don't let anyone make you guys feel weird about this, this just shows how much you care for each other. I've been with my boyfriend for going on 7 years and this would definitely help when our schedules don't align. Ya'll are obviously very much in love :') love to see it
My bf and I have been living together for 22 years and in separate bedrooms for the last 13ish or so. And even before that one of us would end up on the couch at 2 am more nights than not. He's a light sleeper, I was a RN for 25 yrs before becoming disabled with an autoimmune arthritis disorder, fibromyalgia and developed sleep parasomnias. I toss and turn, kick my legs and scream without even waking myself up. I am also the night owl, where as my bf goes to bed at 9:30!! I used to feel weird telling people we sleep in separate bedrooms until I saw a survey recently that 1 in 4 couples sleep separately!! My pain
@Bonz I have fibromyalgia too! Though single but decided 2 bedrooms is a requirement if I ever meet someone and end up living together, so I have my own space and not disturb them.
@@chloeelizabeth2174 I love that you already know that it could be a problem for you and you’ve made a plan❣️ People may not know that sleeping disorders are often a part of fibromyalgia too.
@@JoJo.mp4yeah what? It’s a guest bedroom that one can use if the other has a disruptive schedule that day. Feel like that’s pretty normal among people who can afford it.
People don’t realize how much long term broken sleep can effect you! Mentally and physically, prioritizing sleep is so important. Being rested likely means less out burst and fights because less sleep usually means more cranky and you don’t even realize it but the person who has to absorb it sure does 🙌🏻
@@findingbrookifelt. I have chronic insomnia and have tried almost every sleep med besides the addictive stuff or the things that wouldn’t work regardless. It’s SO draining, and you are just expected to deal with it.
I was thinking just this! I'm a lighter sleeper than my husband, and he moves a lot in his sleep when he is really tired. It's extremely hard for me to get continuous sleep. It really does take a toll on you when you don't sleep.
Good for you! My husband and I have had our own bedrooms for the last 10 years. Married 38 years and after struggling for years, finally decided good sleep was important. Best move ever and still madly in love. Most of our friends do the same so don't feel pressured, do what works for you.
I think we’ve made sleeping in the same bed too normalized and now people see separate beds as something that would only happen in old 40s shows Personally, I love being able to take up an entire bed and roll around till I’m cozy and never have to worry about bothering someone else I’m also a very very light sleeper and my dude snores very very loudly 😂😂
Same like Nancy, marry 38 years and when my daughter move away for college (12 years ago) I move to her room ☺️ That doesn’t mean that our relation have being broken in any way 😘🥰
Same. Married 15 years. We realized we couldn’t sleep next to each other after the first year. We kick each other all night - and that’s with a king size bed!
Having separate rooms sounds so much better cause 1. Your own space to decorate/chill ALONE 2. A space to cool off if you two get into an argument without anybody being forced to move to another room. 3. You can invite your s/o for sleepovers
Thank w!!! My husband and I are happily and read about couples who do this. He snores so bad, is always hot and is a very very heavy sleeper. I’m always old, and a very very light sleeper. Just one loud snore can wake me up and my night is shot. I takes me a long time to fall sleep while he out in no time. He feels so Bad and sometimes says he “falls asleep on the couch” but I later learned he actually does that on purpose when I’m really tired. We’ve both been wanting to try it for a while now but I still felt a little iffy about it. This is my sign to take the plunge. 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼Thank you for sharing!
I'm the snorer, even with c-pap, especially when I get into a run of 6 to 11 straight 12 hour shiftss. And, I have some damage to my left side because of getting crunched back when I was in the Corps. So the better half and I sleep in separate bedrooms, especially since I go to bed before 9 usually, and she stays up to watch her shows. It sucks not spooning, but we have a nights where I'm off, she is also, and we'll do that until sleepy time. And we're still going good for years now.
Do it!! It's the best thing for us and we are still super happily married. We've tried multiple times to have "sleepovers" with each other and end up giving up an hour or less into it. 😂. Don't feel bad! It's so worth it!!
I moved into my own bedroom 6 months ago. I am so happy and can finally get some sleep after 11 years of snoring and throwing legs on me. Sleep is a beautiful thing. 😅
How did it go? Me and my wife are thinking about trying separate beds in the future too. I fall asleep instantly, snore and am a heavy sleeper and she's a light sleeper, basically the exact same situation.
Absolutely agree 100%. My wife and I have been married for nearly 15 years, and we sleep in separate rooms far more often than not because we end up waking each other up too much. Works out absolutely fine for us.
@@lokiprepper Same, and we've been together even longer than that technically. Sometimes we even switch beds because one is more comfortable than the other. I have a sleep disorder and other chronic issues that disrupt me far too often to sleep consistently, so I'd rather not make it hard on him as well. I used to wake him up in the middle of the night by accident being a night owl. The volume for UA-cam is so inconsistent. It doesn't mean we are never in the same bed; I don't know why people can't understand this.
@@Yamom395 they only sleep separately sometimes while she's in nursing school so she can do well.. many others in the comments talk about their long term relationships working just fine doing this. Maybe it wouldn't work for you, but they aren't you so..
My parents were doing the same for the same reasons : my mum's a nurse with night shifts and my dad was a massive light sleeper as well as a disabled man, it would have been ultra hard for any of them to really rest in the same bed. And be assured that their marriage was happy and lasts a flourishing 31 years before my dad passed away! Don't let anyone make you feel you have both to justify your sleeping arrangements!
Couples sleeping in the same bed actually only became common as the size of living spaces decreased and poverty increased. Before that time it was normal for couples to sleep in separate beds. Convincing people it is normal to sleep in the same bed was actually just a trick of the ruling classes to make people more okay with their declining standard of living. Obviously this sort of thing varies culture by culture as well and some people just like sleeping together. On one hand it's warm and cozy, but it can also be sweaty and gross. It just depends what you prefer and it doesn't mean anything with regards to the relationship.
My mom still says her dream scenario is to be neighbors with my stepdad, lmao. They've been together 20 years, and perfectly happy together, she just wants her space 😂
@@relaximhilarious3070 lol I hope you are joking. It's just the same as says pops for dad but some say mum, mama, momma, mommy, mom, mother. Am I missing any?
Me and my wife have been married for 16 years and separate bedrooms are a must for us!!! My bed needs to be extremely soft, she likes a very firm bed, she also sleeps with the television on, and I need it dark and quiet. She is a light sleeper I sleep extremely hard and snore. It took us many years before we realized this is what we needed. This has 100% saved our marriage
Me and my husband have the same issue plus I don’t sleep very long, go to work way earlier he works way later and I wake up a thousand times during the 4-5 hrs I try to sleep. We finally found a bed comfy for the both of us and our own pillows. After doing the whole separate rooms thing for awhile it started to west on us, our bedroom time together was not less than usual yet we were still finding we were more grouchy and short with each other when we didn’t mean to be. Eventually we just went back to the same bed and I found a way to block out the tv. I have a heating blanket with several settings if I need it, he is always hot and needs the windows open so if I get cold I can turn on the blanket to 1 and it is just warm enough to be not too hot for me and he isn’t dying of heat stroke. We couldn’t handle sleeping apart. He ended up starting to actually sleep worse and lighter because he was worrying about me and how I was sleeping instead of being able to see what kind of night I was having and I was starting to feel bad and missing having him next to me. We simply found other options to be able to both get better and more sleep. On a good note I’m sleeping longer at one time now and about 30 min to 1 hour longer than I used to. I’ve had insomnia since I was a year old though so it’s a big improvement. I say doing what you need in order to get sleep avoiding resentment is key. Just remember to check in with each other every so often because like in our case, things can change with how the arrangement is making one or both partners feel and you may both be on the same page and not wanting to say anything thinking your partner is sleeping better and not wanting to take that away from them. When really you were both feeling the same.
Married for 24 years here... We've had separate bedrooms for over 20 years. Raising kids, chronic illness, bad sleep schedules, differing work schedules, you name it. Was the BEST thing for our marriage. Don't apologize for your choices as they work for YOU. It's your relationship and your bedroom... no room for anyone else's opinion!
not to mention guys like it cold af in the room and women generally like it warmer, which was more of the problem for me than any of the other things@@purpledol8455
This is how relationships last. Honestly, humor, and the fact that you both are secure in knowing who you are that you are not afraid to tell each other your needs. This is excellent!
@@cheyhey2170Original! Wow. That insult and trying to shame tactic is actually played out and anyone who uses it these days just reveals they are an idiot with nothing else to say. Nobody takes it seriously. He is a beta Bob provider that she doesn’t even take seriously because he is limp wristed. When she asks for the open relationship nobody other than you will be surprised.
At least he has some priorities straight. I know many women now feel they don't need us, but the truth is that without us, they'd have to rely only on other women to truly admire their lovely lady lumps.
@@WK-47i assume youve never been in a large group of Girlfriends because .... Thats exactly what we do haha. My best friend has probably commented on my... Assets... More than my Partner and definetely in more Detail 😂
This is an extremely mature, well thought-out decision - indicates that the ability for you two to communicate is amazing, to say the least. You overcame something that could have definitely been a dealbreaker for many, elegantly and peacefully. Kudos!
Nah here’s the thing…I was wondering why they don’t sleep together then it cut to the clip of him talking and I instantly found out he’s gay and also still loves legos…that moment I found out why so I’m now in the comments😬
@@amira_856 yup exactly and i find it funny how everyone is up in arms lol, i mean alot of men have their man caves lol. As long as the women doesnt refuse intamincy or ""fun time"" with her boyfreind then who cares what they do lol
I struggle with sleep, this actually shows how pure your love is! You guys don't need to be attached 24/7 [Edit] Having space to miss each other is one of the biggest blessings in disguise.
@@RespectMeBitchProblem is a lot DON’T do that and act like they’re very incapable of doing so. Whether you think so or not it’s actually a very common major issue in the world currently and has been.
As someone who's been in a relationship for 14 years and have had separate bedrooms for 4 years, I don't see how not wanting to strangle your partner each time he snores could be a bad thing for the relationship lol
100% support this! I’ve been married for 25 years and we have always had a “guest room” that has served as a refuge if one can’t sleep, is sick or has to be up early. Sleep is very important and looks like you two are on top of it. Good luck with Nursing school! ❤
My husband and I use 2 bedrooms as well. He works odd hours at the hospital and snores when he's in a deep sleep. I supposedly do a lot of weird sh*t in my sleep like talking and doing an alligator death roll with the sheets. We occasionally sleep in the same bed but getting a good sleep is the priority for both of us. It's also kinda hot when he knocks on the door when in the mood for those special "visits"😂😂
25 years! 🙌 my gf and I are emergency nurses, we are also catholic. Til marriage we will sleep separately, out of respect for each other and for God. But we already know that being able to have space and sleep without disturbing each other is KEY for us, so we plan to keep having our own space for when we need it! Some jobs make this almost necessary. If you love each other you make compromises 😊 God bless you
Man this generation is so different. Never in my 20’s was I so intune to my body’s needs and thought about prioritizing sleep. Like whaaattttt 😮😅 you guys are amazing.
Right, like I had 2 kids by the age of 21and I thought that was old because my mom had her first child at age 16 and was married. I'm glad to see the changes.
My husband and I have our own separate bedrooms and have been happily married 14 years now. Healthy sleep is such an important part of mental and physical health. Also its nice to have your own personal space with your own touch to it like a personal retreat ❤
I feel the exact same way. I love spending time together, but we both have our solo hobbies. I really think it’s important to spend time alone sometimes
It's actually healthier to sleep in your own beds. All studies show that couples who sleep separately get a better night's rest. Sleep is one of the most important aspects of your health. It affects everything in your body. The idea of sleeping together every night sounds nice on paper but in terms of science. It's not practical for optimal health.
I love how many people are getting separated rooms and in healthy relationships! I’m all for it! I love sleeping with a special someone next to me but I also love being alone. I think this is great!
@@chriscruzA35O-9OO You believe couples have to sleep in the same bed every night to stay in a healthy relationship? Could you elaborate a little more on why, please. 🫶😇🐰🌥️🌈🌼🌷🪻🌺🅰️🐇🌻
Thanks for being bold enough to make this inference. It was the very first thing I thought of. If she's intelligent enough to get into nursing school, how can she be so naive? Oh well, she has companionship which is nice.
Very smart; 👏🏽even couples need space their own sanctuary 🧘♀️🧘♂️time apart I think if people were to understand this, instead of trying to uphold ideas and practices, they do not support their personal growth and their relationships. Relationships will be a lot healthier, and more of couples (possibly would) stay together!
I've been married for 16 years and we started sleeping in separate bedrooms about 5 years ago. It has been one of the best things for our marriage. My husband is a light sleeper and we both snore so thus was the right thing to do for our marriage. We love it.
@@Jesuschristitsjasonbourne3 yes only that,is a lie that sleeps separately save relationships ,🤣🤣🤣when you opt to sleep separate ,is an undoubtedly sing of relationship struggles, and will end soon in divorce
@@chriscruzA35O-9OOLong-term sleep deprivation makes you cranky and argumentative, which makes you more likely to fight (especially considering you'd be causing eachothers sleep issues) which makes you more likely to break up. Having your own bedroom means you get your own personal space that you can wind down in and decorate to your own liking. Plus, as she said, people have different sleeping habits and behaviours. Plus, they can still sleep together when they choose to, they just have the option of choosing.
If you have different work schedules or like In my case my gf well lay down in bed then watches TV til midnight, then gets up 10 times in the night and wakes me up everytime turning lights on and so on. But she's against this idea, and I do wake up pissed that I got 2 hours of sleep or less. Has nothing to do with a failing relationship. It has everything to do with sleeping, lol.
My girlfriend and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for over two years now. She has really bad insomnia and is a light sleeper and I tend to as she says “flop like a fish” in my sleep. We’ve been together almost 6 years now(living with each other for 4 of those years) and this is just our dynamic. We still love each other and because of our love we don’t want to sacrifice each others health and sleep because of social standards.
My gf and I sleep in separate rooms because I snore really bad due to a extremely bad deviated septum and allergies, and she just sleeps better on her own. I’m fine with this! Means that when we move in together we can have our own rooms and more space to store our stuff! We share a bed for short naps but she’s also a very cold person and sleeps with heaps of blankets and I run super warm and always wake up sweaty so it works better in the long term for us to sleep separately!
Good quality sleep is one of the most important things in life. And if your partner is affecting that, sleeping in separate beds is a very healthy way to help.
@@kaylnlong92 I didn't say everyone is the same can you not read well I say its just an excuse for people to do sneaky shit which is literally for some couples the facts just because you can't accept the truth doesn't mean it doesn't happen sleeping in seperate beds is causing more break ups and divorces than helping people
Kudos, baby. I love how you prioritized your health. That keeps people together. The consideration you mutually have for each other is amazing. You go, girl. You are an ace at relationship foals!😊❤❤
My husband and I (of 13 years) have been sleeping separately and we are so much happier to see each other every day 😂 it hasn’t affected our romantic life because nothing killed the vibe like being exhausted and pissed off in the morning - we actually are more excited to see and touch each other more now than before. The only downside is that I love just automatically having him next to me in the morning and I miss the default morning cuddles. But sleep is so critical and prolongs your life and I want many happy old years with him. I love falling asleep immediately and not being awoken until dawn when the light comes up.
So I have a friend with a similar set up and their “rule” is whoever wakes up first goes and crawls into bed with the other person so they are essentially waking up together, get those morning cuddles, etc, and they’ve been doing this over 20 years. Also separate bathrooms. 😂
Same! We were so sleep deprived in our first two years of marriage and everything is sooo much better since we started sleeping separate rooms a few years ago. Plus we’re both introverts, so getting quality alone time to start and end the day is amazing for both of us.
Happily married for 10 years now! About a year ago my husband and I decided to sleep separately because he snores and I am a very light sleeper. It was affecting our sleep so much because I’d constantly be shaking him, telling him to roll over etc 😩 Having our own rooms was the BEST decision! It’s actually really fun too because we have decorated our rooms how we want :) it hasn’t affected our love life negatively and in fact, that has improved as well. So yeah, do what is right for your relationship and don’t let anyone tell you what’s right or wrong!
when me and my husband moved in together we also got separate rooms because i snore sometimes and hes a light sleeper so neither of us would sleep cause he would wake up from my snoring and i would wake up to not snore and now it’s the best and each morning we make sure to spend some time together and cuddle because we have different work schedules it’s nice 🥰
I’m surprised more people don’t do this. I’m single atm but I HATE when I have to share a bed. It’s great before sleep, but when you’re actually sleeping I like to take up a lot of space, sharing a quilt is just annoying and I also wake up at any slight noise, smell, CONTACT or anything. I also have family and friends that constantly complain about being tired because of sharing a bed with their partner. I suggest using a spare bed or even separate quilts and they shut it down immediately. Insanity.
@@yt.personal.identification bro, they're literally doing it to both their benefit. Were you even listening? This wasn't just individual personal needs. They both understand that they both have issues staying asleep for being light sleepers so they compromised a solution that allows both of them to prevent the problem. The fact that you're presenting such a shallow view of relationship just tells me that you're chronically lonely and prolly don't have a lot of good friendships. I'm not mocking you for it. Just at least show some self-awareness
Oooh I did this for the majority of my relationship & guess what, I’m married!!! We just recently started sharing a bed again because we’re expecting baby #2 & need my room as a nursery. There’s nothing wrong with separate beds. & guess what, my grandparents who were married for 60+ years had their own bedroom for as long as I can remember because neither of them got their own room as a child & they were living out their childhood dreams ❤
Your grandparents story reminds me of mine! I grew up sharing a bedroom with all my siblings (we were 6 in total, I’m the oldest). When our financial situation got better, we moved to a bigger house, with our bedrooms. And because this was very recent, I don’t want to share rooms with anyone. And congratulations on your baby!
i love seeing things like this. relationships that deviate from conventional even in small ways are often seen as bad. in this instance having a separate bed makes things BETTER for you guys. i’m glad you two were able to prioritize your sleep
Remember, they shared a video with your that they reviewed and produced to have to feel this way about unconventional relationship standards. Sure, that reason may seem sounds, but you're qualifying an opinion based on nothing but entertainment.
I could never sleep again with someone who has a work schedule. They'd never get a good night's rest. I'm up at 2 or 3 in the morning sometimes after just sleeping for a cpl hours yet I manage to go all day. Not everyone can do this. It would border on cruelty to make them sleep with me. 😃
My husband and I have had our own bedrooms for 25 years. It's the best decision we ever made and works for us. I am and early riser, he is not. I sleep incredibly light, he snores through anything. We are happy, healthy and look forward to another 25 years😊❤
Usually relationships built on practicality and selfishness means someone is gonna cheat or has already done so multiple times. If you both do that and are happy, then I guess it works out in that context.
my husband & I have separate bedrooms and it's honestly one of the best decisions we ever made. I'm a light sleeper who likes the room dark, quiet & cold, he's a heavy sleeper who tosses & turns and likes it warm w/TV on. separate bedrooms means we both get the restful sleep we need. every time we have a "sleepover" in the other's bedroom, it's a great reminder of why we opted to have separate rooms lol
The caring, consideration, logic used for this decision. Well done to both of you❤❤ Doing what works for both of you and having honest, open communication......priceless.
Girl, my partner and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for 9 years now, and we both enjoyed it! Sleep is so important to both of us, it works for us!
@@christianmcbreartyyou can hangout in each others rooms for movie night then head to your own for bed. In the morning whoever wakes up first can join the other for morning cuddles. Ez pz
Trust me it's great, once the honeymoon period (sex every night )is over and you still love each other it can wok if your sleep schedules are different.
@@christianmcbreartyI love sleeping next to my boyfriend so I wouldn’t do something like this, but I imagine you get intimate and then head over to your own bed??? I would definitely miss the times when you’re somewhat sleeping but still teasing each other and end up getting intimate in the middle of the night, which you couldn’t do if you slept in separate beds
Can i “like” this 8 million times! 😁 I am realizing getting good sleep, and having my own little private oasis area where i can go and sleep or rest or just exist/decorate/curate the whole vibe, lighting, noise level, energy, mood and aesthetic is such an important visceral thing to keep me centered and happy!
I love this. It’s so healthy! Thank you for helping to normalize that your relationship is about you and the person you’re with and it is no one else’s business!
I honestly think that this is a proof of both of you guy’s maturity and ability to prioritise your own wellbeing and your own expression instead of conforming to what others would think you should or should not live like. IMO this is the beginning of a healthy relationship based on authenticity and friendship that unfortunately most ppl today are not capable of. Good for you!
What does this even mean. Nobody us telling them to conform. They literally didn't need to share this, but they did vbecause wanted everyone to know what they were doing
A lot of people probably think (even though you explained it) that having two different beds and sleeping apart sometimes is a terrible sign but personally I think that it shows you two are both very secure in your relationship. It shows that you can prioritize each others’ wellbeing and be mature and realistic about your situation. Kudos to you guys!
@@dmoneydmoney6050the reason is literally she’s a nurse and would wake him up coming in at like 5am for bed. Did you not watch the video? Or maybe your last two brain cells took a break from rubbing against each other 🤡
we recently started sleeping in different rooms with my boyfriend as well, because he snores so loudly that there’s no way i can sleep with him and also i suffer from chronic migraine and getting a good nights sleep is crucial for me. this has improved our relationship bc i’m no longer irritated in the morning from not sleeping well so we no longer have those unnessecary arguments and tension. sometimes sleeping in separate rooms is the best decision for a healthy relationship and people shouldn’t assume that it’s somehow a sign you no longer love each other 🙌🏻
We do the same, at first I felt bad but now I couldn't go back to sleep together every day, specially on weekdays working the next morning. We occasionally sleep together on weekends when the waking hour doesn't make a difference and we can oversleep all we want.
I love this and wish more people normalized separate sleep arrangements for couples! There are many other ways to be intimate without disturbing each other's sleep.
Separate sleeper here. He snores like a train and has active dreams and I can't stay asleep for more than a couple of hours without briefly waking. After many grumpy mornings, we sleep separately. We're still going strong after 18 years and appreciate each other more in the day. It's nice to have those few hours of peaceful sleep and then wake up, regroup and enjoy our time together. I wish more couples were honest about separate sleeping. It doesn't mean the end. You can have some nights together still and also enjoy separate nights peacefully, sharing a home together. ❤
@@Mardi-Shorts-DevonGirlUK same here my husband and I sleep in separate rooms because of his snoring. He will fall asleep in my room sometimes and I don't mind but once I start waking up because of the noise I tap him and he knows what that mean, you gotta go buddy! We have three kids and been married 8 years together 18 years.
@@ellejaym3162 aww, bless you. I feel what you're saying. Snoring is such an awful noise. It could drive a person to near insanity trying to sleep. Even if you block the noise out with ear plugs - the rumbling snoring bass will vibrate through the bed!... Here's to many more peaceful nights in separate beds for all us separate sleepers. And also many more happy years together as couples ❤️
I think this works really well when your physical intimacy doesn’t rely on being in bed together. If you can replicate or enjoy physical and even emotional intimacy outside of time spent together in bed, it’s great. In my experience, if that’s lacking outside of the bedroom/only happens in bed at night or in the morning being together in the same bed , then separate rooms can be a way to drift further apart. You can also try spending time in bed together outside of the sleeping part I.e. prior to sleep spending some time together in the same bed, or jumping in bed to say good morning and spend time together after sleeping separately. Really just depends on the dynamic but sleep is so important and I support this!
well if you can’t appreciate the man that work hard to get a those muscles, i can see you sitting on your ass and just hating 24/7 coz i feel like his just a gym guy, that want to excel him self like that dude, try working out and you will appreciate a proper calf.
This is what I'd call saving a relationship. It's just being smart and attentive to each other's needs. Inspiring ❤😊 Edit: It's fascinating reading through the few replies to my comment and other similar comments. People seem easily triggered on this issue. Which is weird considering it's a choice you're free to make or not make for yourself. Lot's of overreactions, overthinking and reading too much into it.
If you want to know what real healthy relationships are, seek a professional who can help you. Don’t observe influencers and expect them to have the answers. Be smart.
@@ludabam241 Insecure how? From what she says in the video it comes from a pretty secure relationship with a good understanding of what their needs are. I don't see how insecuirty really comes into play in the slightest. But enlighten me. I'm curious. Please cook and serve.
Shew!!!~ This is completely fine to me! You guys know how light of sleepers you are and this is just respecting each other's sleeping well-being and feelings in a way😊😂💖.
Different strokes for different folks. My husband and I have always slept better separately. I have insomnia and he does not. It just makes sense for us. We’ve going 13 years strong.
My boyfriend and I often sleep in different beds for the same reason. I think the fact that you guys are considerate of each others sleep patterns shows maturity in your relationship.
I read an article by a psychologist that actually often times recommended couples to sleep in separate beds as part of their couples therapy and they said that this usually solved at least half the problems. From research, we know how important sleeping is and so it makes sense that if people aren’t getting good nights, rest, most of the problems they’re manifesting might come from just being exhausted. Ever since that it always made sense to me and I always like to advocate for it.
He seems like such a sweetheart. Separate spaces are so important. It's good to do things together but you need your own downtime and own space and sleep is super important. I typically sleep with my partner but we have another bedroom set up just in case one of us needs it. It's definitely not weird I'd say it's healthy even.
@@crini413my grandparents have been married over 60 years. Never slept in the same bedroom 😂 my grandma has bad sleeping issues so they compromised. You don’t have to sleep together every night to have a healthy and long relationship
It’s times like these when you can test how strong your bond is. The fact that he respects your needs enough to go along with this shows that he does love and care for you.
@@brendanbudniak2261 Then you missed the entire point anyone was trying to make. Prioritizing sleep is important, they never said they were never gonna share a bed, but they have jobs and priorities, and if one and/or both of them are not getting any rest because of opposing sleep schedules, sleeping separately when necessary is not a negative thing.
@@Wa1kerSta1ker0 nah I didn't miss the point of what people were saying I'm just saying it's still better to sleep together even considering all those factors
This is so amazing. All this tells me is these two are very much in love and care so much about one another that no matter what, they want to make sure the other is truly happy, comfortable, and taken care of. I love this. Listening to your partner and actually showing you care should be normalized.
i actually love this idea. you get to have your own space to decorate how you want, keeping a piece of individuality and freedom. i always hated compromising on bedroom ideas and making it boring grey all of the time 😭 THIS is an amazing idea.
@@seanmaher3018you should try it’s fun. But you accidentally might catch the gay so be careful. My buddy started decorating his room once and the minute he got some plants and started watering them he just kinda snapped and now he has a husband. So ya man you never know that new wooden bench you saw on Etsy might just be the catelyst to a future full of penis.
As a clinical social worker, I promise you that prioritizing your sleep is going to not only be best for your relationship in the long run, but your health ultimately. So many young people your age don’t think about or care about how important sleep is for your health, so you are way ahead of your peers. Long term sleep deprivation causes so many serious physical and mental health disorders. It’s great you are posting this to help bring awareness to this issue. Blessings to you both 💗🙏🏻
I live with my bf and we have separate beds and y’all, it’s really great. We don’t necessarily have different sleep schedules, but I like to listen to sleepy podcasts at night whereas he like silence. And also, sometimes it’s just nice to be able to hog all of the covers myself lol
My partner and I both need TV to sleep, but we like very different shows. She does not want to listen to Forensic Files and I don't want to watch another music documentary 😅
@@TimeFourT Watching tv to fall asleep is very different from having an addiction. Being addicted would mean watching tv is taking priority over other activities or responsibilities in life. Many people need to have some kind of sound to fall asleep, whether that’s white noise or music or a tv show. Many people choose tv because it helps quiet anxious thoughts that come at night. It’s not an unusual or negative thing and simply “not watching tv” is going to do nothing for these people.
This is ideal my bf and I have talked about this I’ve seen where couples have a door policy where they keep their door open to let their partner know come in I’m not doing anything and if it’s closed I’m tired/I’m sleeping. That same couple said it feels like having a sleepover and that they still occasionally sleep in each others beds
Do it ur sleep will increase ten times, my husband of 15 years been sleeping apart the last 3 years and it has helped so much cuz he’s a very lite sleeper and I move a lot
I said the SAME thing and was told I’m selfish and that it’d lead to my relationship ending. I emphasized the sleeping part as a form of individualism because we are two people coming together but still have own own paths
Woah, you're absolutely better off without him. I do recommend buying him a mirror - seems he needs to have a good hard look at who the selfish one is. I hope you need a decent guy soon.
Just dont complain when he goes and cheats on you. If you dont want to sleep together and have intimacy, you are basically just housemates at that point.
It's also just a good way for both people to have a place that's just their own. Like if you just need a moment alone you have your room and don't have to go to the bathroom or even go outside!
Married for 18 years and my husband and I sleep in different beds and bedrooms. I have horrible insomnia and if I get woken up, I don't fall back to sleep. Hard to take care if two kids on no sleep. And if I get no sleep, I get sick. This arrangement has saved our marriage.
I would disown my daughter if she lived with a man that she's not married to... Giving a man the benefits if marriage without having to marry me.. Disgusting, low class
I can relate to this so much. It takes a long time for me to fall asleep and I sleep very lightly, even with my weighted blanket and all. Sleeping apart simply saved our relationship.
No one should ever make you feel guilty about this. You are both showing your true colors, and how much you honestly love & care about each other. Sleep is such a vital part of your health and it truly restores your body. Sleep in the same bed when you can and use the extra bed when needed. Y’all are so sweet together ❤😊 sending you lots of hugs
We have that too. I love falling asleep with him and the other way around too. But sometimes, whether it's schedules or anything else, a girl just need to get her solo superwomen sleeper pose in for a night or two 😂😂 that just makes sense!
Hubby and I often sleep on separate bedrooms. (About 6 out of 7 nights.) I am a morning person (and so is the dog!) and he likes to sleep later. Even on weekdays he gets up 2 hours later than I do. We start the night in our kingsize bed, reading, scrolling or talking and as soon as we get sleepy, he moves to the other bedroom and we both get a good night's sleep. We both have demanding jobs and this works for us. I always say: if it works for the royals, it can work for us. 😂
This is actually a good idea, and it just shows that the two of you have a healthy relationship where you prioritize eachother❤ don’t mind the negative people, every relationship is different and what works for each relationship is different:)
I know several married couples who don’t sleep in the same bedroom. At first I thought it was weird, but it’s kind of nice to have your own space, and you get to wake up and greet each other lovingly like you haven’t seen each other all night 😅😂❤
bruh i’m a light sleeper and it sucks. i can’t take naps at all because it takes 30 mins for me to fall asleep and i’ll wake up to anything and everything. the only positive is that i can wake up easily in the mornings but that’s it
I'm basically awake when I'm asleep lol. It almost feels like I'm aware of my surroundings even though I'm asleep. Someone could mutter my name as quiet as possible and I'll sit up and say "what" as if I was awake and listening 😅
being a light sleeper is not a condition it is more natural than being a heavy one lol. People a long time ago needed to be able to wake up from small things because they slept close to the wild.
My husband & I have slept in separate beds for years. We are happily married and will soon celebrate our eighteenth anniversary. I have many health problems that cause me difficulty sleeping, am a very light sleeper and my husband snores loudly. It has been the best choice for us both. Good for you for prior health and sleep & for having a relationship secure enough to defy convention!
Congratulations on your 18-year union! I encourage anyone that snores or knows of someone who does, to get a sleep study done. It's covered by most insurances and will let you know if that person suffers from obstructive sleep apnea, which is deadly. It caused me to have heart issues and a mini-stroke. A CPAP machine (also covered) made a huge difference in my life. Now, I rarely ever snore. I'm so thankful my lady MADE me do it, RIP. God bless!
@@clarkvaughan Can not agree more. I stop breathing for 35+ times / hour and basically don't breath half of the time i am asleep. It's miserable and I'm constantly tired. Currently doing a study but the date of my final appointment is still only in a few months... they are so busy...
My hubs and I have same. Treasure nights together, but sometimes separate works better for our schedules, we love each other enough to know that it is from a place of love ❤️
Having your own safe space especially in a relationship is crucial! My husband & I fought over the blankets so we started sleeping with our own blankets then due to work schedules, health issues and the pandemic having our own spaces saved our marriage!
For those internet whiners in the comment section, this is called SETTING A HEALTHY BOUNDARY. Who says couples HAVE TO sleep in the same bed? My parents been sleeping in separate rooms since they started dating back in the 80s, they still do these days. As a light sleeper myself, I totally would do the same. Any noise or any movement will wake me up. Kudos to you both! 👏🏼
People are very closed minded judgmental people. As someone who would rather sleep with my partner, I can also see how having separate rooms would be so cool! Still having your own space and being able to decorate it to your liking and keep a sense of identity I feel is super understandable!! It’s awesome seeing different perspectives and breaking out of societies “norm” because not everything works for every couple.
idk who taught you what health is but they do drugs and dropped out of high school. if you have to set a boundary to avoid confrontation you're incapable of having a healthy relationship because you dont know yourself well enough to approach somebody else. nobody HAS to sleep in the same bed. that much is personal preference. but there is no 'have sympathy for my need for boundary' bullshit excuse that justifies THAT level of need for isolation. you just cant communicate with your partner. and yes that IS your fault. if you dont want to sleep in the same bed, dont. but dont lie to yourself like a pussy and pretend its out of selflessness and admit you arent mature enough to communicate in a confrontation.
theres definitely openness for personal preference but the constant reach for validation in pretending its somehow some healthy boundary is genuinely disgusting because its so counterproductive. its literally gaslighting. "im ignoring you because i dont know how to talk to you, but its because i love you" like bro what? this is the kind of shit that ruins relationships. you HAVE to be able to confront and communicate. if you cannot, you'll be in the 50% of marriages that dont work out if you even make it that far. its kind of pathetic. i always appreciate the desire for health in a relationship, until its really just selfishness being gaslit as health for a relationship@@doodlebob9147
I know many people who sleep in separate rooms and they say that its nice to have their own space. Once you move in with someone you dont have any space thats just yours. It is a good way to have quiet time by yourself. Theres nothing wrong with it.
don't let anyone make you guys feel weird about this, this just shows how much you care for each other. I've been with my boyfriend for going on 7 years and this would definitely help when our schedules don't align. Ya'll are obviously very much in love :') love to see it
Yup this shows healthy communication and not having to he stuck up each others ass all the time.
My bf and I have been living together for 22 years and in separate bedrooms for the last 13ish or so. And even before that one of us would end up on the couch at 2 am more nights than not. He's a light sleeper, I was a RN for 25 yrs before becoming disabled with an autoimmune arthritis disorder, fibromyalgia and developed sleep parasomnias. I toss and turn, kick my legs and scream without even waking myself up. I am also the night owl, where as my bf goes to bed at 9:30!!
I used to feel weird telling people we sleep in separate bedrooms until I saw a survey recently that 1 in 4 couples sleep separately!!
My pain
@Bonz I have fibromyalgia too! Though single but decided 2 bedrooms is a requirement if I ever meet someone and end up living together, so I have my own space and not disturb them.
@@chloeelizabeth2174 I love that you already know that it could be a problem for you and you’ve made a plan❣️
People may not know that sleeping disorders are often a part of fibromyalgia too.
Just curious what they doing tho after waking up for 40 minutes before going back to bed again 🤔 😋 🍆
that is the most unorthodox yet sane and mature relationship decision, great respect guys
not really
@@keith7644ok Keith
Is not unorthodox if you know the reason
This is how George costanza’s parents sleep in Seinfeld bro, this is mainstream since the 90’s
@@JoJo.mp4yeah what? It’s a guest bedroom that one can use if the other has a disruptive schedule that day. Feel like that’s pretty normal among people who can afford it.
People don’t realize how much long term broken sleep can effect you! Mentally and physically, prioritizing sleep is so important. Being rested likely means less out burst and fights because less sleep usually means more cranky and you don’t even realize it but the person who has to absorb it sure does 🙌🏻
No seriously I havent slept in years and wow is it taking a toll
Wait til you become a parent. It just becomes reality
@@findingbrookifelt. I have chronic insomnia and have tried almost every sleep med besides the addictive stuff or the things that wouldn’t work regardless. It’s SO draining, and you are just expected to deal with it.
As someone who is in the military with my husband, we never get enough sleep. Our sleep is always broken up and cut short for work.
I was thinking just this! I'm a lighter sleeper than my husband, and he moves a lot in his sleep when he is really tired. It's extremely hard for me to get continuous sleep. It really does take a toll on you when you don't sleep.
“Ayy but we got those tho” funny asl 😭
Dude was funny for that one haha
Good for you! My husband and I have had our own bedrooms for the last 10 years. Married 38 years and after struggling for years, finally decided good sleep was important. Best move ever and still madly in love. Most of our friends do the same so don't feel pressured, do what works for you.
Same
I think we’ve made sleeping in the same bed too normalized and now people see separate beds as something that would only happen in old 40s shows
Personally, I love being able to take up an entire bed and roll around till I’m cozy and never have to worry about bothering someone else
I’m also a very very light sleeper and my dude snores very very loudly 😂😂
Same like Nancy, marry 38 years and when my daughter move away for college (12 years ago) I move to her room ☺️ That doesn’t mean that our relation have being broken in any way 😘🥰
Most old people have their own bedrooms. My folk too. They have their own TVs. They'll be watching the same shows but in different rooms 😂
Same. Married 15 years. We realized we couldn’t sleep next to each other after the first year. We kick each other all night - and that’s with a king size bed!
Having separate rooms sounds so much better cause
1. Your own space to decorate/chill ALONE
2. A space to cool off if you two get into an argument without anybody being forced to move to another room.
3. You can invite your s/o for sleepovers
Bruh 💀
what does your s/o mean?
@@MsLLorenasignificant other.. aka your partner
What’s the point of moving in together then?
@@Maya__v8saving on rent and transportation, seeing eachother everyday, having a life together but also their own individuality and a little privacy?
I 100% agree. sleep is so important. separate beds to ensure good sleep is something I also embrace.
Thank w!!! My husband and I are happily and read about couples who do this. He snores so bad, is always hot and is a very very heavy sleeper. I’m always old, and a very very light sleeper. Just one loud snore can wake me up and my night is shot. I takes me a long time to fall sleep while he out in no time. He feels so
Bad and sometimes says he “falls asleep on the couch” but I later learned he actually does that on purpose when I’m really tired. We’ve both been wanting to try it for a while now but I still felt a little iffy about it. This is my sign to take the plunge. 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼Thank you for sharing!
I'm the snorer, even with c-pap, especially when I get into a run of 6 to 11 straight 12 hour shiftss. And, I have some damage to my left side because of getting crunched back when I was in the Corps. So the better half and I sleep in separate bedrooms, especially since I go to bed before 9 usually, and she stays up to watch her shows. It sucks not spooning, but we have a nights where I'm off, she is also, and we'll do that until sleepy time. And we're still going good for years now.
Do it!! It's the best thing for us and we are still super happily married. We've tried multiple times to have "sleepovers" with each other and end up giving up an hour or less into it. 😂. Don't feel bad! It's so worth it!!
I moved into my own bedroom 6 months ago. I am so happy and can finally get some sleep after 11 years of snoring and throwing legs on me. Sleep is a beautiful thing. 😅
How did it go? Me and my wife are thinking about trying separate beds in the future too. I fall asleep instantly, snore and am a heavy sleeper and she's a light sleeper, basically the exact same situation.
Yal just hate your husbands, just say so 😂
I think that's smart... it's putting your health first which is also putting your relationship first.
Absolutely agree 100%. My wife and I have been married for nearly 15 years, and we sleep in separate rooms far more often than not because we end up waking each other up too much. Works out absolutely fine for us.
Just don't let Lou Ferigno find out
They won’t last lol
@@lokiprepper Same, and we've been together even longer than that technically. Sometimes we even switch beds because one is more comfortable than the other. I have a sleep disorder and other chronic issues that disrupt me far too often to sleep consistently, so I'd rather not make it hard on him as well. I used to wake him up in the middle of the night by accident being a night owl. The volume for UA-cam is so inconsistent. It doesn't mean we are never in the same bed; I don't know why people can't understand this.
@@Yamom395 they only sleep separately sometimes while she's in nursing school so she can do well.. many others in the comments talk about their long term relationships working just fine doing this. Maybe it wouldn't work for you, but they aren't you so..
This is actually brilliant! You guys are so respectful of each other, prioritizing your sleep scheds. It's actually a mature relationship move. ❤
Scheds? 🤢
Being a nurse and good sleep schedules don't go together lmao. She got the bed so she wouldn't fuck his sleep up when she has to do night shift.
@@lemonsqweezy9532What?
@@lemonsqweezy9532 Yeah night shift fucking 😂
@@tonic1667 Schedule
My parents were doing the same for the same reasons : my mum's a nurse with night shifts and my dad was a massive light sleeper as well as a disabled man, it would have been ultra hard for any of them to really rest in the same bed. And be assured that their marriage was happy and lasts a flourishing 31 years before my dad passed away! Don't let anyone make you feel you have both to justify your sleeping arrangements!
Couples sleeping in the same bed actually only became common as the size of living spaces decreased and poverty increased. Before that time it was normal for couples to sleep in separate beds. Convincing people it is normal to sleep in the same bed was actually just a trick of the ruling classes to make people more okay with their declining standard of living. Obviously this sort of thing varies culture by culture as well and some people just like sleeping together. On one hand it's warm and cozy, but it can also be sweaty and gross. It just depends what you prefer and it doesn't mean anything with regards to the relationship.
The same with my parents too
My mom still says her dream scenario is to be neighbors with my stepdad, lmao. They've been together 20 years, and perfectly happy together, she just wants her space 😂
Dear God what is a mum!
@@relaximhilarious3070 lol I hope you are joking. It's just the same as says pops for dad but some say mum, mama, momma, mommy, mom, mother. Am I missing any?
Me and my wife have been married for 16 years and separate bedrooms are a must for us!!! My bed needs to be extremely soft, she likes a very firm bed, she also sleeps with the television on, and I need it dark and quiet. She is a light sleeper I sleep extremely hard and snore. It took us many years before we realized this is what we needed. This has 100% saved our marriage
Me and my husband have the same issue plus I don’t sleep very long, go to work way earlier he works way later and I wake up a thousand times during the 4-5 hrs I try to sleep. We finally found a bed comfy for the both of us and our own pillows. After doing the whole separate rooms thing for awhile it started to west on us, our bedroom time together was not less than usual yet we were still finding we were more grouchy and short with each other when we didn’t mean to be. Eventually we just went back to the same bed and I found a way to block out the tv. I have a heating blanket with several settings if I need it, he is always hot and needs the windows open so if I get cold I can turn on the blanket to 1 and it is just warm enough to be not too hot for me and he isn’t dying of heat stroke. We couldn’t handle sleeping apart. He ended up starting to actually sleep worse and lighter because he was worrying about me and how I was sleeping instead of being able to see what kind of night I was having and I was starting to feel bad and missing having him next to me. We simply found other options to be able to both get better and more sleep. On a good note I’m sleeping longer at one time now and about 30 min to 1 hour longer than I used to. I’ve had insomnia since I was a year old though so it’s a big improvement. I say doing what you need in order to get sleep avoiding resentment is key. Just remember to check in with each other every so often because like in our case, things can change with how the arrangement is making one or both partners feel and you may both be on the same page and not wanting to say anything thinking your partner is sleeping better and not wanting to take that away from them. When really you were both feeling the same.
Honestly, that's pretty mature and respectable. I wish you two the best of luck.
I swear I read luck as fuck
She’s dating a gay dude man. Read between the lines.
@@humantacos9800Who tf are you to tell someone else their sexuality? 🙄🤦♂️
@@Username-7781 Triggered?
@@humantacos9800 So, you’re in no position to do that. Cool, thanks for confirming.
Married for 24 years here... We've had separate bedrooms for over 20 years. Raising kids, chronic illness, bad sleep schedules, differing work schedules, you name it. Was the BEST thing for our marriage. Don't apologize for your choices as they work for YOU. It's your relationship and your bedroom... no room for anyone else's opinion!
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Don't kid yourself. Your spouse is probably already cheating behind your back for over 20 years. :)
not to mention guys like it cold af in the room and women generally like it warmer, which was more of the problem for me than any of the other things@@purpledol8455
were u guys sexless? genuinely interested. thx
sounds terrible
Kudos to you for being confident enough in your relationship and knowing how important getting good sleep is!
Yes! Once we are empty nesters I want my own room too. My husband snores horribly and I get no sleep. It’s getting old and I’m tired.
This is how relationships last. Honestly, humor, and the fact that you both are secure in knowing who you are that you are not afraid to tell each other your needs. This is excellent!
Sure.. and he has a secret boyfriend on the side
@@lakaspikaur an incel
@@cheyhey2170Original! Wow. That insult and trying to shame tactic is actually played out and anyone who uses it these days just reveals they are an idiot with nothing else to say. Nobody takes it seriously. He is a beta Bob provider that she doesn’t even take seriously because he is limp wristed. When she asks for the open relationship nobody other than you will be surprised.
@@cactaceous 💀ok bro
@@cheyhey2170 I have two brothers… you are not one of them.
“But we got those” killed me 😂😂😂
At least he has some priorities straight. I know many women now feel they don't need us, but the truth is that without us, they'd have to rely only on other women to truly admire their lovely lady lumps.
@@WK-47i assume youve never been in a large group of Girlfriends because .... Thats exactly what we do haha. My best friend has probably commented on my... Assets... More than my Partner and definetely in more Detail 😂
@@annabeinglazy5580”assets”🙏🙏😭
Right, 😂😅 I died. It's surprising more people aren't bringing it up.
This is an extremely mature, well thought-out decision - indicates that the ability for you two to communicate is amazing, to say the least.
You overcame something that could have definitely been a dealbreaker for many, elegantly and peacefully. Kudos!
Nah here’s the thing…I was wondering why they don’t sleep together then it cut to the clip of him talking and I instantly found out he’s gay and also still loves legos…that moment I found out why so I’m now in the comments😬
@@HdkrbrjfofjfndkeleI think you wrong boyyo
1 minute just to say you're light sleepers
@@Hdkrbrjfofjfndkelebecause of sleeping schedule……. She said why. And if he’s gay that’s none of our business.
@@Hdkrbrjfofjfndkeleyou have to be younger than 18. What a dumb take
I’m a true believer of separates bedroom. You each have your space with your things. Take turns sleeping in one or the others rooms. It’s fabulous!
I think it's also great to have a space of your own. No matter how much you love someone, having a space to spend your alone time is great.
well they clearly stated that the only reason is because of them both being light sleepers and because they sometimes different schedules at times
@@matthewwilson5019 yes, I know. I'm just saying that it's an added bonus.
@@amira_856 yup exactly and i find it funny how everyone is up in arms lol, i mean alot of men have their man caves lol. As long as the women doesnt refuse intamincy or ""fun time"" with her boyfreind then who cares what they do lol
I struggle with sleep, this actually shows how pure your love is! You guys don't need to be attached 24/7
[Edit] Having space to miss each other is one of the biggest blessings in disguise.
@AQvc44what was the point of your comment ? 😂 people can communicate like adults
@@RespectMeBitchProblem is a lot DON’T do that and act like they’re very incapable of doing so.
Whether you think so or not it’s actually a very common major issue in the world currently and has been.
@AQvc44 You can cuddle and fuck together and still have the energy to walk into the next room.
@AQvc44they’re under the same roof. There’s really no benefit to being unconscious next to each other.
As someone who's been in a relationship for 14 years and have had separate bedrooms for 4 years, I don't see how not wanting to strangle your partner each time he snores could be a bad thing for the relationship lol
100% support this! I’ve been married for 25 years and we have always had a “guest room” that has served as a refuge if one can’t sleep, is sick or has to be up early. Sleep is very important and looks like you two are on top of it. Good luck with Nursing school! ❤
Same
My husband and I use 2 bedrooms as well. He works odd hours at the hospital and snores when he's in a deep sleep. I supposedly do a lot of weird sh*t in my sleep like talking and doing an alligator death roll with the sheets. We occasionally sleep in the same bed but getting a good sleep is the priority for both of us.
It's also kinda hot when he knocks on the door when in the mood for those special "visits"😂😂
25 years! 🙌 my gf and I are emergency nurses, we are also catholic.
Til marriage we will sleep separately, out of respect for each other and for God. But we already know that being able to have space and sleep without disturbing each other is KEY for us, so we plan to keep having our own space for when we need it!
Some jobs make this almost necessary. If you love each other you make compromises 😊
God bless you
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I agree 100%. Good sleep is very important. I am also a very light sleeper, I can’t stand broken up sleep throughout the night.
Man this generation is so different. Never in my 20’s was I so intune to my body’s needs and thought about prioritizing sleep. Like whaaattttt 😮😅 you guys are amazing.
You... werent in tune enough to prioritize sleep? If I did that Id be getting headaches every day😭😭
The gen z are so admirable and they're doing everything we did wrong! Good for em
I agree. I wouldn't have been caught dead in Walmart wearing pink'ish shorts, looking like a soy boy.
@@mydream881doin everything with a sas lol. Love Gen Z
Right, like I had 2 kids by the age of 21and I thought that was old because my mom had her first child at age 16 and was married. I'm glad to see the changes.
My husband and I have our own separate bedrooms and have been happily married 14 years now. Healthy sleep is such an important part of mental and physical health. Also its nice to have your own personal space with your own touch to it like a personal retreat ❤
Exactly.. I enjoy going to bed again..before i would purposely fall asleep on the couch
Lol because your married 🤣 but when your dating you should be banging none stop
... he is gay
Def infidelity going on
@@jboib101status or different sleep schedules, you doorknob humper 🙄
I feel the exact same way. I love spending time together, but we both have our solo hobbies. I really think it’s important to spend time alone sometimes
After 5 seconds listening to the boyfriend it’s self explanatory why they have a separate Rooms lol
Lmao you sound ignorant
We hold these truths to be self evident ...
after 2 seconds of reading this, it's self explanatory what your morals are
He's clearly gay lol
Damnit I was gonna say this!
Thank you for sharing! Honestly it means so much! People need to understand that one mold does not fit all and love is love no matter ❤
Honestly, this is so thoughtful. This actually shows how much you love each other. It’s always the small things!
It's actually healthier to sleep in your own beds. All studies show that couples who sleep separately get a better night's rest. Sleep is one of the most important aspects of your health. It affects everything in your body. The idea of sleeping together every night sounds nice on paper but in terms of science. It's not practical for optimal health.
No this is the new beta simp weirdo generation.
@reformedex-drugtrafficker8972 I guess if neither of you like sex then by all means, sleep separately.
@@DevotedDisciple-xwut…they can have sex at different times?
@@DevotedDisciple-xyou must be a virgin. You haven't figured out yet that people can have sex and go their separate ways 🤣
I love how many people are getting separated rooms and in healthy relationships! I’m all for it! I love sleeping with a special someone next to me but I also love being alone. I think this is great!
🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣are you a divorce lawyer 🤣🤣?
@@sbdmw1 🤣🤣🤣🤣youre talking nonsense
@@chriscruzA35O-9OOwhat's been your longest relationship, Mr relationship and divorce lawyer expert?
@spiralsausage longest than you with you spiral sausage 😂😂😂😂and, am not a divorce lawyer am asking her if she is a divorce lawyer
@@chriscruzA35O-9OO You believe couples have to sleep in the same bed every night to stay in a healthy relationship? Could you elaborate a little more on why, please. 🫶😇🐰🌥️🌈🌼🌷🪻🌺🅰️🐇🌻
That cut... from the "This is why" to the "Baaaabe Lego Dinosaurs!!!" That tells you way more than you need to know.
And him checking out guys the very next sec
You don't stop having fun because you grow old. You grow old because you stop having fun.
Thanks for being bold enough to make this inference. It was the very first thing I thought of. If she's intelligent enough to get into nursing school, how can she be so naive?
Oh well, she has companionship which is nice.
Very smart; 👏🏽even couples need space their own sanctuary 🧘♀️🧘♂️time apart I think if people were to understand this, instead of trying to uphold ideas and practices, they do not support their personal growth and their relationships.
Relationships will be a lot healthier, and more of couples (possibly would) stay together!
I've been married for 16 years and we started sleeping in separate bedrooms about 5 years ago. It has been one of the best things for our marriage. My husband is a light sleeper and we both snore so thus was the right thing to do for our marriage. We love it.
Love this!
Which bed do y’all use when you want to get intimate?
@@lihlelee3826 His. 😆
yeah being married and not sharing bed, way to go.... you sound happy
@Sim-po1mc exactly, sounds dumb to me. Then why be married
People don't understand how important getting enough sleep is. Less cranky people equals to a healthy relationship.
You really have nothing to say about the fact the title is a total lie and click bait and the deceive people for attention on social media…
@@Jesuschristitsjasonbourne3boohoo
@@Jesuschristitsjasonbourne3 yes only that,is a lie that sleeps separately save relationships ,🤣🤣🤣when you opt to sleep separate ,is an undoubtedly sing of relationship struggles, and will end soon in divorce
@@chriscruzA35O-9OOLong-term sleep deprivation makes you cranky and argumentative, which makes you more likely to fight (especially considering you'd be causing eachothers sleep issues) which makes you more likely to break up.
Having your own bedroom means you get your own personal space that you can wind down in and decorate to your own liking. Plus, as she said, people have different sleeping habits and behaviours.
Plus, they can still sleep together when they choose to, they just have the option of choosing.
If you have different work schedules or like In my case my gf well lay down in bed then watches TV til midnight, then gets up 10 times in the night and wakes me up everytime turning lights on and so on. But she's against this idea, and I do wake up pissed that I got 2 hours of sleep or less. Has nothing to do with a failing relationship. It has everything to do with sleeping, lol.
“My boyfriend and I sleep in separate beds and here’s why…”
*boyfriend checks out another dude*
Did u see that calves tho?
Those were good calves. Don't be a hater.
This “boyfriend” is effeminate. Maybe he’s not gay, but that seems unlikely.
^^^ I’m guessing they don’t sleep with their girls either… 😂
You are projecting.
“Look at my calves… 😭
but atleast we got those” make me CACKLE
“But we got those tho”😂😂😂😂
He’s the white financial check.
My girlfriend and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for over two years now. She has really bad insomnia and is a light sleeper and I tend to as she says “flop like a fish” in my sleep. We’ve been together almost 6 years now(living with each other for 4 of those years) and this is just our dynamic. We still love each other and because of our love we don’t want to sacrifice each others health and sleep because of social standards.
Same here and we are happily married 17 years now. ❤
My gf and I sleep in separate rooms because I snore really bad due to a extremely bad deviated septum and allergies, and she just sleeps better on her own. I’m fine with this! Means that when we move in together we can have our own rooms and more space to store our stuff! We share a bed for short naps but she’s also a very cold person and sleeps with heaps of blankets and I run super warm and always wake up sweaty so it works better in the long term for us to sleep separately!
@@AquaFrangiit sounds like you already have moved in together
I remember when I played house with a girlfriend 🙄
Same here . I flop like a fish too. 😂 my partner is a light sleeper ,it has worked out for us ,we each get a better night sleep!
Good quality sleep is one of the most important things in life. And if your partner is affecting that, sleeping in separate beds is a very healthy way to help.
Nah he is gay
@@DumbJester 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣checking other man calves mmmmmm
Nah it's just an excuse for people to do sneaky shit I know nurses who sleep just fine right beside there man and get plenty of rest
@@lightning13clair29Not everyone is the same lol
@@kaylnlong92 I didn't say everyone is the same can you not read well I say its just an excuse for people to do sneaky shit which is literally for some couples the facts just because you can't accept the truth doesn't mean it doesn't happen sleeping in seperate beds is causing more break ups and divorces than helping people
Kudos, baby. I love how you prioritized your health. That keeps people together. The consideration you mutually have for each other is amazing. You go, girl. You are an ace at relationship foals!😊❤❤
Love that you’re normalising this. Sleep is so important.
They won’t last lol
It's out there just nobody talks about it. You know you hear the typical loveless marriage thing but this isn't that. This is love for your partner.
It's not normal
@@chiarac3833maybe for like 10% that find them in this situation... The other 90% got lies/issues..... Please
It's not normal. As soon as she's off the pill, she's gonna get di@k3d down to sleep by a real man
My husband and I (of 13 years) have been sleeping separately and we are so much happier to see each other every day 😂 it hasn’t affected our romantic life because nothing killed the vibe like being exhausted and pissed off in the morning - we actually are more excited to see and touch each other more now than before.
The only downside is that I love just automatically having him next to me in the morning and I miss the default morning cuddles. But sleep is so critical and prolongs your life and I want many happy old years with him. I love falling asleep immediately and not being awoken until dawn when the light comes up.
I’m days off sleep together then u still can get those cuddles and get enough sleep on other days
So I have a friend with a similar set up and their “rule” is whoever wakes up first goes and crawls into bed with the other person so they are essentially waking up together, get those morning cuddles, etc, and they’ve been doing this over 20 years. Also separate bathrooms. 😂
Same! We were so sleep deprived in our first two years of marriage and everything is sooo much better since we started sleeping separate rooms a few years ago. Plus we’re both introverts, so getting quality alone time to start and end the day is amazing for both of us.
Same here!!
Yea ok.. I'm sure he's happy af.. not. He has no choice but to agree... You think he's happy.. 😅😅😅😅
Happily married for 10 years now! About a year ago my husband and I decided to sleep separately because he snores and I am a very light sleeper. It was affecting our sleep so much because I’d constantly be shaking him, telling him to roll over etc 😩
Having our own rooms was the BEST decision! It’s actually really fun too because we have decorated our rooms how we want :) it hasn’t affected our love life negatively and in fact, that has improved as well. So yeah, do what is right for your relationship and don’t let anyone tell you what’s right or wrong!
We’re married 16 yrs and figured it out year 2.. this could prob save marriages and people aren’t realizing it.
when me and my husband moved in together we also got separate rooms because i snore sometimes and hes a light sleeper so neither of us would sleep cause he would wake up from my snoring and i would wake up to not snore and now it’s the best and each morning we make sure to spend some time together and cuddle because we have different work schedules it’s nice 🥰
@@Vantescypher exactly! It’s fun to wake up and have coffee together after a refreshing night’s sleep!
@@bigjosh9364 winning at life!! We need to normalize sleeping apart!
He probably has sleep apnea have him get checked out!
You guys show a good example to this generation.What it means to be together.God bless you!!!❤❤❤
I’m surprised more people don’t do this. I’m single atm but I HATE when I have to share a bed. It’s great before sleep, but when you’re actually sleeping I like to take up a lot of space, sharing a quilt is just annoying and I also wake up at any slight noise, smell, CONTACT or anything.
I also have family and friends that constantly complain about being tired because of sharing a bed with their partner. I suggest using a spare bed or even separate quilts and they shut it down immediately. Insanity.
Not even separate quilts🤣🤣🤣 THIS discovery was life changing!!! 🙌🏽🙌🏽🙌🏽 They should AT LEAST try that🤭
@@funlo.vingco I’m saying! 💯
Now I understand why my dad don't like to share his bed 😭 ohh kinda sucks I have to apologize
Husband and I have had separate bed covers/ comforters (Scandinavian sleep method) for over 6 months now. Life changing is all I can say.
I sleep better next to my boyfriend
It is very healthy to prioritize these needs!! Good for you both!!
Yes, in a relationship, be sure to prioritise your own personal needs over that of the relationship.
It makes for a strong relationship... doesn't it?
@@yt.personal.identificationyes
@@yt.personal.identification bro, they're literally doing it to both their benefit. Were you even listening? This wasn't just individual personal needs. They both understand that they both have issues staying asleep for being light sleepers so they compromised a solution that allows both of them to prevent the problem. The fact that you're presenting such a shallow view of relationship just tells me that you're chronically lonely and prolly don't have a lot of good friendships. I'm not mocking you for it. Just at least show some self-awareness
@@yt.personal.identificationsleeping is important, and the least important thing in a relationship. What are you talking about?
@@Law-of-EnTropy If you are calling me "bro," then I can be sure you are not speaking from life experience.
Oooh I did this for the majority of my relationship & guess what, I’m married!!! We just recently started sharing a bed again because we’re expecting baby #2 & need my room as a nursery. There’s nothing wrong with separate beds. & guess what, my grandparents who were married for 60+ years had their own bedroom for as long as I can remember because neither of them got their own room as a child & they were living out their childhood dreams ❤
Awww yay for them😊 I’m glad they did something to feed their inner child❤ And it’s actually not weird to sleep in separate rooms!
Love that bit about your gran grans 😭😭😭
Your grandparents story reminds me of mine! I grew up sharing a bedroom with all my siblings (we were 6 in total, I’m the oldest). When our financial situation got better, we moved to a bigger house, with our bedrooms. And because this was very recent, I don’t want to share rooms with anyone.
And congratulations on your baby!
Just keep this a secret from Lou Ferigno
Omg your grandparents 🥺🥹🥺🥹🥺
That is so cute 🖤
Married 13+ years now, we sleep separately and are the happiest couple I know. Sleep can make or break you!
i love seeing things like this. relationships that deviate from conventional even in small ways are often seen as bad. in this instance having a separate bed makes things BETTER for you guys. i’m glad you two were able to prioritize your sleep
Beds are impossible to share. Futons on the floor are easy to share because you don't shake the floor like you shake a mattress.
Remember, they shared a video with your that they reviewed and produced to have to feel this way about unconventional relationship standards.
Sure, that reason may seem sounds, but you're qualifying an opinion based on nothing but entertainment.
I could never sleep again with someone who has a work schedule. They'd never get a good night's rest. I'm up at 2 or 3 in the morning sometimes after just sleeping for a cpl hours yet I manage to go all day. Not everyone can do this.
It would border on cruelty to make them sleep with me. 😃
My husband and I have had our own bedrooms for 25 years. It's the best decision we ever made and works for us. I am and early riser, he is not. I sleep incredibly light, he snores through anything. We are happy, healthy and look forward to another 25 years😊❤
Usually relationships built on practicality and selfishness means someone is gonna cheat or has already done so multiple times. If you both do that and are happy, then I guess it works out in that context.
@@janniknielsen9292usually relationships with horrible respect for one anothers sleep, which is 1/3rd of your life, end in divorce.
@@janniknielsen9292 That's absurd🤣🤣
@@Flowers4Everyone Maybe for the two of you.
@@janniknielsen9292what are you basing your information on? Lol. Nothing about two people needing sleep is selfish.. it's a human need.
my husband & I have separate bedrooms and it's honestly one of the best decisions we ever made. I'm a light sleeper who likes the room dark, quiet & cold, he's a heavy sleeper who tosses & turns and likes it warm w/TV on. separate bedrooms means we both get the restful sleep we need. every time we have a "sleepover" in the other's bedroom, it's a great reminder of why we opted to have separate rooms lol
Men and woman should ALWAYS sleep separate unless they’re going to reproduce 🤢
I thought you were going to say it was a good reminder of how much you guys missed each other.😂
Same, my husband can shake the windows and refuses to do anything about it. Ugh❤
Bad
@user-bl5eq6ep6c maybe for you it would be bad but for us, it's been wonderful
The caring, consideration, logic used for this decision. Well done to both of you❤❤
Doing what works for both of you and having honest, open communication......priceless.
Girl, my partner and I have been sleeping in separate rooms for 9 years now, and we both enjoyed it! Sleep is so important to both of us, it works for us!
Without being too crass, you guys still remain intimate though right? Because I believe in most relationships intimacy is incredibly important.
@@christianmcbreartyyou can hangout in each others rooms for movie night then head to your own for bed. In the morning whoever wakes up first can join the other for morning cuddles. Ez pz
Tf is a partner? U mean boyfriend?
Trust me it's great, once the honeymoon period (sex every night )is over and you still love each other it can wok if your sleep schedules are different.
@@christianmcbreartyI love sleeping next to my boyfriend so I wouldn’t do something like this, but I imagine you get intimate and then head over to your own bed??? I would definitely miss the times when you’re somewhat sleeping but still teasing each other and end up getting intimate in the middle of the night, which you couldn’t do if you slept in separate beds
factssss, what works for you works for youuu
Damn, that made my day, I'm writing that down.
Can i “like” this 8 million times! 😁 I am realizing getting good sleep, and having my own little private oasis area where i can go and sleep or rest or just exist/decorate/curate the whole vibe, lighting, noise level, energy, mood and aesthetic is such an important visceral thing to keep me centered and happy!
I love this. It’s so healthy! Thank you for helping to normalize that your relationship is about you and the person you’re with and it is no one else’s business!
I honestly think that this is a proof of both of you guy’s maturity and ability to prioritise your own wellbeing and your own expression instead of conforming to what others would think you should or should not live like. IMO this is the beginning of a healthy relationship based on authenticity and friendship that unfortunately most ppl today are not capable of. Good for you!
What does this even mean. Nobody us telling them to conform. They literally didn't need to share this, but they did vbecause wanted everyone to know what they were doing
Also makes it really awkward when I'm sleeping with her.
Agreed. The way this dude speaks screams maturity to me too.
A lot of people probably think (even though you explained it) that having two different beds and sleeping apart sometimes is a terrible sign but personally I think that it shows you two are both very secure in your relationship. It shows that you can prioritize each others’ wellbeing and be mature and realistic about your situation. Kudos to you guys!
@@dmoneydmoney6050Try researching how important sleep is to the body.
@@dmoneydmoney6050the reason is literally she’s a nurse and would wake him up coming in at like 5am for bed. Did you not watch the video? Or maybe your last two brain cells took a break from rubbing against each other 🤡
@@dmoneydmoney6050 chill bro. Just my opinion
@@dmoneydmoney6050She... Literally gave the reason in the video. Completely valid and understandable too.
You might want to get your head checked.
@@ElusiveTyyoure an idiot, she wants to tinder all night without him knowing 🤣 not healthy
we recently started sleeping in different rooms with my boyfriend as well, because he snores so loudly that there’s no way i can sleep with him and also i suffer from chronic migraine and getting a good nights sleep is crucial for me. this has improved our relationship bc i’m no longer irritated in the morning from not sleeping well so we no longer have those unnessecary arguments and tension. sometimes sleeping in separate rooms is the best decision for a healthy relationship and people shouldn’t assume that it’s somehow a sign you no longer love each other 🙌🏻
He’s not getting enough oxygen thru his air ways while he sleeps id look into that
He needs to go and check that cause its not healthy to snore so loudly. It might be apnea
👍👍💪💪💪
@@alinavint3580the acoustic physical features of the room can greatly amplify the sound of snoring
We do the same, at first I felt bad but now I couldn't go back to sleep together every day, specially on weekdays working the next morning. We occasionally sleep together on weekends when the waking hour doesn't make a difference and we can oversleep all we want.
Her being with him is why I believe there’s someone for everyone because when I see him I feel cringe but she loves him
I love this and wish more people normalized separate sleep arrangements for couples! There are many other ways to be intimate without disturbing each other's sleep.
Spoken like a true f@t chick!!!!
Separate sleeper here. He snores like a train and has active dreams and I can't stay asleep for more than a couple of hours without briefly waking. After many grumpy mornings, we sleep separately. We're still going strong after 18 years and appreciate each other more in the day. It's nice to have those few hours of peaceful sleep and then wake up, regroup and enjoy our time together. I wish more couples were honest about separate sleeping. It doesn't mean the end. You can have some nights together still and also enjoy separate nights peacefully, sharing a home together. ❤
@@Mardi-Shorts-DevonGirlUK same here my husband and I sleep in separate rooms because of his snoring. He will fall asleep in my room sometimes and I don't mind but once I start waking up because of the noise I tap him and he knows what that mean, you gotta go buddy! We have three kids and been married 8 years together 18 years.
@@ellejaym3162 aww, bless you. I feel what you're saying. Snoring is such an awful noise. It could drive a person to near insanity trying to sleep. Even if you block the noise out with ear plugs - the rumbling snoring bass will vibrate through the bed!... Here's to many more peaceful nights in separate beds for all us separate sleepers. And also many more happy years together as couples ❤️
I love his Kenergy. Honestly that’s what mature couples do for each other. You’re just ahead of the game.
Just keep this away from Lou Ferigno
Stfu with the ken stuff
Liking this for Kenergy😂
What's "kenergy"?
@@enigma.of.solace9383it’s just Ken and energy as one word. It would make sense if you watched the Barbie movie but yeah lol
Nothing makes you start resenting your partner more than them keeping you from sleeping 😅
Yes ...
Sleeping separately only matters if it's to avoid resolving conflicts.
@@chrisknoblock🥴🤣
Yes, exactly. My bf is sleep talking and im a very light sleeper. When we sleep together i want to kill him.
So true. So much experience with it!
I think this works really well when your physical intimacy doesn’t rely on being in bed together. If you can replicate or enjoy physical and even emotional intimacy outside of time spent together in bed, it’s great. In my experience, if that’s lacking outside of the bedroom/only happens in bed at night or in the morning being together in the same bed , then separate rooms can be a way to drift further apart. You can also try spending time in bed together outside of the sleeping part I.e. prior to sleep spending some time together in the same bed, or jumping in bed to say good morning and spend time together after sleeping separately. Really just depends on the dynamic but sleep is so important and I support this!
Plot twist: Jack is gay. Someone had to say it.
Why did I have to scroll past 45 comments about “how mature” this is to find this. That dude SUS bro this was cringe as fuck
This guy commented exactly what I was thinking
well if you can’t appreciate the man that work hard to get a those muscles, i can see you sitting on your ass and just hating 24/7 coz i feel like his just a gym guy, that want to excel him self like that dude, try working out and you will appreciate a proper calf.
ya ASF lmao
LOL
I love that you guys prioritize each others sleep ❤
This is what I'd call saving a relationship. It's just being smart and attentive to each other's needs. Inspiring ❤😊
Edit: It's fascinating reading through the few replies to my comment and other similar comments. People seem easily triggered on this issue. Which is weird considering it's a choice you're free to make or not make for yourself. Lot's of overreactions, overthinking and reading too much into it.
If you want to know what real healthy relationships are, seek a professional who can help you. Don’t observe influencers and expect them to have the answers. Be smart.
@@purple9533 well said!!!
@@purple9533 Say what you will, having separate beds when needed _is_ smart, and has saved many relationships. Be smart.
I call it obvious insecurity but cook.
@@ludabam241 Insecure how? From what she says in the video it comes from a pretty secure relationship with a good understanding of what their needs are. I don't see how insecuirty really comes into play in the slightest. But enlighten me. I'm curious. Please cook and serve.
Shew!!!~ This is completely fine to me! You guys know how light of sleepers you are and this is just respecting each other's sleeping well-being and feelings in a way😊😂💖.
Different strokes for different folks. My husband and I have always slept better separately. I have insomnia and he does not. It just makes sense for us. We’ve going 13 years strong.
Makes me feel better, I’m the same way and I always feel bad, but I can’t sleep and him falling asleep somehow makes me more awake!
U both got issues....
yall are so cute i cant
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@grahamcurrie8959 I KNEW THIS COMMENT WOULD BE HERE I GIGGLED-
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@grahamcurrie8959 realll
Ew str8
@cianmacgana9092Because he's not displaying traits of toxic masculinity? You certainly are, though.
My boyfriend and I often sleep in different beds for the same reason. I think the fact that you guys are considerate of each others sleep patterns shows maturity in your relationship.
It won't last
@mar145gh7 Awww, im sorry if you're speaking from experience. Hope you feel better soon 🙏
I preach this all the time. Love this 🤙🏽
I read an article by a psychologist that actually often times recommended couples to sleep in separate beds as part of their couples therapy and they said that this usually solved at least half the problems. From research, we know how important sleeping is and so it makes sense that if people aren’t getting good nights, rest, most of the problems they’re manifesting might come from just being exhausted. Ever since that it always made sense to me and I always like to advocate for it.
I read an article that masks worked and the shot was effective....Biden got the votes.... It's not Hunters laptop.....
He seems like such a sweetheart. Separate spaces are so important. It's good to do things together but you need your own downtime and own space and sleep is super important. I typically sleep with my partner but we have another bedroom set up just in case one of us needs it. It's definitely not weird I'd say it's healthy even.
Tell yourself whatever you want, you won't be married to him if yall don't sleep in the same room and if you do get married it won't be for long lol
@@crini413my grandparents have been married over 60 years. Never slept in the same bedroom 😂 my grandma has bad sleeping issues so they compromised. You don’t have to sleep together every night to have a healthy and long relationship
@@crini413My grandparents have been married 54 years, don’t sleep in the same bed, never have
That’s why she’s able to do this, cause he’s too much of a sweetheart
@@crini413Stop projecting🤡
It’s times like these when you can test how strong your bond is. The fact that he respects your needs enough to go along with this shows that he does love and care for you.
It's about both their needs!
It's not just hers, it's his too. They still sleep together. Just on some nightsbits best for both of them to have space. Sleep is very important.
nah its actually way better to have the same bed rather than seperate
@@brendanbudniak2261 Then you missed the entire point anyone was trying to make. Prioritizing sleep is important, they never said they were never gonna share a bed, but they have jobs and priorities, and if one and/or both of them are not getting any rest because of opposing sleep schedules, sleeping separately when necessary is not a negative thing.
@@Wa1kerSta1ker0 nah I didn't miss the point of what people were saying I'm just saying it's still better to sleep together even considering all those factors
This is so amazing. All this tells me is these two are very much in love and care so much about one another that no matter what, they want to make sure the other is truly happy, comfortable, and taken care of. I love this. Listening to your partner and actually showing you care should be normalized.
i actually love this idea. you get to have your own space to decorate how you want, keeping a piece of individuality and freedom. i always hated compromising on bedroom ideas and making it boring grey all of the time 😭 THIS is an amazing idea.
I agree!
Ive never known a dude who really gave af when it comes to how a bedroom is decorated
@@seanmaher3018 my dude gives af about how our bedroom looks
@@seanmaher3018you should try it’s fun. But you accidentally might catch the gay so be careful. My buddy started decorating his room once and the minute he got some plants and started watering them he just kinda snapped and now he has a husband.
So ya man you never know that new wooden bench you saw on Etsy might just be the catelyst to a future full of penis.
No its weird
A mutually agreeable solution? That's the definition of love.
No its not at all lol
@@chriskoschik391yes, yes it is
Buddy needs to consult Merriam 🤡
She just using him for nursing school free ride
It won't last 😂
As a clinical social worker, I promise you that prioritizing your sleep is going to not only be best for your relationship in the long run, but your health ultimately. So many young people your age don’t think about or care about how important sleep is for your health, so you are way ahead of your peers. Long term sleep deprivation causes so many serious physical and mental health disorders. It’s great you are posting this to help bring awareness to this issue. Blessings to you both 💗🙏🏻
😂 you two are adorbs
I live with my bf and we have separate beds and y’all, it’s really great. We don’t necessarily have different sleep schedules, but I like to listen to sleepy podcasts at night whereas he like silence. And also, sometimes it’s just nice to be able to hog all of the covers myself lol
My partner and I both need TV to sleep, but we like very different shows. She does not want to listen to Forensic Files and I don't want to watch another music documentary 😅
@@pupcomradeDoes sound like an addiction. Maybe you two should not watch TV for a few weeks.
@@TimeFourT Watching tv to fall asleep is very different from having an addiction. Being addicted would mean watching tv is taking priority over other activities or responsibilities in life. Many people need to have some kind of sound to fall asleep, whether that’s white noise or music or a tv show. Many people choose tv because it helps quiet anxious thoughts that come at night. It’s not an unusual or negative thing and simply “not watching tv” is going to do nothing for these people.
This is ideal my bf and I have talked about this I’ve seen where couples have a door policy where they keep their door open to let their partner know come in I’m not doing anything and if it’s closed I’m tired/I’m sleeping. That same couple said it feels like having a sleepover and that they still occasionally sleep in each others beds
Also if you're artistic or have hobbies that take up space it's nice to have your own space for that
Sounds like roommates!
Do it ur sleep will increase ten times, my husband of 15 years been sleeping apart the last 3 years and it has helped so much cuz he’s a very lite sleeper and I move a lot
@@Sammiejammie521that's ridiculous. Quality time is spent awake, not asleep.
I predicts many cats in the future 😂
I said the SAME thing and was told I’m selfish and that it’d lead to my relationship ending. I emphasized the sleeping part as a form of individualism because we are two people coming together but still have own own paths
Have fun having no man
Sounds like you had a lucky escape.
Woah, you're absolutely better off without him. I do recommend buying him a mirror - seems he needs to have a good hard look at who the selfish one is.
I hope you need a decent guy soon.
Just wait until you meet a guy that you actually want to move in with
Just dont complain when he goes and cheats on you. If you dont want to sleep together and have intimacy, you are basically just housemates at that point.
It's also just a good way for both people to have a place that's just their own. Like if you just need a moment alone you have your room and don't have to go to the bathroom or even go outside!
Married for 18 years and my husband and I sleep in different beds and bedrooms. I have horrible insomnia and if I get woken up, I don't fall back to sleep. Hard to take care if two kids on no sleep. And if I get no sleep, I get sick. This arrangement has saved our marriage.
I would disown my daughter if she lived with a man that she's not married to...
Giving a man the benefits if marriage without having to marry me..
Disgusting, low class
I can relate to this so much. It takes a long time for me to fall asleep and I sleep very lightly, even with my weighted blanket and all. Sleeping apart simply saved our relationship.
Sounds miserable
Calling your gay roommate / best friend your boyfriend isn’t weird at all.
Understandable
Thank you ^
What? 😂
Yes it is
@@davidgv3527 *touches nose
No one should ever make you feel guilty about this. You are both showing your true colors, and how much you honestly love & care about each other. Sleep is such a vital part of your health and it truly restores your body. Sleep in the same bed when you can and use the extra bed when needed. Y’all are so sweet together ❤😊 sending you lots of hugs
“Aye but we got those tho” had my deadass dying in the ground 😂😂😂😂
We have that too.
I love falling asleep with him and the other way around too. But sometimes, whether it's schedules or anything else, a girl just need to get her solo superwomen sleeper pose in for a night or two 😂😂 that just makes sense!
Hubby and I often sleep on separate bedrooms. (About 6 out of 7 nights.) I am a morning person (and so is the dog!) and he likes to sleep later. Even on weekdays he gets up 2 hours later than I do. We start the night in our kingsize bed, reading, scrolling or talking and as soon as we get sleepy, he moves to the other bedroom and we both get a good night's sleep. We both have demanding jobs and this works for us. I always say: if it works for the royals, it can work for us. 😂
Oh God I hate that stupid nick name for husbands it don't even sound cute and it's over used
@@lightning13clair29some inside thoughts don’t need to be public comments 😂 ew. Talk about not sounding cute
@@ameliacornick and some skanks don't need to be talking take a hike
@99Em07 I know what it means the point I'm making is it isn't cute cause its over used
@@ameliacornick and some skanks shouldn't be talking care to shut up now
This is actually a good idea, and it just shows that the two of you have a healthy relationship where you prioritize eachother❤ don’t mind the negative people, every relationship is different and what works for each relationship is different:)
Well said 👏❤
@@Miamidoll81 thank you!:)
Indeed
Not the Devilish symbol before I go to bed. Good God what luck do I have that I get to be your 666th like😢
Yup. But keep this away from Lou Ferigno
That bed looks so comfortable! I was lost in.... the comfort 😍😍
I know several married couples who don’t sleep in the same bedroom. At first I thought it was weird, but it’s kind of nice to have your own space, and you get to wake up and greet each other lovingly like you haven’t seen each other all night 😅😂❤
As someone married for 7 years I completely get this, there are many nights I prefer sleeping alone in my own space
Light sleeper condition is an underrated issue. Good call. You’ll have better sleep quality and have healthier more positive morning interactions.
bruh i’m a light sleeper and it sucks. i can’t take naps at all because it takes 30 mins for me to fall asleep and i’ll wake up to anything and everything. the only positive is that i can wake up easily in the mornings but that’s it
I'm basically awake when I'm asleep lol. It almost feels like I'm aware of my surroundings even though I'm asleep. Someone could mutter my name as quiet as possible and I'll sit up and say "what" as if I was awake and listening 😅
being a light sleeper is not a condition it is more natural than being a heavy one lol. People a long time ago needed to be able to wake up from small things because they slept close to the wild.
Joke
I was wrong I thought a light sleeper is a person that need sleep with the lights on😂😂😂😂
My husband & I have slept in separate beds for years. We are happily married and will soon celebrate our eighteenth anniversary. I have many health problems that cause me difficulty sleeping, am a very light sleeper and my husband snores loudly. It has been the best choice for us both. Good for you for prior health and sleep & for having a relationship secure enough to defy convention!
Congratulations on your 18-year union! I encourage anyone that snores or knows of someone who does, to get a sleep study done. It's covered by most insurances and will let you know if that person suffers from obstructive sleep apnea, which is deadly. It caused me to have heart issues and a mini-stroke. A CPAP machine (also covered) made a huge difference in my life. Now, I rarely ever snore. I'm so thankful my lady MADE me do it, RIP. God bless!
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Can not agree more.
I stop breathing for 35+ times / hour and basically don't breath half of the time i am asleep.
It's miserable and I'm constantly tired.
Currently doing a study but the date of my final appointment is still only in a few months... they are so busy...
My hubs and I have same. Treasure nights together, but sometimes separate works better for our schedules, we love each other enough to know that it is from a place of love ❤️
Having your own safe space especially in a relationship is crucial! My husband & I fought over the blankets so we started sleeping with our own blankets then due to work schedules, health issues and the pandemic having our own spaces saved our marriage!
Hey just curious why did you sleep separately during pandemic
So are y'all sleeping separately or do y'all sleep separately in your own houses.
You need a “safe place” away from your husband? Yeah sleep isn’t the issue.
For those internet whiners in the comment section, this is called SETTING A HEALTHY BOUNDARY. Who says couples HAVE TO sleep in the same bed? My parents been sleeping in separate rooms since they started dating back in the 80s, they still do these days. As a light sleeper myself, I totally would do the same. Any noise or any movement will wake me up. Kudos to you both! 👏🏼
People are very closed minded judgmental people. As someone who would rather sleep with my partner, I can also see how having separate rooms would be so cool! Still having your own space and being able to decorate it to your liking and keep a sense of identity I feel is super understandable!! It’s awesome seeing different perspectives and breaking out of societies “norm” because not everything works for every couple.
idk who taught you what health is but they do drugs and dropped out of high school. if you have to set a boundary to avoid confrontation you're incapable of having a healthy relationship because you dont know yourself well enough to approach somebody else. nobody HAS to sleep in the same bed. that much is personal preference. but there is no 'have sympathy for my need for boundary' bullshit excuse that justifies THAT level of need for isolation. you just cant communicate with your partner. and yes that IS your fault. if you dont want to sleep in the same bed, dont. but dont lie to yourself like a pussy and pretend its out of selflessness and admit you arent mature enough to communicate in a confrontation.
theres definitely openness for personal preference but the constant reach for validation in pretending its somehow some healthy boundary is genuinely disgusting because its so counterproductive. its literally gaslighting. "im ignoring you because i dont know how to talk to you, but its because i love you" like bro what? this is the kind of shit that ruins relationships. you HAVE to be able to confront and communicate. if you cannot, you'll be in the 50% of marriages that dont work out if you even make it that far. its kind of pathetic. i always appreciate the desire for health in a relationship, until its really just selfishness being gaslit as health for a relationship@@doodlebob9147
@doodlebob9147 you are literally doing the same thing u r crying about 😂😂🤡
And the last time they had sex is when your mum got pregnant with you 😂
I know many people who sleep in separate rooms and they say that its nice to have their own space. Once you move in with someone you dont have any space thats just yours. It is a good way to have quiet time by yourself. Theres nothing wrong with it.
It is essential.
This! It is so darn important to have a space for yourself
Keep telling yourself that
Best thing you ever did. You guys are using your brains and checking emotions and egos. Your well on your way to a successful relationship!!!