Schema Mode Therapy: Perfectionistic Overcompensator
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- Опубліковано 2 сер 2024
- 'Perfectionistic Overcompensator' is a schema mode commonly adopted in highly productive people. But it can lead to problems in relationships and can result in increased stress and burn out. Jess explores the function and the dysfunction of this schema mode.
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Fantastic!! clear and insightful.
I love learning about psychology and what a lecturer; you are so beautiful.
Amazing video, thank you so much!!!!
Thank you. Clear summary of this schema.
Excellent!! So well explained. Looking forward to more videos like this one
Great video as always Jess.
Very helpful. Thank you so much for sharing
Thank you for sharing this
This was really useful, thanks a lot!
Thank you. this helped me out.
Great vid! Important subject to express professional insight about. Perfectionism seems like a real mental health epidemic in many communities, and in all walks of life. I recently made a channel to discuss similar topics, and I appreciate your perspective and knowledge. Thanks again!
Loved it..!
luv this
Pretty helpful 👌
Hey everyone, the handout is up on the website www.thepsychcollective.com/perfectionistic-overcompensator-mod
thanks
You’re welcome
Sounds like Unrelenting Standards & Failure with Overly Demanding Parent. Externalize the parent in the journal...balance with reflection of Healthy Adult, lower standards to the rate of Flow state, in comes Happy Child.
Is there a schema behind a problem solving mindset? I thought it was just an overlap of this schema and the punitive critic but I dont have this overcompensator schema
Thank you for this video Psych Collective. I find that I have a strong overcompensator mode, which often manifests in the form of cognitive overthinking. In terms of managing this I have tried at times in past to refocus my attention back to the present moment. However, I’ve recently gotten confused if this may constitute avoiding emotions that may also be present (VC mode), and hence have stopped the practice, which has led to further overthinking/distress. I wanted to confirm if refocussing attention from overcompensator to present does not constitute emotional avoidance?
Stopping the overcompensation is more about stopping behaviours. You still need to feel the emotions so bring in your Healthy Adult to validate the emotions skilfully.
@@thePSYCHcollective unfortunatley my overcompensator largely occurs in the cognitive form of overthinking about how to deal with distress, analysing situations and researching etc. At times there are no emotions present and sometimes the overthinking itself leads to emotions of confusion, fear and frustration. Recently the desire to not avoid emotions has led to greater hyper-villigance which actually drives and allows the overcompesator/ overthinking. Hence, do yo think perhaps a better approach is to use meditation/grounding tools to acknowledge the overcompensator based thoughts/emotions and the return focus back to present moment? Perhaps when emotions are really strong then one can also focus on soothing?
@the PSYCH collective, can you please provide some guidance on this it is causing a great deal of concern and confusion?
Sameer Choudhari these are really detailed and complicated questions, so I think it would be best for you to explore this further with your own therapist.
the PSYCH collective thanks. Do you provide one-on-one therapy as well, or are aware of any good schema therapists in Sydney?
I hope that one day I will have a beautiful and kind girlfriend like you.
Thank you, and I will try to focus on self compassion.
where's the planned recovery vid
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This is very useful to understand how my coping mechanisms work!
Although, min 6:24 “they have their own schemas going on”, which one are you referring to in this specific case? I observed that this one fact type of treatment reinforces my maladaptive perfectionistic overcompensator a lot.
So there’s a kind of an ironic paradox: the perfectionist coping mode that’s trying to prevent failure is ‘accomplishing’ precisely that?
Sometimes. There will be times when the PO nails it, so the VC feels protected and everything seems alright. Other times the PO can’t achieve perfection because it’s unattainable or due to exhaustion and that’s when the problems start, because the Demand Parent has an over-the-top response that triggers a shame spiral for the VC.
@@thePSYCHcollective Thanks! I recognize what you’re saying also in clients with (traits of) ocpd.
Maybe if you would been around 40 years ago.
If your ever in the states I would love to talk to you over lunch!
The only time it's good enough is when I say F**K IT!!!
What a woeful communicator. Mkay! yeah nah.