Coming Out After Gaining Fame
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- Опубліковано 9 лют 2025
- Karel Bouley, a radio host and entertainer, shares his personal insights on the journey of coming out.
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I totally agree with this man. I came out at the age of 21 in 1977 after only one gay sex experience. My Italian-raised father threw me out of the house not long after. But I kept coming out... to my brothers and sisters, to my friends and finally at work. I knew that it was important to come out for others who didn't have the courage to do so. And it irks me too, when prominent people come out after they have made their millions. Hollywood rallies around them calling them brave! Courageous! Just the opposite, in my books.
Karel is absolutely right. I, too, had an Italian father. I moved out of my parents' house in 1977 when I was 24. He wasn't "thrilled" about it, I'm sure, but he did accept me and my partner and was always good to us in his way. Sorry you had this trouble with dad.
I'm with you on this.
Always be yourself even in hard times
Amen!
Amen!
There's no one standard way to come out. Everybody has to choose their own path. That's just me saying.
Spot on! Very well said…
But when you are in the public eye you owe it to other LGBTQ people to be honest with who you are.
@@ReallyKarel sorry, I disagree. No one has to explain who they are to anyone just to make someone else feel better about themself.
@@richarddamico5639 They don’t have to explain themselves, they need to be honest with themselves. being in the closet and being a pubic figure are counterintuitive. If you want closets, then stay anonymous. No one is making you become famous. But if you choose a public life, in front of people, then have the decency to be honest about who you are.
@@ReallyKarel some people don’t have the luxury of being honest in public life. I was in federal law enforcement for 35 years I couldn’t “be myself” for fear of ending a stellar career. Each person has a different story to tell. and each has their own price to pay.
Easier said than done, even today. By the way the puppy is cute.
She’s a scene stealer.
She really is a scene stealer.
I’ve always known that teenage suicide could be gay self loathing as the reason, went through it myself. Grateful almost 80 and at the end, no more tears.
Glad you made it through it all. Grateful to have you here.
Good for you!
YES! Every day being careful. Happy to become old and invisible. It might save my life and to hopefully not keep questioning my "presentation" and getting hate from other gays. It's not easy. I will say that I never wanted to be straight just wanted to hide better and be left alone.
But KB DOES sound gay, and his rejection by the program host was a personal choice based on his metrics. Nothing personal against KB. So, is KB saying that teens shouldn't kill themselves and just come out and "deal with it"? They ARE dealing with it. People who come out after they've "made it" can do so because they have the resources to give the world the finger if they so choose. They chose life over honesty. KB comes across as smug, bitter, and unsympathetic. That's also his choice.
I don't think KB is saying teens shouldn't kill themselves and just come out and deal with it. He never said or implied that anywhere in this video, but you said that. He has a very strong valid point. You completely hijacked the video and made it about something else....not covered in this video. I've recorded and edited this video myself so I know he did not make such comments at all.
The only bitter person here seems to be you. My metrics were #1 in my time spot at two #1 stations. It was being gay. Said out loud, to my face. "I'd love to program you, but you sound too gay..." exact words. Had nothing to do with metrics. Teens kill themselves because they have few accepting adults or role models because those that can stay in, do, until it benefits them financially. As for me being bitter, I've earned the right.
Oh, get real. Anyone listening to Karel on the radio must have known. I sure did. Its like assuming Charles Nelson Reilly was straight.
Then you missed the point. I say in the video I had no choice, I am OBVIOUSLY gay. But it's for those that can pass that are in the closet and then come out AFTER fame that we are addressing. Perhaps you should rewatch.
Bitter, table for one. When people make the argument this guy is making, it’s always about advancing gay rights for them. It’s selfish and as narrow minded as those who ostracize gays. Indeed, it’s a form of ostracizing. Before you judge someone, walk a mile in their shoes.
Their shoes are usually ugly and don't fit. And how, pray tell, is saying that people should be honest about their lives when they are in the public eye BEFORE DURING and AFTER fame is that bitter? As for advancing gay rights, well, I've done more to expand yours than mine. But hey, that's life.
There is no need to be bitter though…
You don't know his story; you only know your own. Some people have every reason to feel a certain way. I'm a very non-assuming, masculine man. I've lived on three different continents-sometimes in challenging places-and I've never been treated the way a non-masculine man might be. ... All this assuming Karel is bitter, and he's really not. I'm working on his full story at the moment so I know more about him.