Before I commented, I looked for comments on that one--well put, friend. You know, I am going to try that out and see if it works. He is so convincing.
It could mean he was wrong or made a mistake? It would make it not a lie, but also not true. I'm not saying I believe him, because I don't, but that's how I interpret that part. Still, awful thing to say out loud in court. 😆 🤣
As grating as his voice is, watching Todd Kendhammer's brutal realization that gaslighting won't work in a courtroom with a stenographer is incredibly gratifying.
Yes. This guy's interesting. At 19:40 I wonder what he was thinking when he said yes to the attorney asking him, so you were driving around, looking for Jerry's Home,( without an address) on a day you have to go to work?
I'm sure he sounds like more of a stereotypical school lunch lady than his wife. Off Topic: She was a school lunch lady and cooked full homemade meals every day? I can't even begin to imagine how good some of her own recipes would taste 🤤 I can't help but feel like she would've made a perfect wife for anyone else, but he would have been the husbans from hell to whichever woman he quote "decided he wanted"
Ikr. I was thinking, who in their right mind found this guy attractive enough to marry. That bxtch voice alone, would insure that he wouldn't get past the words hi, my name is..... 🤣😭
I'd be so pissed off if I got dragged to court because someone made up a fake story about a windshield sale with me when they committed a crime. That one dude had the look on his face like "I got better shit to be doing than sitting in court right now."
My neighbor sounds just like him, even his facial behaviors--my neighbor is an alcoholic and lies like he breathes. I wonder if alcohol has an effect on the voice.
1. The poor woman had no respite from that control freak. Not even her work breaks were hers. 2. I thought his voice wasn’t real at first. Wow. He really talks like that, every day of his life. Yikes. 3. I love your channel!! One of the best on UA-cam, the way you present these is really well done!
I don't even want to imagine sex with that dude. That woman was a saint! Poor Barb is finally getting the alone time she probably so desperately needed in life.
What’s going thru Todd’s head: he perfected long ago a simple affect of looking straight into people’s eyes with an innocent, earnest affect to his presentation. He’s so committed to it.. bc it basically worked for him his whole life.
Call it what you want, and never mind that he hid behind his hands and hung his head like an egg-sucking polecat almost the entire time during the police interrogation. Body language that, in my opinion, screams lies and guilt. All I see is an idiotic, lying narcissist with shifty, beady eyes, an ugly face and a venomous snake's tongue, darting in and out of his gash of a mouth, lying through his teeth on the witness stand. The hair stupidly combed over his forehead does not help. This man would not impress me if I knew him. His little Napoleon complex proves nothing, except his many inadequacies.
yeah he probably tried to do that to his celly but if he kept doing it, they would be beating his ass senseless EVERYDAY, stealing his food and fucking with him. getting him in trouble/ setting him up, if they really hated him. that is. he’s likely by now minding his own business, if not he’d be regretting it for sure
The photos of Barb are of a lovely woman with the spark of life in her eyes. How she ended up with this goob is mystifying. Shame on her family for not being there for her, before and after her death.
I’m sure if her boss had been allowed to speak for her… they would’ve happily agreed to. My guess is reliving the murder of your colleague during school hours probably affected _the precious_ numbers.
Windshield professional here. Looking at the accident photos isnt it pecuilar how no other part of the car has so much as a dent? No other glass was damaged? To do that kind of damage to a windshield you need to be going at a very high rate of speed. People fly through a windshield at 70 mph. I didnt catch if they mentioned speeds but that looks like a pretty pedestrian road.. maybe they were going 40? Your not going to create a hole in the windshield with your skull hitting it at that rate. Best case it will be cracking. But the damage to the windshield doesnt fit the lack of damage to the rest of the car. Nor is it consistent with her injuries. She would have glass embedded in her face and countless contusions from it
I used to have a boyfriend that demanded constant contact all the time, every break every moment of my life and still accused me of cheating even though he monitored my every move. So thankful i got away. These abusive psychos destroy lives.
Been there too. Dated a guy who made me put him on speaker so he could be sure I was having Christmas dinner with my family and not out cheating on him. I left him a week later when he ranted at me for hours because a male friend had the temerity to include me in a group text to say Happy New Year 🙄
No one showed up in support of Barbara. That is one of the saddest parts of this case. It's almost like she was forgotten because everyone - even her family - was so focused on Todd. They sat there and heard all of his lies come to light, saw autopsy photos of Barbara's injuries, and heard expert testimony on how she likely received those injuries and they still openly supported the man found guilty of murdering her.
It was in sane! Hearing him whispering under his breath in the cop car was crazy. He beat the life out of her and all those folks treat odd todd as a Saint.
If Barbara’s family can support this monster after hearing lie after lie I can not imagine how they treated her in life. I bet she had no one to talk to about her misery. What a sad sad life . I would bet any attempts to confide in her family were met with songs of praise about this monster and how lucky she was to have him. Heartbreaking ...
Don't you think her family knew her, and knew her relationship with Todd, better than you do? Why don't you listen to what they have to say? So prejudicial....
@@rkaye2009 They, like poor Barbara, don't appear to have the mental capacity to process the harsh truth and are in denial. Unfortunately she paid the ultimate price.
I totally agree with you with you! Her family & this POS husband took her for granted IMO . They all had some major issues if you ask me. Poor Barb had to put up with 25 years of sheer hell with a husband that had to know her every move & a family who gave her no support from domineering spouse. Beyond heartbreaking
His injuries are consistent with her fighting for her life and him beating her to death, then trying to fake an "accident." I hope he never gets out of prison. EVER.
The autopsy photo of her bruised jaw where he had clamped his hand over her mouth to stifle her screams actually haunts me . Realizing too,that it also would have blocked her breathing through her nose ,makes the terror she must have experienced so frightening. The pressure,the force to leave that mark.....I'll never forget that photo .. I usually don't look at those kind of pictures.... I wish I would have never saw it ...the fear....
What I love about top tier creators like this, is that even if it's a case I've heard of, there is no shortage of new information and astute analyzation. Thanks for another great season! Looking forward to the next!
@@nastybastardatlive in my opinion, very much so. As far as the genre is concerned, he's covering all the bases and then some. You don't have to dig deep into the ever-increasing amount of TC content, to realize who is and isn't putting in the work. Especially those existings on this platform and as podcasts at the same time. If it's not for you so be it, to each his own... Please refer me to who you would consider the FrontRunners in this field.
@@chaw1032 I totally agree with you. Even if it's a case I've watched a lot about I know this UA-camr will have info I've not heard anything of before. His research and delivery is impeccable. Enjoy your day, love from Portsmouth, UK 👋
Exactly ! All her family was on that clowns side ! Thank God for her cousin standing up for her and as for the rest of the family, I hope they are ashamed of themselves!
I’ve gotta say I’m really feeling undecided on this one. First off that’s a really wild story about a led pipe coming through the windshield secondly, what was the motive? I find it very curious that the wife’s family was siding with him.. idk
On a side note, as someone who worked in auto glass for nearly a decade, the idea of some rando replacing my windshield in their garage on the side makes me itchy. Plenty of AGRS certified installers in Minnesota. Farm truck or not. A windshield incorrectly installed is dangerous and now I’m stressed out. Been out of the industry for 3 years and this is REALLY bothering me lol. Ugh. Carry on. My condolences to Barbara’s loved ones.
Classic narcissist, Love hearing them selves talk. Can’t read a room, always assumes everyone believes every thing they say, think they are smarter than they are. No matter how many years go by he will NEVER admit his guilt so he will never get parole anyway.
Literally everyone they knew had no inkling he was abusive. Many testified for him in court. The general public needs to be more educated on gaslighting and what that actually is
This case is beyond tragic. Spouses kill instead of divorcing, etc,.? Totally sick. He looked guilty on the stand and he looked guilty in that horrible t-shirt. Thank you again for your production values and research.
They do it in every country of the world. It is a product of the patriarchy. Women are seen as disposable and men needy and demanding of what they really "deserve." Sometimes it's the other ay round and the husband gets killed but it slightly less common.
@@donnab7666 I can imagine...It's just so heartbreaking that no-one was even sitting on her side in the trial 😔 I might watch it, though I don't know if I could put up with watching anymore him and his blatant lying and disregard of his poor wife...
My heart breaks for Barbara. As someone who was married to an abuser who manipulated others (flying monkeys) to think I was the 'bad guy' by his appearing feeble and mild mannered, I know the hell she went through. All the continual lying, controlling, stalking, gaslighting, turning her family/friends against her, a completely sweet woman, knowing no one will believe you that he abused and gaslit her continually...she was living a nightmare even before this day. And I guarantee you, she feared for her life for years, not just that day when he killed her. Shame on her family for supporting her abuser and murderer.
I imagine that my dad’s rendition of his relationship with my mom would have sounded something like this. The internal narrative of a control freak is so incredibly different from reality, it’s absolutely amazing. My dad never let my mom out of his reach until he was too sick from untreated diabetes (he was afraid of doctors) to go with her everywhere she went. Once he couldn’t go, my sister, his programmed spy, had to go with her everywhere. It was irritating then, but now as an adult who has a normal relationship it’s just flat out insane.
Yeah...at first, I was like "awe, it sounds like my marriage". We are both very introverted and spend almost all of our time with each other and do pretty much everything together. However, when he said he would call her or text her during every single break and after work, I was like "yeahhh....never mind". I only text my husband when I need to know something or call him when it's an emergency and vice versa. When we are at work or one of us is out doing something like grocery shopping, we hardly text each other. I'll see him at home, so no need to blow each others phones up with nonsense. There are couples who do spend all their time together and have a normal functioning relationship, however, when you are constantly texting/calling to "check in" or "see how they are" non stop...that borders control and codependency and is creepy af. Plus, most couples, like myself, who do spend almost all their time together still have moments throughout the day where they are doing their own thing at home. Like, he'll play video games and I'll cook or watch TV on my own. It doesn't seem like that was happening with their marriage. It seems like she had zero time to herself. He seems like the kind of guy who will constantly ask "do you still love me" or "are you going to divorce me".
It's not "cute" or "love" by any means. It's codependence, possession and jealousy. I've had a girlfriend like that and it lasted 4 months but stalked me for years, scratched my car and my current girlfriend's car till I got a restrain order. Now, when I see any signs of this behaviour, I run in the opposite direction. I need my space. If what I can give isn't enough, than they're free to go. I don't care that mutch for a relationship. There's always someone else. I'm glad my 2 adults daughters do the same as well. I taught them about this from a young age.
"From the moment saw her, I knew I wanted her." Even from the very beginning of his story, his egotistical possession is obvious. He doesn't want to get to know her, he doesn't want to find out if they are even compatible, he didn't want to be with her, he simply wanted her. And that's why he killed her when she didn't want to be his anymore. His little airy voice and calm demeanor don't fool me for a second into thinking he's harmless. He's shooting for that new trial, but honestly, I'm not surprised cause he has no other options. Accepting what he did and what kind of person he is just isn't something he has the mental strength for.
How judge Judy used to say: “You have to have a very good memory if you plan to lie”. When telling the truth you don’t need to remember what you said before. When you are guilty you change your story to meet the evidence in the scene.
@SA "Ain't it the truth!" in Bugs Bunny's own sage words. Yet somehow this dirty sow changing its story more than it changes its diapers - um, "underwear" - failed to get through the concrete heads Miss Barbara called a family. Leave us to Raise (Our) Glass(es) & Drink A Toast to the unnamed cousin who both stood up for her & roasted those stuffed tailor's dummies that incredibly "supported" the ludicrous lies this whining cretin spewed out. Of course this happening up in "nys" meant that the lowest of the lowest "1st-degree INTENTIONAL" murder penalty not only was a mere CRUMB of justice but that the denuded stick of "parole" went along with it. I would not care if, with all of those backstabbers she called a family including her mama's ghost alongside, it appeared on its "prison prayer" worn knees expressing so-called ReMorse for what it did - which would be nothing but more lies - that should not overcome the HAC ["heinous atrocious & cruel"] actions of this MURDER the LSOS committed. It should though by that idiotic 30-year "minimum" have croaked its way onto the 1-way southbound East Hell Express, whence on arrival it will be cast into a fiery cell eternally taking a scorched length of pipe up its inwards, whereupon we'll have yet another occasion to raise them glasses & drink many a toast - both to the miserable end of a miserable inhuman being & the memory of a lady who deserved FAR better than what she got.
If you get a chance try and watch all footage that is out there from the accident,(amazing footage) the police interviews & the court case it's worth watching
These cases keep me level headed about thinking I can be a detective. Monsters keep getting better at being monsters.. Edit: prematurely thinking it was more convincing until the court hearing part, then I was like, "wow I'm dumb af." Still humbling for me because I def can't be a detective. Lol
I find this particular case terrifying because this guy is savage wolf masquerading as a sheep and just seems so jovial but really is a violent killer. Scary
It's the charm defensive. He comes across as an ordinary, caring person and perhaps Barbara never told the family what he was really like. It seems as if he completely controlled her.
Technically you could say something that's untrue and not being lying if you thought it was true at that moment (being mistaken). Clearly not the case here, and don't know about the case of your ex.
@@mofleh177 you are obviously young which is why you think that little mind game trick works, IT DOESNT. if its not true then its a lie not a damn mistake. You arent as smart as you think you are. Try again.
@@ebonyperkins4129 I'm 40 and my remark wasn't meant to be defending liars I hate nothing more than liars. You don't think ppl sometimes get things wrong mistakenly?
Creating flying monkeys out of those closest to you or driving them away is a classic abuser tactic. I will bet he 'forbade' the one person who supported her from seeing Barbara. Barbara's life was a lonely, painful existence long before this day he killed her. It's so heartbreaking.
It just goes to show how isolated Barbara really became. Her own family didn't know her or her life. He surrounded her like an amoeba and swallowed her.
To anyone out there who is in a relationship with a partner who wants to track your every move...get out. That is not a healthy relationship. You deserve your private time and shouldn't need to have to justify anything. It must be horrible. Barbara lived with him for so long, she didn't know it was not normal.
That poor woman had no break from her controlling husband, her days off weren’t hers, even her work breaks weren’t hers. She had no time to herself, that must’ve been suffocating. Every single witness for his “alibi” looks so pissed off and insulted to be there, they have a look of “I have better shit to be doing” and “I can’t believe this idiot included me in his lies” looks on their faces. Even when faced with evidence he tried to squirm his way around, what a horrible wee man.
I had friend like this before, it took me three years to break it off the friendship I felt like I was suffocating and decided just to cut all ties, I am still traumatized from this friendship
I really enjoy this channel, the narrator, the way that the information is presented. Bonus, no annoying music and the video does not skip around and the sound is lined up properly...Thank you!
So sad, you can tell Todd is straight up lying, & yet her own family is standing by her murderer instead of their family member ..that's 1 pathetic family Barb had. What a shame! An abusive, controlling husband, & a family that don't support you, hopefully she had close friends that loved her & wants justice for her!!
I don’t know how people are able to sit through autopsy photos of their loved ones, or have to hear the details. God bless any family for having to live through something like that.
Well apparently all her family stood by this control freak murderer.Except for one of her aunt's who was completely disgusted with the family for not standing by their supposedly loved one 💔💔💜💜 this poor women didn't have a moment to herself may she Rest in peace beautiful lady
I was in a controlling relationship like theirs once. (Obviously not to that extent but yknow.) I really loved her, but she never gave me a moment to myself and if we were out with friends she'd later give me the silent treatment for 'ignoring her.' I feel awful for Barb. The only reason they were married for 25 years was because he probably wouldn't let her leave. It's okay to be apart from one another in relationships, folks! It makes you appreciate the time together even more, and we all need breaks every now and then. He didn't have to call her EVERY BREAK. Also, his appearance in court was REALLY grating. Kudos to the jury for being so patient with him.
If you love someone , set them free. If they come back, they are yours. If they don't, They never were. I like to be alone. I like my own time. After realising it is impossible for " partners" to understand that, I've decided to spend the rest of my life alone. Actually quite sad since I feel good within a relationship . I like having a partner. I like looking after a partner. But I need freedom too. It's a pity how this is so misinterpreted. ( I even had one relationship where he wanted to go everywhere with me...to the bank, shop....he would knock on the bathroom door if I was in there too long......I couldn't breathe)
@@dheider9109 Exactly. It's like being suffocated. The only people who put up with this kind of relationship are probably those who know of no other kind. Poor Barbara.
I’ve actually met families like hers who will side with the abusers and they’re the most disturbing families you’ll ever meet. They want to fall under the spell of BS like what Todd likely spent years doing.
I can confirm that! Clearly ignorant on their end. People that side with the abuser when there is clear evidence of abuse have no business roaming this earth! They should have never been born. They are no better than the actual abuser and they’re also part of the problem!
The injuries to Barb's mouth were caused by him smothering her with his hand. She was not dead when he pulled over, and he dragged her out of the car to finish her off. A car drove by barely minutes before Todd's 911 call, a guy on his way to a job site, and said he saw the car in the ditch already, but no people, and he didn't hear any voices, yelling, or screaming. Todd heard or saw the car approaching from the ditch and smothered her calling for help.
It is a terrible shame only one family member of Barbaras stood up for her and provided her support. Only one. Only one who is apparently educated and also the only one who truly loved Barbara.
@@kasey9067 What a loathsome crew to which she was related [& birthed by this creature], her own MOTHER yet, to have been so benumbed by that horrid screech, bewitched by them hollow eyes & besotted by that godawful name to have taken its every "Changed Its Story So Many Times" (per tiM) busted-barrelful of LIES as, in the words of H. Fenton Mudd, "Heaven's own truth." They'll all get theirs too 1 fine day - confined in some corner on a lower tier for 6 eternities of purgatory, far away from Miss Barbara, though if this "support" don't stop by the time this damn thing is stuffed aboard the 1-way southbound East Hell Express - which ain't happening fast enough - they'll be chained to its caboose to serve as its "groupies" ever after. May this spirited brave lady with the sadly bad taste in a mate R.E.I.P., & this LSOS get silenced forever Baby Make It Soon!
I love the intros on these so much. The voice tone and drop on the word Monsters and the creepy backdrop of those bright eyed all shapes and sizes Monsters that nestle in with all of us in society
Maybe bc they're as dumb as he is. Seems like a town of not the brightest ppl. I did like that last guy Todd claimed needed his window repaired. He knew what was up.
@@jello12345 it was more of a rhetorical question. They obviously have their heads up their asses and he's dragging them down with him. The state's witnesses were all good.
My husband and I have been married for 27 years we are very close and are only apart when we are at our jobs. But must say we both have our separate hobbies and we give each other alone time. This guy seemed like a control freak and once he lost the control he made his wife pay the price for standing up to him.
My husband and I are exactly they same way. We are together all the time, except when we are at work. He calls me everyday at break time and I love it. We also have different hobbies. Every Saturday he goes to a friends house to play guitar and my hobbie is playing video games. When hes home, he watches t.v. while I play next to him on my Xbox. Also we do give each other space.
@@eratoisyourmuse659 its not weird when your spouse is your best friend and you enjoy each other’s company. My husband and I have our own jobs and interests but still prefer to hang out mostly together in our free time. We don’t need to text or call each other all day long, but some couples have different communication styles. 🤷♀️
A commenter on another channel recommended Monsters. I am so grateful. UA-cam never recommended. I had to do a search. Extremely well done, creating a good overview and answering questions of the case. I applaud the “get down to it” information, background, commentary and court cases. I appreciate not being censored of the words, photos or “offensive” material that many videos edit out. If people on the jury can see it. So can I.
To us it's pretty clear, he must've had her in a narcissistic stranglehold of a marriage, she wanted out and he murdered her. But she probably never complained about his controlling behaviour so (in a way) her family standing by him is what they would consider being loyal to her memory. The whole thing is a tragedy. Another beautiful woman stolen away from this world 💔
Or if she did complain the family said that "Oh, he's so nice, he loves you so much, you'll work it out" BS. Many times spouses do speak with family members or friends and they are not believed because the person is so different in public than they are in private.
Thank you for including the domestic abuse hotline information at the end of your videos. Even if victims aren't the ones watching them, maybe some of your viewers will be able to pass the information along to those who might need it. And to those who do need it or need to pass it along, please read and believe this! Please pass this along if you know someone who needs it (I know it's lengthy, but it's important): Getting away from an abuser is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. Staying away is, arguably, even harder. That sweet-talking that reminds you of when things were good and those empty promises that they swear they'll keep can be sooo enticing. And you love them. You know you shouldn't, and you swear they love you, and they're just "stressed", and "it's probably _your_ fault for provoking them", and "the kids/pets miss them" (if you have them). That's what you tell yourself anyway. But control is not love. Gaslighting is not love. Threats are not love. If they constantly go through your phone, accuse you of cheating, make excuses for why you can't see/speak to your family or friends, if they keep you stranded with no money and no transportation or ability to interact with people, especially people you love, that is not love! If you have to account for every minute of your time, talk to them on every break, whether you feel like it or not, and you have no choice but to spend every waking moment they're not working or fulfilling other obligations with them, you are being controlled! Your romantic partner should not be treating you like a grounded child, or a child in general. The meaningless "I'm sorry"'s and promises to "never do it again" and those little -gifts- bribes to make up for their mistreatment are and never will be anything more than bandaids. You DO NOT have to live this way! I'll say it again: YOU. DO. NOT. HAVE. TO. LIVE. THIS. WAY!! There is help! There are people who care about you! Use the hotline! Call your neighbor! Call your friend! Call your family member! You are not weak! You are not worthless! You are loved! And valued! And intelligent! And you are strong! Don't "stay for the kids"! Growing up with 2 parents in an abusive home is NOT better than growing up in a single parent home where they are safe, you are safe, and they are loved! And if the abuse isn't physical, don't be of the "other people have it worse" mindset! Your life and your struggle are not LESS than anyone else's! Mental, emotional, and psychological abuse can be just as damaging! Do what you need to do for YOU! You can thrive the way you were always meant to if you can just take that first step! I know it's not easy but you deserve to be happy! The help is there. Take the step. Make the call. Send the text. Do what you've gotta do for YOU and let them worry about themselves for a change. We don't want you to be another statistic; another sad story on the news; another case for our favorite true crime channels. Don't let anybody put you in the ground before you've had your time to shine. You are worthy of happiness and love and we are here for you. 💚
This guy has a look of a coward. He was probably a bully when home alone with his wike, however he was the nicest guy anyone would ever want meet when he was out in public.
His children that grew up in the house with them also testified on his behalf. You can't be raised in a home with an abuser and not become a victim or at the very least they would witness some sort of behavior.... It's really weird and I'm fascinated with this case after hearing it. There is no doubt this guy beat his wife to death. The motive is baffling though. It doesn't make sense. The only person who knows what happened isn't saying anything besides his ridiculous and impossible cover story, no matter what. This is the third video I've watched trying to understand this video. There is no doubt he is lying when he says a lot of things, but I can tell he's telling the truth when it comes to his relationship with his wife. I'm wondering if maybe she told him she was going to leave him and he snapped. Or maybe she had an affair. But I would think the other man would have come forward to bring justice to his murdered lover, you know... It's too bad we will probably not ever get the answer. Maybe in 30 years when he is up for parole he will finally tell the truth. (Another video mentioned that would likely be a condition of his parole). I probably won't be around by then and I will definitely have lost interest and forgotten about it by then 😆
Imagine describing the typical day with your significant other after so many years & not tearing up or smiling about any memories, but instead staying completely flat & sounding like you're reading a boring book?
The guy is clearly a narcissist monster but you have to remember that these statements were rehearsed with his lawyer over and over and over again, no lawyer puts their clients in the stand without having every letter down. I’ve seen many witnesses sound apathetic because of this, they’re more reading a mental script than visualizing memories.
You're right, that is excessive. It takes a toll. This doesn't just apply to intimate relationships. Friendships can be codependent and unhealthy too, just as controlling as an intimate sexual partner
Um has a old friend I had to let go of...w love,come to find out she hacked and stalked me on facebook!!for over 2yrs!! She and I tryed to renew our friendship ahhh I called her out for being a bully,and she blew up my families phones w lies!!CRAY CRAY has no boundaries folks
I am sooo lucky that I had a friend that helped me open my eyes about the man I thought was very attentive and sweet at first. Anyone that has to be in your business so much that they must be able to talk to you at every work break, lunch, pick you up and drive you to work… shop, eat, walk, wake up and go to bed together everyday day? People, leave fast. I can’t imagine living like that for years. Poor woman.
The shirt his hands the scratches if you get the chance there is amazing footage of the accident and him talking to EMT & Police than more footage of his police interviews his fake stuttering and pictures plus the trial. It's 100% worth watching..
Years of gaslighting Barb have made him believe his own lies. Trying to do the same to the court officials isnt working and he has no idea what to do...just try and confuse them is his plan. He looks meek and mild, i bet her whole life was miserable because he definately is not!
That's a fairly awful take on a family that has lost their daughter and their son-in-law. While it is easy for any one of us, who know nothing other than having watched an hour of their lives, to assume everyone should feel the way we (you) do. Their families have the benefit (or the bad luck, depending on the story) to have tens of years of emotional bonding invested. You don't.
@@QuinnieMae you can’t argue with people on UA-cam. They act like they understand everyone tiny detail of all these crimes. Quite disgusting how much victims and people dealing with tragedy are judged here.
Why doesn't this channel have millions of subscribers? As far as I'm concerned, this is the finest crime channel on UA-cam. Perfectly narrated and obviously much research is put into each episode.
How could the family be so blind. Or maybe they really believe his pipe story, if that's the case then they're just stupid. I hate to be like that but it just pissed me off😕
Oh god. This is how my brother in law acts towards my sister. They do everything together when she's not working. If she visits me its brief, and he calls at least twice. But he always calls. Always...
Oh my gosh, all the information in this is pretty wtf, but to hear her family was on his side, that really annoyed me for some reason. Good on her cousin for supporting her and calling out the horrible family who supported him.
I absolutely adore your voice, your content, your channel, and your random moments of wit and humor. Your voice is calm and comforting. But most of all, I respect the shit outta you for putting up the resource information at the end for victims seeking help. You are doing God's work. THANK YOU!
Apparently Todd never hit puberty with that voice! I don’t see how any woman could find him attractive. Did Barbara take pity on him? She deserved so much better.
"So it was a lie."
"It wasn't a lie."
"But it was not true."
"It was not true."
genius
I caught that too🤨🤔
Why haven’t I ever used that incredible psychological technique
Before I commented, I looked for comments on that one--well put, friend. You know, I am going to try that out and see if it works. He is so convincing.
Lol. It's like the game I used to play as a child.
"Idiot said what."
"What?"
"Ha, gotem."
It could mean he was wrong or made a mistake? It would make it not a lie, but also not true. I'm not saying I believe him, because I don't, but that's how I interpret that part. Still, awful thing to say out loud in court. 😆 🤣
Did anyone else randomly find this channel and has now just become totally addicted🤤
Or is it just me.....?? 🤔
Ah yes, now this is an addition I can get behind on a regular basis 😀
Totally me too !
Yes! Love this channel already 😀
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As grating as his voice is, watching Todd Kendhammer's brutal realization that gaslighting won't work in a courtroom with a stenographer is incredibly gratifying.
Speak in English, I can't understand your courtroom banter
@@AceSantiago If you don't understand, then maybe you should learn English.
@AceSantiago your a goof.
Yes. This guy's interesting. At 19:40 I wonder what he was thinking when he said yes to the attorney asking him, so you were driving around, looking for Jerry's Home,( without an address) on a day you have to go to work?
@@AceSantiago hello, just randomly clicked on your Channel. You're from Selma North Carolina. Wow small world. I'm in Kenly. Enjoy your day!
If you close your eyes he sounds like an old lady with a cigarette in her hand wearing a robe.
Like one of Marge Simpson's sisters 🙃
thought im the only one noticed it. made me confused at times thought there's another person(woman) in the scene
I'm sure he sounds like more of a stereotypical school lunch lady than his wife.
Off Topic: She was a school lunch lady and cooked full homemade meals every day? I can't even begin to imagine how good some of her own recipes would taste 🤤 I can't help but feel like she would've made a perfect wife for anyone else, but he would have been the husbans from hell to whichever woman he quote "decided he wanted"
I was listening to this while driving and I thought he was a woman at first.
I was listening to pure audio and thought he was a raspy lesbian woman. Then I looked and was like wtf
this guy has major “Have you ever had a dream that that you um you had you'd you would you could you want to do so much you could do anything?“ energy
What????🤣🤣
Exactly!!😂😂
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Lol 😭🤣
They should have drug tested him. He looks like he does meth on the low.
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That voice, that face and that personality. Most hittable face of all time nominee.
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Ikr. I was thinking, who in their right mind found this guy attractive enough to marry. That bxtch voice alone, would insure that he wouldn't get past the words hi, my name is..... 🤣😭
I recently found out that Alan Jackson was not in the Jackson five. Yeah ol Todd sounds like he got kicked in the nuts by the undertaker
I tried not to focus on the damn lizzard tongue the whole time.
@@demigrantham4376 lol. I was going to say to never trust someone with a lizard tongue.
I'd be so pissed off if I got dragged to court because someone made up a fake story about a windshield sale with me when they committed a crime. That one dude had the look on his face like "I got better shit to be doing than sitting in court right now."
He sure does. He's looking like, "Y'all got me in here answering these stupid a**questions when I have work I could be doing."
lol everyone seemed so insulted this moron included them in his “alibi” he doesnt seen very liked heh
Oh I know! Every time this dude named another guy I thought “he dragged another one?!”
Yeah, guy does not look happy to be involved in that at all.
I mean hes getting paid for it though
Anyone else find his voice absolutely GRATING.
My neighbor sounds just like him, even his facial behaviors--my neighbor is an alcoholic and lies like he breathes. I wonder if alcohol has an effect on the voice.
Had to stop looking his Lizard tongue shooting out constantly, think it came out with every lie.
I know that no one can help for the way they look or their voice ...but this person's voice and tonality and cadence drives me nuts !!
@@sandrarobinson3266 😆
OMG YES!! 25 years this poor lady endured with stuttering, lisping, tongue darting out constantly, lying clown. Talk about batting out of your league.
It's amazing that her integrity and her character of being punctual for work spoke for herself even after her horrible murder. God bless you, Barbara.
Well said!
1. The poor woman had no respite from that control freak. Not even her work breaks were hers.
2. I thought his voice wasn’t real at first. Wow. He really talks like that, every day of his life. Yikes.
3. I love your channel!! One of the best on UA-cam, the way you present these is really well done!
I thought that voice recorded on tape, was a woman😲
I dont know what she saw in that pip-squeek!
@@saradavis1935 za
It’s painful to sit and listen to it. Imagine living with him and hearing him nag in that voice?
I don't even want to imagine sex with that dude. That woman was a saint! Poor Barb is finally getting the alone time she probably so desperately needed in life.
This guy had the worst attorney ever to let him testify on his own behalf.
Sometimes it works, it’s just a risky move. I guess his attorney thought he would be likable to the jury
I thought he was his own attorney or did i hear that wrong?
@@marioallstarrr No, he had a lawyer. Maybe you heard “testify in his own defense” which just means he took the stand
All lawyers can do is strongly advise, if Todd insisted on testifying there's nothing they could have done to stop him.
That has nothing to do with his attorney.. it's his right to testify on his own behalf.
What’s going thru Todd’s head: he perfected long ago a simple affect of looking straight into people’s eyes with an innocent, earnest affect to his presentation. He’s so committed to it.. bc it basically worked for him his whole life.
Omgosh yes! As he told one lie after another!
Call it what you want, and never mind that he hid behind his hands and hung his head like an egg-sucking polecat almost the entire time during the police interrogation. Body language that, in my opinion, screams lies and guilt. All I see is an idiotic, lying narcissist with shifty, beady eyes, an ugly face and a venomous snake's tongue, darting in and out of his gash of a mouth, lying through his teeth on the witness stand. The hair stupidly combed over his forehead does not help. This man would not impress me if I knew him. His little Napoleon complex proves nothing, except his many inadequacies.
Absolutely!
As the old saying goes, if you can't dazzle em with brilliance, baffle em with bullshit!
I have never heard that before and it is now my new favorite saying. Thank you!
Ha! My dad had this on a keychain. As he was a shady used-car salesman, I think he took it a little too seriously.
*I’m gonna borrow this saying*
There could never be a better application of this expression.
Louis Cypher... An old adage that applies aptly here.
Todd is in prison driving everyone he talks to insane.
Maybe parts of the sentence should have been to remove those vocal chords.
Ehh they probably already silenced him
You made me laugh! Thank you🙌👏👏👏
yeah he probably tried to do that to his celly but if he kept doing it, they would be beating his ass senseless EVERYDAY, stealing his food and fucking with him. getting him in trouble/ setting him up, if they really hated him. that is. he’s likely by now minding his own business, if not he’d be regretting it for sure
He's probably forced to talk dirty to them so they can close their eyes and pretend it's a girl speaking!
The photos of Barb are of a lovely woman with the spark of life in her eyes. How she ended up with this goob is mystifying. Shame on her family for not being there for her, before and after her death.
I would imagine that Barbara was The Family Scapegoat and that she also had a mother who was a lot like mine. R.I.P., Barbara.
Totally agree
Todd’s entire mannerism comes off like he’s trying hard to seem like an innocent childlike baby. Creepy.
Glad I'm not the only one who notice it. So many people act that way now, it's frightening.
ya it’s very creepy, I can see some people being fooled by this act
Like a dumb kid caught with his hand in the cookie jar, and then denying it. Unreal.
That poor woman. I am glad she had at least one person who spoke up for her.
Way too good for him,she probably wanted to run days into their marriage with Mr Controlling
They were probably all jealous of her.
I’m sure if her boss had been allowed to speak for her… they would’ve happily agreed to.
My guess is reliving the murder of your colleague during school hours probably affected _the precious_ numbers.
Windshield professional here. Looking at the accident photos isnt it pecuilar how no other part of the car has so much as a dent? No other glass was damaged? To do that kind of damage to a windshield you need to be going at a very high rate of speed. People fly through a windshield at 70 mph. I didnt catch if they mentioned speeds but that looks like a pretty pedestrian road.. maybe they were going 40? Your not going to create a hole in the windshield with your skull hitting it at that rate. Best case it will be cracking. But the damage to the windshield doesnt fit the lack of damage to the rest of the car. Nor is it consistent with her injuries. She would have glass embedded in her face and countless contusions from it
Yeah , Todd lied about everything. Nothing fits.
I used to have a boyfriend that demanded constant contact all the time, every break every moment of my life and still accused me of cheating even though he monitored my every move. So thankful i got away. These abusive psychos destroy lives.
So proud of you!!!
Been there too. Dated a guy who made me put him on speaker so he could be sure I was having Christmas dinner with my family and not out cheating on him.
I left him a week later when he ranted at me for hours because a male friend had the temerity to include me in a group text to say Happy New Year 🙄
You're absolutely right. I've had a very similar experience. Thankfully, I escaped too.
All power to you ☮️
Lol funny 👍🇬🇧
Good thing! You deserve better.
After watching this I CAN NOT believe or understand how so many family members of Barbaras can be so supportive of this man!!!!
Maybe cus he is innocent?
@@lindasvalesen5237 He’s a pathological lier. Can’t trust a word he says.
@@archaichermit3566 she's been drinking the kool-aid
@@lindasvalesen5237 you're tripping 🤡 🖕 😜
Why do you think he is innocent?
No one showed up in support of Barbara. That is one of the saddest parts of this case. It's almost like she was forgotten because everyone - even her family - was so focused on Todd. They sat there and heard all of his lies come to light, saw autopsy photos of Barbara's injuries, and heard expert testimony on how she likely received those injuries and they still openly supported the man found guilty of murdering her.
One of her family members acknowledged the evidence and sought justice. ...one. 😩
It was in sane! Hearing him whispering under his breath in the cop car was crazy. He beat the life out of her and all those folks treat odd todd as a Saint.
If Barbara’s family can support this monster after hearing lie after lie I can not imagine how they treated her in life. I bet she had no one to talk to about her misery. What a sad sad life . I would bet any attempts to confide in her family were met with songs of praise about this monster and how lucky she was to have him. Heartbreaking ...
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Don't you think her family knew her, and knew her relationship with Todd, better than you do? Why don't you listen to what they have to say? So prejudicial....
@@rkaye2009 They, like poor Barbara, don't appear to have the mental capacity to process the harsh truth and are in denial. Unfortunately she paid the ultimate price.
@@rkaye2009 you mean "judicious". We have the evidence: the constant stream of verbal diarrhea coming out of this creep's mouth
I totally agree with you with you! Her family & this POS husband took her for granted IMO . They all had some major issues if you ask me. Poor Barb had to put up with 25 years of sheer hell with a husband that had to know her every move & a family who gave her no support from domineering spouse. Beyond heartbreaking
His injuries are consistent with her fighting for her life and him beating her to death, then trying to fake an "accident." I hope he never gets out of prison. EVER.
Seriously. Just the thought of what she went thru in the last minutes of her life is sickening.
Hi Tina, do you have a sister called Tracy.
The autopsy photo of her bruised jaw where he had clamped his hand over her mouth to stifle her screams actually haunts me . Realizing too,that it also would have blocked her breathing through her nose ,makes the terror she must have experienced so frightening. The pressure,the force to leave that mark.....I'll never forget that photo .. I usually don't look at those kind of pictures.... I wish I would have never saw it ...the fear....
What I love about top tier creators like this, is that even if it's a case I've heard of, there is no shortage of new information and astute analyzation.
Thanks for another great season!
Looking forward to the next!
I love this channel too. We don't get to see any of these cases here in Australia.
Top tier. Okay.
@@nastybastardatlive in my opinion, very much so.
As far as the genre is concerned, he's covering all the bases and then some.
You don't have to dig deep into the ever-increasing amount of TC content, to realize who is and isn't putting in the work.
Especially those existings on this platform and as podcasts at the same time.
If it's not for you so be it, to each his own...
Please refer me to who you would consider the FrontRunners in this field.
@@chaw1032 I totally agree with you. Even if it's a case I've watched a lot about I know this UA-camr will have info I've not heard anything of before. His research and delivery is impeccable. Enjoy your day, love from Portsmouth, UK 👋
Plus we don't have to watch make-up with our true crime here! I really don't understand that.
It’s even more sad that no one was even there to support Barbara except one cousin. Did they not hear this guy speak?!
What a douche
What a clown...in south afrika he would be dead in jail
Exactly ! All her family was on that clowns side ! Thank God for her cousin standing up for her and as for the rest of the family, I hope they are ashamed of themselves!
I’ve gotta say I’m really feeling undecided on this one. First off that’s a really wild story about a led pipe coming through the windshield secondly, what was the motive? I find it very curious that the wife’s family was siding with him.. idk
@@reneel2441 My exact words! Or a pos.Either way.Love from Alberta Canada
On a side note, as someone who worked in auto glass for nearly a decade, the idea of some rando replacing my windshield in their garage on the side makes me itchy. Plenty of AGRS certified installers in Minnesota. Farm truck or not. A windshield incorrectly installed is dangerous and now I’m stressed out. Been out of the industry for 3 years and this is REALLY bothering me lol. Ugh. Carry on. My condolences to Barbara’s loved ones.
Does his story even make sense? I know nothing about windshields? Lie after lie
I could never live with someone who had a voice like that
Todd would make sure of that
@@judyclarke423 it’s a sad story but this comment made me 😆😆
You be surpized...🤭🤣😂
Not masculine at all👎🤦♀️
Sounds like a lesbian
He talks in circles. He is lying so bad, he can’t remember his lies
He sounds like a child trying to lie their way out of trouble
He thought he was smart enough to pull it off unless he was acting stupid which is a possibility
Tell us how are used to go for ice cream
He cant lie because hes thick as a plank . Cant believe his crap story whatsoever its nonsense from start to finish.
Classic narcissist, Love hearing them selves talk. Can’t read a room, always assumes everyone believes every thing they say, think they are smarter than they are. No matter how many years go by he will NEVER admit his guilt so he will never get parole anyway.
Todd appears as such a non threatening, even funny character it makes him even more scary with what he's done.
Literally everyone they knew had no inkling he was abusive. Many testified for him in court. The general public needs to be more educated on gaslighting and what that actually is
That’s what they do.
@Alfo Bootidir I had to look up the term "gaslighting" I never heard of that before
I would think he would probably be putting a lot of money into someone's books or else playing catcher.
I’m like seriously looking at him thinking he looks like one of the sweetest people ever so to think that he could do this is just so crazy
This case is beyond tragic. Spouses kill instead of divorcing, etc,.? Totally sick. He looked guilty on the stand and he looked guilty in that horrible t-shirt. Thank you again for your production values and research.
There is footage of the accident the police interviews and court footage worth the watch if you can
@@donnab7666 "accident" 😉 don't think I could watch much more of this guy tbh, everything about him annoys me 😂 hope you are well ❤
Omg yes. It was hard to look at 🤨
They do it in every country of the world. It is a product of the patriarchy. Women are seen as disposable and men needy and demanding of what they really "deserve." Sometimes it's the other ay round and the husband gets killed but it slightly less common.
"Horrible t-shirt" lol. You must mean the rat's ass one.
I have no idea how the majority of her family can believe him, it's so blatantly obvious that he's lying...
R.I.P Barbara 💖
Especially if you watch the footage of the accident and his police interviews great job and the trial. It's all on youtube its worth the watch
@@donnab7666
ua-cam.com/video/RZkJcJa_xko/v-deo.html
Todd on cross was a bigger car crash than the actual accident
@@donnab7666 I can imagine...It's just so heartbreaking that no-one was even sitting on her side in the trial 😔 I might watch it, though I don't know if I could put up with watching anymore him and his blatant lying and disregard of his poor wife...
@@cherryfaith4877 Blood means so little in reality.
@@d3l3tes00n u mean blood like blood related?
My heart breaks for Barbara. As someone who was married to an abuser who manipulated others (flying monkeys) to think I was the 'bad guy' by his appearing feeble and mild mannered, I know the hell she went through. All the continual lying, controlling, stalking, gaslighting, turning her family/friends against her, a completely sweet woman, knowing no one will believe you that he abused and gaslit her continually...she was living a nightmare even before this day. And I guarantee you, she feared for her life for years, not just that day when he killed her. Shame on her family for supporting her abuser and murderer.
Gosh that's so terrible.
I'm really sorry you lost her to a vicious b•stard.
He has the voice of an elderly woman who smokes a pack a day.
@Charles Smith 🤣🤣 it's the plot line to the next season of "how to get away with murder."
I imagine that my dad’s rendition of his relationship with my mom would have sounded something like this. The internal narrative of a control freak is so incredibly different from reality, it’s absolutely amazing. My dad never let my mom out of his reach until he was too sick from untreated diabetes (he was afraid of doctors) to go with her everywhere she went. Once he couldn’t go, my sister, his programmed spy, had to go with her everywhere. It was irritating then, but now as an adult who has a normal relationship it’s just flat out insane.
I have friends with a controlling relationship like this. It's pathetic. She can't even go to the bathroom and shut the door.
Yeah...at first, I was like "awe, it sounds like my marriage". We are both very introverted and spend almost all of our time with each other and do pretty much everything together. However, when he said he would call her or text her during every single break and after work, I was like "yeahhh....never mind". I only text my husband when I need to know something or call him when it's an emergency and vice versa. When we are at work or one of us is out doing something like grocery shopping, we hardly text each other. I'll see him at home, so no need to blow each others phones up with nonsense. There are couples who do spend all their time together and have a normal functioning relationship, however, when you are constantly texting/calling to "check in" or "see how they are" non stop...that borders control and codependency and is creepy af. Plus, most couples, like myself, who do spend almost all their time together still have moments throughout the day where they are doing their own thing at home. Like, he'll play video games and I'll cook or watch TV on my own. It doesn't seem like that was happening with their marriage. It seems like she had zero time to herself. He seems like the kind of guy who will constantly ask "do you still love me" or "are you going to divorce me".
Same here. This is scary.
@@lunaballuna
I hope that, by now, you know the difference between “awe” and “aww”… 😬
It's not "cute" or "love" by any means. It's codependence, possession and jealousy. I've had a girlfriend like that and it lasted 4 months but stalked me for years, scratched my car and my current girlfriend's car till I got a restrain order. Now, when I see any signs of this behaviour, I run in the opposite direction. I need my space. If what I can give isn't enough, than they're free to go. I don't care that mutch for a relationship. There's always someone else. I'm glad my 2 adults daughters do the same as well. I taught them about this from a young age.
Prosecutor: It was a lie, wasn't it?
Todd: It was NOT a lie
Prosecutor: It was not true?
Todd: It was not true
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"From the moment saw her, I knew I wanted her." Even from the very beginning of his story, his egotistical possession is obvious. He doesn't want to get to know her, he doesn't want to find out if they are even compatible, he didn't want to be with her, he simply wanted her. And that's why he killed her when she didn't want to be his anymore. His little airy voice and calm demeanor don't fool me for a second into thinking he's harmless. He's shooting for that new trial, but honestly, I'm not surprised cause he has no other options. Accepting what he did and what kind of person he is just isn't something he has the mental strength for.
Now that's a strategy:
Ramble on in you most annoying voices until people leave you alone!
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I knw rt!!whrs that pipe?🙄🤔
@@jospeaches8533 It's a galvanised pipe, threaded at one end. Steel with a zinc coating.
@@ScooterZn um I meant where is the pipe? I'm wondering..they found it rt??lol I could not hear his voice I didnt finish the vid...🙉🙉🙀⚡🙉👿
Same with Nicole Kessenger
This is just his voice... I get how people would find it annoying, but that doesn't necessarily make it a "strategy"
How can her kids and family not see this for what it is? Barb left as many clues as she could. God bless her. She had literally no time alone, ever.
How judge Judy used to say: “You have to have a very good memory if you plan to lie”. When telling the truth you don’t need to remember what you said before. When you are guilty you change your story to meet the evidence in the scene.
@SA "Ain't it the truth!" in Bugs Bunny's own sage words. Yet somehow this dirty sow changing its story more than it changes its diapers - um, "underwear" - failed to get through the concrete heads Miss Barbara called a family. Leave us to Raise (Our) Glass(es) & Drink A Toast to the unnamed cousin who both stood up for her & roasted those stuffed tailor's dummies that incredibly "supported" the ludicrous lies this whining cretin spewed out. Of course this happening up in "nys" meant that the lowest of the lowest "1st-degree INTENTIONAL" murder penalty not only was a mere CRUMB of justice but that the denuded stick of "parole" went along with it. I would not care if, with all of those backstabbers she called a family including her mama's ghost alongside, it appeared on its "prison prayer" worn knees expressing so-called ReMorse for what it did - which would be nothing but more lies - that should not overcome the HAC ["heinous atrocious & cruel"] actions of this MURDER the LSOS committed. It should though by that idiotic 30-year "minimum" have croaked its way onto the 1-way southbound East Hell Express, whence on arrival it will be cast into a fiery cell eternally taking a scorched length of pipe up its inwards, whereupon we'll have yet another occasion to raise them glasses & drink many a toast - both to the miserable end of a miserable inhuman being & the memory of a lady who deserved FAR better than what she got.
The way he speaks in court makes him quite believable. The further it got on I realised he was a massive narcissist. Poor woman 😔
@Saint Sinner it's crazy! I felt so sorry for him. I hate that! You can't trust anyone. 25 years together and then he turns round and kills her 😶
He has that vibe of a man that gets very angry at women but wouldnt say boo to a man.
If you get a chance try and watch all footage that is out there from the accident,(amazing footage) the police interviews & the court case it's worth watching
These cases keep me level headed about thinking I can be a detective. Monsters keep getting better at being monsters..
Edit: prematurely thinking it was more convincing until the court hearing part, then I was like, "wow I'm dumb af." Still humbling for me because I def can't be a detective. Lol
I would believe him a dont understand why
Make me feel bad in someway.
I find this particular case terrifying because this guy is savage wolf masquerading as a sheep and just seems so jovial but really is a violent killer. Scary
"And now today you have a third story, right?"
"no, I have the.... second... story..."
Wrooonnnggggg ansswerrrrr!
I'm shocked... how does the entire family support Todd? Barbara's own kids. That's sick.
It's the charm defensive. He comes across as an ordinary, caring person and perhaps Barbara never told the family what he was really like. It seems as if he completely controlled her.
Hopefully they realize by now He’s a monster
Sometimes lies hurt less than the truth.
I mean considering how keeps getting caught up in lies.
@@sg-cg6lr what?
He sounds like my ex-husband, “that was not a lie, it wasn’t the truth!” OK!
Im sorry but I had to laugh. I can relate. My ex is the same.
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Technically you could say something that's untrue and not being lying if you thought it was true at that moment (being mistaken). Clearly not the case here, and don't know about the case of your ex.
@@mofleh177 you are obviously young which is why you think that little mind game trick works, IT DOESNT. if its not true then its a lie not a damn mistake. You arent as smart as you think you are. Try again.
@@ebonyperkins4129 I'm 40 and my remark wasn't meant to be defending liars I hate nothing more than liars. You don't think ppl sometimes get things wrong mistakenly?
Barb finally realized what we realized 2 seconds into hearing him speak.
Haha you are so right haha
I was like "what could he possibly mean?" And damn how did she not know
FACTS
truth lol
Lol 😂
I can't get over her family supporting him after hearing all the evidence against him. Shame on them.
Creating flying monkeys out of those closest to you or driving them away is a classic abuser tactic. I will bet he 'forbade' the one person who supported her from seeing Barbara. Barbara's life was a lonely, painful existence long before this day he killed her. It's so heartbreaking.
I say what kinda family is that
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Truly disturbing.
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The stress he felt while testifying was clear! I cannot handle his voice. 😂
Such a tragic event. I don't even want to imagine the pain and suffering this beautiful lady had to endure. R.I.P. Barbara!
I watched this whole trial and it was so sad as noone was there for Barb ,finally one cousin did.
That's so sad. RIP Barb
That's just heartbreaking. 💔💔
Ikr?! Tf is wrong w her family?? So messed up
It just goes to show how isolated Barbara really became. Her own family didn't know her or her life. He surrounded her like an amoeba and swallowed her.
You mean they believed him????
To anyone out there who is in a relationship with a partner who wants to track your every move...get out. That is not a healthy relationship. You deserve your private time and shouldn't need to have to justify anything. It must be horrible. Barbara lived with him for so long, she didn't know it was not normal.
What on earth did she see 👀 in this dude?!? He gives off some serious creep vibes 😱 😳
like, Why does he lick his lips so much??
@@jakobdodd2718 Because he is tasting his lies! This is a common action by pathological liars.
His head looks like someone drew hair and a face on a volleyball.
Doubt he was like that then he was young
he reminds me of a 6 year old trying to NOT admit to breaking something in the house.
That’s exactly what I’ve been thinking watching this! He acts and talks just like a child
Exactly.
How did she let this evil imp mount her, and impregnate her twice? Just ewww! Gives me the heebie jeebies.
Exactly. He developed this pattern at 6 and never evolved
Married for 25 years and it ends like this. Heartbreaking. This goes to show that even the most mild mannered looking people can commit murder.
Yeah the quiet ones are the ones to watch as they repress a lot
@@LindaMoon-xq1qm true too
That poor woman had no break from her controlling husband, her days off weren’t hers, even her work breaks weren’t hers. She had no time to herself, that must’ve been suffocating.
Every single witness for his “alibi” looks so pissed off and insulted to be there, they have a look of “I have better shit to be doing” and “I can’t believe this idiot included me in his lies” looks on their faces.
Even when faced with evidence he tried to squirm his way around, what a horrible wee man.
well he did work 4 days a week, 12 hours a day, but i'm sure he called her throughout the day.
I had friend like this before, it took me three years to break it off the friendship I felt like I was suffocating and decided just to cut all ties, I am still traumatized from this friendship
I really enjoy this channel, the narrator, the way that the information is presented. Bonus, no annoying music and the video does not skip around and the sound is lined up properly...Thank you!
So sad, you can tell Todd is straight up lying, & yet her own family is standing by her murderer instead of their family member ..that's 1 pathetic family Barb had. What a shame! An abusive, controlling husband, & a family that don't support you, hopefully she had close friends that loved her & wants justice for her!!
I don’t know how people are able to sit through autopsy photos of their loved ones, or have to hear the details. God bless any family for having to live through something like that.
those ppl r supporting HIM!!! they couldnt have cared about her that much!!!
I could never do it 😔
Well apparently all her family stood by this control freak murderer.Except for one of her aunt's who was completely disgusted with the family for not standing by their supposedly loved one 💔💔💜💜 this poor women didn't have a moment to herself may she Rest in peace beautiful lady
@@pennysue8849 I know. Isn’t that sad. And he was so proud of it.
Your sick 😷
My Insomnia is grateful! Thank You!🌟🌟🌟🌟🌟
He reminds me of Dalia Dippolito, “I heard what you heard and I saw what you saw and it isn’t true”
Oh god, and they both have awful voices. He sounds like a female and Dalia has the worst lisp I've ever heard 🤮
YESSS OMG.CREEPY SLIME BALL🤮
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“I don’t know what’s going on please!” ~ Dalia Dippolito
Wow, good one, almost forgot about it but that indeed was a true classic ! Can you imagine the discussions between these two in jail 🤯
@@EYE_GOTCHA 😂 a fellow TCL fan! 5000% sure
I was in a controlling relationship like theirs once. (Obviously not to that extent but yknow.) I really loved her, but she never gave me a moment to myself and if we were out with friends she'd later give me the silent treatment for 'ignoring her.'
I feel awful for Barb. The only reason they were married for 25 years was because he probably wouldn't let her leave.
It's okay to be apart from one another in relationships, folks! It makes you appreciate the time together even more, and we all need breaks every now and then. He didn't have to call her EVERY BREAK.
Also, his appearance in court was REALLY grating. Kudos to the jury for being so patient with him.
If you love someone , set them free.
If they come back, they are yours.
If they don't,
They never were.
I like to be alone.
I like my own time.
After realising it is impossible for " partners" to understand that, I've decided to spend the rest of my life alone.
Actually quite sad since I feel good within a relationship .
I like having a partner.
I like looking after a partner.
But I need freedom too.
It's a pity how this is so misinterpreted.
( I even had one relationship where he wanted to go everywhere with me...to the bank, shop....he would knock on the bathroom door if I was in there too long......I couldn't breathe)
@@dheider9109 Exactly. It's like being suffocated. The only people who put up with this kind of relationship are probably those who know of no other kind. Poor Barbara.
@@dheider9109 if you blow chunks and she comes back she yours if you spew and she bolts it was never meant to be -garth from waynes world.
@@GermsOilCotten I guess it's all about setting standards , isn't it😅
I’ve actually met families like hers who will side with the abusers and they’re the most disturbing families you’ll ever meet. They want to fall under the spell of BS like what Todd likely spent years doing.
I can confirm that! Clearly ignorant on their end. People that side with the abuser when there is clear evidence of abuse have no business roaming this earth! They should have never been born. They are no better than the actual abuser and they’re also part of the problem!
Who else started binging this channel as soon as they found it?
Me lol.
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me too....
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I'm back at rewatching
Todd finds "a lot of things odd"...
To say Todd is "odd" is an understatement.
Todd... his last name is Kendhammer, that might be where you're getting Ken from
@@Finneganbeginagain1 🤔
The injuries to Barb's mouth were caused by him smothering her with his hand. She was not dead when he pulled over, and he dragged her out of the car to finish her off. A car drove by barely minutes before Todd's 911 call, a guy on his way to a job site, and said he saw the car in the ditch already, but no people, and he didn't hear any voices, yelling, or screaming.
Todd heard or saw the car approaching from the ditch and smothered her calling for help.
It is a terrible shame only one family member of Barbaras stood up for her and provided her support. Only one. Only one who is apparently educated and also the only one who truly loved Barbara.
They are supporting the family and Barbara this guy did not kill her
It was a cousin that was estranged from her..
It's heartbreaking, her own children, her brother and even her Mom supported him.
@@kasey9067 What a loathsome crew to which she was related [& birthed by this creature], her own MOTHER yet, to have been so benumbed by that horrid screech, bewitched by them hollow eyes & besotted by that godawful name to have taken its every "Changed Its Story So Many Times" (per tiM) busted-barrelful of LIES as, in the words of H. Fenton Mudd, "Heaven's own truth." They'll all get theirs too 1 fine day - confined in some corner on a lower tier for 6 eternities of purgatory, far away from Miss Barbara, though if this "support" don't stop by the time this damn thing is stuffed aboard the 1-way southbound East Hell Express - which ain't happening fast enough - they'll be chained to its caboose to serve as its "groupies" ever after. May this spirited brave lady with the sadly bad taste in a mate R.E.I.P., & this LSOS get silenced forever Baby Make It Soon!
This is probably the reason why when your guilty of a crime you shouldn't take the stand in your own defense
He had to testify, he was the only witness so he had to explain how it happened
You should not take the stand if you are guilty or innocent
I love the intros on these so much. The voice tone and drop on the word Monsters and the creepy backdrop of those bright eyed all shapes and sizes Monsters that nestle in with all of us in society
Todd's testimony reminds me of that scene in spongebob where Manray is trying to give Patrick his wallet.
Lol
That’s a good description 🤣
Accurate 😂
Now I have to go watch that episode.
😂😂😂😂😂 TAKE THE FUCKING WALLET
How can her family see the autopsy photos and his hands and still believe him....nevermind when he opens his mouth.
Maybe bc they're as dumb as he is. Seems like a town of not the brightest ppl. I did like that last guy Todd claimed needed his window repaired. He knew what was up.
@@jello12345 it was more of a rhetorical question. They obviously have their heads up their asses and he's dragging them down with him. The state's witnesses were all good.
Poor Barb❗
Respectfully, she probably already felt dead because he smothered the life out of her every minute of every day.
My husband and I have been married for 27 years we are very close and are only apart when we are at our jobs. But must say we both have our separate hobbies and we give each other alone time. This guy seemed like a control freak and once he lost the control he made his wife pay the price for standing up to him.
My husband and I are exactly they same way. We are together all the time, except when we are at work. He calls me everyday at break time and I love it. We also have different hobbies. Every Saturday he goes to a friends house to play guitar and my hobbie is playing video games. When hes home, he watches t.v. while I play next to him on my Xbox. Also we do give each other space.
@@lynncantrell2782 That's fucking weird. No offense.
@@eratoisyourmuse659 what is weird?
@@eratoisyourmuse659 its not weird when your spouse is your best friend and you enjoy each other’s company. My husband and I have our own jobs and interests but still prefer to hang out mostly together in our free time. We don’t need to text or call each other all day long, but some couples have different communication styles. 🤷♀️
A commenter on another channel recommended Monsters. I am so grateful. UA-cam never recommended. I had to do a search.
Extremely well done, creating a good overview and answering questions of the case. I applaud the “get down to it” information, background, commentary and court cases. I appreciate not being censored of the words, photos or “offensive” material that many videos edit out. If people on the jury can see it. So can I.
Monsters is a great show. I especially love the narration. Thank you for bringing these stories to life.
He shouldn’t be allowed to call her Barb.... it’s Barbera to you Todd
He mostly refers to her as "my wife", as ?if she's some damned possession! I despise him!
To us it's pretty clear, he must've had her in a narcissistic stranglehold of a marriage, she wanted out and he murdered her. But she probably never complained about his controlling behaviour so (in a way) her family standing by him is what they would consider being loyal to her memory.
The whole thing is a tragedy. Another beautiful woman stolen away from this world 💔
Yea,it is clear because we know. We feel like his lies are obvious because it's after and we know .
I kinda think she must have confronted him and told him she wanted a separation or divorce and he went into a "if I can't have you no one can" rage.
Or if she did complain the family said that "Oh, he's so nice, he loves you so much, you'll work it out" BS. Many times spouses do speak with family members or friends and they are not believed because the person is so different in public than they are in private.
“I don’t use the term defensive wounds” proceeds to elaborate onto an explanation that the term defensive wounds would perfectly describe.
Thank you for including the domestic abuse hotline information at the end of your videos. Even if victims aren't the ones watching them, maybe some of your viewers will be able to pass the information along to those who might need it.
And to those who do need it or need to pass it along, please read and believe this! Please pass this along if you know someone who needs it (I know it's lengthy, but it's important):
Getting away from an abuser is one of the hardest things you'll ever do. Staying away is, arguably, even harder. That sweet-talking that reminds you of when things were good and those empty promises that they swear they'll keep can be sooo enticing. And you love them. You know you shouldn't, and you swear they love you, and they're just "stressed", and "it's probably _your_ fault for provoking them", and "the kids/pets miss them" (if you have them). That's what you tell yourself anyway. But control is not love. Gaslighting is not love. Threats are not love. If they constantly go through your phone, accuse you of cheating, make excuses for why you can't see/speak to your family or friends, if they keep you stranded with no money and no transportation or ability to interact with people, especially people you love, that is not love! If you have to account for every minute of your time, talk to them on every break, whether you feel like it or not, and you have no choice but to spend every waking moment they're not working or fulfilling other obligations with them, you are being controlled! Your romantic partner should not be treating you like a grounded child, or a child in general. The meaningless "I'm sorry"'s and promises to "never do it again" and those little -gifts- bribes to make up for their mistreatment are and never will be anything more than bandaids. You DO NOT have to live this way! I'll say it again: YOU. DO. NOT. HAVE. TO. LIVE. THIS. WAY!! There is help! There are people who care about you! Use the hotline! Call your neighbor! Call your friend! Call your family member! You are not weak! You are not worthless! You are loved! And valued! And intelligent! And you are strong! Don't "stay for the kids"! Growing up with 2 parents in an abusive home is NOT better than growing up in a single parent home where they are safe, you are safe, and they are loved! And if the abuse isn't physical, don't be of the "other people have it worse" mindset! Your life and your struggle are not LESS than anyone else's! Mental, emotional, and psychological abuse can be just as damaging! Do what you need to do for YOU! You can thrive the way you were always meant to if you can just take that first step! I know it's not easy but you deserve to be happy! The help is there. Take the step. Make the call. Send the text. Do what you've gotta do for YOU and let them worry about themselves for a change. We don't want you to be another statistic; another sad story on the news; another case for our favorite true crime channels. Don't let anybody put you in the ground before you've had your time to shine. You are worthy of happiness and love and we are here for you. 💚
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That’s exactly right
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This guy has a look of a coward. He was probably a bully when home alone with his wike, however he was the nicest guy anyone would ever want meet when he was out in public.
True absolute coward he is.I keep thinking its a woman speaking
@@kcnicky2242 you wouldn’t say that if you were a victim of DV
His children that grew up in the house with them also testified on his behalf. You can't be raised in a home with an abuser and not become a victim or at the very least they would witness some sort of behavior.... It's really weird and I'm fascinated with this case after hearing it. There is no doubt this guy beat his wife to death. The motive is baffling though. It doesn't make sense. The only person who knows what happened isn't saying anything besides his ridiculous and impossible cover story, no matter what. This is the third video I've watched trying to understand this video. There is no doubt he is lying when he says a lot of things, but I can tell he's telling the truth when it comes to his relationship with his wife. I'm wondering if maybe she told him she was going to leave him and he snapped. Or maybe she had an affair. But I would think the other man would have come forward to bring justice to his murdered lover, you know... It's too bad we will probably not ever get the answer. Maybe in 30 years when he is up for parole he will finally tell the truth. (Another video mentioned that would likely be a condition of his parole). I probably won't be around by then and I will definitely have lost interest and forgotten about it by then 😆
@@kcnicky2242 now this is just embarrassing. get a hobby.
You are dead right.
Bahahahahahaha!!! THIS GUYS VOICE!! 😂😂😂😂😂😂 He opened his mouth, "I met Barb in 86..." and I BUSTED out laughing!!!!
Imagine describing the typical day with your significant other after so many years & not tearing up or smiling about any memories, but instead staying completely flat & sounding like you're reading a boring book?
Bang on. I can’t even talk about my dog who passed 3 years ago without balling lol
nice avatar. MSNPC
Many mental health issues can lead to flat affectation. The guy is clearly not all there. I don't find him monstrous I find him pathetic.
The guy is clearly a narcissist monster but you have to remember that these statements were rehearsed with his lawyer over and over and over again, no lawyer puts their clients in the stand without having every letter down. I’ve seen many witnesses sound apathetic because of this, they’re more reading a mental script than visualizing memories.
@@belbarcelos9264 good point. Because that sounds exactly like what he's doing. Reading from a script
I can hear the jury thinking 10 minutes in, "you can stop now we got this"
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I watched this case on ‘That Chapter’ and I wasn’t convinced that he actually killed her. I think this channel is much better
I am also not convinced.
@@wisdomseeker3362Todd wishes that you were on the jury...
You're right, that is excessive. It takes a toll. This doesn't just apply to intimate relationships. Friendships can be codependent and unhealthy too, just as controlling as an intimate sexual partner
⬆️ this !!
Um has a old friend I had to let go of...w love,come to find out she hacked and stalked me on facebook!!for over 2yrs!! She and I tryed to renew our friendship ahhh I called her out for being a bully,and she blew up my families phones w lies!!CRAY CRAY has no boundaries folks
Look man he's got this spare windshield and somebody is getting it damn it!
I am sooo lucky that I had a friend that helped me open my eyes about the man I thought was very attentive and sweet at first. Anyone that has to be in your business so much that they must be able to talk to you at every work break, lunch, pick you up and drive you to work… shop, eat, walk, wake up and go to bed together everyday day? People, leave fast. I can’t imagine living like that for years. Poor woman.
this guy makes me irrationally frustrated with just his face.
Hahahahaha
Lol! 👍😄🤣😅
He was the model of the original “sad” emoji ☹️☹️
That shirt he wore at the time of the accident says it all
I dont give a rats ass I saw that 🤣
So classy
The shirt his hands the scratches if you get the chance there is amazing footage of the accident and him talking to EMT & Police than more footage of his police interviews his fake stuttering and pictures plus the trial. It's 100% worth watching..
He had a freaking donkey on his shirt classic
@@sumtingwog1273 it was an ass!
I love that you sit through the boring court stuff so you can give us the good parts.
Years of gaslighting Barb have made him believe his own lies. Trying to do the same to the court officials isnt working and he has no idea what to do...just try and confuse them is his plan. He looks meek and mild, i bet her whole life was miserable because he definately is not!
Barbara's family should be ashamed of themselves! 🙄🚮
Omgness yes. Like really guys. He's guilty.
That's a fairly awful take on a family that has lost their daughter and their son-in-law. While it is easy for any one of us, who know nothing other than having watched an hour of their lives, to assume everyone should feel the way we (you) do.
Their families have the benefit (or the bad luck, depending on the story) to have tens of years of emotional bonding invested. You don't.
@@QuinnieMae 🙄
@@smsabala6668 Too empathetic? Too rational? Oh _do_ tell.
@@QuinnieMae you can’t argue with people on UA-cam. They act like they understand everyone tiny detail of all these crimes. Quite disgusting how much victims and people dealing with tragedy are judged here.
Why doesn't this channel have millions of subscribers? As far as I'm concerned, this is the finest crime channel on UA-cam. Perfectly narrated and obviously much research is put into each episode.
How could the family be so blind. Or maybe they really believe his pipe story, if that's the case then they're just stupid. I hate to be like that but it just pissed me off😕
pissed me right off. with all that evidence and they still sided with her murderer. heart breaking
Oh god. This is how my brother in law acts towards my sister. They do everything together when she's not working. If she visits me its brief, and he calls at least twice. But he always calls. Always...
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You know what, I really believed Todd was innocent at the beginning of this trial and I wanted him to be innocent. THIS MAN KILLED HIS WIFE.
Oh my gosh, all the information in this is pretty wtf, but to hear her family was on his side, that really annoyed me for some reason. Good on her cousin for supporting her and calling out the horrible family who supported him.
"Do you now have a third story??"
"No, I have a SECOND story…. "
Ok then
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"it wasnt true. It was not a lie" FUNNIEST THING I'VE EVER HEARD WHEN TESTAFYING
Brilliant!!
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I spat my tea out when I heard that and startled my cat 😃
I absolutely adore your voice, your content, your channel, and your random moments of wit and humor. Your voice is calm and comforting. But most of all, I respect the shit outta you for putting up the resource information at the end for victims seeking help. You are doing God's work. THANK YOU!
Apparently Todd never hit puberty with that voice! I don’t see how any woman could find him attractive. Did Barbara take pity on him? She deserved so much better.
@Carl Panzram I agree
@Carl Panzram your delusional
@Carl Panzram your right
@Carl Panzram he looks like an autistic 12 year old though I just didn’t see how you were under the impression that he was even somewhat good looking.
@@YnrTy18040 🤣💯
saving this for my drive to work, but commenting for the algorithm
You are me
This was an option?!
Same. But I’m starting listening while I’m getting ready. Can’t wait.
love waking up, getting ready for work and driving there all while listening to monsters 😎
Lol