Narcissists Hate Celebrating Your Birthday or Holidays |
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- Опубліковано 25 вер 2024
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This video talks about how some narcissists hate celebrating your birthday or holidays. The narcissist generally wants to be the center of attention so they dont want you to be the one who has all the attention. A lot of narcissists will use the excuse and say they don’t celebrate birthdays or holidays unless it’s their birthday. Also the narcissist is about taking and not really giving and they dont want to have to give you gifts.
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The narc motto is, "What's in it for me?" That phrase alone explains why a narc won't celebrate anything that doesn't center around them.
Wow, yes! Birthdays became traumatic for me. They made me feel so unimportant. Unless they saw me slipping away from them, and needed to up their game to keep me.
Mine was today, he tried to ruin it once again this year. This time after so many years I got myself ready dressed up and took myself out to a restaurant ,alone.
Good for you, f##k him.
The only birthday they do seem to care about is their own!! But usually they pretend to say its not important as they want to secretly spend it with the latest duped supply!!
This is so true. It’s the biggest inconvience for them.
He ruined almost every holiday..he would create an argument to give himself the excuse to storm off and leave for the entire day (I never knew where he went for the whole day)..come back later and no apology because it was my fault. It was always devastating. These are horrible people.
Yup, they also ruin these day's for everyone else.
Toxic family liked to celebrate my birthday because they can use my birthday for their own purposes. I don’t feel it was about me. Last year ex narcissistic friends tried covertly ruin my birthday. They knew it’s important for me and they messed up by being very late and missed a big part which could make me happy. I justified them but now I know they didn’t want to see me happy. One narcissistic friend which was on time but she didn’t care about me didn’t engage to make me happier. I felt I entertain other people on MY birthday. Even on photo in the cafe when late narcs came grandiose ex best friend was sitting in the center as if it was her birthday. I’ve noticed that much later. People who cared about me wouldn’t steal the shine which is mine and my day. I think if that’s person birthday it’s better to support person and make day brighter and not to mess it.
A narc is someone who can not be trusted with information. A narcissist is a different thing
Correct
They are just Evil
Nope
Unless it's THEIR birthday!
So true 💯
The ex narc I knew for 3 years never once wished me Happy Birthday, I only spent one birthday with him. He went out to the shop and came back saying oh I was going to buy you some flowers but the shop didn't sell them. The shop he'd gone to I knew always had a large display of flowers right at the entrance!! I just laughed to myself that he expected me to believe what was obviously a big fat lie!! These people are truly horrible 🤢
Vile creatures from dark lagoons
This is so true. Covert Narc mom is always becomes overly passive aggressive, highly irritated and very uneasy few days before and on my birthday. She can’t contain her true hate and disgust for me.Been this way since I was a child all the way through my adulthood. Her demons become very restless. She is Self loathing and miserable even when she gets what she wants. They are never happy and never will be. It use to bother me, but not as much anymore once I really found out about Narcissistic personality disorder and how demonic and evil they truly are.
Oh well too bad. Not going to put my day ( or life) on hold for a miserable self hating narcissist including any narcissistic family members. I just continue grey rock her. Working on no contact currently.
My narc. Used to say to me..."YOUR TOO INTO HOLIDAYS"....
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My birthday is a day I despise due to narcs. They simply do not care. I haven't had a cake, party, or anything since one of my bosses died. My fkg BOSS cared more about me than supposed friends or family. I cant stand the day anymore. They fkg ruined for me. It's a day on the calendar. Nothing.
Don't allow these disgusting creatures to have the power over you to ruin your birthday, it's bad enough they disrespected you on your birthday to begin with, don't give them that power to continually destroy your birthday, take back your power .🏃
I feel the same way about my birthday. Hate when it rolls around. It always brings pain.
Mine forgot my birthday. That was the day I woke up, after six years of this, I googled how to break up with a narcissist. I learned it’s like hugging a porcupine, you must do it very carefully. I took the advice of experts and made my plan in secret. A 10 day eviction notice served by women who told him that they had to videotape my property and that he would go back to jail if he destroyed anything. Then we used an intermediary, if he needed to contact me, he had to go through them. He’s been gone a year. It was the best birthday present I ever gave myself
Hey foid
U r narcissist actually
Oh wise one 😊
MY BIOLOGICAL MOTHER NEVER CELEBRATED MY BIRTHDAY OR SAID HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO ME HER HATE IS BIGGER THAN THE DEEP BLUE SEA ,WHEN IT COMES TO MY SONS I PARTY WITH THEM FOR 1 WEEK AND MY BIRTHDAY IS FOR THEM I COOK WHAT THEY LIKE BUT I SPEND TIME WITH GOD ON MY BIRTHDAY
Mine hated that Christmas, my birthday, Valentine's day, and our anniversary were all a month apart... He didn't think it was fair I got all those special days in a row like that... 😒
My ex covert, while in a 7 11, asked me with irony if i wanted ice cream to celebrate my name day...He didn't get me any present of course. we stayed home all day, so he doesn't spend money and told me what matters it's us spending time together, not where we are. If that's not manipulation I don't know what is
Yep-only celebrated my birthday in the love bombing stage-all the others-he was ‘working’
Mine messed up my birthdays, didn't want to celebrate his birthday, messed up our Christmases - just a pain.
He knew what kind of cake and ice cream I didn’t care for. He got both for my birthday. When I didn’t eat it, he got upset. One of the children said, you know she doesn’t like them! He kept complaining about his birthday not being a big enough party. 🙄
Or they will always ruin this day!!!
I hear I’m not a Hallmark guy.
He will remember someone he is grooming to be a supply
Its always about the money
So true ! Our birthdays are just 2 days apart , his before mine but he will act like he doesn’t even know it even though I used to make so much noise about his and he enjoyed it .
So so evil characters
Worst gift givers EVER . Narc got me a CVS backscratcher bought one hour before Christmas. Uggggh.
I have been with two narcs and they both celebrated my birthday. Maybe they did it cause I didn’t want to or it was part of the love bomb stage. They both hit me up and one flew in from Texas. Soon as she ask for my number I went back to no contact. The other wanted to meet within the week. I cancelled on her too. It only gets worst not better. No contact
Usually true! My last narcissist boss, threw a big birthday party for me! She continued to abuse me in every way. The party was a fake show for her flying monkeys. More manipulation: fake nice followed by extreme covert abuse. Thank you! 😊🌹❤️♥️♥️👍🏻✅
Same only thing is my old boss bragged on me to make other girls jealous but how highly she spoke of me didn't match my pay...and the girls let's just say were jealous 🥴it was hell at that place!!!!
This post is Spot on! ❤
Secondary opinion. Alot of the reasons why I dont care for holidays or birthdays are mainly because I've lost family close to holidays and I grew up not really celebrating. No money to indulge in alot of those things.
If they don't care, you don't have to care about their birthday either!
A narcissist told me he doesn’t celebrate the holidays because they’re paganistic. I don’t believe in having sex with people who don’t think of me on holidays & my birthday. I’m too spoiled to get entrapped with a narcissist
My daughter made sure to be out of town on my birthday. Just a text message. I’m not fond of birthdays but since I’ve learned she’s a covert narcissist I’m noticing behaviors common with narcissistic traits.
But I made sure her birthday was special because I do truly love her.
My dad would make a point to forget every birthday and holiday. He would flat-out ignore my mom and brother, and would give me gifts like a cheap keychain, just to start a fight.
My dad was jehovah witness. Some just dont celebrate 💐
Very true
Mine's always said he never believed in holidays or birthday..
They really hate Valentine’s Day..LOL!
The more I watch your videos it's the more I see through this man, mother's day and birthday it nothing to him, 2023 this man will not be in my home nor life
A lot of all people hate celebrating birthdays.
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I live with a Narcissistic moocher. One of my Sister's friends. Waiting for him to move out. So he doesn't ruin another birthday. But unfortunately , it looks like I'm stuck with him and his ego. Bummer. 😢
But even if they know you enjoy celebrating theirs, they'll destroy your plans and complain about the presents etc
I'm getting real education.
Some people just see it simply as a waste of time. I don't even like celebrating my own birthday. I still enjoy life but it's just a reminder that I am getting old.
And Christmas has lost its meaning. Most people are burnt out and in debt by Boxing Day. Yet again the world is telling us how we should behave on certain holidays, how to spend our money. Blah, blah, blah.
So fucking true. He said He dont celebrate. Just nothing even a happy day.. His Birthday he didnt opend his door and let me stand there with his present. Such an Ahole. Thanks for your vids 💋💖
My birthday is on Valentine’s Day. Imagine them saying they don’t celebrate holidays anymore lol or they’ll say things like there not special to make me feel bad
Omg! But if you don't give them a Xmas gift and don't invite them to Christmas dinner they'll throw a humongous tantrum. Or another one is rather than having a thanks giving dinner you n the family ditch them to go to the laundry mat 😅🤣🤣🤣 did this and the kids n I secretly had thanks giving the next day while the narcissist was out sulking n drinking 😅🤣🤣🤣 no left overs either!!! Just left dirty dishes and a caucus when they got back from drinking no one was home. 😅🤣🤣🤣
Exactly so right and saying - I don’t give you a present you don’t give me . And is so jealous of absolutely everything and everybody
And they are effective DEMONS FORGET NOT DEMONS READ AGAIN
THEY ARE DEMONS
TRUE NARCISSIST ARE DEMONS.
Others can be just egoist etc
Mine forgot my birthday then got mad at me when I got upset about it. She checks a lot of Narc boxes.
I don't celebrate birthday because i don't feel that i achieved anything in my life. therefore not happy. until i feel that i have achieved something then i can say that i've settled and that im happy, just one goal to achieve and ill be fine.
Yes they do it's some weirdo ish
Beautiful human
You are so right. He didn't wish me happy birthday but when his came around 4days after he called me to remind me his birthday. SMH
Very true right down to the nitty gritty of it 👍
I always wanted to my parents never cared
He never made an effort for me on my birthday,but expected a big deal being made on his, pathetic 😏😈
My birthday was always 💩, same with holidays. Then when my dad passed January 17, 2017 that day would always be hard on me. She would never remember and then would tell me I need to get over it. Same for his birthday June 17th. I didn't even know he wasn't my real father until she told me in an attempt to get me to hate my mother. I can't even remember the last good birthday or holiday I had. Same for our kids. Every special occasion was always ruined either well in advance or the day of. Sad thing is I still beat myself up for reacting to her lies and cheating and manipulation. I doubt myself constantly. I almost killed myself over all the abuse. I didn't know I was being abused and it still sounds funny to me
Are you better now?
Attention and admiration? If you think you get admiration on your birthday, it means you admire others when they have theirs, which in turn, means you don't genuinely care about theirs, but rather admire the "attention" they get. Now who's the real narcissist?
Personally, I really don't care about birthdays, Christmas and Valentine's Day, but when I have a partner, I get things together and that's compromise. What I openly and genuinely contribute to, is achievements.
Got a new job? 🎉
Got a promotion? 🎉
Won an award? 🎉
Narcissists are the ones who overly glorify their own birthday and think the day they were born needs to be tended to by force.
This makes sense. We are married and today is the 11th birthday he has not done anything. He knows it upsets me because what I do for his. I wake up wondering why I have to beg for everything.
My narc celebrate my b day to trap me
That’s my case!I start my birthdays with with expectations and ends in tears!!there my husband blames me of my childish behaviour attention seeking g disorder,sensitivity and what not!!!Regardless of this,I keep on celebrating my husbands and sons birthday with best treats I can make them surprised and cheerful!!still continuing after 24 years of marriage!lol!!!
this is true.
Yes so true my narc husband used to do like this only two years after wedding we celebrated later never again in 12 years no occasions they care travel with freinds and gf leaving you and kids behind.
True.
This includes the man/woman who considers themselves as “spiritual.” if they say they don't like holidays for pagan reasons they're basically admitting they don't respect the feminine side of mysticism. The consequence of this idea leaks into other way such as making fun of you whenever you try to express yourself differently whether it's through self expression or through writing or skill learning. They'll also be very concerned with you “proving” love every day as an obligation when it would be easier to have an obligation set for holidays and birthday specifically as the focus is already set aside for recognition of the person/family.
I'm not a narcissist but I don't celebrate bdays or holidays either. I choose not to because of what the bible says about those celebrations and their pagan origins
Amen
My god… I wanna hug you.
My past four birthdays have been ruined 😢
My narc did not acknowledge my birthday. 😮
There is nothing to celebrate birthday. Celebrate your victory not birthday.
You looking for a reason to be right queen
This is obviously your opinion though…I’m a very quiet private person I dont celebrate my own birthdays…we humans aren’t here for a very long time I prefer to spend that time alone and away from people doing things that fulfill the meaning of life to me. Birthdays along with other meaningless things don’t fit my preference. That shouldn’t make me a narcissist 😐
Last time I had a birthday I was 8. My moms a covert narc. Still hard to celebrate it❤
BOOM!
Only a narc would want a special day just for them. You've been born into a narcissistic society with narcissistic customs. The key is whether the individual wants their own day celebrated and not others, or if they have a distaste for celebrating their own too (keep their own rules/philosophy). I don't celebrate b-days or valentine's or anything. I celebrate with freedom and spontaneity, not rituals determined by others. There is so much fakery on such occasions which is a huge turn off. Our b-day was when we were born, not every year of a calendar.
Yup had my 50th and he did zero- when I got upset he said I didn’t deserve it. Deserve it- I am still here after his insults and bore his child. Take care of all the bills and house and work. But i apparently was good enough to have sex with. So I said - why did I deserve that? I have moved to another room of the house. He wants to say I do not des😅erve- only God shows me that not him he is not my God. He hates when I get attention for sure. He didn’t start this way- warning some life events led him to this spot that is the only reason I have held on. However this last statement along with his others as he went through crap I had zero to do with- I am needing my own space.
I don’t get why we celebrate being alive for a year I mean it’s pretty much expected
Love you eyes
not always true my ex not made a big deal out of birthdays and holidays to prove that she was capable of having a good time. I got so tired of watching her put on a show in order to be perfect and behind the mask was such a dastardly demon. needless to say I had a covert malignant psychopath on my hands
I don't celebrate any of these pagan holiday beliefs, but I don't see myself as a narcissist either! I'm just not into all the cheesy projection of phony holiday cheer!
Im in no contact with my Narc mother. I dont celebrate her birthday anymore. Does that make me the narcissist?
I don't think my ex husband remembers when it was...x
Why do you think someone should care about your birthday? It's your birthday if your so happy with it share it with someone who cares...not everyone is gonna care about your birthday and not all of them are narcissists...the fact is that if you think everyone should celebrate your birthday ,you are the narcissist.
thank you! this seems like the only comment I've found that makes sense, I was confused this whole time watching this short 🤦🏾♂️
Looks like I'm a narc
Spoiler, a probable narcissist made this video
They become JW 😂
Antisemitic statement. Okay Kanye.
Not funny!
Seems kind of ironic. You want to be celebrated, it's your day. But someone who doesn't celebrate a day that they don't feel belongs to them is a narcissist and not humble🤔 the reasoning does matter though. A lot of people that don't celebrate don't do it because they're followers of Christ.
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I don’t think that is true,
Not 100% accurate.
I don’t want to celebrate my birthday but I will be happy to celebrate others birthday