@@Melisasa9402 honestly IMO I don't think they would made the second movie, for me the second book is like a big epilogue, i'ts like with Me Before You the movie was perfect without the adaptation of the other books.
The best words of this book is when Atlas says- "In the future... if by some miracle you ever find yourself in the position of fall in love again, fall in love with me. You're still my favourite person Lily". Best words ever
I watched my Mom go through abuse from my Dad. I was a child stepping in crying & yelling for him to stop hurting our mother, the one we loved soo much. He was so mean. She decided to leave. It was her decision and hers alone. As an adult, I do suffer from trauma & ptsd from my past, but I'm okay. At times, I'm okay. & other times I am not. I pray for anyone & everyone who is being abused or has been abused to find a way to leave, get out especially if children are involved. I'm an adult woman & still traumatized by my childhood. I wish things could have been better for me. I'm praying things get better for you!!
I had a similar childhood with both stepfather and our own father pulling shot guns out. When I fell in love and he began hitting me after 2 yrs..I believed he would change. He wanted to make a baby with me and I will never forget the tear that streamed down my face because I promised never to repeat history. After 5 years I told him he will never change and I was in love with a memory.. It broke my heart, I still love him but I don't want to be with him. A few years later I met A great man....he was iffy about kids...I was going to leave him because I wanted kids and marriage, finally a few years later he agreed it was time, I had issues concieving so I had surgery to correct my uterus. The Dr's made a mistake and pesrced it telling me I probably wont have children. I was devastated and hormonal after treatments. I was mad with him for making me wait...it took about 4-5 months for my hormones to settle. I was 40 and just started feeling happy again. We were seeing Chinese herbalists...Honestly I could love an adopted or foster child as though he/she were my own.. but I found a note that my man wrote to a 23yr old thai woman saying he was leaving me. He was gone that night...My whole life goal and courage to leave a man I loved in my 20's because my child deserved stability, finding Mr right, Mr Good daddy who was so beautiful with me..and I found myself at 40 and Barren...He told me he'd made a mistake, I fully owned that I was a hormonal psycho we were both guilty in a sense but here's the twist, the 23yr old was pregnant a month after meeting him. Im not putting him down, he treated me better than any man in my life. My hormones made me jealous and nasty...24/7 yet no one was saying to him...Hey remember she's not always like that...Anyway, he's married 2 kids I'm now 58 and have kept my heart very guarded. What I would do to have a child. Choices huh?
I couldnt trick a man into pregnancy because I wanted my child to know that his or her daddy wanted them. I was in foster care a couple of years and given away a lot. As well as the physical and traumatic abuse. So now you see why I balled when she asked for the divorce in the most compassionate realistic manner. What a movie
all the feels from reading the book came back especially that last part of “if one day you had a daughter, what would you say to her?” ima cry in the theater!
"Fifteen seconds. That’s all it takes to completely change everything about a person. Fifteen seconds that we’ll never get back." This line always hits hard🥺🥺
@@olgagruzkova3243 He hurts her for the first time I believe. In the book, if I remember correctly, he throws a glass at her in the kitchen which brakes in her face. But it is a little while ago that I read it haha so what exactly happens could be a bit different. :)
When I saw this movie last week, I cried so, so much! I went through this “almost” exact situation. There were signs just like Lilly went through, (I was only 19 years old) but I stayed because he always came back apologizing and I stupid as I was gave in. Until after 10 years and 2 children, I finally divorced him. He he went to the school where I was a teacher and my 2 elementary children studied there. He came with a concealed gun, (he was a policeman) he stood at the door of my classroom (thank goodness there were no students at the moment) showed me the gun and told me that he loved me and that if I didn’t leave with him at that moment he was going to kill me! I got the courage to sweet talk him and saying, yes! As soon as I got out of the door and walk a few steps, he looked the other way a minute, I ran as I could and screamed as a maniac to alert everyone! I ran to the principals office, hid under the principles desk and screamed to call 911 because I was going to be killed by my ex-husband! That same afternoon the police arrested him. Long story short, I was transferred to another school district with my kids. This “Ryle” was worse! After many years, he remarried 4 times, poisoned my kids, saying that it was my fault that he wasn’t living with him. Both of them (a son and a daughter) were traumatized and ultimately and tragically passed away. I had to undergo Psychological treatment for all the traumatic experiences I went through and 15 years later, I found my Atlas! He is such an extraordinary and loving husband. He has been by my side ever since. I am 65 years old and been married for 23 happy and peaceful years. ♥️🙏🏼 So many people who’ve known me for so many years have told me to write about it, but never did.
OMG...No-one should go through what you did. I agree with tanyag....who said : you need to write about this. You should write a book titled "If you are in an abusive relationship, you must read this"!!! Maybe you can stop someone from making a similar regretful choice like you did. Have a great 'rest of your life'!!♥
PSA: if he hits you once, it’ll happen again. Leave. Don’t look back. You can find someone better, someone who actually loves you and treats you with respect.
"even on my worst day did i deserve babe all the hell you gave me? cause i loved you i swear i loved you till my dying day" my tears ricochet is such a good choice for this movie and lily's story and i just love it already
That's exactly what I thought when I heard it and also the part "and I can go anywhere I want, anywhere I want, just not home" matches so well and immediately made me think of lily in the book
@@ArloKnudsenFit I haven't read the book...obviously. I just think the trailer is poorly done. Doesn't make me want to see this movie personally. And that's ok.
This is the exact reason I left my daughter's father at 8 months pregnant. I refused to have her grow up thinking it was ok or acceptable for a man to treat a woman in any way less than I want her to be treated. I will always love him, but my daughter and her best interest will always be my #1 priority.
Would you have left him, if it wasn’t for your daughter. Why not make YOU a priority and do what’s best for YOU? How do you even love a man that is abusive? Any shred of love I have for a man that’s an inch abusive would have me head for the door. I know it isn’t easy leaving but wish every women realised that an abusive man does not love you.. love isn’t abusive!
I'm so sorry you were treated like that ☹️ Psalms 34:18-19 NASB1995 [18] The Lord is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit. [19] Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the Lord delivers him out of them all. Proverbs 18:22 (NIV) “He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord." Ephesians 5:33 (NIV) “However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband." Proverbs 19:14 (NIV) “Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord."
You did well! My dad was a very cruel/aggressive man. He had 2 daughters: peaceful me and a perennially angry sister. The sister's very cruel and evil and she's always been this way. You don't want it to turn generational, you wanna cut the weeds before they spread where the healthy plants are. Never regret your decision, it was the best thing you've ever done in this type of situation! We were made to be healthy from a psychological POV, our neurotransmitters and hormones tell us so. Constant aggression isn't necessary, peace of mind is!
I just finished the first book. My oldest daughter sent the first and second books to me. I had no idea what it was about but she said "Mom, this book reminds me of you. Please read it" Can I tell you how many times I cried while reading this and hearing her say that kept playing in my head. She was 8 and her brother 6 when I left their Dad, she is now 21 and Marine overseas and my son just turned 19. She seen him hurt me so many times. I can't stop thinking what that must have been like for her. I remain single to this day. My heart still breaks for their trauma.
Single as in u never done it with any other,since?coz I don't really understand so-called first world assumption of being single;they could be with multiple 24/7,365 and still claim to be single
Yes.. its called it starts with us... book about Atlas. The author printed the title inside her book...it ends with us. After i read that ill read atlas book. From the library @@Stressed_PhD_0831
I have ALOT of respect for women who leave their abusive boyfriends/husbands. It does not mean they love them any less but they value their self worth so much more
Hi, thanks for that respect. Sometimes it takes us a loooong time. But the self-worth DOES kick in for many, with great support, and Spiritual attunement, maybe we can end it in our own family lines.
Man this is relatable. I didn't wanna be like my mom or anyone so I walked away. My ex started to abuse me after we had two sons. I didn't want my sons around him or be raised it's ok to abuse women. So I took them left and walked away forever. They were both under 4. I said nope my sons will come first. Raised them alone ever since now my oldest is about to start college and my youngest is about to start high school. My oldest barely remembers anything that happened and he made a speech to me at his high school graduation. He said Mom, you will always be the strongest women I know. Worked two jobs while doing college online and having 7 autoimmune diseases and dying. I never seen the strength and will to live so hard til I saw you raise us. You always taught us our voice matters but say how you feel respectfully, you taught me to never give up on your dreams bc everything is possible. Even when you were in the hospital many times you read to us on video chat and stayed on video til we fell a sleep. Then you video chatted us while we were getting ready for school and made sure we got on the bus safely. You showed me the power of love. Mom, your an incredible mother and I hope I'm even just half the person you are. Like you always said ride or die three musketeers for life. Btw most parents were in tears. He said I will make you proud every day and I'm honored to be your son. Thank you for showing us no matter if you have just you, if you have love, power, respect and loyalty you can battle the world to make your dreams come true. He walked down and hugged me and whispered thank you! Luckily the school recorded it and I have that amazing speech forever.
Oh my gosh....not me over here crying for a complete stranger. Your children are blessed to have you...and your love and legacy lives on with them and through them. 💕 Thank you for sharing that with us.
Thats not love, thats lust, obsession, drama. Atlas is what real love is, stable, reliable, safe and secure, not rollacoaster of emotions. Pick the stable guy over the bad boy, you will be better off in a long run.
The majority of women chase the top 1% of men, or dysfunctional bad men who they are attracted to. While ignoring nearly all good typical men because they arent Chads look wise or money wise. They put men who do treat them good emotionally in the friend zone. Then those same women make TikToks and ask, "Where have all the good men gone?"
He was good tho, until they both started provoking him, he was straightforward and honest, she's the one who had an ex come back into her life and even harassed the current bf
I haven't read the book but from what I recall in the movie, he actually hurt her before he even knew he was in the same city in them. The first time Atlas and Ryle met in the movie was when Lily had the scar and Atlas set her aside to ask what happened and deduced Ryle had harmed her... Maybe the book is different but partners shouldn't be harming them even if there are other people "seemingly" in the picture @@pslay9017
I haven't thought about it in years but my first grown up adult relationship when i was 21 years old was with a man who would blow up on me and physically threaten me, and i would leave. He would beg and plead for forgiveness and swear to never do it again. I'd come back 2 weeks later and within a month he would do it again. Back and forth for a year. The day he pulled his gun out and held me down i swore that if i got out of that house alive I'd never see him again. And i kept that promise. I didn't go back to gather my things. I got away with a small bag of stuff and my life. I moved to another city for 6 months and then another state. He found me on social media a couple years ago and acted like nothing ever happened.
I'm glad you got away. This movie doesn't depict the narcissist mind games that make up the emotional and mental abuse. My ex also would act like yours, never admit any wrongdoing or would be blame me. This is a good movie but a guy like that would fk with her emotionally and mentally as well so a bit unrealistic for us that have experienced it ourselves... good movie though
@@brandinshaeffer8970 I’m sorry this happened to you. It’s been nine years today is that anniversary of me being thrown through a closed accordion like closet and well I whispered Jesus in my head because I couldn’t speak and was losing consciousness from his hands attempting to brake my hyoid bone in my neck which is the windpipe and my hands were on his hands and the next moment after speaking the prayer of just Jesus’s name, my ex fiancé who was a sight of 400ish pounds and Im was 200lbs at the time, was off of me quicker than the struggling to breathe alone was normally. I knew it was Jesus that saved me that second I spoke his name. I pray for you and your family. Joy and happiness and good heath and good discernment.
I can relate. Almost the same thing happened to me at age 21. Except that he was going to knife me. He went into the bathroom and an angel told me where the knife was. I got it and quickly hid it. When he came out, he grabbed for the knife but it wasn't there. I think he thought I was going to use it on him so he became calm and sweet. Finally, we slept. In the morning after he left for work, I packed up my things. I left him the TV my dad gave us and one spoon, one knife, one fork, one plate one bowl one glass, and one cup. Then I fled in my car to my aunt and uncle's house. I never saw him again and I was fortunately to work for a lawyer who gave us a no contest divorce. Whew, I am lucky to still have my life. An angel saved me. God is good. That was over 50 years ago.
@@Andrew-iu3ef Okay, i guess just posting the link does not work, because i can't see my comment. The Video is called "It Ends With Us (Book Trailer)". It is from XxxXDream and has 1,5 Million Views.
To all the women watching this who’ve been abused by their partners and had the courage to leave I see you , I am you. To everyone else the ones who are still holding on the ones who supported us those who hold space for us I see you too, I see all of you. I left , it’s been 3 years. When I made space , I met the love of my life and only now at the age of 31 do I know what a man should be. I’m just about a published author because his male energy has further enhanced my female energy and has opened up my creativity beyond. Thank you me, thank you universe thanks to my love thanks to all of you 💚
I'm so happy for you for getting away from your abuser and finding someone who treats you with respect and love the way everyone should treat their partner. I did have an ex back in highschool who was verbally and physically abusive also for three years but we are survivors. I have met someone too who treats me the way I want to be treated and I didn't even know a man so kind and loving existed. But in literally a week we are hitting our four year anniversary. To love girl. I am happy to know you are doing better and happier because I feel for you. You deserve to be treated right. Enjoy and I wish you both a beautiful happy future ahead 😊
the flower shop is SO pretty and i love blake as lily but i think the trailer spoiled a lot!! i was sooo shocked reading the book and i feel like a lot of things got revealed already
I think for the people who don't know about the book its a good trailer since they don't know what's really going on while on the otherhand for the readers, its also a good trailer since they're showing that they didn't change the story and it makes us reminisce the details
Like the other person said, you probably feel that way because you’ve already read the book. For someone like me who hasn’t, all of that just felt like detailed context and I don’t actually know what’s important to the plot etc to the point where it feels like a spoiler.
I know answering could spoil the book for me, but does the scene in question appear in it? Also, does Ryle's statement, "You just tripped," imply that he was to blame for her hospitalization? Is he physically hurting her and she refuses to leave him? Giving me information is fine. I will still read the book and watch the movie because I adore the cast. I am just wondering how that entire scenario revolves around his line.
@@LM_Authorthe whole book does not revolve around this line only, there are more scenes that makes up the whole story and its characters! You didn't spoil it for yourself! You're still missing A LOT ! ❤❤
I just watched the movie and I am moved to tears. My heart breaks for all parties involved. Ryle was reacting from a place of hurt from childhood trauma and was afraid to love…. He deserves to be loved regardless and to learn how to cherish it and that’s what Lily taught him by having that relationship with him. She was beautiful. She too had a childhood trauma but she made the difference by not being afraid to love. They were amazing together. But Atlas was better. He was like a flower that bloomed out of his childhood trauma just like Lily. I hope Ryle found love…. I wished I had seen that in the end too. The story made me cry remembering my childhood and my trauma and it lets me see that I am afraid to love again…. The question is, will I take that pain and harm myself and others, or will I fuel it into true love and make a difference from my heart to others? God is love. Teach us Lord 🙏🏼🥹❤️
The ending line on the trailer...that got me..I went no contact with my family because of years of abuse...they tried to insist they needed to babysit my infant daughter at the time..that's what finally pushed me. I broke that pattern by telling them hell NO
Okay but Jenny Slate as Allysa is actually perfect casting tho????? Her quirkiness and that voice just matched the Allysa i had in mind while reading the book
@@Bedheadboredomit's been a while since I read it, but if I remember correctly she got the magnet from atlas/it's connected to atlas in some way and ryle gets jealous and hits her/pushes her something like that
@ephemeraldbd he reads all the Lily's journals & gets to know about magnet & BIB's meaning.. so he tries to force himself on her.. & she gets badly injured.. & then gets to know that she is pregnant with emmy
“We break the pattern or the pattern breaks us.” Powerful words and very perceptive of the impact and brevity of domestic and emotional abuse on one’s life.
I was in a very abusive relationship for 3 years thank God he left me. He found someone and got her pregnant while we were engaged. I was heartbroken but I was free! No longer had to fear his hands.
I haven't ever read this, so I have no knowledge of this story, but if you haven't seen Age of Adeline with Blake Lively, do see it. You will like her.
I’m pregnant with my first child, a daughter. That line made me cry as I imagined how I would feel one day if someone she loved was hurting her. I will never let that be her model of love. My parents had a violent relationship that I witnessed… it ends with me.
Anyone else feeling that intense mix of nostalgia and heartache just from the trailer? 😢 Can't wait to see how they've brought Lily's journey to life. This is one of those rare times I'm glad the tissues are just within arm's reach! 🍿👀
I have tears in my eyes. My ex best friend had read this book and gave it to me to read it, back in 2018. Now I see this trailer it gives me so much flashbacks of our good times together. Wish I could see this movie with her but too bad the friendship was toxic so we cut off contact. Still, I miss the good moments.
Hey Apart from the book, I'm concerned about your mental health right now. Are you doing okay without your bestfriend? Do you feel envious and angry sometimes? I went through something like that and I'm just devastated
Hey I went through the same thing, as much as you love them, sometimes you have to let go because it gets too painful, just like Lily had to. As Colleen said, "We have to break the pattern, or the pattern breaks us". I hope you're doing well. Sending you lots of love and courage. 🫶🏻🫶🏻❤❤
This Novel has a very special place in my heart. It is my first novel. A girl who i love recommend this book to me. She gave me her novel to me for me to read. I really love her. And i am so grateful that she recommended this book. I felt in love with it. She promised me that she will lend me the second part of the novel but sadly it never happen. I like her a lot and she likes me too. But i made some stupid choices and ended this beautiful bond between us. I was so scared to take the leap of faith. I ended us before we even got the chance to start, to grow together. And i deeply regret it.....I wish i could turn back time and change it. I miss YOU HIPPO... And I am sorry. I hope you are doing well. And I hope all the great things in life happen for YOU. You deserve it. I don't even know why i am sharing this here... its not like she gonna see this.
This not only a film, it's the reality of our life. This film is a lesson for us. I'm happy my wife watched this and opened her eyes. Now I am working on my mental health and anger manage.
omg it gets so much more real when you actually see the scene play out. when im reading the book im thinking how could she ever forgive him but just seeing the way he touches her and looks at her it hits so differently im so grateful i will be able to see this
I thank God every day he gave my mom strength enough to leave my father. He was the worst! I still remember the abuse as if it were yesterday. My heart is with any survivor of domestic abuse ❤
IM LITERALLY CRYING. THIS LOOKS SO GOOD AND SO TRUE TO THE BOOKS. HOW COULD ANYONE HAVE DOUBTED BLAKE AS LILY OR JUSTIN AS RYLE? They are so perfect for their respective role. I’m already in tears. FREAKING CANT WAIT.
very interesting since justin baldon NOT ONLY directed it, but apparently put himself in as the villain - in real life he is SUCH a gentleman, worships his wife.
You know what's weird? That she was on GG for six years and no one from that show has spoken up in support of her. It's radio silence. As for him, if this is who he is, where are his other victims? Wouldn't they have come forward by now? Or did he just wake up one day and decide to harass and victimize BL? It all feels off to me.
No spoilers! Just saw the film and I cried and cried!!!! You will LOVE Atlas! 💯💯It's really good, well done, and true to the book almost page by page! ❤❤❤❤
This was such a good movie.. I'm in law enforcement and seen the worse of the worse cases like these that ended up tragic with him killing her or her killing him domestic violence is not a game nor something you should take likely get out of this situation at the first sign of abuse... sadly to say that no one deserves to be treated like this everyone deserves to be loved respected and feel safe with their spouse/partner... always remember that if he hits you lie to you makes you feel unsafe in your own home this will definitely continue until you find the courage to say"Enough is Enough" because it starts with us it should end with us😊
@@MrJaimepayesit's a flex to have broken out of such a relationship and watching your abuser go to jail in front of your eyes. I'm not taking any opinion from a privileged well nourished neurotypical lecturing abused people on how they should behave
i watched the trailer a ton of times before i read the book, but i just finished the book tonight, and it was so amazing. this movie looks like it really is gonna honor it in my opinion. also, i hated knowing what ryle was going to do in the book, every time i picked it up to read before i went to sleep i actually got like physically nauseous, but the writing kept drawing me back. i've never read a book that pissed me off this much or intrigued me so much that i was thinking about it a lot throughout the past few days. the way the writing is so good too, it sucks you in and makes you love ryle, but then breaks your heart alongside lily's as she's experiencing what's really happening. i loved this book, and i'm really excited for the movie, i'm just sad how much it hurts to read it and watching it is going to hurt too:(
**CAUTION! ⚠️ This movie is not about flowers and a love story it is about domestic violence, don’t watch if you are triggered by this** Overall very good movie, brought me to tears 😢. Lily constantly lied and hid things from Ryle but when someone is scared, they think that by hiding the truth from the aggressor they are avoiding problems with them and that already is the start of a very toxic relationship from both sides. Yes I said it, because it’s true. Once you let it happen once, if it happens again it’s all on you. Don’t condone this kind of behavior no matter what gender/sex you are. DV is no joke, it could include physical abuse and verbal abuse. The aggressor will always apologize and say things will change but they never will..and the more you ignore/forgive the behavior the worse it gets. Respect yourselves, love yourselves and stand up for yourselves.
Right? Ryle showed his aggressive behavior on their first met, she knew better but still continue with it. Then she lied to him, she didn't tell him all the truth about her past until he found it himself, which made him more mad and showed his bad side. I would say she was the one who made her own situation like that. What he did was wrong, but she did him wrong too
I've been through this over and over and over with 4 boyfriends I'll never go through this AGAIN,I'm happy by myself NEVER again will I have a boyfriend I'm at peace now just being by myself ❤!! If your getting any type of abuse it'll NEVER get no better ever 💔you best pack up and RUN LIKE HELL 💪🏽, cause it will continue trust and believe me !!!!!😢RUN as fast as you can and don't look back 💪🏽!!!!!!!
If people think Blake is ugly, or anything bad.. they need a reality check! She’s absolutely hot 🥵 & sophisticated, funny, intelligent & talented! Plus an absolute fashionista 😍
This book was so good explaining how complicated being in love with an abusive husband can be.. moving from love to accepting it is not really love at all. Movie Looks so good!
Finally an honest film about brutal abusive relationships. This needs far more awareness!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 I’m wishing this opens new films, education, media to raise awareness. And the myth of “the weak female figure” and the “passionate but aggressive male” Very proud of the message: “we’re breaking the pattern because it won’t break us. No way!🙅♀️ Keep on doing more empowering Movies with strong female characters. We’re in 2024!!!!!
You think this will stop the abusers? What makes you think people aren't aware of this? Ot happens everyday, but here acting like it's all brand new. Wake up
I grew up seing my mother beat up by my old man when dispute comes between them, i could only listen the crying and screaming in pain of my mom and i couldn't do nothing becauss i wasn't strong enough as a 7 years old boy. Time flies, my mother was like Lily's mom, stayed with him for a better cause and it did stoped the dv when we get older, especially when i had the strength to grab my fathers arm and saying to him that u cant hurt us anymore becauss i can hurt u back, so pls stop. This haunted me as a traumatic feeling and sadly I become my father's dark shadow, some occasions I hurt my wife and i regret it enormously, she gave me a 2nd chance and i dont want to loose her or break this family apart now i have a daughter. I put my life in Gods path. I have never ever again put a hand to my partner nor my 10years old daugther, they're my soul and i rahter die protecting them at all cost. Everyone deserves also a second chance but if the relationship is so deeply toxic and jeopardize your life and making a child traumatic, its a call to end the pattern.
Just like Lily, I fell in love with Ryle as I was reading the book despite knowing his bad temper. Maybe that’s what love is, and there I understood why battered women are seen foolish in the society for staying in a toxic relationship. I cried a lot when Lily came to her senses and divorced Ryle. But then, I realized that breaking the cycle of abuse is the best move for a woman. Love alone is not enough in a marriage.
Same here, I went into reading the book completely blind. I felt like I went through all those emotions with her. Loving Ryle thinking he’s amazing and perfect and then things start happening and you feel the pain and confusion. You just go through it all with her character as you’re reading.
@@teach-a I knew a guy that looked like Ryle. Was very successful in his field. While he wasn’t never physical, he was emotionally abusive. I stayed for five years until I said I’m not doing this anymore when I got into weightlifting. And removed all those toxic people from my life. I’m much more better off and living for people who shown me real love.
Everyone saying Atlas is not that pretty as in the book but in my opinion he was a gentleman,sweet, understanding,caring,soft and loving in the book and he seems exactly the same here.
Ladies, in the book, there were so many red flags with Ryle that should've/could've been taken seriously and avoided the entire relationship to transpire. Thats what young girls and young women need to learn to pay attention to. Persistence isn't attractive, its stalky and controlling. Patience with you, allowing boundaries, and taking things ultra slow is valiant and respectful. Learn to recognize and appreciate those virtues in partners.
i'm a doctor and see a lot of victims of domestic violence. I am always surprised that a lot of them beg me to just treat their injuries and not report it anywhere. And unlike with child abuse, we can't report unless the victim wants us to. I am always so sad for these women, but feel helpless, especially when they start defending their partner. "don't say anything doc, he did not mean it".
Ok yall, this why you can't trust any random person saying things in comments... I'm a RN and I know you're lying about being a doctor because anyone who works in our field knows that we are mandated reporters and are legally REQUIRED to report ALL types of abuse to kids and adults that we see and know. I know no doctor who went through all that work to become one will risk losing their license to practice by hiding knowledge of abuse from authorities. Y'all need to stop playing pretend in the comments and just saying anything.
@@emilyk5718 it depends on the state, in New York we are not mandated to report domestic violence, trust me. Child abuse--yes, you're mandated to report it, but adult domestic violence, no. Perhaps you are not a real RN :)
My wife and I saw the movie last night. Neither of us read the book prior therefore we had no preconceived idea what Atlas, Ryle (or Lily) might look like. For us the casting was perfect. We would give the movie a 10 out of 10. Blake was stunning and did an especially amazing job with her role.
@@dinariddle1696 you realise that this movie is about abuse and how hard it is to leave someone that is hurting you, not about how the main characters look, right?
@@emmaw.1124 I read the book 4 years ago, so I’m fully aware of what it’s about. But here’s the thing, I can still call out the casting for being trash. if a movie is about abuse, it doesn't automatically means that casting should be completely irrelevant, according to your logic if the main character is supposed to be 23 but looks like they could be 50? It's totally fine to have someone who could be her mom playing her because the age of the characters doesn’t matter at all when dealing with such serious themes right? Lily’s supposed to be 23, not someone who looks like she could be Lily's mom. lol and don't get me started with Colleen Hoover’s masterpiece of romanticizing abuse. The book paints an abusive relationship as some kind of tragic, misunderstood love story. It’s like we’re supposed to feel sorry for the abuser because, poor him, he had a rough past. Because apparently, having a traumatic childhood gives you a free pass to be violent, so romantic, right? and she had the audacity to make this book into a coloring book for children. a coloring book about domestic abuse. Because what better way to introduce kids to the concept of healthy relationships than by having them color in scenes of romanticized violence? It’s like she’s trying to make abuse look fun. Twisted doesn’t even begin to cover it. But sure, let’s all focus on how I dare criticize the casting because that’s clearly the most important issue here.
It was so accurate!!! the shock after "the accidents", the fear that starts growing inside you and the fact that your truly self is not even in love with this abuser that you married. I admire the whole story and appreciate the wisdom to make her so brave and so wise to take the baby as the best example to make the abuser see the truth. Thank you for doing this movie, it'll be a big help to a lot of people struggling with this kind of violence. ♥
It’s beyond me how anyone thought those two weren’t suited to play Lily and Ryle. So much of this film looks like what I had pictured in my head after reading the book and I see that other people feel that way too. Must be a sign of great writing from Colleen and even better directing from Justin 😊
I agree, after seen these 2 actors I believe they made a great decision cause when I pictured Lilly and Ryle I pictured them older not in their mid 20’s or late w0’s whichever it was.
As someone who isn’t on social media a lot, I was so CONFUSED about why ppl were downvoting this man’s movie bc the film doesn’t condone DV (quite the opposite), and the trailer was not deceptive *AT ALL* & made it clear as day that the movie was about DV. And y’all are giving it rotten tomatoes. I’m kinda sick of cancel culture honestly. I can’t stand Blake but it’s not the director’s fault for not knowin she was an a**hole. Yall didn’t know either til this month! The entire production & everyone involved in the film gets to take the consequences for Blake’s stupidity? That don’t make sense. In the future, we won’t even know if a film is good or bad by the score cuz yall will tear a film to pieces bc some mean girl was on set. I kinda hate it here. I mean what social media is doing to the world. I’m not criticizing this UA-camr.
The fact that my tears ricochet was the song of the trailer just like the fan made booktrailer was omggg I got goosebumps !!! This song is SOOO accurate with the book
this looks way better than I was expecting. the flower shop is exactly what I envisioned. still not sold on the guy playing Atlas, but that's okay!
Agree but it's too late now lol I just hope that by the second movie they change his hair/wig it's so bad 😭😭
@@Melisasa9402 honestly IMO I don't think they would made the second movie, for me the second book is like a big epilogue, i'ts like with Me Before You the movie was perfect without the adaptation of the other books.
Ryle should’ve been Atlas and vice versa honestly.
The flower shop is exactly what I envisioned too!
Oh no I think Brandon will be great As Atlas - he is so good in 1923 !
The best words of this book is when Atlas says- "In the future... if by some miracle you ever find yourself in the position of fall in love again, fall in love with me. You're still my favourite person Lily". Best words ever
💀
This is the best line I have read.......
🤧
I hope he says that in the movie!!!!
@@dhruvishah7020He will cause this is one of the most liked Dialogue of the movie
15 seconds that all it takes, still remembering reading this n it just blew my brains off i cried like a baby.
Idk if it was a huge spoiler or a good trigger warning
i cried because I remember it from the book
@@alexaramirez4903 a bit of both...
@@alexaramirez4903I wouldn’t consider it a spoiler. The theme of the book is domestic violence and how it can happen to anyone.
Me too!!!!!
I watched my Mom go through abuse from my Dad. I was a child stepping in crying & yelling for him to stop hurting our mother, the one we loved soo much. He was so mean. She decided to leave. It was her decision and hers alone. As an adult, I do suffer from trauma & ptsd from my past, but I'm okay. At times, I'm okay. & other times I am not. I pray for anyone & everyone who is being abused or has been abused to find a way to leave, get out especially if children are involved. I'm an adult woman & still traumatized by my childhood. I wish things could have been better for me. I'm praying things get better for you!!
❤️ Sending hugs and love to you
Prayers for your healing. Check out The Body Revelation by Alisa Keeton it is wonderful
I had a similar childhood with both stepfather and our own father pulling shot guns out. When I fell in love and he began hitting me after 2 yrs..I believed he would change. He wanted to make a baby with me and I will never forget the tear that streamed down my face because I promised never to repeat history. After 5 years I told him he will never change and I was in love with a memory.. It broke my heart, I still love him but I don't want to be with him. A few years later I met A great man....he was iffy about kids...I was going to leave him because I wanted kids and marriage, finally a few years later he agreed it was time, I had issues concieving so I had surgery to correct my uterus. The Dr's made a mistake and pesrced it telling me I probably wont have children. I was devastated and hormonal after treatments. I was mad with him for making me wait...it took about 4-5 months for my hormones to settle. I was 40 and just started feeling happy again. We were seeing Chinese herbalists...Honestly I could love an adopted or foster child as though he/she were my own.. but I found a note that my man wrote to a 23yr old thai woman saying he was leaving me. He was gone that night...My whole life goal and courage to leave a man I loved in my 20's because my child deserved stability, finding Mr right, Mr Good daddy who was so beautiful with me..and I found myself at 40 and Barren...He told me he'd made a mistake, I fully owned that I was a hormonal psycho we were both guilty in a sense but here's the twist, the 23yr old was pregnant a month after meeting him. Im not putting him down, he treated me better than any man in my life. My hormones made me jealous and nasty...24/7 yet no one was saying to him...Hey remember she's not always like that...Anyway, he's married 2 kids I'm now 58 and have kept my heart very guarded. What I would do to have a child. Choices huh?
I couldnt trick a man into pregnancy because I wanted my child to know that his or her daddy wanted them. I was in foster care a couple of years and given away a lot. As well as the physical and traumatic abuse. So now you see why I balled when she asked for the divorce in the most compassionate realistic manner. What a movie
@@NatalieAnne22 I am so sorry this happened to you. Prayers that you don't get hurt like that again. Keep fighting ❤
all the feels from reading the book came back especially that last part of “if one day you had a daughter, what would you say to her?” ima cry in the theater!
Me too!! I imagined myself bawling as soon as I saw that part 😭😂
AHHH YESSSS
hi do u have the book in pdf or epub format ???
@@widedPanda9797I mean, if you don’t have the book, try using internet archive
but doesn't she ask that after she gives birth in the book, here she says if, I think they are changing Emma's plotline in the movie🥺
i screamed when my tears ricochet started to play
Omg me too!! lol
It sounds revamped also. Or is it just me?
Same!!
Same !!!
This song is literally for this ! ❤
"Fifteen seconds. That’s all it takes to completely change everything about a person. Fifteen seconds that we’ll never get back." This line always hits hard🥺🥺
Could you please tell what happened in these 15 sec?
@@olgagruzkova3243 He hurts her for the first time I believe. In the book, if I remember correctly, he throws a glass at her in the kitchen which brakes in her face. But it is a little while ago that I read it haha so what exactly happens could be a bit different. :)
@@anoukspan9514 yes u r right 👍🏻
Only if I could change those fifteen seconds 🥲🥲
it still remind me reading that lines with tears in my eyes!!
When I saw this movie last week, I cried so, so much! I went through this “almost” exact situation. There were signs just like Lilly went through, (I was only 19 years old) but I stayed because he always came back apologizing and I stupid as I was gave in. Until after 10 years and 2 children, I finally divorced him. He he went to the school where I was a teacher and my 2 elementary children studied there. He came with a concealed gun, (he was a policeman) he stood at the door of my classroom (thank goodness there were no students at the moment) showed me the gun and told me that he loved me and that if I didn’t leave with him at that moment he was going to kill me! I got the courage to sweet talk him and saying, yes! As soon as I got out of the door and walk a few steps, he looked the other way a minute, I ran as I could and screamed as a maniac to alert everyone! I ran to the principals office, hid under the principles desk and screamed to call 911 because I was going to be killed by my ex-husband! That same afternoon the police arrested him.
Long story short, I was transferred to another school district with my kids. This “Ryle” was worse! After many years, he remarried 4 times, poisoned my kids, saying that it was my fault that he wasn’t living with him. Both of them (a son and a daughter) were traumatized and ultimately and tragically passed away. I had to undergo Psychological treatment for all the traumatic experiences I went through and 15 years later, I found my Atlas! He is such an extraordinary and loving husband. He has been by my side ever since. I am 65 years old and been married for 23 happy and peaceful years. ♥️🙏🏼
So many people who’ve known me for so many years have told me to write about it, but never did.
You really need to write about it and get it published. Glad you found a good guy.
@@tanyagomez9821 Thank you so much. Maybe I will 😌… 💕
You are so brave person,I wish all best for you .
So happy for you 🙏🤍🤍 one choice may lead us to hell , another one may lead us to heaven !
OMG...No-one should go through what you did. I agree with tanyag....who said : you need to write about this. You should write a book titled "If you are in an abusive relationship, you must read this"!!! Maybe you can stop someone from making a similar regretful choice like you did. Have a great 'rest of your life'!!♥
PSA: if he hits you once, it’ll happen again. Leave. Don’t look back. You can find someone better, someone who actually loves you and treats you with respect.
PSA: Your PSA should read "If he or she hits you once..."
“But i know deep down he still loves me” ahh 😂
@@needsmoreclipping do you want me to add in the other pronouns too? Y’all get the idea. 😂
@@sarahe397other pronouns?
@@needsmoreclippingget therapy please
YASSSSSSSSS, the flower shop is exactly how I pictured it
Exactly 😢 except for Ryle’s sister!!!!
@@camilavillalba2746 yeahh idk I kind of pictured her looking differently, and I pictured Atlas looking different too.
RIGHT??? looks EXACTLY like what I imagined when reading the book, the apartment also looks exactly how I pictured it
@@ashleyeatmon5709I thought her hair would be more red and straight, kinda like an older amybeth mcnulty
@@ashleyeatmon5709atlas for me was basically shawn mendes with blue eyes😂
"even on my worst day did i deserve babe all the hell you gave me? cause i loved you i swear i loved you till my dying day" my tears ricochet is such a good choice for this movie and lily's story and i just love it already
That's exactly what I thought when I heard it and also the part "and I can go anywhere I want, anywhere I want, just not home" matches so well and immediately made me think of lily in the book
I agree it really is!
I can't listen to these lyrics without tearing up... damn
“We break the pattern or the pattern breaks us” is such a telling phrase in my own life
Break it
It's so sad that the ATLAS looks nothing like what I imagined 😭😭😭
For me it's Atlas and Ryle lol
@@palesamaphisa1953 Ryle's at least close but ATLAS is nowhere near my vision!like where's the blue eyes!!!:(
@@ayaanahad4664 he looks good even without blue eyes
I thought Moritz Hau would be playing Atlas!He was perfect and all over Instagram!🙂
Yessss
I feel like I've already seen the entire movie from this trailer
So weird! Almost like there’s a book that tells the whole story, too!! Shoot!! 🙄
@@ArloKnudsenFitthis made me laugh lol
@@ArloKnudsenFit I haven't read the book...obviously. I just think the trailer is poorly done. Doesn't make me want to see this movie personally. And that's ok.
No I dont think so
@user-gy6cw4jp2p I argee, but then again, do I really wanna watch a colleen hoover movie?
This is the exact reason I left my daughter's father at 8 months pregnant. I refused to have her grow up thinking it was ok or acceptable for a man to treat a woman in any way less than I want her to be treated. I will always love him, but my daughter and her best interest will always be my #1 priority.
You Lady, are a wonderful mother.
i’m glad some of the comments have sense enough to realize the guy is not someone you WANT to date
Would you have left him, if it wasn’t for your daughter. Why not make YOU a priority and do what’s best for YOU? How do you even love a man that is abusive? Any shred of love I have for a man that’s an inch abusive would have me head for the door.
I know it isn’t easy leaving but wish every women realised that an abusive man does not love you.. love isn’t abusive!
I'm so sorry you were treated like that ☹️
Psalms 34:18-19 NASB1995
[18] The Lord is near to the brokenhearted And saves those who are crushed in spirit. [19] Many are the afflictions of the righteous, But the Lord delivers him out of them all.
Proverbs 18:22 (NIV)
“He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the Lord."
Ephesians 5:33 (NIV)
“However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband."
Proverbs 19:14 (NIV)
“Houses and wealth are inherited from parents, but a prudent wife is from the Lord."
You did well! My dad was a very cruel/aggressive man. He had 2 daughters: peaceful me and a perennially angry sister. The sister's very cruel and evil and she's always been this way. You don't want it to turn generational, you wanna cut the weeds before they spread where the healthy plants are. Never regret your decision, it was the best thing you've ever done in this type of situation! We were made to be healthy from a psychological POV, our neurotransmitters and hormones tell us so. Constant aggression isn't necessary, peace of mind is!
I just finished the first book. My oldest daughter sent the first and second books to me. I had no idea what it was about but she said "Mom, this book reminds me of you. Please read it"
Can I tell you how many times I cried while reading this and hearing her say that kept playing in my head. She was 8 and her brother 6 when I left their Dad, she is now 21 and Marine overseas and my son just turned 19. She seen him hurt me so many times. I can't stop thinking what that must have been like for her.
I remain single to this day.
My heart still breaks for their trauma.
Wait, there is a 2nd book?
Single as in u never done it with any other,since?coz I don't really understand so-called first world assumption of being single;they could be with multiple 24/7,365 and still claim to be single
Yes.. its called it starts with us... book about Atlas. The author printed the title inside her book...it ends with us. After i read that ill read atlas book. From the library @@Stressed_PhD_0831
@@Stressed_PhD_0831yes... atlas story it starts with us
@taniawilliams7138 I just ordered the book, thank you!!! I can't wait to read it!
the rooftop, the flowershop, and the old house r exactly how i pictured it
Istg SAME
Yeah Everything is the same that's how we imagined when we were reading the book.
Frr
the restaurant!
Just what I imagined in my mind too when I read the book!
The flower shop is more beautiful than i imagined while reading" IT ENDS WITH US "❤
Some justice has been done here
Atlas- "You can stop swimming now, Lily. We finally reached the shore."
😭😭😭😭😭😭............😭 I teared up
stop
😭
deaddddd
Bro the last lines 😢
I have ALOT of respect for women who leave their abusive boyfriends/husbands. It does not mean they love them any less but they value their self worth so much more
Hi, thanks for that respect. Sometimes it takes us a loooong time. But the self-worth DOES kick in for many, with great support, and Spiritual attunement, maybe we can end it in our own family lines.
Imagine Blake saying “I know a girl who
has the perfect song for this”
Was bout Write the same😊
Now, imagine Taylor with the book in her hand😶
Am I the only one that thinks that this trailer spoils too much?
@@wiktoriaskarbek8128 I think it’s because most people have read the book already
Swiftie will give Blake anything she wants.
Man this is relatable. I didn't wanna be like my mom or anyone so I walked away. My ex started to abuse me after we had two sons. I didn't want my sons around him or be raised it's ok to abuse women. So I took them left and walked away forever. They were both under 4. I said nope my sons will come first. Raised them alone ever since now my oldest is about to start college and my youngest is about to start high school. My oldest barely remembers anything that happened and he made a speech to me at his high school graduation. He said Mom, you will always be the strongest women I know. Worked two jobs while doing college online and having 7 autoimmune diseases and dying. I never seen the strength and will to live so hard til I saw you raise us. You always taught us our voice matters but say how you feel respectfully, you taught me to never give up on your dreams bc everything is possible. Even when you were in the hospital many times you read to us on video chat and stayed on video til we fell a sleep. Then you video chatted us while we were getting ready for school and made sure we got on the bus safely. You showed me the power of love. Mom, your an incredible mother and I hope I'm even just half the person you are. Like you always said ride or die three musketeers for life. Btw most parents were in tears. He said I will make you proud every day and I'm honored to be your son. Thank you for showing us no matter if you have just you, if you have love, power, respect and loyalty you can battle the world to make your dreams come true. He walked down and hugged me and whispered thank you! Luckily the school recorded it and I have that amazing speech forever.
@@HeatherBDentureDiVa Beautiful you and your family ❤
I am crying just by reading this. Can’t even imagine how much you have suffered. More power and happiness to you🫶🏻
7 autoimmune diseases? Is this real lol?
You are so Blessed to have a Son acknowledge that! Best Wishes to you all
Oh my gosh....not me over here crying for a complete stranger. Your children are blessed to have you...and your love and legacy lives on with them and through them. 💕 Thank you for sharing that with us.
OMG MY TEARS RICOCHET ?????
Yes dear
like wth right!!!!!!!!!
IT'S PERFECTT
Of course the theme song is TS! YES! ✨
ITS THE PERFECT SONG!
Thats not love, thats lust, obsession, drama. Atlas is what real love is, stable, reliable, safe and secure, not rollacoaster of emotions. Pick the stable guy over the bad boy, you will be better off in a long run.
what are you on about
The majority of women chase the top 1% of men, or dysfunctional bad men who they are attracted to. While ignoring nearly all good typical men because they arent Chads look wise or money wise.
They put men who do treat them good emotionally in the friend zone.
Then those same women make TikToks and ask, "Where have all the good men gone?"
Agreed ❤
He was good tho, until they both started provoking him, he was straightforward and honest, she's the one who had an ex come back into her life and even harassed the current bf
I haven't read the book but from what I recall in the movie, he actually hurt her before he even knew he was in the same city in them. The first time Atlas and Ryle met in the movie was when Lily had the scar and Atlas set her aside to ask what happened and deduced Ryle had harmed her... Maybe the book is different but partners shouldn't be harming them even if there are other people "seemingly" in the picture @@pslay9017
Blake Lively looks so beautiful in It Ends With Us!
Ryan Reynolds : "Come again."
wow. just wow.
She looks beautiful in anything
@@PinAda92 She looks gorgeous as Emily in
A Simple Favor 2!
She is famous but she still does hot scene
I haven't thought about it in years but my first grown up adult relationship when i was 21 years old was with a man who would blow up on me and physically threaten me, and i would leave. He would beg and plead for forgiveness and swear to never do it again. I'd come back 2 weeks later and within a month he would do it again. Back and forth for a year. The day he pulled his gun out and held me down i swore that if i got out of that house alive I'd never see him again. And i kept that promise. I didn't go back to gather my things. I got away with a small bag of stuff and my life. I moved to another city for 6 months and then another state. He found me on social media a couple years ago and acted like nothing ever happened.
wow good for you, that's brave and also lucky you got away
I'm glad you got away. This movie doesn't depict the narcissist mind games that make up the emotional and mental abuse. My ex also would act like yours, never admit any wrongdoing or would be blame me. This is a good movie but a guy like that would fk with her emotionally and mentally as well so a bit unrealistic for us that have experienced it ourselves... good movie though
My guy is an Altus and I’m happy I was smart
@@brandinshaeffer8970 I’m sorry this happened to you. It’s been nine years today is that anniversary of me being thrown through a closed accordion like closet and well I whispered Jesus in my head because I couldn’t speak and was losing consciousness from his hands attempting to brake my hyoid bone in my neck which is the windpipe and my hands were on his hands and the next moment after speaking the prayer of just Jesus’s name, my ex fiancé who was a sight of 400ish pounds and Im was 200lbs at the time, was off of me quicker than the struggling to breathe alone was normally. I knew it was Jesus that saved me that second I spoke his name. I pray for you and your family. Joy and happiness and good heath and good discernment.
I can relate. Almost the same thing happened to me at age 21. Except that he was going to knife me. He went into the bathroom and an angel told me where the knife was. I got it and quickly hid it. When he came out, he grabbed for the knife but it wasn't there. I think he thought I was going to use it on him so he became calm and sweet. Finally, we slept. In the morning after he left for work, I packed up my things. I left him the TV my dad gave us and one spoon, one knife, one fork, one plate one bowl one glass, and one cup. Then I fled in my car to my aunt and uncle's house.
I never saw him again and I was fortunately to work for a lawyer who gave us a no contest divorce. Whew, I am lucky to still have my life. An angel saved me. God is good. That was over 50 years ago.
I can imagine Blake suggesting my tears ricochet to this movie
There is a fake trailer here on youtube from 2 years ago, with the same song. I guess they saw this and thought the song sounds good for the trailer.
@@Dany0926Um..this is from Sony pictures and was released 2 weeks before it's real
@@Dany0926actually blake is best friend of Taylor so that’s why
@@Dany0926 In which trailer?
@@Andrew-iu3ef Okay, i guess just posting the link does not work, because i can't see my comment. The Video is called "It Ends With Us (Book Trailer)". It is from XxxXDream and has 1,5 Million Views.
To all the women watching this who’ve been abused by their partners and had the courage to leave I see you , I am you. To everyone else the ones who are still holding on the ones who supported us those who hold space for us I see you too, I see all of you.
I left , it’s been 3 years. When I made space , I met the love of my life and only now at the age of 31 do I know what a man should be. I’m just about a published author because his male energy has further enhanced my female energy and has opened up my creativity beyond. Thank you me, thank you universe thanks to my love thanks to all of you 💚
I'm so happy for you for getting away from your abuser and finding someone who treats you with respect and love the way everyone should treat their partner. I did have an ex back in highschool who was verbally and physically abusive also for three years but we are survivors. I have met someone too who treats me the way I want to be treated and I didn't even know a man so kind and loving existed. But in literally a week we are hitting our four year anniversary. To love girl. I am happy to know you are doing better and happier because I feel for you. You deserve to be treated right. Enjoy and I wish you both a beautiful happy future ahead 😊
@@jessicab1919 beautiful words thank you. I don’t know you but I’m proud of you and I’m happy for you , happiness and love are our birthrights. 💚
U make me cry 😢
That was beautiful and I am proud of you and your brave, loving heart. Peace and love, my friend ❤
Mejor imposible la explicación 👏
the flower shop is SO pretty and i love blake as lily but i think the trailer spoiled a lot!! i was sooo shocked reading the book and i feel like a lot of things got revealed already
Fr, like Atlas coming back, and Ryle being abusive
I think for the people who don't know about the book its a good trailer since they don't know what's really going on while on the otherhand for the readers, its also a good trailer since they're showing that they didn't change the story and it makes us reminisce the details
@@aeiou7465exactly
Like the other person said, you probably feel that way because you’ve already read the book. For someone like me who hasn’t, all of that just felt like detailed context and I don’t actually know what’s important to the plot etc to the point where it feels like a spoiler.
agree that was my thought!! like they should have left it like its a love story and she is torn between her past and her present love
“You just tripped” omg NOO 😭😭😭
Ikr
I know answering could spoil the book for me, but does the scene in question appear in it? Also, does Ryle's statement, "You just tripped," imply that he was to blame for her hospitalization? Is he physically hurting her and she refuses to leave him? Giving me information is fine. I will still read the book and watch the movie because I adore the cast. I am just wondering how that entire scenario revolves around his line.
@@LM_Authoryep, ryle does physically hurt lilly, but she kept gaslighting herself that it was just instinct
@@LM_Authorthe whole book does not revolve around this line only, there are more scenes that makes up the whole story and its characters! You didn't spoil it for yourself! You're still missing A LOT ! ❤❤
I see. Although, this one line does say a lot about what the FMC is facing. It's an important line.
I just watched the movie and I am moved to tears. My heart breaks for all parties involved. Ryle was reacting from a place of hurt from childhood trauma and was afraid to love…. He deserves to be loved regardless and to learn how to cherish it and that’s what Lily taught him by having that relationship with him. She was beautiful. She too had a childhood trauma but she made the difference by not being afraid to love. They were amazing together. But Atlas was better. He was like a flower that bloomed out of his childhood trauma just like Lily. I hope Ryle found love…. I wished I had seen that in the end too.
The story made me cry remembering my childhood and my trauma and it lets me see that I am afraid to love again…. The question is, will I take that pain and harm myself and others, or will I fuel it into true love and make a difference from my heart to others? God is love. Teach us Lord 🙏🏼🥹❤️
MY TEARS RICOCHET IS PERFECT FOR THIS OH MY GOD
The ending line on the trailer...that got me..I went no contact with my family because of years of abuse...they tried to insist they needed to babysit my infant daughter at the time..that's what finally pushed me. I broke that pattern by telling them hell NO
Okay but Jenny Slate as Allysa is actually perfect casting tho????? Her quirkiness and that voice just matched the Allysa i had in mind while reading the book
She’s the perfect Allysa!
YES YES YESSSS couldn’t agree more!
agreed
Totally!
She was so good, also isnt she the voice for mayor bellweather in the film zootopia 😊
It ends with a Lawsuit💀
i see the “where’d you get this magnet, Lily?” scene 😭😭 poor gurl
my heart actually dropped when I read it
What happens?
@@Bedheadboredomit's been a while since I read it, but if I remember correctly she got the magnet from atlas/it's connected to atlas in some way and ryle gets jealous and hits her/pushes her something like that
@ephemeraldbd he reads all the Lily's journals & gets to know about magnet & BIB's meaning.. so he tries to force himself on her.. & she gets badly injured.. & then gets to know that she is pregnant with emmy
@@amishanair5597 oh no that's even worse💔
“We break the pattern or the pattern breaks us.” Powerful words and very perceptive of the impact and brevity of domestic and emotional abuse on one’s life.
IT LITERALLY HOW I IMAGINED THE FLOWER SHOP, THE PENTHOUSE, THE RESTAURANT, OMGGGGG
RIGHTTT
I was in a very abusive relationship for 3 years thank God he left me. He found someone and got her pregnant while we were engaged. I was heartbroken but I was free! No longer had to fear his hands.
I've never particularly rated Blake as an actress but it looks like she's doing a stellar job here. That "what would you say to her?" gave me chills.
I haven't ever read this, so I have no knowledge of this story, but if you haven't seen Age of Adeline with Blake Lively, do see it. You will like her.
@@cjms812💯
Well did u watch gossip girl?
Watch the "Age of Adeline...
I’m pregnant with my first child, a daughter. That line made me cry as I imagined how I would feel one day if someone she loved was hurting her. I will never let that be her model of love. My parents had a violent relationship that I witnessed… it ends with me.
Wait why does it actually look so good😭
right 😭 that’s what i said
My thoughts exactly! The places they chose are exactly like i imagined!
Editing
It looks so good, I’m giving it a chance
😕
Anyone else feeling that intense mix of nostalgia and heartache just from the trailer? 😢 Can't wait to see how they've brought Lily's journey to life. This is one of those rare times I'm glad the tissues are just within arm's reach! 🍿👀
How can someone show this trailer and say "grab your friends, WEAR YOUR FLORALS" omg
yep, thats her true self
I have tears in my eyes. My ex best friend had read this book and gave it to me to read it, back in 2018. Now I see this trailer it gives me so much flashbacks of our good times together. Wish I could see this movie with her but too bad the friendship was toxic so we cut off contact. Still, I miss the good moments.
Hey
Apart from the book, I'm concerned about your mental health right now. Are you doing okay without your bestfriend?
Do you feel envious and angry sometimes?
I went through something like that and I'm just devastated
I have the same exact feeling.
Hey
I went through the same thing, as much as you love them, sometimes you have to let go because it gets too painful, just like Lily had to. As Colleen said, "We have to break the pattern, or the pattern breaks us". I hope you're doing well. Sending you lots of love and courage. 🫶🏻🫶🏻❤❤
@@nayantasharma720 thank you for your kind words and yes you are totally right 💗 I am doing well luckily. Sending you love as well 🫶🏻
@@fifieejust wanna say the same thing hapoened with me too exact same and youre not alone ❤
This Novel has a very special place in my heart. It is my first novel. A girl who i love recommend this book to me. She gave me her novel to me for me to read. I really love her. And i am so grateful that she recommended this book. I felt in love with it. She promised me that she will lend me the second part of the novel but sadly it never happen. I like her a lot and she likes me too. But i made some stupid choices and ended this beautiful bond between us. I was so scared to take the leap of faith. I ended us before we even got the chance to start, to grow together. And i deeply regret it.....I wish i could turn back time and change it.
I miss YOU HIPPO...
And I am sorry.
I hope you are doing well. And I hope all the great things in life happen for YOU. You deserve it.
I don't even know why i am sharing this here... its not like she gonna see this.
You also deserve being happy
tell her this.
It is never too late to reconnect. Unless she passed away. Then that would be different.
@@magnoliaflower3310 i agree!
I hope she sees it 😊
The line-`As hard as this choice is we break the pattern or the pattern breaks us" Got my heart❤🥺
What pattern they are talking about ? Is this a movie on childfree?
This not only a film, it's the reality of our life. This film is a lesson for us. I'm happy my wife watched this and opened her eyes. Now I am working on my mental health and anger manage.
May God keep you in your healing journey
Thank you, i appriciate it❤@@NBC09
Dear Ellen,
We're going to be a movie. And deep inside I hope Ryle is not the villian...
"For Better , For Worse...✨"
Underrated-- haha!
Just wow!
HOW was he not supposed to be the villain when he was the bad one 💀
I’m screaming
Gurl you should be an author I mean WOW
omg it gets so much more real when you actually see the scene play out. when im reading the book im thinking how could she ever forgive him but just seeing the way he touches her and looks at her it hits so differently im so grateful i will be able to see this
I thank God every day he gave my mom strength enough to leave my father. He was the worst! I still remember the abuse as if it were yesterday. My heart is with any survivor of domestic abuse ❤
Can Sony please release the director's cut? Would love to see it! Thanks!!
“None of this is your fault” the way I let out a breath & tears came down… never knew I needed to hear those words.
IM LITERALLY CRYING. THIS LOOKS SO GOOD AND SO TRUE TO THE BOOKS. HOW COULD ANYONE HAVE DOUBTED BLAKE AS LILY OR JUSTIN AS RYLE? They are so perfect for their respective role. I’m already in tears. FREAKING CANT WAIT.
Here to say I never doubted them! I knew they would do great
@@squigley4809same!!
very interesting since justin baldon NOT ONLY directed it, but apparently put himself in as the villain - in real life he is SUCH a gentleman, worships his wife.
He should've been the good guy. He's insanely handsome
His wife worship is not necessarily the healthiest thing. He admitted himself that she felt suffocated at first and that he was very codependent.
@@juliajulie8500 that's scary
He also speaks out a lot about toxic masculinity, men bettering themselves and for victims.
@@strawberryfox8819 Ah, "bettering"....at first I read that has "battering", as in "men battering themselves:". That can't be healthy.
You know what's weird? That she was on GG for six years and no one from that show has spoken up in support of her. It's radio silence. As for him, if this is who he is, where are his other victims? Wouldn't they have come forward by now? Or did he just wake up one day and decide to harass and victimize BL? It all feels off to me.
2:11 "We break the pattern or the pattern breaks us."
The fact that Justin Baldoni directed this and is Playing Ryle is the most Justin Baldoni thing he did
LMAOO
100%. I’m glad it’s him.
And apparently he was a total creep during the whole thing and Blake is suing him for it
No spoilers! Just saw the film and I cried and cried!!!! You will LOVE Atlas! 💯💯It's really good, well done, and true to the book almost page by page! ❤❤❤❤
I AM BLOWN AWAY..BEEN WAITING FOR THIS FOR SO LONG..I LOVE THE BOOK.. CANT WAIT FOR THE MOVIE🥹😭
"We break the pattern, or the pattern breaks us." Now that is powerful.
I know, right? I almost shit myself from how powerful it was. Tears galore.
"Cycles exist because theyre excruciating to break" I think that was the original line in the book
IM LITERALLY LITERALLY LITERALLY SO EXCITED
This was such a good movie.. I'm in law enforcement and seen the worse of the worse cases like these that ended up tragic with him killing her or her killing him domestic violence is not a game nor something you should take likely get out of this situation at the first sign of abuse... sadly to say that no one deserves to be treated like this everyone deserves to be loved respected and feel safe with their spouse/partner... always remember that if he hits you lie to you makes you feel unsafe in your own home this will definitely continue until you find the courage to say"Enough is Enough" because it starts with us it should end with us😊
Well said officer
I just love when Justin acts, he's always brilliant..
i've re-rewatched this trailer for an unhealthy amount of times now... i can't wait for august 9th 😫
Same I’ve been watching every day and will still do that until the release date. It looks really good and has potential.
"if you ever find yourself in a position to love somebody again, just fall in love with me." such a beautiful story. ❤🔥
My husband was just sentenced to five years-to-life. I have two daughters. It ends here.
Amen sis ❤
@@malakamir-uf1bdliterally
Dv@@malakamir-uf1bd
Weird flex
@@MrJaimepayesit's a flex to have broken out of such a relationship and watching your abuser go to jail in front of your eyes. I'm not taking any opinion from a privileged well nourished neurotypical lecturing abused people on how they should behave
i watched the trailer a ton of times before i read the book, but i just finished the book tonight, and it was so amazing. this movie looks like it really is gonna honor it in my opinion. also, i hated knowing what ryle was going to do in the book, every time i picked it up to read before i went to sleep i actually got like physically nauseous, but the writing kept drawing me back. i've never read a book that pissed me off this much or intrigued me so much that i was thinking about it a lot throughout the past few days. the way the writing is so good too, it sucks you in and makes you love ryle, but then breaks your heart alongside lily's as she's experiencing what's really happening. i loved this book, and i'm really excited for the movie, i'm just sad how much it hurts to read it and watching it is going to hurt too:(
Read Verity 💀
The fact that it’s “my tears ricochet “ in the background and Blake is starring in it makes it so exciting
**CAUTION! ⚠️ This movie is not about flowers and a love story it is about domestic violence, don’t watch if you are triggered by this**
Overall very good movie, brought me to tears 😢. Lily constantly lied and hid things from Ryle but when someone is scared, they think that by hiding the truth from the aggressor they are avoiding problems with them and that already is the start of a very toxic relationship from both sides. Yes I said it, because it’s true. Once you let it happen once, if it happens again it’s all on you. Don’t condone this kind of behavior no matter what gender/sex you are.
DV is no joke, it could include physical abuse and verbal abuse. The aggressor will always apologize and say things will change but they never will..and the more you ignore/forgive the behavior the worse it gets. Respect yourselves, love yourselves and stand up for yourselves.
Thank you
Right? Ryle showed his aggressive behavior on their first met, she knew better but still continue with it. Then she lied to him, she didn't tell him all the truth about her past until he found it himself, which made him more mad and showed his bad side. I would say she was the one who made her own situation like that. What he did was wrong, but she did him wrong too
@@diane.8071 exactly
I've been through this over and over and over with 4 boyfriends I'll never go through this AGAIN,I'm happy by myself NEVER again will I have a boyfriend I'm at peace now just being by myself ❤!! If your getting any type of abuse it'll NEVER get no better ever 💔you best pack up and RUN LIKE HELL 💪🏽, cause it will continue trust and believe me !!!!!😢RUN as fast as you can and don't look back 💪🏽!!!!!!!
Blake is literally the most beautiful woman in the world !
Nope, Alexandra Daddario
@@venkatsarma007 lmao ew
I can't stand her at all!! But I am mesmerized by Blake. Seriously she makes it look so effortless @@venkatsarma007
I think she is definitely the most beautiful, especially after seeing her in "The Age Of Adeline"
If people think Blake is ugly, or anything bad.. they need a reality check!
She’s absolutely hot 🥵 & sophisticated, funny, intelligent & talented! Plus an absolute fashionista 😍
It is one of my favourite novel...
I cried when Lily and Ryle talked about her daughter in the end...
Lily said to her daughter "It's end with us".
dude. spoiler. uncool.
It’s not a novel pls it’s watt pad fiction at best💀💀💀
@zswift1262 I hope the movie is better
You need to read actual novel
Huge Spoiler
The way I listened to my tears ricochet while reading the book too🥲🥲🥲
This trailer is literally the whole movie, just all the most dramatic scenes, still watched it.
NOOOO! THEY GOT MY MAN RAFAEL BEING ABUSIVE! 😭😭
Lol 😂
I know!!!! He's too hot and kind for it. I wish he was the good guy
Hahahaha i loved Rafael
He's also the director
This book was so good explaining how complicated being in love with an abusive husband can be.. moving from love to accepting it is not really love at all. Movie Looks so good!
Finally an honest film about brutal abusive relationships. This needs far more awareness!! 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻
I’m wishing this opens new films, education, media to raise awareness. And the myth of “the weak female figure” and the “passionate but aggressive male”
Very proud of the message: “we’re breaking the pattern because it won’t break us. No way!🙅♀️
Keep on doing more empowering
Movies with strong female characters. We’re in 2024!!!!!
You think this will stop the abusers? What makes you think people aren't aware of this? Ot happens everyday, but here acting like it's all brand new. Wake up
I grew up seing my mother beat up by my old man when dispute comes between them, i could only listen the crying and screaming in pain of my mom and i couldn't do nothing becauss i wasn't strong enough as a 7 years old boy. Time flies, my mother was like Lily's mom, stayed with him for a better cause and it did stoped the dv when we get older, especially when i had the strength to grab my fathers arm and saying to him that u cant hurt us anymore becauss i can hurt u back, so pls stop. This haunted me as a traumatic feeling and sadly I become my father's dark shadow, some occasions I hurt my wife and i regret it enormously, she gave me a 2nd chance and i dont want to loose her or break this family apart now i have a daughter. I put my life in Gods path. I have never ever again put a hand to my partner nor my 10years old daugther, they're my soul and i rahter die protecting them at all cost. Everyone deserves also a second chance but if the relationship is so deeply toxic and jeopardize your life and making a child traumatic, its a call to end the pattern.
0:41 Looks Like the US Elias Embarek 😂😂😂
Just like Lily, I fell in love with Ryle as I was reading the book despite knowing his bad temper. Maybe that’s what love is, and there I understood why battered women are seen foolish in the society for staying in a toxic relationship. I cried a lot when Lily came to her senses and divorced Ryle. But then, I realized that breaking the cycle of abuse is the best move for a woman. Love alone is not enough in a marriage.
Same here, I went into reading the book completely blind. I felt like I went through all those emotions with her. Loving Ryle thinking he’s amazing and perfect and then things start happening and you feel the pain and confusion. You just go through it all with her character as you’re reading.
@@arim.3304Who tf is ryle
@@teach-a I knew a guy that looked like Ryle. Was very successful in his field. While he wasn’t never physical, he was emotionally abusive. I stayed for five years until I said I’m not doing this anymore when I got into weightlifting. And removed all those toxic people from my life. I’m much more better off and living for people who shown me real love.
@@lauralarrabee7870you're really brave. 🙌
@@gggggg91737Lily's husband who abuses her. (Justin Baldoni's character)
Everyone saying Atlas is not that pretty as in the book but in my opinion he was a gentleman,sweet, understanding,caring,soft and loving in the book and he seems exactly the same here.
Ladies, in the book, there were so many red flags with Ryle that should've/could've been taken seriously and avoided the entire relationship to transpire. Thats what young girls and young women need to learn to pay attention to. Persistence isn't attractive, its stalky and controlling. Patience with you, allowing boundaries, and taking things ultra slow is valiant and respectful. Learn to recognize and appreciate those virtues in partners.
When i recognised that " my tears ricochet" is playing dude 😭✨✨
Yeaahhhh😭😭
My Tears Ricochet playing in the trailer gave me chills! Can't wait for this movie!
The film is going to be better than I imagined, I think I'm going to cry a lot 😭
I hope celebrity worship ends with Blake
when taylor swift's song just fit seamlessly with the movie trailer had me so emotional!!! the trailer looks great
Why am I OBSESSED. Trailer is nothing without the song MY TEARS RICOCHET
I HAVE NO WORDS. HOW COULD ANYONE HAVE DOUBTED THEM
Right!!!
i'm a doctor and see a lot of victims of domestic violence. I am always surprised that a lot of them beg me to just treat their injuries and not report it anywhere. And unlike with child abuse, we can't report unless the victim wants us to. I am always so sad for these women, but feel helpless, especially when they start defending their partner. "don't say anything doc, he did not mean it".
Ok yall, this why you can't trust any random person saying things in comments...
I'm a RN and I know you're lying about being a doctor because anyone who works in our field knows that we are mandated reporters and are legally REQUIRED to report ALL types of abuse to kids and adults that we see and know.
I know no doctor who went through all that work to become one will risk losing their license to practice by hiding knowledge of abuse from authorities. Y'all need to stop playing pretend in the comments and just saying anything.
@@emilyk5718 it depends on the state, in New York we are not mandated to report domestic violence, trust me. Child abuse--yes, you're mandated to report it, but adult domestic violence, no. Perhaps you are not a real RN :)
Who choose those men?
@@emilyk5718 Doctor or not doctor. He/she reports spousal abuse, how do they protect themselves from a loony spouse who may come after them?
That’s my friend Justin! So proud of him. What a career he’s having. Keep up the great work bro!
Yeah sure, he's my friend as well. Lol
@ Haha! Seriously he is. Played on my soccer team in Los Angeles. Great dude.
@@1CRU1 this aged like rotten milk
@ I hope everything she is saying is a lie. We will find out the truth soon.
He tried to blackmail her and even put her down... what kind of actor and director is that?
My wife and I saw the movie last night. Neither of us read the book prior therefore we had no preconceived idea what Atlas, Ryle (or Lily) might look like. For us the casting was perfect. We would give the movie a 10 out of 10. Blake was stunning and did an especially amazing job with her role.
the cast was so shit lmao Lily is supposed to be 23, they should've casted someone younger not a 50 year old woman to play a 23 year old
@@dinariddle1696 you realise that this movie is about abuse and how hard it is to leave someone that is hurting you, not about how the main characters look, right?
@@dinariddle1696movie was still good
@@emmaw.1124 I read the book 4 years ago, so I’m fully aware of what it’s about. But here’s the thing, I can still call out the casting for being trash. if a movie is about abuse, it doesn't automatically means that casting should be completely irrelevant, according to your logic if the main character is supposed to be 23 but looks like they could be 50? It's totally fine to have someone who could be her mom playing her because the age of the characters doesn’t matter at all when dealing with such serious themes right?
Lily’s supposed to be 23, not someone who looks like she could be Lily's mom. lol and don't get me started with Colleen Hoover’s masterpiece of romanticizing abuse. The book paints an abusive relationship as some kind of tragic, misunderstood love story. It’s like we’re supposed to feel sorry for the abuser because, poor him, he had a rough past. Because apparently, having a traumatic childhood gives you a free pass to be violent, so romantic, right? and she had the audacity to make this book into a coloring book for children. a coloring book about domestic abuse. Because what better way to introduce kids to the concept of healthy relationships than by having them color in scenes of romanticized violence? It’s like she’s trying to make abuse look fun. Twisted doesn’t even begin to cover it. But sure, let’s all focus on how I dare criticize the casting because that’s clearly the most important issue here.
@@dinariddle1696well, the guy did say neither he nor his wife had read the books....
The trailer doesn’t do this movie justice. Just saw this and it was SO good 🔥🔥🔥
Thanks for the info now ima watch it it looked good now I can’t wait lol
Where did you watch it? Please tell me about the link!!?
@@humairakhann6850 in theatres !
@@humairakhann6850 in theatres !
@@humairakhann6850it’s in theatres rn
It was so accurate!!! the shock after "the accidents", the fear that starts growing inside you and the fact that your truly self is not even in love with this abuser that you married. I admire the whole story and appreciate the wisdom to make her so brave and so wise to take the baby as the best example to make the abuser see the truth. Thank you for doing this movie, it'll be a big help to a lot of people struggling with this kind of violence. ♥
I've been through a relationship like this for 5 years. He started out amazing but about 2 years in everything changed out of nowhere.
The person who act as atlas both young and adult have something in their aura that so peaceful grace. And voice of atlas is amazing.
I couldn't have said it better! Hes great!
It’s beyond me how anyone thought those two weren’t suited to play Lily and Ryle. So much of this film looks like what I had pictured in my head after reading the book and I see that other people feel that way too. Must be a sign of great writing from Colleen and even better directing from Justin 😊
I agree, after seen these 2 actors I believe they made a great decision cause when I pictured Lilly and Ryle I pictured them older not in their mid 20’s or late w0’s whichever it was.
I think it’s just because they’re a lot older than they were in the book
As someone who isn’t on social media a lot, I was so CONFUSED about why ppl were downvoting this man’s movie bc the film doesn’t condone DV (quite the opposite), and the trailer was not deceptive *AT ALL* & made it clear as day that the movie was about DV. And y’all are giving it rotten tomatoes. I’m kinda sick of cancel culture honestly. I can’t stand Blake but it’s not the director’s fault for not knowin she was an a**hole. Yall didn’t know either til this month! The entire production & everyone involved in the film gets to take the consequences for Blake’s stupidity? That don’t make sense. In the future, we won’t even know if a film is good or bad by the score cuz yall will tear a film to pieces bc some mean girl was on set. I kinda hate it here. I mean what social media is doing to the world. I’m not criticizing this UA-camr.
it gave me literal chills!!! I am sobbing just with the trailer!!!!!
my tears ricochet + it ends with us = immediate trauma
Almost fainted when my tears ricochet started
The fact that my tears ricochet was the song of the trailer just like the fan made booktrailer was omggg I got goosebumps !!! This song is SOOO accurate with the book