As someone who grew up with 2 abusive birth parents, she may have missed out on years of dysfunction and trauma. Though I understand her need to know where she came from, she is very blessed to have loving adoptive parents. Sometimes, what we see as a bad thing can actually be a blessing in disguise. Wish her well!
I think it's probably easier for us who were raised in toxic environments by parents who didn't care but us to see it this way. So many times I would have preferred to have adoptive parents who really love me, rather than biological ones who didn't. But I now understand that everything that happened in my life was part of my path. I have learned from everything. And I'm okay. I survived and I have grown so much through the process. I love myself and I know my value, even if others don't.
And god bless her birth parents….although the mom obviously hid her pregnancy she took care of herself and had a healthy baby. Plus they left her in a safe place. I can only image how many babies with teenage mothers are buried “in the backyard”. They loved her.
I was adopted..I was born in a college dorm room in University of Seattle. And my birth mother abandoned me when we went over to the hospital. I tried to find her, but couldn’t. But God is so good bc I was adopted into an amazing family and have 3 other adoptive siblings!!! God Bless You All!!!
You look mixed, which may explain why your mother abandoned you, in a college dorm because your father was black. However, it turned out great for you, and that is wonderful 🙂🙏🏾
@@lani1life👈 She must stick forever with her adoptive parents and forget the bio parents bcz they just threw her like garbage and if I was in her place I’d never go looking for them bcz this girl rcvd every love attention respect from adoptive parents, huge salute to the elderly adoptive parents . God bless them . Now that she has a kid of her own I wonder where’s that kids father
Hallelujah. What a blessing to hv been adopted by Mr. & Mrs. Smith. She loves them and she knows they love her. Knowing your biological heritage info could mean finding out about issues that are crucial. In particular, suppose she needed a bone marrow or kidney transplant, or a rare blood type transfusion? Biological family members would be the first ones tapped to help.
@ygpwnxd_XD Hallelujah. What a blessing to hv been adopted by Mr. & Mrs. Smith. She loves them and she knows they love her. Knowing your biological heritage info could mean finding out about issues that are crucial. In particular, suppose she needed a bone marrow or kidney transplant, or a rare blood type transfusion? Biological family members would be the first ones tapped to help.
No. I'd say it's the ppl who were THERE for you. Your parents could have housed clothed and fed you but weren't emotionally intuned to & with you. Others become the family that you never had.
You are absolutely right. I gave mine up for adoption because I could not support them at the time. Part of me died when I gave them up to be adopted. I had gone out of my way to see them but they do not accept me as their biological mother. I respect their decision and told them I will always love them no matter what. To this day I mourn their absence.
I know she found her birth contributors, but her parents are the ones who raised her with love. The title parent is earned through years of love and great sacrifice 🌹
For some it's important to learn where they come from. She was certainly blessed with loving parents who supported her in learning the story of her first days.
@@reneetuer3525 not really. I’m adopted. I know who I am because my adopted parents gave me that sense of worth. How many of us are born to biological families and never figure out who they are? She blessed beyond belief.
@@tonisumblin2719 I apologize and I am going to edit my comment to "for some of us". I am happy you were blessed with loving parents, and they were certainly blessed with a loving child. This woman was very blessed as well, unfortunately many children are with birth parents who are not equipped to be parents. Again, my apologies.
@@reneetuer3525 No need to apologize. I totally understood your point and you are So right. I absolutely agree with you. It’s just that I feel so blessed to have had a wonderful, loving family. And the best part is that my adopted parents always told me I blessed their lives. This is Real love. They are both gone now and I miss them terribly. And when I see how some parents treat their children I think of what they are missing.
@KingofGrace It's both. Plus, you should know who you're related to so you don't date or marry them. Imagine being in a relationship with your bio brother. 🤮
I grew up without my father and after learning about some of the horrible things he did to my half-sisters I thanked my lucky stars for not having him in my life. Sometimes less is more.🦋
Unfortunately I can relate to you. I grow up without my father and some of the things my half brother shared growing up with him were very disturbing 💔
For what it’s worth, The fact that her bio parents left her on a doorstep to me means that they were really scared and loved her enough to not harm her.
Yes but imagine if it was u ? That empty feeling is real bc I was abandoned by my mother too and I had a ton of love showed to me but it felt empty and I knew who she was imagine not even knowing
@@ABreakWithDawn actually her biological parents saved her. Her birth mom took care of herself (even though she hid the pregnancy) in order to have a healthy baby. Plus her parents left her someone safe knowing that newborns are a hot commodity for adaption. I’m sure they were meticulous about the place they chose.
Thank YOU~ I couldn't agree more! I feel so bad for the daughter that her adoptive mother made her feel "less than" bc her birth mother gave her away, instead of throwing her into a dumpster like so many thousands of newborns are every year. She could've helped her feel special & treasured, but chose to make it a negative. This a very tragic.
Or, she could have used birth control like somebody who is not an idiot. Luckily, the daughter was adopted. But what if she had just been in foster care, or had died from exposure?
Her Mother chose abandonment for her. You don't bring a child into this world only to abandon them. That child could have died or fallen into the wrong hands...even an animal could have harmed the child.
I grew up in foster care from age 13 up to college. My story had a happy ending. My mom got herself better and I found my dad in my 30's. I held on to hope for my family to be restored and it happened 🙏 If you have a void in your heart from childhood I pray for your strength and encouragement to keep moving and live your life with purpose.
I found my father in 2008 when I was 56 years old and he was 75. He died in 2013. It meant everything to me to get to know him and develop a relationship with him. We had almost five years before his passing in 2013. I actually wrote a book about growing up without him and the path to finding him.
@Starr Kelsey An internet search that I paid for and executed myself. The search rendered his address, phone number, and an aerial view of the home he was living in, which was kind of scary. I opted to write to him and he actually called me when he received my letter.
I went through HELL to find my birth mother..then HELL after finding her, she did not even like me or want me as an adult..but then, I realized how much my adoptive mom is my REAL MOM..this lady in the video, her adoptive mom is her REAL mom..
This is how I fear it will be with my kid's dad. He left when they were babies, never cared for them, threatened us if I ever went after him for child support.. lived near poverty as a single mom to 2 kids and no financial help. My son always asks about his dad. I told him that he's mean and will probably never agree to have a relationship with him. I know in my heart, he'll just break my kid's hearts all over again. I understand their desire to know their dad, I would too if I were them. Just wish they could forget about his existence so he can't hurt us all over again.
I'm from Jacksonville. This is my first time hearing of this story. I'm glad she found her relatives. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Also happy to know she was raised by great people.
I'm glad she found them. I had two miscarriages in my 30's. My husband and I eventually divorced. Now heading into my 70's single and childless, I cry not having had a chance to meet my children. I wish the very best to this young woman and her son.
I was adopted. Jamaican like this girls mom. I always knew. I was told it was a great act of love on the part of my birth mother. I never felt empty, only loved by my family. Certainly, I wouldn't have searched for anyone who had abandoned me on a doorstep. But to each his own and each story is personal.
Unfortunately, the birth mom is probably really worried about criminal charges coming her way if she gets discovered, so it’s not surprising to me that she was in denial about leaving her daughter at the doorstep of a strangers apartment! Thank God it was a decent stranger that called the cops and she ended up getting adopted by awesome parents.. especially her mom! I love how supportive she was about her daughter finding her birth parents! It’s a lot of adoptive parents’ worst nightmare to face the whole “finding my real parents” issue. She handled it beautifully
who knows who is on the other side of the door or if they'll even open it. they have baby safe havens in police depts and fire stations. this is child abuse.
He has nothing to lose! Her parents are thinking about themselves and how it will look in the eyes of the public and their families. Their shame is great!!
@@jenniferjemison636 or they just figured that they gave her to some nice people and they don’t understand why they got hunted down. They probably want to keep the past in the past.
Yes we are very excited to meet our grand niece (Aniya) and great grand nephew ( Zion). We are planning to fly her to St.Louis 2024 . As you stated when I had a chance to speak with Anita's mother she was terrified of being arrested, I did explain to her that all would be OK as I also thought the statues of limitations was exhausted but that didn't ease her fears.
I'm adopted and I am more grateful for my adoptive family more than questions for my birth parents honestly. But I do understand her desire for information.
The last thing she said about being ready for the real emotions- is so true. I'm adopted. Ive always known im adopted. I fantasized about my birth mother through out my childhood. I always knew I would look for her 1 day, and was so nervous, and happy and anxious when the day finally came. It was a good meeting, but I never imagined the guilt I would feel.....This woman I had searched for in my dreams, and as an adult spent 8 months trying to find- and when I met her and heard her story. She was 17 when she had me. Her very Catholic parents sent her away to hide her pregnancy. She lived with nuns till she had me. She didn't want to give me up. but she had no support. When she came home, no one talked about me. She had to grieve in silence, it broke my heart....but I felt so guilty- she went through so much....but I felt guilty, because I love my mother who raised me so much, and I don't think i could love my birth mother the same way or even close. It still weighs on me 10 years after finding her....be prepared for anything when you find your birth family~
You will understand her love for you..and be able to share in that love..with her..without fear of diminishing or taking away from the love of your adoptive mom..However, you will only be able to come to a peace with loving your birth mom in another place and time. It might not happen while you are here on this earth..but it WILL happen....only this will occur for you both.. on the other side of the veil..All primal wounds will be made whole there..In Heaven. No love is divided there..only multiplied.
One thing good about love is that it's never depleted, you never run out.. You don't need to categorize the kind of love for your birth mother.. Just love her as a human being that you came out of. Love freely and it will find the place that it belongs.
I’m so touched by your story. In spite of being abandoned by your birth parents, you have become a strong, independent, and beautiful person. And by the big smile on your sons face, it’s obvious you’re a wonderful mother. So glad to hear so many of your related family members are stepping up to welcome you into their circle. And your “true” mom and dad are the parents that chose you and raised such a wonderful daughter. Many blessings to you and your son.
I was adopted at birth, and now I regret ever meeting my biological family. I should have never allowed those doors to open up, I should have just stayed with my adopted family. The ones that loved ND raised me. If I could change time, I would tell my younger self that it isn't worth losing the family that you have.
@@sayheyydashhI’m so sorry they weren’t accepting of you. I’m super happy for you that at least you have that amazing mama that you have. I know it’s not the same as the real deal but I’m happy that at least got to meet them and find out how they truly are. I pray that eventually you can even have a relationship of some sort with them and pray that it’s an amazing ending. I’m sure happy that you seem to have an amazing uncle at least. Sending much love, peace and comfort.
@@sayheyydashh you’re welcome. You’re absolutely beautiful inside and out. Don’t let nobody take away your shine or your beautiful smile that you have.
I appreciate that the adoptive parents are supportive of her finding her biological family. As an adoptive parent it’s really hard to think about my kids birth parents who lost them under horrible circumstances. We have to respect that our kids may want to get answers and reach out to their birth parents. We have to have respect for the whole process because we love our kids.
She looks just like she did as a baby. Very beautiful woman. So sorry for the pain she still carries. When I was pregnant i thought about doing the same thing because I was terrified and feeling like I was incapable of being a good mom. Luckily I kept her. She's 2 months now and growing beautifully
I’m so happy she was able to find her birth parents and get the closure she needed. Finding out you have siblings and being able to, finally, connect is an amazing feeling. God bless her, her family and those AWESOME adoptive parents.❤️
Stuff like this is why I keep going as a mother no matter how much I ever want to break down or give up because I would never forgive myself if I made my daughter feels that way. Just give that woman answers she deserves that much
I am happy she has found a sense of peace about who she is, and her adoptive parents appear to be great people. I hope they each find forgiveness & grace through their continued familial processes, it can't be easy for any of them. Humans can make awful decisions especially early in life; being teenagers who knows what their own lives were missing or like. Thank goodness someone found her in time. Had a mentee who was abandoned in the garbage as a newborn; took years of real work to overcome the trauma from such an abandonment. 🥺 Such stories can emphasize the maternal while the existence of the paternal is equally crucial to healing. Having myself been raised by an orphaned Father who lost both his parents early in life, he was the most significant influence in my own life. Hopefully young people in similar situations find that there are acceptable ways to be responsible even though they themselves are overwhelmed. 🖤
Her biological mother did the best she could. She wanted to give her child a chance she knew she couldn’t give her. It seems like the adoptive mother is a wonderful lady, so this was indeed a blessing to and for her.
No. They have safe harbor locations just for this purpose. Those places existed when she was born. The mother left that baby on a cold apartment doorstep in January after midnight. The infant wasn't found until like 3am. If the biological mother loved her baby she wouldn't have hid her pregnancy from her family and abandoned her baby hours later. 18 year olds were having babies in 1992, it wasn't a huge taboo then. I mean an apartment complex? You can walk into any hospital or fire department and surrender a child newborn to two years old. I agree with you that she hit the adoptive parents jackpot however. This young lady deserves so much more than the sad lonely start, her life began on a doorstep.
SHE HAS PARENTS WHO LOVE HER ! GOD PLACED THIS BEAUTIFUL FAMILY WHO LOVED HER UNCONDITIONALY. HER MOTHER IS THE WOMAN WHO RAISED HER AND THOSE ARE HER FAMILY. BLESSINGS TO HER FAMILY WHO RAISED HER THEY ARE HER FAMILY 👪 ❤️
I was abandoned in a Sears store in 1963. I love my adopted family but I want to find my birth family. I did Ancestry too and have found distant cousins but no one knows who could be my birth mother. I feel totally helpless because I have nothing to go on. I'm just trusting God to bring it full circle.
I was adopted at birth. I never got a chance to talk to my birth parents. I totally understand your questions. My DNA test didn't help with my situation. When I was 15, I got pregnant, and my husband and I were forced /threatened by my adoptive mom, and our son was adopted at birth, too. We are now reunited, so don't ever give up looking for the answers you need and deserve to have. My husband and I have been together since I was 15. We have 3 full blooded children. I'm so happy that your adoptive mom is so supportive. My son's adoptive parents are not supportive at all. It's heartbreaking for our son and our daughters. We are rebuilding our family the best we can. It was an amazing day when I was able to hold him for the very first time after 35yrs. Definitely allow yourself to feel everything. Enjoy your extended families. They all love you. Good luck!!!
She was left on the right doorsteps. God does not make mistakes. Such a lovely young lady and such marvelous adopted parents.(think I heard a jamaican accent from the adopted mom).
Little girl. You know that your Mom loved you. She knew she couldn’t give you what needed. You are GOLDEN my love. You have a beautiful son. Your Mom and Dad raised you up well. It looks like you have always had a good life. Bless you, girl. Peace and love to your son Zion. Have fun at your re-union. Hope the best and prepare for the worst. I hope these family members give you what you want. Your parent’s are wonderful to help you find what your looking for. Prayers for all of you that helped this baby grow up into a beautiful worthy woman full of love to share. ❤
I hate how people never understand how adoptees feel about the deep need to know their origins. I see in the comments how she should love her adoptive parents. Who said she doesn't? She can love her adoptive parents AND love her biological parents and extended family. I'm glad her search has ended and her biological family has been welcoming to her.
That's why many people don't adopt. It is ungrateful situation If your mother didn't want you, why look for her. I am.hapoy when the woman who gives them birth doesn't welcome them. I feel so disappointed that she is calling her mother. She doesn't deserve that title. I called those type of women surrogates
The adopted mother sounds Jamaican ❤️🇯🇲...my love, you are in great hands. Such a grounded, strict, pure, wholesome, loving Jamaican mums. The absolute best, happy that you were taken care of and that you got to reunite with your extended family👌
I'm glad she was raised by great adoptive parents. I put no blame or guilt on her biological parents. You never know what people are going through mentally. God bless them all.💕
I am so glad this babygirl found the answers she was searching for. May God bless her and all of her family, and bring hope and healing upon them. May the fruits of her search bring a bounty of love and peace, and open up her life to more than she ever dreamed of. May her table always be full, and may she always prosper. God bless them all! God bless all of you too! Peace!
I have empathy for her...I also have respect for her birth parent or parents because they "LOVED" her enough to leave her where she could be found!!! A "GOOD" or "GREAT" PARENT is knowing when you "NEED HELP"!!! I HOPE THE YOUNG LADY COILD FORGIVE THEM!!!
Wooow this is such a touching story I can't imagine what emotions she's felt over the yrs. The fact that her parents gave her the gift of finding her biological parents is amazing. Bless her and her family ❤🙏
“I am not what happened to me. I am who I choose to become” I heard this quote many years ago. It applies to all of us. In this situation I can certainly understand this young lady. My biological mother did the same. This lady and so many of us adopted children have one thing in common. Love. I hope she finds her truth, as her adopted parents found their truth when the chose to claim her as their own. When it all comes down to it, nothing is stronger than love.
I love her mama. Both of them. One that gave her up ended up giving a gift to a mama that needed it❤ and what a good mama she has seemed to be. God Bless all of them.
So happy for you Aniya! I have been searching for my birth father and two older brothers for 35 years, so far no luck but your story inspires me to keep searching.
I grew up with my biological mother who abused me mentally, physically and financially my whole life. I am in my 40ties and she is still trying to destroy me. I often wished I would of been adopted by a caring and loving mother, instead of having to deal with my evil abusive biological mother.
Let her enjoy finding her family! You have no idea how it feels to wonder who you look like, why you think the way you do, where you came from..etc. Of course she loves the people who raised her! Stop trying to guilt trip her!!! If you can't relate, YOU can't relate...
She loves her birth parents and they were the ones who gave her the gift of finding her biological parents, as a human you can't help but to imagine about your family and why you were abandoned.
What a lovely young woman. I'm so glad that she was raised by her adopted parents. She's obviously loved deeply by them and I'm glad she got the answers she needed.
I’m so glad that she got adopted by such a wonderful family. She grew up to be a beautiful young lady with a lot of determination and I’m sure much more. I’m truly glad that her birth parents left her on that doorstep and that she was found because you so often hear in the news about newborns being thrown out windows and into the garbage and so many other horrible things. I mean a fire station or hospital would have been better but I’m sure they were terrified. I’m so glad she found them and I hope her and her son meet them and develop a beautiful bond with all of them and I hope that she gets all the answers that she’s been searching for all these years.
@@sayheyydashh omg!!! Nice to meet you 🤗 What a wonderful story in the sense of having such loving adoptive parents, finding your birth family, and having an Angel researcher that became like a sister🙌🏽🥰💕 Wishing you all the best 😘
When you become older and mature enough to understand always be thankful that you were dropped off or given up(abandoned) to someone because now days sooooo many babies are thrown in the dumpster or murdered by their own birth parents. Thank them for allowing you to make it. I can understand and well enough to speak on it because I've been there.
There is huge shame involved in this, so guess that is why the parents don't want to admit to their mistake. God loving people who do not want to be noted for being 'tarnished' in the eye of a community. Instead of embracing it and admitting a moment of weakness. We have so many people like this in our society which, damaged people not forgiving themselves or who cannot admit they possibly made a mistake. Bless her and let us hope she can build a relation with her extended family now. x
You've got a very loving Mother 😊 You are blessed with a loving family. I would say your Mom is with you right now. And has been since the day she first saw you !😊❤ I understand the need to know .
As someone who grew up with 2 abusive birth parents, she may have missed out on years of dysfunction and trauma. Though I understand her need to know where she came from, she is very blessed to have loving adoptive parents. Sometimes, what we see as a bad thing can actually be a blessing in disguise. Wish her well!
So True!
So glad you made it through! Blessings. And you are correct. She was blessed with loving adoptive parents!🙏🏾
I think it's probably easier for us who were raised in toxic environments by parents who didn't care but us to see it this way. So many times I would have preferred to have adoptive parents who really love me, rather than biological ones who didn't. But I now understand that everything that happened in my life was part of my path. I have learned from everything. And I'm okay. I survived and I have grown so much through the process. I love myself and I know my value, even if others don't.
Girl, what! I too grew up with abusive, very toxic parents, and longed to be raised by other people. Her journey was indeed a blessing.
Well said 👏 life is a test I am sorry to hear that sis
God bless those adoptive parents. They are true heros.
Yes those are the heroes!
Right!? Her adoptive mother seems absolutely lovely. What a beautiful soul to speak of having the daughter that she had always wanted❣️❣️
Truly! What wonderful people!
Yes, her adoptive parents are the real heroes. They loved and took care of her. 👏🏾
And god bless her birth parents….although the mom obviously hid her pregnancy she took care of herself and had a healthy baby. Plus they left her in a safe place. I can only image how many babies with teenage mothers are buried “in the backyard”. They loved her.
I was adopted..I was born in a college dorm room in University of Seattle. And my birth mother abandoned me when we went over to the hospital.
I tried to find her, but couldn’t.
But God is so good bc I was adopted into an amazing family and have 3 other adoptive siblings!!!
God Bless You All!!!
I live in Seattle! That’s insane! I hope you’ve live a beautiful life!
You look mixed, which may explain why your mother abandoned you, in a college dorm because your father was black. However, it turned out great for you, and that is wonderful 🙂🙏🏾
If you really want to find them you can get a DNA test that searches family lines and do it that way
If You let the Leah Lipps phenotype suck you up you will become aware.
Ir shouldn't be hard to find her. Get the names of the people who luved in the dorms. Start from there.
Her family is the parents that raised her. You can tell that woman really loves her. She owes her endless gratitude.
I so agree. I hope she realizes this and never turns her back on them. I pray that she develops healthy bonds with her birth family as well.
@@lani1life👈 She must stick forever with her adoptive parents and forget the bio parents bcz they just threw her like garbage and if I was in her place I’d never go looking for them bcz this girl rcvd every love attention respect from adoptive parents, huge salute to the elderly adoptive parents .
God bless them . Now that she has a kid of her own I wonder where’s that kids father
@@ygpwnxd_xd752 I asked the same question; is she raising her own child without a father? The world is so twisted nowadays.
Hallelujah. What a blessing to hv been adopted by Mr. & Mrs. Smith. She loves them and she knows they love her. Knowing your biological heritage info could mean finding out about issues that are crucial. In particular, suppose she needed a bone marrow or kidney transplant, or a rare blood type transfusion? Biological family members would be the first ones tapped to help.
@ygpwnxd_XD Hallelujah. What a blessing to hv been adopted by Mr. & Mrs. Smith. She loves them and she knows they love her. Knowing your biological heritage info could mean finding out about issues that are crucial. In particular, suppose she needed a bone marrow or kidney transplant, or a rare blood type transfusion? Biological family members would be the first ones tapped to help.
Her adoptive mother seems incredible, what a sweet and loving woman ❤️
You can share the same blood but your family are the people who raise you.
That bond can never be broken.
You are soooooooo correct
No. I'd say it's the ppl who were THERE for you. Your parents could have housed clothed and fed you but weren't emotionally intuned to & with you. Others become the family that you never had.
Exactly. As an adopted person I can attest to that. Love bonds are often stronger than blood bonds.
You are absolutely right. I gave mine up for adoption because I could not support them at the time. Part of me died when I gave them up to be adopted. I had gone out of my way to see them but they do not accept me as their biological mother. I respect their decision and told them I will always love them no matter what. To this day I mourn their absence.
Right.
I know she found her birth contributors, but her parents are the ones who raised her with love. The title parent is earned through years of love and great sacrifice 🌹
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I Agree Completely 👍🏽.
YES!!!!
btw..I like the term "birth contributors"
Well said, 👍💗
She ended up exactly where she was supposed to. Her path was meant to happen the way it did. She is blessed beyond measure.
For some it's important to learn where they come from. She was certainly blessed with loving parents who supported her in learning the story of her first days.
@@reneetuer3525 not really. I’m adopted. I know who I am because my adopted parents gave me that sense of worth. How many of us are born to biological families and never figure out who they are? She blessed beyond belief.
@@tonisumblin2719 I apologize and I am going to edit my comment to "for some of us". I am happy you were blessed with loving parents, and they were certainly blessed with a loving child. This woman was very blessed as well, unfortunately many children are with birth parents who are not equipped to be parents. Again, my apologies.
@@reneetuer3525 No need to apologize. I totally understood your point and you are So right. I absolutely agree with you. It’s just that I feel so blessed to have had a wonderful, loving family. And the best part is that my adopted parents always told me I blessed their lives. This is Real love. They are both gone now and I miss them terribly. And when I see how some parents treat their children I think of what they are missing.
You are right noting don't happen because of a reason guess she ate blessed
One of the saddest things about this is not knowing your medical history. People don't realize how important that is.
Yes so true
Kinda. I mean I'm pushing 70 and my family's medical history hasn't really been a significant factor AND I survived cancer.
Is it the medical history or not understanding why you were abandoned.
I doubt that’s the saddest thing ..
@KingofGrace It's both. Plus, you should know who you're related to so you don't date or marry them. Imagine being in a relationship with your bio brother. 🤮
I grew up without my father and after learning about some of the horrible things he did to my half-sisters I thanked my lucky stars for not having him in my life. Sometimes less is more.🦋
True
Thissssss ❤
Unfortunately I can relate to you. I grow up without my father and some of the things my half brother shared growing up with him were very disturbing 💔
Exactly. Sometimes the grass isn't greener on the other side. It's a reason why she was placed on them steps all those years ago
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You have the mother you were meant to Have! What a wonderful adoptive family!!
Wonderful family no need for adoptive
@@sakurakou2009 you mean biological?
@@shanbanan7414 the one you called adoptive family is her only family, the others are just strangers to her
@@sakurakou2009 the biological strangers left her on the doorstep
@@shanbanan7414 yeah they have no right to be called family or parents
For what it’s worth, The fact that her bio parents left her on a doorstep to me means that they were really scared and loved her enough to not harm her.
Aibo.. What if the girl was dying?
Yes but imagine if it was u ? That empty feeling is real bc I was abandoned by my mother too and I had a ton of love showed to me but it felt empty and I knew who she was imagine not even knowing
umm no
Right. This could have went so many ways, it’s good they didn’t harm her when there’s been so many cases of parents doing that.
Exactly; I feel the same. This could have ended SO much worse… not that this isn’t still bad. It’s still heart wrenching.
She was an absolute gorgeous baby who grew into a very beautiful woman. This is heartbreaking
It is it’s so sad
It maybe heartbreaking but God saved her and her story wasn’t like it began.
@@ABreakWithDawn actually her biological parents saved her. Her birth mom took care of herself (even though she hid the pregnancy) in order to have a healthy baby. Plus her parents left her someone safe knowing that newborns are a hot commodity for adaption. I’m sure they were meticulous about the place they chose.
Agreed, she was an absolute angel as a baby 🥹
@@jennimontalvan I do agree. I could see why her parents fell in love with her.
Her mother chose life for her. What a blessing. She has a fabulous mother who raised her.
Thank YOU~ I couldn't agree more! I feel so bad for the daughter that her adoptive mother made her feel "less than" bc her birth mother gave her away, instead of throwing her into a dumpster like so many thousands of newborns are every year. She could've helped her feel special & treasured, but chose to make it a negative. This a very tragic.
Or, she could have used birth control like somebody who is not an idiot.
Luckily, the daughter was adopted. But what if she had just been in foster care, or had died from exposure?
Her Mother chose abandonment for her. You don't bring a child into this world only to abandon them. That child could have died or fallen into the wrong hands...even an animal could have harmed the child.
@@kevincarpenter2525 👍
Birth control doesn't always work. Many things can interfere with it. Its not 100% effective ever
Bless this woman’s adoptive parents, they raised an amazing person!
Her mom is such a good woman, the way she speaks of her daughter. So happy she ended up with the adoptive parents the has.
I grew up in foster care from age 13 up to college. My story had a happy ending. My mom got herself better and I found my dad in my 30's. I held on to hope for my family to be restored and it happened 🙏 If you have a void in your heart from childhood I pray for your strength and encouragement to keep moving and live your life with purpose.
Agreed. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
Amen.
Yes amen
I found my father in 2008 when I was 56 years old and he was 75. He died in 2013. It meant everything to me to get to know him and develop a relationship with him. We had almost five years before his passing in 2013. I actually wrote a book about growing up without him and the path to finding him.
What is the name of the book?
@@LiLisLounge Healing for My Hurt: A Journey to Wholeness by Cynthia Parker White, Ed. D.
@@cynthiawhite4958 Thank you very much! I will check it out.
How did you find him?
@Starr Kelsey An internet search that I paid for and executed myself. The search rendered his address, phone number, and an aerial view of the home he was living in, which was kind of scary. I opted to write to him and he actually called me when he received my letter.
Look how the mom dressed her up and grew her into a fine person! Go mommy!!!!! 🎉 - her biological family, that 30 year hug is so warming 🤗 ❤
That “I plan on giving her a thirty year hug “ made me smile. How sweet.
Sometimes, so-called family/blood relatives can be your worst nightmare. I'm glad she was adopted by a loving couple.
I went through HELL to find my birth mother..then HELL after finding her, she did not even like me or want me as an adult..but then, I realized how much my adoptive mom is my REAL MOM..this lady in the video, her adoptive mom is her REAL mom..
This happened to a friend. She realized she would have had an alcoholic drug- addicted mother if she hadn’t been adopted by her wonderful family.
This is how it was when I found my bestfriend bio family for her.
@@LilyGazou yes exactly this!!!! It reaffirms that the right choices were made though !!
Why do fathers get a free pass?
This is how I fear it will be with my kid's dad. He left when they were babies, never cared for them, threatened us if I ever went after him for child support.. lived near poverty as a single mom to 2 kids and no financial help. My son always asks about his dad. I told him that he's mean and will probably never agree to have a relationship with him. I know in my heart, he'll just break my kid's hearts all over again. I understand their desire to know their dad, I would too if I were them. Just wish they could forget about his existence so he can't hurt us all over again.
I'm from Jacksonville. This is my first time hearing of this story. I'm glad she found her relatives. 🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾 Also happy to know she was raised by great people.
I'm from Jacksonville Florida to I remember this . I do understand why young people do things like this.
@@AllThingsVon1277 i dont remember this either
Me too, never heard about it.
I'm glad she found them. I had two miscarriages in my 30's. My husband and I eventually divorced. Now heading into my 70's single and childless, I cry not having had a chance to meet my children. I wish the very best to this young woman and her son.
I'm so so sorry. My heart goes out to you. Your 2 sweet babies are in heaven waiting for you one sweet day!
I'm so sorry ❤
Probably you should have adopted a child by yourself. Sorry about your miscarriages.
As much as possible, I know how you feel, and my heart aches for you.
Why not adopt?
I was adopted. Jamaican like this girls mom. I always knew. I was told it was a great act of love on the part of my birth mother. I never felt empty, only loved by my family. Certainly, I wouldn't have searched for anyone who had abandoned me on a doorstep. But to each his own and each story is personal.
Unfortunately, the birth mom is probably really worried about criminal charges coming her way if she gets discovered, so it’s not surprising to me that she was in denial about leaving her daughter at the doorstep of a strangers apartment! Thank God it was a decent stranger that called the cops and she ended up getting adopted by awesome parents.. especially her mom! I love how supportive she was about her daughter finding her birth parents! It’s a lot of adoptive parents’ worst nightmare to face the whole “finding my real parents” issue. She handled it beautifully
Her birth mother probably has a lot of guilty. Maybe she can't give the answers as to why she abandoned her.
I would think the statute of limitations would be far gone by now.
She also could've died
I don't think the mom can face the truth.
who knows who is on the other side of the door or if they'll even open it. they have baby safe havens in police depts and fire stations. this is child abuse.
The uncle's seem more accepting and excited than the mother and father..
Guilt feelings from the parents probably are a barrier .
Probably Shame
He has nothing to lose! Her parents are thinking about themselves and how it will look in the eyes of the public and their families. Their shame is great!!
@@jenniferjemison636 or they just figured that they gave her to some nice people and they don’t understand why they got hunted down. They probably want to keep the past in the past.
Yes we are very excited to meet our grand niece (Aniya) and great grand nephew ( Zion). We are planning to fly her to St.Louis 2024 . As you stated when I had a chance to speak with Anita's mother she was terrified of being arrested, I did explain to her that all would be OK as I also thought the statues of limitations was exhausted but that didn't ease her fears.
The uncle and the adoptive parents are truly wonderful! May God bless them for being so loving and kind. My heart goes out to this young woman.
What a wonderful mother, who raised you, and look at that wonderful son, you are so blessed
So thankful for a great ending to her story. God Bless her Adoptive Parents for taking her & giving her a loving home.
Kudos to the parents who raised her and gave her love so amazing❤
I'm adopted and I am more grateful for my adoptive family more than questions for my birth parents honestly. But I do understand her desire for information.
Same here! My adoptive mother, the only mother I've known passed away 2 years now and now I would like to find my biological parents.
Ma Caribbean mommaaaaa❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ you did a good Job raising her😭😭😭
So moved by the adoptive mother and her infinite love for her daughter. When she speaks of her daughter the pure unconditional love is undeniable.
The last thing she said about being ready for the real emotions- is so true. I'm adopted. Ive always known im adopted. I fantasized about my birth mother through out my childhood. I always knew I would look for her 1 day, and was so nervous, and happy and anxious when the day finally came. It was a good meeting, but I never imagined the guilt I would feel.....This woman I had searched for in my dreams, and as an adult spent 8 months trying to find- and when I met her and heard her story. She was 17 when she had me. Her very Catholic parents sent her away to hide her pregnancy. She lived with nuns till she had me. She didn't want to give me up. but she had no support. When she came home, no one talked about me. She had to grieve in silence, it broke my heart....but I felt so guilty- she went through so much....but I felt guilty, because I love my mother who raised me so much, and I don't think i could love my birth mother the same way or even close. It still weighs on me 10 years after finding her....be prepared for anything when you find your birth family~
You will understand her love for you..and be able to share in that love..with her..without fear of diminishing or taking away from the love of your adoptive mom..However, you will only be able to come to a peace with loving your birth mom in another place and time. It might not happen while you are here on this earth..but it WILL happen....only this will occur for you both.. on the other side of the veil..All primal wounds will be made whole there..In Heaven. No love is divided there..only multiplied.
One thing good about love is that it's never depleted, you never run out.. You don't need to categorize the kind of love for your birth mother.. Just love her as a human being that you came out of. Love freely and it will find the place that it belongs.
I’m so touched by your story. In spite of being abandoned by your birth parents, you have become a strong, independent, and beautiful person. And by the big smile on your sons face, it’s obvious you’re a wonderful mother. So glad to hear so many of your related family members are stepping up to welcome you into their circle. And your “true” mom and dad are the parents that chose you and raised such a wonderful daughter. Many blessings to you and your son.
She's blessed to have had a good childhood and such loving, supportive adoptive parents.
Her parents are the ones who raised her, period! Thank God for them! 🙏🏻
I was adopted at birth, and now I regret ever meeting my biological family. I should have never allowed those doors to open up, I should have just stayed with my adopted family. The ones that loved ND raised me. If I could change time, I would tell my younger self that it isn't worth losing the family that you have.
Why did you lose your adoptive family?
I also adopted a boy, now my SON , who was left at a doorstep, in a box. Now 33yrs later, he is still my son.
Looks like she was a lot better off with her new parents. They seem loving and nice
Can we just take a moment to appreciate how adorable that wee boy is?! Cute!!
THANK YOU! ❤
@@sayheyydashhI’m so sorry they weren’t accepting of you. I’m super happy for you that at least you have that amazing mama that you have. I know it’s not the same as the real deal but I’m happy that at least got to meet them and find out how they truly are. I pray that eventually you can even have a relationship of some sort with them and pray that it’s an amazing ending. I’m sure happy that you seem to have an amazing uncle at least. Sending much love, peace and comfort.
@@tinaschill7104 thank you so much! 🤎
@@sayheyydashh you’re welcome. You’re absolutely beautiful inside and out. Don’t let nobody take away your shine or your beautiful smile that you have.
She was so fortunate to have parents that see her as their own. I hope she finds the answers she seeks.
I appreciate that the adoptive parents are supportive of her finding her biological family. As an adoptive parent it’s really hard to think about my kids birth parents who lost them under horrible circumstances. We have to respect that our kids may want to get answers and reach out to their birth parents. We have to have respect for the whole process because we love our kids.
Her adoptive parents are so amazing. God bless everyone who saved this baby who’s now a beautiful young mommy herself
It was so sweet to hear her adoptive mother talk about how much she loved Aniya.
She looks just like she did as a baby. Very beautiful woman. So sorry for the pain she still carries. When I was pregnant i thought about doing the same thing because I was terrified and feeling like I was incapable of being a good mom. Luckily I kept her. She's 2 months now and growing beautifully
I know your birth mother was very happy and relieved to know her decision to give up her daughter to that porch TURNED OUT A GOOD HOME ❤
Adoptive parents are the heroes. Another triumphant story.
I’m so happy she was able to find her birth parents and get the closure she needed. Finding out you have siblings and being able to, finally, connect is an amazing feeling. God bless her, her family and those AWESOME adoptive parents.❤️
Yes She Found Her Biological Parents And They Still Don't Want Her In Their Lives Just Like They Didn't When They Abandoned Her!
@@mikechrisscorpio.2659Tht part
Congratulations on finding out about your parents. I am happy that you landed in a good home with acceptance and love.
This is sad I feel bad for her but her adopted parents did a great job
She was extremely blessed to have her adopted family. They love her.
That woman that raised you, now your true mother, is amazing. Girl you were blessed.
Stuff like this is why I keep going as a mother no matter how much I ever want to break down or give up because I would never forgive myself if I made my daughter feels that way. Just give that woman answers she deserves that much
The blessing is her adoptive parents were amazing to her and loved her.
I am happy she has found a sense of peace about who she is, and her adoptive parents appear to be great people. I hope they each find forgiveness & grace through their continued familial processes, it can't be easy for any of them. Humans can make awful decisions especially early in life; being teenagers who knows what their own lives were missing or like. Thank goodness someone found her in time. Had a mentee who was abandoned in the garbage as a newborn; took years of real work to overcome the trauma from such an abandonment. 🥺
Such stories can emphasize the maternal while the existence of the paternal is equally crucial to healing. Having myself been raised by an orphaned Father who lost both his parents early in life, he was the most significant influence in my own life. Hopefully young people in similar situations find that there are acceptable ways to be responsible even though they themselves are overwhelmed. 🖤
If you let the Leah Lipps phenotype suck you up you will become aware.
What a sweet mom and dad you have. Your birth mom gave you a wonderful gift
Love mom’s Jamaican 🇯🇲 accent.
@@Angela-qs4cz me too I’ve always lived that accent.
Her biological mother did the best she could. She wanted to give her child a chance she knew she couldn’t give her. It seems like the adoptive mother is a wonderful lady, so this was indeed a blessing to and for her.
No. They have safe harbor locations just for this purpose. Those places existed when she was born. The mother left that baby on a cold apartment doorstep in January after midnight. The infant wasn't found until like 3am. If the biological mother loved her baby she wouldn't have hid her pregnancy from her family and abandoned her baby hours later. 18 year olds were having babies in 1992, it wasn't a huge taboo then. I mean an apartment complex? You can walk into any hospital or fire department and surrender a child newborn to two years old. I agree with you that she hit the adoptive parents jackpot however. This young lady deserves so much more than the sad lonely start, her life began on a doorstep.
Her birth parents trash ‼️ after 30 yrs you still want no contact. She didn’t give a dam bout tht baby
SHE HAS PARENTS WHO LOVE HER !
GOD PLACED THIS BEAUTIFUL FAMILY WHO LOVED HER
UNCONDITIONALY.
HER MOTHER IS THE WOMAN WHO RAISED HER AND THOSE ARE HER FAMILY.
BLESSINGS TO HER FAMILY WHO RAISED HER THEY ARE HER FAMILY 👪 ❤️
She’s so strong and resilient. So happy for her! Sending love and hugs your way.
I was abandoned in a Sears store in 1963. I love my adopted family but I want to find my birth family. I did Ancestry too and have found distant cousins but no one knows who could be my birth mother. I feel totally helpless because I have nothing to go on. I'm just trusting God to bring it full circle.
They know
I was adopted at birth. I never got a chance to talk to my birth parents. I totally understand your questions. My DNA test didn't help with my situation. When I was 15, I got pregnant, and my husband and I were forced /threatened by my adoptive mom, and our son was adopted at birth, too. We are now reunited, so don't ever give up looking for the answers you need and deserve to have. My husband and I have been together since I was 15. We have 3 full blooded children. I'm so happy that your adoptive mom is so supportive. My son's adoptive parents are not supportive at all. It's heartbreaking for our son and our daughters. We are rebuilding our family the best we can. It was an amazing day when I was able to hold him for the very first time after 35yrs. Definitely allow yourself to feel everything. Enjoy your extended families. They all love you. Good luck!!!
You got him back finally found him at age 35 ?
If you let the Leah Lipps phenotype suck you up you will become aware.
@blazefairchild465 yes, after 35yrs of separation from birth, I was holding him for the first time.
God bless you, hubby, kids and son, etc. Congrats on completing (almost) the circle! ❤️
God Bless 🙌
She was left on the right doorsteps. God does not make mistakes. Such a lovely young lady and such marvelous adopted parents.(think I heard a jamaican accent from the adopted mom).
Little girl. You know that your Mom loved you. She knew she couldn’t give you what needed. You are GOLDEN my love. You have a beautiful son. Your Mom and Dad raised you up well. It looks like you have always had a good life. Bless you, girl. Peace and love to your son Zion. Have fun at your re-union. Hope the best and prepare for the worst. I hope these family members give you what you want. Your parent’s are wonderful to help you find what your looking for. Prayers for all of you that helped this baby grow up into a beautiful worthy woman full of love to share. ❤
I hate how people never understand how adoptees feel about the deep need to know their origins. I see in the comments how she should love her adoptive parents. Who said she doesn't? She can love her adoptive parents AND love her biological parents and extended family. I'm glad her search has ended and her biological family has been welcoming to her.
If you know you know !! ( I was abandoned at 4 days old)
Bravo!! I agree!!
Extended biological family.
That's why many people don't adopt. It is ungrateful situation
If your mother didn't want you, why look for her. I am.hapoy when the woman who gives them birth doesn't welcome them. I feel so disappointed that she is calling her mother. She doesn't deserve that title. I called those type of women surrogates
@travelerawakenings8477 People with your mindset shouldn't adopt anyway so no loss there.
The adopted mother sounds Jamaican ❤️🇯🇲...my love, you are in great hands. Such a grounded, strict, pure, wholesome, loving Jamaican mums. The absolute best, happy that you were taken care of and that you got to reunite with your extended family👌
Know she was grow right....
I'm glad she was raised by great adoptive parents. I put no blame or guilt on her biological parents. You never know what people are going through mentally. God bless them all.💕
The adoptive mom is your mom your birth mom is just someone that gave birth to you
My heart is so happy this young lady had a beautiful family to raise her. Her adoptive mother is a blessing
I am so glad this babygirl found the answers she was searching for. May God bless her and all of her family, and bring hope and healing upon them. May the fruits of her search bring a bounty of love and peace, and open up her life to more than she ever dreamed of. May her table always be full, and may she always prosper. God bless them all! God bless all of you too! Peace!
I have empathy for her...I also have respect for her birth parent or parents because they "LOVED" her enough to leave her where she could be found!!! A "GOOD" or "GREAT" PARENT is knowing when you "NEED HELP"!!! I HOPE THE YOUNG LADY COILD FORGIVE THEM!!!
Bring tears to my eyes, glad she had an adopted mother and father who loved her
A Jamaican adoptive mama, thank you for loving her.
What an amazing story.....a 30 -year hug 💕
Wooow this is such a touching story I can't imagine what emotions she's felt over the yrs. The fact that her parents gave her the gift of finding her biological parents is amazing. Bless her and her family ❤🙏
“I am not what happened to me. I am who I choose to become”
I heard this quote many years ago. It applies to all of us. In this situation I can certainly understand this young lady. My biological mother did the same. This lady and so many of us adopted children have one thing in common. Love. I hope she finds her truth, as her adopted parents found their truth when the chose to claim her as their own. When it all comes down to it, nothing is stronger than love.
I love her mama. Both of them. One that gave her up ended up giving a gift to a mama that needed it❤ and what a good mama she has seemed to be. God Bless all of them.
So happy for you Aniya!
I have been searching for my birth father and two older brothers for 35 years, so far no luck but your story inspires me to keep searching.
I'm an adoptive parent of two children. This is an amazing story.
Love your mother who raised and protected you your mother loves you and speak well of you peace to you ❤
Exactly the birth mom left her in the cold on a doorstep that’s horrible
I grew up with my biological mother who abused me mentally, physically and financially my whole life. I am in my 40ties and she is still trying to destroy me. I often wished I would of been adopted by a caring and loving mother, instead of having to deal with my evil abusive biological mother.
Let her enjoy finding her family! You have no idea how it feels to wonder who you look like, why you think the way you do, where you came from..etc. Of course she loves the people who raised her! Stop trying to guilt trip her!!! If you can't relate, YOU can't relate...
She loves her birth parents and they were the ones who gave her the gift of finding her biological parents, as a human you can't help but to imagine about your family and why you were abandoned.
@@crystalbutler659 THANK YOU CRYSTAL!!!!! EXACTLY WHAT IVE BEEN TRYING TO GET THESE CLOWNS TO UNDERSTAND lol
She's beautiful and clearly that was the best thing her mother could've done for her
She is soooo BEAUTIFUL. She is blessed that she was found safe and unharmed. Thank god she had those loving and accepting adoptive parents.
What a lovely young woman. I'm so glad that she was raised by her adopted parents. She's obviously loved deeply by them and I'm glad she got the answers she needed.
Oh my!!! This story brought tears to my eyes💗 I wish her all the best! She’s beautiful! Her true family is the one that raised her❤
I’m so glad that she got adopted by such a wonderful family. She grew up to be a beautiful young lady with a lot of determination and I’m sure much more. I’m truly glad that her birth parents left her on that doorstep and that she was found because you so often hear in the news about newborns being thrown out windows and into the garbage and so many other horrible things. I mean a fire station or hospital would have been better but I’m sure they were terrified. I’m so glad she found them and I hope her and her son meet them and develop a beautiful bond with all of them and I hope that she gets all the answers that she’s been searching for all these years.
What a great mom and grandmom she has.God Bless her adoptive parents she was so blessed when they picked her.
The adoptive mother is so so cute.
Why just not love the fact that she was raised by such wonderful people .
The lady who helped her looks just like her!😱
What a beautiful young woman who was lucky to get adopted by a bomb family🔥❤️
Yesss! I made a sister for life!!
@@sayheyydashh oh wow!! How wonderful!🙌🏽🤗💕 Are you the helper or the one who the story is about?
@@ilikeitlikethat7305 im the one the story is about
@@sayheyydashh omg!!! Nice to meet you 🤗 What a wonderful story in the sense of having such loving adoptive parents, finding your birth family, and having an Angel researcher that became like a sister🙌🏽🥰💕 Wishing you all the best 😘
She's beautiful and healthy. I'm so happy she found her family but her adopted mom seems like a sweet lady. This story is so nice.
When you become older and mature enough to understand always be thankful that you were dropped off or given up(abandoned) to someone because now days sooooo many babies are thrown in the dumpster or murdered by their own birth parents. Thank them for allowing you to make it. I can understand and well enough to speak on it because I've been there.
Such a beautiful woman. I'm sure your mom was going through something terrible to have to leave you like she did. You have a beautiful soul. ♥️
What a beautiful woman and obviously blessed with a wonderful Mother.
I’m so happy she was adopted by wonder parents.
What a lovely story with such a happy new beginning for the young woman. God bless her and the ones who took her in and PARENTED her.
There is huge shame involved in this, so guess that is why the parents don't want to admit to their mistake. God loving people who do not want to be noted for being 'tarnished' in the eye of a community. Instead of embracing it and admitting a moment of weakness. We have so many people like this in our society which, damaged people not forgiving themselves or who cannot admit they possibly made a mistake. Bless her and let us hope she can build a relation with her extended family now. x
You've got a very loving Mother 😊
You are blessed with a loving family.
I would say your Mom is with you right now. And has been since the day she first saw you !😊❤
I understand the need to know .
This is a beautiful story! So glad her family opened their hearts to her!!!
What a beautiful person her parents raised her to be! 💖🙏