Well, OP doesn't lie to gf. Obviously gf does. It's very sad that OP has such low self esteem that he actually tried to work things out with his trashy ex. Only good thing is the 3 dogs will stay together.
I know right? It's even worse when you find out that what you thought was a lovely romance was actually all a lie. It can be so sad and heartbreaking. 😢
Well what do you expect ? It's their nature. Doesn't matter if OP didn't neglect her she will betrayed him in the end. The way OP describe their relationship the ex always selfish.
Key word here: narcissist. One very illuminating comment from OP was that she thought she owed him $1000, but in reality it was $5000 - and that meant that HE was trying to humiliate her! Wow, she's good! Wonder if that would work for her if she had a loan through the bank? He's well rid of this broad, and he made the right decision. And I'd be willing to bet her new boyfriend is only in this for what he can get from her.
Oh definitely, he is an older divorced guy! Most likely manipulative and narcissistic like she is. It will be hilariously terrible, and I hope she realizes that too late and screws her self over even worse.
Went from "I was with friends at a venue" to "I had to show a male coworker something in person" to "It's your fault I cheated." *Dump the moron, kick her out, block her from everything, explain the FACTS to her parents & friends IMMEDIATELY, take care of you & your mental health, love those doggos.*
OP types "we never lie to each other" and LG pipes up with a snarky little "riiiight" haha I'm only on the first part, but it's clear OP is in a heavy fog, wow
In the UK, it's pretty simple to deal with shared ownership outside of marriage. You can allocate shares at the point of purchase. I did a 50/50 split with my boyfriend before we got married, and then the property automatically converted to marital shared property when we got married. Admittedly, we were unofficially engaged at the point where we bought the house. I wanted a house, he wanted to get married. We agreed to do both. We'd both been married and divorced before so we knew exactly what we were getting in for and we'd both been the ones to sign away pretty much everything from our previous marriages so this is a gold digger free zone. 😆 No pre-nup required. It's entirely possible to divorce without being an AH about it.
It always bothered when cheaters say "you worked too much that's why i cheated" your spouse was working extra hours so you could live more comfy life. Truth is if you work a lot you are most of the time too tired to cheat, so it's lack of working that causes cheating more likely.
It's a nice twofer when you think about it. The 1st part of it is it gives you a look into that person's mind if you had made the mistake of believing that they were a good person righteous or any type of positive that type of excuse making just shows you what a vile individual they are. And the 2nd part is it shows you just how much of a Moron They are if they were so desperate for an excuse that they clung upon the most cliche and obviously Not a real excuse they could think of. I feel the hurt someone gets from a cheater is less because they cheat it more because they feel like a fool for not seeing them for the piece of garbage that they are. Sort of like what happened when you take off alcohol goggles, And realize that hot chick that you saw in front of you was actually a bearded woman. Your pride takes a hit that you almost are you already did do it with someone like that. I always feel bad when I hear ghosts like the poster debate themselves to try to get back together with such ugly individuals at the end. But it is good when during the pick me they choose the pick they're cheating partner that's for the best because it'll wake the cheated on that their partner was never a good person to begin with and they were a fool for even debasing themselves like this Allowing them to properly move on hopefully making progress before the cheating piece of garbage Decides they actually want them back because things didn't Pan out. At least in that case The cheated on can redeem themselves By telling them where to stick it And get the last word in😊
She's far too practised a liar for this to be her first raw-dog rodeo. OP needs to be absolutely ruthless in excising this wretched harlot from his life. Post-updates: That 3-hour conversation with a proven liar was a complete waste of OP's time. It's clear he's been a simp for the entirety of this relationship, but glad he's taking steps to improve. I hope he never lets a woman treat him like chattel again.
@@cateperez9696 I wish that was the case for my ex, she's living her best life and I still can't even trust anyone attempting to be my friend let alone anything else.
The fact the girlfriend told OP that "he told too many people, too early" and how OP keeps thinking she cheated cuz he "doesn't communicate well" shows you how she would've managed to manipulate him to get back with her if he hadn't had everyone he knows telling him not to.
She wanted to be able to spin the story to everyone. "OP and I realized that things weren't working out and decided to end it.' 'OP had an emotional affair with a client and accused me of cheating when I spoke to a coworker for emotional support in the situation."
I would say that as well.....if I wasn't skeptical about the AP not already being married. Also, I hope OP tells everyone about what she did. You can never trust a cheater to tell others the truth about why the relationship ended.
A common theme i see with any cheater story is them using the excuse that "you were too busy and didnt make enough time." If it truly was an issue, why not talk to your partner? I never understood how someone could go straight to cheating without trying first.
When she cheats, the betrayed has been replaced by her new hero. That's makes the betrayed her enemy, and she will fight as dirty as it takes to come out ahead. Guys need to realize that he is at war with the cheater and needs to act accordingly.
At least OP found out before they got married. Would have been way worse. Though you think the ex would be happy she gets an opportunity ro be with her "true love" now
They're still in the honeymoon phase. I won't say that their relationship won't work but a lot of it seemed to stream from having op to compare to. "He's so great because he's not op." "He listens unlike op." Now he's out of the equation and she can't keep comparing. That honeymoon phase will end and either they separate or work through it. Whatever the case the op doesn't have to suffer for it.
People deflecting blame when they cheat is horrible! I remember this movie where a girl cheats on her guy, to her credit she breaks up with her boyfriend before he finds out, but still. When they finally talk about why she stepped out she tells him it was his fault because he's a homebody and she did all this work to try to get him out of the house. Seminars, psychology books, therapy, talking to her mom, but nothing made a difference. I could get behind the frustration, but I was frustrated too because she never once mentioned talking TO HIM!!! about being unhappy, or whatever. The breakup obviously needed to happen, but there's no excuse for cheating.
I agree with you. In my opinion, if you cheat and then blame your betrayed partner instead of communicating with your partner what your problems are, then not only are you selfish, but you're also weak, immature and cowardly.
Always beware of people who prove themselves to be skilled at lying. Two things make a person a good liar. 1. Lots of practice and 2. A lack of conscience. That little feeling of guilt that most people automatically have when they tell a lie? Yeah, they don't have that. If they ever did, it's been worn away by all the years of practice.
Story 1 - OP did the right thing getting rid of gf, bad communication doesn't justify having an affair with another man. The slightest little problem and gf would have used it to go with other men.
It's amazing how much the fiance threw OP under the bus for her affair. Now she wouldn't have done it had he communicated with her more. But He is throwing away 7 years of a relationship. 🤦♂️ Sucks to lose the dogs but getting out with a clean slate perfect.
If he had communicated more? I don't think that wpuldnhave prevented her from cheating at all. I think she would have done it anyways and it just trying to justify it. My husband and i have communication problems here and there, but i would never cheat on him. The thought of it sickens me. And to be like "it's because you don't talk to me" is just really dumb.
@@redbiotics That's probably the most pathetic excuse for cheating I've ever heard. And I've seen some really lame excuses. OP might have been blinded by love for time, but it's a good thing that he came to his senses and realized his ex girlfriend was no good.
Yeah. Typical cheater nonsense. Blaming the person they betrayed for their infidelity or do anything to justify their cheating. How selfish, how immature, how weak. This is why even if they're not trying to be subtle about how much they suck, I'll always be more angry and frustrated at the cheater than I will be at the victim because even if the victim does act like a doormat, at least they have a chance to grow out of it, especially with a great support group. Meanwhile, the cheater will more than likely never change their behavior.
I don't buy her justifications for a second. If you feel your partner isn't making enough time for you or not communicating enough, you have a conversation with them about that, not look for an easy source of attention elsewhere.
Thank goodness she was honestly terrible at lying. She vanished for hours even though her given errand excuse should take far less time, and she relied on a friend for an alibi that he can easily check in with and that she hadn’t talked to first. 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
Lmao the ex *does* know her older man will dump her as soon as a younger, more attractive, more naïve woman comes along, right? She’ll probably try to go crawling back to OP because she’ll need a meal ticket.
I don't get all the talking after it was clear she cheated. He seems unable to grasp that she's just a piece of shit that planned to use him for money.
Keep shooting yourself in the face op..op really seems like he believes he did something wrong when the cheater gaslight him into believing he's in the wrong...
She blames him for lack of communication but didn't she do the exact same thing by not communicating her issues with him.? I call bs. She's a hypocrite.
I have some serious vertigo with all the eye rolling I did, listening to her absolute bs, constant deflection, gaslighting, lack of accountability etc. That part where he falters and begs for her back, gave her an ego boost and gives her an assumption that op will be a fall back plan. Does she know about his new woman?.
I'm always told that my views are conservative and outdated, but I truly believe you shouldn't buy a home or car until marriage. I don't even think you should live together. Keep everything separate
Mostly agree, but imo 1 year living together before proposing and then 1 year till the wedding You will not truly learn your partners behavior till you lived with him/her A friend of mine had a fiance with whom he didn't live, he only found out because she accidently wore the engagement ring her other fiance gave her
@@fyoutube9410 Regular over nights, spending weekends and vacation time together (at your place other or the other person's place) should be sufficient. But, for God sake, do not buy real estate (aka your home) with someone when you aren't married to them. If the relationship goes south, the rules/laws that are in place for splitting co-owned property (personal property as well as a home) that work for a divorce and distribution of "community" property, don't work for co-owned property without the benefit of marriage. For goodness sake, don't these people watch Judge Judy. I have lost count how many times she has had people in a case, who had been lving together, bought a home, the split up and they can't figure it out on their ....... he wants the house, she wants the house and never the twain shall meet. The ones that are really bad is when on of them own the home before they got together, then the home owner got stupid and redeeded the home, putting the other on the deed as co owner, then they break up and the added person won't agree to file a quit claim giving full ownership back to the other person ...... and the courts can not resolve it for them because the rules for dissolution of a marriage and distribution of property does not apply for folks who decide to shack up and do stupid things.
ite, seems pretty clear cut. dump the trash gf and give yourself and a friend of yours a luxurious vacation to a honeymoon spot. to think exgf was ready to marry OP while having an affair and sh!ttalking him behind his back. nah bruh, cut. her. out. once the finances and estate have been figured out, she's dead to you, OP. you're better off without her, and you deserve better. post-update: ah yes, the classic "it's actually your fault, person i'm manipulating, because you're throwing away a long-term relationship i decided to cheat on. truly you are the only one ruining what we have". if she wanted OP, she would have stuck with OP. now that she can't have him, she tries everything she can to break him down and covertly convince him she's the only person he can be happy with. it's nice that he's finally working on moving on, and the cheating B won't be in his life much longer. may she step on many legos henceforth.
So she takes him reminding her how much she actually owes him when she lowballed the figure as rude? If I you owe me 50 bucks and say it's 5, that's rude to me.
"You told too many people to fast" < The cry of a manipulator that gets exposed before they can get in front of the situation so they can manipulate things in their favor.
OP is a nit wit for continually engaging in any communication outside of financial concerns. He allowed her to get him take blame in the failure of the relationship. He should’ve gotten an attorney to iron out details of the finances. His story got increasingly frustrating as he continued to allow her play games and dictate every aspect of the relationship.
Right? That 3-hour conversation was a complete waste of his time. What could she possibly have to say, that wouldn't be more practised lies? Dude needed to be much more ruthless in excising this wretched cancer from his life.
@@DrownedInExile His behavior was completely disgusting in my view because he continued to let it go on and on and on. I got caught up in a similar situation years ago. I let a girl do the exact same thing to me. But I snapped outta that coma only after a few days. After I did a 180 she was the one begging and began stalking me.
Why is it always nurses loll also I give her 6 months before she starts getting bag in your DMs because the old fart she's now with isn't giving her what she wants because she's a narcissist. Go get better!
This woman either doesn't know this man(OP) or she is a total narcissist and OP didn't know. How did this woman not know the nuances of how OP works after 7 years? This reads/sounds like a 2 year relationship blow up, not a 7 year blow up. Wow, this woman is beyond help.
Needless to say, the cheating fianceè sucks, and OP made the right decision in leaving her dead weight. Thank heavens he found out before the wedding. In my opinion, if you cheat and then blame your betrayed partner instead of communicating with your partner what your problems are, then not only are you selfish, but you're also weak, immature and cowardly. And I know some people would say OP is an idiot, a simp or a doormat and maybe he was, but I think he was another one of those people who probably never had this happen to them before and/or was blinded by love. That being said, I'm glad OP is going to therapy, taking care of himself and realized that he deserved better and even managed to find some new love. A lady who loves him genuinely. I wish OP the best! ❤
I very much enjoy listening to you reading these stories, and like your 'judgements' for the most part. I occasionally disagree, but that only adds to the spice of life! On a side note, TBD means to be determined. Greetings from Denmark 😊🎉
Omg- at the end of this longgggggg story he says “ I should have listened to my family and friends when they warned me about her”””””””” SO you were warned but decided to sink yourself into this situation because you were lazy? Then were shocked she lied, cheated, and blamed you? Oh well consequences happen
Dude works to financially support her so she doesn't have to work herself while getting on her feet and she says he works too much. Hate crap like that. Like who do you think he's working FOR? And like he said she never communicated her problems to him yet it is somehow exclusively his fault. Also when they cheat they are the one who broke the relationship, not the other person finding out and getting away from them. This idea that it is the person finding out and wanting to not be with a cheater that is what causes the break instead of a partner choosing to cheat on them is just awful.
I really feel for this guy as breaking up sucks and finding out your fiancé is a liar and cheater is even worse. However, he did not marry her and have children! I am sure not having the dogs will be tough BUT she now has to take care of all 3 of them and deal with a horse. This dude is FREE. He can say that he tried to save the relationship and hold his head up high. She on the other hand, will now be with a dude that has to actually live with this chick. The grind of the daily life will be there AND they work together. This is a disaster waiting to happen and my hope is that this dude does NOT take her back when or if this horrible cheating person comes back. I do think it is to soon for him to be seeing someone else as he needs time to heal.
Poor OP, he was working extra hours so the CHEATER wouldn’t have too and she blamed him for “working too much” 😢. My heart hearts for OP, he didn’t throw away a 7 year relationship, she did, and she even had the audacity to blame him.
I would’ve cut her off whenever she blamed OP for her actions. Like “no, this a choice you made. I am not responsible for _your_ actions, that’s completely on you.”
Why do people ignore their family and friends when they warn them about an incoming dumpster fire relationship? Like come on. If everyone around you is saying she's trouble, maybe they're right.
One thing I would like to say, and I think this is crucial advice. While the cheating is not his fault, of course, you should never dedicate yourself 100% to someone else's needs, forgetting your own self, especially when you haven't asked if this would be appreciated. Don't assume your partner wants you to be a selfless slave. Always keep a hobby or something just for you, out of respect for your individuality! It's not worth it otherwise :)
Man, the ex is a piece of work. Trying to justify her cheating by OP not talking to her enough? Maybe she should have used her big girl words and talked to OP instead of immediately cheating if there was truly a problem.
My thoughts exactly! In my opinion, if you cheat and then blame your betrayed partner instead of communicating with your partner what your problems are, then not only are you selfish, but you're also weak, immature and cowardly.
@@PrincessQ-fj9ly Yup! In all honesty I don't think the girlfriend really had an issue with "communication". I think she's just a narcissist who wanted to keep OP as a safety net and thought she could manipulate him into staying. Didn't work though!
I would have gone all the way to the point of "Does anyone object to this marriage" and I would have said yes, called her cheating partner, and said, come take your place since the two of you want to be together....
I can't wait for the inevitable day the old dude finds an even younger woman and dumps her, or gets in the gutter with all the child support he has to pay. Bet she's going to demand OP to take her cheating ass back because *"it was a mistake, it was only a year"*
Better to know now than after the marriage. If she had issues she should of talked to you first. And if she felt neglected why would she want to proceed with marriage.
Oh shit! I know this girl. Wow… I went to high school with her and my god… the bs she pulled in those 4 high school years…. Man…. She literally tricked a guy that HER parents died and she had no way to pay anything… the classmate gave her tons of money because he was working at the time. What did she use it for? A boob job. 2 times. That’s just 1 of the cruelest things she did.
“We never lie to each other” makes me sad ☹️ that’s an intense amount of trust to shatter in someone
Well, OP doesn't lie to gf. Obviously gf does. It's very sad that OP has such low self esteem that he actually tried to work things out with his trashy ex. Only good thing is the 3 dogs will stay together.
I've said these exact words. It is the WORST
Can confirm it hurts like hell
I know right? It's even worse when you find out that what you thought was a lovely romance was actually all a lie. It can be so sad and heartbreaking. 😢
Typical cheater. Lie, blame others, downplay their actions, and try to act like they did nothing wrong. Pathetic.
Well what do you expect ? It's their nature. Doesn't matter if OP didn't neglect her she will betrayed him in the end. The way OP describe their relationship the ex always selfish.
Don't forget: entitled and ungrateful
More like everything that's part of a narcissist.
Key word here: narcissist. One very illuminating comment from OP was that she thought she owed him $1000, but in reality it was $5000 - and that meant that HE was trying to humiliate her! Wow, she's good! Wonder if that would work for her if she had a loan through the bank? He's well rid of this broad, and he made the right decision. And I'd be willing to bet her new boyfriend is only in this for what he can get from her.
Oh definitely, he is an older divorced guy!
Most likely manipulative and narcissistic like she is.
It will be hilariously terrible, and I hope she realizes that too late and screws her self over even worse.
Agreed. classic narcissist behavior
Wow, she is mad he determined the amount she owned him?
When they were apparently alone, so how is she embarrassed?!
That is no excuse for trash talk!
Went from "I was with friends at a venue" to "I had to show a male coworker something in person" to "It's your fault I cheated."
*Dump the moron, kick her out, block her from everything, explain the FACTS to her parents & friends IMMEDIATELY, take care of you & your mental health, love those doggos.*
"You're not Perfect, so I HAD to cheat!" Yes. Totally logical.
It takes a special lack of insight to accuse someone you're cheating on for "lack of communication"
Don't you just love it when the cheater blames the victim?
I know right?
OP types "we never lie to each other" and LG pipes up with a snarky little "riiiight" haha
I'm only on the first part, but it's clear OP is in a heavy fog, wow
To be fair to OP, that was what they had thought was going on. Unfortunately, he was completely wrong.
@@hellkitelord8319 I do feel bad for OP, I just got a real kick out of LG's snark ;P
@Catherine Cox oh same I found it funny, too.
Op should feel lucky that he didn’t have kids with her and this is a perfect example of never buy a house with someone if you not married
Or just get a prenup just in case.
In the UK, it's pretty simple to deal with shared ownership outside of marriage. You can allocate shares at the point of purchase. I did a 50/50 split with my boyfriend before we got married, and then the property automatically converted to marital shared property when we got married. Admittedly, we were unofficially engaged at the point where we bought the house. I wanted a house, he wanted to get married. We agreed to do both. We'd both been married and divorced before so we knew exactly what we were getting in for and we'd both been the ones to sign away pretty much everything from our previous marriages so this is a gold digger free zone. 😆 No pre-nup required. It's entirely possible to divorce without being an AH about it.
Not that exactly but make a pre-nup for the house. Sounds cold-hearted but thats the way to go
Or a horse.
It always bothered when cheaters say "you worked too much that's why i cheated" your spouse was working extra hours so you could live more comfy life. Truth is if you work a lot you are most of the time too tired to cheat, so it's lack of working that causes cheating more likely.
It's a nice twofer when you think about it.
The 1st part of it is it gives you a look into that person's mind if you had made the mistake of believing that they were a good person righteous or any type of positive that type of excuse making just shows you what a vile individual they are. And the 2nd part is it shows you just how much of a Moron They are if they were so desperate for an excuse that they clung upon the most cliche and obviously Not a real excuse they could think of. I feel the hurt someone gets from a cheater is less because they cheat it more because they feel like a fool for not seeing them for the piece of garbage that they are. Sort of like what happened when you take off alcohol goggles, And realize that hot chick that you saw in front of you was actually a bearded woman. Your pride takes a hit that you almost are you already did do it with someone like that.
I always feel bad when I hear ghosts like the poster debate themselves to try to get back together with such ugly individuals at the end. But it is good when during the pick me they choose the pick they're cheating partner that's for the best because it'll wake the cheated on that their partner was never a good person to begin with and they were a fool for even debasing themselves like this Allowing them to properly move on hopefully making progress before the cheating piece of garbage Decides they actually want them back because things didn't Pan out. At least in that case The cheated on can redeem themselves By telling them where to stick it And get the last word in😊
First story, None of her reasons for cheating, hold any weight she still cheated
They never do!
She's far too practised a liar for this to be her first raw-dog rodeo. OP needs to be absolutely ruthless in excising this wretched harlot from his life. Post-updates: That 3-hour conversation with a proven liar was a complete waste of OP's time. It's clear he's been a simp for the entirety of this relationship, but glad he's taking steps to improve. I hope he never lets a woman treat him like chattel again.
Lmao LG your sarcastic-under-the-breath “right” after OP kept saying “we never lie to each other” cracked me up. It’s sad though how blindsided OP was
So glad OP is coming out of this realizing it wasn't on him. Hope he finds his person and that the ex gets her karma
Well,atleast the trash take itself out. It's always bother me that the cheater always blaming the person they cheating on ?
For crying out loud, just dump the B.
She is manipulating you.
Just get rid of her, she is just using you.
Seriously, this guy is looking for ways to justify taking her back.
These are the kind of stories that make me wish I could jump into the future to see where the cheaters choices landed them.
Cheaters usually get what they deserve because they made bad choices
And they're immoral jerks
@@cateperez9696 I wish that was the case for my ex, she's living her best life and I still can't even trust anyone attempting to be my friend let alone anything else.
Sometimes they flourish like the green bay tree, like my ex!
@@cateperez9696 Your username is awesome.
The fact the girlfriend told OP that "he told too many people, too early" and how OP keeps thinking she cheated cuz he "doesn't communicate well" shows you how she would've managed to manipulate him to get back with her if he hadn't had everyone he knows telling him not to.
She wanted to be able to spin the story to everyone. "OP and I realized that things weren't working out and decided to end it.' 'OP had an emotional affair with a client and accused me of cheating when I spoke to a coworker for emotional support in the situation."
She wanted to make op the 'BAD GUY'. After op told people she no longer could.
I love that you actually do voices when you read these stories! Especially for the shady females!😂
Let her marry her 50 y/o AP and his gaggle of kids if she's so unhappy.
The hilarious bit is that if she does marry him, she will be MISERABLE 🤣
@@absolutelyridiculous6743 Or, she gets knocked up and then he dumps her.
I would say that as well.....if I wasn't skeptical about the AP not already being married. Also, I hope OP tells everyone about what she did. You can never trust a cheater to tell others the truth about why the relationship ended.
“They only made out once” lol
its funny how cheaters blame everyone but themselves😒
A common theme i see with any cheater story is them using the excuse that "you were too busy and didnt make enough time." If it truly was an issue, why not talk to your partner? I never understood how someone could go straight to cheating without trying first.
When she cheats, the betrayed has been replaced by her new hero. That's makes the betrayed her enemy, and she will fight as dirty as it takes to come out ahead. Guys need to realize that he is at war with the cheater and needs to act accordingly.
This. There are times in life when we have full license, and maybe even an affirmative duty, to be absolutely cutthroat ruthless.
At least OP found out before they got married. Would have been way worse.
Though you think the ex would be happy she gets an opportunity ro be with her "true love" now
How long will the relationship with that divorced coworker would last? I bet he has some baby mama drama issues
@@erenssister.5535 Well she is obviously into that
They're still in the honeymoon phase. I won't say that their relationship won't work but a lot of it seemed to stream from having op to compare to.
"He's so great because he's not op." "He listens unlike op."
Now he's out of the equation and she can't keep comparing. That honeymoon phase will end and either they separate or work through it. Whatever the case the op doesn't have to suffer for it.
People deflecting blame when they cheat is horrible!
I remember this movie where a girl cheats on her guy, to her credit she breaks up with her boyfriend before he finds out, but still. When they finally talk about why she stepped out she tells him it was his fault because he's a homebody and she did all this work to try to get him out of the house. Seminars, psychology books, therapy, talking to her mom, but nothing made a difference. I could get behind the frustration, but I was frustrated too because she never once mentioned talking TO HIM!!! about being unhappy, or whatever.
The breakup obviously needed to happen, but there's no excuse for cheating.
I agree with you. In my opinion, if you cheat and then blame your betrayed partner instead of communicating with your partner what your problems are, then not only are you selfish, but you're also weak, immature and cowardly.
Always beware of people who prove themselves to be skilled at lying. Two things make a person a good liar. 1. Lots of practice and 2. A lack of conscience. That little feeling of guilt that most people automatically have when they tell a lie? Yeah, they don't have that. If they ever did, it's been worn away by all the years of practice.
Concise. Well said LG!😂. Yeah she was monkey branching! Now she is doing the DARVO thing! And trickle truthing! Oh yeah sell the place and move on!
And that's why folks you NEVER EVER buy a house with a boyfriend/girlfriend!!!DUH!!
That part!
Don’t fall for her “ blame” game / trust has been BROKEN !!!
Story 1 - OP did the right thing getting rid of gf, bad communication doesn't justify having an affair with another man. The slightest little problem and gf would have used it to go with other men.
I like your small comments during the stories, hope there’s more of this in the future:)
It's amazing how much the fiance threw OP under the bus for her affair. Now she wouldn't have done it had he communicated with her more. But He is throwing away 7 years of a relationship. 🤦♂️ Sucks to lose the dogs but getting out with a clean slate perfect.
If he had communicated more? I don't think that wpuldnhave prevented her from cheating at all. I think she would have done it anyways and it just trying to justify it.
My husband and i have communication problems here and there, but i would never cheat on him. The thought of it sickens me. And to be like "it's because you don't talk to me" is just really dumb.
@@redbiotics That's probably the most pathetic excuse for cheating I've ever heard. And I've seen some really lame excuses. OP might have been blinded by love for time, but it's a good thing that he came to his senses and realized his ex girlfriend was no good.
Yeah. Typical cheater nonsense. Blaming the person they betrayed for their infidelity or do anything to justify their cheating. How selfish, how immature, how weak. This is why even if they're not trying to be subtle about how much they suck, I'll always be more angry and frustrated at the cheater than I will be at the victim because even if the victim does act like a doormat, at least they have a chance to grow out of it, especially with a great support group. Meanwhile, the cheater will more than likely never change their behavior.
Yeah, yeah, excuses excuses...
that's all I heard from her on the story one... Good job for OP.
I hope the doggos is fine with her...
My cousin said she cheated on her boyfriend because "I can talk about politics with this guy. BF doesn't like talking about that stuff...." WHAT?!
Good story with good ending. Glad OP has been able to work his way out of the mess!
I don't buy her justifications for a second. If you feel your partner isn't making enough time for you or not communicating enough, you have a conversation with them about that, not look for an easy source of attention elsewhere.
She loves horses so much she started acting like a brood mare. What a shameless woman!
Thank goodness she was honestly terrible at lying. She vanished for hours even though her given errand excuse should take far less time, and she relied on a friend for an alibi that he can easily check in with and that she hadn’t talked to first. 👏🏻 👏🏻 👏🏻
When the say you should have, blah blah blah, just come back with “ so you decided to cheat?!” “That was your grand solution?!”
Always listen to your first instinct, you can apologize later if your wrong.
Lmao the ex *does* know her older man will dump her as soon as a younger, more attractive, more naïve woman comes along, right? She’ll probably try to go crawling back to OP because she’ll need a meal ticket.
I don't get all the talking after it was clear she cheated. He seems unable to grasp that she's just a piece of shit that planned to use him for money.
THANK YOU!!! RIGHT. Blah blah blah
She lies and cheats and gaslights….. end of story
Keep shooting yourself in the face op..op really seems like he believes he did something wrong when the cheater gaslight him into believing he's in the wrong...
Yea, I wanted to reach through the screen so I could smack him for groveling…how could he do that to himself!?!
@Stirred Not Shaken bigtime bruhh
She blames him for lack of communication but didn't she do the exact same thing by not communicating her issues with him.? I call bs. She's a hypocrite.
She wanted to get caught.
Not coordinating your lie with your best friend? That was deliberate.
Never attribute to malice what can be adiquetly explained by stupidity.
I have some serious vertigo with all the eye rolling I did, listening to her absolute bs, constant deflection, gaslighting, lack of accountability etc.
That part where he falters and begs for her back, gave her an ego boost and gives her an assumption that op will be a fall back plan.
Does she know about his new woman?.
I'm always told that my views are conservative and outdated, but I truly believe you shouldn't buy a home or car until marriage. I don't even think you should live together. Keep everything separate
Mostly agree, but imo 1 year living together before proposing and then 1 year till the wedding
You will not truly learn your partners behavior till you lived with him/her
A friend of mine had a fiance with whom he didn't live, he only found out because she accidently wore the engagement ring her other fiance gave her
Agree mostly except the living together. You need to see that side of them to see if you can live with those habits.
@@fyoutube9410 Regular over nights, spending weekends and vacation time together (at your place other or the other person's place) should be sufficient. But, for God sake, do not buy real estate (aka your home) with someone when you aren't married to them. If the relationship goes south, the rules/laws that are in place for splitting co-owned property (personal property as well as a home) that work for a divorce and distribution of "community" property, don't work for co-owned property without the benefit of marriage. For goodness sake, don't these people watch Judge Judy. I have lost count how many times she has had people in a case, who had been lving together, bought a home, the split up and they can't figure it out on their ....... he wants the house, she wants the house and never the twain shall meet. The ones that are really bad is when on of them own the home before they got together, then the home owner got stupid and redeeded the home, putting the other on the deed as co owner, then they break up and the added person won't agree to file a quit claim giving full ownership back to the other person ...... and the courts can not resolve it for them because the rules for dissolution of a marriage and distribution of property does not apply for folks who decide to shack up and do stupid things.
ite, seems pretty clear cut. dump the trash gf and give yourself and a friend of yours a luxurious vacation to a honeymoon spot. to think exgf was ready to marry OP while having an affair and sh!ttalking him behind his back. nah bruh, cut. her. out. once the finances and estate have been figured out, she's dead to you, OP. you're better off without her, and you deserve better.
post-update: ah yes, the classic "it's actually your fault, person i'm manipulating, because you're throwing away a long-term relationship i decided to cheat on. truly you are the only one ruining what we have". if she wanted OP, she would have stuck with OP. now that she can't have him, she tries everything she can to break him down and covertly convince him she's the only person he can be happy with. it's nice that he's finally working on moving on, and the cheating B won't be in his life much longer. may she step on many legos henceforth.
We never “lie to each other” 😂
Poor, naive OP 🤣
So she takes him reminding her how much she actually owes him when she lowballed the figure as rude? If I you owe me 50 bucks and say it's 5, that's rude to me.
I cant believe OP actually grovelled to that cheater. I really hope OP gets rid of her and never sees her again.
He sure took all the learnings!
S1 Sounds like a nurse
OP is a big ol F’n doormat. I’d go so nuclear her head would explode.
And my family wonders why I’m so against relationships
"You told too many people to fast" < The cry of a manipulator that gets exposed before they can get in front of the situation so they can manipulate things in their favor.
OP is a nit wit for continually engaging in any communication outside of financial concerns. He allowed her to get him take blame in the failure of the relationship. He should’ve gotten an attorney to iron out details of the finances. His story got increasingly frustrating as he continued to allow her play games and dictate every aspect of the relationship.
Right? That 3-hour conversation was a complete waste of his time. What could she possibly have to say, that wouldn't be more practised lies? Dude needed to be much more ruthless in excising this wretched cancer from his life.
@@DrownedInExile His behavior was completely disgusting in my view because he continued to let it go on and on and on. I got caught up in a similar situation years ago. I let a girl do the exact same thing to me. But I snapped outta that coma only after a few days. After I did a 180 she was the one begging and began stalking me.
Op should have kept the house, bought her out and then rented out the pasture.
Why is it always nurses loll also I give her 6 months before she starts getting bag in your DMs because the old fart she's now with isn't giving her what she wants because she's a narcissist. Go get better!
This woman either doesn't know this man(OP) or she is a total narcissist and OP didn't know. How did this woman not know the nuances of how OP works after 7 years? This reads/sounds like a 2 year relationship blow up, not a 7 year blow up.
Wow, this woman is beyond help.
Bold of the wife to assume moving on was in any way her decision. And of course not missing a shot to blame OP for crap she’s done.
Lol. I always enjoy your small quips. Carry on!
😂 that "concise" comment at the title got a chuckle out of me
OP is thriving after the breakup. I just hope he can move out and go no contact with this narcissist.
Needless to say, the cheating fianceè sucks, and OP made the right decision in leaving her dead weight. Thank heavens he found out before the wedding. In my opinion, if you cheat and then blame your betrayed partner instead of communicating with your partner what your problems are, then not only are you selfish, but you're also weak, immature and cowardly. And I know some people would say OP is an idiot, a simp or a doormat and maybe he was, but I think he was another one of those people who probably never had this happen to them before and/or was blinded by love. That being said, I'm glad OP is going to therapy, taking care of himself and realized that he deserved better and even managed to find some new love. A lady who loves him genuinely. I wish OP the best! ❤
Story 1: Secure bank and credit first. Than get a lawyer.
What a DOORMAT thinking it's OK for his fiance to cheat and NEVER hold her accountable
I very much enjoy listening to you reading these stories, and like your 'judgements' for the most part. I occasionally disagree, but that only adds to the spice of life! On a side note, TBD means to be determined. Greetings from Denmark 😊🎉
Thank you @huldren3! :)
People who try to justify cheating don't deserve happiness.
Doormats will doormat
Yeah, I’d keep the house. He can rent rooms out to make money to support the upkeep.
Omg- at the end of this longgggggg story he says “ I should have listened to my family and friends when they warned me about her”””””””” SO you were warned but decided to sink yourself into this situation because you were lazy? Then were shocked she lied, cheated, and blamed you? Oh well consequences happen
Dude works to financially support her so she doesn't have to work herself while getting on her feet and she says he works too much. Hate crap like that. Like who do you think he's working FOR? And like he said she never communicated her problems to him yet it is somehow exclusively his fault.
Also when they cheat they are the one who broke the relationship, not the other person finding out and getting away from them. This idea that it is the person finding out and wanting to not be with a cheater that is what causes the break instead of a partner choosing to cheat on them is just awful.
I really feel for this guy as breaking up sucks and finding out your fiancé is a liar and cheater is even worse. However, he did not marry her and have children! I am sure not having the dogs will be tough BUT she now has to take care of all 3 of them and deal with a horse. This dude is FREE. He can say that he tried to save the relationship and hold his head up high. She on the other hand, will now be with a dude that has to actually live with this chick. The grind of the daily life will be there AND they work together. This is a disaster waiting to happen and my hope is that this dude does NOT take her back when or if this horrible cheating person comes back. I do think it is to soon for him to be seeing someone else as he needs time to heal.
Poor OP, he was working extra hours so the CHEATER wouldn’t have too and she blamed him for “working too much” 😢. My heart hearts for OP, he didn’t throw away a 7 year relationship, she did, and she even had the audacity to blame him.
Guaranteed this was not her first time cheating.
Tyvm LG stay safe please, peace.
Lol ex wanted op to take her back and then chooses someone else anyway. Op keep the house and charge the ex to board the horse.
Pretty sure within a year, there will be an update with her begging to come back. Waiting for that one.
The only reason she kept blaming OP as the reason for her cheating is because OP is absolutely a spineless man.
Story 1; NEVER get a SO that owns a horse.
Love the Jane Austin theme
“Boarding it at a barn”??? With what money???? OP had been supporting her and she still needs to get bills and housing sorted.
“Too focused on money,” says the women being financially supported by OP.
I would’ve cut her off whenever she blamed OP for her actions. Like “no, this a choice you made. I am not responsible for _your_ actions, that’s completely on you.”
I'm so proud of OP
Why do people ignore their family and friends when they warn them about an incoming dumpster fire relationship? Like come on. If everyone around you is saying she's trouble, maybe they're right.
One thing I would like to say, and I think this is crucial advice. While the cheating is not his fault, of course, you should never dedicate yourself 100% to someone else's needs, forgetting your own self, especially when you haven't asked if this would be appreciated. Don't assume your partner wants you to be a selfless slave. Always keep a hobby or something just for you, out of respect for your individuality! It's not worth it otherwise :)
If she cheats, she belongs to the streets.
Man, the ex is a piece of work. Trying to justify her cheating by OP not talking to her enough? Maybe she should have used her big girl words and talked to OP instead of immediately cheating if there was truly a problem.
My thoughts exactly! In my opinion, if you cheat and then blame your betrayed partner instead of communicating with your partner what your problems are, then not only are you selfish, but you're also weak, immature and cowardly.
@@PrincessQ-fj9ly Yup! In all honesty I don't think the girlfriend really had an issue with "communication". I think she's just a narcissist who wanted to keep OP as a safety net and thought she could manipulate him into staying. Didn't work though!
I would have gone all the way to the point of "Does anyone object to this marriage" and I would have said yes, called her cheating partner, and said, come take your place since the two of you want to be together....
I can't wait for the inevitable day the old dude finds an even younger woman and dumps her, or gets in the gutter with all the child support he has to pay. Bet she's going to demand OP to take her cheating ass back because *"it was a mistake, it was only a year"*
Better to know now than after the marriage.
If she had issues she should of talked to you first. And if she felt neglected why would she want to proceed with marriage.
Yes you will OP. You’re already dating again. Hear from you soon! 🙄
I predict her new partner is going to either leave her or cheat on her eventually and then she will come crawling back, begging for another chance.
Their is never a good reason to cheat
Many women are like Superman, accountability is their kryptonite.
So are most men. LG reads the stories with male cheaters too
Yep....
Many men are like Superman too.
Many men are like Superman,
Responsibility and accountability are their kryptonite
Oh shit! I know this girl. Wow… I went to high school with her and my god… the bs she pulled in those 4 high school years…. Man…. She literally tricked a guy that HER parents died and she had no way to pay anything… the classmate gave her tons of money because he was working at the time. What did she use it for? A boob job. 2 times.
That’s just 1 of the cruelest things she did.
Geez Louise, she despises you and you still begging her to make it work?