@@EssyKnopf I got diagnosed with autism(Aspergers) at 10 in 2001 but i realised that by 14 or 15 that i might be gay because i had my lunch with my best friend Kevin in the changing room and (after we had finished our lunch) and there was only me and him in there during the lunch hour. Kevin(my best friend) got his big cock out (he was my best friend and i was his)
It's depressing and very lonely. At 31 years old, I'm still a virgin, because I have not met anyone with whom I feel comfortable having sex or a romantic relationship, despite how hard I have tried. And no one has liked me either. I often wonder if it will be like this for the rest of my life.
Same here...I stopped being virgin at the age of 29, because I forced myself to have sex with a men caught on Grindr who turned out to be an utter narcissist dickhead. I still haven't found a partner with whom having a romantic relationship and now that I'm 34 I think I never will. And you know what? ... it's ok after all.
😢 I know what you mean... I am going through some things now, too... I want a better work environment - so I am applying elsewhere; and I would like to have more friends - and maybe meet somebody (but I don't want overload - worth so much going on at the same time.)
I am gay and autistic too. I'm 36 and only got diagnosed with autism and adhd 3 months ago. I only realised I was gay when I was 25. It's all been a big struggle. I'm happy with who I am and I would never change but I would have preferred to realise about my sexual orientation and my neuro divergence earlier in life.
Congratulations! If it's any consolation, I got my ADHD diagnosis at 35. Delayed diagnosis causes a ton of unnecessary hardship. How much easier would our paths have been had we known decades earlier!
@@EssyKnopfI'm a 32 year old gay man and autistic. I realized i was gay at 14 or 15 years old but i only came out on a friend's post Facebook in May 2023. I got diagnosed with Aspergers in 2001 at 10 years old
I am a gay man and only over the past few days now at the age of 57 have been listening to youtube clips as to what defines autism and I pretty much tick every box. It's something I never thought about before or considered, or indeed knew anything much about. I've always known there was something very different about me be had no idea or definition as to what that could be.
I'm watching your this is the very first time I've heard anybody express how not being part of the straight world but not being part of the gay not understanding how to interact it is to not feel like you are part of any group
Hi, thanks. Yes I do identify as autistic and lgbtqia+. as for vocabulary, for me the realization to be autistic came first. I was looking to find a description of my experience in this world for quite a long time. after coming to terms with being autistic which took a while, it opened up the knowledge to be aromantic and asexual. I had heard of asexual before, but I was under the impression that it did not include a spectrum, but once I found out that aromanticism and asexuality are a spectrum it opened vocabulary for my lifes experience. I had always been very different in both aspects and have a lot of internalized hate. I do identify stronger with aromanticism. One of the ways I have a harder time relating to sexual and romantic people, wether or not lgbtqia+ or not is, that I can not relate so well since my identity is less defined by sexuality and romantic norms, but I try to be as understanding as possible and I hope other people learn more about the A's in the acronym. Sadly there is hardly any media representation of us. Which brings me to the point that in both cases of outing as autistic and aro ace spec you are always also the educator and if you are unlucky you start at zero. There are many misconceptions to both identities / experiences. Which brings me to the point that I think I benefited from my bad autistic outing experiences when I chose to selectively share my aroace identity, but I still wasn't prepared for the invalidation. It makes me happy that the young folks today have much more precise vocabulary, so they don't have to suffer through so much lonely identity struggles, but it is still a way to go to find actual media representation or seeing QPRs in media as something normal. Thank you for your video, I did find it informative, I agree on the intersection experience.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's incredible to hear how your journey with autism helped lead to self-discovery in your aro-ace identity, even though it hasn't been without challenges. The lack of understanding and representation in the media makes it tough for people like us who have to constantly educate others about our identities. And yeah, it's heartening to see that younger generations are more aware of these spectrums, even if society still has a way to go. Hopefully, as awareness grows, we'll see better representation that reflects the diversity of our experiences.
@@EssyKnopf just celebrated Pride last weekend. Your video helped me a lot to feel included and not feel like an imposter. I'm ready glad I found your video!
Do you identify as autistic and LGTBQI+?
What are some of the challenges you've faced due to these identities? Drop a comment and let me know!
My autistic bf dumped me today.
@@keliskhalisadar5944 Sorry to hear that!
Aspie, ADHD, gay, cis-man and non-binary at the same time.
I have a have a friend who is autistic with lgtbq that talks a lot How can i Respond In calm way ?
I'm autistic. And I thought I would be the only one gay and autistic .
You're in good company, friend! We're a minority within a minority, but we definitely exist 🤗
@@EssyKnopfI'm gay and my bf who is autistic. He dumped me today. I tried everything. For him.
@@keliskhalisadar5944 Sorry to hear that!
@@EssyKnopf I got diagnosed with autism(Aspergers) at 10 in 2001 but i realised that by 14 or 15 that i might be gay because i had my lunch with my best friend Kevin in the changing room and (after we had finished our lunch) and there was only me and him in there during the lunch hour. Kevin(my best friend) got his big cock out (he was my best friend and i was his)
1 in 10 mens are gay and 1 in 67 are autistic. So there are many gays who are autistic.
It's depressing and very lonely. At 31 years old, I'm still a virgin, because I have not met anyone with whom I feel comfortable having sex or a romantic relationship, despite how hard I have tried. And no one has liked me either. I often wonder if it will be like this for the rest of my life.
Same here...I stopped being virgin at the age of 29, because I forced myself to have sex with a men caught on Grindr who turned out to be an utter narcissist dickhead.
I still haven't found a partner with whom having a romantic relationship and now that I'm 34 I think I never will.
And you know what? ... it's ok after all.
😢
I know what you mean... I am going through some things now, too...
I want a better work environment - so I am applying elsewhere; and I would like to have more friends - and maybe meet somebody (but I don't want overload - worth so much going on at the same time.)
I'm not gay but I'm autistic and ur such a cool dude. I love rainbows 2 and it has nothing to do with being gay.
Totally get it. I was into rainbows before I even identified as LGBTQ+.
Yes, rainbows 🌈 are amazing!!!!
I am gay and autistic too. I'm 36 and only got diagnosed with autism and adhd 3 months ago. I only realised I was gay when I was 25. It's all been a big struggle. I'm happy with who I am and I would never change but I would have preferred to realise about my sexual orientation and my neuro divergence earlier in life.
Congratulations! If it's any consolation, I got my ADHD diagnosis at 35. Delayed diagnosis causes a ton of unnecessary hardship. How much easier would our paths have been had we known decades earlier!
@@EssyKnopfI'm a 32 year old gay man and autistic. I realized i was gay at 14 or 15 years old but i only came out on a friend's post Facebook in May 2023. I got diagnosed with Aspergers in 2001 at 10 years old
I’m Autistic and Gay suffering Depression thru out my entire life
I am a gay man and only over the past few days now at the age of 57 have been listening to youtube clips as to what defines autism and I pretty much tick every box. It's something I never thought about before or considered, or indeed knew anything much about. I've always known there was something very different about me be had no idea or definition as to what that could be.
Congratulations on the discovery!
We are double rainbows! 🌈 🌈
Haha I love this!
@@EssyKnopfsame 😂
I'm watching your this is the very first time I've heard anybody express how not being part of the straight world but not being part of the gay not understanding how to interact it is to not feel like you are part of any group
The gay community can be a very shallow group looking down on people that don't fit into the bar scene or the social seen
I am autistic and gay. I totally understand and get you. I feel this way 100%
Hi, thanks. Yes I do identify as autistic and lgbtqia+. as for vocabulary, for me the realization to be autistic came first. I was looking to find a description of my experience in this world for quite a long time. after coming to terms with being autistic which took a while, it opened up the knowledge to be aromantic and asexual. I had heard of asexual before, but I was under the impression that it did not include a spectrum, but once I found out that aromanticism and asexuality are a spectrum it opened vocabulary for my lifes experience. I had always been very different in both aspects and have a lot of internalized hate. I do identify stronger with aromanticism. One of the ways I have a harder time relating to sexual and romantic people, wether or not lgbtqia+ or not is, that I can not relate so well since my identity is less defined by sexuality and romantic norms, but I try to be as understanding as possible and I hope other people learn more about the A's in the acronym. Sadly there is hardly any media representation of us. Which brings me to the point that in both cases of outing as autistic and aro ace spec you are always also the educator and if you are unlucky you start at zero. There are many misconceptions to both identities / experiences. Which brings me to the point that I think I benefited from my bad autistic outing experiences when I chose to selectively share my aroace identity, but I still wasn't prepared for the invalidation. It makes me happy that the young folks today have much more precise vocabulary, so they don't have to suffer through so much lonely identity struggles, but it is still a way to go to find actual media representation or seeing QPRs in media as something normal.
Thank you for your video, I did find it informative, I agree on the intersection experience.
Thank you for sharing your experience. It's incredible to hear how your journey with autism helped lead to self-discovery in your aro-ace identity, even though it hasn't been without challenges. The lack of understanding and representation in the media makes it tough for people like us who have to constantly educate others about our identities.
And yeah, it's heartening to see that younger generations are more aware of these spectrums, even if society still has a way to go. Hopefully, as awareness grows, we'll see better representation that reflects the diversity of our experiences.
I'm gay and autistic hooray!
Welcome! Glad to meet you!
It's like playing in nightmare mode
😂
I am Gay, Autistic, ADHD, OCD, OCPD, hormonal imbalance! Love.
Hi! Thanks for this video ! I felt seen! ❤
Glad to hear it!
@@EssyKnopf just celebrated Pride last weekend. Your video helped me a lot to feel included and not feel like an imposter. I'm ready glad I found your video!
@@mccncpcn8040 Happy Pride!
I'm Autistic and LGBTQIA 🏳️🌈
It's very hard . 💁🏽♂️
I related ONE HUNDRED PERCENT and I would like to speak to you because I run an LGBTQI+ Neurodiverse support group in London UK
Thanks for reaching out!
I've just done the questionnaire
Thank you!
I'm autistic and I used to falsely be called gay so indirectly I can relate to you.
Oh wow. When I was growing up in Australia, "gay" was used as a general slur for being different. Sorry that happened to you.
I’m artistic & gay
Artistic or autistic or both?