"Childfree after infertility" why do we make this statement?
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- Опубліковано 12 вер 2023
- We always state that we are childfree after infertility, although we rarely talk about being childless and our videos are really about the joy of living on our narrowboat. So we thought we would speak about this a little in this extra little video as it is currently World Childless Week.
We have kept this short and only touch upon this subject. Some links below for more general information on World Childless Week, HFEA stats about fertility treatment and NHS information on Cystic Fibrosis.
worldchildlessweek.net/
www.nhs.uk/conditions/cystic-...
www.hfea.gov.uk/about-us/publ...
If you're new here, we are Emmie and Stuart ‘Bobson’, and we moved on to narrowboat Annie in 2022. We are childfree after infertility and this is our new adventure.
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Much love to you. My sister and her Husband travelled a similar road. Though my sister could get pregnant she couldn't carry them beyond 3 to 4 months. The technology wasn't yet available that may now have helped them. It was heart breaking. But she is a wonderful aunty and great Aunty. We shared the birth of my first child and they continue to be close. We are family. Thank you and much love and hugs.
Thank you so much for watching and for sharing with us. Much love to you and your sister and her husband. We also have much joy in being an aunty and uncle ❤️
Just watched your latest blog. We feel very moved and proud that you have spoken so eloquently on this subject. Hope
It helps people who are facing this problem. Love and hugs to you both. Mum and dad, Anne and John xx
I never had children nor has my husband. It’s what happens in life sometimes. I’m happy y’all don’t stress about and have started a new beginning.
Thank you x
Thank you for sharing , this means a lot to me, I appreciate you both. My husband and I are childless not by choice. This channel has been such a positive and inspiring place for us, and is helping us navigate through everything we’ve been going through
Thank you so much for these kind words, it really means a lot to us to hear this ❤️ sending you both hugs x
thank you for sharing your story x i am currently dealing with my third miscarriage and although utterly confused i know that childfree after loss is not off the table for us and it is nice to know we are not alone
We are so sorry to hear that, we hope you find happiness however the future turns out. Sending lots of love. X
Thank you for sharing so sensitively and considerately. I made a choice not to have children, this is still a rare decision and nobody ever asks me about it, just awkward comments and change of subject.😂 I love my life, and the experience I’m having. I do like your perspective on the what if. Love your videos and your creativity.
Thank you so much for watching and for sharing with us ❤️ we appreciate hearing others have made similar choices and love life 😊
Thank you so much for sharing this with us. Having children should always be a personal choice and not something that is forced on you by grandparents as it were. Of my children two chose not to have children, one can't have children and the other two have one child each. My children are very happy in their lives. Whether they are the ones with children or not. God bless you both.
Can only say how sad but you are carrying on and made a new start thinking of you wishing you well sending hugs the oldies 🥰🥰🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗
Thank you so much. We definitely agree that no one should have to be a parent if they don't want to be, and it's lovely to hear all your children are happy, whether they have children or not.
Thank you so much for sharing this. I absolutely love how you have embraced life despite it taking a very different turn to that you had planned. ❤Thank you also for touching on and acknowledging those of us who are child free by choice. It does still have a stigma attached and I am often challenged and judged for my life choice. Keep on keeping on. sending love. Roo xox
Thank you Roo, we know quite a few people who are childfree by choice (and in a way we could be considered childfree by choice, as we chose to stop and embrace childfree life). Regardless of whether we come to this choice through infertility or just knowing ourselves to know it is not what we want, it's still a choice we have made and deliberated over, and should be respected.
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Thank you for explaining your infertility because I was always curious about the story behind that intro to your videos. I can see the raw feelings and how it did make you both sad. You opened up showing us all the beautiful truth of how you two are amazing people bearing your hearts. You have me support more now than ever before. Keep your spirits up as you always have.
Thank you for watching and for your kind words. It means a lot to us.
Brilliant for sharing your story ❤ - We had 10+ years of failed IVF and IVF is incredibly difficult.. it’s a harder than anything we’ve ever done, mentally and physically.
We now have 2 boys but you need to be at peace with your own choices.. it’s so good that you can make your peace with where you are.. I’m v jealous of your boat btw !!!
Thank you for watching and thank you also for sharing your experience with IVF.
Beautiful vlog, beautiful sensitive people. Please continue to have a truly adventurous and happy life just being. God bless both xx
Thank you so much! ❤️❤️
Sending so much love to you both! Thank you for sharing your journey ❤
We are grateful to have met you through narrowboating! 😊
❤️❤️❤️ same!
Thank you for sharing your story. Very appreciated and I believe much needed. Continued Happiness to you both!
Thank you so much ❤️
Thank you so much for sharing your story. Infertility is such a horrible and hard road, one that i know well. You show great courage to share this and it will bless many people to see your story xx
Thank you so much for watching and for sharing with us. Much love x x
Thank you for being open about this. It's important for people who are in a similar situation, and still a brave thing to do.
I'm glad you found your way to a happiness together. It may not be the happiness you imagined years ago but it's still happiness and you worked very hard for it.
Last but not least: you made a decision that was right for you. Never forget that, but also never forget that it's okay to change your mind if you still have other options.
I hope you enjoy your adventure wherever it takes you.
Thank you
Thank you Emmie and Stuart. 🥰
Thank you! ❤️
Thank you for talking about this. I had wanted to leave a comment asking about your intro but felt that you would share your story in time. I am approaching 34, and am in a similar situation. I always saw myself having a large family and still struggle occasionally with the fact this will never happen. You are both truly an inspiration ❤
At 34, unless you have medical issues (and even if you do, there are still options if you're determined), you still have the time to start a family if you want it.
Don't let anyone tell you you're too old to be a mum.
@@YaaLFH In general that is correct. However, this comment is only part of an individual persons story. Unless you know Victoria and her whole story, you do not know the reason she says she will not have a large family.
While we believe you meant to help, your advice was not requested and assumes she has not already considered the options available to her.
Huge hugs and thank you so much for sharing with us and for your patience ❤️ we had intended to share our story sooner but it was difficult.
Thank you. Yes you are correct. I think people have the best intentions with their comments. Unfortunately many don’t realise it’s not as easy as “just adopt”.
@@bobbing_along You're right - I don't know Victoria's story, but that wasn't my point.
I was referring to her age. We're still very often told that at 34 we're "too old" to pursue parenthood in whatever way is available to us. We're not.
It wasn't meant as advice, just as a reminder that age on it's own doesn't have to be one of the reasons.
What a brave video ❤
Thank you for sharing your story, you’re both very brave. Much love and hugs to you xx love you guys xx😊
Thank you for listening ❤️ love and hugs x
Bless you ❤Thank you for sharing your infertility journey, especially each of your individual feelings. Your future together will still be filled with love, happiness and joy. I’m a firm believer in, things happen for a reason. Who knows what our futures bring. Love the both of you 🥰
Thank you so much ❤️
Love you guys!
Excellent video ….
Thank you for sharing xx
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I appreciate this video!.. Thank you!.. 😊 🙏
Thank you for letting us know ❤️
Love watching your vlogs. Thank you for sharing that x
Thank you so much for watching ❤️
I understand this man. I am also infertile.
Thank you ❤️ sending love
Thanks for sharing, bless you both.
Thank you for watching and being here x
Thank you for sharing this sending big hugs your way xx
Thank you so much, many hugs x
Thankyou for sharing your story 😢 you both are so lovely x
Thank you for watching and being here. X
So proud of you two for sharing your story so sensitively and speaking about it so eloquently!
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Big hugs to you both. I felt that was a very brave conversation that you have shared with everyone, very open and sensitively put, yet very rounded. Keep enjoying your journey, and I will continue to travel along with you from afar.
Thank you so much for watching and for being here ❤️
I must say I always wondered that.👍👍✔✔
Now you know :)
thank you for sharing. Can't have been easy
Thank you, it wasn't easy x
So brave much love to you ,you love each other that's all that counts xxx
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Hi you two, I was really moved by how you both so openly and honestly shared such a close and sensitive topic. Sending you both every happiness on your journey together. ❤
Thank you so much for watching and being here x x
I love watching the vlog from USA
Thank you for watching x
Peace my friends xx
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How would you deal with a situation where one desire changed? As in have you discussed/ emotionally prepared. I only as because you speak definitively, whilst mentioning you check in.
After spending several years processing our grief and coming to our decision, plus both of us are nearly 40, we feel pretty confident we won't change our minds.
However, as it's a life changing decision we think it's important to check in. A change of heart would be huge and the possibility has been considered. We would need to do a lot of talking, and potentially attend therapy before moving forward, whether together or apart.
@@bobbing_alongfingers crossed it doesn’t come up for you. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts.
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