hi! just a curious person here - why do you call your husband your “husband” and your girlfriend as “girlfriend” but not “wife”? does both your (as in you and your husband) girlfriend not get a wedding by law? sorry if everything is confusing to read, i just want to learn more about the community and how/why you guys refer to each other with certain names :))
@@patrick-md7tz legally, no we cant marry her because me and him are already married. We got married 6 years prior to our relationship with her. However, we would love to have a handfasting ceremony, which would allow us to be married spiritually. But our relationship isnt far enough along for that yet. Shes been in traumatic relationships in the past and we want to do it right by her and make her feel loved and safe and accepted before we propose in anyway. We're going to take it slow, but calling her our wife one day is where we're mindset is :) I hope this helped :D
@@paigenichols1204 awww thanks!! that helped a lot, and the three of you do sound like a loving throuple 🥺 hope you guys can continue loving each other for the rest of your lives!! peace and love for you all 💕
Great tik toks! I'm watching this because my sibling recently said they might be polyamorous, so I wanted to learn more about the community. Seems very cool!
I wish my family made this kind of effort for me. You are absolutely amazing hunny! And "I hope both sides of your pillow is cold when you go to sleep" is like the best fucking thing iv heard as far as compliments, and I'm using that for the rest of my life.
Yep. Officially nothing is more broken than learning about Relationships from Tiktok; the famous problem-plattform criticized to Bits. Maybe that will be a realization now.
It's based on a individual in this argument, statistics are based on the whole population and statistically 2% of all poly relationships are successful so the argument is far from broken. It is accurate.
As someone who's actually writing polyamorous couples in my story, I liked watching this to form a better education on it! I myself am monogamous, and some around me have issues with it. But, I want to understand all perspectives.
I love people like you. Ones who may not join or understand, but want to learn and are open minded. Need more humans like this in the world. Thank you 💖
@@brooke6854 *What is monogamy?:* You probably already know what it is, but just didn't realize that there's a word for it. A true monogamous person is one who desires a "couple" relationship. "Couple" means two, so two people in a romantic relationship. Basically, monogamous relationships are what society is used to, two people in a romantic, sexual, and/or marriage relationship together. There are some people who live a monogamous lifestyle and others who are naturally monogamous.
@@brooke6854 *What is non-monogamy?:* The reason the word "monogamy" exists is because there is something called, "Non-monogamy" that is used to distinguish the two relationship types from each other. So, what is non-monogamy? Non-monogamy is a romantic, sexual, and/or marriage relationship between 3 or more people. There are different types of non-monogamy. Swinging is where you may have one romantic partner or spouse, but several sexual partners. Open relationships are ones with a hierarchy and they can be polyamorous or just an open relationship. An open relationship, on it's own, is just having a main partner who takes priority while having other partners that you are dating, having sex with, and/or sharing a deep connection with. A polyamorous relationship is similar to an open relationship, but there is no hierarchy (unless it's stated to be an open polyamorous relationship, specifically) and people can share partners. An open polyamorous relationship just means that a partner will take priority, but they also share partners. A closed polyamorous relationship means that a group of people share partners with each other, but do not seek partners outside of the group relationship. Solo polyamory is where a person doesn't want a hierarchy, so they treat all their partners equally, but they don't want to close their relationship, so they can have the opportunity for more partners or to end relationships without guilt (it's kind of like when monogamous people are dating to find "the one," but aren't ready to settle yet). There are different types of polyamory, so I could go on and on. I gave you a few here, so I'll just tell you mine, now. I am currently solo poly because I'm not ready to settle yet, but I'd like to one day be either in a closed relationship or an open-closed relationship. The difference between these is complex. A closed poly relationship is similar to a monogamous relationship: in monogamy, a couple chooses to stay with only one partner and anything outside of that partner is cheating. Same goes for closed polyamory: three or more people agree to be exclusive and doing anything sexual or intimate with anyone outside of the relationship is cheating. Open-closed (or closed-open, same thing), is where you close the relationship for yourself (you have chosen the people you want to seal your relationship with), but they don't have to date each other if they don't want to and they can date other people outside of the sealed relationship as well. It's more that, I wouldn't, personally, want to date anyone else, other than the ones I've selected as my partners. I'm aware that this is all quite confusing for someone who knows nothing about non-monogamy.
I do have a feeling about me being polyamourus, I told this to my close friends, the next day I get a message on discord saying “well, do they?” and it was a photo saying “When poly people break up do they vote people out like among us?” I’m speechless and concerned.
watching compilations of poly tiktoks like this one made me realize that I am polyamorus and that I wasn't weird. it took me so long to understand that, and I see why I could never picture myself comfortable with one partner. I've always wanted/needed... more. I'm happy these partnerships have taught me so much, and while I may be single now, I at least know what I need
You ARE in fact not healthy, Grummax, for having been convinced by random internet-people that your normal feeling of having a crush on multiple people could possible mean you dont have to also do the normal thing of later deciding/choosing. Stop learning things for the internet and start remembering that monogamy aint the prevelant thing on this planet for no reason.
I'm ace/aro, and have been watching tiktok compilations like these to learn more about the other sexualities and genders. I think I had the most internalized homophobia about poly, so I started filling up my recommended with videos like these to fully understand. I now know much more, and I don't even know why I thought it was wrong in the first place!
Been debating for a while now if I'd be into polyamory and if I am I think I'd prefer the polyfidelity style. Having multiple people where we are all we need sounds so comfortable, like having not only your favorite blanket but your favorite book and you don't have to chose between them.
Yeah, same. I think I am into it and polyfidelity seems to be the one I would be most comfortable with. Especially since I don't establish trust thus sexual and romantic feelings for people I don't know well. It seems like the one that would offer the most security and mental stability for me
@@CrisSelene I struggle with the same thing! Emotional attachment is difficult and I fear I'd become jealous even with good communication if it was a more open type relationship.
I've always considered myself monogamous but I would be down to experiment with polyamory. Like, I could imagine myself happily in a polyamorous relationship and I believe I can confidently love multiple people at one time
I'm always back and forth on the idea. One second I'm like, "Gimme all the partners!" And the next I'm like, "Just one please." And I think my issue is that I get jealous easily or worry that my partner will leave me if he or she is with someone else too. 🤔
Just to start, I'm not in any way trying to force a label onto you. With that being said, if you can I would recommend looking up the label ambiamorous. In short, it means that you would feel comfortable in a polyamorous or monogamous relationship.
@@Ttots4843 Sorry, this aint part of pride-month. Oh my god, im so sorry you learn about Love from Tiktok. Not just the internet, but you learn it all wrong from TIKTOK?! Oh f-ck. As a life-long lgbt-ally, i can only hope you get out of this new idea that poly is valid because tiktok says so. I hope you can one day conclude 'something' from the fact that life-long allys of EVERY single Letter of LGBT+ hope you have some Realizations.
Thank you sm ellabella for this daily dose of queerness!! I'm thinking about coming out to my dad as girlflux and tell him my preferred name (avery) today wish my luck haha Happy pride everyone 🏳️🌈❤❤
Good luck! I hope everything goes well, if not, remember there are ALWAYS people out there who will support you, no matter what :) but I’m sure everything will be fine :3
Thank you sm everyone!! This support literally made my day❤ I feel like it's time for an update: I talked to my dad, but I didnt come out. I really wanna do it, but I just dont wanna rush myself. I did, however, ask him in the most casual way (which wasnt casual at all) how he'd react if me or my siblings decided that we wanted to change our name and he said that he thinks changing a name isn't easy, but he thinks it can be good if you dont like your name and just dont feel like it's you. I think I wanna talk to both of my parents at the same time when I actually come out Thanks again for the support love yall
Yo I am low-key aro and polyamory makes so much sense to me because I always say I could date my friends like I can't tell when or if my relationships are more friendly or romantic, so I never get the idea of loving one person or committing to loving one person when I feel like I love and commit to so many people regardless of relationship label. It's also the prioritization of communication and honesty in poly relationships, even though that should be a priority in any relationship, I like that it is almost a foundational part to even approaching a polyamorous relationship. Also I have so many poly dreams lmao
Yeah, hence why people are worried about you: you learn about how love works from the internet or even worse: Tiktok. Tiktok of all places. Cheers! No wonder you all practice 'Blind Inclusivity', making people who actually love real inclusivity, like me, worry about you. Ive been an LGBT Ally my whole life and i gotta tell you: no, poly is not valid and you are not being inclusive. The idea/banner of inclusivity is just used here. One could even say you are being used. This whole 'Fight the Stigma' is something your brain recognized (mine does too, btw), but you are literally being very blatantly manipulated
I think I knew I was poly the moment I heard abt it being a thing because it immediately made me think of how I was the ONLY child on the playground that had multiple crushes at a time. Meanwhile all the Melissa's and Leandra's said it was sinful to like more than one person (I went to a catholic school). Moreover, it became way obvious in middle school when I had 3 full blown crushes, like heart melting I'm abt to die being near them type crushes--no longer just puppy love type crushes, at the same time; and knowing full well I loved them all truly and in their own ways. So I'm confident in saying I knew I was poly since I was a kid, just didn't have the right word to acknowledge it.
Yes, you understood it all wrong. Being poly aka 'meant to be polyamorous' isnt even a thing. Its just the internet (and more worryingly: Tiktok) that tells you this. Please enter a monogamous relationship or stay single, as its meant to be. Those are the prevelant and seen-as-normal options. Not everything seen as normal for a reason, yes, but this certainly is.
Wait it's not normal to have multiple crushes at the same time? How can people only have one crush at a time lol? Also congrats on your self discovery!
Having multiple crushes when you're going through puberty is totally normal, sorry to say you're just a regular person, I know that's the worst thing in the world to be called these days.
I am not polyamorous myself but i am writing a semi-apocalyptic story with a throuple as the main characters so i am watching this video to have a better understanding of poly relationships.
I knew polyamory existed, but I've never seen it represented (outside of Fluorite from Steven Universe, Tree Trunks from Adventure Time, and some fanfics). I love seeing it being represented, even if I'm monogamous! They all look so happy and loving!
@Welfare Kid I thought it was canon she was. Wasn't she in a relationship with that alien and Mr. Pig at the same time? Edit: I looked it up to confirm, and yes, she is polyamorous. Judging by your profile pic, you're most likely not supportive of the LGBTQ+ community. It's not my place to tell you what to believe in, so I won't try to argue about that. I'm sorry if I ruined the character for you, but I won't take it back because it's true.
I know how that is. I discovered that about myself about a year ago. Wish I had known the signs of this about myself as a teenager, but it’s not taught anywhere and it’s a taboo subject, so I honestly didn’t know about it. I just thought I was weird and kept all my thoughts and feelings bottled up.
Congrats on finding yourself as a polyamorous person myself...I would love a very affectionate QPR with multiple people (I'm Aromantic/Asexual) I knew I was poly when I just was like " Hay can we all cuddle together and just be in a happy relationship together all of us lol " in my head. I'm single now but I'm happy to be honest with myself as an AroAce, transgender male, polyamorous, unlabled MF >v< Happy Pride Forever Everyone -Lux
i'm a pan and polyam trans man. I actually got into my first polyamorous relationship very recently, but unfortunately the current state of that relationship is questionable because neither of my partners have socials that i can easily find, and one is in a very homophobic household, and they both live in a different city than me. It was a closed relationship and i was so happy and loved in the short time i got to spend with them. (We met at an event and fell for each other, but we only had two and a half days together before we had to part. One of my partners was another trans man, and the other was nonbinary) We had cuddle piles and everything :')
Yeah. The word stigma makes something in youing peoples head Click. You instant-resonate with it, making you easy to manipulate. Even though In-est also got negative press throughout history, you can Easily be convinced poly is valid cause internet-says-so + its known as bad so it has to be good.
@@loturzelrestaurant Where are your sources? What do you mean "bad"? Are you perhaps under the impression everyone's relationship has to be exactly like yours, and if it's different, it's wrong?
I came here because I found out someone I care about was in a relationship like this. I was so confused at first because they didn’t say anything and seeing posts with different people had me so confused but then I saw the term “polyamory” in some of their posts and i looked it up and it made sense. I’m completely straight and I was born a female and use female pronouns and look/act female. I’m married and for me personally I believe in loving and having a relationship with one person only. I do NOT shame anyone who thinks or acts differently. I actually think it’s quite interesting and I am in full support of all LGBTQ or anything else. I just wanted to say though… seeing this video and all the different relationships makes me think about my relationship with my husband and though my relationship is completely different, it makes me realize how thankful I am to have found a man who meets all my needs and desires. I don’t need to find anything in other people because he’s got everything I’ve ever wanted. He has such a beautiful soul and I’m so thankful to have him and call him mine. Just wanted to share that 🥺
im pretty sure im polyamorous and my biggest problem would be jealousy and insecurity, but it helps to remember that the most important thing in any relationship is communication
Being poly does not mean you're not jealous or insecure. I can be both, but I've found that it gets waaayy worse in monogamous relationships. I don't think poly is for everyone, but mono is not for me either. Monogamous thinking just fucks with my brain too much, it makes me go crazy possessive, territorial, jealous AND I'm just happier with more than one close relationship. Relationships with people who are polyam, even if it's just one at a time, are just sooo much better for my psyche because they can usually help me overcome my jealousy much better.
The last time I was in a poly relationship, the two girls I was in an online relationship with both agreed that they were interested in each other, but not me. 😂
"I’m poly and these are great video no matter what people say" Yes, no matter arguments and reasons. This statement is as crystalclear echochamber-prone as it gets. You dont wanna hear ANYYY opposing view, you have your 'laughable' standpoint and that's it. No one will ever change it. No one is allowed to ask "Ok, why is it rare then"? What 'everyone says' is obviously right here, but oyu dont wanna ehere it, as you admit yourself. Poly is obviously not 'rare for no reason' and Monogamys pravalance is blatantly no 'random fluke, lol' but i have nothing im allowed to criticize your stance about, so sorry, your highness, for speaking up. Poly willl never be valid and oyu learning from online you are polyamorous means only the Song Welcome to the Internet is about, youo internetraised, selfunaware disaster
Preemptive dismissal is all you ever manage. Your stance is allergic to logic, reason and the whole demonstobable relaity after all. Poly isnt just rare, it was once less rare, more specifically in primitive-times. The more civilized society gets, the less we have this shit. You dont need me, a literal psychologist, to tell you any of this, you could just avert your eyes from the internet, the thing so unreliable its unreliability got its own soung courtesy to burnham, as nenmaster has pointed out @Fellowtransman
I know no one in this video said it and I’m completely ok with people being poly, but me personally wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone poly, and some people act like that’s a bad thing and again I’m not saying anyone said anything but I’m just putting it out there that someone doesn’t have to be comfortable with it :) I fully support poly people tho
Yeah, thats called 'being manipulated into thinking somethings super-ultra-adorable' and believing it without screwtiny. This whole 'Fight the Stigma' is something your brain recognized (mine does too, btw), but you are literally being very blatantly manipulated into doing 'blind acceptance', which is not what the lgbt-communtiy wants from you, ya know?
the fuck?? you do relize that being poly exists out of tiktok right??? it’s not brainwashing, it’s talking about stuff online- you don’t get to be an “ally” and the. tell the people in the community youdon’t like that they aren’t valid. :/
He was arguing against himself lol plus, his argument didn't even mean anything I've only had one committed relationship, and that's my husband, who I've been married to for 10 years. It's all anecdotal, based off experience, well, my argument is his is just a made up scenario.
@Nen Master5 I learned my romance from myself and how I f-ing feel about crap like this, and the only thing that your comment has taught me is that you care way too much about people who you will never meet and you just want to feel smarter and put others down for who they are so please stfu of how I express myself
@@nenmaster5218 it's not "made up". Like we get it you don't like people being in a relationship with multiple people that's fine but that doesn't mean you have to discriminate against what other people like to do. It's not healthy. If you need help I can recommend some people you can talk to cause nobody wants ur negative energy
I'm sorry if some people might find this offensive, but I still don't fully understand polygamous people (I don't know how to spell it) ,tho I am supportive to all the people who have no negative effect on the others!Happy pride month!
Polygamy and Polyamory are two different things, polygamy is typically with marriage, polyamory is with relationships! I'd suggest doing some research, if UA-cam didn't delete links I'd send you some. :) /nm
It’s not offensive. Ignorance itself isn’t bad, it’s when someone is ignorant and insists they are knowledgeable that it’s a problem. In other words, it’s okay that you don’t know or understand, so long as you’re okay with other people living their life as their truest self so long as no harm is done, then it’s all good.
Good on you! 👏👏 just know that every polyam person ive met approaches it differently so you may need to talk to that person to understand how they do it
I don't know if you're aware ellabella, but Amphibia, the recently finished Disney cartoon, is pretty much the first mainstream cartoon to have the majority of the fanbase look at the three main characters and go "Yep, they're poly". I mean, it's basically canon at this point!
Yeah. The word stigma makes something in youing peoples head Click. You instant-resonate with it, making you easy to manipulate. Even though In-est also got negative press throughout history, you can Easily be convinced poly is valid cause internet-says-so + its known as bad so it has to be good.
Hey who wants to learn something cool...in Young justice Season 4 one of the characters is poly and married and has a kid with his partners he seems happy and I think this is one of the first couples in media to show polyamorous marriage in a positive light but let me know if I'm wrong!
NAW BECAUSE I USED TO DO A ON GOING POLYAMOROUS WARRIOR CATS ROLEPLAY AND SINCE SOMEONE IN THE ROLEPLAY WAS RUDE TO ME THEY FOUGHT AND HAVENT TALKED SINCE, ITS BEEN ALMOST A YEAR
If you cant do the honor of choosing ONE and doing right by that one person and giving all your love and undivided attention because you love and wanna make that person happy, if you cant do that your a terrible lover its not real love its a selfish empty feast where no one is truely deeply fed, so you dont deserve that person. OR anyone. You can say you love all of them all you want, BUT as time and attention is limited, do right and kindly choose to give it all to one instead of sefishly choosing all and non gets all just all gets crumbs. And if you really really love that person you CAN choose and want to choose to gift all your limited time to them. Make them feel special and all that loveliness and that bond. Never feel left out. Etc. Thay only us bonded feeling, that chosen feeling cause you really love that person.
Aaaaalllright it's learning time let me teach you a lil something about polyamory ok? So I'm gonna assume a few things real quick, but please correct me if I am wrong. I'm going to assume that you, yourself, identify as monamorous or at least monogamous. I'm also assuming that you've probably got at least a few friends, most people do. Alright so let's say you have this friend. We'll call them X. X is an incredibly important person to you, and let's say you, over time, develop a sexual or romantic bond with them. You decide to officially call yourselves partners. Okay, so you and your partner X are happy together, you spend tons of time together, it's great. Let's say you spend a year together as partners. X learns they're polyamorous, as they've developed a crush on your mutual friend Y, who they are very close to. They want to date Y, but make it very clear that they still love you and want to date you as well. X and Y have not yet done anything together, since X believes communication is tantamount to a healthy relationship. So X wants to date Y, and you, at the same time. You have three options for how to adress this. You can 1) cut things off with X, 2) tell X that you had them first and ask that they only date you, or 3) allow X to date both you and Y. Now let's say you know in your heart that X truly loves you, deeply and with their whole soul, and even while their feelings for Y have developed, nothing between you had changed. There is nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone who is polyamorous, so of course it's okay to cut things off. That's not the kind of relationship that you want, and that's fine. But I see nothing selfish about their wanting to be with Y, since they clearly love you just the same as always. It would, in my opinion, be very selfish to tell X that they must forgo their feelings for Y, and if I was told that by a partner I would probably feel very betrayed. I'd see that as selfish, far more than polyamory, because someone is trying to deprive me of time with someone I love. Now, I myself am very happy and satisfied as a member of a rather large polycule. My boyfriend has two partners, as do I. Some of our partners have other partners too. Both I and my boyfriend believed we were monogamous at the start of our relationship and are still happily engaged and plan to get married soon. We spend plenty of time together and both of us love every second of it. I truly, deeply value him as one of the most important people in my life, and I've never seen him as anything but a wonderful lover. He also spends time with his other partners, and they have told me they feel the same way about him. I think that, even for a monogamous or monamorous person, it is deeply unhealthy to expect to get everything you need from a single person. Hell, that's why we have friends. If polyamory isn't your thing, great. Don't be polyamorous. But polyamory itself is morally neutral, as is all love.
I think I might be polyamourous and have been in love with my 3 best friends for so long and I always feel like I'm evil or disgusting. But I feel a little better after watching this, ty ❤️❤️❤️
I know this feeling and it took some time and some work do get over it, but I'm happy to tell you that it is possible! No, you're not a shitty person for polyam feelings, you're only shitty if you're doing shitty things. You are only responsible for your own actions, NOT for someone else's expectations or feelings. I'd strongly recommend to only get involved in relationships with people who are also open to polyamory out of their own motivation though, NOT just because of you. Things can get very messy when you mix strictly monogamous people with polyam people and they might blame it all on you in the end, even if you never did anything wrong, because they are the norm and you are not.
@@TeresaKalinka "they might blame it all on you in the end, even if you never did anything wrong". No offense, but not respecting the wishes and feelings of your partner would be wrong in my opinion. So yes, I agree, be sure you get together with someone who has the same expectations. Im monogamous but i respect everyones wishes and life decisions, as long as they respect mine. Its always a giving and taking.
@@billcarson818 I don't think you really read what I wrote.. "even if you never did anything wrong" of course includes respecting the wishes and feelings of your partner, duh! So, the interesing question is, why do you assume that the polyam person would not respect the boundaries and wishes of their partner? Usually, the way I saw such stories go down was NOT about the polyam person dating new people despite agreements with monogamous partner or anything like that, but rather the monogamous partner not being able to accept the already existing, older relationship(s) of their polyam partner, even though they said they were ok with it in the beginning. Of course, this can happen, you can think you're ok with it and later find out that you're not. But that's NOT the fault of the polyam person, who went out of their way to accomodate each and every need of their mono partner and it was still never good enough. It is ok to change your opinion or change what you agree to, but it's not ok to blame it on the person who was upfront and honest from the start, who kept all their promises and agreements.
Honestly, since I'm poly, I've dreamt about this for God knows how long. It would be so cute to watch movies and cook for my future multiple partners (if I get any lol)!!! ❤
As a bi girl I would totally understand that that isn't what you are interested in sexually. Anyone who would force or pressure you to have sex with men for their sake doesn't care about what you need and want.
Me and my mom, both not poly, didn’t know anything, so I dragged her to this show that was poly based and we just had like a full day convo about it. She’s like “I think it goes like this” and I’m like “Nono that makes no sense mom it probably goes like this” Love my mom, we both clueless though 💀
im poly, im in a poly relationship with a pansexual cis man, and a pansexual trans man, while i myself am either an androgynous gay trans man, or am gay and genderfluid, still trying to figure it all out with myself, and none of us have actually met inperson yet, but we talk almost everyday for almost 4 years now, its my first relationship but truly i found some good ones, who have helped me through alot in my life. and ill be honest before this relationship i didnt know if i was poly or not, i always thought having two partners would be nice but since i only like men i didnt know if id find anyone interested, the first one i talked to was the cis man, we were just gonna be fwb, since the other partner isnt interested in sex as of now, but as time went on i started to realize i was in love with the cis guy and i decided not to really say anything, but he was the first one to call himself my boyfriend and say i love you, and while i talk to him a lot more than the other one, i want to talk to the other one more but we are both like super shy so its been kinda hard, sorry for my random story
I think i might be polyamorous and this video is super nice!!! Thank you!!!! Honestly idk if im polyamorous or aromantic cause i find it very difficult to realise if im feeling platonic or romantic attraction!
Im for Freedom like everyyy sane Person but i cant bring myself to accept Polyamory. Of course i dont want it to be 'criminal' but it remains: i accept Every single Letter of LGBT+ but dont accept Poly - does that sound like 'Coincidence'? All Arguments ive ever seen for even just 'being Poly' (by nature, as if its like 'being gay') is even a Thing. Bad Argumentation is the BEST ive seen. You dont wanna know whats the Worst. Please dont fall into this: The Internet telling us its valid doesnt make it valid.
I was once in a polyamorus relationship, my ex's boyfriend was someone she met online! Although we did end up breaking up i was always happy to hear that she was happy falling asleep on call with him-
I’m 100% supportive of polyamory but my only problem is how it originated like back then polyamory was to satisfy the husband aka the wives were used for there body’s and I know things have changed and I’m in full support because why should I care if u have a wife or a husband or 2 wives or 2 husbands as long as it’s a relationship and not someone using another person for there body
"I’m 100% supportive of polyamory but my only problem is how it originated like back then polyamory was to satisfy the husband aka the wives were used for there body’s" OHHHHHH. Soooo close to being aware/selfaware. But in the end you failed at basic logic. Why throughout history polyamory was done by the 'shitty king' or 'evil tribeleader' you just dont get. Same for is rarity. Polyamory is obviously not 'rare for no reason' but here wego, i have tro be Mr Obvious and say: NO ITS NOT VALID. Monogamy's pravalnce aint no 'random fluke''
Nah, I’m fine with people saying “you’re mine” cause the people with me also realize I also belong to others and that’s sweet! It’s like shared custody 😂
I don’t currently identify as polyamorous but last time I commented on how I identify I said I was a straight cis ally. I’m now girl flux-lesbian. That was a year ago. I’m still figuring all this out so idk yet. Maybe I just haven’t found the right ones to know.
I’m aroace, but like, in a way where I still want a relationship, I just don’t have any non-platonic feelings, I want to be loved, I just can’t love. Which also makes me fine with dating multiple people, as long as they all understand I won’t ever get jealous or truly love em romantically, but I’ll still love them.
Does wanting to sleep in the middle give me a hint I could be poly ? Now that I think ab it... A few times I've simped for a couple and just wanted to be the third
i hope one day i'll find people i love and who loves each other and so we'll be in a polyfidelity relationship, but rn I'm with my boyfriend i love but he... well doesnt like that idea x)
Yep but according to scientists, of who no one agrees this IS a s-uality, youre probably not. Its probably just a label and it probably does say/tell something, that: -Tiktok endorses the s-it out of this -Countless LGBT's and LGBT-Allys do not support it at all and point-out various label-wanting/needing, buzzwords, hijacking and more -Did i mention Tiktok being Tiktok? -Oddly-many Cultleaders throughout history loved and endorsed this. Like a noteworthy Ton? -Bo Burnhams song 'Welcome to the Internet' is really important for you to listen to, so i really recommend it so you become more 'Meta' and stop learning about Love and Relationships from the internet - LET ALONE TIKTOK!!
Im a big LGBT-Ally for my whole entire life now so dont take this the WRONG WY but genuinly: you ugot tricked by the problem-plattform Tiktok into thinking this is ok, let alone something people 'natural are' like 'being gay'. But thats so much not the same... and on top of that comes what i really wanna stress: The Song 'Welcome to the Internet'. Please dont let the internet shape you so much.
I’m not poly, but I came here to learn about the polyamory community and I just wanna say that you’re all valid, all amazing, and beautiful people!
same here!
Ayo quick question, what's the flag on your pfp
@@valerial9081 asexual pride flag
@Catarina Ribeiro Wait a minute, the creator of Wonder Woman is Poly?! That’s Awesome!!! Also where can I find this film?
Thank you 💖
Polyfidelity! Me, my husband and our girlfriend are all we need. We love eachother so much and this video made me feel so open about myself.
Awww
hi! just a curious person here - why do you call your husband your “husband” and your girlfriend as “girlfriend” but not “wife”? does both your (as in you and your husband) girlfriend not get a wedding by law? sorry if everything is confusing to read, i just want to learn more about the community and how/why you guys refer to each other with certain names :))
@@patrick-md7tz legally, no we cant marry her because me and him are already married. We got married 6 years prior to our relationship with her. However, we would love to have a handfasting ceremony, which would allow us to be married spiritually. But our relationship isnt far enough along for that yet. Shes been in traumatic relationships in the past and we want to do it right by her and make her feel loved and safe and accepted before we propose in anyway. We're going to take it slow, but calling her our wife one day is where we're mindset is :) I hope this helped :D
@@paigenichols1204 awww thanks!! that helped a lot, and the three of you do sound like a loving throuple 🥺 hope you guys can continue loving each other for the rest of your lives!! peace and love for you all 💕
Wow
Great tik toks! I'm watching this because my sibling recently said they might be polyamorous, so I wanted to learn more about the community. Seems very cool!
You're a great sibling! Happy pride 💗
@@ellabella001 Aw, thanks, happy pride to you too! :D
We love inclusivity!! Great work, from a polyamory guy 🖤
you’re an angel sibling
I wish my family made this kind of effort for me. You are absolutely amazing hunny! And "I hope both sides of your pillow is cold when you go to sleep" is like the best fucking thing iv heard as far as compliments, and I'm using that for the rest of my life.
"Oh no,your argument,it's broken"
He beat the system😂😂
Yep. Officially nothing is more broken than learning about Relationships from Tiktok; the famous problem-plattform criticized to Bits.
Maybe that will be a realization now.
It's based on a individual in this argument, statistics are based on the whole population and statistically 2% of all poly relationships are successful so the argument is far from broken. It is accurate.
Did he? I mean he's in multiple failing relationships
To all y'all saying polly relationships always end up failing,I do agree but also on the other hand you never really know 🤷
@@Spooky_Mo so basically you aren't saying anything
As someone who's actually writing polyamorous couples in my story, I liked watching this to form a better education on it! I myself am monogamous, and some around me have issues with it. But, I want to understand all perspectives.
Same!
I love people like you. Ones who may not join or understand, but want to learn and are open minded. Need more humans like this in the world. Thank you 💖
I know a lot of genders and preferences in lgbtq+ but I haven’t heard of monogamous. Would you mind telling me what it is?
@@brooke6854 *What is monogamy?:*
You probably already know what it is, but just didn't realize that there's a word for it.
A true monogamous person is one who desires a "couple" relationship. "Couple" means two, so two people in a romantic relationship. Basically, monogamous relationships are what society is used to, two people in a romantic, sexual, and/or marriage relationship together. There are some people who live a monogamous lifestyle and others who are naturally monogamous.
@@brooke6854 *What is non-monogamy?:*
The reason the word "monogamy" exists is because there is something called, "Non-monogamy" that is used to distinguish the two relationship types from each other. So, what is non-monogamy?
Non-monogamy is a romantic, sexual, and/or marriage relationship between 3 or more people. There are different types of non-monogamy. Swinging is where you may have one romantic partner or spouse, but several sexual partners. Open relationships are ones with a hierarchy and they can be polyamorous or just an open relationship. An open relationship, on it's own, is just having a main partner who takes priority while having other partners that you are dating, having sex with, and/or sharing a deep connection with. A polyamorous relationship is similar to an open relationship, but there is no hierarchy (unless it's stated to be an open polyamorous relationship, specifically) and people can share partners. An open polyamorous relationship just means that a partner will take priority, but they also share partners. A closed polyamorous relationship means that a group of people share partners with each other, but do not seek partners outside of the group relationship. Solo polyamory is where a person doesn't want a hierarchy, so they treat all their partners equally, but they don't want to close their relationship, so they can have the opportunity for more partners or to end relationships without guilt (it's kind of like when monogamous people are dating to find "the one," but aren't ready to settle yet). There are different types of polyamory, so I could go on and on. I gave you a few here, so I'll just tell you mine, now. I am currently solo poly because I'm not ready to settle yet, but I'd like to one day be either in a closed relationship or an open-closed relationship. The difference between these is complex. A closed poly relationship is similar to a monogamous relationship: in monogamy, a couple chooses to stay with only one partner and anything outside of that partner is cheating. Same goes for closed polyamory: three or more people agree to be exclusive and doing anything sexual or intimate with anyone outside of the relationship is cheating. Open-closed (or closed-open, same thing), is where you close the relationship for yourself (you have chosen the people you want to seal your relationship with), but they don't have to date each other if they don't want to and they can date other people outside of the sealed relationship as well. It's more that, I wouldn't, personally, want to date anyone else, other than the ones I've selected as my partners. I'm aware that this is all quite confusing for someone who knows nothing about non-monogamy.
I do have a feeling about me being polyamourus, I told this to my close friends, the next day I get a message on discord saying “well, do they?” and it was a photo saying “When poly people break up do they vote people out like among us?” I’m speechless and concerned.
Omg thank you for the laugh 😂
Like, do they vote each other out or do they skip vote?
watching compilations of poly tiktoks like this one made me realize that I am polyamorus and that I wasn't weird. it took me so long to understand that, and I see why I could never picture myself comfortable with one partner. I've always wanted/needed... more. I'm happy these partnerships have taught me so much, and while I may be single now, I at least know what I need
You ARE in fact not healthy, Grummax, for having been convinced by random internet-people
that your normal feeling of having a crush on multiple people could possible mean you dont have
to also do the normal thing of later deciding/choosing.
Stop learning things for the internet and start remembering that monogamy aint the prevelant thing on this planet
for no reason.
Congrats on your self discovery! I myself am not sure of what I am just yet but polyanmorus relationships always sounded really nice to me.
Sorry but i noticed noodle and wanted to say that i love her
@@immeowinginthenight noodle pfp gang!!!
and people say these things aren’t socially contagious..
I'm ace/aro, and have been watching tiktok compilations like these to learn more about the other sexualities and genders. I think I had the most internalized homophobia about poly, so I started filling up my recommended with videos like these to fully understand. I now know much more, and I don't even know why I thought it was wrong in the first place!
Wow thank you I wish there were more people like you
Been debating for a while now if I'd be into polyamory and if I am I think I'd prefer the polyfidelity style. Having multiple people where we are all we need sounds so comfortable, like having not only your favorite blanket but your favorite book and you don't have to chose between them.
Yeah, same. I think I am into it and polyfidelity seems to be the one I would be most comfortable with. Especially since I don't establish trust thus sexual and romantic feelings for people I don't know well. It seems like the one that would offer the most security and mental stability for me
@@CrisSelene I struggle with the same thing! Emotional attachment is difficult and I fear I'd become jealous even with good communication if it was a more open type relationship.
Nonbinary polyamorous pansexual here wishing all my LGBTQuties a Happy Pride!! 🌈💗😁
Nonbinary polyamorous bisexual here 🤝 happy pride to you, too 💖
Same-
(Maybe les-)
are u me? 😁 happy pride love!! 💚✨💖
You just can’t make a damn decision huh? -Coming from a Polyamorous gender fluid Pansexual
I’m pan too congrats on being you badddieee🎉
I'm aromantic so kinda the opposite of you but honestly it looks so fun and nice. Wish you all amazing partners and successful relationships 💚💚💚
I've always considered myself monogamous but I would be down to experiment with polyamory. Like, I could imagine myself happily in a polyamorous relationship and I believe I can confidently love multiple people at one time
Same
Same. The idea feels more attractive the more I learn about it
Same, yeah
I'm always back and forth on the idea. One second I'm like, "Gimme all the partners!" And the next I'm like, "Just one please." And I think my issue is that I get jealous easily or worry that my partner will leave me if he or she is with someone else too. 🤔
Just to start, I'm not in any way trying to force a label onto you. With that being said, if you can I would recommend looking up the label ambiamorous. In short, it means that you would feel comfortable in a polyamorous or monogamous relationship.
"oh noo, your argument, it's broken"
killed me 😂
1:06 “oh no, your argument, it’s broken !” PERFECTION.
I didnt expect a polyamorous compilation, I'm so happy to have this rep
Happy Pride Month everyone!
💕
Happy pride!:)
Pride Month!❤🏳️🌈
@@Ttots4843 Sorry, this aint part of pride-month.
Oh my god, im so sorry you learn about Love from Tiktok. Not just the internet, but you learn it all wrong from TIKTOK?! Oh f-ck. As a life-long lgbt-ally, i can only hope you get out of this new idea that poly is valid because tiktok says so. I hope you can one day conclude 'something' from
the fact that life-long allys of EVERY single Letter of LGBT+ hope you
have some Realizations.
@@nenmaster5218 if you don't support polyamory, you don't support LGBTQIA+. Don't act like you do, because you clearly don't.
Thank you sm ellabella for this daily dose of queerness!!
I'm thinking about coming out to my dad as girlflux and tell him my preferred name (avery) today wish my luck haha
Happy pride everyone 🏳️🌈❤❤
Good luck hope it goes well!
Good luck! I hope everything goes well, if not, remember there are ALWAYS people out there who will support you, no matter what :) but I’m sure everything will be fine :3
Thank you! Good luck with coming out ❤
Good luck!❤
Thank you sm everyone!! This support literally made my day❤
I feel like it's time for an update: I talked to my dad, but I didnt come out. I really wanna do it, but I just dont wanna rush myself. I did, however, ask him in the most casual way (which wasnt casual at all) how he'd react if me or my siblings decided that we wanted to change our name and he said that he thinks changing a name isn't easy, but he thinks it can be good if you dont like your name and just dont feel like it's you.
I think I wanna talk to both of my parents at the same time when I actually come out
Thanks again for the support love yall
This made me feel normal! Love it.
Yo I am low-key aro and polyamory makes so much sense to me because I always say I could date my friends like I can't tell when or if my relationships are more friendly or romantic, so I never get the idea of loving one person or committing to loving one person when I feel like I love and commit to so many people regardless of relationship label.
It's also the prioritization of communication and honesty in poly relationships, even though that should be a priority in any relationship, I like that it is almost a foundational part to even approaching a polyamorous relationship. Also I have so many poly dreams lmao
Yeah, hence why people are worried about you: you learn about how love
works from the internet or even worse: Tiktok. Tiktok of all places. Cheers!
No wonder you all practice 'Blind Inclusivity', making people who actually love
real inclusivity, like me, worry about you. Ive been an LGBT Ally my whole life and i gotta
tell you: no, poly is not valid and you are not being inclusive. The idea/banner of inclusivity
is just used here. One could even say you are being used.
This whole 'Fight the Stigma' is something your brain recognized (mine does too, btw),
but you are literally being very blatantly manipulated
I am not poly (I am bi and genderqueer tho
Thank you! I hope you have a wonderful pride month as well!:)
Thank you!! We wish you well!!
I think I knew I was poly the moment I heard abt it being a thing because it immediately made me think of how I was the ONLY child on the playground that had multiple crushes at a time. Meanwhile all the Melissa's and Leandra's said it was sinful to like more than one person (I went to a catholic school). Moreover, it became way obvious in middle school when I had 3 full blown crushes, like heart melting I'm abt to die being near them type crushes--no longer just puppy love type crushes, at the same time; and knowing full well I loved them all truly and in their own ways. So I'm confident in saying I knew I was poly since I was a kid, just didn't have the right word to acknowledge it.
Yes, you understood it all wrong. Being poly aka 'meant to be polyamorous'
isnt even a thing. Its just the internet (and more worryingly: Tiktok)
that tells you this. Please enter a monogamous relationship or stay single, as its meant to be.
Those are the prevelant and seen-as-normal options. Not everything seen as normal
for a reason, yes, but this certainly is.
Wait it's not normal to have multiple crushes at the same time?
How can people only have one crush at a time lol?
Also congrats on your self discovery!
Having multiple crushes when you're going through puberty is totally normal, sorry to say you're just a regular person, I know that's the worst thing in the world to be called these days.
@@gwineshten3097of course it's normal
I am not polyamorous myself but i am writing a semi-apocalyptic story with a throuple as the main characters so i am watching this video to have a better understanding of poly relationships.
I knew polyamory existed, but I've never seen it represented (outside of Fluorite from Steven Universe, Tree Trunks from Adventure Time, and some fanfics). I love seeing it being represented, even if I'm monogamous! They all look so happy and loving!
tree trunks is not polyamorous you take that back
@Welfare Kid I thought it was canon she was. Wasn't she in a relationship with that alien and Mr. Pig at the same time?
Edit: I looked it up to confirm, and yes, she is polyamorous. Judging by your profile pic, you're most likely not supportive of the LGBTQ+ community. It's not my place to tell you what to believe in, so I won't try to argue about that. I'm sorry if I ruined the character for you, but I won't take it back because it's true.
I loved this a lot I recently "found out" that I was polyamorous
I know how that is. I discovered that about myself about a year ago. Wish I had known the signs of this about myself as a teenager, but it’s not taught anywhere and it’s a taboo subject, so I honestly didn’t know about it. I just thought I was weird and kept all my thoughts and feelings bottled up.
Congrats on finding yourself as a polyamorous person myself...I would love a very affectionate QPR with multiple people (I'm Aromantic/Asexual) I knew I was poly when I just was like " Hay can we all cuddle together and just be in a happy relationship together all of us lol " in my head. I'm single now but I'm happy to be honest with myself as an AroAce, transgender male, polyamorous, unlabled MF >v< Happy Pride Forever Everyone -Lux
@@blueaxolotol_2030 💖 That’s sweet
This is epic! I love learning about other people and their identities, it helps me understand the complexity of himan more and more!
This video is so eye-opening. Thank you so much for compiling these clips. It's so helpful during this journey of mine.
How many of you are celebrating your first pride month since coming out like me ?
i'm a pan and polyam trans man. I actually got into my first polyamorous relationship very recently, but unfortunately the current state of that relationship is questionable because neither of my partners have socials that i can easily find, and one is in a very homophobic household, and they both live in a different city than me. It was a closed relationship and i was so happy and loved in the short time i got to spend with them. (We met at an event and fell for each other, but we only had two and a half days together before we had to part. One of my partners was another trans man, and the other was nonbinary) We had cuddle piles and everything :')
Yeah. The word stigma makes something in youing peoples head Click. You instant-resonate with it, making you easy to manipulate. Even though In-est also got negative press throughout history, you can Easily be convinced poly is valid cause internet-says-so + its known as bad so it has to be good.
@@loturzelrestaurant Where are your sources? What do you mean "bad"? Are you perhaps under the impression everyone's relationship has to be exactly like yours, and if it's different, it's wrong?
@@penny4thought168 Completely agree with you there.
I came here because I found out someone I care about was in a relationship like this. I was so confused at first because they didn’t say anything and seeing posts with different people had me so confused but then I saw the term “polyamory” in some of their posts and i looked it up and it made sense. I’m completely straight and I was born a female and use female pronouns and look/act female. I’m married and for me personally I believe in loving and having a relationship with one person only. I do NOT shame anyone who thinks or acts differently. I actually think it’s quite interesting and I am in full support of all LGBTQ or anything else. I just wanted to say though… seeing this video and all the different relationships makes me think about my relationship with my husband and though my relationship is completely different, it makes me realize how thankful I am to have found a man who meets all my needs and desires. I don’t need to find anything in other people because he’s got everything I’ve ever wanted. He has such a beautiful soul and I’m so thankful to have him and call him mine. Just wanted to share that 🥺
You deserve a friggin frendo award- cuz I'd give you it!! 👏👏👏👏👏
Ah yes, the perfect video to get an ad for the Boyfriends webtoon.
Oh no--
yeeeeees! you never see polyamorous videos on youtube so this made me happy
im pretty sure im polyamorous and my biggest problem would be jealousy and insecurity, but it helps to remember that the most important thing in any relationship is communication
Being poly does not mean you're not jealous or insecure. I can be both, but I've found that it gets waaayy worse in monogamous relationships. I don't think poly is for everyone, but mono is not for me either. Monogamous thinking just fucks with my brain too much, it makes me go crazy possessive, territorial, jealous AND I'm just happier with more than one close relationship. Relationships with people who are polyam, even if it's just one at a time, are just sooo much better for my psyche because they can usually help me overcome my jealousy much better.
Can a girl have 2 bf or that doesn't count as poly
Yeah girl with two bf is poly as long as they’re all aware and ok with it
The last time I was in a poly relationship, the two girls I was in an online relationship with both agreed that they were interested in each other, but not me. 😂
"more people to roast" is so real. First time i met my boyfriend's girlfriend, we gave the boyfriend soooo much shit. Lovingly, of course.
You’re weird.
When I saw this on my recommendation I never smiled so wide in my life before :D
I’m poly and these are great video no matter what people say I support all poly relationships
"I’m poly and these are great video no matter what people say"
Yes, no matter arguments and reasons. This statement is as crystalclear echochamber-prone as it gets. You dont wanna hear ANYYY opposing view, you have your 'laughable' standpoint and that's it. No one will ever change it. No one is allowed to ask "Ok, why is it rare then"?
What 'everyone says' is obviously right here, but oyu dont wanna ehere it, as you admit yourself. Poly is obviously not 'rare for no reason' and Monogamys pravalance is blatantly no 'random fluke, lol' but i have nothing im allowed to criticize your stance about, so sorry, your highness, for speaking up. Poly willl never be valid and oyu learning from online you are polyamorous means only the Song Welcome to the Internet is about, youo internetraised, selfunaware disaster
Preemptive dismissal is all you ever manage. Your stance is allergic to logic, reason and the whole demonstobable relaity after all. Poly isnt just rare, it was once less rare, more specifically in primitive-times. The more civilized society gets, the less we have this shit. You dont need me, a literal psychologist, to tell you any of this, you could just avert your eyes from the internet, the thing so unreliable its unreliability got its own soung courtesy to burnham, as nenmaster has pointed out
@Fellowtransman
Questioning my own monogamy, still figuring out if polyamory is for me so this content is always nice :)
I know no one in this video said it and I’m completely ok with people being poly, but me personally wouldn’t want to be in a relationship with someone poly, and some people act like that’s a bad thing and again I’m not saying anyone said anything but I’m just putting it out there that someone doesn’t have to be comfortable with it :) I fully support poly people tho
HOLY CRAP IVE NEVER SEEN A POLY TT COMP THANK YOU SO MUCH
I absolutely adore seeing poly relationships, idk man, there’s just something about them.
Yeah, thats called 'being manipulated into thinking somethings super-ultra-adorable'
and believing it without screwtiny. This whole 'Fight the Stigma' is something your brain recognized (mine does too, btw),
but you are literally being very blatantly manipulated into doing 'blind acceptance',
which is not what the lgbt-communtiy wants from you, ya know?
the fuck??
you do relize that being poly exists out of tiktok right???
it’s not brainwashing, it’s talking about stuff online-
you don’t get to be an “ally” and the. tell the people in the community youdon’t like that they aren’t valid.
:/
"Oh no your argument, it's broken" lmfao, always great to see people fail in their arguments over polyamorous relationships
He was arguing against himself lol plus, his argument didn't even mean anything I've only had one committed relationship, and that's my husband, who I've been married to for 10 years. It's all anecdotal, based off experience, well, my argument is his is just a made up scenario.
"Oh no your argument its broken "😂
The gateway drug to identifying with a new label is occasionally day dreaming about it for hours and then watching a tic toc comp about it
So my partner and I talked about and we think we might both be poly
Great video, thanks!
I have recently figured out that I am ambiamorous and watching these tiktoks make me feel more valid and confident in my own skin/Sexuality
@Nen Master5 I learned my romance from myself and how I f-ing feel about crap like this, and the only thing that your comment has taught me is that you care way too much about people who you will never meet and you just want to feel smarter and put others down for who they are so please stfu of how I express myself
@@nenmaster5218 it's not "made up". Like we get it you don't like people being in a relationship with multiple people that's fine but that doesn't mean you have to discriminate against what other people like to do. It's not healthy. If you need help I can recommend some people you can talk to cause nobody wants ur negative energy
@achillperson8198 I've seen that person's comment EVERYWHERE and it's driving me crazy. You're completely right.
An asexual, aromantic, non-binary poly person here to say, stay safe out there and make good choices
Bigender, bisexual and polyamorous. This Pokémon shines bright! Love you poly fam!
Definitely going to pull the streaming service one 🤣
I’m not Poly but I love watching these TikTok’s cause I’m trying to learn more about the Lgbtq+ community (I’m a Gay Trans Guy 🏳️⚧️🏳️🌈)
2:27 a sound bite from Critical Role? Heck yeah, that scene was gold!
the dnd one took me out lmao good luck on the campaign
I'm sorry if some people might find this offensive, but I still don't fully understand polygamous people (I don't know how to spell it) ,tho I am supportive to all the people who have no negative effect on the others!Happy pride month!
If you have any specific questions I might be able to help answer them
Polygamy and Polyamory are two different things, polygamy is typically with marriage, polyamory is with relationships! I'd suggest doing some research, if UA-cam didn't delete links I'd send you some. :) /nm
@@teritt i asked one in my comment just before reading this, maybe u could see if u can answer? thanks
It’s not offensive. Ignorance itself isn’t bad, it’s when someone is ignorant and insists they are knowledgeable that it’s a problem. In other words, it’s okay that you don’t know or understand, so long as you’re okay with other people living their life as their truest self so long as no harm is done, then it’s all good.
Start with learning the difference between polyamory polyandery polygyny and polygamy 😉
The person I like is polyamorous and they like me back so I’m trying to understand it better
Good on you! 👏👏 just know that every polyam person ive met approaches it differently so you may need to talk to that person to understand how they do it
I don't know if you're aware ellabella, but Amphibia, the recently finished Disney cartoon, is pretty much the first mainstream cartoon to have the majority of the fanbase look at the three main characters and go "Yep, they're poly". I mean, it's basically canon at this point!
Matt Braly doesn't even have a problem with the ship
as long as your ok in the relashinship do whatever!
Oh no your arguement it’s broken 😂😂
STOP I WAS LOOKING FOR MLM TIKTOKS (THERE ARE NONE) BUT I FOUND THIS AND REMEMBERED I WAS PAN😭😭😭😭
I wish I'd been told when I was younger about poly. Would've made a lot of sense about some things I was going through.
Yeah. The word stigma makes something in youing peoples head Click. You instant-resonate with it, making you easy to manipulate. Even though In-est also got negative press throughout history, you can Easily be convinced poly is valid cause internet-says-so + its known as bad so it has to be good.
i-
no it fucking hasn’t?
being poly exists off the internet you know?
‘,:l
Great video happy pride month 👌
Hey who wants to learn something cool...in Young justice Season 4 one of the characters is poly and married and has a kid with his partners he seems happy and I think this is one of the first couples in media to show polyamorous marriage in a positive light but let me know if I'm wrong!
NAW BECAUSE I USED TO DO A ON GOING POLYAMOROUS WARRIOR CATS ROLEPLAY AND SINCE SOMEONE IN THE ROLEPLAY WAS RUDE TO ME THEY FOUGHT AND HAVENT TALKED SINCE, ITS BEEN ALMOST A YEAR
At 5:23 I just wanted to say I have that same rolling stones shirt and I love it I bought it at h&m and also happy pride!
If you cant do the honor of choosing ONE and doing right by that one person and giving all your love and undivided attention because you love and wanna make that person happy, if you cant do that your a terrible lover its not real love its a selfish empty feast where no one is truely deeply fed, so you dont deserve that person. OR anyone.
You can say you love all of them all you want, BUT as time and attention is limited, do right and kindly choose to give it all to one instead of sefishly choosing all and non gets all just all gets crumbs. And if you really really love that person you CAN choose and want to choose to gift all your limited time to them. Make them feel special and all that loveliness and that bond. Never feel left out. Etc. Thay only us bonded feeling, that chosen feeling cause you really love that person.
I don't see the problem, if they're all happy with being polyamorous then what's the issue?
Aaaaalllright it's learning time let me teach you a lil something about polyamory ok?
So I'm gonna assume a few things real quick, but please correct me if I am wrong. I'm going to assume that you, yourself, identify as monamorous or at least monogamous. I'm also assuming that you've probably got at least a few friends, most people do.
Alright so let's say you have this friend. We'll call them X. X is an incredibly important person to you, and let's say you, over time, develop a sexual or romantic bond with them. You decide to officially call yourselves partners.
Okay, so you and your partner X are happy together, you spend tons of time together, it's great. Let's say you spend a year together as partners.
X learns they're polyamorous, as they've developed a crush on your mutual friend Y, who they are very close to. They want to date Y, but make it very clear that they still love you and want to date you as well. X and Y have not yet done anything together, since X believes communication is tantamount to a healthy relationship.
So X wants to date Y, and you, at the same time. You have three options for how to adress this. You can 1) cut things off with X, 2) tell X that you had them first and ask that they only date you, or 3) allow X to date both you and Y.
Now let's say you know in your heart that X truly loves you, deeply and with their whole soul, and even while their feelings for Y have developed, nothing between you had changed.
There is nothing wrong with not wanting to date someone who is polyamorous, so of course it's okay to cut things off. That's not the kind of relationship that you want, and that's fine. But I see nothing selfish about their wanting to be with Y, since they clearly love you just the same as always.
It would, in my opinion, be very selfish to tell X that they must forgo their feelings for Y, and if I was told that by a partner I would probably feel very betrayed. I'd see that as selfish, far more than polyamory, because someone is trying to deprive me of time with someone I love.
Now, I myself am very happy and satisfied as a member of a rather large polycule. My boyfriend has two partners, as do I. Some of our partners have other partners too. Both I and my boyfriend believed we were monogamous at the start of our relationship and are still happily engaged and plan to get married soon. We spend plenty of time together and both of us love every second of it. I truly, deeply value him as one of the most important people in my life, and I've never seen him as anything but a wonderful lover. He also spends time with his other partners, and they have told me they feel the same way about him.
I think that, even for a monogamous or monamorous person, it is deeply unhealthy to expect to get everything you need from a single person. Hell, that's why we have friends. If polyamory isn't your thing, great. Don't be polyamorous. But polyamory itself is morally neutral, as is all love.
I think I might be polyamourous and have been in love with my 3 best friends for so long and I always feel like I'm evil or disgusting. But I feel a little better after watching this, ty ❤️❤️❤️
I know this feeling and it took some time and some work do get over it, but I'm happy to tell you that it is possible! No, you're not a shitty person for polyam feelings, you're only shitty if you're doing shitty things. You are only responsible for your own actions, NOT for someone else's expectations or feelings. I'd strongly recommend to only get involved in relationships with people who are also open to polyamory out of their own motivation though, NOT just because of you. Things can get very messy when you mix strictly monogamous people with polyam people and they might blame it all on you in the end, even if you never did anything wrong, because they are the norm and you are not.
@@TeresaKalinka Wow, thank you that helped clear up a lot of things and make me feel better
@@TeresaKalinka "they might blame it all on you in the end, even if you never did anything wrong". No offense, but not respecting the wishes and feelings of your partner would be wrong in my opinion. So yes, I agree, be sure you get together with someone who has the same expectations.
Im monogamous but i respect everyones wishes and life decisions, as long as they respect mine. Its always a giving and taking.
@@billcarson818 I don't think you really read what I wrote.. "even if you never did anything wrong" of course includes respecting the wishes and feelings of your partner, duh! So, the interesing question is, why do you assume that the polyam person would not respect the boundaries and wishes of their partner? Usually, the way I saw such stories go down was NOT about the polyam person dating new people despite agreements with monogamous partner or anything like that, but rather the monogamous partner not being able to accept the already existing, older relationship(s) of their polyam partner, even though they said they were ok with it in the beginning. Of course, this can happen, you can think you're ok with it and later find out that you're not. But that's NOT the fault of the polyam person, who went out of their way to accomodate each and every need of their mono partner and it was still never good enough. It is ok to change your opinion or change what you agree to, but it's not ok to blame it on the person who was upfront and honest from the start, who kept all their promises and agreements.
I'm poly pit scared to come out to my Christian family,love how relentless these people are
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These are absolutely amazing You dont usually see alot of these so I was very happy when I did considering I'm poly myself
Polycurious and this has given me a lot more to work with on my adventure to see if it works for me or not 🙂
I'm in a happy poly relationship with my two bfs. We are all trans and extremely happy with eachother!😄
when I thought I had commitment issues and turns out I was just a solo polyamorous person like at 8:24... haha life's funny like that sometimes
Bruh being in a relationship with
I imagine it to be very exhausting.
Honestly, since I'm poly, I've dreamt about this for God knows how long. It would be so cute to watch movies and cook for my future multiple partners (if I get any lol)!!! ❤
Poly lesbians unite!...am I the only one?
Edited I will totally date a bi girl as long as I don't have to have sex with any guys.
As a bi girl I would totally understand that that isn't what you are interested in sexually. Anyone who would force or pressure you to have sex with men for their sake doesn't care about what you need and want.
@@CrisSelene and any lesbian who says you're less because you also like men is terrible. Hugs! Fuck bi erasure.
sobbing at the “watching movies w the polycule while j work on the dnd campaign”
After watching season 7 of grey’s anatomy I can say I REALLY want a QPR (bc I’m ace-spec)
Me and my mom, both not poly, didn’t know anything, so I dragged her to this show that was poly based and we just had like a full day convo about it. She’s like “I think it goes like this” and I’m like “Nono that makes no sense mom it probably goes like this” Love my mom, we both clueless though 💀
I love iiiiittttt! So refreshing when the rest of the content I encounter is monogamous foolery that I just can't relate to in the slightest
im poly, im in a poly relationship with a pansexual cis man, and a pansexual trans man, while i myself am either an androgynous gay trans man, or am gay and genderfluid, still trying to figure it all out with myself, and none of us have actually met inperson yet, but we talk almost everyday for almost 4 years now, its my first relationship but truly i found some good ones, who have helped me through alot in my life. and ill be honest before this relationship i didnt know if i was poly or not, i always thought having two partners would be nice but since i only like men i didnt know if id find anyone interested, the first one i talked to was the cis man, we were just gonna be fwb, since the other partner isnt interested in sex as of now, but as time went on i started to realize i was in love with the cis guy and i decided not to really say anything, but he was the first one to call himself my boyfriend and say i love you, and while i talk to him a lot more than the other one, i want to talk to the other one more but we are both like super shy so its been kinda hard, sorry for my random story
I think i might be polyamorous and this video is super nice!!! Thank you!!!!
Honestly idk if im polyamorous or aromantic cause i find it very difficult to realise if im feeling platonic or romantic attraction!
Im for Freedom like everyyy sane Person but i cant bring myself to accept Polyamory. Of course i dont want it to be 'criminal' but it remains: i accept Every single Letter of LGBT+ but dont accept Poly - does that sound like 'Coincidence'?
All Arguments ive ever seen for even just 'being Poly' (by nature, as if its like 'being gay') is even
a Thing. Bad Argumentation is the BEST ive seen. You dont wanna know whats the Worst.
Please dont fall into this: The Internet telling us its valid doesnt make it valid.
@@loturzelrestaurant Stay mad
@@loturzelrestaurant if you don't accept polyamory, you don't accept every single letter of LGBTQIA+. It's as simple as that.
@@inspecterspook TRUE
First, amazing videos!! Second, what's that remix of Tokyo Drift?!?!?!?!?!?!?!
8:26 reverse hierarchical: multiple primaries, one secondary. i don’t know what situation this would be used in
I was once in a polyamorus relationship, my ex's boyfriend was someone she met online! Although we did end up breaking up i was always happy to hear that she was happy falling asleep on call with him-
I’m 100% supportive of polyamory but my only problem is how it originated like back then polyamory was to satisfy the husband aka the wives were used for there body’s and I know things have changed and I’m in full support because why should I care if u have a wife or a husband or 2 wives or 2 husbands as long as it’s a relationship and not someone using another person for there body
"I’m 100% supportive of polyamory but my only problem is how it originated like back then polyamory was to satisfy the husband aka the wives were used for there body’s" OHHHHHH. Soooo close to being aware/selfaware. But in the end you failed at basic logic.
Why throughout history polyamory was done by the 'shitty king' or 'evil tribeleader' you just dont get. Same for is rarity. Polyamory is obviously not 'rare for no reason' but here wego, i have tro be Mr Obvious and say: NO ITS NOT VALID. Monogamy's pravalnce aint no 'random fluke''
0:24 this is me and my boyfriends when someone tells use it will fall because there’s 3 of us 😂
Nah, I’m fine with people saying “you’re mine” cause the people with me also realize I also belong to others and that’s sweet! It’s like shared custody 😂
I’m polyamory, bisexual, and agender!
I don’t currently identify as polyamorous but last time I commented on how I identify I said I was a straight cis ally. I’m now girl flux-lesbian. That was a year ago. I’m still figuring all this out so idk yet. Maybe I just haven’t found the right ones to know.
These are amazing tiktoks:)
I’m aroace, but like, in a way where I still want a relationship, I just don’t have any non-platonic feelings, I want to be loved, I just can’t love. Which also makes me fine with dating multiple people, as long as they all understand I won’t ever get jealous or truly love em romantically, but I’ll still love them.
Bro at 6:16 it really got me cause that was my main worry for trying to tell people I want two guys in my life 😭
Hello, your friendly neighborhood aroace here. Y’all are so cool!
7:40 well, that sounds like a dream. Also, coming from a forever DM, i feel that lol
If I could date my friend group I would.
SAME HERE !!!!! :D >W< I would date all five of them in a cute QPR lol ( cuz I'm Aro/Ace and still kinda want a relationship)
Does wanting to sleep in the middle give me a hint I could be poly ?
Now that I think ab it...
A few times I've simped for a couple and just wanted to be the third
Wait that gave me a spark of realization...
@@augustr4wberry Honestly same
Oh my god when the guy said ✴oh no! You're argument! It's broken!✴ I think I died a lil ngl-
Must share this with my husband's and meta!
Not poly, but I have 2 ambi friends (a gendervoid lesbian ambi, and a cis female bi ambi) and I love these tiktoks.
yay I did not expect for polyamorous repersentation I am super happy I am poly and it is normaally over looked
i hope one day i'll find people i love and who loves each other and so we'll be in a polyfidelity relationship, but rn I'm with my boyfriend i love but he... well doesnt like that idea x)
I'm poly, I'm proud of my sexuality !
Yep but according to scientists, of who no one agrees this IS a s-uality,
youre probably not. Its probably just a label and it probably does say/tell something, that:
-Tiktok endorses the s-it out of this
-Countless LGBT's and LGBT-Allys do not support it at all and point-out various label-wanting/needing,
buzzwords, hijacking and more
-Did i mention Tiktok being Tiktok?
-Oddly-many Cultleaders throughout history loved and endorsed this. Like a noteworthy Ton?
-Bo Burnhams song 'Welcome to the Internet' is really important for you to listen to,
so i really recommend it so you become more 'Meta' and stop
learning about Love and Relationships from the internet - LET ALONE TIKTOK!!
Im a big LGBT-Ally for my whole entire life now so dont take this the WRONG WY but genuinly:
you ugot tricked by the problem-plattform Tiktok into thinking this is ok,
let alone something people 'natural are' like 'being gay'. But thats so much not the same... and on
top of that comes what i really wanna stress: The Song 'Welcome to the Internet'.
Please dont let the internet shape you so much.
Love the poly representation, hoping for the day we see it in mainstream media 💙❤️🖤
i can’t stop thinking about if someone is the third wheel. does that ever happen. i’m genuinely curious