She's not wrong. My wife and I with our first child I only made like 28-32k and we were fine with her staying at home. And our expenses have barely changed, even though our income has increased substantially. You don't need 6 figures. You need financial literacy.
Precisely. In reality, a lot of women don't have a problem with what job you have, what they are looking for is for you to be financially responsible and to strive for better things if you have to.
@@SkintSNIPER262 The fuck you talking about "it's common"? Turn off the internet for a day and go touch some grass. The world outside isn't all about those irrelevant internet dramas, red pill, sigma nonsense.
You have no idea how many women have played their husbands thinking it's their sons or daughter when really it's been the wife's deadbeat side dude kids the whole time..The wife will keep the secret and stay with the husband because he provides to take care of the kids. While the broke deadbeat side dude keeps on pumpin!!!!... This happen s more often than you think. It just gets overlooked. This is why 99% of women will not condone DNA tests or whatever you call it!!!
@@artemiseritu it's quite literally not a normal question to ask a stranger.. if you think that it is NORMAL, normal meaning something that is done frequently, and that most humans are used to, in this case women.. please get help soon..
well, seeing as approximately 30% of paternity tests fail, it seems like a rather fair question. Again, this is only the test. There's probably a lot more messed up households that are never revealed due to the mother's lvl 9000 gaslighting skills.
Not by my experiance. Most ppl live in pointless debt buying pointless things. Out of 5 girls, 1 girl's sister had this level of common sense/awareness. She was a great single mom too. She blew my mind really. I'd date her right now if it didn't seem wierd to date my ex gf's little sister.
Lol highly doubt, video should be named “redpiller meets rare woman “ Most women , especially in cities are poor financial spenders. Not saying its impossible to find one who can live on such low amount but most dont want to and choose not to
Exactly. Studies show that the negative extremes get at least double the clicks & interactions than reasonable examples. Clicks = money. So many content creators only show the negative extremes to make more money which eventually messes with ppl's perceptions of real life. Even the ppl who think 6 fig is realistic is due to the financial extremes & lavish lifestyle ppl push online to get clicks.
I’m a married black woman and I’ve been attacked by redpillers in comment sections asking “where’s ur husband at”. As if I don’t have one. They assume every black women doesn’t have a husband 🥴.
I've been told I'm single, lonely, and lying about my relationship all while sitting right next to him showing him what they're saying. They STILL say I'm lying lol.
They are just playing the odds lol, but it is very fun when people confidently assume something wrong about you. I always laugh later reminiscing on their face when they realised . Just dgaf about people who you don't care about.
I was giving birth to my third child and my doctor was switched because we had been in the hospital all night through to the morning and our doctor’s shift was over. The new doc comes in and asks me, in front of my husband, if my other children were born by the same man. My husband was PISSED. To even insinuate the possibility that there had ever been another man in the picture was gross. She also tried to push an unnecessary C-section surgery on me and was just an all around horrible person, so we called for a second opinion while I was in labor, and the doctor who left came back just to deliver my baby naturally for me.
@@susannapoli2308That was disrespectful and uncalled for, even if there are women who lie and have men raise children who aren’t theirs. Hypothetically, if the children were born from different fathers, why would any woman admit to that unless she knew her husband/man would stay regardless?
I mean, yeah, it's wrong...but I can also see where he's coming from (atleast by keeping him in a more neutral light). So many divorces happening these days, so many partners cheating on each other, single parent culture booming...all combined, even I'd have a little bit of doubt whether her man is still with her or not...😅
@@PureRythm not a good excuse to ask a woman if her kid is her partner's kid especially a woman you don't know like bro??? She's a complete stranger. Also wdym "single parent culture" tf is that💀
@@mazhiang_dishia_ first of all, NOT an excuse. It was an explanation. Secondly, yeah, single parent culture, especially in the Western Countries. Not only Single Mothers,.but even Single Father's have been on a rise since the last few years. All of this would make anyone question someone's life choices and directions. Again, NOT an excuse, and what the interviewer did was shitty af...
@PureRythm if you're referring to single moms/dads who were left behind by their partner, I understand the negative undertones, but you do realise there are some people who simply wanna be single parents, right? What's your issue with them? 💀
@mikelund327 Yes, but girls in Miami, LA, and NYC do not represent women everywhere else. Men who assume all women sleep around, have kids with multiple baby daddies, and expect a man to make $400,000 a year, clearly have never spent time outside of the city. Go to the Midwest, the South or anywhere else that does not have a reputation for skanktom, and there are plenty of normal women.
@ScissorsSir Yes and no, I think a better statement would be something like: He is trying to find a way to portray her in a bad light because that's his business model... His income is (probably) based on making videos like this where he finds examples of women who have negative behaviour stereotypes, and he specifically looks for those because that content is what his target demographic engages with most. So while he himself might be "chronically online", here I think it's more accurate to say he's catering to his audience. He still shouldn't ask those rude and leading questions to her though.
It's never about the family. People live in social housing in the UK not ever getting 1000k a month and they still alive. It's about your expense. Know income to debt ratio.
He asks how much does her husband have to make to TAKE CARE of her and HER daughter. It is HIS daughter, too. That is the problem with these men. They see everyone as burden, even heir own children.
He just ASSUMES that shes not earning anything either, which she easily could be. Lots of mothers have to work, particularly if their husband is low to mid income
It's happened to me in Y'all's comments 😂😂😂😂. I mentioned marrying my husband at 20 and I got "and how many times have you physically cheated." Uhhhh, never? I met him with a body count of 0, now my body count is 1. I'm 40. Have I had offers? Sure. Will I ever cheat? No. I couldn't imagine living a lie, my sleep is too precious.
At one point, because one of my two unemployed roommates had chef skills, I fed three adults for $40/week. Granted this was a decade ago in the middle of nowhere with great cost of living, but still. Where I live now, it's $200/week in groceries for *just me.*
You see... People throughout the ages had a technic so they wouldn't need to spend so much money for a single meal. It is called: "Go to the supermarket, buy ingridients and cook". Truly a impressive thing
I don’t know how she is managing rent, utilities, food and other essentials for a family of 3, doctors appointments for the kid, clothes, phone bill, and so on with 1K. She must now pay for day care since she isn’t working I guess, which also means that she is sc4rewed is the dude goes after a “y8unger w6m4an”. Plus when the kid grows up there are school fees, school expenses like books, transportation, etc. I guess she is ok to live in very low standards, although I can’t imagine how even low standards can be achieved with that monthly amount. Couldn’t be me 🤷♀️ This can’t be my l5fe.
There's a weird trend on the internet where not only do these people seem to genuinely dislike women but they absolutely HAVE to make them into villains in every scenario
the thing is that it started with content available on the internet for free, but then as they wanted to monetize the content they started to create their own content by interviewing the same types of people who confirms such world view... so yeah, they are in it for profit so they do always the same topics and content and that is to paint the other gender in a negative shade.
@@FeeDBacKMKIIThe percentage is higher on the male side in part because women don’t often make channels all about men. There are soooo many channels of men just ranting, mocking, etc women and I’m a man saying this.
@@FeeDBacKMKIII haven't seen anything for single women, who hate on men. Not saying it's not there, just the algorithms aren't taking me there. My children are of dating age. That's why I looked into "modern dating" and I found a lot of vile things directed toward women. Scary stuff, really.
@@JK-nq1dlwith all due respect I don’t know if you’ve looked on the other side of things, but there are a vast amount of channels made by women that are exclusively about shitting on men and the exact same way that these red bros do
My husband and I live in the city in the US. We make 113k combined. 34% of our income is housing, and we save/invest 35%. The rest is everything else. We don't spend a ton frivolously, but we are setting ourselves and our kids up for the future. It comes down to what you prioritize with your money. Also, my MIL lives with us, which helps with childcare. I grew up in a multi-generational home and I love being able to provide that for my kids too.
A store clerk assumed I was 18 and I laughed it off. I told him I’m married and pregnant with our 3rd child and he assumed I enjoyed marriage because “I get what I want”. There’s more women out here that value relationships and family than people like him realize.
Man I just don’t get it, that means they’re jealous of achievements of other people and think people always have something hidden to have what they have. Those always try to point something out to bring another person down. Im not a jealous person and it’s not hard to be, be appreciative and supportive is all you need.
@@shamanahaboolistYes the toxic woman hating redpillers would definitely ask😂😂 They can't fathom women out there being able to support themselves that doesn't include onlyfans. They can't fathom real women at all.
15:30 I once confessed to my very close guy friend and got rejected, but that didn't end our friendship because the fact that we liked each other as friends didn't change. I personally don't understand why I should forfeit a good relationship because I can't have it exactly the way I want it. Obviously there's sadness and awkwardness following an unsuccessful confession, but ending a friendship because of that makes little sense to me. For the same reasons I'm still friends with my ex with whom I lived for almost 10 years. With time our priorities ended up diverging and, although the break-up was far from easy, through self-analysis and forgiveness we have been able to overcome our negative emotions and keep caring for each other. I also experienced the end of a friendship because I rejected the guy, and it was a hurtful experience. Years later he told me that he regretted cutting me off.
@@hala-hv8iq Imagine your car is off on the side of the road with a flat tire and you're not prepared to change it. Nice bystanders will drive by and say 'oh that's such a shame, so sorry you have a flat,' and keep driving. Kind bystanders will pull over and verbally give you a hard time for being unprepared while changing your tire.
@@hala-hv8iq Kindness refers to a state of being, a matter of the heart. Niceness refers to a behavior. You can be nice without having a kind heart (eg. maintaining a professional, pleasant customer service attitude even when the customer is atrocious because your job depends on it). Being kind without being nice is a little more difficult but definitely possible (eg. you can be kind but a lot of people lack the skill of packaging hard-to-swallow information in a loving manner, such as telling a family member that their breath chronically stinks without being making them feel horrible about it).
Preach going from basically accusing them of being dirt poor trailer trash to "oh right yeah people *can* live off sensibly of that amount huh" is a level of open minded maturity and reasoning that i wish more people had. I love being subbed to you guys for level-headed takes like this
Yeah, but he was also right. You're not living "comfortably" off 30K a year right now. You're living a stressed out life. You're worrying day in and day out what's next. You're a month, 2 months away from being on the streets(assuming you don't have family to fall back on).
@@scourge8097That depends on a lot of factors, the woman said they only NEED 1k per month, and she literally said that they're living comfortably and that doesn't have to be a lavish lifestyle
@@scourge8097you can live well in Alabama for just 30K a year. I mean given you don't try to buy everything the media pushes you to THINK you need and by cooking
There is a “niceness” I’ve experienced that is disproportionate to the situation/relationship. Like a coworker bringing me flowers or leaving personal post it notes at my desk. The kind of niceness where the guy comes on WAY too strong way too early. Violating social norms. It puts me on edge.
I get what you mean too, sometimes guys will have this very clearly fake niceness to them that screams "I want something from you" and that falseness doesn't make them seem as nice as they think it does. Rather, being chill and acting like a normal person will get you much further.
I agree as a man I understand it can be very icky and pushy. We men must transcend from these non-organic acts of getting to know another human being by just letting the dynamic flow naturally. No rush. Just taking our time and appreciate the person for what it is, rather than pushing our wants and needs. I'm sure you agree Kathy. So where do you work Kathy? Let's have coffee Kathy, I'd like to talk to you about why my long-term plans for a relationship would make you the perfect candidate.
when i broke up with my first gf after 5 years, the dms proofed me right that no theses guys didn't just wanted to be friends. but was a fun time videocalling them after fucked my ex and the suprise faces when they saw me.
That is true, thankfully that is not what happened to me, I actually became a geniune friend to a girl i had a crush on after a rejection. Now i am not saying this is what happens everytime but it can be something to consider happens.
I think it can happen that they can go on to be friends, but it requires both parties to actually be friends, if either has an ulterior motive or is not putting in equal effort, it will fall apart. once it falls apart people go back and rewrite history to say "they were only doing that to..." and it is not always true. the only want to be friends is to BE friends. it's never just some default because you don't agree on attraction.
I live in Germany, me my wife, and our 10 month baby, Total expenses every month, (rent, food, diapers, we dont buy cloths every month, petrol for the car, ) is roughly 2000 euros, we live in two bed room apartment. so basically with 24 to 25k, we will not lack any "basic" need for a yr. yes, its not luxury, but we never go a day without food and shelter, and don't buy expensive stuff,.. redpill seriously got ppl living in a bubble
@@milanelst5754 He's talking about expenses. Cost of living. I make like 50k a year. As a single 25 year old male, I think 30k a year with a (stay-at-home wife) plus 3 kids is really struggling. I don't see how.
But in order to keep that 25k, wouldn’t you actually to make about 40k in Germany? Which then compared to the national average and wage proportions, is really not low anymore (I also live in Germany so I’m genuinely curious)
My wife (R.I.P) and I bought our home in 2006 and paid it off in 4 years. Then we saved up and tore the smaller home down and put up a new bigger home in its place. She was a waitress at Dennys and I did construction 9 months a year. We lived within our means and we had 2 kids 10 and 14 now and she's been gone for 4 years now and we are still living in this home that's paid for. She pushed for all this to happen and I am blessed by it.
16:40 The girl is not wrong, a lot of guys start a "friendship" with a secondary intention; when girls kinda notice, we sometimes choose not to say a word about it because we know the friendship will be "ruined". And this guy saying "the goal was not friendship, the goal was to be with you, and that is not happening, then why would I be around?" is pretty f up. You are telling me that 1. you were being dishonest this entire time by making me believe we were friends 2. you are just a kid that will throw a tantrum when he does not get what he wants (and again.. wants, has no right to it).. That entire thing is awful.. Like, you want to walk away after I said no, no problem, but take it as it is.. Im not the mean one, you simply did not have the courage to ask me to my face if I would be interested in going out with you, and DECIDED to make me believe you were interested in a friendship, that's on you, don't try to make me the villain of your story. Not just girls, but anybody out there listening.. Please do no let anybody make you feel guilty after their plans didn't work on you.
This comment is exactly on point. Blog entry but a few years ago I went through a rough break-up and was single for the first time in about two years. When men in my social network suddenly started being extremely nice to me, I told myself it was just an effort to be supportive because it had been a rough break-up, and that suspecting anyone had ulterior motives reflected poorly on me, not them. Finding out otherwise really troubled me and impacted my ability to trust 'good samaritans'. Men respond to getting 'friend zoned' like it's an act of unspeakable cruelty, but to me what felt cruel was getting abandoned because 'just being friends' was all I wanted, and that wasn't good enough for them.
I think it’s fair. You can have friendships with the goal of them being friendships, but if your goal was to build a relationship with someone it’s completely reasonable to decide to cut it out if it doesn’t work the way you thought. People shouldn’t feel like they should keep something that hurts them. it goes for both genders too, if you want something out of a relationship and you aren’t getting that, it’s not selfish to cut it off, just communicate that directly with the person and end it maturely.
OTOH, there's the far more common scenario that romantic feelings developed along the way of the friendship (because why/how would anyone be genuinely attracted to someone they wouldn't even consider as a friend in the first place), and when they're confessed the reaction is "so you just wanted to get in my pants and were faking a friendship all along???", and when the rejected person needs to step away to do healing and emotional damage control of their own (because a kindly given slap is still a slap), then they're suddendly "showing their true colors by abandoning the person they wanted to become romantically involved with, because that's clearly the only thing they wanted all along". SMH.
@@middproxxy6790 It would be perceived very differently if it was just 'stepping away for a little while to heal', but I think in most experiences like OP & myself were talking about, the 'step away' isn't temporary, and the hurt feelings are used as justification for completely abandoning the relationship. The number of times men actively lash out or villainize the former object of their affections because they feel 'led on' shouldn't be dismissed, either, because that's the equivalent of someone 'slapping' you accidentally and with full regret and then you returning the blow intentionally at full force out of spite. It's understandable to get your feelings hurt because romantic inclinations aren't reciprocated but the fact that so many men justify abandoning the platonic relationship entirely afterwards is shockingly immature. I've confessed to someone before and gotten shot down, too, it stung but I'm still friends with them to this day. I had to decide whether I valued having them in my life more than I valued my own bruised ego. I'm not going to say hanging out afterwards wasn't awkward at first and I definitely didn't get over my feelings fast, but I'm so glad that I did because the dude's like a brother to me now, if I ever got into a serious emergency he'd be someone I know I could call on, come hell or high water. The hurt feelings were worth getting over.
@middproxxy6790. You're on point I agree with you. Let's not pretend that feelings can't just develop over time. It's happened to me, and I was lucky enough that the feelings were mutual. And then there like a few moments where I wasn't so lucky. And then the same would happen to me in the reserve way. Speaking on the hetero sense. There's also a few specific ones where I was able to retain the friendship after being in the relationship. It just depends on the maturity level of each, and keeping things as genuine as possible. It's not impossible to cross this line and not be friends in the end if you handle things level headed. And there's absolutely nothing wrong for asking for space to let that process flow. What isn't okay is to act immature off of the response of rejection, but needing space to heal should be understood. Yes, in some cases some guys (and girls let's be fair here) go into friendship with a crush with a "secret plan", but let's not place all of them into the same bucket.
You have to understand that some of us are dumbasses and have too much conventional thinking behind our choices. You can't look in the same place that everyone else is looking in. It isnt to do with being online but more to do with location. I've seen and had a fair share of overrated women way before redpill was a thing.
I remember when my wife and I were dating she asked to eat and go for a walk. I had a problem because no woman had wanted to do something so simple. She was always happy with coffee, watching the sunset with me. Anything just to spend time with me
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me , I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
22:01 that’s 100% true. I’m middle eastern and my husband is from Honduras. My sisters who live in the middle east and married there are always amazed that my husband helps me with household chores or always plays with our kids or changes diapers or cooks for me sometimes or that he wanted to be with me at the hospital when i was giving birth to our children. It’s amazing to see the difference.
He's not helping you,he's contributing to the household chores and raising his kids ,if you are working and he's also working,no one,I mean no one will be surprised and say you are "helping" your husband pay the bills because you are working,kudos to you, ", no, it would be an expectation from you,so I am going to need women to expect men to be competent with household chores abd raising kids.you are not marrying a child you are marrying a grown adult
That's wonderful you have a blessed great man ❤ and thats hes a wonderful helpful hardworking husband. God bless you and I'm very happy for you sis. I recently got married this month too and really got a keeper.
@natebeal18 harder to find? They're everywhere😂 I don't mean to be mean but what you see online isn't Representative at ALL of any demographic because what goes big on social media tends to be more extreme anyway
As a girl when another girl describes a guy’s behavior, as “mean”, I interpret that as threatening, violence, or vindictive. The term “mean” is always less than what it actually is, it’s normally direct and intentional. Lots malice. When it comes to guys being “cold”, that’s described as the actions that they’re doing. He’s not talking to me. He’s ignoring my text messages. He walked past me like I didn’t exist. Those are how cold are described from my experience. Guys, being “cold” causes more anxiety than fear, but guys being “mean”, causes more fear than anxiety.
Ah yes, nice guys and nice girls. Who tend to be quiet nice at first, mabe even get along well with you. But you may onl enjoy a friendship, while they came in day one with the intent to get with you. That even start picturing their entire future with you. And the moment you reality check them and they realize you only want a friendship all thet can turn to malice and hate. All because they cannot live with the simple fact that one does not chose who you feel attracted to and fall for. Nor that just being nice or do kind acts does not entitle you to anything.
That is YOUR interpretation, though. Nothing against you, it's a fair assessment and it makes sense. But I have heard many different interpretations of what being mean like is (yes, from girls). So, it could literally be anything. Like stopping making her the center of the world and not caving in to everything like before. This change of posture also hits hard to a lot of girls who the guy was giving special treatment, and this special treatment stops, and the guy just treats her, well... normally.
I didn't know that. Thanks for the input, it was very insightful. Edit: I asked my sister and she said boy being "mean" is just that: mean. No more no less. No deep implications. So.... I'm not sure how this work.
Not every woman is looking for a rich 100,000$/yr man...some of us actually just want someone that treats us with love and respect .. the financial shit is secondary..
@musiczkl98 Actual women keep telling you this isn't the case. It is for SOME women, but to make it seem like that's what every woman wants is inaccurate. I can garuantee you most married women right now, don't have super wealthy partners.
I love how they talked about how when you’re poor you find ways to survive. It made me think of my Grandma who passed last year but she lived through the Great Depression. But when I was in high school we were driving down the road and she screamed for us to pull over and my mom her daughter slammed on the brake and pulled over. My 80 year old grandma hopped out of the car and ran down the banking to a pile produce boxes and going through them. She than started yelling with joy for us to come help her load them into the car. In total there were 12 boxes of cucumbers, onions and peppers I never saw my grandma this happy before. We got back to her place and spent the next 8 hours making relish out of the produce from the boxes from the side of the road. my whole family on my moms side showed up and it was a day to celebrate my aunts and uncles all came by to help and bring the all the other items to make the relish. This story was told at my grandma funeral and the whole family laughed about it my now wife who was new to the family at the time was shocked by the story and confused why we were so happy about finding and eating half rotten vegetables. That’s when it really kicked in that we were raised poor because my grandma lost a brother during the great depression so she handed down ways to survive even during bad times and those same habits were passed down to me and my siblings.
i think the main issue is many men lie that they want to be friends with you when they don't. it's not like the realization is instant. maybe for some women, it is. but for me, most of the time, it takes time to realize or to be sure, "oh, they are interested in me in THAT way". so like if the original intention is friendship, and THEN you have a crush on your actual friend, even if you are rejected, you still want to be friend with them. like maybe you would nurse your broken heart away for awhile but then you will come back to them as friends again. AND THAT THE MASSIVE DIFFERENT between those who lie and those who are real about their friendship. how do i know this? because believe it or not, many girls and women do get crushes on their male friends too! and you know what else? when the friendship is real, sometimes, you just ignore your feelings because you value that friendship more than a romantic relationship. that's why i really really hate it when boy and men lie about their friendship and then complain about girls and women think of them as jerks for not wanting to remain friends. they don't realize they are at the same level as scammers
Because it's awkward to stay after confessing to your female friend. Friendship unexpectedly goes to romance, guy confesses, is rejected. Guy leaves because hanging around will bring up unwanted feelings of what could have been. He leaves, no longer friends with the girl, and all is in peace.
@oompalumpus699 the point is still that if you felt an attraction to someone, why act like you wanna be friends. If you wanted to be someone's friend, being rejected after getting feelings wouldn't diminish the friendship. You're just lying to yourself to get closer. That's so fake to do to a girl to be in her life, say you have the hots for her when you knew she didn't feel the same, then ditch her cuz you didn't get what you wanted. Literally just stay out of a female's life if you can only view them romantically
I was looking for a comment on this. I 100% agree. Like, if you are going into the relationship with the intention of potentially dating, that's a different thing than if you just are friends with no intention of romance and then one of you catches feelings. Like I get it if for the person with feelings it's too painful for them to continue spending time around that person, but for me, I'd rather enjoy the good times with the other person and still enjoy their company in the ways that I can despite knowing it will never lead anywhere, because I care about them a as a person and not just a romantic partner. I actually have a friend that I know loves me that way and we've both had a conversation about it. The real thing is that, really, it doesn't actually change anything about your relationship to that person, their feelings existed before the convo and it wasn't awkward, so why does it have to be awkward after? The only reason that guys say it's awkward is because they are expecting the other person to reciprocate even after rejection and then they get upset. Why can't they just enjoy spending time with them and look for romance elsewhere? I also have another friend that I technically have feelings for, but I also know that we would not be compatible in a romantic relationship. They are fully aware of my feelings, but nothing has changed for us. I still love spending time with them and so do they, we just are aware that what we have is as far as it will go and we are okay with that. I mean, now that I think about it, really the person who has feelings is really the one that is being selfish by expecting that their friend will reciprocate feelings and that they need to after they've confessed. Expecting someone else to give you what you want despite their feelings is just... rude.
@@oompalumpus699I’ve had it happen to me before, and it was upsetting. I thought I had made a friend, didn’t realize the guy was into me, then after he confessed and I rejected him, he said he didn’t want to be friends anymore. It hurt because I really valued our friendship, and I felt like I wasn’t valued at all as a friend, only as a potential partner. I get why it’s hard on the guy, but it sucks for both parties. And this is a consistent problem, even when I lay out my boundaries early on. I could say outright that I’m not interested in a romantic relationship, and thus feel confident that both of us just want to build a friendship. Then, if I start getting the feeling the other person has romantic interest in me, I try to ignore it because I already said I wasn’t interested and I don’t want to bring it up first. If they do confess, I get dropped the moment I don’t return romantic interest, even when I made it clear from the start that what I wanted a friend. At the very least, if somebody says they aren’t looking for a partner, take their word for it and don’t assume that’s going to change for you. Figure out boundaries and control yourself. Maintain healthy platonic friendships. Idk. I’ve never been in love, I’m not sure how hard it is. I’m probably being an ass. But dammit this has happened one too many times and it’s frustrating to have someone you thought of as a friend change up on you so quickly.
Absolutely agree with you and @AirashiiTiayou when a friend I had for years (or at least some time and we were really close friends) turns around and EXPECTS me to accept his confession and recoprocate or else my friendship to him is worth nothing I fell so devalued as a human being. I get that the man may be hurt and wants to protect his feelings and not be reminded of them whenever we see each other. But did our meaningful connection mean nothing to you if I'm not gonna sleep with you, too? I had this in the past and honestly, I felt as if some boys were selfish themselves, demanding that our relationship has to be their way or the highway.
Yah man, I made average of $40k per year for the past 8 years. I was able to live very comfortably. Only thing is, you can't to long international vacations and must do camping instead, can't be buying a new car every five years and must opt for a 5-year old car only every 10 years, and won't be able to save much for retirement which means you must have some sort of pension arrangement.
I deleted ALL food delivery apps. I rarely use them, but whenever I did I kept noticing that my items cost $15, but after I go to pay plus tip its $32-$35. Ridiculous
That phrase isn't some gotcha when stat's like this exist. In the country I live a home was 4x annual salary 50 yesrs ago, now it's over 10x. No amount of live within you means is gonna do shit. The home I currently live in that I'm renting was 40k in the 90s, I can literally buy 3 of those. The home 5 years ago was bought for over 1 mill. I have zero chance. (This isn't a new home btw)
Yup I had issues like that in my past marriage. As soon as he started to earn a lot he wanted steaks all the time, wanted to uber instead of taking the tram for 3 stops, wanted a bigger TV, a ps5 as soon as it came out, etc.
@@ArteneMaria-s1lI am a woman and helped my ex boyfriend with his rent. But he bought a gaming pc and then became homeless. Some people can't be helped.
I don’t think that people think about the fact that the couple can get food stamps which means they do not have to buy food. We have a lot of supplemental income in the states honestly.
We have 3 children. We were spending about 500-700 monthly eating out. We stopped eating out for six months. That's over 3k back in our pockets. We saved close to 6k over the year. Here's the thing... we make good money but still try to find ways to preserve our money and find better places to put it.
In reality, if a woman is like that and maintains that disposition throughout her lifetime. She is probably about 1 to 5% of the population. Certainly, it isn't normal, or you run into every day. There are many gold medal winners in the Olympics. How many do you meet on a daily basis? It is what it is.
@avebroncx Who are you people? I just look at the numbers, and I go from there. This man married a rare gem. That is not normal if you look at the numbers. They haven't reached the 8 year mark, so we will see. But, if they make it last. That certainly isn't normal. How many 25-year plus marriages are there compared to divorces and single moms. Come on, we have to start being honest with ourselves. Everyone knows a single mom and a divorcee. They are common (normal), not long-lasting, healthy marriages.
I’m white and dated an Arab before and holy shit aba is so right 😭😭😭😭 the next guy let me go through the door first and I was about to ask him to marry me
I got choked up when the next guy vacuumed the whole flat. My ex once did 1/3 of the kitchen floor and was proud of helping me 😂 At this moment I realised the bar was in hell 😂
I left my Arab and I’m still too traumatized to date men in general. But I need to find myself a normal American soon. But I have 3 kids with the Arab.. pray for me
19:08 I feel like that sort of interest in behaviour from a partner tells you much more about what you consider yourself worth in treatment, self hate is more common when you’re younger so….and that’s when you’re still obsessed with making sure you are everybody else’s expectation of what you should be rather than what you yourself want to be.
I live out in the middle of no where, my rent is $600 per month, I’m blessed. And plan on having 2 kids, I make $24k my bf makes $30k a year. We are happy, paying off some small debts and building credit. Land prices? 6 acres for $50k Obscene ikr❤ Blessed
If it's OK to ask, do you guys have to commute a long way for your jobs or is it a work from home situation? (Or working on the land, like a farm/ranch situation?)
Sounds like Arizona or something. I guess you can find some steals on the East Coast like in North ga or sc, but those land prices seem more mid western to me. That being said, it ain't bad out there.
Raised two boys on less than 30k, obviously not in fucking luxury, but somehow they survived. EDIT: Still raising them, both still live with me 15 and 19, I pay for their lives. Yes current year and in a city. Bonus answers, father is one man whom I have been with 24 years as of May. Freaking Aba and Preach blowing up my comment.
My wife told me the difference and ever since she pointed it out, I’ve seen the fake nice guys she talked about. One included a former friend of hers who became downright hostile to the point of making her fear for her safety after she politely declined when he made a move on her after we started dating. He’d been friend with her ex and felt entitled to his chance with her before me since she knew him first and he’d always had eyes for her. He went from teddy bear to grizzly bear.
@@JK-nq1dl teddy bear to grizzly bear is such an accurate description! That's how people will act. You think they could never hurt even a fly and then reject them and see they will make you regret it.
Yup, big difference in intentions between a good dude and a nice guy. Good dude is improving himself and his situation for his own good. He isn't bitter if women turn him down because he doesn't rely on their validation. Nice guy pretends to improve himself or only does it temporarily in an attempt to win women/people's validation. He gets bitter and violent when call out his insecurity.
Nice used to mean idiot, ignorant. It was a negative thing to say. Nowadays, just means being polite and acting within the social norm. Kindness, being a good dude means you actually give a shit and care about people. I have met and loved some of the most ornery old people who have never been nice but have always been fiercely kind.
@@GalaxyKaneI live in the Netherlands and most people here are married or have children. Americans need to stop thinking that the internet represents the entire world. It is rotting away your IQ.
This is how regular people are. The red pill stuff is the online generation. I’ve been with my husband since I was 21 years old. When we got married he made mid 40s and I made less than 30 k. We’ve struggled together and prospered together at times. We’ve more than doubled our income since then and have two kids. I can’t even imagine my life without him even if everything falls apart. He’s a part of my soul.
Congratulations on having found such a wonderful man, and congratulations for him having found such a wonderful woman. Relationships should truly be that, an intertwining of souls, not just two people who just agreed to sign papers and live together. It is a powerful thing!
Tf are you talking about, fmnzm fked everything up, ♀are the problem and men just reacting and adapting. If you were right, the numbers would reflect this, but sexlessness, sexual disparity, single motherhood rates and low birth rates say otherwise. Is what it is. 🤷💊
Witnessed the dating scene change first-hand. It culminated when fb and myspace got big. Every impressionable kid in the world was on it. Little girls learned how to exploit their bodies to a high degree. Little boys felt like they had to have the most attractive girl in the world to be cool. This made boys meet whatever requirements a girl had, to date. This gave the girls all the power and the girls exploited it heavily. Those kids are young adults in their mid to late 20s now and things have hardly changed. Good thing is a lot of people like you and me weren't affected by this so there's still hope. The only solution is to bring the problem to light because the young adults don't realize the damage they are causing. There's a huge divide between young men and women right now. I think only 27% of men globally are in a relationship right now. Men feel used and taken advantage of and finally know how to express it to the entire world, which is why "women hate" videos have been going viral the past few years. Social media culture literally ruined society- created so much jealousy and selfishness. People aren't normal anymore. To the point it's surprising when someone is normal.
The stereotypes are true, you ♀are terrible at math. If this was "regular people" the _statistics_ wouldn't be what they are, and these females would be _everywhere_ Newsflash: *They're not.* and no amount of wishing they were is going to change that. If you're in an exceptional situation, cool, but you only _prove_ that you're not the rule. 🤡🌍
DNA Clinics, a subsidiary of the BioClinics Group in Salford, analyzed 5,000 results randomly selected from January 2014 to June 2016, revealing a striking outcome: 48% of UK men tested, were not the biological father.
at 16:00 yeah, most guys I could tell and cut out quickly but there were others that I didn't know until like 2 yrs in they confessed, I didn't see it coming at all, and it almost feels like... a betrayal? Like bro you didn't get friendzoned I got "girlfriendzoned" and then I feel stupid for not being able to tell because I usually pick up on that super fast. Every once in a while one slips through though. It happens but not often.
1:35 the math is mathing. She’s got a southern accent. Average 1% in TN/VA is making 100k. We average in VA and TN for average income around 30-60k. Southwest Va and Northeast TN. Not big cities but Bristol is a decent size. 60-80k people. I don’t care to say where I’m from. I’m a musician from the area. Just want to shed some light on the area and the possibilities that disprove social media’s definition of success.
Yeah, I’m from Ohio and if you’re in a relationship and you’re both at least making 30 K you’ll be straight me personally I’ll make it 40k delivering packages and my wife is 45k as a teacher we straight bro
Depends on where in Tennessee. Nashville? 50 or it’s not gonna happen. Those places cost 2000+ a month. Overall, you can totally make it happen if you’re not being some kind of a party animal. You can support a SMALL family on 50k in many places, not lavishly. A decent two bedroom (or large 1 br) in Murfreesboro is 1500/month after fees. Location location!
I live outside of Nashville and wages average income in the area now is $45,000 a year you still won't make it on that by yourself considering rent in an apartment is about $2000 and if you want to rent a house good luck with thatif you search all over you might find some townhomes that are less expensive in a couple areas but they tend to stay full because of that
I took care of a family of 4, 2 children and my wife with $55k a year. Every year my income improved but because of the time not making a lot I learned to budget and save. I took the family on vacay every year and we traveled to the annual family reunion every year. People are terrible with money.
Hey bro how’d u do it?I make less then u by 10 k hahaha…. What’s ur advice? I’m good at saving, but I’d love to know how YOU did it per se. You’ll know something I won’t
@@moonknight4053 He'll have literally zero debt. Do you have zero debt? Average income tax in the states is 14%, so 55k is 47k after income tax. Average rent in the US (which factors in ALL city rents) is 1700, so after rent that's 27k. With no doubt, you can easily pay for a family of 4's food, clothing and bills with 27k. If you live in a rural, low-cost area that might venture all the way into being "easy" to pay for it all and having a decent holiday's worth of cash left over. Every time somebody claims you need hundreds of thousands of dollars just to live and then you look into their finances, you immediately see they're spending tens of thousands of dollars on fucking door dash, and vapes, and weed, and then they're wasting thousands of dollars a month on credit card repayments as if any of that is normal.
@@moonknight4053 I owned the cars out right, I budgeted down to he penny, saved every paycheck, we ate at home most days (my cooks very well.), and I focused on needs over wants.
@@arighteousperspective So I guess I just keep doin what I’m doing, try not to bug much takeout and if I do… at least save for it. Spend very wisely, keep putting 20 or even more dollars into my emergency fund, budget for homecooked meals, etc
The point at 14 min mark about friendship goes both ways. I've been friends with people I pined over and never said a thing because I didn't want to ruin what I had with them. I was content being just friends and did not want to risk it on a possibility of going out together. But it was back when I was younger. As I grew up I realised thats if I had a crush on someone it was best to test the water immediately because otherwise the feelings would grow and I'd never get the courage to get out of the friendzone. Better to see where the other person's at quickly so you can get over them if the feelings aren't mutual
@@lastsong7159 don’t they exploit Africans for cheap or non payed labour in a lot of Arab countries? Both the men and women are the same if you ask me.
I dated a girl in college who's grandfather was a multimillionaire construction company owner. She would tell me how this guy would turn off the AC to half the house at night and keep the lights off just to save on electricity. Even though he lived in one of the nicest neighborhoods in Miami. Another guy I met on a church trip would wear cheap pants and polos. I noticed his son driving off in a BMW and he confided in me the he was wealthy but lived within his means. Another guy I knew was the heir to a construction company. His dad lived in a middle class neighborhood in Miami and had a couple of regular cars. He only kept a Lamborghini for nice nights out with his wife and for business meetings. The rich move different. Read Millionaire Mindset and see how.
Turning off the AC and making everyone in the house uncomfortable isn’t some good trait. You don’t need to spend money like crazy on stupid shit but at least let your family be comfortable. Also, people use stuff like that as a way of abuse. Turning the AC off, turning the heater off, turning the hot water off etc. Don’t glamorize that behavior.
In Miami it is illegal to turn off the AC because of the way the houses are built and due to mold. This person was extremely cheap and doing something illegal risking their family health. You guys see these extreme examples and think it is cool.
I live in Northern Ireland in a rural area. I lived on £1000 a month easily. I don’t go out for dinner often, I don’t drink or party. I prefer going to the gym, going on hikes and cooking my own meals. I thrift most of my clothing. I was still able to go on holiday every year somewhere nice.
@@PersonalAcc1989 Pounds, it's a lot if you live in the Philippines, it's very little if you live in any Western country. It's less than what 15 m2 room will cost you in W European capitals monthly.
@@humblefloat The OP is implying that he/she can tell because that lady isn't fat. Well, I hate to burst OP's little bubble, but I know people who are fat despite never eating fast food, _because_ they like to cook from scratch. People exist who just have a genuine passion for making and enjoying good home-cooked food.
@@itsppi he wants an open relationship but only he gets to date other girls. She tried dating another guy but he got so jealous he went and got into a fight to show his frustration. He also would ghost her out of nowhere and text her back like nothing happened after a few days. He keeps saying he doesn't want a commitment but expects it from her.
you might be the first youtubers i have seen admit that there can be a massive difference in cost of living from rural places and cities. i made 66k last year and my wife is a stay at home mom, we have 3 kids, a 4-5 bedroom house (we are using one as a office), 2 vehicles, my house payment is 700 a month.... im pretty damn comfy on 66k a year. For those who ask, small towns in kansas.
I just got reminded me of a self-proclaimed "nice guy" i met a few years ago. About a month into us knowing each other, he posted about how girls reject nice guys and always go for the bad guys and get their hearts broken then say it's all men yadayada. The day we first met, i had given him my number, and within the first 2 hours of us talking, he had told me 5 pick-up lines back-to-back😭. It was crazy because i liked him, but holding a conversation with him was so hard because he just kept throwing pick-up lines at me. So seeing that on his story had made me laugh because he clearly thought girls rejected him because he was a "nice guy", when it probably wasn't even that most of the time, he was just hard to talk to.
Posted on his story? WTF does that even mean, cuz i hear that ALOT from women, about them posting on stories or how they watch guys stories and like them by accident, im just going to assume its sone social media platform.
The same happened to me when I was dating. The guy couldn't carry a conversation, it was awkward and at times I felt bad for him. After about two dates I called it quits.
Bro, the turning the lights out thing. I can so relate to that! When we were younger, my little brother always used to keep his lights on, even when we were going out! I always turned his lights out for him because I always thought that I didn’t want to waste my parents’ money on something stupid like that. Even now when I’m older I do things to save a little on electricity, like only charging my phone and laptop at school if I can afford to.
Lol the story Abba was telling about spending three hours trying to save 150 on a flight reminds me of my grandfather so much. He grew up poor but worked his way up to become fair well off. He would price check all these grocery stores and drive across town and spend probably more on gas and time to save a few dollars
Interviewer: "How long you had a man?" Woman: "Five years" Interviewer: "And how long have you had a baby?" Woman: "She is almost two" Interviewer: "Was it with him or with someone else?" My mans was not thinking when he asked that last question🤣
Idk where she lives to live that cheap, but seems like she’s ok as long as her man can take care of her and she doesn’t need the super fancy lifestyle. A win in my book.
Likely more than 90 minutes away from a significant metro area. People commute to metro areas to work so if you look to see where the 'too far' line is to commute you will start to find really affordable housing.
It's like that in Canada, everything is reasonably cheaper out side the metro areas and especially if you're a couple sharing your finance you will be fine.@@scurvofpcp
Alot of america is like that. Omaha you can get a nice 1 bed apartment decent to good area 675-700. Gas 3.10 dollars We can go lower but is a shit box in the hood i saw something for 450.
I have no clue where she could live that $1000 a month would cut it with a baby. What about food, insurance, car potentially, light bill, gas bill, internet, phone, gas for the vehicle, diapers, etc. I don't believe $1000 anywhere is cutting it
A point on the women and men being friends thing... I don't meet people on dating apps. I tend to meet people at social events and if we click, we click. I'll usually wear a wedding ring and make it a point to adjust my glasses a couple of times with that hand while making eye contact. It's been the easiest way for me to avoid expectations I don't want put on me. I hate that I have to do it, but a lot of men have no respect for the idea that a single woman isn't always on the menu. I have a lot of hobbies that are popular with men and I don't need them thinking I'm there looking for love. If there's any misunderstandings I just say I'm married and show the ring. If they're good people with good intentions they back off fast.
Im a man and most of my closest friend are men, but my social circle as a whole is 50/50 with women and men. I have never understood why some people think men and women cant be friends. Like what? It requires a person to have some sort of prejudice, man or woman to not see the fact that you dont have to do anything special just be your damn self. If you like a person, chill with them. If you notice you catch feelings, tell them honestly but not forcefully or in a way that makes you seem desperate. Its natural that people will catch feelings when being with people for an extended period of time but there is no shame in being told no. If you were actual friends, you get over it and move on. I know this comes from me growing up around strong women and strong men and having female cousins that I hung with alot. Fear of rejection and abandonment is horrible, believe me I know this. But I know that those feelings do not actually come from the women in my life. My mind told me that because im a heterosexual male and want women to like me obviously. So when they didnt, or atleast I believed so at the time, I became bitter. But I realized that this low sense of self-worth and fear of rejection comes from the bullying I experienced as a child. And those bullies were dudes, as they mostly are. Its easy for men to blame women for everything and I dont wanna sound like a meek capitalist girlboss male feminist but its just facts. The best words I have ever heard from someone came from a very good female friend when she told me that i am a beautiful person because I think she saw how hard I am on myself, that stuck with me and those words still ring in my head sometimes when the world tries to fuck with me
I make 40k (working construction) with a stay at home wife and a child. Cheap rent for a really nice neighborhood, low living expenses, with a little play around money (a few hundred). Just be smart with your money. It take's responsibility to budget, not a genius.
@@zoulzopan I do flooring for a small family business... my family. Not a union. I get my raises for working hard + benefits. We're subcontractors who work along side the biggest local material distributor. Any work expenses paid for, PTO, with a vehicle and all tools. I'm a simple man working to better myself and my family. It's not my bussiness to be drowning in money. I make what I need + some.
@@mixyballer8384 i understand but 40k a year for the work you do sounds criminal to me. If you live in the west you can make easily 100k a year but even more if you have your own business. But you do you and hope for the best for you.
Depends where you live. My wife and I had one car for the first few years we were married, my wife cooked all our meals, we didn’t go on vacations, we don’t get $1,000 phones and $500 smartwatches, we don’t get $8 coffees. We spent time together watching movies or playing games. It was my wife and I and our 2 kids and we didn’t need anyone else. We had tons of fun and grew closer as a family.
True but 30k still isn't enough for that. That's like 2600 a month. (1100) rent for a bad apartment w utilities (300)month car payment (400) a month for food (100) a month for gas/ transportation. 500-700 a month for child expenses like diapers formula clothes etc. Thats 2400-2600 which leaves you with 0-200 for anything else that comes up in the month like entertainment or car repairs or hospital visits.
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DNA Clinics, a subsidiary of the BioClinics Group in Salford, analyzed 5,000 results randomly selected from January 2014 to June 2016, revealing a striking outcome: 48% of UK men tested, were not the biological father.
2:15 Yeah, definitely have to consider where you're at and their circumstances. Notice that when listing expenses, she didn't mention "mortgage?" Probably already paid for ... my daughter has a home in Arkansas, a town of about 30K population. It's about 1600 sq.ft., 4 bedrooms, 1/2 acre lot ... and she owns the home free and clear, paid by her grandmother. She owns her car outright too; no more car payments. My mortgage is a significant part of my expenses, but my last apartment before I became a homeowner, I could have lived (and did) on 35K a year. So, if you don't need to worry about rent/mortgage, and all you need are groceries, toiletries, and utilities, 30K a year can easily be enough. You're not living extravagantly, but you have enough to meet your needs with some room to spare.
FR, anytime I read a red pillers bitter comment, I think to myself I literally don’t know One woman in real life that’s like what they’re describing 😂😂 like get off the internet, go outside and interact with ppl IRL FFS it’s embarrassing
For real. It like bro go touch some grass. It’s like of course if you roll in shit you’re going to attract the flies. Not all women’s fault you find the shitty ones 😂
Maybe maybe. But about 8-9 out of 10 (those I found out, not sure about the rest) females I got with one way or another turned out to have boyfriends or husbands, even fiances. Mind you, that wasn't form clubs or tinders. I was looking for something real and decent, not for hoes.
Same rent is 550 per month, I'm a student work part time make around £10,000 per year, partner makes £26,000 per year, 1 kid and we still holiday around Europe twice a year, we have a nice life, I have never been a big shopper or materialistic, we love the gym don't need to dress fancy to look good when your body is already good 😅
@@cheuk7765probably middle of nowhere Texas, Kansas or Nebraska would be my guess, an hour away from a grocery or convenience store and 2 hours away from a hospital. I’m curious also!
One time I mentioned how much I spend on my hair and beauty routine in a month. I was told I was “hiding my finances” because my bf didn’t care how much I spend, because he isn’t paying for it and that I’d be single forever. In reality it was less than 1% of my income, we talk about our brokerage accounts, real estate investing, and savings rate all the time, and we’re engaged now. Some of these weirdo men are so chronically online they cannot comprehend people living a normal life.
If this was "normal" then the *red pill* wouldn't exist, and this video wouldn't even be worth reviewing. She's the exception, not the rule. aka _the math aint mathin dumbo_ 🤡🌍
Agreed… I’m a an elderly black woman who’s a pensioner in Australia 🇦🇺 who’s living inside my means always in credit all bills. Not living lavishly but comfortably at my age. With no debt. With insurance and funeral plan ready. Yet the rest of my family is struggling. I tried helping but I’m always broke after. I even offered to help them budget strictly like I do, but they’re always willing to spend big. Living outside their means. You just can’t help those who don’t see the value and benefits of living well. Sad but true. But I do help when I can, not by being constantly broke. Thought I do love spoiling my family when I can. And penny pinching, almost all your life is muscle memory because we know the value of money.
As a fellow Australian I’m truly impressed. I’m not sure where you live but where I am is over the top expensive just for essentials let alone for a mortgage.
@@wanderingstar5270 Hi… In between Ipswich and Brisbane + I rent from housing…I learnt the value of money from my English foster parents and they taught me from a child to work and eventually save…but due to helping my family I had to sell my home. But regardless I landed on my feet and became more strong and stricter and learned to say no to my family when it doesn’t benefit all the family…thinking ahead with planning is the key, regardless of age, I planned from my early 20’s to be at least secure in old age, even if I lost my home. But that doesn’t matter. The end result was worth the risk. I still enjoy going to the movies, museums, restaurants, plays, and walkabouts while camping in QLD and sometimes NSW. I hope you eventually get your security and lovely golden age retirement. Live for you and your immediate family. Blessings to you all.
What you said about niceness is exactly what I heard from guys about me as a girl. 100% that I'm too nice, that they think is signifies I would be a pushover and they want excitement and I could be boring. They didn't even know me well, it's a vibe a person gives off. Being older now I understand there is healing to be done. There is some trauma response that people pick up on. To all the "nice" people: You go out to the world from your house that maybe wasn't extremely abusive, so it's not so obvious. Maybe your household revolved around someone's mood and well-being. Maybe your sibling revolted against this power dynamic and maybe your burden was to tune in and act according to the needs of the person. All your life you learnt how to serve other people's emotional needs. It's a coping mechanism that has root in fear. It's ingrained in you so you take it with you to the world. People outside your household see this fear based niceness and are repulsed by it. I the words of Dr JP you need to grow teeth and set boundaries. Healing is the key. And in the end you will learn the difference between "niceness" and kindness.
So true. Nice observations. When I was teaching a few years ago in a challenging high school, I had noticed that the boys who grew with a single mother were the ones who would be really into alpha stuff. They were not necessarily traumatized or abused but they grew around women and were looking for a model of masculinity, going for extremes because that’s easily available and them just stereotyping a lot because they are influenceable teenagers. I wonder if they grew out of it or stayed that way. A lot has to do with how you grew and what was missing. Maybe you missed nothing.
"from guys..." You mean from chad and tyrone. the overwhelming majority of dude are _fiending_ for nice females, ironically they're the ones females ignore. Can't see the forest if you're staring at the trees. 💊
If i enjoy seeing others winning and succeeding and assisting others in acts from achieving their goals, to just being generally thoughtful on a day to day basis, does that make me nice and therefore a need to heal? An interesting thought. There is a major difference between being nice and being a pushover or having a need to please. Me personally, I believe i am nice not because of a need for validation or because of some deep rooted fear, but because its great to see others happy as well as yourself. What do you lot reckon?
21:47 this is so true😭 I dated a Moroccan man and I was glad he stayed with me after he stopped speaking to me for a month. The next relationship I was in was with a lowkey abusive guy but I was mind blown by him answering my texts💀
My parents had 7 kids together and they raised us on a 30-35k salary in the early to late 2000's. We grew up in NYC. My mom was a stay-at-home mom. We were poor, but I had a decent childhood. We lived below our mean. No buying unnecessary things. Everything we bought was 100% needed. All food was homecooked. Maybe once or twice a year, we would have McDolands or Chinese takeout. Every month my dad would buy soap, deodorant, toothpaste, rice, pasta, oil, salt, pepper, onion powder, garlic powder, chili powder, tomato paste, brown mustard, potatoes, frozen veggies, chicken, and red meat, in bulk and on sale. That was pretty much 95% of the groceries we needed. Then every week my dad would give my mom $25 to buy any extra we needed. She would buy eggs, bread, milk, and basic produce (bell pepper, carrots, and cabbage). We never bought full-priced clothes. Always the clearance section, and we only bought good quality. Nothing cheap that will get destroyed quickly. My mom would also sew us new clothes and repair old clothes. My dad didn't believe in credit cards, so he never had one. All the things we had, he bought with what we had. EDIT: Wow! Y'all can't read and can y'all can't do math. I said early to late 2000's not the 90's. The early to late 2000's is not 20-30 years ago. Even though the cost of living was way cheaper back then, it's still difficult raising 7 kids on a 30-35k salary without having financial literacy. Especially living in NYC. Regardless, my parents still made it work. The point was to motivate you guys to start cutting back and living within your means. To learn to buy what's necessary and be satisfied with that. I explained how my parents did it so you can get an idea on how you can do it for yourselves. That's the whole point! Most of yall are single making 30k on average. If my parents can raise 7 kids with that amount, you can support yourselves. I live alone and I'm surviving just fine because I don't spend my money on useless things. I just started making about 35-40k this year. Even when I was making about 25k, I was fine. I'm extremely happy partly because I'm satisfied with the minimum. Mostly because I realized something most people don't. That nothing really matters but God. If you can learn to let go of worldly things and put your hope in Jesus, you will have true peace. You will be in a storm, and be shocked at calm you are. That's been my reality. Most of you will roll your eyes at me mentioning God, but while y'all are busy arguing non-sense I'm in peace living a happy life with no regrets. When that financial crash in 2025 comes, a lot of y'all are going to be so miserable because your hearts are so attached to worldly things. Do yourselves a favor and let go of these fickle things while you can. Learn to live humbly, and surrender your worries to God. You will be fine. Everything about this world is fickle. Only one thing is sure, and that's Jesus. You have been warned.
In rural areas, a family can make it on 30k per year but there might be some tough times every once in a while. Remember that in rural areas, a lot of people own their own property (sometimes inherited but property is cheap in the country if it’s not flat land suitable for farming). I make 60K and live like a king. My home and property cost me 20K cash and my property taxes are only $200/year. Yeah, I live in a trailer but at least I own it (and 2 acres of property) free and clear. Without rent or mortgage, I have the ability to save and invest.
That's my dream life right there. A nice mobile home on 1-2 acres of land and have a 16 x20 shed in the yard that could be my studio. Any advice on finding good land?
I live in suburbia and pay 400 a month in rent. In the city 20 km over, you couldn't rent a shoebox for that price. Also, I have everything I need here in walking distance and if I need to go to the city, I can take a bus (no thanks doh) or just borrow a car, which rarely happens. If you aren't wastefull with your money and you pick a good cheap place to live, you can easily survive on less that 30k if you need to
She's not wrong. My wife and I with our first child I only made like 28-32k and we were fine with her staying at home. And our expenses have barely changed, even though our income has increased substantially.
You don't need 6 figures. You need financial literacy.
Preach brother
God bless you and your family brother, preach to that 🙌🏽
W Mexican couple. Where do you guys live? Must not be in Cali lol
That's real!
Precisely. In reality, a lot of women don't have a problem with what job you have, what they are looking for is for you to be financially responsible and to strive for better things if you have to.
Asking a random married woman if her baby is illegitimate is some nasty work
Yet it's very common in our day lol
@@SkintSNIPER262 The fuck you talking about "it's common"? Turn off the internet for a day and go touch some grass. The world outside isn't all about those irrelevant internet dramas, red pill, sigma nonsense.
You have no idea how many women have played their husbands thinking it's their sons or daughter when really it's been the wife's deadbeat side dude kids the whole time..The wife will keep the secret and stay with the husband because he provides to take care of the kids. While the broke deadbeat side dude keeps on pumpin!!!!... This happen s more often than you think. It just gets overlooked. This is why 99% of women will not condone DNA tests or whatever you call it!!!
1 and 3 who actually get tested aren’t the babies father. Paternity fraud is real don’t get mad 🤷🏾♂️😊
@@chriskramp5174sir, therapy. Get some.
What a jerk to ask a woman if her husband is her child's father? WTH?
Seems like a pretty normal question. Especially these days.
@@artemiseritu yes, but the order of questions was pretty hilarious since she had already answered being with him for 5 years.
@@artemiseritu it's quite literally not a normal question to ask a stranger.. if you think that it is NORMAL, normal meaning something that is done frequently, and that most humans are used to, in this case women.. please get help soon..
well, seeing as approximately 30% of paternity tests fail, it seems like a rather fair question. Again, this is only the test. There's probably a lot more messed up households that are never revealed due to the mother's lvl 9000 gaslighting skills.
@@theworldmayneverknow3876There's a reason they're taking the test in the first place, its not like its 1/3 of all children
Here's a secret. They meet these women all the time, they just never put them in their videos.
Not by my experiance. Most ppl live in pointless debt buying pointless things. Out of 5 girls, 1 girl's sister had this level of common sense/awareness. She was a great single mom too. She blew my mind really. I'd date her right now if it didn't seem wierd to date my ex gf's little sister.
I agree.
@Nobody-vr5nl if you want to engage in conversation, be literate.
Lol highly doubt, video should be named “redpiller meets rare woman “ Most women , especially in cities are poor financial spenders. Not saying its impossible to find one who can live on such low amount but most dont want to and choose not to
Exactly. Studies show that the negative extremes get at least double the clicks & interactions than reasonable examples. Clicks = money. So many content creators only show the negative extremes to make more money which eventually messes with ppl's perceptions of real life. Even the ppl who think 6 fig is realistic is due to the financial extremes & lavish lifestyle ppl push online to get clicks.
The woman knew exactly what he was trying to do
They try insanely hard to push their narrative
I said this on another comment but I'm seriously impressed with her patience
@@sillycheese301 It's a valid narrative to push. Gets far closer to the heart of things than the willful ignorance of some.
@@dontforget3113 nah man sorry to burst your bubble
@@pflanzenmuddi2019 There are truth to these claims. I have experienced and observed them for decades.
He was trying SO HARD to make her a villain and she was just 😊 the whole time
The dude is so cringe. God bless the girl tho
Yep. That shit happens in the comments here too. Often the worst thing you can be to a stranger online is genuinely happy.
@@balitangkamatis Cringe
Because anyone can say whatever online to make themselves seem virtuous so people aren’t wrong for having doubt cuz people cap online all the time
@@balitangkamatisyou sounded like you want them to get a divorce or smth
I’m a married black woman and I’ve been attacked by redpillers in comment sections asking “where’s ur husband at”. As if I don’t have one. They assume every black women doesn’t have a husband 🥴.
I've been told I'm single, lonely, and lying about my relationship all while sitting right next to him showing him what they're saying. They STILL say I'm lying lol.
To be fair they have an 85% chance of being right.
@@adifferentangle7064bro u look like a discord mod had a test tube baby
They are just playing the odds lol, but it is very fun when people confidently assume something wrong about you.
I always laugh later reminiscing on their face when they realised . Just dgaf about people who you don't care about.
@@adifferentangle7064or just wrong 😂 people think they’re right till there wrong
Dude he’s lucky her man wasn’t there😂 that was so disrespectful to ask if that kid is theirs after she said they’ve been together for 5 years..
What's wrong with you, bro? Women will get dudes to raise Tyrone and Chad’s kid in a hot minute. Men should believe everything a woman says. 😳🧐🥺
I was giving birth to my third child and my doctor was switched because we had been in the hospital all night through to the morning and our doctor’s shift was over. The new doc comes in and asks me, in front of my husband, if my other children were born by the same man. My husband was PISSED. To even insinuate the possibility that there had ever been another man in the picture was gross. She also tried to push an unnecessary C-section surgery on me and was just an all around horrible person, so we called for a second opinion while I was in labor, and the doctor who left came back just to deliver my baby naturally for me.
@@susannapoli2308we are living in the wild and crazy time, what it's used to be normal not normal anymore
Well good thing she’s an honest woman.
@@susannapoli2308That was disrespectful and uncalled for, even if there are women who lie and have men raise children who aren’t theirs. Hypothetically, if the children were born from different fathers, why would any woman admit to that unless she knew her husband/man would stay regardless?
Asking a woman if her kid is also her partner's kid just because she's a woman is pure sexism💀
I mean, yeah, it's wrong...but I can also see where he's coming from (atleast by keeping him in a more neutral light).
So many divorces happening these days, so many partners cheating on each other, single parent culture booming...all combined, even I'd have a little bit of doubt whether her man is still with her or not...😅
@@PureRythm not a good excuse to ask a woman if her kid is her partner's kid especially a woman you don't know like bro??? She's a complete stranger. Also wdym "single parent culture" tf is that💀
@@mazhiang_dishia_ first of all, NOT an excuse. It was an explanation.
Secondly, yeah, single parent culture, especially in the Western Countries.
Not only Single Mothers,.but even Single Father's have been on a rise since the last few years. All of this would make anyone question someone's life choices and directions.
Again, NOT an excuse, and what the interviewer did was shitty af...
@PureRythm if you're referring to single moms/dads who were left behind by their partner, I understand the negative undertones, but you do realise there are some people who simply wanna be single parents, right? What's your issue with them? 💀
Their PornHeads - these guys get their info from watching porn and think it's a documentary. Every woman is a cheater is a common theme.
"How long have you had a baby?". You mean "How old is your baby?" Lol
Dude can't even formulate a simple question in his own language any longer
Lmao .... bruuuh
"she's two." 😂
So true. 😂
Dude has to be related to Walter from FNF sounds exactly like him. 😂
The interviewer suffers from being chronically online
To be fair, you should see some of his interviews. I believe he’s in Miami.
How?
@mikelund327 Yes, but girls in Miami, LA, and NYC do not represent women everywhere else. Men who assume all women sleep around, have kids with multiple baby daddies, and expect a man to make $400,000 a year, clearly have never spent time outside of the city. Go to the Midwest, the South or anywhere else that does not have a reputation for skanktom, and there are plenty of normal women.
@ScissorsSir Yes and no, I think a better statement would be something like:
He is trying to find a way to portray her in a bad light because that's his business model... His income is (probably) based on making videos like this where he finds examples of women who have negative behaviour stereotypes, and he specifically looks for those because that content is what his target demographic engages with most.
So while he himself might be "chronically online", here I think it's more accurate to say he's catering to his audience. He still shouldn't ask those rude and leading questions to her though.
It's never about the family. People live in social housing in the UK not ever getting 1000k a month and they still alive. It's about your expense. Know income to debt ratio.
He asks how much does her husband have to make to TAKE CARE of her and HER daughter. It is HIS daughter, too. That is the problem with these men. They see everyone as burden, even heir own children.
very sharp observation. You're right.
Smh
These aren't men, they are boys in grown bodies. Being a "man" is mentality as much as physicality.
He just ASSUMES that shes not earning anything either, which she easily could be. Lots of mothers have to work, particularly if their husband is low to mid income
These are men without children
2:57 i think i have almost never seen a person admit they were wrong that honestly lmao good on you
It's happened to me in Y'all's comments 😂😂😂😂. I mentioned marrying my husband at 20 and I got "and how many times have you physically cheated." Uhhhh, never? I met him with a body count of 0, now my body count is 1. I'm 40. Have I had offers? Sure. Will I ever cheat? No. I couldn't imagine living a lie, my sleep is too precious.
cuz this channel covers like everything, their viewers are like from all sides
Damnn that's so inappropriate of them to ask it's none of they business 😢take care❤
“My sleep is too precious” you definitely belong here haha that sounds like something Aba would say! Appreciate this comment
People want drama and misery.
What people are too scared to tell you is you are the exception not the rule today women are cheating at an all-time high, even more so than men
Doordashing for 3 people is almost $100 for mid food. I can stretch out that $100 and feed my family for a week if I do it right.
Even in Australia I can feed a family of 4 for $140-$160 with fresh fruit and vegetable.
It costs us $80 to eat at out favourite burger place.
At one point, because one of my two unemployed roommates had chef skills, I fed three adults for $40/week. Granted this was a decade ago in the middle of nowhere with great cost of living, but still. Where I live now, it's $200/week in groceries for *just me.*
Now hear me out, cause I know this is hard to believe
But there are some people
That cook at home, at lower prices than take out
Can you belive it?
delivery is an absolute scam, its crazy people pay delivery for like a can of pringles and some oreos. The laziness...
You see... People throughout the ages had a technic so they wouldn't need to spend so much money for a single meal. It is called: "Go to the supermarket, buy ingridients and cook". Truly a impressive thing
"People in New York deserve their rent"
LMFAO!😂😂😂
She has literally 0 brainrot. No redpill, no bluepill, no tinfoil pill, no social media pill. She’s incredible.
This is how women live in the wild.🤷🏾♀😅
I don’t know how she is managing rent, utilities, food and other essentials for a family of 3, doctors appointments for the kid, clothes, phone bill, and so on with 1K. She must now pay for day care since she isn’t working I guess, which also means that she is sc4rewed is the dude goes after a “y8unger w6m4an”. Plus when the kid grows up there are school fees, school expenses like books, transportation, etc. I guess she is ok to live in very low standards, although I can’t imagine how even low standards can be achieved with that monthly amount. Couldn’t be me 🤷♀️ This can’t be my l5fe.
@erikaarnold4780 True, always been my friend-tribes :)
True :)
Tell me you think you're better than her without telling me you're better than her...Go...
There's a weird trend on the internet where not only do these people seem to genuinely dislike women but they absolutely HAVE to make them into villains in every scenario
It's the same for the opposite gender and now think about why it is like that. That.
the thing is that it started with content available on the internet for free, but then as they wanted to monetize the content they started to create their own content by interviewing the same types of people who confirms such world view... so yeah, they are in it for profit so they do always the same topics and content and that is to paint the other gender in a negative shade.
@@FeeDBacKMKIIThe percentage is higher on the male side in part because women don’t often make channels all about men. There are soooo many channels of men just ranting, mocking, etc women and I’m a man saying this.
@@FeeDBacKMKIII haven't seen anything for single women, who hate on men. Not saying it's not there, just the algorithms aren't taking me there.
My children are of dating age. That's why I looked into "modern dating" and I found a lot of vile things directed toward women. Scary stuff, really.
@@JK-nq1dlwith all due respect I don’t know if you’ve looked on the other side of things, but there are a vast amount of channels made by women that are exclusively about shitting on men and the exact same way that these red bros do
1:09 baby is reaching for the mic like "bro get the fuck outta here with these dumbass questions"
😂
🤣
he was like: "mf give me the fvcking mic you talking too much shii"
Bro was about to spit some facts on the aux
@@whoevencares-fn8nv "she" the baby is a girl
My husband and I live in the city in the US. We make 113k combined. 34% of our income is housing, and we save/invest 35%. The rest is everything else. We don't spend a ton frivolously, but we are setting ourselves and our kids up for the future. It comes down to what you prioritize with your money. Also, my MIL lives with us, which helps with childcare. I grew up in a multi-generational home and I love being able to provide that for my kids too.
The fact both of you can raise your kids and make that much together is very impressive. ❤
A store clerk assumed I was 18 and I laughed it off. I told him I’m married and pregnant with our 3rd child and he assumed I enjoyed marriage because “I get what I want”.
There’s more women out here that value relationships and family than people like him realize.
yeah that called conservative
Man I just don’t get it, that means they’re jealous of achievements of other people and think people always have something hidden to have what they have. Those always try to point something out to bring another person down. Im not a jealous person and it’s not hard to be, be appreciative and supportive is all you need.
Most xys are very jealous and bitter people and they'll never admit it, but they know it is true
@@Ayeyayel Definitely. I wish people would allow their personal experiences to shape their perspective rather than social media.
@@Xesxus I'm liberal and I value relationships and family! But then again I'm not American and I don't live in the U.S.
Woman: married for 5 years and got 2 kid of 2 and 4 years old.
RedPiller: How do you combine that with your onlyfams career?
@@OnTheThirdDay Covenient typo😂
And you are sharp af.
No redpiller would say that.
@@shamanahaboolistYes the toxic woman hating redpillers would definitely ask😂😂 They can't fathom women out there being able to support themselves that doesn't include onlyfans. They can't fathom real women at all.
@@shamanahaboolistyall will say it. It is as if you guys get 0rga$m by putting women down.
@@shamanahaboolist they do.. all the time
Ya know, after all the degeneracy we see on the internet, it's quite refreshing to see a genuinely normal person
Agreed brother
There are lots of normal people out here. You have to use good judgment, though.
There's normal people everywhere, it just doesn't generate views
Honestly you just gotta go outside and touch grass.
When you come across normal people you won't fall for internet memes.
@mailenjokerbell true in the real world, but it's quite the different story when it comes to the internet in general
15:30 I once confessed to my very close guy friend and got rejected, but that didn't end our friendship because the fact that we liked each other as friends didn't change. I personally don't understand why I should forfeit a good relationship because I can't have it exactly the way I want it. Obviously there's sadness and awkwardness following an unsuccessful confession, but ending a friendship because of that makes little sense to me.
For the same reasons I'm still friends with my ex with whom I lived for almost 10 years. With time our priorities ended up diverging and, although the break-up was far from easy, through self-analysis and forgiveness we have been able to overcome our negative emotions and keep caring for each other.
I also experienced the end of a friendship because I rejected the guy, and it was a hurtful experience. Years later he told me that he regretted cutting me off.
You can tell who's been chronically online and get their knowledge on women from there
Yep a group of dorks that have no social experiences.
Fr I hate how they willingly cut out the normal answers to make a whole new narrative. That's so manipulative. 🗿
True, like who asks if it's her man's child? She's been with him for 5 years
To be fair there is literally an example of a completely degenerate woman in this video aswell.
@johnnyhall9154 real it's soo chronically online bc it's appropriate to ask in their little bubble
Niceness and kindness are two different things.
You can be kind and not nice. You can be nice but not kind.
Can we be both? 🙆🏻♀️
What's the difference?
I would say nice: friendly/polite, kind: caring/reliable kind of vibe.
Yes, of course some are both.
But if I have to choose I will pick kind.
@@hala-hv8iq Imagine your car is off on the side of the road with a flat tire and you're not prepared to change it. Nice bystanders will drive by and say 'oh that's such a shame, so sorry you have a flat,' and keep driving. Kind bystanders will pull over and verbally give you a hard time for being unprepared while changing your tire.
@@hala-hv8iq Kindness refers to a state of being, a matter of the heart. Niceness refers to a behavior. You can be nice without having a kind heart (eg. maintaining a professional, pleasant customer service attitude even when the customer is atrocious because your job depends on it). Being kind without being nice is a little more difficult but definitely possible (eg. you can be kind but a lot of people lack the skill of packaging hard-to-swallow information in a loving manner, such as telling a family member that their breath chronically stinks without being making them feel horrible about it).
Preach going from basically accusing them of being dirt poor trailer trash to "oh right yeah people *can* live off sensibly of that amount huh" is a level of open minded maturity and reasoning that i wish more people had. I love being subbed to you guys for level-headed takes like this
Yeah, but he was also right. You're not living "comfortably" off 30K a year right now. You're living a stressed out life. You're worrying day in and day out what's next. You're a month, 2 months away from being on the streets(assuming you don't have family to fall back on).
@@scourge8097That depends on a lot of factors, the woman said they only NEED 1k per month, and she literally said that they're living comfortably and that doesn't have to be a lavish lifestyle
@@scourge8097 it really depends on the situation
@@Conargle that's the same thing
@@scourge8097you can live well in Alabama for just 30K a year. I mean given you don't try to buy everything the media pushes you to THINK you need and by cooking
There is a “niceness” I’ve experienced that is disproportionate to the situation/relationship. Like a coworker bringing me flowers or leaving personal post it notes at my desk. The kind of niceness where the guy comes on WAY too strong way too early. Violating social norms. It puts me on edge.
I get what you mean too, sometimes guys will have this very clearly fake niceness to them that screams "I want something from you" and that falseness doesn't make them seem as nice as they think it does. Rather, being chill and acting like a normal person will get you much further.
I agree as a man I understand it can be very icky and pushy. We men must transcend from these non-organic acts of getting to know another human being by just letting the dynamic flow naturally. No rush. Just taking our time and appreciate the person for what it is, rather than pushing our wants and needs. I'm sure you agree Kathy.
So where do you work Kathy? Let's have coffee Kathy, I'd like to talk to you about why my long-term plans for a relationship would make you the perfect candidate.
SHUT UP AND ACCEPT MY NICENESS!
I agree with the 2nd girl too! If someone begs u to be friends sfter rejecting them, they still wanna court you under the guise of "being friends".
Or he becomes a simp. And you need to let him go while he still has testicles. 😅😅😅😅
when i broke up with my first gf after 5 years, the dms proofed me right that no theses guys didn't just wanted to be friends. but was a fun time videocalling them after fucked my ex and the suprise faces when they saw me.
On the other side of the coin, I've seen people offer friendship after rejecting someone, to have someone at their emotional disposal.
That is true, thankfully that is not what happened to me, I actually became a geniune friend to a girl i had a crush on after a rejection. Now i am not saying this is what happens everytime but it can be something to consider happens.
I think it can happen that they can go on to be friends, but it requires both parties to actually be friends, if either has an ulterior motive or is not putting in equal effort, it will fall apart. once it falls apart people go back and rewrite history to say "they were only doing that to..." and it is not always true.
the only want to be friends is to BE friends. it's never just some default because you don't agree on attraction.
I live in Germany, me my wife, and our 10 month baby, Total expenses every month, (rent, food, diapers, we dont buy cloths every month, petrol for the car, ) is roughly 2000 euros, we live in two bed room apartment. so basically with 24 to 25k, we will not lack any "basic" need for a yr. yes, its not luxury, but we never go a day without food and shelter, and don't buy expensive stuff,.. redpill seriously got ppl living in a bubble
You can't compare Europe to America
@@purplelove3666nah you definitely can, money is still money.
@@milanelst5754 He's talking about expenses. Cost of living. I make like 50k a year. As a single 25 year old male, I think 30k a year with a (stay-at-home wife) plus 3 kids is really struggling. I don't see how.
But in order to keep that 25k, wouldn’t you actually to make about 40k in Germany? Which then compared to the national average and wage proportions, is really not low anymore (I also live in Germany so I’m genuinely curious)
This gets a little complicated because of EU, no? Pretty sure taxes cover health insurance, which it doesn't in the US.
My wife (R.I.P) and I bought our home in 2006 and paid it off in 4 years. Then we saved up and tore the smaller home down and put up a new bigger home in its place. She was a waitress at Dennys and I did construction 9 months a year. We lived within our means and we had 2 kids 10 and 14 now and she's been gone for 4 years now and we are still living in this home that's paid for. She pushed for all this to happen and I am blessed by it.
Blessings bro my condolences.
Sorry for your loss brother. Paying off in 4 years is impressive, I'm aiming for 10, but it's more like 20.
I am sorry for your loss. She sounds like an awesome person.
Sorry for your loss 💗
❤ so precious sorry for your loss
16:40 The girl is not wrong, a lot of guys start a "friendship" with a secondary intention; when girls kinda notice, we sometimes choose not to say a word about it because we know the friendship will be "ruined".
And this guy saying "the goal was not friendship, the goal was to be with you, and that is not happening, then why would I be around?" is pretty f up. You are telling me that
1. you were being dishonest this entire time by making me believe we were friends
2. you are just a kid that will throw a tantrum when he does not get what he wants (and again.. wants, has no right to it).. That entire thing is awful..
Like, you want to walk away after I said no, no problem, but take it as it is.. Im not the mean one, you simply did not have the courage to ask me to my face if I would be interested in going out with you, and DECIDED to make me believe you were interested in a friendship, that's on you, don't try to make me the villain of your story.
Not just girls, but anybody out there listening.. Please do no let anybody make you feel guilty after their plans didn't work on you.
This comment is exactly on point. Blog entry but a few years ago I went through a rough break-up and was single for the first time in about two years. When men in my social network suddenly started being extremely nice to me, I told myself it was just an effort to be supportive because it had been a rough break-up, and that suspecting anyone had ulterior motives reflected poorly on me, not them. Finding out otherwise really troubled me and impacted my ability to trust 'good samaritans'. Men respond to getting 'friend zoned' like it's an act of unspeakable cruelty, but to me what felt cruel was getting abandoned because 'just being friends' was all I wanted, and that wasn't good enough for them.
I think it’s fair. You can have friendships with the goal of them being friendships, but if your goal was to build a relationship with someone it’s completely reasonable to decide to cut it out if it doesn’t work the way you thought. People shouldn’t feel like they should keep something that hurts them. it goes for both genders too, if you want something out of a relationship and you aren’t getting that, it’s not selfish to cut it off, just communicate that directly with the person and end it maturely.
OTOH, there's the far more common scenario that romantic feelings developed along the way of the friendship (because why/how would anyone be genuinely attracted to someone they wouldn't even consider as a friend in the first place), and when they're confessed the reaction is "so you just wanted to get in my pants and were faking a friendship all along???", and when the rejected person needs to step away to do healing and emotional damage control of their own (because a kindly given slap is still a slap), then they're suddendly "showing their true colors by abandoning the person they wanted to become romantically involved with, because that's clearly the only thing they wanted all along". SMH.
@@middproxxy6790 It would be perceived very differently if it was just 'stepping away for a little while to heal', but I think in most experiences like OP & myself were talking about, the 'step away' isn't temporary, and the hurt feelings are used as justification for completely abandoning the relationship. The number of times men actively lash out or villainize the former object of their affections because they feel 'led on' shouldn't be dismissed, either, because that's the equivalent of someone 'slapping' you accidentally and with full regret and then you returning the blow intentionally at full force out of spite.
It's understandable to get your feelings hurt because romantic inclinations aren't reciprocated but the fact that so many men justify abandoning the platonic relationship entirely afterwards is shockingly immature. I've confessed to someone before and gotten shot down, too, it stung but I'm still friends with them to this day. I had to decide whether I valued having them in my life more than I valued my own bruised ego. I'm not going to say hanging out afterwards wasn't awkward at first and I definitely didn't get over my feelings fast, but I'm so glad that I did because the dude's like a brother to me now, if I ever got into a serious emergency he'd be someone I know I could call on, come hell or high water.
The hurt feelings were worth getting over.
@middproxxy6790. You're on point I agree with you. Let's not pretend that feelings can't just develop over time. It's happened to me, and I was lucky enough that the feelings were mutual. And then there like a few moments where I wasn't so lucky. And then the same would happen to me in the reserve way. Speaking on the hetero sense. There's also a few specific ones where I was able to retain the friendship after being in the relationship.
It just depends on the maturity level of each, and keeping things as genuine as possible. It's not impossible to cross this line and not be friends in the end if you handle things level headed. And there's absolutely nothing wrong for asking for space to let that process flow.
What isn't okay is to act immature off of the response of rejection, but needing space to heal should be understood. Yes, in some cases some guys (and girls let's be fair here) go into friendship with a crush with a "secret plan", but let's not place all of them into the same bucket.
“Internet meets real life people “
That’s a sound bite
A squirrel took my bf’s burger once in NY, he never got over it 😂
Pretty sure squirrels from all over the world aspire to be more like New York squirrels, they are simply a different breed.
Lmaooooo I don’t blame him 😂 those mfers are disrespectful
At least it wasn't one of those genius rats they have in NYC! 😂😭
I feel him
Understandable.
When "finding" a normal person shocks you, you're the one with the problem. People who're always online need to touch grass.
He does he just talks with city girls all the time mami atl ect suck for dating
But she is not normal because normal person would walk away with disgust after hearing this question. It is visible that she is silly child.
You have to understand that some of us are dumbasses and have too much conventional thinking behind our choices. You can't look in the same place that everyone else is looking in. It isnt to do with being online but more to do with location. I've seen and had a fair share of overrated women way before redpill was a thing.
I remember when my wife and I were dating she asked to eat and go for a walk.
I had a problem because no woman had wanted to do something so simple.
She was always happy with coffee, watching the sunset with me. Anything just to spend time with me
I've never heard even a single non-online person say "touch grass."
A very fascinating video, this brings back painful memories which i have been enduring. My relationship of 6 years ended 3 months ago. The love of my life decided to leave me , I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her.
Parting ways with someone you deeply cherish is an agonizing experience. I understand firsthand, having encountered a parallel situation at the end of my 7 year relationship. Driven by an unyielding determination, I explored every avenue to salvage our bond. Seeking guidance from a spiritual counselor proved pivotal, as their intervention played a crucial role in rekindling our love.
That's fascinating! How did you come across a spiritual counselor, and what's the best way for me to contact her?
Suzanne Ann Walters is a highly recommended spiritual counselor.
I'm grateful for this valuable information; I've just taken a moment to find her online. Very impressive!
Tf these bots doing here
22:01 that’s 100% true. I’m middle eastern and my husband is from Honduras. My sisters who live in the middle east and married there are always amazed that my husband helps me with household chores or always plays with our kids or changes diapers or cooks for me sometimes or that he wanted to be with me at the hospital when i was giving birth to our children. It’s amazing to see the difference.
He's not helping you,he's contributing to the household chores and raising his kids ,if you are working and he's also working,no one,I mean no one will be surprised and say you are "helping" your husband pay the bills because you are working,kudos to you, ", no, it would be an expectation from you,so I am going to need women to expect men to be competent with household chores abd raising kids.you are not marrying a child you are marrying a grown adult
That's wonderful you have a blessed great man ❤ and thats hes a wonderful helpful hardworking husband. God bless you and I'm very happy for you sis. I recently got married this month too and really got a keeper.
@@purplelove3666 I was about to comment that, thanks a lot for sparring me the effort !
@@MariaPaula-uw3ds you are ever so welcome Maria!.
My husband does the same. It's sad to me some women are so surprised by normal, loving behavior.
"The propagandist's purpose is to make one set of people forget that certain other sets of people are human."
-Aldous Huxley
I mean yea but it really is an issue. These kinds of women are harder to find.
@natebeal18 harder to find? They're everywhere😂 I don't mean to be mean but what you see online isn't Representative at ALL of any demographic because what goes big on social media tends to be more extreme anyway
@@natebeal18 Yeah they’re very hard to find when the farthest you go is just past your mom’s basement
@@natebeal18ya when you never talk to women it’s hard to find women
@@natebeal18 They are not unless you only go to clubs
As a girl when another girl describes a guy’s behavior, as “mean”, I interpret that as threatening, violence, or vindictive. The term “mean” is always less than what it actually is, it’s normally direct and intentional. Lots malice.
When it comes to guys being “cold”, that’s described as the actions that they’re doing. He’s not talking to me. He’s ignoring my text messages. He walked past me like I didn’t exist. Those are how cold are described from my experience.
Guys, being “cold” causes more anxiety than fear, but guys being “mean”, causes more fear than anxiety.
The sex that knows how to communicate better, so everything is vague and interpretabile
Ah yes, nice guys and nice girls. Who tend to be quiet nice at first, mabe even get along well with you. But you may onl enjoy a friendship, while they came in day one with the intent to get with you. That even start picturing their entire future with you. And the moment you reality check them and they realize you only want a friendship all thet can turn to malice and hate. All because they cannot live with the simple fact that one does not chose who you feel attracted to and fall for. Nor that just being nice or do kind acts does not entitle you to anything.
That is YOUR interpretation, though. Nothing against you, it's a fair assessment and it makes sense. But I have heard many different interpretations of what being mean like is (yes, from girls). So, it could literally be anything. Like stopping making her the center of the world and not caving in to everything like before. This change of posture also hits hard to a lot of girls who the guy was giving special treatment, and this special treatment stops, and the guy just treats her, well... normally.
Those are really good definitions😊
I didn't know that. Thanks for the input, it was very insightful.
Edit: I asked my sister and she said boy being "mean" is just that: mean. No more no less. No deep implications. So.... I'm not sure how this work.
Almost like in real life, normal, well-adjusted, wholesome people are everywhere if you bother looking.
If they were "everywhere" you wouldn't have to _look_ for them, now would we?
Exaclty. *Exceptions* only prove the _rule_
Not every woman is looking for a rich 100,000$/yr man...some of us actually just want someone that treats us with love and respect .. the financial shit is secondary..
I’d rather be with someone who will still love me and still stay with me even during the hardest times.
lies
"the financial shit is secondary" secondary huh... still pretty high on that 100 items boyfriend checklist.
@@mattmattmatt131313 it is the most important thing to women and they keep denying it🤣
@musiczkl98 Actual women keep telling you this isn't the case. It is for SOME women, but to make it seem like that's what every woman wants is inaccurate. I can garuantee you most married women right now, don't have super wealthy partners.
I love how they talked about how when you’re poor you find ways to survive. It made me think of my Grandma who passed last year but she lived through the Great Depression. But when I was in high school we were driving down the road and she screamed for us to pull over and my mom her daughter slammed on the brake and pulled over. My 80 year old grandma hopped out of the car and ran down the banking to a pile produce boxes and going through them. She than started yelling with joy for us to come help her load them into the car. In total there were 12 boxes of cucumbers, onions and peppers I never saw my grandma this happy before. We got back to her place and spent the next 8 hours making relish out of the produce from the boxes from the side of the road. my whole family on my moms side showed up and it was a day to celebrate my aunts and uncles all came by to help and bring the all the other items to make the relish. This story was told at my grandma funeral and the whole family laughed about it my now wife who was new to the family at the time was shocked by the story and confused why we were so happy about finding and eating half rotten vegetables. That’s when it really kicked in that we were raised poor because my grandma lost a brother during the great depression so she handed down ways to survive even during bad times and those same habits were passed down to me and my siblings.
And now look at the world . Still eating rotten vegetables and fake meat. Seems like money shouldn’t be our concern 😂😂😂😭💪🏾
I always face dreadful and hopeless feelings. This one post just brought me so much relief. Your grandmother seems wonderful. Just like mine was
RIP to an absolute legend
i think the main issue is many men lie that they want to be friends with you when they don't. it's not like the realization is instant. maybe for some women, it is. but for me, most of the time, it takes time to realize or to be sure, "oh, they are interested in me in THAT way". so like if the original intention is friendship, and THEN you have a crush on your actual friend, even if you are rejected, you still want to be friend with them. like maybe you would nurse your broken heart away for awhile but then you will come back to them as friends again.
AND THAT THE MASSIVE DIFFERENT between those who lie and those who are real about their friendship. how do i know this? because believe it or not, many girls and women do get crushes on their male friends too!
and you know what else? when the friendship is real, sometimes, you just ignore your feelings because you value that friendship more than a romantic relationship. that's why i really really hate it when boy and men lie about their friendship and then complain about girls and women think of them as jerks for not wanting to remain friends. they don't realize they are at the same level as scammers
Because it's awkward to stay after confessing to your female friend.
Friendship unexpectedly goes to romance, guy confesses, is rejected.
Guy leaves because hanging around will bring up unwanted feelings of what could have been.
He leaves, no longer friends with the girl, and all is in peace.
@oompalumpus699 the point is still that if you felt an attraction to someone, why act like you wanna be friends. If you wanted to be someone's friend, being rejected after getting feelings wouldn't diminish the friendship. You're just lying to yourself to get closer. That's so fake to do to a girl to be in her life, say you have the hots for her when you knew she didn't feel the same, then ditch her cuz you didn't get what you wanted. Literally just stay out of a female's life if you can only view them romantically
I was looking for a comment on this. I 100% agree. Like, if you are going into the relationship with the intention of potentially dating, that's a different thing than if you just are friends with no intention of romance and then one of you catches feelings.
Like I get it if for the person with feelings it's too painful for them to continue spending time around that person, but for me, I'd rather enjoy the good times with the other person and still enjoy their company in the ways that I can despite knowing it will never lead anywhere, because I care about them a as a person and not just a romantic partner. I actually have a friend that I know loves me that way and we've both had a conversation about it. The real thing is that, really, it doesn't actually change anything about your relationship to that person, their feelings existed before the convo and it wasn't awkward, so why does it have to be awkward after? The only reason that guys say it's awkward is because they are expecting the other person to reciprocate even after rejection and then they get upset. Why can't they just enjoy spending time with them and look for romance elsewhere?
I also have another friend that I technically have feelings for, but I also know that we would not be compatible in a romantic relationship. They are fully aware of my feelings, but nothing has changed for us. I still love spending time with them and so do they, we just are aware that what we have is as far as it will go and we are okay with that.
I mean, now that I think about it, really the person who has feelings is really the one that is being selfish by expecting that their friend will reciprocate feelings and that they need to after they've confessed. Expecting someone else to give you what you want despite their feelings is just... rude.
@@oompalumpus699I’ve had it happen to me before, and it was upsetting. I thought I had made a friend, didn’t realize the guy was into me, then after he confessed and I rejected him, he said he didn’t want to be friends anymore.
It hurt because I really valued our friendship, and I felt like I wasn’t valued at all as a friend, only as a potential partner.
I get why it’s hard on the guy, but it sucks for both parties.
And this is a consistent problem, even when I lay out my boundaries early on. I could say outright that I’m not interested in a romantic relationship, and thus feel confident that both of us just want to build a friendship.
Then, if I start getting the feeling the other person has romantic interest in me, I try to ignore it because I already said I wasn’t interested and I don’t want to bring it up first. If they do confess, I get dropped the moment I don’t return romantic interest, even when I made it clear from the start that what I wanted a friend.
At the very least, if somebody says they aren’t looking for a partner, take their word for it and don’t assume that’s going to change for you. Figure out boundaries and control yourself. Maintain healthy platonic friendships. Idk. I’ve never been in love, I’m not sure how hard it is. I’m probably being an ass. But dammit this has happened one too many times and it’s frustrating to have someone you thought of as a friend change up on you so quickly.
Absolutely agree with you and @AirashiiTiayou when a friend I had for years (or at least some time and we were really close friends) turns around and EXPECTS me to accept his confession and recoprocate or else my friendship to him is worth nothing I fell so devalued as a human being. I get that the man may be hurt and wants to protect his feelings and not be reminded of them whenever we see each other. But did our meaningful connection mean nothing to you if I'm not gonna sleep with you, too? I had this in the past and honestly, I felt as if some boys were selfish themselves, demanding that our relationship has to be their way or the highway.
Yah man, I made average of $40k per year for the past 8 years. I was able to live very comfortably. Only thing is, you can't to long international vacations and must do camping instead, can't be buying a new car every five years and must opt for a 5-year old car only every 10 years, and won't be able to save much for retirement which means you must have some sort of pension arrangement.
Stay single, that income is OK for one person only
@@DeamonHellhound depends on where you are here 12k a year is good for a family. Hey I'm not in the US
Financial literacy is very important one of the first things you should learn before even getting a job
I saw a girl on Dr Phil complaining about how she can't find a job after college but she got a PhD in dance. Bruh, ofc you can't find a job!
They don’t teach that in school because “THEY” want to be broke!
I deleted ALL food delivery apps. I rarely use them, but whenever I did I kept noticing that my items cost $15, but after I go to pay plus tip its $32-$35. Ridiculous
Very
Doordash is sooooo expensive
I could swear it didn't used to be that way. I've only recently noticed the ridiculous extra fees. Maybe I just never looked, before?
And the service fee these apps add on top of the delivery fee and tips 😂 it's madness. Imma still use them sometimes though
@@trueLuminusI agree, I was also wondering if I just never noticed all the extra fees before, I'm sure they weren't always there?!
The phrase is "live within your means."
Most people can't. They were never taught *how* to... and they don't *want* to.
That phrase isn't some gotcha when stat's like this exist.
In the country I live a home was 4x annual salary 50 yesrs ago, now it's over 10x. No amount of live within you means is gonna do shit.
The home I currently live in that I'm renting was 40k in the 90s, I can literally buy 3 of those.
The home 5 years ago was bought for over 1 mill. I have zero chance. (This isn't a new home btw)
Exactly 😅
You should actually live below your means, especially if you want to become wealthy.
Yup I had issues like that in my past marriage. As soon as he started to earn a lot he wanted steaks all the time, wanted to uber instead of taking the tram for 3 stops, wanted a bigger TV, a ps5 as soon as it came out, etc.
@@ArteneMaria-s1lI am a woman and helped my ex boyfriend with his rent. But he bought a gaming pc and then became homeless. Some people can't be helped.
I don’t think that people think about the fact that the couple can get food stamps which means they do not have to buy food. We have a lot of supplemental income in the states honestly.
We have 3 children. We were spending about 500-700 monthly eating out. We stopped eating out for six months. That's over 3k back in our pockets. We saved close to 6k over the year.
Here's the thing... we make good money but still try to find ways to preserve our money and find better places to put it.
We exist. We’re just not going on podcasts and being interviewed by people. We go to work and do normal things.
All seven of you 🤣
In reality, if a woman is like that and maintains that disposition throughout her lifetime. She is probably about 1 to 5% of the population. Certainly, it isn't normal, or you run into every day. There are many gold medal winners in the Olympics. How many do you meet on a daily basis?
It is what it is.
@@roboman3737 It is normal but you people continue to plague yourselves with the internet and the type of women you go for aren't it
@avebroncx Who are you people? I just look at the numbers, and I go from there. This man married a rare gem. That is not normal if you look at the numbers. They haven't reached the 8 year mark, so we will see. But, if they make it last. That certainly isn't normal. How many 25-year plus marriages are there compared to divorces and single moms. Come on, we have to start being honest with ourselves.
Everyone knows a single mom and a divorcee. They are common (normal), not long-lasting, healthy marriages.
omg girl the redpiller salty men in your replies are coping so hard 💀
I’m white and dated an Arab before and holy shit aba is so right 😭😭😭😭 the next guy let me go through the door first and I was about to ask him to marry me
😂😂😂...trauma response.. PTSD 😭😭😭
Where is he now? Why did you leave him then?
LMFAO 😂😂😂
I got choked up when the next guy vacuumed the whole flat. My ex once did 1/3 of the kitchen floor and was proud of helping me 😂
At this moment I realised the bar was in hell 😂
I left my Arab and I’m still too traumatized to date men in general. But I need to find myself a normal American soon. But I have 3 kids with the Arab.. pray for me
19:08 I feel like that sort of interest in behaviour from a partner tells you much more about what you consider yourself worth in treatment, self hate is more common when you’re younger so….and that’s when you’re still obsessed with making sure you are everybody else’s expectation of what you should be rather than what you yourself want to be.
I live out in the middle of no where, my rent is $600 per month, I’m blessed. And plan on having 2 kids, I make $24k my bf makes $30k a year. We are happy, paying off some small debts and building credit.
Land prices? 6 acres for $50k
Obscene ikr❤
Blessed
Mind saying where?
Where? 🙏
Where!!!!
If it's OK to ask, do you guys have to commute a long way for your jobs or is it a work from home situation? (Or working on the land, like a farm/ranch situation?)
Sounds like Arizona or something.
I guess you can find some steals on the East Coast like in North ga or sc, but those land prices seem more mid western to me.
That being said, it ain't bad out there.
Raised two boys on less than 30k, obviously not in fucking luxury, but somehow they survived.
EDIT: Still raising them, both still live with me 15 and 19, I pay for their lives. Yes current year and in a city. Bonus answers, father is one man whom I have been with 24 years as of May. Freaking Aba and Preach blowing up my comment.
That’s back then though, not today right?
When?
That’s good for you but the economy has drastically changed since then. Their point is that the costs would typically be more
Boys
Is this back in the 80s 90s
I made 30k in 2015 and I was struggling paycheck to paycheck!
The baby constantly trying to touch the mic is the most baby thing ever 😂
"What kind of boob is this? 👶"
Awww❤
"She could mean cold" she defined ghosting and being mean as two separate behaviors...
I’m 41 years old now but I still live by the words my dad taught me: “Be a good dude, never a nice guy”
My wife told me the difference and ever since she pointed it out, I’ve seen the fake nice guys she talked about. One included a former friend of hers who became downright hostile to the point of making her fear for her safety after she politely declined when he made a move on her after we started dating. He’d been friend with her ex and felt entitled to his chance with her before me since she knew him first and he’d always had eyes for her. He went from teddy bear to grizzly bear.
@@JK-nq1dl teddy bear to grizzly bear is such an accurate description! That's how people will act. You think they could never hurt even a fly and then reject them and see they will make you regret it.
dad's based. funny how the term was used by guys who aren't nice at all back then too lol.
Yup, big difference in intentions between a good dude and a nice guy.
Good dude is improving himself and his situation for his own good. He isn't bitter if women turn him down because he doesn't rely on their validation.
Nice guy pretends to improve himself or only does it temporarily in an attempt to win women/people's validation. He gets bitter and violent when call out his insecurity.
Nice used to mean idiot, ignorant. It was a negative thing to say. Nowadays, just means being polite and acting within the social norm. Kindness, being a good dude means you actually give a shit and care about people. I have met and loved some of the most ornery old people who have never been nice but have always been fiercely kind.
"so you just make it work"
"yeah! :)"
*the buffoon is flummoxed*
Right, because it's so "common". Hence why a video was made on it.
"Impossible".
- Bane.
@@sebswede9005😂😂😂😂
I see a darkest dungeon fan
@@GalaxyKaneI live in the Netherlands and most people here are married or have children. Americans need to stop thinking that the internet represents the entire world. It is rotting away your IQ.
This is how regular people are. The red pill stuff is the online generation. I’ve been with my husband since I was 21 years old. When we got married he made mid 40s and I made less than 30 k. We’ve struggled together and prospered together at times. We’ve more than doubled our income since then and have two kids. I can’t even imagine my life without him even if everything falls apart. He’s a part of my soul.
Congratulations on having found such a wonderful man, and congratulations for him having found such a wonderful woman. Relationships should truly be that, an intertwining of souls, not just two people who just agreed to sign papers and live together. It is a powerful thing!
Tf are you talking about, fmnzm fked everything up, ♀are the problem and men just reacting and adapting.
If you were right, the numbers would reflect this, but sexlessness, sexual disparity, single motherhood rates and low birth rates say otherwise.
Is what it is. 🤷💊
Witnessed the dating scene change first-hand. It culminated when fb and myspace got big. Every impressionable kid in the world was on it. Little girls learned how to exploit their bodies to a high degree. Little boys felt like they had to have the most attractive girl in the world to be cool. This made boys meet whatever requirements a girl had, to date. This gave the girls all the power and the girls exploited it heavily. Those kids are young adults in their mid to late 20s now and things have hardly changed. Good thing is a lot of people like you and me weren't affected by this so there's still hope. The only solution is to bring the problem to light because the young adults don't realize the damage they are causing. There's a huge divide between young men and women right now. I think only 27% of men globally are in a relationship right now. Men feel used and taken advantage of and finally know how to express it to the entire world, which is why "women hate" videos have been going viral the past few years. Social media culture literally ruined society- created so much jealousy and selfishness. People aren't normal anymore. To the point it's surprising when someone is normal.
The stereotypes are true, you ♀are terrible at math.
If this was "regular people" the _statistics_ wouldn't be what they are, and these females would be _everywhere_
Newsflash: *They're not.* and no amount of wishing they were is going to change that.
If you're in an exceptional situation, cool, but you only _prove_ that you're not the rule. 🤡🌍
You do realise people make a lot less than 30k a year and make ends meet, you dont need the latest iphone and a car on credit
Preach realizing how he wasnt thinking about others situation and instantly acknowledging that is exactly why i love yalls commentary
Type shit, these red pill folks seeing a regular women is an ancient discovery to them 😂
Those guys are themselves not healthy, that's why regular people don't want to be around them. :)
u got brain rot & are perpetually on tiktok if you starting a sentence with "type shit" "gyatt" or any words like that... touch grass smh
Man talking to the woman like she speaking another language
DNA Clinics, a subsidiary of the BioClinics Group in Salford, analyzed 5,000 results randomly selected from January 2014 to June 2016, revealing a striking outcome: 48% of UK men tested, were not the biological father.
@@RoseRoseRoseRoseRoseRose tbh it’s sad but you can’t blame them. They gotta put on a certain body suit to be like certain men
It’s pathetic how much he’s fishing for the answer he wants.
at 16:00 yeah, most guys I could tell and cut out quickly but there were others that I didn't know until like 2 yrs in they confessed, I didn't see it coming at all, and it almost feels like... a betrayal? Like bro you didn't get friendzoned I got "girlfriendzoned" and then I feel stupid for not being able to tell because I usually pick up on that super fast. Every once in a while one slips through though. It happens but not often.
1:35 the math is mathing. She’s got a southern accent. Average 1% in TN/VA is making 100k. We average in VA and TN for average income around 30-60k. Southwest Va and Northeast TN. Not big cities but Bristol is a decent size. 60-80k people. I don’t care to say where I’m from. I’m a musician from the area. Just want to shed some light on the area and the possibilities that disprove social media’s definition of success.
I just want to shoutout and salute you my friend from Tazewell, VA as a local🫡
Aye brotha im from Kingsport. Tricities
Yeah, I’m from Ohio and if you’re in a relationship and you’re both at least making 30 K you’ll be straight me personally I’ll make it 40k delivering packages and my wife is 45k as a teacher we straight bro
Depends on where in Tennessee. Nashville? 50 or it’s not gonna happen. Those places cost 2000+ a month. Overall, you can totally make it happen if you’re not being some kind of a party animal. You can support a SMALL family on 50k in many places, not lavishly. A decent two bedroom (or large 1 br) in Murfreesboro is 1500/month after fees. Location location!
I live outside of Nashville and wages average income in the area now is $45,000 a year you still won't make it on that by yourself considering rent in an apartment is about $2000 and if you want to rent a house good luck with thatif you search all over you might find some townhomes that are less expensive in a couple areas but they tend to stay full because of that
I took care of a family of 4, 2 children and my wife with $55k a year. Every year my income improved but because of the time not making a lot I learned to budget and save. I took the family on vacay every year and we traveled to the annual family reunion every year. People are terrible with money.
Hey bro how’d u do it?I make less then u by 10 k hahaha…. What’s ur advice? I’m good at saving, but I’d love to know how YOU did it per se. You’ll know something I won’t
@@moonknight4053 He'll have literally zero debt. Do you have zero debt? Average income tax in the states is 14%, so 55k is 47k after income tax. Average rent in the US (which factors in ALL city rents) is 1700, so after rent that's 27k.
With no doubt, you can easily pay for a family of 4's food, clothing and bills with 27k. If you live in a rural, low-cost area that might venture all the way into being "easy" to pay for it all and having a decent holiday's worth of cash left over.
Every time somebody claims you need hundreds of thousands of dollars just to live and then you look into their finances, you immediately see they're spending tens of thousands of dollars on fucking door dash, and vapes, and weed, and then they're wasting thousands of dollars a month on credit card repayments as if any of that is normal.
@@moonknight4053 I owned the cars out right, I budgeted down to he penny, saved every paycheck, we ate at home most days (my cooks very well.), and I focused on needs over wants.
my problem isn't budgeting, its when shit goes wrong. like house repairs, my car damage, drove me into debt
@@arighteousperspective So I guess I just keep doin what I’m doing, try not to bug much takeout and if I do… at least save for it. Spend very wisely, keep putting 20 or even more dollars into my emergency fund, budget for homecooked meals, etc
“I’ve never seen a rodent ask me for cigarettes” 😂
It's because, they usually just take them.
The point at 14 min mark about friendship goes both ways. I've been friends with people I pined over and never said a thing because I didn't want to ruin what I had with them. I was content being just friends and did not want to risk it on a possibility of going out together.
But it was back when I was younger.
As I grew up I realised thats if I had a crush on someone it was best to test the water immediately because otherwise the feelings would grow and I'd never get the courage to get out of the friendzone. Better to see where the other person's at quickly so you can get over them if the feelings aren't mutual
As an Arab woman, I can confirm he’s soo right about Arab men 😂🥲
Crazy I didn't think it was a worldwide reputation 😂
Tbh everybody complains about the other sex no matter where they’re from, I think this is just selective bias
Actually a pretty good example is western “redpill” men complaining about women, and western “feminist” women complaining about men
@@allanmsema6224 crazy how you even have to defend it. Must say a lot about Arab men lol.
@@lastsong7159 don’t they exploit Africans for cheap or non payed labour in a lot of Arab countries? Both the men and women are the same if you ask me.
I dated a girl in college who's grandfather was a multimillionaire construction company owner. She would tell me how this guy would turn off the AC to half the house at night and keep the lights off just to save on electricity. Even though he lived in one of the nicest neighborhoods in Miami.
Another guy I met on a church trip would wear cheap pants and polos. I noticed his son driving off in a BMW and he confided in me the he was wealthy but lived within his means.
Another guy I knew was the heir to a construction company. His dad lived in a middle class neighborhood in Miami and had a couple of regular cars. He only kept a Lamborghini for nice nights out with his wife and for business meetings.
The rich move different. Read Millionaire Mindset and see how.
Turning off the AC and making everyone in the house uncomfortable isn’t some good trait. You don’t need to spend money like crazy on stupid shit but at least let your family be comfortable. Also, people use stuff like that as a way of abuse. Turning the AC off, turning the heater off, turning the hot water off etc. Don’t glamorize that behavior.
@@CherryJulii would read „half the house“ as if the part where nobody ist but yeah its a point
In Miami it is illegal to turn off the AC because of the way the houses are built and due to mold. This person was extremely cheap and doing something illegal risking their family health. You guys see these extreme examples and think it is cool.
@@CherryJuli I think you’re looking for issues
No thank you. I don't need to read a book you are hawking on someone else's channel.
I live in Northern Ireland in a rural area. I lived on £1000 a month easily. I don’t go out for dinner often, I don’t drink or party. I prefer going to the gym, going on hikes and cooking my own meals. I thrift most of my clothing. I was still able to go on holiday every year somewhere nice.
1000 Euros is a lot lmaooo
@@PersonalAcc1989 I live in London but was born in Paris , 1000euros is nothing
You are an outlier
@@PersonalAcc1989 Pounds, it's a lot if you live in the Philippines, it's very little if you live in any Western country.
It's less than what 15 m2 room will cost you in W European capitals monthly.
@@AngelaT-kz9to you should see how much that’s worth in CAD lolllll
Best bit of wisdom I ever received concerning finances: “If your out-go exceeds your income, then your upkeep will be your downfall.” Thanks, dad!
You can tell she goes to the grocery store and doesn't get McDonalds for herself and her kid everyday.
And both groceries and McDonald’s are 5, 4 times more expensive respectively than they were even a few years ago 😭
That's bare minimum
This is awfully specific
@@humblefloat The OP is implying that he/she can tell because that lady isn't fat.
Well, I hate to burst OP's little bubble, but I know people who are fat despite never eating fast food, _because_ they like to cook from scratch. People exist who just have a genuine passion for making and enjoying good home-cooked food.
@@AngryReptileKeeper Projecting much?
The Arab guy thing is so true man. My friend dated an Arab dude and the shit she telling me he does is unreal and she still wanting him dawg😭
things like what? spill the tea 👀
@@itsppi he wants an open relationship but only he gets to date other girls. She tried dating another guy but he got so jealous he went and got into a fight to show his frustration. He also would ghost her out of nowhere and text her back like nothing happened after a few days. He keeps saying he doesn't want a commitment but expects it from her.
@@hl_crowbarthat’s crazy. she needs to leave him asap 😭
@@itsppi I've told her like 30 times 😭
@@hl_crowbarShe had better do a runner asap, that is surely not going to end well eventually if it’s that bad to begin with.
you might be the first youtubers i have seen admit that there can be a massive difference in cost of living from rural places and cities. i made 66k last year and my wife is a stay at home mom, we have 3 kids, a 4-5 bedroom house (we are using one as a office), 2 vehicles, my house payment is 700 a month.... im pretty damn comfy on 66k a year.
For those who ask, small towns in kansas.
Bro where do you live
Seriously?!
Where do you live?!?
@@carmelcutie1991 dude you pay 700 a month you know how expensive it is in Italy ?
@@carmelcutie1991 also it's a joke don't stress about it
The rat an pigeon joke got me crying !!! 😂😂😂😂 6:23
30k is doable but the moment something happens, a medical expense a broken car or something, it would be crippling.
In America - yup, anywhere else - you'd be fine
this right here.
Typically for the average American….but if u have an emergency fund that drastically decreases
Yeah if you live in the West Coast or any other liberal city
Yup
I just got reminded me of a self-proclaimed "nice guy" i met a few years ago. About a month into us knowing each other, he posted about how girls reject nice guys and always go for the bad guys and get their hearts broken then say it's all men yadayada. The day we first met, i had given him my number, and within the first 2 hours of us talking, he had told me 5 pick-up lines back-to-back😭. It was crazy because i liked him, but holding a conversation with him was so hard because he just kept throwing pick-up lines at me. So seeing that on his story had made me laugh because he clearly thought girls rejected him because he was a "nice guy", when it probably wasn't even that most of the time, he was just hard to talk to.
Posted on his story? WTF does that even mean, cuz i hear that ALOT from women, about them posting on stories or how they watch guys stories and like them by accident, im just going to assume its sone social media platform.
Stories is when you post an update on what your doing or what's going on in your life on Snapchat or Instagram. It's like a post but temporary.
Same as all the people claiming they're normal and they're not chronically online, while being the first to post under this vid
😂 Please inform him
The same happened to me when I was dating. The guy couldn't carry a conversation, it was awkward and at times I felt bad for him. After about two dates I called it quits.
12:50 I don't care how rich the person is, adjusting the heating in somebody else's house is CRAZZZYYY to me.
The dial is there for the main character.
For reallll! total incel behaviour
Yesss
@e.d.rarendyag7firnen28 😂😂
Bro, the turning the lights out thing. I can so relate to that!
When we were younger, my little brother always used to keep his lights on, even when we were going out! I always turned his lights out for him because I always thought that I didn’t want to waste my parents’ money on something stupid like that.
Even now when I’m older I do things to save a little on electricity, like only charging my phone and laptop at school if I can afford to.
Lol the story Abba was telling about spending three hours trying to save 150 on a flight reminds me of my grandfather so much. He grew up poor but worked his way up to become fair well off. He would price check all these grocery stores and drive across town and spend probably more on gas and time to save a few dollars
Interviewer: "How long you had a man?"
Woman: "Five years"
Interviewer: "And how long have you had a baby?"
Woman: "She is almost two"
Interviewer: "Was it with him or with someone else?"
My mans was not thinking when he asked that last question🤣
No he knew exactly what he was asking lol
He is terrible. He has canned questions and if it strays at all he just reads as is.
I mean with today's internet I can relate to him about not trusting other people.
The guy is so suspicious that he thinks maybe the baby is not from the same man 🤣
@@drax065 Nah that's called being termianlly online if you equate internet to real life
Idk where she lives to live that cheap, but seems like she’s ok as long as her man can take care of her and she doesn’t need the super fancy lifestyle. A win in my book.
Likely more than 90 minutes away from a significant metro area.
People commute to metro areas to work so if you look to see where the 'too far' line is to commute you will start to find really affordable housing.
It's like that in Canada, everything is reasonably cheaper out side the metro areas and especially if you're a couple sharing your finance you will be fine.@@scurvofpcp
Alot of america is like that. Omaha you can get a nice 1 bed apartment decent to good area 675-700. Gas 3.10 dollars
We can go lower but is a shit box in the hood i saw something for 450.
@@scurvofpcpno tons of citys everyone just hypes major citys there hidden jems.
Omaha is one my other comment is some prices
I have no clue where she could live that $1000 a month would cut it with a baby. What about food, insurance, car potentially, light bill, gas bill, internet, phone, gas for the vehicle, diapers, etc. I don't believe $1000 anywhere is cutting it
A point on the women and men being friends thing... I don't meet people on dating apps. I tend to meet people at social events and if we click, we click. I'll usually wear a wedding ring and make it a point to adjust my glasses a couple of times with that hand while making eye contact. It's been the easiest way for me to avoid expectations I don't want put on me. I hate that I have to do it, but a lot of men have no respect for the idea that a single woman isn't always on the menu. I have a lot of hobbies that are popular with men and I don't need them thinking I'm there looking for love. If there's any misunderstandings I just say I'm married and show the ring. If they're good people with good intentions they back off fast.
Im a man and most of my closest friend are men, but my social circle as a whole is 50/50 with women and men.
I have never understood why some people think men and women cant be friends. Like what?
It requires a person to have some sort of prejudice, man or woman to not see the fact that you dont have to do anything special just be your damn self. If you like a person, chill with them. If you notice you catch feelings, tell them honestly but not forcefully or in a way that makes you seem desperate.
Its natural that people will catch feelings when being with people for an extended period of time but there is no shame in being told no.
If you were actual friends, you get over it and move on.
I know this comes from me growing up around strong women and strong men and having female cousins that I hung with alot.
Fear of rejection and abandonment is horrible, believe me I know this.
But I know that those feelings do not actually come from the women in my life. My mind told me that because im a heterosexual male and want women to like me obviously.
So when they didnt, or atleast I believed so at the time, I became bitter.
But I realized that this low sense of self-worth and fear of rejection comes from the bullying I experienced as a child. And those bullies were dudes, as they mostly are.
Its easy for men to blame women for everything and I dont wanna sound like a meek capitalist girlboss male feminist but its just facts.
The best words I have ever heard from someone came from a very good female friend when she told me that i am a beautiful person because I think she saw how hard I am on myself, that stuck with me and those words still ring in my head sometimes when the world tries to fuck with me
I make 40k (working construction) with a stay at home wife and a child. Cheap rent for a really nice neighborhood, low living expenses, with a little play around money (a few hundred). Just be smart with your money. It take's responsibility to budget, not a genius.
only 40k from construction? theyre stealing from you my guy. You should be swimming in money.
That’s awesome. You’re doing well.
@@zoulzopan I do flooring for a small family business... my family. Not a union. I get my raises for working hard + benefits. We're subcontractors who work along side the biggest local material distributor. Any work expenses paid for, PTO, with a vehicle and all tools. I'm a simple man working to better myself and my family. It's not my bussiness to be drowning in money. I make what I need + some.
@@mixyballer8384 i understand but 40k a year for the work you do sounds criminal to me. If you live in the west you can make easily 100k a year but even more if you have your own business. But you do you and hope for the best for you.
@@zoulzopan im east :/ over west i'd imagine pay is insane compared to here but thankyou, you too!
Depends where you live. My wife and I had one car for the first few years we were married, my wife cooked all our meals, we didn’t go on vacations, we don’t get $1,000 phones and $500 smartwatches, we don’t get $8 coffees. We spent time together watching movies or playing games. It was my wife and I and our 2 kids and we didn’t need anyone else. We had tons of fun and grew closer as a family.
i could easily live with youtube being my only form of entertainment. No need for streaming service bills or cable
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True but 30k still isn't enough for that. That's like 2600 a month. (1100) rent for a bad apartment w utilities (300)month car payment (400) a month for food (100) a month for gas/ transportation. 500-700 a month for child expenses like diapers formula clothes etc. Thats 2400-2600 which leaves you with 0-200 for anything else that comes up in the month like entertainment or car repairs or hospital visits.
Not everybody has car payments. Some people save up for their rustbucket
@@stanleyelnats Such nonesense. Even your view on essential bills is tainted by consumerism.
For those wondering, olympic video got taken down due to copyright from Media companies. We tried reuploading with no success. We have a community post about it.
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What about the Kai video?
Rumble?
The government out here trying to shut down anyone with a different narrative
Copyright Strike: Google Offensive
DNA Clinics, a subsidiary of the BioClinics Group in Salford, analyzed 5,000 results randomly selected from January 2014 to June 2016, revealing a striking outcome: 48% of UK men tested, were not the biological father.
2:15 Yeah, definitely have to consider where you're at and their circumstances. Notice that when listing expenses, she didn't mention "mortgage?" Probably already paid for ... my daughter has a home in Arkansas, a town of about 30K population. It's about 1600 sq.ft., 4 bedrooms, 1/2 acre lot ... and she owns the home free and clear, paid by her grandmother. She owns her car outright too; no more car payments. My mortgage is a significant part of my expenses, but my last apartment before I became a homeowner, I could have lived (and did) on 35K a year.
So, if you don't need to worry about rent/mortgage, and all you need are groceries, toiletries, and utilities, 30K a year can easily be enough. You're not living extravagantly, but you have enough to meet your needs with some room to spare.
_When Terminally online Red pill weirdos realize IRL Women really aren’t that bad lol_
FR, anytime I read a red pillers bitter comment, I think to myself I literally don’t know One woman in real life that’s like what they’re describing 😂😂 like get off the internet, go outside and interact with ppl IRL
FFS it’s embarrassing
For real. It like bro go touch some grass. It’s like of course if you roll in shit you’re going to attract the flies. Not all women’s fault you find the shitty ones 😂
@@AFFTFOMSICHTS True
And the funny thing is redpillers ONLY attract trashy women not women like this, they run away.
Maybe maybe.
But about 8-9 out of 10 (those I found out, not sure about the rest) females I got with one way or another turned out to have boyfriends or husbands, even fiances. Mind you, that wasn't form clubs or tinders. I was looking for something real and decent, not for hoes.
My rent is 605 a month. 2 bedroom. Clean comfortable. No bugs/critters. Some of y'all are paying too much for too little...
Same rent is 550 per month, I'm a student work part time make around £10,000 per year, partner makes £26,000 per year, 1 kid and we still holiday around Europe twice a year, we have a nice life, I have never been a big shopper or materialistic, we love the gym don't need to dress fancy to look good when your body is already good 😅
damn where the hell you live?
@@cheuk7765right!! I’m in cali paying 1495 for a 1bd
@@cheuk7765 Birmingham Alabama
@@cheuk7765probably middle of nowhere Texas, Kansas or Nebraska would be my guess, an hour away from a grocery or convenience store and 2 hours away from a hospital. I’m curious also!
One time I mentioned how much I spend on my hair and beauty routine in a month. I was told I was “hiding my finances” because my bf didn’t care how much I spend, because he isn’t paying for it and that I’d be single forever.
In reality it was less than 1% of my income, we talk about our brokerage accounts, real estate investing, and savings rate all the time, and we’re engaged now.
Some of these weirdo men are so chronically online they cannot comprehend people living a normal life.
If this was "normal" then the *red pill* wouldn't exist, and this video wouldn't even be worth reviewing.
She's the exception, not the rule.
aka _the math aint mathin dumbo_ 🤡🌍
Some women aren't gold diggers who expect to be pampered and be given jewelry, some of us are just there wanting companionship and love.
My uber or doordash bill is INSANE and im always complaining about not having money when its my own fault
Uber is a waste. Why pay $30 to have a burrito sent to you?
@@counselorguy5481 bro exactly. a $30 burrito better be the best burrito on the planet
Least you're honest about it
you should learn your way around the kitchen. not having money because you eat out every day is nasty work.
Girl when i saw l spent $10k on ubereats in 1.5 years i shut that down so quick.
Agreed…
I’m a an elderly black woman who’s a pensioner in Australia 🇦🇺 who’s living inside my means always in credit all bills.
Not living lavishly but comfortably at my age. With no debt. With insurance and funeral plan ready. Yet the rest of my family is struggling. I tried helping but I’m always broke after. I even offered to help them budget strictly like I do, but they’re always willing to spend big. Living outside their means. You just can’t help those who don’t see the value and benefits of living well. Sad but true. But I do help when I can, not by being constantly broke. Thought I do love spoiling my family when I can. And penny pinching, almost all your life is muscle memory because we know the value of money.
I respect that 100%. stay strong. I wish you the best. sometimes people don't wanna be healed but it's family, still I understand that too.
As a fellow Australian I’m truly impressed. I’m not sure where you live but where I am is over the top expensive just for essentials let alone for a mortgage.
@@wanderingstar5270 Hi… In between Ipswich and Brisbane + I rent from housing…I learnt the value of money from my English foster parents and they taught me from a child to work and eventually save…but due to helping my family I had to sell my home. But regardless I landed on my feet and became more strong and stricter and learned to say no to my family when it doesn’t benefit all the family…thinking ahead with planning is the key, regardless of age, I planned from my early 20’s to be at least secure in old age, even if I lost my home. But that doesn’t matter. The end result was worth the risk. I still enjoy going to the movies, museums, restaurants, plays, and walkabouts while camping in QLD and sometimes NSW. I hope you eventually get your security and lovely golden age retirement. Live for you and your immediate family. Blessings to you all.
What you said about niceness is exactly what I heard from guys about me as a girl. 100% that I'm too nice, that they think is signifies I would be a pushover and they want excitement and I could be boring. They didn't even know me well, it's a vibe a person gives off. Being older now I understand there is healing to be done. There is some trauma response that people pick up on.
To all the "nice" people:
You go out to the world from your house that maybe wasn't extremely abusive, so it's not so obvious. Maybe your household revolved around someone's mood and well-being. Maybe your sibling revolted against this power dynamic and maybe your burden was to tune in and act according to the needs of the person. All your life you learnt how to serve other people's emotional needs. It's a coping mechanism that has root in fear. It's ingrained in you so you take it with you to the world. People outside your household see this fear based niceness and are repulsed by it.
I the words of Dr JP you need to grow teeth and set boundaries. Healing is the key. And in the end you will learn the difference between "niceness" and kindness.
So true. Nice observations. When I was teaching a few years ago in a challenging high school, I had noticed that the boys who grew with a single mother were the ones who would be really into alpha stuff. They were not necessarily traumatized or abused but they grew around women and were looking for a model of masculinity, going for extremes because that’s easily available and them just stereotyping a lot because they are influenceable teenagers. I wonder if they grew out of it or stayed that way. A lot has to do with how you grew and what was missing. Maybe you missed nothing.
THIS!!! I really appreciate your perspective.
"from guys..."
You mean from chad and tyrone.
the overwhelming majority of dude are _fiending_ for nice females, ironically they're the ones females ignore.
Can't see the forest if you're staring at the trees. 💊
If i enjoy seeing others winning and succeeding and assisting others in acts from achieving their goals, to just being generally thoughtful on a day to day basis, does that make me nice and therefore a need to heal? An interesting thought.
There is a major difference between being nice and being a pushover or having a need to please. Me personally, I believe i am nice not because of a need for validation or because of some deep rooted fear, but because its great to see others happy as well as yourself. What do you lot reckon?
@@samotian0331 maybe you are just kind, then?
21:47 this is so true😭 I dated a Moroccan man and I was glad he stayed with me after he stopped speaking to me for a month. The next relationship I was in was with a lowkey abusive guy but I was mind blown by him answering my texts💀
My parents had 7 kids together and they raised us on a 30-35k salary in the early to late 2000's. We grew up in NYC. My mom was a stay-at-home mom. We were poor, but I had a decent childhood. We lived below our mean. No buying unnecessary things. Everything we bought was 100% needed. All food was homecooked. Maybe once or twice a year, we would have McDolands or Chinese takeout.
Every month my dad would buy soap, deodorant, toothpaste, rice, pasta, oil, salt, pepper, onion powder, garlic powder, chili powder, tomato paste, brown mustard, potatoes, frozen veggies, chicken, and red meat, in bulk and on sale. That was pretty much 95% of the groceries we needed. Then every week my dad would give my mom $25 to buy any extra we needed. She would buy eggs, bread, milk, and basic produce (bell pepper, carrots, and cabbage). We never bought full-priced clothes. Always the clearance section, and we only bought good quality. Nothing cheap that will get destroyed quickly. My mom would also sew us new clothes and repair old clothes. My dad didn't believe in credit cards, so he never had one. All the things we had, he bought with what we had.
EDIT:
Wow! Y'all can't read and can y'all can't do math. I said early to late 2000's not the 90's. The early to late 2000's is not 20-30 years ago. Even though the cost of living was way cheaper back then, it's still difficult raising 7 kids on a 30-35k salary without having financial literacy. Especially living in NYC. Regardless, my parents still made it work. The point was to motivate you guys to start cutting back and living within your means. To learn to buy what's necessary and be satisfied with that. I explained how my parents did it so you can get an idea on how you can do it for yourselves. That's the whole point!
Most of yall are single making 30k on average. If my parents can raise 7 kids with that amount, you can support yourselves. I live alone and I'm surviving just fine because I don't spend my money on useless things. I just started making about 35-40k this year. Even when I was making about 25k, I was fine. I'm extremely happy partly because I'm satisfied with the minimum. Mostly because I realized something most people don't. That nothing really matters but God. If you can learn to let go of worldly things and put your hope in Jesus, you will have true peace. You will be in a storm, and be shocked at calm you are. That's been my reality. Most of you will roll your eyes at me mentioning God, but while y'all are busy arguing non-sense I'm in peace living a happy life with no regrets. When that financial crash in 2025 comes, a lot of y'all are going to be so miserable because your hearts are so attached to worldly things. Do yourselves a favor and let go of these fickle things while you can. Learn to live humbly, and surrender your worries to God. You will be fine. Everything about this world is fickle. Only one thing is sure, and that's Jesus. You have been warned.
That was 20 to 30 yrs ago.....
Inflation ALONE blows that away.
Late 2000s was NOT 20-30 years ago
@@MrsMuffin11 Late 2000s can already be considered in 2025, we're pretty much there.
@@MrsMuffin11 "they raised us on a 30-35k salary in the early to late 2000's"
Wait, growing up you had a McDoland's too? Quite the Irish pub.
In rural areas, a family can make it on 30k per year but there might be some tough times every once in a while. Remember that in rural areas, a lot of people own their own property (sometimes inherited but property is cheap in the country if it’s not flat land suitable for farming). I make 60K and live like a king. My home and property cost me 20K cash and my property taxes are only $200/year. Yeah, I live in a trailer but at least I own it (and 2 acres of property) free and clear. Without rent or mortgage, I have the ability to save and invest.
Aint nothing wrong with a trailer especially on 2 acres.
Hard to find a nearby job to get the loan.. nice deal you found
That's my dream life right there. A nice mobile home on 1-2 acres of land and have a 16 x20 shed in the yard that could be my studio. Any advice on finding good land?
@@Throwaway-ug5uq depends where are you at and where are you willing to move to?
@@beefy45 In Kentucky and want to move to North Carolina.
"Being kind is not a bad thing, but don't be *dull* " Thanks, Aba
I live in suburbia and pay 400 a month in rent. In the city 20 km over, you couldn't rent a shoebox for that price. Also, I have everything I need here in walking distance and if I need to go to the city, I can take a bus (no thanks doh) or just borrow a car, which rarely happens. If you aren't wastefull with your money and you pick a good cheap place to live, you can easily survive on less that 30k if you need to
Where do you live?