Dear clutterbug, I have been watching your videos for a long time now and I wanted to truly thank you. Just from you being you and your authentic self, I have let go of so much. Now the plan is to stop buying excessive stuff and replace what I’ve let go of. I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability so much. I relate to you on so many levels. Thank you for the tough love, it’s just what I needed. Just tonight, I probably discarded 200 items in my kitchen alone. It has a whole new energy, the air feels so much clearer. 🎉❤
"You got your money's worth," and, "It's going to end up in a landfill someday anyway" are such freeing statements for throwing stuff away guilt-free in those times when I just can't deal with getting rid of it "properly." Thank you for that!
I completely agree! Also remembering what our time is worth...posting things on Facebook marketplace and having it sit in a corner in our house for a month to only make us $10, is probably not worth it unless we are really strapped for cash and need to make any bit of money we can...then it could be worth it. But if it's just remaining as clutter that won't make us much money to be worth our time in the end, it's not worth it.
I’m sure that you get a lot of feedback that you are angry or intense but that’s what I need. You have legit changed my life. Don’t stop being you. We need you
I'm a retired empty nester who lives alone. I love listening to you while I do chores around the house, and I've learned from you. I'm working on decluttering, but just wanted to add some things that I've found helpful for others in my stage of life. In my 70's, I just plain don't want to clean anymore. Of course, I do the dishes and any small cleaning jobs that need to be done. However, I have a retirement job I love and I'd rather earn money to have cleaners do the main cleaning for me. A wonderful young couple comes for two hours every other week and do the major cleaning for me. And guess what? That has been the best thing I've done for myself and my happiness -- and it also helps with decluttering!!! I want them to see that I've made progress between their visits, so I accomplish some of my sorting and decluttering. I'm figuring out what I really want to keep in this stage of life, as well as what I want to check with my kids to see if something is of value to them -- and then get rid of the rest! Sometimes when my cleaners come, my sorting is in the worse before it gets better stage -- and they will even neaten up what I'm working on which also inspires me! I'm glad I saved all kinds of memorabilia for this stage of life. I'm FINALLY sorting through it -- and throwing a lot out! But I'm making scrapbooks for my kids and sending out notes to friends and family with photos inside reminding us of our younger days. Also, as a single person, I want to own enough towels and bedding for guests -- and for full loads of laundry! So many times I've heard the suggestion to have no more than two sets of sheets and towels per person from many declutter experts, but you might be better off when older having more in your linen closet -- and your underwear drawer -- and you will reduce the frequency of doing laundry as well as save time by doing bigger loads instead of tiny loads each week. Just wanted to add some thoughts from a different life stage! I appreciate how you let us know it's not about minimalism and that it's okay to have multiples of things you actually use (one thing I have a lot of is mixing bowls for my Christmas cookie baking binge -- and there are other times when I use an unusual number of mixing bowls!) Maybe some time you can do a podcast especially for us empty-nesters!
I think that most of what you’re saying is ok… excepting for “checking with kids” is an excuse that hoarders use to hang onto stuff. There are a lot of decluttering videos on UA-cam on the theme of “No One Wants Your Stuff”. Try searching for them and watching.
I agree with you on the amount of stuff to wash. In my case for the dishwasher. I don't need so many utensils that they don't fit in the drawer. I just like to fill the dishwasher before turning it on without running out of forks.
One of my music teachers used to get in our faces when we were being timid in our playing and say, "Who's playing who? Are you playing that horn or is that horn playing you?" For Cass, it's, "Who owns who? Do you own your space, or does your space own you?" 😉🙃
You are FREAKING AMAZING! I was able to dejunk the most heinous sections of my kitchen I've been putting off for years, while listening to this podcast. Gosh, HOW WE NEED YOU, Cass! Thanks for your analogies, your straight talk, thanks for not sugar coating things and for also addressing the shame. There's so much shame and being in a shame spiral is immobilizing. Nothing gets done if you are feeling shame. The tomorrow's me analogy is SO POWERFUL! I am sharing that with my kids. Thank you for giving me my power back today. You are a true friend, Cass! Thanks for making a difference in my life! TODAY!
Your "tough love" videos are always my favorite! I will listen to them especially on those days when I'm just not feeling it. A kick in the pants is needed from time to time, and I appreciate it. :)
You say it in every video, but it finally clicked during the all-day-declutter and I’m over my plateau. “Find things that Can go” So I’ve been decluttering for like 2 years now, and I’ve been donating tons and tons of things, but I’ve still been over my clutter threshold in my small house with two little kids and I was like I don’t even know what else there *is* to let go. So I started hunting for things, because of your advice. Digging and digging in every drawer and cabinet and bookshelf and corner until I found something, anything that I didn’t mind parting with, or that we would be okay without. And now that I’m really getting rid of those kinds of things, it’s really making an impact finally on how our daily life is functioning. It’s not like “does this have a home” or “where would I look for it” or even “would I remember I have one” or “is there enough space for this” it’s *what is there in this space that can go* And now I can just look in there like “ooh, this can go, this can go, this can go” So I got rid of 8 bags during the All Day, and 3 bags today.
Right I'm now satisfied with my journey of decluttering, though not perfect, I'm at the ease stage of my life. Cleaning feels like breeze and I'm now playing Cass or dawn in loop and meanwhile hunting for what more can go because I love what decluttering did for me ❤ thanks Cass. Love you. You deserve all the love in the world for what you've done for us.
Definitely!! We went through exactly what Cas described! It was so upsetting! We couldn’t get the squatters out for about a year. And after, the house was DESTROYED!!! I really lost my faith in our government and judicial system….
I like how you start this with compassion. Its not my fault it got cluttered, i inherited a messy house from 3 hoarders and I've definitely felt shame and sad and angry at this. But ive made so much progress. It's not where i want it, but i keep trying. Sometimes it feels like im clawing my way out tooth and nail, but I'm determined that in one year I can host friends for Christmas.
Thanks to you, Cass, I have decluttered better than I usually do. Every year, I declutter but this time I got 29 bags out. If I hadn't listened to your podcasts, I would have probably discarded half as many. I am cooking stuff that I thought I would someday but forgot to you because the supplies were hidden somewhere. Cooking is more fun now. Thank you!
I can safely say once I sent my adult kids’ stuff to them and my ex hoarder moved out that the new found space I had was life changing. I’ve started to organise my house and sheds to work for me and making functional furniture and items along and changing up my spaces. In the last few weeks, my mindset shifted and suddenly my old teenage habit of keeping my room tidy has kicked in. While I’m still doing a lot of projects around the house and still organising, it’s automatic to leave each room tidier than when I walked in to it. The cleaning side hasn’t kicked in again yet but I’m working on it.
You are giving me life today! " I USED TO BE A HOARDER" BUT, to be honest I still am! I realized today it is starting again😢❤ 🤗 Dana K white's 5 steps is a miracle worker alongside your pep talks/ORGANIZATIONAL SKILLS and Dawn the minimal mom's minimalist input. I swear the three of you getting together and creating a community is the best thing that ever happened to a lot of us! It is most definitely not easy, stuff shuffle is mine and others death. You are absolutely correct "THE ONLY WAY OUT IS TO GET THINGS OUT!" CAS THE CLUTTERBUG THANK YOU!!!! YOU ARE CHANGING LIVES! 🙏
Cas!!!!!! Oh my goodness!!! I’m in the middle of the story and wow….. “the tiny condominiums we buy for them, storage totes”… that’s my downfall. It has officially hit me!!! (Also, so sorry for your parents and anyone who deals with squatters)
Cas, your Tough Love videos are my favorite. They really motivate me and get me to view things differently. Please keep giving us your great advice. No more squatter condominiums for me!
This is absolutely mindest changing, thank you. When you started and said to declutter while listening, I got up while everyone is still sleeping and decided to tackle that misc just in case big storage bin that has been on my to do list for nearly 2 years now. Every time we need something that may be in there, I don't even want to open it. So we haven't used anything in there for over 2 years but moved with it twice. I keep thinking if I just organize it well enough, we may actually start using these things when we need something. And then you started the story. So far I went with our stuff is inventory I need to manage from Dawn but now I will always think our stuff as renters and it's time to get rid of the squatters! Amazing. 15 min into the video and I'm done - only kept the drill and the iron. Everything else bye bye squatters. The excess kitchen bin is next - I bet I can get it done befoe this video is over 😉 Thank you Cas for the tough love.
I absolutely LOVE the analogy of thinking of things as "squatters" ! What a perfect analogy! Also. to give yourself permission to just chunk it rather than feeling obligated to sell it or rehome it to a particular person, who you won't see in the immediate future, You are just creating work for future you. You are right. Clutter takes so much more time to clean, it makes it hard to enjoy impromptu visits from friends and building tour squatters individualized rooms, houses, or container condominiums is not the solution either! It is amazing how simple analogies and just drawing our attention to the plain and simple ways of thinking about these things truly breaks down mental road blocks that you were mislabeling as something else. Thanks, Cas!
Also, the idea of keeping "20% of each area as unused real estate" rule for growth AND to actively declutter frequently (not when you are bursting at the seams) is an excellent idea to keep in mind. Such simple and elegant declarations to mentally work against, will make a difference.
This all applies to your outbuildings too. If you have a garden shed or a storage unit or a garage, all of those spaces need this same attention as your house does. Your house obviously comes first priority, but once you have decluttered your house, move on to any outbuildings you have. I live on a farm and have thoroughly decluttered my house, so now I'm working on our workshop, quansit, and storage sheds. There are SO many places to store clutter when living on a farm! And of course your vehicle needs this TLC as well!
“Everything in your home will end up in a landfill eventually.” My God I needed to hear that. The guilt I feel about getting rid of things that I feel could still be used is immense. So I hang on to them to donate, to sell, to save. I’m going to grab a trash bag and fill it right now, TODAY.
As I am decluttering while listening to this,I am making progress with my personal belongings but I can safely say my family has not gotten the memo. They do not want me to get rid of their stuff. I feel like I need to start a support group for this sub section of people who love decluttering but have to deal with this.
Years ago, I had the same clutter you described -- so much stuff, all I had was pathways from the bedroom door to the bed to thecloset. I've always had trouble sleeping, so I got in the habit of getting out of bed and decluttering in the middle of the night. I got an astonishing amount done. I have moved twice (decluttered and downsized twice), and still have WAY more stuff than I can use or store. Since I still can't sleep, I'm getting up during the night again and cleaning/decluttering. The idea of 'squatters' is really helpful. I've saved this video in my Watch Later list so I can find it easily, and will keep listening to it for encouragement. Thanks, Cas! 😊❤😊
When I do something that serves my future self like load my dishwasher before going to bed.. i thank my past self in the morning. This midset shift helps me do the things TODAY.
I’m finding doubling up on jobs is working well. If I’m taking the kitchen trash out, I’ll accidentally pick up my gloves, branch clippers and put on my boots and start filling the green waste bin or take out some weeds for a few minutes. I hate gardening and while it’s not the best to have that stuff in the foyer, it’s there ready to go (and I’m the only one here so it’s not in anyone’s way). I consider this doing an extra bonus job around the place and didn’t get stressed over a spontaneous chore that always needs doing. ❤
I have been watching your declutter pod casts today and decided to clean out a cupboard in my kitchen that was mostly gadgets and reusable bags. It was easier than I thought and I feel so good! You inspired me to get going, thank you so much for all your tip and inspiration!!
10 mins in and tearing up. Thank you Cassidy for giving us, those who run households, the power over these things. We don't need to apologize, we just need to take our homes back.
I would love it if you did more of tough love videos and also some that are a real time cleaning without specific instructions. I loose motivation so quickly but hearing things like: you're almost there, you only have a little more to go, push yourself just a bit more, take a deep breath and keep going. I know it's overwhelming you can do it. Clear your mind of thinking you've failed becaused you let it get to this point and keep moving. Don't stress when you pull out the couch and see old chips and toys behind it. Just keep on etc... these are the things I tell myself but would love to be able to play an episode like that, you have such a soothing voice. You content has helped me a lot but need at least one episode where I'm constantly reminded I'm not a failure and I can push through minute by minute ❤
Wow Cass!!!!! You brought it HOME!!! Your parent’s story gripped our hearts and your squatter analogy released the chains of our mindset. Thank you!!!!!! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥
So I thought about the things that weren't helpful but made more work for me. But, apparently it's illegal to put my hubby and kids (19, 20 & 21) in the bin for the trash truck to come 🤣😂🤣😂 I'm kidding. Those are the folks I'd literally give anything for. So, undiagnosed adhd at the time, I'd developed so many of her concepts, ideas, methods, etc. Man, my life was so organized, clean and clutter wasn't a thing. Bc afterall, those tasks piling up, clutter my already adhd brain. This life, with my kids small at the time, gave me the time to play with them, sit with them after school with a delicious snack I made. Dinner on the table, Pantry organized, meal plans and grocery lists always ready, I'd set up a plan that addressed every part of my home, cleaning, declutterinc, fixing, mowing, you name it. Each day I woke up without the thought, "what needs to be done today". I didn't have to triage priorities like an ER. I was able to be all school events bc I actually had the time and the mental capacity to be there. I even had time for me, to go to kickboxing classes and run for miles each day. I had weekly lunches with my mom. I had time with friends. I had time for a personal trainer for my dog and follow through with my own homework. While we were tight on funds, I was able to use it wisely and really maximize each dollar. My adhd didn't seem to affect me bc id actually incorporated coping skills used had I gone through cognitive behavioral therapy. Once my kids reached 12 and 13, I got very sick. After a stint in the icu, I spent another year in bed, learning to walk again. But now I had a chronic illness to manage to remain alive. That illness, caught too late, cause severe nerve damage all over my body, it attacked muscles. So after a year, I was mobile without aides. But, I was still working through the health issues holding me back from doing the things I never thought I'd miss. Laundry, dishes, dinner, etc. Wow, I missed those. By the time my focus could turn back to my home, it was way out of control. I love my hubby, but this is not his strength. I love my kids, but they didn't know what to do since dad couldn't really direct them. I essentially woke to chaos. Man, I've tried so hard to return to that book I created back then before it had a trendy name (Home Management Binder). I went to sleep one day with it together at home, I woke up and chaos surrounded me. So i tried to start at the finish line. That was a no no. Listening to this wonderful lady is like listening to my old self. She gives the advice I'd give my friends when they asked for my help putting their homes together. So, I'm relearning that part of me again but not from the finish line, but I'm trying to start at the beginning when trial and error was where I started, from the start line. Even though I'm now diagnosed and treated, adhd really can't handle clutter. My brain goes insane until it goes into shutdown. Everything has indeed become effort and friction. I'm not going to lie, it's not easy to do little things without finishing the entire picture. If I had the money, I'd hire a helper or coach to come and retrain me. But I love everything this woman does. She's wise and I pray she continues to help others. She nails it every time. Great job Mrs Clutterbug! (Such a cute name to use)
I needed a body double to declutter today. As I listened to this, you talked about how totes are condos for our junk. I won't lie, it wasn't the right time as I was sorting my kid's old souvenirs and putting them into a tote. 😢 I have no other place to put the curated collection so it's toted. But I do appreciate you Cass, thanks for being there.
The most powerful words I've ever heard from you! I am crying! I appreciate this "tough love" and it's exactly what I needed to hear at this moment in my life. Thank you from the very bottom of my heart, Cass!
I've listened to this 3 times. The first time, I ignored the "if you've got in a place to do the work, listen !ater" thing, but I needed to ramp myself up first....so I listened to it over the weekend. This Monday morning, I have listened to it twice and have gotten rid of 2 bags of crap and have a bag being filled with clothes to donate the next time a donation collection comes along (they're pretty regular here). Just junk, old papers, kids old school notebooks from several years ago, junk from the hall closet, into the trash. The garbage runs tomorrow, as well as the recycling, so at least this stuff will be gone. I don't have a car to take to the dump, nor extra money for a dumpster, so it will take some time to get it all out, but this is the start.
The floor is lava!!!! That's exactly one of my biggest problems currently. I have a very tiny apt with not much storage, so I've piled the perimeter with stuff. 🙄 I have learned the most from this particular podcast. I've been decluttering for the past couple of weeks and always listen to decluttering videos while I'm working. Cas, you reasonate with me the best. I absolutely love your analogies. My mind thinks better in pictures. You have made a huge positive impact in my life. 30+ years of clutter, finally making headway and breaking the cycle. I owe you a huge debt of gratitude. 💜
Up until a few months ago, I was indeed drowning by always trying to do the right thing. I am STILL finding trash that I had bagged up for recycling years ago. Right now I am just trying to swim. Right now it feels good to just be able to get stuff out, including some of the clothing that is bullying me and causing anxiety. Started decluttering my yarn today before I turned this video on and so far have almost 3 bags ready to donate. I have to destashify until it all fits in the container that I had preselected for yarn storage. No excuses, no exceptions.
Wow the cage analogy is awesome cause.We're being caged in by all of our clutter.We can't even use the things that we need to use because of the junk that we don't need or we're afraid to get rid of. yeah this genius cas. thank you
Cass your analogy about you parents squatter and our stuff squatters gave me shivers and made me feel like crying, thank you. I’m so sorry your mom and stepdad went through that. I’m going to listen to it again ❤
Love when you said don't worry about recycling and putting everything in the right place today. Just get it OUT!! and when you get sorted, then you can work at that👍 You are just wonderful to listen to!! And come across as such a genuine fun person. Love from Ireland.🇮🇪
I think I watched it four times in a row. This spoke my language to the core. At first it was pretty intense and almost lost me when you were telling the squater story, lol I don't even know why but I am so glad I stuck through it cause I watched so many cleaning videos and this is my favorite. I have two bags just from my closet. It's crazy too cause Everytime I clean I keep saying it's a load off of tomorrow or gives me time to do other things tomorrow. I think of tomorrow me so this spoke volumes to me ❤. I can't even express how much I love this video
This was such a helpful video! Thank you so much. I took your advice and cleaned out my dining room. It now actually looks like a dining room. I kept reminding myself that my future self would thank me for the work I did today. It really helped me to keep going.
I have been listening and watching your videos as I’m decluttering my house. I have been really purging and cleaning. I could go hours and not get tired.
I have to say I’ve watched a lot of decluttering videos and this really hit home. This is probably of the best pep talks I’ve ever heard!! This just gave me the motivation I needed to do the hard things! Because it’s all so true every bit of it I really like the squatter analogy!
Thank you Cas, because your saying that out "stuff" is like a squatter not paying rent, hit home so true to me. I have a whole room full of such things downstairs, plus a spare bedroom also the same. For the last 7 years I have been weighed down with all this stuff - well no more my friends! Like the song goes "Today this could be, the greatest day of your life" so be it! Things have to change for me. xxx
Hello Cass, I am really not that messy. I have taken 8 trips to I Goodwill, my Church. I have fractured my foot and, I was tired of resting. So I love listening to you. It makes me happy when I at least get one thing done even if I don’t want too.
You're not screamy or coming across as angry. You're PASSIONATE and youre trying to show people and tell people about this "life preserver" or "life vest" and they're out to sea drowing and youre trying to get the news out to them that the way not to drown is by putting on that "life vest" that is right next to them. It's like someone is in a paddle boat or canoe in the middle of the lake or ocean and there's a leak and it's filling with water and while the person is curling up in a ball, feeling lost or "done for" and because you've been in their place before.....you're trying with all your might with how defeated they feel and how loud the waves and noise is, to tell them that there is a way out...and it will be hard work....but they will overcome in the end....if they would just PICK UP THE BUCKET THAT'S NEXT TO THEM IN THE BOAT AND START BAILING THE WATER!! They will overcome and life is calmer and way less chaotic on the shore.
So much life altering nuggets of wisdom here. Gonna save this to listen to during my decluttering sessions. Listened today while I was cleaning my fridge. It is so clean and I got rid of all the things that were nagging me to find a new/different way to use up. It’s so freeing. Thank you so much Cas!
Hi Cas, have you or would you ever (Please) possibly share with us how you personally started to turn your clutter around ( in your place that you described that only had paths & cluuter high and really dirty dishes)? It just felt like sharing how you might have dug out of your situation there at that point of overload, and maybe how long it took to get to a manageable level or amount of items would really help alot of us, hear how you did it. TIA.
Renters - I had a young couple do the same thing to me! It resulted in my bankruptcy, my damaged house foreclosed and I had no where to live. I, like your parents, rented my home for security and it left me destitute. Some people just suck!!! Since then I have been afraid of real estate.
OMG! This is so motivating! One thing that helped me with indecision was to create an under bed bin for a FEW clothes, and a basket in my garage for a FEW kitchen utensils, labeled “Temporary Separation.” I’ve taken one or two things out of each and enjoyed wearing or using them so I’m not ready to toss them yet. It feels like a security blanket.
I feel so seen with these videos. I'm constantly fighting clutter and my urge to shop. I'm so much better than I was but these videos help me get even better.
I’m so sorry to hear about what your mum and stepdad went through. That guy was horrible!!! I do appreciate the tough love from determined Cas!!! You tell it like it is.
I need to listen to your tough love before I start. I need the motivation and you provide that, Cass. The great thing is that I need it a little less than when I 1st started 6 months ago. I see my changes and I thank you for that!
I finally realized I was super stressed and honestly angry with our house situation when someone asked me what I would take if my house caught on fire. Realistically, I'd want my family and pets to be safe and the rest can burn. I would want pictures but honestly, I wouldn't have time to grab them all. I'm even a painter. In the past I used to say I'd want my paintings. But then, I heard something, "if someone were to steal your paintings or your house burned down with your paintings inside, that does not extinguish the skill you have. The paintings you made before will not be the best painting you'll ever make"... Completely changed my perspective. But yeah, I'm so pissed that prior me couldn't let go. She was so afraid. And honestly, it's freaking liberating to get rid of stuff!!! It is such an amazing feeling yet, it is so hard to get over the feeling of fear and shame and guilt. But, we got this!!!
Wow, I love your mindset change. I lived with a hoarder and although was always stressed by his stuff when walking through a room I couldn’t raise it as an issue because I knew he’d get mean and nasty. Now his stuff is gone I fully realise how much his hoarding affected me. I’m careful about what I keep in my home now and it’s awesome to be on the journey to having everything sorted and organised how I need it and maintain it. ❤
I like your thoughts about your artwork-my daughter loves to create and design and it can be hard for her to let it go- there is only so much space for it all and no one is enjoying it in storage. I will try to gently work this sort of commentary in next time we need to go through and purge some pieces.
@@vs35971 💜💜💜 at one point I had a bunch of artwork in storage - my sister asked if she could have it on loan. She ended up framing it all and hung them up at her office at work.
I’m so mad at all this stuff now. Looking at the junk like it’s a squatter stealing my joy and peace has motivated me more than anything else I’ve ever read or listened to. Thank you!
That is probably the best analogy I have ever heard! Never thought of my stuff as being squatters that aren't paying rent! Priceless! I feel like I have been set free! Thank you so much!
Cas, you are a life changer to me. I continue to follow your guidance and you are right. I decided that Im curoius about the value of collectibles, but yard sale candidate stuff takes upon too much research time that I dont have to value, then find a buyer. The household real estate needs to hold a higher value than these squatting objects.🤨
The story of the squatter... Sadly described my dad. He proudly shared how he hadn't paid rent for a year (cause he felt he didn't need to cause of something the landlord did or didn't do🤦♀️). I'm so ashamed that he's that type of person. 😣 And it's not the only time he's done something like that... Ugh. So disgraceful. He's a classic narcissist - everything is everyone else's fault.. always.
Thank you for being 100% transparent! That vulnerability inspires me to admit my clutter issue and makes me want to finally move forward and deep dive into all this stuff and eliminate it! Thank you Cass! You're the bomb! Merry Christmas 🎄
You are passionate about helping people and I appreciate you. I hear a lot of “why did you do it like that?”, and “you’re weird “. Now after over 3 years of therapy I try to ignore it, but it’s still hard. But listening to you really helps me. ❤
“ if you’re drowning, we’re not worrying about your swimming technique.” GOLD!
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a brilliant analogy.
Agreed 😁
Yes! Loved that quote!
Thank you for the reality check and glasses to see with!❤
“You don’t have to sell it… you got your money’s worth because you used it.” Hugely important.
You know what I’m hearing and realizing is people who have too much stuff tend to be super caring, conscientious, overly responsible, good folks. ❤😊
I think the best advice ever is the reminder that everything eventually ends up in a landfill.
I LOVE the 'Squatter' analogy. Here is a quote that is so on point: "Clutter Is Nothing More Than Postponed Decisions" Barbara Hemphill.
Wow love that. Thanks for sharing
That's a good one, thank you for sharing
Making decisions is SO hard for me!!
Thank you
Yes, so so speaking for me! A revelation!
Dear clutterbug,
I have been watching your videos for a long time now and I wanted to truly thank you. Just from you being you and your authentic self, I have let go of so much. Now the plan is to stop buying excessive stuff and replace what I’ve let go of. I appreciate your honesty and vulnerability so much. I relate to you on so many levels. Thank you for the tough love, it’s just what I needed. Just tonight, I probably discarded 200 items in my kitchen alone. It has a whole new energy, the air feels so much clearer. 🎉❤
"You got your money's worth," and, "It's going to end up in a landfill someday anyway" are such freeing statements for throwing stuff away guilt-free in those times when I just can't deal with getting rid of it "properly." Thank you for that!
That was profound 😮 I finally get it
I completely agree! Also remembering what our time is worth...posting things on Facebook marketplace and having it sit in a corner in our house for a month to only make us $10, is probably not worth it unless we are really strapped for cash and need to make any bit of money we can...then it could be worth it. But if it's just remaining as clutter that won't make us much money to be worth our time in the end, it's not worth it.
You aren't coming across as angry to me. You are coming across as passionate, based on your own experiences.
I’m sure that you get a lot of feedback that you are angry or intense but that’s what I need. You have legit changed my life. Don’t stop being you. We need you
I'm a retired empty nester who lives alone. I love listening to you while I do chores around the house, and I've learned from you. I'm working on decluttering, but just wanted to add some things that I've found helpful for others in my stage of life. In my 70's, I just plain don't want to clean anymore. Of course, I do the dishes and any small cleaning jobs that need to be done. However, I have a retirement job I love and I'd rather earn money to have cleaners do the main cleaning for me. A wonderful young couple comes for two hours every other week and do the major cleaning for me. And guess what? That has been the best thing I've done for myself and my happiness -- and it also helps with decluttering!!! I want them to see that I've made progress between their visits, so I accomplish some of my sorting and decluttering. I'm figuring out what I really want to keep in this stage of life, as well as what I want to check with my kids to see if something is of value to them -- and then get rid of the rest! Sometimes when my cleaners come, my sorting is in the worse before it gets better stage -- and they will even neaten up what I'm working on which also inspires me! I'm glad I saved all kinds of memorabilia for this stage of life. I'm FINALLY sorting through it -- and throwing a lot out! But I'm making scrapbooks for my kids and sending out notes to friends and family with photos inside reminding us of our younger days. Also, as a single person, I want to own enough towels and bedding for guests -- and for full loads of laundry! So many times I've heard the suggestion to have no more than two sets of sheets and towels per person from many declutter experts, but you might be better off when older having more in your linen closet -- and your underwear drawer -- and you will reduce the frequency of doing laundry as well as save time by doing bigger loads instead of tiny loads each week. Just wanted to add some thoughts from a different life stage! I appreciate how you let us know it's not about minimalism and that it's okay to have multiples of things you actually use (one thing I have a lot of is mixing bowls for my Christmas cookie baking binge -- and there are other times when I use an unusual number of mixing bowls!) Maybe some time you can do a podcast especially for us empty-nesters!
I think that most of what you’re saying is ok… excepting for “checking with kids” is an excuse that hoarders use to hang onto stuff. There are a lot of decluttering videos on UA-cam on the theme of “No One Wants Your Stuff”. Try searching for them and watching.
I agree with you on the amount of stuff to wash. In my case for the dishwasher. I don't need so many utensils that they don't fit in the drawer. I just like to fill the dishwasher before turning it on without running out of forks.
One of my music teachers used to get in our faces when we were being timid in our playing and say, "Who's playing who? Are you playing that horn or is that horn playing you?" For Cass, it's, "Who owns who? Do you own your space, or does your space own you?" 😉🙃
WELL SAID MY FRIEND 👍👍💯
Thank you Cass!! You are coming across as a passionate motivator!!
I've had enough!!! 😂
If its today, or 100 years from now everything you own now will eventually end up at the landfill. THAT is so FREEING. Thank you!
"I give you permission"
You've broken my heart Cas. 😭
No-one has ever loved me like this before. 🥺
Thank you. 💖 xxx
"you piled it on yourself" omg this hits home
You are FREAKING AMAZING! I was able to dejunk the most heinous sections of my kitchen I've been putting off for years, while listening to this podcast. Gosh, HOW WE NEED YOU, Cass! Thanks for your analogies, your straight talk, thanks for not sugar coating things and for also addressing the shame. There's so much shame and being in a shame spiral is immobilizing. Nothing gets done if you are feeling shame. The tomorrow's me analogy is SO POWERFUL! I am sharing that with my kids. Thank you for giving me my power back today. You are a true friend, Cass! Thanks for making a difference in my life! TODAY!
I declutterred my entire living room during this podcast. It feels amazing 😭🙏🏽
Amazing!!! I’m doing bedrooms
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Your "tough love" videos are always my favorite! I will listen to them especially on those days when I'm just not feeling it. A kick in the pants is needed from time to time, and I appreciate it. :)
This is one of the best videos I have ever seen that explains why we need to declutter on a continuous basis. Thanks Cass!
You say it in every video, but it finally clicked during the all-day-declutter and I’m over my plateau. “Find things that Can go”
So I’ve been decluttering for like 2 years now, and I’ve been donating tons and tons of things, but I’ve still been over my clutter threshold in my small house with two little kids and I was like I don’t even know what else there *is* to let go. So I started hunting for things, because of your advice. Digging and digging in every drawer and cabinet and bookshelf and corner until I found something, anything that I didn’t mind parting with, or that we would be okay without. And now that I’m really getting rid of those kinds of things, it’s really making an impact finally on how our daily life is functioning.
It’s not like “does this have a home” or “where would I look for it” or even “would I remember I have one” or “is there enough space for this” it’s
*what is there in this space that can go*
And now I can just look in there like “ooh, this can go, this can go, this can go”
So I got rid of 8 bags during the All Day, and 3 bags today.
Right I'm now satisfied with my journey of decluttering, though not perfect, I'm at the ease stage of my life. Cleaning feels like breeze and I'm now playing Cass or dawn in loop and meanwhile hunting for what more can go because I love what decluttering did for me ❤ thanks Cass. Love you. You deserve all the love in the world for what you've done for us.
Same for me! That shift from - should I keep this - to - looking for things to leave - dynamic shift!
Squatter laws and eviction laws all desperately need to be changed.
Definitely!! We went through exactly what Cas described! It was so upsetting! We couldn’t get the squatters out for about a year. And after, the house was DESTROYED!!! I really lost my faith in our government and judicial system….
I like how you start this with compassion. Its not my fault it got cluttered, i inherited a messy house from 3 hoarders and I've definitely felt shame and sad and angry at this. But ive made so much progress. It's not where i want it, but i keep trying. Sometimes it feels like im clawing my way out tooth and nail, but I'm determined that in one year I can host friends for Christmas.
Thanks to you, Cass, I have decluttered better than I usually do. Every year, I declutter but this time I got 29 bags out. If I hadn't listened to your podcasts, I would have probably discarded half as many. I am cooking stuff that I thought I would someday but forgot to you because the supplies were hidden somewhere. Cooking is more fun now. Thank you!
Permission to just throw some stuff away is huge. ❤ It's such a giant roadblock.
I say this a lot, “That pile isn’t hurting me”… YES IT IS! thank you Cass, I needed that!!
I can safely say once I sent my adult kids’ stuff to them and my ex hoarder moved out that the new found space I had was life changing. I’ve started to organise my house and sheds to work for me and making functional furniture and items along and changing up my spaces. In the last few weeks, my mindset shifted and suddenly my old teenage habit of keeping my room tidy has kicked in. While I’m still doing a lot of projects around the house and still organising, it’s automatic to leave each room tidier than when I walked in to it. The cleaning side hasn’t kicked in again yet but I’m working on it.
This video is a home run Cas. One of your best!
You are giving me life today! " I USED TO BE A HOARDER" BUT, to be honest I still am! I realized today it is starting again😢❤ 🤗 Dana K white's 5 steps is a miracle worker alongside your pep talks/ORGANIZATIONAL SKILLS and Dawn the minimal mom's minimalist input. I swear the three of you getting together and creating a community is the best thing that ever happened to a lot of us! It is most definitely not easy, stuff shuffle is mine and others death. You are absolutely correct "THE ONLY WAY OUT IS TO GET THINGS OUT!" CAS THE CLUTTERBUG THANK YOU!!!! YOU ARE CHANGING LIVES! 🙏
Cas!!!!!! Oh my goodness!!! I’m in the middle of the story and wow…..
“the tiny condominiums we buy for them, storage totes”… that’s my downfall.
It has officially hit me!!!
(Also, so sorry for your parents and anyone who deals with squatters)
Also, I thought of those storage units for our stuff. Definitely a home we are spending money for squatters.
Cas, your Tough Love videos are my favorite. They really motivate me and get me to view things differently. Please keep giving us your great advice. No more squatter condominiums for me!
This is absolutely mindest changing, thank you. When you started and said to declutter while listening, I got up while everyone is still sleeping and decided to tackle that misc just in case big storage bin that has been on my to do list for nearly 2 years now. Every time we need something that may be in there, I don't even want to open it. So we haven't used anything in there for over 2 years but moved with it twice. I keep thinking if I just organize it well enough, we may actually start using these things when we need something.
And then you started the story. So far I went with our stuff is inventory I need to manage from Dawn but now I will always think our stuff as renters and it's time to get rid of the squatters! Amazing.
15 min into the video and I'm done - only kept the drill and the iron. Everything else bye bye squatters. The excess kitchen bin is next - I bet I can get it done befoe this video is over 😉 Thank you Cas for the tough love.
Woohoo! Congratulations on getting it done. Keeping stuff organised can definitely be a trap to not decluttering. ❤
I absolutely LOVE the analogy of thinking of things as "squatters" ! What a perfect analogy! Also. to give yourself permission to just chunk it rather than feeling obligated to sell it or rehome it to a particular person, who you won't see in the immediate future, You are just creating work for future you.
You are right. Clutter takes so much more time to clean, it makes it hard to enjoy impromptu visits from friends and building tour squatters individualized rooms, houses, or container condominiums is not the solution either! It is amazing how simple analogies and just drawing our attention to the plain and simple ways of thinking about these things truly breaks down mental road blocks that you were mislabeling as something else. Thanks, Cas!
Also, the idea of keeping "20% of each area as unused real estate" rule for growth AND to actively declutter frequently (not when you are bursting at the seams) is an excellent idea to keep in mind. Such simple and elegant declarations to mentally work against, will make a difference.
Also ....when feel compelled to sell x item, realize that you already got your moneys worth by using it.
This all applies to your outbuildings too. If you have a garden shed or a storage unit or a garage, all of those spaces need this same attention as your house does. Your house obviously comes first priority, but once you have decluttered your house, move on to any outbuildings you have. I live on a farm and have thoroughly decluttered my house, so now I'm working on our workshop, quansit, and storage sheds. There are SO many places to store clutter when living on a farm! And of course your vehicle needs this TLC as well!
“Everything in your home will end up in a landfill eventually.” My God I needed to hear that. The guilt I feel about getting rid of things that I feel could still be used is immense. So I hang on to them to donate, to sell, to save. I’m going to grab a trash bag and fill it right now, TODAY.
As I am decluttering while listening to this,I am making progress with my personal belongings but I can safely say my family has not gotten the memo. They do not want me to get rid of their stuff. I feel like I need to start a support group for this sub section of people who love decluttering but have to deal with this.
Everything in your home will eventually end up in a landfill. Honest truth. Wonderful, thanks for your honesty
Years ago, I had the same clutter you described -- so much stuff, all I had was pathways from the bedroom door to the bed to thecloset. I've always had trouble sleeping, so I got in the habit of getting out of bed and decluttering in the middle of the night. I got an astonishing amount done. I have moved twice (decluttered and downsized twice), and still have WAY more stuff than I can use or store. Since I still can't sleep, I'm getting up during the night again and cleaning/decluttering. The idea of 'squatters' is really helpful. I've saved this video in my Watch Later list so I can find it easily, and will keep listening to it for encouragement. Thanks, Cas! 😊❤😊
When I do something that serves my future self like load my dishwasher before going to bed.. i thank my past self in the morning. This midset shift helps me do the things TODAY.
I’m finding doubling up on jobs is working well. If I’m taking the kitchen trash out, I’ll accidentally pick up my gloves, branch clippers and put on my boots and start filling the green waste bin or take out some weeds for a few minutes. I hate gardening and while it’s not the best to have that stuff in the foyer, it’s there ready to go (and I’m the only one here so it’s not in anyone’s way). I consider this doing an extra bonus job around the place and didn’t get stressed over a spontaneous chore that always needs doing. ❤
Squatter condominiums!!! I’m a landlord to squatter condos. I have to evict them!
And we get to decide, without having to go to court to call the police or anything! Isn’t that cool!!
When Cas said that about clutter squatter condos, I smiled so wide - that was pure gold ❤
Thank you, Cas!
I have been watching your declutter pod casts today and decided to clean out a cupboard in my kitchen that was mostly gadgets and reusable bags. It was easier than I thought and I feel so good! You inspired me to get going, thank you so much for all your tip and inspiration!!
10 mins in and tearing up. Thank you Cassidy for giving us, those who run households, the power over these things. We don't need to apologize, we just need to take our homes back.
'You stuff can be a squatter' great analogy that I can remember. Love it.
This is one of your best podcasts ever
I'm watching, pausing the video, trashing things, playing again, pausing... and so it goes 😂
If there were an Olympic event in "Stuff Shuffling," I'd at least get a bronze medal. 😅 Thank you for the motivation to just stop it!!!
I love the squatter concept - that icks me out enough to really get stuff out.
I would love it if you did more of tough love videos and also some that are a real time cleaning without specific instructions. I loose motivation so quickly but hearing things like: you're almost there, you only have a little more to go, push yourself just a bit more, take a deep breath and keep going. I know it's overwhelming you can do it. Clear your mind of thinking you've failed becaused you let it get to this point and keep moving. Don't stress when you pull out the couch and see old chips and toys behind it. Just keep on etc... these are the things I tell myself but would love to be able to play an episode like that, you have such a soothing voice. You content has helped me a lot but need at least one episode where I'm constantly reminded I'm not a failure and I can push through minute by minute ❤
Wow Cass!!!!! You brought it HOME!!! Your parent’s story gripped our hearts and your squatter analogy released the chains of our mindset. Thank you!!!!!! 💪🏼💪🏼💪🏼❤️❤️❤️🔥🔥🔥
This was more profound and touching than I expected. Thank you
So I thought about the things that weren't helpful but made more work for me. But, apparently it's illegal to put my hubby and kids (19, 20 & 21) in the bin for the trash truck to come 🤣😂🤣😂 I'm kidding. Those are the folks I'd literally give anything for.
So, undiagnosed adhd at the time, I'd developed so many of her concepts, ideas, methods, etc. Man, my life was so organized, clean and clutter wasn't a thing. Bc afterall, those tasks piling up, clutter my already adhd brain. This life, with my kids small at the time, gave me the time to play with them, sit with them after school with a delicious snack I made. Dinner on the table, Pantry organized, meal plans and grocery lists always ready, I'd set up a plan that addressed every part of my home, cleaning, declutterinc, fixing, mowing, you name it. Each day I woke up without the thought, "what needs to be done today". I didn't have to triage priorities like an ER. I was able to be all school events bc I actually had the time and the mental capacity to be there. I even had time for me, to go to kickboxing classes and run for miles each day. I had weekly lunches with my mom. I had time with friends. I had time for a personal trainer for my dog and follow through with my own homework. While we were tight on funds, I was able to use it wisely and really maximize each dollar. My adhd didn't seem to affect me bc id actually incorporated coping skills used had I gone through cognitive behavioral therapy.
Once my kids reached 12 and 13, I got very sick. After a stint in the icu, I spent another year in bed, learning to walk again. But now I had a chronic illness to manage to remain alive. That illness, caught too late, cause severe nerve damage all over my body, it attacked muscles. So after a year, I was mobile without aides. But, I was still working through the health issues holding me back from doing the things I never thought I'd miss. Laundry, dishes, dinner, etc. Wow, I missed those.
By the time my focus could turn back to my home, it was way out of control. I love my hubby, but this is not his strength. I love my kids, but they didn't know what to do since dad couldn't really direct them. I essentially woke to chaos.
Man, I've tried so hard to return to that book I created back then before it had a trendy name (Home Management Binder). I went to sleep one day with it together at home, I woke up and chaos surrounded me. So i tried to start at the finish line. That was a no no.
Listening to this wonderful lady is like listening to my old self. She gives the advice I'd give my friends when they asked for my help putting their homes together. So, I'm relearning that part of me again but not from the finish line, but I'm trying to start at the beginning when trial and error was where I started, from the start line. Even though I'm now diagnosed and treated, adhd really can't handle clutter. My brain goes insane until it goes into shutdown. Everything has indeed become effort and friction.
I'm not going to lie, it's not easy to do little things without finishing the entire picture. If I had the money, I'd hire a helper or coach to come and retrain me.
But I love everything this woman does. She's wise and I pray she continues to help others. She nails it every time.
Great job Mrs Clutterbug! (Such a cute name to use)
It’s real not tough. You are incredibly kind, funny, genuine and respectful. ❤
I need someone to push me even if they scream , I’m that bad, I need real discipline ‼️
You are great Cas!
I needed a body double to declutter today. As I listened to this, you talked about how totes are condos for our junk. I won't lie, it wasn't the right time as I was sorting my kid's old souvenirs and putting them into a tote. 😢 I have no other place to put the curated collection so it's toted. But I do appreciate you Cass, thanks for being there.
You were fired up and motivating. I didn’t feel like you were screaming or yelling at us!
Thanks to you, I donated my first carload of clutter to a thrift store this morning 😊
The most powerful words I've ever heard from you! I am crying! I appreciate this "tough love" and it's exactly what I needed to hear at this moment in my life. Thank you from the very bottom of my heart, Cass!
I've listened to this 3 times. The first time, I ignored the "if you've got in a place to do the work, listen !ater" thing, but I needed to ramp myself up first....so I listened to it over the weekend. This Monday morning, I have listened to it twice and have gotten rid of 2 bags of crap and have a bag being filled with clothes to donate the next time a donation collection comes along (they're pretty regular here). Just junk, old papers, kids old school notebooks from several years ago, junk from the hall closet, into the trash. The garbage runs tomorrow, as well as the recycling, so at least this stuff will be gone. I don't have a car to take to the dump, nor extra money for a dumpster, so it will take some time to get it all out, but this is the start.
The floor is lava!!!!
That's exactly one of my biggest problems currently. I have a very tiny apt with not much storage, so I've piled the perimeter with stuff. 🙄
I have learned the most from this particular podcast. I've been decluttering for the past couple of weeks and always listen to decluttering videos while I'm working. Cas, you reasonate with me the best. I absolutely love your analogies. My mind thinks better in pictures. You have made a huge positive impact in my life. 30+ years of clutter, finally making headway and breaking the cycle. I owe you a huge debt of gratitude. 💜
Up until a few months ago, I was indeed drowning by always trying to do the right thing. I am STILL finding trash that I had bagged up for recycling years ago. Right now I am just trying to swim. Right now it feels good to just be able to get stuff out, including some of the clothing that is bullying me and causing anxiety. Started decluttering my yarn today before I turned this video on and so far have almost 3 bags ready to donate. I have to destashify until it all fits in the container that I had preselected for yarn storage. No excuses, no exceptions.
Squatter condominiums! Bahaha 😂😂😂 Love it!
Wow the cage analogy is awesome cause.We're being caged in by all of our clutter.We can't even use the things that we need to use because of the junk that we don't need or we're afraid to get rid of. yeah this genius cas. thank you
Cass your analogy about you parents squatter and our stuff squatters gave me shivers and made me feel like crying, thank you. I’m so sorry your mom and stepdad went through that. I’m going to listen to it again ❤
Love when you said don't worry about recycling and putting everything in the right place today. Just get it OUT!! and when you get sorted, then you can work at that👍 You are just wonderful to listen to!! And come across as such a genuine fun person. Love from Ireland.🇮🇪
Your podcast is pure gold!
I think I watched it four times in a row. This spoke my language to the core. At first it was pretty intense and almost lost me when you were telling the squater story, lol I don't even know why but I am so glad I stuck through it cause I watched so many cleaning videos and this is my favorite. I have two bags just from my closet. It's crazy too cause Everytime I clean I keep saying it's a load off of tomorrow or gives me time to do other things tomorrow. I think of tomorrow me so this spoke volumes to me ❤. I can't even express how much I love this video
I'm going to listen to this everytime I'm decluttering. Thank you, thank you, thank you! 🙏
I almost spit out the water in my mouth when Cass said “squatter condominiums” OH MY GAWWWD!! 😆🤣
OMG love the comment about storage bins being squatter condos 😂 LoL
“It isn’t a cat.” 😂😂😂
This was such a helpful video! Thank you so much. I took your advice and cleaned out my dining room. It now actually looks like a dining room. I kept reminding myself that my future self would thank me for the work I did today. It really helped me to keep going.
"We have tiny homes for our squatters now" 😂
I never see things like this. I press stop and start thinking. Thank you very much.
I have been listening and watching your videos as I’m decluttering my house. I have been really purging and cleaning. I could go hours and not get tired.
I have to say I’ve watched a lot of decluttering videos and this really hit home. This is probably of the best pep talks I’ve ever heard!! This just gave me the motivation I needed to do the hard things! Because it’s all so true every bit of it I really like the squatter analogy!
Thank you Cas, because your saying that out "stuff" is like a squatter not paying rent, hit home so true to me. I have a whole room full of such things downstairs, plus a spare bedroom also the same. For the last 7 years I have been weighed down with all this stuff - well no more my friends!
Like the song goes "Today this could be, the greatest day of your life" so be it! Things have to change for me. xxx
Hello Cass, I am really not that messy. I have taken 8 trips to I Goodwill, my Church. I have fractured my foot and, I was tired of resting. So I love listening to you. It makes me happy when I at least get one thing done even if I don’t want too.
You're not screamy or coming across as angry. You're PASSIONATE and youre trying to show people and tell people about this "life preserver" or "life vest" and they're out to sea drowing and youre trying to get the news out to them that the way not to drown is by putting on that "life vest" that is right next to them. It's like someone is in a paddle boat or canoe in the middle of the lake or ocean and there's a leak and it's filling with water and while the person is curling up in a ball, feeling lost or "done for" and because you've been in their place before.....you're trying with all your might with how defeated they feel and how loud the waves and noise is, to tell them that there is a way out...and it will be hard work....but they will overcome in the end....if they would just PICK UP THE BUCKET THAT'S NEXT TO THEM IN THE BOAT AND START BAILING THE WATER!! They will overcome and life is calmer and way less chaotic on the shore.
So much life altering nuggets of wisdom here. Gonna save this to listen to during my decluttering sessions. Listened today while I was cleaning my fridge. It is so clean and I got rid of all the things that were nagging me to find a new/different way to use up. It’s so freeing. Thank you so much Cas!
Hi Cas, have you or would you ever (Please) possibly share with us how you personally started to turn your clutter around ( in your place that you described that only had paths & cluuter high and really dirty dishes)? It just felt like sharing how you might have dug out of your situation there at that point of overload, and maybe how long it took to get to a manageable level or amount of items would really help alot of us, hear how you did it. TIA.
Renters - I had a young couple do the same thing to me! It resulted in my bankruptcy, my damaged house foreclosed and I had no where to live. I, like your parents, rented my home for security and it left me destitute. Some people just suck!!! Since then I have been afraid of real estate.
OMG! This is so
motivating! One thing that helped me with indecision was to create an under bed bin for a FEW clothes, and a basket in my garage for a FEW kitchen utensils, labeled “Temporary Separation.” I’ve taken one or two things out of each and enjoyed wearing or using them so I’m not ready to toss them yet. It feels like a security blanket.
I feel so seen with these videos. I'm constantly fighting clutter and my urge to shop. I'm so much better than I was but these videos help me get even better.
I’m so sorry to hear about what your mum and stepdad went through. That guy was horrible!!! I do appreciate the tough love from determined Cas!!! You tell it like it is.
I need to listen to your tough love before I start. I need the motivation and you provide that, Cass. The great thing is that I need it a little less than when I 1st started 6 months ago. I see my changes and I thank you for that!
Good on you Suzy and keep going girl! 😃👏🏽🌟
Wow, the comparison to drowning is so very spot on. I’ve never thought about it that way. Thank you! 😮
It doesn't seem like anger necessarily, it seems like zeal and passion!
Love the squatter condominium idea!
Best advice yet! Thanks for permission to declutter stuff without worrying where it will go. The squatter idea is super! Thanks Cas!
I finally realized I was super stressed and honestly angry with our house situation when someone asked me what I would take if my house caught on fire. Realistically, I'd want my family and pets to be safe and the rest can burn. I would want pictures but honestly, I wouldn't have time to grab them all. I'm even a painter. In the past I used to say I'd want my paintings. But then, I heard something, "if someone were to steal your paintings or your house burned down with your paintings inside, that does not extinguish the skill you have. The paintings you made before will not be the best painting you'll ever make"... Completely changed my perspective. But yeah, I'm so pissed that prior me couldn't let go. She was so afraid. And honestly, it's freaking liberating to get rid of stuff!!! It is such an amazing feeling yet, it is so hard to get over the feeling of fear and shame and guilt. But, we got this!!!
Wow, I love your mindset change. I lived with a hoarder and although was always stressed by his stuff when walking through a room I couldn’t raise it as an issue because I knew he’d get mean and nasty. Now his stuff is gone I fully realise how much his hoarding affected me. I’m careful about what I keep in my home now and it’s awesome to be on the journey to having everything sorted and organised how I need it and maintain it. ❤
I like your thoughts about your artwork-my daughter loves to create and design and it can be hard for her to let it go- there is only so much space for it all and no one is enjoying it in storage. I will try to gently work this sort of commentary in next time we need to go through and purge some pieces.
@@vs35971 💜💜💜 at one point I had a bunch of artwork in storage - my sister asked if she could have it on loan. She ended up framing it all and hung them up at her office at work.
Thank you Cass! So needed this tough love today. So many gems in this podcast . Thank you again
I’m so mad at all this stuff now. Looking at the junk like it’s a squatter stealing my joy and peace has motivated me more than anything else I’ve ever read or listened to. Thank you!
That is probably the best analogy I have ever heard! Never thought of my stuff as being squatters that aren't paying rent! Priceless! I feel like I have been set free! Thank you so much!
I truly enjoy and NEED these pep talks. Thank you! 🫶🏽
Cas, you are a life changer to me. I continue to follow your guidance and you are right. I decided that Im curoius about the value of collectibles, but yard sale candidate stuff takes upon too much research time that I dont have to value, then find a buyer. The household real estate needs to hold a higher value than these squatting objects.🤨
The story of the squatter... Sadly described my dad. He proudly shared how he hadn't paid rent for a year (cause he felt he didn't need to cause of something the landlord did or didn't do🤦♀️). I'm so ashamed that he's that type of person. 😣 And it's not the only time he's done something like that... Ugh. So disgraceful. He's a classic narcissist - everything is everyone else's fault.. always.
Tough Love Cas makes me feel like a warrior!!! 🙌❤️🎉
Thank you for being 100% transparent! That vulnerability inspires me to admit my clutter issue and makes me want to finally move forward and deep dive into all this stuff and eliminate it! Thank you Cass! You're the bomb! Merry Christmas 🎄
That squatter story is POWERFUL! It took me a while to see this one, but thanks so much!
Thanking Jesus for you. So blessed by you sweet momma Cass cause LESS is BETTER!!!
You are passionate about helping people and I appreciate you.
I hear a lot of “why did you do it like that?”, and “you’re weird “. Now after over 3 years of therapy I try to ignore it, but it’s still hard. But listening to you really helps me. ❤