Helping your autistic child with school anxiety - presented by Purple Ella

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  • Опубліковано 19 лис 2024

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  • @taylorm1690
    @taylorm1690 7 місяців тому +15

    As a late diagnosed, PLEASE parents, prioritize your child’s MENTAL HEALTH first. As they said in the video, it’s never too late to learn everything else. I am very intelligent but at 27 my mental health is shot and despite decades of effort I am struggling to get it back on track from all the years of trauma from my school/childhood experience.
    Please parents just realize how much the stress of your child feeling so different from everyone else can affect their self esteem for life. PLEASE prioritize their mental health first! Education second ❤️

    • @gifty2595
      @gifty2595 4 місяці тому +2

      I agree. I’ve chosen to homeschool my children because of this. We spent 4 years in the school system and my child wouldn’t talk and was very anxious.

    • @cowsonzambonis6
      @cowsonzambonis6 3 місяці тому +1

      @@taylorm1690 yes yes yes!!!!! The trauma isn’t worth it, and we can’t learn when we are in fight or flight mode.

    • @cowsonzambonis6
      @cowsonzambonis6 3 місяці тому

      @@gifty2595 we also homeschool. I’m late diagnosed abc my kids are likely all neurodivergent; so glad homeschooling is an option. ❤️

  • @abbagirl8819
    @abbagirl8819 11 місяців тому +10

    Please take your kids out of regular schools and work with them to build what they need❤

  • @cowsonzambonis6
    @cowsonzambonis6 6 місяців тому +6

    Wow…currently working through burnout. I’ve been relaxing, listening to various UA-cam videos while playing ACNH. Suddenly I realized my heart was beating faster. It started in the first minute or two this video started. I think school was more traumatic for me than I thought…😢

  • @bobbyb9718
    @bobbyb9718 2 роки тому +24

    Thank you, Ella. I wish these things were more understood when I was little.

    • @gracechristopher3133
      @gracechristopher3133 Рік тому

      I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before

    • @juniormako6184
      @juniormako6184 Рік тому

      There is permanent herbs to improve and heal autistim. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills. He is now verbal, responding to name and instructions. Bear in mind that you don't need to spend a fortune on therapy that won't work.

  • @alanguest1979
    @alanguest1979 2 роки тому +7

    I'm sure I experienced this when I was at Junior School in the early 1970s. I can still remember several incidents, that still affect me even though it was 50 years since they happened, and only now know what it is!

  • @freetobme
    @freetobme 9 місяців тому +8

    one problem can be when teachers dont implement the agreed accomodations that have been made thus causing the child and parents anxiety because they dont feel heard. So frustrating!!

  • @hall3807
    @hall3807 2 роки тому +8

    We do mental health days for our children, and it makes a tremendous difference. This was not a consideration for me as a child, and that was when they still used wooden paddles as disciplinary means. Can you imagine an anxiety riddled child being spanked with a paddle for something that was horribly misunderstood? What was looked at as misbehavior was something that should have been investigated. I only recently got an official diagnosis for autism, and I see those traits in my children. They’ll have it much better, for sure!

  • @electron2601
    @electron2601 2 роки тому +11

    Gosh what I would do to have parents like you when I was younger!

    • @gracechristopher3133
      @gracechristopher3133 Рік тому

      I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before

    • @juniormako6184
      @juniormako6184 Рік тому

      There is permanent herbs to improve and heal autistim. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills. He is now verbal, responding to name and instructions. Bear in mind that you don't need to spend a fortune on therapy that won't work.

  • @chocmint
    @chocmint 2 роки тому +4

    this is so well said and describes my primary school experience. purple ella you're awesome!

  • @NICKDEVILS420
    @NICKDEVILS420 Рік тому +3

    They really need more autism awareness and centres in uk. Not nearly enough.

  • @MTYMIMI
    @MTYMIMI 10 місяців тому

    Thank you❤

  • @patchu6425
    @patchu6425 2 роки тому +10

    Hi, i really enjoyed your video. I feel like there could be explored further. Some techniques for getting your child to school would be good.
    I get allot of heat from my mother on giving my daughter mental health days at home. I think this should be normalised as I really feel that a full week at school for my daughter is overload for her.

    • @gracechristopher3133
      @gracechristopher3133 Рік тому

      I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before

    • @juniormako6184
      @juniormako6184 Рік тому

      There is permanent herbs to improve and heal autistim. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills. He is now verbal, responding to name and instructions. Bear in mind that you don't need to spend a fortune on therapy that won't work.

  • @Itsumi_Nyanko
    @Itsumi_Nyanko Рік тому +2

    I'm lucky to have the best services at school for my 8 y son . He have a very high performance anxiety . Double that with a obvious dyslexia and ADHD , school is very hard for him. He just hate to make mistake ( crying, giving up right away, pushing away the help) . Unfortunately I can't see how exactly they approches him when he gets trigger or the exact wording they used :( so it is a bit hard to talk with him about the situation and make him understand why he was angry if I only have one side of the story . And as a french Canadian....french is a nightmare to learn..so much rules and exception . I understand why he can get so angry sometime 😅

    • @shabanasharif2210
      @shabanasharif2210 Рік тому

      I have 14 years old boy witch is so hyper and harmful for us some time and in that situation we can not control him after some time it will be normal so please could you help me

    • @Itsumi_Nyanko
      @Itsumi_Nyanko Рік тому

      @@shabanasharif2210 with my son we evaluated what triggered him and adapted what we could. We have changed our way of teaching too. He do best with pictures versus just verbal so we use pictograms when doing homeworks and setting a routine at home. For the ADHD he is now on medication which made a huge difference. It is also important to let them move..a lot. My son hates team sport but love running so he do track and field and we have a Ninja Warrior style indoor playground near where I live so we take him there once in a while. We also have a small trampoline at home that helps him calms himself when in an episode. We have a lot of fidget toy in the house if he needes to calm down. We have set rules for screen time with a system of screen time earning if he do good in school. Setting up small goal can help and praise him when he do good. This help with their self-esteem and reduce anxiety. If he is harmful to himself and you, it is important to evaluate what triggers those episode to better understant the situation and seek help from professional who knows those kind of behavior in case it becomes too dangerous. Do you have ressources where you live ?

  • @wiegraf9009
    @wiegraf9009 2 роки тому

    Thanks for this video! I definitely would have benefitted from this as kid and it helps me e a better teacher.

    • @gracechristopher3133
      @gracechristopher3133 Рік тому

      I want to share about a herbal recommendations I got about Dr Oyalo on UA-cam and his herbal remedy which work perfectly on my sons improvements and social skill till now. He now speakers in sentences, responds to name and instructions, no more aggressiveness and many more unlike him before

    • @juniormako6184
      @juniormako6184 Рік тому

      There is permanent herbs to improve and heal autistim. It’s a medicine you can get from Dr Oyalo UA-cam channel, his herbs have made my son improve perfectly in his speech and social skills. He is now verbal, responding to name and instructions. Bear in mind that you don't need to spend a fortune on therapy that won't work.

  • @josephmartin1540
    @josephmartin1540 Рік тому

    Hey, really good P.E., really good!

  • @amandahankins2731
    @amandahankins2731 10 місяців тому +1

    What if the parent has school anxiety and has had it since 3rd grade. Im 45 now

    • @gifty2595
      @gifty2595 4 місяці тому +1

      Be gentle on yourself, consider therapy, ground yourself and look at how far you’ve come. Your third grade self would be so proud of you ❤

    • @cowsonzambonis6
      @cowsonzambonis6 3 місяці тому

      @@amandahankins2731 I’m with you- I still get anxious if I’m in a school building, and recounting my school years brings up so many negative emotions.

  • @spaceparanormal
    @spaceparanormal Місяць тому

    Had to remove all 3 of my kids from primary. 2 are autistic one has adhd and dyslexia. My eldest was sat on punched in face then dragged by his hair across playground in front of a teacher who did nothing. My ex wife had to pull child off him and speak to parent. His bully also made him lick a toilet seat Our middle son doing assessment for autism at mo to get official diagnosis he was held against wall by throat had 4 water bottles smashed deliberately coz of his autism and tge school totally denied it and blamed home life. So they was home schooled for almost a year 3 weeks ago they got a new school finally the middle and youngest will put uniform on but refuse to go in and tge schools head mistress at new school said they not coming in due to problems at home and said she will ring social services if they don't go in.

    • @markigirl2757
      @markigirl2757 Місяць тому +1

      My Heart aches for your kids. They did not deserve being treated this way it’s horrible how cruel humans are and they learn it from each other and at as a child. I hope you all are safe and jsut remember you all are there for each other! ❤

  • @candy-sj
    @candy-sj Рік тому

    What about when my son's teacher recommends medication for him?😢