BIG Questions We Asked Each Other- What Intentional Christian Dating Looked Like For Us (1/5)
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- ‘BIG Questions We Asked Each Other- What Intentional Christian Dating Looked Like For Us (Part 1)’
We’re kicking off this mini-series with the important questions to make sure you ask on the first couple dates. For your relationship to be healthy and Christ-centered It’s a big deal to be on the same page on a number of issues. You don’t want to get too far into your relationship only to realize the person never wants kids and your hoping for 20! Lol you catch our drift.
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Hey Fam! Comment and let us know your thoughts on the video. Is there a question you would add to our list?
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I'd also ask where their faith interacts with their hot button issue beliefs (abortion, vaccinations, feminism, etc.)
I would ask if they use/have used pornography.
Great video as always! love the questions so good thankyou 😊 important to bring things to the table when dating for marriage.
Paul and Morgan You should do a video about age gap relationships 🙏🏼 I’m a little bit confused, here’s the thing we’re both Christians, love God, wanna serve together but I’m way too older than she’s, like 10 years older!!! 🙆🏻♂️ Please! Some advice
Love this video. I think that you hit up all of the questions that my husband and I asked each other early on...But for us, we actually talked about most of this stuff before we even started 'officially ' dating. We started off on a friendship level with the intent of being in a relationship and that's when these questions came up. We wanted to see if our end goals were the same before we got into our relationship. What are your thoughts about a friendship stage before a dating one?
“Lock me up for being too forward and godly” 😂
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Morgan your hair is looking fabulous 😊
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You're so right!! Gorgeous.
1. Where is your walk with the Lord?
2. How serious are you about finding a husband or wife?
3. Physical Boundaries?
4. Relationships with their family?
5. What's your career path plan?
6. Would you prefer that the wife works or is a stay at home mom?
7. What do you think about kids?
8. Be gentle about this one: Are they saving themselves/ abstinence?
Don't forget to have fun on these dates! 😁
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The first question is soo important, but what Paul said about “knowing them by their fruit” is doubly as important. They can say all they want about how invested they are in their walk with the Lord, but if there isn’t a heart change and actions that spring from that...might be a red flag.
This may sound a bit weird in regards to my circumstances but here goes...
I am a twice divorced 40ish woman. I was not a Christian until 6 years ago. I had no idea how to date in a Christian relationship and not use the ways of the world to guide and lie to me. My church family has been giving me knowledge about it, but your videos are very focused and practical too. As I grow ever closer to the Lord, I am learning what Christian relationships should be. You are great "teachers", living in the Lord together! Thank you for the lessons you share with ALL of us!
Awe thanks for sharing, Christine. That’s so encouraging to hear!
Christine “And if a woman shall put away her husband, and be married to another, she committeth adultery.”
Mark 10:12 KJV
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@@firaolasana2262 that is so unhelpful and negative. Who are you to condemn? God bless you Christine xxxxx
clara that’s the word of God, check your heart if you really think that way because you obviously shouldn’t be.
@@firaolasana2262 "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness" 1 John 1:9. My heart is good thanks for asking, hope yours is too.
Love it! One thing I would add,
If someone has a negative relationship with their family to not hold that against them, you never know the full story there. I agree on the person not gossiping to you about their family especially not in the first date or two. But to not count that as a deal breaker. You never know what a person has endured from their “family”
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I totally agree!
Yes, that def does not mean it’s a deal breaker :) A person is not defined by their family’s shortcomings
ok but seriously morgan, what kind of shampoo and conditioner do you use??? Because I NEED that shine and softness😍
try strict carnivore for 60-90 days. Check out "Steak and Butter Gal" here on youtube.
One thing my mom has reinforced in my sister and I for years is to ask the guy when the last time he looked at porn was. His reply will give you a good idea of whether or not he has an addiction. This is a big one I think. There is not much worse than marrying someone and then after the vows finding out your husband has a porn problem. It rips marriages apart, I've seen it first hand.
Yes that is a big deal :)
This series is gonna be great!! Much love for you guys! Morgan you have helped me so much with realizing my authority over depression. Keep on doing what the Lord has called y’all to do :)
Y’all are amazing 💗💗
Kelsi Gambill awe so happy to hear that, girl! God bless❤️
First date:
Morgan: hi!
Paul: Are you serious about finding a husband? Because. . 🤗😂 haha.. .love you guys!! Great topic. Boundaries are so important to discuss as well as probing for a genuine faith. And seeking to know the trajectory of his/her life is great too! Don't waste your time by settling when you could have God's best.
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Hey! I really appreciate you guys talking about what intentional Christian dating looks like! People in our generation needs to listen to this!!! I've been raised to intentionally date for marriage, and it is rare that I find others who agree with this kind of dating/relationships! Thank you, Paul & Morgan!!
Thanks for the comment!❤️
Really excited for this series and you guys are so inspirational! ❤️ ❤️ ❤️
kenzie thank you!❤️
Paul and Morgan so you two no you come across as idiotic brainwashed cult members who barely understand your own religion.
You call others out for sin whilst uaving tattoos and shaving your beard which are considered far more sinful in the bible
Great advice as always! Thanks so much I'm excited for this video series! You both look awesome! Love yall so much!! God bless you!💕😁
Going to a church singles event next fri, speed dating and such... I'm excited!!! Love these ideas!!
Go get em!😄
It was a terrible experience... felt like high school all over again. Ugh
The event was terrible btw....felt like high school
I think that talking about the family is so important! If he can respect his parents regardless of whether or not he agrees with them...
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Thank you for handling this topic with so much respect and sensitivity ❤
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So excited for this series!! I feel like this came at the perfect time in my life. Even though I'm kinda young, it still really helps to know all this beforehand. Love you Paul and Morgan!
Also, that intro though 😆😂
Christina Dimidenko so glad to hear that!❤️
The same applies to me!
How old are you? I’m a 17 year old Christian male
I am grateful for Paul and Morgan's video . I am applying everything I have learnt from Paul and Morgan currently in my relationship. We have been dating for 3months and we have not kissed, I learnt this from Paul n Morgan. I ask him about sexual boundaries early on in the relationship and this helped us to be on the same page. In the past I would kiss on the first date, but I am a lot happier with the sexual boundaries I have in this relationship.
Please pray for me that God gives me wisdom and guidance in this relationship
Thank you both for being so encouraging and giving practical advice for people wanting to live above reproach! I’m thankful for all y’all’s videos🤗
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First one! ♥️ love you guys! Have yet to watch the video, but I honestly really needed this one! Yay!
Madison Levin glad to hear it!❤️
Thanks so much for this video! Loved what you said about seeing the fruit produced. We're excited for the next videos in this series!
G&A forToday awe thank you!
My utmost applause to both of you...you are so in the right direction the right advice at the right time ...big thank you
Cool that you talked about over seas missions and dating a bit. I thought the title of the video said it was about international dating. Haha. You should talk about long distance relationships sometime.
Haha!! I was going to mention you’re hair to Morgan, looking lush.
This is great advice, now saved into my favourites folder as if hope that at some point I would be needing this :)
It’s really making me see the real importance of dating
Now I'm excited for this series!
Woop woop!
Something I think is super valuable to know is how do they view authority are they under authority are they surrounding themselves with accountability.
Great job guys, have to be intentional. Huge question(s) to ask also is on biblical roles in marriage, is she comfortable with submission? How does he plan on being the spiritual leader? What does all this look like? Etc.
Hey Paul and Morgan! Absolutely loved this video, especially you’re guys advice of asking what the other person’s physical boundaries are on the first date. Another great question to ask early on is what are your short and long term goals. His or her answer will determine whether you want to be a part of that plan or not. Take care, loves ❤️☀️
Yes so true 😊
Love you guys and so glad I found your channel! This video comes at a perfect time as I’m at the beginning of a possible relationship. Much love 💕
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Yesss!! Been waiting for this upload! 😜😜
Hey guys! I loved the video; asking questions is really good to get to know each other, but I want to share one thing I did and it helped me A LOT with this process that is to ask the Holy Spirit some of these questions and also pray for Him to show you who in fact the person you like is, because it can happen that the person maybe lie to you or keep things from you, so... the Holy Spirit won't! He is the truth so He'll show you everything. I'll give you an example on how I did my prayer: "Holy Spirit, I pray for You to show me who this person is; show me the good parts of him and the bad ones as well, and also show him who I am, so we don't need to have any kind of doubts in between." You need to truly know someone so you can be able to decide if you wanna choose this person to be with you in a relationship. Remember, the Lord will help you, but the choice is yours. ☺😄😘❤
I was about to comment on her hair within the first minute of this😂👌🏻
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Yay I'm gonna love this series, love u guys 💕
Nas Ellis 😄❤️
so right about the boundaries. did not do it soon enough in my last relationship and it back fired so bad
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I dont get how people can call them condescending like they're just speaking their truth for people like us who ask for it
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Spot on!
My fiance and I courted each other, which goes against what the world does. We both asked the questions you mentioned with other questions as well, which definitely is important.
Love hearing that😊
Thanks for this video just entered into a Christian relationship and wanting to get it right
good advice here. the sooner you get those big important questions out of the way, the less wasted time with the wrong person. simple as that. too many spend so much wasted time with the wrong person and do not even covers these important topics. Blessings.
Yes right on :)
Morgan you look especially pretty in this video! And love the advice! ❤️
Amazing!! Love it. 😊
Yaass!! So excited for this series!! 🤩💃 Can't wait for the next episode! Whoop whoop! Maybe you could talk about how long is okay to be texting someone your interested in and/or dating... 🙌 Loved this!
P.S. Yes, Morgan, your hair looks so pretty! 😍💖
Yep, your hair looks amazing! Love it ❤
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Haha, before we started dating, we totally asked question after question and it was definitely like an interview!! But it honestly worked out for us because we didn't want to get involved with each other if we weren't on similar life paths. We definitely had specific goals and expectations in place, so asking everything (even marriage and children) was critical! People thought we were so weird for discussing all this stuff prior to entering into a relationship, yet our thinking was, "why date someone if you aren't compatible and don't intend to marry them?". We wanted to gather all the information we could!!! By the way, your hair is so beautiful, Morgan!
Maddie and Chris thanks for sharing!
Great questions! God bless!
Thanks for the great content!
I love this video!!!! ❤️❤️❤️ you are an amazing couple!! 🥺❤️
Thank you for this video really helping. I really want do things the right way if my current situation.
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Ok these questions are so good!!!!🔥🔥
Morgan you look beautiful! (As always of course)
Kristina Massa 😊❤️
These are great questions!
nice video 😁
one question i would ask: „What did you experienced with god“ ore „how and why did you decided to give your live to Jesus?“
I hope my english is okay. I‘m from germany and enjoy watching your videos. 😊
Omozee Marie Irabor love that question 😊
Lon Spector that‘s true 😊
I would ask what they think about gender roles :) Also a really cool question I'd love to ask is what they think their weaknesses are. I'd want to ask that cause I bet you could tell a lot about a person by how they answer that question! It would be interesting to see how open they are about their weaknesses, and whether they have a healthy humility. And adding to what you said about the virginity question, I would say it's good to ask that question providing you make clear that you won't judge them for their answer, and explain that you just feel it's something important you should know about one another from a communication point of view.
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I'll be honest, I don't agree with a lot of what y'all say, but this video was really good! I totally agree, get to know someone quickly so you don't waste your time.
I’ve made it to the point win you guys where I like he video only 20 seconds in hahaa. Thank you for all you do!
Thank so you much... Paul and Morgan! This particular video has touched me and I can relate to it practically. I am excited for the next parts 😊. (When I watch these videos and I see the unlikes I’m like 🧐🥺,...what don’t they like about this awesome video?)
Lighting looks great in this one 👍🏽
Awesome 😊
This video is great 👍🏼 just on time
Awesome!
Good video! Y'all are lookin' even better than usual for some reason. :) My mindset is to just use the first date as a time to get to know the person in general, see how they act, and what they like. But by the 2nd or third date, maybe start rolling out the big questions, maybe 2-3 per date depending on how long the conversations go. Looking forward to watching the rest of the series. One thing to keep in mind is that your advice is mostly geared toward people who are in the position where they are ready for marriage. For people who are a bit younger, I would give advice a little differently. (ex. Perhaps being careful with conversations about sexuality/past stuff. It could be fine, but if there are years and years ahead before marriage, knowing a person on that level that early could make things difficult.) Looking forward to when you hit 250 Patrons. :D
Always appreciate the perspective bro!
This is really good guys.
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i love yall fr thank you
Love this so much ❤
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Morgan i love the waves!
Congrats for the better quality in the vids :)
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Love this channel
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If your parents are Christians, I'd love an episode where you interview them and how they were involved in the intentional dating process. When did the parents meet the other parents?
Cool idea :)
There is an awesome book my boyfriend and I have been going through called 101 Questions to Ask Before Getting Engaged by H. Norman Wright. This book asks you and your partner the questions you might have never thought about asking each other or thought would cause potential problems in the future! And Bonus the author is a Christian so there are a lot of questions about faith in there as well 😊
Sarah Veilleux i have this book too!!
Sounds like a really good book!
I have that book too!
6:05 please be mindful that a lot of people aren’t lucky enough to be raised by loving parents. Many had ones who neglected and abused them. If their relationship is strained, there’s a good chance it’s due to the parent and not the child.
What an amazing video god uses your videos to talk to me thank you so much god is good
Hope Torres awe praise God
Hey Morgan, you are such a delight
And about viewing the parents in a negative light, what about people who have been hurt by their parents. What about a child brought up in a narcissistic family and has negative view of the parent? What if a child does not have a good relationship with a parent because all the parent does is hurt the child? Just a thought 💭
I think letting them know you had a tough time with your parents for whatever reason is okay. Gossip though is not. Gossip is talking someone down, but expressing your hurt is something different. You could have had a bad relationship/still might even, but if you still have a godly love towards those people, it will show in the way you speak.
So for me and my boyfriend this was something we had to work through.
To give you an understanding his father was a hard man to love. He made a lot of mistakes and did hurt the man I care about and give him issues we work together on and make work.
And that’s okay. Am I happy what happened? No. But he’s still my boyfriend’s father. I have to forgive and accept the past, and while I want to be upset it’s honestly important to understand that God used that to shape him into the man I hold dear to my heart.
And for my boyfriend I know when I told him about my abusive history with my father it was a tough topic. We had to sit down and honestly it’s really just about looking at the bright sides of it or accepting it happened.
I’m not saying you have to love them, but always take into consideration how God would want you to feel and how your lover feels.
@@jesswollf so beautiful to read that you and your boyfriend helped each other in this difficulty. Family problems are very big and it is important to have someone there by your side to help you heal in Jesus name and with God's help. 🙏🏻☺️
Love ur vids!!!
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Love u guys❤❤thx for this video 👏👏👏💃🇧🇪🇧🇪🇧🇪
I totally agree with you. When I dated I asked early days too. Just to make sure I dated the right person but I got invested
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More wisdom as usual. You both communicate so well. Morgan, how do you get your hair so flawless? Serious question.
Paul and Morgan You should do a video about age gap relationships 🙏🏼 I’m a little bit confused, here’s the thing we’re both Christians, love God, wanna serve together but I’m way too older than she’s, like 10 years older!!! 🙆🏻♂️ Please! Some advice
Hey guys, could you mention in one of the next videos your advice to the situation when you see your partner is getting away from God or just doing some stuff you know is not very good for him/her, but you don't know how to say it out loud and help him/her come back? Did you have any experience, when Paul was the one, who needed Morgan's words and help, so he could realise something in his life?
"You don't flirt to convert and you don't date to save." I like that a lot. It reminds me of a time where I was talking to one of my closest friends about I guy I was "dating" that was Christian, but we didn't have much in common and seemed to bump heads a lot. I told her "I only wanted to get to know him because he was Christian" and she was like "Well, you don't know if someone could come to Jesus because of you..." And I stopped there because I didn't want to debate (she was raised Christian, but doesn't really walk with the Lord). Yes, someone could come to Jesus because of you, but not in a romantic relationship necessarily. I've seen it happen multiple times and Glory to God for that, but that can't be your goal because it will cause frustration and hurt. Only God can convert and transform someone, not us. We could be used by Him to guide people, but not make them do something.
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Nice video
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I think money, health, diet, exercise is important. I don’t want someone who’s working out to get a wife and then is gonna be a couch potato once we’re married 😂 someone who is always working on themself!
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Do you strive to follow God with all your heart and try to make God 1st with everything in your life?
I know some people that say they’re Christians, but don’t seem to add God in anything in their life, so I would want to clarify to have God in Are relationship, not just on the side when we’re bored:)
Yes right on😊
Morgan your hair is so cute!!!
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Will you do a video on your thoughts about dating just for fun?? ***in the context of being a high schooler
Rachel Hamilton thanks for the topic suggestion :)
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Ok but what camera quality tho❤️🔥
Paul's right. Your hair looks even more phenomenally good than usual. Good advice, too. :0)
Awe 😊❤️❤️
So I’ve been catching up on my UA-cam feed and came across this video and I’m not dealing with this situation but what advice would u give me to help a friend that may be compromising and how would u approach the situation?
DON'T FLIRT TO CONVERT!
That needs to be a shirt!😅😅
Praises Burwaa RIGHT?!? I would totally buy it!
The word shirt rhymes with it too!
Any tips for long-distance dating? Trying to get to know someone who is a 15 hour car ride away. How often should you text, FaceTime, talk on the phone? Should the same intentional dating questions be asked if your not going on physical dates?
Hey thanks for another great video. One things that would be great to talk about is that virginity and purity are not the same thing. Someone may not be a virgin because of upbringing or a bad start in life be they love God and are pure in heart and mind. Also there is a great resource called Moral Revolution its a book and teaching that you might love.
Jessie Pyron thanks for the comment :)
@Lon Spector But I want to know if they are or are not a virgin by their own choosing. That still is something to think about.
Oh yea- with how God-filled P&M are if they connected with Moral Revolution it would be epic. HS filled.
Morgan what does your tatoo mean to you. Just curious😊
What is more important to them: working later hours to better the family financially or spending more time with less money with your family. Not black and white of course but see what page they are on!
Gwendolyn O. 😊😊
I am currently a junior in high school with dreams of a very extensive career, regarding years in school, leaving me no time to date with the intention of marriage. Nonetheless, I love watching your videos and preparing myself for those days when they come!
Nick Hawk I am a senior in high school and in the same predicament but do you think it’s too soon to ask about marriage or worry about serious dating at our age?
Mari Talavera, good question! I am honored that you would ask me lol, as me being only a junior in high school still “figuring things out.” But, I dont believe that it is “too early” to ask about marriage or “serious dating.” Here’s why...
We know that Satan can lure us into sins as teenagers, such as pornography, that can harmfully affect our marriages later down the road. If then there are things that can HARMFULLY affect our marriages as teenagers (not yet married), then there also must be good things that we as teenagers can do that will benefit our marriages (and dating lives and the like) later in life.
We can do things such as reading the Word, learning God’s ultimate design for marriage, or inquiring from married adults what they wished they would’ve known before getting married, and whatever else that may “prepare” us for marriage. (Watching Paul and Morgans videos is a great idea too! Lol)
Therefore, I do not believe that it is “too early” to ask about marriage or “serious dating.” I hope that makes sense lol.
Thank you! Yes I just wanted to know your insight being young too but still wanting to live right. I’ve watched many Christian youtubers that did ask those questions young but because of the claim that we’re "still figuring things out", I thought I was getting ahead of myself for wanting someone to have the intentions of marriage if I am in a relationship with them.
Do a video on single Christian parents. Being a Christian single parent can be tricky
I really want to start dating, but I don't know how or where to start. How do you meet new people? And what happens when absolutely no one is interested in dating you?
Michaela Huffman you should watch the video we just did ‘4 ways to meet the one God has for you’
How do you bring up these topics. Like you don’t say hi and sit down and ask what’s your walk with the lord like. How to you get into meaningful convos
I think you look for a ice breaker then just be genuine and sweet. Try to the person laugh first to calm down the mood
Name at least 5 people that you love ,I dont know I think that is a kind of good question for to know
Kisses from Dominican Republic 💜💜
I have a question that I’ve had on my mind for a while. It’s not really related to this video but here it is: What’s the Christian view on the death penalty? I actually don’t know if it’s okay or not, and I was wondering if you guys could help me answer it? Thanks 😊
Morgan your hairs is so beautiful and healthy looking. I love it. U too Paul
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I'm about to move in for college and I was wondering can I still be a christian if I decide join a fraternity since are rush week coming up.