DAYCARE DROP OFF TIPS | ADVICE FROM AN EXPERIENCED DAYCARE TEACHER | Mom Talk Monday
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- I'm reaching into my teacher brain and giving you guys my best tips for dropping off your toddler at daycare: tips that will help you, your child, AND your child's teacher have a successful daycare drop off experience. You can do this! #daycaredropoff #daycare #toddlermommonday
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I'm a dad. Panicky, as tonight is the night before i drop my girl off to day care for first time. I so want to call off work and start at home with her. Tryna be strong.
You can do it!! It's so hard at first but it really does get better. Good luck!
Please help..Iam going through this right now and tmrw is my daughters first day.. I am extremely nervous scared all of the above…I don’t want her to think I just abandoned her this is the hardest thing for me to do
@@anthonyhyman5189 nothing i tell you gonna make it any easier. But she will be okay and it will be like it never happened.
Literally so glad I found this. I'm a dad that's also dropping off my daughter for her first day tomorrow. She has never beem away for more them 2 hours with my grandparents. Thank you! Because I'm a wreck
@@runNgun1516 I was the same way exact way. Especially on her first day not going to lie I cried because I was scared and I am very protective of my daughter. I don’t know the people who will be teaching and watching her and i am still not happy about the situation. I know you feel the same way. The good thing is that your daughter is going to learn quick and become and more smart plus she’s going to make friends. My daughter has made a lot of friends and is now talking a lot more and expressing herself. You will be fine bro and she will be happy. You always got me here to talk bro so we can express how we feel as our babies are taking a next step in life .
Great video, thanks.❤
Wow this was such a great video my son goes to La Petite and he just graduated to the one-year-old room. Based off your tips I've done pretty good except I have snuck out a handful of times I didn't even think about the possibility of creating anxiety. Definitely will not do that again. When my wife and I dropped him off the first time when he was an infant man that killed me I had to put my hat over my face so I was crying pretty hard. One thing I say to all of the teachers is how much we appreciate their hardwork and over Christmas my wife had gifts for everyone. They all were very grateful and surprised!
That's so sweet of you guys! It really is a surprise because there are not a ton of thank yous in the daycare world unfortunately 😅 it is SO HARD dropping them off when they're tiny. I feel like we wait for the kids to adjust but it's also a time of adjustment for us as parents too, trusting our babies with somebody new.
thank you. i will try to follow your advise.
Great tips thanks
Soooo helpful!!!! catching up with all this info for our new baby!
I'm so glad it helped you!!
This is so helpful! Preparing for first day of drop off tomorrow and will definitely use your tips! Thank you 💖
I'm so glad it helped you! Good luck! You've got this ❤
We’re on day #2 and I need to make this transition better. On top of feeling bad because she loves car rides and now she’s screaming all the way there and as I hand her off. I feel so bad, I hate the separation and anxiety we both have. Looking for tips & tricks on how to make this easier for us, thanks! 💕
Give it time! It's only day 2 ❤ it's so tough at first, but once she realizes you keep coming back for her and she is safe, she'll be okay. I know it hurts though.
I knew some of these naturally already but I just learned a few from this! Thanks so much!!
I'm so glad!! You're welcome 😊
Excellent tips I never would have thought of. Glad I found your videos before my 12 month old starts daycare in a few weeks!
So sorry for the late response! UA-cam doesn't always notify me when people comment. I'm so glad you're here and I hope my videos are helping you. 😊
Very helpful info loved it thanks !
You're so welcome! 🤗
Thanks for this!! Dropping off my toddler at daycare tomorrow for the first time. Fingers crossed!
Good luck!! 😊
Thanks for the tips! Planning to start preschool soon and hoping my best for my 2 yr old and myself
Good luck!! 😊 it's tough at first but most kidd adjust and do great!
Thank you so much for sharing this information and for being so genuine! i had such a hard time walking away from my crying 2yr. old this morning. This is already the third drop-off and we are still struggling. Your video brought me comfort and your compassion made me feel understood. 🥺 I’m a learning Mama. But I know this is good for both me and my son. Thanks again for the great tips! I will be applying your advice at the next drop-off. ❤️
I'm so glad this video helped you! ❤ I hope your little one gets comfortable at daycare soon 😊
Hi thanks alot for the massive daycare tips!
I plan to send my 4-year-olds twins to full-day daycare next week and it gives me an instant anxiety! They're always stick with me for 24 hrs every single day, and I can't imagine how they could start this big day (or how I could leave them in the daycare for 12 hours). I watched all of your videos related to daycare tips and it helps soothing me. Thanks once again!
Awe I'm so glad the videos are helping you! Good luck! 😊
Great tips! Thank you
You're so welcome!!
I would just do the handover as quick as possible and then wait in the car to cry lol. And then within 10 minutes they would let me know she’s fine. Within a week she was looking forward to going and throwing her arms out to her teacher.
Definitely a good idea to hide the mom tears lol!! I'm so glad she settled in quickly. That's awesome!
How old was your LO?
This was super helpful! Thank you so much for sharing your tip. Will definitely be implementing them the next time I drop my toddler off at daycare.
You're welcome! I hope it helps!
Well said. You are right.
Thank you 😊
Just gonna say thank you for this! Prepping for our 1 year olds first day next week and have no idea how to approach this! Massive tips!
I'm so glad this video helped you! Good luck! ❤
Thank you! Great tips🤩
You're so welcome!
I love the tip about getting them engaged
Thanks for this! day one for my toddler today to daycare, how i wish i had watched this yesterday. i missed the goodbye part, will definitely fix that tomorrow!
You got this!!
My 30 month old is starting day care tomorrow. This will be the first time for her , including ME! As I've never not been away from her for more than 6 hours.. but this video is extremely helpful! Thank you soo much 🙏🙏🙏
Awe I'm so happy you found it helpful! ❤ I hope she has a fun first day with minimal tears 🙏
First time mom from South Africa.. my son is 3 years old and started daycare yesterday. Surprisingly, there were no tears (probably cause I got him engaged so he was fascinated with the toys) which eased my anxiety a great deal. But today, he cried and it broke my heart but I took your advice and gave him a kiss, hug and waved goodbye and told him I'll be back. Whew!! This parenthood journey is rough.
It is so hard!!! I hope he had a good day ❤️
Another South African mum here. I totally relate. My poor 3 year old daughter crys and crys and is crying during sleep. I feel so defeated and sad. I truly hope it improves
Hey mama fellow South African here. I feel horrible. I can't even be there to drop baby of. My nanny has been doing it for the past few days along with my sister and I feel like I'm missing out...we are a big family though so baby always has an excited aunty to chill with after school. I miss her. She is sleeping right now - my daughter.
@@usandabekebu2954 You're being a good mom by having safe people who can see her to and from daycare. Try not to feel bad ❤️ She'll adjust in time.
Thank u so much. I really loved your tip about saying goodbye and not sneaking out which was what everyone telling me to do but I was feeling that it's really wrong and I will lose his trust so thank you for confirming my feeling about sneaking out. I love you❤
You're so welcome! Yes, it's easier on the parents to just dip and leave but like you said, it breaks kids trust and just makes everything harder.
Yes. Very helpful.
Any updates or modify?
Great Video!
Thank you! 😊
Thank you :)
New mom. Preparing to take my baby to daycare for the first time. She cries everytime I go already unless she’s with my mom. I hope this transition goes well. This video was very helpful. Thank you
I hope she gets used to her teacher fast and learns to enjoy it there ❤ it's a process.
Thank you SO MUCH! I’m dropping my 3yo off on Monday at 6:30am and I’m really feeling anxious. This will help me get through it knowing she will transition easily. You’re the best!
I'm so glad this video helped you! Good luck! 😊
Mine is starting on Monday…. How did it go??
Thank u for this my 2yr old will be starting daycare soon
I would have sneak out didn't think of that part
You're welcome! Good luck! 😊
Thank you so much!
You're so welcome! I'm happy this video was helpful to you.
Thank you for the text me in 10-15 minutes tip. That sounds like great advice.
It helps a lot!
Thanks alot for sharing this.. I am a first time mom and my 6 months old son going to daycare next week. That's the reason I looked up for a video to better prepare myself.. I feel confident to prep my mind after knowing these tips.. thanks a ton 🙏🙏 you've really helped an anxious momma
Awe I'm so glad this video helped you ❤️❤️❤️ I do have one specifically about preparing babies as well. I'll see if I can link it here for you.
Here we go. Preparing baby ❤️: ua-cam.com/video/F4gqfiHOm8k/v-deo.html
Thank you!
You're so welcome!! ❤ Good luck!
Thanks for the tips! I had the 2nd day of my daycare drop off and my almost 3 year old daughter is having a rough time.
You're welcome! It's always rough at first ❤
This is super helpful! Im preparing to do my first drop off at 3! Shes only ever been with me so im a bit nervous!
You've got this!! I hope she surprises you and has the BEST time!
Thankyou for sharing your tips. This is my 2nd day sending my son to daycare. I will follow your advice 😊 .. this is his first time being appart from me..
It's so tough when it's their first time being away from Mom! You got this!
great info
you have really good content. new subscriber by the way.
New subbie here and so blessed j found your channel.
I don't have to but want to send my 3yr to daycare for social skills and to play with children. Unfortunately he only knows me, it's only been the 2of us and he's very much so attached.
I like when u said to ask the teacher to text you when they have stopped crying. I just don't want to traumatize him. He will only be going for half a day, I am a stay at home mom actually so perhaps this is silly but I want him to have an easy and smooth transition when he starts school.
You go with your mom gut! Worst case, you try it out and it's not a good fit do you bring him back home ❤️ It's a blessing you're in a position where you can try it out without the pressure of working outside the house on your back 😊 There are other ways to socialize too! Library reading groups, MOPS, church. Don't feel pressured to do daycare if it's not what you want.
@@RelatableMotherhood thank you so much for this bc I really don't want to do it but I know I will only have to go through the same process when he begins school so I was thinking this would be the best start?
But I DEFINITELY like the idea of groups a lot more
Thank you, thank you, thank you
You're so welcome!
Good thing you made this video. My baby is going to daycare soon and I totally would've snuck out when she wasn't looking. I never thought about how that could actually create more anxiety with her 😭😭😭
Lots of parents think it's easier to sneak away and avoid a sad goodbye! I admit, since I've made this video I've seen it work for some kids (if they're really little). But in general I think it's better to make sure they see you go and know you'll be back 😊 good luck!!
Thanks for all these tips! My 13th month old has been going for 3 days, and my heart hurts a lot because he just seems so sad at when picking him up! He is eating well, but seems to avoid sleeping while he is there, But when dropping him off I try to engage him and it seems to make things better, but today when they put him down he started crying!:(
Give him time ❤ he needs to get used to being there and build a bond of trust with his teachers. My sister's girl is close to that age and it took her a couple of weeks to start being happy at drop off. But now she does great!
My little one is on her second day … this was hard for her. She is only going three days a week . I wish she could go more but it can be pricey. Thank you for this video. ❤
3 days a week is usually okay if those 3 days are in a row. Daycare prices are out of this world right now 😔 it will get better! She just needs time to get used to the environment ❤️
Im a dayacre worker, and i have a toddler who will start when i start work. It's the same building, so that makes me feel better. ❤
It does feel good to be in the same space together. Maybe even catch glimpses on your breaks 😊
I miss these videos hope you are well! Please come back
Awe thank you so much! I'm hoping to soon 😊
As soon as I give my son (13 months old) to the teacher this morning he cried , it’s his 3rd day in the daycare. He is used of going to sleep while breastfeeding and so now they have a hard time putting him to sleep without me beside him. I realized that’s one of my mistakes as a first time mom. The teacher told me he’s always crying. I’ve never experienced him crying beyond 3 minutes but in the daycare according to the teacher he cried 20-30 minutes. That really is so heartbreaking for me 😢
That's so so hard 💔 It's going to take him a while to adjust to falling asleep a different way. If you can, i'd start training him to fall asleep a different way at home too so hes always falling asleep the same way. Can he have a water bottle or something to lay with during nap? That's how I weaned my daughter from breastfeeding. I gave her a soft-tip water bottle and she took it to bed with her every night.
This video is really helpful. We started daycare for our 23 month old two weeks back and the first week she seemed okay. She was playing well. The second week she started crying when I dropped her off. Also she got sick the both weeks with different viral infections. Now the sad part is that she doesn’t even want to get in car and dressed up thinking that she’s going to daycare. I’m nervous to send her again next week.. btw she is recovering now. Do you have any tips for making it a smooth transition next week? She is there for 6 hours a day for 5 days a week.
It sounds like if she was having fun at first, she'll be able to get to that point again. She's at an age where separation anxiety is super normal too 😊 I'm so sorry she got sick! Unfortunately that's a side effect of starting daycare and takes a long time for kids to build their immune systems up. I would try to hype it up as much as you can and make it exciting. If she's really fighting you, maybe get her a new coat or new rain boots or something that are special for her to wear ONLY at daycare. Call them her daycare boots. Stuff like that tends to work really well with littles ❤️ Get her excited to show her teacher and don't let her wear them until its time for daycare. I might research some immune boosting vitamins too if you're worried about her getting sick again. Not a guarantee, but it doesn't hurt! Good luck!
@@RelatableMotherhood Thank you so much for reassuring me. :)
Hi thanks for these awesome tips! I need your advice.
My 18 month old goes to daycare twice a week, Thursday and Friday for 5h each day. He was fine on the first week but on his second week, he was crying , doesn’t want to eat much when he is there and doesn’t want to play and engage with others . He is fine once he is home. It breaks my heart to see him like that. Should I do a shorter day of 2h-3h at the daycare so that it eases his transition better and gradually increases to 5h or should I stick to 5h and persist it for another few weeks ?
In my experience 2 days for kids that young just isn't enough 😔 it doesn't become routine because it's only a brief time and then normal home life resumes, and they're too little for you to explain to them that daycare is only on Thursdays and Fridays. Is there a way to do three days instead of just two so he has more time to get used to the new place and new people? I know daycare costs are pretty bananas right now so that might be hard. Are you working part time and that's why you only need the 2 days?
This was our first week at daycare for my 2 year old and it has been a lot harder than we expected. She's never been overly shy or attached to us, but she's really disliking daycare. How long would you say this adjustment will take for her to get more comfortable there?
I'd say give her another week, and if on week 3 things haven't gotten better maybe reevaluate if daycare will work for her, or of you need to switch daycares and try a new tactic to help her feel safe there.
Im not crying ur crying😭
Today is day #3 for drop off. My son is almost 3 and my daughter is 1. They cry when I drop them off and are calling out for me “mama!”. This honestly breaks my heart so bad. I cried so much this morning. I hope this gets better because I cannot see them go thru this.
It's so so hard at first! 💔 can their teachers text you to let you know when they stop crying? That used to help me a lot with my son. The initial goodbye can be hard, especially if your kids have never been away from you before. They just need time to trust that they're safe at daycare and to see that Mommy will come back at the end of the day. If you aren't already, it might help your three-year-old at least to tell them that "Mommy comes back after nap time" or whatever time you're going to end up picking up. For your one-year-old, you could just say "mama will be back!" They just need to witness you coming back multiple times so they can build that routine and trust up. It is so super hard though.
@@RelatableMotherhood
Thank you for your reply ♥️
So Friday was much better. My son went to the teacher very happy and my daughter didn’t cry. So I was much relieved. The director of the daycare does text me just to let me know how they’re doing so that makes me feel better. I’m nervous for week 2 but I know it will get better with time. ♥️
@@erikadavila6574 oh I'm so glad they're doing a little better already!
My 2.7 yr old son is going on week 3. We keep drop off short and sweet… He still hasn’t adjusted yet. He cries when I drop him off. And the director has told me he cries a lot throughout the day. I feel soo horrible and wonder if he just doesn’t like the environment or is still adjusting. I’m sticking it out because I know it’ll be beneficial for him in the long run. But I def have thought about sending him back to granny’s house
Does he go every day or just a few days a week? My sister's girl is only attending 3 days a week and it took her a while to get comfortable there. She does great now! That said, some kids just have a super hard time ❤ Follow your mom gut if you feel like he just isn't having it.
This scares me
good tips! What would you suggest to do after school to relax kids? My son is very anxious about going to daycare and he keeps saying" I'm not going to daycare anymore". that's the last sentence he says before he falls asleep and first one when he wakes up. But he is OK at daycare playing with teachers and other kids. Just miss mommy.
Awe sweet boy. It's a big adjustment. Honestly if daycare has him exhausted at the end of the day I'd let him wind down with a snack and a TV show for a little bit. We do that with my son whose in Kindergarten now. Or sometimes I'll take out coloring or play doh. Something calm and quiet to play with. And I don't do a lot of talking. I just let him be because he's had a long day of interactions and just needs a brain break.
@@RelatableMotherhood good point! Will try some quiet activities!
Do you see any harm in picking baby up early on some days?
I work a regular hybrid 8-4 but some days are busier than others and I was planning on dropping him off later on my slow days. But I see that’s not the best idea.
I would say as long as pick up isn't mid nap time, you're good 😊 it's more the consistency with drop off that helps them adjust because they can know what to expect every time they go.
So I only work 2 days a week. So both my kids go to daycare those days. Monday & Thursday. My 3 year old has been going since she was 1 so she loves going. But my 1 year old boy is on his 3rd week and it’s not easy for him at all. Any tips? We can’t afford to take them anymore days or we would.
That's so tough. Is there a way you can change your schedule somehow so that they go two days in a row? It's hard and confusing for little ones to go to daycare one day, then home two days, then daycare again. Part of the peace kids get after attending for a while is knowing what to expect. If you can't do two days in a row, is there a way you can make daycare days look exactly the same? You eat the same thing for breakfast, arrive at the same time, pick them up at the same time, etc. That way over time he'll realize from the time he gets up that this day is a daycare day. You could even start telling him "today is a daycare day" in your happy mom voice. And really play that up.
It took lots of time to pack a bag for daycare.
It can sometimes. Packing the night before really helps!
My 3-year-old daughter will start day care on Monday and I'm so concerned about her reaction once I leave her :( She has a hard time being with strangers, and does not like to be separated from me, even at home she constantly looks for me and cries if she does not see me. So, I'm so worried that she will cry the whole time after I leave. I need some suggestions and tips please as I already feel very overwhelmed and sad.
My biggest tip for this would be to give her teacher your cell phone number and ask if she'd be willing to update you throughout the day, at least for the first few days ❤️ I would mentally prepare that she's going to have a hard first couple of days. Give the teacher any advice on how best to calm her and help her feel safe, so she can copy what you do and hopefully start building that bond with your daughter. For kids who haven't been in daycare before, her age is pretty tough and it takes a while for them to settle in. Try to be an example and show her you're excited for her to have fun at daycare! If she sees mama is worried and sad, she'll never settle ❤️
How long should this last
Weeks, months, ect.
Before you should be concerned
If your child is attending consistently (multiple times a week, being dropped off and picked up at the same times, staying more than a couple hours) I would say two or three weeks. If after that long they aren't settling in I would wonder if they need more routine or if it just isn't a good fit
I wanted to do tip3 so much but COVID time nursery won't allow me to go inside :(
Covid rules are ruining so much 😓 I'm so sorry.
Grandma drops off and momma picks up. Do the same tips apply?
I would say so! Just as long as baby has that consistency 😊
Hi my son has started day care last week on his first day he was doing so well then on the second he wouldn’t stop crying it was so bad & I still feel guilty, even during nap time he was crying on the floor and screaming as soon as I put him in the car he slept , how can I get my toddler to sleep during nap time in pre school anyone any advice please !
Poor little guy ❤️ it's hard at first, adjusting to being in a new place. He really just needs time to bond with his teacher and get used to being there. If he's very little it'll take some time for him to feel safe enough to nap there. Any comfort items you can bring for nap would help. Blanket, pillow, stuffed animal, binky. Whatever helps him sleep at home.
Ahhh thanks you we are in week 2 but his still crying
My sister's girl cried for several weeks before she finally settled in. Now she cries when it's time to leave! Always listen to your mom gut but if you feel like he's safe and being treated well I'd give it a little more time ❤️
@@RelatableMotherhood yes he is safe he just thinks that I’m supposed to be with him in school he will cry but soonest I’m gone his fine
My first time for my toddlers is tomorrow and I’m here planning to sneak out so they won’t see me 😭🤦♀️ guess I’m spending the day there then
If you feel like they'll be okay with you sneaking out, do it. Sometimes it works. In general I don't think it's a good idea, but you know your kids best. 😊
Wow 7-1 ratio here in Fl ratio for 2’s is 11-1
11-1?? That's insane!!
How can you be consistent but also consult the upset toddlers when you drop them all off in the morning?
Try to find a routine of comforting them that works. Maybe you give them hugs and kisses, then hand them their blanket and binky (or water bottle, sippy cup, stuffed animal, etc. Whatever comfort item they have.) Then assure them you'll be back later and leave 😊 If the goodbye is too long it just drags out the sadness of you going. But you don't have to rush out of there either. Do the same things each time you say goodbye and they'll learn what to expect at drop off time.
@@RelatableMotherhood I have twins who will be 2 Friday and possible autism so I'm wondering how likely it will be
I have a child that doesn’t stop crying. I end up getting called to come get him. So this gives me anxiety dropping him off anywhere. I don’t know that the teacher is going to be able to handle him crying for an hour or two.
That's pretty intense 😕 is there a way for you to stay for a bit during drop off and try to get him playing with something? Like sit on the floor with him so he knows you're going to stay for a bit, and he can try to get comfortable? Or maybe have a special stuffed animal he can hug when he's missing you? You didn't say how old he is, but for some kids it is super super hard to be away from mom 😔 I might shop for a different daycare if they keep calling you to come get him though, depending on how long he's been attending. Some teachers know just what to do for sad kids, and others just don't have the experience yet.
@@RelatableMotherhood He’s never been in daycare. This is just when I drop him off at a babysitter or Sunday school etc. Hes 3. However, he has been in summer camp all week. He’s cried but they seem to know how to handle it! Yay! I’ve never had me time before. It’s still hard to drop him off when he’s crying but they said he is happy later on ☺️
My daycare will not allow parents go past the corridor… my toddler has not been in daycare ever! He’s 2. He is crying hysterically There, day 3 today. Didn’t last past an hour!!! They would call me to say he has been crying this whole time.. so I picked him up. Idk what to do. They don’t know what to do! This has never happened before we had nanny before 2 times a week and he would cry for like 2 min at goodbye and then go play happy… no daycare cry ALLLL THE TIME. I feel so guilty and I’m so sad for him I don’t want him to feel this way.
It's absolutely ridiculous that you're having to leave him at the door. I would look for a completely different daycare ❤️
As far as I'm aware of where I'm living, parents are totally allowed to drop off inside now, so I feel a little outraged on your behalf! 😅 I would call around to other daycares and see what their drop-off policies are and try to find one that lets you actually go in with him.
@@RelatableMotherhood unfortunatly in Pennsylvania spesifically philly its I think almsot all daycares, at least I have no been to one that you are allowed. I think its due to safety issues. (idk how like they know who i am!) I have tried asking. I know in other counteries that MAKE you stay first week or two so it breaks my heart right now. Im so so sad and im also so exhasted. I work from home which is a blessing, but also working 9-5 office job even from home with a toddler is hard (mainly work after hours now when he sleeps) my nanny who came part time quit and daycares has insane waitlist so been with him for 2 months! And desperetely need help... I want him to like daycare so much.. breaks my heart hearing cries "mama mama, home, mama mama home"
@@Curiousitydrive Poor buddy 😔😔 and poor Mama! I'm so sorry. Hopefully if you keep trying he'll adjust. Maybe ask your local Facebook mom group if there are any great in home daycare options?
I work at a daycare and every now and then my kids cry when they get dropped if they got better
It's normal for kids to regress sometimes and suddenly be sad when mom leaves even if they've had a long streak of being okay at drop off. Kids go through separation anxiety in phases ❤️
It is normal for my 3 years old baby boy refusing to eat? he's a good eater when it's come to my food ,im Haitian he only eats haitien food , now he's been on Daycare for a week, he won't eat nothing, how long you think that going to be last, my heart is breaking 😢 💔 whenever I called to check on him 😢
If he only eats haitien food then I think it's normal for him to not want to eat the daycare food. It's probably new and weird to him. Have you asked if you can pack him lunch and snacks from home? We've had plenty of kids bring their own food in places I've worked.
@@RelatableMotherhood yes, fruit and crackers but I feel like that's not enough for the whole 7 hours, thank you so much for the videos 😊
@@sherlybolivar7507 You're welcome! 😊 They won't let you pack him a real lunch?
@@RelatableMotherhood I'm going to ask her again today but she said only snacks 😏
@@sherlybolivar7507 If he attends full time and doesn't start eating meals soon, I might look for a better daycare. That's wild that you can't pack your child lunch.
My baby just turn 1 and half she went to daycare for the last 2 days but the teacher said she won’t stopped crying and ask us to come pick her up….I don’t think my baby is ready…should i wait till my baby turn 3 or 3 so she can communicate with us ?
I would give her more than 2 days to get used to being there. How long are you having her stay there? If you're able to start her slow, like 1 or 2 hours a day, try that. Make sure her days are in a row (Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday--not Monday Thursday Friday. That kind of thing.) It strikes me odd that the teacher was so overwhelmed she asked you to come pick her up. I've had sad kids in my class and never called a parent to pick up because of it. Is she new to teaching maybe?
@@RelatableMotherhood she is the main teacher there and been working as daycare teacher for the last 20 years, she also got 2 other assistant teacher there
My baby won’t stopped crying and won’t eat anything…and she is losing weight :(
This is a text from the teacher
“Also, she has not stopped crying since you both have left. We are trying to comfort her with her blanket and a teacher close to her. Sophia is trying to get her to relax and maybe go to sleep on her mat. We are hoping that she will rest and feel better when she wakes up. Is there anything that we can do to help comfort her? Is there a way that she likes to be held, rub her back or hair? A certain lullaby that she likes?If we are unable console her and she doesn’t eat lunch I will call you for more guidance. She may have to be picked up. Unfortunately, I do not have enough staff to be only with her”
They tried everything that we told them still not working at the daycare place, i even brought her favorite toys and blankets…
@@paulamicaela7007 Poor baby 😔 It sounds like she texted you out of concern and courtesy to you, not overwhelm. That's good. I don't know your situation, but trust your mom gut. If daycare just isn't working and you have the option to keep her home a little longer, do that. If you don't have that option and you need her in daycare, give her some more time to get used to being there. I'm so sorry she's having such a tough time ❤
@@RelatableMotherhood thank you for your advice 🙏
Yes i do have time to keep her at home, i just want her to have friends, but i guess she is not ready for daycare at the moment, she is a very happy kid at home.
Hi, I have enrolled my 2.5 yo daughter at a daycare.. She is very active and playful at home but in daycare she is very shy upset and quiet and nervous.. Every day I drop her off and watch her thru cctv downstairs it breaks my heart because she is just standing there and walks behind the teacher.. She is just quiet and nervous..
I am thinking of pulling her out of daycare but then its a big problem to find a good nanny at home
When will she open up at daycare and play like other kids are playing??
I am very sad and anxious right now.. Its been 2 weeks she has started going there..
Please reply!!!
That's so hard ❤ One positive thing I can see is that if she's following the teacher around that means she trusts her. That's a good thing. Does she cry the whole time or does she just quietly stick to her teacher? I would say if she's not crying the whole time maybe give her another week or two to see if she starts to open up and play with other kids. Is she eating well there and playing at all? Can you speak to her teacher about it and ask what she thinks? She might be able to offer some insight or comfort to you ❤
In the end trust your mom gut. I would say if after a whole month of being there she's not settling and you're not feeling good about it, go ahead and pull her if you're able to. Mom knows best.
If you do go that route, you can look on Facebook for nanny groups in your area and interview people to find the right fit. Make sure they're CPR certified and set hard boundaries to make sure you get the care you want.
I hope this helps! The daycare world is so new to littles who have only known mama or siblings before. Remember you call the shots! You're her advocate and you know what she needs more than anyone else ❤
@@RelatableMotherhood wow thanks a lot!!! Yes she eats there and plays too.. She is behind the teacher but the teacher is doing her own things.. May b m not able to listen thru camera that's why i feel that way
But at home all these 2.5 years she was attended by a nanny and has got full attention
I just hope she starts feeling better there 🤞🏻
@@shreelaxmi1000 If she's eating well and playing I'd give her a couple more weeks 😊 But it's totally up to you!
@@RelatableMotherhood thanks Jessica.. Feels so assuring
@@RelatableMotherhood today she did not take a nap.. Just sitting on her bed
So as a teacher what are you supposed to do when other kids are sleeping and only one child is awake? I asked them they said the teacher is there.. But as a mom I expect them to be by her side and try to soothe her to sleep
Is my expectation wrong?
engaging them.. this i m not doing.. i ll do it
It's tough with covid restrictions. Some daycare centers aren't letting parents go to the classroom. But if you can, it's great way to get your child settled in 😊
I have 3 little girls who are 3 months old and Derszą is only 2 years old and she is a problem because if she decides that she will not accept going to kindergarten, she will stay that way and her sisters will see how she reacts to being in kindergarten and they will understand that something is wrong and they also start to get angry, that is, they cry and scream all day because the older sister does that, and the teachers in kindergarten have trouble with the girls because they simply refuse to play with the teacher and won't let themselves be held or hugged and put to sleep in bed, they start kicking their feet aggressively and don't want to be in bed with toys to play, they just kick the blanket off with their feet and throw toys on the floor
Oh that's so rough 😔😔 I'm sorry. Have you explained to your oldest that her sisters are going to copy her reaction?
Yes yes they copy her, but she doesn't want to understand it, she doesn't care
i am a single mother and mentally unstable i don't know what will happen if i break i can lose my biggest treasure in life my babies
How could kid feel secure with the teachers and kids they see first time in their life? When I was a home caregiver, I built the trust step by step. So needs to be in daycares... but unfortunately this system apparently doesn’t allow it. Since kids are just tamed to be in the daycare, otherwise I do not tolerate the attitude that the guardians cannot accompany kids at least for the first weeks.
I agree that it's ridiculous that parents aren't allowed to go in with their kids in some places. I personally would never put my child somewhere where I wasn't allowed access to them. Trust does need to be built over time.
2 and 3 are contradictory
Write a note and get them engaged? I can see how they might not go well together. The note is for the teacher to be able to read, to assess your child's needs after you go. Getting them engaged with toys helps your child feel comfy before you go. The idea with getting them engaged is that their teacher doesn't have a chance to speak with you because they've got their hands full with other kids. These tips also cover a range of ages too. Let me know if I can clarify anything else for you 😊
don’t enable it and linger.
Tough to hear, but true!
Ratio 7 to 1 that’s insane 🗣
I completely agree. And it's 10 to 1 for 2.5 year olds. It's bananas
It’s 1 to 12 here in Cali I was like 1 to 7 is amazing 😂😂
@@Tennessegal 1 to 12!? That's insane!!
It’s 1:3 for under 2’s in the U.K.
@@Applesonthelawn That's amazing!
7 to 1 ratio ?! That is insane. There is no way one person can adequately take care of 7 toddlers under 3 years at the same time. In Germany, we have a 3 to 1 ratio.
Agreed!! It was insanely stressful. 3 to 1 sounds amazing
daycare for infants is wicked
Respectful disagree. Not everyone can afford to stay home with their kids and there are amazing daycares out there.
Any tips for new daycare teachers on how to comfort 10 crying 2 yearolds 😣I wish I had enough arms for all ! A few of them have settled well but a lot of them are inconsolable 🥲
Songs songs and more SONGS. Put your embarrassment away and sing interactive songs with them. My favorite is Hermy the worm. Look up songs with hand motions in your spare time and memorize them to sing with the kids. 2 year olds LOVE singing with hand motions. If that fails, finger painting on the table is always a major win. Or wet the table down and squirt some Johnson and Johnson soap on it and rub it around so they can play in the bubbles (art smocks recommended lol!) If you're able to sneak an extra recess, that helps too. Outside is a magic fix for a lot of kids
If you haven't already look up Pete the Cat books. When I taught daycare those were life savers too. The books have songs you sing in them. Pete's new shoes was my class favorite
@@RelatableMotherhood THANK YOU SO MUCH !! 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼
@@anamartinez4002 you're welcome! 😊 I hope it helps!