Been listening to sum41 for over 10 years now, their tracks and lyrics have taught me so much in a way they were like a father/older brothers figure to me.
I always knew my dad and sometimes he was home but still it was like he was never there. To this day, he never changed. He is still the same man I never really >>knew
Diego Neuskens same bro kinda. My parents are still married but up until I was like 16 he couldnt give two shits about my life. Luckily my mom convinced him to change
@@theironflash-guy3672 I'm happy to say that now we see each other regularly and I see that he cares about me. I only have God to thank for. I'm finally getting to feel like I have a dad ♥_♥ makes me sad, though, that so many people still live feeling abandoned by the one who should've never abandoned them :/
My Dad was in my life off and on since I was 10. I'm 25 now and have 2 beautiful little girls. Once I had my kids, he was around for a while, but... pulled the same old stuff and ditched them too. My oldest daughter always ask why her grandpa doesn't like us. He didn't show up to my wedding and I haven't talked to him in 7 months. For those of you who do have good dad's... Cherish them. As I do...My mom!!! Love u mom.
This song and Emotionless by Good Charlotte have been songs i've listened to for years about my father, through all the hurt and anger I felt towards him, never knowing if he cared, where he was , or if he was even alive, but he is and he does care. I missed him so much, and he's proven to me he is one hell of a father and I can't wait to meet him. I love my Father.
I can't stop comparing this song to my "history" cause my father left my mother and me when he learned that she was pregnant and leave nothing behind him, the most terrible thing is that i learned a month ago, while i searched for him, that he commit a suicide 5 years ago. So, i never see him, never talk to him or other stuff like that, sorry to say all those things but i wanted to say that, despite the fact that i hate complain and sorry, but my English isn't perfect. Thank you if you read this.
Thanks dude, this was about a year ago and even if i gived up for around two months, i took my courage and fought this injustice. That kind of stuff that can unforately happen to a lot of us and I wish a lot of courage to the people who are in the same situation. Never give up, life can be beautiful.
I know how painful it is, my dear friend Jessica showed me this video. She never knew her father while the man that was only my father in the strictly biological sense was an alcoholic bully that on the rare occasions that he was actually there did nothing but tell me how worthless I was. I honestly don't know which of the two are worse. At the least I finished college, I was always there for my family and try to be a loving mom and now grandmother. That mean monster died alone and forgotten. Three of his children didn't even go to his funeral. I honestly don't know why I bothered. Now at least I am free of him and pray that you find that peace too. I know that you are or will be a wonderful, loving father. A man that any child would be proud to call Daddy.
you're not alone is this situation. My father left my mother when she was pregnant of me. He didn't car about me. My father sai my mother's friends : she's not my daughter, i don't want to even hear about her. You just can go ahead and let this behind cause if you keep think about that you'll be really lost and depressed, i was because of that and others things ! so good luck to you and hope you'll be fine ! c:
I do know mine.... but he's a cop who left me with a stupid crazy bitch who raised us with a pedophile stepfather who used to beat us all the time.....
This song and Never There were both about Deryck's father.. He may not have known him, but I imagine he must have been pretty heart broken to not know what it's like to grow up with a father. These are the moments I'm the most thankful. I love you Deryck. We are here for you.
I didnt know my boilogical dad but i did have a man raise me who in my mind an eyes is my blood no matter what. I didnt know i had a different biological dad till i was 16. but the entire time i was growing up i always had this thought in the back of my mind what if my dad isnt my dad. An when my brother was born he looked just like my dad an i would look in the mirror as a little kid an think why dont i look like my dad. I brushed the thought off. But then now i understand why i felt that way all my life. An the day my mom and dad told me i almost felt as if i was looking at a stranger for a min. But eventually i got over it an relized my bio dad never cared for me why should i care if hes not in my life.
I can't either from the second I found out I was going to be a parent I loved my children. There is nothing I would not do for them, now I have grandchildren and I feel just as strongly about them.
sucks never knowing who my father is he left and never looked back this song reminds me of one thing i never had for once in a life time but I'm proud i made it this far with out you Dad
One of my favourite Sum 41's ever, I know it uses basically the same chords as walking Disaster and all the more popular ones, but this uses them much better and with much better lyrics and meaning, it's absolutely wonderful
A dedication to the man I would have called 'father'. I'm just fine without you, so thanks for nothing but the DNA you shared and leaving your position open for another, better man to take. To the one I DO call father (my step dad, should he ever see this). Thanks for everything, even if we don't always see eye-to-eye.
I'm adopted, all I ever knew about my mother is her name. My father is still unknown. Thank you for presenting me this song, showing me i'm not alone in feeling abandoned.
I can relate to this song so much , especially since I never met my biological father , after he hurt my mother during their marriage and her pregnancy with me , then he hurt me when I was 2 years old and my family hasn't seen/heard from him since
Although I did know my dad I hate his guts because he cheated on my mom and my family leaving me growing up with no one to push me in the right direction no one teaching me the things a father should. my mom always working, multiple stepfathers that r shitty figureheads to look up too. I've had to pretty much raise myself throughout my life and it sucks. It's just like a big empty whole in my life
today im becoming 23, never met my father, he couldnt be bothered to find me. but thank God i had an amazing mum, and i know for sure my life is turning out great its definately because of all her efforts.
Honestly, its sad knowing that people,kids,don't have a mom or a dad.It makes me be really thankful..i've read some of the comments&they just completely broke my heart!For all the moms&dads out there who have to raise a child on their own they should be proud.It's really hard to raise a kid together..let alone by yourself.Everybody out there who has had to grow up without one or both be proud,and know that things happen for a reason&sooner or later they'll turn up for the best.All my love to you
I did meet my father, though he just stopped caring after the divorce. We live in the same city, but he doesn't like my siblings and I to visit him. It hurts to know that he's so close, yet so far.
Some people change, my dad wasn't there for a large portion of my life and it wasn't until my sister committed suicide that he really stepped up and started being a dad. He wrote me, called me and told me sorry and how much he loved me. Yesterday I received a phone call that my father had a heart attack and I put everything behind me and went to see him and it was amazing. He died today. Sometimes people deserve a second chance and I'm just sorry I realized this too late. Rest in peace, Dad.
I know it's hard at times but always forgive your father before it's too late I did and I'm glad I did I lost my father this year in February didn't know him much but I reached out to him before it was to late.... Keep y'alls heads up my friends
Dear father...I dont know you...and i dont fuckin hope that our paths would cross...but sometimes I asks myself,,"how does it feel to have a father?"...I dont wanna wish for you to come back...but sometimes,,I just wanna know,,just wanna know,,how does it feel...
I am 19 now and haven't heard a word, and believe me I've tried even just for closure. Your father doesn't make you who you are, he only helped make you. YOU do what you do to make you, YOU. Your actions, and life choices make you who you are. Genetic play a role, but ultimately you decide if that roe is a bit part or the lead. :)
The same thing happened to me and my older brother, it was our step-dad who then bailed when we were 13 and 17 and he'd treat me like a princess no matter what. Anyway my older brother is now the best father(single father at that) I've ever seen and he had the same exact fear as you and still sort of does but he has no reason and you shouldn't either, your past helps you better yourself because you know what life you want your kids not to have.
I cry my eyes out everytime i listen to this song! My father used to abuse me and my mother, then, one day when i was 5 y/o one day he just disappeared and i haven't seen him since.
Up until about 3 weeks ago I had never heard from my dad for my entire life. And then I finally heard from him only to find out that he had full reconstructive surgery and became a woman. So now I have two moms. This song described my life for long, thanks Sum 41, you guys rock...literally 😊
lived without knowing my dad until he called me and wished me happy 15th birthday. I'm going to be 19 this year, and as memorable as that day is, he's still a face with a name to me. love this song.
My father was always at work when I was younger and when he wasn't my mother wanted all of his attention and he was so exhausted and tired. I knew simple things about him and loved him of course because he'd try his best to give me some time of his day, whether it's teaching me to cook pizza or jello and go on small rides with him into town but he was nothing more of really an acquaintance, as I knew little to nothing about him and I realized that when I actually wanted to start getting people things for Christmas or their birthdays. But then as I got older, per say around 10, I got to start working with him doing pools in the summer and I felt better, I got to know more about him, he's taught me a lot more because I could be with him at work. He's a good dad and I can't blame him for unintentionally neglecting me as a child.
If you hate him that much, you've probably spent 100% of your life trying not to be like him. I have faith that you'd not only be a good dad but probably the very best, because you know what the abuse is like, you wouldn't wish it on anyone else ever... I understand your pain,It's those of us who have been through hell that tend to be the best of people. You're going to be a great dad, don't be afraid, just do your best
As much as I could never forgive my father for leaving my brother and I, I cant help but admit that I miss him like hell. This song leaves me in tears and this is the only place I can admit it...
+Zak Smith Hey c'mon, you're worth more than that mate :) Don't give the attention he never gave to you. don't get haunted by the shadow of someone ^^ As for me, he left me at the age of 5 after beating up my mum (who got a rlly rlly RLLY bad health after that) and.. I first thought I missed him. Now I know if he comes I would just punch him straight up in the face. It's not even cuz of my mum, I think it's a decision I made after all this time ^^ Don't put a tear on your face for someone who wouldn't even move the little finger for ya ^^ Try to get up from this, and take good care of the rest of your familly who cares. And take the time you'd have with your father to have more fun with your friends or to do what you like ^^ -
+Zak Smith Hey c'mon, you're worth more than that mate :) Don't give the attention he never gave to you. don't get haunted by the shadow of someone ^^ As for me, he left me at the age of 5 after beating up my mum (who got a rlly rlly RLLY bad health after that) and.. I first thought I missed him. Now I know if he comes I would just punch him straight up in the face. It's not even cuz of my mum, I think it's a decision I made after all this time ^^ Don't put a tear on your face for someone who wouldn't even move the little finger for ya ^^ Try to get up from this, and take good care of the rest of your familly who cares. And take the time you'd have with your father to have more fun with your friends or to do what you like ^^ -
My dad left when I was 2. I’m 31 now. I’ve never seen him again. I know his Facebook account and I always look at it from time to time. I’ve always wanted to reach out but I’ve never worked up the courage 😔 So I continue to watch in the shadows
I went to see my father oon fathers day last year for the first time. He lived ten blocks away, I doubt he knew that, but went to wish him a happy fathers day but when I asked if he himself was there he said"no" I walked away and then decided to wish him a happy fathers day because I forgot. The his wife came out and told me that if wanted to contact me he would have done soalready. Wheww, don't have to think about what could have been, I can live my life without him happy. cantmisswhatUneverhad
this song really makes me sad because my dad left when I was 2 and came back 2 months ago saying he was a better person and surprisingly I believed him, he didn't change at all not one bit, hurt my mom,brother and me by leaving again. im going to sing this at my talent show just to see if he has the tinyest bit of a heart. but who gives a fuck anyway
I love this song! This fits EXACTLY with my life. I've never even met my dad, my mom threw him out before I was born. He used to send me gifts and stuff for Christmas because his girlfriend at the time made him, but he always signed my name wrong. He doesn't even know my real name! He was a horrible man. I'm not sad about it, though. I'm glad my mom was strong enough to kick him out so I didn't have to feel that pain. But you know, still... a dad would've been cool. But I'm okay, we all are. :)
My dad took off on my mom before I was even born and got some other girl in the same town pregnant 3 months later. He took off on her too. I finally met my half brother when I was 14 and my dad when I was 15. I still talk to him once in a while but he's no where near the father I wanted or deserve. But I'm extremely thankful that I had a mom who was able to be there through everything and love me always. Who needs a dad when you got a great mom like that :D
I know I shouldn't cry because of this song but, Oh my God...This just broke the dam that I had built up to protect myself from all the shit my father had put my whole family through. I wish he was complete unknown so I could have this wonderful idea of him but...He screwed me over.
My Dad Left when i was 3 years old came back and then left again on my 5th birthday i have no true memory of him but the small bits i can remember are all good. im sure others feel the same as me and are wondering why it was to them, and i want to let them know i am here to talk to everyone of them no matter who you are and it is best to stay strong, i didnt take the help and i didnt stay strong im now 16 and i am not over something i never new i think its about time people new what it was like.
Self-awareness can do amazing things. It's pretty awesome that you've come this far. Judging solely from this comment, I think you're better prepared for fatherhood than your dad was.
my parents died in a car accident when I was little.... if anyone has a kid out there who knows they aren't present in their life.... go be a parent, they want you to be their mommy or daddy! I would give anything to have my parents with me right now.
A Reason Why I Love This Song Is Because He Said All The Words I Wish I Could Have Said To My Dad.But I'm Glad Because If He Stayed I Wouldn't Be Who I am Today And I Wouldn't Have All The Things I Have So I'm Kinda Glad I Never Met Him. But Because Of This I Wanna Have Kids And Be There And Be The Father I Never Had.
I feel bad for my friend, she's a wonderful girl yet her dad left her mother for another and doesn't wish her happy birthday or anything for the last 4 years
Same thing about me, it was hard living in the same place as your dad when your mom and dad argues and have different friends and circles of influence.. thats why I moved to the city..
Honestly, I can relate and a lot of other people can too. But it’s with my mom, being mentally abused, forced to not cry, harassing me, threatening me, starving me, beating me, and she blames me for how I grew up.
My father is terrible as well, and I've known people growing up with that same fear. but I assure you, it will be the opposite. As someone that's gone through it, you'll know exactly what not to do, and I imagine you'd rather die than put your children through what you went through. That's how it is with me.
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My dad left when i was 2. I'm 16 now. I haven't even heard or seen him since then. It really hurts seeing other girls with their dad, knowing i'll never have that.
I find that families sometimes are just not able to care & love their offspring the way the child needs it. The parents think they are doing what's best, for some that's being absent. A lot of men don't have the rights & access to fight for custody. A lot of men are also told to stay away or are just not informed they have a child. It still sucks being the kid no one loves though. 💚💜💚
@AlanasBlackParadeCx My dad left when I was 15 too, so I know what your going through. That was 9 years ago. It sucks cause it still hurts. He passed away almost 4 years ago now, and his last 3 months, we talked things out and made peace, but I still never felt the same towards him. Stay strong and things will get better through time, believe me, it will. Others are there for you. Friends and family.
Mom always told me nice things about my father, she never blamed him of anything, she just said it was all because of the wrong circumstances, I knew my father when I turned 25, I found him and reached to him, he told me to meet over in a mall, he was all defensive, he told me that he won't give me money or s**t, even when the first thing I said was that I wasn't looking for money, I just wanted to know this faceless name in my life, that I just needed to see how he looked like because most people has that image in their lives and that I didn't care if he won't want to keep on contact. When he finally understood that I'm not that kind of guy, he tried to be "nice" and told me that he couldn't be my father, and that we can be friends (I got frienzoned by father and that's one of the weirdest situations ever), we didn't keep talking too much time, I changed my phone number and it just felt that he never ever would be able to care, he just had his life outside, my mom was the "other" and I was product of his treason to his wife and my mom, I respected her more after that, I understood that she always wanted to protect my mind of bad thoughts against anyone, that she sacrificed so much even when it was the most difficult, and if sometimes we disagree on something, I must respect her even more, she did everything at her reach to give me a nice childhood. Even then, I don't hate my father, I know that if sometime he needs me, I'll be there, he's a sad man that failed a lot of people that he loved and he chose to never face the consequences, carrying with the guilt over his shoulders.
Same here!!Even though my dad drinks a lot&perfers that over his kids.. Sometimes i wish he could just stop&care for us.Paying the bills&sharing a laugh every now&then doesn't make him a father..):
this fits my life i dont know my dad and i havent seen my mom in years they abandoned me when i was 1 years old but unlike some people i would really like to know them but i never will they didnt want me then or now but no matter what i will love them even if they dont love me back i just wish i could see them all my 2 sisters mom and dad i never will but i guess im fine with it for now at least i hope you all get to see your familys i wish you all the best
When i was born my dad said I wasn't his. When I was 9, i could sort of care for myself in a way he wanted to be part of my life again. I was aloud to see him alone for only about 1 hour a day because he did have some issues. He messed up and I havnt seen him since then. I cried for a really long time. I found him on facebook but when he knew that I wouldn't believe the stupid stuff that he was telling me he wanted absolutly nothing to do with me. I hate saying it but I miss him. Is that normal?
My son identifies with this song. He has photos and memories and pain. Meanwhile, his birth dad lives a double life (pretending his first child never occurred and has stated “I’ve never hurt my son.” As if he’s qualified to make that determination.)
i miss my daddy!!!!!! he left when i was a baby cause my mom and him werent married n shit.. never hear from him for 14 (almost) 15 years..then.. a few weeks ago i find out he died...heart attack..
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Been listening to sum41 for over 10 years now, their tracks and lyrics have taught me so much in a way they were like a father/older brothers figure to me.
I always knew my dad and sometimes he was home but still it was like he was never there. To this day, he never changed. He is still the same man I never really >>knew
Diego Neuskens same bro kinda. My parents are still married but up until I was like 16 he couldnt give two shits about my life. Luckily my mom convinced him to change
@@theironflash-guy3672 I'm happy to say that now we see each other regularly and I see that he cares about me. I only have God to thank for. I'm finally getting to feel like I have a dad ♥_♥ makes me sad, though, that so many people still live feeling abandoned by the one who should've never abandoned them :/
@@theironflash-guy3672 same. as soon as I turned 16 he started caring all of a sudden and spending time with me
My Dad was in my life off and on since I was 10. I'm 25 now and have 2 beautiful little girls. Once I had my kids, he was around for a while, but... pulled the same old stuff and ditched them too. My oldest daughter always ask why her grandpa doesn't like us. He didn't show up to my wedding and I haven't talked to him in 7 months. For those of you who do have good dad's... Cherish them. As I do...My mom!!! Love u mom.
This song and Emotionless by Good Charlotte have been songs i've listened to for years about my father, through all the hurt and anger I felt towards him, never knowing if he cared, where he was , or if he was even alive, but he is and he does care. I missed him so much, and he's proven to me he is one hell of a father and I can't wait to meet him. I love my Father.
sometimes i just have to let him go :( dad its been a hard road without you && how can you sleep at night knowing you abandon me?
Breanna Almazan I feel you. 💔
they sadly dont care
I can't stop comparing this song to my "history" cause my father left my mother and me when he learned that she was pregnant and leave nothing behind him, the most terrible thing is that i learned a month ago, while i searched for him, that he commit a suicide 5 years ago. So, i never see him, never talk to him or other stuff like that, sorry to say all those things but i wanted to say that, despite the fact that i hate complain and sorry, but my English isn't perfect. Thank you if you read this.
That's really sad and awful, man. I'm sorry this was your experience in life. Stay strong.
Thanks dude, this was about a year ago and even if i gived up for around two months, i took my courage and fought this injustice. That kind of stuff that can unforately happen to a lot of us and I wish a lot of courage to the people who are in the same situation. Never give up, life can be beautiful.
It's great that you can stay so optimistic. You are a fighter, not a quitter. Well done, you should be so proud of yourself! :)
I know how painful it is, my dear friend Jessica showed me this video. She never knew her father while the man that was only my father in the strictly biological sense was an alcoholic bully that on the rare occasions that he was actually there did nothing but tell me how worthless I was. I honestly don't know which of the two are worse. At the least I finished college, I was always there for my family and try to be a loving mom and now grandmother. That mean monster died alone and forgotten. Three of his children didn't even go to his funeral. I honestly don't know why I bothered. Now at least I am free of him and pray that you find that peace too. I know that you are or will be a wonderful, loving father. A man that any child would be proud to call Daddy.
you're not alone is this situation. My father left my mother when she was pregnant of me. He didn't car about me. My father sai my mother's friends : she's not my daughter, i don't want to even hear about her. You just can go ahead and let this behind cause if you keep think about that you'll be really lost and depressed, i was because of that and others things ! so good luck to you and hope you'll be fine ! c:
i cry sometimes listening to this since my father left when i was 2 months old.
It's so sad how so many people on this comments can relate to this song (me included).
I do know mine.... but he's a cop who left me with a stupid crazy bitch who raised us with a pedophile stepfather who used to beat us all the time.....
This song and Never There were both about Deryck's father.. He may not have known him, but I imagine he must have been pretty heart broken to not know what it's like to grow up with a father. These are the moments I'm the most thankful. I love you Deryck. We are here for you.
I have a good father thankfully, but I cry to this song most times I hear it. It’s so powerful it gives me chills.
I didnt know my boilogical dad but i did have a man raise me who in my mind an eyes is my blood no matter what. I didnt know i had a different biological dad till i was 16. but the entire time i was growing up i always had this thought in the back of my mind what if my dad isnt my dad. An when my brother was born he looked just like my dad an i would look in the mirror as a little kid an think why dont i look like my dad. I brushed the thought off. But then now i understand why i felt that way all my life. An the day my mom and dad told me i almost felt as if i was looking at a stranger for a min. But eventually i got over it an relized my bio dad never cared for me why should i care if hes not in my life.
That's a really awesome way to look at it.
Oh really? i knew mine.
David Rivera I don't have parents
Same
David Rivera its same like my story😖
That's one thing i just can't understand. How can you have a child and then abandon it...
Tomsedated it happens I spent 21 years without a mother and father and the kids move on to live their lives
I can't either from the second I found out I was going to be a parent I loved my children. There is nothing I would not do for them, now I have grandchildren and I feel just as strongly about them.
Sometimes the mother prevents him from seeing the kid
@@grapefruitm00n then the mom lies about it..... skanks
Men, derrick's mother had him when she was 17
sucks never knowing who my father is he left and never looked back this song reminds me of one thing i never had for once in a life time but I'm proud i made it this far with out you Dad
stay strong bruv
One of my favourite Sum 41's ever, I know it uses basically the same chords as walking Disaster and all the more popular ones, but this uses them much better and with much better lyrics and meaning, it's absolutely wonderful
times like these i find comfort in the net seeing that there are people who share the same pain...
A dedication to the man I would have called 'father'. I'm just fine without you, so thanks for nothing but the DNA you shared and leaving your position open for another, better man to take.
To the one I DO call father (my step dad, should he ever see this). Thanks for everything, even if we don't always see eye-to-eye.
I'm adopted, all I ever knew about my mother is her name. My father is still unknown. Thank you for presenting me this song, showing me i'm not alone in feeling abandoned.
I can relate to this song so much , especially since I never met my biological father , after he hurt my mother during their marriage and her pregnancy with me , then he hurt me when I was 2 years old and my family hasn't seen/heard from him since
My dad left me, and mom last month. I've always had my father in my life. I'm 15. I never knew how much it hurt to be without your dad...
Although I did know my dad I hate his guts because he cheated on my mom and my family leaving me growing up with no one to push me in the right direction no one teaching me the things a father should. my mom always working, multiple stepfathers that r shitty figureheads to look up too. I've had to pretty much raise myself throughout my life and it sucks. It's just like a big empty whole in my life
Like your username.
today im becoming 23, never met my father, he couldnt be bothered to find me. but thank God i had an amazing mum, and i know for sure my life is turning out great its definately because of all her efforts.
This is so sad 😭... when I first listened to it I wanted to start tearing, it just brings back so many memories😞
Honestly,
its sad knowing that people,kids,don't have a mom or a dad.It makes me be really thankful..i've read some of the comments&they just completely broke my heart!For all the moms&dads out there who have to raise a child on their own they should be proud.It's really hard to raise a kid together..let alone by yourself.Everybody out there who has had to grow up without one or both be proud,and know that things happen for a reason&sooner or later they'll turn up for the best.All my love to you
I did meet my father, though he just stopped caring after the divorce. We live in the same city, but he doesn't like my siblings and I to visit him.
It hurts to know that he's so close, yet so far.
Some people change, my dad wasn't there for a large portion of my life and it wasn't until my sister committed suicide that he really stepped up and started being a dad. He wrote me, called me and told me sorry and how much he loved me. Yesterday I received a phone call that my father had a heart attack and I put everything behind me and went to see him and it was amazing. He died today. Sometimes people deserve a second chance and I'm just sorry I realized this too late. Rest in peace, Dad.
I know it's hard at times but always forgive your father before it's too late I did and I'm glad I did I lost my father this year in February didn't know him much but I reached out to him before it was to late.... Keep y'alls heads up my friends
i'll always have troubles with my father, i really dont know him, this song makes me cry, thanks for the quality sum 41
This song hits hard, holy shit….
my dad always act high and mighty. He doesn't wanna listen a word from me
Dear father...I dont know you...and i dont fuckin hope that our paths would cross...but sometimes I asks myself,,"how does it feel to have a father?"...I dont wanna wish for you to come back...but sometimes,,I just wanna know,,just wanna know,,how does it feel...
I am 19 now and haven't heard a word, and believe me I've tried even just for closure. Your father doesn't make you who you are, he only helped make you. YOU do what you do to make you, YOU. Your actions, and life choices make you who you are. Genetic play a role, but ultimately you decide if that roe is a bit part or the lead. :)
holy crap the feels
Well. my dad really never existed as far as I'm concerned
For a 12 year old
Being 19 now and still not remembering what my dad looks like is the hardest p
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You can't do any better than to try and be the best dad you could imagine yourself.
The same thing happened to me and my older brother, it was our step-dad who then bailed when we were 13 and 17 and he'd treat me like a princess no matter what. Anyway my older brother is now the best father(single father at that) I've ever seen and he had the same exact fear as you and still sort of does but he has no reason and you shouldn't either, your past helps you better yourself because you know what life you want your kids not to have.
I cry my eyes out everytime i listen to this song! My father used to abuse me and my mother, then, one day when i was 5 y/o one day he just disappeared and i haven't seen him since.
Up until about 3 weeks ago I had never heard from my dad for my entire life. And then I finally heard from him only to find out that he had full reconstructive surgery and became a woman. So now I have two moms. This song described my life for long, thanks Sum 41, you guys rock...literally 😊
Do you still call your dad dad or by her name
This reminds me of Adam's Song by Blink 182
i have the luck to know and love my dad, but it makes me really sad that so many people didn't get the chance to know their father...
No one asked you
lived without knowing my dad until he called me and wished me happy 15th birthday. I'm going to be 19 this year, and as memorable as that day is, he's still a face with a name to me. love this song.
I relate... This song makes me cry and not many songs can do that.
This, and Cancer by MCR are the only songs that can make me cry.
My father was always at work when I was younger and when he wasn't my mother wanted all of his attention and he was so exhausted and tired. I knew simple things about him and loved him of course because he'd try his best to give me some time of his day, whether it's teaching me to cook pizza or jello and go on small rides with him into town but he was nothing more of really an acquaintance, as I knew little to nothing about him and I realized that when I actually wanted to start getting people things for Christmas or their birthdays. But then as I got older, per say around 10, I got to start working with him doing pools in the summer and I felt better, I got to know more about him, he's taught me a lot more because I could be with him at work. He's a good dad and I can't blame him for unintentionally neglecting me as a child.
I relate deeply and it hurts my heart. This has been my life.
If you hate him that much, you've probably spent 100% of your life trying not to be like him. I have faith that you'd not only be a good dad but probably the very best, because you know what the abuse is like, you wouldn't wish it on anyone else ever... I understand your pain,It's those of us who have been through hell that tend to be the best of people. You're going to be a great dad, don't be afraid, just do your best
As much as I could never forgive my father for leaving my brother and I, I cant help but admit that I miss him like hell. This song leaves me in tears and this is the only place I can admit it...
+Zak Smith Hey c'mon, you're worth more than that mate :) Don't give the attention he never gave to you. don't get haunted by the shadow of someone ^^ As for me, he left me at the age of 5 after beating up my mum (who got a rlly rlly RLLY bad health after that) and.. I first thought I missed him. Now I know if he comes I would just punch him straight up in the face. It's not even cuz of my mum, I think it's a decision I made after all this time ^^
Don't put a tear on your face for someone who wouldn't even move the little finger for ya ^^ Try to get up from this, and take good care of the rest of your familly who cares. And take the time you'd have with your father to have more fun with your friends or to do what you like ^^ -
+Zak Smith Hey c'mon, you're worth more than that mate :) Don't give the attention he never gave to you. don't get haunted by the shadow of someone ^^ As for me, he left me at the age of 5 after beating up my mum (who got a rlly rlly RLLY bad health after that) and.. I first thought I missed him. Now I know if he comes I would just punch him straight up in the face. It's not even cuz of my mum, I think it's a decision I made after all this time ^^
Don't put a tear on your face for someone who wouldn't even move the little finger for ya ^^ Try to get up from this, and take good care of the rest of your familly who cares. And take the time you'd have with your father to have more fun with your friends or to do what you like ^^ -
+MsCrasto absolutely agree.
Am I the only one that admits I cant relate to the song but it's still a great song.
Me too. So sad to read everyone else's stories
I can't relate but any song like this is awesome. It's always good to hear a song every now and then that has such a big meaning like this song.
Those days sitting in my room listening to Sum 41 and Avril Lavigne 2007 all day😭😭😭😍 still here in 2021 this song is so sad…
Hehe, its my Bio-father's theme song xD!
Same.
Mine too
i'm lucky of having a father like my father...
awesome quality good lyrics thanks so much for this
You're not the only one. There's god know how many people that can relate to this,
best song to describe me and my father's relationship.
My dad left when I was 2. I’m 31 now. I’ve never seen him again. I know his Facebook account and I always look at it from time to time. I’ve always wanted to reach out but I’ve never worked up the courage 😔 So I continue to watch in the shadows
Go talk to him. You may regret it when the day comes that you can't.
Even if it's just to ask him why.
HOW HAVE I NOT HEARD THIS SONG ITS SO GOOD (and sad :'( )
I went to see my father oon fathers day last year for the first time. He lived ten blocks away, I doubt he knew that, but went to wish him a happy fathers day but when I asked if he himself was there he said"no" I walked away and then decided to wish him a happy fathers day because I forgot. The his wife came out and told me that if wanted to contact me he would have done soalready. Wheww, don't have to think about what could have been, I can live my life without him happy. cantmisswhatUneverhad
10 years without you is not enough... I can wait much more longer... I Love MY FATHER. Not you man who's left me and mom 10 years ago...
this song really makes me sad because my dad left when I was 2 and came back 2 months ago saying he was a better person and surprisingly I believed him, he didn't change at all not one bit, hurt my mom,brother and me by leaving again. im going to sing this at my talent show just to see if he has the tinyest bit of a heart. but who gives a fuck anyway
I love this song! This fits EXACTLY with my life. I've never even met my dad, my mom threw him out before I was born. He used to send me gifts and stuff for Christmas because his girlfriend at the time made him, but he always signed my name wrong. He doesn't even know my real name! He was a horrible man. I'm not sad about it, though. I'm glad my mom was strong enough to kick him out so I didn't have to feel that pain. But you know, still... a dad would've been cool. But I'm okay, we all are. :)
This song tears me apart cause I relate
My dad took off on my mom before I was even born and got some other girl in the same town pregnant 3 months later. He took off on her too. I finally met my half brother when I was 14 and my dad when I was 15. I still talk to him once in a while but he's no where near the father I wanted or deserve. But I'm extremely thankful that I had a mom who was able to be there through everything and love me always. Who needs a dad when you got a great mom like that :D
I love this song 🤗🙂😉
My dad was in my life for about 7 years, then he randomly left, got into cocaine & ended up overdosing, I wonder if it was ever worth it. R.I.P.
Hits harder on Father’s Day.
I know I shouldn't cry because of this song but, Oh my God...This just broke the dam that I had built up to protect myself from all the shit my father had put my whole family through. I wish he was complete unknown so I could have this wonderful idea of him but...He screwed me over.
My Dad Left when i was 3 years old came back and then left again on my 5th birthday i have no true memory of him but the small bits i can remember are all good. im sure others feel the same as me and are wondering why it was to them, and i want to let them know i am here to talk to everyone of them no matter who you are and it is best to stay strong, i didnt take the help and i didnt stay strong im now 16 and i am not over something i never new i think its about time people new what it was like.
Hugs for everyone who can relate to this song. I'm lucky to have both parents.
great song...
soooooooo many ppl can relate....
Self-awareness can do amazing things. It's pretty awesome that you've come this far. Judging solely from this comment, I think you're better prepared for fatherhood than your dad was.
my parents died in a car accident when I was little.... if anyone has a kid out there who knows they aren't present in their life.... go be a parent, they want you to be their mommy or daddy! I would give anything to have my parents with me right now.
A Reason Why I Love This Song Is Because He Said All The Words I Wish I Could Have Said To My Dad.But I'm Glad Because If He Stayed I Wouldn't Be Who I am Today And I Wouldn't Have All The Things I Have So I'm Kinda Glad I Never Met Him. But Because Of This I Wanna Have Kids And Be There And Be The Father I Never Had.
Best thing ive heard/but really read today! ^^
I feel bad for my friend, she's a wonderful girl yet her dad left her mother for another and doesn't wish her happy birthday or anything for the last 4 years
It reminds me of Ginger's dad from the show As Told By Ginger.
i address this letter to dear father, i know you as complete unknown...
This goes out to my father who now wants to see me after 15 years of not caring
Same thing about me, it was hard living in the same place as your dad when your mom and dad argues and have different friends and circles of influence..
thats why I moved to the city..
beautiful song
Holy Crap!! This is such a good song!!
Honestly, I can relate and a lot of other people can too. But it’s with my mom, being mentally abused, forced to not cry, harassing me, threatening me, starving me, beating me, and she blames me for how I grew up.
Penak poll. Rapuhhh
My father is terrible as well, and I've known people growing up with that same fear. but I assure you, it will be the opposite. As someone that's gone through it, you'll know exactly what not to do, and I imagine you'd rather die than put your children through what you went through. That's how it is with me.
My dad left when i was 2. I'm 16 now.
I haven't even heard or seen him since then.
It really hurts seeing other girls with their dad, knowing i'll never have that.
this makes me think of my dad. 12 years and not a trace of him.
I find that families sometimes are just not able to care & love their offspring the way the child needs it. The parents think they are doing what's best, for some that's being absent. A lot of men don't have the rights & access to fight for custody. A lot of men are also told to stay away or are just not informed they have a child. It still sucks being the kid no one loves though. 💚💜💚
i've had a loving a family but i love this song.
Same thing here :)
i can relate. my dad left when i was younger.
I love this song with all my heart
sum182-story of a lonely father
Underclass Hero and Does This Look Infected were both so different yet in my opinion were the best
Fantastic song
@AlanasBlackParadeCx My dad left when I was 15 too, so I know what your going through. That was 9 years ago. It sucks cause it still hurts. He passed away almost 4 years ago now, and his last 3 months, we talked things out and made peace, but I still never felt the same towards him. Stay strong and things will get better through time, believe me, it will. Others are there for you. Friends and family.
Mom always told me nice things about my father, she never blamed him of anything, she just said it was all because of the wrong circumstances, I knew my father when I turned 25, I found him and reached to him, he told me to meet over in a mall, he was all defensive, he told me that he won't give me money or s**t, even when the first thing I said was that I wasn't looking for money, I just wanted to know this faceless name in my life, that I just needed to see how he looked like because most people has that image in their lives and that I didn't care if he won't want to keep on contact. When he finally understood that I'm not that kind of guy, he tried to be "nice" and told me that he couldn't be my father, and that we can be friends (I got frienzoned by father and that's one of the weirdest situations ever), we didn't keep talking too much time, I changed my phone number and it just felt that he never ever would be able to care, he just had his life outside, my mom was the "other" and I was product of his treason to his wife and my mom, I respected her more after that, I understood that she always wanted to protect my mind of bad thoughts against anyone, that she sacrificed so much even when it was the most difficult, and if sometimes we disagree on something, I must respect her even more, she did everything at her reach to give me a nice childhood.
Even then, I don't hate my father, I know that if sometime he needs me, I'll be there, he's a sad man that failed a lot of people that he loved and he chose to never face the consequences, carrying with the guilt over his shoulders.
Since i was born, i haven’t seen him 😂
Stay strong dude :D
Same here!!Even though my dad drinks a lot&perfers that over his kids..
Sometimes i wish he could just stop&care for us.Paying the bills&sharing a laugh every now&then doesn't make him a father..):
lol the username at the end of the song made the moment a little more happier.
;)
Exactly same story for me and my sister. I can relate.
this fits my life i dont know my dad and i havent seen my mom in years they abandoned me when i was 1 years old but unlike some people i would really like to know them but i never will they didnt want me then or now but no matter what i will love them even if they dont love me back i just wish i could see them all my 2 sisters mom and dad i never will but i guess im fine with it for now at least i hope you all get to see your familys i wish you all the best
When i was born my dad said I wasn't his. When I was 9, i could sort of care for myself in a way he wanted to be part of my life again. I was aloud to see him alone for only about 1 hour a day because he did have some issues. He messed up and I havnt seen him since then. I cried for a really long time. I found him on facebook but when he knew that I wouldn't believe the stupid stuff that he was telling me he wanted absolutly nothing to do with me. I hate saying it but I miss him. Is that normal?
My son identifies with this song. He has photos and memories and pain. Meanwhile, his birth dad lives a double life (pretending his first child never occurred and has stated “I’ve never hurt my son.” As if he’s qualified to make that determination.)
i miss my daddy!!!!!!
he left when i was a baby cause my mom and him werent married n shit..
never hear from him for 14 (almost) 15 years..then.. a few weeks ago i find out he died...heart attack..