Loneliness CRISIS: As Americans Spend Record Time Isolated

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  • @CraftHouseStudios
    @CraftHouseStudios День тому +360

    The commodification of hangout spaces and the death of the American middle class has alot to do with it. In my town i cant even go to the park without having to pay $5 for parking. Coffee hangout? That's $10. Hangout for lunch? Thats $30-40? Cant even get out a bar without spending atleast $10-15.

    • @davidfletcher6627
      @davidfletcher6627 День тому +23

      The point about parking is really good. I thought of a lot of free things to do, and parking completely slipped my mind. There are so many ways they nickel and dime us, that it is challenging to keep up with them all.

    • @jrad410
      @jrad410 День тому +5

      Where do u live at lol. 10 coffee? No free parks at all? 30-40 lunch?

    • @Publicistvideos
      @Publicistvideos День тому +2

      City parks are free. And yes suburbia/parking/cars are terrible for society.

    • @cyrus2546
      @cyrus2546 День тому +6

      @@jrad410in the last few years I’ve visited Seattle and NYC and he’s right.

    • @DrDanQ92
      @DrDanQ92 День тому +3

      capitalism baby

  • @SailorSq11863
    @SailorSq11863 День тому +526

    I think a missed opportunity was to talk about the economic situation that pushes people toward staying home. You can’t really do anything anymore for cheap. So a lot of people choose to stay home to save money

    • @quintinsweat
      @quintinsweat День тому +29

      💯

    • @klosnj11
      @klosnj11 День тому +29

      The possibilities of what you can do with friends for free or cheap is near infinate. You just are not used to having to make your own fun.
      Seriously, you can go on a cross country road trip sleeping in the back of your (or your parents) minivan or suv, with the cost being no more than the cheap snack food you would have eaten on the couch anyway, and the cost of the gas.

    • @SailorSq11863
      @SailorSq11863 День тому +28

      @@klosnj11 I understand your point and I do agree that there is a lot of thing people can do for free, but in a lot of those cases you’re sacrificing other things in order for the activity to be cheap. In your example, there’s a big time commitment and sleeping in a van and eating snacks or fast food each day will take a toll on your body and health. Most people who have to work everyday can’t really do much other than go out with friends on to a restaurant or bar on the weekends and around cities that gets to be really expensive

    • @gobot581
      @gobot581 День тому +2

      ​@@klosnj11Here is how privileged you are. You dont even realize the privilege needed in the things you said. There are places where mostt of the people dont have a yard or most people dont have a car or hours of the day that they arent working to survive. Even having parents is a privileged in many places.

    • @zufalllx
      @zufalllx День тому +11

      The park is always free.

  • @ernestohernandez2755
    @ernestohernandez2755 21 годину тому +32

    Once you learn to be alone. It becomes addicting, no expectation from anyone and very peaceful.

    • @andrewm4767
      @andrewm4767 10 годин тому +1

      I went to a movie alone - it was a great experience

    • @liberalismisaids9564
      @liberalismisaids9564 2 години тому +1

      The lack of people with any substance makes alone time a reward rather than a bad thing

  • @casey7411
    @casey7411 День тому +655

    Going outside costs money

    • @CollinsDynasty
      @CollinsDynasty День тому +63

      this, everytime you do something social thats a 100 minimum out the door

    • @ohmygollywow
      @ohmygollywow День тому +7

      THIS!!

    • @charlie-qh2ll
      @charlie-qh2ll День тому +27

      What? No, it doesn't. I go outside several times every day to walk my dog, I have yet to be charged any amount to do so.

    • @8rk
      @8rk День тому +24

      You know you can have a conversation with your friends, hike, walk around with them for free right?

    • @CyranoForever101
      @CyranoForever101 День тому +12

      Or, and hear me out, maybe you go outside with friends and just...talk? And walk? Go to each other's houses? Idfk just a thought...

  • @Robert-Feeds-The-Machine
    @Robert-Feeds-The-Machine День тому +420

    I'm not alone. Saager is my best friend. He tells me what is okay to say out loud.

    • @calisoleil3692
      @calisoleil3692 День тому +21

      🤣

    • @bcrow827
      @bcrow827 День тому +5

      Hmm, wonder why the BP comments section bots haven't shown up here yet.

    • @fredocorleone5040
      @fredocorleone5040 День тому +33

      I would rather be alone, than hang out with Saagar

    • @ericdelossantos1
      @ericdelossantos1 День тому +3

      Me too! I love saagar. He's is my friend. Maybe krystal too....maybe.

    • @NoName-h5i4q
      @NoName-h5i4q День тому

      @@fredocorleone5040 i agree. I only hang out with losers

  • @Stranger_In_The_Alps
    @Stranger_In_The_Alps День тому +109

    I used to think the worst thing in life is winding up alone, it's not. The worst thing in life is winding up with people who make you feel alone.

    • @azalia423
      @azalia423 День тому +12

      I don't think a loud competitive society of driven extroverts is particularly fun.

    • @papertiger9845
      @papertiger9845 День тому

      Driven extroverts are fine if they’re actually funny and ethical/moral ppl. If theyre self-congratulating, condescending, leftists who think everyones beneath them behind their backs, thats a society that sucks.

    • @Napkinatorz
      @Napkinatorz 19 годин тому +4

      @@azalia423 💯

    • @EmperorDecay
      @EmperorDecay 14 годин тому

      @@Stranger_In_The_Alps realest thing ever said here

    • @SlowPeace25
      @SlowPeace25 4 хвилини тому

      That's a Robin Williams quote.

  • @Jonnyrockin71
    @Jonnyrockin71 День тому +110

    Absolutely. I miss the 1990’s. I had a huge circle of friends. Going to bars. Having dinner parties. Bumping into people I know. It’s brutal now. Just brutal.

    • @Introverted100
      @Introverted100 День тому +26

      The 90's was the bomb diggity. It wasn't odd to strike up a conversation with strangers and you could literally just make friends with people at a bar or concert and legit hang out with them later on.

    • @Fourtune1
      @Fourtune1 День тому

      @@Introverted100feminists consider that assault now

    • @JasonDoege-js8io
      @JasonDoege-js8io День тому +1

      The problem is you aren't making friends online. I make friends through my online art and gaming. You get a much more unique pick by being connected on the internet than just whoever happens to be acceptable around you

    • @Introverted100
      @Introverted100 День тому +10

      @@JasonDoege-js8io Are you meeting these folks in real life?

    • @plum4620
      @plum4620 День тому +5

      I miss the 90’s

  • @bm6413
    @bm6413 День тому +250

    Over all these years, the more I've interreacted with people the less I want to be around them.

    • @Introverted100
      @Introverted100 День тому +40

      You're not alone (ironically).

    • @Matt-s6y
      @Matt-s6y День тому +8

      You just haven’t found the right people imo

    • @amw7828
      @amw7828 День тому +2

      💯only blood relatives

    • @Polybius83
      @Polybius83 День тому +3

      @@Matt-s6y 🧢

    • @arihia45
      @arihia45 День тому +1

      translation : "I am an incel"

  • @stevena.simmons3203
    @stevena.simmons3203 20 годин тому +15

    Work is bleeding us of our will to live, let alone to be social when we have time to rest.

  • @kenvalenti5414
    @kenvalenti5414 День тому +203

    Who can afford to go out to dinner these days?

    • @softjones3128
      @softjones3128 День тому +18

      you probably just door dashed taco bell for $34

    • @Joe-v5n
      @Joe-v5n День тому +4

      Invite your friends over and cook together. Pretend you're on top chef. Actually try

    • @Bamboohugger
      @Bamboohugger День тому

      What ?? Ur hate for Krystal has made you hear shi* she didn't say. Sounds like you are one of those toxic tribal moron 😅😅

    • @McP1mpin
      @McP1mpin День тому +2

      Obviously a lot of people or else there wouldn't be restaurants.

    • @kathyp1563
      @kathyp1563 День тому

      Was going out to dinner your only source of socializing back when you socialized? That lacks creativity, ya know.

  • @alanmcrae8594
    @alanmcrae8594 День тому +30

    Decades ago we would meet up at a coffee shop, take turns playing music, reciting a poem, joke or story, discussing contemporary issues, or whatever. Now, your local coffee shop is probably a Starbucks with people siloed into their laptops, tablets and smartphones.
    Plus, we are learning online that the world is full of scammers, sociopaths, thieves, BS artists, trolls and time wasters. Then when we venture out into the real physical world we are automatically on guard around strangers.

    • @papertiger9845
      @papertiger9845 День тому +2

      Ppl turned them into fucking libraries 😂

  • @SkullKid467
    @SkullKid467 День тому +62

    I’d ask my friends to dinner but my food budget can’t afford going out. I’d go to concerts but they’ve become outrageously expensive. I’d go to the movies but it’s cheaper to stay at home and stream a movie. I still socialize with my friends by gaming and hanging out in voice chat. We have an unaffordability crisis.
    Edit: Forgot I also have to pay to park when I go places half the time.

    • @shinebabyshine.
      @shinebabyshine. День тому +3

      This is true, but there are options - you could also spend time at the park with your friends, attend free events in your city, and have dinner parties where you and your friend make dinner together and split the grocery bill

    • @talyahr3302
      @talyahr3302 День тому +7

      Yeah and I'd invite people over but I'm not particularly proud of the place I can afford right now. I'm hopefully starting a new job soon and I'm moving to a slightly better spot that I hope will give me the confidence to invite people over way more.

    • @ibtissempharm8800
      @ibtissempharm8800 День тому

      It's funny how I can sympathize with all of this, having had the same experience when I live in a totally different continent... It's a global issue. We live in such brutal times...

  • @Salazatl
    @Salazatl День тому +31

    The answer is staring everyone in the face. Literally almost every systemic problem we face is tied to American capitalism.

    • @scottireland5414
      @scottireland5414 День тому

      Or is it the leftist policies that lead to the destruction of the nuclear family?

  • @itssteve6018
    @itssteve6018 День тому +23

    Bro.... I can't AFFORD to just "go out with friends". This isn't a "choice".

  • @zdlax
    @zdlax День тому +82

    Everyone's becoming more like me with each year that passes. In another decade i might not even feel that alone anymore...

    • @CyranoForever101
      @CyranoForever101 День тому +10

      That's probably not a good thing

    • @zdlax
      @zdlax День тому

      @CyranoForever101 autistic robot world? In the eye of the beholder.

  • @Arander92
    @Arander92 День тому +52

    People seek perfection in others. I see it every day. No one’s content to just meet chill people anymore. They only make an effort to make you a part of their lives if they perceive you as high status. “Life if they party, “super interesting”, “always surrounded by people”. People think they deserve the best of everything, which includes other people

    • @ReturnOfKalki
      @ReturnOfKalki День тому

      the irony is that the "high status" people are increasingly becoming "low quality" people. things will have to turn around eventually

    • @jamesblanco7323
      @jamesblanco7323 День тому

      You gotta broaden your horizons then. There are places where you can meet chill people, it’s just that it may be hard to find them. They don’t tend to be the “hip” places. But they do exist. I go to one of those places every week. Best of luck finding yours.

    • @deadraider420
      @deadraider420 День тому +1

      Ya must live in Kansas

    • @nataliaalfonso2662
      @nataliaalfonso2662 День тому +2

      Nah that’s crazy 😂😂😂😂😂people are violently evil and horrific to people they perceive as better than them.
      Horrific.

    • @Nill757
      @Nill757 День тому +1

      It’s not “people”. Some people. This is a you problem, not them.

  • @IndependenceCityMotoring
    @IndependenceCityMotoring День тому +168

    Here are some root causes that led to this: suburban sprawl and high housing costs in which everyone lives further away from each other (makes it inconvenient to make plans), the high cost of going out to eat/drink, American white collar work culture in which we work overtime without any extra pay and thus have less free time to socialize.

    • @Robert-Feeds-The-Machine
      @Robert-Feeds-The-Machine День тому +15

      Truth. I live in a pre-boomer neighborhood. People don't realize how much it changes a community to have places to walk to.
      I can walk down the street to one of the nearby restaurants and coffee places and talk to neighbors I meet there. It's an actual community and we killed that experience because mild annoyance at car noises.

    • @Arander92
      @Arander92 День тому +5

      I lived in NYC for a decade. The problem described was still an issue, if not worse.
      If suburban sprawl were a cause, I would’ve been hanging with friends every week. This was not the case

    • @CTKearns
      @CTKearns День тому +3

      If you live in the city you don't leave your parking spot

    • @Arander92
      @Arander92 День тому +1

      @@CTKearns Can you elaborate? I don’t understand

    • @Introverted100
      @Introverted100 День тому +5

      I know that I'm order for me to have a place to live, I had to work 60hrs a week, or more, wake up early AF and live within about 35 minutes from my job. So needless to say, I don't see friends that often. It's work, shower, eat sleep.

  • @MarvelousWesty
    @MarvelousWesty День тому +16

    39, single, no kids. I’m in sales and communicate virtually or in person with my team or customers 8-11 hours a day. I need some peace at the end of the day. My circle is smaller and tighter than ever and I’m happier because of it. Being social costs a lot of money and I’m not interested in those large expenditures like I used too

    • @expendable4h002
      @expendable4h002 День тому

      39 single and no kids is a lonely life. I have a wife and three kids and work 8-10 hours a day. My house is always chaos and when I’m alone after 4 hours I miss it. I have no clue what to do with myself. Human interaction is what gives you life especially with the family you create. Don’t miss out because you’re comfortable, it will only get worse.

    • @CzolgoszWorkinMan
      @CzolgoszWorkinMan 20 годин тому

      @@expendable4h002 i’m 38 single no kids and don’t experience loneliness, now what?

    • @dannyb2783
      @dannyb2783 19 годин тому +1

      @@expendable4h002 I wish parents (and I am a father to 3, all under the age of 15), would stop trying to convince themselves and others that the "chaos" is something to be missed. Its not. Its detrimental to a individual's mental health. The fact that you dont feel comfortable being alone with yourself is the real problem.

    • @frbyrd-tg5co
      @frbyrd-tg5co 11 годин тому

      Being social costs very little: I play in an 50+ soccer league for the last 20 years, 20 Sunday mornings a year for $125. We are a band of 25 brothers who have made post-game fellowship with food and drink expandable to our entire families; we've buried 3 comrades in the last 3 years, been through cancer and pink slips and been there for each other as an escape from those low points. Likewise, I play Lax every Wednesday night, for free, rain, shine or snow, with 30 guys who allow us to blow off steam and compete all with the knowledge that we need to go to work the next day. I didn't know any of these people until I sought out a team to play with. I think many people are lazy or fearful of the unknown, when what they may be craving is only a new relationship away.

  • @Coats2112
    @Coats2112 День тому +41

    If you are lonely, then I suggest a bad relationship. Once it runs its course, you will be thankful for solitude.

  • @FloridaManConstruction
    @FloridaManConstruction 23 години тому +7

    I probably spend 95% of my time alone.
    It’s so much more peaceful than my previous lifestyle.

  • @sswwooppee
    @sswwooppee 19 годин тому +6

    Even Americans find other Americans insufferable.

  • @a.c.n.9421
    @a.c.n.9421 День тому +14

    I really love and enjoy my alone time. Also, a lot of people are not mentally, emotionally, and spiritually well. I have a lot more peace and joy by myself. I’m also very introverted, so I am thoroughly enjoying this era of more isolation. My heart does go out to those that deal with loneliness.

    • @tallflguy
      @tallflguy 23 години тому +2

      Same! I love being alone.

    • @harvbegal6868
      @harvbegal6868 19 годин тому +1

      Yeah this is more of a crisis for people who like to hear their own voice. Lol!

  • @SarahKhan-os4yr
    @SarahKhan-os4yr День тому +10

    I feel people are also living vicariously through social media, choosing to view experiences instead of having them themselves. Life can be full of disappointing interactions but people still continued as real life was all we had. Now you can ‘opt out’ and search for whatever you want online, albeit in a less satisfying and thus ultimately lonely experience.

    • @nickthompson1812
      @nickthompson1812 День тому +2

      This is why I and many others play video games. You only have one life? As a gamer, I have many lives.

  • @1011skarn
    @1011skarn День тому +6

    Neighbors don't talk to neighbors.
    Life has become more dangerous. You dont trust strangers. Crime or the perception of it is high. There is absolutely zero respect for one another. People are not courteous, they dont hold doors, they dont greet each other.
    I am in a gen xer raised by silent generation parents from Sicily. Very different culture, there was a warmness in community.
    All of that is gone now

  • @jumpedscarab9444
    @jumpedscarab9444 17 годин тому +8

    Married, full-time job, loneliest I've ever been.

  • @kyle-ri5mz
    @kyle-ri5mz День тому +46

    "hey wanna go to the hockey game this weekend".... "no i don't have $200 to spend"... "what about the bar"... "..." "what about skiing, lets do something outside" ... "I don't have $200 for hockey you think i have $1500 to ski?"

    • @heretic.137
      @heretic.137 День тому +8

      Hey wanna come over for build-your-own-pizza night? Hey wanna come over for movie night? Hey wanna come over and work on a project? Hey our friend said he’s streaming the Super Bowl, wanna bring some beer and watch with us? I get what you’re saying but you don’t have to “go out” to hang out.

    • @HaHaGirl16
      @HaHaGirl16 День тому +5

      @@heretic.137 that’s true but you also need a place that’s big enough to host people and most young people don’t even have an apartment with a roommate let alone their own place. Many are still living with their parents which isn’t exactly the ideal situation for social engagements.

    • @kathyp1563
      @kathyp1563 День тому

      @@HaHaGirl16 Why the need for perfection? 20-somethings should just want to have fun. Ya'll are just a bunch of puppies. When there is fun to be had, inconvenience is nothing.
      We would cram so...many...people into tiny apartments to watch a movie, or to play board games. Everything was open invite. We were non-drinkers, so all of our parties were low-cost.

    • @heretic.137
      @heretic.137 День тому

      @@HaHaGirl16 you’re definitely right. If that’s the case I’d recommend talking to your parents and tell them you want to have people over. Coordinate a night when they are planning to go out and you can have people come over. Also I’d suggest re-framing it in your mind from hosting to hanging out. It’s not thanksgiving dinner, just a movie night or something small and fun so don’t overthink it.

  • @Powerful_TDFAM
    @Powerful_TDFAM День тому +7

    I remember when south park made the joke that anything fun costs at least 20 dollars. Now it's more like 50.

    • @raymondkizer1216
      @raymondkizer1216 День тому +1

      But people still pay the prices to see concerts and sporting events. If people want it, they will pay extravagant prices for it.

  • @oma_gunner
    @oma_gunner День тому +19

    Having car culture is the reason for this! there is not easy to just walk around, plus people & police look at you like why you walking, its just bs

    • @papertiger9845
      @papertiger9845 День тому +2

      What?

    • @kharikhy-ree2242
      @kharikhy-ree2242 День тому +1

      That's quite true. How often can people walk to one another? Not get in a car and find somewhere to walk/talk. I'm in Texas and.... outside the suburbs... sidewalks are not available. If the side walk isn't connected to money/business, there is none. You have to drive 15min to get to a store, 30min-90mins to visit a friend/family/go on a date.

    • @ethanfleckenstein2334
      @ethanfleckenstein2334 15 годин тому

      Don't blame cars on this. Put your phone down and go outside. My car let's me go places without homeless or drug addicts bothering me.

  • @Sub0Kate
    @Sub0Kate 22 години тому +5

    I agree about tv, cars, and smart phones, but my main problem is that I'm exhausted. I don't have time in the day to take care of myself, let alone do something frivolous like go out and see other people.

  • @tethergobrrr
    @tethergobrrr День тому +56

    Introversion is a superpower. I hardly even know what they’re all talking about.

    • @amw7828
      @amw7828 День тому +11

      💯🤣

    • @arihia45
      @arihia45 День тому +20

      translation : ' I am lonely and am desperate for a gf but i go on the internets to tell everyone how it is cool to be introverted"

    • @tethergobrrr
      @tethergobrrr День тому +21

      @@arihia45 translation: I’m a middle aged woman with my own home, my own money and my own time, who’s bored with men. You’re projecting perhaps?

    • @arihia45
      @arihia45 День тому +12

      @ translation: "I am post wall middle aged women who keeps getting rejected by men and am bored with them."

    • @tethergobrrr
      @tethergobrrr День тому

      @@arihia45 ‘wall’😂 Have you met any men?

  • @TheSnerggly
    @TheSnerggly День тому +22

    I am alone a lot, and I am not depressed or sad. I love reading and enjoying my own company. When I want to socialize, I go for a walk with friends or I run with my running group. I am also friendly with my neighbors and hang out with some of them from time to time.

    • @inoculateinoculate9486
      @inoculateinoculate9486 День тому +5

      I think it's more of a crisis for young people. As you get older, you've had, in some respects, your "fill" of socializing time with people. Hanging out and partying in groups is invigorating when you're 19, but can feel exhausting later on. But normal cognitive and emotional development requires a youth that involves at least some normal group interactions, and the kids of today are just not exposed to it.

    • @tigerdank5666
      @tigerdank5666 День тому

      Do you have a lot of friends?

  • @Goose-wedding
    @Goose-wedding 18 годин тому +3

    i don't invite a few of my friends out anymore because i know they have no money. They always say "if your hanging out after, let me know!" but it doesn't usually happen.

  • @Kneel2ThaCrown
    @Kneel2ThaCrown День тому +32

    Introvert + internet = why do I need to do anything else?

    • @arihia45
      @arihia45 День тому

      translation : 'i watch p0rn to fill my sexual desires'

  • @xSirDudex
    @xSirDudex День тому +42

    I'm a 38 year old white male. Outside of work. I spend 100 percent of my time alone. It's just not a good idea getting involved in other people's lives. Or letting people get involved in mine.

    • @sct4040
      @sct4040 День тому +5

      It’s true, drama.

    • @Nick0wnsz
      @Nick0wnsz День тому

      Hey man. I’m a 24 year old Indian guy. I met another 36 year old white guy at work (FedEx) all his friends died from heroin and he doesn’t have any skills. I suspect there’s a a lot of these types of white guys aimlessly wondering where America went. He can’t afford a house and has to move, women (white), he complains are too stuck up and smokes weed all day. I think there’s millions of guys like him out there. I keep telling him this all leads to revolution.

    • @jordanelizabeth4664
      @jordanelizabeth4664 День тому

      This is the mentality that will lead to further destruction of society. So many people act like this is revolutionary. No, it’s infantile. A truly smart idea would be to intentionally create strong communities. “It’s just not possible bro, people suck” yeah…you included. We could just all try to suck less.

    • @peterstafford4426
      @peterstafford4426 День тому +2

      In other words, you only find yourself interesting

    • @peterroberts4415
      @peterroberts4415 День тому

      Go to the gym

  • @Scoots1994
    @Scoots1994 День тому +13

    I can't talk to the cause of the trend, but I've noticed I'm far more outgoing than my age group and seen as strange for being willing to talk to "stranger" and to engage in collaboration. And I'm near 60 years old. My daughters are more outgoing than their friends, but just between my daughters I can see more progress toward isolation.
    One thing I've seen is that they don't get together with friends casually, they have to plan it out, and if they hit ANY stumbling blocks then it gets cancelled. When I was a kid I went to friends houses and we went and gathered more friends.
    Cell phones, not just smart phones, were a major accelerator of isolation when you consider that everyone is available for contact all the time, so you don't have to go out to talk to someone out in the world. You can ALWAYS communicate with them so you don't need to see them.

  • @chauncymarlowe3710
    @chauncymarlowe3710 День тому +20

    Part of this is the aging population isolated in suburbs

  • @AbuBakarSaleem-y4y
    @AbuBakarSaleem-y4y День тому +3

    I was in Europe for my masters, and I am from a developing country. Every relation seemed so transactional, and superficial, no one wanted to be good friends. I am so happy to be back home:)

  • @oma_gunner
    @oma_gunner День тому +21

    Admire this guest, the way he spoke was great! Sounded very professional and articulate in conveying his points.

    • @Cloudchopper-x1r
      @Cloudchopper-x1r День тому +2

      Yes, I wanted to comment on the professionality of this guest as well, compared to some they have had on.

    • @govegmofomakeamuffin6620
      @govegmofomakeamuffin6620 16 годин тому +1

      Fr this guy was great. Much respect and appreciate the work he puts in

  • @Thepinatamma
    @Thepinatamma День тому +9

    I was born in 88, and after school, I would play basketball and skateboard with random kids. Now, even parents stay inside and play video games. There's a HUGE number of millennials and younger people who work and play video games. Add porn on phones and trifecta.

    • @kharikhy-ree2242
      @kharikhy-ree2242 День тому

      I'm glad you brought up the p*** point. It's another barrier to not pursue physical intimacy, if you can please* yourself. And it's free...

  • @BRANFED
    @BRANFED День тому +20

    being alone is awesome.. all i need is my pc and my video/game library/ebook library. i dont even need the internet, i have acquired so much over the years.. my guitar/ amp,my cats and some weed and im very content with being alone
    fyi.. being alone is not the same as being lonely.. there is a huge difference... i stay isolated by choice and because i have no choice. both are true

    • @azalia423
      @azalia423 День тому +3

      Especially the cat. They're such good company.

    • @BRANFED
      @BRANFED День тому +1

      @@azalia423 indeed.. i have 3.. 14 yr old and 2 kittens of maybe 6 months or so

    • @azalia423
      @azalia423 День тому +2

      @ Oh, so delightful! My 7 yo is curled up nearby.

    • @peterroberts4415
      @peterroberts4415 День тому +1

      It's not peaceful when you're old, childless, alone, and future cat food

    • @BRANFED
      @BRANFED День тому

      @@peterroberts4415 how old do you think i am?
      im at peace more than at anytime in my 5.5 decades of living and im not childless.. i have 2

  • @intricatic
    @intricatic День тому +11

    I'm not lonely. I'm just not that into other people.

  • @supreme192000
    @supreme192000 21 годину тому +4

    He speaking to those who absolutely can not enjoy life without the company of others.
    He leaves out this also applies to the masses who subscribe to group think as well and have sheep mentality.
    I'm both introverted and extroverted, the past four years of witnessing how willing others are to deliberately spread their disease has made me hyper aware of obnoxious behaviors and behaviors that contradict my health and well-being. I never realized how much I enjoy not having someone breath in my face.

  • @sandman1688
    @sandman1688 13 годин тому +4

    I work three jobs, seven days a week, nine to thirteen hours a day, and I'm still struggling. No time, or money to socialize.

  • @Yabuddy53
    @Yabuddy53 15 годин тому +2

    Decline or church attendance is a big one. My 95 year old grandpa was not a very religious man, but he said he liked going because his friends were there and they’d chat after, while the wives would do the same, this was rural Illinois until the 90s he said.

  • @dsyy90210
    @dsyy90210 День тому +6

    there are no common spaces anymore, especially ones that cost little or no money. you need a car to get anywhere in 95% of the country and have to pay at every possible turn to do anything

  • @stephenbailey9969
    @stephenbailey9969 День тому +41

    Loneliness. Obsessive, circular ideation. Depression. Disappearing from friends and family.
    This is the road to tragedy.

    • @Shawn3002
      @Shawn3002 День тому +3

      Not if friends and family are the tragedy

    • @stephenbailey9969
      @stephenbailey9969 День тому

      ​@@Shawn3002 Fortunately, there are other counselors out there who can help. Mental health hotline might be someone's first step.

    • @c.f.okonta8815
      @c.f.okonta8815 День тому

      Lmao 🤣 no it’s not

    • @papertiger9845
      @papertiger9845 День тому

      Goddamn the cope of the crying face is so fucking sad its crazy. I really feel so bad for so many ppl on a daily basis over using those emoji’s like damn life really has gotta be rough for mfrs n mfrs really gotta be on the verge of tears at all times

    • @FazeParticles
      @FazeParticles День тому

      Social isolation benefits the ruling class always.

  • @Pethissss
    @Pethissss День тому +7

    Socializing is quite often an expensive endeavor these days. To everyone saying you can just go out for free, it doesn't have to cost money, etc. It can be very difficult to find individuals in a social circle who hold the same frugal habits as you. The average American isn't famous for their responsible spending habits. Usually when people invite you to hang out, it is likely going to cost money. If you suggest a "free" alternative, you're likely just going to end up alone. I know the response here will be "oh well just find different/better friends". Yes, thank you in advance for being totally unhelpful lol

    • @kharikhy-ree2242
      @kharikhy-ree2242 День тому +1

      Honestly 😅 when I did hangout, my friends hated doing free stuff with me. Aka Nature activities, working out, art... they all wanted to club, bar, go downtown, malls etc.

  • @presidentin2044
    @presidentin2044 13 годин тому +2

    I'm relieved that I live in a major city that has decent public transportation options, and that I'm able to walk to my friends. A big part of the problem in modern American life is the suburban sprawl in which so many people live.

  • @ozjthomas
    @ozjthomas День тому +7

    It might seem nitpicky but can we call it being asocial not being antisocial? People dont seem to understand antisocial refers to violent, psychopathic, maciavellian, remorseless people who like hurting others. Asocial just refers to not wanting or not being social. I think this misuse leads to a lot of negative stigma and misunderstanding

    • @StealYourFace7731
      @StealYourFace7731 23 години тому

      This mis naming has been a pet peeve for years and years

    • @missj794
      @missj794 17 годин тому +1

      Thank you! People make that mistake so often.

  • @swedizzle12
    @swedizzle12 17 годин тому +2

    I think it impacts introverts and extroverts differently. I''m an introvert who plays games with my friends in the evenings and boardgames a couple of times a month. Nothing has really changed. Now, extroverts have the need to interact with people in person. At least more than introverts.

  • @vatefairefoutre0
    @vatefairefoutre0 День тому +10

    I don't feel "alone", if anything I'm a social-seeming, people liking, introvert. I constantly feel guilty I'm not hanging out with friends more, but I just feel like I don't have the money or the time like I used to.
    I was an only child and grew up like this, playing by myself, and I loved it. I feel like I truly need this time more than other people. maybe the fact that families are smaller like this increases this too? anyways, my friends constantly beg me to hang out, and of course I do, but I always feel soooo burnt out socially. my job is super social where I speak to strangers about intimate details of their life/career/finances and their goals. I come home and all I want to do is just completely unplug and focus on myself. for me, I think the stress of nowadays has made me need even more alone time to recharge. I've always loved alone time... but I've never felt THIS much like I need alone time or I will just scream or have a breakdown. what is this about? I just constantly feel like I'm not doing enough, not hanging out with friends enough, not talking to them enough... it's an endless cycle and makes me wanna shut off even more. I've also completely given up on social media because it just stresses me out now instead of bringing me any joy.

  • @adanactnomew7085
    @adanactnomew7085 16 годин тому +2

    I feel like every problem in the US is a result of horrible urban planning which encourages isolation from neighbours and dependency on the car. Which I feel is a result of the US having a too extreme culture of individuality.

  • @BakesbyBrittnei
    @BakesbyBrittnei 21 годину тому +3

    Socializing cost money. There was a yoga class i went to once but she shut up it down bc the rent became too high. Not mention people didnt come on a regular basis

  • @mattfox2716
    @mattfox2716 14 годин тому +2

    It’s not hard to figure out…..if there is literally no public space and you can’t afford anything…….

  • @thundershirt1
    @thundershirt1 День тому +7

    Can confirm: i live in NYC, but i spent a lot of time in Alaska. They disagree, boy do they disagree (a strange mix of millenial Christians and "crunchy" West Coast sorts, and much else, including slickers from NYC), but they won't turn their backs on each other. Never ever. That was really the true taboo. It was a "bush" community, and there was a distinct possibility one day your life might depend on one of them. Refreshing, really.

  • @janak8912
    @janak8912 12 годин тому

    I moved a lot as a kid and whenever I moved, I lost loads of friendships because even back in the “good old days” proximity was everything. Moved away from home for my first career job. Tried very hard to connect with people but they’d agree to meet, then flake out. After the 9th person to flake on me, I just learned to occupy myself. This was in 2008. When Covid hit, I had already been there done that with isolation enough times. In most of my friendships I’d have to do all the initiating. People don’t want to reciprocate. It’s a lot of effort.
    Now my social group is small and only includes those that do take the time to share the work. But ultimately, I would rather rely on myself for happiness than external forces I can’t control.

  • @tcroweification
    @tcroweification День тому +7

    I used to live in a more working class part of my city, and I would see kids out in the street playing sports or riding bikes all the time. Now I live in a more upper middle class area and I never see kids out playing.

  • @foxooo
    @foxooo 18 годин тому +2

    I literally had to become sober because I couldn’t afford going out. I think it’s hampered a lot of social development for me. So much of our culture is about going out and I’m boxed out of that cus I’m too poor.

  • @yaneznayoui1597
    @yaneznayoui1597 День тому +42

    The thing is being alone is better than being with people at least for me

    • @arihia45
      @arihia45 День тому +5

      copium is what i smell here

    • @yaneznayoui1597
      @yaneznayoui1597 День тому +7

      @@arihia45 I've intentionally gone out of my way to be alone by choice not because I've been forced to.

    • @McP1mpin
      @McP1mpin День тому

      ​@@yaneznayoui1597 then you're not the intended subject on a discussion about "the loneliness crisis."

    • @nataliaalfonso2662
      @nataliaalfonso2662 День тому +1

      @@arihia45I’m someone who is by nature extremely social.
      People are not good at being social. They are not really good, at all.
      If one is supremely pro-social…..
      One is often alone. You can’t be pro-social and enjoy the company of the anti-social. That’s not how it works.

    • @jabrokneetoeknee6448
      @jabrokneetoeknee6448 День тому +1

      @@nataliaalfonso2662 I can’t imagine how a person in the middle of typing out a paragraph essentially saying: “I’m not the problem, it’s everyone else” doesn’t pause and do a little self reflection

  • @MuahMan
    @MuahMan День тому +2

    Dating is 100% impossible in the social media era. I have come to grips with the fact that I will be single forever and I'm actually OK with after my last GF's were just so terrible.

  • @brett84c
    @brett84c День тому +3

    Dating has become a hellscape too. With each year, just getting a date every few weeks or so is an achievement when it used to be you could open an app like Tinder back in 2015 and have several dates in a single week. Everyone just seems vacant and anxious. Something is definitely wrong and it's getting worse with each year that goes by.

    • @nickthompson1812
      @nickthompson1812 День тому

      Face it, you aren’t seen as “attractive” as you were back then because 90% of them are trying to match with 10% of us. The catalogue has grown and the top 10% of us are having their heyday. Who knew impersonalizing dating and making it all about a 15 second advertisement would destroy dating?

  • @BradyHansen81
    @BradyHansen81 17 годин тому +2

    This isn’t a bad thing. Only extroverts care. Us introverts are glad people are finally leaving us alone.

  • @macdaddyalexis
    @macdaddyalexis 19 годин тому +3

    Everyone has to work all damn day and still not have money to go out. This economy is not working for the worker.

  • @Crim222
    @Crim222 13 годин тому

    I'm 41. I think it's important to note that it's very hard as an adult to just "hang out" now. Work schedules are a major hindrance to that in my life and money is another. After buying groceries I and my friends don't have a lot of money to spent and I don't hear this guy or many like him speaking to these realties.

  • @JessicaRobinson-w8v
    @JessicaRobinson-w8v День тому +25

    I enjoy my time alone 😂

  • @mgkrewson
    @mgkrewson 15 годин тому +2

    The technology angle is a good one (though economics is also clearly at play). The book “In the Absence of the Sacred” makes a good critique of the way tech has separated us. The most poignant example was the author noting that growing up in the 50s, no one had a tv, and neighbors talked all the time, hanging out on their porches. Then one person in the neighborhood got a tv, and everyone hung out there to watch it. Then everyone got a tv, and no one talked anymore. Just like that: blind consumerism got us trapped in antisocial patterns. It’s a much much bigger problem than we like to acknowledge or even talk about.

  • @davidbroughall3782
    @davidbroughall3782 День тому +14

    Just like everything else, socializing is expensive. When you're struggling to pay rent, going out to dinner isn't an option.

  • @efflux89
    @efflux89 День тому +2

    Meh. Ending up alone was something I worried about as a teenager but now that I'm past my teens/20s I genuinely prefer to be alone. I don't have to wear a mask to pretend to be something I'm not and there's so much less drama.
    I'm alone but I am not lonely.

  • @penabler
    @penabler День тому +5

    Dungeons and Dragons players are the only people that hang out with friends on a regular basis.

  • @Aurelius.vonBéres
    @Aurelius.vonBéres 4 години тому +1

    Don't feel like taking the risk of getting shot at a movie theater or grocery store not to mention it's too expensive to do anything 🤷🏾‍♂️

  • @shake6321
    @shake6321 18 годин тому +2

    i have a theory that the more energy a society produces the more lonely they get. and soon the entire planet will produce massive amounts of energy. maybe hyper technologically leads to loneliness

  • @tomshady3530
    @tomshady3530 День тому +4

    I am alone. We are all alone. But i am not lonesome. Im not lonely. Im my own best friend. Having friends over is just gravy. Im the meal.

    • @Nill757
      @Nill757 День тому

      We? I’m not alone.

  • @rudeboyjohn3483
    @rudeboyjohn3483 17 годин тому +2

    When your shitty job demands 24/7 availability, its hard to do anything

  • @TRal55
    @TRal55 День тому +3

    I love being alone and I'm proud of it

  • @kellybush4873
    @kellybush4873 23 години тому +2

    Wow, can’t believe they didn’t mention the role money plays in keeping people isolated, everything cost money that people don’t have

  • @rlvarady
    @rlvarady День тому +19

    As an introvert, I’m good inside and away from people.

    • @tigerdank5666
      @tigerdank5666 День тому

      As an introvert, I hate to inform you that you're wrong.

    • @azalia423
      @azalia423 День тому +3

      Yes, I know what you mean.

    • @EmperorDecay
      @EmperorDecay День тому +2

      they act like being alone is a sin, yet they dont ever want to talk about anything that matters or what we care about

    • @azalia423
      @azalia423 20 годин тому

      @ So true. Very tiring.

  • @lefturn99
    @lefturn99 18 годин тому +2

    I like to be alone. No drama.

  • @okbutexplainthis
    @okbutexplainthis День тому +25

    Great time to be an INTJ honestly

    • @jt9411
      @jt9411 День тому +4

      That's me. Record isolation? I haven't noticed.😂

    • @vishalgill5871
      @vishalgill5871 День тому

      We’re only a handful out of 100. What about the others? It is deeply unhealthy for them. These sick people will lead to a sick society. Isolation destroys them!

    • @ValerieLyseight
      @ValerieLyseight День тому +2

      INTP and I think its great.
      So many people being too poor to socialize has forced them into isolation.
      Isolation has forced them into thinking.
      Thinking has forced them into questioning why they are so poor and who created these conditions.
      It's going pretty well tbh. People are starting to notice.

    • @josephfisher426
      @josephfisher426 День тому

      Probably depends on your gender.

    • @nickthompson1812
      @nickthompson1812 День тому +2

      INFJ, and of course I like to find the million reasons that have caused this and rage against all of them 😂

  • @Lavir391
    @Lavir391 День тому +5

    I’m not alone I’m chillin 😎 I don’t have time for other peoples negative energy or bullshit rather stay to my self.

  • @paulblain9881
    @paulblain9881 День тому +2

    Missing from this conversation is the fact that everytime you leave the house you risk spending a lot of money. Restaurants and all forms of public entertainment are very expensive and staying at home has the double reward of being comforting and cost effecticve.

  • @daveblackman816
    @daveblackman816 День тому +30

    Leave us introverts alone!! 😂

    • @TheSnerggly
      @TheSnerggly День тому +4

      LOL exactly

    • @jennathumbledore1282
      @jennathumbledore1282 День тому +3

      I know right! If I need human interaction that’s what the comment section is for. I like my alone time.

    • @shinebabyshine.
      @shinebabyshine. День тому +3

      I’m a true loner and always have been - but I truly feel better when I spend time with friends at least 1x per week otherwise I just get weird and forget how to interact with humans lol

    • @tigerdank5666
      @tigerdank5666 День тому

      I'm introverted and this guy is absolutely right. You should listen to him.

    • @tigerdank5666
      @tigerdank5666 День тому

      @@jennathumbledore1282 Did you just say the comment section is "human interaction."

  • @fw1421
    @fw1421 День тому +1

    I’ve lived alone for 10 years now and I don’t miss being around people at all. Oh I see people when I’m walking my dog,but live the life I want to.

  • @NickOutside
    @NickOutside День тому +44

    I like how Krystal tries to jump into left vs right TDS garbage and this guy just dunks on her like a child.

    • @JerryBisMe
      @JerryBisMe День тому +3

      lol I caught that too. Right away, but this guy had said this about culture! Let me twist your position/studies to fit my world view now!

    • @kh9242
      @kh9242 День тому +2

      It lives in her head

    • @lorilea3188
      @lorilea3188 День тому

      dumb that you like it, children teaching children.

    • @elhammo7478
      @elhammo7478 День тому +7

      No, she just asked a question probably multiple viewers were thinking about, and he answered it very well. It’s interesting how well your comment reflects the general social attitudes they were talking about in the video.

    • @anonymousperson9735
      @anonymousperson9735 День тому +7

      Dude the fact that you even used "TDS" to refer to her is showing that you're apart of the problem that this guy was talking about.
      You're so invested into a politicaI figure that you're using made up online terms like "TDS" to insult people that don't like him. Which is showing that you're trapped in some chronically online echo chamber that cheers on the guy 24/7.
      He doesn't even know who you are bro, and he doesn't even care who you are either. You're a grown man so start acting like it and stop constantly following behind another grown man.

  • @thewirah1
    @thewirah1 19 годин тому +1

    Loneliness is underrated. Think Buddha, Miyamoto Musashi, Zhang Daoling, Hawthorne, Proust, Hemingway, Orwell, Thoreau, and Yoda alone on planet Dagobah ...

  • @jeffratcliffe809
    @jeffratcliffe809 День тому +3

    Everyone is different. Some people need more social interaction than others. For some people who tend to absorb other people’s energy being away from people is more healthy then being around them

  • @VolatilityCoder
    @VolatilityCoder 4 години тому +1

    If people start socializing again, they’ll stop watching UA-cam and the channel will shut down

  • @dallasryder8125
    @dallasryder8125 День тому +15

    This is why the military was great for community. Unfortunately, loneliness or disconnect is also why Veteran suicide is high. Loss of tribe/community.

    • @kingmaafa120
      @kingmaafa120 День тому +2

      Sadly true

    • @thewirah1
      @thewirah1 19 годин тому

      It could be because of all the innocents they killed to satisfy Uncle Sam's thirst for blood.

    • @dallasryder8125
      @dallasryder8125 11 годин тому +1

      @@thewirah1 if that was right? Is the reason why loneliness is happening and civilian suicides have skyrocketed, and people feel nothing due to partaking in slave labor by participating in capitalism vs homestead centric?

  • @azalia423
    @azalia423 18 годин тому +2

    It's harder to herd people when they're not listening.

  • @zitoScine
    @zitoScine День тому +18

    Everything has gotten prohibitively expensive for the average person. Everything increased from food, transportation, insurance costs, energy, housing etc. etc. A night the movies for two used to run one 30-40 bucks, now you need 60. Dinners anywhere nowadays for two is $70+. Don’t get me started on every single place asking and prompting tips. Consumers are getting squeezed left right and center. A lot of people see it for what it is, the moment you set foot outside of your home, your pockets start bleeding money, more and more people are staying home as much as possible. Not to say that they don’t get to us there, because they do, online shopping, streaming services, other subscriptions, etc etc.

    • @Bamboohugger
      @Bamboohugger День тому +1

      How can no one mention social media is a big issue here. People are stuck to the phone

  • @jspanos500
    @jspanos500 18 годин тому +2

    wtf has time to socialize and build friendships? Both my wife and I are gainfully employed professionals with two school aged kids. Between work, kids, and maintaining a home, I don't have the time or energy for anything. Life is a series of shoe-horning things in between daily requirements. I miss music, art, reading, hanging out, etc.

  • @fishmonger7020
    @fishmonger7020 День тому +4

    So much of the corporate model involves taking jobs wherever they may be. You have to have a corporate job to get a loan or buy a house or get health insurance so people will move away from family and friends to get said job and then realize that they’re miserable with no friends or no network. You then build the network but there are very few internal promotions in corporate America so then you have leave the company and your network you built to get the promotion. We all now live shoulder to shoulder and have no friends… isn’t it great?!?

  • @MLK1456
    @MLK1456 15 годин тому +1

    Since a few people are getting married compared to historical standards, I think many like myself decided that if we aren’t going to get married and pursue a spouse, why should I go waste money doing outside activities that I don’t find worth the trouble?

  • @FunderDuck
    @FunderDuck День тому +4

    12:57 This closing answer is very insightful and very well said by the guest.

  • @hazyhalfmoon
    @hazyhalfmoon Годину тому +1

    I isolate because people like me best that way.

  • @stephen902
    @stephen902 День тому +4

    People gaining weight directly correlates with them not going out as much. The flab.

  • @43learoy
    @43learoy 18 годин тому +2

    You know what els would hep people to start to come out and start living again? Is if they could afford anything more than rent, utilities and a cellphone payment.

  • @peterrabbit2719
    @peterrabbit2719 День тому +1

    This is why the pet population has increased. People would rather be with their pets than humans.

  • @davidbellecy1709
    @davidbellecy1709 День тому +4

    It is hard to find people who don't believe in absolute nonsense. I don't do social media, it is a scam by corporations.
    I move often due to jobs being unstable. People don't want to hang out anymore. I hang out with my one friend and he is still drawn to being on his phone. I can be talking to him and he checks his phone. I have thought about just walking away from him as well.
    Modern adults don't understand their own choices, it is pathetic.

  • @allstarlord
    @allstarlord 17 годин тому +1

    This all makes sense and there are multiple factors for the cause in totality. Financial is #2 but in my opinion it was the phones and social media starting in 2011-2012. Literally destroyed the social fabric of society.

  • @marge3157
    @marge3157 День тому +3

    Living near a town of 30ish people and maybe 150 people on the outskirts,its the pub with friends on Thursday and breakfast Sunday morning. Grabge one week. Bunco the following. Yoga every Tuesday night. Started walking with friends because there is a wolf in the area. There are cheap and free things to do everywhere.

    • @Dana-pq7ke
      @Dana-pq7ke День тому

      I was so jealous during the pandemic of people in small towns.