Two asian people talk about dating in a white-dominated society

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  • @azaz911c
    @azaz911c 2 місяці тому +15

    This video is a perfect example of two people not seeing what's right in front of them.

  • @ManassehBB
    @ManassehBB 2 місяці тому +6

    Love this reunion with Mimi, this conversation is a blast! 😄
    Mimi is speaking the truth though 💯%, enjoy this season. Hold on a little bit longer. God's got you!

  • @sketrory439
    @sketrory439 2 місяці тому +68

    Wouldn’t be surprised if the two of them end up together

    • @O.G.LIL-MAN
      @O.G.LIL-MAN 2 місяці тому

      nah...she keeps trying to steer the convo from it NOT being her. She keeps not trying to be chosen and friend zoning him as they talk...even if she doesnt mean to. The ones always talk about dating in a white world, ALWAYS ARE THE ONES WHO LIKE ONLY WHITE MEN. And I know tons of women just like her who do this,

    • @luna498-h5z
      @luna498-h5z 2 місяці тому +5

      I was gonna say this lol. They look great together

    • @scott.joshua
      @scott.joshua 2 місяці тому

      She's not Christian though. Deal breaker...

    • @chojiakimichi2587
      @chojiakimichi2587 2 місяці тому +2

      she's not Christian :o

    • @jacobbos2208
      @jacobbos2208 2 місяці тому

      yeah but everyone is on a journey

  • @ChicoreeChidori
    @ChicoreeChidori 2 місяці тому +13

    Two smart persons interacting very well together and keeping the discussion interesting. You both should consider to do these talks on a weekly basis and upload it to this channel or do a collaboration on a regular basis to post it on a new UA-cam channel!

  • @henrywamala
    @henrywamala 2 місяці тому +25

    It weird most of us feel like we are not good enough.

    • @scott.joshua
      @scott.joshua 2 місяці тому +1

      The answer is quite simple. We always want someone who's better than we can currently get. So everyone's not good enough for the person they'd rather be with

    • @chromatinkiss
      @chromatinkiss 2 місяці тому

      How do you think capitalists will make money if people don't feel this way?

  • @ugl933
    @ugl933 2 місяці тому +6

    I wish people would stop caring about race. I have seen beautiful men and women from all types of ethnicities. Also focusing too much on race when dating can lead to overlooking important qualities like compatibility, values, or character.

    • @saintsataniko2116
      @saintsataniko2116 2 місяці тому

      Impossible because you have girls like this who are obsessed with race because of their own ingrained jealousy and insecurity. The very same people supposedly pushing for "diversity" and inclusion all the time, only want it as regards movie roles and don't want to see true cultural integration if everything doesn't favor them. Hence, China towns where anyone speaking English is looked at askew even though they are IN America.

  • @An_Imageered_Life
    @An_Imageered_Life 2 місяці тому +12

    Your conversation is interesting to me on multiple levels. 1st is when you talk about seeing Asian Americans only dating Caucasians. I spend most of my free time with a community of Chinese believers, and I've seen the opposite with them. Most of the parents were already married when they immigrated to the US, so they have Chinese spouses. Myself and one Chinese guy are the only ones in this group that fit between 20-40 years old age gap, and he has a Chinese girlfriend. Then, for the high schoolers that were born and raised in the US, they are also dating Chinese high schoolers. I'm also taking a Chinese class; my classmates are Chinese-American high schoolers. This week I heard them talking about dating and what kinds of people they like, and they all said "it's even better if their crush is Chinese like them." So, it's funny to me that you two have experienced the opposite.
    Eric, your reaction to experiencing a woman being vulnerable strikes me as the desire to protect what is good and beautiful -- something that I think God wove into the man's design. It also reminds me of a story from an older couple I know. The husband and wife are from different countries. They met in a project meeting where her job was to report a ton of research she had done on the minority groups in HIS country. He said that as he listened to her, he thought, "Wow, this woman loves my people more than I do! I need to protect her." I thought it was the sweetest story cause in that moment this man and woman where experiencing the very design God called them to in their different genders: the woman was acting on her design to be a nurturer, and the man was realizing his design to be the one who protects that nurturer.
    Yellow fever. 😂
    Your friend gave wise advice. And I would venture to add that the "not enough" you seem to feel may actually be more related to what the husband expressed in the story of meeting his wife. It may be a feeling of lack that comes from your inability to exercise this "protective" characteristic that God instilled in your design, rather than a lack that comes from pure loneliness. Like having a spiritual gift that you're not using. I know what that's like from the woman's side, and (to me) it definitely masqueraded as loneliness for a long time.

    • @EricJeng
      @EricJeng  2 місяці тому

      That’s an interesting thought! Maybe.

    • @NewEra-q6l
      @NewEra-q6l Місяць тому

      What are tan asians called? Still yellow also?

  • @bojack3827
    @bojack3827 2 місяці тому +5

    Super self aware these two. Good convo.

  • @amerisum
    @amerisum 11 днів тому +1

    Be open to dating any color/race as long as you have chemistry, there’s respect, get along, can laugh and have fun together and each other’s goals are aligned in relationships/beliefs/values and that you both support each other’s aspirations then how bad can it be? The hard part is finding that person but you’ve got to be open.

  • @HaadWick
    @HaadWick 27 днів тому +4

    Hiding behind another race because you get the illusion that you won’t be mistreated may be the most weakest thing I’ve ever heard. I just can’t subscribe to that type of thinking. That’s not self-love.

    • @jbt6445
      @jbt6445 26 днів тому +2

      She is just looking for reasons to justify her self hatred and her in fer or ri ty complex

  • @etcetera662
    @etcetera662 2 місяці тому +24

    We treat dating like we treat our careers and it's doing us no favors. The reason people say they find romantic opportunities the moment they stop looking is because they're not looking at everything though a microscope and weighing whether the person they're on a first date with is going to be a compatible life partner. They're allowing a genuine connection to form with somebody without all the added weight of expectation of auditioning for the role of "life partner".

  • @CharlesQ-o4i
    @CharlesQ-o4i 17 днів тому

    3:16 "Be attractive and be nice to me." This is 100% what men want. Further to this "attractive" doesn't mean they we want partners that conform to any particular set of standards. It's is very personal and varies from partner to partner. But being a decent and kind person is universal and actually increases atrtactiveness. What I'm trying to say is that being kind is attractive. So start there and see what good things come!

  • @ElishaServes
    @ElishaServes 2 місяці тому +6

    That's a deep question... Are you even ready?! A friend of mine had the same convo yesterday and asked ourselves ...Are we even ready?

    • @O.G.LIL-MAN
      @O.G.LIL-MAN 2 місяці тому +7

      you are never ready...you just gotta go. This is how most people keep themselves out the game waiting for the perfect spot. It's like someone coming to Christ..always trying to be clean or perfect enough to do so, when God says come as you are, RIGHT NOW, because there is no perfect or correct time.

    • @ElishaServes
      @ElishaServes 2 місяці тому +1

      @LIL-MAN-THE-OG i hear you...thank you for your words!

  • @malarki5
    @malarki5 2 місяці тому +4

    Please give me an update
    on these two people. They
    will make a great couple!

  • @sararara7253
    @sararara7253 2 місяці тому +2

    Personally, I love your channel. I listen to it while I clean and there are sooooo many things I get to learn from you and the people you interview❤😊. Thank you.

  • @Sara-qw7lc
    @Sara-qw7lc 6 днів тому

    You don’t need to be the future perfect version of yourself to receive the love you think you deserve.
    This version of yourself also deserves love.
    Don’t hold back from potentially dating somone just because you aren’t where you want to be yet.
    There isn’t a perfect time, there is now and future isn’t promised for any of us. ❤
    Love is risky, so just take that risk ok.
    I say this advice to myself but also to whoever is reading this.
    May love find you all, and if it doesn’t, then just remember life is still worth living.

  • @mrroboto8671
    @mrroboto8671 2 місяці тому +2

    Yellow fever for men exists; in my experience it's been quite uncomfortable...bordering on obsessive. I speak from a pre K-pop era.

  • @Mr-wt4eo
    @Mr-wt4eo Місяць тому +1

    I don't give a shit about where someone comes from as long if theyre nice and caring that's all i care about.

  • @bdesd
    @bdesd 2 місяці тому +5

    I’ve always been drawn to her since her first video. I think she’s gorgeous. Wish I was on the east coast 😁

  • @chowei100
    @chowei100 2 місяці тому +2

    that camera zoom 5:45

  • @bbfoster306
    @bbfoster306 2 місяці тому +3

    Ther are soooo cute. Kind of same value and beautiful souls

  • @10000yr-s
    @10000yr-s 2 місяці тому +1

    A Christian POV for Eric's reference:
    You do not need someone to complete you, but the bible only said ' if you cannot avoid sinning (and likely reference to lust), then you should get married'
    I personally do struggle with the 'indoctrination' of romantic love from all the movies and tvs I watches since growing up, and growing to know that it is a mirage set up by the secular world. If you are not a self disciplined, natural 'enuch' (for God) then a mature christian women who can be a companion is what you are looking for. It's hard, but that's a reality
    A few more 'realities' are :
    1) There will be no husband and wife relationship in the 'new earth and heaven'
    2) While in genesis the mandate was to 'be fruitful' that was an order pre-fall
    3) Since fall, life is hard (work is hard) and child bearing is hard
    4) In Paul's letter, he clearly stated marriage is hard and will distract you from God, if you are not prepared that it is hard, that's when it fails....
    And ultimately, we look forward to the 'new earth and heaven' that is to come, and we rejoice because of that. That is why I find your video on John (the can collector) is so joyful.....
    Take care bro.

  • @dyardsale5475
    @dyardsale5475 2 місяці тому +1

    approaching 1/4 Million

  • @RodrigoSpotty-ez1pw
    @RodrigoSpotty-ez1pw 2 місяці тому +6

    This was not a conversation! She deflected all of your questions and played armchair psychologist. But Im sympathetic because it’s not worth getting flamed on the internet for not dating Asian guys. Good luck Eric w your dating journey. You sound self aware

    • @siborgi19
      @siborgi19 2 місяці тому +1

      It's not easy talking about internalized shame but I appreciate Eric's attempt at trying to uncover why so many Asian Americans refuse to date other Asian Americans. It's pretty obvious she was dodging the questions. You're right the internet is a cruel place and it's hard to have a dialogue when you will get roasted for anything you say in the comments section. Maybe do another interview with a different Asian American woman and turn off the comments in the next video?

  • @crankiemanx8423
    @crankiemanx8423 2 дні тому

    She is intelligent, funny, & has a wonderful sense of humour. hopefully she finds a suitable companion. But i think she is talking to him right now.

    • @crankiemanx8423
      @crankiemanx8423 2 дні тому

      Sometimes what you think you need or want is actually the opposite.they are both looking for compatible "white" people that they can connect with,when they actually are connecting very well with each other.the next time they meet will hopefully not be in a yr,but rather in a month....

  • @Sirmackerel
    @Sirmackerel 2 місяці тому +4

    This is so real

  • @nikichimoto
    @nikichimoto 7 днів тому

    kind of sorry that Eric felt that. But I guess I can understand the want of validation except I want to get validated by certain Asia-grown asian guys.

  • @ernestux
    @ernestux 2 місяці тому +3

    This is so real x2

  • @OH-xk9dd
    @OH-xk9dd Місяць тому

    The lady should have asked Eric which church he goes to. The man of faith can actually spark the strong faith in his woman ;) it would be a smooth progression from there. They make a wonderful couple!

  • @Answersonapostcard
    @Answersonapostcard 2 місяці тому +4

    Her comments on freedom are spot on.. if you have peace and liberty - most men in relationships do not have that!

  • @tovaform_review
    @tovaform_review 2 місяці тому +10

    Respect looking for a Christian woman. Keep on serving God and engaging in those Christian communities, it worked for me!

  • @ZTwo221
    @ZTwo221 2 місяці тому +1

    hilarious title it has that pressurized manhattan snark to it

  • @marcydrake9159
    @marcydrake9159 2 місяці тому +6

    🤔 I can’t be the only white girl with yellow fever. 😊 In truth, I have fever of various hues. 😁

    • @Breakfastststst
      @Breakfastststst Місяць тому +1

      Finding Asian men attractive is not yellow fever that term is only for Kiripy white men who fetishized Asian woman due to Hollywood movies what you have is just preference

    • @NewEra-q6l
      @NewEra-q6l Місяць тому

      Are tan asians also yellow?

  • @streetfightsguild7480
    @streetfightsguild7480 2 місяці тому +6

    They should date and see how it goes.

  • @berteisenbraun7415
    @berteisenbraun7415 2 місяці тому +2

    You are overthinking all this relationship thing! I got married to the girl that had my back at all times! I had 5 children with her and Grandchildren.

  • @nickolasyounker
    @nickolasyounker Місяць тому

    The big question IS, does anyone really care when your echo chamber doesnt ask about all the other people that have been just driving along and you just decided to enter the lane? Do you think this can apply in other scenarios? I am pro yez! Do this! But also support other people trying this as well.

  • @edwardpi9852
    @edwardpi9852 2 місяці тому

    Asian American Warrior Men dating has its time. There is also a time for Asian American Men Warrior Spirit!

  • @RYang-ud9ni
    @RYang-ud9ni 13 днів тому

    You can tell by the accent

  • @simonyou6440
    @simonyou6440 2 місяці тому +6

    "I'm gonna bring you the most perfect girl"... 👀 🚢

  • @Answersonapostcard
    @Answersonapostcard 2 місяці тому

    Also.. those who enter relationships are going to end up creating a dependancy in themselves for the other person. Do you really want to create another dependancy? (we are already dependant upon money to survive)

  • @AMIR85ABBASI
    @AMIR85ABBASI 29 днів тому

    Hello, I am a 19-year-old boy and I want to enter this business. Can I ask how much you earn per month with a bicycle in Uber Eats? And if I have an electric scooter, how much can I earn per month?

  • @michaelcdwong758
    @michaelcdwong758 Місяць тому

    Mimi's third time, eh? Are you telling us this is a new segment where you two are interviewing together?

  • @anandsharma7430
    @anandsharma7430 2 місяці тому

    Ok this might sound rude, but you were a spy, an investigator or a priest in a past life and you enjoy secret confessions. Past life occupational hazard I guess 😁

  • @Answersonapostcard
    @Answersonapostcard 2 місяці тому +1

    To be honest some people would describe chinese/asian/US asian/etc as white anyway.. how do you define 'white'? There are white people in Mexico. What is the difference between a white asian and a white Spanish person? Both have light coloured skin.

    • @NewEra-q6l
      @NewEra-q6l Місяць тому

      But people say there light colored skin is yellow not white

  • @bjd3707
    @bjd3707 2 місяці тому

    Guys, you're looking at a spark. Just sayin'.

    • @malarki5
      @malarki5 2 місяці тому

      yup!

    • @lestermatos2989
      @lestermatos2989 Місяць тому

      He is dating a white woman ss expected as je is a CHAD

  • @samueljackson315
    @samueljackson315 Місяць тому

    You look ten years younger you are.

  • @DanTuber
    @DanTuber 2 місяці тому +4

    He told her he doesn't feel enough and then she laughs at him. What a cow!

    • @Anime1love
      @Anime1love 2 місяці тому +1

      You never say that to a woman. It makes them feel "uncomfortable"

    • @noodlery7034
      @noodlery7034 2 місяці тому +6

      Women laugh when they don't know how to respond to a situation, especially uncomfortable ones. It's just social behavior and not malicious so don't read into it that way

    • @DanTuber
      @DanTuber 2 місяці тому +2

      @@noodlery7034 what was uncomfortable about that? She needs to do better

    • @O.G.LIL-MAN
      @O.G.LIL-MAN 2 місяці тому

      @@DanTuber facts

  • @WalquidiaRamos
    @WalquidiaRamos 2 місяці тому

    😅😊😊❤

  • @RossDaunis
    @RossDaunis 2 місяці тому +1

    🤔

  • @hikingwithmatt
    @hikingwithmatt 2 місяці тому

    Cool

  • @MrCamaleon7
    @MrCamaleon7 2 місяці тому

    As of me, i just find white woman cute, specially the spanish, italian, balcan and brunette type.

    • @Anime1love
      @Anime1love 2 місяці тому +1

      You just don't have awareness, there's more to it.

    • @MrCamaleon7
      @MrCamaleon7 2 місяці тому

      @@Anime1love Nope, they're just cute.

    • @bevs9995
      @bevs9995 2 місяці тому +1

      its also just "the preference"