Something small that I really appreciate in this video (that may sound a bit silly) is that instead of swerving around the word, Sean was able to say suicide. That word is so often replaced with “sewer slide” or “unalived” so seeing it treated with the seriousness and empathy it deserves instead of using a silly word to scurry around UA-cam censorship or just to avoid saying it is really important. It takes serious bravery to make a video like this
It made me unconsciously flinch a bit and think "ooh, unfiltered word, hope he doesn't get in trouble with the Algorithm for it" before I realised that this is turning into such a Voldemort's name situation that people may just stop using the word for good.
"Treat myself as a friend" is what I ended up doing in my darkest moments and it changed everything for the better. That's not all there was to it, but it was the most defining factor.
Took a long time to not tell myself things I wouldn't tell someone else. Interesting to mentally explore that but I think this is part of the sentiment.
My therapist worked hard to have me change my negative thought process. Because even when I wanted to say something positive, I would say it in a negative way (For example, "I'm not stupid" instead of saying "I'm smart"). She would call me out every time to try to get me to change the way I talked about myself and about people around me, and just this little thing helped me so much. I still do it, but I call myself out on it. "No, let me rephrase that" type of stuff.
It’s so important for people to come across these types of tips and “tricks”! Even when they are ok or think they’re ok. When I was feeling low, I knew that I should be a friend to myself because I had heard people on social media say that. I tried to name 5 things I loved or appreciated about myself because when a friend is feeling low, I try to remind them of all the wonderful things about them. When I couldn’t do that and realized I genuinely didn’t like any part of myself, I knew it was time to get help. Glad to see everyone sharing their stories here! ❤
It really is so pervasive, the loneliness aspect, the neurodivergence, the SI, the existential piece, and creator mental health is complicated as well. Really applaud you for taking your mental health seriously and spreading awareness and funding. You're right on so much of this. Here to help however we can.
It really, really helps so much to hear the experiences said out loud that you thought only you experienced. Even with mental health and work, showing up for other people but also for yourself… maybe sometimes not being able to distinguish who you’re doing it for or what the priority should be out of everything you’re constantly taking in. It can be overwhelming to have some of these experiences described so clearly. Like you’re seen but exposed, too. 😅 But gratitude and hope are what stick around and that’s what we need more than anything. Thank you. ❤️🩹
Remember to always love and forgive, just as God loves and forgives you. Be kind to one another, and treat others with respect and compassion. Keep faith and trust in God's plan, and know that He is always with you. Let His love shine through you, and be a light to those around you.
true, i lost my big bro, a truck run him over.....i... just dont know how to deal with it.... he didnt even had a face to show at the funeral.... i wish i could go back and stop him from going outside
I love that jack is the Jiminy cricket of UA-cam, he's the voice of reason, respect, self accountability, confidence, rationality, and love in my head and in a lot of others heads too i hope to be half the man he is when I get older
To be honest, it's not that hard to be the voice of reason on UA-cam with all these Jack Doherty, JayStation, SSSniperWolf, Mr Beast, Logan and Jake Paul, etc... lol
Autism and ADHD are the two hot topics in my life as well, Jack. I'm 36 years old. The thinking makes you sooo tired. I have a hard time to finish anything I started. I struggle working and at average have 4 jobs a year. I don't feel like I fit in. But that's how it should be, becauese... It is not a sign of health to be well-adapted to a sick society. I can game for days, not going outside, not feeling lonely at all. Just sometimes I need to talk to a professional because I don't really have anyone to talk to. The ones needing to talk to a therapist are not the ones that should be ashamed. Life has beome so busy. In the 90's we had so much more time... Or at least it feels so. It's because we fill every damn moment of rest with youtube, instagram, tiktok or facebook. Our brains are non stop activated, processing the data that we send in. What helps me is going out for a walk in nature. Phone off. No triggers.
Autism and ADHD are being thrown around like candy by healthcare workers. 90 % of the people that get diagnosed don’t have anything wrong with them. They’ve just been psyopped into thinking everything about themselves is wrong and messed up. They just want to sell you the adderal pills so they can make a fortune off your misery.
As a counselor myself, this type of communication is really important and I applaud you for doing so. You are communicating these things with such a huge demographic and while that's a lot of pressure to handle, this video will undoubtedly do so much good to educate a wide variety of people experiencing a myriad of struggles. Thanks for your open and honest communication
Came here to say exactly this; you did it better! Jack's honesty & desire to help make a difference. We all are going to need to have these kinds of conversations in our lives for one reason or another.
Thanks Jack I watched you over the years I feel like you have grown so much and appreciate that you are talking on a topic that nowadays is becoming more taboo to bring up at all to other people. Mental health is definitely an important topic that needs to be brought out more.
It is isn't it? Gives people like. . .permission to be honest. We've been told to be mindful of other peoples states and the old "you never know what someone else is going through" at the extreme gets toxic and we edit ourselves and mask which is super dysfunctional.
Hearing someone else talk about the “out of sight, out of mind” thing in terms of relationships/friendships is so healing to hear. It’s such a hard thing to explain to people who don’t understand and it can make me feel like an awful person when I don’t miss someone as much as they miss me. And as someone who is on their way to being part of the mental health field, I’m glad that the perception of mental illness and mental health issues is changing now and that people are realizing they aren’t alone in what they’re feeling. Thank you for speaking up about all of this Sean, simply by talking about it there is awareness brought to it and that’s so important. None of us are alone in our struggles 💕
I find that I miss people retroactively, if that makes sense. I’ll miss people after I see them again. I’ll be hanging out with them and I’ll miss the time we lost.
I have the opposite problem. My friends don’t really seem interested in starting conversations with me or talking for more than five minutes when I do get to talk to them. I feel alone around them and it stinks because they’re nice enough people
I lost my very best friend ever precisely because of the out of sight out of mind thing. We were like sisters in elementary school. Then she moved and we no longer lived in the same town, and we went to different middle/high schools. We still chatted online, and tried to meet up at least once a year, but eventually I just started forgetting… I still think of her as my absolute best friend ever, and it makes me so sad to think that she probably thinks I just stopped caring, but reaching back out feels so daunting because it’s been over a decade now I think, and even if I decided I wanted to now I don’t have social media and she probably got a new number at some point and I don’t even know how I’d go about it…
I have that. I'll come back to myself and realize I haven't talked to someone in months. They thought I was dumping them, when I just forgot they existed.
With a lot of people moving away from working in offices and hanging out in person, it’s harder and harder to develop and maintain friendships! When I actually have the time and energy to get together, I find myself asking am I even “good enough friends” to “be friends”?
the out of sight out of mind thing is hard. same goes for maintaining friendships, also quite hard. your a legend for making this video. looking forward to the thankmas stream!
Weirdly enough this is the exact feelings I was never able to pinpoint on how isolating this entire ordeal can be, content creation and relying on it. Unhealthy relationships driving us into being lone wolves and in the end we hurt ourselves like that. I always thought I was just unlikable, because nobody wanted to hang out with me and most of the time I spend my time alone, especially with being a content creator in Germany. Thanks for talking about it Sean, I am sorry to hear you went through all that, but we're always stronger and we can become better.
We love you both You two are some of my favorite creators here alongside jocat and seeing what the internet does to ruin your mental health is fucked and nobody should go through that. Stay strong everyone 🩷
People who usually spend most of their time alone. Like being alone, but then they start to think its bad and they get into this loop of never ending sadness.
This is a type of video that is well worded. When you mentioned picking at scabs mentally and blaming yourself for relationships not going the way you thought they were, it really hit hard. There are so many people that I personally would believe would resonate with that. You’re right, there will be those who will understand you.
Thanks Jack. As a fellow 30’s man, it was through your vulnerability over the past years that gave me the confidence to get professional help as well. I’ve also been diagnosed with adhd and depression, as well as APD (avoidant personality disorder) which I didn’t even know was a thing, but makes relationships hard to keep and even harder to start. I’ve just started my mental health journey earlier this year, and it really is incredible the things you can figure out with help. The things you thought didn’t affect you from a younger age can stay with you well into adulthood.
I also have been diagnosed with adhd and apd. I don't have anything uplifting to say just that I get you. It's so unbelievably hard. The inflammatory effects from the constant stress of it all are what I've been left to deal with as i age. It's not an often spoken about personality disorder and it took me 9 years after the diagnosis to pay attention to it and actually research it.
In my late 30's. The amount of shame I internalized by even CONSIDERING mental health treatment of any kind is disgusting. I'm so grateful to see younger people treating it with respect and acceptance. My male peers would treated me incredibly different when I first shared about it to anybody. I see it in a couple of friends of mine right now that are going through a really hard time being incredibly resistant to seeking out treatment because of the stigma that they internalized at a younger age. There's still stigma around it of course, but it's so much better now than it was 20 years ago. Anybody willing to share and normalize their mental health experiences, you get my respect and admiration. It's important. Thanks to you OP, and thanks to Sean. I also have been diagnosed with ADHD, major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder.
When you started to mention "out of sight, out of mind," that really hit home. I often feel that if I don't take the time to contact people, I'll never hear off anyone. I had a bit of a bad time a few months ago, appeared offline on Steam and discord and didn't message anyone. Nearly 3 weeks went by before I got a message off anyone. Things are much better now and I stopped the "well if they don't message me, I won't message them" mentality. But loneliness can do some strange things to your mindset.. Massive respect for being open and talking about it.
@@Eurochow Keep your head up and keep going. Things will get better. It's not so bad now. I try to put more effort in to staying in contact with people, and met some new friends online (which works in my benefit haha)
Correct, if they don't message them I will not message them is silliest thing. The correct way should be , if I don't want to talk with somebody, I don't message them, if want to talk - I will message them. If they don't answer several times, don't appologize after- yes, they are not interested. For any people 30+ who have no time and no mental capacity. Message them first and observe how they react. I am in shock that people who are older than 5 could have that logic😅 Good on you, you got it now❤
i watched your videos growing up in a broken and abusive home, but what always made my day was hearing your goofy videos, i miss hearing you scream stuff like "welcome back everybody to, TURBO DISMOUNT" always made me smile as a teenager, it still makes me smile, i know I'm just another random faceless sub but just know you have helped me out more than you will ever know, so thank you!
You helped me get sober. No joke. When I was fighting to get sober from various drugs, I would watch you. Your videos ment so much to me, still do. You've always helped me feel better and made me smile. Im so sorry you've had so much struggle in your life, I can relate. AuDHD and c-ptsd here as well. I just want you to know that the impact your videos have had is huge. Its an amazing thing, wanting to make people smile. Its one of the most noble things to do in my opinion. But you will always come first in your life, as it should be. No one is more important. So please continue on your journey. And when you feel like the time is right, you'll maybe make a video or two, and we will be happy with that, I promise.
I'm proud of you random stranger, it is incredibly difficult to get out of situations like that. If there is damage, I'm confident you will heal and you got this.
I like how open you are Sean. Realistically in the position you're in, theres ALWAYS going to be someone that cares about you. I know its hard to see because you dont SEE your audience, but some people have grown up with this channel. A LOT of people grew up with you as their role model and main inspiration and influence. You're loved, valued, and cared for, always try to remember that to the best you can. Sending love.
Know exactly where you're coming from mate. Been down in the shit many times & it ain't fun. I am passionate about promoting male mental health issues, after all, more males under 50 die of suicide in the UK than anything else. It's totally fucked up & you dudes need saving. Here if anyone needs a chat 🤗
“you’d be shocked to find out how many people are going through the EXACT same situation you are.” is such a powerful sentiment. As someone who feels like the 20 years of my life have been SO unique, so hard, that i’m alone and have no one to talk to about it, that I’m estranged from the rest of society.. it’s just so not true. And you can’t let yourself believe that. Thank you for this video, Sean!! Your voice has so much impact. Endless love to you ❤️
@@AmoogusBecause they think they are the only person that feels alone or they have nobody to talk to. Even if it’s bad, its nice to know someone goes through the same thing as you. You can connect with people that share similar experiences
Thank you for talking about this. It's hard for people who haven't been through anything like this to understand, but the best thing we can do to break the stigma around mental health is to talk about it. It's hard to talk about it, and it's hard to live through it. I've been down that dark path a few times, and it's so scary. My physical health has deteriorated over the last few years and that's had a serious impact on my mental health as well, which wasn't great to begin with. I've lost my career as a veterinarian due to it all, and I'm still grieving that. Your videos have been a great comfort and a source of laughter for me, and I think a lot of people. You're not alone, and I'm always happy to help others who are struggling, with plenty of understanding and no judgements.
You and Mark especially carried me through high school, my short stint in college, and while during the abusive relationship I was in I wasn't really watching and sort of fell off with gaming youtube in general, you guys still had a special place in my heart for the amazing times you gave me. Now, I'm going through my own mental health journey, working through anxiety, AuADHD, constant SI, and C-PTSD from my childhood and relationships. And now I'm back to watching you and Mark and now watch Gab and others as well. Funnily enough, Persona 5 is always the game I go back to when I'm at my lowest and need some cheering up. But so much of what you said during this video resonated so deeply with me, especially the out of sight out of mind with relationships/friendships, and I appreciate you being so upfront and honest about what you go through and keep the dialogue around mental health open and in the public eye, because I really think it's needed in the world 🩷 Thank you, Sean
The tears that came out of nowhere the moment you talked about suicide, loneliness and tha depression-adhd and possible autism... i feel so seen all of the sudden. understood. im not alone, or crazy, or egocentric. thank you for making this video. i always look up to you, to the point that i smile whenever i hear someone with an irish accent cuz it makes me think of you take care, Jack
There are many people who feel the way you do, friend, myself included. There are also resources you can look into if you want/need someone to talk to or something like that. May your roads lead you to warm sands, friend.
I will never understand people like you it kinda psses me off for few reasons 1 its obvious you arent alone, its pure logic and common sense, everyone ahs some illness lmaooo 2 why does it make you feel better?? it doesnt make me feel better maybe im just jealous but I actually hate to admit someone might feel like me I WANT to be alone, not because i dont want others to suffer idc enough anymore about humans or value of their life BUT because i hate to know there are people like me i will never be friends with, never know, how can that make you feel better? youre not alone? who cares you still have the issues
@@Zasha-uq5uo talking about problems doesnt seem like any help unless you have bonds with people, i have non and telling a therapist i feel bad wont fix anything at elast for me. I know why i feel shit, and nobody can fix it out of nowhere
@princeereia don't mind Adamin... he'll come back to this comment and be ashamed of what he said, you'll come back to this comment with nothing to be ashamed of... great ass job of saying the thing that others want to say but are to scared of the petty judgement that they may recieve.
2015. The day after my twin boys’ funeral. I went to Indy pop con. Hoping to express and tell my story about how you saved my life. Got out into the line for the meet and greet. Found out you had to have a ticket from the day before. They didn’t check. Once I found out. I left the line and went back to the hotel. I knew I wasn’t going to get the chance to talk to you or express what was going on. Seeing You, Mark, Bob, and Wade on the stage was just amazing. Yes someone ruined the Q&A because they asked for a picture but just seeing you all up there in person solidified for me that there are people out there you have never met or will never meet that have changed your life. I am now the father of 4 more children, married, and with a decent job. If it wasn’t for you Sean I would not be here today. I just want to say thank you. The wife says Thank You too.
Glad you are here friend. I always come back to Sean, mark, wade and bob when things are hanging low in my life. They always help and I know for certain I would not be here without them. I am so sorry for your loss as a father of one 4yr old I don’t think I would ever recover if I lost the light in my life. You are an inspiration for someone like me who never comments but just comes across this random comment and gives me the motivation and drive to wake up tomorrow and keep going. Thank you
I haven't watched you in a very long time, but your video popped up on my UA-cam algorithm. First of all, I want to thank you for not only talking and speaking up about mental health, but being a MAN and speaking about mental health. I recently got diagnosed with ADHD, and I'm a 31 year old female. Looking back on my life and how I operated and how I operate now - it all started to make sense. I grew up sick and in the hospital, and grew up with most, if not all, of my family being either alcoholics or addicts. And it has effected me, and it still does. There is so much medical, family, and relationship trauma that is ALWAYS there with me, every single day. I've been in therapy for over a year now and on medication, and it has literally saved my life. I recently left a really toxic relationship with an alcoholic, and with my recent therapy session, I realized how bad it was, and how all of my relationships have stemmed off of wanting to help people. And going towards addicts and alcoholics. My therapist told me that your mind subconsciously goes for what you know. And it's a pattern. I moved out on my own, and now my REAL healing is going to begin. I don't know how to be alone, and I think that was one of the hardest pills to swallow. Thank you so much for sharing your story and giving people something to relate to, and to know that they are never going to be alone. I am so proud of you, and I'm so proud of everyone who is still here and fighting the good fight. We need you here, we need everyone here. Sending you love, light, and strength. ❤
You know... You may be an online personality and we have never actually met or interacted before, but I genuinely want you to be happy and healthy. You, and everyone on this planet, deserve to be happy. If I could personally help you at all, Sean, I would. Love you ❤
@hello866t7Hun, not the time or place to be a troll or be funny. Genuinely, that sucks. FYI, “nobody cares”? I care, a lot others do as well. Now go return your iPad to your mother. This is *not* the time or place for this attitude.
As someone who had bad mental health while growing up and still struggling, I love everything that you do for the community, and that's why you're one of my favorite person.
Lmaoo that’s why he just blasted 70 million Americans on twitter for not voting for the woke president of his dreams. Especially since he doesn’t even live here? Dudes a joke, get real.
I normally don’t ever comment on UA-cam but this video made my week, truly. When Jack was mentioning that there are other people going through the same or similar things as you, it brought a lot of comfort. Sometimes it’s nice to just hear someone like Jack bring this up. I hope this guy realizes that he’s making a lot of impact on his audience by talking about these things and how important it is. To any of you going through anything rough, I promise you that it will get better. Keep your head up, take a breath and smile❤️
I am a victim of emotional abuse with PTSD and severe anxiety. In 2016, my abuser's health took her life, after years of her ignoring her poor health and using it to manipulate me. Men are often not allowed to talk about how abused they were, and often refuse to get help for their mental health. You are an amazing person for speaking up and being open with us. You're loved by many and do wonderful things for your audience. Keep being strong.
I experienced a very similar thing. It's only now that I've sought help as it has subsequently caused a long-standing addiction that I have repeatedly tried to quit but always fail. Pretty much totaling my mental health. The emotional abuse I experienced pretty much ruined my social life or drive to speak to anyone. And it has never left. It's a shame I only saw it as a problem now and not the second something felt wrong. I've gotten some help, yet nothing has seemed to change yet to any meaningful degree. And the addiction has approached the worst it's been ever.
I'm glad to see Jack and other men are taking their mental health seriously as well. ❤ I have cptsd. I was doing great now im not due to new chronic health issues. I see others and just wish id had a normal life, but I know logicaly there are more people messed up that we realize. Hang in there guys, I really and truly wish you the best in this hell we all deal with in one form or another.
@Deltadog55 you're stronger than you realize. Hang in there. It took me several years to even realize that it was abuse, and several years to really understand what I went through. I also struggle with addiction, and had relapses. I stopped seeing my relapses as failure, and saw it as "ok I had a bad time, I'll get through it and quit again". Once I realized that my relapses were not my fault, but the fault of the illness of addiction, I started to do much better. Remind yourself that you're not at fault for being unable to fix the symptoms of mental illness, just like any other illness. If you have a broken leg, you can only do so much to heal it, the same with your brain.
@Djwyrm the funny thing about it all is that I also have gender dysphoria, so technically I'm not a man anymore anyways. But again I wasn't even supposed to talk about my mental health because I was born male. It just isn't a thing men do.
It always breaks my heart to see you upload videos with titles like this! You deserve nothing but happiness! Anyways I really wanna thank you for everything you do❤ Really looking forward for thankmas too❤
The autism and ADHD combination is brutal, definitely from personal experience. This video made my day; hearing someone who’s going through the same experience I’m going through. Thank you for being so honest to us Jack, this means the world to me and others like me
I gotta admit, it's been a while since I've tuned in but you've always stayed in my list of top 5 favorite channels. In the last six years since I've become sober, I've kinda shut down and separated myself from everyone I used to associate with and it's taken a huge toll on my mental health but hearing someone else's experience is nice because it helps put a new perspective on my own situation. Thank you for everything, Sean.
I was diagnosed with ADHD in my 20s and Autism in my 30s. Genuinely the best thing I have ever done for myself was committing to getting tested and figuring out my own brain. It really opened so many new paths for me to positively impact my mental health. If you are watching this video and it resonates with you, and you have the means and opportunity to do so, please please take that step for yourself. You are worth it, and pursuing a mental health diagnosis is worth the effort. 💜
Seriously I had my suspicions for years and I was just recently diagnosed as an AuDHDer and it’s so bizarre hearing an influencer like Sean talk abo it but it’s so comforting. It’s very weird tryjng to navigate the work and socializing
@@JoshDear-f6v I'm currently waiting to get assessed. It can take a while depending on where you live. Talking to your GP is usually a good start. They can usually either direct you, or do a proper referral to the people that can help you.
@@MotherOfOwlbears Adding on to this, a kind and supportive GP is the best bet for this. I tried once when I was 16 and he basically just gave me a leaflet for group therapy and sent me on my way. Called another GP and he referred me immediately to a specialist and that's what ended up getting my diagnosis Getting a GP appointment is so obnoxious now though haha, much less room to pick and choose who you see
it’s a bittersweet comfort when someone you admire shares your struggles or a piece of your history. thank you for your openness and vulnerability, Sean.
@@rinkagamine4768there's often a postcode lottery when it comes to free mental health services, and even then the waiting lists can last years. We need to do better so no one gets left behind, I'm so glad Thankmas will be focusing on mental health this year ❤️
I know how you feel. My family has never had the money to send me to therapy, and most therapists in my area wouldn't take my insurance anyway. And it's tough because you try to seek out comfort in other ways, but it doesn't ever really help fully. I hope that both of us can someday get therapy in some way, or at least find something else that can help us.
I was scared to watch this video when it came out because I've been at an all-time low with my mental health lately, and I wasn't sure if I'd be able to deal with whatever thoughts might come up as I watched. So I waited. I think that was the ight choice for me. But gosh am I glad that this video is here now. Life just keeps dumping garbage on my head lately, but it brightens things just a smidgen to know that someone else -- someone I truly respect -- knows what the garbage dumping feels like.
back when I was around 13-14 I went through what was probably the hardest period of my life so far. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and struggling with self harm and an eating disorder. I dropped out of school because I was too scared to even step foot outside of my house, and lost almost all of my friends because of that isolation. all I remember is feeling so incredibly alone during all of it. I genuinely thought I wouldn't even be alive to see my 16th birthday. I'm 17 now and finishing my first year back in education on the 22nd of this month :) i still struggle with my mental health, but over a few years of therapy and really working on myself, I've learned how to manage it so to anyone reading this going through something similar, I know it may feel hopeless, but it can get better. there is always light at the end of the tunnel, you just have to keep walking towards it. you're stronger than you think
It does get better, honestly ♥ editing bec i hit send too soon lmao: So, i'm 33 now, and back when i was in middle school and highschool i had severe depression and anxiety also. I had trouble going outside and I skipped school bec of it. It got so bad I was "kicked" out of my highschool and needed to re-enroll. I was barely hanging on, but I pushed through, and I'm still here today. I'm glad I stayed and got to make all the friends I have through the years. These are tough things to deal with @racconseatingtrash but I believe in you, you got this ♥♥♥ I'm so proud of you for going back to school!!!
i've been struggling with something very similar since 12 years old, im 16 now and havent quite learnt to manage it yet, but im making progress. makes me hopeful to see people in similar situations getting better:)
getting tested for ADHD and Autism was the best thing i did for myself - and i didn’t have either! I ended up diagnosed with OCD, and getting on the right meds for the first time in my life changed my life SO much, it’s surreal. i hope you get the help you need, be it what it is :) good luck on your tests and your journey dude ♥️ you deserve the best you can get!
I really appreciate how vulnerable this is. You got me through 2015-2020, and I’ll always be grateful for that, but I’m even more thankful that now you’re focusing on taking care of yourself. I never commented back then, but your channel was a big part of my life. I don’t have the time to watch as much anymore, but I still check in and revisit some playthroughs when I need a boost. I’m really glad you’re still here, and I just want to say thank you for everything you’ve done, especially using your platform to raise awareness about mental health and being so open about your own struggles. You're doing it like a boss! (an inspiring one)
I agree with this so much, it’s hard to find such an honest and empowering UA-camr like jack. He has help me and many others sooo much. I wish him the best always.
Sean, you relate to a lot of us. Being in a better financial situation to most of us here doesn’t mean you’re less human. The hand we are given in life doesn’t exempt or promote us to experiencing trauma. Everyone has their own life stories, but when it comes to our emotions we all feel the same pain, joy fear.. That’s why it’s so important to talk and connect with people. Mental health is an illness, it’s the same as a physical illness. ADHD and autism is something we are born with, we see and interact with the world differently.. that’s something I try to use to my advantage. We can’t change that, but we can change the way we think about it. I’ve worked with mental health/ autism for 14 years, and sadly mental health/adult social care is drowning, trying desperately to keep afloat. That’s why having people like you who have a platform talk about it and be vulnerable about your own struggles is so valuable and can help push for change. Thank you for being vulnerable with us, sharing your heart and opening and important conversation. I’m looking forward to another year of thankmas!
As a woman in her 30s I really appreciate you bringing up this topic through the lens of a man in his 30s! I so often hear lovely people express the grappling with their self worth and reasons for being here, and it makes it very clear to me, the human brain really judges itself harshly!
Looking back at my 20’s, it was really unfair to put the expectation on myself that I would be perfect and put together by 30. My new goal is to have a coffee routine by 40 that doesn’t include a Keurig machine. 🤷I don’t know. Your comment resonated with me. I hope you’re doing well.
Also in my 30’s 😂 I agree “the brain really judges us harshly” is facts, the amount of passive aggressive suicidal thoughts hits hard, trying to be strong is hard, and letting us feel weak is like falling from top of mnt Everest by a billy goat who just rammed into you, you don’t expect it, and yet your reaching out, hoping something will stop your fall, because even as your weakened a flicker of light is trying to make you grow wings to spiral out of the way of the impact before you. I’m trans fem and living technically as both sides of life, you feel almost like neither side of a painted wall of gender matters, they both stink inside the bathroom stalls, just like life, but we can speak inside to echo on the walls, hoping someone else shitting will also join in yelling at how bad it smells here 😂.
I attempted earlier this year... the feeling of "would anyone really miss me" gets so heavy sometimes! Even though i have amazing friends, family and partner, and im sure you do too, it's hard not to listen to that little voice. I quit teaching, which helped a lot. I work in a new job that is so much better for me. I work on myself every day and im trying to be a better friend to myself. I can never hurt my partner like i hurt them that day again. Thank you for talking about this, its so important to get the conversation going. I hope youre doing okay! Sending love ❤
@@MacawMumma I know what you mean.. I remember my attempts and the loneliness I felt after because the stark reality was that no one would even know I'd done it because that's how little people reach out to talk to me... it would literally be maybe 2 weeks of not hearing from me that either if my parents would attempt to come find me 😔
i relate to you so bad.. im glad we can get through this.. as a small, one person on the internet to another person that is real all the same . youre doing great trying to take care of yourself and glad we are all here
i fucking love you, sean. i love your character, your transparency, your support, your charity, your channel. we need more people like you. i'm glad you're doing better.
Thank you for this video I’ve been struggling a lot lately my dad passed away three months ago then my bearded dragon died a week ago my mental health has been horrendous and I struggle with finding help usually I just sit down and watch your soulsborne games they give me a good laugh and help me feel better
"It won't be like that for me," Kaladin said. "You said it would get worse." "It will," Wit said, "but then it will get better. Then it will get worse again. Then better. This is life, and I will not lie by saying every day will be sunshine. But there will be sunshine again, and that is a very different thing to say. That is truth. I promise you, Kaladin: You will be warm again." -Brandon Sanderson, Rhythm of War I accredit this passage with saving my life on more than one occasion.
I need to revisit the Stormlight Archive. I've read the first two books and that's it. I lost my younger brother to suicide 5 years ago. I wish he would've held out for the sunshine.
@@harvestmoon12345 I'm so sorry brother. Stormlight helped me through the hardest times of my life, and jack has a whole 25 minute video on his second channel basically gushing about stormlight lol.
“with love comes loss” I thought about this more and more lately. Everyone loses something, being time to themselves or others, to the love of your life to a sickness. A shared experience, but an experience everyone experiences differently.
Your vulnerability is what drew me to you and what has kept me coming back to your videos. As hilariously chaotic as you can be, your openness about mental health and everyday struggles makes me feel so seen and comforted. I am not someone who has been with you from day one, but the time I’ve spent as a subscriber has meant a lot to me. I won’t go on and on or vent here about my personal struggles with mental health and trying to find my place in this world, but just know that as much as you are an outlet for us to turn to on hard times, we are here for you as well. As much as I would love to attend Thankmas this year, I will no longer be able to attend due to the damage the recent hurricanes caused. But I will 100% be there for the stream and donate what I can. Your kindness and generosity will never go unnoticed and I hope you know just how thankful and grateful we are to have someone like you in this community. 💚
Stay safe and take care of yourself. It's hard to remember when you have a giving type of personality, but you can't pour from an empty cup. Be good to yourself, and if you can't donate much (or at all), please remember that you are no less of a good person ❤ You're doing fantastic. Best of luck and well wishes to you and yours as you recover from the hurricanes.
so refreshing to hear someone talk about their struggles with suicidal ideation because it is probably way more common than is talked about (which can be understandable, it's a hard subject to navigate) thank you so much for sharing this vulnerable video with us. I've never watched your content and this is the first one I clicked on
seeing sean so open about mental heath and struggling is exactly what makes him my favourite creator. he’s just so down to earth and genuine, so glad i’ve grown with him.
You are thanking him for what? Don't even tell me that you watched the video because your comment was posted 2 mins after his video was uploaded meaning you could have only watched 1/17 Mins of his video
14:48 this line is so important. even if your depression isnt as bad as the next person, you can still always talk abt your feelings. theres so much stigma around talking abt your feelings, if your sad be sad. no one is going to tell you that what your feeling is wrong and no one should tell you that. and even if you think no one wants to listen to you, there is always someone. whether theyre paid to listen or theyre a family member or a friend there is ALWAYS someone who will listen regardless of what youre experiencing.❤
Also wanted to add/clarify: just because someone else has worse problems does not mean your problems are less valid. Just because someone has the same problems as you and *they* just get on with things does not mean you should too. If you feel you need help, *get* *help* if you can. You matter, your feelings matter, and your wellbeing matters and you need to accept that. Please, take care of yourself however you can.
i so wish i could go to thankmas i love mental health awareness i have had so many times were Ive just wanted to give up and be done with everything but i push on i love that your getting this message out there so many people that just need to see that there's people who care and understand what your going through and honestly just thank you for what your doing Jack.
I'm AuDHD and your description of how it feels to deal with social interactions and relationships sounds incredibly similar to mine. Every time I see someone on the internet go through the same struggles as me I just want to reach out so we can get through things together, to find comfort and maybe a good relationship in each other, but I'm like you in the sense that online relationships are inevitably distant and find them hard to maintain. So to you and to anyone who's going through these feelings and struggles. You're not alone. Have hope and keep pushing through ❤️
Jack, thank you for bringing this topic up. It's essentially what I am going through right now. I just turned 44 and finally received an ADHD diagnosis after exhibiting symptoms off and on for years - as I lived with a family that stigmatized mental health. Hearing this video, I realize I dived into my job and used it to hide so many issues with my mental health - self-confidence, loneliness, and positivity, to name a few all the while dealing with chronic conditions. I'm trying to be easy on myself, but after getting sick, I realize how few people I have to rely on, which unfortunately hurts. I'm afraid one of the people I've relied on recently is pulling away from our friendship - which has held me together recently - and it hurts and is draining. I genuinely appreciate your vulnerability and making me realize that I'm not the only person going through this right now - and that there is hope at the end of the rainbow.
I lost my brother to this 3 days ago and his been the absolute worst days of my life. I've never experienced so much pain in all my days on this earth. I've been doing my best to cope with the pain and spending time with family but I think this pain is something that will last forever. Stay strong people you are all loved more than you think I don't want to see another soul experience what I'm experiencing this day.
Sorry for your loss. Be strong and let the pain flow through you and eventually out of you. This extreme pain will subside as you choose to focus on the positive aspects of ur brother and his life rather than his death.
Thank you for talking about this. I’ve dealt with severe depression (and am currently going through the worst of my life) and don’t have energy to do literally anything. Suicide crosses my mind often but I know it’s not the answer, I know with time things eventually get better. But having patience going through this is extremely hard, every day feels like a week. It’s been so, so hard. I’m exhausted. And being completely alone doesn’t help. Thank you for talking about it.
When it gets particularly rough, something I remind myself is "Ending it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem ". Bad times will always come, but that means good times do the same.
Autism and ADHD are more frequently linked than we would've thought in the past. The diagnostic combination, AuDHD, has only been around for 10 years and lots of healthcare professionals still struggle with it. All the best on your journey and thanks for sharing!
the human mind has no inherent solid nature to itself, all these adhd, autism, etc. are societal boxes/ideas that authorities create for some reason. The reason why they struggle with it is because they try to find definitive nature to these behaviors, and such doesn't exist.
I have depression and ADHD. One professor I know that works with kids with autism told me I could have aspergers because there are some recognizable patterns. So when I have the money I want to test myself.
Probably a billion to one you'll see this. Ik I'm late to the party lol. But what you said at 3:30 REALLY stuck with me. It's actually allowed myself to take a step back in my life and actually think before I want to truly progress. Idk, just wanted to state how helpful it was. 😅
I have been deeply depressed and anxious since I was about 14, I am now 32! This has literally stopped me from doing my dream job, meeting someone and leading a life.
Honestly my major cyclical, episodic depression (MDD) vanished the day I had the magic mushroom tripping while listening to the birds singing in the early morning, up at the cottage country in Muskoka (Ontario, Canada) Literally changed my life.
Growing up watching Jack and Mark showed me how much fun needed to be in life and to enjoy it, but watching both now shows me how important it is to be open and care for others I was starting to shut down when it comes to emotions for this year has been some of my worst as I'm a senior in high school who was forced loose all that I had, I had a lovly cat who was with me all the time, I was in a relationship that I loved, and i had my home town filled wity my friends and gems of memories and I lost all of that and more in one night, but seeing Jack and Mark really opeing up to a world believed to not care about anyone, it really shows that there is people put there, so thank you Jack for opening my eyes to this
Thank you for your sharing your struggles Sean, you've helped me through some very dark times in my life and I feel just a bit better knowing I'm not the only one who goes through these struggles.
I woke up from a seizure Thursday night just to hear from my dad that he isn't in love with my mom anymore. I don't know what will happen, but it has taken a huge toll mental health wise and I've been trying not to grab a carver and use it against me. Mental health is something that needs to be worked on for everyone, even the ones we see through a screen and pretend like we know their life when in reality, we don't. Life sucks for everyone now and then, but we can all overcome it. Good luck, Jack. I believe in you.
I am so so sorry to hear that. Know that whatever happens with your father and mother, in the end you will get through it. It's hard to believe that you'll get through the hard times when you're drowning in them, but I promise that I personally have gone through hard times and come out on the other end. I hope that your mental and physical health can improve somehow. I'm rooting for you, and hoping you and your family can get through your hard times.
I feel for you deeply, and I can understand how hard it can be to hear a parent doesn't love the other anymore. It shatters your stability, and a divide is created in the household. More than anything, stability at home is needed, but it doesn't always play out that way. My mom has had two divorces and has moved from house to house with me and my brothers since I was a baby. You learn how to adjust the best you can in those situations, but it is still hard. Despite the constant change and even feelings of hatred between my parents, I have endured. Your parents will always love you deeply whether they stay together or not. There are a lot of people who can support through this huge change. The best thing you can do is not ignore how you feel and reach out to others for help. It will get better and I wish you only the best. I apologize for the long message, but I want you to know that I get it. Whether you are religious or not, I will keep you in my prayers. 🫶
I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through. I have not been through something like that but I have been through tough times concerning mental illness and mental health and I can tell you personally that Jesus Christ has helped me with my struggle. I encourage you to go to Him as well, because since He helped me, and continues to help me, I believe that He will help you too. I sincerely hope you feel better
when I was younger, I woke up in the middle of the night only to hear my mother say "I don't want to live anymore", which my father responded to with silence. In retrospect, that might explain a lot of things I went through as a kid (seeing as at least one of my parents has an untreated mental condition), but I also hate the fact that I see parts of her that I hate in me, and I've said these words, too.
Thank you for sharing your struggles, Seán. I'm 36 and finally got help with my anxiety that I've been struggling with my whole life. It's never too late to ask for help, and everyone matters.
I'm 38 and I am still figuring things out that, apparently, stemmed from back when I was growing up. I'm glad things are getting sorted out, and no it's never late to ask for help. Nor should one be expected to hold things in; it's a heavy burden to do so. Good luck and try to keep that head high best you can moving forward. You'll get it and don't think you are alone as you move forward.
2:32 I miss you, not because you stopped or changed in some nebulous way, but because I grew older and I just don't have the time to actually watch UA-cam videos (pretty much only listening to stuff in the background while I work) but I can't unsubscribe because there's not a time I see you where my day doesn't get even just a little bit better
Yes, this is me too! I have so many videos in my 'watch later' that I don't know I'll ever catch up to. But it's nice having them in the background too sometimes, and videos like these.
I really relate you what you are going through. I am actually getting tested for autism next week. I have already been diagnosed with ADHD. It crazy how similar are life experience can be, and yet worlds apart. I also lost connections with old friends and find myself alone. I started streaming on Twitch to challenge myself to make friends, and now I have people i can talk to, but I rely on those people so much. I hope that you continue your journey of healing
As someone from Rural Ireland and a fellow Seán with a fairly similar upbringin as yours, you've been a massive inspiration for me since I was 13 and you were a new UA-camr on the scene (Just about 10 years ago now lol). I got a lovely illness called C-PTSD and I have Survived three serious attempts myself and spent time in psych wards and residential hospitals but your vids always helped me through some of the worst times in life. That subnautica series from like 2018 I think? Was especially huge for me during probably the year I ever went through. I'm a game developer nowadays and a personal major life goal for me is you playing one of my games lol. Just sayin this ain't a beg and I'm giving no hints at what I do and work on, but wanna mention it as it shows how much you and your channel have meant to me in my life. Personally Christmas and my birthdays are the worst times of my year but actually going back and watching that old subnautica series got me through the last one which was the worst in a while and this popped into my feed so I'll be back watching on this run up to Christmas. Really wish you all the best and I think what you do is truly incredible. Will hopefully be able to tell you all of this one day, not sure how often you're in Ireland nowadays because I'm still stuck here but yea, much love big man and keep the good stuff going.
Sean you do not know how much I love you for opening up about Mental Health! I had followed you for a very long time but I moved March of 2022 and I don't have a computer anymore, UA-cam is iffy on my Kindle (aka Amazon Fire). You have always been honest and open. Keep it up and know you are loved very much by a lot of people.
I cannot overstate how grateful I am to hear you talk about mental health issues. It's so nice to see someone who also has the AuDHD and C-PTSD speak so openly about it. Thank you so much for being you!
I truly appreciate you making this video, Jack. In my case, not asking for help took me to the brink of suicide, and although it may seem ridiculous or absurd, it was the look and the desperate barks of my dog that stopped me from taking the pills. I asked for help, received my diagnosis of bipolar disorder type 1, and have been in treatment and therapy since then. Asking for help is not easy, and continuing the treatment is not either. Mental health is important, and having people like you who can share their testimonies and organize such massive events on this topic is a real gift. I’m grateful for your existence, man. Thank you!!!
there are actually psychiatric services doggies who can make sure you take your meds/get out of bed at certain times, and can tell when you are acting differently/dangerously. i really need one. sending love! (also bipolar)
Doesn't sound absurd at all. Bless the doggos, they know when something's wrong. Glad you're still here. You're worth the time it will take to a better place.
I actually hate myself, I have ocd, mood disorder and had been physically abused for years by someone who I loved the most. I wish I was normal. Sometimes ppl think it’s cool to have a disorder, if they had it like you and me they wouldn’t wish it upon anyone including themselves. I also hate seeing ppl get emotional or talk about this topic but at the same time I feel relieved that someone is talking about it. Maybe it’s defence mechanism. Like it’s impossible for me to feel vulnerable like you it is so painful I try to forget or ignore it. Like I shut down. I hope you find peace ❤
2017 was one of the worst years of my life, but i would listen to Jack & that got me through. In 2024, im having a hell of a time as well & I see this video. I wish you peace & happiness dude.
Sean, I am 57 years old and have finally been able to reflect inwardly and think and realize that "I am not the only one!" I have realized that hearing you express yourself, allows me to know that I need to talk and have had open conversations with my wife and close friends. So from me I wish you a huge THANK YOU and happy thankmas!
Heyo Gen X here too (Gen X club!). Self-awareness is the starting place - you can get to better places from here. It's tough to ask for help, but I'm sure your wife & friends want too - you can do this!
im at the lowest point in my life rn. ive lost everyone, i have nothing, and ive lost my passion for all my talents and hobbies. its been a struggle to keep going, ive been avoiding my responsibities even if it hurts me because i would rather rot. the only thing i can get myself to do is watch youtube and sleep. at a time like this, ive been seing a surprising amount of mental health videos from the creators i watch. i may be alone, but at least i know im not the only one going through difficulties.
There's always hope that tomorrow will be better. Even if it's not there's the chance that it could be and trying to get through is worth it. Promise, you're not alone.
Please consider calling 988 (in the US) to talk to someone. Or find a therapist (online or otherwise). Take it from an online stranger who went through what you are going through: things can get better. I am so sorry. Sending virtual hugs and good thoughts.
i’m going through the same thing, i got admitted to the psych ward for the first time in my life a month ago and i’ve been doing bad since i’ve been out. i’ve cut off all my family and my friends stopped talking to me. it’s like i have no one but myself, and with all these responsibilities with going to school and doing homework is so hard. my home life is like a parasite, it just sucks the absolute soul out of me. i hope you see better days, just take it one day at a time. don’t pressure yourself, if all you can do is lay in bed, that’s better than being dead. try to accomplish small things, like standing up, or getting something to eat. i love you, you got this, please be kind to yourself :)
Sean, I just wanted to say that your video truly made me tear up and cry when you shared news about your upcoming diagnosis. I am so happy but also so sad at the same time for you, as a fellow autistic seeking official diagnosis at the same time too. Living such a huge part of your life not knowing why you're different, why things are so hard for you when they don't seem as hard for others, so many questions left unanswered, it's very painful. Especially as you’ve also been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, passing unnoticed by the system due to lack of awareness in the 90s. I wish you the best on your diagnosis and post-diagnosis journey. Thank you so much for sharing this and more details for the sake of awareness, it's very helpful to know someone you watch for well over a decade is in fact so much more similar to you than you thought. Even down to alcoholism and violence being a part of your childhood experience as well, it’s very well known for me too. Definitely will be tuning in for Thankmass this year as well, fingers crossed to reach and surpass your goal!
You've got this Jack. I'm autistic and adhd myself and I know just how much hell your own brain can put you through between the thoughts raging through your head and everything going on around you. Every step of everyday is a fight worth fighting! We all love you and we always will no matter what.
I feel this, I think its honestly hard to "prioritize" yourself when you struggled with that all your life with people who never really treated you as someone important. I recently had to get out of a relationship who as much as I know she isnt a bad person, she also just was pushing me to my limits and I was feeling really weak. Im at the point now where I got good people i can talk to about it in my life but knowing I cant "fully depend" on them which is ok.
Male ex hospital worker here. Talking about stress, excessive burdens, and all that as well as the mental health burdens it places on people are massive. Thank you for being open with your experiences with your platform. I had a devastating 2020 and 2021 as an inpatient hospital worker, and that male 30s loneliness mixed hard with avoiding people because I was around the Covid patients regularly and could never guarantee I wouldn't get what friends I could see sick. It was a hell that got very dark, and therapy was a massive help. Thanks for speaking on your journey, again. The only way the world will change to accept that people have struggles is to show that they occur instead of keeping things locked behind closed doors.
5:21 The answer is yes, we would miss you. That being said, you should live first and foremost for yourself, and not be dependant on external validation: not only because it can be fickle, but ultimately because other people can't judge you better than yourself. It's important to be open to criticism, but you still need to consider if it makes sense considering the big picture of your life (your own experiences, feelings and values).
@@mariahpropes2503 To some ex-tent that de-sire is just na-tural (lo-ve and be-longing are even in Mas-low's hierar-chy of nee-ds), but it be-comes an iss-ue if you let it over-power in-ternal va-lidation (which is gui-ded by your own va-lues and go-als). To me the break-through on that as-pect ha-ppened when I star-ted to lea-rn more about socio-logy (Cra-sh Cour-se Sociol-ogy - hos-ted by Ni-cole Swee-ney - is great, btw), and re-alized that de-pending on ex-ternal va-lidation (which ma-nifests as so-cial sancti-ons) is ba-sically lett-ing your-self be con-trolled by pe-ople who mi-ght not have your be-st in-terests at heart. As cli-ché as it sound-s, "be-ing your-self" (it's even a thing in phi-losophy/existentia-lism, called au-thenticity) is rea-lly im-portant (since you can't say you're really accept-ed if you're acti-vely pur-suing accep-tance). You're the only gua-ranteed a-lly you'll al-ways have, and the most qua-lified ju-dge of your own li-fe (which is not to say other peo-ple can't o-ffer va-lid cri-ticism, but a lot of it might come from a set of va-lues different from yours).
I am so thankful for you, i have been following you since 2015. When you started the pma thing in 2017 that was so helpful for me! I finally was able to name my struggles. I am so thankful for your vulnerability and talk about these topics
"Will people even miss me if I was gone?" That hit the spot. We are the same age Seán and in all the years I have been following you and all the thoughts you have shared, I felt that I am not the only one. "I mean look at Seán! He is famous, wealthy, turned his hobby into a prosperous business and yet again, he can bleed like any of us". I really appreciate, that you share with us. I have been struggling for years. Single for... I can't even remember at this point for how long, albeit by choice. I've been doing therapy for a year now and recently I went through a very rough time with my family and something clicked mate. I became more serene. Started approaching the everyday life calmer. But that thought: "Will people even miss me if I was gone?". Damn it still hits hard, although I know there are people who would miss me dearly. Thank you for sharing
Thank you Jack, I really needed this. I'm 20 with ADHD and you know how the 20s are full of confusion not knowing what to do. I am an animation major interested in game design and your videos inspired me as a kid to get into this to one day maybe see you play the games I've worked on. I know I'm just feeling so down even when I'm probably better off than others. The moment I entered this major I felt everything crumble, Ai taking out jobs, the corporates using us animators in general and throwing us away on top of that my university barely taught us important things required to get into the industry I have been left to fend and understand for myself, my college is apparently a scam. I want to do what I love which is creating animations, art, modelling, and creating environments but I don't have enough money to pursue a master's or anything at all, I am an only child to my parents so everything falls on my shoulders. I don't know what to do where to go who even am I. I see others in different lines achieving success and I can't help but feel lost even more. What am I doing with my life? I am a nobody
@staraluminumltd I feel your struggle. I've always wanted to pursue music, but colleges don't typically focus on the arts, and the music industry is disgusting. Doing it on my own, learning everything, feels impossible. It can make you feel like you aren't enough. It makes you wonder if something that means so much to you will ever be able to pay your rent. It's okay to feel lost. To question if it's worth it when odds stock up against you. I'd like to try my best to chase my dreams even if it fails, because what am I doing in life if im not doing what I love? I understand your struggle with music myself, to not have money to fall back on. I'm lucky enough to have a great sister. I want you to keep chasing your dream. Because if it fills your heart, then it's always worth it.
Pls know that you're not alone 20s are supposed to be like this or so they say...I sometimes find it very hard to be soo confused with everything that I'm doing and I guess reading about your concerns made me feel like I'm not alone and so I wanted to let you know that we will make it one day even though everything seems a bit blurry and confusing
I feel the same brother I'm in 20s too and I'm confused, exhausted and frustrated because I don't know what to do I'm the only child of my parents just like you and i feel that responsibility crushing me All my friends are doing something but here I'm rotting doing almost nothing and isolated lonely cuz all my friends are gone to different places now I've no friends and i feel that loneliness everyday It's really hard mentally I feel like a loser everyday and it hurts... Hurts alot
love you sean. i've also gone throuh a lot of mental health stuff in my life, 2017 was also probably the worst year of my life. but now i'm in a place where i genuinely don't think about mental health that much. it's so nice. anyway, gonna meet a friend to go foraging for materials to make our own wreaths with; also wanted to say i also happen to be wearing my nirvana shirt today! hope you're doing well whenever it is you read this (sean or otherwise); you're not alone.
For me, been abused my whole life and have CPTSD because of it. I worry about falling behind because my brain sees myself as that scared child, but what has brought a lot of comfort was remembering.. Its everyones first time on earth too
EVERYONE is just a child in an adult's body. We're all the same people we were as kids. Our vulnerabilities are ironed out as we age, but some people were permanently wrinkled. Being different doesn't make you less than anyone else. Being damaged doesn't make you broken. Being scared doesn't make you weak. It's perfectly ok to be yourself. You're the only one who is going to live your life, only your opinion matters. As long as you aren't causing wrinkles that other people have to try to iron out, you're already the best you that you can be.
I love this mentality so much, and it really resonates with me as an anthropologist. All of existence was made up by beings trying to make sense of the world. Nothing is "wrong," and nothing is "right;" it just exists. (Which isn't to say that actions and behavior should therefore be excused; harmful behavior is still harmful). But I never thought of it that way, as "everyone's first time on earth." Thank you for sharing this!!!
Coincidently, this month has been one of the hardest in terms of mental health. Haven't been this depressed in a while. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable.
Something small that I really appreciate in this video (that may sound a bit silly) is that instead of swerving around the word, Sean was able to say suicide. That word is so often replaced with “sewer slide” or “unalived” so seeing it treated with the seriousness and empathy it deserves instead of using a silly word to scurry around UA-cam censorship or just to avoid saying it is really important. It takes serious bravery to make a video like this
It made me unconsciously flinch a bit and think "ooh, unfiltered word, hope he doesn't get in trouble with the Algorithm for it" before I realised that this is turning into such a Voldemort's name situation that people may just stop using the word for good.
I hate that we live in a time where we can't use certain words just because some corporate overlord deems it inappropriate.
UA-camrs are still doing that? I thought the censorship trend stopped a few years ago.
Completely agree 💯
Literally!
"Treat myself as a friend" is what I ended up doing in my darkest moments and it changed everything for the better. That's not all there was to it, but it was the most defining factor.
I’m glad you were able to learn how to do that. Still trying to figure that out myself lol
Took a long time to not tell myself things I wouldn't tell someone else. Interesting to mentally explore that but I think this is part of the sentiment.
My therapist worked hard to have me change my negative thought process. Because even when I wanted to say something positive, I would say it in a negative way (For example, "I'm not stupid" instead of saying "I'm smart"). She would call me out every time to try to get me to change the way I talked about myself and about people around me, and just this little thing helped me so much. I still do it, but I call myself out on it. "No, let me rephrase that" type of stuff.
FUCK YES! :)
It’s so important for people to come across these types of tips and “tricks”! Even when they are ok or think they’re ok. When I was feeling low, I knew that I should be a friend to myself because I had heard people on social media say that. I tried to name 5 things I loved or appreciated about myself because when a friend is feeling low, I try to remind them of all the wonderful things about them. When I couldn’t do that and realized I genuinely didn’t like any part of myself, I knew it was time to get help. Glad to see everyone sharing their stories here! ❤
It really is so pervasive, the loneliness aspect, the neurodivergence, the SI, the existential piece, and creator mental health is complicated as well. Really applaud you for taking your mental health seriously and spreading awareness and funding. You're right on so much of this. Here to help however we can.
@KingTushar1 LMAO!!
This would be a fantastic collab between Dr K and Sean honestly
AOE Healing 💚
It really, really helps so much to hear the experiences said out loud that you thought only you experienced.
Even with mental health and work, showing up for other people but also for yourself… maybe sometimes not being able to distinguish who you’re doing it for or what the priority should be out of everything you’re constantly taking in. It can be overwhelming to have some of these experiences described so clearly. Like you’re seen but exposed, too. 😅
But gratitude and hope are what stick around and that’s what we need more than anything. Thank you. ❤️🩹
Hi, HG!
“Crying is not breaking down; breaking down is what happens when we don’t allow ourselves to cry.”
Should we cry then?
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AuDHD and c-ptsd are a helluva combo to navigate. A lot of this video is totally relatable.
It really is relatable.
Ptsd and Audhd at the same time is not fun to deal with at all, and I know it way too well.
AuDHD c-ptsd gang! :’D
Damn I just got diagnosed with ADHD and cPTSD too🤝
CPTSD here too
C-c-c-combo! But seriously, much love to all of you from another triple-diagnosed person. The "out of sight, out of mind" thing was really relatable.
Mental health is extremely important. Stay strong everyone, there is always someone that cares about you.
Remember to always love and forgive, just as God loves and forgives you. Be kind to one another, and treat others with respect and compassion. Keep faith and trust in God's plan, and know that He is always with you. Let His love shine through you, and be a light to those around you.
Hard to believe for me
true, i lost my big bro, a truck run him over.....i... just dont know how to deal with it.... he didnt even had a face to show at the funeral.... i wish i could go back and stop him from going outside
dude the video just got uploaded... shutup
@@dragonjumper201it's just a bot don't bother
I love that jack is the Jiminy cricket of UA-cam, he's the voice of reason, respect, self accountability, confidence, rationality, and love in my head and in a lot of others heads too i hope to be half the man he is when I get older
Genuinely
Your in charge of yourself be who you want to be
Exactly
To be honest, it's not that hard to be the voice of reason on UA-cam with all these Jack Doherty, JayStation, SSSniperWolf, Mr Beast, Logan and Jake Paul, etc... lol
he suffers only from TDS.
Autism and ADHD are the two hot topics in my life as well, Jack. I'm 36 years old. The thinking makes you sooo tired. I have a hard time to finish anything I started. I struggle working and at average have 4 jobs a year. I don't feel like I fit in. But that's how it should be, becauese... It is not a sign of health to be well-adapted to a sick society. I can game for days, not going outside, not feeling lonely at all. Just sometimes I need to talk to a professional because I don't really have anyone to talk to. The ones needing to talk to a therapist are not the ones that should be ashamed.
Life has beome so busy.
In the 90's we had so much more time... Or at least it feels so. It's because we fill every damn moment of rest with youtube, instagram, tiktok or facebook.
Our brains are non stop activated, processing the data that we send in.
What helps me is going out for a walk in nature. Phone off. No triggers.
"It is not a sign of health to be well-adapted to a sick society." bars!
Autism and ADHD are being thrown around like candy by healthcare workers. 90 % of the people that get diagnosed don’t have anything wrong with them. They’ve just been psyopped into thinking everything about themselves is wrong and messed up. They just want to sell you the adderal pills so they can make a fortune off your misery.
As a counselor myself, this type of communication is really important and I applaud you for doing so. You are communicating these things with such a huge demographic and while that's a lot of pressure to handle, this video will undoubtedly do so much good to educate a wide variety of people experiencing a myriad of struggles. Thanks for your open and honest communication
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Yes! Boys need to aspire to become men like you, and not some incel misogynist.
Came here to say exactly this; you did it better! Jack's honesty & desire to help make a difference. We all are going to need to have these kinds of conversations in our lives for one reason or another.
Thanks Jack I watched you over the years I feel like you have grown so much and appreciate that you are talking on a topic that nowadays is becoming more taboo to bring up at all to other people. Mental health is definitely an important topic that needs to be brought out more.
It is isn't it? Gives people like. . .permission to be honest. We've been told to be mindful of other peoples states and the old "you never know what someone else is going through" at the extreme gets toxic and we edit ourselves and mask which is super dysfunctional.
Jack you don’t stop giving my man. Keep going there is always light at the end of the tunnel.
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Thank you, Anakin Skywalker
Thank you Jedi Knight!
huh, look it's another fictional character in the same comment section
Listen my man. If you don’t like it don’t comment on it. No one cares at the moment. This is about jack not me or you.
Hearing someone else talk about the “out of sight, out of mind” thing in terms of relationships/friendships is so healing to hear. It’s such a hard thing to explain to people who don’t understand and it can make me feel like an awful person when I don’t miss someone as much as they miss me. And as someone who is on their way to being part of the mental health field, I’m glad that the perception of mental illness and mental health issues is changing now and that people are realizing they aren’t alone in what they’re feeling. Thank you for speaking up about all of this Sean, simply by talking about it there is awareness brought to it and that’s so important. None of us are alone in our struggles 💕
I find that I miss people retroactively, if that makes sense. I’ll miss people after I see them again. I’ll be hanging out with them and I’ll miss the time we lost.
I have the opposite problem. My friends don’t really seem interested in starting conversations with me or talking for more than five minutes when I do get to talk to them. I feel alone around them and it stinks because they’re nice enough people
I lost my very best friend ever precisely because of the out of sight out of mind thing. We were like sisters in elementary school. Then she moved and we no longer lived in the same town, and we went to different middle/high schools. We still chatted online, and tried to meet up at least once a year, but eventually I just started forgetting… I still think of her as my absolute best friend ever, and it makes me so sad to think that she probably thinks I just stopped caring, but reaching back out feels so daunting because it’s been over a decade now I think, and even if I decided I wanted to now I don’t have social media and she probably got a new number at some point and I don’t even know how I’d go about it…
I have that. I'll come back to myself and realize I haven't talked to someone in months. They thought I was dumping them, when I just forgot they existed.
With a lot of people moving away from working in offices and hanging out in person, it’s harder and harder to develop and maintain friendships! When I actually have the time and energy to get together, I find myself asking am I even “good enough friends” to “be friends”?
the out of sight out of mind thing is hard. same goes for maintaining friendships, also quite hard.
your a legend for making this video. looking forward to the thankmas stream!
Weirdly enough this is the exact feelings I was never able to pinpoint on how isolating this entire ordeal can be, content creation and relying on it. Unhealthy relationships driving us into being lone wolves and in the end we hurt ourselves like that. I always thought I was just unlikable, because nobody wanted to hang out with me and most of the time I spend my time alone, especially with being a content creator in Germany.
Thanks for talking about it Sean, I am sorry to hear you went through all that, but we're always stronger and we can become better.
You’re super likable ye little weirdo. And funny too. And a gamer. That’s like, the whole checklist for being awesome.
We love you both
You two are some of my favorite creators here alongside jocat and seeing what the internet does to ruin your mental health is fucked and nobody should go through that.
Stay strong everyone 🩷
People who usually spend most of their time alone. Like being alone, but then they start to think its bad and they get into this loop of never ending sadness.
Liebe an dich
Oh wow! a wild Shen!!
Jack encouraging people to look after their mental health is incredibly wholesome
fr, this is the most humble person on yt that i've seen
He supports kamala
@@CapnMadelyndon’t bring politics to a video about looking after your mental health. Politics doesn’t have a place here.
Don’t say that! We all supported Donald! We’re supposed to be a team and/or a squad.
Yeah ❤❤❤
"Treat myself as a friend", holy shit, as someone who is good at giving other people advice but not taking it myself, I need this.
Yeah you should cry cuz that way you can fix nothing and stay in the same place
@@papastalin3498 Crying does actually help, its a healthy way of expressing emotions and feeling better, troll
@AdaminTranzit yeah I cry when my wife calls the police
Dosent exactly work when u hateur friends does it 💀
This is a type of video that is well worded. When you mentioned picking at scabs mentally and blaming yourself for relationships not going the way you thought they were, it really hit hard. There are so many people that I personally would believe would resonate with that. You’re right, there will be those who will understand you.
Thank you for being open. Times get hard, and it's important to know when you need to ask for help.
You didnt even saw the whole video😅😅
It's been 3 mins bro
@@acaaalam2562 hha the video is a 17 mins video and has been out for 3 mins
The video is 17 minutes long and you commented this a minute after he uploaded.
How the fck did you know what he is talking about.
@itsyariley no you don’t
Thanks Jack. As a fellow 30’s man, it was through your vulnerability over the past years that gave me the confidence to get professional help as well. I’ve also been diagnosed with adhd and depression, as well as APD (avoidant personality disorder) which I didn’t even know was a thing, but makes relationships hard to keep and even harder to start.
I’ve just started my mental health journey earlier this year, and it really is incredible the things you can figure out with help. The things you thought didn’t affect you from a younger age can stay with you well into adulthood.
Research Lactobacillus Reuteri, et might help.
can"t speak from experience tho...
I also have been diagnosed with adhd and apd. I don't have anything uplifting to say just that I get you. It's so unbelievably hard. The inflammatory effects from the constant stress of it all are what I've been left to deal with as i age. It's not an often spoken about personality disorder and it took me 9 years after the diagnosis to pay attention to it and actually research it.
In my late 30's. The amount of shame I internalized by even CONSIDERING mental health treatment of any kind is disgusting. I'm so grateful to see younger people treating it with respect and acceptance. My male peers would treated me incredibly different when I first shared about it to anybody. I see it in a couple of friends of mine right now that are going through a really hard time being incredibly resistant to seeking out treatment because of the stigma that they internalized at a younger age.
There's still stigma around it of course, but it's so much better now than it was 20 years ago. Anybody willing to share and normalize their mental health experiences, you get my respect and admiration. It's important. Thanks to you OP, and thanks to Sean.
I also have been diagnosed with ADHD, major depressive disorder, generalized anxiety disorder.
Fellow AVPD haver! I rarely see any other avoidants.
Yeah that’s what we like to see! Good Moga!
When you started to mention "out of sight, out of mind," that really hit home. I often feel that if I don't take the time to contact people, I'll never hear off anyone. I had a bit of a bad time a few months ago, appeared offline on Steam and discord and didn't message anyone. Nearly 3 weeks went by before I got a message off anyone. Things are much better now and I stopped the "well if they don't message me, I won't message them" mentality. But loneliness can do some strange things to your mindset.. Massive respect for being open and talking about it.
Ugh it hit me too. Then your comment gave me a good whack as well 😅 Out of Sight, Out of Mind Club right here ❤
@@Eurochow Keep your head up and keep going. Things will get better. It's not so bad now. I try to put more effort in to staying in contact with people, and met some new friends online (which works in my benefit haha)
I feel you, man. I'm still trying to improve my mindset right now but I'm so glad you've gotten better. Good job :>
Correct, if they don't message them I will not message them is silliest thing.
The correct way should be , if I don't want to talk with somebody, I don't message them, if want to talk - I will message them.
If they don't answer several times, don't appologize after- yes, they are not interested. For any people 30+ who have no time and no mental capacity.
Message them first and observe how they react.
I am in shock that people who are older than 5 could have that logic😅
Good on you, you got it now❤
I put my mental problems and intense mental issues to the back of my mind to try and forget and it hurts so much and hits so home
i watched your videos growing up in a broken and abusive home, but what always made my day was hearing your goofy videos, i miss hearing you scream stuff like "welcome back everybody to, TURBO DISMOUNT" always made me smile as a teenager, it still makes me smile, i know I'm just another random faceless sub but just know you have helped me out more than you will ever know, so thank you!
hey sorry to hear. Hope the current days are treating you well
You helped me get sober. No joke. When I was fighting to get sober from various drugs, I would watch you. Your videos ment so much to me, still do. You've always helped me feel better and made me smile. Im so sorry you've had so much struggle in your life, I can relate. AuDHD and c-ptsd here as well.
I just want you to know that the impact your videos have had is huge. Its an amazing thing, wanting to make people smile. Its one of the most noble things to do in my opinion. But you will always come first in your life, as it should be. No one is more important. So please continue on your journey. And when you feel like the time is right, you'll maybe make a video or two, and we will be happy with that, I promise.
I just wanted to say, congratulations on getting sober. ♥
So so proud of you, congratulations on your sobriety
I'm happy for you. Keep on keeping on.
I'm proud of you random stranger, it is incredibly difficult to get out of situations like that. If there is damage, I'm confident you will heal and you got this.
Proud of you. I'm an alcoholic
I like how open you are Sean. Realistically in the position you're in, theres ALWAYS going to be someone that cares about you. I know its hard to see because you dont SEE your audience, but some people have grown up with this channel. A LOT of people grew up with you as their role model and main inspiration and influence. You're loved, valued, and cared for, always try to remember that to the best you can. Sending love.
I thought this video had to do with the election lol.
@@graffiti.777 He did kinda mention it once at 12:19
nice to see you here vluto.
100% agreed Vluto
Know exactly where you're coming from mate. Been down in the shit many times & it ain't fun.
I am passionate about promoting male mental health issues, after all, more males under 50 die of suicide in the UK than anything else. It's totally fucked up & you dudes need saving. Here if anyone needs a chat 🤗
“you’d be shocked to find out how many people are going through the EXACT same situation you are.” is such a powerful sentiment. As someone who feels like the 20 years of my life have been SO unique, so hard, that i’m alone and have no one to talk to about it, that I’m estranged from the rest of society.. it’s just so not true. And you can’t let yourself believe that. Thank you for this video, Sean!! Your voice has so much impact. Endless love to you ❤️
So whats up with people feeling comforted by that? It was always weird to me personally
You seem like such a lovely human!! ❤🎉 Much love and endless joy to you!!🥰
@@AmoogusBecause they think they are the only person that feels alone or they have nobody to talk to. Even if it’s bad, its nice to know someone goes through the same thing as you. You can connect with people that share similar experiences
@ it’s never a nice feeling knowing that for me.
@@Amoogus if you don't mind me asking, why not?
Thank you for talking about this. It's hard for people who haven't been through anything like this to understand, but the best thing we can do to break the stigma around mental health is to talk about it. It's hard to talk about it, and it's hard to live through it. I've been down that dark path a few times, and it's so scary. My physical health has deteriorated over the last few years and that's had a serious impact on my mental health as well, which wasn't great to begin with. I've lost my career as a veterinarian due to it all, and I'm still grieving that. Your videos have been a great comfort and a source of laughter for me, and I think a lot of people. You're not alone, and I'm always happy to help others who are struggling, with plenty of understanding and no judgements.
You and Mark especially carried me through high school, my short stint in college, and while during the abusive relationship I was in I wasn't really watching and sort of fell off with gaming youtube in general, you guys still had a special place in my heart for the amazing times you gave me. Now, I'm going through my own mental health journey, working through anxiety, AuADHD, constant SI, and C-PTSD from my childhood and relationships. And now I'm back to watching you and Mark and now watch Gab and others as well.
Funnily enough, Persona 5 is always the game I go back to when I'm at my lowest and need some cheering up.
But so much of what you said during this video resonated so deeply with me, especially the out of sight out of mind with relationships/friendships, and I appreciate you being so upfront and honest about what you go through and keep the dialogue around mental health open and in the public eye, because I really think it's needed in the world 🩷
Thank you, Sean
didnt know there are other ppl who watch mark and sean while also reading solo leveling manhwa
@manhwaboss1473 LOL it's my favorite manhwa
The tears that came out of nowhere the moment you talked about suicide, loneliness and tha depression-adhd and possible autism... i feel so seen all of the sudden.
understood.
im not alone, or crazy, or egocentric.
thank you for making this video. i always look up to you, to the point that i smile whenever i hear someone with an irish accent cuz it makes me think of you
take care, Jack
There are many people who feel the way you do, friend, myself included. There are also resources you can look into if you want/need someone to talk to or something like that. May your roads lead you to warm sands, friend.
I will never understand people like you it kinda psses me off for few reasons
1 its obvious you arent alone, its pure logic and common sense, everyone ahs some illness lmaooo
2 why does it make you feel better?? it doesnt make me feel better maybe im just jealous but I actually hate to admit someone might feel like me I WANT to be alone, not because i dont want others to suffer idc enough anymore about humans or value of their life BUT because i hate to know there are people like me i will never be friends with, never know, how can that make you feel better? youre not alone? who cares you still have the issues
@@Zasha-uq5uo talking about problems doesnt seem like any help unless you have bonds with people, i have non and telling a therapist i feel bad wont fix anything at elast for me. I know why i feel shit, and nobody can fix it out of nowhere
@AdaminTranzit woooooooow dude. you must be real fun at parties, ay?
@princeereia don't mind Adamin... he'll come back to this comment and be ashamed of what he said, you'll come back to this comment with nothing to be ashamed of... great ass job of saying the thing that others want to say but are to scared of the petty judgement that they may recieve.
2015. The day after my twin boys’ funeral. I went to Indy pop con. Hoping to express and tell my story about how you saved my life. Got out into the line for the meet and greet. Found out you had to have a ticket from the day before. They didn’t check. Once I found out. I left the line and went back to the hotel. I knew I wasn’t going to get the chance to talk to you or express what was going on. Seeing You, Mark, Bob, and Wade on the stage was just amazing. Yes someone ruined the Q&A because they asked for a picture but just seeing you all up there in person solidified for me that there are people out there you have never met or will never meet that have changed your life. I am now the father of 4 more children, married, and with a decent job. If it wasn’t for you Sean I would not be here today. I just want to say thank you.
The wife says Thank You too.
Positive vibes to you, friend. You deserve it.
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Glad you are here friend. I always come back to Sean, mark, wade and bob when things are hanging low in my life. They always help and I know for certain I would not be here without them. I am so sorry for your loss as a father of one 4yr old I don’t think I would ever recover if I lost the light in my life. You are an inspiration for someone like me who never comments but just comes across this random comment and gives me the motivation and drive to wake up tomorrow and keep going. Thank you
I’m so sorry for your loss
I haven't watched you in a very long time, but your video popped up on my UA-cam algorithm.
First of all, I want to thank you for not only talking and speaking up about mental health, but being a MAN and speaking about mental health. I recently got diagnosed with ADHD, and I'm a 31 year old female. Looking back on my life and how I operated and how I operate now - it all started to make sense. I grew up sick and in the hospital, and grew up with most, if not all, of my family being either alcoholics or addicts. And it has effected me, and it still does. There is so much medical, family, and relationship trauma that is ALWAYS there with me, every single day. I've been in therapy for over a year now and on medication, and it has literally saved my life. I recently left a really toxic relationship with an alcoholic, and with my recent therapy session, I realized how bad it was, and how all of my relationships have stemmed off of wanting to help people. And going towards addicts and alcoholics. My therapist told me that your mind subconsciously goes for what you know. And it's a pattern. I moved out on my own, and now my REAL healing is going to begin. I don't know how to be alone, and I think that was one of the hardest pills to swallow.
Thank you so much for sharing your story and giving people something to relate to, and to know that they are never going to be alone. I am so proud of you, and I'm so proud of everyone who is still here and fighting the good fight. We need you here, we need everyone here. Sending you love, light, and strength. ❤
You know... You may be an online personality and we have never actually met or interacted before, but I genuinely want you to be happy and healthy. You, and everyone on this planet, deserve to be happy. If I could personally help you at all, Sean, I would. Love you ❤
find my platinum chip
@hello866t7a lot of people care 😊 have the day you deserve
@hello866t7Hun, not the time or place to be a troll or be funny. Genuinely, that sucks.
FYI, “nobody cares”?
I care, a lot others do as well.
Now go return your iPad to your mother. This is *not* the time or place for this attitude.
dont listen to the haters, I care, this is a very cool comment
@hello866t7 So, why are you spamming this?
As someone who had bad mental health while growing up and still struggling, I love everything that you do for the community, and that's why you're one of my favorite person.
@@Shampoiddespicable, evil person. say that to jacksepticeye and not him then.
also I care
@@Shampoid you cared enough to comment
@@russian_cat1941he said that to other comments of this topic as well
he's probably just rage baiting and trolling to be honest (trolling in the worst way known to mankind)
At this point of UA-cam history, in my opinion, Jack is one of the most wholesome and honest people, that staying themselves
I still like Chris Tyson more.
What😭@@manthe3711
Lmaoo that’s why he just blasted 70 million Americans on twitter for not voting for the woke president of his dreams. Especially since he doesn’t even live here? Dudes a joke, get real.
@@manthe3711I get that it’s ur opinion but it’s not appropriate to be here
That's true
I normally don’t ever comment on UA-cam but this video made my week, truly. When Jack was mentioning that there are other people going through the same or similar things as you, it brought a lot of comfort. Sometimes it’s nice to just hear someone like Jack bring this up.
I hope this guy realizes that he’s making a lot of impact on his audience by talking about these things and how important it is. To any of you going through anything rough, I promise you that it will get better. Keep your head up, take a breath and smile❤️
I am a victim of emotional abuse with PTSD and severe anxiety. In 2016, my abuser's health took her life, after years of her ignoring her poor health and using it to manipulate me. Men are often not allowed to talk about how abused they were, and often refuse to get help for their mental health. You are an amazing person for speaking up and being open with us. You're loved by many and do wonderful things for your audience. Keep being strong.
I experienced a very similar thing. It's only now that I've sought help as it has subsequently caused a long-standing addiction that I have repeatedly tried to quit but always fail. Pretty much totaling my mental health. The emotional abuse I experienced pretty much ruined my social life or drive to speak to anyone. And it has never left. It's a shame I only saw it as a problem now and not the second something felt wrong. I've gotten some help, yet nothing has seemed to change yet to any meaningful degree. And the addiction has approached the worst it's been ever.
I had a person do the same thing to me and I'm still not getting better after it
I'm glad to see Jack and other men are taking their mental health seriously as well. ❤ I have cptsd. I was doing great now im not due to new chronic health issues. I see others and just wish id had a normal life, but I know logicaly there are more people messed up that we realize. Hang in there guys, I really and truly wish you the best in this hell we all deal with in one form or another.
@Deltadog55 you're stronger than you realize. Hang in there. It took me several years to even realize that it was abuse, and several years to really understand what I went through. I also struggle with addiction, and had relapses. I stopped seeing my relapses as failure, and saw it as "ok I had a bad time, I'll get through it and quit again". Once I realized that my relapses were not my fault, but the fault of the illness of addiction, I started to do much better.
Remind yourself that you're not at fault for being unable to fix the symptoms of mental illness, just like any other illness. If you have a broken leg, you can only do so much to heal it, the same with your brain.
@Djwyrm the funny thing about it all is that I also have gender dysphoria, so technically I'm not a man anymore anyways. But again I wasn't even supposed to talk about my mental health because I was born male. It just isn't a thing men do.
It always breaks my heart to see you upload videos with titles like this! You deserve nothing but happiness! Anyways I really wanna thank you for everything you do❤
Really looking forward for thankmas too❤
@DontReadMyPicture089 dude nobody cares
@hello866t7 then don't comment?
@hello866t7 its a comment section for a reason..? theres no need to be so nasty like wtf
@hello866t7 no one asked lil bro
@hello866t7 We don’t care.
The autism and ADHD combination is brutal, definitely from personal experience. This video made my day; hearing someone who’s going through the same experience I’m going through. Thank you for being so honest to us Jack, this means the world to me and others like me
Me too. I was just diagnosed two weeks ago with Autism and my assessor said I have ADHD too. My ears perked up when he mentioned the Autism test.
Been diagnosed with both for most my life I relate to so so much of this video it’s weird to see so many people like me I thought I was alone in this
Oh tell me about it. Its a two punch combo.
I dint have adhd but I do have autism. And I feel a lot like this. I struggle with my identity sometimes and I get burned out so easily. It's not easy
Im in the same boat, ive watched jack since deadpool and to hear this from him, it helps
I gotta admit, it's been a while since I've tuned in but you've always stayed in my list of top 5 favorite channels. In the last six years since I've become sober, I've kinda shut down and separated myself from everyone I used to associate with and it's taken a huge toll on my mental health but hearing someone else's experience is nice because it helps put a new perspective on my own situation.
Thank you for everything, Sean.
I was diagnosed with ADHD in my 20s and Autism in my 30s. Genuinely the best thing I have ever done for myself was committing to getting tested and figuring out my own brain. It really opened so many new paths for me to positively impact my mental health. If you are watching this video and it resonates with you, and you have the means and opportunity to do so, please please take that step for yourself. You are worth it, and pursuing a mental health diagnosis is worth the effort. 💜
And don't stop at diagnosis! There is so much to learn xx
Seriously I had my suspicions for years and I was just recently diagnosed as an AuDHDer and it’s so bizarre hearing an influencer like Sean talk abo it but it’s so comforting.
It’s very weird tryjng to navigate the work and socializing
How did you go about getting tested?
@@JoshDear-f6v I'm currently waiting to get assessed. It can take a while depending on where you live. Talking to your GP is usually a good start. They can usually either direct you, or do a proper referral to the people that can help you.
@@MotherOfOwlbears Adding on to this, a kind and supportive GP is the best bet for this. I tried once when I was 16 and he basically just gave me a leaflet for group therapy and sent me on my way. Called another GP and he referred me immediately to a specialist and that's what ended up getting my diagnosis
Getting a GP appointment is so obnoxious now though haha, much less room to pick and choose who you see
it’s a bittersweet comfort when someone you admire shares your struggles or a piece of your history. thank you for your openness and vulnerability, Sean.
Yeah, it is.
Sean spoke about this very well and it is nice to see that some struggles are almost universal
i just wish therapy was more affordable. all i want is therapy and it’s the most hopeless feeling when you physically can’t.
theres free therapy, I never went to therapy because I was too scared lol
@@rinkagamine4768there's often a postcode lottery when it comes to free mental health services, and even then the waiting lists can last years. We need to do better so no one gets left behind, I'm so glad Thankmas will be focusing on mental health this year ❤️
@@Shampoid i bet you get so much love at home 😁
@@Shampoid that was uncalled for dude
I know how you feel. My family has never had the money to send me to therapy, and most therapists in my area wouldn't take my insurance anyway. And it's tough because you try to seek out comfort in other ways, but it doesn't ever really help fully.
I hope that both of us can someday get therapy in some way, or at least find something else that can help us.
I was scared to watch this video when it came out because I've been at an all-time low with my mental health lately, and I wasn't sure if I'd be able to deal with whatever thoughts might come up as I watched. So I waited. I think that was the ight choice for me. But gosh am I glad that this video is here now. Life just keeps dumping garbage on my head lately, but it brightens things just a smidgen to know that someone else -- someone I truly respect -- knows what the garbage dumping feels like.
back when I was around 13-14 I went through what was probably the hardest period of my life so far. I was diagnosed with depression and anxiety, and struggling with self harm and an eating disorder. I dropped out of school because I was too scared to even step foot outside of my house, and lost almost all of my friends because of that isolation. all I remember is feeling so incredibly alone during all of it. I genuinely thought I wouldn't even be alive to see my 16th birthday.
I'm 17 now and finishing my first year back in education on the 22nd of this month :) i still struggle with my mental health, but over a few years of therapy and really working on myself, I've learned how to manage it
so to anyone reading this going through something similar, I know it may feel hopeless, but it can get better. there is always light at the end of the tunnel, you just have to keep walking towards it. you're stronger than you think
Hey man good luck with the education and I hope you find your feet again ❤❤
Amazing! I have went through something similar. I am so happy that you are back 😀 I wish you happiness and joy in the future!
It does get better, honestly ♥
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So, i'm 33 now, and back when i was in middle school and highschool i had severe depression and anxiety also. I had trouble going outside and I skipped school bec of it. It got so bad I was "kicked" out of my highschool and needed to re-enroll. I was barely hanging on, but I pushed through, and I'm still here today. I'm glad I stayed and got to make all the friends I have through the years. These are tough things to deal with @racconseatingtrash but I believe in you, you got this ♥♥♥ I'm so proud of you for going back to school!!!
Hope your doing better ❤❤❤
i've been struggling with something very similar since 12 years old, im 16 now and havent quite learnt to manage it yet, but im making progress. makes me hopeful to see people in similar situations getting better:)
getting tested for ADHD and Autism was the best thing i did for myself - and i didn’t have either! I ended up diagnosed with OCD, and getting on the right meds for the first time in my life changed my life SO much, it’s surreal. i hope you get the help you need, be it what it is :) good luck on your tests and your journey dude ♥️ you deserve the best you can get!
I have OCD too
@@littlemissemila1818 same
I have OCD as well! Times can get really rough sometimes.
You dont have OCD, you have OBCD
Similar here! But I am actually autistic + adhd ❤
I really appreciate how vulnerable this is. You got me through 2015-2020, and I’ll always be grateful for that, but I’m even more thankful that now you’re focusing on taking care of yourself. I never commented back then, but your channel was a big part of my life. I don’t have the time to watch as much anymore, but I still check in and revisit some playthroughs when I need a boost. I’m really glad you’re still here, and I just want to say thank you for everything you’ve done, especially using your platform to raise awareness about mental health and being so open about your own struggles. You're doing it like a boss! (an inspiring one)
Anything is possible with motivation
True
I agree with this so much, it’s hard to find such an honest and empowering UA-camr like jack. He has help me and many others sooo much. I wish him the best always.
@@ermspirit8301there are so many lol
I just want to say this as a member of yours, you are doing the same.
Sean, you relate to a lot of us.
Being in a better financial situation to most of us here doesn’t mean you’re less human.
The hand we are given in life doesn’t exempt or promote us to experiencing trauma.
Everyone has their own life stories, but when it comes to our emotions we all feel the same pain, joy fear.. That’s why it’s so important to talk and connect with people.
Mental health is an illness, it’s the same as a physical illness.
ADHD and autism is something we are born with, we see and interact with the world differently.. that’s something I try to use to my advantage.
We can’t change that, but we can change the way we think about it.
I’ve worked with mental health/ autism for 14 years, and sadly mental health/adult social care is drowning, trying desperately to keep afloat. That’s why having people like you who have a platform talk about it and be vulnerable about your own struggles is so valuable and can help push for change.
Thank you for being vulnerable with us, sharing your heart
and opening and important conversation.
I’m looking forward to another year of thankmas!
As a woman in her 30s I really appreciate you bringing up this topic through the lens of a man in his 30s!
I so often hear lovely people express the grappling with their self worth and reasons for being here, and it makes it very clear to me, the human brain really judges itself harshly!
Looking back at my 20’s, it was really unfair to put the expectation on myself that I would be perfect and put together by 30. My new goal is to have a coffee routine by 40 that doesn’t include a Keurig machine. 🤷I don’t know. Your comment resonated with me. I hope you’re doing well.
Also in my 30’s 😂 I agree “the brain really judges us harshly” is facts, the amount of passive aggressive suicidal thoughts hits hard, trying to be strong is hard, and letting us feel weak is like falling from top of mnt Everest by a billy goat who just rammed into you, you don’t expect it, and yet your reaching out, hoping something will stop your fall, because even as your weakened a flicker of light is trying to make you grow wings to spiral out of the way of the impact before you. I’m trans fem and living technically as both sides of life, you feel almost like neither side of a painted wall of gender matters, they both stink inside the bathroom stalls, just like life, but we can speak inside to echo on the walls, hoping someone else shitting will also join in yelling at how bad it smells here 😂.
I attempted earlier this year... the feeling of "would anyone really miss me" gets so heavy sometimes! Even though i have amazing friends, family and partner, and im sure you do too, it's hard not to listen to that little voice. I quit teaching, which helped a lot. I work in a new job that is so much better for me. I work on myself every day and im trying to be a better friend to myself. I can never hurt my partner like i hurt them that day again. Thank you for talking about this, its so important to get the conversation going. I hope youre doing okay! Sending love ❤
I’m so glad you’re still here
@@PrincessSpoiledGirl thank you, me too ❤️
@@MacawMumma I know what you mean.. I remember my attempts and the loneliness I felt after because the stark reality was that no one would even know I'd done it because that's how little people reach out to talk to me... it would literally be maybe 2 weeks of not hearing from me that either if my parents would attempt to come find me 😔
@@xlbpb93 I'm so sorry you feel hurt like that 😔 I'm sure that they would miss you so much, and I'm glad you're still here 💜 ❤️
i relate to you so bad.. im glad we can get through this.. as a small, one person on the internet to another person that is real all the same . youre doing great trying to take care of yourself and glad we are all here
i fucking love you, sean. i love your character, your transparency, your support, your charity, your channel. we need more people like you. i'm glad you're doing better.
Thank you for this video I’ve been struggling a lot lately my dad passed away three months ago then my bearded dragon died a week ago my mental health has been horrendous and I struggle with finding help usually I just sit down and watch your soulsborne games they give me a good laugh and help me feel better
It doesn’t help that I have ADHD and I had a bad time a couple years ago with self harm but thankfully I am about two years free from it
"It won't be like that for me," Kaladin said. "You said it would get worse."
"It will," Wit said, "but then it will get better. Then it will get worse again. Then better. This is life, and I will not lie by saying every day will be sunshine. But there will be sunshine again, and that is a very different thing to say. That is truth. I promise you, Kaladin: You will be warm again."
-Brandon Sanderson, Rhythm of War
I accredit this passage with saving my life on more than one occasion.
I need to revisit the Stormlight Archive. I've read the first two books and that's it.
I lost my younger brother to suicide 5 years ago. I wish he would've held out for the sunshine.
@@harvestmoon12345 I'm so sorry brother. Stormlight helped me through the hardest times of my life, and jack has a whole 25 minute video on his second channel basically gushing about stormlight lol.
These words are accepted.
“with love comes loss” I thought about this more and more lately. Everyone loses something, being time to themselves or others, to the love of your life to a sickness. A shared experience, but an experience everyone experiences differently.
Your vulnerability is what drew me to you and what has kept me coming back to your videos. As hilariously chaotic as you can be, your openness about mental health and everyday struggles makes me feel so seen and comforted. I am not someone who has been with you from day one, but the time I’ve spent as a subscriber has meant a lot to me. I won’t go on and on or vent here about my personal struggles with mental health and trying to find my place in this world, but just know that as much as you are an outlet for us to turn to on hard times, we are here for you as well.
As much as I would love to attend Thankmas this year, I will no longer be able to attend due to the damage the recent hurricanes caused. But I will 100% be there for the stream and donate what I can. Your kindness and generosity will never go unnoticed and I hope you know just how thankful and grateful we are to have someone like you in this community. 💚
Stay safe and take care of yourself. It's hard to remember when you have a giving type of personality, but you can't pour from an empty cup. Be good to yourself, and if you can't donate much (or at all), please remember that you are no less of a good person ❤ You're doing fantastic. Best of luck and well wishes to you and yours as you recover from the hurricanes.
@hello866t7 and yet people still care, your point is mute
so refreshing to hear someone talk about their struggles with suicidal ideation because it is probably way more common than is talked about (which can be understandable, it's a hard subject to navigate) thank you so much for sharing this vulnerable video with us. I've never watched your content and this is the first one I clicked on
seeing sean so open about mental heath and struggling is exactly what makes him my favourite creator. he’s just so down to earth and genuine, so glad i’ve grown with him.
Thank you Jack. You’ve been an inspiration this whole time.
Good for you john fallout!
You've inspired me, too, Mr Fallout😢
You are thanking him for what? Don't even tell me that you watched the video because your comment was posted 2 mins after his video was uploaded meaning you could have only watched 1/17 Mins of his video
@@TheNoobHamster ok be mad
14:48 this line is so important. even if your depression isnt as bad as the next person, you can still always talk abt your feelings. theres so much stigma around talking abt your feelings, if your sad be sad. no one is going to tell you that what your feeling is wrong and no one should tell you that. and even if you think no one wants to listen to you, there is always someone. whether theyre paid to listen or theyre a family member or a friend there is ALWAYS someone who will listen regardless of what youre experiencing.❤
Also wanted to add/clarify: just because someone else has worse problems does not mean your problems are less valid. Just because someone has the same problems as you and *they* just get on with things does not mean you should too. If you feel you need help, *get* *help* if you can. You matter, your feelings matter, and your wellbeing matters and you need to accept that. Please, take care of yourself however you can.
Trauma is in the eye of the beholder.
i so wish i could go to thankmas i love mental health awareness i have had so many times were Ive just wanted to give up and be done with everything but i push on i love that your getting this message out there so many people that just need to see that there's people who care and understand what your going through and honestly just thank you for what your doing Jack.
I'm AuDHD and your description of how it feels to deal with social interactions and relationships sounds incredibly similar to mine. Every time I see someone on the internet go through the same struggles as me I just want to reach out so we can get through things together, to find comfort and maybe a good relationship in each other, but I'm like you in the sense that online relationships are inevitably distant and find them hard to maintain.
So to you and to anyone who's going through these feelings and struggles. You're not alone. Have hope and keep pushing through ❤️
17:32 that smile is so comforting to me
It is :D
Same!!!!
Especially when you are at the end, his smile just stays in your head. But cute smile :)
Its a fake smile
We support you always!!
Tell me the recipe for an apple pie now !@DontReadMyPicture089
Bro stop doing this @DontReadMyPicture089 u did this on marks new video to leave them alone if u are not going to comment something positive
Support him by watching the full video :D
@hello866t7bro thought he did something there
@@TheNoobHamster I did! Just bc I commented early while I was watching doesn’t mean I didn’t watch it lol
Jack, thank you for bringing this topic up. It's essentially what I am going through right now. I just turned 44 and finally received an ADHD diagnosis after exhibiting symptoms off and on for years - as I lived with a family that stigmatized mental health. Hearing this video, I realize I dived into my job and used it to hide so many issues with my mental health - self-confidence, loneliness, and positivity, to name a few all the while dealing with chronic conditions. I'm trying to be easy on myself, but after getting sick, I realize how few people I have to rely on, which unfortunately hurts. I'm afraid one of the people I've relied on recently is pulling away from our friendship - which has held me together recently - and it hurts and is draining.
I genuinely appreciate your vulnerability and making me realize that I'm not the only person going through this right now - and that there is hope at the end of the rainbow.
I lost my brother to this 3 days ago and his been the absolute worst days of my life. I've never experienced so much pain in all my days on this earth.
I've been doing my best to cope with the pain and spending time with family but I think this pain is something that will last forever.
Stay strong people you are all loved more than you think I don't want to see another soul experience what I'm experiencing this day.
Sorry for your loss. Be strong and let the pain flow through you and eventually out of you. This extreme pain will subside as you choose to focus on the positive aspects of ur brother and his life rather than his death.
🫂
My brother passed away in March. Its a terrible thing to go through, but you aren’t alone ❤
i'm really sorry for your loss may he rest in peace
Thank you for talking about this. I’ve dealt with severe depression (and am currently going through the worst of my life) and don’t have energy to do literally anything. Suicide crosses my mind often but I know it’s not the answer, I know with time things eventually get better. But having patience going through this is extremely hard, every day feels like a week. It’s been so, so hard. I’m exhausted. And being completely alone doesn’t help. Thank you for talking about it.
When it gets particularly rough, something I remind myself is "Ending it is a permanent solution to a temporary problem ". Bad times will always come, but that means good times do the same.
i know i'm just a random person, but you're doing great and i am so so proud of you for pushing through these tough times 🩷
@@wookiemookiedookiepookiemeans a lot, truly. thank you.
Things can only get truly better with jesus
Autism and ADHD are more frequently linked than we would've thought in the past. The diagnostic combination, AuDHD, has only been around for 10 years and lots of healthcare professionals still struggle with it. All the best on your journey and thanks for sharing!
the human mind has no inherent solid nature to itself, all these adhd, autism, etc. are societal boxes/ideas that authorities create for some reason. The reason why they struggle with it is because they try to find definitive nature to these behaviors, and such doesn't exist.
@hello866t7 I care
@hello866t7 lots of people do, given the entirety of the video and all the likes.
You are outlier.
I have depression and ADHD. One professor I know that works with kids with autism told me I could have aspergers because there are some recognizable patterns. So when I have the money I want to test myself.
@hello866t7(They say, caring enough to write out a reply.)
Probably a billion to one you'll see this. Ik I'm late to the party lol. But what you said at 3:30 REALLY stuck with me. It's actually allowed myself to take a step back in my life and actually think before I want to truly progress. Idk, just wanted to state how helpful it was. 😅
I have been deeply depressed and anxious since I was about 14, I am now 32! This has literally stopped me from doing my dream job, meeting someone and leading a life.
If you looking for any way to treat any mental health related issue, I'll recommend magic mushrooms.
The effects of magic mushrooms are like a reset button for my mind. They help me clear my thoughts and feel refreshed.
Honestly my major cyclical, episodic depression (MDD) vanished the day I had the magic mushroom tripping while listening to the birds singing in the early morning, up at the cottage country in Muskoka (Ontario, Canada)
Literally changed my life.
How was the experience and how did you get some.?
I did a guided ceremony with a therapist, 3.5g of psilocybin. The experience was profound.
Growing up watching Jack and Mark showed me how much fun needed to be in life and to enjoy it, but watching both now shows me how important it is to be open and care for others
I was starting to shut down when it comes to emotions for this year has been some of my worst as I'm a senior in high school who was forced loose all that I had, I had a lovly cat who was with me all the time, I was in a relationship that I loved, and i had my home town filled wity my friends and gems of memories and I lost all of that and more in one night, but seeing Jack and Mark really opeing up to a world believed to not care about anyone, it really shows that there is people put there, so thank you Jack for opening my eyes to this
❤
I’m 37 years old and I’ve been where you are. It gets better.
Hearing that one of my childhood UA-camrs experiences so much of what I do, it’s healing. Thank you Seán, thank you so much for being you
Thank you for your sharing your struggles Sean, you've helped me through some very dark times in my life and I feel just a bit better knowing I'm not the only one who goes through these struggles.
I woke up from a seizure Thursday night just to hear from my dad that he isn't in love with my mom anymore. I don't know what will happen, but it has taken a huge toll mental health wise and I've been trying not to grab a carver and use it against me.
Mental health is something that needs to be worked on for everyone, even the ones we see through a screen and pretend like we know their life when in reality, we don't. Life sucks for everyone now and then, but we can all overcome it. Good luck, Jack. I believe in you.
I am so so sorry to hear that. Know that whatever happens with your father and mother, in the end you will get through it. It's hard to believe that you'll get through the hard times when you're drowning in them, but I promise that I personally have gone through hard times and come out on the other end.
I hope that your mental and physical health can improve somehow. I'm rooting for you, and hoping you and your family can get through your hard times.
I feel for you deeply, and I can understand how hard it can be to hear a parent doesn't love the other anymore. It shatters your stability, and a divide is created in the household. More than anything, stability at home is needed, but it doesn't always play out that way. My mom has had two divorces and has moved from house to house with me and my brothers since I was a baby. You learn how to adjust the best you can in those situations, but it is still hard. Despite the constant change and even feelings of hatred between my parents, I have endured. Your parents will always love you deeply whether they stay together or not. There are a lot of people who can support through this huge change. The best thing you can do is not ignore how you feel and reach out to others for help. It will get better and I wish you only the best. I apologize for the long message, but I want you to know that I get it. Whether you are religious or not, I will keep you in my prayers. 🫶
I’m so sorry to hear what you are going through. I have not been through something like that but I have been through tough times concerning mental illness and mental health and I can tell you personally that Jesus Christ has helped me with my struggle. I encourage you to go to Him as well, because since He helped me, and continues to help me, I believe that He will help you too.
I sincerely hope you feel better
sending all my love to you and your family❤❤I couldn't imagine going through something like that
when I was younger, I woke up in the middle of the night only to hear my mother say "I don't want to live anymore", which my father responded to with silence. In retrospect, that might explain a lot of things I went through as a kid (seeing as at least one of my parents has an untreated mental condition), but I also hate the fact that I see parts of her that I hate in me, and I've said these words, too.
Thank you for sharing your struggles, Seán. I'm 36 and finally got help with my anxiety that I've been struggling with my whole life. It's never too late to ask for help, and everyone matters.
Hello random stranger, I hope that you are doing a bit better now or at least otw there, than you were before.
Stay strong.
@rollingblade7582 I'm getting better every day, and that's what matters. One day at a time. Thank you for the kind words
I'm 38 and I am still figuring things out that, apparently, stemmed from back when I was growing up. I'm glad things are getting sorted out, and no it's never late to ask for help. Nor should one be expected to hold things in; it's a heavy burden to do so. Good luck and try to keep that head high best you can moving forward. You'll get it and don't think you are alone as you move forward.
@cyphlor2014 exactly my plan and thought process now. Thanks for your encouragement.
2:32 I miss you, not because you stopped or changed in some nebulous way, but because I grew older and I just don't have the time to actually watch UA-cam videos (pretty much only listening to stuff in the background while I work) but I can't unsubscribe because there's not a time I see you where my day doesn't get even just a little bit better
Yes, this is me too! I have so many videos in my 'watch later' that I don't know I'll ever catch up to. But it's nice having them in the background too sometimes, and videos like these.
This is so wholesome and exactly how I feel too 😢
I really relate you what you are going through. I am actually getting tested for autism next week. I have already been diagnosed with ADHD. It crazy how similar are life experience can be, and yet worlds apart. I also lost connections with old friends and find myself alone. I started streaming on Twitch to challenge myself to make friends, and now I have people i can talk to, but I rely on those people so much. I hope that you continue your journey of healing
Despite how difficult things get, you always know how to make light of everything. We love and support you no matter what!
As someone from Rural Ireland and a fellow Seán with a fairly similar upbringin as yours, you've been a massive inspiration for me since I was 13 and you were a new UA-camr on the scene (Just about 10 years ago now lol). I got a lovely illness called C-PTSD and I have Survived three serious attempts myself and spent time in psych wards and residential hospitals but your vids always helped me through some of the worst times in life. That subnautica series from like 2018 I think? Was especially huge for me during probably the year I ever went through.
I'm a game developer nowadays and a personal major life goal for me is you playing one of my games lol. Just sayin this ain't a beg and I'm giving no hints at what I do and work on, but wanna mention it as it shows how much you and your channel have meant to me in my life. Personally Christmas and my birthdays are the worst times of my year but actually going back and watching that old subnautica series got me through the last one which was the worst in a while and this popped into my feed so I'll be back watching on this run up to Christmas.
Really wish you all the best and I think what you do is truly incredible. Will hopefully be able to tell you all of this one day, not sure how often you're in Ireland nowadays because I'm still stuck here but yea, much love big man and keep the good stuff going.
Good luck, mate!
Hey hon, just want you to know we aren’t just here for Sean, we’re here for you too. We may be complete strangers, but you can count me as a friend
Coming from Gab's community, learned to know you since then. Sending love through my psychic powers haha! You're awesome, take care of you Jack.
Sean you do not know how much I love you for opening up about Mental Health! I had followed you for a very long time but I moved March of 2022 and I don't have a computer anymore, UA-cam is iffy on my Kindle (aka Amazon Fire). You have always been honest and open. Keep it up and know you are loved very much by a lot of people.
I cannot overstate how grateful I am to hear you talk about mental health issues. It's so nice to see someone who also has the AuDHD and C-PTSD speak so openly about it. Thank you so much for being you!
sorry i'm slow - where in the video did he say he had cptsd? was that in reference to his familial trauma?
@@kelsey3576He didn't talk about it but @MachallaNaNaNa was just talking about it
I truly appreciate you making this video, Jack. In my case, not asking for help took me to the brink of suicide, and although it may seem ridiculous or absurd, it was the look and the desperate barks of my dog that stopped me from taking the pills. I asked for help, received my diagnosis of bipolar disorder type 1, and have been in treatment and therapy since then. Asking for help is not easy, and continuing the treatment is not either. Mental health is important, and having people like you who can share their testimonies and organize such massive events on this topic is a real gift. I’m grateful for your existence, man. Thank you!!!
there are actually psychiatric services doggies who can make sure you take your meds/get out of bed at certain times, and can tell when you are acting differently/dangerously. i really need one. sending love! (also bipolar)
Doesn't sound absurd at all. Bless the doggos, they know when something's wrong. Glad you're still here. You're worth the time it will take to a better place.
Bipolar 1 haver, here, too! My diagnosis came when I had a manic episode with psychotic features, what fun. X'D
@Phantomile06 Thank you so much for your words!
@@RaeRaenicorrrn Sending love to you aswell
Thank you for spreading this awareness, and normalising talking about bad mental health for the young people who watch you
Not just the young (though they are important and valid!) but the young at heart too! ❤❤
I actually hate myself, I have ocd, mood disorder and had been physically abused for years by someone who I loved the most.
I wish I was normal. Sometimes ppl think it’s cool to have a disorder, if they had it like you and me they wouldn’t wish it upon anyone including themselves.
I also hate seeing ppl get emotional or talk about this topic but at the same time I feel relieved that someone is talking about it.
Maybe it’s defence mechanism. Like it’s impossible for me to feel vulnerable like you it is so painful I try to forget or ignore it. Like I shut down.
I hope you find peace ❤
2017 was one of the worst years of my life, but i would listen to Jack & that got me through. In 2024, im having a hell of a time as well & I see this video. I wish you peace & happiness dude.
last year was the worst year of my life
@@idkhonesty-78 it always gets better
Sean, I am 57 years old and have finally been able to reflect inwardly and think and realize that "I am not the only one!" I have realized that hearing you express yourself, allows me to know that I need to talk and have had open conversations with my wife and close friends. So from me I wish you a huge THANK YOU and happy thankmas!
As a 43 year old here with you, feel free to reach out! We're here, and happy to talk, I am at least. 💜
Heyo Gen X here too (Gen X club!). Self-awareness is the starting place - you can get to better places from here. It's tough to ask for help, but I'm sure your wife & friends want too - you can do this!
im at the lowest point in my life rn. ive lost everyone, i have nothing, and ive lost my passion for all my talents and hobbies. its been a struggle to keep going, ive been avoiding my responsibities even if it hurts me because i would rather rot. the only thing i can get myself to do is watch youtube and sleep. at a time like this, ive been seing a surprising amount of mental health videos from the creators i watch. i may be alone, but at least i know im not the only one going through difficulties.
I'm really sorry to hear you're going through a dark time. Hope things start getting better for you soon.
There's always hope that tomorrow will be better. Even if it's not there's the chance that it could be and trying to get through is worth it. Promise, you're not alone.
Please consider calling 988 (in the US) to talk to someone. Or find a therapist (online or otherwise). Take it from an online stranger who went through what you are going through: things can get better. I am so sorry. Sending virtual hugs and good thoughts.
i’m going through the same thing, i got admitted to the psych ward for the first time in my life a month ago and i’ve been doing bad since i’ve been out. i’ve cut off all my family and my friends stopped talking to me. it’s like i have no one but myself, and with all these responsibilities with going to school and doing homework is so hard. my home life is like a parasite, it just sucks the absolute soul out of me. i hope you see better days, just take it one day at a time. don’t pressure yourself, if all you can do is lay in bed, that’s better than being dead. try to accomplish small things, like standing up, or getting something to eat. i love you, you got this, please be kind to yourself :)
I'm in pain as well
Jack thank you so much for this and making me feel much less alone than I feel most of the time.
I actively cried watching this because of the strength of the feeling of "I'm not alone". Take care of yourself, Jack. You deserve it.
Sean, I just wanted to say that your video truly made me tear up and cry when you shared news about your upcoming diagnosis. I am so happy but also so sad at the same time for you, as a fellow autistic seeking official diagnosis at the same time too. Living such a huge part of your life not knowing why you're different, why things are so hard for you when they don't seem as hard for others, so many questions left unanswered, it's very painful. Especially as you’ve also been diagnosed with ADHD as an adult, passing unnoticed by the system due to lack of awareness in the 90s. I wish you the best on your diagnosis and post-diagnosis journey.
Thank you so much for sharing this and more details for the sake of awareness, it's very helpful to know someone you watch for well over a decade is in fact so much more similar to you than you thought. Even down to alcoholism and violence being a part of your childhood experience as well, it’s very well known for me too. Definitely will be tuning in for Thankmass this year as well, fingers crossed to reach and surpass your goal!
You've got this Jack. I'm autistic and adhd myself and I know just how much hell your own brain can put you through between the thoughts raging through your head and everything going on around you. Every step of everyday is a fight worth fighting! We all love you and we always will no matter what.
I feel this, I think its honestly hard to "prioritize" yourself when you struggled with that all your life with people who never really treated you as someone important. I recently had to get out of a relationship who as much as I know she isnt a bad person, she also just was pushing me to my limits and I was feeling really weak. Im at the point now where I got good people i can talk to about it in my life but knowing I cant "fully depend" on them which is ok.
thank you, jack. this helped more than i can explain in a comment.
Male ex hospital worker here. Talking about stress, excessive burdens, and all that as well as the mental health burdens it places on people are massive. Thank you for being open with your experiences with your platform.
I had a devastating 2020 and 2021 as an inpatient hospital worker, and that male 30s loneliness mixed hard with avoiding people because I was around the Covid patients regularly and could never guarantee I wouldn't get what friends I could see sick. It was a hell that got very dark, and therapy was a massive help.
Thanks for speaking on your journey, again. The only way the world will change to accept that people have struggles is to show that they occur instead of keeping things locked behind closed doors.
5:21 The answer is yes, we would miss you. That being said, you should live first and foremost for yourself, and not be dependant on external validation: not only because it can be fickle, but ultimately because other people can't judge you better than yourself. It's important to be open to criticism, but you still need to consider if it makes sense considering the big picture of your life (your own experiences, feelings and values).
More than he could possibly ever understand, he means so much to so many of us
This is my biggest problem. External validation factors into my every day life. It's a difficult beast to over come.
@@mariahpropes2503 To some ex-tent that de-sire is just na-tural (lo-ve and be-longing are even in Mas-low's hierar-chy of nee-ds), but it be-comes an iss-ue if you let it over-power in-ternal va-lidation (which is gui-ded by your own va-lues and go-als). To me the break-through on that as-pect ha-ppened when I star-ted to lea-rn more about socio-logy (Cra-sh Cour-se Sociol-ogy - hos-ted by Ni-cole Swee-ney - is great, btw), and re-alized that de-pending on ex-ternal va-lidation (which ma-nifests as so-cial sancti-ons) is ba-sically lett-ing your-self be con-trolled by pe-ople who mi-ght not have your be-st in-terests at heart.
As cli-ché as it sound-s, "be-ing your-self" (it's even a thing in phi-losophy/existentia-lism, called au-thenticity) is rea-lly im-portant (since you can't say you're really accept-ed if you're acti-vely pur-suing accep-tance). You're the only gua-ranteed a-lly you'll al-ways have, and the most qua-lified ju-dge of your own li-fe (which is not to say other peo-ple can't o-ffer va-lid cri-ticism, but a lot of it might come from a set of va-lues different from yours).
I am so thankful for you, i have been following you since 2015. When you started the pma thing in 2017 that was so helpful for me! I finally was able to name my struggles. I am so thankful for your vulnerability and talk about these topics
"Will people even miss me if I was gone?" That hit the spot. We are the same age Seán and in all the years I have been following you and all the thoughts you have shared, I felt that I am not the only one. "I mean look at Seán! He is famous, wealthy, turned his hobby into a prosperous business and yet again, he can bleed like any of us". I really appreciate, that you share with us. I have been struggling for years. Single for... I can't even remember at this point for how long, albeit by choice. I've been doing therapy for a year now and recently I went through a very rough time with my family and something clicked mate. I became more serene. Started approaching the everyday life calmer. But that thought: "Will people even miss me if I was gone?". Damn it still hits hard, although I know there are people who would miss me dearly. Thank you for sharing
Thank you, Jack. ♥
Looking forward to Thankmas!
Thank you Jack, I really needed this. I'm 20 with ADHD and you know how the 20s are full of confusion not knowing what to do. I am an animation major interested in game design and your videos inspired me as a kid to get into this to one day maybe see you play the games I've worked on. I know I'm just feeling so down even when I'm probably better off than others. The moment I entered this major I felt everything crumble, Ai taking out jobs, the corporates using us animators in general and throwing us away on top of that my university barely taught us important things required to get into the industry I have been left to fend and understand for myself, my college is apparently a scam. I want to do what I love which is creating animations, art, modelling, and creating environments but I don't have enough money to pursue a master's or anything at all, I am an only child to my parents so everything falls on my shoulders. I don't know what to do where to go who even am I. I see others in different lines achieving success and I can't help but feel lost even more. What am I doing with my life? I am a nobody
@staraluminumltd I feel your struggle. I've always wanted to pursue music, but colleges don't typically focus on the arts, and the music industry is disgusting. Doing it on my own, learning everything, feels impossible. It can make you feel like you aren't enough. It makes you wonder if something that means so much to you will ever be able to pay your rent. It's okay to feel lost. To question if it's worth it when odds stock up against you. I'd like to try my best to chase my dreams even if it fails, because what am I doing in life if im not doing what I love? I understand your struggle with music myself, to not have money to fall back on. I'm lucky enough to have a great sister. I want you to keep chasing your dream. Because if it fills your heart, then it's always worth it.
Pls know that you're not alone 20s are supposed to be like this or so they say...I sometimes find it very hard to be soo confused with everything that I'm doing and I guess reading about your concerns made me feel like I'm not alone and so I wanted to let you know that we will make it one day even though everything seems a bit blurry and confusing
@@madison4707 Thank you, Thank you so much I really needed this. I have no one to vent out to cuz no one understands. I really appreciate it
Im an only child too i kind of get it im lost too but i haven't given up yet so stay strong
I feel the same brother
I'm in 20s too and I'm confused, exhausted and frustrated because I don't know what to do I'm the only child of my parents just like you and i feel that responsibility crushing me
All my friends are doing something but here I'm rotting doing almost nothing and isolated lonely cuz all my friends are gone to different places now I've no friends and i feel that loneliness everyday
It's really hard mentally
I feel like a loser everyday and it hurts... Hurts alot
love you sean. i've also gone throuh a lot of mental health stuff in my life, 2017 was also probably the worst year of my life. but now i'm in a place where i genuinely don't think about mental health that much. it's so nice. anyway, gonna meet a friend to go foraging for materials to make our own wreaths with; also wanted to say i also happen to be wearing my nirvana shirt today! hope you're doing well whenever it is you read this (sean or otherwise); you're not alone.
Cant wait for thankmas! First year ill be able to afford to donate, its so important that youre doing this sean ❤
same, i’ve been watching for 5 years and i’m finally able to donate this year. i’m so excited
I'll also be able to donate, wont be a crazy amount but it'll be something
For me, been abused my whole life and have CPTSD because of it. I worry about falling behind because my brain sees myself as that scared child, but what has brought a lot of comfort was remembering.. Its everyones first time on earth too
EVERYONE is just a child in an adult's body. We're all the same people we were as kids. Our vulnerabilities are ironed out as we age, but some people were permanently wrinkled.
Being different doesn't make you less than anyone else. Being damaged doesn't make you broken. Being scared doesn't make you weak.
It's perfectly ok to be yourself. You're the only one who is going to live your life, only your opinion matters. As long as you aren't causing wrinkles that other people have to try to iron out, you're already the best you that you can be.
You’re stronger than you might think, hope you’re ok
I love this mentality so much, and it really resonates with me as an anthropologist. All of existence was made up by beings trying to make sense of the world. Nothing is "wrong," and nothing is "right;" it just exists.
(Which isn't to say that actions and behavior should therefore be excused; harmful behavior is still harmful).
But I never thought of it that way, as "everyone's first time on earth." Thank you for sharing this!!!
Yeah bro, aint nobody better than you man, we all the same.
i can see why you have that pfp
Coincidently, this month has been one of the hardest in terms of mental health. Haven't been this depressed in a while. Thank you for being so open and vulnerable.
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Been in a pretty bad place mentally for a while now. Thank you for making this video. It made me feel less fucked up.