im still on marcus side, bro was probably way over his head with the whole thing, and OP being mad at him for not picking the absolute best decisions in that fuckfest of a situation must suck Edit: really happy about OP talking to Marcus, coz in the scale of fucking up from 1 to 10, he was a solid 1, so it felt he was cracthing strays, also i say take the money and dont talk to the ex, the money isnt actually dirty, its not coming from the ex itself, the dad is more liek taking responsability for his son BS, so i say the money is good.
Marcus was more a 3 than a 1. He knew his best friend cheated on Op and continued the weekend anyways for his own gain. In all the rest he was solid, but that one part is just sad.
It’s shocking how some people risk everything right before the wedding. Commitment means leaving the ‘single life’ behind-good for you for standing up for yourself!
I do hope OP gives us a couple more updates after a few months ... seems this case is still open. Too bad on her relationship with Dannie, but it's best for everybody according to the therapist... hope Dannie gets the help and move on ...
She is of course not at fault for anything that's happening here but to continuously ask people what to do when she herself already knows the answer? Girl. Be real with yourself. If you want the money, take it and accept you'll feel shitty for it. Reject the money and feel good for saying no to an easy manipulation tactic on the father's part. You can't have it both ways. The fact that the father even mentioned her talking to his son again betrays that actually there _is_ an implication that he wants to butter you up with money so you'll give his rapist son a chance. I would also take into account how Dani would feel knowing you're still in regular contact with that family and even considering talking to that man again. Just saying. Obviously a tough choice to make but again, can't have it both ways.
from what i could tell: alex - op’s ex dani - alex’s former best friend, was sa’d by alex, jeb, and another unnamed friend marcus - stopped dani’s sa by beating up jeb and the unnamed friend, failed to tell op about the whole story of the sa and alex cheating on her daniel - did not participate in dani’s sa, unclear if he helped stop it but he helped her get away, allegedly remained in touch with alex so everyone cut him off jeb - sa’d dani along with alex and another unnamed friend
Nothing he says will make it better but the phone call would be cathartic for her to let everything out at him
You deserve honesty and respect, not betrayal and lies 💔
im still on marcus side, bro was probably way over his head with the whole thing, and OP being mad at him for not picking the absolute best decisions in that fuckfest of a situation must suck
Edit: really happy about OP talking to Marcus, coz in the scale of fucking up from 1 to 10, he was a solid 1, so it felt he was cracthing strays, also i say take the money and dont talk to the ex, the money isnt actually dirty, its not coming from the ex itself, the dad is more liek taking responsability for his son BS, so i say the money is good.
Marcus was more a 3 than a 1. He knew his best friend cheated on Op and continued the weekend anyways for his own gain.
In all the rest he was solid, but that one part is just sad.
I don't really get this cheating before married thing. You already in committed relationship, marriage or not, it still cheating.
It’s shocking how some people risk everything right before the wedding. Commitment means leaving the ‘single life’ behind-good for you for standing up for yourself!
I do hope OP gives us a couple more updates after a few months ... seems this case is still open. Too bad on her relationship with Dannie, but it's best for everybody according to the therapist... hope Dannie gets the help and move on ...
She is of course not at fault for anything that's happening here but to continuously ask people what to do when she herself already knows the answer? Girl. Be real with yourself. If you want the money, take it and accept you'll feel shitty for it. Reject the money and feel good for saying no to an easy manipulation tactic on the father's part. You can't have it both ways. The fact that the father even mentioned her talking to his son again betrays that actually there _is_ an implication that he wants to butter you up with money so you'll give his rapist son a chance. I would also take into account how Dani would feel knowing you're still in regular contact with that family and even considering talking to that man again. Just saying. Obviously a tough choice to make but again, can't have it both ways.
Op should really take the money, call Alex and say "Never try to contact me again, I'm heartbroken on what you did, this is the closure I need".
Marcus isn’t at fault in my opinion. He also had a lot going on. And I would take the money without question. And no to talking to the ex
oh my god this is impossible to track why would she use names
Maybe you’re just stupid?
It’s not impossible to track. Gain some reading comprehension 🙄
from what i could tell:
alex - op’s ex
dani - alex’s former best friend, was sa’d by alex, jeb, and another unnamed friend
marcus - stopped dani’s sa by beating up jeb and the unnamed friend, failed to tell op about the whole story of the sa and alex cheating on her
daniel - did not participate in dani’s sa, unclear if he helped stop it but he helped her get away, allegedly remained in touch with alex so everyone cut him off
jeb - sa’d dani along with alex and another unnamed friend
Bruh what? 😂