This is awesome. I have a terrible shadow self, I am often afraid of a part of me that is chaotic and won't make any moves in life unless there is a feeling of complete control. This controlling part of me, I have no idea where it comes from. But I feel it is a part of a shadow self inside. I did feel like about 4 of these shadow selves were somehow a bit like me. This makes me see myself and others in a completely different light.
.Everyone knows how to say things better or to formulate things differently than how I do it. I am starting to doubt whether I can still believe or trust myself. Being insecure is very tiring. I feel stupid for not having a college level. The experiences I have had are unverifiable and many memories I cannot share because I have been alone for too long.
Terrie not everyone has the gift of the gab (communicates brilliantly) most of us struggle and hope we get enough right for others to even understand us at normal level. Sometimes you also have to look at who you are using as your model or who is telling you you are bad at it. Internally often they are no more secure than us. Good communicators have that skill but the lack other skills you may have and they desire so don't write yourself off, be sure someone else hasn't.
thank you for that, this is a list of people I feel I´ve grown out of, partially or fully and it´s being reaffirmed by others as well over the years, now i feel, the reintegration part should kick in, i notice now how different i react to these types when i encounter them in respect to when I was younger, so much so i went back to some to check and I agree that when i set firm bounderies or simply demand things, not even asking for it but they see i want something inside that they can´t give they act out or back off and copt out, i recently had a telling conversation witth a close family member, these are often the last once to notice or rather to accept, he asked me about an old friend he knew and i said we are not in tatsh since some years as she changed and he said, sometimes we dont notice how much we´ve changed ourselfes... gradually loosing intesret in me seeing the old tricks don´t work, i get partially angry but still hold my ground, meaning i´ve changed a lot and i think i did, it´s a healthy path, i´m an adult not any longer a very young one so it´s bout time and i´m happy and a bvit proud about that change, though there are some needs of integrating these left behind types in a better way, so the topics you raise in these videos are helpful, that´s what I´ve been wondering about, I think awarness is important it´s though much easier for me then implementing the new changes, understanding was at the beginning there to a good degree though it seems emotional understanding and action take time and after all couredge and some horror, past the horror stage, cathardic, I´m there in my mind but that´s not enough, I´m in the desert with a coffee and a pen taking notes and the bounderies between narcissism as a stepp to nothingness that should not be the endstage speaks much to me, thank you for your insides, I listen carefully.
Are you positive of this? I don’t wanna doubt u but that’s a crazy thing to assert. hasn’t anything bad ever happened to you? Then why do you think you’re above the psychological consequences of that trauma?
I am pretty sure my shadow is type 5. By using the Search option on your channel, I haven't find anything else about it. Can you please tell us to the video's title that has the advice to handle each shadow type? Thank you.
If you're sure, you should integrate it. He says (Sam Vaknin) that you should now integrate it, he also says in a part of the video, that he will make a video/(s) about it in the future.
@@nothingnessnonarcissism what about austistic individual? since they dont understand certain sociatal rules, then when they do get them, they might experience shame or in this case it wouldnt be called mortification, but something else?
Im 49 years old and this man is as close to Zen any westerner can get. Take him VERY seriously. Wake up!
The gender pronouns are interchangeable
6:56 Number 1
12:30 Number 2
18:25 Number 3
22:50 Number 4
27:13 Number 5
31:22 Number 6
35:50 Number 7
38:59 Number 8
44:45 Number 9
49:50 Number 10
53:30 Number 11
57:12 Number 12
1:02:24 Number 13
1:06:10 Number 14
Wow...the number 14 made me eyes wide open😮 I often refer to a “real me” big time imposter syndrome. I literally have no reason to.
What do we do after knowing our shadow number? 😅
Thank You for the time marks
This is awesome. I have a terrible shadow self, I am often afraid of a part of me that is chaotic and won't make any moves in life unless there is a feeling of complete control. This controlling part of me, I have no idea where it comes from. But I feel it is a part of a shadow self inside. I did feel like about 4 of these shadow selves were somehow a bit like me. This makes me see myself and others in a completely different light.
This is the best holiday photo and truth.
Thnks
🙏 THANK YOU
.Everyone knows how to say things better or to formulate things differently than how I do it. I am starting to doubt whether I can still believe or trust myself. Being insecure is very tiring. I feel stupid for not having a college level. The experiences I have had are unverifiable and many memories I cannot share because I have been alone for too long.
I have almost a PhD and I still feel stupid most of the time.
Terrie not everyone has the gift of the gab (communicates brilliantly) most of us struggle and hope we get enough right for others to even understand us at normal level.
Sometimes you also have to look at who you are using as your model or who is telling you you are bad at it. Internally often they are no more secure than us.
Good communicators have that skill but the lack other skills you may have and they desire so don't write yourself off, be sure someone else hasn't.
This video is a masterpiece!!!!!!!❤
thank you for that, this is a list of people I feel I´ve grown out of, partially or fully and it´s being reaffirmed by others as well over the years, now i feel, the reintegration part should kick in, i notice now how different i react to these types when i encounter them in respect to when I was younger, so much so i went back to some to check and I agree that when i set firm bounderies or simply demand things, not even asking for it but they see i want something inside that they can´t give they act out or back off and copt out, i recently had a telling conversation witth a close family member, these are often the last once to notice or rather to accept, he asked me about an old friend he knew and i said we are not in tatsh since some years as she changed and he said, sometimes we dont notice how much we´ve changed ourselfes... gradually loosing intesret in me seeing the old tricks don´t work, i get partially angry but still hold my ground, meaning i´ve changed a lot and i think i did, it´s a healthy path, i´m an adult not any longer a very young one so it´s bout time and i´m happy and a bvit proud about that change, though there are some needs of integrating these left behind types in a better way, so the topics you raise in these videos are helpful, that´s what I´ve been wondering about, I think awarness is important it´s though much easier for me then implementing the new changes, understanding was at the beginning there to a good degree though it seems emotional understanding and action take time and after all couredge and some horror, past the horror stage, cathardic, I´m there in my mind but that´s not enough, I´m in the desert with a coffee and a pen taking notes and the bounderies between narcissism as a stepp to nothingness that should not be the endstage speaks much to me, thank you for your insides, I listen carefully.
Dr Vaknin, I don't have a shadow. I do not recognize myself in any. Who I Am? OMG. I am just love and light. Help me dr!!!
@@raewynurwin4256 she already knows that it’s not plausible, that’s why she wrote ‘ help me’.
Are you positive of this? I don’t wanna doubt u but that’s a crazy thing to assert. hasn’t anything bad ever happened to you? Then why do you think you’re above the psychological consequences of that trauma?
holy shit nr.13 makes me boil. How can anyone not get pissed hearing that?
Astounding!
I am pretty sure my shadow is type 5.
By using the Search option on your channel, I haven't find anything else about it. Can you please tell us to the video's title that has the advice to handle each shadow type? Thank you.
Is there any further guidance on what to do once you identify your shadow type? Are there names for each one for further analysis? Thanks
Yeah he said he will say what to do with them later, but still haven’t posted anything. At least I haven’t found it
1, and 5 mostly then 9,11,12.
I have identified my shadow now what should I do about it?
If you're sure, you should integrate it. He says (Sam Vaknin) that you should now integrate it, he also says in a part of the video, that he will make a video/(s) about it in the future.
@@CT--jv2ur looks like he still hasn’t made any
Stop I love u 😊
Omg I was just saying the whole "flashback" concept is weird to me.
Which category on the contempt circle (pictured at 2:15) do the series of vignettes start on and does it go clockwise?
Seems like each vignette is an amalgam, if I’m understanding correctly
Professor Sam Vaknin, how many shadows maximally can be in one person as a composite?
14
OK. I see a mixture of 3. A merging over time if u like. Q: can a person experience mortification without being npd pls?
No.
@@nothingnessnonarcissism what about austistic individual? since they dont understand certain sociatal rules, then when they do get them, they might experience shame
or in this case it wouldnt be called mortification, but something else?
Hi, Dr. Sam. Can there be a mix of several changes in one person? Thank you ⭐
This is what he means by "composite. "
@@savagetruthercritic8646 but how many though? Maximum
Type 8 somehow reminds me of a song where this type is also being described in the first verse: ua-cam.com/video/PyxBYbfu6k8/v-deo.html
How do we integrate the parts?