I hate people that perpetuate the belief that hating your spouse is normal and healthy. You don’t have to love everything about your s/o, but if you just constantly go on about how much you hate them then that’s just not healthy at all. You should love those close to you, especially your s/o.
The incredible world of marriage jokes. We got some classics like: - I hate my wife - My husband is useless - I will kill my mother in law - Goodbye Freedom
divorce can be heavily stigmatized depending on your region and cultural background but it's important to value your wellness first. there's no humor in a, broken, abusive, loveless, all-consuming marriage portraying the most sexist generalizations of men and women. if this is what your relationship looks like then you need to RUN. as far and as fast as humanly possible.
@@limmiedee7405 True.I hate to admit it, but my father is a jerk and I even asked my mom why isn't she divorcing him and her response was:"I'm too old for this.Plus, I don't want people to gossip about my divorce".Sometimes, people care more about what other people say that their wellbeing...
All marriage comedy is always either “My wife is annoying and materialistic lol” or “My husband does nothing and makes my life miserable” and there’s no in between
ive honestly never seen the wife hating on husband thing. The closest ive seen are wives joking abt how husbands are clueless when it comes to basic chores and cooking, but usually thats not accompanied by disdain for the husband
As a 20 y/o male who enjoys cooking and baking I find it super weird when I see people talking about how their husband's can't do house chores. Admittedly I hate doing landry and the dishes, but I do them anyways. like boi you gotta grow up and realize that you need to eat and need clean clothes as well. And then the guys are like "I hate my wife". Like why would you get married then?! As a guy who would like nothing more than to be in a relationship with someone who actually cares for me it is insufferable to see this culture normalized.
although I don't have the best understand, I see it as a "I hate my sibling" type thing where you actually do like your sibling a lot. or maybe they hate each other. it seems to be a type of relatable humour and I could definitely see the same types of jokes done with siblings.
@@zahikdturk6568 making jokes. Let them be, seems weird to take these jokes seriously. It really only matters when it’s about abuse. Maybe your expectations for adults is different but adults can tease and have fun too.
dude reminds me of my older male coworker the other day who has been married forever... he said to me 'if she handed me divorce papers tomorrow I'd say THANK GOD!' and I wanted to respond so badly 'ok then why don't you just divorce her?' I feel bad for his wife.
I always hated when people described getting married as a prison sentence for life, like if that is how you feel especially before the marriage don't get married please.
Right like I have no intentions to get married , but I’ve always imagined that getting married with thr love of your life is supposed to be joyful? Like i don’t get three idea of being married with someone you grow to hate, there definitely needs to be more communication
True. I get it when it's just genuinely a joke or sarcasm but even then just keep it between friends. It's not a good idea to be spreading this kind of impression on a very large platform. That's how toxic relationships get mistaken as normal, or worse, glorified. Some people really have no sense of responsibility just because they can upload whatever they want.
I guess those jokes came from when people where forced into marriage / you couldn’t get away with being unmarried because people would look down on you. However, lots of people marry for love now but still use those jokes because…? Idk lol? Idk why you would joke about marrying someone you love.
I understand playful teasing but I think it's a thing to do between each other or in a small circle, cautiously. I wouldn't wanna watch people do this jokingly or not as well as question if there's truth to that.
There's a line between playfully teasing your spouse and being mean. They obviously crossed it, true it might just "be a joke" but why would anyone in a healthy relationship want to even say stuff like that about someone they love
No. It becomes mean if the it isn't a joke and is just a comment disguised as a joke. Guys, it's not that deep, they're just cringy jokes on TikTok, not signs of a future divorce.
yeah like i literally COULD NOT IMAGINE hating my partner/spouse? it's so weird that that genre of humor is so common. i have a partner and i would never even joke about hating them because they're the best most amazing and wonderful person in the entire world. and if you really didn't like your partner/spouse you could just like stop going out with them/get a divorce or something instead of just being a wanker about it on the internet? the whole "hating your spouse" thing is just one of those Straight People(tm) things i guess
I remember my high school choir director once told us a story about him and his wife, and he was talking about how when the two of them got married, they included in their vows that they would never ever ever yell or lose their temper with one another. He said how they take a break when they get frustrated and come back when they're feeling better. He and his wife have one of the healthiest relationships I have ever seen. He's never reffered to her has a "ball and chain," he's never called his marriage a prison sentence, he truly loves his wife and his wife loves him. That's the type of relationship that people should strive for.
I'm so happy because this is exactly how my bf and I are! Even when we are mad at each other we take the time to communicate that and talk it out, and explain each others sides and understand each other. Neither of us have ever yelled at each other either, even when we wanted to yell. Yelling is easy, talking is hard. We choose to do the hard thing every time. Because that's what makes our relationship work.
Here's a trick. Agree on this system: when an issue arises that you are not agreeing on, tell each other on a scale of 1-10 how important that is to you. And you have to be honest about it, it's not about getting your way, but about having an actually cooperative relationship. Some things we just feel "meh" about, but it might be super important for your partner and vice versa.
I’ll never forget when I found out that when my dad was around 19 and his mom was dying of lupus, his whole family still had her cooking, cleaning, and essentially doing everything for them. They never helped her and she did everything until she died. I can never find these “ha ha my partner doesn’t consider me a human, isn’t their incompetence adorable? 🥺” videos funny.
someone I was talking to during my volunteering told me about one of her friends who died (I can’t remember what of but I think it may have been related to MS) because her family did the exact same thing to her. she would be in hospital for weeks and then come back just to exhaust herself with housework again, have to go back to hospital and so on. and it killed her. it was such a heartbreaking story
The amount of free labor and time that women provide to family life is absolutely unappreciated. It’s crazy when you really think about it. This explains why stay-at-home moms take pills so much. That life sounds exhausting.
Words can’t describe how much I hate the “quirky helpless husband” trope. “Haha! My husband can’t do basic adult skills, he’s so silly 🤪” like no that’s not ok
It's comical that on tiktok we all comment It's weaponized incompetence, that's not fair to her or their children and to get a divorce but these women are FIGHTING for their useless baby husbands. Very amusing, highly frustrating.
My parents definitely hold up really toxic gender norms and they don’t even know it. My stepdad works and then goes on his phone. My mom works, does all the cleaning (when i’m not home), does all the cooking (when we don’t order in), and has a side business baking cheesecake. My sister and I had to do actual chores, my brother gets to sit on his ass and play video games. If he was rude to me or even physically attacked me, he was allowed to get away with it and I got in trouble for defending myself. When I brought this up years later, they tried to gaslight me.
the sad thing is that people like you go through it and develop misandry and think it's ok, while men go through the same equivalent but with their mother and they're called misogynists. We should never generalise a group by the shitty behaviour of some of it's members, and always remember that we remember the bad things, we don't really remember the good things. it's just in our danger avoidant nature. that's why each night we should find something to be grateful about in our lives.
learning the term "Weaponised incompetence" made me understand the whole stereotype about men being helpless- it's not about being stupid, they choose to rely on their wife as a form of control and laziness
@@erinc129 think anything remotely physical. All of a sudden these strong women can't lift 30 pounds. Also, think any of those chores that are traditionally done by men, like maintaining the family car (oil changes and brake jobs are not hard), or stuff like climbing on the roof to clean out the gutters. Women are clearly capable of this, and have been weaponizing incompetence in these areas for decades...you know relying on men as a form of control and laziness. All of these so-called independent, strong, women, can start pulling their weight. Literally.
My daughter and I saw a couple in Disneyworld while we were on vacation there. They had two young boys (probably 5 and 7-ish), a baby in a stroller, and a toddler, cute as a button girl that the mom was holding. As we waited in the Magic Kingdom for the end of evening fireworks, we watched as mom struggled with ALL FOUR KIDS while dad played on his phone. It was hot outside, and I imagine they'd had a fun (but long) day in the park! The toddler was squirmy, the two boys were shoving each other, the baby was whiny - ordinary kid stuff. Finally, mom says to dad, "CAN YOU HELP ME, PLEASE?!" He takes the toddler girl from her for .00000000000015 seconds and then hands her back and says, "SHE WANTS YOU." and goes back to playing on his phone. I DON'T GET IT. I just don't.
"Housewives have it so easy". They don't get it. They get to have days off of work. While their wife has to work even on vacation. I'm raised by a housewife, I witness everything she goes through. And it's exactly why I don't want to follow the same path she took.
It baffles me how 'I hate my wife', misogynistic, 'my husband is useless' (how quirky) humour is still so prevalent, especially on an app for teenagers
Both are bad but I seriously don’t think the “my husband is useless” joke is anywhere near the same level as the “I hate my wife” joke in terms of how bad it is. The “I hate my wife” is more often than not a product of misogyny whereas the “my husband is useless” is more often than not a reaction to misogyny. I wish people would stop treating them like they are the same
@@mj2208 Very well said! People also tend to forget (or conciously gloss over) the history and background of marriage. Even here "in the west", it's no longer than a few decades(!) since women no longer have to sign their rights away (or better said the rights tgat their father did hold over them) in order to get married. It stems from treating women as literal property; we couldn't open a bank account, couldn't buy or sell property, couldn't work or get medication without the permission of the husband (and many more things), as well as - of course - we couldn't get in politics nor vote to change anything about it... It stems (and in many facettes still is) from a system of systemic oppression and exploitation. That's patriarchy for ya!
The reason my grandparents had few friends: They didn't do this "Hate my husband/wife" shit. They stopped getting invited because when it came their time to whine they just... "Yeah, I love my wife", "My husband does so much for me and the kids".
Happy for your grandparents! :) Having a normal loving relationship sounds just like a breath of fresh air and more relaxing that these "bullshit husband/wife drama"
it's even more terrifying to see this in real life. My best friend moved together with her boyfriend, and he almost threw a tantrum like a child for being asked to do the laundry (For a solid 3 minutes before she agreed). She does most things in the household because "he just doesn't like it and isn't good at it" ?!? while working a ton. Like, good luck with that for the rest of your life.... Those types of men are not hopeless, they're freaking useless.
Parents really should be teaching their boys to do household chores when they're little, since it's way harder to get them to do it when they're older. As a man, I can tell you that it was way easier to get used to a 9 to 5 job than it is getting used to spend even an hour cleaning the house. It's something about knowing you're gonna get paid that makes it easier to force yourself through something than it is when it's unpaid. It took months of me actively trying to do it in order to rewire my brain to make it easier. The only reason women seemingly have an easier time of doing it is because they're socially conditioned to since childhood. PS. I'm not saying that we shouldn't try to encourage grown men either, I'm just saying it's way harder and as you've heard they're going to behave like man-children and throw tantrums. In cases when it's impossible to make them do it, women shouldn't have to put up with it and leave them, because at that pint that isn't just a person who is socially conditioned not to do chores, but an asshole.
@@bratprica6383 I absolutely agree. I'm a young woman but growing up my parents didn't teach me much in terms of house chores. Whenever I tried to help them or asked them tot each me they always just told me to leave these stupid things to them because I have studying to do. Naturally, when I got older my dad still wouldn't let me do stuff, because he did it faster/better, while my mom was suddenly shocked that I don't know how to do xyz without proper instructions because how could I not know. She seemed to think that if you are female and of adult age, lightning strikes you in the head and you suddenly know how to do chores properly, because how could you possibly not know. I'm not saying I'm not grateful to them or that I wish I'd been forced to do chores instead of studying, but I wish I'd had more practice and was taught properly, not with condescending remarks. Now, everything seems like it's too much and/or too hard and I also feel useless for not being very good at it.
@@Marina_7 I absolutely feel the last part and I encourage you to realize it's normal, not just for house chores, but for any new skill someone picks up, especially when they've been discouraged from learning it. I advise you to just push through those doubts it like I did, you'll thank yourself later.
It really is a strange phenomenon. They're the ones who abandoned tradition and went off to find their "soul mate" only to find out oh hey there's a reason people did things they did for thousands of years without change. Oh who am I kidding, they never realize anything the lead poisoned fools that they are. Death to all people 55+
These aren't boomers. These are millennials. It seems "boomer" is anyone over 30 to a lot of you. Boomers are in their 50's or older and in nursing homes. Or dead.
@@akiraholland457 nah, younger people don't rush into marriage so it's more likely that they're already fully committed by the time they get married. as opposed to boomers who rush into marriage because of societal expectations to get married ASAP in the relationship so as not to have the dreaded and shameful "premarital sex" dun dun dunnnn
These are just internalized “truths” for people who don’t know their issue is communication. Like, household chore division should have been worked out before the marriage, and if your partner couldn’t pull their weight you work it out or break up. Petty digs and insults are the easy way out for people who can’t verbally work through a disagreement. Learn deescalation and how to communicate, compromise, and tackle life together as a team.
literally had an argument with my partner yesterday because we both failed to communicate and hurt eachother's feelings. But we both de-escelated the conflict and sought understanding and resolution and now we're fine. I could never understand just holding onto that one moment for a whole relationship.
You can't just work out things before your marriage like a set it and forget it situation. Life constantly changes and people learn, grow, and their energy ebbs and flows. Couples need to communicate in an ongoing way about how to manage the important parts of life like meals, home maintenance, laundry, and money. Source: I have been married for 16 years.
my fiancé and i literally talked about which chores we enjoy and don't mind doing (especially w our respective sensory issues) before he even proposed. if one of us does something that bothers the other, we talk about it as soon as we can. it's honestly not that difficult. figuring out how to verbalize my thoughts in a way that makes sense is the hardest part for me, but i think that's because i'm probably autistic.
what makes me mad is that these women encourage this behaviour. even if they know it's a joke, that's not how people are gonna think when they see these videos.
Yeah honestly, it's sad how this has been perpetuated in our culture. What's sad to me is that these girls agree to let their spouse make these rude insulting "jokes" which literally leave the woman the butt of the joke. I'm not really sure what the girl thinks she is gaining by participating in her man's "comedy" tiktoks. Honestly this "trend" made me never want to get married. Because it makes it seem like your just going to serve a life sentence with a bully who will find joy in your suffering.
This trope is so upsetting to me, always has been. After my toxic relationship, I wound up in therapy for a long time because I believed this fate was inevitable - glad to report that's not true and my current boyfriend is amazing and supportive.
In my early 30s some guy arrived at a trivia group and immediately started talking about his wife being a “ball and chain”. All the women in the group immediately gave him a horrified look and I think he expected us to laugh. Not sure. He was a drag the whole time and not good at trivia. At least his wife got a break from him. But man, no one else should have to spend time with him.
Also, most of the group was single people who would love to have a living partner. Why do people who have it take it for granted? It seems that immature people are married. Maybe they should get tax breaks. That never made sense to me.
@@JDMimeTHEFIRST it’s always easier to see the dumb people who are married, mostly because the dumb people are the people who yell. There is a large amount of people who get married and are happy, loving, and loved
As someone who grew up with parents in an abusive relationship, it's weird to see couples jokingly abuse each other. I guess to some people who haven't experienced it seems funny to them? Like nothing is funny about your spouse tracking you.
I agree. It's so weird to see people...somewhat romanticize and display all of this behavior to impressionable kids that will grow up thinking these relationships are all they will be able to get. My parents should not have been married and they had children to fix their own marriage. There's nothing good about displaying this behavior as a joke to kids who don't know any better.
Yeah, this type of content unearthed a massive load of trauma pertaining to my parents and their past and present relationships. Like when you know something is wrong generally, but you forget you saw it in your home growing up.
Bobs burgers is good! Animation is a little funky, but it's the only sitcom I like because bob doesn't hate his wife and kids, and Linda loves her husband and kids
@@Akalim Yeah, and they have a realistic relationship. They have ups and downs like every couple, but you know they love each other. These couples should take notes lol
Which is even more hilarious because Addams was made as a way to parody sitcom tropes, and sitcom tropes were initially made as a way to create sorta of "relatable humour" during the time it was popular. In other words, The Addams family to a certain degree is one of the most ironically functional families because they're made to be the opposite of the norm during the time it was created.
I grew up with a dad who was "helpless". He couldn't (read: wouldn't learn how) to boil water. I couldn't rely on him for anything. He forgot my birthday every year. He never got any of us Christmas presents. He barely spoke to me. Its exhausting having to learn to cook when youre only a child because the grown man in your house is "helpless". It isn't funny. It isn't quirky. It isn't fun.
always remember that it's very easy to look at something in retrospect and criticise it. you don't know how life was back then. basically there was no question about not having a partner, it's just how it was back then, because there was a time when we actually needed more humans. you looking at it like a woman was sold to a man is wrong. yes, the marriages were often more or less arrange (sometimes it's more subtle, but still similar). neither young men nor young women had much of a choice. and if your parents got you a good partner, it was like winning the lottery. that's both for men and women. please understand that we live in an absolutely, completely, categorically different and unprecedented state of human race. Even though we are still the same creature genetically, we are defined by what culture makes of us. You know damn well that if you let wolves raise your child, the child will be wild and act like a wolf. so the reality was different, the mere fact that only quite recently we've became the top of the food chain is another thing to ponder upon. as a woman you wanted to be with a man who protected you and, especially, your offspring from a predator literally eating them. Please think about anthropology from deeper, different angles. Think about how patriarchy and matriarchy manifests and you'll understand that all cultures have a mixture of it. One good way to explain it is XY and XX chromosomes. There are disorders that women can only carry, but it only manifests in men. So in society, for the longest time, the man was just a messenger of what their family thinks. If you wanted to live a successful life, you won't just oppress your wife. Not then, nor today. I could go on about this, but I feel that the agenda has been seeped too deep into people and they just want to hate. Ignorance truly is bliss, and no better bliss than burning hate. All the love x
@@misanthrophex I’m sorry, but you’ll never be able to convince me that it was ever a good thing that human beings were bought and sold as objects. Apply that to marriage, apply that to chattel slavery, idc. It was never okay.
@@misanthrophex I didn't finish reading this yet. I just want to say that, in my country, there is still the tradition where the man essentially buys the wife. He pays in money or livestock. He will not be allowed to marry her until he has paid, and only the men are allowed to negotiate the wife's price. Marriage, at least in some places, really WAS just a man buying a wife.
I want to add to this, many kids would end up seeing this on their FY page, or just accidentally come across it and it normalizes that abusive relationships are okay. :/
I've never found the 'bitter old marriage couple' trope funny. Like, if you're miserable, get a divorce? Also loving the hair! 💜 Edit: Because a lot of people are commenting I want to expand my comment because it's very simply worded. When I say 'just get a divorce' I'm talking about the situation where the man continually bullies/abuses(?) his wife simply because he can. He's not staying with her because of outside pressure to stay married or anything, he simply thinks that treating his wife terribly is okay. When it comes to situations when they mutually want to divorce but can't afford it or want to stay because of their kids, that's another topic. When both parties can afford divorce and the wife is staying in this abusive relationship, I am by no means blaming her, or the victim of martial abuse in general. I hope I phrase this much better, text on a a screen sounds really cold and distant. Please know I'm not trying to victim blame or shame anyone for being in an abusive marriage. I'm shaming the man(or abuser in general) for being able to divorce his wife but actively choosing not too because he finds it "funny" to harm his wife.
Yeah I agree with ya But I think they found it funny in the sense that their glad their not in that relationship Or they can relate to it? Yeah Honestly I don’t know 🤷♀️ I don’t know what’s funny about being miserable I don’t like human beings anyways
I hate it that in my homeland, people believe that it is a wife’s role to ensure that the marriage is not miserable, and if the husband doesn’t love her anymore, then it’s her own fault for not being able to ‘save’ her family. :( According to them, love is about suffering, I guess. But not in a bittersweet romantic way like in fiction.
unless its an arranged marriage, i can't see why you'd marry someone you hate. like sure, i guess the love could "fade" a bit over time, but if they really hate eachother why are they together???
I know a "helpless husband" type at work and he carries that into the workplace as well. He can't operate the simple machines we use, is afraid to answer any calls that require him to make a decision, and even asks people to buy coffee and throw things away for him... and that's not an exaggeration. He absolutely infuriates me to no end.
After watching these it makes me want to call my parents and thank them for showing me what a normal loving marriage looked like where everyone shared responsibility’s.
My parents got divorced in 1997 (when I was nine). So love _for themselves_ wasn't even needed. What they *did* have in massive quantities was/is love for *us:* their kids. However, they actively co-parent: because they're still involved as grandparents to my son. They were/are very active as parents in our lives (mine, my two brothers and my half-sister on my mom's side... who also became a surrogate daughter to my dad's side of the family). They made sure we all learned all chores equally. Which means, my brothers *DO* cook, clean (my younger brother makes *THE BEST yellow rice ever while the youngest one is THE BRUNCH KING* ) *and do laundry.* I taught my son to do laundry. Since he's developing rather early, I ain't touching his ji--zz soiled undies no more: so that's his problem now 😁. He's going to be ten in October, yet he's taller than a lot of grown women already: he's 5'1"/1.55m.
Okay but really this kind of relationship is a genuine fear of mine. I’d literally rather be single my entire life than be stuck in a marriage with any guy who disrespects me like that as a ‘joke’. My parents had this kind of relationship. Mum does everything and gets shit on by a man-child who came home from his job of sitting in a chair all day to sitting on a couch all night complaining about dinner and having real no interest in his wife or kids. They eventually split up (which was beneficial to everyone, my Dad’s attitude and outlook changed when he had to learn how to do everything for himself) but as a woman I do my best to steer clear of these kinda guys. Good thing is, I think relationship and gender dynamics are changing a lot recently.
Just don't date guys like this? They're pretty easy to spot in the wild, and so are good guys. I met my husband in high school, he would do cute shit like give our girl friends chocolate if they were on their period, and was super respectful in general. He was always there for me, and was my best friend for years. And unlike 'nice guys' and 'white knights' he didn't expect ANYTHING back from any girl (or guy!) he was nice to, ever. Pure unconditional love. I know I'm lucky and all, but there are so many great guys out there. Guys you get to play games with and cuddle with and enjoy the sun with. Guys who are happiest in life when they get to share it with you. Funny thing is, I'd do anything for my husband, cook and clean if he'd want me to (he doesn't). If only these tiktokkers realized you can't have the 'doting wife' stereotype if you don't respect and support the fuck out of her always. It's a two way street, after all. Sorry, I just get defensive about men because so many of them screw it up for the others, and I feel like if we all dare to believe in them they could prove themselves. Rant over.
@@foxygrin genuinely so happy for you, you have what most people look for in their life. But honestly in my dating experience, some men who are interested in you will treat you well and be completely different to what they’re actually like. They’ll act compassionate and caring at first. Then once you’re in a relationship it’s a complete change and there are massive red flags. It’s really not that easy to spot sometimes. I’ve had an ex boyfriend like this and it shocked me because the relationship was so wonderful. We were even talking about getting engaged in the future and he was so friendly with my family. All was good. But after coming home from a family dinner one night, I overheard him talking to his friend on the phone complaining about the ‘shitty’ dinner my Mum had cooked us and how ‘poor’ my family was (my family aren’t poor, but they do live a quaint lifestyle and my mum tends to put all her value in experiences rather than buying lots of material products). It wasn’t just what he said either, it was the way he said it. Completely different person, cold and mean. It scared me so much that I broke up with him that night. I didn’t tell my family the real reason why because it would’ve hurt them a lot, but I feel like I dodged a massive bullet with that one. Maybe because you met your husband in high school, it was easier for you to see what kind of person he is really. I wish that were the case for me, but I still hold hope that I’ll find someone respectful and kind.
My wife saw a tiktok where a lady was like "babies are so exhausting but my husband won't help because he says he has nothing to contribute until its first birthday." She has been plagued by the thought of it ever since.
it's crazy that people like that exist but all we can control in this world is our own actions. it's just funny to me when people act like misogyny doesn't exist and these are strawman arguments when it's very prevalent
He's got hands. He can feed, rock, bathe, burp, bounce, change, play peekaboo he feels so moved. It's so demeaning to say men are incapable of these things
I want marriage tiktoks where you record your spouse being happy and smiling and enjoying the things they love without telling them. And then asking later for their permission before you upload it. To show people what a healthy marriage looks like.
As a married woman in a healthy and respectful relationship. These tik toks trigger my fight of flight reflexes, Is this what “owning the libs “ is? Making us cringe at toxic relationship pranks?
Literally! Like, why even look at women if you hate them so much, let alone marry them?! So happy my husband and I are setting the precedent of always staying in the honeymoon phase. Like, now a bunch of my friends and family try to emulate our relationship. It really starts at home.
I’m conservative (leaning) and I’ve never met someone who finds this kind of “humor” funny. I will readily admit that the basis for this type of “humor” is definitely a man problem though, regardless of political views. Jokes like the tiktoks we see here confuse the fuck out of me, why would even want to be with someone you don’t like, never mind married, NEVER MIND having kids. I love doing nice things for my wife, pulling my weight, I probably compliment her 5-6 times a day (not exaggerating) and I thank her each time she does something that benefits the both of us. For example, if she does the dishes, I’ll pretty much always say “thanks for doing the dishes my love, I appreciate it”. Obviously I do the dishes regularly as well, but my point is that I LOVE to make my wife feel valued, heard, respected, and confident. I also flirt with her constantly and try to live the notion of “you are dating your spouse for the rest of your life”. She’s an incredible woman and deserves to feel that way.
the real wholesome "couple comedy" was Jenna Marbles' videos. Clearly very exasperated by her tornado boyfriend but still obviously in love and having a good time
I dated a guy once who was the epitome of the useless demanding husband trope. I complained to my mom and said I was thinking about breaking up with him and she said "sometimes you find a good man and you just have to raise him into the husband you want him to be. Your first year of marriage will be tough but I think after that he'll be a really good husband"
Hate that! I'm so sorry you had to hear that. "First year of marriage will be tough while you train him", just no. Our first year was wonderful because we went into it being partners. I know women who make excuses for their husbands not doing their share, and then posting about how lucky they are when he finally does the dishes, or buys her flowers. Like, okay he did the bare minimum, why are we applauding? You don't raise a man to be your husband, you find a person to be your partner.
I can't even bring myself to call someone who's actually being an insufferable jerk a "bitch," so referring to a loved one as such, let alone a spouse-even as a joke-is just unimaginable for me. I'd just feel like the biggest asshole. It's depressing to think that not only is the husband in this situation comfortable describing his wife that way, but the wife is used to it. On a more upbeat note, I can't believe you're already at a million subscribers, but I certainly think it's well-deserved. Congratulations.
right?? Honestly.. It seems like there's some underlying issues being projected. A very unhealthy marriage. Yet lowkey enough for neither spouse to do anything, honestly it's very sad - especially considering your husband/wife is supposed to be like, someone you deeply and wholeheartedly love- ;;
@@messiahofthefirst.3415 Nahhh its not "lowkey enough for neither spouse to do anything". Its more than enough to have a deep conversation which either ends in change of behavior+understanding or divorce. but the reason they dont, is because of societal normalisation and the need to fit into the standard of "If you're X years old you should be married with a wife and kids". This is not to say that the people involved dont have their fault in it. They definitely do, but I thought I should bring it up that as humans we're very flawed, and its not easy to run a family, so not everyone should be required to start one in the first place. Its definitely easy to respect and love someone you're close to tho, which these ppl are lacking in.
@@steel5101 Yeah thats what I generally mean. And I honestly suspect it's not as bad as the videos in real life, but, the reason there's the videos to begin with which, basically are enough said.
I’m so thankful my man doesn’t even joke about stuff like this. I feel like even if you’re “joking” it’s still perpetuating the stereotype that women should be doing everything to serve men. Especially on a platform with younger audiences who are going to learn that and think it’s okay or normal.
agreed. the way a person speaks is direct insight to the way they think. if they're humor consists of racist, sexist, and homophobic jokes... whether they openly express their bigotry or not, they have internalized that kind of messaging and will perpetuate it to some degree. and I'm not saying there's no room for dark humor, but it needs to come from a place of tact and understanding otherwise it's plainly offensive. and anyone who thinks humor can't be either of those things is part of the problem. very glad that you're dating someone who understands this and treats you with the equity you deserve as a human being.
My bf is so done with human life that he does not even recognize these type of jokes. :D One time, I tried to make a (clumsy) "haha, I'm just a stupid, old gf" joke and his reaction was "ehrm, what?" + blank face
the jokes are decades old and completely overdone anyways. ive heard these jokes from men who had those relationships, and men who actually shared responsibility, and they have just simply never been well crafted or witty in the slightest. they are just by principle, not funny.
When I was dating with my now husband, we made clear that those jokes would never be acceptable in our relationship, we both agreed on it and we’ve kept it that way! We’re really happy and caring to each other 💕 there’s hope
That sounds like a lovely relationship. I'm glad you got to experience that and it's sad seeing all these people on social platforms trying to navigate a miserable relationship with miserable partners. How do you not know how to feed yourself?? Its baffling to me.
i wanna know how those women agree to do this stuff lol don't even wanna imagine a scenario where they come up with these ideas themselves. like, why would a modern, seemingly progressive woman act as her partner's slave for a few likes on a meaningless app?? what about "my husband hates me and doesn't acknowledge everything i do for him and he is also a control freak who will probably kill me if im out of line" is funny? we've been battling misogyny and sexism since centuries. for what? this??
because it's been normalized. it's been painted as "just a joke" and if anyone thinks it's stupid or toxic shows up , well their called "sensitive" or "humorless". and i don't these women are in anyway progressive .
I grew up in a home where my mother spent most of her time acting like my father’s servant. He fully embraced learned helplessness (EDIT: the correct term for this is ‘weaponized incompetence’!) to the point that, when my mom was pregnant and on bedrest, I had to show my father how to do laundry. He was so belligerent and it was such a hassle for me that I just handled the family laundry for the duration of my mom’s bedrest. I was 8. And of course he knew nothing about cooking, so whenever my mother was sick/away from home I was in charge of the menu, cooking, and cleanup. In households that embrace patriarchal Christianity, the wives get a terrible deal, no doubt. But oldest daughters have it pretty rough too.
I can't believe people do that to each other. Especially as Christians. Because that goes completely against what it says in the Bible. My parents are both Christans and my mum did most of the work at home. But my father build the house I grew up in, with his own hands, in his spare time. They both really lived to the idea that a man puts his wife and her needs above himself. And my mum always treated him equally in that, just as much. And so my brothers and sisters grew up learning more or less the same things, we could all do all the chores in the house and take care of our younger siblings.
@@HolandaChiquita I live in a rural part of the southern US. Religion is ubiquitous and it invades almost every facet of life here. It isn’t enough for someone to simply worship who they want in their own way so long as they aren’t hurting anyone, which fwiw I fully support the right to do! But that’s not enough for a lot of folks. They have to shove everyone else into it as well. And for a lot of folks the religion is just a Trojan horse for oppression and manipulation and control.
@@timferrell6253 I was raised in evangelical Christianity. That’s what I am personally familiar with, that’s what I am educated in, that’s what influences the politics and social atmosphere in my area, and therefore I limit my commentary to that. It would be deeply unfair and disingenuous for me to speak regarding a different religion that I don’t know. Beyond that, I’ve seen plenty of damage done in the name of the religion of my youth. There is much to speak out against right there, I don’t need to venture out to other religions to find something to be appalled by.
@@Elliebellyboo02 thats fair and I respect that. I just feel like bashing Christianity is as popular as hating on nickelback meanwhile Islam criticism is largely absent. Really just an observation, not trying to pose it as a fact or anything
As a girl, I don’t shave my legs or arms. Body hair is normal. And I’m not ashamed of it. If there’s one person Who has a lot of swagger it’s Tom Selleck. So I make it a point to grow out my mustache just like him.
I don't shave either, I have never shaved actually. My mother is quite bitter about it, but I don't care. I don't want to shave at all but damn it, I am self conscious about my armpit hair. I am scared of the kind of attention it will receive and thus avoid tops that show my armpits. I am 18 and I feel like a 12 year old insecure middle schooler when it comes to my armpits lol.
I once called someone out for these kind of ugly, gross and disrespectful jokes that they were making about their girlfriend. My parents treat it as if I did something heroic and crazy to pull this guy aside and tell him he was an idiot. To me it was just necessary, and I was so annoyed and disgusted that I had to give him a piece of my mind at the time. Call people out. I was in a safe place surrounded by family and friends and I was comfortable doing it, and if you feel safe and that you could call someone out without danger to yourself, please do it. No one should be seen as a hero for calling out bad behaviour. It should be normal. Here’s the context: My brothers neighbour/friend was over for drinks one night while we were staying with my brother. The neighbour had a girlfriend, both of them had kids to different partners and were at least 40. The neighbour was making super misogynistic and gross jokes about his girlfriend while she was standing right next to him and later when she left to get something and when the other guy that was also making those kinds of jokes had left, I pulled him aside with my sister in law and told him how gross he was being. He was basically acting like she would never leave him so he could make any joke he wanted and then play it off with ‘but I love her’ and at first that was how he defended it too, that she /knows/ that he’s just joking, so it was fine. I asked him if he would like it if his daughters boyfriends spoke like that about them, and how inappropriate and gross and disrespectful it was to treat his girlfriend the way he was. After our discussion he sort of understood, and said he would apologise to her when he got home with her. I told him he should apologise in public since he made those jokes in public and she needs to know that he isn’t just sorry behind closed doors, but will admit he was wrong in front of his friends too. He did end up apologising with us around and also in private but he seemed to think it was just one thing he said that was bad but at least it was better than nothing.
I once was called out on smth similar (on a joke that my bf is too childish and immature and it makes me tired) and you know, it really put things is perspective and made me realize that, we were better off without each other.
I love this honestly but makes me mad that for most men to realize how gross they're being, you always gotta bring up like.. their daughters or moms or any women from their family to make them understand :/
Man, I would have been trashed on in my family for doing that. In fact, every time I DO, they have a problem with me. My extended family, anyway. I cut them all off recently after tolerating their emotional and mental abuse toward me for years.
Are… are people okay? I can confidently say that I am no longer scared of being along forever, because it would be so much better than being in a marriage like this
At first When I was 12-13 I was excited to get a girlfriend/boyfriend whatever it doesn’t matter But looking after my parents marriage and these tiktoks Actually I am better off single my whole life.
Sorry but most relationships are not worth it. When my ex was doing the „my girlfriend is an annoying bitch“ thing I left him and he didn’t understand why? …. Well
After my parents divorced I visited my dad. I am the oldest daughter and was about 22 when I visited. My dad - didn't pick me up from the airport and got my sister to do it - immediately stopped doing dishes or picking up after himself in the house - stopped doing laundry - stopped feeding his dog - didn't buy groceries - never cooked. These were things he was fully capable of doing and had been doing on his own for a year. He just expected me to do all the chores as an adult guest in his home and just perform all these tasks without being asked or thanked. I haven't visited him since and don't think I will. He visited me in my new home country and expected me to entertain him, made me pay for his bus fare, and made me buy him illegal substances. I'm just done with male incompetence.
that's exactly what happens to me when i visit my brother. he stops feeding the cats, expects me to clean his entire apartment if my parents are also visiting from my home country, and overall just turns me into his servant. and he's shocked when i tell him that i don't want to visit him. AND he's getting married next month as if he's ready to take on the responsibility of marriage when his toilet looks like inside of a person's lungs who's been smoking for 30 years. i'm just done with him. best i can do is to respect myself enough to never settle down for anything less than a man who's willing to share these responsibilities. good luck to you as well, Veronica. i wish you lots and lots of patience and resiliance.
“Male incompetence” sounds more like “bad luck”. I’ve been doing my own laundry, dishes, cooking, etc since I was 12. And in every relationship I’ve been in, I was the one to clean up, pick up, organize, designated drive, etc. I had a single mom who never let any of that lazy “mommy do it for me” stuff fly which included everything from homework to buying my own greeting cards for family members. I had countless friends who’s mommies cleaned their clothes and did their homework and wiped their butt till they found a wife. I don’t feel bad for their wives today. Because if I could see that this person is lazy and entitled, their girlfriend can see it too. Women make a choice to marry these men and think they’ll always love to clean up after them, or maybe they’ll change his ways and train him. Except when they find out homie hasn’t washed his booty hole once in his life because he thought it was unecessary and feminine to do so, that’s how someone turns out when mom makes excuses for him. The fault lies with both partners.
@@BB-ed4om The fault lies with both partners but not equally. Yeah, you shouldn't marry someone like that, but also "you let me be so incompetent" is not an excuse.
The weird dichotomy of "marriage is awful" jokes: -my husband does absolutely nothing and I'm overworked -my wife isn't always pretty, and she expects me you doing things when I don't want to It feels like one side is not as awful as the other side
My partner was super helpless until I got a chronic illness. Guess what? He learned to cook healthy food and discovered he liked it! He also got better at folding laundry and remembering to clean the bathroom sometimes when I couldn't get out of bed. Now that it's partially in remission, our division of labor is much easier since we can both do everything to about the same skill level!
so it's not okay to "expose" kids LGBTQIA+ relationships is indoctrination but teaching them to accept being in a toxic/potentially abusive heteronormative relationship is...fine?!?
my dad is basically the exact same as "When you're sick and your husband is helpless". when my mom is sick, or not home, he makes (microwavable) chicken nuggets, and looks around the house for a bunch of snacks. the funny things are, he can cook/grill, but he leaves me to fend for myself. when my mom gets home from work late, i have to tell her that my own dad didn't feed me, so she has to tire herself more making me something to eat. it's astonishing how common this is. there shouldn't be one role for one parent, they should both help out (especially if they're *married* and have a child). sorry for the rant/vent thing, it's just kind of shocking how much husbands choose to just survive off their spouse
@@madisonwillis9591 i wish not to specify but I am a minor :) I can make things for myself, but what matters here is that my dad is mostly pretty careless for me also very sorry for any grammar mistakes or things that don't make sense, i'm kind of tired and still learning english haha
if you’re older than like 12 you should be able to help yourself instead of making your mom do it, but your dad needs to definitely step it up and cook more
@@firezebraart7753 i don't make my mom do it, but there's barely food in my house. i mean, we do have food, but it's only little snacks or things i have already eaten all week so they're no longer appealing to me lol i also no longer have oven priveleges (idk how to spell that right oof) sadly
@@firezebraart7753 my daughter is 8 and she can cook some things for herself, if this kid is 10 I feel like they should be cooking basic things like eggs or making sandwhich
i hate how people normalise or believe that hating your s/o is a healthy thing to do. its ok to joke about things but- joking and making a mockery out of your s/o is a whole different thing. and i never rlly understood the whole "lmao my wife sucks and i hate her sm !!!!😠😠" trope. like- no-one is forcing u to be with her lol you either hate her or love her. choose one man.
I don't understand it at all. Why marry someone you hate? I also hate when men act like they have somehow been forced into marriage by their wives, my brother in christ, were you not the one who asked her to marry you? I know this is slightly off topic but with that whole johnny depp thing, the fact that he was joking about murdering his girlfriend and having sex with her corpse and then AFTER that married her!! Like what? Why do people get married to people they fantasise about killing?
@@frances9975 i understand and agree 100% like- no-one is holding a gun to their head and telling the guys :"u better marry that woman" lol. and the johnny depp one i didnt know omg, thats- crazy. yeaah idk why people fantasy about something like that.
It's still pretty prevalent today, unfortunately. One day my husband and I were shopping for a new mattress, so we were just discussing what we liked or didn't like about the mattresses. The saleswoman commented on how well we got along. We both looked at each other like "what?... We're just talking like normal people." Like it was a novel concept to her that a married couple could pick out a mattress without yelling at each other.
We have a lot of bachelor parties at my work and Ive had quite a men making "this is my last moment of freedom before im tied down to that ball and chain" jokes to me and ive always asked them why they feel the need to insult their fiance to a stranger.
Fun fact: Finnish people used to think bears were our ancestors so we respect the frick out of bears. Don't shave guys, you're insulting your bear ancestors.
Same applies to pretty much every gender so a lady married a lady and she refuses to do household chores or a man married a nb person and they refuse to do household chores leave them and make them do it by themselves
While you’re at it, teach him to properly wipe is buttcheeks to pristine condition. Teach him? What are you his mommy? Why can’t he learn on his own? Is he a child? Maybe I’m just not interested in raising grown adults. Not only are you doing all the labor around the house but now you get to do more emotional labor teaching basic skills. Yay a two for one special. If men wanted to learn how to do something, they would learn how to do it. Just as they do with any hobby and skills they have.
You aren't obligated to teach them either for the record, you can help if you want to but it's not something you HAVE to do. Adults are capable of teaching themselves how to do basic chores, and the internet exists
Fr the reason im quite afraid of marriage is because i worry about my husband being lazy and would want me to do everything all the time even when im ill. Also im worried that he would insult my cooking and everything i put effort into since i know that my grandfather and father are lazy and only criticize women all day I hope i will find someone who will help me around the house and appreciate me in this twisted world and not be a big baby about everything. My discouraging granny and mom through all my childhood dont help either with their "you won't find a man like that, all are lazy and toxic" so i quite lost hope
I work at a restaurant meant for dates, and I had this couple come in where the 26 year old man kept acting like his mom forced him to be here, he was on an expensive date that his girlfriend paid for. She even bought a romance package and he didn't want to be there... I asked how long they've been together and he said "too long" excuse me??
this shit really pisses me off. i am a decent guy who just wants to find some companionship but instead i am invisible to women. meanwhile, these assholes have everything and instead of being grateful and appreciative they act like it is a fucking chore. i truly hate our society and my existence.
@@adrianc6534 Woah woah woah, that sounds an awful lot like incel-talk ;-; Please don't fall into that rabbit hole! Trust me, it won't help you find a loving and meaningful relationship ;-;
@@adrianc6534 I feel your pain. Loneliness is one of the most painful experiences you can have. Please don't fall down the incel rabbit hole bc it does you no good. I get it's good to be heard and talk about it, but that community does everyone more harm than good. I bet you there's been girls in your life thats been too shy to approach you. I'm saying this as a woman myself why's only dated nerdy men, that my shallow highschool friends would laugh at me for 🤷♀️ A lot of women are not as shallow as you think, being an angry aggressive person is just going to scare them away. The Channel Psychology in Seattle has a few videos to help you heal from inceldom. Also the guy in my story was in no way a Chad. He looked like he could've been an incel in another life, and his girlfriend was pretty, but the problem was his attitude towards women.
@@adrianc6534 the psychology in Seattle video titled "How to meet women" should be for you. It's free therapy. That channel has personally helped me tremendously.
The sheer incompetence of the men I've had in my life traumatized me, honestly. They're like children in the bodies of adults who married just to force a woman to pamper them. Sickening behaviour.
@@tsu4595Yeah, my bad. sorry for disrupting your programming, however it's not my fault Goldman Sachs and the Rothschilds haven't gotten around to paying for a response to be coded for you. Maybe this will work Those silly men in your life, what dunces. I BET THEY WERE WHITE! Thank god (Who is of course a woman) that gay rights and the 19the amendment exist. To suggest otherwise would be extremely dangerous to our democracy. I love Israel and the Jewish people, JEWS ROCK!
I don’t understand why gen z has such a problem with a women being submissive like if your not like that ok but they literally hate on women for having a life different to them if there happy leave them alone just because your friend posted a pic of you saying your a baddie who doesn’t need a man (except when you want someone to pay for your dinner) doesn’t mean that the women are these women are wondering why there single when they want a man to take care of them financially and be dominant there but when it comes to anything else they want to be big bosses who controls everything thing then they make videos saying how men are so controlling
can’t wait for them to claim people are being over dramatic, care too much, or are violating their privacy despite the fact that they regularly upload videos of them being shitty to their partners like that’s not.. concerning 😅 great video as always chad chad!
I have seen my uncle get grumpy and go home because he didn't get an extra egg. There was only enough for everyone 💀. Because of such experiences, immature guys are my biggest turn offs.
This type of humor is something my dad would show me and laugh so hard at. My dad is a divorced, manic depressive, alcoholic who rants on Facebook about work.
I cannot wait for the day when we will hear the last "I hate my spouse" type of joke. Hopefully that will also be far after the last person has found these jokes funny.
my dad is lazy and my mom is a workaholic: my mom had covid around a month ago, so my dad had do handle her responsibility of driving people to school in the morning & driving home from extracurriculars. this stressed him out to an unimaginable extent last week, me, my mom, and two of my siblings got into a pretty bad car accident. thankfully, me and my siblings weren’t hurt at all, but my mom was in a lot of pain. she wasn’t feeling any better, so, a couple days ago, we all strongly suggested that she go to the hospital. she agreed, but followed it by “let me check my schedule” and insisted that she shouldn’t cancel any meetings for it. *the doctors informed her that she had a concussion and fractured sternum*
Honestly? Same. I should really finish it and I have at least another subject to study but no, procrastination. It's 23:30. I wanted to start studying at 17:00.
this reminds me of the series familiar wife, its so damn good. its about one of these "helpless dudes" not realising hes toxic and is the problem in the relationship, and wishes that he never got married in the first place and his wish gets fulfilled. its so rewarding to watch him slowly realising that he was most of the problem and regretting he made the wish (part of the problem was that they never communicated their feelings but he didnt make it any better) i rly recommend it.
“These are jokes meant to be cathartic and not taken seriously” and “the overwhelming amount of ‘I hate my wife!!1!’ content is absolutely normalizing the idea that couples aren’t supposed to like each other and gives men a free pass to act like a helpless child and pressures women into letting their husbands get away with anything instead of communicating or acting like adults and can be outright dangerous in some scenarios” are not mutually exclusive
Seems like Karen’s get a lot of shame but never the lazy and or bully husband. If I had been married to someone like that I’d probably turn into a “crazy Karen” too
Moment my s/o starts making "I hate my wife" jokes, we getting therapy. If they refuse that, or just continued to do it, divorce papers are getting served, I love myself more than that
my dad is this exact way to my mom. the only good thing I've gotten out of it is that I know exactly what I DONT want in a partner. the whole helpless act shouldn't work for 40 whole years, but it does. never putting up with that.
Toxic spouse/parent culture makes me so mad. It could be a mom complaining about how much she hates watching her kids and they ruined her life, a husband saying he wishes his wife would just drop dead, or a wife belittling her husband for being “useless” ALL of it is disgusting and should stop being joked about
It doesn't tend to be belittling, it's the man using a tactic called weaponised incompetence and the woman normalizing it in jokes because she feels she is in a situation where she is forced to accept it even though it's fucked up.
@@notmyrealname4363 yeah or it’s just a lady being a bitch. I’m sure the guy could be acting lazy on purpose too. But I wouldn’t paint all situations as “woman good, man bad” :/
I’ve heard stories of women who stopped doing laundry and dishes that were left by their boyfriend!husband and their partner would either complain that the messes aren’t being cleaned or just leave because it’s “not working anymore.”
Unfortunately there is a much more common third option. That these men genuinely do not care and are perfectly happy living in filth. I once saw a post about a wife who stopped washing her husband's underwear. His response was to literally throw them in the trash and buy new fresh ones. Some men genuinely stay in the mess to be stubborn and prove to the woman their stupid point. And some will resort to carving a third option out of thin air until the wife once again has to cave because eventually she's the first one to not be able to take living in filth anymore.
god chadchad is so fucking funny i cant even describe it. you managed to turn a potentially very serious & uncomfortable content into a really enjoyable and genuinely hilarious watch, while still making sure to not make light of the actual topic. well done! you're also just genuinely the funniest person on youtube, your humor matches mine exactly and i love you for it MWAH
I like the idea of being independently together in a romantic relationship, like having two separate rooms or even your own apartments/houses while married but still understanding each others love and commitment to each others regardless of what assumptions other people have.
I've mentioned this topic (sleeping in separate beds/rooms) to my bf before out of consideration for him being an extremely light sleeper and me sleeping like the dead. (He said he's fine with sleeping together, we'll have to see how it goes when I visit this summer.) It is a thing, can be done, and don't let others say you can't!
Ya, I personally would enjoy that bc I'm a stickler about privacy even if we'd sleep in the same room. On the other hand I am clingy and do love being around my partner so I'd rather live with him and sleep with him but let him have his own life outside of our relationship
i’m only 23 & already divorced bc my marriage became miserable & emotionally abusive. i was definitely a wife who did everything for my husband. i was going to university 3 times a week & working on weekends while pregnant & also taking care of our toddler but still made sure the house was clean & he had meals for work & clothes for work. i also was always the one with kids all over me while he ate a hot meal & i ate cold food & only like half of the meal by the time i got to eat it. my ex fought to stay together only for our kids sake. i hate that idea bc it just puts the kids in between arguments & gives them the wrong idea about love. i think kids deserve to have _happy_ parents & if that’s apart then so be it. and now that we’re apart he’s still horrible. whenever he’s sick he tells me he can’t take the kids he needs to get better. i contracted _covid_ and couldn’t even get out of bed so i asked him to take the kids and he literally told me “moms watch kids all the time while they’re sick”. thankfully i found a man who actually has equal responsibilities & helps me with my kids & even watches them so i can take a nap every now and then.
My sister has been so much happier after she separated from her husband. He did nothing while she worked and took care of my nephew. Now, he should pay child support and actually parent for once and she can date real men. (he was an abusive alcoholic as well).
That oxymoron joke made me laugh so hard that it woke my daughter which sucks because now my wife has to take care of her and get her back to sleep while I continue watching this video.
God I love Chad Chad… or whoever this girl is claiming to be “Chad Chad”. Her videos are always exactly what we need. The comedy juxtaposed with the absolute insanity of the things she covers is absolutely perfect. Also, I need that ‘Not Really’ neon sign 😂😂
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thank you all so much for 1 million subscribers i still can't even believe it :')
ur channel has been doing so well im so so proud of u 🫶🏼
Thank YOU for filling my days with fine high quality cringe from the internet, Chad Chad!
A million is just a twinge of a billion congratulations and keep going
congrats cc!!!! you deserve so much more, i love your vids so much
You deserve it!!!
I hate people that perpetuate the belief that hating your spouse is normal and healthy. You don’t have to love everything about your s/o, but if you just constantly go on about how much you hate them then that’s just not healthy at all. You should love those close to you, especially your s/o.
And it’s also cringe
nice profile pic
So true girlie
it's still a leftover of old time traditions when married couples where expected to stay together for life pretty much no matter what
It's normal but it sure as hell ain't healthy.
The incredible world of marriage jokes. We got some classics like:
- I hate my wife
- My husband is useless
- I will kill my mother in law
- Goodbye Freedom
divorce can be heavily stigmatized depending on your region and cultural background but it's important to value your wellness first. there's no humor in a, broken, abusive, loveless, all-consuming marriage portraying the most sexist generalizations of men and women. if this is what your relationship looks like then you need to RUN. as far and as fast as humanly possible.
@@limmiedee7405 i wish my parents could read your comment. They really should have divorced 20 years ago.
why do I feel like all the people that say that are in the same family
@@limmiedee7405 True.I hate to admit it, but my father is a jerk and I even asked my mom why isn't she divorcing him and her response was:"I'm too old for this.Plus, I don't want people to gossip about my divorce".Sometimes, people care more about what other people say that their wellbeing...
Oh man, I will kill my mother in law is a CLASSIC
All marriage comedy is always either “My wife is annoying and materialistic lol” or “My husband does nothing and makes my life miserable” and there’s no in between
Yeah there definitely isn’t a whole another side of the wife joking about husband. This is just husband dunking on wife
ive honestly never seen the wife hating on husband thing. The closest ive seen are wives joking abt how husbands are clueless when it comes to basic chores and cooking, but usually thats not accompanied by disdain for the husband
the second one is not a joke though. it's legit.
@@botanicalitus4194 you've never seen it cuz it's not a thing lol there's no "wives hating husbands" trope in comedy.
@@falseeef my bad definitely joking about being stupid isn’t hurtful
As a 20 y/o male who enjoys cooking and baking I find it super weird when I see people talking about how their husband's can't do house chores.
Admittedly I hate doing landry and the dishes, but I do them anyways. like boi you gotta grow up and realize that you need to eat and need clean clothes as well.
And then the guys are like "I hate my wife". Like why would you get married then?! As a guy who would like nothing more than to be in a relationship with someone who actually cares for me it is insufferable to see this culture normalized.
although I don't have the best understand, I see it as a "I hate my sibling" type thing where you actually do like your sibling a lot. or maybe they hate each other. it seems to be a type of relatable humour and I could definitely see the same types of jokes done with siblings.
You are a straight up W my dude
@@Blockoumi yeah yeah... The only difference is that they're not f'ing siblings they're grown up adults with lifes
@@zahikdturk6568 making jokes.
Let them be, seems weird to take these jokes seriously.
It really only matters when it’s about abuse. Maybe your expectations for adults is different but adults can tease and have fun too.
dude reminds me of my older male coworker the other day who has been married forever... he said to me 'if she handed me divorce papers tomorrow I'd say THANK GOD!' and I wanted to respond so badly 'ok then why don't you just divorce her?' I feel bad for his wife.
I always hated when people described getting married as a prison sentence for life, like if that is how you feel especially before the marriage don't get married please.
Right like I have no intentions to get married , but I’ve always imagined that getting married with thr love of your life is supposed to be joyful? Like i don’t get three idea of being married with someone you grow to hate, there definitely needs to be more communication
It’s not. Find someone that has the same messed up sense of humor as you because screwing with people is the best part! 🤣🤣🤣
True. I get it when it's just genuinely a joke or sarcasm but even then just keep it between friends.
It's not a good idea to be spreading this kind of impression on a very large platform. That's how toxic relationships get mistaken as normal, or worse, glorified. Some people really have no sense of responsibility just because they can upload whatever they want.
I guess those jokes came from when people where forced into marriage / you couldn’t get away with being unmarried because people would look down on you. However, lots of people marry for love now but still use those jokes because…? Idk lol? Idk why you would joke about marrying someone you love.
I understand playful teasing but I think it's a thing to do between each other or in a small circle, cautiously. I wouldn't wanna watch people do this jokingly or not as well as question if there's truth to that.
There's a line between playfully teasing your spouse and being mean. They obviously crossed it, true it might just "be a joke" but why would anyone in a healthy relationship want to even say stuff like that about someone they love
The part that crosses the line is how obvious they try to make that their spouse didn't find it funny at all.
Omg so true
For subs. Like a million...
No. It becomes mean if the it isn't a joke and is just a comment disguised as a joke. Guys, it's not that deep, they're just cringy jokes on TikTok, not signs of a future divorce.
Not only that but it's teaching their audience that it's ok to treat ur spouse like that
I’ve NEVER understood the whole “hating your spouse” thing. It’s like a bitter end to the “enemies to lovers” trope
It's backwards, it's lovers to enemies.
@@ghostlyhousehorrors enemies to lovers and back to enemies 😂
Enemies to lovers is only cute when they actually like each other in the end.
yeah like i literally COULD NOT IMAGINE hating my partner/spouse? it's so weird that that genre of humor is so common. i have a partner and i would never even joke about hating them because they're the best most amazing and wonderful person in the entire world. and if you really didn't like your partner/spouse you could just like stop going out with them/get a divorce or something instead of just being a wanker about it on the internet? the whole "hating your spouse" thing is just one of those Straight People(tm) things i guess
@@swimmyswim417 enemies to lover is only cute when they're not actually enemies.
I remember my high school choir director once told us a story about him and his wife, and he was talking about how when the two of them got married, they included in their vows that they would never ever ever yell or lose their temper with one another. He said how they take a break when they get frustrated and come back when they're feeling better. He and his wife have one of the healthiest relationships I have ever seen. He's never reffered to her has a "ball and chain," he's never called his marriage a prison sentence, he truly loves his wife and his wife loves him. That's the type of relationship that people should strive for.
Some teachers go beyond just teaching the material, they're a positive role model.
I'm so happy because this is exactly how my bf and I are! Even when we are mad at each other we take the time to communicate that and talk it out, and explain each others sides and understand each other. Neither of us have ever yelled at each other either, even when we wanted to yell. Yelling is easy, talking is hard. We choose to do the hard thing every time. Because that's what makes our relationship work.
Here's a trick. Agree on this system: when an issue arises that you are not agreeing on, tell each other on a scale of 1-10 how important that is to you. And you have to be honest about it, it's not about getting your way, but about having an actually cooperative relationship.
Some things we just feel "meh" about, but it might be super important for your partner and vice versa.
I’ll never forget when I found out that when my dad was around 19 and his mom was dying of lupus, his whole family still had her cooking, cleaning, and essentially doing everything for them. They never helped her and she did everything until she died. I can never find these “ha ha my partner doesn’t consider me a human, isn’t their incompetence adorable? 🥺” videos funny.
That is so sad. RIP to your grandma
someone I was talking to during my volunteering told me about one of her friends who died (I can’t remember what of but I think it may have been related to MS) because her family did the exact same thing to her. she would be in hospital for weeks and then come back just to exhaust herself with housework again, have to go back to hospital and so on. and it killed her. it was such a heartbreaking story
this is so incredibly sad
Hooooly shit, I feel like if I was dying and had a family like that, I'd be taking them all with me.
The amount of free labor and time that women provide to family life is absolutely unappreciated. It’s crazy when you really think about it. This explains why stay-at-home moms take pills so much. That life sounds exhausting.
Words can’t describe how much I hate the “quirky helpless husband” trope. “Haha! My husband can’t do basic adult skills, he’s so silly 🤪” like no that’s not ok
Like these guys can’t even function as human beings without their wives ?! How is that « manly » lol.
They are like baby chicks, not adult men.
It's comical that on tiktok we all comment It's weaponized incompetence, that's not fair to her or their children and to get a divorce but these women are FIGHTING for their useless baby husbands. Very amusing, highly frustrating.
@@jellyjilli1004 issa joke…… you know like you watch the simpsons, family guy, modern family, South Park etc
@@robbiesilverwolf it's not... funny.
And normalize similar behavior in real life.
@@jellyjilli1004 all those successful shows beg to differ
I’ve grudgingly come to accept that Chad Chad’s hair has more personality than my entire being.
literally my goal in life is to pull off as many hairstyles as she does because queen behaviour from chad chad
I want to say it gives Ramona Flowers without being insulting
Wigs definitely have to be involved and I mean that in a good way
@@BLKBeee I'm talking about all her videos not this one. This one is real.
Oh my, I was contemplating the boring nature of my personality and this comment perfectly sums it up. :D
My parents definitely hold up really toxic gender norms and they don’t even know it. My stepdad works and then goes on his phone. My mom works, does all the cleaning (when i’m not home), does all the cooking (when we don’t order in), and has a side business baking cheesecake. My sister and I had to do actual chores, my brother gets to sit on his ass and play video games. If he was rude to me or even physically attacked me, he was allowed to get away with it and I got in trouble for defending myself. When I brought this up years later, they tried to gaslight me.
Women and men are both human beings and yet one gender is just arbitrarily the slave gender.
Tf is wrong with people 😭😭😭 i hope you have a better life now and a partner who isn't an asshole or just lazy
holy crap same.
the sad thing is that people like you go through it and develop misandry and think it's ok, while men go through the same equivalent but with their mother and they're called misogynists.
We should never generalise a group by the shitty behaviour of some of it's members, and always remember that we remember the bad things, we don't really remember the good things. it's just in our danger avoidant nature.
that's why each night we should find something to be grateful about in our lives.
I get way too excited when I see a man on tv actually loving his wife and children, without making the jokes💀
Brooklyn 99!
Lazlo and Nadja are peak
Gomez Addams
@@slightlyexpiredyoghurt Gomez Addams is #1 husband goals, 100%
@@starrshot2059 I want a guy that will treat me like his Morticia.
I work in a jewellery store and I constantly have to awkwardly laugh off "I hate my spouse" jokes that are just so
a w k w a r d
I’d tell the ones joking to buy the jewelry for me instead if they hate their spouse so much 😇
@@tessarae9127 ngl thats pretty smooth
If you hate your spouse then why are you buying them jewelry?? 😕
thank god im not american
Oh no I've heard jewelry customers are one of the worst!
Suddenly being a “cat lady” doesn’t seem so bad
never understood why it’s considered a bad thing in the first place, cats >>>> unstable and probably abusive marriage that happened way too soon
cats >>>> men and having kids
not at all
yes lets go
Men be like: ugh women are demanding the same effort in a relationship as they put in nowaday!?They are even more high maintenance!
"I'm just pretending to be in a controlling relationship" - A nice slap in the face for people who are actually in a controlling relationship 😩
you good?
learning the term "Weaponised incompetence" made me understand the whole stereotype about men being helpless- it's not about being stupid, they choose to rely on their wife as a form of control and laziness
women gave men the blueprint for this
@@markprice5651 ? how do women fake incompetence in the domestic sphere ?
@@erinc129 think anything remotely physical. All of a sudden these strong women can't lift 30 pounds. Also, think any of those chores that are traditionally done by men, like maintaining the family car (oil changes and brake jobs are not hard), or stuff like climbing on the roof to clean out the gutters. Women are clearly capable of this, and have been weaponizing incompetence in these areas for decades...you know relying on men as a form of control and laziness.
All of these so-called independent, strong, women, can start pulling their weight. Literally.
@@markprice5651 ever heard of something called the patriarchy? what are you on about?
@@unitnumbera1 I have heard of it,,,but I have also heard of unicorns, mermaids, and big foot and none of those things exist either.
My daughter and I saw a couple in Disneyworld while we were on vacation there. They had two young boys (probably 5 and 7-ish), a baby in a stroller, and a toddler, cute as a button girl that the mom was holding. As we waited in the Magic Kingdom for the end of evening fireworks, we watched as mom struggled with ALL FOUR KIDS while dad played on his phone. It was hot outside, and I imagine they'd had a fun (but long) day in the park! The toddler was squirmy, the two boys were shoving each other, the baby was whiny - ordinary kid stuff. Finally, mom says to dad, "CAN YOU HELP ME, PLEASE?!" He takes the toddler girl from her for .00000000000015 seconds and then hands her back and says, "SHE WANTS YOU." and goes back to playing on his phone.
I DON'T GET IT. I just don't.
the husband sounds like a hormonal, entilted preteen rather than a grown man.
"SHE WANTS YOU" yeah cause she probably don't even know who tf you are bro. Lol.
@@GH23d7sL45 thing is, you shouldn't have to
@@GH23d7sL45 parentification. And usually falls on the oldest girls’ shoulders smh
"Housewives have it so easy".
They don't get it. They get to have days off of work. While their wife has to work even on vacation.
I'm raised by a housewife, I witness everything she goes through. And it's exactly why I don't want to follow the same path she took.
It baffles me how 'I hate my wife', misogynistic, 'my husband is useless' (how quirky) humour is still so prevalent, especially on an app for teenagers
Misogyny has and always will be prevalent unfortunately
It's mainly because in 2020 a lot of Facebook moms moved to TikTok due to the pandemic
@@barnaby4232 based
Both are bad but I seriously don’t think the “my husband is useless” joke is anywhere near the same level as the “I hate my wife” joke in terms of how bad it is. The “I hate my wife” is more often than not a product of misogyny whereas the “my husband is useless” is more often than not a reaction to misogyny. I wish people would stop treating them like they are the same
@@mj2208 Very well said!
People also tend to forget (or conciously gloss over) the history and background of marriage.
Even here "in the west", it's no longer than a few decades(!) since women no longer have to sign their rights away (or better said the rights tgat their father did hold over them) in order to get married.
It stems from treating women as literal property; we couldn't open a bank account, couldn't buy or sell property, couldn't work or get medication without the permission of the husband (and many more things), as well as - of course - we couldn't get in politics nor vote to change anything about it...
It stems (and in many facettes still is) from a system of systemic oppression and exploitation. That's patriarchy for ya!
The reason my grandparents had few friends: They didn't do this "Hate my husband/wife" shit. They stopped getting invited because when it came their time to whine they just... "Yeah, I love my wife", "My husband does so much for me and the kids".
Happy for your grandparents! :)
Having a normal loving relationship sounds just like a breath of fresh air and more relaxing that these "bullshit husband/wife drama"
it's even more terrifying to see this in real life. My best friend moved together with her boyfriend, and he almost threw a tantrum like a child for being asked to do the laundry (For a solid 3 minutes before she agreed). She does most things in the household because "he just doesn't like it and isn't good at it" ?!? while working a ton. Like, good luck with that for the rest of your life....
Those types of men are not hopeless, they're freaking useless.
Parents really should be teaching their boys to do household chores when they're little, since it's way harder to get them to do it when they're older. As a man, I can tell you that it was way easier to get used to a 9 to 5 job than it is getting used to spend even an hour cleaning the house. It's something about knowing you're gonna get paid that makes it easier to force yourself through something than it is when it's unpaid. It took months of me actively trying to do it in order to rewire my brain to make it easier. The only reason women seemingly have an easier time of doing it is because they're socially conditioned to since childhood.
PS. I'm not saying that we shouldn't try to encourage grown men either, I'm just saying it's way harder and as you've heard they're going to behave like man-children and throw tantrums. In cases when it's impossible to make them do it, women shouldn't have to put up with it and leave them, because at that pint that isn't just a person who is socially conditioned not to do chores, but an asshole.
That's a breakup reason right there. I don't care what people think, people like that don't change, so it's all downhill from that first tantrum
@@bratprica6383 yeah, his dad has done his laundry and cooking until he was like 28....
@@bratprica6383 I absolutely agree. I'm a young woman but growing up my parents didn't teach me much in terms of house chores. Whenever I tried to help them or asked them tot each me they always just told me to leave these stupid things to them because I have studying to do.
Naturally, when I got older my dad still wouldn't let me do stuff, because he did it faster/better, while my mom was suddenly shocked that I don't know how to do xyz without proper instructions because how could I not know. She seemed to think that if you are female and of adult age, lightning strikes you in the head and you suddenly know how to do chores properly, because how could you possibly not know.
I'm not saying I'm not grateful to them or that I wish I'd been forced to do chores instead of studying, but I wish I'd had more practice and was taught properly, not with condescending remarks. Now, everything seems like it's too much and/or too hard and I also feel useless for not being very good at it.
@@Marina_7 I absolutely feel the last part and I encourage you to realize it's normal, not just for house chores, but for any new skill someone picks up, especially when they've been discouraged from learning it.
I advise you to just push through those doubts it like I did, you'll thank yourself later.
I've never understood the Boomer Humor "I hate my wife" jokes. No wonder they have the highest divorce rate of any generation.
It really is a strange phenomenon. They're the ones who abandoned tradition and went off to find their "soul mate" only to find out oh hey there's a reason people did things they did for thousands of years without change. Oh who am I kidding, they never realize anything the lead poisoned fools that they are. Death to all people 55+
These aren't boomers. These are millennials. It seems "boomer" is anyone over 30 to a lot of you. Boomers are in their 50's or older and in nursing homes. Or dead.
Do they?, i think they rather get stuck in their marriage. I think young people divorce more
@@akiraholland457 nah, younger people don't rush into marriage so it's more likely that they're already fully committed by the time they get married. as opposed to boomers who rush into marriage because of societal expectations to get married ASAP in the relationship so as not to have the dreaded and shameful "premarital sex" dun dun dunnnn
When controlled for age, Boomers still divorce the most of any generation
These are just internalized “truths” for people who don’t know their issue is communication. Like, household chore division should have been worked out before the marriage, and if your partner couldn’t pull their weight you work it out or break up. Petty digs and insults are the easy way out for people who can’t verbally work through a disagreement. Learn deescalation and how to communicate, compromise, and tackle life together as a team.
That’s it.
literally had an argument with my partner yesterday because we both failed to communicate and hurt eachother's feelings.
But we both de-escelated the conflict and sought understanding and resolution and now we're fine. I could never understand just holding onto that one moment for a whole relationship.
@@Jane-oz7pp fr
You can't just work out things before your marriage like a set it and forget it situation. Life constantly changes and people learn, grow, and their energy ebbs and flows. Couples need to communicate in an ongoing way about how to manage the important parts of life like meals, home maintenance, laundry, and money.
Source: I have been married for 16 years.
my fiancé and i literally talked about which chores we enjoy and don't mind doing (especially w our respective sensory issues) before he even proposed. if one of us does something that bothers the other, we talk about it as soon as we can. it's honestly not that difficult. figuring out how to verbalize my thoughts in a way that makes sense is the hardest part for me, but i think that's because i'm probably autistic.
"That's an oxymoron. Emphasis on moron" ~ Chad Chad
Absolute best line here
I can't believe the "I hate my wife" bit is still so prevalent and is now on other platforms besides work place break rooms. A universal constant.
well to be fair it's also been on tv for a loooooong time
what makes me mad is that these women encourage this behaviour. even if they know it's a joke, that's not how people are gonna think when they see these videos.
Yeah here i was thinking we left this with the Boomers.
Especially because their wife probably does like 99% of the house work.
Yeah honestly, it's sad how this has been perpetuated in our culture. What's sad to me is that these girls agree to let their spouse make these rude insulting "jokes" which literally leave the woman the butt of the joke. I'm not really sure what the girl thinks she is gaining by participating in her man's "comedy" tiktoks. Honestly this "trend" made me never want to get married. Because it makes it seem like your just going to serve a life sentence with a bully who will find joy in your suffering.
This trope is so upsetting to me, always has been. After my toxic relationship, I wound up in therapy for a long time because I believed this fate was inevitable - glad to report that's not true and my current boyfriend is amazing and supportive.
🤠 glad to hear
Glad you found the type of love you deserve!
Congrats on your growth and finding a healthy relationship!!
I’m just not gonna risk it. Rather stay single than adopt a grown ass man.
im happy for you
In my early 30s some guy arrived at a trivia group and immediately started talking about his wife being a “ball and chain”. All the women in the group immediately gave him a horrified look and I think he expected us to laugh. Not sure. He was a drag the whole time and not good at trivia. At least his wife got a break from him. But man, no one else should have to spend time with him.
Also, most of the group was single people who would love to have a living partner. Why do people who have it take it for granted? It seems that immature people are married. Maybe they should get tax breaks. That never made sense to me.
@@JDMimeTHEFIRST it’s always easier to see the dumb people who are married, mostly because the dumb people are the people who yell. There is a large amount of people who get married and are happy, loving, and loved
@@placeholderdoe Yes, not all marriages are shams. Glass half full. Let's normalize healthy partnerships, and renounce toxic tropes.
I’d like to think that he didn’t actually have a wife
This is the kind of "humour" my abusive ex would approve of. He was a pro at weaponized incompetence, mental abuse, and stealing my money.
As someone who grew up with parents in an abusive relationship, it's weird to see couples jokingly abuse each other. I guess to some people who haven't experienced it seems funny to them? Like nothing is funny about your spouse tracking you.
I agree. It's so weird to see people...somewhat romanticize and display all of this behavior to impressionable kids that will grow up thinking these relationships are all they will be able to get. My parents should not have been married and they had children to fix their own marriage. There's nothing good about displaying this behavior as a joke to kids who don't know any better.
@@ashwoods2334
My parents are exactly the same. It's quite painful to see how some ppl treats these type of relationships as a joke.
@@TamaoMizuki It is painful...especially when you know it can lead to more of what happened to us and others in the future. :(
Yeah, this type of content unearthed a massive load of trauma pertaining to my parents and their past and present relationships. Like when you know something is wrong generally, but you forget you saw it in your home growing up.
I relate to u and all the comments beneath u, we will be/live better in the future guys, don't give up.
I feel like the addams family is the only family comedy without the ‘i hate my wife’ trope
Bob's burgers is good. They genuinely like each other and do equal shares of the work
and it's funny because in that show they were subverting the regular sitcom tropes...which is sad...
Bobs burgers is good! Animation is a little funky, but it's the only sitcom I like because bob doesn't hate his wife and kids, and Linda loves her husband and kids
@@Akalim Yeah, and they have a realistic relationship. They have ups and downs like every couple, but you know they love each other. These couples should take notes lol
Which is even more hilarious because Addams was made as a way to parody sitcom tropes, and sitcom tropes were initially made as a way to create sorta of "relatable humour" during the time it was popular.
In other words, The Addams family to a certain degree is one of the most ironically functional families because they're made to be the opposite of the norm during the time it was created.
I grew up with a dad who was "helpless". He couldn't (read: wouldn't learn how) to boil water. I couldn't rely on him for anything. He forgot my birthday every year. He never got any of us Christmas presents. He barely spoke to me. Its exhausting having to learn to cook when youre only a child because the grown man in your house is "helpless". It isn't funny. It isn't quirky. It isn't fun.
weaponized incompetence at it’s finest
How would someone not know how to boil water?
@@seamusmckeon9109 he probably just didn't want to and said "I don't know how" as an excuse
Did he at least put a roof over your head?
@@BB-ed4om Oh, congratulations to him for doing the bare minimum to not get kids taken away by Child Protective Services.
Men will act like marriage is such a prison for them without realizing that for all of human history, marriage was basically purchasing a woman.
always remember that it's very easy to look at something in retrospect and criticise it. you don't know how life was back then. basically there was no question about not having a partner, it's just how it was back then, because there was a time when we actually needed more humans.
you looking at it like a woman was sold to a man is wrong. yes, the marriages were often more or less arrange (sometimes it's more subtle, but still similar). neither young men nor young women had much of a choice. and if your parents got you a good partner, it was like winning the lottery. that's both for men and women.
please understand that we live in an absolutely, completely, categorically different and unprecedented state of human race. Even though we are still the same creature genetically, we are defined by what culture makes of us.
You know damn well that if you let wolves raise your child, the child will be wild and act like a wolf.
so the reality was different, the mere fact that only quite recently we've became the top of the food chain is another thing to ponder upon. as a woman you wanted to be with a man who protected you and, especially, your offspring from a predator literally eating them.
Please think about anthropology from deeper, different angles. Think about how patriarchy and matriarchy manifests and you'll understand that all cultures have a mixture of it. One good way to explain it is XY and XX chromosomes. There are disorders that women can only carry, but it only manifests in men. So in society, for the longest time, the man was just a messenger of what their family thinks. If you wanted to live a successful life, you won't just oppress your wife. Not then, nor today.
I could go on about this, but I feel that the agenda has been seeped too deep into people and they just want to hate. Ignorance truly is bliss, and no better bliss than burning hate.
All the love x
@@misanthrophex I’m sorry, but you’ll never be able to convince me that it was ever a good thing that human beings were bought and sold as objects. Apply that to marriage, apply that to chattel slavery, idc. It was never okay.
@@misanthrophex I didn't finish reading this yet. I just want to say that, in my country, there is still the tradition where the man essentially buys the wife. He pays in money or livestock. He will not be allowed to marry her until he has paid, and only the men are allowed to negotiate the wife's price. Marriage, at least in some places, really WAS just a man buying a wife.
Even if they're fake, making scripted tik toks about abusive relationships is fucked up
I want to add to this, many kids would end up seeing this on their FY page, or just accidentally come across it and it normalizes that abusive relationships are okay. :/
@@carmenmacias1394 exactly
I've never found the 'bitter old marriage couple' trope funny. Like, if you're miserable, get a divorce? Also loving the hair! 💜
Edit: Because a lot of people are commenting I want to expand my comment because it's very simply worded. When I say 'just get a divorce' I'm talking about the situation where the man continually bullies/abuses(?) his wife simply because he can. He's not staying with her because of outside pressure to stay married or anything, he simply thinks that treating his wife terribly is okay. When it comes to situations when they mutually want to divorce but can't afford it or want to stay because of their kids, that's another topic. When both parties can afford divorce and the wife is staying in this abusive relationship, I am by no means blaming her, or the victim of martial abuse in general. I hope I phrase this much better, text on a a screen sounds really cold and distant. Please know I'm not trying to victim blame or shame anyone for being in an abusive marriage. I'm shaming the man(or abuser in general) for being able to divorce his wife but actively choosing not too because he finds it "funny" to harm his wife.
Yeah I agree with ya But I think they found it funny in the sense that their glad their not in that relationship
Or they can relate to it?
Yeah
Honestly I don’t know 🤷♀️
I don’t know what’s funny about being miserable
I don’t like human beings anyways
i get it if it’s like loving bickering but when the whole joke is “haha i hate my wife”…
I hate it that in my homeland, people believe that it is a wife’s role to ensure that the marriage is not miserable, and if the husband doesn’t love her anymore, then it’s her own fault for not being able to ‘save’ her family. :(
According to them, love is about suffering, I guess. But not in a bittersweet romantic way like in fiction.
unless its an arranged marriage, i can't see why you'd marry someone you hate. like sure, i guess the love could "fade" a bit over time, but if they really hate eachother why are they together???
My aunt and uncle fall in that trope but it’s all for laughs, never genuine shouting matches
"I hate my wife"
*MY BROTHER IN CHRIST, YOU MARRIED HER*
I read this in Matt Rose's voice???
@@RhodeCasawayHELP ???
@@S1LLYTH1NG5 I've been watching Matt Rose at five in the morning to much
@@S1LLYTH1NG5RANPO PFP SPOTTEDDDD
+MATT ROSE MENTIONED?!/!/
@@izzylikestuff_ I LOVE RANPOOOO 🙏🙏😭😭 ... + MATT ROSE
I know a "helpless husband" type at work and he carries that into the workplace as well. He can't operate the simple machines we use, is afraid to answer any calls that require him to make a decision, and even asks people to buy coffee and throw things away for him... and that's not an exaggeration. He absolutely infuriates me to no end.
After watching these it makes me want to call my parents and thank them for showing me what a normal loving marriage looked like where everyone shared responsibility’s.
Why don't you? They'd probably appreciate it a lot
I'm lucky that my fiance grew up with parents in a loving marriage at least
My parents got divorced in 1997 (when I was nine). So love _for themselves_ wasn't even needed. What they *did* have in massive quantities was/is love for *us:* their kids.
However, they actively co-parent: because they're still involved as grandparents to my son.
They were/are very active as parents in our lives (mine, my two brothers and my half-sister on my mom's side... who also became a surrogate daughter to my dad's side of the family).
They made sure we all learned all chores equally. Which means, my brothers *DO* cook, clean (my younger brother makes *THE BEST yellow rice ever while the youngest one is THE BRUNCH KING* ) *and do laundry.*
I taught my son to do laundry. Since he's developing rather early, I ain't touching his ji--zz soiled undies no more: so that's his problem now 😁. He's going to be ten in October, yet he's taller than a lot of grown women already: he's 5'1"/1.55m.
Ikr
lmao dreams
Okay but really this kind of relationship is a genuine fear of mine. I’d literally rather be single my entire life than be stuck in a marriage with any guy who disrespects me like that as a ‘joke’. My parents had this kind of relationship. Mum does everything and gets shit on by a man-child who came home from his job of sitting in a chair all day to sitting on a couch all night complaining about dinner and having real no interest in his wife or kids. They eventually split up (which was beneficial to everyone, my Dad’s attitude and outlook changed when he had to learn how to do everything for himself) but as a woman I do my best to steer clear of these kinda guys. Good thing is, I think relationship and gender dynamics are changing a lot recently.
me too. I thought I was the only one with this fear.
Just don't date guys like this? They're pretty easy to spot in the wild, and so are good guys.
I met my husband in high school, he would do cute shit like give our girl friends chocolate if they were on their period, and was super respectful in general. He was always there for me, and was my best friend for years. And unlike 'nice guys' and 'white knights' he didn't expect ANYTHING back from any girl (or guy!) he was nice to, ever. Pure unconditional love.
I know I'm lucky and all, but there are so many great guys out there. Guys you get to play games with and cuddle with and enjoy the sun with. Guys who are happiest in life when they get to share it with you.
Funny thing is, I'd do anything for my husband, cook and clean if he'd want me to (he doesn't). If only these tiktokkers realized you can't have the 'doting wife' stereotype if you don't respect and support the fuck out of her always. It's a two way street, after all.
Sorry, I just get defensive about men because so many of them screw it up for the others, and I feel like if we all dare to believe in them they could prove themselves. Rant over.
@@foxygrin reading your reply makes me hope that i can find this guy one day and treat him like the king he deserves to be.
@@foxygrin i hope to have a relationship like that one day 🙏 its wonderful to see two people who gives and takes equally
@@foxygrin genuinely so happy for you, you have what most people look for in their life. But honestly in my dating experience, some men who are interested in you will treat you well and be completely different to what they’re actually like. They’ll act compassionate and caring at first. Then once you’re in a relationship it’s a complete change and there are massive red flags. It’s really not that easy to spot sometimes. I’ve had an ex boyfriend like this and it shocked me because the relationship was so wonderful. We were even talking about getting engaged in the future and he was so friendly with my family. All was good. But after coming home from a family dinner one night, I overheard him talking to his friend on the phone complaining about the ‘shitty’ dinner my Mum had cooked us and how ‘poor’ my family was (my family aren’t poor, but they do live a quaint lifestyle and my mum tends to put all her value in experiences rather than buying lots of material products). It wasn’t just what he said either, it was the way he said it. Completely different person, cold and mean. It scared me so much that I broke up with him that night. I didn’t tell my family the real reason why because it would’ve hurt them a lot, but I feel like I dodged a massive bullet with that one.
Maybe because you met your husband in high school, it was easier for you to see what kind of person he is really. I wish that were the case for me, but I still hold hope that I’ll find someone respectful and kind.
My wife saw a tiktok where a lady was like "babies are so exhausting but my husband won't help because he says he has nothing to contribute until its first birthday." She has been plagued by the thought of it ever since.
it's crazy that people like that exist but all we can control in this world is our own actions. it's just funny to me when people act like misogyny doesn't exist and these are strawman arguments when it's very prevalent
He's got hands. He can feed, rock, bathe, burp, bounce, change, play peekaboo he feels so moved. It's so demeaning to say men are incapable of these things
I want marriage tiktoks where you record your spouse being happy and smiling and enjoying the things they love without telling them. And then asking later for their permission before you upload it. To show people what a healthy marriage looks like.
Oh that exists, but the comments are full of people wishing death on them
@@ursidae97 hate tiktok for that
@@ursidae97 damnn, people can be so miserable when it comes to seeing other people are happy
As a married woman in a healthy and respectful relationship. These tik toks trigger my fight of flight reflexes, Is this what “owning the libs “ is? Making us cringe at toxic relationship pranks?
Literally! Like, why even look at women if you hate them so much, let alone marry them?! So happy my husband and I are setting the precedent of always staying in the honeymoon phase. Like, now a bunch of my friends and family try to emulate our relationship. It really starts at home.
@@ariannamyrie9520 I'm glad for u, that sounds sweet! (:
Exactly. I'm a man who loves his wife and these trigger some visceral feeling of pain and dread. Is this... humour?
I don't think this humor is political. Lots of "libs" enjoy and tell these kinds of jokes and lots of non-"libs" don't indulge in this humor.
I’m conservative (leaning) and I’ve never met someone who finds this kind of “humor” funny. I will readily admit that the basis for this type of “humor” is definitely a man problem though, regardless of political views. Jokes like the tiktoks we see here confuse the fuck out of me, why would even want to be with someone you don’t like, never mind married, NEVER MIND having kids. I love doing nice things for my wife, pulling my weight, I probably compliment her 5-6 times a day (not exaggerating) and I thank her each time she does something that benefits the both of us. For example, if she does the dishes, I’ll pretty much always say “thanks for doing the dishes my love, I appreciate it”. Obviously I do the dishes regularly as well, but my point is that I LOVE to make my wife feel valued, heard, respected, and confident. I also flirt with her constantly and try to live the notion of “you are dating your spouse for the rest of your life”. She’s an incredible woman and deserves to feel that way.
Leave it up to Chad to interrupt my workout with a quality twinge of cringe
Leave it up to Chad to interrupt my ‘me laying down bored’ with a quality twinge of cringe
I AM LITERALLY WORKING OUT RN WTFFF
I'm at work so this is a great interruption cus **** work lol.
YESS
the only twinge ya want during a workout ahah
the real wholesome "couple comedy" was Jenna Marbles' videos. Clearly very exasperated by her tornado boyfriend but still obviously in love and having a good time
That’s literally what all these channels do. Chad Chad just didn’t show it
@@robbiesilverwolf no they don't.
Juli-AN!!
It was always fun watching the annoyance slowly morph to amusement on her face.
@@sarasthoughts yes they do
I dated a guy once who was the epitome of the useless demanding husband trope. I complained to my mom and said I was thinking about breaking up with him and she said "sometimes you find a good man and you just have to raise him into the husband you want him to be. Your first year of marriage will be tough but I think after that he'll be a really good husband"
Hate that! I'm so sorry you had to hear that. "First year of marriage will be tough while you train him", just no. Our first year was wonderful because we went into it being partners. I know women who make excuses for their husbands not doing their share, and then posting about how lucky they are when he finally does the dishes, or buys her flowers. Like, okay he did the bare minimum, why are we applauding? You don't raise a man to be your husband, you find a person to be your partner.
I thought we were expected to marry husbands and wives, not sons and daughters...
wtf
Your mom has the "I can fix him" mentality and the answer is NO. No you can not.
Finally an intelligent person. You can see these things when you date a useless. If you stick around and make excuses for him, you’ll marry a useless.
I can't even bring myself to call someone who's actually being an insufferable jerk a "bitch," so referring to a loved one as such, let alone a spouse-even as a joke-is just unimaginable for me. I'd just feel like the biggest asshole. It's depressing to think that not only is the husband in this situation comfortable describing his wife that way, but the wife is used to it.
On a more upbeat note, I can't believe you're already at a million subscribers, but I certainly think it's well-deserved. Congratulations.
right?? Honestly.. It seems like there's some underlying issues being projected. A very unhealthy marriage. Yet lowkey enough for neither spouse to do anything, honestly it's very sad - especially considering your husband/wife is supposed to be like, someone you deeply and wholeheartedly love- ;;
Go look up the channel. See how happy they are
exactly
@@messiahofthefirst.3415 Nahhh its not "lowkey enough for neither spouse to do anything". Its more than enough to have a deep conversation which either ends in change of behavior+understanding or divorce.
but the reason they dont, is because of societal normalisation and the need to fit into the standard of "If you're X years old you should be married with a wife and kids".
This is not to say that the people involved dont have their fault in it. They definitely do, but I thought I should bring it up that as humans we're very flawed, and its not easy to run a family, so not everyone should be required to start one in the first place.
Its definitely easy to respect and love someone you're close to tho, which these ppl are lacking in.
@@steel5101 Yeah thats what I generally mean. And I honestly suspect it's not as bad as the videos in real life, but, the reason there's the videos to begin with which, basically are enough said.
I’m so thankful my man doesn’t even joke about stuff like this. I feel like even if you’re “joking” it’s still perpetuating the stereotype that women should be doing everything to serve men. Especially on a platform with younger audiences who are going to learn that and think it’s okay or normal.
agreed. the way a person speaks is direct insight to the way they think. if they're humor consists of racist, sexist, and homophobic jokes... whether they openly express their bigotry or not, they have internalized that kind of messaging and will perpetuate it to some degree. and I'm not saying there's no room for dark humor, but it needs to come from a place of tact and understanding otherwise it's plainly offensive.
and anyone who thinks humor can't be either of those things is part of the problem. very glad that you're dating someone who understands this and treats you with the equity you deserve as a human being.
My bf is so done with human life that he does not even recognize these type of jokes. :D
One time, I tried to make a (clumsy) "haha, I'm just a stupid, old gf" joke and his reaction was "ehrm, what?" + blank face
the jokes are decades old and completely overdone anyways. ive heard these jokes from men who had those relationships, and men who actually shared responsibility, and they have just simply never been well crafted or witty in the slightest. they are just by principle, not funny.
her in the nicest way possible: "Honey I'm on fire"
Him: "ROLL"
i think he forgot the "stop" and "drop" parts
@@epiclionsault92 or he enjoys the suffering of his wife. who knows!
It's so sneaky how the patriarchy managed to gaslight women into believing men can't do simple things and to do them for them.
When I was dating with my now husband, we made clear that those jokes would never be acceptable in our relationship, we both agreed on it and we’ve kept it that way! We’re really happy and caring to each other 💕 there’s hope
That sounds like a lovely relationship. I'm glad you got to experience that and it's sad seeing all these people on social platforms trying to navigate a miserable relationship with miserable partners. How do you not know how to feed yourself?? Its baffling to me.
They always turn ur back on u
Escape while u can
Thank you for the hope!
making rules that any jokes are unacceptable is wild to me.
@@BB-ed4om That's not what she said tho. I guess if you engaged with the actual comment you wouldn't have an argument.
i wanna know how those women agree to do this stuff lol don't even wanna imagine a scenario where they come up with these ideas themselves. like, why would a modern, seemingly progressive woman act as her partner's slave for a few likes on a meaningless app?? what about "my husband hates me and doesn't acknowledge everything i do for him and he is also a control freak who will probably kill me if im out of line" is funny? we've been battling misogyny and sexism since centuries. for what? this??
"seemingly" progressive. there you have it.
because it's been normalized. it's been painted as "just a joke" and if anyone thinks it's stupid or toxic shows up , well their called "sensitive" or "humorless". and i don't these women are in anyway progressive .
these are probably all right wingers. they love this shit.
Pick me girls exist. They don’t know how to keep a man so they’ll go with anything, that’s how desperate they are
@Li F Not really, it's just boomer humor that somehow made it to the corners of Tik Tok. I'm glad I don't use that app.
I grew up in a home where my mother spent most of her time acting like my father’s servant. He fully embraced learned helplessness (EDIT: the correct term for this is ‘weaponized incompetence’!) to the point that, when my mom was pregnant and on bedrest, I had to show my father how to do laundry. He was so belligerent and it was such a hassle for me that I just handled the family laundry for the duration of my mom’s bedrest. I was 8. And of course he knew nothing about cooking, so whenever my mother was sick/away from home I was in charge of the menu, cooking, and cleanup.
In households that embrace patriarchal Christianity, the wives get a terrible deal, no doubt. But oldest daughters have it pretty rough too.
I can't believe people do that to each other. Especially as Christians. Because that goes completely against what it says in the Bible. My parents are both Christans and my mum did most of the work at home. But my father build the house I grew up in, with his own hands, in his spare time. They both really lived to the idea that a man puts his wife and her needs above himself. And my mum always treated him equally in that, just as much. And so my brothers and sisters grew up learning more or less the same things, we could all do all the chores in the house and take care of our younger siblings.
@@HolandaChiquita I live in a rural part of the southern US. Religion is ubiquitous and it invades almost every facet of life here. It isn’t enough for someone to simply worship who they want in their own way so long as they aren’t hurting anyone, which fwiw I fully support the right to do! But that’s not enough for a lot of folks. They have to shove everyone else into it as well. And for a lot of folks the religion is just a Trojan horse for oppression and manipulation and control.
You think Christians are bad? Islam would like to speak with you:)
@@timferrell6253 I was raised in evangelical Christianity. That’s what I am personally familiar with, that’s what I am educated in, that’s what influences the politics and social atmosphere in my area, and therefore I limit my commentary to that. It would be deeply unfair and disingenuous for me to speak regarding a different religion that I don’t know.
Beyond that, I’ve seen plenty of damage done in the name of the religion of my youth. There is much to speak out against right there, I don’t need to venture out to other religions to find something to be appalled by.
@@Elliebellyboo02 thats fair and I respect that. I just feel like bashing Christianity is as popular as hating on nickelback meanwhile Islam criticism is largely absent. Really just an observation, not trying to pose it as a fact or anything
As a girl, I don’t shave my legs or arms. Body hair is normal. And I’m not ashamed of it. If there’s one person Who has a lot of swagger it’s Tom Selleck. So I make it a point to grow out my mustache just like him.
aww man i want a mustache :-,) /j (kinda)
I shave the lower half of my legs because the hair gets twisted an pulls in my socks.
The drag queen Geneva Karr is known for styling her leg hair into patterns, it's pretty cool
I don't shave either, I have never shaved actually. My mother is quite bitter about it, but I don't care. I don't want to shave at all but damn it, I am self conscious about my armpit hair. I am scared of the kind of attention it will receive and thus avoid tops that show my armpits. I am 18 and I feel like a 12 year old insecure middle schooler when it comes to my armpits lol.
I once called someone out for these kind of ugly, gross and disrespectful jokes that they were making about their girlfriend. My parents treat it as if I did something heroic and crazy to pull this guy aside and tell him he was an idiot. To me it was just necessary, and I was so annoyed and disgusted that I had to give him a piece of my mind at the time.
Call people out. I was in a safe place surrounded by family and friends and I was comfortable doing it, and if you feel safe and that you could call someone out without danger to yourself, please do it. No one should be seen as a hero for calling out bad behaviour. It should be normal.
Here’s the context: My brothers neighbour/friend was over for drinks one night while we were staying with my brother. The neighbour had a girlfriend, both of them had kids to different partners and were at least 40. The neighbour was making super misogynistic and gross jokes about his girlfriend while she was standing right next to him and later when she left to get something and when the other guy that was also making those kinds of jokes had left, I pulled him aside with my sister in law and told him how gross he was being. He was basically acting like she would never leave him so he could make any joke he wanted and then play it off with ‘but I love her’ and at first that was how he defended it too, that she /knows/ that he’s just joking, so it was fine. I asked him if he would like it if his daughters boyfriends spoke like that about them, and how inappropriate and gross and disrespectful it was to treat his girlfriend the way he was.
After our discussion he sort of understood, and said he would apologise to her when he got home with her. I told him he should apologise in public since he made those jokes in public and she needs to know that he isn’t just sorry behind closed doors, but will admit he was wrong in front of his friends too. He did end up apologising with us around and also in private but he seemed to think it was just one thing he said that was bad but at least it was better than nothing.
Tbh it should be normalized to have people like you, thank you so much for that (:
Amen
I once was called out on smth similar (on a joke that my bf is too childish and immature and it makes me tired)
and you know, it really put things is perspective and made me realize that, we were better off without each other.
I love this honestly but makes me mad that for most men to realize how gross they're being, you always gotta bring up like.. their daughters or moms or any women from their family to make them understand :/
Man, I would have been trashed on in my family for doing that. In fact, every time I DO, they have a problem with me. My extended family, anyway. I cut them all off recently after tolerating their emotional and mental abuse toward me for years.
Are… are people okay? I can confidently say that I am no longer scared of being along forever, because it would be so much better than being in a marriage like this
Better to be alone than in bad company.
At first When I was 12-13 I was excited to get a girlfriend/boyfriend whatever it doesn’t matter
But looking after my parents marriage and these tiktoks
Actually I am better off single my whole life.
Sorry but most relationships are not worth it. When my ex was doing the „my girlfriend is an annoying bitch“ thing I left him and he didn’t understand why? …. Well
Agreed
I like seeing how basement dwellers like you cope in this comment section. It’s fun.
I love having a good "lol" at a dying marrige.
Its not even dying, its been dead and theyre manipulating it like a puppet on strings
it’s literally a rotting corpse getting dragged
@5:21 is giving big "my parents are separated but not divorced yet" vibes
“Let’s turn our unhealthy marriage that is on the verge of divorce into a unfunny tiktok!!”
That's not entirely fair.
They're not _funny_ .
@@fricketyfracktraintrack hmm I have to agree they have no humor
"funny" 😬
@@glory5110 don’t worry I made it correct 👍
''And let's influence younger audiences by introducing them to mysoginic and toxic ideas!!''
HOW CAN YOU LOOK SO GOOD IN LITERALLY EVERY HAIR COLOR TO EXIST
true
@@leonasty69
*trew
@@memegazer no lol its *true*
@@meowbieenz no lol its thru!1!1
7:26 FINALLY someone else thinks theres like some weird kind of sexual tension between the toilet paper and the bear
It just enjoys it WAY too much. Like…it’s important to wipe your ass but I don’t do it for fun.
4:06: all I could think of is the fact that home delivery exists, like just order something directly to ur house
After my parents divorced I visited my dad. I am the oldest daughter and was about 22 when I visited. My dad
- didn't pick me up from the airport and got my sister to do it
- immediately stopped doing dishes or picking up after himself in the house
- stopped doing laundry
- stopped feeding his dog
- didn't buy groceries
- never cooked.
These were things he was fully capable of doing and had been doing on his own for a year.
He just expected me to do all the chores as an adult guest in his home and just perform all these tasks without being asked or thanked. I haven't visited him since and don't think I will. He visited me in my new home country and expected me to entertain him, made me pay for his bus fare, and made me buy him illegal substances. I'm just done with male incompetence.
that's exactly what happens to me when i visit my brother. he stops feeding the cats, expects me to clean his entire apartment if my parents are also visiting from my home country, and overall just turns me into his servant. and he's shocked when i tell him that i don't want to visit him. AND he's getting married next month as if he's ready to take on the responsibility of marriage when his toilet looks like inside of a person's lungs who's been smoking for 30 years. i'm just done with him. best i can do is to respect myself enough to never settle down for anything less than a man who's willing to share these responsibilities. good luck to you as well, Veronica. i wish you lots and lots of patience and resiliance.
“Male incompetence” sounds more like “bad luck”. I’ve been doing my own laundry, dishes, cooking, etc since I was 12. And in every relationship I’ve been in, I was the one to clean up, pick up, organize, designated drive, etc. I had a single mom who never let any of that lazy “mommy do it for me” stuff fly which included everything from homework to buying my own greeting cards for family members. I had countless friends who’s mommies cleaned their clothes and did their homework and wiped their butt till they found a wife. I don’t feel bad for their wives today. Because if I could see that this person is lazy and entitled, their girlfriend can see it too. Women make a choice to marry these men and think they’ll always love to clean up after them, or maybe they’ll change his ways and train him. Except when they find out homie hasn’t washed his booty hole once in his life because he thought it was unecessary and feminine to do so, that’s how someone turns out when mom makes excuses for him. The fault lies with both partners.
@@BB-ed4om The fault lies with both partners but not equally. Yeah, you shouldn't marry someone like that, but also "you let me be so incompetent" is not an excuse.
parasitic lifestyle of a psychopath
@@zahravardin1283 warn the wife
Conservatives: "I hate my wife and my life!"
Also conservatives: "The sanctity of marriage must be preserved at any cost!"
Also conservatives: flock to shit like Ashley Madison, the affair website
True.I'd laugh if they weren't ruining it for everyone around them.....
"Marriage is about making sacrifices!" All of our life choices are about making sacrifices.
Why is this a conservative thing?
This is not a conservative thing LOL
The weird dichotomy of "marriage is awful" jokes:
-my husband does absolutely nothing and I'm overworked
-my wife isn't always pretty, and she expects me you doing things when I don't want to
It feels like one side is not as awful as the other side
"Dude, I think you're just lazy."
"Pfft, that's what a pussy whipped beta male would say."
I would agree as someone who has lived this dichotomy
@@Ephesians5-14you divorced him right?
@@theman5324 in the process now finally. It's a huge relief.
@@theman5324 absolutely
My partner was super helpless until I got a chronic illness. Guess what? He learned to cook healthy food and discovered he liked it! He also got better at folding laundry and remembering to clean the bathroom sometimes when I couldn't get out of bed. Now that it's partially in remission, our division of labor is much easier since we can both do everything to about the same skill level!
so it's not okay to "expose" kids LGBTQIA+ relationships is indoctrination but teaching them to accept being in a toxic/potentially abusive heteronormative relationship is...fine?!?
darnest things
Yes
Both are not fine
@@le_prime4385 weak bait try harder
they just don't want the LGBTQIA+ to be happy coz what's the use of following the bible if they're more miserable than the gays
my dad is basically the exact same as "When you're sick and your husband is helpless". when my mom is sick, or not home, he makes (microwavable) chicken nuggets, and looks around the house for a bunch of snacks. the funny things are, he can cook/grill, but he leaves me to fend for myself. when my mom gets home from work late, i have to tell her that my own dad didn't feed me, so she has to tire herself more making me something to eat.
it's astonishing how common this is. there shouldn't be one role for one parent, they should both help out (especially if they're *married* and have a child).
sorry for the rant/vent thing, it's just kind of shocking how much husbands choose to just survive off their spouse
How old are you? Jw
@@madisonwillis9591 i wish not to specify but I am a minor :) I can make things for myself, but what matters here is that my dad is mostly pretty careless for me
also very sorry for any grammar mistakes or things that don't make sense, i'm kind of tired and still learning english haha
if you’re older than like 12 you should be able to help yourself instead of making your mom do it, but your dad needs to definitely step it up and cook more
@@firezebraart7753 i don't make my mom do it, but there's barely food in my house. i mean, we do have food, but it's only little snacks or things i have already eaten all week so they're no longer appealing to me lol
i also no longer have oven priveleges (idk how to spell that right oof) sadly
@@firezebraart7753 my daughter is 8 and she can cook some things for herself, if this kid is 10 I feel like they should be cooking basic things like eggs or making sandwhich
i hate how people normalise or believe that hating your s/o is a healthy thing to do. its ok to joke about things but- joking and making a mockery out of your s/o is a whole different thing.
and i never rlly understood the whole "lmao my wife sucks and i hate her sm !!!!😠😠" trope. like- no-one is forcing u to be with her lol you either hate her or love her. choose one man.
I don't understand it at all. Why marry someone you hate? I also hate when men act like they have somehow been forced into marriage by their wives, my brother in christ, were you not the one who asked her to marry you? I know this is slightly off topic but with that whole johnny depp thing, the fact that he was joking about murdering his girlfriend and having sex with her corpse and then AFTER that married her!! Like what? Why do people get married to people they fantasise about killing?
@@frances9975 i understand and agree 100% like- no-one is holding a gun to their head and telling the guys :"u better marry that woman" lol. and the johnny depp one i didnt know omg, thats- crazy. yeaah idk why people fantasy about something like that.
It's still pretty prevalent today, unfortunately. One day my husband and I were shopping for a new mattress, so we were just discussing what we liked or didn't like about the mattresses. The saleswoman commented on how well we got along. We both looked at each other like "what?... We're just talking like normal people." Like it was a novel concept to her that a married couple could pick out a mattress without yelling at each other.
We have a lot of bachelor parties at my work and Ive had quite a men making "this is my last moment of freedom before im tied down to that ball and chain" jokes to me and ive always asked them why they feel the need to insult their fiance to a stranger.
bear-tch is literally the funniest thing i've ever heard
I'm surprised more comments don't mention it. It made me laugh so hard and it goes by so fast
Nisipisa WOULD be the one to address this, you are a beacon of light and hope for this world 🙏
Fun fact: Finnish people used to think bears were our ancestors so we respect the frick out of bears. Don't shave guys, you're insulting your bear ancestors.
Ooh, täälläkin on suomalaisia, Chadchad videon alla, ihana 😂
Ok I'll just glue it back on 👍
this also applies to non guys, never shave
The smoothness though-
🥹
Skyrim guard: "Lemme guess, someone stole your sweet roll"
The husband: "MY ROLL?!👁👄👁"
Ladies if your man cant do basic household chores teach him and if he still refuses to do them then leave him
Same applies to pretty much every gender so a lady married a lady and she refuses to do household chores or a man married a nb person and they refuse to do household chores leave them and make them do it by themselves
While you’re at it, teach him to properly wipe is buttcheeks to pristine condition.
Teach him? What are you his mommy? Why can’t he learn on his own? Is he a child?
Maybe I’m just not interested in raising grown adults. Not only are you doing all the labor around the house but now you get to do more emotional labor teaching basic skills. Yay a two for one special.
If men wanted to learn how to do something, they would learn how to do it. Just as they do with any hobby and skills they have.
You aren't obligated to teach them either for the record, you can help if you want to but it's not something you HAVE to do. Adults are capable of teaching themselves how to do basic chores, and the internet exists
@@sofastuffing fr fr fr
Fr the reason im quite afraid of marriage is because i worry about my husband being lazy and would want me to do everything all the time even when im ill. Also im worried that he would insult my cooking and everything i put effort into since i know that my grandfather and father are lazy and only criticize women all day I hope i will find someone who will help me around the house and appreciate me in this twisted world and not be a big baby about everything. My discouraging granny and mom through all my childhood dont help either with their "you won't find a man like that, all are lazy and toxic" so i quite lost hope
I work at a restaurant meant for dates, and I had this couple come in where the 26 year old man kept acting like his mom forced him to be here, he was on an expensive date that his girlfriend paid for. She even bought a romance package and he didn't want to be there... I asked how long they've been together and he said "too long" excuse me??
How do people exist like this?? Like aren't you ashamed? Maybe some sympathy? Morals? Basic human decency?
this shit really pisses me off. i am a decent guy who just wants to find some companionship but instead i am invisible to women. meanwhile, these assholes have everything and instead of being grateful and appreciative they act like it is a fucking chore. i truly hate our society and my existence.
@@adrianc6534 Woah woah woah, that sounds an awful lot like incel-talk ;-; Please don't fall into that rabbit hole! Trust me, it won't help you find a loving and meaningful relationship ;-;
@@adrianc6534 I feel your pain. Loneliness is one of the most painful experiences you can have. Please don't fall down the incel rabbit hole bc it does you no good. I get it's good to be heard and talk about it, but that community does everyone more harm than good. I bet you there's been girls in your life thats been too shy to approach you. I'm saying this as a woman myself why's only dated nerdy men, that my shallow highschool friends would laugh at me for 🤷♀️ A lot of women are not as shallow as you think, being an angry aggressive person is just going to scare them away. The Channel Psychology in Seattle has a few videos to help you heal from inceldom. Also the guy in my story was in no way a Chad. He looked like he could've been an incel in another life, and his girlfriend was pretty, but the problem was his attitude towards women.
@@adrianc6534 the psychology in Seattle video titled "How to meet women" should be for you. It's free therapy. That channel has personally helped me tremendously.
The sheer incompetence of the men I've had in my life traumatized me, honestly. They're like children in the bodies of adults who married just to force a woman to pamper them. Sickening behaviour.
Yeah, it's everyone else's fault. Keep telling yourself that. The 19th needs to be repealed
@@yurisssecondaccount6674 ...what?
@@tsu4595Yeah, my bad. sorry for disrupting your programming, however it's not my fault Goldman Sachs and the Rothschilds haven't gotten around to paying for a response to be coded for you. Maybe this will work
Those silly men in your life, what dunces. I BET THEY WERE WHITE! Thank god (Who is of course a woman) that gay rights and the 19the amendment exist. To suggest otherwise would be extremely dangerous to our democracy. I love Israel and the Jewish people, JEWS ROCK!
Same
I don’t understand why gen z has such a problem with a women being submissive like if your not like that ok but they literally hate on women for having a life different to them if there happy leave them alone just because your friend posted a pic of you saying your a baddie who doesn’t need a man (except when you want someone to pay for your dinner) doesn’t mean that the women are these women are wondering why there single when they want a man to take care of them financially and be dominant there but when it comes to anything else they want to be big bosses who controls everything thing then they make videos saying how men are so controlling
These men will insult their wife’s cooking and then throw a hissy fit when their wife doesn’t cook for them.
Wow, they cured my fear of dying alone... by making me fear being in a loveless marriage. It's a miracle :)
bro I'm dying at 7:46
bearold: good luck attracting a man with leg hair like that 🙄
bearethy: at least I won't attract hypothermia, you beartch😒
can’t wait for them to claim people are being over dramatic, care too much, or are violating their privacy despite the fact that they regularly upload videos of them being shitty to their partners like that’s not.. concerning 😅 great video as always chad chad!
I have seen my uncle get grumpy and go home because he didn't get an extra egg. There was only enough for everyone 💀. Because of such experiences, immature guys are my biggest turn offs.
This type of humor is something my dad would show me and laugh so hard at. My dad is a divorced, manic depressive, alcoholic who rants on Facebook about work.
What a 🪄 legend 🪄
@@MellowJelly what
Lmao do we have the same dad?
I cannot wait for the day when we will hear the last "I hate my spouse" type of joke. Hopefully that will also be far after the last person has found these jokes funny.
It won’t be in our life time if any data on incompetent men remains true.
my dad is lazy and my mom is a workaholic:
my mom had covid around a month ago, so my dad had do handle her responsibility of driving people to school in the morning & driving home from extracurriculars. this stressed him out to an unimaginable extent
last week, me, my mom, and two of my siblings got into a pretty bad car accident. thankfully, me and my siblings weren’t hurt at all, but my mom was in a lot of pain. she wasn’t feeling any better, so, a couple days ago, we all strongly suggested that she go to the hospital. she agreed, but followed it by “let me check my schedule” and insisted that she shouldn’t cancel any meetings for it. *the doctors informed her that she had a concussion and fractured sternum*
My goodness. I hope your mother and family are doing well now?
straight people: every day i wake up next to my BALL AND CHAIN 😂😂😂😂
lesbians: Every day I awaken and compose a new 10 hour symphony about my beloved
I was gonna say something but I realized this is actually true 💀
gay guys: i post a picture of myself every day on my Instagram. he hasn't texted me back in a month but we're married in my head.
what fanfiction taught you about lesbian relationships lol
@@darkwowplayer it’s called being a lesbian in a 3 year relationship!
i know like lesbians got it figured out, why would you marry someone if you’re not completely in love and want to stay with them forever
This is the perfect thing to brighten my spirits after pulling an all nighter on a project I procrastinated
Honestly? Same. I should really finish it and I have at least another subject to study but no, procrastination.
It's 23:30. I wanted to start studying at 17:00.
this reminds me of the series familiar wife, its so damn good. its about one of these "helpless dudes" not realising hes toxic and is the problem in the relationship, and wishes that he never got married in the first place and his wish gets fulfilled. its so rewarding to watch him slowly realising that he was most of the problem and regretting he made the wish (part of the problem was that they never communicated their feelings but he didnt make it any better) i rly recommend it.
Where do you watch it? Netflix?
I want to watch this is it on UA-cam
@@ktg3811 it's on Netflix, not UA-cam sadly. But it's also on dramacool.
7:35 this is EXACTLY why I subbed. Discovered Chad Chad through the coop with Danny, but stayed for the amazing memes.
1:47 It would be a wholesome and extremely sweet gesture IF SHE WAS VOLUNTEERING TO. Why is this grown man making her get him cinnamon rolls 😭 bro.
he could also just get them himself the night before
Also, eating cinnamon rolls on a set schedule can't be good for you. But one less chauvinist douchebag in the world is a good thing.
“These are jokes meant to be cathartic and not taken seriously” and “the overwhelming amount of ‘I hate my wife!!1!’ content is absolutely normalizing the idea that couples aren’t supposed to like each other and gives men a free pass to act like a helpless child and pressures women into letting their husbands get away with anything instead of communicating or acting like adults and can be outright dangerous in some scenarios” are not mutually exclusive
I'm not sure what's more concerning, that these men exist or there are women out there that tolerate them
I know right?🫤
Both.
Seems like Karen’s get a lot of shame but never the lazy and or bully husband. If I had been married to someone like that I’d probably turn into a “crazy Karen” too
Please don't victim blame. Holy shit. You don't know their situation.
Moment my s/o starts making "I hate my wife" jokes, we getting therapy. If they refuse that, or just continued to do it, divorce papers are getting served, I love myself more than that
Preach!
You do get that they don’t mean it and it’s obviously for tiktok
@@GuyfromSC2 Maybe on TikTok, but people do say it seriously in real life all the time
my dad is this exact way to my mom. the only good thing I've gotten out of it is that I know exactly what I DONT want in a partner. the whole helpless act shouldn't work for 40 whole years, but it does. never putting up with that.
Toxic spouse/parent culture makes me so mad.
It could be a mom complaining about how much she hates watching her kids and they ruined her life, a husband saying he wishes his wife would just drop dead, or a wife belittling her husband for being “useless” ALL of it is disgusting and should stop being joked about
It doesn't tend to be belittling, it's the man using a tactic called weaponised incompetence and the woman normalizing it in jokes because she feels she is in a situation where she is forced to accept it even though it's fucked up.
@@notmyrealname4363 yeah or it’s just a lady being a bitch.
I’m sure the guy could be acting lazy on purpose too. But I wouldn’t paint all situations as “woman good, man bad” :/
@@notmyrealname4363 Ok femcel.
Lmoa?
@@notmyrealname4363 ok misandrist
I’ve heard stories of women who stopped doing laundry and dishes that were left by their boyfriend!husband and their partner would either complain that the messes aren’t being cleaned or just leave because it’s “not working anymore.”
Unfortunately there is a much more common third option. That these men genuinely do not care and are perfectly happy living in filth. I once saw a post about a wife who stopped washing her husband's underwear. His response was to literally throw them in the trash and buy new fresh ones. Some men genuinely stay in the mess to be stubborn and prove to the woman their stupid point. And some will resort to carving a third option out of thin air until the wife once again has to cave because eventually she's the first one to not be able to take living in filth anymore.
god chadchad is so fucking funny i cant even describe it. you managed to turn a potentially very serious & uncomfortable content into a really enjoyable and genuinely hilarious watch, while still making sure to not make light of the actual topic. well done! you're also just genuinely the funniest person on youtube, your humor matches mine exactly and i love you for it MWAH
Wife: "We should improve our marriage somewhat"
Husband: "Yet you participate in the marriage! Curious! I am very intelligent."
I like the idea of being independently together in a romantic relationship, like having two separate rooms or even your own apartments/houses while married but still understanding each others love and commitment to each others regardless of what assumptions other people have.
As a asexual I 100% agree with your idea
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I've mentioned this topic (sleeping in separate beds/rooms) to my bf before out of consideration for him being an extremely light sleeper and me sleeping like the dead. (He said he's fine with sleeping together, we'll have to see how it goes when I visit this summer.)
It is a thing, can be done, and don't let others say you can't!
Ya, I personally would enjoy that bc I'm a stickler about privacy even if we'd sleep in the same room. On the other hand I am clingy and do love being around my partner so I'd rather live with him and sleep with him but let him have his own life outside of our relationship
@ApplesWithPeanutButter polyamory
i’m only 23 & already divorced bc my marriage became miserable & emotionally abusive. i was definitely a wife who did everything for my husband. i was going to university 3 times a week & working on weekends while pregnant & also taking care of our toddler but still made sure the house was clean & he had meals for work & clothes for work. i also was always the one with kids all over me while he ate a hot meal & i ate cold food & only like half of the meal by the time i got to eat it. my ex fought to stay together only for our kids sake. i hate that idea bc it just puts the kids in between arguments & gives them the wrong idea about love. i think kids deserve to have _happy_ parents & if that’s apart then so be it. and now that we’re apart he’s still horrible. whenever he’s sick he tells me he can’t take the kids he needs to get better. i contracted _covid_ and couldn’t even get out of bed so i asked him to take the kids and he literally told me “moms watch kids all the time while they’re sick”. thankfully i found a man who actually has equal responsibilities & helps me with my kids & even watches them so i can take a nap every now and then.
I'm glad you're out of that situation and with someone better! :)
My sister has been so much happier after she separated from her husband. He did nothing while she worked and took care of my nephew. Now, he should pay child support and actually parent for once and she can date real men. (he was an abusive alcoholic as well).
You have bad choice in men
@@robbiesilverwolf incel
@@robbiesilverwolf he wasn’t like that the 4 years we dated once we got married he completely 180’d
That oxymoron joke made me laugh so hard that it woke my daughter which sucks because now my wife has to take care of her and get her back to sleep while I continue watching this video.
God I love Chad Chad… or whoever this girl is claiming to be “Chad Chad”. Her videos are always exactly what we need. The comedy juxtaposed with the absolute insanity of the things she covers is absolutely perfect. Also, I need that ‘Not Really’ neon sign 😂😂