i absolutely love how humble you are. i’ve been binge watching your videos and i love the content! i love listening to your deep thoughts, never settle!
You were a beautiful human back then and you are a beautiful human now. Looking at your family photo, I can see the pride in your parents eyes in that exact moment. I know parents fail us many times (they are just out here trying to do better then their own parents did with them), but seeing all of you together I can tell your parents have felt so much love for you and your siblings ❤ You've come a long way, your hard work not only financially but rather introspectively has certainly paid off, congratulations :) you're a great example to look up to and there is no doubt that you'd be a great dad :)
Thank you Jhoana! There was a lot that was great about my childhood and I do believe my family did feel that love for us then. I just wish they could have found a way to hold the family together. We have all splintered and it's really sad. I know they had their reasons. I read a quote by Carl Jung the other day that said "The greatest tragedy of the family is the unlived lives of the parents." I think maybe my dad must have read that and decided to live his life in the process of abandoning his family. I have come a long way and I am grateful to have accomplished my dream of financial independence. I also believe I would have been a great dad and you just never know what the future holds...stay tuned and we will see:)
Thank you for saying that. I find peace in knowing he didn't have to struggle through this world. I think about all the madness I have endured and he would have had to do the same and that part brings me peace. He died in a motorcycle accident so he was doing something he loved. Thanks for caring!
Gosh isn’t it insane how time seriously flys bye it’s honestly crazy. I was in the era where all are photos were saved on phone and if you lost or broke your phone you lost all your memories :(
Great video once again! I love looking at old photos, you haven't changed much over the years (apart from all that hair lol) Thanks for sharing your memories 😊
HA! Yes I had a lot of hair back then. It's funny because I vividly remember getting my hair cut as a kid and having the barber tell me.."with hair like this you will likely never lose it." He was wrong...LOL! How bout that sexy mullet though:)
Hi Derek.. fantastic video as always.Thanks for the shout out!! It's been a fast four years my friend.Im sure your mrs right is just around the corner..as they say what is meant for you won't pass you!
Such a great video. Makes me really want to make sure that I hold onto all of my photos especially since it's so easy to take them with my phone which I think I take for granted. Cheers!
So when are you getting a tattoo of a Toyota logo? 😂 Tattoos are incredibly popular now, as for the mullet, it came back very recently with the youngsters. I've had people tell me "When you're old you'll regret your tattoos because they won't look as good" but honestly if I'm in my 70s, I'm not going to care how my tattoos look by that point haha. Great video and great pictures my friend
Ha! Likely not gonna happen bro. I hope you know I wasn't judging...just pointing out the generational differences. There are times I feel naked not having them when I look around and see everyone with them.
Absolutely inspiring video, im going threw something similar to your story and to know things could get better... 🙏🏻🤙 everything you described is so true man
You mentioned you used to smoke cigarettes, perhaps an video about how you stopped or just getting over addictions in general (not saying you were addicted, just as a topic for others) would be cool to hear about it from your perspective!
some excellent self-reflection here... very interesting. i personally think you made the correct choice, but i am profoundly inspired by your ability to reflect.
Awww thank you! You can always fall back on some of my ideas if you struggle to come up with some of your own. I would be honored to be copied by you:) Love seeing your continued growth and love to see the effort you are putting in! Proud of you!
I love hearing and seeing people talk about their childhood, most of the time they're so happy, remembering family, friends and crazy fun little trouble they'd make 😂😅 that's going to be me one day! Lol I'm only 25 but I feel okay about aging, i have 5 kids so I'm always going to have someone to bore and talk endlessly about my good times lol.
@@ASMRReality lol 😂 it's great, stressful of course. Wouldn't recommend more than two kids, but I always wanted a big family and thankfully they always have everything they need and more!(: thanks for your videos, they really are my go too when it's alone/relax time
@@Ponce17 So glad I can bring you some relaxation....with all those kids you definitely deserve it! I'll keep the videos coming and you make sure you raise them right!
I wish I was a gamer. I know I could get a lot more subscribers by doing the gaming videos but I just have never played video games and wouldn't even know where to start. Just another ride I missed out on like tattoos.
Hey Derek! Been a fan of the channel for a while now. I can honestly say you’ve helped me through some hard times, and I’m forever grateful for you. I’m 23 and feel somewhat lost in my career/life. Is there a way to contact you personally? I’d love to get in touch and noticed the discord link doesn’t work anymore. Thanks so much!
Im late but here its just that i have not had time for asmr because i have been hanging out with my friends and stydying but i think i got time today to wach the two new vids of urs
Brother, like I have seen your channel from since it just started, it was interesting that you told us a bit about your life story. But a common theme that I noticed is that you deep down would want to met a woman and start a family with her, and I respect that and I believe you should truly try to achieve that. I know, you are an overthinker, many of us are, but the sad part is that those are the people that would be the best and most loving parents to their children, but since they tend to overthink stuff and wait for the perfect moment, years instead go by and nothing happens. Meanwhile someone who doesn't care about anything gets a lot of kids and barely takes care of them, this is the sad reality. You say that you are contempt with your life and your dogs, but I think that is not the full truth, you want something more, you want a family. Just as the example you said about the 38 year old single female cop, that truly herself wants to be a more traditional role, the same goes for you with being "contempt" only with your dogs, I think if you are truly honest with yourself you want more. And you say that you love dogs because they have this innocent honesty and really love you, what don't you think children do, they love their parents. Especially if you are a kind and loving parent, which I have no doubt that you wouldn't be. So brother, you only live once and life is short, so don't let this go to waste, go outside your comfort zone, go abroad to a more traditional country to find someone with more conservative values. Because if one thing is true in life, you gotta be ready to fight for something if you really want it! Nothing will just appear infront of you, you gotta really work hard to get to that stage, and use your energy and time to get to the goal of a family, it will be something you will appriciate forever.
Ain't nothing like getting called out on my own advice...lol! I hear you completely and I know you are right. I also agree completely on the good people not having kids and the bad ones popping them out left and right. I'll get on the right path but truly appreciate your input on this...truly! Thank you!
It’s really cool to be able to see you throughout your life and see how far you come good job that’s awesome I’m proud of you! Maybe if you have freetime you should pickup photography again as a hobby? Also don’t be ashamed or upset at yourself for not raising the kid you would’ve been a great father but it wasn’t your responsibility to raise someone else’s kid that you had no part in and look where you’re at today you’re a great man and you should be proud of that! Maybe try and reconnect if it really bugs you that much. OH and tell your friend with cancer to change his diet completely no sugar or carbs and make sure he eats lots of fruits and vegetables, spirulina, soursop, and kiwis can all cure cancer but if he doesn’t remove the sugar which feeds the cancer he’ll never cure it.
Appreciate your thoughts on this and the advice for my friend. I have sent him a lot of the research I have done on it. Fasting seems to be another way to kill cancer.
@@ASMRReality appreciate your videos! The least I can do for the entertainment you give me is try and help in any way I can! Fasting is amazing for the body and it’s sad how the hospitals and everything tells you there’s no cure for it when in reality the cure is just your diet and fasting. Have a great day though!
I challenge you to reflect on why you want to go back to more traditional gender roles. Not saying you’re wrong for feeling that way, just that it’s healthy to reflect on why we hold our values. I consider myself a fairly traditional guy in a lot of ways, but letting go of some of my ideas about masculinity feels like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
Likely given the pool of traditional women is so much smaller, by focusing on them and not truly trying diligently to pursue them, I am just in protection mode...content in my solitude and very well likely trapped in it unless I modify my actions. Does that sound about right? Could you expand a little more on letting go of your ideas about masculinity? Having weight lifted sounds right up my alley. Give me some goods bro!
I actually have never been in a gym before. If you go back about 4 or 5 months ago I made a video and showed both my workouts. I do a HIIT routine every other day and a dumbbell workout on the other day. I do that 7 days a week and rarely miss a day.
Hey man, great video. I am interested in getting in contact with you because I have an interesting situation and I have been left with a large sum of money that I want to invest in Real Estate. Would love to chat
I know there's good ones out there. I accept that a lot of my issue is self inflicted. I just have to make decision to be vulnerable to love again and I know I can find it.
If you look at some of my videos from a couple years ago I did grow one. I just felt like I looked mean with it...lol...so I got rid of it. I keep a little scruff most the time though.
I mean no offense, but i really want to know your thought process behind wanting to raise your ex girlfriends child after she got pregnant on a vacation with some other guy, then later feeling a little bad or questionable about not raising the child… ? 🤨
I didn't want to do it and thats why I didn't do it. However, after not having kids of my own and seeing how that girl turned out....it just made me wonder what life would have been like if I would have chosen the other path. I don't really have any regrets and it's not like I'm sitting here sad about it. Just have self reflecting thoughts about the "what ifs" of life. No offense taken and truly appreciate the question.
woah i was about to subscribe and them i got to the bit at the end about gender roles. i think it's okay that you are attracted to a more submissive personality type, but making it about the entire society is unfair. i am a woman. i do not want to be a school teacher or nurse. i am in medical school to be a doctor and save lives. we are just as powerful, intelligent, and domineering as any man. you want to go back to a "peaceful" and "traditional" period where men had more power. men controlled the money and all of the major decisions for a woman. don't you want an equal who will love you and try to protect you the way that you love and protect them? you aren't single because of any changed dynamics. you are single because you seem super type A, intolerable of other peoples' differing personalities and attachment issues that were modeled for you you're entire life by your divorced siblings and parents. not because women want a seat at the table.
If we were in bed and we heard a noise outside of our house, I would not let you go see what it was. I would not have you climb into the attic to try to get the bat out that somehow made its way up there. I am not intolerant. I have accepted the world in it's current condition and understand it will not go back. I also understand that a lot of the reason we are in this new world is because men abused the system we had that worked so well. I respect women completely and beleive them to be capable just as men are. There is a reason we still do not allow women to be drafted into the military. You can volunteer but you cannot be forced to go unlike men. The system is not equal. We just pretend it is. I am tolerant of all of this, just born in the middle of the transition that makes it much more difficult to be comfortable in. I need a woman like you to transform me:)
Bro your hair was majestic af in your prom picture 🔥
HA. Yes it was!
i absolutely love how humble you are. i’ve been binge watching your videos and i love the content! i love listening to your deep thoughts, never settle!
Appreciate this...definitely waited this long so not gonna settle for sure!
You were a beautiful human back then and you are a beautiful human now.
Looking at your family photo, I can see the pride in your parents eyes in that exact moment. I know parents fail us many times (they are just out here trying to do better then their own parents did with them), but seeing all of you together I can tell your parents have felt so much love for you and your siblings ❤
You've come a long way, your hard work not only financially but rather introspectively has certainly paid off, congratulations :) you're a great example to look up to and there is no doubt that you'd be a great dad :)
Thank you Jhoana! There was a lot that was great about my childhood and I do believe my family did feel that love for us then. I just wish they could have found a way to hold the family together. We have all splintered and it's really sad. I know they had their reasons. I read a quote by Carl Jung the other day that said "The greatest tragedy of the family is the unlived lives of the parents." I think maybe my dad must have read that and decided to live his life in the process of abandoning his family.
I have come a long way and I am grateful to have accomplished my dream of financial independence. I also believe I would have been a great dad and you just never know what the future holds...stay tuned and we will see:)
Need rest of my 20’s and life to go like yours did. You always inspire me. I gotta make the changes needed to get to where you are.
Thats where it starts, brother. You want it....now you do the work....shitloads of it....you will get there! ua-cam.com/users/shortspCoLTjS3r_I
wow that quote about your destiny being decided in the moment of deciscions -- man, that one hit right here
Helped me too! I repeat it to myself often still.
Handsome then handsome now. Thanks for sharing these with us Derek. Your videos are looking super professional now btw! Awesome
Appreciate that, bro! Nice to see you in the comment section again!
Real sorry to hear about your younger brother passing. Love your channel, we appreciate your commitment. Love from the uk
Thank you for saying that. I find peace in knowing he didn't have to struggle through this world. I think about all the madness I have endured and he would have had to do the same and that part brings me peace. He died in a motorcycle accident so he was doing something he loved. Thanks for caring!
Awww I adored the pictures! What a fun video! Thanks for sharing that with all of us 🤗
I thought it was a great idea and so happy you liked it!
Gosh isn’t it insane how time seriously flys bye it’s honestly crazy.
I was in the era where all are photos were saved on phone and if you lost or broke your phone you lost all your memories :(
Truly does bro! Funny you say that about the old phones and losing your data...been there too!
Great video once again! I love looking at old photos, you haven't changed much over the years (apart from all that hair lol) Thanks for sharing your memories 😊
HA! Yes I had a lot of hair back then. It's funny because I vividly remember getting my hair cut as a kid and having the barber tell me.."with hair like this you will likely never lose it." He was wrong...LOL! How bout that sexy mullet though:)
Hi Derek.. fantastic video as always.Thanks for the shout out!! It's been a fast four years my friend.Im sure your mrs right is just around the corner..as they say what is meant for you won't pass you!
Hell yeah! Got to shout you out when I can!
super neat video, cool to see another added depth into your life, hope your day/night is going well
All is well! Hope you are doing well too!
There needs to be more of this style of video people just talking about their lives. It's so wholesale and really relaxing.
Glad you liked it! Thank you for the comment!
You're aging well. You look the same, just more mature overtime😊
Thank you, Marie....blushing:)
3:20 awww!
so cool to see your younger self, Derek :D
You're the B E S T!
the random beard scratching was amazing!! great video!
Good to know...those are inadvertent...but glad you like them:)
Such a great video. Makes me really want to make sure that I hold onto all of my photos especially since it's so easy to take them with my phone which I think I take for granted. Cheers!
So when are you getting a tattoo of a Toyota logo? 😂 Tattoos are incredibly popular now, as for the mullet, it came back very recently with the youngsters.
I've had people tell me "When you're old you'll regret your tattoos because they won't look as good" but honestly if I'm in my 70s, I'm not going to care how my tattoos look by that point haha.
Great video and great pictures my friend
Ha! Likely not gonna happen bro. I hope you know I wasn't judging...just pointing out the generational differences. There are times I feel naked not having them when I look around and see everyone with them.
@@ASMRReality Of course my friend! No offence taken! I completely get your point 🙂👍
Love the video! Great work yet again
Thank you, Joey!
Absolutely inspiring video, im going threw something similar to your story and to know things could get better... 🙏🏻🤙 everything you described is so true man
It gets better bro...just got to keep going forward!
You mentioned you used to smoke cigarettes, perhaps an video about how you stopped or just getting over addictions in general (not saying you were addicted, just as a topic for others) would be cool to hear about it from your perspective!
I found his channel with youtube recommending me something like "my opinion on drugs". I believe he made that video some months ago
I did make a video a couple months ago on this....
ua-cam.com/video/z7yXRH1fXSs/v-deo.html
some excellent self-reflection here...
very interesting.
i personally think you made the correct choice, but i am profoundly inspired by your ability to reflect.
this is such a cute video! Love it!
Thank you!! Just subscribed to you! Why did you only do one video and stop?
wow i loved this! aging is a privilege that not all get to do
Awww thank you! You can always fall back on some of my ideas if you struggle to come up with some of your own. I would be honored to be copied by you:) Love seeing your continued growth and love to see the effort you are putting in! Proud of you!
This is so sweet ❤
A person Never gets over losing a sibling. So young too. Sorry about your brother..
I never thought it would be this hard for so long.
I love to hear your thoughts. Thank you
This video is amazing. Just hearing your life’s journey is inspiring and just relaxing. Keep it up Derek🤝🏽
Glad you liked it!
@11:28 hit hard for me
It really is crazy how decision we see as maybe not that major seriously change the complete trajectory of our lives.
I love hearing and seeing people talk about their childhood, most of the time they're so happy, remembering family, friends and crazy fun little trouble they'd make 😂😅 that's going to be me one day! Lol I'm only 25 but I feel okay about aging, i have 5 kids so I'm always going to have someone to bore and talk endlessly about my good times lol.
Wow 5 kids at 25...thats strong. You made up for the ones I didn't have! Good for you!
@@ASMRReality lol 😂 it's great, stressful of course. Wouldn't recommend more than two kids, but I always wanted a big family and thankfully they always have everything they need and more!(: thanks for your videos, they really are my go too when it's alone/relax time
@@Ponce17 So glad I can bring you some relaxation....with all those kids you definitely deserve it! I'll keep the videos coming and you make sure you raise them right!
Thanks for the vid😃
always welcome, my friend
I’m a very nostalgic person so I absolutely love this video idea!!
I wish I could remember who recommended it to me so I could thank them. It was a great idea and just really glad you liked it!
Listen ur friend will get through this and i will make sure u know that he will be all right ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
I'm not sure he will but I sure hope you are right.
@@ASMRRealitysee cancer won't beat him if he dies the cancer also dies because it needs a body to live in but 1%is still possible
It is possible!
Hey reality! Been a supporter for around over a year now, ever think about making a gaming asmr channel?
I wish I was a gamer. I know I could get a lot more subscribers by doing the gaming videos but I just have never played video games and wouldn't even know where to start. Just another ride I missed out on like tattoos.
Hey Derek! Been a fan of the channel for a while now. I can honestly say you’ve helped me through some hard times, and I’m forever grateful for you. I’m 23 and feel somewhat lost in my career/life. Is there a way to contact you personally? I’d love to get in touch and noticed the discord link doesn’t work anymore. Thanks so much!
There is a new discord link in my newer videos. Click on one of them or email me at asmrreality@yaho.com
Im late but here its just that i have not had time for asmr because i have been hanging out with my friends and stydying but i think i got time today to wach the two new vids of urs
Well I'm making another one right now so hurry up and get caught up!
Dogs never stop loving their owners but humans stop loving each other some times but humans never stop loving their dogs
Sadly some owners do stop loving their dogs. They put them outside on chains and things like that. Just glad you love yours!
@@ASMRRealitywell the ppl who stop loving in my opinion they never truly loved because if u truly love it won't go away
Great video
Thank you:)
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Almost 1m wiews on ur channel
Only you would notice that:)
@@ASMRRealityyes I sometimes check ur stats from the channel
Aging like fine wine
There you go again....
@@ASMRReality 😫
Three Ways to Fly by: Derek Manis.....wings on an eagle, fins on a dolphin....your compliments in my comment section:)
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Hopefully won't be long!
Brother, like I have seen your channel from since it just started, it was interesting that you told us a bit about your life story. But a common theme that I noticed is that you deep down would want to met a woman and start a family with her, and I respect that and I believe you should truly try to achieve that. I know, you are an overthinker, many of us are, but the sad part is that those are the people that would be the best and most loving parents to their children, but since they tend to overthink stuff and wait for the perfect moment, years instead go by and nothing happens. Meanwhile someone who doesn't care about anything gets a lot of kids and barely takes care of them, this is the sad reality.
You say that you are contempt with your life and your dogs, but I think that is not the full truth, you want something more, you want a family. Just as the example you said about the 38 year old single female cop, that truly herself wants to be a more traditional role, the same goes for you with being "contempt" only with your dogs, I think if you are truly honest with yourself you want more.
And you say that you love dogs because they have this innocent honesty and really love you, what don't you think children do, they love their parents. Especially if you are a kind and loving parent, which I have no doubt that you wouldn't be.
So brother, you only live once and life is short, so don't let this go to waste, go outside your comfort zone, go abroad to a more traditional country to find someone with more conservative values. Because if one thing is true in life, you gotta be ready to fight for something if you really want it! Nothing will just appear infront of you, you gotta really work hard to get to that stage, and use your energy and time to get to the goal of a family, it will be something you will appriciate forever.
Ain't nothing like getting called out on my own advice...lol! I hear you completely and I know you are right. I also agree completely on the good people not having kids and the bad ones popping them out left and right. I'll get on the right path but truly appreciate your input on this...truly! Thank you!
Bring back hair metal 😂😂😂
HELL YES!!!!
It’s really cool to be able to see you throughout your life and see how far you come good job that’s awesome I’m proud of you! Maybe if you have freetime you should pickup photography again as a hobby? Also don’t be ashamed or upset at yourself for not raising the kid you would’ve been a great father but it wasn’t your responsibility to raise someone else’s kid that you had no part in and look where you’re at today you’re a great man and you should be proud of that! Maybe try and reconnect if it really bugs you that much. OH and tell your friend with cancer to change his diet completely no sugar or carbs and make sure he eats lots of fruits and vegetables, spirulina, soursop, and kiwis can all cure cancer but if he doesn’t remove the sugar which feeds the cancer he’ll never cure it.
Appreciate your thoughts on this and the advice for my friend. I have sent him a lot of the research I have done on it. Fasting seems to be another way to kill cancer.
@@ASMRReality appreciate your videos! The least I can do for the entertainment you give me is try and help in any way I can! Fasting is amazing for the body and it’s sad how the hospitals and everything tells you there’s no cure for it when in reality the cure is just your diet and fasting. Have a great day though!
I challenge you to reflect on why you want to go back to more traditional gender roles. Not saying you’re wrong for feeling that way, just that it’s healthy to reflect on why we hold our values.
I consider myself a fairly traditional guy in a lot of ways, but letting go of some of my ideas about masculinity feels like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders.
Likely given the pool of traditional women is so much smaller, by focusing on them and not truly trying diligently to pursue them, I am just in protection mode...content in my solitude and very well likely trapped in it unless I modify my actions. Does that sound about right?
Could you expand a little more on letting go of your ideas about masculinity? Having weight lifted sounds right up my alley. Give me some goods bro!
Well when i come to america 1 day id love to meet u if possible
Absolutely we will make that happen!
@@ASMRRealitywell it will take many years to that but when I can ill come
Do you workout at the gym?
I actually have never been in a gym before. If you go back about 4 or 5 months ago I made a video and showed both my workouts. I do a HIIT routine every other day and a dumbbell workout on the other day. I do that 7 days a week and rarely miss a day.
Hey man, great video. I am interested in getting in contact with you because I have an interesting situation and I have been left with a large sum of money that I want to invest in Real Estate. Would love to chat
There is a link to my Discord in the descriptions or you can email me directly at asmrreality@yahoo.com
No one gonna talk bout he was a senior w a freshman like wtf
Bro....that cracked me up. Really....you making me a pedo now...lol
before you respond, please watch the move Barbie (i know i know too female...but please watch it please).
I don't think I can watch it.
majority of women still want a traditional relationship
I know there's good ones out there. I accept that a lot of my issue is self inflicted. I just have to make decision to be vulnerable to love again and I know I can find it.
You should grow a beard
If you look at some of my videos from a couple years ago I did grow one. I just felt like I looked mean with it...lol...so I got rid of it. I keep a little scruff most the time though.
I mean no offense, but i really want to know your thought process behind wanting to raise your ex girlfriends child after she got pregnant on a vacation with some other guy, then later feeling a little bad or questionable about not raising the child… ? 🤨
I didn't want to do it and thats why I didn't do it. However, after not having kids of my own and seeing how that girl turned out....it just made me wonder what life would have been like if I would have chosen the other path. I don't really have any regrets and it's not like I'm sitting here sad about it. Just have self reflecting thoughts about the "what ifs" of life. No offense taken and truly appreciate the question.
@@ASMRRealityohhh okay, that makes much more sense
It was better before….
Agree!
woah i was about to subscribe and them i got to the bit at the end about gender roles. i think it's okay that you are attracted to a more submissive personality type, but making it about the entire society is unfair. i am a woman. i do not want to be a school teacher or nurse. i am in medical school to be a doctor and save lives. we are just as powerful, intelligent, and domineering as any man. you want to go back to a "peaceful" and "traditional" period where men had more power. men controlled the money and all of the major decisions for a woman. don't you want an equal who will love you and try to protect you the way that you love and protect them? you aren't single because of any changed dynamics. you are single because you seem super type A, intolerable of other peoples' differing personalities and attachment issues that were modeled for you you're entire life by your divorced siblings and parents. not because women want a seat at the table.
If we were in bed and we heard a noise outside of our house, I would not let you go see what it was. I would not have you climb into the attic to try to get the bat out that somehow made its way up there. I am not intolerant. I have accepted the world in it's current condition and understand it will not go back. I also understand that a lot of the reason we are in this new world is because men abused the system we had that worked so well. I respect women completely and beleive them to be capable just as men are. There is a reason we still do not allow women to be drafted into the military. You can volunteer but you cannot be forced to go unlike men. The system is not equal. We just pretend it is. I am tolerant of all of this, just born in the middle of the transition that makes it much more difficult to be comfortable in. I need a woman like you to transform me:)