This story is pretty much identical to mine - my husband was also a policeman and I live in Australia. The damage he has done to my children and I is horrendous, lifelong, evil and insidious. The abusers are regularly so similar in so many ways - it’s incredible! I was diagnosed with CPTSD and am trying to rebuild but sometimes it feels as though I will never recover. Unless you have lived through abuse you will never know how truely brutal and horrendous it is - it takes everything away from you until you are a hollow shell. To an extent, physical abuse is much easier to survive than psychological abuse. I never thought it could happen to me and I used to think “why don’t victims just leave” until it happened to me! It took me many years to even talk about what he did to me the damage was so brutal. I’m glad people are being more educated about abusive relationships however there is still a very long way to go 🙏🌈🦋😘
Well done to Nicola for overcoming all of the massive challenges she’s faced. Don Hennessy, a relationship counsellor from Cork has written several brilliant books on this subject. How He Gets Into Her Head: The Mind Of The Male Intimate Abuser, is a must read. Don details exactly how these men operate to gain control over their partner.
Police are known to have high levels of violence against female partners. They then protect each other, share new addresses, etc. At least in Australia.
From the first time I seen your video which absolutely horrified me, must admit I watched it more than once, I just could not get my head around how cruel and such a nasty individual,but worse he was a law enforcement officer, he truly was like a character out of a movie your worst nightmare, but you, despite fighting cancer and taking on, your tormentor , against all the odds you came out of a nightmare triumphant, how cool are you, and inspiration to all those caught up in a situation that seems lost, their is hope and justice,you are triumphant actually you are the goat.🐐
Does she not feel nervous that when he comes out he will see all these interviews and want revenge? I applaud her brave honesty but it’s surprising to me the confidence to go on television if this person is coming out in only three years.
You can always spot the subtle signs of someone that was bullied before and who has low selt asteem. The problem is that there is always going be preditors out there waiting to swoop in on women like this. I hope she has learned how to protect herself going forward.
I can identify with everything she is saying, the ex is fortunate that I am in another country because if we had been in the UK I would have taken him to court for the same behaviour. I know he will repeat this behaviour again and leave a lot of broken and damaged people behind when he moves on to his next victim.
I totally get what she sets re courts protection orders and the system I’ve been through it.. she is an amazing woman health and happiness to her and Cal
@@johndoherty4976 Have you not seen the mostly Irish Peacefull Protests 🇮🇪 all around this Country? As the Garda Síochána is nothing But Violent Anti'Irish Traitorous Tyrannical Abusers Now! As That think they are Above the Laws now! ) Which they do get away with it in this Upside down backwards Government Currupted Justice Judicial system now!
Important to give space to HEAR from a Woman Who Suffered Being Kept Down - Being Kept Silent - And Finally Getting Free From an Abusive Controlling Man. Fearing Your Partner Is One Of the WORST Ways To Live - - It's Horrible To Think You are With a Normal Person and They Turn Out To Be a Selfish Mean Controlling Authority in Your Personal Life. Happy to See Her Doing So Well - - Believe Victims.
Bait and Switch...its like they've gone to the same school to learn the same techniques....its subtle but not at the same time..questioning yourself constanfly...so many somen will id with this..
Appreciate this lady coming on, though very hard to follow her story. Glad the presenters were there to keep her somewhat on track. With her public platform, would be great if she got some help with telling her story, as I’m sure it’s compelling and impactful but loosing its message somewhat in the delivery.
One brave lady,.fair play to her,for comming out of and dealing with a evil Narcissist.
Well done to tell your story and escape the abuse
Domestic abuse is a criminal offence and any serving police officer who is carrying-out domestic abuse should be sacked.
This man sounds actually mad. He cannot change. Stay safe dear lady.
What a beautifull girl he's an evil bully so very sad what she has been through with him.
She’s very brave to have fought through so much and to come out the other side. I wish her a happy and peaceful life.
Wow!! You are amazing 👏 and an inspiration, for other women and men ❤️
I remember this tragic story, what a ba$ard! Such an exquisite, beautiful soul inside and out.
It’s a awful pity this lady didn’t have any brothers, uncles, friends in her life to help her confront her abuser.
This story is pretty much identical to mine - my husband was also a policeman and I live in Australia. The damage he has done to my children and I is horrendous, lifelong, evil and insidious. The abusers are regularly so similar in so many ways - it’s incredible! I was diagnosed with CPTSD and am trying to rebuild but sometimes it feels as though I will never recover. Unless you have lived through abuse you will never know how truely brutal and horrendous it is - it takes everything away from you until you are a hollow shell. To an extent, physical abuse is much easier to survive than psychological abuse. I never thought it could happen to me and I used to think “why don’t victims just leave” until it happened to me! It took me many years to even talk about what he did to me the damage was so brutal. I’m glad people are being more educated about abusive relationships however there is still a very long way to go 🙏🌈🦋😘
Absolutely horrible. 🙏
Well done to Nicola for overcoming all of the massive challenges she’s faced. Don Hennessy, a relationship counsellor from Cork has written several brilliant books on this subject. How He Gets Into Her Head: The Mind Of The Male Intimate Abuser, is a must read. Don details exactly how these men operate to gain control over their partner.
Not that they're all bad. But I've worked in a womens refuge in the past and you'd be surprised how many wives of gardai call in.
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It's the abuse of the power.
@@geraldineangelamurray3001Hense why Most of these men & some women too" join the Garda Síochána in the first place....
@plj2084 it's true. Your spot on. And its not only Men like you said. Ladies are just as bad when it comes to abuse in general
Police are known to have high levels of violence against female partners. They then protect each other, share new addresses, etc. At least in Australia.
From the first time I seen your video which absolutely horrified me, must admit I watched it more than once, I just could not get my head around how cruel and such a nasty individual,but worse he was a law enforcement officer, he truly was like a character out of a movie your worst nightmare, but you, despite fighting cancer and taking on, your tormentor , against all the odds you came out of a nightmare triumphant, how cool are you, and inspiration to all those caught up in a situation that seems lost, their is hope and justice,you are triumphant actually you are the goat.🐐
Very brave women sending lots of blessings her way from the uk 🇬🇧
You are very inspiring! Thank you so much for sharing your hard won battles so openly. It means a lot to many
Does she not feel nervous that when he comes out he will see all these interviews and want revenge? I applaud her brave honesty but it’s surprising to me the confidence to go on television if this person is coming out in only three years.
I was thinking the same. And does he and will he have contact with the son. No doubt he”l abuse that
He's inside now
He's a bully. A spineless bully who used his badge to try and bully her. He will skulk off and hide and try and find a new victim
@@SiobhanKiely-bq4nq I think that given his history of the behaviour he’s shown, it’s likely that she’ll be granted sole custody. Hopefully anyway!
You can always spot the subtle signs of someone that was bullied before and who has low selt asteem. The problem is that there is always going be preditors out there waiting to swoop in on women like this. I hope she has learned how to protect herself going forward.
I can identify with everything she is saying, the ex is fortunate that I am in another country because if we had been in the UK I would have taken him to court for the same behaviour. I know he will repeat this behaviour again and leave a lot of broken and damaged people behind when he moves on to his next victim.
That was not a relationship that was a sentence
I totally get what she sets re courts protection orders and the system I’ve been through it.. she is an amazing woman health and happiness to her and Cal
I can’t believe this what a strong strong woman I hope your future will be brighter you deserve it top girl and so so beautiful 👍🏿
I've watched this interview twice and still find it difficult to make sense of it..
I agree, they keep intervening and skipping all over, wish they just let her tell her story
@@LeeJahn-ih9xuyou could buy her book and get the whole story. Its very difficult to describe this kind of "relationship" in such a short time
The woman interviewing is excellent the man is a disaster that poor woman how did she survive her abuser ? She's extraordinary
Im worried about her when he gets released
Who could hurt this beautiful beautiful woman just don’t understand it don’t unbelievable
Already have seen this interview on ; the late late show. Very honest.
I hope he got booted out of An Garda Siochana a pure bully is all he is.
@@johndoherty4976 I'm sure he's making nice new friends up in the joy. Loosing his job is the least of his problems now john..
@@johndoherty4976probably joined the POU he,d blend in with them no problem.
@@johndoherty4976 Have you not seen the mostly Irish Peacefull Protests 🇮🇪 all around this Country? As the Garda Síochána is nothing But Violent Anti'Irish Traitorous Tyrannical Abusers Now! As That think they are Above the Laws now! ) Which they do get away with it in this Upside down backwards Government Currupted Justice Judicial system now!
There were a lot of red flags
I have had the pleasure of meeting this wonderful woman and so admire her she is a true survivor
Important to give space to HEAR from a Woman Who Suffered Being Kept Down - Being Kept Silent - And Finally Getting Free From an Abusive Controlling Man. Fearing Your Partner Is One Of the WORST Ways To Live - - It's Horrible To Think You are With a Normal Person and They Turn Out To Be a Selfish Mean Controlling Authority in Your Personal Life. Happy to See Her Doing So Well - - Believe Victims.
He is sick never let him out electric hair
Ty Nicola
Ignore red flags at your peril.
I get you mean well by this but it sounds like you're victim shaming. You can't always predict who will turn into a monster.
😂😂😂 Raise better men. Hold your brother, sons, uncle and father to account
Miracles do happen for the right people 💕
Well done telling your story he's a bullie
Well done Nicola :)
He better be banned from his profession for the rest of his life?!
Bait and Switch...its like they've gone to the same school to learn the same techniques....its subtle but not at the same time..questioning yourself constanfly...so many somen will id with this..
Coercive control
Appreciate this lady coming on, though very hard to follow her story. Glad the presenters were there to keep her somewhat on track. With her public platform, would be great if she got some help with telling her story, as I’m sure it’s compelling and impactful but loosing its message somewhat in the delivery.
She has just released a book
Usual suspect then!!
What a gorgeous gorgeous girl why didn’t I see her first sorry I’m rambling again ❤️
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Abusers always seem to pick the loveliest people to abuse.
Well done beautiful