Black men clowned black women for being too basic for a "high value man" and now clowning a "high value woman" for not wanting to date basic men. I'm tired of them.
Faxxx😂😂 two things can be true at once and IDGAFFF about Natalie or Dani basic asses🙄🤷🏾♀️😂😂 Natalie looks like she can chew through concrete and Dani looks like tweety bird and both of them are equally 🚮 to me😂😂
There’s a lot of them in those spaces that aren’t. A LOT are either unattractive or average and talentless, but people will call you jealous for acknowledging that.
@@charice1216 by stating false information about black men we are not last in income or education. That's native and Hispanic men. And nobody was talking about black bus drivers why did she even go to them. They were talking about bus drivers in general and she responded with "niggas aren't shit" and she don't even date. Black men nobody was talking about black men and she just came out of nowhere with that.
The black American culture is literally so sad. Imagine being chastised for wanting black men to be more in society? Like these men have been coddled for so long that even encouraging them to own something in their communities is considered hatred 🤦🏽
The most annoying part about that Eboni situation is that men at her status would NEVER date a bus driver. A lot of BM feel poorly about themselves so it upsets them when BW don’t.
Absolutely! They’re very insecure, and they want black woman to feel the same way. What they’re doing is perpetuating many awful things about black women for the sake of making themselves feel better about their insecurity.
That’s not true, most men do not date/court based on a woman’s financial income. That’s been that way since the beginning of time. If a woman is a quote on quote baddie, she can be a cashier working at McDonald’s, or a bus driver. Trust me, most men don’t care of how much money a woman can bring to the table, to them it’s about the physical.
Being a Black Women is hard, I hate the things we have to deal with and go through. It’s always something, whether it be getting talked down upon, our hair, Hate, The men of the community, Colorism, Injustice. Why do we have to experience all of this just because of us having Brown skin compared to any other race of women. Makes me not want to have any kids because why would I want them to have issues with the things we gotta go through on this earth. It’s mentally draining.
I think the problem is good black women and men go through most nonsense. I personally think brown skin women& black women are most beautiful. I’m sorry for all trauma you experienced. I kno you have happiness
So Latinos and Asian people don't experience colorism? You must live under a rock if you think you're treated the worst of the worst. Trump's entire campaign was built on anti-Muslim, anti-immigrant rhetoric. Mexican guys only wanted to date white girls and not my mom who's brown. People are yelled at for speaking a foreign language in public. Women are being sterilized at the border. So let's not downplay other minorities' experiences in this country
Your Eboni K Williams opinion is SPOT ON! I’m so tired of Black women being reduced to ride-or-die status when women of other races/cultures are encouraged, EXPECTED to date up or at least date their match. *Why can’t we?*
They (other or old or uneducated black Americans) don’t want us to do better. They want us to stay the masculine carriers of this community so men don’t have to step up. Meanwhile they can make any excuse in the world to diss bw. Live for yourself and take notes from other women. Do better for yourself and your future family, not for some image of struggle love.
Maybe it’s because most black children are born out of wedlock then any other y’all aren’t reduced to it that’s what y’all pick 8/10 times ebony is the 2% the rest of y’all have kids with men who never married you
I think this Eboni K Williams thing highlighted how fragile the black male ego can be.💯 And the gag is she originally didn’t say anything about color🤦🏿♀️😭 But I blame Iyanla for that messy ass question💯
@@Kevindeal1987 anytime anyone holds black men accountable yall quick to say date out most black women DONT want to date out even after trials and tribulations thats why yall need to learn to take criticisms😭
I’m glad women outside the Black American community are finally seeing what we go through with the men in our community. They’ve been treating us poorly for hundreds of years and we’ve always stuck by their side. The younger generations are starting to not be here for the foolishness and expanding their horizons. Keep holding these dudes accountable and not giving them your time or womb.
The Eboni K. Williams situation really irritated me! Black men will tell us, "stop being masculine," "I want a traditional woman," "pick better men." Yet, we get bashed for having high standards. The community will preach about how black women need to rest in their femininity. How are we supposed to do that when we are told to pick the bare minimun?!? If black women are the ones with the degrees and good paying jobs, then we are the providers. 🤷🏾♀️
How are we supposed to rest in femininity when we have to also be the sole providers for one parent households or the breadwinner even when there’s two people in the household? They’d probably just say “pick better” instead of holding deadbeat men accountable. Make it make sense.
High valued black women need to learn that it's okay to be single and not settle (alot of women are afraid to just be single, there's nothing wrong with that) or try dating out of our race. We need to show these black men that we are serious and we will not tolerate the bare minimum. This is ridiculous!
@cmk2278 I am so sick of the whole “growing up, black girls specifically dark skinned girls were always jealous of me” narrative. Some of these individuals’ narratives may be “true” but in Natalie’s case, it wasn’t. The dark skinned girls in her childhood “bullied” her because she thought that she was superior than them due to her mixed heritage.
Unpopular Opinion: Artist should not have access to their social media pages. They over share. talk too much. and answer questions no one was even asking! Making them very unlikable.
I think from a marketing standpoint, yea. But, I love when they show who they really are, good or bad, so I can tell who I’m actually supporting so I tend to like it
Unpopular opinion: Yung Miami coming out as bisexual and stating she wants Megan even though a few years back stated she would "beat her son" if he came as gay is incredibly hypocritical. 😕😕
Facts. But they won’t drag her for that nor will they continuously bring it up to hold her accountable. All of these people have said so many crazy things and it’s like it’s okay to people. That’s why I be snappin when people tell me I’m wrong for talking about stuff and still trying to put out music as if all of these other female rappers haven’t said things way worse than me. 😂
JT????!?!?????? JT said something colorist? The SAME JT that’s a DARK SKINNED black woman? The same JT that took those mugshots? Whew! Audacity is at an all time high!
@@QueenChioma She better get right, cause considering their skin tones, any kids she has with Leslie *cough cough I mean Uzi are more than likely going to be hella deep toned!
Unpopular Opinion: Black people need to stop using our past as an excuse not to go out and get it. I know what we've been through as a race is tough but, don't use that as a reason to be lazy and do nothing with your life. Everyday, when I walk up and down my school's hallways, it pains me to see black kids just taking the resources they have for a joke. Black people in history worked hard so we could even be in the same classrooms, getting the pinnacle of education with white people and to see black people waste is low-key hurts my soul, knowing that many black people from back than would have loved to have the opportunities we have today. Instead, we are the only race that chooses to tear each other down when it comes to education. Everytime I tell a black person I want to go to college, they look at me funny, like I've betrayed them or something. For example, I've always wanted to go to an Ivy League college (and I have the gpa to do it) and me, my mother, and my uncle were talking on the phone about my education and, I kid you not, the minute I said I wanted to go to an IL, they immediately starting making the most snarky and disparaging comments towards me. They were trying to despair me from going to college altogether by saying things like "black people don't usually get into those schools" and "the only way black people can succeed is starting a business instead of going to school" (these are real things they said to me btw🤦🏾♀️). Later on that same day, I got something in the mail from an IL school saying they wanted me to show up to one of their summer programs because of my outstanding academics and they wanted me to represent the state. It was like I didn't even have to say "stfu", God said it for me. My mom later admitted that she was being very selfish and apologized to me (this was the first time my mom had ever apologized to me) and my uncle explained that he was jealous of my mom because she wasn't the most level-headed person but ended up with the most level-headed, hard-working kids and he, who constantly tried to shove it into the heads of his 7 kids to make something of themselves and create generational wealth, ended up with kids that would rather have children out of wedlock before they were financially stable. He also apologized to me for his selfishness. The point I'm trying to make here is black folk, lets do better, not worst. I know college isn't everyone's goal but let's not shame those who want to pursue higher education.
They are jealous. Some people can't see past their own mental cage and when you start to rise, they see you as an opp. As an immigrant, I feel everything you said. No one in my family supported my pursuit of my education. I'm supposed to just get married. But I am an SLP now, and they get it. I am stable, still got married to a good man I found at school, and my kids have a nice yard to play in, swim lessons, fresh fruit every day, a peaceful loving home and all the things I desired as a child. I am more than a "girl". In the hallways, I witness the mental slavery you touch on in the schools. College is so expensive, many don't see it as an option. They don't know you can go for free if you work hard. Go to that school, get as many scholarships and free money as you can. Prosper and then...reach back ❤
I like Candace Owens . She talks about stuff like that. We as a community needs to be better. Go get an educated, start your own business. Be the start of generational wealth
What’s crazy to me is that our community will shame a woman for her standards, then when she chooses “humbly” and it doesn’t go well they say well that’s who you chose. That’s why we have to set our standards and stick w it no matter what !
I believe that hypergamy is not something that everyone will understand, and they don't have to. That's why I only discuss this with like-minded people.
@Laila blitzz you want a link??? Why is it hard for you to believe the people you look up to aren't saints and most of the time don't like you. They just as bad as colorist bm yall be going hard for. Look up chrisean being colorist it's all over.
I figured Chrisean was too bc I assume all light skin btches are colorist until they prove to me that they’re not. N her calling Persuasion ugly told me all I needed to know. Bc persuasion looks 10x better than that missing tooth ghetto bandit
As an electrical engineering major. You’re not lying about AI. I’ve kept my eye on AI development for the past year and it’s…gonna be scary I’m not going to lie to you. Especially if AI becomes sentient…as a Christian I say keep praying and be in relationship with Jesus.
I’m dark-skinned and come from a long maternal line of beautiful light skinned women. However, in Natalie Nunn or Dani Leigh’s case. Just because you’re light skin don’t mean you’re cute/pretty 🤷🏾♀️ character counts
She’s skating because people keep watching her. You keep giving them your money, time and attention. You can’t be mad at them being colorists or racist while continuing to support them.
no like seriously. as a dark skinned girl I’ve never been interested in bm to begin with. Not dating them, not their music, not anything. so not giving them my money is easy af. I hope more of bw do the same thing
@@aissamamatoua.1194 Many of us are inconsistent but we have to be honest, accountable and take personal responsibility over the things we consume. I’m mostly confused with her inconsistency with the criticism of the rap girlies content but her music and style is the same. I think the saying goes be the change you want to see. I give her much grace because she’s very young and life isn’t linear and in time we all grow, get more comfortable in being ourselves.
@@trxphywaifalt ok if you don’t date bm, you don’t have to shout it from the roof top. Just do what you feel. You don’t haven’t to mean and derogatory and shout at every opportunity towards a whole group because of your lived experiences. Live your life.
People like to dismiss a college degree just like they like to dismiss marriage...as "just a piece of paper". It shows who is unfamiliar with the effects of those documents and who knows they are not options for them 👀 don't let the haters drag you down.
You’re right Chioma! Our black girls need to strive for better partners and should be expected to bring home the BEST! We are the prize! Other girls are taught this very thing.
I do think Ice benefits from pretty privilege, however, I think just like with Saweetie when she was first poppin - her personality is actually likeable. Her interviews are great. Yes, she is pretty but she has a down-to-earth appeal to her as well. No surgeries, she has a more accessible feel to her. And I think that’s why people gravitate towards her too. Especially young people. Latto is the same age range as Ice but Latto doesn’t even LOOK like a regular girl with that body and heavy makeup. Ice comes off her age
Ice herself said she benefits from it and will use it to her advantage. I wouldn’t be surprised if she thinks she’s better then the rest cause her head is being blown up.
@@biancalord488Tbh, if you say she looks Nigerian to you but proceed to say you love her “black” features…. In quotations… You don’t think she has black features. I’ve never seen a Nigerian woman that looks like her at all and I’ve met a couple who’ve been raised there.
@@shakeykirkirshe has black features she’s not exotic looking like India love or coi leray she jus SUPER LIGHT that’s all her n flo milli actually have similar features bt spice face is round just like most blck ppl she has eyes n nose face structure of a blk person she jus light as hell even lighter than Doja she pale bt she def looks black it’s the skin n hair color red yall blind
College is the ONLY time that as a young adult, you form relationships with people of different ethnicities, nationalities, sexual identity, religion, socioeconomic status, different career interests etc in the proximity. Your dormmate could be a foreign exchange student with so much to share. There is a lot of personal growth that takes place in college because of exposure to all these diversities.
I give all the credit to my parents because I can't for the life of me understand the whole point of being light skinned and colorist. My family is comes in EVERY shade of Blackness and we all are beautiful. Hell half the time I'm outside trying to get darker. These heffas are wildin. Smh
I don’t always agree with your opinions but I love these videos and LOVE that you do it and speak your truth. . Whoever don’t like it, don’t need to watch 🤷🏻♀️
I agree with your thoughts on BW and dating. Ppl always make you feel like you have to “struggle” with you BM in order for your relationship to be strong and admirable in the community. There is nothing wrong with having high standards. Regardless of what you choose, make the best decision for you!
I agree with you about the college opinion. But I would also add yes there is a fraction of people who don't utilize their school resources but in addition. The job market has played a huge role on why people don't get good high-paying jobs or even just a job. In addition I would say there is a huge gatekeeping culture in certain colleges, that can hinder individuals
Food for thought Bw in America are the only set of individuals who are forced to date down, unlike in African countries but I would also say societies and culture play a huge role in this too. I'm not trying to start a diaspora war or anything. Also, Eboni was right in her opinion, this conversation wouldn't be had with African women speaking from someone who is Nigerian it would be immediately shut down.
Thaaaaank you I said the same thing about Natalie nunn on one of your posts and one of your subscribers tried to say I was creating drama when time and time again Natalie has shown discrimination against black women and is unfair to darker cast members on her show! Next season I wanna see Rollie on a pj and a bigger room she’s been an OG and should be treated like one!
Wayment! Now that you say this, the DARSKIN girls were definitely put on the bus while the LIGHTSKIN girls were on the PJ. 🤔 I mean it wasn’t everyone but when you look at the optics, that’s how it comes off…. Wow. I’m just realizing this. I’ll be sure to bring this up when I do my review.
@@QueenChioma finally! I’m glad you see it now 😅👏👏 there’s been so many opportunities where Catia could be given a special treatment since she’s an actual definition of a baddie but no it never seems to be the case
I’m East African and my family has royalty they definitely don’t tell me to date broke why would the father give his daughter to somebody who can’t care for her better than he
The thing is majority of us can agree that relaxers are bad and anti-black, but when it comes to wigs we start acting delusional. Some ppl claim they’re protecting their hair by wearing type 1 (non afro textured) wigs 365 days a year. Claiming wigs are easier when you have to cut, blend, conceal, glue etc. At that point, you have to be honest with how you feel about yourself in natural hair vs non Afro wigs. Nothing wrong with wigs per se, but it’s how (and why) it’s done and the specific textures ppl feel beautiful in And I agree. JT, stefflon, Natalie, dani Leigh, ASAP, etc they all get the same energy over here
26:35 Big + for the college opinion, you said everything. I've been saying to some people and they don't understand that studying is about knowledge and that knowledge can give you so many opportunities ( not just money). Having a degree with no job is better than not having it with no job. I'm in college and I'll grad next year but most of my classmates always downplay their studies they say it's not going to give them money and job (like yeah obviously if you want money just start an OF 🙄) I feel like I'm one of the few students who are passionate about college (I'm in 3rd year of Accountancy and Administration❤) I want a PHD and will not give up my dream. And the worst is that they don't even try hard in their studies. Studying can open your mind, make you more knowledgeable and plus, you'll get to know many type of people, it makes you grow as a person.
Having a degree isn’t the end all be all once you did it - I graduated in 2014. However, I can get any job I want, really.because of the degree and my experience at this point. Definitely increases your earning potential
I feel like in general when you have standards you get labeled as “ greedy” or “high maintenance “ and when you have lower standards you get labeled as “ dumb” and “ A sucka for love” its always a double standard
Natalie said her ignorant ish during a time where stuff like that was overlooked🤷🏽♀️if she said those things today, she’d be eaten alive. That era was very complacent with nasty colorist remarks.
Queen Chioma nails it again! I definitely agree with AI being more detrimental than it would help. Maybe I'm old school but I'm not too crazy about the whole concept of AI.
Chiommmaaaaaaaaa you preached about the college topic ! I think we do deserve to be paid more if we have a degree like I should not be making the same amount as a high school grad like that’s not okay
It is but it’s not always recognized like the company’s won’t budge with their position “budget” so they’ll pay you less knowing they can pay you more especially because you have a degree
Idk chioma I low key think rihanna is a colorist herself. This is her second time saying a colorist, even though when she dated Chris brown , at the time we didn’t know he was a colorist, and SOMETIMES, whomever u date, u can have the same agreements on certain things. ASAP Ricky is a known colorist and is against everything rihanna “allegedly” stands for. How can u say u want diversity on such things but not only date a colorist but have his kids too? Mhmmmm 🤔
Thank youuuu! When I said this on another page, the light skins claimed I was jealous😂 what are the odds that she’s constantly cool with and dates colorist men? She literally allowed one to get her pregnant.. twice.. And bring her to Harlem. She’s playing that “diverse” role because it fattens her pockets. She’s about her bag, not diversity at all. Not with blk women at least. And I’ll never forget how shady she was to that dark skinned black teen who recreated her dress for prom. EVER. She wouldn’t have done that if the girl was her complexion.
I 💯 percent agree about the opinions part. My biggest pet peeve with social media is that you can’t have an opinion. As SOON as you disagree, they act a damn fool, call you a hater, jealous, etc. Everyone doesn’t have to like the same things or feel the same way . Just agree to disagree and move on.
I wish everyone would boycott the shaderoom they are so problematic and then love to say they don’t condone the activity they are reposting and making money off of
Lawd have we devolved so much that we can't have constructive criticism and enlightening discourse without being told we're hating. It's weird how it's become unacceptable to have an opinion especially if it differs from the majority. Strange times!
I literally just had a conversation about the how comfortable men are speaking on the experiences of ANY woman it’s literally sickening and I only really see this within the black community…, like scrolling on fb all I see are very critical posts from men pertaining to women
Back when Natalie was BGC colorism wasn’t a conversation people didn’t realize they had no right to talk down on someone’s complexion long as they’re black too they didn’t see any wrong with it, growing up i didn’t know what colorism so when people made fun of my complexion I seriously just thought it was flaw and was ugly and I wanted to be lighter growing up and seeing that it wasn’t anything wrong with me shook me to find out like “wait there is a word for this and it’s not just normal”
I do agree the Midwest is in its own lane lol, I do celebrate Sweetest Day (when I have a boyfriend) and say pop instead of soda lol but I have never been to a graduation party called open house, it was always called a graduation party lol. I'm from Dayton Ohio and was born and raised there
Just got out of a relationship with a man who couldn’t keep a job the whole 8 months we dated and he talked so down on me for not being “down “ for him. I felt so bad but after hearing what you said I don’t feel so bad. I shouldn’t have to stress about money when I have a partner who could be helping me !
It’s okay to say who don’t want to date , but she dissed essential workers,that’s why people was calling the breakfast club ..envy was mad for what she said about the workers ..the moral is , you can have preference but you don’t have to put down what doesn’t fit your presence ..
I don’t feel like she was dissing. I think she was just saying we should strive for better but if you’re ok with where you’re at then good for you 🤷🏽♀️
DJ Envy, and his fake self, his wife isn't black, but mentioned Ebony's ex fiance. Every year, he does the twelve days of Christmas with his wife to " shut down the internet " with expensive gifts, but he identifies, with common man. So sick of the internet fakeness.
I agreed with every point except for the last. Since I was maybe 8, I've been told, 'When you go to college, you make more money'. Going for my Associate's was exhausting, and I was told to keep going so that I could 'make more money'. They even say having a Master's means nothing now; you have to go for your Doctorate, which I'm just like😨. Anyways, I think the narrative is different based on family culture and where you grew up; cause here in NYC, Higher Degree = More Money.
How are you “making more monies” when a lot of y’all come out in debt 🙄🥴🤷🏾♀️ and I ain’t hating or shading but im frfr trying to see if it’s equalling out if you don’t find a job in your field or if your ass is gonna be paying for forever unless you got a free ride😂 Edit: and again im not hating but rather asking bc of info ppl I know or around me have shared🤷🏾♀️😂
Maybe it's set up that way, you go longer so you owe more but since you got the big degree and big salary it pays off...then again I'm just as clueless but good luck on your own journey!
@@mrssuchafknladyy2078 Well, I get Financial Aid 😅 so I don't know the facts. But the theory is once you graduate from the nursing program (for example), you will then make enough money to pay off your debts, rent, therapy sessions, etc.
Also, I got my degree in 2016. I work as a bartender though (no degree required obviously lol) but I honestly make wayyyyyy more than my counterparts. It’s sad. It’s progressed for them a little but I still make more. It’s crazy. I was able to put a down payment on a house, pay off my car, and be able to pay my bills at least 3-4 months ahead.
I definitely agree that people, especially Black women, should be allowed to have standards for themselves and their potential partners. I do, however, feel as though it’s no one else’s job to live up to those standards. And in addition, I don’t personally care to hear someone complain that they can’t find a man or woman because they’re not living up to your standards. Your standards are YOUR issue, and if others aren’t living up to that, it’s not their fault. Hope this makes sense
I think the reason Natalie isnt held accountable for her comments because most people dont know she said it. I was born in 96 and started watching bad girls until after her season. And i was watching those shows early because of my cousins
I do believe people can come back from colorism. If they genuinely learn and work on changing why they are colorist. Some, and honestly probably most, don’t necessarily mean to. In the sense of it being brainwashed/conditioned from childhood (subconsciously) due to society/tv/parents/upbringing overall. Believe it or not, I am dark skin and I was colorist. I was ridiculed by my light skinned brothers when we were kids about my skin color. That’s where it started and it continued from other things. Sooo I thought I was ugly (which I look back at my pics and I was a pretty ass lil girl shall I say😏😌). I thought all dark skins where dirty and mean. I had to realize it’s colorism and self-hate. So I actively ig forced myself (for lack of better word) to change that. Mind you I’m also bisexual and wasn’t attracted to dark skin girls. I couldn’t believe I thought how I did. I would even acknowledge pretty ones but still didn’t want to date one. Anyone that I know who has been colorist… I don’t support idgad. That includes JT, Chris brown etc. ion play them games.
Yes I would love a deeper video about the black women's standard's. I to didn't like the backlash she received for having high standards. And did you hear about the flo milli and ice spice colorism issue. And how her fans was saying she isn't on the same level as ice spice due to her being a dark skinned woman. Did you ever talk about the Keke Palmer and Zendaya topic?
Thanks for your comment! I’ll start working on that video. And yes, I have a video dropping tomorrow about Flo Milli, and Ice Spice comparisons/colorism. I actually never talked about Zendaya versus Keke Palmer, but I think it’s a great example. Can’t wait for y’all to see the video!
I'm not opposed to a court wedding but I do want an amazing honeymoon along a big nice house downpayment. A bomb dress doesn't even need to be $1000 and I don't care about a big ol' expensive reception after the wedding either. I might seem all over the place but ***shrugs***
I agree and disagree with a College statement… I as well am in college and I think a lot of people sometimes complain about the college degree and how people think they’re better because there are people that use their degree like I’m smarter than you, but that’s not for everyone and that’s not the purpose of a graduate degree it’s to be knowledgeable in a specific category not your knowledgeable on everything and you’re better than everyone and I think sometimes people use it like that and make everyone look bad…. Look at me I’m in college, but I hate grammar, college doesnt mean you’re smarter It means you’re disciplined I agree with that.
My favorite thing about you is you state your OWN opinion regardless of what the status quo have to say or think and you OWN it! Also I've been a fan of hip-hop my entire life it's my favorite genre male or female however female hip-hop is oversaturated with oversexualization and I would love to hear females rap about something other than their body or how well they perform sexually! Don't listen to the NPCs and keep being a leader and a queen 👑 Chioma!
13:39 I personally feel like with Latto, she’s boring as heck and honestly I’m not a barb. I am a fan. I love her so much. But I do believe once she did go thru it with NM it made a lot of ppl dislike her, I feel like a lot of her fans were barbs and once that happened it was done. The barbs are a force to reckon with lol
Yeah your definitely right I’m not barb and I am a fan and I like listening to latto but not a fan I don’t think she’s deserve all this constant hate tbh
I’ll say this abt Soulja Boy he still has some bops that go viral on TikTok every now and then (idek they were him lol) so he still has that talent to make timeless bops and he’s even produced some big artists songs but he’s burned too many bridges bc he won’t stfu and is unstable. He truly holds his self back from being an actual icon
If Chioma is a hater for sharing her opinion of an artist music wouldn’t that make the girl who commented “yikes” a hater as well? Lol Social media has obliterated open dialogue
I found nothing wrong with what Eboni K Williams said she stated her preference but BM are Full of SHYT we have to accept their preference but when BW have one we are wrong. FUK BM, and DJ Envy who got in their feelings. Kudos to Eboni K Williams for not dating down and settling for a man that is not on your level.
I don't think a lot of people have a problem with Eboni's preference but she went in on black men in the working class based on generalized statistics. She's in entertainment now and not among the average people. It seemed to have reignited the gender war all over UA-cam. I try my best to stay away from that content because I love black women. I have a full black wife and daughter. I don't expect Eboni to date a bus driver but just let others live. Great commentary.
Black men clowned black women for being too basic for a "high value man" and now clowning a "high value woman" for not wanting to date basic men. I'm tired of them.
Literally so tired of them lol it’s like we cant win for loosing 🙃
Date out kween.
and will lol I'm open to anything fr
Which is why we need to stop caring what they think. Live your life for YOU
Can y'all start adding "some" in front of black men. Instead of linking all of us together like we share one brain.
When will they learn... Light skin doesn't equate to cute, her and Dani are not it 🤷🏾♀️
My sagittarius sista, I was just saying that, because some do seem to get it confused. Btw my bday is 12/19
Faxxx😂😂 two things can be true at once and IDGAFFF about Natalie or Dani basic asses🙄🤷🏾♀️😂😂 Natalie looks like she can chew through concrete and Dani looks like tweety bird and both of them are equally 🚮 to me😂😂
There’s a lot of them in those spaces that aren’t. A LOT are either unattractive or average and talentless, but people will call you jealous for acknowledging that.
Doesn’t… at least Dani is somewhat cute…but Natalie….never unfortunately
Dani isn’t even light skinned. That bird is white.
BW, never let anyone shame you for having standards
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Thank you
I don't think people were mad at the bus driver thing I think they were mad at the anti blackness she was using on the breakfast club
@@iamdebaby8152 how was she being anti black?
@@charice1216 by stating false information about black men we are not last in income or education. That's native and Hispanic men. And nobody was talking about black bus drivers why did she even go to them. They were talking about bus drivers in general and she responded with "niggas aren't shit" and she don't even date. Black men nobody was talking about black men and she just came out of nowhere with that.
I ain’t the best looking but Natalie ugly
Exactly
She’s a whole monster talkin about dark complexion
@@allmylifeihadtofight9815 she has the nerve. That’s why I don’t tune in to her baddies bs nothing with those who do but I refuse.
@@DreMo521_ same I don’t watch none of those ghetto shows especially the ones she’s apart of.
@@DreMo521_ and you’re beautiful girl stop lol
Natalie really looking like she’s about to say “GIGGITY”
😂😂😂
Lol 🤣🤣🤣🤣
😂😂😂
I'm screaming 🤣🤣🤣🤣
STOP IT NOWWWW😂😂😂😂
The black American culture is literally so sad. Imagine being chastised for wanting black men to be more in society? Like these men have been coddled for so long that even encouraging them to own something in their communities is considered hatred 🤦🏽
What country your people from?
The most annoying part about that Eboni situation is that men at her status would NEVER date a bus driver. A lot of BM feel poorly about themselves so it upsets them when BW don’t.
Absolutely! They’re very insecure, and they want black woman to feel the same way. What they’re doing is perpetuating many awful things about black women for the sake of making themselves feel better about their insecurity.
That’s not true, most men do not date/court based on a woman’s financial income. That’s been that way since the beginning of time. If a woman is a quote on quote baddie, she can be a cashier working at McDonald’s, or a bus driver. Trust me, most men don’t care of how much money a woman can bring to the table, to them it’s about the physical.
Being a Black Women is hard, I hate the things we have to deal with and go through. It’s always something, whether it be getting talked down upon, our hair, Hate, The men of the community, Colorism, Injustice. Why do we have to experience all of this just because of us having Brown skin compared to any other race of women. Makes me not want to have any kids because why would I want them to have issues with the things we gotta go through on this earth. It’s mentally draining.
I think the problem is good black women and men go through most nonsense. I personally think brown skin women& black women are most beautiful. I’m sorry for all trauma you experienced. I kno you have happiness
Yes it is
So Latinos and Asian people don't experience colorism? You must live under a rock if you think you're treated the worst of the worst. Trump's entire campaign was built on anti-Muslim, anti-immigrant rhetoric. Mexican guys only wanted to date white girls and not my mom who's brown. People are yelled at for speaking a foreign language in public. Women are being sterilized at the border. So let's not downplay other minorities' experiences in this country
Your Eboni K Williams opinion is SPOT ON! I’m so tired of Black women being reduced to ride-or-die status when women of other races/cultures are encouraged, EXPECTED to date up or at least date their match. *Why can’t we?*
They (other or old or uneducated black Americans) don’t want us to do better. They want us to stay the masculine carriers of this community so men don’t have to step up. Meanwhile they can make any excuse in the world to diss bw. Live for yourself and take notes from other women. Do better for yourself and your future family, not for some image of struggle love.
Maybe it’s because most black children are born out of wedlock then any other y’all aren’t reduced to it that’s what y’all pick 8/10 times ebony is the 2% the rest of y’all have kids with men who never married you
I think this Eboni K Williams thing highlighted how fragile the black male ego can be.💯 And the gag is she originally didn’t say anything about color🤦🏿♀️😭
But I blame Iyanla for that messy ass question💯
Girl.... their ego BEEN high lighted
Date out kween.
@@Kevindeal1987 anytime anyone holds black men accountable yall quick to say date out most black women DONT want to date out even after trials and tribulations thats why yall need to learn to take criticisms😭
@@shawda.the.butterfly9618 Date out please I want more bm to encourage that.
Eboni wasn't even talking about BM. She talked about in general.
Yet BM & mammies are jumping to conclusions SMH
I’m glad women outside the Black American community are finally seeing what we go through with the men in our community. They’ve been treating us poorly for hundreds of years and we’ve always stuck by their side. The younger generations are starting to not be here for the foolishness and expanding their horizons. Keep holding these dudes accountable and not giving them your time or womb.
I disagree black men and women treated each other better in the past. Black women treat black men poorly also .
That’s y’all(the ones sticking by them) fault, it’s 2023 no more excuses💯❣️
@@houseofmatrix6174 I'm sorry where is the stat of Black women k!llling black men every 5 hours? I'll wait
Struggle love is over. He got to come already healed🤣
@@houseofmatrix6174 how and when??
The Eboni K. Williams situation really irritated me! Black men will tell us, "stop being masculine," "I want a traditional woman," "pick better men." Yet, we get bashed for having high standards. The community will preach about how black women need to rest in their femininity. How are we supposed to do that when we are told to pick the bare minimun?!? If black women are the ones with the degrees and good paying jobs, then we are the providers. 🤷🏾♀️
How are we supposed to rest in femininity when we have to also be the sole providers for one parent households or the breadwinner even when there’s two people in the household? They’d probably just say “pick better” instead of holding deadbeat men accountable. Make it make sense.
High valued black women need to learn that it's okay to be single and not settle (alot of women are afraid to just be single, there's nothing wrong with that) or try dating out of our race. We need to show these black men that we are serious and we will not tolerate the bare minimum. This is ridiculous!
"i grew up around white kids so dark skinned girls never seem to like me" girrrrrrrl💀💀
Exactly, they didn’t like because of your attitude toward them and what came out of your mouth.
@@cmk2278 bingo
@cmk2278 I am so sick of the whole “growing up, black girls specifically dark skinned girls were always jealous of me” narrative. Some of these individuals’ narratives may be “true” but in Natalie’s case, it wasn’t. The dark skinned girls in her childhood “bullied” her because she thought that she was superior than them due to her mixed heritage.
Unpopular Opinion: Artist should not have access to their social media pages. They over share. talk too much. and answer questions no one was even asking! Making them very unlikable.
Good one
Facts 💯💯🤌🏿🤌🏿
I agree. It ruined the mystery around them.
Oh, how I wish I could like this a million times!! 💯💯💯
I think from a marketing standpoint, yea. But, I love when they show who they really are, good or bad, so I can tell who I’m actually supporting so I tend to like it
Unpopular opinion: Yung Miami coming out as bisexual and stating she wants Megan even though a few years back stated she would "beat her son" if he came as gay is incredibly hypocritical. 😕😕
Facts. But they won’t drag her for that nor will they continuously bring it up to hold her accountable. All of these people have said so many crazy things and it’s like it’s okay to people. That’s why I be snappin when people tell me I’m wrong for talking about stuff and still trying to put out music as if all of these other female rappers haven’t said things way worse than me. 😂
That’s Crazy 🤔I Feel Like These Celebrities Think EveryOne Has Forgotten What They’ve Said & Tweeted In The Past. But It Always Comes Back Up💯💁🏻♀️
And it’s so crazy because her main BESTIE IS GAY FLAMBOYANT MAN. The gayest thing walking.
JT????!?!?????? JT said something colorist? The SAME JT that’s a DARK SKINNED black woman? The same JT that took those mugshots? Whew! Audacity is at an all time high!
Oh yes girl! It’s actually really bad lol
This is the link to the video I did:
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@@QueenChioma WOOOOOOOOW, a mess.
@@QueenChioma She better get right, cause considering their skin tones, any kids she has with Leslie *cough cough I mean Uzi are more than likely going to be hella deep toned!
You would be surprised by what selfhate can make a bi***h do😂
Unpopular Opinion: Black people need to stop using our past as an excuse not to go out and get it. I know what we've been through as a race is tough but, don't use that as a reason to be lazy and do nothing with your life. Everyday, when I walk up and down my school's hallways, it pains me to see black kids just taking the resources they have for a joke. Black people in history worked hard so we could even be in the same classrooms, getting the pinnacle of education with white people and to see black people waste is low-key hurts my soul, knowing that many black people from back than would have loved to have the opportunities we have today. Instead, we are the only race that chooses to tear each other down when it comes to education. Everytime I tell a black person I want to go to college, they look at me funny, like I've betrayed them or something.
For example, I've always wanted to go to an Ivy League college (and I have the gpa to do it) and me, my mother, and my uncle were talking on the phone about my education and, I kid you not, the minute I said I wanted to go to an IL, they immediately starting making the most snarky and disparaging comments towards me. They were trying to despair me from going to college altogether by saying things like "black people don't usually get into those schools" and "the only way black people can succeed is starting a business instead of going to school" (these are real things they said to me btw🤦🏾♀️). Later on that same day, I got something in the mail from an IL school saying they wanted me to show up to one of their summer programs because of my outstanding academics and they wanted me to represent the state. It was like I didn't even have to say "stfu", God said it for me.
My mom later admitted that she was being very selfish and apologized to me (this was the first time my mom had ever apologized to me) and my uncle explained that he was jealous of my mom because she wasn't the most level-headed person but ended up with the most level-headed, hard-working kids and he, who constantly tried to shove it into the heads of his 7 kids to make something of themselves and create generational wealth, ended up with kids that would rather have children out of wedlock before they were financially stable. He also apologized to me for his selfishness.
The point I'm trying to make here is black folk, lets do better, not worst. I know college isn't everyone's goal but let's not shame those who want to pursue higher education.
True , is sad how some of our people just accepted the oppressed agenda and don't try going ahead.
Amen
They are jealous. Some people can't see past their own mental cage and when you start to rise, they see you as an opp. As an immigrant, I feel everything you said. No one in my family supported my pursuit of my education. I'm supposed to just get married. But I am an SLP now, and they get it. I am stable, still got married to a good man I found at school, and my kids have a nice yard to play in, swim lessons, fresh fruit every day, a peaceful loving home and all the things I desired as a child. I am more than a "girl". In the hallways, I witness the mental slavery you touch on in the schools. College is so expensive, many don't see it as an option. They don't know you can go for free if you work hard. Go to that school, get as many scholarships and free money as you can. Prosper and then...reach back ❤
This is so true. Keep thriving in your education and leave the haters in the dust ❤️
I like Candace Owens . She talks about stuff like that. We as a community needs to be better. Go get an educated, start your own business. Be the start of generational wealth
What’s crazy to me is that our community will shame a woman for her standards, then when she chooses “humbly” and it doesn’t go well they say well that’s who you chose. That’s why we have to set our standards and stick w it no matter what !
I believe that hypergamy is not something that everyone will understand, and they don't have to. That's why I only discuss this with like-minded people.
@@butm5125 FACTS! You gotta know when to leave ppl where they are, physically and mentally
Agreed natalie and chrisean are colorist. Also bw should never date down 🤷🏾♀️
@Laila blitzz she called dsbw burnt look it up.
@Laila blitzz you want a link??? Why is it hard for you to believe the people you look up to aren't saints and most of the time don't like you. They just as bad as colorist bm yall be going hard for. Look up chrisean being colorist it's all over.
@Laila blitzz You seem triggered 🤦🏾♀️ just say your a fan or hers and go 🤷🏾♀️
What did Chrisean say?
I figured Chrisean was too bc I assume all light skin btches are colorist until they prove to me that they’re not. N her calling Persuasion ugly told me all I needed to know. Bc persuasion looks 10x better than that missing tooth ghetto bandit
As an electrical engineering major. You’re not lying about AI. I’ve kept my eye on AI development for the past year and it’s…gonna be scary I’m not going to lie to you. Especially if AI becomes sentient…as a Christian I say keep praying and be in relationship with Jesus.
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Amen❤
u gotta put a jumpscare warning for the current pics of Natalie…omg
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Natalie is the last person on the planet who should be talking about what anyone looks like
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I’m dark-skinned and come from a long maternal line of beautiful light skinned women.
However, in Natalie Nunn or Dani Leigh’s case. Just because you’re light skin don’t mean you’re cute/pretty 🤷🏾♀️ character counts
She’s skating because people keep watching her. You keep giving them your money, time and attention. You can’t be mad at them being colorists or racist while continuing to support them.
exaclt , Chioma is inconsistant
no like seriously. as a dark skinned girl I’ve never been interested in bm to begin with. Not dating them, not their music, not anything. so not giving them my money is easy af. I hope more of bw do the same thing
@@aissamamatoua.1194 Many of us are inconsistent but we have to be honest, accountable and take personal responsibility over the things we consume. I’m mostly confused with her inconsistency with the criticism of the rap girlies content but her music and style is the same. I think the saying goes be the change you want to see. I give her much grace because she’s very young and life isn’t linear and in time we all grow, get more comfortable in being ourselves.
@@trxphywaifalt ok if you don’t date bm, you don’t have to shout it from the roof top. Just do what you feel. You don’t haven’t to mean and derogatory and shout at every opportunity towards a whole group because of your lived experiences. Live your life.
People like to dismiss a college degree just like they like to dismiss marriage...as "just a piece of paper". It shows who is unfamiliar with the effects of those documents and who knows they are not options for them 👀 don't let the haters drag you down.
Nobody cares about Natalie honestly. She’s a Z list celebrity. No one’s really checking for her.
For real, because I didn't know who this woman was until I started following this channel. 😳 😂
You’re right Chioma! Our black girls need to strive for better partners and should be expected to bring home the BEST! We are the prize! Other girls are taught this very thing.
I do think Ice benefits from pretty privilege, however, I think just like with Saweetie when she was first poppin - her personality is actually likeable. Her interviews are great. Yes, she is pretty but she has a down-to-earth appeal to her as well. No surgeries, she has a more accessible feel to her. And I think that’s why people gravitate towards her too. Especially young people. Latto is the same age range as Ice but Latto doesn’t even LOOK like a regular girl with that body and heavy makeup. Ice comes off her age
Ice herself said she benefits from it and will use it to her advantage. I wouldn’t be surprised if she thinks she’s better then the rest cause her head is being blown up.
@@cherryrue89 why tf not use it to her advantage ??? Be fr…
Ice looks Nigerian to me I absolutely love her “black” features.
@@biancalord488Tbh, if you say she looks Nigerian to you but proceed to say you love her “black” features…. In quotations… You don’t think she has black features. I’ve never seen a Nigerian woman that looks like her at all and I’ve met a couple who’ve been raised there.
@@shakeykirkirshe has black features she’s not exotic looking like India love or coi leray she jus SUPER LIGHT that’s all her n flo milli actually have similar features bt spice face is round just like most blck ppl she has eyes n nose face structure of a blk person she jus light as hell even lighter than Doja she pale bt she def looks black it’s the skin n hair color red yall blind
College is the ONLY time that as a young adult, you form relationships with people of different ethnicities, nationalities, sexual identity, religion, socioeconomic status, different career interests etc in the proximity. Your dormmate could be a foreign exchange student with so much to share. There is a lot of personal growth that takes place in college because of exposure to all these diversities.
I understood what Eboni was trying to say. It really didn’t have to be that blown out of proportion
I agree 100% about Eboni K Williams not wanting to date a bus driver. That whole situation pissed me off
I give all the credit to my parents because I can't for the life of me understand the whole point of being light skinned and colorist. My family is comes in EVERY shade of Blackness and we all are beautiful. Hell half the time I'm outside trying to get darker. These heffas are wildin. Smh
I don’t always agree with your opinions but I love these videos and LOVE that you do it and speak your truth. . Whoever don’t like it, don’t need to watch 🤷🏻♀️
The way Natalie speaks, you would think she was such a bueaty. On paper, she would be the preference but the way her face is set up....
That part luv, and got the nerve to be the loudest one in the room 😂
😂😂😂😂
“But the way her face is set up”😭😭😭💀
Natalie out of all people should not be talking about dark skin women 😮 if I had her chin I would get surgery
I agree with your thoughts on BW and dating. Ppl always make you feel like you have to “struggle” with you BM in order for your relationship to be strong and admirable in the community. There is nothing wrong with having high standards. Regardless of what you choose, make the best decision for you!
I agree with you about the college opinion. But I would also add yes there is a fraction of people who don't utilize their school resources but in addition. The job market has played a huge role on why people don't get good high-paying jobs or even just a job. In addition I would say there is a huge gatekeeping culture in certain colleges, that can hinder individuals
Totally agree. Especially that last point!
You have some of the best commentary-hands down! Your vocabulary is 🤌🏾
Food for thought Bw in America are the only set of individuals who are forced to date down, unlike in African countries but I would also say societies and culture play a huge role in this too. I'm not trying to start a diaspora war or anything. Also, Eboni was right in her opinion, this conversation wouldn't be had with African women speaking from someone who is Nigerian it would be immediately shut down.
Thaaaaank you I said the same thing about Natalie nunn on one of your posts and one of your subscribers tried to say I was creating drama when time and time again Natalie has shown discrimination against black women and is unfair to darker cast members on her show! Next season I wanna see Rollie on a pj and a bigger room she’s been an OG and should be treated like one!
Wayment! Now that you say this, the DARSKIN girls were definitely put on the bus while the LIGHTSKIN girls were on the PJ. 🤔 I mean it wasn’t everyone but when you look at the optics, that’s how it comes off…. Wow. I’m just realizing this. I’ll be sure to bring this up when I do my review.
@@QueenChioma finally! I’m glad you see it now 😅👏👏 there’s been so many opportunities where Catia could be given a special treatment since she’s an actual definition of a baddie but no it never seems to be the case
I’m East African and my family has royalty they definitely don’t tell me to date broke why would the father give his daughter to somebody who can’t care for her better than he
Some people give passes for colorism for celebrities they like. Which is why no one calls out Natalie Nunn for acting like that.
Boy how times have changed. How did we ever let Natalie get along away with that mess
The thing is majority of us can agree that relaxers are bad and anti-black, but when it comes to wigs we start acting delusional. Some ppl claim they’re protecting their hair by wearing type 1 (non afro textured) wigs 365 days a year. Claiming wigs are easier when you have to cut, blend, conceal, glue etc. At that point, you have to be honest with how you feel about yourself in natural hair vs non Afro wigs. Nothing wrong with wigs per se, but it’s how (and why) it’s done and the specific textures ppl feel beautiful in
And I agree. JT, stefflon, Natalie, dani Leigh, ASAP, etc they all get the same energy over here
26:35 Big + for the college opinion, you said everything. I've been saying to some people and they don't understand that studying is about knowledge and that knowledge can give you so many opportunities ( not just money). Having a degree with no job is better than not having it with no job.
I'm in college and I'll grad next year but most of my classmates always downplay their studies they say it's not going to give them money and job (like yeah obviously if you want money just start an OF 🙄)
I feel like I'm one of the few students who are passionate about college (I'm in 3rd year of Accountancy and Administration❤) I want a PHD and will not give up my dream. And the worst is that they don't even try hard in their studies. Studying can open your mind, make you more knowledgeable and plus, you'll get to know many type of people, it makes you grow as a person.
Having a degree isn’t the end all be all once you did it - I graduated in 2014. However, I can get any job I want, really.because of the degree and my experience at this point. Definitely increases your earning potential
I feel like in general when you have standards you get labeled as “ greedy” or “high maintenance “ and when you have lower standards you get labeled as “ dumb” and “ A sucka for love” its always a double standard
Natalie said her ignorant ish during a time where stuff like that was overlooked🤷🏽♀️if she said those things today, she’d be eaten alive. That era was very complacent with nasty colorist remarks.
I agree back in the early to mid 2000's colorism wasn't really spoken about
Queen Chioma nails it again! I definitely agree with AI being more detrimental than it would help. Maybe I'm old school but I'm not too crazy about the whole concept of AI.
Chiommmaaaaaaaaa you preached about the college topic ! I think we do deserve to be paid more if we have a degree like I should not be making the same amount as a high school grad like that’s not okay
I thought that’s the whole point of going to college?
It is but it’s not always recognized like the company’s won’t budge with their position “budget” so they’ll pay you less knowing they can pay you more especially because you have a degree
Idk chioma I low key think rihanna is a colorist herself. This is her second time saying a colorist, even though when she dated Chris brown , at the time we didn’t know he was a colorist, and SOMETIMES, whomever u date, u can have the same agreements on certain things. ASAP Ricky is a known colorist and is against everything rihanna “allegedly” stands for. How can u say u want diversity on such things but not only date a colorist but have his kids too? Mhmmmm 🤔
Thank youuuu! When I said this on another page, the light skins claimed I was jealous😂 what are the odds that she’s constantly cool with and dates colorist men? She literally allowed one to get her pregnant.. twice.. And bring her to Harlem. She’s playing that “diverse” role because it fattens her pockets. She’s about her bag, not diversity at all. Not with blk women at least.
And I’ll never forget how shady she was to that dark skinned black teen who recreated her dress for prom. EVER. She wouldn’t have done that if the girl was her complexion.
I've been side eyeing Rihanna ever since she got with ASAP tbh. I wonder how he treats her dark skinned best friend Melissa. Hmmmmmm
She is not colorist. She dates a colorist but it doesn't that SHE is.
I 💯 percent agree about the opinions part. My biggest pet peeve with social media is that you can’t have an opinion. As SOON as you disagree, they act a damn fool, call you a hater, jealous, etc. Everyone doesn’t have to like the same things or feel the same way . Just agree to disagree and move on.
Recording phone convos and saving it to use is foul smh
I wish everyone would boycott the shaderoom they are so problematic and then love to say they don’t condone the activity they are reposting and making money off of
I agree with you on the AI topic. It’s not going to be good for us.
Natalie has some nerve talking about dark skinned women when she looks exactly like Handsome Squidward 💅🏾
You guys also realise its always girls who look like Natalie who are colourist, that’s all Imma say❤️
Never witnessed a cute girl be actively colourist 🤷🏾♀️
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Soulja boy IS a musical legend it’s just crazy the route some of these stars take
I love your take on college
Lawd have we devolved so much that we can't have constructive criticism and enlightening discourse without being told we're hating. It's weird how it's become unacceptable to have an opinion especially if it differs from the majority. Strange times!
Honestly I didn’t realize Natalie’s colorism at the moment. It’s actually cringe and appalling. I feel like ppl don’t fool with her like that tho
I literally just had a conversation about the how comfortable men are speaking on the experiences of ANY woman it’s literally sickening and I only really see this within the black community…, like scrolling on fb all I see are very critical posts from men pertaining to women
I feel like Natalie gets a pass bc we as a people have already accepted that she’s already going to hell in a hand basket
Soulja went viral way before that 😂 he definitely was a trendsetter but he’s more of a joke now
I agree, and he was a marketing genius
7:54 I would love a deep dive on why can't black women have standards?!? Because why????
Im so glad about your perspective of not downplaying a college degree
Back when Natalie was BGC colorism wasn’t a conversation people didn’t realize they had no right to talk down on someone’s complexion long as they’re black too they didn’t see any wrong with it, growing up i didn’t know what colorism so when people made fun of my complexion I seriously just thought it was flaw and was ugly and I wanted to be lighter growing up and seeing that it wasn’t anything wrong with me shook me to find out like “wait there is a word for this and it’s not just normal”
I’m from the Midwest and I never heard of a graduation party being called anything else 😂😂😂 that’s interesting. However. It’s pop 😐
I’m from Ohio and still live here. I ain’t never heard of an “open house” that is so weird lol now I gotta ask people
I do agree the Midwest is in its own lane lol, I do celebrate Sweetest Day (when I have a boyfriend) and say pop instead of soda lol but I have never been to a graduation party called open house, it was always called a graduation party lol. I'm from Dayton Ohio and was born and raised there
For the hate train, I think it's more so from industry execs not randos on the Internet. So I do agree that Latto isn't going through a hate train
Everything you just said is ON POINT!! I’m also African so I can see your point of view about black America too
Just got out of a relationship with a man who couldn’t keep a job the whole 8 months we dated and he talked so down on me for not being “down “ for him. I felt so bad but after hearing what you said I don’t feel so bad. I shouldn’t have to stress about money when I have a partner who could be helping me !
YESSSS FUCK THAT NAKER!!!!!! A jobless man of 8 months is a BUM. You deserve so much better. Your profile picture is beautiful btw!
He lost his mind!!! Even the broke ones have too much audacity 🤢
@@QueenChioma thank you 💛
It’s okay to say who don’t want to date , but she dissed essential workers,that’s why people was calling the breakfast club ..envy was mad for what she said about the workers ..the moral is , you can have preference but you don’t have to put down what doesn’t fit your presence ..
I don’t feel like she was dissing. I think she was just saying we should strive for better but if you’re ok with where you’re at then good for you 🤷🏽♀️
DJ Envy, and his fake self, his wife isn't black, but mentioned Ebony's ex fiance. Every year, he does the twelve days of Christmas with his wife to " shut down the internet " with expensive gifts, but he identifies, with common man. So sick of the internet fakeness.
I agreed with every point except for the last. Since I was maybe 8, I've been told, 'When you go to college, you make more money'. Going for my Associate's was exhausting, and I was told to keep going so that I could 'make more money'. They even say having a Master's means nothing now; you have to go for your Doctorate, which I'm just like😨. Anyways, I think the narrative is different based on family culture and where you grew up; cause here in NYC, Higher Degree = More Money.
How are you “making more monies” when a lot of y’all come out in debt 🙄🥴🤷🏾♀️ and I ain’t hating or shading but im frfr trying to see if it’s equalling out if you don’t find a job in your field or if your ass is gonna be paying for forever unless you got a free ride😂
Edit: and again im not hating but rather asking bc of info ppl I know or around me have shared🤷🏾♀️😂
Maybe it's set up that way, you go longer so you owe more but since you got the big degree and big salary it pays off...then again I'm just as clueless but good luck on your own journey!
@@mrssuchafknladyy2078 Well, I get Financial Aid 😅 so I don't know the facts. But the theory is once you graduate from the nursing program (for example), you will then make enough money to pay off your debts, rent, therapy sessions, etc.
Also, I got my degree in 2016. I work as a bartender though (no degree required obviously lol) but I honestly make wayyyyyy more than my counterparts. It’s sad. It’s progressed for them a little but I still make more. It’s crazy. I was able to put a down payment on a house, pay off my car, and be able to pay my bills at least 3-4 months ahead.
that’s interesting. i didn’t know you can make a lot bartending.
I definitely agree that people, especially Black women, should be allowed to have standards for themselves and their potential partners.
I do, however, feel as though it’s no one else’s job to live up to those standards. And in addition, I don’t personally care to hear someone complain that they can’t find a man or woman because they’re not living up to your standards. Your standards are YOUR issue, and if others aren’t living up to that, it’s not their fault. Hope this makes sense
It's them courthouse marriages that be lasting though 😂
I think the reason Natalie isnt held accountable for her comments because most people dont know she said it. I was born in 96 and started watching bad girls until after her season. And i was watching those shows early because of my cousins
I do believe people can come back from colorism. If they genuinely learn and work on changing why they are colorist. Some, and honestly probably most, don’t necessarily mean to. In the sense of it being brainwashed/conditioned from childhood (subconsciously) due to society/tv/parents/upbringing overall.
Believe it or not, I am dark skin and I was colorist. I was ridiculed by my light skinned brothers when we were kids about my skin color. That’s where it started and it continued from other things. Sooo I thought I was ugly (which I look back at my pics and I was a pretty ass lil girl shall I say😏😌). I thought all dark skins where dirty and mean. I had to realize it’s colorism and self-hate. So I actively ig forced myself (for lack of better word) to change that.
Mind you I’m also bisexual and wasn’t attracted to dark skin girls. I couldn’t believe I thought how I did. I would even acknowledge pretty ones but still didn’t want to date one.
Anyone that I know who has been colorist… I don’t support idgad. That includes JT, Chris brown etc. ion play them games.
Yes I would love a deeper video about the black women's standard's. I to didn't like the backlash she received for having high standards. And did you hear about the flo milli and ice spice colorism issue. And how her fans was saying she isn't on the same level as ice spice due to her being a dark skinned woman. Did you ever talk about the Keke Palmer and Zendaya topic?
Thanks for your comment! I’ll start working on that video. And yes, I have a video dropping tomorrow about Flo Milli, and Ice Spice comparisons/colorism. I actually never talked about Zendaya versus Keke Palmer, but I think it’s a great example. Can’t wait for y’all to see the video!
I'm not opposed to a court wedding but I do want an amazing honeymoon along a big nice house downpayment. A bomb dress doesn't even need to be $1000 and I don't care about a big ol' expensive reception after the wedding either. I might seem all over the place but ***shrugs***
I agree and disagree with a College statement… I as well am in college and I think a lot of people sometimes complain about the college degree and how people think they’re better because there are people that use their degree like I’m smarter than you, but that’s not for everyone and that’s not the purpose of a graduate degree it’s to be knowledgeable in a specific category not your knowledgeable on everything and you’re better than everyone and I think sometimes people use it like that and make everyone look bad…. Look at me I’m in college, but I hate grammar, college doesnt mean you’re smarter It means you’re disciplined I agree with that.
Natalie looks like a beige Jay Leno lol was she really talking about anyone’s looks? 😆
My favorite thing about you is you state your OWN opinion regardless of what the status quo have to say or think and you OWN it! Also I've been a fan of hip-hop my entire life it's my favorite genre male or female however female hip-hop is oversaturated with oversexualization and I would love to hear females rap about something other than their body or how well they perform sexually! Don't listen to the NPCs and keep being a leader and a queen 👑 Chioma!
I think the better word for Soulja Boy’s influence would be “pioneer,” NOT legend.
okay yes I like that better lol
Promoting colorism in song lyrics should be banned it’s harmful and the N word
Finally people are bringing back up this colorist with Natalie!!!!! Now u profiting off dark skin girls.. make it make sense
13:39 I personally feel like with Latto, she’s boring as heck and honestly I’m not a barb. I am a fan. I love her so much. But I do believe once she did go thru it with NM it made a lot of ppl dislike her, I feel like a lot of her fans were barbs and once that happened it was done. The barbs are a force to reckon with lol
Yeah your definitely right I’m not barb and I am a fan and I like listening to latto but not a fan I don’t think she’s deserve all this constant hate tbh
Patiently waiting for the Chioma chats theme song to come back 🥲
I’ll say this abt Soulja Boy he still has some bops that go viral on TikTok every now and then (idek they were him lol) so he still has that talent to make timeless bops and he’s even produced some big artists songs but he’s burned too many bridges bc he won’t stfu and is unstable. He truly holds his self back from being an actual icon
If Chioma is a hater for sharing her opinion of an artist music wouldn’t that make the girl who commented “yikes” a hater as well? Lol Social media has obliterated open dialogue
I didn't even know that Natalie made those comments!
I wasn’t aware either I definitely didn’t watch her season .
I’ve never seen that either. Wasn’t down with BGC back then
I found nothing wrong with what Eboni K Williams said she stated her preference but BM are Full of SHYT we have to accept their preference but when BW have one we are wrong. FUK BM, and DJ Envy who got in their feelings. Kudos to Eboni K Williams for not dating down and settling for a man that is not on your level.
Totally agree about the AI stuff, this is really scary and detrimental
College is pointless if you don’t know what you really want to study and the debt sometimes it’s not worth it
Video quality still was good; couldn’t tell the audio difference 👍🏾
Thanks for letting me know 🫶🏾 appreciate it!
I am so glad I am going back to school and didn’t listen to people telling me not to
I don't think a lot of people have a problem with Eboni's preference but she went in on black men in the working class based on generalized statistics. She's in entertainment now and not among the average people. It seemed to have reignited the gender war all over UA-cam. I try my best to stay away from that content because I love black women. I have a full black wife and daughter. I don't expect Eboni to date a bus driver but just let others live. Great commentary.
Natelie IS A COLORIST!!!!