If Age Gap Couples Were 100% Honest | Split Decision
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0:00 Intro
0:29 My partner is the best I've ever had in bed
2:58 My partner and I have special sexual fantasies and kinks
5:55 I'm worried my partner might leave me for someone their own age
9:29 If I caught my partner cheating, I would give them a second chance
12:41 Our age gap affects our political discourse
15:14 My partner has a vice or bad habit that really worries me
18:27 I sometimes feel like an outsider around my partner's friends
21:23 My family approves of my partner
25:31 I often feel like no one understands our relationship
29:24 There is something only my partner understands about me
33:29 I want to start a family with my partner some day - Розваги
We need to start a support group for people that have watched this episode 😭😭😭😭😭
This comment 😭
bruh fr like i’m struggling getting though the first 5 min. this is wild
fr like what is this help 😭@@Bobab0y
forealll!
Lmao
Him saying he wanted to be a slave was INSANE 😭😭😭😭 done set us back 100 years
I WAS LIKE WTH 😭
Massa’s wife home alone what happened to secrets??
Its a humiliation kink
..... obviously he is not refering to that
GIRL I WAS GASPING. And the cherry on top was that her kids were racist and called him the n word as if she didn’t raise them😭
I feel like two older gay men are literally gonna be best friends after this😭
them connecting over olivia newton john😭😭😭
Also they look the same 😭
One of the couples have a channel named out loud and they're so freaking adorable.The video really didn’t do them justice
they all should become friends after this.
more than that lol
Tre being 22 is crazy😭
Yea! They were together for 6 years 😅 and he talks about them hanging out in his dorm
@@djkwells2168 HE WAS 17???????
@@amelie4813 something like that crazy how they didn’t even try and cover it up but that is terrible
@@djkwells2168 how would Tre be in college at 16/17? Can you add the timestamp for when they said they were together for 6 years because I don't remember hearing that.
@@djkwells2168it’s jon and brian who’ve been together 6 years
I'm a minute and a half in and it's already a tough one to watch
That's me❤ it's really tough to watch I don't feel it's deserve...
Some of the info they’re sharing no one could ever get out of me 💀
@@Roseskatrina “I like to be a slave…” 🚪🚶🏽♂️
@@itsnatemate7697THIS ‼️😭😭 IM LIKE OH???!
Okay i finished the video actually it was very touching
-"what will i be in 40 years?"
-"dust" 💀💀💀
💀💀💀💀
I actually screamed
Going into sex questions to start makes the age gap look like it's sex only. Starting with emotional questions would have been more beneficial, in my opinion. You can do better jubilee!
Yeah. Ick tactics.
They always start off with sex in order to grab attention
I can easily see it as baiting viewers, lessening nerves of the people with a comedic question, or just wanting to get a big viewer question answered so they can move on to deeper subjects. Maybe it's a mix of all 3. I don't really fault Jubilee for it. That's just what pleases the algorithm and exploring viewers. You don't begin by asking hard questions, it's too jarring.
Dont worry that literally that all these vids are like
I mean u can extremely easily tell they all have an emotional connection. Ppl were crying for each other and showing how much they love each other.
Feel like it’s the base standard, like obvsly ppl in relationships love each other regardless of age. So sex life is a bigger talking point bc that’s one of the things that makes their relationships sm different to typical ones.
I would love to see a video on couples with a size difference being a plus size women with a skinny husband it isn’t easy I’d love to hear about other peoples experiences
Meh
It makes more sense to create an episode, when the woman is healthy or skinny, and the guy is obese. Society tends to show more support for obese women, and women, who want to leave relationships.
Yes that's a great idea
@@eugenetswongI think it's the opposite? I don't know where you live but here you can be a morbidly obese male actor portrayed as a love interest, but you can't be even overweight woman in the same position, I think what you interept as "society support" is more of society pity or over correction
@@yomnaaa7397 some men want to be victimized so bad they straight up lie lol..!
imagine dating someone that was 30 when you were born
This is what I think of everytime someone says they have a huge age gap
I always found an age gap way too much if the person could have been your parent (or worse, grandparent...)
Ew
I mean you could even apply that to smaller gaps. My partner is just 5 years older than me and when we think about it, I was in elementary when they were in high school which is weird. I was 13 when they were 18 and that's weird. But we didn't meet then, we met as adults.. so it's normal. But idk I also am just not put off by the idea of dating someone even 20+ years older than me. We're adults, if the dynamic works, it works.
Oh Lord
“I want to be a slave” is insane
“ massa wife is home alone” is senile
LMFAO
Yoooo 😂
I had to take a moment to process what he said bruh 😭
Chai!!! As in ehhh
Yeah, he's telling all their business.
The couple where the younger guy said he wouldn't want to have children because he doesnt want his kids to lose a dad so young is SO valid.
I'm 25, i lost my both my birth parents. (i never really had a connection to them) but knowing my adoptive parents who are in their mid 80's might make it only another 5 years, is devastating.
Its so hard seeing your parents go through the last stages of life and knowing they will most likely never meet my future children, or be there when i am married, or even just have somewhere to go home to.
Jeff and Brian should become besties, they were totally vibing! Wish all the best to all the couples!
Talia and her husband seem the most normal and aren't talking much and I think it's because their age gap isn't that huge
And Alejandro looked young.
Yeah they look normal
They look normal because this kind of relationship is much more commonly seen than the others, also they have the smallest age gap.
He’s the only one that doesn’t look like he’s trying to look young. Talia also seems mature compared to the other young people
I was thinking that too, but it also seems as though everyone else is more out spoken or were asked more questions. Like when one of them would be on no or yes and the other was on the opposite, they weren't asked about. They were talked to sometimes, but I'm almost done with the video and haven't heard much of them.
Cheryl must have has a rough life cuz she says she’s 63 but she looks at least 80. Wow.
I think drugs were involved
Her Instagram bio openly says she struggles with an eating disorder, so. Some other commenters have mentioned she's talked about addiction on TikTok, but can't confirm that because I don't use it. Whatever the case, not surprising. She mentions being in abusive relationships in the past, and who knows what else she's dealt with. Hopefully she's doing as well as she can these days.
Don't do drugs
Sun damage from being a surfer
She says it was mostly from being a surfer but she’s also said that yes she had a very hard life
I’m a bit disturbed by the comments “we met in my dorm room” “it was my first time” like WHAT
he was 16 when they met😭😭😭😭
That was my first thought too!!!
You can tell that both Jeff and Tre are an emotionally intellectual couple. They're able to effectively communicate their feelings towards one another and it's a characteristic that allows a relationship to go far.
Brian and Jon seemed even more mature to me. But yeah they were fine too.
tbh i wouldn’t be able to tell an age difference between talia and alejandro 🤷🏼♂️
I think it's because they have the least age gap. Or she just has aged pretty bad and he aged pretty well
💯
my thoughts exactly
Talia se ve mayor y alejandro muy joven
Same
Couples of opposite political views would be cool to have on the show
I would like that too. I was a bit surprised when one of the couples said they don't talk about politics in order to not have to disagree.
I'm so tired of the political videos, let's get new topics
It feels so gross that people date people with different political ideologies. So many of their opinions are about basic human rights
Dated a lib girl and learnt my lesson. I never really tried to "change" her or say that she had to vote my side, just debated with her about topics with an open mind. She on the other had tried to "convert" me.
Or put em in an arena and let em duke it out
the:
"where will i be in 40 years-", "dust"
was wild asf
I love the host of this show. He's very open and sensitive. Just a very likeable person :)
This!
i agree you could totally tell he made them 100% comfortable
Hats off to Cheryl's one child who isn't a raging racist 👏
I did wonder how her kids could’ve grown up to be racists. One usually learns that from one’s parents. But one’s community has a big influence, too, so that could’ve been what helped develop that hatred in them.
@Ceerads it sounds like her ex husband's were pretty bad and abusive so I wouldn't doubt their father is a raging racist if he's capable of abuse and SA
@@Ceerads Y'all are wild af. Children are fully capable of knowing their gender, having hormones and cutting off body parts but in everything else it's the parents where the kids got it from. Make it make sense.
@@xenondoro8573 what?
yes lets praise the absolute bare minimum. woohoo.
Alejandro and Talia are not controversial enough for this experiment lol
They're just the least open
@@manifestingsanctuary which isn’t necessarily a bad thing 🤷♀️
@@hannahgates2994 Of course, just doesn't mean they're less controversial if all was aired out in the open.
I honestly wouldn't even think they were an age gap couple if I saw them out and about. I mean close up, he does look older than her, but I never would have guessed there was 16 years between them
@@parrisnia72 Agree!
Having a slavery kink is wild and vile asf🤦🏾♀️
(Yes im kink shaming)
Exactly!! No sir!!!
I feel like it’s a humiliation kink rather than a slavery kink but he doesn’t understand that yet
It's very common, and this mentality is what keeps people feeling intense shame about kinks for years. It does nothing but hurt those individuals. Nothing has been gained
You'd think massa's kids name-calling would turn him on🤷🏾♀️
@@Cheray_ That's a vile thing to say
I don’t believe that Cheryl is in her 60’s she looks waaaaaaaay older 💀
Look at least 80
She looks 90.
@@paperremixbro my grandpa who's 80 looks 60 literally w no wrinkles
Who cares, you're manifesting aging faster by all the hating you do to people not hurting anybody.
prolly an eating disorder sadly
why did nobody help her with her hair😭mf could’ve let her know half of it was straight
Thank youuuu I was looking for this comment. Her hair was bothering me so much.
i’m rolling 😂😂😂😂😂
Come onnn, she just goes by the saying: If you can't see it, it doesn't exist 😂
DEADASSSSS I brought me back to middle school dances, and refusing to let my mom help me with my hair 😭😭😭
Lowkey loved her hair. It's a look. She rocked it haha
Not really a strong choice to start broaching this controversial subject with the sex life but... maybe that's just me. As someone who supports healthy age gap couples, I would think the emotional connection is what you'd want to lead with.
yeah i feel you, kinda feels like a fetishized take when there's a lot more nuance than that
Agreed.
Sure but at the same time sex is one of, if not the most important thing in relationships.
@@jato2942 Personally I strongly disagree with that, but that's a matter of opinion.
@@ashleyredsheepYOU can disagree, but that makes you the minority
Cheryl taking that boys virginity is so sad. Like age gaps to an extent arent a problem, I don’t have much of a issue but it does feel very predatory with that specific couple,he was young and didn’t know anything else
At age 25 your frontal cortext is fully developed, anything under that age is super iffy since you don’t have the maturity to deal with these issues
@@RadiantRiv they met when he was 16
@@anna4338 really?? that’s wild
Jeff seems like such a sweet guy! The way he immediately comforted Cheryl warms my heart 😊
There is a reason people consider it wierd.
Fr tho especially cherry she groomed that lil boy and made him into her lil slave just like she did back in her day smh 😒
Yea, I would say when it gets to 20 it starts getting a bit odd in my opinion. Most the relationships i have seen in my life has been within 10 years of age. I have seen married couples have problems with age difference of 20 years as well just due to retirement and other factors. Each their own, but it is odd for majority of people
It’s more important in straight relationships where kids could be involved for sure. But yeah generally the wider the gap the weirder. And the gayer the couple the less weird to be honest lol.
@@WubbyPunch lmao you're not wrong tho
@@ashtinpeaks9972it's rare, but it's noone else business except for the people living the relationship. Why do people feel the need to judge others ?
I think it only becomes an issue when you *exclusively* desire people far older/younger than you (like 30 *ONLY* dating 19). If you just so happen to fall in love with an older/younger person then I don't think it's a big deal... as long as you are happy (and power dynamics are equal/ there's no manipulation).
Might not be for the people who know it but people who don't just jump to whatever they feel
To exclude them manipulation to relationships that have large age gap is a little agist. Every type of relationship has manipulation, coercion and downright toxicity. The age, as long as it's legal, is not the difference, it's the level of maturity, attachment, styles, and intentions between both parties. We love to judge people's preferences for some reason. We're obsessed by it. As long as it's legal, it's none of my or your business. I for one prefer people my own age. But I'm not going to be judging somebody who prefers somebody younger as long as it's legal.
@@MindfulAttraction2.0Interesting that you say that after you just commented on a video saying that children consenting to sex with adults is insane. There are no MAJOR changes going on in the brain from 17-19 where a child just clicks and becomes equipped with everything they need to be an adult. Teenagers 13-19 do not have the life experience to be “mature” enough to be in a relationship with a fully grown adult. 9 times of 10 if they do, it’s from traumatic experience that’s making them think it’s okay to date fully grown adults who are attracted to the idea of grooming them. A child who hasn’t had the experience to know when to walk out of a toxic relationship or know when a relationship is toxic is the difference. Legal or not, if you are attracted to the idea of being able to manipulate someone because they are coming from a place of naivety , that is weird.
@@MindfulAttraction2.0Just because it's legal doesn't mean it's moral, people exclusively going after those much younger than them is often predatory and going after people who haven't had the chance to mature fully.
@@MindfulAttraction2.0legal doesn’t equal moral lmao
also “ageism” doesn’t exist when talking ab this subject.
Personally, i think talia and alejandro are the most reasonable couple here, they arent that kinky (at least from what we know), they dont go into their sex life as much as other couples (which i really appreciate) and they have the smallest age gap (its still a big one but its better than 37 year age gaps)
My heart broke when Cheryl talked about her kids not approving of her husband and when she said that she can't visit her grandchildren. To have your kids acting like that towards you and your partner that for once is making you happy and are taking care of you when all the past ones were abusive must be horrible
To choose your kid over a guy and stick with him, if family doesn't approve don't go for him, she could of dated younger, she choose him over seeing them
@@shelbygray2214 she said they were racist towards him and sometimes family don't approve for the wrong reasons. She shouldn't just lay flat and oblige just because her family don't approve if they have a shitty reason for not liking him, she definitely should stay if that's the case
@@shelbygray2214 wtf is wrong with you? her family called him slurs multiple times and are clearly racist. thats the one thing i sympathized with them on.
@@martagustafsson5749you have no idea if that is actually true there is probably a whole lot more to it
Omg everyone just said “let’s over share!”
Like... WAY overshare wtf 😂
The black guy having a slave kink is crazy 💀
Fr
Would you not rather them be honest ?
@@Anny-me9nyyou can be honest without saying we like to shove our arms up each other’s bums and then urinate on each other.
Wow Jubilee. First subject is sex? Given the sensitive subject, you could've gone a different route. And the guy was graphic at that... Just wow!
Was disappointed that this was the direction of this as well
Why is the topic of sex problematic for you?
I think it was a great fun icebreaker :)
Normal people don’t care. Only you religious people and actual children
@@jinhub2175 i don't think they find the topic problematic in general. Just the fact that they started with that may send the wrong message. I personally feel similarly about hypersexualization in LGBT community. If people have a prejudice towards a certain sexuality, I think it's better to showcase the romantic side of it at first to show that it's a whole relationship rather than a fetish. For instance I'm bi and many people jump straight to the topic of threesomes when they find out.
Am I the only one who thinks Tre looks 35?? 22 is crazy!!!!
your not.
This was interesting. When the video started I was like “Whoah, no, this is not okay” because of some of the things they were discussing, but as the video went on my disapproval lessened. I’ll say, it’s still not something that appeals to me personally even though I’ve definitely been attracted to older people, but I gained a little understanding for these couples. I do truly believe these people love each other and that’s really all that matters.
You described what I wanted to say perfectly.
👏 thank you for being open minded and giving their perspectives a chance! Way too many people did not.
My jaw literally dropped When Jon said "Dust"💀
They have an excellent rapport, that's just typical of their humour.
I clown my age gap ex like that too. He always would act like I don’t know dhit because I’m young but I was never that young
I called my older ex when I was with him dinosaur as a joke that was acceptable but dust is a bit too far
@@denisesiddon317 It's up to them to decide what is too much. That's a lame roast in gay circles anyway.
I perished 😭😭😭
Grandpa ….to 17 grandchildren …at 26….. someone help 😭
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
this was so much more wholesome than i thought it would be. of course there are some relationships with large age gaps where it's clearly about money/power imbalance/grooming, but not all of them; this is a clear example of that. i don't think it's fair to immediately judge and be rude to couples like these when all of those horrible reasons to date somebody are also so often found in couples with little to no age gap. love is love and if it's genuine then there should be nothing but support for the couple.
soo true!!
congratulations jubilee you officially created the hardest watch on youtube
I hope Cheryl is ok, something is going on with her we can all see it but I hope I’m wrong.
Meth bb. I’m actually not judging though I used to be addicted to heroin lol
something for sure
She’s tweaking for sure 😂 can’t stop moving
@@stephanie.420she does seem methed up
I honestly think they're both on drugs. She's just into it more
Quran was so defensive about so many of the topics.... from knowing about their relationship; them meeting when he was 16, both of them having SA trauma, and her family issues... I feel like deep down, he feels it is wrong and knows just he fell into a weird relationship when he was so young and broken. He has a big heart and he feels bad for Cheryl and doesn't want to leave her because she'll be alone. That's my analysis.
When did he say he was 16 when they met?
@@OfficialWikipedia the information is public information on social media (specifically TikTok) there are many videos about it. Hope that helps.
I still don't get the whole concept behind their marriage,
Their relationship is the weirdest one among them.
@@OfficialWikipedia They did an interview a few years back. He was 16 and working for her son which is how they met. They became "friends" for 8 years and then started dating.
Wow you made up that “analysis” based on how you perceived him by a few questions? Which btw he didnt seem at all regretful.. Maybe you’re the one that thinks its wrong so you think he does? Weird thought process lady.
I hope Jon and Brian are able to foster or find something that works for them. The tears when talking about kids made me cry
They should be nowhere near children.
“I don’t see her age” Is hilarious🤣🤣
The casual discussion about Daddy and Coach and all these other weird pedophilic fantasies was too much for me. You can’t tell me it’s not borderline predatory to be in such a large age gap when you are openly talking about being interested in those types of things.
So two consenting adults in a relationship is pedophilic?
Very odd and very off
Also the fact that he’s dated other older men too… jon has issues if he’s consciously only going for older men
that's silly everybody has kinks and phantasies. There is nothing weird about that.
It’s giving mega diet pedophilia to me, like they know they can get away with it because it’s legal but they still totally fantasize about it
Not Cheryl showing up only curling the front half of her head 😂
If she keeps talking too much her mouth gon fall down 😭😭😭
@@meryemk3531Gonna be like them cartoons with the jaw all the way down 😭💀
She would have probably forgotten, she's aging 🙂😭💀
Hahaha
I literally can’t stop laughing about this 😭😭😂
Not even a minute in and I wish I could unhear what I just heard
Tbh, Jeff and Tre are my favorite. The emotional intelligence and openness between the two of them is so strong. Even in normal age gap couples, that's hard to find.
In general, definitely should not have started this off with the sex topic. It really does not help with this particular topic. Go through this one in reverse and it would be better and flow waaaay smoother.
There is no way the lady in the thumbnail is only 64.
Edit: She met him when he was 16 and was "friends" with him. 🤢
All hail Queen Cheryl
@@itstheboyajShe gonna end up like Queen Elizabeth 💅🏽
That’s what abuse, raising 7 kids after two failed marriages and terrible life decisions will do.
I thought she was at least 80!
Meth
The last couple, of 16 years difference, is the only one that isn't cringe
It's less "different" one yeah. But hey love is love 🤷🏽♂️
What exactly is cringe about the other couples? I’m genuinely curious because I didn’t perceive them that way.
What's cringe about the other's?
@@GhxstgvrlI'm curious as well.
@@Ghxstgvrl
1. The white and black gay couple started with a student that just got into college and a guy that is equivalent to the age of a father that just sent their kid to college. Don’t know why you’re that age and hooking up with youngsters 🤢
2. This one I don’t see anything wrong, still weird to date someone 40 years older but whatever
3. This relationship started when he was a MINOR and she was “friends” with him
Talia and Alejandro never got the chance to talk in this vid. 😂
i feel like i needed an older Black person on here to hear the reaction to “slave boy” and “massas wife” 😂
Crazy I’m seeing this after watching someone react to Quran and Cheryl. They’re kind of popular on TikTok and they met when Quran was only 16 and Cheryl was like 53 😬😬 I don’t think there’s anything wrong with an age gap but how could you be with someone you knew when they were underage. Kind of icky if you ask me
Yeah no thats definitely grooming ://
@@anothertitan5543 And in this video he has said some things that imply they got together when he was a minor but I’ll leave that alone.
Then u think there's something wrong with the age gap....
CAUSE THERE IS 😂
@@wiseguy240Winston not necessarily because if they met when he’s 30 and she’s 67 like yes that’s a big age difference but he’s be 30 and a grown adult with a fully developed brain you know? So it’s not really the age difference but their actual ages currently if that makes sense? Kind of the same idea of like a senior dating a freshman in high school. It’s only 4 years but the developmental difference is huge but later in life 4 years is nothing
fr, like sum there was def planned 😨
I don't know what's worse, blud's slavery kink or the necromancy
STOOPPP NOT THE NECROMANCY HAHAA
Im ded
That's foul 💀
OMG THIS COMMENT 🤣
You got me lol
am i the only person who thinks this is the healthiest segment of this show???? i understand if you feel a type of way of some of the things the couples touched on and if it made you uncomfortable, but the bottom line is that they always validated eachother and listened and understood each others needs which i didn’t get from the past segments.
Exactly!! There was more genuine love in this episode than any others!
Love Cheryl’s hair, curled in the front straight in the back
the slave kink is WILD 💀
1:14 my jaw was on the floor when Quran started talking about ejaculating all over Cheryl 😲😲
This was surprisingly wholesome to me. I’ve seen and judged these couples before but they are happy and clearly fill a void the other person had in their life. Jeff and Tre are so cute together I love them.
I wish more people saw it this way
SLAVE IS ABSOLUTELY CRAZYYYYY 😭😭😭
I'm sorry but I can't really support someone in their 20s dating someone who 60+. Just feels to wrong to me.
Trust me, they’ll be OK without your support
@@SpringAngel1she met him when he was a minor and waited till he was 18 so….
Do you want to explore why that is?
This was so heartwarming to watch, all these people pushing through barriers to be with the people they love. 🥰
Did we watch the same video???
@@microwave8931seriously lol huh???😂
Omg I’m so emotional for Cheryl! The fact her kids don’t want to be happy for her is crazy. I’m so sorry Cheryl that you and ur husband have to go through that.
You don’t know their side of the story though. This couple even said they trauma bonded and they met when he was 16. The whole situation is just a little weird. Them calling him the n-word is definitely not okay dont get me wrong. But there could be alot more that happened that we don’t know.
@maddy3109 I feel sad for her but I know damn well something is missing from the story. Not my busness though
@@imanithepinkmonsterhe got groomed
Cheryl and Quran's relationship gives me the ick.
same
You're such a hater. It's so sad, too, because they get enough criticism... and for what? Two ADULTS choosing to be together who seemingly have a healthy, beautiful relationship. Yet there's always someone trying to rain on their parade ☹️. GIVE THEM A BREAK!
@@Randomcommenter90 bro definitely likes GILFs
@@Randomcommenter90My biggest problem is that they met when he was 16
@@anna4338 as long as they weren’t together then it doesn’t matter if they’re together now.
“We anchored our love on our mutual abuse” YIKES!that even SOUNDS unhealthy, you shouldn’t wonder if it is, from the moment that thought entered your head to the point it exited your mouth you should have been able to realise how wrong it sounds!
i really don't think so. like they said, when u've gone through something like that in your life, it's much harder to find people who really understand you. they can sympathize, sure, but they can't fully step in your shoes, and they shouldn't have to either. as long as both individuals are in their healing journey, it makes for a healthy relationship. speaking as someone who's gone through abuse as well, i personally don't want my partner to pity me or see me as some broken lamb or to feel like a burden in any regard. being with, even just talking to people who've gone through similar things, it's a very different and significant type of understanding
@@floflo8164exactly, and I'm sure they were able to establish a much deeper connection on other things after bonding over trauma.
You're reaching
We all anchor our love based on mutual things, whether be it hobbies, careers, whatever...just because theirs was their experiences of abuse doesn't mean they can't love or see each other beyond that. It just means it drew them closer to one another, like any other mutual thing people can share and they grew from there. It's really not "Yikes" nor unhealthy. Their relationship isn't based around only those experiences, it doesn't revolve around that...that would be unhealthy.
I think you're confusing trauma bonding with what they explained. It's not the same thing. This shared past experience allows them deeper empathy between one another; it is a positive them.
quaran and cheryl get so much hate on social media but it’s obvious they have so much love for each other. it’s really sweet honestly i love them together
I agree. Cheryl seems so happy.
They get hate because she groomed him from the age of 16
She groomed him at 16 nothing is sweet about that
@@KaiiiYuh girl i didn’t know that
Stop. 😑
This is unironically one of the healthiest relationship videos lmaooo
Public sex is degenerate. Don't involve strangers into your sex life... absolute sickos.
@@BuzziePitch 4:25
@@BuzziePitch He legit says they do it in parks but go off ig
@@ahhhhh5849 welp i missed that for sure and now side with you
I've done it where it was dark in the middle of the night and no one was around. I wasn't involving others (besides my partner) but we were still in public
Parks?! I freak hope dude means like forests and trails not swings and slides parks...
Please talk about the emotional connections more than sex. Plus in queer culture age gaps are extremely common and we feel more comfortable talking about sex because we have to explore it more. This episode would come off shocking cause the way you guys entered into the conversation. Its taboo! Dont make it more so by aaking weird questions! Interview age gap couples and ask what questions they feel are most relevant to their relationships.
It's gross. Across all sexualities, it's predatory. Unless if they're like 30 and 40
That would have been better than fisting and pissing. I don’t care what consenting adults do in the privacy of their own homes. I just don’t care to hear about it.
They did. It looks like they asked the "shocking" questions first because they want to get it out of the way before going into the more emotional/deeper stuff.
It’s extremely common cause ped0s/older men think it’s okay to groom younger gay men and having night stands with them because “oh I was in the closet for decades…” 🙄
Did you finish the video ?
When he said he wanna be a slave 🤦♂️
Beautiful. Thank you for sharing and being so vulnerable 🫶
A couple in my grandma’s retirement community have a 25 age gap. The husband is 105 and the wife is 80 they are the cutest couple ever.
At those aged, it doesn't matter anymore 😭
🤣
With age the gap seems to lessen for sure!
@@SQUELCH-zj7ilyeah but the point is they were 25 and 50 at some point
Omg you go granps 😂
biggest surprise was cheryl being 64
*63
Fr, she has to be at least 80
I think shes lying my mom is her age and doesnt look like that
@@Antisocialpessimist My mom is 73 and looks 10 years younger than this woman!
She struggled with meth when she was younger, so that's why
at the start of watching this i didn’t know how far i would watch because it is a little weird but the more i watch the more sympathy i have especially the wanting family part and not being able to because of age and cheryl’s kids not approving we shouldn’t judge at first sight we should try to understand people first this video was great and more eye opening they’re happy and that’s all that matters
horrible run on sentence
@@file.zip. did i ask? no it has nothing to do with the topic go watch some writing video instead
Jeff and Tre, I wish you a long and happy life! ❤ you two were made for each other
Idc ab the age gap it's just that Sheryl met quaren when he was 16..
HOW’D THEY GET CHERYL ON HERE ☠️
With a carrot on a stick, but with crack instead of a carrot.
@user-oo2op4pg3 lmao😭
Fr lmao
If people stopped watching at the beginning I consider you again.
There's some very powerful and deep conversations.
I commend everyone for being so open and candid. Your openness, humility and transparency is eye opening and may be hard for some to swallow or wrap their heads around, but I know I have learned more about humanity from this, I can empathize with some subjects as well.
I always thought my bf and I had it tough being an interracial relationship with a child, I wasn't accepted in his family and we cant go to some family because we would likely deal with some horrific situations if we came out alive.
Though seeing what they have gone through in gay couples and in age gap couples and seeing the interracial experiences as well it has been eye opening.
Wishing all of them the best!
you should do a split decision with roommates!!!
Age is NOT just a number.
Honestly this mindset really needs to change cause wtf
Facts
At a point it is lol. I’m 18 and my way of thinking is higher than those in my age bracket. My partner is 30. It wouldn’t have worked if I hadn’t shared similar experiences and thinking with him. At least in our case it’s just a number
@@Mmesomachii"my way of thinking is higher than my age bracket" is delusional and narcissistic.
I don't want to know when the two of you met by there are a few agencies that might.
@@MmesomachiiStill time to delete before y’all get investigated
Quran and Cheryl “anchoring their love” and “bonding” over abuse and trauma makes too much sense… that’s not very healthy. Also did Cheryl only curl her hair in the front??
Yes, that shows that's she's whacked.
CREASING AT THE HAIR
It’s called ‘trauma bond’
Judging people on youtube like they're on trial in the town square prob isn't healthy either.
I’ve been searching for this comment I, I thought I was the only one😂
I think Jeff and Brian were connecting more with each other than their actual partners.
"You can't hurt me if I don't read it" I love that.
These are all adults but as a mother the age gap is so hard to understand.
At first I was confused because I thought Talia and Alejandro looked like they could be around the same age. She looks her age (27) and he looks like he could be around 35 😅
Quran said she was his first girlfriend and it was his first time and then he said he was abused in a relationship and SA as well, something doesn’t add up…
That’s what I was thinking
SA doesn’t count as losing virginity. Not agreeing with everything to do with their relationship and can’t stand purity culture but virginity is something “given” not “taken”.
I've definitely like someone who was (10 years) older, not because I was trying to prove anything, but because we saw beauty and love in each other. the problem is when u say "I will only date someone of this age". I can see the love in these couples tbh
Did I miss an explanation for how they met in his DORM ROOM?
Dorm is college generally. Which is generally above 18.
He was swiping on them aaaapps
@@DeathShiniGamaare you saying it's OK for middle-aged adults to pursue young college students?
Yes, we know that dorms are on campuses, thanks for the education.
@@user-zt8sm2uc5z the college students are also adults mate...
@@chantjelly6773He was about 17 at the time that’s creep behavior no way around it
I don't care about age gaps that much as long as both are functional and consenting adults but grooming can and many times is a thing with these relationships and that's when it's unacceptable.
Yea cheryl and quran are the only ones I'm concerned about. They didn't say it in the vid, but they met when he was 16 and working for her son. They didn't date till 20 (I think) but it was still weird imo.
She forgot to curl the rest of her hair 😭
This makes me miss the love of my life who was 42 years older than me and died in 2020. It takes a special type of person to be in an age gap relationship. The confidence, comfortably, and fun energy between these partners is a special kind of connection. There’s no judgement. You embrace your differences. It’s pure love, and every moment is precious. Everything was a fun adventure to us. We were always laughing and could joke with each other without ever taking anything personally. I’ve never felt as free with anyone as I did with him, and it’s such an amazing learning experience to be with someone from a different era. There’s so much mutual respect, and the ability to not care about what anyone else thinks is so powerful. No relationship in my life has ever compared.
I know for sure that I would be one of those people who’d judge them immediately as a first impression. However, the more I’m watching and listening, the more I’m sympathizing…
no fr i already knew queen cheryl from tiktok and i was quite judgemental toward them but i geniunely cried a lil watching this and i feel so bad for them now
@@i3qyishe groomed him lmfao don’t feel bad for her. her son was his boss and she started talking to him when he was 16
Really to me it got more disturbing the longer I watched
I can also see why 😂@@thesibsfsurkfb
@@sleepycomfortfr the couples are way too weird, i barely feel bad
Damn the first few minutes where really descriptive…
I know, kinda caught me off guard ffs 🤦
lol 😂
The slavery kink was wild😭😭
idk if I can handle this one
They had to start with sex because that was the elephant in the room. Get it out of the way and focus on the other things better. I respect and love watching their love for eachother ooze out of the screen.
Yes! Thank you for saying this 👏
Clearly I've never really been in love like these couple are 😭😭
❤
Usually I hate ads but I needed a break from this in the lelo thing
33:48 dude Brian really wanted it, he just can't hold his tears back 😢
Jubilee is crazy for this y'all 😂✋