This was a theme for me for a while. I’ve been diagnosed with OCD since 2005 but just thought it was the rumination, orderliness, contamination - stereotypical things. Only last year did I learn that intrusive thoughts and relationship to trich/BFRB, and things like being afraid I was staring at someone inappropriately were related. Learning that OCD was ego dystonic and intentionally picking things that were the opposite of my values was a game changer - I thought before that I thought I must be an awful person to be having all of these thoughts. Now I’m just like “oh, that’s just an OCD thought,” don’t attach any worth to it, and move on.
@@mariaadhiambo4738 maybe try and say you were just lost in thought and didn’t realize you were staring? I usually avert my eyes really quickly and just think/worry that I stared more so that I am actually staring...
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
My ocd has made me look to “check” to make sure I’m not attracted certain things. Now, through ERP, I KNOW I’m not attracted to these things I still have urges that I can’t resist to look. Then ocd tells me I only looked because I wanted to. It’s so distressing and confusing to live with ocd.
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works
Oh my god I’ve gone through this experience so many times before and the last one was a few days ago and it was a nightmare. You upload the right videos in the right time man, at least to me! Thanks 🙏🏻
@@ocdandanxiety I have had hocd and I’m scared that if I don’t do the compulsion and try to block the thought out I will start to enjoy it and this worries me.
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works
@@yumyumdonuts1010 Stop telling people to do compulsions. Thats the opposite of what you need to do with OCD. I've seen you post this same comment 3+ times.
You can see why this would throw someone in to a big depression after it happened because of feeling deep shame and self disgust. Meetings or groups where you sit in a circle of chairs must be massively triggering
I seriously recommend meditation. It can teach you to watch your thoughts/habits but not engage with them. You let it pass without “obsessing”. This IS the CURE!! I’m telling you!
This is exactly what I've been struggling with and have felt absolutely crazy like I was fighting something worse than my OCD. Thank you for uploading this
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you can buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
It feels glad to know I'm not the only one who goes through this. I feel like a sick person for having these urges, but it's difficult to stop myself sometimes because I'll feel off if I don't satisfy this urge. This happens with other things besides staring at parts as well...
This was one of my first OCD themes when I was 10 and my anxiety around it was really bad. I felt like a sick and perverted person despite being a literal child. Luckily I am much more comfortable with that fear now so I don't feel the obsession/compulsion about staring anymore.
Like I realized that if I notice someone's body with an accidental quick glance or if it's where my eyes go, it's ok. Usually people have no idea anyway.
@@juliemarie8963 I appreciate your concern, but I have a mental illness, not a curse. Personally I am not religious and I can live by my values without following a religion. But I respect that your beliefs are different from mine.
@@shanekent8621 Exposure and response prevention is the most effective therapy for OCD. It’s a process that you can work through with a therapist to start and continue it on your own.
Obsessive staring has pushed me to constant thoughts of suicide. I leave work after interacting with a girl who seems to like me realizing I may have botched it with my poor eye contact. I’ve had bosses accuse mr of being “weird” or “gay” as if it’s a negative. This condition has taken chunks out of me. I may give your technique a try as nothing else has worked.
I too suffer. For me it's been 25 years I did have a 3 year period where it left but it's been back for 18 years now. I have learned extra sleep helps. Do you have any tips?
@@shanekent8621 I’ll try that. I sometimes imagine people are about to fight me and I can’t escape so I have to maintain eye contact so I can manage. It sounds crazy but it has worked a few times. Godspeed man. You are not alone
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
I hate that I do this I quickly glance away and get sooo embarrassed it bugs more that I could express ..that being said I’m glad to see in these comments I’m not alone .. ty
@Temporary Cat I too want help. Whenever I talk with my friends. My eyes directly goes into their boobs. But not intentionally. Idk how my eyes goes. Please help
God! You're the one who exactly described my situation. I literally did this in the middle of watching the video. It's crazy man! It's like I just can't stop myself. There's me and other me, ones telling me to do it and the other aggressively wants me to stop. But your video addresses the issue correctly. Thank you!
@@Xabier2020 Ive been with this for 2 years now, I felt isolated and unsocial. Its destroying my confidence. I still never found a way to treat it. They said we need to not force ourselves not to look
I didn’t know this was a thing. I’ve been going through this and what I think is sexual orientation OCD. I thought the staring was a compulsion. In some ways, it is because I use it as a test. Every time i look I feel so guilty it. There’s so much I’m learning from videos like yours (which unfortunately I watch to seek reassurance). I want to seek professional help, but I don’t know how to begin explaining this to my family because I know how it all sounds and they won’t get it. I’m not sure anyone will. Sorry about this long message. I don’t talk about this often lol
@@vatsalaggarwal7928 Doesn't help me but thanks for trying. I just have to take mine as one big challenge head on while using it to improve my weaknesses.
NO WAY! how did I miss that? I always felt wrong but I didn’t realise that it’s another form of OCD😭 Thank Nathan you helped me a lot in my journey, plus I LOVE your sense of humour it always makes me feel less stressed! Keep going❤️❤️
I had this compulsion , it was hard because it probably made people feel uncomfortable but everyone stares at private parts or any part . It’s apart of being normal , are eyes and mind drift into different things. I don’t have this compulsion any more , it took constant work with erp to stop the compulsion . Thanks for this video!!!🙏🙏❤️
@@doga1996 learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you can buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
i've always thought that something is wrong with me and i was bullied heavily because of it by almost everyone i know including my family and friends, but i feel a lot better and relief that i'm not the only one struggling with this. i often shamed myself for it and realize that i don't have any attraction to the parts that i see but due to a result of my OCD. but something i did learn before i knew was to not mentally beat myself up for it when i do have to look and realize i shouldn't shame myself for my ocd. thank you so much for this video + advice
OMG, this is exactly what i have, we must get out of this, its time to get rid of OCD forever, this is not stronger than us, we must fight OCD back with the right treatment
I'm turning 22 this year and this is something I've been struggling with for most of my life. Since I was a teenager I had a bad experience that's made me feel ashamed and guilty for having the urge to look at women's bodies and I assumed all women secretly hate me because of it. Even now when I have lots of women friends who feel comfortable around me if they're wearing revealing clothing I'm terrified of offending them to the point of outright avoiding looking at them even when facing directly towards them. I fear that I'll accidentally glance at their chest and they'll despise me afterwards and never want to speak to me again. I prided myself on being a good and kind person but I always saw this as a character flaw. Of proof that I'm a bad person no matter what I do or how hard I try. I'm so glad I've found this and that I'm not alone in this. I want to be respectful to women but I don't want to hate myself while doing it.
I'm in love with your channel! I wish you had more subscribers. I thought I was having GAD but thanks to you I've realised I suffer from OCD, which for a very long time went unnoticed, since I mostly perform mental compulsions. You're doing a great job!!!
When I look I'm not looking as a sexual thing, I'm not picturing the person naked, I'm just looking not even staring, I have extreme anxiety because of this I feel like I cant look people in the eye unless I have a few drinks, even then my eyes wind up darting on to a private area, I'm happily married, but it happens with men and women, I feel like I come off to people as a sex fiend or gay when I'm neither, I just have trouble being around people in conversation, I wasnt like this when I was young, after a controlling relationship where I isolated myself and stayed in the house it turn into this. And I am so alone. I'm glad I'm not the only one in the world going through this, so there is hope to get rid of this.
With Hocd i get repulsed when I stare because I know I don't like these people but I just look at their face, hair lips whatever just checking to see if I have a reaction. Its so odd. Like after I worry about omg i just looked at that person I have to be bi or whatever but In actuality I just like their make-up or their hair style but in the moment i get so anxious to the point I shake or cry so ive been avoiding watching tv, going outside or looking at people in the eyes. Im afraid my hocd is gonna make me like them out of nowhere. Its happened before and i cant talk to those people without thinking about it. It makes me so sad i Just want my friends back without me going crazy not knowing if im staring because i like them or something.
I can’t tell you how helpful this has been, thank you so much Nathan, recently got diagnosed with OCD after being misdiagnosed. This helps my mental rituals. Best of all wishes :)
I have an extreme problem with staring especially when it comes to attractive people or interesting people. I’m always getting impulses to stare but I know that many neurotypical people see it as rude or a form of internal judgment but that’s not true. When I stare at people it’s usually because something about them interests me or attracts me. I wish I just could stare at people without seeming like a creep or rude. For some reason I also constantly have an impulse to stare at peoples groin‘s butts and breasts. Sadly in the Neurotypical world can be seen as creepy. Also when it comes to people who look different like people with disabilities or extremely obese people. I don’t hate them at all and neither am I bothered by them But some people take steering personally and I’ve heard many people especially obese people and people with disabilities expressed that staring makes them feel like they’re being judged and if they see it as rude. I’m not a creep or rude I’m just autistic and the urges are strong to stare.
wait. this is a thing. is this what i’ve been experiencing for the last 4 years ? my therapist said it was a trauma response. today i find out i am autistic and have starring ocd? you literally put it into words. “something interest me or i want to appreciate, it not because i’m judging or being a creep.” thank you!!!!
This happens to me! I didn´t know it was an important symptome! I feel like I have to stare at woman to be sure that I don´t feel attracted to them so I have to double check and I hate it! but I feel my brain is like LOOK, LOOK YOU HAVE TO LOOK, it gives me so much anxiety
The problem with this is that there are consequences to staring at private parts. If you let go, and stop caring, it’s not like it was all in your head. Many people will give you a dirty look , or get in a staring war with you, or maybe say something nasty or even say that you made them uncomfortable and they want you to stop, or just comment on what you’re doing, or get you fired from a job or reported to the police for sexual harassment . It’s bullshit. Yes, police will consider a bullshit claim like staring. And in a job, it doesn’t matter whether it’s valid or not, you will be fired. So you can get in trouble regardless. Nothing serious will probably happen, but you might have to fight a complaint or explain what happened . And then you realize, okay, back to square one. I have to make sure I don’t stare at people.
Fr. I’m constantly composed to stare at people I wish that we didn’t have all these unspoken rules that say that you’re not supposed to stare at people because I’m constantly compose to do it and it’s a strong urge and if I do it I feel disgusted with myself and if I don’t do it I’m uncomfortable i’m not creepy and I don’t want anyone to think that I’m sexually harassing them or become uncomfortable with me
i used to have this ocd, until i came up with something. "if you look at people's private parts they're definitely gonna know" what i did was i started devaluating this sentence with actually looking at people's private parts BUT i would use the moments they weren't looking and i wouldn't stare to not make it obvious. so try this, if you got this ocd whenever in your life, tell yourself that you HAVE to look at people's private parts. but only do it when it's not obvious and if you're having a conversation and this ocd kicks in tell yourself that i will look, but they're looking at me rn let me find the right time to do it. and then actually do it... it's like a bitter medicine but it worked and over a time i actually forgot i had this ocd and the symptoms stopped. and whenever it starts again i force myself to do this and it works... (and just to add something. if you feel bad about looking at people's private parts (like i did) i started sorting my thoughts in two categories. "active" and "passive" i call them. so an active thought is when I'm thinking about something by my own will. and passive is when my mind brings up thoughts by itself. the difference is when you actively want to look at people's private parts you don't feel like you're under a pressure or anxious and... that's passive thinking and when you want to push those thoughts away they'll only get stronger and you will feel more anxious.)
Thanks for the video. You guys should start doing tapping. There is many ocd tapping and fast eft videos can help you with reducing the fear. Also try to listen affirmations while you sleeping over and over. They really helps alot
Mark Freeman, another OCD youtuber, has a really helpful approach for this issue using acceptance and commit therapy. It works as follows: Accept: The anxiety of staring or not staring Commit: To valuing people's privacy Take action: Make eye contact instead of doing the compulsion to stare
@@lovelybluntdoll Greetings , the way I changed the social anxeity is through 1. diaphragmatic breathing 2. Facing the anxeity : Gradually staying the social anxeity situations (begin with shorter duration and try to stay in that situation while slowing down everything you do , and go to a different environment for things to clam down) 3. Exercise (Allowing the body to move and stretch regularly in a relax manner makes a huge difference) 4. Be Brave and give time for the pattern to change. 5. Take a walk in nature once a while. It will take time for social anxeity to change , and the pattern will try to crawl back from time to time , and time passes by , things will get better. I hope thing will help everyone who is facing social anxeity , the most important thing is to be brave and face it.
For all those people struggling through this should create a community in telegram,whatsapp etc and meet each other at one venue. If people you are all interested we should fund a trip to a place where we all can meet up and work on our problems without having any one to judge us. If interested please make an arrangement soon.
I'm writing this for the first time, I'm just completely drained by this ocd and many types of it, I'm just worried people would think I'm creepy or making them feel uncomfortable in reality I'm just crying and praying to god to get rid of these thoughts. Sometimes it's hard to explain it to people about your thoughts since it's scary and often people judge ,I wish i had a therapist like you it would be much easier to heal. I have been watching your videos from 2021,thank you for educating us and showing compassion and hope for the future❤.
I have this ocd but not only staring at private parts but also at everything has a value, like phones, bags, money... some people think that i want to steal their stuffs, I ve been strugling with this for 25 years, I cant anymore...
This happens to me all my life!!!! I had the urge to stare at a woman’s face and then her designer bag and I couldn’t stop myself. I don’t even think about it it just happens. She felt threatened and even her husband got annoyed. It’s so difficult!
I've been struggling w this for like 2 years. I noticed it started with me looking at the security guards crotch, then it passed to also staring my manager. I don't know where this came from but I'll assume is from being molested. I've suppressed this for the longest time and 4 years ago I started getting glimpses of all the shit that happened to me growing up. I had a mental breakdown that resulted in badly cutting myself (I've always self harmed but this one was way too deep) and ended up in the ward. I started some therapy but I was inconsistent. When I was ready to talk to my therapist about this my work insurance lapsed so I stop treatment altogether. This staring bs is ruining me. I work at a clinic there is a trigger since I wake up until I go to bed. I'm tired of it all. I wish I can master myself or at least be able to deal better with this. Too much people have been noticing. The anxiety of actually doing what the person recommends in the video towers over me even if I look on the tv I feel so disgusted w myself. Please God help me.
Blur your vision sweet angle. It will break the nervous tension. Make ur vision blurry when talking with someone... just for a sec or 2 Trust me it works
Does anyone struggle with intrusive thoughts that justify the staring? When I accidentally stare at a girl's chest my brain says "it's her fault for wearing that" and it scares me so much because i couldn't disagree more, I know it's my brain because they come so suddenly but I feel so so bad about this. These types of sexist thoughts and phrases have angered me since I was a child. I knew that these things were horrible and I always, ALWAYS hated those type of phrases, living in a country where women are victims of horrible violence everyday, sexism and mysoginy have always been what I hated the most, I want to make it better for women, I've always wanted to be part of an organization to help women or kids, but now my brain says these things and I just can't handle this anymore, I feel like a horrible person, ocd is attacking everything I care about and now I don't even know myself anymore ;(
i also struggle with your first sexist thought, felt horrible thinking like that too, I dont know that there are people like you also having this specific symptom
It's been almost 5 years and still isolating myself and suffering from this issue. I'm still young and lost hope, I honestly don't see myself making it into the future.
Wow...I stumbled upon this video... Thought I was the only one ...Wow this gives me so much of relieve...Thank You ! Thank You! - This causes me so much of Anxiety ....
this is a experience by which i am going through, god please help me i am dying everyday i want back my old life i really miss my old life when i talk i interact with peoples when i love to go out
@Harshit satran have you been better or worse? this shit sucks man i miss my old life too.😔 Its so hard to talk to somebody when you have this! Have you told family or friends?
@@sh_qp_ee754 no brother I haven't told anyone, I am facing it like before. i am 23 n my graduation is about to complete n my parent alway use to say me that go out from home n find some work n i am afraid that with this condition how will I face society n all.
@@harshitsatran6928 yes its very hard to deal with this day to day life, i hear cbt or erp can help with this problem. whats your snapchat i want to talk somebody going thru same thing.
Do you think the pandemic and those with a propensity to social anxiety may also struggle with this? I think this is my case as I do not have OCD, but I feel that the lack of socializing and then having those 'fear of judgement' thoughts is causing me issues with this. Thank you for sharing
OMG! I am going through this right now. I thought I was the only one. But I have lost 3 jobs that I loved because of this. But this was brought on after a incident at a warehouse
I’m so sorry…. I lost a few jobs as well and currently have been unemployed for 1 year. If you don’t mind me asking, are you currently working now? If so what job do you find most easy with this ocd staring?
See I have suffered from the same problem since 2022 and from 4-5 months I have solved it 90 percent. So what I did was I consulted a psychiatrist and told him that I am suffering from ocd, he gave me some medicines I took medicines for some 3-4 months after that I had no money left with me but I had learned to manage the problem almost 90 percent so see if you are studying in school or college you need to sit on the first bench and if someone is on your left then cover your corner of the left eye with your left hand and vice versa while walking on the streets you can cover some part of the eye or can run and cross the person in front of you. So you have to create your own ways to get rid of the problem. Hope this helps😊
First and foremost all I can say is wow to be able to find this type of information where I don't feel so alone and perverted from having this problem that I find out others thousands of people share the same problem and that it's an anxiety related issue I am not homosexual nor am I a weirdo but I have struggled with this for quite some time as I am now an adult all the way back from my teenage years of looking at people's body parts mostly women due to the fact that women are attractive when they are in certain outfits or just have that type of figure the way most women dress nowadays exposing a lot but then at times just a casual dresser it's a habit it's like a a habit of just something that happens even when I don't want it to happen. I feel bad about it because I think of others and myself and I wouldn't want someone else to be looking at my body parts at the same time I believe it comes from self confidence of my silent shape I've always wanted to be bigger and for some reason I compare myself my body shaped to others especially in the gym or one with an athletic figure. I could go on and on of this topic and to realize it's a psychological struggle. It does not bother me to the point of being antisocial but it is a struggle when I'm talking with someone eye to eye face to face, I do my best too keep my attention straight but as usual it wonders in between. I've even considered to go to a nudist beach to be in the atmosphere I've never been in of everyone just being open and laid back where everything is exposed versus covered. I've never been one to like tucking in shirts where your antibody parts reflect through your clothing, if shaped awkwardly especially, I felt so weird thinking this but I realizing now discovering this it's not just me. Out of nowhere today I just decided to look up why I stare at body parts to see what I connect with the world and here we are......
When i talk to any female i alwats feel that she is thinking that i am trying to look her brests and then i feel that my eyes are not following my orders, I start look into her eyes to make sure I focus on it. But soon I realise that the female understood that I am behaving abnormally amd she start covering her brests that makes me more unconfortable by knowing omg she is thinking i am a pervert. And then i just end the conversation and run away, I am just tired of it .
I was thinking all my life that i had one type of ocd ( harmocd) , lately i realised thay all my life was based on ocd and intrusive thoughts, thank you for clarifying things for us ❤
I struggle with this too my compulsive starring is whenever anybody is wearing nail polish on there hands or feet I always have to look. I'll try these tips thanks
Dealt with this many times. My SSRI's help, but they don't always work. I try to just accept that I'm having these intrusive thoughts and move on. Confessions don't work, it just fuels the OCD even more. I think the key, is to just let it pass by like it's radio static
I was suffering this intensely before. I didn't knew anything about and never even heard of ocd. I watched this video two year ago. Realising more about this helped to reduce its severity. Few things i did helped is: Whenever i feel like I starred, I tended to replay events in my mind over and over again after that so much time making sure that I didn't insulted any one. The mindset shift I made is to understanding that I am ethically not a bad person. What is happening to me is of OCD and I am morally not bad person. This only just logical understood. And then accepting the uncertainty of not knowing whether I starred at the person or insulted them. Whenever I catch myself replaying past events over and over. I try to become aware of it to observe it when it comes to surface and see how much emotional reaction it is make on me . Then try to channel my attention to something else. This is not trying to have any replay in our mind by pushing thoughts. This is just to become aware that we are ruminating of past event. Then try to divert attention to something happening in present moment . Say in mind 'oh there a bird over there' or 'what is that noise I am hearing'. Or to occupy mind with attention diverting things like studying or watching some prank or comedy kind of videos. I notice that that I have kind of overlay of visual of past events on top of presently what actually I am seeing. This is like a visual form of thinking of past events. Mostly we are not aware of images going through our mind in form of thinking. I would try to observe what are the visuals that are going through mind (without resisting or manipulating the visual) especially after I thought I starred at someone. This is kind of what I am intended to do ideally to tackle this. Not every time I was able to successfully deal with it. This is atleast helped me.
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
@@daredevil7501 everyone has a natural ability to make there vision blurry. It’s almost like if you were trying to cross your eyes. Or you can do a combination “squint and blur” . Try the prescription glasses trick with a little scotch tape at the bottom of the lenses. It’s undetected. Maybe get some with a very light tint
I'm glad I came across this video. But I'm genuinely struggling. I was diagnosed with OCD as a child and have struggled with many forms of it over the years. Im currently in a very good relationship and my partner notices my eyes darting around womens chest area and is convinced I'm some sort of pervert, I do not see women this way and this is not something I want to do. But knowing how she feels about it makes it worse and I can't see a way out of this. I dont want to looser her, I feel like I want to die.
hi nathan! thank you for talking about this, this theme has been bothering me a lot lately. i wanted to ask if you knew about feeling like you're smiling at inappropriate events/thoughts. it often happens with harm thoughts or seeing awful things for me. i really dont want to smile, yet i feel like i'm about to, or even will. other people with ocd told me they experienced it, but i don't really understand it. i feel like it's similar to groinals, our body is reacting to the thoughts in that way because we don't want it to and we put too much focus on it.
I have been isolated since my childhood. I have had bad breath since I was eight years old and I am 32 today. From the age of 12 until today I have OCD compulsive staring. Life is not easy, it is a struggle and everyone has their own luck. I have many more good prospects, I thank God.
I don't have a problem with looking at a woman's chest, belly button, or butt. I love that. Guys on the other hand, it's not because I want to. It's because my OCD says I HAVE to.
I’ve had this issue for a few years now, and recently is evolved into me staring at my own private parts, I’m constantly being judged and looked at as a freak, life is becoming unbearable. I plan to end my life soon
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works
I really do not know what to do.i sometimes feel the whole college I study will evacuate because of me and I sometimes feel that I am responsible for somebody studying in my class to move out.i also feel everybody avoid me because I stare at their body parts.
But what if this wasn't happening before and started recently? It's been around 2 years and It's so tiring :( I've looked up for as many theories as I can and nothing has helped yet. There are some times when it's all calm and everything and them it starts again :/
This😭 I don't know how to get rid of this I feel like running away I don't wanna do this I wanna lock myself inside a room. I feel really really bad about myself. Why did they even bring me to this earth sir? I'm really helpless.
@@mkmllrc I just wanna run away but it's like I feel like no matter where ever I go it's gonn follow me. I don't know how to fight for me in this case but I'm trying my best. I'm so sorry for you.. but yk nobody is gonna help us actually nobody can understand and so wait for nobody. Help yourself. If you wanna save yourself you should find some way. We can't give up we mustn't give up. Fight for your way
My condition is very worst I even cannot go out and attend my classes because of fear of starring at others.i do not know what to do.please put a video for immediate solution to this problem
Sri Nidhi I am also going through same problem are u on Instagram we can meet and have some funny talks as we both have this which will release some stress
I have this problem and i hate it, i had it since like 2018 and i always wondered why I can’t control my eyes cause back then I didn’t know it coulda been a thing or a problem 😣
I obssess over hair i think because im a barber but it pours over even into body hair I worry when i look at body hair and get groinal responses does that make me a pervert or bad. I usually avoid it and ignore or often times a cycle of looking and looking away. When i do erp ocs freaks out and convinces me im actually doing bad things. Its a torturing cycle. This was very helpful
This is the only video I can really find about this all of the other videos are about what to do when people stare at you or telling people not to stare but I feel like a horrible person for having the impulses and for actually following through with them
For me i am in class and if a girl is in front of me I will be looking at the lesson and at the corner of my eye ill have my mind looking at a girl, and im beyond sorry that, that happens 😞
Hi, My problem solved - I was given Fluvoxamine 50 mg for 6 to 10months and I got my freedom. I was dying inside with the same problem and consulted a pscologist and was prescribed Fluvoxamine every night for 6 to 10 months and also betacap tablet every morning after breakfast. After 4 to 12 weeks i noticed that my intrusive thoughts vanished and now i am free from such thoughts and awkward depressions
Thank you so much am the victim of this kind of OCD disorder . the one thing that challenge be to fight my ocd is the comorbidity of depression i hop this video will help me !
@@yumyumdonuts1010 i dont know if this works, i been trying it but i feel like they notice me bluring my vision. i fucking hate this shit so much... why me😔
Have you struggled with COMPULSIVE STARING before?
I'm still struggling. Been struggling for 8 years.
Me too
This was a theme for me for a while. I’ve been diagnosed with OCD since 2005 but just thought it was the rumination, orderliness, contamination - stereotypical things. Only last year did I learn that intrusive thoughts and relationship to trich/BFRB, and things like being afraid I was staring at someone inappropriately were related.
Learning that OCD was ego dystonic and intentionally picking things that were the opposite of my values was a game changer - I thought before that I thought I must be an awful person to be having all of these thoughts. Now I’m just like “oh, that’s just an OCD thought,” don’t attach any worth to it, and move on.
How do you deal with people covering their chest and groin because you just stared.
@@mariaadhiambo4738 maybe try and say you were just lost in thought and didn’t realize you were staring? I usually avert my eyes really quickly and just think/worry that I stared more so that I am actually staring...
damn once again you're putting words on something i've always experienced and didn't even know it was an actual thing, thank you
Same! OCD is so freakin’ weird
I'm glad it was helpful! 👍🏻
@@devih9134 it really is quite the unusual illness. I feel like I’m learning something new about it every day
sameee
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
My ocd has made me look to “check” to make sure I’m not attracted certain things. Now, through ERP, I KNOW I’m not attracted to these things I still have urges that I can’t resist to look. Then ocd tells me I only looked because I wanted to. It’s so distressing and confusing to live with ocd.
Wanna talk with u...can i
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works
or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
@@काठीराजवंश yes you can
@@काठीराजवंश pls recommend treatment here so all can benefit
Oh my god I’ve gone through this experience so many times before and the last one was a few days ago and it was a nightmare. You upload the right videos in the right time man, at least to me! Thanks 🙏🏻
Thanks for sharing!! I hope you can feel better! 😃
@@ocdandanxiety I have had hocd and I’m scared that if I don’t do the compulsion and try to block the thought out I will start to enjoy it and this worries me.
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works
@@yumyumdonuts1010 Stop telling people to do compulsions. Thats the opposite of what you need to do with OCD. I've seen you post this same comment 3+ times.
@@sloanepetersen2243 Go fuck yourself. It works and people are happy it works. I’ve helped tons of people. You’re a Slime Ball
You can see why this would throw someone in to a big depression after it happened because of feeling deep shame and self disgust. Meetings or groups where you sit in a circle of chairs must be massively triggering
I seriously recommend meditation. It can teach you to watch your thoughts/habits but not engage with them. You let it pass without “obsessing”. This IS the CURE!! I’m telling you!
This is exactly what I've been struggling with and have felt absolutely crazy like I was fighting something worse than my OCD. Thank you for uploading this
I'm glad it was helpful! I hope you feel better soon!
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you can buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
@@yumyumdonuts1010 How do you practice blurring your vision?
@@Xabier2020 look at an object in a room and slightly blur ur vision
@@yumyumdonuts1010 I'm going to try it. Thanks
It feels glad to know I'm not the only one who goes through this. I feel like a sick person for having these urges, but it's difficult to stop myself sometimes because I'll feel off if I don't satisfy this urge. This happens with other things besides staring at parts as well...
I have the "accidental stare" version haha
Just gotta be kind to yourself.
Hope you've found some peace!
@@rainynight02 Aww, thanks! I've actually been in a much better place lately, I have found some peace 😁
Same I have this ocd
@@wolfcry087 Good to know
why is this dude so relaxing for me?
BRO!! I THOUGHT I WAS GAY, but I'm not attracted to guys at all!! I dont even understand it!! It's like my eyes just do it by themselves!
I hear you !! Same man hopefully things got better for you !
This was one of my first OCD themes when I was 10 and my anxiety around it was really bad. I felt like a sick and perverted person despite being a literal child. Luckily I am much more comfortable with that fear now so I don't feel the obsession/compulsion about staring anymore.
Like I realized that if I notice someone's body with an accidental quick glance or if it's where my eyes go, it's ok. Usually people have no idea anyway.
I sympathize because same 🙁
@@juliemarie8963 I appreciate your concern, but I have a mental illness, not a curse. Personally I am not religious and I can live by my values without following a religion. But I respect that your beliefs are different from mine.
I have been suffering for 25 years.
I have learned extra sleep, Christian music, tv and less caffeine helps.
Do u have any tips?
Thanks
@@shanekent8621 Exposure and response prevention is the most effective therapy for OCD. It’s a process that you can work through with a therapist to start and continue it on your own.
Obsessive staring has pushed me to constant thoughts of suicide. I leave work after interacting with a girl who seems to like me realizing I may have botched it with my poor eye contact. I’ve had bosses accuse mr of being “weird” or “gay” as if it’s a negative. This condition has taken chunks out of me. I may give your technique a try as nothing else has worked.
I too suffer. For me it's been 25 years I did have a 3 year period where it left but it's been back for 18 years now.
I have learned extra sleep helps.
Do you have any tips?
@@shanekent8621 I’ll try that. I sometimes imagine people are about to fight me and I can’t escape so I have to maintain eye contact so I can manage. It sounds crazy but it has worked a few times. Godspeed man. You are not alone
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
@Channel UA-cam Sooooo not true
@@buffalopigeon in serious situations our eye contact becomes normal .
I hate that I do this I quickly glance away and get sooo embarrassed it bugs more that I could express ..that being said I’m glad to see in these comments I’m not alone .. ty
Yeap, you're not alone. Many people said I am kind of immoral, sick...Those words really hurt
I can help you all with this. It’s a trick and it works. I’ve helped a lot of people with this.
@Temporary Cat focus on an object in a room. Look at it and then blur your vision. Do the same thing when in conversation with someone
focus on an object in a room. Look at it and then blur your vision. Do the same thing when in conversation with someone
@Temporary Cat I too want help. Whenever I talk with my friends. My eyes directly goes into their boobs. But not intentionally. Idk how my eyes goes. Please help
You're saving lives!
We really appreciate your work❤
God! You're the one who exactly described my situation. I literally did this in the middle of watching the video. It's crazy man! It's like I just can't stop myself.
There's me and other me, ones telling me to do it and the other aggressively wants me to stop. But your video addresses the issue correctly. Thank you!
Hey im Also suffering from same issue do u want to discuss strategy to deal with it
Aman, you are not alone. I am the same. I thought i was the only one .
Me too 🥹
Currently struggling with this one. I'm really freaking out about it, it affects my daily life. This is killing me...
same here
totally relate bro, i am also facing it
same here, its fd up 😔
been on this shhtt for 2yrs now, i became anti social cause I creeped everyone
@@Xabier2020 Ive been with this for 2 years now, I felt isolated and unsocial. Its destroying my confidence. I still never found a way to treat it. They said we need to not force ourselves not to look
I didn’t know this was a thing. I’ve been going through this and what I think is sexual orientation OCD. I thought the staring was a compulsion. In some ways, it is because I use it as a test. Every time i look I feel so guilty it. There’s so much I’m learning from videos like yours (which unfortunately I watch to seek reassurance). I want to seek professional help, but I don’t know how to begin explaining this to my family because I know how it all sounds and they won’t get it. I’m not sure anyone will. Sorry about this long message. I don’t talk about this often lol
How did things go?
This is literally me 😔
How can we overcome this problem?
I hope you've made progress on your journey!
I have been suffering with this issue for over 40 years. You are not alone!
This man knows his stuff to the finest detail, this disorder strips you of your dignity and self respect til there is nothing left.
get a psychologist it will vastly help
😭😭😭true
@@fallingstarcaughtbyanglesAre you still suffering from this ocd problem these days?
@@vatsalaggarwal7928 Doesn't help me but thanks for trying. I just have to take mine as one big challenge head on while using it to improve my weaknesses.
Your topics reg OCD are very practical and your suggestions are also very effective Thank you bro love u❤️
Thanks so much for the kind words!!
NO WAY!
how did I miss that? I always felt wrong but I didn’t realise that it’s another form of OCD😭
Thank Nathan you helped me a lot in my journey, plus I LOVE your sense of humour it always makes me feel less stressed!
Keep going❤️❤️
aliyah are you somali
@@abdulrazaq2302Adi dhibatadan maaku haysato ?
It is the way that I had this specific I thing ruin like 5 years of my childhood. Wow. This stuff is just wild
I had this compulsion , it was hard because it probably made people feel uncomfortable but everyone stares at private parts or any part . It’s apart of being normal , are eyes and mind drift into different things. I don’t have this compulsion any more , it took constant work with erp to stop the compulsion . Thanks for this video!!!🙏🙏❤️
I am so happy for you. I hope i will get rid of it soon too
@@doga1996 learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you can buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
so glad to hear you beat this stupid illness :)) gives me hope
Great can you tell how did you treated it in short
Hey can you please me with how you overcome this. I really need help for this issue
i've always thought that something is wrong with me and i was bullied heavily because of it by almost everyone i know including my family and friends, but i feel a lot better and relief that i'm not the only one struggling with this. i often shamed myself for it and realize that i don't have any attraction to the parts that i see but due to a result of my OCD. but something i did learn before i knew was to not mentally beat myself up for it when i do have to look and realize i shouldn't shame myself for my ocd. thank you so much for this video + advice
OMG, this is exactly what i have, we must get out of this, its time to get rid of OCD forever, this is not stronger than us, we must fight OCD back with the right treatment
I'm turning 22 this year and this is something I've been struggling with for most of my life. Since I was a teenager I had a bad experience that's made me feel ashamed and guilty for having the urge to look at women's bodies and I assumed all women secretly hate me because of it. Even now when I have lots of women friends who feel comfortable around me if they're wearing revealing clothing I'm terrified of offending them to the point of outright avoiding looking at them even when facing directly towards them. I fear that I'll accidentally glance at their chest and they'll despise me afterwards and never want to speak to me again. I prided myself on being a good and kind person but I always saw this as a character flaw. Of proof that I'm a bad person no matter what I do or how hard I try. I'm so glad I've found this and that I'm not alone in this. I want to be respectful to women but I don't want to hate myself while doing it.
Omg I had urges to do this and it feels so real. It comes with groinal responses and that freaks me out even more!
I'm in love with your channel! I wish you had more subscribers. I thought I was having GAD but thanks to you I've realised I suffer from OCD, which for a very long time went unnoticed, since I mostly perform mental compulsions. You're doing a great job!!!
This means a lot to me! Thanks so much for the confidence!
Do you know the difference? The techniques taught on this channel have been really helpful but some days I feel like I might not have ocd.
When I look I'm not looking as a sexual thing, I'm not picturing the person naked, I'm just looking not even staring, I have extreme anxiety because of this I feel like I cant look people in the eye unless I have a few drinks, even then my eyes wind up darting on to a private area, I'm happily married, but it happens with men and women, I feel like I come off to people as a sex fiend or gay when I'm neither, I just have trouble being around people in conversation, I wasnt like this when I was young, after a controlling relationship where I isolated myself and stayed in the house it turn into this. And I am so alone. I'm glad I'm not the only one in the world going through this, so there is hope to get rid of this.
I feel the same 😢
I have suffered badly from ocd. It has fucked up my potential to realise my full potential in this life.
I realized too I could've been the better and motivated version of myself, but this OCD just sucked it all up
God, why do I have so many of these strange types of OCD?! 😭
With Hocd i get repulsed when I stare because I know I don't like these people but I just look at their face, hair lips whatever just checking to see if I have a reaction. Its so odd. Like after I worry about omg i just looked at that person I have to be bi or whatever but In actuality I just like their make-up or their hair style but in the moment i get so anxious to the point I shake or cry so ive been avoiding watching tv, going outside or looking at people in the eyes. Im afraid my hocd is gonna make me like them out of nowhere. Its happened before and i cant talk to those people without thinking about it. It makes me so sad i Just want my friends back without me going crazy not knowing if im staring because i like them or something.
I can’t tell you how helpful this has been, thank you so much Nathan, recently got diagnosed with OCD after being misdiagnosed.
This helps my mental rituals. Best of all wishes :)
Plzz tell me how I have stareing ocd
Hi prachi i am from India as well can you discuss what you did for curing OCD I am also suffering from same issue
I have an extreme problem with staring especially when it comes to attractive people or interesting people. I’m always getting impulses to stare but I know that many neurotypical people see it as rude or a form of internal judgment but that’s not true. When I stare at people it’s usually because something about them interests me or attracts me. I wish I just could stare at people without seeming like a creep or rude. For some reason I also constantly have an impulse to stare at peoples groin‘s butts and breasts. Sadly in the Neurotypical world can be seen as creepy. Also when it comes to people who look different like people with disabilities or extremely obese people. I don’t hate them at all and neither am I bothered by them But some people take steering personally and I’ve heard many people especially obese people and people with disabilities expressed that staring makes them feel like they’re being judged and if they see it as rude. I’m not a creep or rude I’m just autistic and the urges are strong to stare.
wait. this is a thing. is this what i’ve been experiencing for the last 4 years ? my therapist said it was a trauma response. today i find out i am autistic and have starring ocd? you literally put it into words. “something interest me or i want to appreciate, it not because i’m judging or being a creep.” thank you!!!!
What if you’re too afraid to stare compulsively and avoid looking at people all together?
I look between people’s eyebrows 😬
I look between people’s eyebrows 😬
This happens to me! I didn´t know it was an important symptome! I feel like I have to stare at woman to be sure that I don´t feel attracted to them so I have to double check and I hate it! but I feel my brain is like LOOK, LOOK YOU HAVE TO LOOK, it gives me so much anxiety
Same over here I'm 12 nearly 13 and my life has been a living hell because of OCD and it's so annoying
@@whambam849Are you improving with this ocd issue now?
The problem with this is that there are consequences to staring at private parts. If you let go, and stop caring, it’s not like it was all in your head. Many people will give you a dirty look , or get in a staring war with you, or maybe say something nasty or even say that you made them uncomfortable and they want you to stop, or just comment on what you’re doing, or get you fired from a job or reported to the police for sexual harassment .
It’s bullshit. Yes, police will consider a bullshit claim like staring. And in a job, it doesn’t matter whether it’s valid or not, you will be fired. So you can get in trouble regardless. Nothing serious will probably happen, but you might have to fight a complaint or explain what happened . And then you realize, okay, back to square one. I have to make sure I don’t stare at people.
Fr. I’m constantly composed to stare at people I wish that we didn’t have all these unspoken rules that say that you’re not supposed to stare at people because I’m constantly compose to do it and it’s a strong urge and if I do it I feel disgusted with myself and if I don’t do it I’m uncomfortable i’m not creepy and I don’t want anyone to think that I’m sexually harassing them or become uncomfortable with me
i used to have this ocd, until i came up with something.
"if you look at people's private parts they're definitely gonna know"
what i did was i started devaluating this sentence with actually looking at people's private parts
BUT i would use the moments they weren't looking and i wouldn't stare to not make it obvious.
so try this, if you got this ocd whenever in your life, tell yourself that you HAVE to look at people's private parts. but only do it when it's not obvious and if you're having a conversation and this ocd kicks in tell yourself that i will look, but they're looking at me rn let me find the right time to do it. and then actually do it...
it's like a bitter medicine but it worked and over a time i actually forgot i had this ocd and the symptoms stopped.
and whenever it starts again i force myself to do this and it works...
(and just to add something.
if you feel bad about looking at people's private parts (like i did) i started sorting my thoughts in two categories. "active" and "passive" i call them.
so an active thought is when I'm thinking about something by my own will.
and passive is when my mind brings up thoughts by itself.
the difference is when you actively want to look at people's private parts you don't feel like you're under a pressure or anxious and...
that's passive thinking and when you want to push those thoughts away they'll only get stronger and you will feel more anxious.)
Always so grateful for your channel 🥺🥰
🤗 Thanks so much!
Love you friend you have solved my problem, i am dying of this problem
I just want to say thank you so much , for the videos and the help. This is my safe space , keep being you! Your helping so many people 👍🏻
Thanks for the video. You guys should start doing tapping. There is many ocd tapping and fast eft videos can help you with reducing the fear. Also try to listen affirmations while you sleeping over and over. They really helps alot
Mark Freeman, another OCD youtuber, has a really helpful approach for this issue using acceptance and commit therapy. It works as follows:
Accept: The anxiety of staring or not staring
Commit: To valuing people's privacy
Take action: Make eye contact instead of doing the compulsion to stare
Oh my god ! This is exactly how I fixed my social anxeity !
please share what helped 🫶
@@lovelybluntdoll Greetings , the way I changed the social anxeity is through 1. diaphragmatic breathing 2. Facing the anxeity : Gradually staying the social anxeity situations (begin with shorter duration and try to stay in that situation while slowing down everything you do , and go to a different environment for things to clam down) 3. Exercise (Allowing the body to move and stretch regularly in a relax manner makes a huge difference) 4. Be Brave and give time for the pattern to change. 5. Take a walk in nature once a while.
It will take time for social anxeity to change , and the pattern will try to crawl back from time to time , and time passes by , things will get better.
I hope thing will help everyone who is facing social anxeity , the most important thing is to be brave and face it.
For all those people struggling through this should create a community in telegram,whatsapp etc and meet each other at one venue. If people you are all interested we should fund a trip to a place where we all can meet up and work on our problems without having any one to judge us. If interested please make an arrangement soon.
I’m down
I thought im alone in this world and didn’t know a thousands of people have this too
Same
I'm writing this for the first time, I'm just completely drained by this ocd and many types of it, I'm just worried people would think I'm creepy or making them feel uncomfortable in reality I'm just crying and praying to god to get rid of these thoughts.
Sometimes it's hard to explain it to people about your thoughts since it's scary and often people judge ,I wish i had a therapist like you it would be much easier to heal.
I have been watching your videos from 2021,thank you for educating us and showing compassion and hope for the future❤.
I have this ocd but not only staring at private parts but also at everything has a value, like phones, bags, money... some people think that i want to steal their stuffs, I ve been strugling with this for 25 years, I cant anymore...
Stay strong ask the creator for help and guidance
This happens to me all my life!!!! I had the urge to stare at a woman’s face and then her designer bag and I couldn’t stop myself. I don’t even think about it it just happens. She felt threatened and even her husband got annoyed. It’s so difficult!
I've been struggling w this for like 2 years. I noticed it started with me looking at the security guards crotch, then it passed to also staring my manager. I don't know where this came from but I'll assume is from being molested. I've suppressed this for the longest time and 4 years ago I started getting glimpses of all the shit that happened to me growing up. I had a mental breakdown that resulted in badly cutting myself (I've always self harmed but this one was way too deep) and ended up in the ward. I started some therapy but I was inconsistent. When I was ready to talk to my therapist about this my work insurance lapsed so I stop treatment altogether. This staring bs is ruining me. I work at a clinic there is a trigger since I wake up until I go to bed. I'm tired of it all. I wish I can master myself or at least be able to deal better with this. Too much people have been noticing. The anxiety of actually doing what the person recommends in the video towers over me even if I look on the tv I feel so disgusted w myself. Please God help me.
I too suffer.
I have learned alot of sleep helps, limiting caffeine and only christian music and TV.
Do you have any tips?
@@shanekent8621 no really, I just hope I don't get a sexual harassment case right now I would not be able to take it.
@@shanekent8621 have you thought about seeing a therapist? I'll be doing that soon.
Seek for OCD therapists.
Blur your vision sweet angle. It will break the nervous tension. Make ur vision blurry when talking with someone... just for a sec or 2 Trust me it works
I struggle with this. Thank you so much for this information and for everyone sharing. It makes me feel a little better and not so alone.
Does anyone struggle with intrusive thoughts that justify the staring? When I accidentally stare at a girl's chest my brain says "it's her fault for wearing that" and it scares me so much because i couldn't disagree more, I know it's my brain because they come so suddenly but I feel so so bad about this. These types of sexist thoughts and phrases have angered me since I was a child. I knew that these things were horrible and I always, ALWAYS hated those type of phrases, living in a country where women are victims of horrible violence everyday, sexism and mysoginy have always been what I hated the most, I want to make it better for women, I've always wanted to be part of an organization to help women or kids, but now my brain says these things and I just can't handle this anymore, I feel like a horrible person, ocd is attacking everything I care about and now I don't even know myself anymore ;(
i also struggle with your first sexist thought, felt horrible thinking like that too, I dont know that there are people like you also having this specific symptom
Best video on UA-cam till date explaining about my suffering thanks sir...... Please make more video on this ocd
It's been almost 5 years and still isolating myself and suffering from this issue. I'm still young and lost hope, I honestly don't see myself making it into the future.
U can tell it to ur friends and family about the ocd .
@@nemeropromeste4963it’s not something easy to talk about with friends in my opinion. I feel shame about it
I literally searched up . “How to stop staring!!” Its wild because i never knew I did this untill the other day .
3 years and counting for me, wbu?
I'm at freakin war with my own brain
Wow...I stumbled upon this video... Thought I was the only one ...Wow this gives me so much of relieve...Thank You ! Thank You! - This causes me so much of Anxiety ....
this is a experience by which i am going through, god please help me i am dying everyday i want back my old life i really miss my old life when i talk i interact with peoples when i love to go out
I feel the same way…. I’ve missed so many birthdays, weddings, and more….
@@ac-lu7uk our day will come
@Harshit satran have you been better or worse? this shit sucks man i miss my old life too.😔 Its so hard to talk to somebody when you have this! Have you told family or friends?
@@sh_qp_ee754 no brother I haven't told anyone, I am facing it like before. i am 23 n my graduation is about to complete n my parent alway use to say me that go out from home n find some work n i am afraid that with this condition how will I face society n all.
@@harshitsatran6928 yes its very hard to deal with this day to day life, i hear cbt or erp can help with this problem. whats your snapchat i want to talk somebody going thru same thing.
Do you think the pandemic and those with a propensity to social anxiety may also struggle with this? I think this is my case as I do not have OCD, but I feel that the lack of socializing and then having those 'fear of judgement' thoughts is causing me issues with this. Thank you for sharing
Maybe
OMG! I am going through this right now. I thought I was the only one. But I have lost 3 jobs that I loved because of this. But this was brought on after a incident at a warehouse
I’m so sorry…. I lost a few jobs as well and currently have been unemployed for 1 year. If you don’t mind me asking, are you currently working now? If so what job do you find most easy with this ocd staring?
try construction, wear dark sun glasses
@@ac-lu7uk I work construction and I make sure I wear glasses
I skipped all my school days because of this
@@mkmllrcim also bro.... Now is it cured??
Damn, I really need to go to therapy😭😭
U a kpop Stan so that must be hard
@@hadjaadam3674 🤨
@@hadjaadam3674is an ignorant thing to say for someone who needs help
Thank you so much for this video. I wish i knew it from before.
See I have suffered from the same problem since 2022 and from 4-5 months I have solved it 90 percent. So what I did was I consulted a psychiatrist and told him that I am suffering from ocd, he gave me some medicines I took medicines for some 3-4 months after that I had no money left with me but I had learned to manage the problem almost 90 percent so see if you are studying in school or college you need to sit on the first bench and if someone is on your left then cover your corner of the left eye with your left hand and vice versa while walking on the streets you can cover some part of the eye or can run and cross the person in front of you. So you have to create your own ways to get rid of the problem. Hope this helps😊
@@vatsalaggarwal7928i suffered with it in 2018
First and foremost all I can say is wow to be able to find this type of information where I don't feel so alone and perverted from having this problem that I find out others thousands of people share the same problem and that it's an anxiety related issue I am not homosexual nor am I a weirdo but I have struggled with this for quite some time as I am now an adult all the way back from my teenage years of looking at people's body parts mostly women due to the fact that women are attractive when they are in certain outfits or just have that type of figure the way most women dress nowadays exposing a lot but then at times just a casual dresser it's a habit it's like a a habit of just something that happens even when I don't want it to happen. I feel bad about it because I think of others and myself and I wouldn't want someone else to be looking at my body parts at the same time I believe it comes from self confidence of my silent shape I've always wanted to be bigger and for some reason I compare myself my body shaped to others especially in the gym or one with an athletic figure. I could go on and on of this topic and to realize it's a psychological struggle. It does not bother me to the point of being antisocial but it is a struggle when I'm talking with someone eye to eye face to face, I do my best too keep my attention straight but as usual it wonders in between. I've even considered to go to a nudist beach to be in the atmosphere I've never been in of everyone just being open and laid back where everything is exposed versus covered. I've never been one to like tucking in shirts where your antibody parts reflect through your clothing, if shaped awkwardly especially, I felt so weird thinking this but I realizing now discovering this it's not just me. Out of nowhere today I just decided to look up why I stare at body parts to see what I connect with the world and here we are......
Going through this hurts especially the unsupported ones who are anti mental health
When i talk to any female i alwats feel that she is thinking that i am trying to look her brests and then i feel that my eyes are not following my orders, I start look into her eyes to make sure I focus on it. But soon I realise that the female understood that I am behaving abnormally amd she start covering her brests that makes me more unconfortable by knowing omg she is thinking i am a pervert. And then i just end the conversation and run away, I am just tired of it .
this is my cycle, I dont wanna make people uncomfortable but this OCD just ruins it
Have you over come this problem?
Lol. This video really helped because now I see I'm not the only one and how silly it is.
I was thinking all my life that i had one type of ocd ( harmocd) , lately i realised thay all my life was based on ocd and intrusive thoughts, thank you for clarifying things for us ❤
I struggle with this too my compulsive starring is whenever anybody is wearing nail polish on there hands or feet I always have to look. I'll try these tips thanks
I been called a creep for 2 years at work because of this 😢 it’s not my fault ocd is evil
You're the opposite of a creep
People only a creep if they tried touching them up sexually without consent publicly.
Thanks for the helping, for the last 2 years I am just suffering from this and being an student it also effected my study
Classic Message, I needed this LOL! GREAT JOB MAN!
Dealt with this many times. My SSRI's help, but they don't always work.
I try to just accept that I'm having these intrusive thoughts and move on. Confessions don't work, it just fuels the OCD even more. I think the key, is to just let it pass by like it's radio static
It’s not surprising that it could trigger a horrible depression
I was suffering this intensely before. I didn't knew anything about and never even heard of ocd. I watched this video two year ago. Realising more about this helped to reduce its severity.
Few things i did helped is:
Whenever i feel like I starred, I tended to replay events in my mind over and over again after that so much time making sure that I didn't insulted any one.
The mindset shift I made is to understanding that I am ethically not a bad person. What is happening to me is of OCD and I am morally not bad person. This only just logical understood.
And then accepting the uncertainty of not knowing whether I starred at the person or insulted them.
Whenever I catch myself replaying past events over and over. I try to become aware of it to observe it when it comes to surface and see how much emotional reaction it is make on me . Then try to channel my attention to something else. This is not trying to have any replay in our mind by pushing thoughts. This is just to become aware that we are ruminating of past event.
Then try to divert attention to something happening in present moment .
Say in mind 'oh there a bird over there' or 'what is that noise I am hearing'. Or to occupy mind with attention diverting things like studying or watching some prank or comedy kind of videos.
I notice that that I have kind of overlay of visual of past events on top of presently what actually I am seeing. This is like a visual form of thinking of past events. Mostly we are not aware of images going through our mind in form of thinking.
I would try to observe what are the visuals that are going through mind (without resisting or manipulating the visual) especially after I thought I starred at someone.
This is kind of what I am intended to do ideally to tackle this. Not every time I was able to successfully deal with it. This is atleast helped me.
Happy new year, Nathan! Thank you for the video!!
Happy new year! Thanks so much!
Thanks for making the video this OCD has ruined my life.
I cant... Do this anymore... My eyes (view) also captures the parts i dont want to look at. Whenever i try to do ERP iam failing... Please help meee
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works. or you and buy a pair of prescription glasses and put a tiny bit of tape on the bottom of the lens. That frosty scotch tape. Works like a charm
@@yumyumdonuts1010 how to blur??
@@yumyumdonuts1010 24 yrs of fear omgg
@@daredevil7501 everyone has a natural ability to make there vision blurry. It’s almost like if you were trying to cross your eyes. Or you can do a combination “squint and blur” . Try the prescription glasses trick with a little scotch tape at the bottom of the lenses. It’s undetected. Maybe get some with a very light tint
@@yumyumdonuts1010 ppl can notice that v have tape in our specs..
Your videos are always helpful. Thank you. Can you do one about driving, having fear of getting back in the highway. 😓
Great suggestion! I have one on hit and run OCD. This may not apply!
I'm glad I came across this video. But I'm genuinely struggling. I was diagnosed with OCD as a child and have struggled with many forms of it over the years.
Im currently in a very good relationship and my partner notices my eyes darting around womens chest area and is convinced I'm some sort of pervert, I do not see women this way and this is not something I want to do. But knowing how she feels about it makes it worse and I can't see a way out of this. I dont want to looser her, I feel like I want to die.
hi nathan! thank you for talking about this, this theme has been bothering me a lot lately.
i wanted to ask if you knew about feeling like you're smiling at inappropriate events/thoughts. it often happens with harm thoughts or seeing awful things for me. i really dont want to smile, yet i feel like i'm about to, or even will. other people with ocd told me they experienced it, but i don't really understand it. i feel like it's similar to groinals, our body is reacting to the thoughts in that way because we don't want it to and we put too much focus on it.
You are right I am dude I am also suffering from sams thing. Can you tell me are you well know or if yes how did you treated it!
I am also suffering from that type of problem can you tell me how can
I heal it I am living very worst life😭😭😭can you help me please
I have been isolated since my childhood. I have had bad breath since I was eight years old and I am 32 today. From the age of 12 until today I have OCD compulsive staring. Life is not easy, it is a struggle and everyone has their own luck. I have many more good prospects, I thank God.
somali baa tahay sow ma ahan 🙆♂️
Same story.
20 years?
Gyaahhh this keeps happening to me even after it’s cost me multiple jobsssss will try this method tho hope it works out ^_^
I don't have a problem with looking at a woman's chest, belly button, or butt. I love that. Guys on the other hand, it's not because I want to. It's because my OCD says I HAVE to.
It is a real blessing and help to get a needle sharp description of this kind of severe mental help issue, that many of us go through! Thanks Nathan!
I starred at it with confidence
Of someone catches us can we be charged with sexual harassment and is this classified as sexual harassment
I’ve had this issue for a few years now, and recently is evolved into me staring at my own private parts, I’m constantly being judged and looked at as a freak, life is becoming unbearable. I plan to end my life soon
Take it easy bro. Your life is more important and worth living than the stupid Ocd.
learn and practice how to blur your vision when making eye contact. When you are in conversation with eye contact, blur your vision for a sec or 2 and it breaks the nervous tension. I’ve suffered with this for 24 years. And trust me it works
@@yumyumdonuts1010 how do u blur your vision
@@yumyumdonuts1010 yeah please can you explain how to blur your vision
@@Mia-cq6oe focus on an object in a room look at it and blur your vision. Do the same thing when you are in conversation with someone
I really do not know what to do.i sometimes feel the whole college I study will evacuate because of me and I sometimes feel that I am responsible for somebody studying in my class to move out.i also feel everybody avoid me because I stare at their body parts.
me too
Can you help me? I am from Tamil Nadu
But what if this wasn't happening before and started recently? It's been around 2 years and It's so tiring :( I've looked up for as many theories as I can and nothing has helped yet. There are some times when it's all calm and everything and them it starts again :/
This😭 I don't know how to get rid of this I feel like running away I don't wanna do this I wanna lock myself inside a room. I feel really really bad about myself. Why did they even bring me to this earth sir? I'm really helpless.
3 years suffering this, how long was yours?
@@mkmllrc 2.. how are you?
I was like in a bad situation while writing this comment.
@@howltae Im at rock bottom now, this peripheral OCD just took all my freedom away.
@@mkmllrc I just wanna run away but it's like I feel like no matter where ever I go it's gonn follow me. I don't know how to fight for me in this case but I'm trying my best. I'm so sorry for you.. but yk nobody is gonna help us actually nobody can understand and so wait for nobody. Help yourself. If you wanna save yourself you should find some way. We can't give up we mustn't give up. Fight for your way
@@mkmllrc I've had it for about 25 yrs now but figured out a way around it. Let me know if interested.
My condition is very worst I even cannot go out and attend my classes because of
fear of starring at others.i do not know what to do.please put a video for immediate solution to this problem
You are not alone
Sri Nidhi I am also going through same problem are u on Instagram we can meet and have some funny talks as we both have this which will release some stress
I have this problem and i hate it, i had it since like 2018 and i always wondered why I can’t control my eyes cause back then I didn’t know it coulda been a thing or a problem 😣
@@vatsalaggarwal7928 it’s not the only thing I’m dealing with, I’m also dealing with BPD and ASPD.
I obssess over hair i think because im a barber but it pours over even into body hair I worry when i look at body hair and get groinal responses does that make me a pervert or bad. I usually avoid it and ignore or often times a cycle of looking and looking away. When i do erp ocs freaks out and convinces me im actually doing bad things. Its a torturing cycle. This was very helpful
This is the only video I can really find about this all of the other videos are about what to do when people stare at you or telling people not to stare but I feel like a horrible person for having the impulses and for actually following through with them
For me i am in class and if a girl is in front of me I will be looking at the lesson and at the corner of my eye ill have my mind looking at a girl, and im beyond sorry that, that happens 😞
I have a bad urge of staring it’s hard asf I just want to be normal 😖😖.
12 mins video just to enroll your program
12 sec shorts would have been perfect
Hi,
My problem solved -
I was given Fluvoxamine 50 mg for 6 to 10months and I got my freedom. I was dying inside with the same problem and consulted a pscologist and was prescribed Fluvoxamine every night for 6 to 10 months and also betacap tablet every morning after breakfast. After 4 to 12 weeks i noticed that my intrusive thoughts vanished and now i am free from such thoughts and awkward depressions
can I get this from pharmacy without prescription?
@@waytiiwaytiprem5221 US requires prescription, India without prescription possible
@@MikeM-uo4gy does it still comes back?
how do i describe my symptoms to get this treatment. i want these thoughts to go away for good. please
Thank you so much am the victim of this kind of OCD disorder . the one thing that challenge be to fight my ocd is the comorbidity of depression i hop this video will help me !
I can help you. Just blur your vision when you are in conversation with eye contact. It’s like a shield for your eyes. It breaks the nervous tension.
@@yumyumdonuts1010 i dont know if this works, i been trying it but i feel like they notice me bluring my vision. i fucking hate this shit so much... why me😔
@@sh_qp_ee754 Trust me they don’t notice Shit. You can do it with out squinting
@@yumyumdonuts1010 whats your contact i wanna talk to you please.
@@sh_qp_ee754 it won’t let me put my email
Thank you for uploading this video.It is very helpful to me.I have this type of OCD since from 9 years. What should I do to cure this
Omg now I know the problem. I thought I was a perv and I'm the only one doing it. We kinda look at it even if we don't want.
Man this video is so true, it made me uncomfortable
i love this to my death