I divorced myself and married the prescription list of the culture only to feel stifled. Finally had to divorce a good man to marry my own self to begin owning myself in sickness and health for betterbor for worse. Thankfully we have been able to maintain a relatively healthy family relationship now relatively consciously. Marriage as of today still prescribes on growing old together not on growing( if at all) together. Thanks for putting this up😊
I'd love a "boring" relationship without ownership & control, where I won't be psychologically punished for simply encouraging others, giving thumbs up because someone's words or example inspire me for good. I am an extremely faithful & loyal person, but won't give up my outgoing & radically accepting nature. That makes life painful in a way that is soul-destroying. There IS One I WORSHIP in song, prayer & fasting, Who has overcome mortality and is more capable of being a Best Friend than any one I know.
I would be so grateful and happy to have that “boring” relationship. I never did and will never understand how come people can get boring with goodness.
This is something i needed to learn. Unfortunately i lost my spouse, and have decided to work on my relationship with my own self, i never had children, and slowly building new friendships. Practicing boundaries, practicing my own self care, and I've had to wake up and face new realities. So all of this is terrific.
Surely knowing now, being on the right track , finally becoming the most authentic version of myself ! 🧡 Truly words of wisdom intervene with perfect humour 🔥
Both men and women are wired for both sex and emotional intimacy, it’s just conditioned out of both sexes in different ways. I get more emotional intimacy from the awakened men in my life than I do my “unawakened complaining, blind, lazy girlfriends.” Yes…It’s rare to stumble across awakened men and women but they’re out there. I get you’re speaking to the lowest, dysfunctional rungs here as that’s the norm, but if we/you don’t start talking on a higher expectation level then nobody’s going to know what there is to level up to. I’d love to see you show/talk about more of those growth-based model people out there. People think they’re unicorns. Find them, showcase them as an example and we might get some broader traction??? When we only dialogue with negativity bias language/story then we tend to produce more of the same. Love your candor and, I’d love to see you give a talk with a more positively bias viewpoint (blind spot maybe ? said with love ❤️🌸🦋).
You are right. What you are talking about is relationships. Not soul connection. When you have an instant soul connection it is way deeper than the persona. First you see yourself in them, then you see thru the person, you see their weakness, you see their baggage, then you see their strength ... and you see all your own weakness stage by stage ...You see everything, and have a soul love. Love for their humanity in all aspects, the good, bad and ugly ... and if you have the skills to deal with it by being true to yourself also... that is Soul love... and it happens in an instant , not the persona instant, the deep soul recognition instant ....
Most can't even connect with all that you have listed in themselves without extreme self work. How is it that in an instant one can see all those things in another?
@@jaxonellis2995 It happens . I am not into labels but people who have experienced this, call it soul connections or twin flame connections. It’s a very intense connection and it’s both rewarding and painful connection because it brings out both the good and the bad. Certain life circumstances and connections forces you to look into yourself deeper. This is where it talks about the instant recognition: ua-cam.com/video/MIIADnHyBws/v-deo.html This is an interview: ua-cam.com/video/DZFxzW2oiDY/v-deo.html I have experienced this twice personally. It’s not an easy journey .
@@deepdiver849 Life and individuals can be catalysts for deep introspection and change. Just wondering how an intense connection with another can take place without first having an intense connection with oneself. If you have not seen the depths of yourself how can you recognize the depth of another? We can only resonate to that with which we already contain within ourselves.
@@jaxonellis2995 it’s difficult to explain ... certain connections wake you up to your depths. I mean you had the potential to go deep but we’re just asleep , then life throws you into certain connections to unveil the disconnect in you. It forces you. For me personally I have been on the spiritual path when I first had that connection, and after that connection I went even deeper , until another deep connection happened last year. These connections are meant to take you deeper... Since I had already had the initial connection experience and going deeper within after that, the second one was more intense, and I could clearly see right from the start the depths of that person, infact I first saw his fears , which he was trying to mask. Which was in me too but not as intense as it was in him. He is my mirror , so when I recognized what was in him, I recognized it within myself and corrected it, by removing my mask from him fully. This connection forces you to be totally authentic, you have no choice but to be fully authentic other wise you physically false sick as a result of misalignment of internal self. Definitely watch the interview with Lee&Sherry . You have to experience this connection for yourself. It’s very hard to describe. Only those who experienced it can resonate with those who have... but if you are really into understanding this as an outsider without the experience, I highly recommend watching the journey of Lee & Sherry Twinflame. Their journey is deep diving into the human soul , so authentic and raw. The connection is the best teacher that no psychology teacher can teach you. The best analogy that I can think of is, your soul covered with dirt, just a little opening in the dirt which causes the beam of light to shine thru is your true self which causes the intense first connection, or recognition, then it’s a process of clearing the dirt within so the connection balances itself from laser focused intensity to expansion and deeper awareness of yourself and all surrounding you.
@@deepdiver849 To awaken and understand that we are merely navigating patterns in the societal matrix just takes courage and a commitment to let go of our ideas of safety. To rely on an external leaves us at the mercy of chance. Doing the work oneself is more sure and lasting. If your external catalyst perishes, so goes your journey.
Dear Dr Shefali. It is so nice haveing you in my life... you are like a Woman runnig arround me with a mirror tryin to put it in front of me and runnin away because I do not like to show in it...
I so relate to the empathetic topic ..haha.have been working diligently in my DM skills for healthy boundary building.have found for me that just sticking to them is my greatest challenge.always end up bending.twisting to say the least
🤣🤣🤣🤣 this is 💯 my marriage, my divorce and I'm sure my upcoming datinglife... if I ever get to that 🥴. And yes, this "familyaccount" was made by me , the female ofcourse.
This is so honest and raw, yet delivered with such humour. My ex-boyfriend is onto band-aid baby number 3 in his loveless marriage. With each child he’s gotten ignored and neglected more and more by the wife. So what was he thinking? Like Dr. Shefali says, he wasn’t thinking!
Men are clearly capable of communication during the hunt. I think the switch happens when they've become deeply attached enough to project their mother onto us. Taking over household duties can speed up this process.😣
Having been a child of all abuses n by both genders alike has formed a bonfire throughout my entire life of failed toxic relationships with partners of the like childhood.si true that craziness is so grateful that I'm just aware today.
At 51 days of birthing a kiddo probably ain't gonna happen.butbwho knows.never say never is always honored true.lol.have a most blessed of days my friend
Hey do you tell them to stop doing things you don't like lieing and being around people you don't like or people they say she is my sister but it not it is someone they were with at one time I have sad stop but thay want I love him so evey much I don't want to lose him I need we're help so tell me want do
Personally I believe that the natural connection of energy shared is synergy of soulmates...death in 🧬 they never part..only temporary until it's next incarnation..until their souls finality of their Great marriage in the end.then becomes aknew beginning of eternity
Now the physical benefits of the relationship must follow the prerequisites of self preservation or love for self...the benefits of the continued shared energy or synergetic romance
On second thoughts, be it mr prince charming or a Tom, Dick or Harry, chances are he farts loud, burps loud and snores loud too lolzz.. so what's the big deal and what's the difference
I divorced myself and married the prescription list of the culture only to feel stifled. Finally had to divorce a good man to marry my own self to begin owning myself in sickness and health for betterbor for worse.
Thankfully we have been able to maintain a relatively healthy family relationship now relatively consciously.
Marriage as of today still prescribes on growing old together not on growing( if at all) together.
Thanks for putting this up😊
Best talk on relationships, ever....
Shefali, I loved your comment about ( I paraphrase) "be the person you want to attract"....it is SOOO True !
I'd love a "boring" relationship without ownership & control, where I won't be psychologically punished for simply encouraging others, giving thumbs up because someone's words or example inspire me for good. I am an extremely faithful & loyal person, but won't give up my outgoing & radically accepting nature. That makes life painful in a way that is soul-destroying. There IS One I WORSHIP in song, prayer & fasting, Who has overcome mortality and is more capable of being a Best Friend than any one I know.
Love this woman, she’s not only beautiful, exceptionally bright, totally on the money and completely honest but she’s funny too.., 🙏🙂
I would be so grateful and happy to have that “boring” relationship. I never did and will never understand how come people can get boring with goodness.
This is hilarious! I'm grateful for this. If only those who benefited from this most could hear....
You are beautiful. Love everything you have to say. On point. Funny and quite riveting.
This is why I choose to be single. Looking to meet myself first.
Hows that goin for ya so far?
@@iBRiDGE380 being single is awesome.
Emotional,sexual desire and attraction that sets us apart from friendship connecting on a deeper level is ìntimacy.
Waha!ha! Am laughing so loud but it’s very true .Thank you!Dr.Shefali
Dr Shefali, you are so much a voice for me! I share your way of seeing life and your life experiences. I’m reading the book, finally. 🤗♥️🌹
Thank you so much Dr. Shefali for sharing the truth on love & relationships 🙏💞💐🙏
Love your interpretation about chemical attraction and relationship! Time for me to give up my fantasy and live a real life.
This is something i needed to learn. Unfortunately i lost my spouse, and have decided to work on my relationship with my own self, i never had children, and slowly building new friendships. Practicing boundaries, practicing my own self care, and I've had to wake up and face new realities. So all of this is terrific.
Best talk ever....an eye opener, but so real...lots to ponder...thanks so much xx
Thank you. Loved it;)
Great video, thank you!
loved your book. Reading it again. Helped me take responsibility for my life
Surely knowing now, being on the right track , finally becoming the most authentic version of myself ! 🧡
Truly words of wisdom intervene with perfect humour 🔥
Both men and women are wired for both sex and emotional intimacy, it’s just conditioned out of both sexes in different ways. I get more emotional intimacy from the awakened men in my life than I do my “unawakened complaining, blind, lazy girlfriends.” Yes…It’s rare to stumble across awakened men and women but they’re out there. I get you’re speaking to the lowest, dysfunctional rungs here as that’s the norm, but if we/you don’t start talking on a higher expectation level then nobody’s going to know what there is to level up to. I’d love to see you show/talk about more of those growth-based model people out there. People think they’re unicorns. Find them, showcase them as an example and we might get some broader traction??? When we only dialogue with negativity bias language/story then we tend to produce more of the same. Love your candor and, I’d love to see you give a talk with a more positively bias viewpoint (blind spot maybe ? said with love ❤️🌸🦋).
So grateful for you 😊
Love this so much
I like the idea of the list of what to evolve❤
YYY.u said it.tku for such an enlightened message to the collective
I have seen a LOT from Dr. Shefali and THIS is one of the most important messages I have heard .
Thank you Shefali!
Thank you for living un purpose!
You are right. What you are talking about is relationships. Not soul connection. When you have an instant soul connection it is way deeper than the persona. First you see yourself in them, then you see thru the person, you see their weakness, you see their baggage, then you see their strength ... and you see all your own weakness stage by stage ...You see everything, and have a soul love. Love for their humanity in all aspects, the good, bad and ugly ... and if you have the skills to deal with it by being true to yourself also... that is Soul love... and it happens in an instant , not the persona instant, the deep soul recognition instant ....
Most can't even connect with all that you have listed in themselves without extreme self work. How is it that in an instant one can see all those things in another?
@@jaxonellis2995 It happens . I am not into labels but people who have experienced this, call it soul connections or twin flame connections. It’s a very intense connection and it’s both rewarding and painful connection because it brings out both the good and the bad.
Certain life circumstances and connections forces you to look into yourself deeper.
This is where it talks about the instant recognition:
ua-cam.com/video/MIIADnHyBws/v-deo.html
This is an interview: ua-cam.com/video/DZFxzW2oiDY/v-deo.html
I have experienced this twice personally. It’s not an easy journey .
@@deepdiver849 Life and individuals can be catalysts for deep introspection and change. Just wondering how an intense connection with another can take place without first having an intense connection with oneself. If you have not seen the depths of yourself how can you recognize the depth of another? We can only resonate to that with which we already contain within ourselves.
@@jaxonellis2995 it’s difficult to explain ... certain connections wake you up to your depths. I mean you had the potential to go deep but we’re just asleep , then life throws you into certain connections to unveil the disconnect in you. It forces you.
For me personally I have been on the spiritual path when I first had that connection, and after that connection I went even deeper , until another deep connection happened last year. These connections are meant to take you deeper...
Since I had already had the initial connection experience and going deeper within after that, the second one was more intense, and I could clearly see right from the start the depths of that person, infact I first saw his fears , which he was trying to mask. Which was in me too but not as intense as it was in him. He is my mirror , so when I recognized what was in him, I recognized it within myself and corrected it, by removing my mask from him fully. This connection forces you to be totally authentic, you have no choice but to be fully authentic other wise you physically false sick as a result of misalignment of internal self. Definitely watch the interview with Lee&Sherry .
You have to experience this connection for yourself. It’s very hard to describe. Only those who experienced it can resonate with those who have... but if you are really into understanding this as an outsider without the experience, I highly recommend watching the journey of Lee & Sherry Twinflame. Their journey is deep diving into the human soul , so authentic and raw. The connection is the best teacher that no psychology teacher can teach you.
The best analogy that I can think of is, your soul covered with dirt, just a little opening in the dirt which causes the beam of light to shine thru is your true self which causes the intense first connection, or recognition, then it’s a process of clearing the dirt within so the connection balances itself from laser focused intensity to expansion and deeper awareness of yourself and all surrounding you.
@@deepdiver849 To awaken and understand that we are merely navigating patterns in the societal matrix just takes courage and a commitment to let go of our ideas of safety. To rely on an external leaves us at the mercy of chance. Doing the work oneself is more sure and lasting. If your external catalyst perishes, so goes your journey.
Excellent ❤
Atlantic City is waiting for you to come to this area ! Deep dive 101 needed here
Please do a video with Matthew Hussey!! Will be a WONDERFUL video to learn about relationships.
Excellent suggestion
Dear Dr Shefali. It is so nice haveing you in my life... you are like a Woman runnig arround me with a mirror tryin to put it in front of me and runnin away because I do not like to show in it...
Wow u are absolutely right..., my husband dint communicate for so long and when I burst he is shock...
I so relate to the empathetic topic ..haha.have been working diligently in my DM skills for healthy boundary building.have found for me that just sticking to them is my greatest challenge.always end up bending.twisting to say the least
🤣🤣🤣🤣 this is 💯 my marriage, my divorce and I'm sure my upcoming datinglife... if I ever get to that 🥴. And yes, this "familyaccount" was made by me , the female ofcourse.
Love you Dr. Shefali ❤️ Your brutally honest and love it 😁❤️🙏🏻
You are so right 😂
This is so honest and raw, yet delivered with such humour. My ex-boyfriend is onto band-aid baby number 3 in his loveless marriage. With each child he’s gotten ignored and neglected more and more by the wife. So what was he thinking? Like Dr. Shefali says, he wasn’t thinking!
Men are clearly capable of communication during the hunt. I think the switch happens when they've become deeply attached enough to project their mother onto us. Taking over household duties can speed up this process.😣
Please make a video on active listening skills and how it enhances relationships ❤️
Self preservation Is Salvation..then as within so be without
Ai love you sweetie 😘❤
Having been a child of all abuses n by both genders alike has formed a bonfire throughout my entire life of failed toxic relationships with partners of the like childhood.si true that craziness is so grateful that I'm just aware today.
"What are these statues?" Now that's funny!
Hello from France!
This means I have two little goofy men to raise.. lolzz
Lmao
"Chemical horniness" hahahaha
Fucking lovit!
Hahaha
🙏🏻
Namaste
"You shouldn't be falling at all. You should be centering."
FUCKING BRILLIANT BEYOND MEASURE!
YAY!
INTELLIGENT LIFE IN EARTH!
lol
At 51 days of birthing a kiddo probably ain't gonna happen.butbwho knows.never say never is always honored true.lol.have a most blessed of days my friend
As within so without, this dictates as I see is within me. Correct?
What if we both awaken but he go away anyway?
Hey do you tell them to stop doing things you don't like lieing and being around people you don't like or people they say she is my sister but it not it is someone they were with at one time I have sad stop but thay want I love him so evey much I don't want to lose him I need we're help so tell me want do
Progress not perfection 😃
No shame, just solutions.
100%
We evolve over roughly 100 years each.
Learning to take our time.
Falling in love parallels the Great fall from heaven.lol
Personally no attraction to shallow low vibe energy
🚒🔥
Rrr.great topic
Personally I believe that the natural connection of energy shared is synergy of soulmates...death in 🧬 they never part..only temporary until it's next incarnation..until their souls finality of their Great marriage in the end.then becomes aknew beginning of eternity
Now the physical benefits of the relationship must follow the prerequisites of self preservation or love for self...the benefits of the continued shared energy or synergetic romance
I always stay to long , way too long
Lmk when your live
On second thoughts, be it mr prince charming or a Tom, Dick or Harry, chances are he farts loud, burps loud and snores loud too lolzz.. so what's the big deal and what's the difference
Hi
At what age do most men grow-up?? 😂
Your question should be at what age do people grow up?
Are u live
My hubby sends porn to an old female friend and she sends porn back to him. I respectfully asked him to stop but he hasn’t. Toxic, right!
Is it for pleasure or just cuz? That is so weird! Hope you get through to him. I’m just curious to know why he thinks that’s okay.
Ahahah I am a man... and yet I could do a looong list of no communicating women. Mhm mh.. Sorry no so few😜
Again 011923
MAYBE that's why women are dating women 👀👀👀