#8 What do you do when you hate dealing with problems? - Overcoming Worry & Anxiety | Dr. Rami Nader
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- Опубліковано 13 лип 2024
- One of the biggest sources of worry for people who worry a lot is problems. It is often assumed that people with Generalized Anxiety Disorder (and people who worry a lot) are not very good at solving problems. However, that’s not true. People who worry a lot are just as good at solving problems as people who don’t worry a lot. The difference is that people who worry a lot tend not to use their problem-solving skills because of something called Negative Problem Orientation.
Negative Problem Orientation is a tendency to view yourself as not good at solving problems and thinking about problems as threats. If you are not good at solving problems and problems are threatening, then it’s natural to want to avoid problems as much as possible. However, the more you avoid a problem, the more you worry about it and, usually, the worse the problem gets.
Negative Problem Orientation comes out in three main ways:
1) Seeing problems as abnormal, or that there’s something wrong if I have problems.
2) Focusing on the threatening aspects of the problem and not seeing the opportunity or challenge in it.
3) Getting so effective at avoiding problems, that a person fails to recognize that a problem is there.
To help with reframing problems as opportunities, you can download a worksheet here: tinyurl.com/y2mmdy3h
For more information about excessive worry and Generalized Anxiety Disorder, see my long form video: tinyurl.com/y4yqthap
#GAD #Worry #CBT
Videos in the worry management series:
Overcoming Worry 1: Defining Worry: 3 features of worry and 2 types of worry - tinyurl.com/y2ox4z9n
Overcoming Worry 2: Understanding a model of worry and worry awareness training - tinyurl.com/y5awco8l
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 3: The Role of Intolerance of Uncertainty in Worry - tinyurl.com/y6ohak2y
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 4: Manifestations of Intolerance of Uncertainty - • #4 Manifestations of I...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 5: Two Ways to Build Tolerance for Uncertainty - • #5 Two Ways to Build T...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 6: Five Myths about Worry - • #6 Five Myths about Wo...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 7: Challenging Worry Myths - • #7 Challenging Worry M...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 8: What do you do when you hate dealing with problems? - • #8 What do you do when...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 9: Problem-Solving Skills to Defeat Worry - • #9 Problem-Solving Ski...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 10: Why we worry about things that haven’t happened - • #10 Why we worry about...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 11: The most surprising tool to help you worry less - • #11 The most surprisin...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 12 - A Worry Management Recipe - • #12 A Worry Management...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 13 - Dealing with Complex Worries - • #13 What are Complex W...
Overcoming Worry & Anxiety 14 - Maintaining Progress and Preventing Worry Relapse - • #14 How You Can PREVEN...
For more information about Dr. Rami Nader, visit: tinyurl.com/y3eu5dfw
For more information about Dr. Michel Dugas' work on Generalized Anxiety Disorder and an excellent workbook, visit: tinyurl.com/yxf78mnt
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I just made myself a personal mantra/motto:
I canNOT foretell the future...
*I will tolerate uncertainty
*Enjoy the journey and
* Be a learner along the way.
Hi Dr Rami. Thank you so much for your very helpful video’s, I have have had depression on and off for many years (70years)and have never come across so much information that describes how I think, I know now that I have Anhedonia, as well as other symptoms of depression that you describe, it has been a great relief to put a name to it..I have been seeing a psychotherapist for the past three months..and along with your help I feel more optimistic now than I’ve felt almost most of my life!! I’m nearly 83 and can honestly say you’re information has been a LIFESAVER..thank you so much again.🌈🙏🏼🇬🇧
Hi Violet - glad you have found the videos helpful and glad to hear you are feeling better.
Thank you for the great content.
Thank you again Dr Rami
I am retired and do voluntary work which is challenging because I am learning the skills necessary and it is a slow
Process. The alternative is to find another jod or stay at home feeling trapped and depressed. There is no pressure on me by the management except the pressure I am putting on myself. Is it just a case of riding the waves of anxiety until they subside.I have made amazing progress with the depression and anxiety and I am scared of falling back into it.
Having realistic expectations and patience with the outcomes is also a big help. Committing to persistence itself as contrasted with a commitment to outcomes. I've heard this expressed by successful coaches as "just run the play to the best of your ability". I guess this is tolerating the uncertainty?
Hi Joe - very good insights. You are absolutely correct that realistic expectations are key and the focus needs to be on the process (which a person can control) instead of the outcomes (which a person can't necessarily control).
Yes Dr. Rami, this video really helps. I was feeling confused with the things I am doing and the things that is happening around me. I have many doubts on myself, eg. my abilities. I doubt if the things I said is really something I can do. Trying to calm my thoughts, and your video notification popped up.
Thanks so much, I will practice.
Glad you found the video helpful!
thank you sir
you are doing a great job
really gratefull for your work
You are welcome. Thank you for your kind words and encouragement.
a very good explanation, now I'm worried that I worry too much ;)
We actually have a term for that - meta-worry. Worry about worrying.
Many thanks Dr Nader - Peter-Eòin
You're welcome. Glad you found it helpful.
Thank you....!!
Hi Sania - you are welcome. I'm glad that you are finding the videos helpful.
Thanks si much for your valuable blessings 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤
You're very welcome.
I guess it all comes back to my irrealistic expectations of how my life should be
yes, this video was helpful.
Hi Gwynn - I'm glad you found the video helpful!
Hello I am the fan of your videos soooooo mucchhhh
I'm pleased you are finding the videos helpful. Thanks for supporting the channel.
Wow that explains it. I have questine please, every time i go to the hospital, i like the nurse to wear cloves or use hand sanitizer before drowing blood, but many times the nurse didn't wear gloves or use havnd sanitizer before drowing blood, i dont like that but i always fail to ask and after that i blame my self for not asking her to wear cloves or use hand sanitizer as she deals with dofferent patience. That example of many re accuring problems that i face and have negative feelings about but fail to talk and solve it and then keep blaming myself. Thank you
Wow, I've had a real case of anxiety today, just from annual leave an going back to work. An the biggest hurdle for me is problem solving, that one part where my mind thinks I need to get this solved quick an it should be easy. Hearing this video has helped me relieve that anxiety. This an the second video. Do you do 1 to 1?
I do have in person clients, but am only licensed to practice in BC, Canada.
Hello Dr Rami,Thanks For ur Vedios,I get a lot of information from them,But I wanna know That I have Muscle tension and Breathing difficulty as i suffer from GAD,I try to manage Worry and i can Manage It,But Sometimes this muscle tension is so Severe,So I want to know Will U show Some skills to cope up with physical tension..
I could do a video on relaxation techniques, but there are a lot on UA-cam already. One thing I'd recommend is for you to look up videos on "Progressive Muscle Relaxation" - that's a very good tool for managing physical tension. Hope that helps.
But Dr Rami U Earlier told thar worry leads to physical tension,But When I Feel tensed at that point how i will be able to know that im worrying,as I calm my mind still i fell tensed,can u Explain what is the reason behind it...
@@Prince-hf2ps If you are looking for a skill to manage physical tension associated with excessive worry, try progressive muscle relaxation in combination with the worry management skills I am discussing in these videos.
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So this is my “zany hijinks” approach isn’t effective? It does provide temporary happiness!
I tend to have 1&2 but what to do when we are aware of number 3 and the possibility of doing something isn't there? I'm not happy about my life in the place where I am living now, it makes me very anxious but because of the pandemic there isn't much I can do....
Thank you very much for your videos, they are very helpful.
Hi Paloma - the issue here seems to be defining the problem. While you can't do anything about the pandemic, the idea is to think about the problems that the pandemic is causing and address the
NPO regarding those problems. For example, thinking about what aspects of your living situation are problematic - e.g., being in the house with everyone all the time and not having any time for myself. Once I am able to recognize that as part of what's causing me worry and anxiety, then there is something I can potentially problem solve. I'll be getting into specific problem solving skills in the next video. I'm not sure if that answers you question, but I hope so. Thanks for watching the videos and I'm glad you're finding them useful.
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Thank you so much for your kind answer. I was thinking about the limitations of moving to another country now.
@@palomabauer5614 That's a tough one. Points out that not all problems are imminently solvable, so the focus is more on coping and using tolerating uncertainty and challenging worry beliefs to manage excessive worry associated with that problem.
What about misinterpreting a situation and seeing problems that aren't there?
Assuming that I must have done something wrong thereby creating a problem, but being wrong about doing something wrong
That's an interesting idea. In the situation you describe then, it would be a type 2 worry (worry about a problem that doesn't exist), so when you start to try and solve the problem, you will realize that the problem has not happened.
Is worry g.a.d anxiety linked to having one day of hyperventilation worry and then another day feeling like I have a knott in my throat both lasting the whole day and night?this is such a agonizing manifestation feeling my anxiety has been consistent I mean Ive had panic attacks and anxiety that last usually 15 minutes then disappeared but know it’s been consistent gad anxiety for 5 days straight from when I go to sleep and till I wake up in other words I can’t even sleep and if I do I get like 2 hours
The anxiety in GAD is associated with excessive, difficult to control worry. What you are describing sounds more like panic attacks, as you didn't mention anything you are worrying about.
Dr. Rami Nader I’m worried about going outside I’m worried of getting another gagging panic attack while outside I haven’t left my house or drove my car I just woke up now trembling feeling cold and with nauseas in the morning I don’t want to eat cause I feel like I’m going to throw up it’s like I’m living a cycle in my head after the nauseas comes the hyperventilation then it goes away and then the knott on the throat comes but the difference is I don’t freak out like A 15 min panic attack I just feel the process of the symptoms threw out the whole day and I just want to break this cycle 😩😩😩 that I’ve never experienced before
Same with me!
I have had some CBT treatment and the worrying is something that is making my life unhappy. So a big thank you for your kindness and help you give on utube, It is really helping me. Thanyou Gaynor
I can not find the work book
There is a link to the worksheet in the video description.
I think a lot of times the first step is to just stop emoting for a minute and think rationally.
Agreed, but this can be a lot easier said than done.
Not enough people are watching this video. In my view they should.
Thanks! I'm glad you found it useful. It's still pretty newly posted, so I'm sure more people will see it over time as it gets shared. If you haven't already, I'd encourage you to check out the other worry management videos on my channel. Thanks for your support and encouragement.