Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - How To Start Healing It
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- Опубліковано 7 вер 2023
- Anatomy of Codependency Series: Fawning - How To Start Healing It
Fawning happens because your body does not feel safe enough to advocate for itself. This points us to what is required for your freedom and healing: increasing your sense of safety. This happens through focusing on three specific areas: safety emotionally, reliable connection, and real self-worth.
Learn how this works in today's episode!
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Someone once told me, "If you're being too nice, your most likely fawning....". It sure made my ears perk up when someone says, "Your too nice".
Yep, I would then look what happens when we start to Protest and when we actually do not fawn any more.
In psychopathic ambient - we will be punished - one way or another, covertly or overtly. I would look at this punishment and negative reinforcement Operant Conditioning which is nothing else but Coercive Control. Psychopaths love power and they like to hide/mask their psychopathy behind blaming and nitpicking errors and flaws of others/their targets/anyone around them.
So if we have Quiet BPD ACoA which means automatic self blame installed and programmed into us in dysfunctional childhood, we will be perfect match to abuse - and then fawning is our only tool to cope with the abuse, manipulation and control of evil people.
So if we are "too nice" it is not a sign of our fault - but that the other person is psychopathic and cannot tolerate criticism, reality or errors of any kind, loss of control - which triggers psychopaths and narcissists loss of power.
We need to deeply learn these Dark Triad abuse tactics - it is really not our fault to be "too nice". We are simply reacting to covert evil people who charm others with glib charm and "super confidence".
It kept us alive, we really need to learn additional tools which we never had chance to learn during growing up due to ACoA (relentless criticism and unnoticeable microaggressions)
Very thorough video packed with lots of great information on building self awareness and ways to grow. Thank you!
thank you!
Thanku Marshall very good understanding. Im watching ur latest vids now.
You're welcome!
Thanks! You are making good content. ❤
There a hundreds of video's about the fawning response. I do not need to know what it is, i have lived it for 58 years! I need help in fighting this response. I need to be free of this so i will be able not to live in servitude anymore. You do give valuable tips to do this; to fight this
Oh my God I love what you do thank you so much🥹
I really really need this. :(
Thank you for this Marshall. I love your work.
You're welcome!
SPOT ON!
I love the background! Thank you so this video I couldn’t find this topic elsewhere, so thank you so much!🙏🏼🙏🏼
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Atm my mum just came out of hospital and both mum and r elderly. I have cptsd and this has affected my day to day life considerably. I try my best to care for my dad yesterday and today, i had a wasted journey as dad was at hospital. I have no contact with my stiblings. I fawn alot and sometimes travel to take care of my dad, like cook him a meal, yet my mental health and finances suffer. Sometimes dad can kind of guilt trip me, and i give in, yet my emotional state gets bad and last time, i came down with depression. Why do we have this guilt, like we arnt doing enough, even thou we know we are? Now im obsessing in my head thinking have i done enough. Im unable to drive anymore and hate living with cptsd as i have limited capabilities now. Thanku for ur insight it gives clear unserstanding. And just knowing im not alone helps.
Mum and dad are elderly. Sorry spelling error.sorry my reply is long
Holding you in care as you face this. This is a very complicated experience you face right now. I'll do some videos on this codependent guilt impulse we have.
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Hello, Marshall! I want to thank you a thousand times! Your work is infinitely precious. Your channel has been my safe place for at least 4 months now, thus I'm learning a lot from you. The deepest knowledge about codependency, fawning, people pleasing you share is priceless ❤🩹
Thank you! I'm grateful to be a support n your healing!