I was expecting a “dear Sarah. I’m so sorry for how I treated you in school...” BUT NO. Instead she waffled on about herself expected Sarah to care. THE CHEEK OF THIS WOMAN 😂
I've got an aunt I barely hear from. Every now and then, she rings up and after the formal greetings, she asks me "how are you?" and then for an hour or more talks non-stop about herself.
In my experience, the girl who bullied everyone at my school - when we grew up - as an adult she didn't even realize she was a bully as a kid. I don't understand it - but they never seem to know they're bullies 🙄
@@shellylemons That's is EXACTLY what the bully was doing. EXACTLY. All she said is, "Hey, Sarah. Look at how great my life has been while you've been humiliating yourself to make a living."
@@teletubbiestunetwister9570 So so true. And also, she even tried to bully her further in the letter by commenting how her (Lynn) had had an increasing waistline as time had gone on, meanwhile she (Lynn) stated that Sarah Millican looked the same as when they went to school. Even though Sarah looks stunning now, no one does or wants to look like a middle aged woman while in school. So I feel like that, in the letter, was a backhanded compliment. (Btw english is not my first language.)
A school bully came up to me in a restaurant, many years after school. He just apologised for the way he had behaved, something he wanted to get off his chest. Sometimes people do grow up.
I got bullied in school and thus was a bully to my friends of all people when I was in middle school. It's something that I still deeply regret - I've made up with everyone I hurt and have completely changed how i treat people and deal with the sort of crap i was taking out on people. A lot of times, change only comes from necessity. People can change but you never have to forgive anyone for what they do to you.
@@cofkavos I know exactly how you feel, I was bullied horribly so got quite mean and closed off and hurt a lot of people close to me because I expected them to hurt me, in school I’d rather be feared than liked because to me that was more powerful than being myself, but I had a few friends I was fiercely loyal to. In the end (sixth form) when I needed them when my boyfriend broke up with me for someone else they chose his side (he was incredibly abusive towards me) and I saw their true colours, a few months of being friendless one of my bullies stole my phone and found the abusive messages my ex boyfriend had sent to me, the next day that bully sat with me at lunch and told me about their abusive dad, and how they were scared to go home so we ditched school and talked for hours, it was the most human I’d felt in years, I let my guard down and I had no idea that the person who tormented me for 8 years would be the person who understood me most they stopped me from doing some horrific things and helped me through bulimia, something I still suffer with now (6/7 years later) sadly I don’t keep in touch with them but I really hope they made something of themselves.
Just wanted to say one of my secondary school bullies Approached me through Facebook and apologised for how he had treated me 34 years ago. Which I accepted gracefully In amazement to be honest x
In the US, she would have received the same email from the same person but it would end with an offer to join her amazing business selling essential oils...
We get that in the UK too, usually for trash makeup products they're selling on Facebook. It's so weird because the messages are always weirdly happy and stilted.
BWAAAHAHAHAHA! Absolutly true here man.... I Laughed so hard at this- every singe Gotdang one of em! Or fukin leggings or some MLM scheme! Complete idiots then and now
Brilliant reply! One of my bullies tried the old "Gee, it's great to see you!" when I ran into her on the street 5-6 years after high school. Without even thinking my response was "After how you treated me when we were in school, the first thing you need to say to me is an apology." I waited, looking at her stunned face. After an uncomfortable silence, I concluded with "That's what I thought." and walked away. Deeply healing.
I was blackmailed for being gay in secondary school. One day out of the blue, the guy who used to blackmail me emailed me asking for a job at my company. I have to admit i felt a little bit of glee over hearing he had spent some time in prison for various petty crimes, then told him I didn't think he'd be a good fit as my company preferred to hire candidates without a history of blackmailing the owner.
@@sierraromeoromeo2444 Nah, a bully doesn’t even deserve a minimum wage job. Give that position to someone more deserving. Even minimum wage jobs can be hard to obtain.
@@xTwilightWolvesx most everyone deserves a second chance. You have absolutely no idea what this guys bully had to endure throughout life. While that absolutely doesn’t excuse any of the horrible things he done to the OP like I said almost everyone deserves a second chance in life and they certainly don’t deserve completely strangers who know nothing about the whole situation taking pleasure and glee out of someone being at rock bottom. I was bullied as a kid, gave up my love of play the cello from a very young age and my dream of hoping to play in a symphony orchestra because of bullying and ridicule because the cello in the case was bigger than me when I carried it even at age 14. My autistic son has also been bullied horrifically and had a group of boys beat him up and an older woman run out of the shop to scare the boys off and get my son to safety before walking him home. But that doesn’t mean I would ever wish any of the worst things I have experienced in life on any of my bullies or ‘enemies’ as the saying goes. I would never wish for any of them to have to sit by their sick child in hospital after they stopped breathing like I had to and the many other awful things that can break someone. You don’t have to be compassionate or even forgive them but being a petty bully in return is just as pointless and if not worse as you are doing it as an adult
Nine times out of 10, the bully doesn't recall that they bullied anyone and they thought nothing of their horrible behavior. They perceived it as just normal kid stuff. Meanwhile, the person who was bullied remembers it forever and is deeply hurt... It's sad.
"Hello, Lynn. To be honest I probably won't reply any more fully than this, as I don't remember you very favorably." So concise, so effective. Absolutely in love with that response.
If you were never bullied at school, you possibly wouldn't get the true magnitude of Sarah's email. Thank you from someone who was bullied from the age of 4, right through to secondary school.
@@moonxshakti I'm happily in my 50s and no sign of bullies or being bullied... though I can spot them a mile away when I run my artist workshops in schools! Aren't schools a hideous breeding ground for them... the whole of society, cheek by jowl... the best and worst of our world!
Two of my bullies are dead and another has spent most of his life in jail. They grew up in houses with dysfunctional alcoholic parent(s), in constant poverty. It sure sucked for me at the time, but with four decades of hindsight, I'm not as angry with them. It's adult bullies I have zero tolerance for.
My favourite bully comeuppance moment was returning on break from the prestigious art school I'd worked my ass off to be accepted into, to the rural helltown I'd grown up in,(where being a smart, autistic, gay girl was social death), all sleek and shabby-chic, and being served at Wendy's by one of my high-school bullies. This girl had slammed my head into lockers weekly, so mercy was not on the menu. We were 19, she was massively pregnant, covered in fast food grease, and she had to be nice to me or lose her job, while I chatted happily about how wonderful my life in the big city was, and how I was at the top of my classes at this terrific school. It was petty and mean, but it also felt fantastic. I regret nothing.
My former bully has now taken to facebook posts about how awful bullying is (she now has an 8 year old who is being bullied). I pointed out how much she hurt me and the most I got was "sorry you saw that as bullying". Jerks never change so good on you Sarah! Edit: Wow thanks guys for all the lovely messages! When she first posted I genuinely felt bad for her child and I assumed she was reflecting on her own past behaviour- I won't go into details but she was particularly vile- but she doesn't equate the two. She blocked me from messaging her but I think that was out of fear of me posting on her main feed and letting people know (she has to keep up appearances). Here's the difference between us, I would never try and hurt her. Just not in me. I hope she's a good mother and I wish her kid the best. I think karma did come about as I got to go to university and travelled and she never left the town where we grew up
She doesn’t want to take responsibility for something that is now hurting her child. Which is just so immature. You could state this really, if you wanted
Please please please reply to her, "well I'm sorry your 8 year old is seeing what is happening to her as bullying. The only saving grace is that you aren't the one terrorizing her like you did to me".
@@emmavink I mean, she may very well be bullying her child too, but without seeing it that way. It's not particularly rare for parents to bully their children and seeing as she has a history with that kind of behaviour... 💁
Wow even then she tries to place blame on you! Forgive me, I had to laugh. "YOU saw that as bullying" rather than "I'm so sorry I made you feel that way". Whilst I feel sorry for the bairn being bullied, that is sweet Karma serving a tall glass of What Goes Around Comes TF Back Around!
I think the way she answered to her bully was perfect: concise, straight to the point and letting the other person know she wasn't putting up with bullshit but without being rude. Totally great comeback to someone who was trying to show off.
I love this. It made me think, “Why am I still Facebook friends with that girl who was never really very nice to me?” And then I unfriended her. Easy peasy!
You can always smell the bullies because they comment on how many “friends” you have on social media. Like I friend the people on Facebook I actually talk to you friend people you’ve met once.
@@jc_80 right! I had a frenemy who literally blocked me first, but when I unfollowed her on Instagram and Twitter, she texted to ask why I was distancing myself from her.
I had a friend who never acted like a friend but I got in contact figuring I would be nice and tell her I was praying for her son (who was very sick). She contacted me and we messaged back and forth a bunch of times before I realized she never changed at all. She was the same person who always had to one up me, the same person who abandoned me because she had other friends she liked better. I prayed for her son and left it at that. Left facebook for good, and stopped talking to her.
Lynn's mail gave me such a weird vibe As if she eagerly wanted Sarah to know that she's living a "perfect life" etc. I think Lynn might have lied about her happines to sarah and to herself
In highschool there was a girl in my class who was constantly bullied and made fun of, I was a shy kid myself so I wasn't as confident as I would have liked to be in certain situations, but I always made sure to stand along side her or start talking to her so she didn't have to focus on them, I invited her over and during my last year of high school when I WAS becoming more confident I would stand up for her if people were bad mouthing her around me. When I got home the last day of HS I read what she had written in my year book " dear Keira, these past five years have been painful mostly, but you made going to school a lot more bearable, thankyou for being a true friend " it brought tears to my eyes. We are both nearing forty now, and a couple of years ago I saw her at the supermarket, with a man and two kids, she and the man were having a conversation and she was laughing, she looked busy so I just smiled at her and continued on, I don't know if she recognized me but I do know she looked very happy and I did a little cheer inside for her
One of my bullies friend requested me on Facebook it was lovely just to click on no. I mentioned it to someone I'd known at school and they said 'she's really lovely now you should try getting to know her', this lass dragged me down the street by my hair, invented an insulting nickname and made me go through hell for 3 years. No I don't think I will try getting to know her, this person had me at the point of considering killing myself so there is no part of me that wants to get to know her and be her friend.
well said. I don't have my real name on FB even if it is against the rules, as I don't want to be tracked down by bullies. She probably was just being nosy. I never went to one reunion. They probably noticed I was missing and thought about what they did.
Very much this. It's a nuanced situation. It's important to know that people can change and it's wonderful if your bully has become a better person, but that doesn't mean that the pain they caused in their past is automatically undone. You can acknowledge a person has grown and is making an effort and still feel that there's too much water under the bridge to engage with them again personally. I had a friendship end in a very toxic way and, while I'm sure they're still a good person overall, what they did and said messed me up so much mentally I know I'd never want to reconnect with them, because that would always be in the back of my mind. They may even feel that way about me. That said, on the flip side, it's also not healthy to get too hung up on the past and let it affect you too much, like when people try to dismiss or stop a person's journey of growth by constantly dredging up the past to stop that, which I know I came very close to doing for this same friend because of how much they'd hurt me. Thankfully, I didn't. The most mature thing to do at that point is just live your life and let them live theirs with no more engagement. Easier said than done, but it does help.
Great stuff Helen!! Keeping shining - your former bully recognised just how wonderful you really are - and move on, leave the filth in the gutter where she belongs. 😊👍
Helen, it seems the other person was quite wrong: you already know this bully more than they did. If someone bullies someone else, without ever asking for forgiveness, they have shown how ugly they really are on the inside. Couldn’t cut someone like that out of my life fast enough.
That bully is still a bully. No apology was included in that email. A lot of braggadocio and no consideratoon. It strikes me as so odd that she thought Sarah would want any approval from her after all these years and all her behavior. She wanted to brag about her own life and get some credit for going to school with someone amazing. As if that's anything other than luck. Good on you, Sarah. Thank you for being lovely and funny
@@isadoracostahamsi163 exactly. You’re never going to get any closure from those who’ve ever harmed you. It’s something you have to find and give to yourself. Victims don’t get back up. Survivors do.
I had a bully in 8th grade, made my life miserable at boarding school. At boarding school there is no escape, you can’t go home (home was 500 miles away). There was relief when he left school that year. Some years later, after high school, he came to town, visiting friends I was roommates with. I was actually terrified. But he was genuinely nice and apologized profusely for how he treated me in school. It apparently stuck with him to remember 6 years on. Two weeks later he was killed in a car accident. Goes to show, life is weird. Michael, I’m glad we got sorted. RIP.
Lynn knew she was her bully but you can tell is Narcissistic because in the letter she’s telling her about her life as if catching up with an old friend & Never once saying she’s sorry about bullying her in the past
You know the narcissists creed?: That never happened. And if it did it was'nt me. And if it was me I did'nt mean it. And if I did mean it you must have deserved it.
@@johnswan6759 Holy smokes that is such a messed up way of thinking because it leaves absolutely no room for self-reflection or accountability whatsoever, so there’s really just no winning with people like that because they’ll always put the blame on you and everyone else around them!
Shes also obviously jealous cos ofcourse Sarah has become a famous english stand up while Lynn is still a nobody so she tried to big herself up by boasting about a load of shite that possibly hasnt even happened...
I love this so much. After I dropped out of high school on the borderline of being suicidal after being bullied since age 5, I worked at a sandwich shop as one of my first jobs. One day, this girl came in and I immediately recognized her. She had been one of my biggest tormentors all through school and I couldn't stand her. She comes in and orders and as I was making her sandwich, she recognized me. Got all excited, started regaling me with her life now (we were in our early 20s) & basically did the same thing as this Lynn person did to Sarah. She went on & on about how we should get dinner sometime. How she couldn't wait to catch up. The list goes on and on. The entire time she was doing this, I looked at her and was incredulous at her ability to rewrite history. Once she was done, I looked at her and said "Why on earth would I want anything to do with you? You made my life an absolute hell for 11 years. You weren't worth my time then and you certainly aren't worth my time now." The look of shock on her face was priceless. She paid for her food and left the shop with her friend. I saw them go out to a car and then went on with my life. About 20 minutes later, the door beeped so I went out front and there she was again. But this time, instead o can acting like we had been best friends, she apologized to me. Told me she was sorry for all the things she said and did to me all throughout school and that she was sorry. I told her thank you. I forgive you, but I'll never forget what you did. So yeah, bullies suck. At least she apologized, but it's never enough to rectify years of damage.
@@skylarjohnson7779 I think it was more me just being in shock about the whole thing. I couldn't believe her audacity. And I was raised to always be the bigger person, no matter how difficult it was. Once that moment was over, I out put her out of my mind and moved on with my life. That's all that matters to me 😊
And how fair is that. If you happen to have made a comment Sarah didn't like whwm she was 15, you'll have your email read out to millions, and be publicly ridiculed. What a nasty piece of work this Sarah is. I bet she was Lynn's bully, and just continuing her bullying. Just nasty!
Interesting how she mentions that going to school with Sarah makes her look cool to her sons and that they're "impressed" as if it's an achievement. I think everyone has gone to school with a highly successful person, famous or otherwise. Also notice that all of her travelling is due to her husband's work and achievements and nothing to do with anything she's done. She's trying to claim other people's success and hard work as her own for validation and social status.
I found that rather pathetic too; it's as if this woman bullied her way to the top and had everything nice handed to her (living around the world, comfortable with her home etc) AND still somehow sponging off of Millican's prescence from a horrid letter to a teen magazine, and now Milican's fame to her own sons. Thank goodness for Sarah being able to tear her a new one though! :D
Not really. One guy who always thought of himself as very smart has become a mediocrely succesfull writer. Still in that same style of thinking himself quite special. Ourgh.
Can relate to the school bully thing. When I was a kid I was a pretty camp, effeminate boy. Realised pretty early on I was gay, I had no issue with that of course and dealt with that quite easily - others, not so. I had a terrible time growing up with bullies, beaten up so many times. Still, to this day, at 40 years old - I get a twang of fear in my stomach when passing a group of young teens if I don't know them. Despite none of them ever saying anything and I'm never mistreated or yelled at. But that's the lasting effect bullying has on you.
I'm not gay myself (despite what some people might have insisted), but I know exactly what you're talking about when you mention the fear response. I can walk past groups of strange adults - men, women or both - and I won't so much as flinch. But groups of teens always put me on edge. They were always so... irrational and unpredictable.
I hope the world has changed now and it is probably the case that young people are the most accepting of others in our society I know my adult children certainly are they have been bought up that way. The people you need to worry about are the now grown up bullies of your childhood they will always stay in their moronic judgemental mindset. I work with young people and they are never the bullies so maybe we need to stop judging them but I too remember as a female walking past a group of teenagers as a kid back then and your right it was scary.
@@Pottawattamie absolutely. As an adult, I never have had any issue with any groups of young people, nor any individual young people. It's just the lasting effect of what bullying does to you from childhood, that carries over into adulthood.
I'm an Aussie they can be aggressive here too. I got surrounded by some in my wheelchair at the botanical gardens as a young kid, they wanted my sandwich and I nearly hit some trying to get away! It makes me laugh, they mean business!
I think that's exactly it. Like does the kid who pulls the wings off a fly when they're bored spend a lot of time later remembering and thinking about the fly? I don't think so.
And then there are others who grow up and cringe at their younger years. I was a pretty awful kid, and I feel terrible now about the things I said and did. I can only hope the people I mistreated found others who were kind enough to help them heal.
@@pendlera2959 It is great that you are self aware enough to recognize your faults and misdeeds. You are probably the exception. Hope you and those you hurt find peace.
That's why I did the same thing to bullies who looked me up years later, even former bosses. Of course it helped that I never committed their names or faces to memory.
She said "I don't remember you very favourably", which means: "Oh, I remember you alright, just not in a good way". It's IMHO a better burn than "I don't remember you". Both parties know it's a lie; just by saying you don't remember them, you confirm that you do remember them and are trying to get back at them for how they hurt you. In other words: you confirm that it still hurts. I don't know what the best way is to deal with a bully, but I don't think that confirming they can still get under your skin is a good start.
I had a very similar message about three years ago from a girl who bullied me at school. She was trying to reminisce about our school days. I responded ‘Yes, I do remember you, but I think you have the wrong person because I certainly don’t remember you ever being a friend of mine’ I didn’t hear from her again!
I love this. I hate when people go on about how they ‘forgive their bullies’ and they say they understand it’s just what kids do. My school bully’s messed with my mental health to the point I still have some of those issues today. I get they were kids but if they tried to contact me now I would have no problem pushing them from a helicopter into a pit of alligators... just saying...
A girl who made middle school horrible for me came into the gas station I worked at while I was in university with a small child on her hip and, ignoring me completely, asked my coworker if he could put in a word for her since she'd just turned in an application. I went straight to the manager and told her she wasn't going to be a good fit. She shrugged, found the application in the pile (this was before everything was online), and promptly put it through the shredder. So satisfying.
A nasty bit of horrid revenge. Made you feel good to become the bully, did it? And she had a small child, but I bet that just made your nasty act that much sweeter.
Do you like listening to adult bullies, like Sarah? Bet you were the one at school, laughing and goading on bullies. But now you're an adult. Just awful.
@@10beanz I spent multiple hours crying in school bathrooms, wondering why my mere existence was so offensive to someone. Any day she ignored me and acted like I didn't exist was a good day for me. I am still dealing with the effects of my bully's words and actions over 20 years later.
One of the less mentioned beauties of this video is that its possible the children of the bully, big fans of Sarah apparently, will find out the true horror of their mother too...
Because their eyes look tiny when they take them off. When you've only ever seen someone wearing glasses and they take them off, at first they look like a mole
Probably hoping that by you accepting her friend request she’d be able to convince herself it was just playground banter and she’s not a bully after all. Glad you blocked her. She needed her bully status affirming.
Mine tried to pal up to me at our mutual friend's wake when we were 18, making jokes and telling everyone what great friends we'd been. I let him and everyone at the table know that when we were at school he would throw things at me, call me names, boo me off stage in drama and music, and had once pushed me down into a bin. He left right after that.
one of the bullies i endured whilst i was at school took a job as a receptionist at my GP, i loathed her as a child but now she is over 60 and working as a receptionist she is still a mealy mouthed bully and a gossip. i saw her ordering the other receptionist about. seems like she hasnt changed her selfish behaviour.
One of my bullies ended up working at the vet clinic I took my cat to. I didn't see her but I heard her talking to someone in another room. While I thought about trying to say something to her, I decided not to since she might have hurt my cat.
@@catnewskawai9367 you could leave an anonymous comment with her name to a manager that she has done some mean things growing up as some sort of silent revenge
Bullies don't remember that they were bullies as they thought everything they did was completely normal. Do love your reply..it shot her down in an instant.
I had a vile bully when I was at school in the 70's. He tried to get back in touch with me about ten years ago, but he very soon showed himself to be exactly the same nasty piece of work he was when we were kids. He wanted to tell me what a great success his life had been as well. Pathetic.
I don't care about any school reunions either. Kids or not, they had a shitty personality to begin with and they can now witness their own kids being bullied.
i wouldn't wish that on the child though tbh. why make an innocent child collateral just because their parents are assholes? my favorite type of karmic revenge revolves around a bully seeing the person they bullied get famous or (as someone in the comments mentioned) a previous bully trying to get a job at the victim's place of work and having the victim get the satisfaction of turning them down.
A school bully told me that people who get bullied are a certain type. As an adult she is still a bully and yes I'm still gentle and introverted. What she missed is that actually bullies are a certain type and they're ghastly. The once bullied who become publicly successful and do what you did in your show get a massive thank you from the rest of us. Typically funny and a wonderfully elegant put down. xx
@@eb6552 Don't blame yourself, it is the natural order of things. The weak must be culled from the herd for the benefit of all. Your daughter was a drag, you tried to fix it, but you can't fix what's beyond repair.
@@maewest68 You are so weak you attempt to be edgy and insult kids. Maybe you should find yourself a short pier and take a long walk. Feeding sharks may be the best use for a waste of flesh and it also might be the only decent thing for the world you will ever accomplish.
@@maewest68 Stop being a bully and a troll! It is a sign of your absolute weakness, as only weak people want to be cool at other people's expense. And you know what they say about the weak and the herd.....
I remember being contacted on Facebook by my bullies asking me if I would be at high school reunion, even inviting me to the group they set up to talk about it. None of them expected me to respond with "I have better things to do with my life than pretending we all had good memories in school and reliving what you people put me through. Anyways, how are all those divorces going?"
It's amazing how people who were school bullies seem to have a warped perspective of how they treated people and years later will try and spark a conversation with you as if you had nothing but good memories together.
Im 62 now and I still remember vividly the bullies at school, so kids if you watch this get in to school tomorrow, apologise and change your bad ways or else be prepared to answer for your actions many years later maybe in front of your own family. You possibly don’t realise at the moment how it scars people for ever, so if your doing it stop it, repair the damage and maybe you will be remembered as a decent person.
Now THAT is a comeback!!! Well done Sarah. So short, so precise and yet so final. I met my main school bully about six years after leaving school. He was with a group of four other ex-school friends at a bar in Liverpool when I walked in. One of those had invited me to join them, as he knew I'd be back home then. He hadn't however, told the others. As I approached the group, he brought the subject round to bullying at school, at which point, my nemesis started laughing. "Oh hell yes!" he said, "That was so much fun back then. I wonder what (rude name) is doing now? I'd love to see his face if he saw me again, he was always such a wimp!". "Turn around then", replied my friend. "He's right behind you". Well, he did turn round and promptly fell off his stool. The small, nervous, skinny kid with glasses that he imagined to be behind him, was now just over six feet tall, fourteen stone of solid muscle, and in military uniform. I told him that maybe it was time for retribution, and I've never seen anyone move so fast in my life! He was out of the pub in seconds, which was a shame really, as the others told me that it was his round...
One of my favorite things was watching all my high school "mean girls" turn into teachers or nurses... my bully ended up being a teacher for autistic children. I get people grow up, but it's hard to see them as anything other than the mean person they were.
Good point! My family moved a number of times as I was growing up and even afterward. I have the situation that I haven't seen some of my bullies in over 40 years. They're still hateful 7th and 8th graders in the 1970's, in my mind, but are now almost 60 years old with a lot of hstory and experinece I know nothing about.
As an autistic person, lemme just tell you that your bullies are likely still bullies just to even more vulnerable children. I can only think of two of my several teachers that specifically worked with autistic students that weren't catty bullying assholes. I can totally see most as bullies in their high school years. Abusers love to secure jobs where they have control over people, especially vulnerable people like the sick, elderly, young children, or disabled. Vulnerable people might not notice that any abuse is even happening, and the ones that are aware are much less likely to be believed when they do speak up. I resent a lot of the authority figures who completely dismissed me when I tried to speak up about the abuse my case manager and her assistants put me through because they believed I was incapable of knowing what abuse really was. I think a quote I got was "are you sure they were bullying you, or was it just teasing or joking?"
As another posted here, some bullies get jobs to have power over the weak and powerless. They dare not get a job where they have to deal with people who are smarter and stronger, and won't put up with their garbage.
People can change, but if you notice way too many of these bullies gravitate towards being constantly around the most vulnerable members of society. It isn't a good sign
The majority of bullies from my own experience, do it out of jealousy. This woman without provocation, filling Sarah in on her "amazingly ordinary life", is her trying to feel better about herself and her choices and gain validation, (whether she's truly happy or not is up for debate) while simultaneously insult Sarah. It's hilarious how petty and simple some people are when it comes to their egos and world-view, that they never get past the stage of a mentally fragile hormonal teenager.
My school bullies were all psychological bullies too. Caught up with some on fb recently. They aren't doing so well. They reached out after finding out I turned out to be quite successful.
I saw my school bully last year. I was having dinner with my (then) girlfriend and he was at a different table. Fortunately we had finished our meal and on our last drinks before leaving. He came over to the table and said he recognised me and asked how I was and what I was doing as if we were mates. We'd left school 15 years ago so I decided to just say to him that I didn't recognise or recall him and that I was leaving. He then stood in my way and said "Think you're bigger than all this don't you?"... I responded with "No, child, you're too small". And off I walked with my partner to enjoy life.
Isn't it something how bullies keep intruding into people's lives even after 15 years and with no apology and even acting like things are all right? Why are they so drawn to the person they hurt or used to hurt? I suppose that will remain a mystery. The bully you dealt with showed that he's still a bully. I saw one of my bullies years later at a shopping mall in the town where I now live. We reocgnized each other but both kept moving---and that worked for me!
I had something similar happen during Deployment. Someone came up to the Postal Counter and said: "A told me to tell you that he says hello." Knowing that it was a former bully of mine that he was passing on the hello from, I just replied: "Who?" Afterwirds, I wondered why the bully was so obsessed with me that he looked me up eight years later while I was deployed.
@@andrewbrendan1579 dude I really wanna know why bullies gravitate after years and years of not hanging with someone why they come out of the blue to try and act friendly
@@kamimikuta4929 simple; they want to see if you're still a doormatt they can now use and abuse instead of only bully because that's what they'll do. It's all self-serving.
@@kamimikuta4929 It's a mystery to me too! Maybe someday a self-aware AND honest bully will explain it. I wonder if bullies have some kind of fascination with the people they abuse. Maybe similar to being a stalker? When it comes to being friendly years later maybe the bully is acting out of guilt and trying to ease their conscience---and maybe without acknowledging their wrongdoing and without apologizing? I was treated badly for years and have come to see the people who abused me as rather pathetic people. I later learned that at least some of them had crummy lives and were venting their pain and anger on me. One of them, I learned, had a dad who decided he'd rather be back in Viet Nam with his girlfriend and the kids he had there than with his wife and children here in the U.S. Others kids who bullied me came from broken homes. I wonder what grown bullies tell and teach their own children and if those parents ever admit to their kids what they had been like.
I was bullied for six years, every single day by the same horrible boy. It was on the school bus, in front of everyone, twice a day. Nobody stood up for me. Sometimes, I would walk two miles to school by myself, just to avoid the embarrassment. I wasn’t developed like the other girls yet and that was his main focus. Those torturous words affected me well into my adult life. I didn’t marry until I was almost 40. I never, even to this day, had a good body image. I am 58 years old.
It is worse to be bullied by boys as an adolescent it makes you feel abnormal and that you are unlovable it can cause problems with confidence in the future.
I was bullied by my own 5 year older brother at home. My mother adored him so he could not do wrong as far as she was concerned. My parents did not protect me, nor did my siblings, since my mother liked rivalry and nasty teasing, and they all competed with each other. I was different to all of them and a sensitive kid, so I was an easy target. I always felt unsafe at home and I suffered an awful lot of negative self image. I went to boarding school at 16, thank goodness, got a job, lived away from home, by and married at 21, and lived in other countries for some time. It helped a bit, but I am still surprised if people like me just for me. Bullying affects the one who's bullied for the rest of your life. I managed to confront my brother with this, a long time ago. He flat out denied it, did not remember any of it, so as far as he was concerned, it was not true. I never see him anymore, or most of my siblings. It's just not worth it.
What an absolute piece of 💩. When it's constant, it eats away until you feel like nothing. But you sound like a lovely person, who is finally happy and loving life. 🍻💜👍
I was bullied in secondary school. I'm a member of a facebook page for the area I lived in then. The other day on the page, someone asked about whereabouts the famies of the two girls that bullied me and another girl who is and was a friend of mine back then when we were 11. She's on that facebook page too, so we had a little conversation on the facebook page about it and how they made our lives a misery (one time, they pushed my friend into the busy main road while she was wearing her roller skates and she was injured). I hope they read it if they were members and I hope they felt suitably bad. We're all in our sixties now, but these things that happen when you are young are not so easily forgotten.
Yeah.. the class bully at my school years later was once confronted on how mean she was to everyone all the time and she said she absolutely didn’t know what they were talking about. And she was serious. This was a gal that would constantly cruelly mock other kids. She never saw herself that way!
I love that you were able to show one of your bullies, who quite frankly sounded like she was showing off that she has lived around the world, and that she had a posh lifestyle, no doubt she has bored everyone she has ever met with that story. I bet she wished she had kept her mouth shut now, because everyone now knows what a bully she was. Vengeance is sweet. I’m so happy you got to stand up to one of your bullies, good for you Sarah, good for you. Xxxxxx
Your posting would be accurate if Sarah had her revenge in private. But she disclosed the family's full names to the world. Guess how the kids are feeling now...
@@walterrudich2175 everybody who speaks in public (or writes for the public) should know quite well you don't use real names for such stories, so I would be very surprised if Sarah didn't change them. (I mean, who would seriously name their kid Giles, anyway?) Probably changed the countries, too. Standard procedure. Nobody will know who she is except her.
Good on her for getting back at her bully, by using her in her routine (and making money off her in the process). Sometimes karma takes a bloody long time, but it's just as good.
The people who are still friends with all their school mates, are the ones that peaked and are desperately clutching on to better times. Good for you 👍
@@roborb1960 I don't even do FB, for this reason. I did recently reach out to one of my school bullies. We're supposed to go for coffee when Covid restrictions are loosened where I live.
I hope at some point, everyone stops giving high school bullies (abusive parents, poor teachers, etc), rent free space in their heads. It's often hard, but worth it.
@@10beanz She's an intelligent woman, it's artistic licence to change names and exaggerate for comedic effect. These won't be real names... Lawyers go over all details to avoid lawsuits against very successful comics like Sarah.
@@elenawilliams32 Only heard of her because she came on my feed. What has she done that makes her 'the most successful female comedian in the UK'? Talking about bullies, how does it feel to call someone you don't know, a 'fool? Makes you feel good? Makes you feel big? Nasty.
I went through massive homophobic bullying at school, including BB guns fired at my window and an attempt to put a firework through the letterbox. Years later one of them sent a Facebook friend request and message like "hi how are you doing these days remember me", which I ignored. Good to see Sarah literally getting the last laugh... she's absolutely right here. That "ex" bully sounded completely self-absorbed. Nobody gets to ruin your self-esteem and confidence like that and then waltz in like nothing happened.
So years later one off your bullies sent you a friend request on FaceBook!!!!!!????? After BB guns fired at your window and and an attempt to put a firework through the letterbox @Juan.Mawr. I'm surprised that you didn't ask for his/her current address after inputting their name on Facebook,s own search bar and bring along fireworks and your own BB gun. And do a similar late night hazardous stunt..@Juan.Mawr. After all I would have done a revenge 100% similar Stunt at all their houses..
There was a girl in my neighborhood who always got picked on. I remember being called out for bullying her in 6th or 7th grade. I was so confused by this, in my mind I was the nice one that walked to school with her and spent time with her. But I realized that I didn’t really have her back the way a friend should. I spent time with her to feel like I was a nice person but I didn’t stand up for her when people were talking smack. I straightened up after that. I’m glad I was confronted.
Being terribly psychologically bullied myself from the age of 5 steadily all the way to 15 I am in awe of Sarahs response. Bullies can’t be that clever because we never forget what they put us through but they certainly do.
I was bullied in elementary school (age 5-10 here in the states) and moved a few miles away for middle school for 3 years enough to not see any of the other kids I grew up with. Highschool put me back in with the same kids, though. Of the 3 kids I considered the worst bullies while I was younger, 2 of them actually did come up to me, separately and about a month apart from eachother, to apologize! It was actually quite nice to see they grew up. The 3rd of the bullies just grew and by the end of the year was arrested for flipping my desk over with me still in it because I had tried to stand up to him earlier than day. He has been in and out of prison since, so there's that.
I had just had my daughter in 1990 and had a 15 month old son born in 1989 when I come face to face with my childhood bully (1 of 12 girl bullies). I was at my boyfriend's sisters house and a woman with a toddler in a pushchair and 3 small children in tow, my boyfriend's sister stopped her and started talking to the school bully. They were friends, I asked my boyfriend's sister how she know her, she know her through her daughters in the same school, I was asked how I know her, I replied in front of the woman with the 4 kids 'she was my school bully for 4 years of my life, she was the leader of 11 more girls. It went down well for me but not the woman, I went home with my babies so proud of myself and in the later years I made sure my older 2 children and my now youngest son to respected people no matter who they are
Some girl came up to me at my job to "apologize" for how awful she had been to me in school and I genuinely didn't remember her and tried to be polite about it, and this seemed to piss her off so much lol. In fact, the only person by her name that I recalled was someone that I thought I had been accidentally rude/"a bully" to due to my ASD. I gave her my number because she asked to talk and then never heard from her again lmao. It's just proof that narcissists stay the same their entire life, tbh.
All of my bullies were either people I had been studying with since childhood and my best friends until one day they harassed me on Facebook and got in trouble with the school administration. Then it began. They were all supposed to be either doctors, engineers, models or actors or singers. But I'm the only one in my class who got to pursue my goal in a foreign college. They send me friend requests or follows and I just block them. Done with their bs in school, I ain't picking up trash. 😂
This clip and everybody's comments made me realize that bullies really are very small people, in the sense that they mostly don't amount to much. Lynn is a teacher assistant and all the nice places she lived were because of her husband's job. Not much of anything that she really accomplished by herself for herself. Unless you counting having 2 kids and even that she couldn't do alone.
It seems to me that Lynn the bully was trying to show Sarah that she was important TOO, having lived in all those fabulous cities. As if that matches packing a theater to the rafters with adoring fans. LOL!
I was bullied when I was a teenager, by my roommate. Recently, we ran into each other on the street, and he tried to apologize. He said something like: Sorry about the way I behaved, but we were just kids back then, ... I was thinking: Well, I was a kid too, and I didn't bully anyone... that's just an excuse ... So, I just walked away from the conversation. I realized that I am OK and that I don't need his apology, that it's actually he who needs it, in order to ease his conscience, and I wasn't gonna given him that ...
@@lisahockaday3869 Yes, exactly! If I felt that it was an honest and simple apology, without excuses and pressure, and without the: sorry, but ... I would have accepted the apology. But it seemed uncincere, like he is doing it for his own (selfish) reasons and since it has nothing to do with me I chose to just walk away
I once looked up some of my school bullies to see if they ended up in jail. One of them got arrested for beating his girlfriend. Kept thinking back about how I always felt like the one who was in trouble when they'd attack me. Lost a tooth once. I had to stay in detention with the bully and they never once spoke to the kid's parents. Or the other lads that were with him and kept my friends from me while I was getting punched. I feel like it would be bad of me to wish them ill but I genuinely wish something had happened to him before he beat up his girlfriend. At the very least the school could have told his parents what he was like. Don't think I would have managed as polite a response as you managed if I had got that email.
I can relate 🤣 I got a friend request on Facebook once, from a girl,who once left death threats on my locker, when I was in Junior High... friend request declined...I don't need a "friend" like that. If she had messaged me and apologized, then maybe, but she never did. Neither did your former classmate, so you don't owe her anything dear😊
None of my bullies have apologized to me yet. I’m not plagued by the past anymore (even though my life is a bit of a lackluster mess after all the mental damage I had to work through instead of live a life), but it still leaves a bit of a nasty taste in my mouth that none of them have had the decency to regret their behavior. I’ve heard so many bully stories of how the bullied person has their moment to accept/forgive (or not), but I’m over here just dealing with the aftermath while they live their lives and it’s a little disappointing tbh.
@@joeyday576 She has that genuine kind of humor. The accent really makes it funnier.😆 I like her, too. She's hilarious.🤣 I wish that she would write some comebacks for me. (Especially when I was the shy, quiet one.) [Really, haven't all of us been bullied at some point in our lives?🤔]
As someone who was bullied quite severly, also by a psychological bully, I wouldn't even know what to say to my bully if I met her these days. Though I guess I did have some kind of closure since I actually stood up to her and told her to leave me alone, when my anger overtook my fear, which she suprisingly did. The bullying happend throughout kindergarden and 2. grade by the way.
@@kyliepechler Well the situation back then was quite complicated, which is why I personally don't hold much of a grude against my bully, but my elementary school class, which she was in, still has meetups usually once a year. She hasn't been to any of them so far but I think she might come to this years and I just don't want to meet her again, because that would probably be quite awkward. We have spoken only once after I told her off by the way, which is almost 10 years now.
You know sometimes I wonder the same thing. Sadly my bully used to be my friend. And she didn’t start off as my bully. We were actually pretty close but her family life was really bad and later in our friendship she took out all of her issues on me. Eventually she was trying to pretend like nothing happened and be my friend again. I wanted to tell her off for everything she did to me but my mom advised me to just be polite but distant. During our last interaction, I simply just walked away without saying anything to her. It’s been years since I’ve seen her but I wonder if she’s worked through her issues or is still the same emotional manipulator she was then.
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I was expecting a “dear Sarah. I’m so sorry for how I treated you in school...” BUT NO. Instead she waffled on about herself expected Sarah to care. THE CHEEK OF THIS WOMAN 😂
Lynn: Dear Sarah, I'm doing well and I saw that your famous!
Sarah: And I'll make you famous for bulling me.
I love this so much
I've got an aunt I barely hear from. Every now and then, she rings up and after the formal greetings, she asks me "how are you?" and then for an hour or more talks non-stop about herself.
Bullies rarely see the error of their ways.
Yeah just bragging about how many places she’s lived
In my experience, the girl who bullied everyone at my school - when we grew up - as an adult she didn't even realize she was a bully as a kid. I don't understand it - but they never seem to know they're bullies 🙄
A bully's worst nightmare is for their victim to become a world famous comedian.
Bet she never saw that coming!
Or the police officer who stopped their car for going way too fast.
@@katbar6066 she thought she still could bully her. Loved her response.
@@shellylemons That's is EXACTLY what the bully was doing. EXACTLY. All she said is, "Hey, Sarah. Look at how great my life has been while you've been humiliating yourself to make a living."
@@teletubbiestunetwister9570 So so true. And also, she even tried to bully her further in the letter by commenting how her (Lynn) had had an increasing waistline as time had gone on, meanwhile she (Lynn) stated that Sarah Millican looked the same as when they went to school. Even though Sarah looks stunning now, no one does or wants to look like a middle aged woman while in school. So I feel like that, in the letter, was a backhanded compliment. (Btw english is not my first language.)
In other words the bully is trying to say, 'you maybe a celeb but I'm better than you'. All unsolicited and no apology whatsoever.
I heard as trying to ride her coat tails
@@nieceypiecey100 Both
Gave her all the response she deserves.
Yeah bragging about her life.
@@nathilism some do
A school bully came up to me in a restaurant, many years after school. He just apologised for the way he had behaved, something he wanted to get off his chest. Sometimes people do grow up.
I got bullied in school and thus was a bully to my friends of all people when I was in middle school. It's something that I still deeply regret - I've made up with everyone I hurt and have completely changed how i treat people and deal with the sort of crap i was taking out on people. A lot of times, change only comes from necessity. People can change but you never have to forgive anyone for what they do to you.
@@cofkavos I know exactly how you feel, I was bullied horribly so got quite mean and closed off and hurt a lot of people close to me because I expected them to hurt me, in school I’d rather be feared than liked because to me that was more powerful than being myself, but I had a few friends I was fiercely loyal to. In the end (sixth form) when I needed them when my boyfriend broke up with me for someone else they chose his side (he was incredibly abusive towards me) and I saw their true colours, a few months of being friendless one of my bullies stole my phone and found the abusive messages my ex boyfriend had sent to me, the next day that bully sat with me at lunch and told me about their abusive dad, and how they were scared to go home so we ditched school and talked for hours, it was the most human I’d felt in years, I let my guard down and I had no idea that the person who tormented me for 8 years would be the person who understood me most they stopped me from doing some horrific things and helped me through bulimia, something I still suffer with now (6/7 years later) sadly I don’t keep in touch with them but I really hope they made something of themselves.
Just wanted to say one of my secondary school bullies
Approached me through Facebook and apologised for how he had treated me 34 years ago.
Which I accepted gracefully
In amazement to be honest x
@@cofkavos i like your thinking bit you know when you forgive, its as much for you as it is for the forgiven
@@hookedbymamace
In the US, she would have received the same email from the same person but it would end with an offer to join her amazing business selling essential oils...
that's what I was waiting for the entire email
@@bubbke9353 same. I just knew she was about to segue into how she's now "her own boss" and wants to offer Sarah this "incredible opportunity." 😂
Exactly what I was expecting.
We get that in the UK too, usually for trash makeup products they're selling on Facebook. It's so weird because the messages are always weirdly happy and stilted.
BWAAAHAHAHAHA! Absolutly true here man.... I Laughed so hard at this- every singe Gotdang one of em! Or fukin leggings or some MLM scheme! Complete idiots then and now
Brilliant reply! One of my bullies tried the old "Gee, it's great to see you!" when I ran into her on the street 5-6 years after high school. Without even thinking my response was "After how you treated me when we were in school, the first thing you need to say to me is an apology." I waited, looking at her stunned face. After an uncomfortable silence, I concluded with "That's what I thought." and walked away. Deeply healing.
It shows how narcissistic they are.
Fantastic response
I wish I could do that
Yes!
Thank you for that story. She sounds horrible.
The audacity to send her life story unasked is painful even before realising the bully context 🤣 - beautifully handled
Empowerment of oneself always stays
Emailing more than a paragraph is a surefire way to end up straight in the bin. Like fuck me, was the woman writing a book or something?
Yes!
It was so incredibly cringey and aimed at making her feel better about following her husband's career all over the world and accomplishing nothing.
"So here's my spangly life, following my husband around like a bad smell!"
I was blackmailed for being gay in secondary school. One day out of the blue, the guy who used to blackmail me emailed me asking for a job at my company. I have to admit i felt a little bit of glee over hearing he had spent some time in prison for various petty crimes, then told him I didn't think he'd be a good fit as my company preferred to hire candidates without a history of blackmailing the owner.
Missed opportunity there mate, you should have employed him at minimum wage and given him the worst jobs possible every day :)
That's never gonna look good on ur cv" blackmailed boss"
@@sierraromeoromeo2444 Cleaning your toilet!!!
@@sierraromeoromeo2444 Nah, a bully doesn’t even deserve a minimum wage job. Give that position to someone more deserving. Even minimum wage jobs can be hard to obtain.
@@xTwilightWolvesx most everyone deserves a second chance.
You have absolutely no idea what this guys bully had to endure throughout life.
While that absolutely doesn’t excuse any of the horrible things he done to the OP like I said almost everyone deserves a second chance in life and they certainly don’t deserve completely strangers who know nothing about the whole situation taking pleasure and glee out of someone being at rock bottom.
I was bullied as a kid, gave up my love of play the cello from a very young age and my dream of hoping to play in a symphony orchestra because of bullying and ridicule because the cello in the case was bigger than me when I carried it even at age 14.
My autistic son has also been bullied horrifically and had a group of boys beat him up and an older woman run out of the shop to scare the boys off and get my son to safety before walking him home.
But that doesn’t mean I would ever wish any of the worst things I have experienced in life on any of my bullies or ‘enemies’ as the saying goes. I would never wish for any of them to have to sit by their sick child in hospital after they stopped breathing like I had to and the many other awful things that can break someone.
You don’t have to be compassionate or even forgive them but being a petty bully in return is just as pointless and if not worse as you are doing it as an adult
Nine times out of 10, the bully doesn't recall that they bullied anyone and they thought nothing of their horrible behavior. They perceived it as just normal kid stuff. Meanwhile, the person who was bullied remembers it forever and is deeply hurt... It's sad.
"The axe forgets but the tree remembers"
All you have to do is remember that everyone unknowingly hurts other people's feelings, including you. It's just the clumsiness of human interaction.
giovanna You can't conflate occasional rudeness with straight up BULLYING. Those are not the same thing.
sometimes. people are mean for the sake of being mean. They know what they're doing.
@@giovanna722 I'll translate what you wrote: "Everybody does it to everyone, so it's okay."
No it isn't.
"Hello, Lynn. To be honest I probably won't reply any more fully than this, as I don't remember you very favorably." So concise, so effective. Absolutely in love with that response.
It could not have been better.
Absolute gold.
Yes... One I hope to remember. I thought it was going to be "I don't remember you." But this is even better and not at all a lie.
And dignified, it's tempting to go off at her, but this is better for her own well being to just move on
I thought she was going to say “ I don’t remember you because I have the brain of a squid” 🙃
If you were never bullied at school, you possibly wouldn't get the true magnitude of Sarah's email. Thank you from someone who was bullied from the age of 4, right through to secondary school.
I'm sorry, I hope you are happier now, and that your bullies have gotten their come uppance
@@moonxshakti I'm happily in my 50s and no sign of bullies or being bullied... though I can spot them a mile away when I run my artist workshops in schools! Aren't schools a hideous breeding ground for them... the whole of society, cheek by jowl... the best and worst of our world!
Two of my bullies are dead and another has spent most of his life in jail. They grew up in houses with dysfunctional alcoholic parent(s), in constant poverty. It sure sucked for me at the time, but with four decades of hindsight, I'm not as angry with them. It's adult bullies I have zero tolerance for.
My favourite bully comeuppance moment was returning on break from the prestigious art school I'd worked my ass off to be accepted into, to the rural helltown I'd grown up in,(where being a smart, autistic, gay girl was social death), all sleek and shabby-chic, and being served at Wendy's by one of my high-school bullies. This girl had slammed my head into lockers weekly, so mercy was not on the menu. We were 19, she was massively pregnant, covered in fast food grease, and she had to be nice to me or lose her job, while I chatted happily about how wonderful my life in the big city was, and how I was at the top of my classes at this terrific school. It was petty and mean, but it also felt fantastic. I regret nothing.
@@neuralmute The best revenge! Good for you!
My former bully has now taken to facebook posts about how awful bullying is (she now has an 8 year old who is being bullied). I pointed out how much she hurt me and the most I got was "sorry you saw that as bullying". Jerks never change so good on you Sarah!
Edit: Wow thanks guys for all the lovely messages! When she first posted I genuinely felt bad for her child and I assumed she was reflecting on her own past behaviour- I won't go into details but she was particularly vile- but she doesn't equate the two. She blocked me from messaging her but I think that was out of fear of me posting on her main feed and letting people know (she has to keep up appearances). Here's the difference between us, I would never try and hurt her. Just not in me. I hope she's a good mother and I wish her kid the best. I think karma did come about as I got to go to university and travelled and she never left the town where we grew up
She doesn’t want to take responsibility for something that is now hurting her child. Which is just so immature. You could state this really, if you wanted
Please please please reply to her, "well I'm sorry your 8 year old is seeing what is happening to her as bullying. The only saving grace is that you aren't the one terrorizing her like you did to me".
@@emmavink I mean, she may very well be bullying her child too, but without seeing it that way. It's not particularly rare for parents to bully their children and seeing as she has a history with that kind of behaviour... 💁
Anna Kilifa yes of course. My point is that someone obviously has to verbally say this to this woman.
Wow even then she tries to place blame on you! Forgive me, I had to laugh. "YOU saw that as bullying" rather than "I'm so sorry I made you feel that way". Whilst I feel sorry for the bairn being bullied, that is sweet Karma serving a tall glass of What Goes Around Comes TF Back Around!
I think the way she answered to her bully was perfect: concise, straight to the point and letting the other person know she wasn't putting up with bullshit but without being rude. Totally great comeback to someone who was trying to show off.
She also spent the appropriate lack of time and effort the reply deserved.
Girls sometimes the right answer is the shortest one.
We can all learn from that reply!!!
@@davidshulimson9491 and turned the whole incident into a lovely moment in a show that will increase her success 😃
And she can watch this video and know just how awful she really was to others! Those who think they are better than others, CERTAINLY are NOT!
I love this. It made me think, “Why am I still Facebook friends with that girl who was never really very nice to me?” And then I unfriended her. Easy peasy!
"Frenemies"! It's common in "Girl World."
The populars feel so inadequate when you unfriend them, bet she was fuming and told everyone how rude you was 😆
You can always smell the bullies because they comment on how many “friends” you have on social media. Like I friend the people on Facebook I actually talk to you friend people you’ve met once.
@@jc_80 right! I had a frenemy who literally blocked me first, but when I unfollowed her on Instagram and Twitter, she texted to ask why I was distancing myself from her.
I had a friend who never acted like a friend but I got in contact figuring I would be nice and tell her I was praying for her son (who was very sick). She contacted me and we messaged back and forth a bunch of times before I realized she never changed at all. She was the same person who always had to one up me, the same person who abandoned me because she had other friends she liked better. I prayed for her son and left it at that. Left facebook for good, and stopped talking to her.
I hate how she didnt even apologize or try to make amends instead just talked about herself
Shes narcissist who only cares shes famous ofc she only talking about herself loll 😅
@@Whatever-fe7xn yeah exactly lol
Maybe she has different perception of what happened...
Most bully's don't remember it the way the victim does
@@cmk6672 very true
Lynn's mail gave me such a weird vibe
As if she eagerly wanted Sarah to know that she's living a "perfect life" etc.
I think Lynn might have lied about her happines to sarah and to herself
SPOT ON!!
Oh, for sure!!
Also "couldn't be more settled" = I should feel happy but I'm completely miserable so need to write to you a famous person to feel good about myself.
Highly likely that none of that stuff happened and she's living alone.
@@theyellowlightsaber3193 with cats
In highschool there was a girl in my class who was constantly bullied and made fun of, I was a shy kid myself so I wasn't as confident as I would have liked to be in certain situations, but I always made sure to stand along side her or start talking to her so she didn't have to focus on them, I invited her over and during my last year of high school when I WAS becoming more confident I would stand up for her if people were bad mouthing her around me.
When I got home the last day of HS I read what she had written in my year book " dear Keira, these past five years have been painful mostly, but you made going to school a lot more bearable, thankyou for being a true friend " it brought tears to my eyes.
We are both nearing forty now, and a couple of years ago I saw her at the supermarket, with a man and two kids, she and the man were having a conversation and she was laughing, she looked busy so I just smiled at her and continued on, I don't know if she recognized me but I do know she looked very happy and I did a little cheer inside for her
That's so sweet!!
❤❤❤
This makes me tear up I swear.
Thank you for your kindness to her!
Wow 😭
One of my bullies friend requested me on Facebook it was lovely just to click on no. I mentioned it to someone I'd known at school and they said 'she's really lovely now you should try getting to know her', this lass dragged me down the street by my hair, invented an insulting nickname and made me go through hell for 3 years. No I don't think I will try getting to know her, this person had me at the point of considering killing myself so there is no part of me that wants to get to know her and be her friend.
Hello how are you doing 👋👋😀☺️😀
well said. I don't have my real name on FB even if it is against the rules, as I don't want to be tracked down by bullies. She probably was just being nosy. I never went to one reunion. They probably noticed I was missing and thought about what they did.
Very much this. It's a nuanced situation.
It's important to know that people can change and it's wonderful if your bully has become a better person, but that doesn't mean that the pain they caused in their past is automatically undone. You can acknowledge a person has grown and is making an effort and still feel that there's too much water under the bridge to engage with them again personally. I had a friendship end in a very toxic way and, while I'm sure they're still a good person overall, what they did and said messed me up so much mentally I know I'd never want to reconnect with them, because that would always be in the back of my mind. They may even feel that way about me.
That said, on the flip side, it's also not healthy to get too hung up on the past and let it affect you too much, like when people try to dismiss or stop a person's journey of growth by constantly dredging up the past to stop that, which I know I came very close to doing for this same friend because of how much they'd hurt me. Thankfully, I didn't.
The most mature thing to do at that point is just live your life and let them live theirs with no more engagement. Easier said than done, but it does help.
Great stuff Helen!! Keeping shining - your former bully recognised just how wonderful you really are - and move on, leave the filth in the gutter where she belongs. 😊👍
Helen, it seems the other person was quite wrong: you already know this bully more than they did.
If someone bullies someone else, without ever asking for forgiveness, they have shown how ugly they really are on the inside. Couldn’t cut someone like that out of my life fast enough.
When Sarah said, "This is what I wrote," I had to pause the video and savor whatever was coming. Living well is the best revenge.
Strong positive comment. Respect. Thank you.
I agree.
That's one of my favourite quotes by Oscar Wilde. Partly because there's a fabulous gay bar in my city called "The Living Well". Best revenge indeed!
@@JustinShaedo Sometimes fewer words are far more powerful than venting.
Yup. Always. How satisfying 😁
"And Monaco"....that look and sigh was priceless.....then proceeds to destroy said bully....beautifully done
Princess Monaco of Kent?
Monaco as a tax dodge?
Yeah, by becoming the bully herself!
Yeah, we watched the same video.
@@10beanz Calling someone out on their bullying does not make you a bully.
Wish she'd sent her free tickets to this show and read the email to her live.
My! That would be something
😂😂😂
Put a spotlight on her.
With kids and family. XD
Now that would have been fantastic!!!! 😂😂😂😂
That bully is still a bully. No apology was included in that email. A lot of braggadocio and no consideratoon. It strikes me as so odd that she thought Sarah would want any approval from her after all these years and all her behavior. She wanted to brag about her own life and get some credit for going to school with someone amazing. As if that's anything other than luck. Good on you, Sarah. Thank you for being lovely and funny
Your comment is funnier than her act.
I don’t laugh at bullies.. I pity them..
Bullies usually forget what they did. Is the one receiving the punch that remembers.
@@isadoracostahamsi163 exactly. You’re never going to get any closure from those who’ve ever harmed you. It’s something you have to find and give to yourself. Victims don’t get back up. Survivors do.
She probably didnt think of herself as one, usually any adult who says “I was popular in highschool” is a translation for being a bully
Is no one else concerned that Lynn is now a TEACHING ASSISTANT????
My bully is now a nurse. I shudder to think...
Give her a break she was a child at the time people can change
@@mariemaguire8058 ok but in the letter she didn't apologize at all
when the TA tells you "maybe it was a misunderstanding" to a kid who just got beaten up
@@mariemaguire8058 a teenager is not a child, and the letter shows she didn't change
I had a bully in 8th grade, made my life miserable at boarding school. At boarding school there is no escape, you can’t go home (home was 500 miles away). There was relief when he left school that year.
Some years later, after high school, he came to town, visiting friends I was roommates with. I was actually terrified. But he was genuinely nice and apologized profusely for how he treated me in school. It apparently stuck with him to remember 6 years on.
Two weeks later he was killed in a car accident. Goes to show, life is weird. Michael, I’m glad we got sorted. RIP.
Holy Jesus!
Lol
It's now four dislikes so I assume that all of Lynn's family have seen this now.
🤣🤣🤣
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Sarah is such a sweetheart, I imagine she used a different name - but 'Lynn' knows who this is about.
Ha ha ha! Priceless!
Ha
Lynn knew she was her bully but you can tell is Narcissistic because in the letter she’s telling her about her life as if catching up with an old friend & Never once saying she’s sorry about bullying her in the past
You know the narcissists creed?:
That never happened.
And if it did it was'nt me.
And if it was me I did'nt mean it.
And if I did mean it you must have deserved it.
@@johnswan6759 Holy smokes that is such a messed up way of thinking because it leaves absolutely no room for self-reflection or accountability whatsoever, so there’s really just no winning with people like that because they’ll always put the blame on you and everyone else around them!
@@ayakostitz2222 And that is the profile of a narcissist. Its never them
Or could just be unaware, because of many factors
Shes also obviously jealous cos ofcourse Sarah has become a famous english stand up while Lynn is still a nobody so she tried to big herself up by boasting about a load of shite that possibly hasnt even happened...
I love this so much. After I dropped out of high school on the borderline of being suicidal after being bullied since age 5, I worked at a sandwich shop as one of my first jobs. One day, this girl came in and I immediately recognized her. She had been one of my biggest tormentors all through school and I couldn't stand her.
She comes in and orders and as I was making her sandwich, she recognized me. Got all excited, started regaling me with her life now (we were in our early 20s) & basically did the same thing as this Lynn person did to Sarah.
She went on & on about how we should get dinner sometime. How she couldn't wait to catch up. The list goes on and on. The entire time she was doing this, I looked at her and was incredulous at her ability to rewrite history.
Once she was done, I looked at her and said "Why on earth would I want anything to do with you? You made my life an absolute hell for 11 years. You weren't worth my time then and you certainly aren't worth my time now."
The look of shock on her face was priceless. She paid for her food and left the shop with her friend. I saw them go out to a car and then went on with my life.
About 20 minutes later, the door beeped so I went out front and there she was again. But this time, instead o can acting like we had been best friends, she apologized to me. Told me she was sorry for all the things she said and did to me all throughout school and that she was sorry.
I told her thank you. I forgive you, but I'll never forget what you did. So yeah, bullies suck. At least she apologized, but it's never enough to rectify years of damage.
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Good on yer. You must be a nice person - I would have been tempted to add, erm, extra dressing to the sandwich. :-)
you didn't spit on her food? You've got better self control than me.
@@skylarjohnson7779 I think it was more me just being in shock about the whole thing. I couldn't believe her audacity. And I was raised to always be the bigger person, no matter how difficult it was.
Once that moment was over, I out put her out of my mind and moved on with my life. That's all that matters to me 😊
@@amazonbookworm1154 ah see I was raised by emotionally unstable people who hold grudges. But seriously, I'm happy for you.
She named her kids and everywhere she's been. Now everyone she knows that sees this will know she wasn't a nice girl. Lmao
I think she probably changed the names.
I hope it's a made up story.
Duh
@@oriel9347 I don't. It is so beautiful I hope it is real. It's hilarious 😂
And how fair is that. If you happen to have made a comment Sarah didn't like whwm she was 15, you'll have your email read out to millions, and be publicly ridiculed.
What a nasty piece of work this Sarah is. I bet she was Lynn's bully, and just continuing her bullying.
Just nasty!
Interesting how she mentions that going to school with Sarah makes her look cool to her sons and that they're "impressed" as if it's an achievement. I think everyone has gone to school with a highly successful person, famous or otherwise. Also notice that all of her travelling is due to her husband's work and achievements and nothing to do with anything she's done. She's trying to claim other people's success and hard work as her own for validation and social status.
I found that rather pathetic too; it's as if this woman bullied her way to the top and had everything nice handed to her (living around the world, comfortable with her home etc) AND still somehow sponging off of Millican's prescence from a horrid letter to a teen magazine, and now Milican's fame to her own sons.
Thank goodness for Sarah being able to tear her a new one though! :D
🙄 How do you *ever* have fun...
@@NoudlePipW Life is grim. Stop pretending otherwise
@@zapkvr Life is very grim, so stop making mountains out of molehills.
Not really. One guy who always thought of himself as very smart has become a mediocrely succesfull writer. Still in that same style of thinking himself quite special. Ourgh.
Can relate to the school bully thing. When I was a kid I was a pretty camp, effeminate boy. Realised pretty early on I was gay, I had no issue with that of course and dealt with that quite easily - others, not so. I had a terrible time growing up with bullies, beaten up so many times. Still, to this day, at 40 years old - I get a twang of fear in my stomach when passing a group of young teens if I don't know them. Despite none of them ever saying anything and I'm never mistreated or yelled at. But that's the lasting effect bullying has on you.
I'm not gay myself (despite what some people might have insisted), but I know exactly what you're talking about when you mention the fear response. I can walk past groups of strange adults - men, women or both - and I won't so much as flinch. But groups of teens always put me on edge. They were always so... irrational and unpredictable.
Puts an invisible label on your head that you think everybody can see.
Its literally PTSD. I know.
I hope the world has changed now and it is probably the case that young people are the
most accepting of others in our society I know my adult children certainly are they have
been bought up that way. The people you need to worry about are the now grown up bullies
of your childhood they will always stay in their moronic judgemental mindset. I work with
young people and they are never the bullies so maybe we need to stop judging them but
I too remember as a female walking past a group of teenagers as a kid back then and
your right it was scary.
@@Pottawattamie absolutely. As an adult, I never have had any issue with any groups of young people, nor any individual young people. It's just the lasting effect of what bullying does to you from childhood, that carries over into adulthood.
“Don’t be mean to anyone because they may grow up to break your arm and steal your chips!” That is life advice!
It's what UK Swans are renown for!
@@debbietaylor9750 here, they may steal your baguette, but still, breaking an arm is universally acknowledged as their super power.
I'm an Aussie they can be aggressive here too. I got surrounded by some in my wheelchair at the botanical gardens as a young kid, they wanted my sandwich and I nearly hit some trying to get away! It makes me laugh, they mean business!
My bully, in her adult life, ended up serving me the chips when she'd worked in a local takeaway for a brief stint. Hope that's good enough for her.
Sometimes people don't even remember that they bullies you.
They care so little for you that they forget you almost immediately.
I think that's exactly it. Like does the kid who pulls the wings off a fly when they're bored spend a lot of time later remembering and thinking about the fly? I don't think so.
True
True.
And then there are others who grow up and cringe at their younger years. I was a pretty awful kid, and I feel terrible now about the things I said and did. I can only hope the people I mistreated found others who were kind enough to help them heal.
@@pendlera2959
It is great that you are self aware enough to recognize your faults and misdeeds. You are probably the exception.
Hope you and those you hurt find peace.
'I don't remember you' is the best burn to anyone like this. People like Lynn want to feel like they have a lasting effect on people.
Love when Mariah Carey says I don’t know her lol
That's why I did the same thing to bullies who looked me up years later, even former bosses. Of course it helped that I never committed their names or faces to memory.
She said "I don't remember you very favourably", which means: "Oh, I remember you alright, just not in a good way".
It's IMHO a better burn than "I don't remember you". Both parties know it's a lie; just by saying you don't remember them, you confirm that you do remember them and are trying to get back at them for how they hurt you. In other words: you confirm that it still hurts. I don't know what the best way is to deal with a bully, but I don't think that confirming they can still get under your skin is a good start.
How's about this for a reply to one of them?
"You don't deserve to be remembered."
I had a very similar message about three years ago from a girl who bullied me at school. She was trying to reminisce about our school days. I responded ‘Yes, I do remember you, but I think you have the wrong person because I certainly don’t remember you ever being a friend of mine’ I didn’t hear from her again!
cool love it
I love this. I hate when people go on about how they ‘forgive their bullies’ and they say they understand it’s just what kids do. My school bully’s messed with my mental health to the point I still have some of those issues today. I get they were kids but if they tried to contact me now I would have no problem pushing them from a helicopter into a pit of alligators... just saying...
Amen, Jennifer! 👍👏👏
depends how they approach you, if it's "I apologize for how how I behaved" you can at least lend them an ear.
Same. It took me over 20 yrs to get past what mine put me through. While we're on the subject, would you be willing to rent out that alligator pit? 😁
I'm with you on this one!
Respect
A girl who made middle school horrible for me came into the gas station I worked at while I was in university with a small child on her hip and, ignoring me completely, asked my coworker if he could put in a word for her since she'd just turned in an application. I went straight to the manager and told her she wasn't going to be a good fit. She shrugged, found the application in the pile (this was before everything was online), and promptly put it through the shredder. So satisfying.
😂
A nasty bit of horrid revenge. Made you feel good to become the bully, did it?
And she had a small child, but I bet that just made your nasty act that much sweeter.
@@10beanz Hahaha you must be the girl who applied.
I mean she may have been horrible to you but... I don't know, she had a child and was looking for a job.
@@TessG9107 Had a Child and looking for a job, nothing. She was a bully and deserved what she got.
As someone who had a psychological bully as a child, this is extremely satisfying to listen to.
Sarah revealed the full names of the family. Just imagine how the kids must be feeling watching this...
Do you like listening to adult bullies, like Sarah? Bet you were the one at school, laughing and goading on bullies. But now you're an adult. Just awful.
@@10beanz I spent multiple hours crying in school bathrooms, wondering why my mere existence was so offensive to someone. Any day she ignored me and acted like I didn't exist was a good day for me. I am still dealing with the effects of my bully's words and actions over 20 years later.
"Hey mommy. Sarah mentioned you in her latest video."
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My thoughts exactly! :D
Ha
"Mommy, why did they laugh when they heard you named me Harvey?"
@@AdrianColley Giles is still crying in the corner- poor love!
One of the less mentioned beauties of this video is that its possible the children of the bully, big fans of Sarah apparently, will find out the true horror of their mother too...
In reality, when you take off your glasses in front of the opposite sex, they react with weird blurry expressions on their faces.
i almost see what you did there
Were just reacting to the new mask your wearing
@@eKko0 Your wit is sharper than our vision.
Because their eyes look tiny when they take them off. When you've only ever seen someone wearing glasses and they take them off, at first they look like a mole
I find that I get better looking when my husband takes off HIS glasses.
My school bully tried to add me to Facebook after a funeral for a mutual childhood friend. She was the first person I ever blocked.
Probably hoping that by you accepting her friend request she’d be able to convince herself it was just playground banter and she’s not a bully after all. Glad you blocked her. She needed her bully status affirming.
Good for you 👍 thing about bullies is that they’re usually very lonely and insecure people.
@ewetube is a TYRANT That's true.
Mine tried to pal up to me at our mutual friend's wake when we were 18, making jokes and telling everyone what great friends we'd been. I let him and everyone at the table know that when we were at school he would throw things at me, call me names, boo me off stage in drama and music, and had once pushed me down into a bin. He left right after that.
Weird, isn't it? I had two bullies try to friend me on FB and it was lovely hitting the "reject" button.
one of the bullies i endured whilst i was at school took a job as a receptionist at my GP, i loathed her as a child but now she is over 60 and working as a receptionist she is still a mealy mouthed bully and a gossip. i saw her ordering the other receptionist about. seems like she hasnt changed her selfish behaviour.
One of my bullies ended up working at the vet clinic I took my cat to. I didn't see her but I heard her talking to someone in another room. While I thought about trying to say something to her, I decided not to since she might have hurt my cat.
@@catnewskawai9367 you could leave an anonymous comment with her name to a manager that she has done some mean things growing up as some sort of silent revenge
Bullies don't remember that they were bullies as they thought everything they did was completely normal. Do love your reply..it shot her down in an instant.
thats my problem with my old bullies, they probably just won't remember. (Also I have a problem of editing my memories so I often mix up details)
I had a vile bully when I was at school in the 70's.
He tried to get back in touch with me about ten years ago, but he very soon showed himself to be exactly the same nasty piece of work he was when we were kids.
He wanted to tell me what a great success his life had been as well.
Pathetic.
I don't care about any school reunions either. Kids or not, they had a shitty personality to begin with and they can now witness their own kids being bullied.
😂So many shitty little personalities!
Why would I go to a school reunion where I have to pay for entrance and see the people who I didn't bother to keep in touch with this whole time?
@@fernandod4046 im convinced the only people that go are those who peaked in highschool
i wouldn't wish that on the child though tbh. why make an innocent child collateral just because their parents are assholes? my favorite type of karmic revenge revolves around a bully seeing the person they bullied get famous or (as someone in the comments mentioned) a previous bully trying to get a job at the victim's place of work and having the victim get the satisfaction of turning them down.
Do not wish that on the child. You think those children chose to have her as a mom?
A school bully told me that people who get bullied are a certain type. As an adult she is still a bully and yes I'm still gentle and introverted. What she missed is that actually bullies are a certain type and they're ghastly. The once bullied who become publicly successful and do what you did in your show get a massive thank you from the rest of us. Typically funny and a wonderfully elegant put down. xx
Idk about that, in my experience (being bullied) it's the quiet ones they should've watched out for...
@@eb6552 Don't blame yourself, it is the natural order of things. The weak must be culled from the herd for the benefit of all. Your daughter was a drag, you tried to fix it, but you can't fix what's beyond repair.
@@maewest68 You are so weak you attempt to be edgy and insult kids. Maybe you should find yourself a short pier and take a long walk. Feeding sharks may be the best use for a waste of flesh and it also might be the only decent thing for the world you will ever accomplish.
@@maewest68 Stop being a bully and a troll! It is a sign of your absolute weakness, as only weak people want to be cool at other people's expense. And you know what they say about the weak and the herd.....
@@jacqhiem3598 I am not trying to be cool. What your saying is the "cool" thing to say. What do they say about the weak and the herd?
Lynn sounds like she's selling essential oils for an MLM...
I was just going to say that lol
That’s TOTALLY where I thought that story was going
girl boss!!
Excellent!
I remember being contacted on Facebook by my bullies asking me if I would be at high school reunion, even inviting me to the group they set up to talk about it.
None of them expected me to respond with "I have better things to do with my life than pretending we all had good memories in school and reliving what you people put me through. Anyways, how are all those divorces going?"
Hahaha good one.
You can tell the bully was such a narcissist from that email.
It's amazing how people who were school bullies seem to have a warped perspective of how they treated people and years later will try and spark a conversation with you as if you had nothing but good memories together.
I assume it's because they wanted to forget about the past because they wanted to move on so they try mask it up but idk
Well, the bully certainly had fond memories of the victim. Years of entertainment. Is it any wonder they want to hang out again? :')
Im 62 now and I still remember vividly the bullies at school, so kids if you watch this get in to school tomorrow, apologise and change your bad ways or else be prepared to answer for your actions many years later maybe in front of your own family. You possibly don’t realise at the moment how it scars people for ever, so if your doing it stop it, repair the damage and maybe you will be remembered as a decent person.
Now THAT is a comeback!!! Well done Sarah. So short, so precise and yet so final. I met my main school bully about six years after leaving school. He was with a group of four other ex-school friends at a bar in Liverpool when I walked in. One of those had invited me to join them, as he knew I'd be back home then. He hadn't however, told the others. As I approached the group, he brought the subject round to bullying at school, at which point, my nemesis started laughing. "Oh hell yes!" he said, "That was so much fun back then. I wonder what (rude name) is doing now? I'd love to see his face if he saw me again, he was always such a wimp!". "Turn around then", replied my friend. "He's right behind you". Well, he did turn round and promptly fell off his stool. The small, nervous, skinny kid with glasses that he imagined to be behind him, was now just over six feet tall, fourteen stone of solid muscle, and in military uniform. I told him that maybe it was time for retribution, and I've never seen anyone move so fast in my life! He was out of the pub in seconds, which was a shame really, as the others told me that it was his round...
NICE one!!!!
This is perfect!!
Great story.
One of my favorite things was watching all my high school "mean girls" turn into teachers or nurses... my bully ended up being a teacher for autistic children. I get people grow up, but it's hard to see them as anything other than the mean person they were.
Good point! My family moved a number of times as I was growing up and even afterward. I have the situation that I haven't seen some of my bullies in over 40 years. They're still hateful 7th and 8th graders in the 1970's, in my mind, but are now almost 60 years old with a lot of hstory and experinece I know nothing about.
As an autistic person, lemme just tell you that your bullies are likely still bullies just to even more vulnerable children. I can only think of two of my several teachers that specifically worked with autistic students that weren't catty bullying assholes. I can totally see most as bullies in their high school years. Abusers love to secure jobs where they have control over people, especially vulnerable people like the sick, elderly, young children, or disabled. Vulnerable people might not notice that any abuse is even happening, and the ones that are aware are much less likely to be believed when they do speak up. I resent a lot of the authority figures who completely dismissed me when I tried to speak up about the abuse my case manager and her assistants put me through because they believed I was incapable of knowing what abuse really was. I think a quote I got was "are you sure they were bullying you, or was it just teasing or joking?"
As another posted here, some bullies get jobs to have power over the weak and powerless. They dare not get a job where they have to deal with people who are smarter and stronger, and won't put up with their garbage.
People can change, but if you notice way too many of these bullies gravitate towards being constantly around the most vulnerable members of society. It isn't a good sign
@@justinstewart4889 Yes. Like wolves preying on the crippled and sick strays from the flock.
The majority of bullies from my own experience, do it out of jealousy. This woman without provocation, filling Sarah in on her "amazingly ordinary life", is her trying to feel better about herself and her choices and gain validation, (whether she's truly happy or not is up for debate) while simultaneously insult Sarah. It's hilarious how petty and simple some people are when it comes to their egos and world-view, that they never get past the stage of a mentally fragile hormonal teenager.
My school bullies were all psychological bullies too. Caught up with some on fb recently. They aren't doing so well. They reached out after finding out I turned out to be quite successful.
The best revenge is success
Sarah Millican’s reply to her former bully was perfect! Totally polite but gets the point across brilliantly!
That has to be the absolute most perfect response to a bully trying to reconnect and continue the psychological warfare.
I saw my school bully last year. I was having dinner with my (then) girlfriend and he was at a different table. Fortunately we had finished our meal and on our last drinks before leaving. He came over to the table and said he recognised me and asked how I was and what I was doing as if we were mates. We'd left school 15 years ago so I decided to just say to him that I didn't recognise or recall him and that I was leaving. He then stood in my way and said "Think you're bigger than all this don't you?"... I responded with "No, child, you're too small". And off I walked with my partner to enjoy life.
Isn't it something how bullies keep intruding into people's lives even after 15 years and with no apology and even acting like things are all right? Why are they so drawn to the person they hurt or used to hurt? I suppose that will remain a mystery. The bully you dealt with showed that he's still a bully. I saw one of my bullies years later at a shopping mall in the town where I now live. We reocgnized each other but both kept moving---and that worked for me!
I had something similar happen during Deployment. Someone came up to the Postal Counter and said: "A told me to tell you that he says hello." Knowing that it was a former bully of mine that he was passing on the hello from, I just replied: "Who?"
Afterwirds, I wondered why the bully was so obsessed with me that he looked me up eight years later while I was deployed.
@@andrewbrendan1579 dude I really wanna know why bullies gravitate after years and years of not hanging with someone why they come out of the blue to try and act friendly
@@kamimikuta4929 simple; they want to see if you're still a doormatt they can now use and abuse instead of only bully because that's what they'll do. It's all self-serving.
@@kamimikuta4929 It's a mystery to me too! Maybe someday a self-aware AND honest bully will explain it. I wonder if bullies have some kind of fascination with the people they abuse. Maybe similar to being a stalker? When it comes to being friendly years later maybe the bully is acting out of guilt and trying to ease their conscience---and maybe without acknowledging their wrongdoing and without apologizing? I was treated badly for years and have come to see the people who abused me as rather pathetic people. I later learned that at least some of them had crummy lives and were venting their pain and anger on me. One of them, I learned, had a dad who decided he'd rather be back in Viet Nam with his girlfriend and the kids he had there than with his wife and children here in the U.S. Others kids who bullied me came from broken homes. I wonder what grown bullies tell and teach their own children and if those parents ever admit to their kids what they had been like.
I was bullied for six years, every single day by the same horrible boy. It was on the school bus, in front of everyone, twice a day. Nobody stood up for me. Sometimes, I would walk two miles to school by myself, just to avoid the embarrassment. I wasn’t developed like the other girls yet and that was his main focus. Those torturous words affected me well into my adult life. I didn’t marry until I was almost 40. I never, even to this day, had a good body image. I am 58 years old.
So sorry you had to go through this
It is worse to be bullied by boys as an adolescent it makes you feel abnormal
and that you are unlovable it can cause problems with confidence in the future.
Wish you well! Keep it up
I was bullied by my own 5 year older brother at home. My mother adored him so he could not do wrong as far as she was concerned. My parents did not protect me, nor did my siblings, since my mother liked rivalry and nasty teasing, and they all competed with each other. I was different to all of them and a sensitive kid, so I was an easy target. I always felt unsafe at home and I suffered an awful lot of negative self image. I went to boarding school at 16, thank goodness, got a job, lived away from home, by and married at 21, and lived in other countries for some time. It helped a bit, but I am still surprised if people like me just for me. Bullying affects the one who's bullied for the rest of your life. I managed to confront my brother with this, a long time ago. He flat out denied it, did not remember any of it, so as far as he was concerned, it was not true. I never see him anymore, or most of my siblings. It's just not worth it.
What an absolute piece of 💩.
When it's constant, it eats away until you feel like nothing.
But you sound like a lovely person, who is finally happy and loving life.
🍻💜👍
Sarah: she's like one of our best mates. Only difference is we can't see her in person and she's not just up the road from us. Love this girl.
I don't remember you very favorably. gotta remember that
Touché
Aaah, what was it again, I don’t remember...
Uuuh uuuuh, I I
Don’t remember 😢
Yeah, not such a good comeback ey!
I was bullied in secondary school. I'm a member of a facebook page for the area I lived in then. The other day on the page, someone asked about whereabouts the famies of the two girls that bullied me and another girl who is and was a friend of mine back then when we were 11. She's on that facebook page too, so we had a little conversation on the facebook page about it and how they made our lives a misery (one time, they pushed my friend into the busy main road while she was wearing her roller skates and she was injured). I hope they read it if they were members and I hope they felt suitably bad. We're all in our sixties now, but these things that happen when you are young are not so easily forgotten.
That is so true! You never forget!
Whoa
Very satisfying story and loved her reply, but my favorite line was “she made me buy my own insult.”
Well, I don't know how bad the rest of the bullying was, but this? This is just a hilarious prank if you ask me. :')
There aren't enough upvotes or compliments in the world, to adequately praise your handling of this situation. Love and pride and delight from the US.
I love this 💙 my school bully contacted me suggesting it would be 'great to catch up ' I just responded with "why?" Never heard from her again xxx
"She made me pay for my insult" ngl that cracked me up in a morbid kind of way. That bully of hers is a special kind of terrible.
Bullies have very short memories.
That’s because they have no brains.
Quote of the year. Same with abusers.
Yep
Amen
Yeah.. the class bully at my school years later was once confronted on how mean she was to everyone all the time and she said she absolutely didn’t know what they were talking about. And she was serious. This was a gal that would constantly cruelly mock other kids. She never saw herself that way!
I love that you were able to show one of your bullies, who quite frankly sounded like she was showing off that she has lived around the world, and that she had a posh lifestyle, no doubt she has bored everyone she has ever met with that story. I bet she wished she had kept her mouth shut now, because everyone now knows what a bully she was. Vengeance is sweet. I’m so happy you got to stand up to one of your bullies, good for you Sarah, good for you. Xxxxxx
It was rather telling that it sounds like she was never anywhere long enough to make friends and is now desperate for attention.
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Your posting would be accurate if Sarah had her revenge in private. But she disclosed the family's full names to the world. Guess how the kids are feeling now...
@@walterrudich2175 everybody who speaks in public (or writes for the public) should know quite well you don't use real names for such stories, so I would be very surprised if Sarah didn't change them. (I mean, who would seriously name their kid Giles, anyway?) Probably changed the countries, too. Standard procedure. Nobody will know who she is except her.
Good on her for getting back at her bully, by using her in her routine (and making money off her in the process). Sometimes karma takes a bloody long time, but it's just as good.
And this is why I revel in my obscurity. I finally got away from all of my school mates, and I'll be damned if I give them a reason to track me down.
The people who are still friends with all their school mates, are the ones that peaked and are desperately clutching on to better times.
Good for you 👍
@@literate-aside So true! I avoid like the plague those websites like "Classmates"
Exactly...... Facebook "Hi Rob! I haven't seen you since Geography class!"............ (35 years ago)...... "And your point is?"
@@roborb1960 I don't even do FB, for this reason. I did recently reach out to one of my school bullies. We're supposed to go for coffee when Covid restrictions are loosened where I live.
I hope at some point, everyone stops giving high school bullies (abusive parents, poor teachers, etc), rent free space in their heads. It's often hard, but worth it.
"I don't remember you favourably' - I'm betting she didn't explain your response to her kids. Hilarious.
Did Sarah have to add to her bullying by adding real names of her and the children. Thats just nasty and cruel.
@@10beanz She's an intelligent woman, it's artistic licence to change names and exaggerate for comedic effect. These won't be real names... Lawyers go over all details to avoid lawsuits against very successful comics like Sarah.
@@elenawilliams32 Agreed, other than the point about Sarch being a 'comic'; was she meant to be funny, then?
@@10beanz Wow, Are you the bully? She's the most successful female comedian in the UK you fool. 🤦🏼♀️
@@elenawilliams32 Only heard of her because she came on my feed. What has she done that makes her 'the most successful female comedian in the UK'?
Talking about bullies, how does it feel to call someone you don't know, a 'fool?
Makes you feel good? Makes you feel big?
Nasty.
Proof one never has to be rude... she was simply being honest.
I really hope she bought a DVD with this on😅
"Lyn, did you write to Sarah Millican asking for a mention on her new DVD?"
In that case Sarah would make her buy her fucking insult.
And watched it with her kids...
@@watermelonsandal4206 YES!!
Sarah calmly destroyed her.
She's just like a...
bully.
That you lynn ?
I went through massive homophobic bullying at school, including BB guns fired at my window and an attempt to put a firework through the letterbox. Years later one of them sent a Facebook friend request and message like "hi how are you doing these days remember me", which I ignored.
Good to see Sarah literally getting the last laugh... she's absolutely right here. That "ex" bully sounded completely self-absorbed. Nobody gets to ruin your self-esteem and confidence like that and then waltz in like nothing happened.
So years later one off your bullies sent you a friend request on FaceBook!!!!!!????? After BB guns fired at your window and and an attempt to put a firework through the letterbox @Juan.Mawr.
I'm surprised that you didn't ask for his/her current address after inputting their name on Facebook,s own search bar and bring along fireworks and your own BB gun.
And do a similar late night hazardous stunt..@Juan.Mawr.
After all I would have done a revenge 100% similar Stunt at all their houses..
@@53bishoplenbrennan haha, yep.. I was very restrained :D
There was a girl in my neighborhood who always got picked on. I remember being called out for bullying her in 6th or 7th grade. I was so confused by this, in my mind I was the nice one that walked to school with her and spent time with her. But I realized that I didn’t really have her back the way a friend should. I spent time with her to feel like I was a nice person but I didn’t stand up for her when people were talking smack. I straightened up after that. I’m glad I was confronted.
Good for you. That really cool
Perfect argument against all that 'no horizontal stripes' bullshit. She looks incredible.
Indeed.
It's been shown that is nonsense.
As someone who was bullied relentlessly at school, that reply was perfect.
Being terribly psychologically bullied myself from the age of 5 steadily all the way to 15 I am in awe of Sarahs response. Bullies can’t be that clever because we never forget what they put us through but they certainly do.
There you go, Lynn, sometimes the person you treat badly can come back and bit you in front of thousands of people. Happy now?
Millions most likely
Hahahaha
Even in Australia we now know about Lyn 😂
@@louradelaney8074 Global comeback. How'd have known?
I was bullied in elementary school (age 5-10 here in the states) and moved a few miles away for middle school for 3 years enough to not see any of the other kids I grew up with. Highschool put me back in with the same kids, though. Of the 3 kids I considered the worst bullies while I was younger, 2 of them actually did come up to me, separately and about a month apart from eachother, to apologize! It was actually quite nice to see they grew up.
The 3rd of the bullies just grew and by the end of the year was arrested for flipping my desk over with me still in it because I had tried to stand up to him earlier than day. He has been in and out of prison since, so there's that.
I had just had my daughter in 1990 and had a 15 month old son born in 1989 when I come face to face with my childhood bully (1 of 12 girl bullies). I was at my boyfriend's sisters house and a woman with a toddler in a pushchair and 3 small children in tow, my boyfriend's sister stopped her and started talking to the school bully. They were friends, I asked my boyfriend's sister how she know her, she know her through her daughters in the same school, I was asked how I know her, I replied in front of the woman with the 4 kids 'she was my school bully for 4 years of my life, she was the leader of 11 more girls. It went down well for me but not the woman, I went home with my babies so proud of myself and in the later years I made sure my older 2 children and my now youngest son to respected people no matter who they are
Well done hon.
Lovely
Some girl came up to me at my job to "apologize" for how awful she had been to me in school and I genuinely didn't remember her and tried to be polite about it, and this seemed to piss her off so much lol. In fact, the only person by her name that I recalled was someone that I thought I had been accidentally rude/"a bully" to due to my ASD. I gave her my number because she asked to talk and then never heard from her again lmao.
It's just proof that narcissists stay the same their entire life, tbh.
to be fair, depression can make people crazy guilty too
*"Sorry"* is the hardest word for bullies as Sarah brilliantly pointed out.
All of my bullies were either people I had been studying with since childhood and my best friends until one day they harassed me on Facebook and got in trouble with the school administration. Then it began. They were all supposed to be either doctors, engineers, models or actors or singers. But I'm the only one in my class who got to pursue my goal in a foreign college. They send me friend requests or follows and I just block them. Done with their bs in school, I ain't picking up trash. 😂
“Made me buy my own insult.” Lynn was mean!
This clip and everybody's comments made me realize that bullies really are very small people, in the sense that they mostly don't amount to much. Lynn is a teacher assistant and all the nice places she lived were because of her husband's job. Not much of anything that she really accomplished by herself for herself. Unless you counting having 2 kids and even that she couldn't do alone.
Hello how are you doing 👋👋😀👋😀
I was bullied a lot as a kid. I did appreciate and loved your reply.
That’s what being assertive is.
That was a very professional reply to a bully.
I hope your kids are on social media Lynn. Because Sarah has just given them the best lesson in not being a bully.
It seems to me that Lynn the bully was trying to show Sarah that she was important TOO, having lived in all those fabulous cities. As if that matches packing a theater to the rafters with adoring fans. LOL!
I was bullied when I was a teenager, by my roommate. Recently, we ran into each other on the street, and he tried to apologize. He said something like: Sorry about the way I behaved, but we were just kids back then, ...
I was thinking: Well, I was a kid too, and I didn't bully anyone... that's just an excuse ... So, I just walked away from the conversation.
I realized that I am OK and that I don't need his apology, that it's actually he who needs it, in order to ease his conscience, and I wasn't gonna given him that ...
It's more than ok to say no. They tried to make you feel shitty and pressured as a child, be dammed if they will as an adult!
Well u taught him a grear lesson! "Never apologize, its not worth the hassle"
@@crabtrap it's not my job to teach him anything. I don't owe him any life lessons or anything like that...
It’s not even an apology...when someone says, “I’m sorry, but...” it totally negates any apology that there might have been.
@@lisahockaday3869 Yes, exactly! If I felt that it was an honest and simple apology, without excuses and pressure, and without the: sorry, but ... I would have accepted the apology.
But it seemed uncincere, like he is doing it for his own (selfish) reasons and since it has nothing to do with me I chose to just walk away
I once looked up some of my school bullies to see if they ended up in jail. One of them got arrested for beating his girlfriend. Kept thinking back about how I always felt like the one who was in trouble when they'd attack me. Lost a tooth once. I had to stay in detention with the bully and they never once spoke to the kid's parents. Or the other lads that were with him and kept my friends from me while I was getting punched. I feel like it would be bad of me to wish them ill but I genuinely wish something had happened to him before he beat up his girlfriend. At the very least the school could have told his parents what he was like. Don't think I would have managed as polite a response as you managed if I had got that email.
I can relate 🤣 I got a friend request on Facebook once, from a girl,who once left death threats on my locker, when I was in Junior High... friend request declined...I don't need a "friend" like that. If she had messaged me and apologized, then maybe, but she never did. Neither did your former classmate, so you don't owe her anything dear😊
None of my bullies have apologized to me yet. I’m not plagued by the past anymore (even though my life is a bit of a lackluster mess after all the mental damage I had to work through instead of live a life), but it still leaves a bit of a nasty taste in my mouth that none of them have had the decency to regret their behavior. I’ve heard so many bully stories of how the bullied person has their moment to accept/forgive (or not), but I’m over here just dealing with the aftermath while they live their lives and it’s a little disappointing tbh.
The reply email she sent was a lot nicer than the one I would have sent back.
Iconic this channel has got me through lock down
So true. I live in the U.S. and somehow had never heard of Sarah but have become addicted to her comedy this past year.
us all, mate
@@joeyday576
She has that genuine kind of humor.
The accent really makes it funnier.😆
I like her, too. She's hilarious.🤣
I wish that she would write some comebacks for me.
(Especially when I was the shy, quiet one.)
[Really, haven't all of us
been bullied
at some point in our lives?🤔]
As someone who was bullied quite severly, also by a psychological bully, I wouldn't even know what to say to my bully if I met her these days. Though I guess I did have some kind of closure since I actually stood up to her and told her to leave me alone, when my anger overtook my fear, which she suprisingly did. The bullying happend throughout kindergarden and 2. grade by the way.
Oh I wouldn't say anything to my bullies if I ever met up with any of them, but I certainly know exactly what I would do to them.
@@kyliepechler Well the situation back then was quite complicated, which is why I personally don't hold much of a grude against my bully, but my elementary school class, which she was in, still has meetups usually once a year. She hasn't been to any of them so far but I think she might come to this years and I just don't want to meet her again, because that would probably be quite awkward. We have spoken only once after I told her off by the way, which is almost 10 years now.
You know sometimes I wonder the same thing. Sadly my bully used to be my friend. And she didn’t start off as my bully. We were actually pretty close but her family life was really bad and later in our friendship she took out all of her issues on me.
Eventually she was trying to pretend like nothing happened and be my friend again. I wanted to tell her off for everything she did to me but my mom advised me to just be polite but distant. During our last interaction, I simply just walked away without saying anything to her.
It’s been years since I’ve seen her but I wonder if she’s worked through her issues or is still the same emotional manipulator she was then.