I THOUGHT HAD FOUND THE ONE ON ONLINE DATING APP AND THEN HE ABANDONED ME AT.....

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  • @florencenuru4687
    @florencenuru4687 Рік тому +22

    Don't date anyone for more than 3months 😢if he is not making any good move live him find someone else😢

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому +3

      Exactly dear

    • @ChisomandPiotr
      @ChisomandPiotr Рік тому +4

      Yes I said it in my video. Don't let them waste your time. This is 2023/2024 shine your eyes

    • @michelle76678
      @michelle76678 Рік тому

      ​@@africanbellatherealtalk🏆🏆🏆

    • @Stellanankya
      @Stellanankya Рік тому +2

      Lol! So, how does it work? I think there should always be room for getting to know each other. I don't agree with this

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому +5

      @Stella-nancha In a period of 3months he should have a concrete plan on when you guys are meeting otherwise you will get to know each other even in 10years without meeting and he will either ghost you eventually or keep chatting to waste your time.

  • @sylviawillington8469
    @sylviawillington8469 Рік тому +1

    Oh dear Bella, i couldn't even concentrate on the video just kept looking at your beautiful face and your lovely dressing, i mean your giving this rich aunty vibes 🤗🤗🤗 God bless you for always helping us out.

  • @AchiroNyaPaco
    @AchiroNyaPaco Рік тому +3

    Eh , really sad for Pam. Thanks dear for enlightening us always.we love you ❤

  • @jjdorothy7866
    @jjdorothy7866 Рік тому +10

    Chaii this stories of abandoning ladies even make me focus more on my goals 😊😊😊😊😊

  • @nassalishamilah3731
    @nassalishamilah3731 Рік тому +2

    Feeling so sad for what happened to our sister 😔 and Pamela she's just a strong woman because if it was me heeee my dear 😂, thank you so much Bella for always advising us ❤❤may God bless you 🙏🙏

  • @chipobenjaminnyahuye4165
    @chipobenjaminnyahuye4165 Рік тому +2

    Feeling sad for what happened to our sis Pamela. But also learning something. Thanks Bella for adding more alerts on online dating search.

  • @nakawooyagrace792
    @nakawooyagrace792 Рік тому +1

    Thanks Bella fro always been there for us we really appreciate so much darling
    Sorry for our sister but be strong darling God will bring your soulmate much love from Uganda 🇺🇬🥰

  • @judyclara330
    @judyclara330 Рік тому +1

    Bella i love your videos am learning here

  • @riamhills11
    @riamhills11 Рік тому +3

    Some guys can be really super manipulative 😄😡. Bella I need tutorial of that eye shadow 😊 you look so cute 😍. waiting for part 2

  • @SharonandFamily
    @SharonandFamily Рік тому +2

    With those his bad habits that their can't take he is rejected here. Now he went to stress and play our sister wah. True Bella denial of visa always has reasons for sure. Poor Pamela went through alot. Ladies don't resign at your job until you are assured he is the one. Alot of lessons to learn from this. Looking forward to part 2

  • @annmungai4753
    @annmungai4753 Рік тому +2

    Oh my goodness.. I can't wait for part 2..

  • @JemimahMuthoni-ok4ib
    @JemimahMuthoni-ok4ib Рік тому +4

    Hello Bella,today i was just thinking about you of you have stayed for long without giving as a video,all over sudden boom boom,i open my UA-cam then a video from your is the first one to Pop,we really missed you

  • @linetgechemba9767
    @linetgechemba9767 Рік тому

    Honestly Pamela had patience! After the first red flag,she could have left that guy. Can't wait for part 2 !
    Thanks sis Bella for educating us🙏🙏one can never go wrong with your educative videos.
    God bless you.

  • @annortis
    @annortis Рік тому +3

    Sorry for her ,she went through alot already,she was so patient with that guy,i wish she could h told him to meet in Tanzania and not quit the job so sad she had to walk the whole day waiting for him to answer the phone i felt bad he did this to her ,God bless you bella fir those stories they help many of us keep up❤

  • @natashafortunate2931
    @natashafortunate2931 Рік тому +4

    Next part please.... This story is full of afro cinema

  • @betsyakoko6810
    @betsyakoko6810 Рік тому +2

    Thanks Bella waiting for part2

  • @shearlednah6591
    @shearlednah6591 Рік тому +3

    Our beautiful Bella, thank you for always watching out for us, you are indeed a blessing,
    I actually thought this was a continuation of part two of the story you brought us of a Kenyan lady who was also mistreated by her boyfriend, the airport drama, not telling the lady how things are done,I don't know if you remember that story 😂

  • @KarenAzi.Desire
    @KarenAzi.Desire Рік тому

    Oh Pamela😢😢
    She was in love and she couldn’t notice the red flags 🚩 I thank God for Bella she is always here to advice us tirelessly 😢 Thank you sister ❤
    May almighty God keep blessing u for us ❤

  • @ivymujala9053
    @ivymujala9053 Рік тому +1

    Can't wait for part 2. Naivety at it's best

  • @IreneAsuko-t2q
    @IreneAsuko-t2q Рік тому +3

    Hello good evening Bella indeed there was red flags in this Relationship but our poor sister was blinded with love too bad but it's areally abig lesson to learn and thank you Bella for bringing such stories to shine our eyes may God bless you and your beautiful family dear and abig love always take care.

  • @InaD-f6y
    @InaD-f6y Рік тому +2

    😢 sorry sister Pamela,woooi so sorry sis

  • @VickyGist7477
    @VickyGist7477 Рік тому

    Nice one dear African bella thanks for sharing 😘😘👍

  • @marthakunda-nn9jc
    @marthakunda-nn9jc Рік тому +2

    It was very bad to her and to us we need to learn something from this video
    Thank you so much Bella God bless you and your family ❤❤❤❤

  • @Hlulizinyanga
    @Hlulizinyanga Рік тому +4

    Yo very interesting to learn ❤

  • @LizzVicky-hw9up
    @LizzVicky-hw9up Рік тому

    Omg so sorry for our sis Pam, you have a sweet sis,

  • @castymwende3523
    @castymwende3523 Рік тому +1

    Looking good bella 🥰

  • @ChisomandPiotr
    @ChisomandPiotr Рік тому +10

    Beautiful Bella. Great lessons and advice to learn from ❤❤❤❤

  • @Singtoh_Gabriel
    @Singtoh_Gabriel Рік тому +2

    Great lessons from the story. Welldone Bella

  • @VeraEkwa
    @VeraEkwa Рік тому

    Omg I am so so speechless. Pamela a lot of red flags my sister keeps ignoring them. She let Jeff walked all over her with no respect at all. I am sad she went stranded in Mombasa 😢 waiting for part two

  • @GoldenFavour-od5ot
    @GoldenFavour-od5ot Рік тому +3

    You look very beautiful thank you for the advice

  • @davidkoon767
    @davidkoon767 Рік тому +1

    Great Advice ❤❤❤

  • @LizzVicky-hw9up
    @LizzVicky-hw9up Рік тому +3

    God has a reason for all the denial visa chances, the guy was a red flag

  • @michelle76678
    @michelle76678 Рік тому +1

    Whoooo i cant wait for part 2 yiu make me 😂😂😂about the juicy 😂😂😂 so true bella ask questions

  • @BatendaJoyce
    @BatendaJoyce Рік тому

    Thanks a lot my beautiful sister Bella for your advice

  • @gracegifty6845
    @gracegifty6845 Рік тому +1

    Thanks Bella God bless you! ❤❤❤

  • @Beautifullynah
    @Beautifullynah Рік тому +3

    Having bella God sent will help many ladies to avoid mistakes
    Cause of being blind in love

  • @mlolombapapama6243
    @mlolombapapama6243 Рік тому

    Great advice,thanks for sharing ❤

  • @Lovice-n9z
    @Lovice-n9z Рік тому +2

    Been through this stuff,it really hurts 💔

  • @ayishatumohammed3239
    @ayishatumohammed3239 Рік тому +1

    Bella I need your Advice, My long distance boyfriend wants to come to my country Ghana and meet me in person for the first time and when he come he will rent a nice apartment for us to live together in my country Ghana for 6months or 1years for us to know ourselves, He said he doesn't want to rush to Marriage so he wants to live with me in my country Ghana for 6months or 1year on our first meeting in person before he will go back to his country Europe. Please Is it a good idea to live together with my long distance boyfriend in my country for 6month or 1year on our first meeting in person because he wants us to know ourselves more better?

  • @betsyakoko6810
    @betsyakoko6810 Рік тому +4

    Sorry for her I saw one lady to left with pregnancy and Hiv from a German man as well so sad

  • @jjdorothy7866
    @jjdorothy7866 Рік тому +4

    Jesus Crist whaaat🙄🙄🙄🙄Bella ur looking mmwaaahhh🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰🥰chaiii this struggle 😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅now after Namibia 🇳🇦 it's now Kenya 🇰🇪 😳 ug🇺🇬 next😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

  • @elizamwetulundila3171
    @elizamwetulundila3171 Рік тому +1

    Wow what a waste of good 4 years!!! Sorry for what you went through and strength to you my sister Pamela 🙏🙏. Thank you Bella for sharing the story it is an eye opener to many to shine their eyes and take note of the 🚩🚩🚩

  • @brendadickson9583
    @brendadickson9583 6 місяців тому

    It's been 6 months after watching this sad story n will watch all the parts I hope Pamela will have her happy ending with the right man❤

  • @jacklinenjambi4450
    @jacklinenjambi4450 Рік тому +1

    How can you go live with someone who you are not married to?most of the time, when someone comes and live with you,once he gos? you will never see him?he wants to come use you.please take great care of yourself.

  • @ميمونه1234-ب2ل
    @ميمونه1234-ب2ل Рік тому +4

    I have seen you my love I will come back after work much love from the pearl of Africa Uganda 🇺🇬🇺🇬 y

  • @nalubegamariam8980
    @nalubegamariam8980 Рік тому +3

    Hi my lovely sis Bella 💗 hope you are fine darling 😘

  • @aishanaziwa9431
    @aishanaziwa9431 Рік тому +2

    I couldn't be patient like that sister.

  • @memorybanda9277
    @memorybanda9277 Рік тому +3

    Oh my God Pamela is a patient lady as for me everything would have ended at the first meeting and also dating a guy for four years, that was ridiculous, there were alot of red flags but our sister was blinded by love, chai🙉🙉 let me wait for part 2, this abandoning thing is becoming more and more serious among African sisters who are always allow these unserious white men to step on them, that's so sad 😮😮

  • @usertopista6633
    @usertopista6633 Рік тому +2

    So sad for our sister Pamela for the bad experience she had 😢😢😢

  • @ethelbertamutagaywa7874
    @ethelbertamutagaywa7874 Рік тому

    Hi, not all guys who say their family background is unhealthy lie. We just need to be careful...sometimes we from Africa have come from unhealthy families. Let's just be cautious and pray

  • @KarenAzi.Desire
    @KarenAzi.Desire Рік тому +1

    She did the worst to resign from work😢😢oh my Goodness

  • @CelestineLihavi-rw8kp
    @CelestineLihavi-rw8kp Рік тому +1

    Sorry pam, good Advice

  • @twaambohamweene1306
    @twaambohamweene1306 Рік тому

    You are right bella we pass through hell just becouse of love😢

  • @KutembaKaumba-y9o
    @KutembaKaumba-y9o Рік тому

    Please can u help me, do u think someone can get married to someone whom he /she just meet online

  • @mssanddi4155
    @mssanddi4155 Рік тому +3

    This Jeff is so disrespectful, so he can be ready to impregnate a lady he barely know, but he isn’t ready to marry her first. Oh! This men are so weird.
    As ladies, Always protect yourself with protection when doing the cookie with this online men, your womb is too valuable to let this men put their seed in you, then abandon you in your country without the security of a legal marriage and relocation to his country.
    Don’t be desperate and be very smart.
    I can’t wait for part2.

  • @Fav-y-y5c
    @Fav-y-y5c Рік тому +1

    I'm a live streamer and i talk to different guys on there but there is this German guy that talked to me about how he dated a Kenyan lady and how he felt like she cheated on him when they have a kid so what he did was revenge on her and started sleeping with her niece who was 18 and mimd you this guy was like 50 or 40 yrs of age and told me that the you girl was sweeter than the old Aunty who is his ex .something told me that he mjght have cheated on her before and blamed it on the lady because who sleeps with an 18yr old especially your family member and i told him , you wouldn't do that nosense to a Ugandan coz you would regret for that 😂 and he said that bes going to be doing x with young girls in Kenya he sent me the photos of them and that girl when they were making out.This guy is really sick omg .so please Kenyans if your here be aware that you have some predators roaming around .

  • @edmaureendixon3535
    @edmaureendixon3535 7 місяців тому

    Why is it Pamela not seeing the red flags
    I wouldn’t leave my job.

  • @aileenjepkosgey8106
    @aileenjepkosgey8106 Рік тому

    Waaaah Bella this is alot to take

  • @scolastichansson9254
    @scolastichansson9254 Рік тому +1

    hello Bella!
    allow me not say nor comment😮
    THE END will tell it all.
    thx for your effort in this❤🎉
    Sweden

  • @BettyMumbeja17
    @BettyMumbeja17 Рік тому

    am upset 😫 , sorry my love sister

  • @Mbolidabusoga
    @Mbolidabusoga Рік тому +1

    Beware of a guy who drops tears 😢😢

  • @TravisHaque74
    @TravisHaque74 Рік тому

    Unfortunately guys will not except getting scammed as much as me. So alot of time men find a fiancé then have about 5-15 girl friends to have back up plan after vackup plan if there fiance fails them. It may be gd actually git married to his fiance then there was no more need for his backup girls. It's sad but guys have to be careful. 😢

    • @TravisHaque74
      @TravisHaque74 Рік тому

      I found out that the American women who scanned were not even from USA. Any woman who gets her hair "made" "slept off" and needs to buy "food stuffs" isn't really from USA. But scam artists. Probably Nigerian or Ghana. From my experience. It does no good to report there profile. Face book doesn't care. Be careful. Everyone is out to get you. Hope for the best. I hope my now fiance is as real as I need her to be.

    • @TravisHaque74
      @TravisHaque74 Рік тому

      If you get to the point your going to visit and get married have one more back up plan. Maybe have side girl friends or no the local of red light district in the city. It should be easy to rescue a woman from that situation. If you marry her then adopt her kid(s) she won't decline you. Help her make it to us or Europe. Then you both win. Happily ever after.

    • @TravisHaque74
      @TravisHaque74 Рік тому

      You'll never be happy with American women. So I say take the best wife. African wives when honest are everything. ❤ I will never look outside of Africa ever. ❤

  • @betsyakoko6810
    @betsyakoko6810 Рік тому +2

    Hi Bella looking good

  • @Suzyfabulous
    @Suzyfabulous Рік тому +1

    Miss Bella the Lady in Red😘 missed you 😊

  • @alicenafula7789
    @alicenafula7789 Рік тому +1

    Ho my goodness, this is really Afro- cinema 😢😢🙆

  • @malliahkoolzvitex3145
    @malliahkoolzvitex3145 Рік тому +4

    I'm already upset 🤬

  • @MunaIbrahim-hq2de
    @MunaIbrahim-hq2de Рік тому +1

    Guys let's realize the red flag before we get in good relationship and I would to tell you guys please don't share u goodies

  • @tumubwineevelyne6318
    @tumubwineevelyne6318 Рік тому +1

    Today you are very very beautiful my sis❤

  • @nalubegasarah891
    @nalubegasarah891 Рік тому +2

    Some German men are red flags to me 😢 more so Dutch men when everything is so well,i will share my story

    • @bintokiria5338
      @bintokiria5338 Рік тому +1

      😂😂😂.
      I would rather deal with German men but not Spanish men 😂😂😂
      Even Shakira cried.

    • @realestdoll7070
      @realestdoll7070 Рік тому

      Stop dating German men under 35 most of them are still mamas boys and still living with there parents besides that they take long to understand 😂😂😂😂😂

  • @dayana5513story
    @dayana5513story Рік тому +1

    Girl's be careful

  • @aunedaisy
    @aunedaisy Рік тому +1

    Pamale my sieter are you doing fine all this drama from Jeff?
    He is childish how can you run a way without telling your partner?

  • @atislady3400
    @atislady3400 Рік тому +1

    Mwisho kuogea na hao mbwa ni miezi 6 tu zaidi ya hapo siwezi. 😊

  • @edmaureendixon3535
    @edmaureendixon3535 7 місяців тому

    That was a sign that she should stay where she was.

  • @JudithNgandwe-f5d
    @JudithNgandwe-f5d Рік тому +1

    This online Guys they're wired most of them ladies as always Bella advice shine your eyes girls

  • @ChipoChaile
    @ChipoChaile Рік тому +1

    Hello Bella you look very beautiful

  • @LeniaPaskalina
    @LeniaPaskalina Рік тому

    I met my boyfriend online but he is from Morocco and he's a Muslim I am a Christian but he's still studying I am 20 years old also he is 20 when he go back to school Bella oh my goodness you are the one who have to send a message I'm so worried but he loves me

    • @mgraysworld6138
      @mgraysworld6138 Рік тому

      Open your eyes young girl

    • @epitomeoffacts6235
      @epitomeoffacts6235 Рік тому +1

      A 20yrs guy and a student where do you expect him to get money to come visit you, open your eyes or you end up waiting for him forever

    • @LeniaPaskalina
      @LeniaPaskalina Рік тому

      ​@@epitomeoffacts6235thank you for your advice

    • @sarahidris1
      @sarahidris1 6 місяців тому +1

      Oh God African ladies please be wise . At age 20 for heaven sake why do you any to rush into a relationship instead of focusing on your studies and life . Y what does light have to do with darkness ? Please ask yourself lot of question before making this type of drastically decisions .

  • @changes1131
    @changes1131 Рік тому

    Hmmm... Comment reserve till the story ends. 😢😢

  • @hildajoel5
    @hildajoel5 Рік тому +1

    Chatting for 4 yrs without meeting 😭😭I don't have that kind of patience

    • @Pretti-Kandi
      @Pretti-Kandi Рік тому +4

      Same here.....i Don't have that kind of patience of chatting with a guy 4yrs without meeting..I will even get tired along the way

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому +1

      We need to keep shining our eyes

    • @hildajoel5
      @hildajoel5 Рік тому +1

      @@africanbellatherealtalk we are so glad you're here for us always ❣️

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому

      @hildajoel5 ❤❤

  • @meedalina
    @meedalina Рік тому +2

    Hello bella

  • @hildaug7177
    @hildaug7177 Рік тому

    Hey sweetie Bella, is it okay for a man that you meet online to insists that i should pay for my ticket to him in his country?

    • @africanbellatherealtalk
      @africanbellatherealtalk  Рік тому

      NO NO NO DEAR

    • @hildaug7177
      @hildaug7177 Рік тому

      @@africanbellatherealtalk thanks darling 😘 💕 ❤️ 💖

    • @divine5582
      @divine5582 Рік тому +1

      No Darling . There's a story that Bella did a while back of a Lady who paid for her ticket to Italy and got stranded there. Just Don't.
      Currently dating a man and he's sent money for visa, ticket and everything that will be required for the 1st travel.
      I didn't even ask for it

    • @hildaug7177
      @hildaug7177 Рік тому +1

      @divine5582 I remember Samantha's story that's why I told this man that I will not manage to pay for myself and he was mad at me then he told me that he will find another woman I said it's okay we stopped the communication.

    • @divine5582
      @divine5582 Рік тому

      @@hildaug7177it's unfortunate but it's good that you made a wise decision. Yes yes, it's Samantha. A good man will come come your way.

  • @katumbamarian5945
    @katumbamarian5945 Рік тому +1

    Ok, i can say she was annoyingly patient with this man.

  • @williamswetnam4070
    @williamswetnam4070 Рік тому +3

    Unfortunately some men are "mama's boys"; ie, they are strongly controlled by their mothers. It is best to avoid them because they will be more concerned with pleasing their mamas than tending to your needs.

  • @inesaime4208
    @inesaime4208 Рік тому

    Sorry 😢

  • @jjdorothy7866
    @jjdorothy7866 Рік тому +1

    😂😂😂😂😂😂😂❤❤❤❤❤❤ Sophie oyeeeee 💃💃💃💃💃💃💃

  • @annejoypenda5014
    @annejoypenda5014 Рік тому +1

    You are very pretty

  • @Asia-ew9wx
    @Asia-ew9wx Рік тому +1

    Eeeeeeeee chatting for almost four years without meeting😮😮😮😮.not accepting her to pick him at the airport was the first red flag💔💔.such stories make me to ruuuuun away from dating apps😂😂😂But then I hear Bella's voice telling me to not😂😂😂😂😂😂

    • @Suzyfabulous
      @Suzyfabulous Рік тому +1

      Haha Asia the mumu woman😂 how a u darling😊

    • @Asia-ew9wx
      @Asia-ew9wx Рік тому +1

      @@Suzyfabulous AM alive and kicking🤸‍♂️🤸‍♂️🤸‍♂️🤸‍♂️🤸‍♂️🤸‍♂️🤸‍♂️ huun

    • @Suzyfabulous
      @Suzyfabulous Рік тому +1

      ​@@Asia-ew9wxgreat to hear that.ohhh finally our Miss Bella showed up from punku😂

    • @Asia-ew9wx
      @Asia-ew9wx Рік тому +2

      @@Suzyfabulous we missed her alot

    • @Suzyfabulous
      @Suzyfabulous Рік тому +2

      @@Asia-ew9wx Yah

  • @Birungi-o5t
    @Birungi-o5t Рік тому +2

    But ladies we have to pay attention to the holy spirit three times rejected hehe

  • @Gorret_akky
    @Gorret_akky Рік тому

    Am not hey made me 😂 so much

  • @jacklinenjambi4450
    @jacklinenjambi4450 Рік тому

    Never that is too long time

  • @jacklinenjambi4450
    @jacklinenjambi4450 Рік тому

    They do it.many

  • @betsyakoko6810
    @betsyakoko6810 Рік тому +2

    Sorry for Pamela the Jeff gay was so weaked and bad person

  • @GraceBrand-nn7qk
    @GraceBrand-nn7qk Рік тому +1

    You look good

  • @betsyakoko6810
    @betsyakoko6810 Рік тому +1

    Pam was more blinded with the Jeff gay

  • @kaishalugonvu3495
    @kaishalugonvu3495 Рік тому +1

    MEN MEN MEN 😭

  • @LeniaPaskalina
    @LeniaPaskalina Рік тому +1

    What scares the most I am not working, the job I'm doing is not better because I'm working at the house made at home but I really love this Morocco I know after sometimes back I'll be better I'll always be with you Bella I love you so much you are advised everything to me without you I was not going to know about online I just wish mine goes on well I'll come back here to give my

  • @jaseminephat4953
    @jaseminephat4953 Рік тому

    Pamela is insecure thats tooo much if it was me i run immediately i qiess she even set him the money hotel refunded to her

  • @MunaIbrahim-hq2de
    @MunaIbrahim-hq2de Рік тому +1

    Pamela hope she isn't my high school teacher 😂

  • @gracegifty6845
    @gracegifty6845 Рік тому +2

  • @kyomuhendoimmaculate4409
    @kyomuhendoimmaculate4409 Рік тому +1

    Hi dear

  • @MillyOwnio
    @MillyOwnio Рік тому

    Me if you ghost me I'll do the same it's not a do or die