Urget Warning: Don't get sucked in by female senior MOBS

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  • @A_newlife
    @A_newlife 3 місяці тому +78

    I'm 61 and stay to myself for this very reason ! I have a lot of women like that in my family, and I don't go around them at all. Sometimes I'm lonely, then I GET OVER IT. I can't do it !!!

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +16

      There are some really amazing women out there too. I hope you can encounter some of them.

    • @LuisaLoren
      @LuisaLoren 3 місяці тому +18

      Me too! I grew to love being alone.

    • @thereseschab5042
      @thereseschab5042 3 місяці тому +15

      Me also...I rarely even talk to anyone these days. Life is so peaceful.

    • @sponzie1
      @sponzie1 3 місяці тому +2

      I do the same,my age mate🙏

    • @kycalm
      @kycalm 3 місяці тому +4

      @@gloriouslifeonwheels3621 I love this advice. So many of the responders sound as if they have just chosen to shut the door to relationships. I don’t think that is the answer. It is about setting controlling boundaries in life.

  • @katheryn7318
    @katheryn7318 3 місяці тому +25

    II experienced this too many times. It is sad. That's why I hybernate! Glad you are well.

  • @brendabrock7702
    @brendabrock7702 3 місяці тому +20

    I'm an introvert a loner gotta be alone! 😅 I rather have peace than a bunch of BS. I'm happier alone doing my own thing, without being judged. It's my life and do what matters to me and makes me happy 😊. Those women exist at all ages. I'm in a profession that's mostly men. I immediately noticed it when I tried more traditional women's field and
    hated the cattyness. I went back to working with men.

  • @kuleanapacifikana1429
    @kuleanapacifikana1429 3 місяці тому +55

    It’s really “shamefully sad,” that there’s females who behave this way. And, I found that males are the same too. At 60 years of age, I’ve come across a plethora of DIFFERENT kinds of human beings and have experienced both the positive and the negative sides of their behavior in my encounters with them. And, like you’ve said, “I AVOID them like the plague! Because no good can come from it!” We’ve gotta be keenly aware of our surroundings when in public and in our workplace. Because these types of people are on the prowl to see who they can pick on, and get away with it. I’ve had to weed out some folks in my life through the years, including some family members in order to maintain my peace of mind and happiness. Aloha from Hawaii!🤙🏽

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +9

      Aloha. Yrs. Somet8mes we have to weed out those folks or they will choke the life out of your spirit.

    • @kuleanapacifikana1429
      @kuleanapacifikana1429 3 місяці тому

      @@gloriouslifeonwheels3621, absolutely!💯 🙌🏽🫶🏽

    • @barbarabuford5795
      @barbarabuford5795 3 місяці тому +1

      SO True!​@@gloriouslifeonwheels3621

    • @Carolina480
      @Carolina480 2 місяці тому

      OH YES MEN ARE THE SAME THEY ARE GOSSIPERS CREATE PROBLEMS YALK ABOUT OTHERS PEOPLES LIVES NOT TO HELP YUO BUT TO CREATE MORE DRAMA THE OLDER THEY GET WORSE THEY ARE NOSY

    • @Carolina480
      @Carolina480 2 місяці тому

      @@gloriouslifeonwheels3621❤

  • @gailjohnson6670
    @gailjohnson6670 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you for the video. Blessings to you.

  • @fleck36
    @fleck36 3 місяці тому +25

    I hear you!!😊i don't stay around long enough to know mobs. Thank you for bringing up this point.

  • @moonstar4292
    @moonstar4292 3 місяці тому +40

    The MOBS in my mom's assisted living were merciless and mean. MOBS are just one of the reasons I will NEVER ever live in a senior building or community

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +8

      There does seem to often be an above average number of these women in those settings.

  • @MDWascom40
    @MDWascom40 3 місяці тому +28

    In Louisiana we refer to MOB’s as “Mad Cow Diseased Heffas.”

  • @RetiredFreeBird
    @RetiredFreeBird 3 місяці тому +8

    Best acronym i've heard in a while. Good one Carol!🎉❤

  • @dianneweaver4809
    @dianneweaver4809 3 місяці тому +42

    By the grace of God I live in senior housing and most of the people are nice here. I don't tolerate the MOB mentality.

  • @lavonnecornellcollins8460
    @lavonnecornellcollins8460 3 місяці тому +16

    This is great. I recently dumped two MOBS because they have been a drain on my energy for years. I spoke to them several times about being positive and manifesting blessings, but their negativity and drama were too deeply engrained.

  • @tianikane3312
    @tianikane3312 3 місяці тому +30

    We have been researching seniors/aged care/retirement villages and care homes lately. A friend warned us about these MOBS being in such places. Took us by surprise as they aren't places we have much experience with, but on inquiring with other people in the homes/villages, it seems it is a big thing to avoid when choosing a care home/retirement village. According to the people we spoke to, a lot of it is based on money, elitism, religion and politics. When we finally chose an aged care home for our loved one, it also came up that there are similar groups among there men there; a couple of the men told us that there was competition amongst the MOBS for relationships with the few men in the home, so some the men 'ganged' together to protect themselves as a group. Apparently it really pisses the MOBS off... Ye Gods, give us a van to live in for our old age!!! (We have heard that the same does happen in the van community, but then we can just turn a key and drive away). Thanks Carol for bringing this up. Luv ya!

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +4

      You do have to be aware of the culture that is cultivated at senior homes. Some facilities are very picky about selecting residents with positive attitudes and some take anyone just to make a dollar

  • @barbarabuford5795
    @barbarabuford5795 3 місяці тому +68

    Oh yes! I went to a Water Aerobics class and started speaking to one of the ladies. She immediately asked was I a member of the 53 Club? I asked her what was that, and she asked me when was I born. I told her, and she said, you might want to speak to her, pointing to someone near me, she's your age! I was Really shocked! Come to find out, she wants to be uppity and I had overheard her say she didn't have a place to stay, her boyfriend had put her out! I actually was going to see what resources she had researched! As a Retired RN, I speak to all people, always have. You Never know who will be able to help you one day... And my belief, NO ONE is any better than Anyone else!

  • @Beelysmom70
    @Beelysmom70 3 місяці тому +28

    Dealt with these cliques in high school and have encountered them ever since. Have had to deal with them in the work environment and usually they were management led. I'm 70 now and still encounter them. I graduated from high school long ago...they are still there refusing to grow up. Thanks for your insight. I was beginning to think I was alone in encountering these people.

    • @tbacon2784
      @tbacon2784 3 місяці тому +8

      You are not alone, my 2 best friends and I ran into it, wor,ING in a state disability office. When I was telling my brother and sister about it, they insisted that kind of thing ended in high school, and that I was obviously just making things up. My friends and I thought we were the only ones who encountered bullies... They finally quit and moved away, but I refused to let the bullies run me off, I did see a couple of other ladies who quit because of the, and I probably should have left as well, but I really hate it when people cause me problems and I tend to get stubborn. Pick as they might, after that, they were never able to run anyone else off after that...

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +4

      Nope. You are not alone!

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +5

      I know what you mean. Bullies just make me more determined!

    • @salinak1497
      @salinak1497 3 місяці тому +5

      I have seen them in most places where I worked. They know who to brown-nose (the bosses) and they pick out coworkers who are vulnerable. They look for people who are different from the norm of the workplace to be nasty to. It's so mean, and they are GROWN WOMEN!!! I have seen it cause others to quit their jobs. I wouldn't quit because they made me mad.

    • @snowygirl131
      @snowygirl131 3 місяці тому

      ​@@tbacon2784Good for you!!

  • @kathlynsteinman3599
    @kathlynsteinman3599 3 місяці тому +6

    I'm experienced this in my 55 plus apartment complex. I feel like I'm back in high school. I'm not one who has been bullied.....yet.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +3

      Such a shame grown women who still haven't matured to their chronological age!

  • @jeffreylasczewski2273
    @jeffreylasczewski2273 3 місяці тому +26

    Yes I do. I have a relative who believes blowing out everyone else’s candle makes theirs burn brighter. They are toxic individuals that I try to avoid. And it’s not just women it’s men too

    • @Herk988
      @Herk988 3 місяці тому +4

      Same here! We have one older family member who stirs the pot and basically decimated another family member’s character for whatever reason. Unreal. Makes it tough when it comes to family get togethers. I keep my distance for sure. You never know who she will yabber about next!

    • @kycalm
      @kycalm 3 місяці тому +1

      Toxic is the word!

  • @ladyketurahinwaiting
    @ladyketurahinwaiting 3 місяці тому +20

    OMGOSH you are so right on about this!!! I avoid them at all costs!!!

  • @naomihoover4265
    @naomihoover4265 3 місяці тому +3

    Thank you. I’ve been a victim of these women. Thank you. We, as women, are supposed take are of each other.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  2 місяці тому +1

      Some people just have never believed in supporting other women. A sad lot indeed!

  • @VickiRiley-jx5zp
    @VickiRiley-jx5zp 3 місяці тому +9

    I've been avoiding "mean girls" since I was young, so I'm used to it. They're "just not my type"! LOL! 😆✌

  • @lynnedolan7905
    @lynnedolan7905 3 місяці тому +5

    Physic vampires. Best defense is to act dumb and clueless. They dismiss you. You’re not worth their time. (You win and no loss). 😅

  • @mark-xx1lt
    @mark-xx1lt 3 місяці тому +20

    When I saw your title with MOB, I had to watch. I don't think anyone has seen this since their juvenile years. It was nice of you to forewarn other women.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +9

      It is sad to see women of a certain age who have arrested development and never matured past this toxic behavior.

  • @hokey-os3rx
    @hokey-os3rx 3 місяці тому +28

    About 6 years ago I worked at a place that had a few women that did that. They were all in their forties. I found it out when we were all in one area working at the time. A new woman had not been working there long. She was hired as a Quality Assurance person. Which meant you had to walk a lot all over the building. She was extremely heavy, maybe around 300 pounds. It was in the summer and hot in our warehouse. She seemed like a nice person and it looked like a struggle for her to walk in the heat like that. After she walked away from the area, these women started talking about how obese she was. And not in a good way. I was a trainer and the lead I worked with didn't say anything. I should have. I regret it. The kicker here is that none of these women were thin or had the perfect body themselves. Nobody wants to have an issue like this woman had. My respect for them dropped like a rock.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +11

      I totally understand. I still remember an occasion at church when I happened upon a group of women who were speaking horribly about a women who was actually a lovely woman. I simply walked away. Afterwards I promised myself if I ever came across a situation like that again I would speak up!!

    • @Rejoicewithsinging
      @Rejoicewithsinging 3 місяці тому +1

      Amen!!!

  • @veevee111
    @veevee111 3 місяці тому +9

    I went to a male physical therapist who was the male version of an MOB. I got tired of his gossip and negativity once I realized he's just miserable and controlling. And never returned to his office.
    All the women in my family behave like MOBs so I stay away from them.
    Lastly, I've left churches because of the clicky MOBs. Its very unproductive behavior and misses the point of being Christians. I'll just keep my peace and keep to myself.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +5

      That is shocking that a therapist, male.or female, would be so unprofessional. Sounds like he is the one who should have been in tjerapy!!

  • @S.l.o.w.cooker350
    @S.l.o.w.cooker350 3 місяці тому +4

    Nurse. Yep seen it. Been amongst. My ego is solid. Weird to watch the dynamic for sure.

  • @sharonsparks4299
    @sharonsparks4299 3 місяці тому +4

    Keep your energy positive and happy and compassionate. That is my motto. I tend to attract like-minded people. Occasionally I run across the miserable ones. They disappear quickly from my vicinity. God bless!❤

  • @barbarabuford5795
    @barbarabuford5795 3 місяці тому +2

    Carol, I really like reading the comments! They are helping me deal with problems so I hope you don't mind me commenting. I babysit grands and pets most days. Sometimes I hardly ever get a chance to do the things I really love doing, like taking walks, water aerobics, and riding my E-Trike. Well, it needs a part ordered now. Anyway, I appreciate your videos, ..So insightful! One day I want to purchase an RV, or at least rent one, and Yes, I'd bring the 2 dogs and 2 grandkids with me, ha! 👍♥️✌️

  • @milesandcoffee
    @milesandcoffee 3 місяці тому +3

    Great advice! Looking good, Carol! 🙏🏾😊

  • @kaywashington7284
    @kaywashington7284 3 місяці тому +8

    I've meet plenty on MOB's that were under the age of 50. Being friendly has kept them away from me.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +3

      Yep. If youbdon't east to be mean and nasty like them they aren't interested.

  • @tinabeane
    @tinabeane 3 місяці тому +6

    Yup misery loves company, BYE to them.

  • @carolwest6095
    @carolwest6095 3 місяці тому +3

    I experienced these MOBs in multiple volunteer organization groups. I either show my dismay or simply walk away. After being friendly, they freeze me out because they see my disapproval. I don't believe in social hierarchy.

  • @sandrasandoval8111
    @sandrasandoval8111 3 місяці тому +5

    As always Carol, great topic and advice 😊♥️

  • @christigoodeating
    @christigoodeating 3 місяці тому +25

    Sounds like a narcissist behavior

  • @auntiem75
    @auntiem75 3 місяці тому +2

    You are so right about this. I live at a place where there is groups like this. They don't have a life. Now to be sure there are some really great women where I live. And yes there exists men like this. The manager of our complex is like thus. What is so amazing is his level of sneakiness and cruelty. You always pick such great topics. AM 😁❤

  • @aggierowe9574
    @aggierowe9574 3 місяці тому +3

    Hi there! I was accosted by an MOB who was lugging out groceries out of a Publix and I held the door for her. She shooed me to just go in the store and said, “You’re in the way, not me!” This is after trying to be kind. No thank you, nothing. I am probably not much younger than her. Could not comprehend her level of misery.

  • @kathystevens8163
    @kathystevens8163 3 місяці тому +12

    You hit the nail on the head... I think they are what one would say in a click. They tend to stick together, kind of like mean girls from school days..

  • @beverlymelton5701
    @beverlymelton5701 3 місяці тому +13

    Yep. They're not happy until everyone is unhappy.

  • @cocacolafiesta
    @cocacolafiesta 3 місяці тому +4

    I’ve got no time for such foolishness! Luckily I have a strong personality (didn’t always use it) and would definitely say something. I grew up with bully older brothers, a bully mother-in-law and had a few bully supervisors. Once I entered my 50’s I found my backbone and said "enough is enough!" I do not tolerate being bullied and I have one particular brother that has been confronted and knows better than to say anything to me cause I have a "I dare you to tell me something" expression on my face and he keeps silent. Bullies are like that in that they retreat once confronted! So glad to hear your common sense advice.🙂

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +3

      It is so true. Most bullies back down when confronted but get worse if no one stops them.

    • @cocacolafiesta
      @cocacolafiesta 3 місяці тому

      @@gloriouslifeonwheels3621 That is absolutely true! I know you are comfortable with yourself and can make decisions based on your moral compass but many are followers and can’t find the emotional strength to be targeted hence the school mentality that these MOBS prey on! I’m in my own comfortable world and so they can talk about me, stare at me, whisper about me but my strength comes from the Lord so their opinions of me really don’t matter and I think that is what riles them up, lol! You have been very helpful to many and you WILL BE RESENTED for that too!

    • @wilmabrock5462
      @wilmabrock5462 3 місяці тому

      @@gloriouslifeonwheels3621Like Trump???

  • @maryolson411
    @maryolson411 3 місяці тому +11

    I haven't met a group like that but have met individuals like that.

  • @carolmaplesden916
    @carolmaplesden916 3 місяці тому +7

    Carol just wanted to let you know I pray that you receive a full and speedy recovery 💕🙏

  • @Syl-Vee
    @Syl-Vee 3 місяці тому +11

    Yeah, I realized back when I was a kid that people who bad mouth someone behind their back are probably doing the same thing to you. Yes, it is so sad that some people think being spiteful and mean is a form of entertainment. But when you look around that is actually the type of entertainment that is being offered a lot of times. Yes to staying away from low grade entertainment/TV and toxic people! BTW you are looking great, Carol.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +3

      It never ceases to amazing me how.much delight these MOBs get out of torching other women.

  • @SmilingBeaver-ou7nc
    @SmilingBeaver-ou7nc 3 місяці тому +16

    I have been married for 35 years, and have 2 friends. I'm happy and love our quiet life. Thanks for the heads up Carol. Have a beautiful day Carol and all in the comments ❤️🌹

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +6

      Sounds like you found the right partner. If you habe 2 true ride or die friends you are blessed!

    • @barbarabuford5795
      @barbarabuford5795 3 місяці тому +1

      I am So happy for you! Few people can say married for 35 years, Amazing, and Happy too! Blessed and Highly favored! ♥️🙏

  • @Lokelani50
    @Lokelani50 3 місяці тому +7

    Been through that before. With teaching music and dance it’s a thing. You look so good! I’m glad you are peppy! Blessings and more prayers your way.

  • @pamflowers8364
    @pamflowers8364 3 місяці тому +4

    Reminds me of lines from Randy Travis' song Forever and Ever Amen, "as long as old men sit and talk about the weather..... as long as old women sit and talk about old men." I guess gossip just happens, some kinds are meaner than others.

  • @Brigand231
    @Brigand231 3 місяці тому +15

    You hit the nail on the head with your naming, "miserable". Misery loves company. Some people never outgrow being bullies and can only be happy when everyone else is as miserable as they are. To quote the adage, "hurt people hurt people".

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +7

      So true. The antidote to this virus is to ignore them and live a life of joy. Boy does that rock their boats🤣🤣

    • @Brigand231
      @Brigand231 3 місяці тому +3

      The best revenge is a life well lived.

    • @tennesseeterri
      @tennesseeterri 2 місяці тому

      Sorry, but hurt people hurt people is a cop out. Many people that have been hurt themselves don't go around hurting others. People that hurt other people are just plain MEAN. And sometimes they get a kick out of hurting others.

    • @Brigand231
      @Brigand231 2 місяці тому

      @@tennesseeterri Ok, to rephrase to please the peanut gallery... people who have been hurt have a deeper capacity to hurt others and some enjoy wielding that power. It wasn't meant as an absolute rule. Tone an intent are often misinterpreted online, your "Sorry", for example, could come across as a snotty and insincere attempt to join the conversation without truly feeling any remorse just to add your two cents without adding anything to the conversation. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt, however, and ask that in the future you do the same instead of assuming that I'm disparaging all the people in the world who have ever been hurt.

    • @tennesseeterri
      @tennesseeterri 2 місяці тому

      @@Brigand231 Does cutting others down make you feel better?

  • @cj57
    @cj57 3 місяці тому +13

    Yes, at work. Its pretty weird. I think they have low self-esteem and they only feel good about themselves when they put others down. They love to spread their misery.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +4

      It really.is sad. Just think of what their lives.could.be if they spread joy instead!

  • @frankmckinley1254
    @frankmckinley1254 3 місяці тому +6

    Sounds like a HOA board meeting ladies. Yes I work with and have worked with some sadly. 🤔😊

  • @thetwooldpeeps3528
    @thetwooldpeeps3528 3 місяці тому +7

    I have seen this in men groups but not as frequently as in women’s groups, there’s usually one particular woman that starts it then the followers join in, I’m thinking that woman that started it was a bully back in school and if you take that a step farther, that bully was probably in a very dysfunctional family. It’s sad because that person has probably never experienced real love or happiness.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +5

      I agree with everything you noted. It really is sad to waste one's life in that kind of mindset.

  • @karinaolsen3296
    @karinaolsen3296 3 місяці тому +9

    I'm 63, divorced 27 years, then widowed 19 years. I'm single by choice and pretty darn happy. I haven't encountered that behavior but am mostly solitary. When I want company I go to church. Thank you for the warning. Some women are just insecure. My Dad is like that though; very controlling and manipulative, rips people to shreds. Can't understand why no one wants to be around him or even call.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +4

      Isn't it always like that. Individuals like this can never understand why no one wants to be around them.

    • @Threedivasgrandma
      @Threedivasgrandma 3 місяці тому

      Yes I go to church, tend to get along with the small church I go to

    • @AuLily1
      @AuLily1 2 місяці тому

      Some go to church, and some of us head to the tavern. I've seen some viciousness in churches among the church ladies.

  • @cwstyle3
    @cwstyle3 3 місяці тому +6

    Hi Carol. I agree with you, some women don’t have a life. They are too busy back biting others because they have a miserable life. I choose to be to myself and I am happy too. If I had to see women like that, I keep moving. Thank you for sharing. ❤

  • @cathyjay2569
    @cathyjay2569 3 місяці тому +10

    I agree with you wholeheartedly! Just last week I had to extricate myself from a situation where this particular person was so negative and spoke unkindly about everyone. I’m sure she now speaks that way about me if they will listen. It seems to be those with victim mentality and they are always looking for something to criticize rather than something good to praise! Kindness is contagious-Pass it on!❤

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +8

      Your refusal likely infuriated her. That is usually their response when people don't buy into their negativity because it highlights what is missing in them

    • @salinak1497
      @salinak1497 3 місяці тому +5

      I think there's a lot of jealousy there. That workplace meanness is one of the reasons that I will be taking early retirement.

  • @CoyBass1432
    @CoyBass1432 3 місяці тому +3

    Hi Carol, I experience this in the workplace from the men. When my company sold I was a manager...in the new company some employees decided they were now my boss and would tear me down to elevate themselves. I mostly got judged by being overly friendly to my customers. Luckily the manager recognized this and insisted I work from home, let them do the heavy lifting and I was to maintain great relationships with the customers alone and away from judgement. I resisted at first but it's been great. I go in once or twice a week for a couple hrs to do paperwork and meet with the office manager who I adore. I may be getting starlink and hit the road in our toyota RV when my wife is recovered from her illness. One of my customers is actually redoing our original rv outside decals... :D.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +1

      It sounds like there were some men who despite not having the qualifications thought they should have been given the manager job and were determined to make your life miserable. Sometimes these MOBs actually do us a favor in their misery as was the case with you! Now you get to work from the comfort of your home and even travel. Imagine being criticized for maintaining a positive relationship with customers. Go figure🤔 I hope your wife makes a speedy and complete recovery. Hope to see you all down the road😊

  • @tillyg8858
    @tillyg8858 3 місяці тому +7

    Thank you for sharing.😊

  • @M.Campbell
    @M.Campbell 3 місяці тому +10

    I'm familiar with them. There were MOBs in the church, and elsewhere in the small town I grew up in, and they truly were terrible, nasty, old, biddies. Yet they walked around with their noses in the air like they were proud of their work. I've heard that they are common in 50+ communities and it has me thinking that such a place will be my last resort.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +5

      I think the perfect solution as we age would be finding a like minded person and sharing a home with them.

  • @aprilbaxter2578
    @aprilbaxter2578 3 місяці тому +4

    Thumbs up! You're absolutely right.

  • @theodorabruin4601
    @theodorabruin4601 3 місяці тому +11

    Happy Trails, dear lady!🤩

  • @lorraine4755
    @lorraine4755 3 місяці тому +7

    Im 73, had to abandon my home because of these types people, their troublemaking like you said, they mob people. They stalk me now.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +5

      I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you can find some peace from them.

    • @lorraine4755
      @lorraine4755 3 місяці тому

      @@gloriouslifeonwheels3621 working on it.

    • @LuisaLoren
      @LuisaLoren 3 місяці тому +5

      I'm 73 too... So many of these people are everywhere. I'm alone so much but I keep busy. In fact I prefer being alone. Self love you know ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

    • @lorraine4755
      @lorraine4755 3 місяці тому +4

      @@LuisaLoren glad I'm retired, live alone, do what I want.

    • @barbarabuford5795
      @barbarabuford5795 3 місяці тому

      Oh my, that's terrible! God Bless. 🙏

  • @laurajphillips
    @laurajphillips 3 місяці тому +5

    I love it! M O B,s! I stay away from women like that, those are people that don’t like themselves, very sad.

  • @peggyramsey8905
    @peggyramsey8905 3 місяці тому +3

    I stay to myself just for this reason. I'm 75 and have also experienced this with my family. It's very lonely!

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +2

      I have found some amazing older women friends. They are out there. But you do often have to go thru a number of MOBs to ge to the great friends.

  • @snowygirl131
    @snowygirl131 3 місяці тому +3

    Schadenfreude is one aspect of it. They hate to see someone do well. "Sadistic," "Sociopathic" also come to mind. I wonder if the behavior is typical of narcissists? They think of themselves as queens pushing pawns around on an imaginary chessboard.

  • @Msjaniceelaine
    @Msjaniceelaine 3 місяці тому +5

    I currently live in between two MOB/Karen's/Etc. One has a husband and the other lives with her elderly father. These two women walk back and forth in front of my house from sun up to sun down.

  • @martna1
    @martna1 3 місяці тому +7

    Good one Carol!

  • @RedWolf17
    @RedWolf17 3 місяці тому +3

    Wow! This is something I noticed recently and it's very disturbing to be around women like that. They seem to harbor a great deal of resentment and hostility especially toward other women. Some unfortunate women (who are usually lacking in the way of spiritual things), are never quite aware that what they do is not only downright toxic & spiteful but, at the total expense of a fellow sister. Thank you for sharing Carol.🐾🙏🏽🌺🙏🏽

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +3

      I have found that these kind of women seem to be the most vicious towards other women who are happy and contented with their lives and/or successful in some area. Could be a touch of jealousy at play too.

  • @barbarabuford5795
    @barbarabuford5795 3 місяці тому +22

    To me, people who try to tear people down to bring themselves up, are lacking in self esteem. And guess what, People can see through their malicious tactics!

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +7

      I agree. They try to elevate themselves at the expense of others. So sad.

    • @RetiredFreeBird
      @RetiredFreeBird 3 місяці тому +2

      I think that's called schadenfreud (sp?)

    • @barbarabuford5795
      @barbarabuford5795 3 місяці тому +2

      ​@@RetiredFreeBird How right you are! Schadenfreude- Pleasure derived by someone from another person's misfortune. Thank you. 👏♥️✌️

  • @stormdavies250
    @stormdavies250 3 місяці тому +6

    Also, I look forward to your upcoming video.

  • @ChrisJohnston-z7u
    @ChrisJohnston-z7u 3 місяці тому +38

    Retired nurse here. Please understand that I'm not saying ALL nurses are MOBS, but nursing profession seems to have a lot of them. I worked in a couple of other professions before I became a nurse, and while there were a few MOBS in them, it was nowhere near the number of MOBS in nursing.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +7

      Interesting. Maybe the stress.brings on this condition. LOL

    • @beautifuldreamer3991
      @beautifuldreamer3991 3 місяці тому +11

      RN 24 years, cna 20 years, you better believe it happens in mursing,but many of them are young!!!!! The new grads are a pain too!!! Hospitals are just like high school,the only thing missing is the damn bell

    • @lynnallen1315
      @lynnallen1315 3 місяці тому +11

      I was a nurse before I was a schoolteacher and I honestly think teachers are worse. The best advice I got from my first year mentor was to stay away from the teacher's lounge.

    • @anniesshenanigans3815
      @anniesshenanigans3815 3 місяці тому +3

      I came to say this! I have worked in healthcare for over 20 years and the worst by far are nurses. Not all, but thats where they are. I am an MRI tech and by far nurses have been the ones that acted as if they were the President of the Surgeons club or something. and usually had no clue about my job trying to tell me how to do it. Other than that, I have not had any experience with this type since school.

    • @Herk988
      @Herk988 3 місяці тому +5

      As a retired RN, definitely agree. No shortage of MOBs. Some of the most miserable to be around.

  • @monikalenz2559
    @monikalenz2559 3 місяці тому +5

    Good rant! Folks need to remember that the people telling you how bad someone else is probably are telling others bad things about you! I do have a friend who started out trying to talk about others. I would change the subject. One day she commented that I don't talk about my friends to her. I told her that people who do that are gossips. She never again bad mouthed her friends to me. Always be kind!

  • @libbygardner3021
    @libbygardner3021 3 місяці тому +4

    Oh, my! I’m glad I haven’t run into them! But I might have heard of some: my grandmother was in the hospital for a few days back in the days of sharing rooms. In private, in her half-whisper, she told my mother about the “little old ladies” who shared her room, and who seem to fit the description. Turned out that they were in their 70’s-my grandmother, a woman I still admire, was well into her 80’s at the time!
    Hope you are recuperating well from your surgery!

  • @DeniseSTEGALL-o5q
    @DeniseSTEGALL-o5q 3 місяці тому +6

    First I want to thank you. For the info on these mobs are usually jealous. That’s why I at peace just been me myself and I. And when I really need a true friend I call on Jesus Christ. Amen I appreciate your program

  • @carolmaplesden916
    @carolmaplesden916 3 місяці тому +4

    I can relate with so many of the comments here
    As for me these mobs has terrified me and I am pretty sure this is a reason I am single
    I would love to have a companion but I've never known a man to not get caught up in these mobs webs
    Sickening

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +3

      Thr best th8ng O have found is to ignore ore these MOBs. It takes the wind out of their sails when you live your best life!!

  • @RV-there-Yet
    @RV-there-Yet 3 місяці тому +2

    Bwahaha! I thought you were talking about "mother of the bride", since that's how I've seen that MOB acronym used on social media 🤣~ oh mercy, all I could think of were those reality shows a few years back about "bridezillas" & all that gets ugly in wedding planning.
    Wow, have we not all encountered the miserable among us? As a retired social worker, I tend to be drawn to more than usual, though I've become sharper at identifying the difference between those who could use some love & support, & those who there seems to be no helping, regardless of the effort. "MOB" is the perfect term actually.
    I was actually just having this conversation with a friend, & the same terms were used; junior high mentality, mean girl complex, delighting in negative outcomes~ even worse, enjoying causing pain & upset. We have a few small social circles, & have encountered a few of these types in each it seems. The worse is women who seem to delight in debasing other women, attempting to belittle or pick at them for the silliest things~ such as how they laugh, hold their cards or take too much time in the restroom. These are not "behaviors" or personal affronts meant to annoy, my goodness, lighten up ladies!
    Seems to me, this happens when a MOB is either envious of their victim for some reason, or they are simply angry or unhappy souls. Agree w/you completely that they should be avoided like the plague, though I've found it's not always possible. In that case, I try to think of them as a mirror or learning opportunity in how NOT to behave, should I ever find myself in a similar state of mind. This has served to make me more aware of my own negative moods I think. If I'm feeling especially tired, grumpy or nit picky that day, I will simply stay home. I will also say so out loud, in the hope that it models a similar response or awareness.
    We all have our days, to be sure, yet some among us sure seem to have made it their entire persona, which truly is sad~ if not pathetic. *One woman in particular I play cards with simply does not like me, & no amount of effort on my part is going to change that. So I do my best to protect myself, by praying before I go, asking for protection & the grace to enjoy the other 12 women & our time together. I've also limited my exposure, reducing my presence from twice a week to just once.
    Okay, I've gone long again w/my comment~ yet it's telling of how spot on you are once again Carol. These are universal yet very personal topics we can all relate to. Appreciate your candor & ability to say it out loud yourself~ very helpful in recognizing what & whom we're dealing with in life. Samantha in AZ

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому

      You analysis is spot on. So often these kinds of individuals seem to focus their wrath on women who have something they crave, whether it be a partner, a successful career, even a pleasing personality that attracts others. It is best to avoid interaction when possible but not allow them to cause us to miss out on the the company of other friends.

  • @Gypsisoul1111
    @Gypsisoul1111 3 місяці тому +3

    You hit the nail on the head, I find these MOBs on FB groups, it can be any subject, person makes a post or comment and these MOBs are so negative, offer unsolicited advice. I always attributed it to menopause. They add nothing with their comments.

  • @andrewminjiras5745
    @andrewminjiras5745 3 місяці тому +2

    You describe such women in an interesting & savvy way. I stay away from them since they are toxic. Great video.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому

      That is generally the best policy to simply stay away from MOBs. Life is too short!

  • @cindynok
    @cindynok 3 місяці тому +3

    We have these at the senior center I occasionally go to.

  • @barefootincactus
    @barefootincactus 3 місяці тому +14

    There’s a saying for this: Believe nothing of what you hear and only half of what you see.

  • @nancysweigart4123
    @nancysweigart4123 2 місяці тому +2

    I was a security guard in a factory of men. Some of them are just as bad.

  • @lynnallen1315
    @lynnallen1315 3 місяці тому +5

    That's hilarious but I hear you. They gripe and whine about every single thing, and if you offer solutions to their issues, they have 5 different reasons why the solution won't work. I'm single by choice and I've run from women like that for years. You're right that they have no life and the only way they can feel better is to knock other's down. Men are as bad about gossip as women but you're right, they aren't malicious.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +4

      You hit the nail on the head. Every solution they are offered for an issue there is an excuse why it won't work.

  • @theodorabruin4601
    @theodorabruin4601 3 місяці тому +7

    I've definitely heard men do this, too.

  • @BESTILL-bu6jw
    @BESTILL-bu6jw 3 місяці тому +1

    Great advice and great video! I know these type of women and have had to distance myself from them.

  • @kycalm
    @kycalm 3 місяці тому +2

    My mom was like this. Narcissist. She was a terribly unhappy and bitter person. She didn’t want anyone else to be happy, either. Grateful that I didn’t inherit this personality defect. God bless to you and all those nomads out there. I watch many of your shows.

  • @MoBangFoYoBucks
    @MoBangFoYoBucks 3 місяці тому +5

    😂😂😂 I met a few of those at meetup! I steer clear of them immediately. 😂😂😂

  • @rosammitchell6313
    @rosammitchell6313 2 місяці тому +2

    It’s called “ envés”; I too have observed this personally and once they are fired, layers off, they try to become your buddy to help them in hard times but their very negative energy that I can not embrace because it’s not due to their good intentions; they want to drain you emotionally and financially (coworkers, friends and even family…sad..)!!!

  • @tinalaplaca6638
    @tinalaplaca6638 3 місяці тому +4

    hangout with fun folks....there are happy females in this life....we all should know better. sharing, caring and laughter is what l look for

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +1

      Absolutely. Look for someone who has a happy spirit and you will find someone who avoids this kind of mean spirited behavior.

    • @tinalaplaca6638
      @tinalaplaca6638 3 місяці тому

      @@gloriouslifeonwheels3621 by golly-bee....l think that's you and me....funny

  • @AnnMitt
    @AnnMitt 3 місяці тому +3

    I have not known any males that rip on others, but I worked with plenty of women in my adult life who have. I've learned to keep my distance from toxicity.

  • @Sarah-zv9ug
    @Sarah-zv9ug 3 місяці тому +2

    It happens in the office, it happens in church, gosh, it happens everywhere even in Walmart oh my, I have seen it everywhere. I am retired now thank goodness I don’t have to put up with it anymore. We’re just gonna have to ignore them. There’s nothing we can do that Will change them. They are very miserable people😢

  • @SweetiePieTweety
    @SweetiePieTweety 3 місяці тому +3

    You made me laugh you just gave me a new name for a very special person in my life

  • @debragriffith6628
    @debragriffith6628 3 місяці тому +6

    I agree with you , I avoid them too. I can't always control my mouth and I tend to say what I think. Here is a topic for you..why are so many older we women running around braless? I think this is so vulgar! Who thinks boobs that hang down to your belly and sway with the wind are attractive?? I have noticed several women my age doing this. I find it low class and I have had to bite my tongue! Glad you are doing well! 😊

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +2

      🤣🤣🤣🤣. I guess this is their new freedom.

    • @barbarabuford5795
      @barbarabuford5795 3 місяці тому

      WOW. I don't like going braless but since my diagnosis with Cancer 2018, seems I can't ever find a compatible bra for my body! Yes, I've been sized, measured, etc, but it Still doesn't matter! Nothing's quite right! So if I'm exercising, walking outside, I'll wear a loose black T shirt, no bra, otherwise I'll put one on, though it's uncomfortable.

  • @missmajor5640
    @missmajor5640 3 місяці тому +4

    Wow I'm 55 and when I feel someone going to try and do this I stay away I'm the type of person that don't fool with everyone I can look at someone and tell I been like this for a long time

  • @jomac8101
    @jomac8101 3 місяці тому +2

    I worked in a poultry processing plant in the 90's. Me and a few others were the target of a clique on this line. It took me awhile but i finally realized one of the men was the main instigator. He was good looking, charming, so funny. I wont go into all the misery they caused but when I quit it was like a huge burden lifted from my shoulders. Never under estimate anybody's ability to be toxic.

  • @dddiaz-velez3630
    @dddiaz-velez3630 3 місяці тому +3

    I've encountered some MOBs, mostly because of JEALOUSY! I've always been such a cheery, assertive person. I've been able to stay away from them.
    Hey Carol! Tell me about the tiny community you're looking to start, did you find land yet? I'm willing to move to Cali from Florida

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  2 місяці тому +2

      Have a property someone is willing to split off 2 acres for me. Am considering that. Still doing research on zoning, etc. But also still searching elsewhere.

    • @dddiaz-velez3630
      @dddiaz-velez3630 2 місяці тому

      @@gloriouslifeonwheels3621 how far are you from Chino? I’d like to go to Calvary chapel Chino hills

  • @emilyfeagin2673
    @emilyfeagin2673 3 місяці тому +3

    lol! I have a cousin like that. She has been an MOB since she was in her 30s. She is married. I don’t know how.
    If I see her I am pleasant, tell her nothing and keep it brief
    I know a few men that are miserable too

  • @vanchick3262
    @vanchick3262 3 місяці тому +2

    Its the MOB's that made me stay away from Caravans right off even though I didnt want to break away for safety reasons... it was so surprising to see mature women act like adolescents!

    • @anybodyoutthere3208
      @anybodyoutthere3208 3 місяці тому

      Yep...... I always wondered about the Caravans Bob always talked about. And the women's RV retreats..... no thanks

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +1

      Yeah, that kind if behavior from a woman of a certain age is very disappointing. Although, I spent some time, only a week or so, with one of the women's caravans in Quartzsite and had a blast. We sat around the fire each night, had potlucks, went into town to play bingo. It was really an enjoyable le experience ajd a great group of women. Luck of the draw.

  • @lawolfe2707
    @lawolfe2707 3 місяці тому +1

    Oh yes I know what you are talking about, they love drama, drama queens. I feel sorry for them too and stay away from them also. I feel that the older we get the more friends we need but not MOB's. You are exactly right in what you said.

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +3

      The older we get the more we need each other's support. MOBs have never learned what real friendship and sisterhood is.

  • @alicial6072
    @alicial6072 3 місяці тому +3

    I think some people feed on conflict, its that person who always has drama in their life, its a shame they never grew up.

  • @Peepa_and_the_Pearl
    @Peepa_and_the_Pearl 3 місяці тому +5

    Agreed! 💯

  • @kimdolly
    @kimdolly 3 місяці тому +2

    Im 71, single for 16 years by choice, and i avoid drama like the plague. lol . I give them a wide berth. ❤

    • @gloriouslifeonwheels3621
      @gloriouslifeonwheels3621  3 місяці тому +1

      That is thr best waybto stay out of their drama Although sometimes they get the angriest at those who don't join them. I think it is because it makes them see who they really are in comparison to non participators.

  • @mydesignstutorials
    @mydesignstutorials 3 місяці тому +1

    This was VERY meaningful content. Thanks for verbalizing attitudes that many of my relatives display and HAVE displayed all of my life. Wow!!!

  • @vetburnerchick
    @vetburnerchick 3 місяці тому +2

    Hi Carol. I've seen that kind of women around. Some people live and thrive on being mean. I enjoy hanging around with my husband. He's my best friend.

  • @deeplansandbudgets
    @deeplansandbudgets 3 місяці тому +2

    Oh man, I always stay away from the MOB's of either sex.

  • @theodorabruin4601
    @theodorabruin4601 3 місяці тому +11

    😂😂😂
    COWS = Catty Old Witches

  • @amyrodgers9887
    @amyrodgers9887 3 місяці тому +2

    Fortunately I don't know anyone like that, I but have run into the teens. When I meet a toxic person I generally do my best to steer clear