Im trying to fight right now im my marriage i know how i messed up and things got so bad... but im not giving up on love and moving forward with my life... my nerves and mind is everywhere but im willing to go thru it so my wife can realize i can be trusted again and i deserve that second chance. This pain sucks in my heart because i dont want us to hurt and want us to be happy again and stronger for the future.
I feel the same way, i wish i could talk to my wife like he does. I cant tell you how many times that his voice and teachings have atleast gave me hope. I mean my wife is gone to another man but i still have hope. I am a fighter and will not give up on my wife or family.
There are several things for making improvements in your marriage Try to talk more Help each other out more Try to give and take more (I discovered these and why they work from Mirykal Marriage Plan website )
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When marriages hit a rough patch, always great to recognize that changes need to be made to move forward.. but, if one person has emotionally moved on or just doesn’t want to be with you.. then what is to fight for.. hold your head high, take a deep breath and know that you will be ok. Never try to force someone to love you..
There is hope always. You were both in love with each other before. Work on your PIES. It works and it yields good results no matter what it may end up to be.
Yup just was telling a friend this same thing when someone does not want to be with you even God will not force them you have to let it go as much as it hurts you just have to
My husband makes me feel like I shouldn't even be married. Like I feel worthless. I know that I am a good wife...just tired of fighting. I really don't take much advice to leave because of the very reasons Dr beam stated. I'll leave when I'm ready and I think I am. Can't live someone who continue to push me away by ignoring me. I wish every marriage well. ❤️
Hi guys God is faithful ! He did it for me and i know He will do it for you. Work on your P.I.E.S. Physical self Intellectual self Emotional self Spiritual self Use this time to improve in these areas and know that this is for a season and have a peace that what ever happens you WILL be ok by the GRACE of GOD.
Thank you! I needed to hear this. Confirmation that my wife will come back to me and leave the other man. The other man is just for a season. I'm til death do us apart.
Been very discouraged. Worked on every aspect of myself I could and she still went through with the divorce. She acts like I cheated on her or beat her and I did none of that. Things were not a bed of roses but I know people that made it through way worse situations than what we were going through
@@ryanr6607 I'm so sorry for your pain. Was therapy ever considered? Would she go or did she ever talk about finding any help? And good job working on yourself!! That really takes a lot just to be able to see those areas in yourself that need work. I really hope that you're able to find peace in your situation very soon.
This is how I wanted to feel a few months ago when I started seeing the signs on the wall. My ex husband showed a lot of disinterest in the relationship and I was really going to let them go if the wanted. unfortunately I was too curious to know what really happened and if there was something that could be fix in there. He was a gentleman and I trusted but he showed strong signs of infidelity and it made uncertain unwanted most of the time, i wanted to know. My friend told me it was possibe to find out everything without risks through phone spying. she introduced me to a guy " Binaryreap3r @ gmial com " who helped me spy on my ex's phone until I found out he was having a same-sex affair all along. I still let him go but I did that knowing I am totally perfect, I just stopped hurting.
@@Maryladudek My husband has no interest in fixing the marriage either and he ignores me even when I'm being nice. I went a week no contact and it was during my birthday. He send me a giftcard that said he still lived me but when came over to day he was very cold and still wanted a divorce...so idk lol
Why fight for a spouse that just blames me for most....I’d like to stay married, but I’m getting tired of being blamed for about everything under the sun
Many many reasons. One, a covenant. Two, there is a reason your spouse is blaming you- not saying it is you but maybe they are struggling with an unresolved issue. Marriage is always worth the effort.
I don’t know how to fight, I have been avoiding the fight for over a decade. I avoided contact or conversations other than the daily, good morning, being asked about the weather or what I would like to eat. No interest in being at home. It’s a lonely and sad situation. My goal No is waiting to die. No I don’t have cancer or an illness, just have nothing to live for as a goal.
It shouldn't have to be a fight. You just learn to stand strong for what you believe and set your goals to become better and to feel happier, one step at a time.
I am grateful that I am now reading the comments from all of you that are standing up for your marriage, comments that let me know that this world is full of wonderful people! Thank you all for your prayers 🙏 and I am returning your prayers. Thank You my Father God for standing with all of us. I love You! ❤️
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After 7 months of going through the grieving process and healing, working on my PIES with dedication I have now realized how much work I needed to do years ago. I know I took my wife for granted, that I disrespected her, and as you said I want nothing more than to change those behaviors from the past. Today is today and I finally know what unconditional love really means. That I don't love her because of fears but because I love her from my heart. I haven't given up despite external advise as you mentioned because I loved her then when we met and I love her now at a much deeper level. I am not ready to give up on us after 23 yrs. We are a beautiful couple and I know deep inside a small spark is all it takes to win the fight. Until then it's understanding, acknowledgement of the hurt I caused her, and unconditional love, commitment, and I am here still standing.
That's the most beautiful thing i ever heard. Your wife im sure will be so happy to hear that. I know I would. I hope my husband can someday also realized I truly love him and he also loves me unconditionally
You are wonderful!.... I will keep fighting for my marriage even though I know my partner won't trust that I have changed,God understands that I have changed.i hope we can be happy again some day :(
I am told over and over again to run for the hills. But I love her. I see her pain. I see her struggle. And I want to be there for her and help her to get through it. I took a vow. Not many people seem to respect those vows now a days. Thank you. I am fighting for my marriage and my family with everything I have.
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That's basically all that got me through the first three months. Thinking about anything outside that inevitably slid(es) back to that pit. Six months now and still dying over this. Pies...
@@andreytsatsulin5748 I am now divorced, I continue to try my best but sometimes fail yet I don't give up. I have gained peace of mind too and know I did absolutely everything and she did nothing to make it work
Jesse Cunard yea man I have done literally everything. My wife and I are physically separated and no children. She told me she wants a divorce back in February and won’t respond to any of my messages I’ve stopped reaching out for any reason. I pray for hours a day, I have yet to see a success story with no children, physical separation and an intention by a wife to divorce
Please pray for my marriage to be reconciled! It’s been two years of separation, despite us living together with our kids, for the past year because of covid. My wife is basically checked out and rightfully so but I’m believing for a miracle
I don’t know which hurts the worst trying to stay & fight for the marriage or not being able to forget all horrible memories I have. How do I fight the memories?
You stay in the marriage with the person who was cruel to you. The pain you have to live with knowing how much she loved him just makes you sick. Then you want out but there is no out because you will hurt your kids and other family. So you stick in it and get hurt all over again. Endless cycle of hurt, recovery, hurt - People say just forgive. I did that many times. The bad memories always are triggered by his name Luke Freund, the apartments they managed, the restaurants they went to, our house we are still in, seeing hot balloons, certain songs on radio, perfume he bought her, Do you understand what a person goes through when the betrayal and lies lasted for years? The triggers never end. Twice I have had sex with my wife and he has not popped into my mind. Twice! So this is for you Betrayers. You are the meanest, most loathing person I can think of. Thinking only about yourself and not caring about the harm you do to your spouse or your affair partners spouse. You greedy POS.
I'm so sick of being called weak, spineless, codependent, a simp, trauma bonded, or of having Stockholm syndrome. They always tell me to set boundaries and enforce them by leaving but never how to understand what's happening and what my options are. This is the first video out of hundreds I've seen that accurately described what's happening and how I feel about it.
Thank you, I choose to change my decision and be a fighter. Thank you for reminding me that the is still hope and I don't have to make the decision while am still angry.
My wife and I of just over 6 years of marriage and 4 kids have been in different houses for 2 months now and my first reaction was panic and pushed her so far away! My anger drove her to this decision and now I have stepped back have hope and 100% committed to me working on me and changing and working on this marriage even though she doesn’t want to! I still have a fire of passionate love for her and I will not quit! Please pray for a miracle I need this! And marriage helper so far has been a great influence on me and give me hope and I trust them because they know the pain! Thank you marriage helper. I can fully relate to this video because so many people tell me you’re over and leave her and you will never change but I have never been so committed to changing me and working on my marriage in a smart way
Dillards Shopper you will be happy to know i didn’t cheat on my wife! Thank God . Me not taking my anger issue seriously pushed her to this point. And thank you for your kind words and please pray for this miracle of my marriage being saved
I'm there but not seperated. I can only offer my own experience. I'm reading and have been growing so much in my understanding of how God designed us to do relationship, from the book: How To Stop The Pain by Dr. James Richardson. It is so helpful. Very instructive and it's helping me change. Me. Forget about the other person, they are truly not my problem, even though they do things that hurt. We all do. My reactions and how I handle myself and others has to change, and by God's help it finally is. Peace and much love to you and your precious family. In Christ Jesus forgiveness and mercy and rebirth for all. Amen.
70yeshua i am in the same situation, married for ten years have some anger issues in the past but never beat her up or nothing like that, i am very ashamed of myself and the way i have been, i love her more than anything willing to do anything to sort this out but i will never give up and need to sort my anger out if it is to last forever which iam going to. You never relise how precious sumthing is untill theres a threat of it being snatched away i am in pieces.
I'm in this position now I don't want to leave because I really love him but he gets angry easily for simple things n it scares me sometimes I know he loves me but idk what the problem it's like he refused to understand what I'm saying we argue all the time I just don't know what to do anymore I want to leave because I'm unhappy n I don't want to leave because he's a great person just his anger drives me nuts n I don't want to hurt him yet I'm hurting
Depressed because of why? Unrequited love? Hang in there. Yes I know. Amen! Just last evening God worked a miracle for my spouse and me! Thank You my Father, God! Praise God!
Not all relationships are meant to last forever, lol. We’ve all been on both sides of it. Also if you are a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath do everybody a favor and stay single!
The first minute and a half described exactly what I'm feeling. I accept blame. I didn't listen. She told me what was wrong and I didn't listen. I'm praying hard that I'm not too late. I love her with all my heart and soul. I just want the chance to prove to her that I'm the good man she married
Its Been 3 Years & Still i am Waiting for that Beautiful Day to Regain My Love to Hold My Wife in My Arms. Its Almost Finished Everything but still i believe in Allah (God) to Help Me And Bless my Family to Reunite for this Relationship. Please Let me know what have to do 🙏
I've been called selfish by my fiance for wanting to keep our union together. I love her and we have a young daughter together. I rarely see them and I'm told I'm controlling for wanting to get back together and remain a family. It hurts so much when she tells me that she doesn't want me anymore but I'm using SMART contact and working on my PIES. I come back to this video every single day to maintain my strength.
@@chrisharris2367 nope. I gave her all the freedom she needed as far as not telling her what to do. Never told her to cook or clean. I think she was projecting her own negatife personality traits on to me to make me the enemy and justify her reason to leave.
My spouse divorced me while deployed. She’s still gone. I’m doing everything I can to fight for my marriage and my relationship. I’m still fighting. It is hard. These videos have helped me and I keep hope and I keep doing what I can for my family. She gets home in a week or two and I will never give up on her.
Yeah…. Should’ve given up, still pending divorce and lost custody after being a single parent for a year because I had a job. Sadly this stuff does work and speaks true. And there are some people, even loved ones, who have nothing good in their hearts.
@@Lexilea68 unfortunately many women make up their minds and that's it. We can turn to God and work on ourselves but can't convince them. Leave that to the Holy Spirit.
I've been married for 16 years and in a weeks time would be 17 years. We have been together for 24 years. 2 months ago I found out my wife was involved in an affair for about 2 years already and she moved out with my daughters to move in with the other man who himself is also married but going through a divorce. I love my wife dearly and am willing to fight but she says she has moved on and feels nothing for me. She has completely cut herself off from the rest of the family and friends, stopped working, given up everything to be with another man and I feel so hopeless yet I don't want to give up. I pray everyday for a change but don't know if I should just quit and give up because I am getting no encouragement from my wife or kids. What else can I do? My hope is fading.
Married 15 together for 24 years so I feel you exactly. Very similar situation and I don't know what to do. We speak daily and I'm still showing my affection. I wish us both luck to our situations.
I'm here now.. after 26yrs,I've never been soo hurt on a day after day basis.. its painful to the point I won't say things I sit here and think.. but something inside keeps telling me "don't give up,she's going through a phase" but im being destroyed inside,i dont know who I'll become after
@@Seven.And.The.RaggedTiger sorry don't see any comments was just wondering how possible it was I've been on track for almost 2months and she is starting to act very warm with me now but still no intimacy yet
Hope. Faith. Is all I have for my marriage. My husband is telling me to wait he will come home when he's ready. I don't know how to take it. But I wait patiently. Even tho it's defiling at times. Its very satisfying at the same time cuz I know I'm being a good woman. If he doesn't appreciate it now. He will one day and know what real love is. Some pole don't know how to love.
I’m in the same position. After 26 years he left without any discussion and it’s been 8 months since my Counsellor advised divorce. He’s been cheating for years and I was blind to it as all I did was work and work some more to keep our dream alive and for our children and our family. I don’t want to give up but can’t hold onto hope if there isn’t any. It has shattered me.
Omgosh my husband is and has done everything is said Except for cheat. He said "I love you but I'm not in love with you" I have every single emotion that he has talked about. I wanna,fight but he doesn't. 😢
This video is my lifeline, thank you Dr. Beam! I re-watch this every time I think of giving up. Your line in here about do what’s important to you is at the heart of my fight. Thank you and MH for everything you do!
This is exactly the feelings I've had and have. I just want to get back to feeling okay inside. I'm definitely fighting in the feelings of hurt and hopefulness!!!!
When people said l must let my marriage go but because l love this woman.l always fight back to protect her and my family although she does not appreciate
How does one fight for something that nobody wants him to have? How do you hope everyday, just to have your dreams crushed by the person you care the most for? How do you hold on, praying for something when all everyone does is try to sabotage it, and ruin things for you? It makes it very, very, very hard.
I completely agree. There is always hope. People can change. The problems that led to wanting the divorce aren’t insurmountable. With communication, patience, and compassion there is nothing that can stand in the way of two people who fight for each other. But it takes two. It takes commitment for change, awareness and empathy to understand that change even needs to happen. At what point do you change so much for the other person, sacrifice, and fight before you realize your partner wouldn’t do the same for you? After the decade you spent with them, they’re willing to let it all just fade into the void? At some point, I suppose the question would be if either party is using divorce as an escape to circumvent the work and struggle of maintaining a healthy relationship- and do you want to be with someone who would do that?
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I’m willing to fight for my marriage of 38 years but my spouse is unwilling and full of rage. I don’t think she’s reachable. I wish I was as fortunate as your clients.
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i feel like i want to die. this pain is unbearable. if anyone has any pointers on how i can save my marriage please oh god please let me know. i dont wish this pain on anyone. no one deserves to feel like this
U r so good. Firstly when u feel sorry for the person who is hurt, that's exactly how a councillor shud be. Sadly a lot of therapists try to find out what mistakes of victim that pushed the other one into infidelity.. I know it's important, but first empathizing with Victim is so important
@Dillards Shopper in a situation where you are living together but 'separated' under the same roof. No kids. I want to save my relationship. What do I do. How do I apply the pies? I'm determined to save my relationship
@Dillards Shopper we don't talk much. Hell only talk when I talk to him. The much he will say is hi and bye. We used to hug and kiss goodbye when he is leaving, then reduced to hug when thinks got shaky, then now it's nothing. No hug no kiss.
@Dillards Shopper no there was no infidelity. And he ain't seeing anyone. It was more of control issues. I always wanted things my way. Plus I think I listen alot to people whose advices threw me off the cliff. My actions towards small differences hurt him. He is a cool composed guy but heck he too is human. So I think they pilled up, until he couldn't take it no more. During the time of my drama he was composed and still loved me. So after he couldn't take it any more he was like 'I've given up on relationships'. Even now as I plan to move out he is concern of where I'll be going to stay. He is still caring but he says he has given up completely on relationships and doesn't see himself going back😭. I've learnt my mistakes and I wanna appreciate him more. He is so broken
My husband doesn’t want me or this marriage. But he has always been the man who is selfless and gentle. He has always been the provider. I gave him love but never provided the way he likes. For many reasons but mainly bc I was in my head thinking He will leave me. But I found peace hope and trust while he just moves to another state leaving me and his daughter. he tells me there is no hope but Right now isn’t the time to take advice from him. He is still in there... I know he loves me. I don’t deserve this pain regardless of what I provide. He loved me regardless.. should I fight because I know my actions will earn my forgiveness. Or let him go because I would never force him to stay.
Richmond Alger he said he did but took it back bc I said as a soldier he committed adultery. He has been denying it since.. it won’t let me inbox you! But I really need any help I can get. This is out of the blue and not like him at all.
I'm in a situation but I am on deployment. She said she wants to separate never said divorce never said I don't love you. But I am halfway around the world I am powerless to stop this. She says she doesn't want anything and still wants to be co parents. I need help our marriage needs help. It doesn't deserve this. My son doesn't deserve this.
I believe there is power in forgiveness and surrendering the marriage to God, then listening to what the Holy Spirit instructs and doing that. It is not a quick fix. It is more a process of learning to love and find true peace in Christ.
I know which one I am, but I’m not sure about my spouse. My assumption is he wants out, because other than words nothing tells me otherwise . I’m so tired of losing, but it doesn’t stop me from fighting for all of the good. The bad is unbearable and unacceptable but There’s SO much good.
When there is abuse including emotional and physical abuse you need to walk away and not tolerate that. Boundaries and self respect are paramount. Working on a marriage is fine but putting up with any type of abuse is not.
Our FIRST Rule is to GET SAFE FIRST! If you are experiencing some sort of abuse, we tell you to get safe, and once both parties are safe, an are WILLING to work on the marriage, THEN you can start to try to reconcile. But GET SAFE FIRST.
Sometimes divorce is like just replacing on set of problem s for another....the bible says that there is only one ground for divorce adultery.....but it also says if one can forgive the error it something beautiful.....
But, both spouses have to be wanting to save the marriage. My husband seems perfectly ok in separate rooms and never touching me or showing affection. I have been to counseling and he refused to go. He asked me if he was the one with the problem why was I the one going to counseling. He takes no responsibility in the marriage.
I fought enough for her , and continue until I'm dead , soon, for my kids ...to have integrity,dignity and eternal love for my family that was hurt by the Jezabel Spirit that destroyed our precious family , due to selfishness. The pain from losing a spouse who cheated ...for years ? And you find out , then find out your precious one in life knew all along but couldn't speak? It's so hard , to hard to forgive . Impossible to think ...she was incredibly mean and hurtful when found out , it was so painful. I'm past alot but not all...I will not live long enough to fix it. Forgive ? Tough one , I try , my self worth is worth more . I want to leave this earth with a good reputation is all as the good man , good Dad , good Husband , I intended to be ....
Its so hard especially when he IS willing and desperate to work it out. He doesn't blame me , he agonizes every single morning over the pain in my face and the insecurity he's given me due to his actions. He couldn't even give a reason for his actions, couldn't give a name to the woman, it was just a pure impulse decision that he can't remember even doing. He only knows in his heart something happened but can't know when or what. He throws himself at my feet begging and telling me how much he doesn't deserve me. He has no pride or desire in what he's done but the repercussions are still the same. All I can do is have faith and pray to God and pray he shows me his light
I tried for a long time. Now I have convinced myself that there were never any good moments or memories to fall back on. Am I clouded? 20 years in and no real foundation. So sorry how that has hurt the children.
Thank you so much for this video. I'm married almost 37 yrs & learned of my husband's infidelity (4x) beginning with our 3rd anniversary. The deception & betrayal, not to mention stealing 34 yrs of my life, has me doubting everything he says. I'm not sure if I will ever forgive him, & I KNOW I will never forget what he's done. Trust no longer exists & I'm not sure well ever get that back. After all these years, we are more like friends with no benefits.
My wife and I have been separated for nearly 2yrs. In Dec. of 2023 she filed for divorce. I really didn’t act on it but I guess I hadn’t hit rock bottom until about 6wks ago. God placed His hand on me and a light was switched on! I’m gonna fight for my wife even if she has checked out. My vows were real and I meant every word. I may have forgotten that for a moment, but God reminded me of what they meant. I love you Darcy! I will fight for you!
I have been fighting to make things work for years. My husband and I argue all the time, but his response is 'why do we have to fight to stay together. It shouldn't be a fight to make things work'. A fight to save a marriage and a family is what I'm talking about. I know our brains work different, so fight to me means keep trying. To him it means continuing to argue.
Sometimes telling one spouse to fight causes them to not let the other one go peacefully which can end really badly. It can make it dangerous for the spouse who has their mind made up to leave.
i am so frustrated. this sounds like me and i have been fighting for 6 years. she wants out around once a year. 2 kids. i fight and fight and fight. and i have won and we are happy for it . but this time looks bleak.
I think when you finally get to a point where you hope they come back and that God can work a miracle in their heart but you are not scared and are at peace if they don’t.
Ana Cristina Morales I’ve been searching and searching for answers and ways to get my wife back but your comment just made my day. I’ve heard it humorous times before but my clouded mind and broken heart wouldn’t let me see it that way.
I think my spouse has real mental issues. From childhood. Feeling rejected by his mom (she gave him up at birth but then got him back at age 5). Alcoholic since 19. We have been married for 18 years. He cheated. Twice. Filed for divorce. Then dismissed it. Then he became abusive. At this point I dont know if I should stay or go...
Dr. How do I fight? We’ve been together 25 years and I’m sure my husband has Limerence behavior, within two weeks he leaves everything we have built over the years. Without pestering him and pushing me farther away from him? I love him to my core and want him back so much. He left me two months ago and went back to California to be with her. I want to fight for him. She is married as well and left her husband as well. How do I fight?
There's nothing left to fight for. This do called marriage has waisted years upon years to just horrible bad quality of life for decades. We're in our 50s and we don't have many years left. I don't want to spend my last years on this earth lonely, disrespected, and vilified in my own home. I'm getting a divorce at all costs ( my fight) so at least one of us can enjoy our last days on this Earth after decades of pure hell. And yes you guessed it right I am the man in this flawed domestic arrangement.
Am going through the most and today was the worst day until i lesten to this, i prayed and took a fast for my husband to come back home, but he is so cold, i dont know this side of him, i was about to give up, am just going through the most he left me knowing am pregnant, i berely sleep am always stressed out, when will this pain end
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My wife doesn’t want to work on the marriage has asked for a divorce and there is no communication, not by my choice. She won’t respond to me at all. we don’t have kids and I’ve prayed every day for months with no change. How do I keep going and how do I know if it’s even possible, there’s no other person, she doesn’t want to be married anymore I haven’t been the best husband but she says she knows I love her but love alone is not enough. I have heard that we must let go and trust God and put him above all else and even above your marriage, but it also says in scripture ask and thou shall receive. So I’m really confused. If we’re supposed to let go let go and trust God, but at the same be fine if He doesn’t restore your marriage it creates a dichotomy that I’m really having trouble navigating. I’m really confused on this journey. I’ve been working on my pies and I’ve worked with a MH coach previously but nothing seems to be helping
It sounds like her mind is made up for whatever reasons. If there was abuse (mine is emotional), this can trigger a sudden desire to be out of the marriage even if you have changed being nice. In essence, the damage is already done. What is the status?
I have to pause the video occasionally to get myself together. It feels as if he is speaking directly to me. Pray for my flight as I pray for yours!
Jeff that is exactly how we stand together and fight the good fight
Same. It hurts. I am going through that and i cant even put into words how i feel.
Put the effort into a prayer and see what happens with how you feel with peace😉
I pray with you guys for your fight as I’m in the same boat🥲
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I can't be the only one that's calmed by this man's heart. His voice is a soothing balm amidst the chaos. Thank you 🙏
Him and his CEO daughter both have calmed my nerves and re-instilled hope in my heart
Im trying to fight right now im my marriage i know how i messed up and things got so bad... but im not giving up on love and moving forward with my life... my nerves and mind is everywhere but im willing to go thru it so my wife can realize i can be trusted again and i deserve that second chance. This pain sucks in my heart because i dont want us to hurt and want us to be happy again and stronger for the future.
@@JohnPinky178 How are you doing now? Are things working out?
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I feel the same way, i wish i could talk to my wife like he does. I cant tell you how many times that his voice and teachings have atleast gave me hope. I mean my wife is gone to another man but i still have hope. I am a fighter and will not give up on my wife or family.
Thank you for going against the grain of the world and speaking hope into what is worthy of hope.
There are several things for making improvements in your marriage
Try to talk more
Help each other out more
Try to give and take more
(I discovered these and why they work from Mirykal Marriage Plan website )
And have you restored your marriage?
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When marriages hit a rough patch, always great to recognize that changes need to be made to move forward.. but, if one person has emotionally moved on or just doesn’t want to be with you.. then what is to fight for.. hold your head high, take a deep breath and know that you will be ok. Never try to force someone to love you..
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There is hope always. You were both in love with each other before. Work on your PIES. It works and it yields good results no matter what it may end up to be.
@@misshairpassionista8378how do I stay focused on the pies? I always think about her being with someone else and forgetting me
Yup just was telling a friend this same thing when someone does not want to be with you even God will not force them you have to let it go as much as it hurts you just have to
Please take a moment and pray for Jeff and Shay to be reconciled in marriage. Thank you.
Its really tough when your partner is refusing to see the improvement and positive changes but focuses on the past hurt.
Word, brother. Hope your situation will get better.
Just keep staying positive she is probably testing you to see if you have really changed thats what they do as much as it hurts
It's really tough to have your heart broken, and the other person expects you to get over it in THEIR timeline. 🤦🏾♀️
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@@lcam9241 exactly!!
My husband makes me feel like I shouldn't even be married. Like I feel worthless. I know that I am a good wife...just tired of fighting. I really don't take much advice to leave because of the very reasons Dr beam stated. I'll leave when I'm ready and I think I am. Can't live someone who continue to push me away by ignoring me. I wish every marriage well. ❤️
Hi guys God is faithful ! He did it for me and i know He will do it for you.
Work on your P.I.E.S.
Physical self
Intellectual self
Emotional self
Spiritual self
Use this time to improve in these areas and know that this is for a season and have a peace that what ever happens you WILL be ok by the GRACE of GOD.
Thank you! I needed to hear this. Confirmation that my wife will come back to me and leave the other man. The other man is just for a season. I'm til death do us apart.
Been very discouraged. Worked on every aspect of myself I could and she still went through with the divorce. She acts like I cheated on her or beat her and I did none of that. Things were not a bed of roses but I know people that made it through way worse situations than what we were going through
@@ryanr6607 I'm so sorry for your pain. Was therapy ever considered? Would she go or did she ever talk about finding any help? And good job working on yourself!! That really takes a lot just to be able to see those areas in yourself that need work. I really hope that you're able to find peace in your situation very soon.
I watch this video each time I question my stand, reminds me why I’m fighting.
Natasha Boudreau how are things now?
This is how I wanted to feel a few months ago when I started seeing the signs on the wall. My ex husband showed a lot of disinterest in the relationship and I was really going to let them go if the wanted. unfortunately I was too curious to know what really happened and if there was something that could be fix in there. He was a gentleman and I trusted but he showed strong signs of infidelity and it made uncertain unwanted most of the time, i wanted to know. My friend told me it was possibe to find out everything without risks through phone spying. she introduced me to a guy " Binaryreap3r @ gmial com " who helped me spy on my ex's phone until I found out he was having a same-sex affair all along. I still let him go but I did that knowing I am totally perfect, I just stopped hurting.
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@@AlarisH How are things with you?
@@Maryladudek My husband has no interest in fixing the marriage either and he ignores me even when I'm being nice. I went a week no contact and it was during my birthday. He send me a giftcard that said he still lived me but when came over to day he was very cold and still wanted a divorce...so idk lol
I'm the only one fighting, literally ready to give up because he's checked out.
Why fight for a spouse that just blames me for most....I’d like to stay married, but I’m getting tired of being blamed for about everything under the sun
Me too im tired
It's not easy.
Many many reasons. One, a covenant. Two, there is a reason your spouse is blaming you- not saying it is you but maybe they are struggling with an unresolved issue. Marriage is always worth the effort.
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This video doesn’t apply to everyone. It’s not realistic no one thing is for or works for everyone.
I pray for God's miraculous healing... I always see hope...
Please pray for my marriage to be reconciled.
I don’t know how to fight, I have been avoiding the fight for over a decade. I avoided contact or conversations other than the daily, good morning, being asked about the weather or what I would like to eat. No interest in being at home. It’s a lonely and sad situation.
My goal No is waiting to die. No I don’t have cancer or an illness, just have nothing to live for as a goal.
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It shouldn't have to be a fight. You just learn to stand strong for what you believe and set your goals to become better and to feel happier, one step at a time.
I am grateful that I am now reading the comments from all of you that are standing up for your marriage, comments that let me know that this world is full of wonderful people! Thank you all for your prayers 🙏 and I am returning your prayers. Thank You my Father God for standing with all of us. I love You! ❤️
Thank you so much Jerry and Dianne Dennison. We truly appreciate your comment and are grateful to have you as part of our community here on UA-cam. Please, don't hesitate to reach out to us if there's anything else we can do for you. We are STANDING WITH YOU! marriagehelper.com/marriage-strategy-call/
Blessings,
After 7 months of going through the grieving process and healing, working on my PIES with dedication I have now realized how much work I needed to do years ago. I know I took my wife for granted, that I disrespected her, and as you said I want nothing more than to change those behaviors from the past. Today is today and I finally know what unconditional love really means. That I don't love her because of fears but because I love her from my heart. I haven't given up despite external advise as you mentioned because I loved her then when we met and I love her now at a much deeper level. I am not ready to give up on us after 23 yrs. We are a beautiful couple and I know deep inside a small spark is all it takes to win the fight. Until then it's understanding, acknowledgement of the hurt I caused her, and unconditional love, commitment, and I am here still standing.
Keep trying
That's the most beautiful thing i ever heard. Your wife im sure will be so happy to hear that. I know I would. I hope my husband can someday also realized I truly love him and he also loves me unconditionally
@@cinthiamartinez4695 if and when she's open to hearing me then I hope so.
@@cinthiamartinez4695 one day I hope she will be able to appreciate it. Right now she is not open to me. Oh well. Patience and persistence.
mikefr12 how's it going?
You are wonderful!....
I will keep fighting for my marriage even though I know my partner won't trust that I have changed,God understands that I have changed.i hope we can be happy again some day :(
How did it go
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Gladys, there is always hope!
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I am told over and over again to run for the hills. But I love her. I see her pain. I see her struggle. And I want to be there for her and help her to get through it. I took a vow. Not many people seem to respect those vows now a days. Thank you. I am fighting for my marriage and my family with everything I have.
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Blessings,
Vows mean something. So many people have no honor and think that vows mean nothing.
100% exactly where I am at, Andrew. I hope whatever happened you found some peace and happiness.
Since she walked out it is now 2 months and I continue to work on myself and use PIES. Thanks to marriage helper I have found strength.
That's basically all that got me through the first three months. Thinking about anything outside that inevitably slid(es) back to that pit. Six months now and still dying over this. Pies...
Any updates?
Mile30 any progress, I’ve rarely seen anyone actually succeeding been doing it for 5 months now
@@andreytsatsulin5748 I am now divorced, I continue to try my best but sometimes fail yet I don't give up. I have gained peace of mind too and know I did absolutely everything and she did nothing to make it work
Jesse Cunard yea man I have done literally everything. My wife and I are physically separated and no children. She told me she wants a divorce back in February and won’t respond to any of my messages I’ve stopped reaching out for any reason. I pray for hours a day, I have yet to see a success story with no children, physical separation and an intention by a wife to divorce
Nothing is impossible with God.
He's talking directly to me..... I'm hurting so badly right now!!!! NO MATTER HOW HARD I TRY!!! Yes, it seems it does get WORSE!!!
Just when I'm about to give up, then this video. I will continue the fight! Thank you!
How are you
Please pray for my marriage to be reconciled! It’s been two years of separation, despite us living together with our kids, for the past year because of covid.
My wife is basically checked out and rightfully so but I’m believing for a miracle
Prayers! Marriage restoration! May it be a stronger and full of more love!
Hang in there man, any updates?
Hope all is well now
I will pray for you right now 🙏🙏🙏 Can you pray for me as well?? I'm desperately trying to salvage my relationship 🙏🙏🙏
I hope your marriage is renewed...
I hope your marriage is renewed...
I don’t know which hurts the worst trying to stay & fight for the marriage or not being able to forget all horrible memories I have. How do I fight the memories?
Make new ones
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Don’t fight, acknowledge them address them (or not) and let them pass. Seek out a good therapist that you connect with. It really helped me!
Forgiveness. It’s hard. It’s a process. It is worth it for you. I am in that process right now.
You stay in the marriage with the person who was cruel to you. The pain you have to live with knowing how much she loved him just makes you sick. Then you want out but there is no out because you will hurt your kids and other family. So you stick in it and get hurt all over again. Endless cycle of hurt, recovery, hurt - People say just forgive. I did that many times. The bad memories always are triggered by his name Luke Freund, the apartments they managed, the restaurants they went to, our house we are still in, seeing hot balloons, certain songs on radio, perfume he bought her, Do you understand what a person goes through when the betrayal and lies lasted for years? The triggers never end. Twice I have had sex with my wife and he has not popped into my mind. Twice! So this is for you Betrayers. You are the meanest, most loathing person I can think of. Thinking only about yourself and not caring about the harm you do to your spouse or your affair partners spouse. You greedy POS.
I'm so sick of being called weak, spineless, codependent, a simp, trauma bonded, or of having Stockholm syndrome. They always tell me to set boundaries and enforce them by leaving but never how to understand what's happening and what my options are.
This is the first video out of hundreds I've seen that accurately described what's happening and how I feel about it.
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My wife filed but I want to keep fighting. I know we can make it work. I truly love my wife!
Did you end up divorced?
Run don’t look back
Thank you, I choose to change my decision and be a fighter. Thank you for reminding me that the is still hope and I don't have to make the decision while am still angry.
I’m going to need to listen to this everyday.
Have you made any progress?
Same im sorry
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My wife and I of just over 6 years of marriage and 4 kids have been in different houses for 2 months now and my first reaction was panic and pushed her so far away! My anger drove her to this decision and now I have stepped back have hope and 100% committed to me working on me and changing and working on this marriage even though she doesn’t want to! I still have a fire of passionate love for her and I will not quit! Please pray for a miracle I need this! And marriage helper so far has been a great influence on me and give me hope and I trust them because they know the pain! Thank you marriage helper. I can fully relate to this video because so many people tell me you’re over and leave her and you will never change but I have never been so committed to changing me and working on my marriage in a smart way
Dillards Shopper you will be happy to know i didn’t cheat on my wife! Thank God . Me not taking my anger issue seriously pushed her to this point. And thank you for your kind words and please pray for this miracle of my marriage being saved
I'm there but not seperated. I can only offer my own experience. I'm reading and have been growing so much in my understanding of how God designed us to do relationship, from the book: How To Stop The Pain by Dr. James Richardson. It is so helpful. Very instructive and it's helping me change. Me. Forget about the other person, they are truly not my problem, even though they do things that hurt. We all do. My reactions and how I handle myself and others has to change, and by God's help it finally is. Peace and much love to you and your precious family. In Christ Jesus forgiveness and mercy and rebirth for all. Amen.
70yeshua i am in the same situation, married for ten years have some anger issues in the past but never beat her up or nothing like that, i am very ashamed of myself and the way i have been, i love her more than anything willing to do anything to sort this out but i will never give up and need to sort my anger out if it is to last forever which iam going to. You never relise how precious sumthing is untill theres a threat of it being snatched away i am in pieces.
I'm in this position now I don't want to leave because I really love him but he gets angry easily for simple things n it scares me sometimes I know he loves me but idk what the problem it's like he refused to understand what I'm saying we argue all the time I just don't know what to do anymore I want to leave because I'm unhappy n I don't want to leave because he's a great person just his anger drives me nuts n I don't want to hurt him yet I'm hurting
Ugh. I want to learn where the communication broke down; I'm guilty of the unresolved anger and 6mo separate.
It's going around a lot it seems.
How to fight for someone when you feel constantly depressed and sad when you see this person?
You don't, you quit fighting.
Depressed because of why? Unrequited love? Hang in there. Yes I know. Amen! Just last evening God worked a miracle for my spouse and me! Thank You my Father, God! Praise God!
@@jerryanddiannedennison5644 praise God.
You're right- God never gave up on our unrequited love for Him.
Get some help, work on yourself to cope with these emotions so they don't get the best of u.
Keep praying too that does work.
Let us pray that my spouse will agree to this.
Im a fighter.
Not all relationships are meant to last forever, lol. We’ve all been on both sides of it. Also if you are a narcissist, sociopath or psychopath do everybody a favor and stay single!
God gives everyone uncondicontional love and He wants everyone to be happy!
The first minute and a half described exactly what I'm feeling. I accept blame. I didn't listen. She told me what was wrong and I didn't listen. I'm praying hard that I'm not too late. I love her with all my heart and soul. I just want the chance to prove to her that I'm the good man she married
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I'm 58 married and I am a warrior I'll fight for someone I love whose 76 and a widower thank u dr for sharing this❤😘
Its Been 3 Years & Still i am Waiting for that Beautiful Day to Regain My Love to Hold My Wife in My Arms. Its Almost Finished Everything but still i believe in Allah (God) to Help Me And Bless my Family to Reunite for this Relationship.
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May make it easy for you.
I've been called selfish by my fiance for wanting to keep our union together. I love her and we have a young daughter together. I rarely see them and I'm told I'm controlling for wanting to get back together and remain a family. It hurts so much when she tells me that she doesn't want me anymore but I'm using SMART contact and working on my PIES. I come back to this video every single day to maintain my strength.
Are you controlling? Do you try to tell her what to do?
@@chrisharris2367 nope. I gave her all the freedom she needed as far as not telling her what to do. Never told her to cook or clean. I think she was projecting her own negatife personality traits on to me to make me the enemy and justify her reason to leave.
My spouse divorced me while deployed. She’s still gone. I’m doing everything I can to fight for my marriage and my relationship. I’m still fighting. It is hard. These videos have helped me and I keep hope and I keep doing what I can for my family. She gets home in a week or two and I will never give up on her.
Read Scripture on God's commands against divorce. Tell her you want to be the man she needs.
Update?
Yeah…. Should’ve given up, still pending divorce and lost custody after being a single parent for a year because I had a job.
Sadly this stuff does work and speaks true. And there are some people, even loved ones, who have nothing good in their hearts.
@@Lexilea68 unfortunately many women make up their minds and that's it.
We can turn to God and work on ourselves but can't convince them. Leave that to the Holy Spirit.
Don't waste your time fighting for it, It's dead she more than likely cheated on you trust me it's female nature.
I've been married for 16 years and in a weeks time would be 17 years. We have been together for 24 years. 2 months ago I found out my wife was involved in an affair for about 2 years already and she moved out with my daughters to move in with the other man who himself is also married but going through a divorce. I love my wife dearly and am willing to fight but she says she has moved on and feels nothing for me. She has completely cut herself off from the rest of the family and friends, stopped working, given up everything to be with another man and I feel so hopeless yet I don't want to give up. I pray everyday for a change but don't know if I should just quit and give up because I am getting no encouragement from my wife or kids. What else can I do? My hope is fading.
Married 15 together for 24 years so I feel you exactly. Very similar situation and I don't know what to do. We speak daily and I'm still showing my affection. I wish us both luck to our situations.
Praying 🙏 for you and your family.
Don't give up and keep on praying...I'm in the same situation and I'm keeping the faith that he will change
I’m sorry Will! I pray she came back.
@@analizamendiola762 We can talk because I’m in it now. But I don’t want to give up.
I'm here now.. after 26yrs,I've never been soo hurt on a day after day basis.. its painful to the point I won't say things I sit here and think.. but something inside keeps telling me "don't give up,she's going through a phase" but im being destroyed inside,i dont know who I'll become after
Am in same boat
@@carolhouston4071 I am sooo sorry you have to go through this.. I wouldn't wish this on my worst enemy
How did it go? Its been 2years since your comment I hope you never gave up and got her back
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Update is in there also
@@Seven.And.The.RaggedTiger sorry don't see any comments was just wondering how possible it was I've been on track for almost 2months and she is starting to act very warm with me now but still no intimacy yet
Hope. Faith. Is all I have for my marriage. My husband is telling me to wait he will come home when he's ready. I don't know how to take it. But I wait patiently. Even tho it's defiling at times. Its very satisfying at the same time cuz I know I'm being a good woman. If he doesn't appreciate it now. He will one day and know what real love is. Some pole don't know how to love.
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I’m in the same position. After 26 years he left without any discussion and it’s been 8 months since my Counsellor advised divorce. He’s been cheating for years and I was blind to it as all I did was work and work some more to keep our dream alive and for our children and our family. I don’t want to give up but can’t hold onto hope if there isn’t any. It has shattered me.
Pumpkin Love where are things now with your marriage?
I love how you can read my mind,
Without ever having met
Omgosh my husband is and has done everything is said Except for cheat. He said "I love you but I'm not in love with you" I have every single emotion that he has talked about. I wanna,fight but he doesn't. 😢
I was just about to give up when I saw this, thank you
This video is my lifeline, thank you Dr. Beam! I re-watch this every time I think of giving up. Your line in here about do what’s important to you is at the heart of my fight. Thank you and MH for everything you do!
Natasha Kirk how’s your marriage doing?
Sir I can't tell enough how much this video resonates with me and how much I needed to hear it. Thank you so much.
Never give up on your marriage especially when children are involved.
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Because of this video i can see a hope..i will fight for my marriage.
This is exactly the feelings I've had and have. I just want to get back to feeling okay inside. I'm definitely fighting in the feelings of hurt and hopefulness!!!!
So glad i found you. This is a dark moment in life. But you walked the walk.
This speaks volumes to me right now!!! 💯
When people said l must let my marriage go but because l love this woman.l always fight back to protect her and my family although she does not appreciate
How does one fight for something that nobody wants him to have? How do you hope everyday, just to have your dreams crushed by the person you care the most for? How do you hold on, praying for something when all everyone does is try to sabotage it, and ruin things for you? It makes it very, very, very hard.
I completely understand you
I am a fighter! I fight alongside my Lord for I know that scripture says, “Let no man separate what He has joined together”.
I completely agree. There is always hope. People can change. The problems that led to wanting the divorce aren’t insurmountable. With communication, patience, and compassion there is nothing that can stand in the way of two people who fight for each other. But it takes two. It takes commitment for change, awareness and empathy to understand that change even needs to happen. At what point do you change so much for the other person, sacrifice, and fight before you realize your partner wouldn’t do the same for you? After the decade you spent with them, they’re willing to let it all just fade into the void? At some point, I suppose the question would be if either party is using divorce as an escape to circumvent the work and struggle of maintaining a healthy relationship- and do you want to be with someone who would do that?
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Blessings,
Well said!
I needed this 💚 I haven't stopped yet!
I’m willing to fight for my marriage of 38 years but my spouse is unwilling and full of rage. I don’t think she’s reachable. I wish I was as fortunate as your clients.
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We look forward to speaking with you directly if you will allow it!
i feel like i want to die. this pain is unbearable. if anyone has any pointers on how i can save my marriage please oh god please let me know. i dont wish this pain on anyone. no one deserves to feel like this
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May God place upon you supernatural peace beyond your understanding and heal your relationship.
James, there is hope in Christ. He has restored worse marriages than yours. There is power in His name.
Please pray for help for me and my wife , I want help so badly I do not want to give up on my marriage
I choose to fight.
I choose to fight to keep my best friend, the woman I fell in love with and who gave us three wonderful children.
STAND FOR YOUR MARRIAGE.!
I wish my husband would fight for me i believe marriage is forever and can be fix whatever the issue is gonna be
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U r so good. Firstly when u feel sorry for the person who is hurt, that's exactly how a councillor shud be. Sadly a lot of therapists try to find out what mistakes of victim that pushed the other one into infidelity.. I know it's important, but first empathizing with Victim is so important
My wife of 43 years left its been very hard i will always love her and wish nothing but the best for her
Amen fight for your marriage. I'm using smart contact and pies are working out great for me. Right now it's all about me and getting through this.
how do you use smart contact
@Dillards Shopper in a situation where you are living together but 'separated' under the same roof. No kids. I want to save my relationship. What do I do. How do I apply the pies? I'm determined to save my relationship
@Dillards Shopper is there a more private platform I can reach you on?
@Dillards Shopper we don't talk much. Hell only talk when I talk to him. The much he will say is hi and bye. We used to hug and kiss goodbye when he is leaving, then reduced to hug when thinks got shaky, then now it's nothing. No hug no kiss.
@Dillards Shopper no there was no infidelity. And he ain't seeing anyone. It was more of control issues. I always wanted things my way. Plus I think I listen alot to people whose advices threw me off the cliff. My actions towards small differences hurt him. He is a cool composed guy but heck he too is human. So I think they pilled up, until he couldn't take it no more. During the time of my drama he was composed and still loved me. So after he couldn't take it any more he was like 'I've given up on relationships'. Even now as I plan to move out he is concern of where I'll be going to stay. He is still caring but he says he has given up completely on relationships and doesn't see himself going back😭. I've learnt my mistakes and I wanna appreciate him more. He is so broken
My husband doesn’t want me or this marriage. But he has always been the man who is selfless and gentle. He has always been the provider. I gave him love but never provided the way he likes. For many reasons but mainly bc I was in my head thinking He will leave me. But I found peace hope and trust while he just moves to another state leaving me and his daughter. he tells me there is no hope but Right now isn’t the time to take advice from him. He is still in there... I know he loves me. I don’t deserve this pain regardless of what I provide. He loved me regardless.. should I fight because I know my actions will earn my forgiveness. Or let him go because I would never force him to stay.
Richmond Alger he said he did but took it back bc I said as a soldier he committed adultery. He has been denying it since.. it won’t let me inbox you! But I really need any help I can get. This is out of the blue and not like him at all.
I'm in a situation but I am on deployment. She said she wants to separate never said divorce never said I don't love you. But I am halfway around the world I am powerless to stop this. She says she doesn't want anything and still wants to be co parents. I need help our marriage needs help. It doesn't deserve this. My son doesn't deserve this.
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I won’t give up on her, she means the world to me…
I believe there is power in forgiveness and surrendering the marriage to God, then listening to what the Holy Spirit instructs and doing that. It is not a quick fix. It is more a process of learning to love and find true peace in Christ.
I know which one I am, but I’m not sure about my spouse. My assumption is he wants out, because other than words nothing tells me otherwise . I’m so tired of losing, but it doesn’t stop me from fighting for all of the good. The bad is unbearable and unacceptable but There’s SO much good.
When there is abuse including emotional and physical abuse you need to walk away and not tolerate that. Boundaries and self respect are paramount. Working on a marriage is fine but putting up with any type of abuse is not.
Our FIRST Rule is to GET SAFE FIRST! If you are experiencing some sort of abuse, we tell you to get safe, and once both parties are safe, an are WILLING to work on the marriage, THEN you can start to try to reconcile. But GET SAFE FIRST.
Sometimes divorce is like just replacing on set of problem s for another....the bible says that there is only one ground for divorce adultery.....but it also says if one can forgive the error it something beautiful.....
Please pray for me, my husband and our marriage.
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But, both spouses have to be wanting to save the marriage.
My husband seems perfectly ok in separate rooms and never touching me or showing affection. I have been to counseling and he refused to go.
He asked me if he was the one with the problem why was I the one going to counseling.
He takes no responsibility in the marriage.
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The thing about help is, both parties gotta want it or else no help works! Very unfortunate!
I fought enough for her , and continue until I'm dead , soon, for my kids ...to have integrity,dignity and eternal love for my family that was hurt by the Jezabel Spirit that destroyed our precious family , due to selfishness.
The pain from losing a spouse who cheated ...for years ? And you find out , then find out your precious one in life knew all along but couldn't speak?
It's so hard , to hard to forgive .
Impossible to think ...she was incredibly mean and hurtful when found out , it was so painful.
I'm past alot but not all...I will not live long enough to fix it. Forgive ?
Tough one , I try , my self worth is worth more .
I want to leave this earth with a good reputation is all as the good man , good Dad , good Husband , I intended to be ....
Don't forget to give unconditional love. That is what Jesus Christ did for us. We can do that also. Pass it on.
Its so hard especially when he IS willing and desperate to work it out. He doesn't blame me , he agonizes every single morning over the pain in my face and the insecurity he's given me due to his actions. He couldn't even give a reason for his actions, couldn't give a name to the woman, it was just a pure impulse decision that he can't remember even doing. He only knows in his heart something happened but can't know when or what. He throws himself at my feet begging and telling me how much he doesn't deserve me. He has no pride or desire in what he's done but the repercussions are still the same. All I can do is have faith and pray to God and pray he shows me his light
Like Jesus Christ had for us, have unconditional love. Nothing to forgive. But It's not OK for someone to keep doing you wrong after your forgiveness.
I tried for a long time. Now I have convinced myself that there were never any good moments or memories to fall back on. Am I clouded? 20 years in and no real foundation. So sorry how that has hurt the children.
This video is great!! It's my standing mantra. When I feel like giving up..this keeps me fighting.
Can’t force it
@@Brascobadboy nope.
This man has a great voice.
Thank you so much for this video. I'm married almost 37 yrs & learned of my husband's infidelity (4x) beginning with our 3rd anniversary. The deception & betrayal, not to mention stealing 34 yrs of my life, has me doubting everything he says. I'm not sure if I will ever forgive him, & I KNOW I will never forget what he's done.
Trust no longer exists & I'm not sure well ever get that back. After all these years, we are more like friends with no benefits.
My wife and I have been separated for nearly 2yrs. In Dec. of 2023 she filed for divorce. I really didn’t act on it but I guess I hadn’t hit rock bottom until about 6wks ago. God placed His hand on me and a light was switched on! I’m gonna fight for my wife even if she has checked out. My vows were real and I meant every word. I may have forgotten that for a moment, but God reminded me of what they meant. I love you Darcy! I will fight for you!
I have been fighting to make things work for years. My husband and I argue all the time, but his response is 'why do we have to fight to stay together. It shouldn't be a fight to make things work'. A fight to save a marriage and a family is what I'm talking about. I know our brains work different, so fight to me means keep trying. To him it means continuing to argue.
Sometimes telling one spouse to fight causes them to not let the other one go peacefully which can end really badly. It can make it dangerous for the spouse who has their mind made up to leave.
Deep ache... what a great description :(
i am so frustrated. this sounds like me and i have been fighting for 6 years. she wants out around once a year. 2 kids. i fight and fight and fight. and i have won and we are happy for it . but this time looks bleak.
Mike Montague there’s a root that needs to be dug up!! Ask God to get to the root!
@@davidjackson3547 preach brother. when you ask that God dig up roots just be prepared cause pulling roots and such is painful work.
When is it a fight and when is it emotional dependency?
Yes!
I think when you finally get to a point where you hope they come back and that God can work a miracle in their heart but you are not scared and are at peace if they don’t.
Ana Cristina Morales I’ve been searching and searching for answers and ways to get my wife back but your comment just made my day. I’ve heard it humorous times before but my clouded mind and broken heart wouldn’t let me see it that way.
I have been to the marriage helper workshop. It was the best thing I ever did for myself. and yes.....still married and back to very in love.
We are so honored to hear this, Michael!! Thank you for sharing! All the best to you and your marriage :)
Can u help me how to find this marriage helper
@@MarriageHelper how can l find u is this through email
So hopeful !
Joe beam talking about the PIES!! ❤😊
I think my spouse has real mental issues. From childhood. Feeling rejected by his mom (she gave him up at birth but then got him back at age 5). Alcoholic since 19. We have been married for 18 years. He cheated. Twice. Filed for divorce. Then dismissed it. Then he became abusive. At this point I dont know if I should stay or go...
@@antoinelyons5323 no, he is not.
@@antoinelyons5323 I was for a year and a half
GO, GO SO FAST THAT THE DOOR DOESN'T HIT YOU! GO!
)-; praying marriages get restored this 2020
Dr. How do I fight? We’ve been together 25 years and I’m sure my husband has Limerence behavior, within two weeks he leaves everything we have built over the years. Without pestering him and pushing me farther away from him? I love him to my core and want him back so much. He left me two months ago and went back to California to be with her. I want to fight for him. She is married as well and left her husband as well.
How do I fight?
Do you believe in prayers? Fight with prayers and the scriptures.
I think fight first. But there’s a point where the person trying is just being emotionally abused. Leave.
I say continually fight for it until you see absolutely nothing change over years and years then feel free to move on
There's nothing left to fight for. This do called marriage has waisted years upon years to just horrible bad quality of life for decades. We're in our 50s and we don't have many years left. I don't want to spend my last years on this earth lonely, disrespected, and vilified in my own home. I'm getting a divorce at all costs ( my fight) so at least one of us can enjoy our last days on this Earth after decades of pure hell. And yes you guessed it right I am the man in this flawed domestic arrangement.
Each Dr. Joe has spoken makes me cry pray for me for I cannot loose my family i want to solve every pieces of our broken love
Do not let anyone come in between you and your relationship goal. Get them back to you and make their love strong like the ocean
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Thank you. I will fight. I know how much I love him and the cause behind his reaction to me.
Never give up keep on fighting
I'm going to share my side, I am patiently prefer to give up than to keep on fighting, if not worth it to fight for so there's no reason to hold,
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God bless you and I will always love you I respect your decision and remember I Always Forever
Am going through the most and today was the worst day until i lesten to this, i prayed and took a fast for my husband to come back home, but he is so cold, i dont know this side of him, i was about to give up, am just going through the most he left me knowing am pregnant, i berely sleep am always stressed out, when will this pain end
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My wife doesn’t want to work on the marriage has asked for a divorce and there is no communication, not by my choice. She won’t respond to me at all. we don’t have kids and I’ve prayed every day for months with no change. How do I keep going and how do I know if it’s even possible, there’s no other person, she doesn’t want to be married anymore I haven’t been the best husband but she says she knows I love her but love alone is not enough. I have heard that we must let go and trust God and put him above all else and even above your marriage, but it also says in scripture ask and thou shall receive. So I’m really confused. If we’re supposed to let go let go and trust God, but at the same be fine if He doesn’t restore your marriage it creates a dichotomy that I’m really having trouble navigating. I’m really confused on this journey.
I’ve been working on my pies and I’ve worked with a MH coach previously but nothing seems to be helping
It sounds like her mind is made up for whatever reasons. If there was abuse (mine is emotional), this can trigger a sudden desire to be out of the marriage even if you have changed being nice. In essence, the damage is already done. What is the status?
How do you deal with the pain while you work on saving it?
My wife filed in court today...I think it’s over.....any help?
The challenge is my wife needs to want to try also....if just me, it’s just a road to a a dead end....right?
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