@@yisroelroll2498 thanks so much for your response, what if you dedicated most of your life helping/loving someone, and at the peak of it you were doing evrything you can to help them and by doing so you got sick and lost your beauty, how can you make peace with that?
@@cleocruz9688 The external beauty of EVERY living thing eventually leaves, but the internal beauty of giving to someone is the beauty of the soul which lives forever
I don’t have a spouse and never did. I worry that I am going to deal with harassment or violence because of my asexuality. I had rude people call me disturbed or autistic cause I don’t love anyone in a sexual romantic way. How do I deal with people who don’t listen and never try to understand? People tell me that they understand, but I know that they are liars.
You could have the most beautiful singing voice, and have an audience that is stone cold deaf. They'd never know your voice. Would you think that they would have a valid opinion on you, when you know that you have a beautiful singing voice? It is not up to to convince them of anything. They have an invitation to listen, but if they can't, then they won't. That has nothing to do with you. You just need to understand you. Others may appreciate or not appreciate you. That is entirely their choice. Your choice is to accept yourself, without apology. You do you, and others can do themselves.
Sorry, Rabbi Twerski is wrong and sadly doesn't understand interpersonal nuances because he himself is so exotic and was never really is in the trenches and his knowledge was more on drug addiction. I read his book, "I am I" 28 years ago and his responses are basically blame the victim. If you are picked it is on because the other person is a bully or a scapegoat is needed but somehow it is YOUR FAULT BECAUSE YOU HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM. It is bad advice. One question in this book I am I was from a Rabbi who said he had problems in congregation after congregation and Rabbi Twerski's response was it was his fault because he was exhibiting low self esteem and this problem would continue until he gets help and has high self esteem. I mean there is so much dysfuction in the world and some communities want to blame the Rabbi. It is not their fault. They could go to shul after shul and it could be the same dysfuction. The Rabbi is a good scapegoat for impossible demands some shuls may have. There is so much dysfunction in politics, interpersonal, and it is NOT BECUASE OF LOW SELF ESTEEM but people need scapegoats. Blame the bully not the person being used as the scapegoat which nothing you can do can change that.
People will always pick scapegoats. And that’s THEIR problem. The question is: how can you make sure they don’t pick YOU? Nothing is guaranteed, but you gotta get the tools.
@@navarivkapais1943 so your only proving my point in blaming the victim. Instead of holding the bully responsible you want to being the victim for the fact that someone is going to be an easy target.
@@navarivkapais1943 this is like blaming a woman for being raped for a man overpowering her because she should have been at the gym and she wasnt. You really lack common sense.
I hear and appreciate the sensitivity you are bringing to people in difficult circumstances. However, would you consider reflecting on using the word victim for the example of the Rabbi in your original comment? It’s possible they were a scapegoat each time, yes, but that is not the same.
I love the Rabbi's teachings. May his beautiful soul rest in peace.
I feel blessed that every word I utter is full of light.
So much wisdom, understanding and knowledge, shared in a wonderful way. Rabbi Twerski, of righteous memory, was, and still is, a treasure.
So smart, and was from my hometown of Pittsburgh. May his memory be a blessing.
We continue learning from Rabbi Twerski, of blessed memory.
Baruch Dayan Ha Emet. I met this great man in the 1990s he was so polite and kind. May his memory be a blessing.
Thank you very much for uploading this video of Rabbi Twerski Zl
Simply the "BEST"!!!!!
Zecher tzadik livrucho we all miss rabbi dr.twerski his ahavas habriyos his love for mankind
B”H very inspiring
Thank you
oh rabbi, how can we love our imperfections and not be affected by it
Our imperfections are part of our opportunity for personal growth...and growth is the purpose of life.
@@yisroelroll2498 thanks so much for your response, what if you dedicated most of your life helping/loving someone, and at the peak of it you were doing evrything you can to help them and by doing so you got sick and lost your beauty, how can you make peace with that?
@@cleocruz9688 The external beauty of EVERY living thing eventually leaves, but the internal beauty of giving to someone is the beauty of the soul which lives forever
@@yisroelroll2498 what if external beauty has miraculously remained in tact, but your inside has been destroyed
@@yisroelroll2498 the 'purpose of life' is to perfect the world for the coming of Moshiach. I'm doing it, we work on ourselves.
Where can I learn more about the concept of the "get zahoda" ? The internal self-awareness that Hashem imbibes in us?
I don’t have a spouse and never did. I worry that I am going to deal with harassment or violence because of my asexuality. I had rude people call me disturbed or autistic cause I don’t love anyone in a sexual romantic way. How do I deal with people who don’t listen and never try to understand? People tell me that they understand, but I know that they are liars.
You find your value outside of others’ perception of you. Live your life and try not to give others that much weight in your esteem.
You could have the most beautiful singing voice, and have an audience that is stone cold deaf. They'd never know your voice. Would you think that they would have a valid opinion on you, when you know that you have a beautiful singing voice? It is not up to to convince them of anything. They have an invitation to listen, but if they can't, then they won't. That has nothing to do with you. You just need to understand you. Others may appreciate or not appreciate you. That is entirely their choice. Your choice is to accept yourself, without apology. You do you, and others can do themselves.
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Sorry, Rabbi Twerski is wrong and sadly doesn't understand interpersonal nuances because he himself is so exotic and was never really is in the trenches and his knowledge was more on drug addiction. I read his book, "I am I" 28 years ago and his responses are basically blame the victim. If you are picked it is on because the other person is a bully or a scapegoat is needed but somehow it is YOUR FAULT BECAUSE YOU HAVE LOW SELF ESTEEM. It is bad advice. One question in this book I am I was from a Rabbi who said he had problems in congregation after congregation and Rabbi Twerski's response was it was his fault because he was exhibiting low self esteem and this problem would continue until he gets help and has high self esteem. I mean there is so much dysfuction in the world and some communities want to blame the Rabbi. It is not their fault. They could go to shul after shul and it could be the same dysfuction. The Rabbi is a good scapegoat for impossible demands some shuls may have. There is so much dysfunction in politics, interpersonal, and it is NOT BECUASE OF LOW SELF ESTEEM but people need scapegoats. Blame the bully not the person being used as the scapegoat which nothing you can do can change that.
Sadly in the real world people have to go from job to job. So what? the healthy thing sometimes is to realize it isn't your fault.
People will always pick scapegoats. And that’s THEIR problem. The question is: how can you make sure they don’t pick YOU?
Nothing is guaranteed, but you gotta get the tools.
@@navarivkapais1943 so your only proving my point in blaming the victim. Instead of holding the bully responsible you want to being the victim for the fact that someone is going to be an easy target.
@@navarivkapais1943 this is like blaming a woman for being raped for a man overpowering her because she should have been at the gym and she wasnt. You really lack common sense.
I hear and appreciate the sensitivity you are bringing to people in difficult circumstances. However, would you consider reflecting on using the word victim for the example of the Rabbi in your original comment? It’s possible they were a scapegoat each time, yes, but that is not the same.