8 Uncommon Rules for Young Men
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In a culture that either demonizes men or excuses them, we need men to know that God has a mission for them to pursue. To lead and love well.
Join me as I work through the challenges, and joys of what it means to be a man. This is a place for men to be strengthened on their mission to lead and love.
1. Don’t be the first one to speak 0:29
2. Ask the dumb question 1:43
3. Always choose delayed gratification 3:12
4. Cut out overstimulating entertainment 4:20
5. Always do what you say you are going to do 5:18
6. Dreaming is essential 6:15
7. Become the #1 encourager 7:16
8. Set boundaries with female friends 9:12
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The last rule is quite literally the worst on this list. The fact that he doesn't think that men and women can have platonic friendships it's nuts 🤦♂️
@@omotayosatuyi252 There are two schools of thought:
- some think that there is no such thing as friendship between men and women. When it comes to young people, it tends to become quite true after some time
- others think there is
After some time, I discovered the former of the two options is rather true.
@@universalrandomizer405 You discovered that men and women can actually be friends?
@@omotayosatuyi252If they find each other attractive they shouldn't.
Thanks bro, I’m 25 and still have my V card
Wish I was in the same boat
@@matthewizzo3350But people won't mock you.
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God give us grace man, im 21 same here, bro
@@matthewizzo3350 But people won't mock you.
It’s either marriage or turning in my v card at the pearly gates. I pray to have the strength to do just that!
I would like to refute the first point. Talking first or last is completely situational in this instance. Sometimes you need to be the man and talk first. Other times it’s best to sit back.
A better way to say this would be, choose when to speak and be silent
I think that's what he was trying to say. I didn't get the impression that he was saying one should never ever be the first to speak.
My biggest problem with speaking last is that by the time I'm ready to speak, the topic has changed and it'd be weird to bring it back up again
Thank you so much Isaac!
Thanks for this.
Thank you
This content is amazing practical encouragement
I've been doing a few of these things already. Some of them are gonna be tough.
It makes sense that insecure people try to get their opinion out among others:
Proverb 18:2
Fools find no pleasure in understanding but delight in airing their own opinions.
thank you for your God inspired advice bro. it has helped me alot.
All good advice, for all men indeed thank you!
All excellent points! Being 21 now, I’ve recently tried to engage and connect with some of the girls I’ve known for a while in the past, but I realize that either I or they are not prepared or suited to be in a relationship that I see fit. So, keeping boundaries is what I will do. I’ll continue to develop my career and mission while growing in the word of God, and I’ll see where the Lord leads me. Could be the person, the situation, and the timing - all these need to be set right.
Somebody get this man a mic stand 😂...my wrists hurt just looking at you holding that mic every video 😅😂....jokes aside , amazing video ..your content helps me a lot ❤
Amen sir
Ecclesiastes 5:3
A dream comes when there are many cares, and many words mark the speech of a fool.
Psalm 55:22
Cast your cares on the LORD and he will sustain you; he will never let the righteous be shaken.
Hebrews 12:28-29
Therefore, since we are receiving a kingdom that cannot be shaken, let us be thankful, and so worship God acceptably with reverence and awe, 29for our “God is a consuming fire.”
Praise the LORD for the wonderful things He has planned for us, the majority of which exceed this life
Colossians 3:1-4
Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is, seated at the right hand of God. 2Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things. 3For you died, and your life is now hidden with Christ in God. 4When Christ, who is your life, appears, then you also will appear with him in glory.
1 Peter 1:13
Therefore, with minds that are alert and fully sober, set your hope on the grace to be brought to you when Jesus Christ is revealed at his coming.
2 Peter 3:13
But in keeping with his promise we are looking forward to a new heaven and a new earth, where righteousness dwells.
Philippians 3:12-16
Not that I have already obtained all this, or have already arrived at my goal, but I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. 13Brothers and sisters, I do not consider myself yet to have taken hold of it. But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead, 14I press on toward the goal to win the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus. 15All of us, then, who are mature should take such a view of things. And if on some point you think differently, that too God will make clear to you. 16Only let us live up to what we have already attained.
Philippians 3:20-21
But our citizenship is in heaven. And we eagerly await a Savior from there, the Lord Jesus Christ, 21who, by the power that enables him to bring everything under his control, will transform our lowly bodies so that they will be like his glorious body.
2 Timothy 4:8
Now there is in store for me the crown of righteousness, which the Lord, the righteous Judge, will award to me on that day-and not only to me, but also to all who have longed for his appearing.
Revelation 3:11
I am coming soon. Hold on to what you have, so that no one will take your crown.
Hallelujah! Come Lord Jesus!
I am 20 years and I still have my v-card
How is your mother doing? I hope things are getting better for her
Please make a video on the biblical application of running a business
Don't be like most big video game companies: greedy.
Give to the poor your excess
At least, those are my first thoughts.
How… don’t screw people over. Don’t have to be Christian
Hey Isaac, I don’t know if you’ll see this comment, but as an 18 year old, I’ve been trying to work out how to get my life on track to becoming an adult and your videos have been a tremendous help. There’s a girl at my church who I’ve been interested in for a while now and I’ve been meaning to ask her out some time soon. The problem is that I never see her outside of church, so I’m not sure what the best way to approach her is. The truth is I really don’t know much about her at all aside from her name and that she’s a devout Christian but I want to get to know her better. I’ve spoken to her father occasionally, not about her, but I think he has a good image of me. If you see this comment, could you spare any advice for me on how to approach this girl, or maybe a full video for anyone else who might be in a similar situation. Thank you.
Hey bro, I don’t think now’s the right season for that move! give it some time. Build yourself in as much areas as you can, Grow and develop a deeper relationship with Jesus. If your not in the right season, it’s a distraction and it’ll cost you!
Just meditate on the book of proverbs👌🏾
I gotta disagree with that last point somewhat. I don't think it's a given that two people of the opposite sex will become attracted to each other just by spending one-on-one time together. I have plenty of female friends who I value as friends but feel no level of romantic attraction to whatsoever (and neither do they towards me).
The people you need to be careful with are the ones who you actually feel some level of non-platonic attraction to. Even then though, if you've gotten as far as deciding that you don't want a relationship with that person (and you're a mature person with decent self control) then things are unlikely to escalate or amount to anything.
Once again, I can attest to this, as I have female friends who I find physically attractive but who I have no plans of pursuing romantically, and just the fact that I know that I don't want a relationship with them is enough for me to compartmentalize the physical attraction, preventing me from becoming emotionally attached. Now when I speak with them even one-on-one, I can confidently say that I feel nothing more than what I feel when I talk to my male friends.
I know guys are easily turned on, but there's still nuance to it, and I think saying "never be alone with a woman who's just a friend" is a bit extreme when given as a blanket rule. It all depends on a bunch of factors, such as your emotional maturity and your ability to control where and where not you direct your vulnerability.
I think a better piece of advice would be to monitor yourself and how you feel when hanging out with women and set boundaries where you feel yourself becoming attached (this won't look the same for everyone).
Sorry if it sounds like I'm breaking the first rule of this video here...not trying to be clever, this just happens to be one topic I'm a little passionate about 😅
Amen
I'm 17 and I'm wait till marriage to give me v card
That’s what sup bro keep going and following our Lord Jesus
I just have a question for boundaries with girl friends. What if you already messed up. I was completely unaware of this until the videos showed up (thanks a lot) but I didn't find any information on what to do if you already made that mistake of dropping some innuendo or something even when you don't mean it. What should someone do if they already made that mistake, and what can they do to fix it.
He has a more in depth video on that topic on this channel. I don’t think he touched on how to fix it much but it’s been a while so go watch it for yourself.
Personally, I think it depends on the extent that you’ve already gone. If either you or she has developed feelings but you’ve still maintained boundaries up to this point, carefully consider the situation and pray to the Lord to give you wisdom for whether you could proceed, or whether you should sever the relationship. If you’ve already been very physically intimate, like having had sex already, it becomes a much harder issue, and simply leaving likely won’t do. But whatever it is, know that the Lord takes precedence, and that we are called to live in peace.
@@labotomy_xiade9853 I probably worded it wrong. I think we are only in like the feelings stage, but I may have "let her on", (by accident) I'm only wondering how to step back from that.
@@anthonylai7257 If you let her on; then just be honest with her, tell her that you don’t want to jump into sex or lust but learn more about her and whatnot before you take that next step with her. That is setting boundaries so that you don’t jump into sin you feel me cause if you do there are bad spiritual implications obv.
@@anthonylai7257 Then it's not that big of a deal. Again, consider the case and know your own intentions, and tell her your honest feeling if you really don't think it's gonna work.
Being around girls as a dude, it's wise to practice restraining the tongue and using the right words much more so than it is just being around your dude friends.
But the other thing is, good relationships are hard to come by, and you'll seldom come around a woman who's already spiritually elite and has everything in check. Sometimes you may have to be intentional and invest into a person for a little while. What that means is, you should be clear and honest about your values, and what you wish to see in the peron you want to be with. If you're not sure whether this girl is the right one, you don't have to be fast to accept or reject, but just ask more questions and give your thoughts instead. Surely God will work things out in His timing.
Again, I'm not sure about your situation, haha, so Idk if you appreciate all this extra "advice". Best of luck, and God bless.
What should i do if i have no choice but to share a flat with a girl around my age? I live there because of uni...
This point of Isaac is rather niche and legalistic. I’ve had a female roommate before as well, so long as you keep everything professional and you know you don’t have feelings developing then you have the appropriate self control and you’re all good.
Make sure ur in your word and if you see any signs of lust or anything that is sinful, repent and take a step back from it. More than anything just be upfront and stay professional.
@@breesty4229 True True. Will focus on that when I move back.
@@backwoodsonthabeat7783 Be professional. Go it thx dude :-)
Make sure you don't do any sexual stuff with her that the Bible forbids.
bruh, why make a video of rules that you're not even living by?
Losing your virginity is a social construct…
What do you mean by that? Genuinely like you mean that virginity isn’t real?