You’ve got way more going for you than you realise. What you’re struggling with is a serious lack of self-esteem. Focus on building things into your life that make you feel good, start small and yes it will only happen gradually but you’d be surprised at how much things can bolster you. I know what I’m talking about I literally had to do this when my eleven year relationship ended and trust me I never thought I’d be able to pick myself up after that ended! Relying on other people to make you feel good won’t work it has to come from you. Once you’re feeling better (and you will) then you can start thinking about dating and what you can offer others. Hope this helps ❤
Hi from Sweden! I have now listened to this entire video. Thank you for sharing. I wish you all the best. I subscribed now to see if you ever post an update.
You find friends through frequency of interaction and familiarity. If you are home and never doing anything, You won't get friends. You don't have to force it either. That doesn't work. You will meet people if you go to a place, say. A hiking group, and you interact with people consistently. We tend to stop doing this as we age. Think about all your past friends and how you met them. You were always in school together, you talked a few times, then you talked some more. You met them at church, and you talked, same thing. You were at summer camp, same thing. Maybe you went to the arcade constantly, and there was always a kid there. And same thing, you talked and you interacted a few times. You don't go out and make friends, they kind of just happen. But you need to be out in the world to do that. Find the things you're interested in, and see if you can find groups of people that do them. This goes the same for trying to get a girlfriend or partner. You can go out on dates, and that sometimes works, but you'll have better luck with a setting in which a woman sees you with frequency and familiarity, and over the course of weeks or months you get to interact. It doesn't have to be anything cheesy. You can do this at the gym. You can do this hiking, fishing, you can do this with volunteer work, like helping a church hand out food, or help with building a house for the needy if you're handy. And if you're nerdy, you can do this at a card store with weekly tournaments. Rock climbing. ETC. Just need to find what you're good at or interested in, go to it, and interact with people bit by bit.
Hey Tripp, The most efficient way to develop your network of friends might be to get into a solid relationship with someone who has friends. Hanging out with her friends as a couple would be a "safe" way to reduce your anxiety, strengthen your relationship with your girlfriend as she sees you getting along with the people important to her and you might actually enjoy it. You can still be somewhat selective re who you might want to develop a stronger friendship with within her group and it would be a good way to practice social skills until you are confident to get out and say hello to more people within your bubble/safety zone.
Hey Tripp, stumbled upon your video and thought it was very brave to do your story in an honest and direct way. At first glance i don't think there is anything wrong with you. You have unconditional love for your daughter and that is one of the best and respectfull things a man can do. So in my book you are a winner already. But off course you want more for your own life as well. That is more than logical and a good start for taking steps forward. Social anxiety is a bitch and very hard to ignore. A bar may be a big first step. Maybe there are other ways to strengthen your social skills by doing sports or a club of somekind. And seeing a psychologist could be a good idea. I am a father of 2 and happily married, but even myself needs some clearance every now and then. Psychological help is a good way of strengthening your emotions and actually learning to know yourself. Furthermore you said you are a pain in the arse in a relationship. Knowing that is the first step of being better. Know what you did wrong or could have done better. When you meet someone it might help you going forward. Accept that you are a good man, you can't love someone else without loving yourself. I know it is all easier said than done but small steps make for big leaps!
Energy drinks are dangerous. If you are addicted or someone else you can dose down with Cola, later drink Ice Tea and drinks with sugar such as juice. Further I am not sure if it's the best to put videos like that online for security reasons just because you are alone. I am alone as well. But we're never alone. Cannot tell you what would be the best to do because I have a lack of concentration at the moment caused by period. The only thing I can tell you is that time is temporary. And maybe you could find a mission at the US. I get your feeling and it's sad and horrible. You're someone who needs a woman who is fitting 24/7 or not? Don't just look for the mistakes at yourself. Sometimes people are not ment to be together. And in this world we never know if we ever find our partner or not. Your older brother Charley will always be with you, you just have to find back to your family and keep the spirit up! You're not as bad as you feel. You're just missing something... This world is cruel and it's not always your fault that you did not reach your aims. Learn to accept your failures and out of the failure itself. ... There is always black matter so you don't know what's waiting for you.
Hey Tripp hope your well can totally relate to all what your saying I’ve been single for years and struggling to find love again I think there’s more chance of Elvis making a comeback have sent you a friend request on Xbox I see you not been on for a while but would be good to link up for a game sometime buddy 🇬🇧
Loneliness is a state of mind and never rely on others to fulfill your life ....brave video though but there isn't anything wrong with you ,there are millions around the planet who live in isolation ...
You’ve got way more going for you than you realise. What you’re struggling with is a serious lack of self-esteem. Focus on building things into your life that make you feel good, start small and yes it will only happen gradually but you’d be surprised at how much things can bolster you. I know what I’m talking about I literally had to do this when my eleven year relationship ended and trust me I never thought I’d be able to pick myself up after that ended! Relying on other people to make you feel good won’t work it has to come from you. Once you’re feeling better (and you will) then you can start thinking about dating and what you can offer others. Hope this helps ❤
Hi from Sweden! I have now listened to this entire video. Thank you for sharing. I wish you all the best. I subscribed now to see if you ever post an update.
Keep your head up man we are feel this at some point in life , we all are here for you
You find friends through frequency of interaction and familiarity.
If you are home and never doing anything, You won't get friends. You don't have to force it either. That doesn't work.
You will meet people if you go to a place, say. A hiking group, and you interact with people consistently. We tend to stop doing this as we age. Think about all your past friends and how you met them. You were always in school together, you talked a few times, then you talked some more. You met them at church, and you talked, same thing. You were at summer camp, same thing. Maybe you went to the arcade constantly, and there was always a kid there. And same thing, you talked and you interacted a few times.
You don't go out and make friends, they kind of just happen. But you need to be out in the world to do that.
Find the things you're interested in, and see if you can find groups of people that do them. This goes the same for trying to get a girlfriend or partner. You can go out on dates, and that sometimes works, but you'll have better luck with a setting in which a woman sees you with frequency and familiarity, and over the course of weeks or months you get to interact.
It doesn't have to be anything cheesy. You can do this at the gym. You can do this hiking, fishing, you can do this with volunteer work, like helping a church hand out food, or help with building a house for the needy if you're handy. And if you're nerdy, you can do this at a card store with weekly tournaments. Rock climbing. ETC.
Just need to find what you're good at or interested in, go to it, and interact with people bit by bit.
I read the title of the vid, then looked at your shirt and I said “yep”
@rainmana3530 Judgement is hate, and its impossible to be happy with hate in your heart. Enjoy your hell, but know there is freedom.
Hey Tripp, The most efficient way to develop your network of friends might be to get into a solid relationship with someone who has friends. Hanging out with her friends as a couple would be a "safe" way to reduce your anxiety, strengthen your relationship with your girlfriend as she sees you getting along with the people important to her and you might actually enjoy it. You can still be somewhat selective re who you might want to develop a stronger friendship with within her group and it would be a good way to practice social skills until you are confident to get out and say hello to more people within your bubble/safety zone.
The problem for me is finding that relationship.
Friends who have common interests usually connect
Hey Tripp, stumbled upon your video and thought it was very brave to do your story in an honest and direct way. At first glance i don't think there is anything wrong with you. You have unconditional love for your daughter and that is one of the best and respectfull things a man can do. So in my book you are a winner already. But off course you want more for your own life as well. That is more than logical and a good start for taking steps forward. Social anxiety is a bitch and very hard to ignore. A bar may be a big first step. Maybe there are other ways to strengthen your social skills by doing sports or a club of somekind. And seeing a psychologist could be a good idea. I am a father of 2 and happily married, but even myself needs some clearance every now and then. Psychological help is a good way of strengthening your emotions and actually learning to know yourself. Furthermore you said you are a pain in the arse in a relationship. Knowing that is the first step of being better. Know what you did wrong or could have done better. When you meet someone it might help you going forward. Accept that you are a good man, you can't love someone else without loving yourself. I know it is all easier said than done but small steps make for big leaps!
I feel you💔
Energy drinks are dangerous. If you are addicted or someone else you can dose down with Cola, later drink Ice Tea and drinks with sugar such as juice. Further I am not sure if it's the best to put videos like that online for security reasons just because you are alone. I am alone as well. But we're never alone. Cannot tell you what would be the best to do because I have a lack of concentration at the moment caused by period. The only thing I can tell you is that time is temporary. And maybe you could find a mission at the US. I get your feeling and it's sad and horrible. You're someone who needs a woman who is fitting 24/7 or not? Don't just look for the mistakes at yourself. Sometimes people are not ment to be together. And in this world we never know if we ever find our partner or not. Your older brother Charley will always be with you, you just have to find back to your family and keep the spirit up! You're not as bad as you feel. You're just missing something... This world is cruel and it's not always your fault that you did not reach your aims. Learn to accept your failures and out of the failure itself. ... There is always black matter so you don't know what's waiting for you.
Hey Tripp hope your well can totally relate to all what your saying I’ve been single for years and struggling to find love again I think there’s more chance of Elvis making a comeback have sent you a friend request on Xbox I see you not been on for a while but would be good to link up for a game sometime buddy 🇬🇧
Loneliness is a state of mind and never rely on others to fulfill your life ....brave video though but there isn't anything wrong with you ,there are millions around the planet who live in isolation ...
We are social beings
Im Travis
Great ! You have no problems. You want problems? then marry.