Right?! Once it clicked in my head I’m like, wow that was so simple how did I not figure that out years ago?! But like idk it just never clicked until now. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ but I’m glad it did! For me and for you! Always happy to help 💛
I think this is currently what conflicts me most about possibly going on Estrogen. I’ve always been assumed gay/queer since literally childhood, it’s such a huge part of my identity and the way i navigate the world. And like, the people I’m into are usually gay or guy-leaning bi guys & idk being black and not thin makes the dating/hookup scene hard enough & ig im worried abt adding another reason for people not to “pick” me, you know? It seems like hormones would be almost self defeating in that sense i guess. But that said even tho there is a gap where ur into women and I’m not it is rlly helpful to have someone amab and non binary be so transparent about all this! Rn my general idea is learning makeup and growing my hair out j to see how those feel, and looking into hrt depending on if the cosmetics feel like “enough” for me or i want “more.” I might even look into going to beauty school j to have a place to learn lol. But seriously thanks for what you do!! I’ve only watched one video and like 3/5 this one and it’s already helped!
That makes sense about worrying about “not being picked” and that adding “trans” to your identity can sometimes make dating/hookups more complicated or less likely to happen. As far as gay/queer being a big part of your identity. I totally get that! When I came out as a trans woman I felt so strange that I wasn’t “gay” anymore (before I realized I was actually non-binary and also liked women as well). I’d say just do whatever feels comfortable, and it’s totally fine to take baby steps if you’re not sure what direction you want to head in! I think learning makeup and growing out hair is a great place to start since you can always cut your hair short again or stop wearing makeup if it doesn’t feel right. As for beauty school-yes!! Go for it!! I’m a hair stylist (have been for about 7 years now I think). Plus you’ll learn a lot of things that you can try on yourself as you mentioned! Best of luck to you and everything your headed towards/figuring out 💛
Plenty of dudes out there who like Trans Women. I am one, but Trans Women and Real Women is what I like and attracted to. I am only attracted to Femininity/someone who is passable
So im bi and genderfluid, but when I was on estrogen I definitely was more attracted to men. Now that I'm off estrogen I'm more attracted to women. It's weird, but my sexuality is tied to my genderfluidity. When im feminine im attracted to men more, when im masculine im attracted to women more. But definitely, when I was a trans woman , i definitely felt the need to perform extremely feminine in what i thought guys would be attracted to rather than just being me.
Ooo that’s an interesting observation! I think I used to be that way but as of recently (within the past year or so) my gender expression isn’t affected by who I’m attracted to at the time (or vice versa). But I totally get that! 💛
I really identify with your experiences. Well, at least in an aspirational sort of way. Am still mostly attracted to men, but really hope that with my transition that will shift to being more attracted to feminine beings, as I feel that would be sooooo much easier for connection and intimacy.
Thank you for insight into your feelings, it's helps so many people out including myself. I myself am genderfluid. A lot of the things you talk about are relatable for me.
I just came back from a quite depressing family dinner and watching your video made things better. I'm still not quite sure what gender I'm attracted to, but I can relate a lot to the "performative" aspect of femininity when you're AMAB and trans. I hope to get to the point one day where I can just be myself.
I’m happy my video was able to help you feel better, tho I’m sorry about having a depressing family dinner. You deserve to be yourself and be happy. Keep hanging in there 💛💛💛
I always love watching your videos! You explain how you feel so clearly and it really helps sometimes with those ahh haa moments where I can relate in a way. And the explanation is like a light switch in my head like …. “OHHH, ok that makes sense!” Thank you as always!
It's so nice to know you Bryn. I have a very similar gender identity as you, and indeed it's so hard to find people like us. Good luck with everything!
I think we feel that way a lot because of the typical male gaze. Like you said movies and tv shows only show masculine men and fem women together. And usually amab peoples gender deviance is penalized in media, or used as a punchline to a joke. So much we feel we have to put up this hyper fem idea to be accepted/loved. I think a lot of cis women feel this way too, just because how demanding the male gaze can feel or be. Love this video. Thanks for your content :)
Bryn, there's no reason to apologize for not responding immediately! I think we all know that you have a lot going on, and I would assume a lot of comments to respond to. You've responded to me a few times on FB and I greatly appreciate it! I've figured out that I am non-binary demigirl. I would say a bit tomboyish, but yeah. You've helped me out -- A LOT! Thank you Bryn! Anyway people, Bryn DOES reply, and just be patient! 🥰💖
I’m glad you’ve figured out more about yourself and your gender! And I’m glad I was/am able to be a part of the process of you figuring that all out 😊 and thank you for the reassurance, I’ve never actually had anyone upset with me for taking too long but I just don’t want people to think I’m ignoring them and I worry 😭 thank you for your support 💛💛💛
I got to spend the night with girls🤣😂. I also was protected in Boy Scouts. I wasn’t bullied and the older scouts looked out for me. I know that’s weird but I have had it pretty easy. Now have I been called (faggot) of course but I was never tortured as a child. I have seen it but thank God I haven’t.
That’s so awesome you’ve had such a great experience. That’s exactly how it should be to be gay or trans (minus getting called a faggot, obviously). I’m really glad you didn’t have to deal with a lot of the hardships that can come with being queer! 💛
🎼🎶"Girls Will Be Boys & Boys Will Be Girls It's a Mixed Up Muddled Up Shook Up World..." (The Kinks) 🎼🎶"He's Got His Mother in a Whirl 'Cos She Don't Know If He's a Boy or a Girl..." (David Bowie) ... Well Bryn u've certainly done MY head in with this explanatory vlog! Ur so sweet tho - I'd like to adopt you😂
I'm a crossdresser, and being a girl is a kink for me. But at the same time I don't like when people call me a girl in everyday life. It feels really annoying when I date men. I definitely don't feel like a woman.
the "guys can like androgyny" seems really simple but omg?? how has this never crossed my mind either :D love ur channel bryn!!
Right?! Once it clicked in my head I’m like, wow that was so simple how did I not figure that out years ago?! But like idk it just never clicked until now. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ but I’m glad it did! For me and for you! Always happy to help 💛
The shit you have done for baby trans people is wild thank you so much ♥
That makes me so happy 💛💛💛
I think this is currently what conflicts me most about possibly going on Estrogen. I’ve always been assumed gay/queer since literally childhood, it’s such a huge part of my identity and the way i navigate the world. And like, the people I’m into are usually gay or guy-leaning bi guys & idk being black and not thin makes the dating/hookup scene hard enough & ig im worried abt adding another reason for people not to “pick” me, you know? It seems like hormones would be almost self defeating in that sense i guess. But that said even tho there is a gap where ur into women and I’m not it is rlly helpful to have someone amab and non binary be so transparent about all this! Rn my general idea is learning makeup and growing my hair out j to see how those feel, and looking into hrt depending on if the cosmetics feel like “enough” for me or i want “more.” I might even look into going to beauty school j to have a place to learn lol. But seriously thanks for what you do!! I’ve only watched one video and like 3/5 this one and it’s already helped!
That makes sense about worrying about “not being picked” and that adding “trans” to your identity can sometimes make dating/hookups more complicated or less likely to happen. As far as gay/queer being a big part of your identity. I totally get that! When I came out as a trans woman I felt so strange that I wasn’t “gay” anymore (before I realized I was actually non-binary and also liked women as well). I’d say just do whatever feels comfortable, and it’s totally fine to take baby steps if you’re not sure what direction you want to head in! I think learning makeup and growing out hair is a great place to start since you can always cut your hair short again or stop wearing makeup if it doesn’t feel right. As for beauty school-yes!! Go for it!! I’m a hair stylist (have been for about 7 years now I think). Plus you’ll learn a lot of things that you can try on yourself as you mentioned! Best of luck to you and everything your headed towards/figuring out 💛
Plenty of dudes out there who like Trans Women. I am one, but Trans Women and Real Women is what I like and attracted to. I am only attracted to Femininity/someone who is passable
So im bi and genderfluid, but when I was on estrogen I definitely was more attracted to men. Now that I'm off estrogen I'm more attracted to women. It's weird, but my sexuality is tied to my genderfluidity. When im feminine im attracted to men more, when im masculine im attracted to women more. But definitely, when I was a trans woman , i definitely felt the need to perform extremely feminine in what i thought guys would be attracted to rather than just being me.
Omg same
Ooo that’s an interesting observation! I think I used to be that way but as of recently (within the past year or so) my gender expression isn’t affected by who I’m attracted to at the time (or vice versa). But I totally get that! 💛
That is so confusing
@@anonymous-cx7ng Tell me about it lool, but in the past few months I've been getting more comfortable with it
ur vids always make me feel comfy. thx for sharing :)
I really identify with your experiences. Well, at least in an aspirational sort of way. Am still mostly attracted to men, but really hope that with my transition that will shift to being more attracted to feminine beings, as I feel that would be sooooo much easier for connection and intimacy.
Thank you for insight into your feelings, it's helps so many people out including myself. I myself am genderfluid. A lot of the things you talk about are relatable for me.
Always glad to help 💛
I just came back from a quite depressing family dinner and watching your video made things better.
I'm still not quite sure what gender I'm attracted to, but I can relate a lot to the "performative" aspect of femininity when you're AMAB and trans. I hope to get to the point one day where I can just be myself.
I’m happy my video was able to help you feel better, tho I’m sorry about having a depressing family dinner. You deserve to be yourself and be happy. Keep hanging in there 💛💛💛
I always love watching your videos! You explain how you feel so clearly and it really helps sometimes with those ahh haa moments where I can relate in a way. And the explanation is like a light switch in my head like …. “OHHH, ok that makes sense!” Thank you as always!
💛 always glad to help 💛
It's so nice to know you Bryn. I have a very similar gender identity as you, and indeed it's so hard to find people like us. Good luck with everything!
I’m really glad you can resonate with my content 💛
I think we feel that way a lot because of the typical male gaze. Like you said movies and tv shows only show masculine men and fem women together. And usually amab peoples gender deviance is penalized in media, or used as a punchline to a joke. So much we feel we have to put up this hyper fem idea to be accepted/loved. I think a lot of cis women feel this way too, just because how demanding the male gaze can feel or be. Love this video. Thanks for your content :)
I 100% agree. The male gaze really impacts a lot of things-what’s acceptable and/or attractive and what’s not. I’m glad you enjoyed my video 💛😊
Bryn, there's no reason to apologize for not responding immediately! I think we all know that you have a lot going on, and I would assume a lot of comments to respond to.
You've responded to me a few times on FB and I greatly appreciate it! I've figured out that I am non-binary demigirl. I would say a bit tomboyish, but yeah. You've helped me out -- A LOT! Thank you Bryn!
Anyway people, Bryn DOES reply, and just be patient!
🥰💖
I’m glad you’ve figured out more about yourself and your gender! And I’m glad I was/am able to be a part of the process of you figuring that all out 😊 and thank you for the reassurance, I’ve never actually had anyone upset with me for taking too long but I just don’t want people to think I’m ignoring them and I worry 😭 thank you for your support 💛💛💛
Trans woman here. The thought that I could be with a straight guy without the need to perform super feminine is kind of blowing my mind actually..
Right?! That’s exactly how I felt when I realized that was a thing
I got to spend the night with girls🤣😂. I also was protected in Boy Scouts. I wasn’t bullied and the older scouts looked out for me. I know that’s weird but I have had it pretty easy. Now have I been called (faggot) of course but I was never tortured as a child. I have seen it but thank God I haven’t.
That’s so awesome you’ve had such a great experience. That’s exactly how it should be to be gay or trans (minus getting called a faggot, obviously). I’m really glad you didn’t have to deal with a lot of the hardships that can come with being queer! 💛
only reason I like bi more than pan or omni is that the bi flag just looks so good 😛
Ok true 😅🤣💛
🎼🎶"Girls Will Be Boys &
Boys Will Be Girls
It's a Mixed Up Muddled Up
Shook Up World..."
(The Kinks)
🎼🎶"He's Got His Mother in a Whirl
'Cos She Don't Know If He's a Boy or a Girl..."
(David Bowie)
... Well Bryn u've certainly done MY head in with this explanatory vlog! Ur so sweet tho - I'd like to adopt you😂
💛😊
I'm a crossdresser, and being a girl is a kink for me. But at the same time I don't like when people call me a girl in everyday life. It feels really annoying when I date men. I definitely don't feel like a woman.
That makes sense! 💛💛💛
non binary people can come from any backgrounds
Definitely