Honestly, you and Zoe have the cutest friendship on UA-cam. I love how silly you two can be when you're together. But I also love when you guys can be serious and have meaningful chats together. The chemistry you have as close friends is one that reminds me of me and my best friend. Me and her have known each other since October of 2016, and I think of me and her's friendship when I see you two in a video together. Stay awesome, and never change! -Hannah♥ P.S I'm a big fan of both of you👍
For cutting out your toxic friends: FORGIVE but don't forget. it sounds so cheesy, but I've only just realised what it actually meant. I've had a really bad friend but we still had to be in the same class for the next two years, and after we had a huge fight we barely spoke for about two months. the bitterness was literally eating me up from the inside. So therefor I chose to forgive, and it made me feel a lot better. In that way you can still speak, but it doesn't mean that you have to hang out a lot afterwards. So please learn to forgive people or you'll end up very alone with your angry thoughts. With that being said it is equally important to not forget what they did to you, so you can maybe take your precautions when speaking to them and not give them the power to control or manipulate (or whatever bad thing they were doing) you again.
Over the past few years I've walked away from alot of toxic friendships in my life and I didn't realise how bad they were until after I cut the cord with them. They didn't respect or support me but I stayed longer that I should have out of loyalty because I had known them for 10 years. (I'm 30 btw) But no matter how long you've known someone. You should never be disrespected or made to feel like crap. There's no excuse for it.I came to the conclusion that I'd rather be on my own than surrounded by awful people. Being on my own has taught me healthy boundaries, re affirming self worth and it's allowed me to gain the courage to start my own UA-cam channel and now I have room in my life for people that are on my wavelength. There's a silver lining amongst every cloud:) great listening to both of your advice. It was very helpful 😊
Does anyone else get this? .... I find some people take your power away. They're intimidating and manipulative and arrogant and when you're around them you feel small all the time. You don't realise it at first but after a while you find your self esteem is at an all time low and you haven't been yourself in a long time. I meet a lot of people like that in my life and luckily enough I've cut most of them out but does that happen with anyone else or am I just very sensitive and I'm letting others take away my power?
In some way they also reprimand you if you are slightly different than usual or let yourself go because your levels are so low. And if you manage to perk up they scold you for being snappy and mean or even worse - a selfish brat. At least thats what happend to me.
I feel that if you are in a committed relationship or even a friendship, taking care of yourself is #1 priority, because seeing so many relationships in which one person is just giving the other so much of themselves and changing themselves to make another person happy is not healthy at ALL. People tend to give and give and give and when the connection begins to fizzle, they’re left with no self love or self admiration and thats what hurts most. Know the difference between the connection you have with someone that should be going both ways, versus one person bending over backwards to make their friend or partner happy and not receiving the same respect and love back to them, that’s something I believe people confuse with just “a problem they need to work on” rather than “this relationship doesn’t work”
Here's some advice that don't tell you about in your 20's. You really should be saving or contributing to your future. Whether it be 401ks or your own retirement fund. If you do it now it won't be bad later. Also you won't get screwed realizing that you might not be able to financially sustain yourself in your older age. Also create an emergency fund with all your bills being able to be paid for 3 months minimum but up to a year is ideal. You never, NEVER know what tomorrow may bring. Be prepared
I didn't know I needed this video till I saw it. You guys gave me so much advices in this video than ever and I think I'll save it on m computer just in case sometimes I need to hear them again. You gave me so much strength and you changed my day for the better, love you lots guys, from an Italian girl who's trying to find her place in this messy world.
Just quickly pausing the video to tell you youre so precious Mark. The kindest person on the planet. I just adore your videos thankyou for uploading and talking to us 😊❤
I honestly respect videos like this. It is really nice to see a balance of honesty and advice but also funny content from the two of you. thank you guys so much 💓
Omg! The toxic friends part uuuufff I really felt that!! I just cut any relation I had with my University friends for those reasons it's hard but you need to put yourself first!!! ❤❤
Thank you mark for this video!! I’ve been stuck in a toxic friendship and this gave me such insight to the problems in the friendship. You and Zoe inspire me to be a better Friend and treat people with love and respect🥰 Thank you!!
This video reminded me so much of the end of the year chat you guys had in one of the margate vlogs last year. Loved all the life advice, it felt like I was talking to two close friends :)
I feel like fitting in is important to me and it shouldn't be, but being alone is scary because whenever I get the lonely feeling I overthink and convince myself I'm not good enough for anyone which hurts, but thank you so much for that advice, love you both💕
I'm friends with two of my ex's, but we only started to talk again when we had both moved on. One, I broke up with him, another he broke up with me but I can still talk to them both now as we have both grown and spoke about everything and laid boundaries to certain things. But I guess, like Mark and Zoë said, it depends how the relationship ended and how mature you are. The outcome depends on you, and you alone. Same as every aspect in a relationship and when you break up, if you ever do.
*12 DAYS UNTIL CHRISTMAS! Who’s excited?!🎄 Love you so much! Such a huge inspiration! Always make me smile!☺️ One of my faves! Thankyou for inspiring me to start my own UA-cam channel!💗*
You really do have to look out for yourself. End relationships with toxic people and be yourself!!! “If you have to try to fit in, they ain’t your people.”
I do watch mark and Zoe’s best and funny when I am sad your both my biggest inspiration people I love both so dam much I can’t even explain or express 💕💕
Ty so much Zoe and Mark X I'm going through a lot of toxic frienships and changing groups at the moment and trying to stay positive. I love you both so much, THANKYOU 💗💗
You are such an incredible people and your advice are always the best Thanks so much for this kind of videos,they are so inspirational and helpful, love you so much
I’ve recently stopped being friends with someone who was toxic and I’ve never felt better for it all thanks to watching marks videos. We’re in the same friendship group but aren’t friends and sometimes she still does things that I don’t think are very nice but I try to just move on because people like her really aren’t worth worrying about no matter how much leaving them hurts it will definitely be worth it in the end
so today i have had a really awful day and this vid has cheered me up and made me think so much about so many more important things so thank you guys xx
In regards to the question about a toxic friendship, I’d say get out as quick as possible. I was in a toxic (platonic) relationship, where my friend was so emotionally abusive (and sometimes i wonder if she even knew she was that way) and she was a compulsive liar.. and honestly it’s not safe for your mental health being around that much negativity. Loads of times in toxic relationships/friendships, the other party cuts you off from your other friends, in cases like that- where you feel so cut off that you think you can’t speak to your other friends because it’s been too long or something like that. Just ignore that feeling and reach out to them, start hanging out with other friends more and more, and less with the toxic one. Personally i think a clean break from them is the best way to go (unfollow them on instagram ect) but if that isn’t possible, just distance yourself as much as possible. Like zoe said, you are the most important person in your life, treat yourself as such 💛
Cannot agree more about what you said about fitting in! Definitely be yourself and be friends with people who accept you for you. I feel like most people do not realize this until they get older. Reminds me of the song 'Normal' by Sasha Sloan.
That question with the fitting in really got me thinking. I'm am in my first year of college and I feel like I wasn't really myself in high school. I was always told to fit in and not really stand out because there is trouble that comes with that, so naturally, I stayed under the radar. I did have a couple of friends who I was with for the year then we never spoke (season, reason, lifetime thing) because I felt like they were friends with the fake me. going into my second semester of college I am definitely going to keep this conversation that yall had in mind. Thank you for opening my eyes and covering this topic in your video! lots of love
If your having a bad day gather your friends and have comforting food and just don't think or talk a about the day until you feel better then recap it with yourself or friends and see where you've gone wrong. I cannot WAIT to see tomorrows vlog, i hope Zo was able to walk though lol
In regards to friendship being stronger after coming out, I can 100 vouch for this. when I came out during college my friends were always there for me and we grew stronger together.
Anyone who is afraid to come out... Try not let the fear of the unknown stop you!!! Who you are is who you are and unfortunately if anyone in your life negativity rejects you because of it.. then I honestly don't know why you would want those people in your life. They don't deserve to be in your life if that's the case actually. You matter. You are valid. You should be able to be comfortable with your identity. You are so amazing and I believe in you and believe that you will get there. You will have some rough roads along the way but boy when those roads smooth out, it's incredible! You are incredible! Let go of the fear. It is what it is. You can't change it so embrace it. 😘😚☺
I wonder if I had this video or these kind of videos where people talk about friendships and toxic relations growing up, would I have avoided so many horrible people or would I have been like no but it's not like that between us and learned the lesson the hard way? loved the video guys
Damn i wish I'd had valuable advice like this growing up! Spent too many years trying to fit in and repressing my personality - only now in my mid to late 20s had i began to get back in touch with who i truly am! Better late than never! Much love x
so agree with the abusive friendship thing. people don't think it can happen with friends like in relationships, but it does! i lost a friendship this way because she was literally just abusive to me and it wasn't healthy! its hard but you don't need people like that in your life. love you guys x
literally today i felt like i had to fit in and i got ignored, and a drink spat on me (not intentionally) but hearing this today really helped. i needed this. thank youuu :)
I think for the being friends with an ex q, you should only give as much as you get in regards to effort put into the new friendship. If they aren't putting any effort in to be friends and hang out or message then you shouldn't either. Some people say they want to be friends but if they aren't getting anything from you they aren't willing to give anything. Love you both BTW ❤️
You know what's generally heart breaking the fact that mark is the most beautiful person and u can tell hes struggling but he's so beautiful and amazing ❤
“Putting your balls on the table” 😂😂😂😂
Think you mean cards Mark 😂
Maria Haddock “I’ve been thinking about it all day”
when Nala was barking in the beginning of the video I was thinking in Zoe's voice "umm, excuse me Nala?!" :D
Same lol
‘best of luck everyone’ cracked me up 😂😂
can Zoe and mark start a podcast ASAP??
I would absolutely love that!! I could literally listen to them talk all day!
Please!!!
Susanne Madonna OMG yes you are a genius
And only Zoe and Mark... no annoying Alfie
We need this x
“Life is hard good luck everybody” LOL MARK
Zoe looks gorgeous with dark hair it feels like old zoe with dark long hair
Honestly, you and Zoe have the cutest friendship on UA-cam. I love how silly you two can be when you're together. But I also love when you guys can be serious and have meaningful chats together. The chemistry you have as close friends is one that reminds me of me and my best friend. Me and her have known each other since October of 2016, and I think of me and her's friendship when I see you two in a video together. Stay awesome, and never change! -Hannah♥ P.S I'm a big fan of both of you👍
I love when both of you are filming together 😍😍The most beautiful friendship that I have ever seen on UA-cam 🙂🙂
I see my friend and I in them too ♥
did Zoe put small glitter extensions in her hair? YES FESTIVE!!
Yeah she did in her latest vlog.
yeah it’s in her most recent vlog x
For cutting out your toxic friends:
FORGIVE but don't forget. it sounds so cheesy, but I've only just realised what it actually meant. I've had a really bad friend but we still had to be in the same class for the next two years, and after we had a huge fight we barely spoke for about two months. the bitterness was literally eating me up from the inside. So therefor I chose to forgive, and it made me feel a lot better. In that way you can still speak, but it doesn't mean that you have to hang out a lot afterwards. So please learn to forgive people or you'll end up very alone with your angry thoughts. With that being said it is equally important to not forget what they did to you, so you can maybe take your precautions when speaking to them and not give them the power to control or manipulate (or whatever bad thing they were doing) you again.
caroline nielsen I take this on board but she doesn’t wanna be friends anymore so what do I do
Over the past few years I've walked away from alot of toxic friendships in my life and I didn't realise how bad they were until after I cut the cord with them. They didn't respect or support me but I stayed longer that I should have out of loyalty because I had known them for 10 years. (I'm 30 btw) But no matter how long you've known someone. You should never be disrespected or made to feel like crap. There's no excuse for it.I came to the conclusion that I'd rather be on my own than surrounded by awful people. Being on my own has taught me healthy boundaries, re affirming self worth and it's allowed me to gain the courage to start my own UA-cam channel and now I have room in my life for people that are on my wavelength. There's a silver lining amongst every cloud:) great listening to both of your advice. It was very helpful 😊
Zoe looks great with dark hair .. oh my!
She looks better with long blonde hair
Does anyone else get this? .... I find some people take your power away. They're intimidating and manipulative and arrogant and when you're around them you feel small all the time. You don't realise it at first but after a while you find your self esteem is at an all time low and you haven't been yourself in a long time. I meet a lot of people like that in my life and luckily enough I've cut most of them out but does that happen with anyone else or am I just very sensitive and I'm letting others take away my power?
i have this too! its so weird
@@EmmaMallows98 isnt it? They automatically make you feel less than what you are. Glad I'm not the only one who feels that way!
Jane OC yes! Like they suck the energy from you - stay away from them! Lol
@@EmmaMallows98 exactly and suck the confidence out of you too! You haven't the freedom to be yourself! 😂 I know girl I'm trying 😊
In some way they also reprimand you if you are slightly different than usual or let yourself go because your levels are so low. And if you manage to perk up they scold you for being snappy and mean or even worse - a selfish brat. At least thats what happend to me.
I feel that if you are in a committed relationship or even a friendship, taking care of yourself is #1 priority, because seeing so many relationships in which one person is just giving the other so much of themselves and changing themselves to make another person happy is not healthy at ALL. People tend to give and give and give and when the connection begins to fizzle, they’re left with no self love or self admiration and thats what hurts most. Know the difference between the connection you have with someone that should be going both ways, versus one person bending over backwards to make their friend or partner happy and not receiving the same respect and love back to them, that’s something I believe people confuse with just “a problem they need to work on” rather than “this relationship doesn’t work”
Have a wonderful day whoever sees this
Oh my god, its you again! You're the lady that made my day last time😂😂 well, i hope you gave a good one too😝😊
@@brookcarroll awk thank you!!
Lucy O'Hara awwww thankyou xx
Thank you!! You too x
I love videos like this because it reminds me that other people go through the same things I do!
You 2 need a podcast your like the best people to just listen to chat your so raw and real and easy to relate to
‘Putting your balls on the table’ made me laugh because I’m 12
Omg can’t wait! Literally clicked as soon as I got notified💗💗💗💗
Here's some advice that don't tell you about in your 20's. You really should be saving or contributing to your future. Whether it be 401ks or your own retirement fund. If you do it now it won't be bad later. Also you won't get screwed realizing that you might not be able to financially sustain yourself in your older age. Also create an emergency fund with all your bills being able to be paid for 3 months minimum but up to a year is ideal. You never, NEVER know what tomorrow may bring. Be prepared
FIRST i love you both so much 😭💓💓💓
i literally cried, that was so deep. thanks. i needed this in my life
I didn't know I needed this video till I saw it. You guys gave me so much advices in this video than ever and I think I'll save it on m computer just in case sometimes I need to hear them again. You gave me so much strength and you changed my day for the better, love you lots guys, from an Italian girl who's trying to find her place in this messy world.
This is exactly what I needed today! Thanks so much, it made my day
yes!!! cleaning is so therapeutic and makes me so happy. love yall together. your friendship is so genuine ❤️❤️
I just love it when you two are together - even if you’re having deep chats or laughing your heads off I absolutely adore you both xx 🥰
Life Advice with Mark and Zoooo podcast plz. haha
Haha i love watching Holly and Phil's best bits and i watched P2, loved it thanks 👍
I love these kind of videos. You and Zoe have such a lovely friendship x
Just quickly pausing the video to tell you youre so precious Mark. The kindest person on the planet. I just adore your videos thankyou for uploading and talking to us 😊❤
LOVE YOU MARK AND ZOELLA 💗
I really enjoyed this I wanted it to go on for longer, please film more of these!! xx
Omg love you the mosttttt❤️❤️❤️
This was maybe the best advice video ever, just what i needed right now! Thanks this was really helpful
honestly love just hearing you guys talking about anything! x
I love this so much! You two never fail to give such great advice. You guys have an amazing friendship ❤️ love you both so much ❤️
You two are my faves! I love your friendship, ugh I just love y’all 💗😭
I honestly respect videos like this. It is really nice to see a balance of honesty and advice but also funny content from the two of you. thank you guys so much 💓
this advice was actually so helpful, luv u guys xx
Omg! The toxic friends part uuuufff I really felt that!! I just cut any relation I had with my University friends for those reasons it's hard but you need to put yourself first!!! ❤❤
Aww Mark you are just the best as always, and I love what Zoe is wearing! :) Can't wait for the garden centre upload lol! xx
Thank you mark for this video!! I’ve been stuck in a toxic friendship and this gave me such insight to the problems in the friendship. You and Zoe inspire me to be a better Friend and treat people with love and respect🥰 Thank you!!
I loved this vid it helped me understand a lot and thank you mark and Zoe for this I hope you do more- I enjoyed it ❤️❤️❤️
You both make me so happy (: I honestly watch your videos and it puts me in the best mood. Keep doing what you're doing Mark!
This was good.
Thank you, guys ♥️ love you two together.
Kisses from Croatia!
Omg I love that friends are for a reason, season or a lifetime 👌🏻 such good advice guys could listen to you both all day!
So happy about this video, what a great start to my day!
Love you mark and Zoe!
Been waiting for this video you two are honestly so amazing ❤️❤️
This video reminded me so much of the end of the year chat you guys had in one of the margate vlogs last year. Loved all the life advice, it felt like I was talking to two close friends :)
Owww I just love a video like this when your 24 and trying to figure out life and then your realise everyone els is too!! You guys are the best ❤️
I feel like fitting in is important to me and it shouldn't be, but being alone is scary because whenever I get the lonely feeling I overthink and convince myself I'm not good enough for anyone which hurts, but thank you so much for that advice, love you both💕
I'm friends with two of my ex's, but we only started to talk again when we had both moved on. One, I broke up with him, another he broke up with me but I can still talk to them both now as we have both grown and spoke about everything and laid boundaries to certain things. But I guess, like Mark and Zoë said, it depends how the relationship ended and how mature you are. The outcome depends on you, and you alone. Same as every aspect in a relationship and when you break up, if you ever do.
*12 DAYS UNTIL CHRISTMAS! Who’s excited?!🎄 Love you so much! Such a huge inspiration! Always make me smile!☺️ One of my faves! Thankyou for inspiring me to start my own UA-cam channel!💗*
You really do have to look out for yourself. End relationships with toxic people and be yourself!!! “If you have to try to fit in, they ain’t your people.”
I was having a bad day and this video just made it better thanks I never get enough of you two :(((( gob bless you
A reason, season or a lifetime. That has literally made me reflect on some friendships that were most certainly seasonal! Love this saying! Xx
I do watch mark and Zoe’s best and funny when I am sad your both my biggest inspiration people I love both so dam much I can’t even explain or express 💕💕
Ten seconds in, and im already ON THE FLOOR from that sound mark made😂😂😂😂😂😭😭😭😭
Love you both so much xxxxx
Thank you i needed this laugh and advice. Keep doing what ya doing Mark x
Ty so much Zoe and Mark X I'm going through a lot of toxic frienships and changing groups at the moment and trying to stay positive. I love you both so much, THANKYOU 💗💗
My favorite friend duo! Love these type of videos. 💗💗
Love you too 🎄
You are such an incredible people and your advice are always the best
Thanks so much for this kind of videos,they are so inspirational and helpful, love you so much
I LOVE your advice videos together!
I love this video! Love you guys sooo much xx
I’ve recently stopped being friends with someone who was toxic and I’ve never felt better for it all thanks to watching marks videos. We’re in the same friendship group but aren’t friends and sometimes she still does things that I don’t think are very nice but I try to just move on because people like her really aren’t worth worrying about no matter how much leaving them hurts it will definitely be worth it in the end
so today i have had a really awful day and this vid has cheered me up and made me think so much about so many more important things so thank you guys xx
In regards to the question about a toxic friendship,
I’d say get out as quick as possible. I was in a toxic (platonic) relationship, where my friend was so emotionally abusive (and sometimes i wonder if she even knew she was that way) and she was a compulsive liar.. and honestly it’s not safe for your mental health being around that much negativity.
Loads of times in toxic relationships/friendships, the other party cuts you off from your other friends, in cases like that- where you feel so cut off that you think you can’t speak to your other friends because it’s been too long or something like that. Just ignore that feeling and reach out to them, start hanging out with other friends more and more, and less with the toxic one.
Personally i think a clean break from them is the best way to go (unfollow them on instagram ect) but if that isn’t possible, just distance yourself as much as possible.
Like zoe said, you are the most important person in your life, treat yourself as such
💛
Cannot agree more about what you said about fitting in! Definitely be yourself and be friends with people who accept you for you. I feel like most people do not realize this until they get older. Reminds me of the song 'Normal' by Sasha Sloan.
That question with the fitting in really got me thinking. I'm am in my first year of college and I feel like I wasn't really myself in high school. I was always told to fit in and not really stand out because there is trouble that comes with that, so naturally, I stayed under the radar. I did have a couple of friends who I was with for the year then we never spoke (season, reason, lifetime thing) because I felt like they were friends with the fake me. going into my second semester of college I am definitely going to keep this conversation that yall had in mind. Thank you for opening my eyes and covering this topic in your video! lots of love
“Best Of luck everyone” the way he said that ahaha
What a flippin treat, a vlog I’ve never watched 😮 COME ABOUT 😂
LOVE THIS & love you both!
Love you both, thank your for the advice
Please do another one! I loved this
If your having a bad day gather your friends and have comforting food and just don't think or talk a about the day until you feel better then recap it with yourself or friends and see where you've gone wrong.
I cannot WAIT to see tomorrows vlog, i hope Zo was able to walk though lol
In regards to friendship being stronger after coming out, I can 100 vouch for this. when I came out during college my friends were always there for me and we grew stronger together.
These two make me so happy
Anyone who is afraid to come out... Try not let the fear of the unknown stop you!!! Who you are is who you are and unfortunately if anyone in your life negativity rejects you because of it.. then I honestly don't know why you would want those people in your life. They don't deserve to be in your life if that's the case actually. You matter. You are valid. You should be able to be comfortable with your identity. You are so amazing and I believe in you and believe that you will get there. You will have some rough roads along the way but boy when those roads smooth out, it's incredible! You are incredible! Let go of the fear. It is what it is. You can't change it so embrace it. 😘😚☺
I wonder if I had this video or these kind of videos where people talk about friendships and toxic relations growing up, would I have avoided so many horrible people or would I have been like no but it's not like that between us and learned the lesson the hard way? loved the video guys
Sounds harsh but don’t stay friends with your exes! Unless it’s years later and both of you are in a good place - it’s just a bad idea!!
Thank you for answering my question
Loved this!!❤️❤️❤️
Damn i wish I'd had valuable advice like this growing up! Spent too many years trying to fit in and repressing my personality - only now in my mid to late 20s had i began to get back in touch with who i truly am! Better late than never! Much love x
I LOVE U MARK
so agree with the abusive friendship thing. people don't think it can happen with friends like in relationships, but it does! i lost a friendship this way because she was literally just abusive to me and it wasn't healthy! its hard but you don't need people like that in your life. love you guys x
literally today i felt like i had to fit in and i got ignored, and a drink spat on me (not intentionally) but hearing this today really helped. i needed this. thank youuu :)
I enjoyed this video I love you’s two!💖
Bloody love this video so much
LOVED THIS VIDEO!!! 😍😍
I have a feeling this video is gonna make me feel so much better than i am now🥰
wow you guys give the best advice!
you two are actually the best
Love when you guys film ♥️
Loved this video! ❤️❤️❤️
Love you both together so much! I'd love a Zoe and mark podcast 😍
I think for the being friends with an ex q, you should only give as much as you get in regards to effort put into the new friendship. If they aren't putting any effort in to be friends and hang out or message then you shouldn't either. Some people say they want to be friends but if they aren't getting anything from you they aren't willing to give anything. Love you both BTW ❤️
I love advice from you guys
You know what's generally heart breaking the fact that mark is the most beautiful person and u can tell hes struggling but he's so beautiful and amazing ❤