I don’t know if you have several advisors or mentors, or you’ve evolved through constant study and application but whatever the path it’s working for you. Your posture, your profile and delivery have become very refined, elegant and more sophisticated. It has reaffirmed my faith in the human race and for men specifically, and in your generation to pickup and carry the baton for both civilization and gentlemanly virtue. Thank you Sir!
Frustratingly, my default setting is to be that nice guy who wants to keep the peace, be accommodating and avoid friction. I’ve gotten better about being assertive, but it requires constant, deliberate effort, which is sometimes exhausting. It also feels like quite a rub when I have to be more intense or aggressive, so this is just an area of my gentlemanly repertoire that needs continued work. Thank you for the video! Serves as a great reminder
Honestly man, I struggle with this too. I wish I can give wise words of advice, but all I can say is I understand. I noticed how this society has really repressed any form of aggression. It's really common to see these type of "nice guys" because it's how we were raised, but the fact you understand that something's up, I hope, will lead the both of us to a greater version of ourselves. Good luck on your journey!
Old gent here (60 years ). It took me far too long to learn this, but one of the challenges for nice guys seems to be that we Confuse assertiveness with behaving like a jerk. What worked for me was understanding my role as a protector of my family. Some role models, such as characters played by Cary Grant, or Viggo Mortensen, use this the defend himself and others, and only uses it when pushed. Not a wolf, but a sheepdog. I won’t “attack” others, but I will defend myself.
That's really interesting, and honestly I admire you and am glad that such natural goodness exists in the world. I recognize that I have manipulative and coercive traits, and I have spent my adult life working to ensure that I give others fair choice and freedom around me. I am really heartened to know that the person I aspire to be is a person that is real.
That said, I do think this gives me the opportunity to advise on issues such as confidence. One thing I would tell you is that in life most people enjoy the distraction of novelty, your arrival and presence is a welcome experience for others. Edit: and also, that people tend to accept people as they are. If you turn up and state your preference, people will just accept that you're a person who does that. Simply by doing it, you have become it.
I remember when I was a teen and a small group near us of older lads were being very anti social, shouting, abusing people as they walked by, throwing stuff at some people, our little group edged away from them inch by inch from them as we didn't want to be associated with them, but none of us had the bottle to confront them. This man walked up out of nowhere, calmly told them to pack it in and another minute or so telling them the error of their ways in a calm but stern flow, much like a officer in the military. The guy was 50+, not very tall or built but he simply didn't look like a man to be messed with, he finished, looked them all in the eye one by one, said "You understand, Yes? Good" turned and walked away. It worked, I hardly heard a peep from that group for the duration my group was there. I couldn't help think how nicer society would be if some groups were confronted early on, nib the problem in the bud rather than allowing them to get away with it for so long that they really do become a problem in society. That Man was the topic of discussion for most of that day on his courage and quite frankly the balls to confront them.
Wow.... you are player #1. I say that all the time. "This life is a video game & everyone around you in a NPC (non-player character). You conduct what happens in your environment"!
I keeps them guessing (everyone). I went in the beauty supply store & smelled "Tom Ford O'mbre leather" & made a menacing laugh. Definitely the cherry on top of my dark/secret energy!
9:07 Learned this lesson from Ken Cosgrove being threatened by Roger Sterling for his literary ambitions. Your employer doesn't want to hear that you dream of more than being an employee.
I'm loving the pinky ring that you have been rocking for the past few videos.. please can you provide a video on this? As I remember your previous video about them and your personal view from getting one. Many thanks in advance Tim Taylor
How does a gentleman respond to the question: "How are you?" when being greeted by friends and co-parishioners? For me, they already know about my handicaps, do I give them an update on my latest dizziness spell, my latest bout of depression, my anxiety, my bi-polar and ADHD episodes? I want to be cordial, but I feel like I'm trying to have a pity-party and I don't want to bring them down. Yes, I confess, I'm a "nice guy". :(
James, I know you are a well read man, and I’d love to get some book recommendations that might have inspired this video topic. Also, how do we reconcile these darker characteristics with the lighter and more polite side of being a gentleman that I think most of us associates with that word?
Jordan Peterson said it well. "You've got to be a monster and control it. Be in control." Be a gentleman...as I call it, "Masculine Courtesy". Be at peace in yourself...and know your inner warrior.
Ah, Jordan Peterson - someone who seems to have some genuinely helpful insight for young men, yet comes with all this ugly and divisive political baggage that often overshadows those more positive attributes
jordan peterson is a crybaby. whether it’s about pronouns, apple cider or steak and cartoons, the man is a complete mess. literally always crying. don’t idolize this buffoon
A lot of this is based on looks and voice. Could Q have been Bond? No. You either have it, or you don't and you're forced to use humor, intrigue, personality and conversation. Ask me how I know.
The tips are great, but the DJI device is distracting. May you please buy a lapel mic, so that you can put the DJI mic in your pocket inside the jacket. This will keep your outfit neat.
What I took from this is that the light side might be those things we more often associate with the classic gentleman - patients, grace, civility, chivalry, politeness, etc.
Very good topic, but to be honest, that second hand Ralph Lauren tie has wore out its welcome, and the jacket's top pocket look empty without a pocket square.
When you compare the amount of effort required to put together a video like this with the amount of effort required to leave some lazy, half baked outfit criticism in the comments, I’d say one carry significantly more weight than the other
@@pensivepenguin3000 Yes, and the same can be said when you compare the amount of effort required to make my comment in relation to yours, as my comment wasn't lazy but required some research, with the well-meant intention of being appreciate and encouraging with a touch of humour.
@@Gent.Z Women won’t be attracted to u, especially if she surrounded with lotta 'black pill' guys ,like she dgaf abt ur darkness or mindset at first impression
@@Gent.Z U hv 'PSL god' face & u kinda hv good experience with women cz of ur hunter eyes & blond hair or whatever... doesn't mean that we all hv same experience..
@@Gent.Zyes it does. If you’re above the age of about 22 and you’re dressing up for Halloween, you’re a boy, not a man. It has become accepted as normal in society for grown men to play dress up, but it ain’t masculine at all.
@@Gent.Zit also isn’t masculine to be a complete try-hard attempting to influence ppl while chasing internet clout. You’re no different than a 17 year old girl on Instagram.
@@Gent.ZI’ll do ya one better even. You seem to imply that it is masculine to go around sleeping with numerous women and things of this nature, but it isn’t. You appeal to immature and spiritually unevolved b3Ta boyz and think you know something about being a man.
I don’t know if you have several advisors or mentors, or you’ve evolved through constant study and application but whatever the path it’s working for you. Your posture, your profile and delivery have become very refined, elegant and more sophisticated. It has reaffirmed my faith in the human race and for men specifically, and in your generation to pickup and carry the baton for both civilization and gentlemanly virtue. Thank you Sir!
James... you're killing this channel. Keep up the great work. Fan for life.
Salute
Frustratingly, my default setting is to be that nice guy who wants to keep the peace, be accommodating and avoid friction. I’ve gotten better about being assertive, but it requires constant, deliberate effort, which is sometimes exhausting. It also feels like quite a rub when I have to be more intense or aggressive, so this is just an area of my gentlemanly repertoire that needs continued work. Thank you for the video! Serves as a great reminder
Honestly man, I struggle with this too. I wish I can give wise words of advice, but all I can say is I understand. I noticed how this society has really repressed any form of aggression. It's really common to see these type of "nice guys" because it's how we were raised, but the fact you understand that something's up, I hope, will lead the both of us to a greater version of ourselves. Good luck on your journey!
Old gent here (60 years ). It took me far too long to learn this, but one of the challenges for nice guys seems to be that we
Confuse assertiveness with behaving like a jerk.
What worked for me was understanding my role as a protector of my family.
Some role models, such as characters played by Cary Grant, or Viggo Mortensen, use this the defend himself and others, and only uses it when pushed.
Not a wolf, but a sheepdog. I won’t “attack” others, but I will defend myself.
That's really interesting, and honestly I admire you and am glad that such natural goodness exists in the world. I recognize that I have manipulative and coercive traits, and I have spent my adult life working to ensure that I give others fair choice and freedom around me. I am really heartened to know that the person I aspire to be is a person that is real.
That said, I do think this gives me the opportunity to advise on issues such as confidence. One thing I would tell you is that in life most people enjoy the distraction of novelty, your arrival and presence is a welcome experience for others.
Edit: and also, that people tend to accept people as they are. If you turn up and state your preference, people will just accept that you're a person who does that. Simply by doing it, you have become it.
Dark masculinity 🎩🖤
Excellent haircut!
Interesting topic.
That deco tie is exquisite!
Dusty tomes and Latin incantations really help to set the mood.
Quite thought provoking. I'll listen to it again.
Adhere to high standards and values, and be confident that you are using your power properly.
Quite like the three candles in the background. Very interesting topic, too!
I remember when I was a teen and a small group near us of older lads were being very anti social, shouting, abusing people as they walked by, throwing stuff at some people, our little group edged away from them inch by inch from them as we didn't want to be associated with them, but none of us had the bottle to confront them. This man walked up out of nowhere, calmly told them to pack it in and another minute or so telling them the error of their ways in a calm but stern flow, much like a officer in the military. The guy was 50+, not very tall or built but he simply didn't look like a man to be messed with, he finished, looked them all in the eye one by one, said "You understand, Yes? Good" turned and walked away. It worked, I hardly heard a peep from that group for the duration my group was there. I couldn't help think how nicer society would be if some groups were confronted early on, nib the problem in the bud rather than allowing them to get away with it for so long that they really do become a problem in society. That Man was the topic of discussion for most of that day on his courage and quite frankly the balls to confront them.
Working on it 🖤
Wow.... you are player #1. I say that all the time. "This life is a video game & everyone around you in a NPC (non-player character). You conduct what happens in your environment"!
I keeps them guessing (everyone). I went in the beauty supply store & smelled "Tom Ford O'mbre leather" & made a menacing laugh. Definitely the cherry on top of my dark/secret energy!
Great video!
Like the background lights infront of the playbutton, Happy Diwali All
Dark Entries by Bauhaus
My skin is already pretty dark surely I'm already one step in
9:07
Learned this lesson from Ken Cosgrove being threatened by Roger Sterling for his literary ambitions.
Your employer doesn't want to hear that you dream of more than being an employee.
Just my opinion.
Big difference between getting what you want; and taking from others when it doesn’t make you a profit.
I'm loving the pinky ring that you have been rocking for the past few videos.. please can you provide a video on this? As I remember your previous video about them and your personal view from getting one.
Many thanks in advance Tim Taylor
@@timtaylor6333 pinky rings and waxed eyebrows is peak alpha masculinity!
@@timtaylor6333 pinky rings and waxed eyebrows. This man should definitely succeed in teaching boys how to be men, for sure.
I have both.
Nice
How does a gentleman respond to the question: "How are you?" when being greeted by friends and co-parishioners? For me, they already know about my handicaps, do I give them an update on my latest dizziness spell, my latest bout of depression, my anxiety, my bi-polar and ADHD episodes? I want to be cordial, but I feel like I'm trying to have a pity-party and I don't want to bring them down. Yes, I confess, I'm a "nice guy". :(
Brilliant 👌
James, I know you are a well read man, and I’d love to get some book recommendations that might have inspired this video topic. Also, how do we reconcile these darker characteristics with the lighter and more polite side of being a gentleman that I think most of us associates with that word?
Jordan Peterson said it well.
"You've got to be a monster and control it. Be in control."
Be a gentleman...as I call it, "Masculine Courtesy".
Be at peace in yourself...and know your inner warrior.
Ah, Jordan Peterson - someone who seems to have some genuinely helpful insight for young men, yet comes with all this ugly and divisive political baggage that often overshadows those more positive attributes
jordan peterson is a crybaby. whether it’s about pronouns, apple cider or steak and cartoons, the man is a complete mess. literally always crying.
don’t idolize this buffoon
There’s that quote that says it’s better to be a warrior in a garden than a gardener in a war.
A lot of this is based on looks and voice. Could Q have been Bond? No. You either have it, or you don't and you're forced to use humor, intrigue, personality and conversation. Ask me how I know.
There’s a difference between being a good man and being good at being a man
Certainly and if we are to hold the definitions at their most true the former is the best option a hundred times out of ten
2:24 which movie scene?
"North by Northwest"
@@sammajor2075 thank you so much🫶
That dog comparison was made by a person who has never met a german shepherd.
Hi, I wonder how you meant by that?
The tips are great, but the DJI device is distracting. May you please buy a lapel mic, so that you can put the DJI mic in your pocket inside the jacket. This will keep your outfit neat.
For the sake of NNN, could you change the thumbnails?
Semen retention can actually be bad for you and sometimes even hurt your testosterone levels. 😅
@@konstantindoychinov8608 Source?
If a pair of high heels gives you problems I recommend avoiding Christmas parties too
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Brother, to make it to the end you have to OVERCOME lust, not AVOID it. This is the only way or else you will be relapsing forever.
Mr Gent Z please make a video discussing Light Masculinity
What I took from this is that the light side might be those things we more often associate with the classic gentleman - patients, grace, civility, chivalry, politeness, etc.
@@pensivepenguin3000definitely true, but all the more reason it needs to be covered is because of how badly our society today lacks it.
Very good topic, but to be honest, that second hand Ralph Lauren tie has wore out its welcome, and the jacket's top pocket look empty without a pocket square.
When you compare the amount of effort required to put together a video like this with the amount of effort required to leave some lazy, half baked outfit criticism in the comments, I’d say one carry significantly more weight than the other
@@pensivepenguin3000 Yes, and the same can be said when you compare the amount of effort required to make my comment in relation to yours, as my comment wasn't lazy but required some research, with the well-meant intention of being appreciate and encouraging with a touch of humour.
It's all abt Genetics & height, Sadly...
That’s completely untrue and I hope you take the time to watch this video so you learn otherwise
@@Gent.Z Women won’t be attracted to u, especially if she surrounded with lotta 'black pill' guys ,like she dgaf abt ur darkness or mindset at first impression
That has nothing to do with this video. Stop being a blackpilled incel; it’s cringe.
@@Gent.Z U hv 'PSL god' face & u kinda hv good experience with women cz of ur hunter eyes & blond hair or whatever... doesn't mean that we all hv same experience..
One must try.
First , stupid request but pin 📌 please
Dude that dresses up for Halloween gonna tell me how to unlock my masculinity. Hahahha, k
Personally I did not celebrate Halloween. However, if you choose to, it doesn’t undermine your masculinity in any way.
@@Gent.Zyes it does. If you’re above the age of about 22 and you’re dressing up for Halloween, you’re a boy, not a man. It has become accepted as normal in society for grown men to play dress up, but it ain’t masculine at all.
@@Gent.Zit also isn’t masculine to be a complete try-hard attempting to influence ppl while chasing internet clout. You’re no different than a 17 year old girl on Instagram.
@@Gent.ZHow are you any different from a 17 yr old girl on Instagram trying to be an influencer? You’re not.
@@Gent.ZI’ll do ya one better even. You seem to imply that it is masculine to go around sleeping with numerous women and things of this nature, but it isn’t. You appeal to immature and spiritually unevolved b3Ta boyz and think you know something about being a man.