! I know there are a lot of hurdles when it comes to adoption and some adoption agencies out there that are not run or sanctioned the right way but barring those points. We could solve a lot of problems and make positive strives if more people adopted and if adoption was safer for all parties and easier a process.
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See this making me confused about parents concept
How so, in what way?
@@aneighborstale ,its strange,but i feel marriage is confusing because having a kids,maybe iam just not usual with romance and more usual with parents,so its felt strange
I see it as a duty to the continued existence of our species. I would consider it an honor to have the opportunity to pass down the lessons I have learned in my own life in order to make the world a better place through my children.
I understand, thank you for sharing! I know there are many but if/when you do have children is there a specific lesson or lessons you'd want to pass onto them first?
Our species will continue whether you want it to or not. The earth is already overpopulated, and population grows everyday. But I guess this statement is a testament to how well those instincts are built into us.
correct
Do you think either one is any better off?
I don't think there's a concrete answer to this since parenthood is such a personal and complex decision for each person. Personally, though, I'm better off childfree. I just don't want the responsibility of raising a person.
@ryt1995 very true, it is a very unique and personal decision. So, it will always be a case by case basis. Regardless, I’m very glad you feel the way you do with your decision!
I would bet if you ask every body who didn’t have kids out of personal choice if they regret it on their deathbed 90% would say yes
What would you say are some of the core reasons behind them regretting it?
As a believer is Jesus, the Lord commands us to “be fruitful and multiply” my wife is pregnant right now and the love and joy I feel for my unborn son is already astonishing. I think people have generally been fed lies about children. I’m traditional and conservative, we have a large family unit that is helping us and we both believe that the woman should stay home with the children. The key isn’t the nuclear family anymore but the multigenerational family. That is the key to raising well adjusted, intelligent kids. I feel it’s my duty to raise the next generation and uphold traditions and history by having kids and loving them and raising them right.
I’m a believer as well, born and raised in a Christian family, and…I don’t want kids. I’m 24, female, never dated anyone, and I don’t want kids.
Sure, I’m open to dating and finding a life long partner, but I don’t want kid’s. I’m happy just being an aunt and a cousin, I don’t need to have kids. It ain’t for everyone
I’m glad you’re in a good place with your family and an early congratulations to your future child! I was a bit ignorant to something you said, and even after looking it up, was still a bit confused, and could use some help. In your opinion, what would some of the key differences be between having a multigenerational family over a nuclear family?
@PixelaGames2000 that’s quite unique, given your background. What drove you to this decision, if you don’t mind sharing?
"well adjusted" - that's everything I have to know.
@@aneighborstale the key differences in my opinion is that the nuclear family is centered around the individualism of the father mother and children. you may live close or not close at all to extended family.
Multigenerational living includes grandparents and extended family sometimes in the same house or same property and different houses. Helps a ton with raising the children and allowing the grandparents to spend a lot of time with the kids as well as alleviating the burden from the parents if they are alone. You can rely on your family to watch the kids instead of a babysitter and everyone pitches in to help raise the kids. They spend time with cousins, and have a very enriching childhood this way as opposed to how I grew up with my family living in Minnesota but me my mom and dad moved to Florida. I rarely saw my extended family and never grew strong relationships with them. As opposed to my wife who had her grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins all within 10 minutes of each other